എന്താണ് Trauma Bond? Gas lighting, Bread Crumbing എത്രത്തോളം ദോഷകരം?

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Watch the entire conversation...this intention is to spread awareness. Do share with as many people as you can . Watch Part 1 here kzbin.info/www/bejne/qWLMXqielrKbfrM

[@zebabinthazeez2418]

Njn ee paranjath valarthammayil ninnu anubhavichitund emotional torture from the age of 3 to 30.... Now in my 30s i am suffering emotional imbalance due to this....

[@Phoenix-od2bp]

Story of my life! Took me 15 years to realise. Wish these resources were available earlier. Hopefully this generation can take help of these talks and do the right thing and not have to suffer. Aafiya explained everything with lot of clarity. Please continue this series Dhanya! Appreciate it a lot! I am going to save and download this video. The day I get my divorce and my family asks me the reason, I will just share this video because I will never be able to explain what I go through day in and out.

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks so much..do share pls

[@ashwathic8695]

This is one of the best episodes premiered in this channel. Just top notch❤.

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks so.much..the intention is to create awareness..pls do share

[@sukanyavenugopal2376]

I so agree! All the interviews on this channel are amazing but this one surely stands out for me as well. The fact that so many people I know have gone through such similar toxic relationships and are still going through them but are not entirely sure how to deal with it or how to process it - this interview will surely give clarity on what’s probably happening and hopefully help more individuals to reach out to therapists and counselors.

[@danjac2010]

I agreeeee

[@savourlife1993]

True❤

[@savourlife1993]

I feel that these kind of awareness need to be spread to society❤

[@lakshmipriya2662]

Therapy at the right time ws the best decision i ever took in my life. I started counselling with Afiya n she guided me in the right way n i ws able to restrt my life. Thnks for bringing her to the show n letting people knw abt all des topics. waiting for more such interviews. ❤

[@gayathrig4311]

How did u get the appointment? N how long did u take the sessions ? Plz reply🙏🏼

[@shabanapm47]

This series about mental health is a game changer Dhanya. Though the views and likes very less when compared to celeb interviews.

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Do share and support

[@nandinimenon8855]

Unfortunately we the people in this country are half baked.. We have not developed as citizens who clearly knows the rights, duties and respinsibility as an individual and as a social beings.. Change in the education system plus restructuring of all the institutions is also equally important to achieve this goal.. Great job channel 👍.

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks so much

[@sajinig6555]

Excellent view

[@amruthasunil6452]

Couldn't relate more!!! Always felt that the urge to dominate and control through toxicity is rooted in insecurity .The things mentioned about trauma bond and love bombing are on point....A well cooked talk !!!!!

[@darsana86]

Much needed episodes.Many of us are going through these traumas nowadays.Thanks for the awareness Afiya and Dhanya mam❤Waiting for another such interview…

[@jayakumardivakaran537]

Hats off to dear Dhanya Chechii for bringing such enlightening sessions.... ❤❤.. Navaneetha

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Pls do share and support.. thanks

[@CO_Xavier]

Progressive society ennu ullathu degree certificates ullathu konnd mathrmm...allathey people and their mindset is still in 70s..This episode is really an enlightenment.

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Do share with people who need this

[@riyajacob3798]

Hi Dhanya, Thank you for keeping up your promise by coming up with such a good content on mental health😊 Afiya she has shared the right standards on behaviors. One of the best video on Mental health ⭐️

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks so much. Do share and support

[@shilpams9856]

The clarity of thought is conveyed so beautifully in her words! Excellent questions - perfectly compliments the explanations! Greatly appreciate this awareness series!!

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

So grateful for your love

[@RIJIRIYAROSE]

വളരെ നന്നായി ചർച്ച ചെയ്തു, clear and touched all details thanks very much

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Pls do share.. thanks

[@ranyamatthew566]

I’ve been through each and every situation that has been explained in this interview ! When I told My family about this, they blamed me Saying when he has changed why are you still blaming! And that change will be for few days only again he will Go back to the same toxic situation!I always thought my family would be there for Me but they weren’t! They said he will change! The pain I went Through, the self doubts…the anxiety, the panic attacks the toxicity… it was unbearable! It took me 8 years to understnd that it was because of his disorder that this was happening to Me! And I had to Go through many years of research to understand all that she explained here! And now when I’m in a much better state cause I’ve realized all this, I would like to say that it’s not the forgetfulness of sense of self but it’s the lack of Awareness of sense of self that makes these situations traumatic! Once u attain this sense of self, these actions can only be seen as his mental disorder and nothing else! And it gives us sooooooo much freedom Within that I can’t even explain what it is! Also I agree to whatever you said they will Never change unless they would want To! They have soooo much of Lack of Self Esteem That they would never agree publicly even though they might believe within their hearts! Up to the partner to decide to stay or leave cause I feel for kids it’s gonna be a Mental torture too for something they are not the reason for! I feel the best thing is to treat your partner as a child who has a mental Disorder if at all we are planning to stay with them! If it was our child, how we would frgibe them! But the most important part is to have very clearly Your sense of self!!!!nothing can beat that confidence!!!

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Much love to you..take care of yourself

[@Phoenix-od2bp]

Few of us in the same boat as your dear. You rightly said once we become aware of what is happening, we can get rid of our self doubts, it’s empowering and gives the strength to rise above this. Only few are lucky to have a supportive family, nowadays I don’t see any meaning of the word family. Everyone around(Parents and siblings) just want trophy relationships to showcase to the world!

[@vansremin1132]

Haammo..

[@hannakassim7741]

Couldn’t realise more! Thank you Dhanya for this episode. This was my key to get out of the chakravyuha. Thank you again!

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Glad it was helpful!

[@revathyas3091]

Why is it that many Kerala men seem so similar in certain ways? It feels like they struggle to handle arguments, often dismissing valid points by blaming and labeling the other person as 'mad.' In my relationship, this pattern is frustrating-especially when self-reflection is absent, and mistakes are always found in others. How can such attitudes change for healthier relationships?"

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Well Men generally speaking ..are not tuned into their emotions..they are raised stating that being emotional or expressive is not being " man enough"..and anger rage is the only socially acceptable outlet...I guess that's where it all starts

[@jesmikurian]

One of the best episode, should spread awareness, this should start in shool also

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Pls do share and support

[@natashasasankan7954]

Excellent episode. Afiya and Dhanya 👏 I can relate all that Afiya said!! Felt like my story!! It took me 17 yrs years to realise this is not right! Inspite of all the abuse you and gaslighting .. you still feel guilty … trauma bond 😮 Even when he insisted on having no contact with my parents … I agreed hoping something will change!! Our society is changing but very slowly. I hope episodes like these will bring awareness and women have the courage to make decisions wisely. Sadly in most cases you are asked to adjust! and it’s accepted by the society. Waiting for next episode ❤

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Both parts are out now..pls check the first comment...am glad that you are aware n healing...take care..do share with your friends

[@saluprakash2857]

This is one of the best mental health series in this channel. Thank you Dhanya maam for this. And also afiya maam clearly explain about each topic. ❤

[@RizvanaMN-bp4si]

Go ahead maam ❤ we need more informative ,eye opening interviews like this😊

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Need your. support..pls amplify the reach

[@RizvanaMN-bp4si]

​@@iamwithdhanyavarmasure maam

[@meenadevi-y5f8e]

Very well explained. An eye opener to a lot of issues !!

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Pls do share for more awareness

[@anukkals]

One of the best and helpful conversations so far.

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Great to hear!..pls do share and support

[@chithrakp8764]

I was a victim of a NPD. I can understand ur words ma'am. Now i detached from the person.

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Take care

[@Jhanakijha]

One of the best episode's on mental health ❤

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks do share

[@Athiravp-t8i]

Excellent talk❤

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks a lot do share and support

[@meghnasreekumar]

@iamwithdhanyavarma , very informative session , just hoped that you would discuss about how all of these affect the children , their relationships and future. Kindly do a session on that❤

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks.thats part 2 pls watch..out now

[@sreelakshmik.s6678]

Lovely video. Highly informative. Kudos to both of you for such great content 😊

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks a lot..do share for awareness

[@sajinig6555]

One of the best episodes ❤

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks.pls share and support

[@divyanb.thomas6589]

Thank you Dhanya for this informative episodes❤❤❤

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks..pls do share with people who might need this

[@lovelyseejo263]

Onnu polum vidathe ellam experience cheythitnd njan 😊 total package ayirunnu ..

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Take care

[@SKK-ih2gx]

Absolutely wonderful episodes - extremely informative and very relevant

[@lovedale28]

It’s a good talk. In today’s world both men and women should be working . Instead of cooking and clean they should use outside services like Swiggy and cleaning services. You didn’t talk about mind games, manipulations, ego play and power play. These things are common among men and in the corporate world 😊

[@sahlakareem5734]

Such an enlightening session mam not only for the silent intakers of the abuses but to the coming generation to stick on with their sense of self. Yet I hava a small request mam. Most of the women have a thought that seeking legal help is impossible to protect themselves from any type of these abuses. So if possible can you arrange a legal awareness session to help them comeout of their weaknesses and to break the stigma enclosing them.

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Will do that .. thanks for the suggestion

[@amrithanambiar7382]

Thank you Dhanya.. I'm a big fan of you & your vlogs ❤ lots of love from Bangalore

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks. Do share pld

[@anur4290]

Can we have more interviews with her, I really loved this Vedio❤ would like to hear more from her❤

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Definitely!!

[@Christeena-yn8vd]

Thank you DHANYA!🤩

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Pls watch

[@binutom3023]

Thank you for this very informative 2 episodes

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks pls share and support

[@anu-dt9lz]

Please do an episode about narcissistic mothers.Now a days we can break tie with a narcissistic partner if we really wills.Even our society somehow accepts it.With narcissistic parents what to do ? Can you please talk about the emotional trauma starting from childhood still going on after decades.

[@ashwini7253]

Ohh God.... Now I realized what's happening in my life.....😢 Exactly.....

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

I am so sorry...love your way

[@mollymathew3070]

We understand. What can we do. Society will blame us. Good talk

[@Rational-d3p]

Thanks for spreading awareness among malayali women..

[@jasminepaul7490]

I'd say this session was more than just help. Thank you 🙏

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

You're so welcome!

[@fathimathulriza3416]

Nice video .more need such videos

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Sure

[@lekshmys3464]

So relevant

[@TheDIYLovingMommy]

What a wonderful conversation..❤

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Pls share and support

[@TheDIYLovingMommy]

Yes I did ❤​@@iamwithdhanyavarma

[@DANCER_WOMAN]

Dhanya chechydey last kurachu episodes kandathinu sheysham ...my biggest doubt is .....Should we really get married?...🙌🙌

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Marriage is a choice..choose wisely

[@Teamkannur]

What is ur purpose in ur life matters, if you want/ build a family then u get marry (choose a right person) Everything else can be buy now a days... 😂 Thats all dear

[@divyadas986]

The talk was amazing...... It is not an easy task to live as a divorcee in our society. Still my parents also supports my partner even though he was NPD person.

[@reshmiradhalaxmi]

excellent episode❤️💕

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks.pls share and support

[@simivinod6672]

Great work,mam.

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks

[@kavyaskurup5768]

💯 informative session 🔥

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks so much

[@amritharajan4626]

Great job on this video! Also glad to see that the conversation was in Malayalam and therefore can reach the larger audience in Kerala. Dr Ramani on KZbin has great videos on narcissism and the truth of the matter is that they cannot change.

[@JJThoughts-JJThoughts]

അവനവനെ മതിപ്പ് ഇല്ലാത്തവര്‍ മറ്റുള്ളവരെ ഇകഴ്ത്തി superior ആവാന്‍ ശ്രമിക്കുന്നു 😑

[@dr.hananabdulsalam]

Great episode👍

[@adilasharinm8221]

sooooo goood👌🏻💯

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks pls do share

[@gopikajijesh7224]

Thank you so much for this eposide ...

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts

[@ahadakhil]

Thank you ❤

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

You are welcome..do share with people who need this

[@abdussalamkainot3557]

അടിപൊളി അവതരണം 👍👍

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks

[@Mary14-l7k]

My in laws were so controlling. I wasn't staying with them still... husband was indifferent. Finally I decided to stop attending their calls..now they've started complaining about me to my parents and my parents have always wanted me to obey them in everything.. what do I do 😣

[@keerthynair5961]

May I ask, why are they trying to control you so much ?

[@Mary14-l7k]

@keerthynair5961 I have no idea. I've been thinking this from the time I got married..both my FIL n MIL wanted me to tell them everything that's happening in our lives. That's how it began... slowly came in the controlling part even without me realizing it. And my parents are of the belief that married women should obey their in laws 😓

[@skottarath1508]

Give them vague idea of what you are doing and when they advice, be thankful and make your own decision, sometimes they think it’s their duty to interfere and see young people low

[@Mary14-l7k]

@@skottarath1508 they don't advise their son half as much as they advise me. And still he says no whenever he feels it's too much but I don't have that freedom. Will my husband be okay if my parents interfere in his things

[@binithavp7921]

I wanna meet Mam Afiya as soon as possible

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Number given

[@ArdhraCS-v3u]

Most women can relate with this

[@mango_tree1]

Many thanks Dhanya ma'am for this episode ❤ Does anyone know if it would be possible to book an online appointment with Afiya Ma'am as I live abroad? Or would any of you be able to give me a recommendation for another therapist who can do online sessions please?

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Yes you can..number given in the description

[@mango_tree1]

Ah that's great!! Many thanks 🙏 Keep up the good work ma'am!! You are definitely making a difference ❤ @@iamwithdhanyavarma

[@aswani2684]

Ithu nte story thanne 😮😮😮

[@rekhapshenoy1986]

How i wished there was english subtitles. Could have shared with friends. This video should reach wider audience

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Will get it done

[@ayshamaryam3]

Thank you Dhanya🫂

[@literaryarchives8345]

I've gone through the same.

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Take care

[@fousysahad1332]

Can trauma bond occur in long distance relationships? Can be between friends

[@sreesha051]

Nice content

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Pls share and support

[@padmasnair5228]

👍👍🥰

[@poornimasabu957]

seems to be what actresses soumya revealed in lakshmi ramakrishnan channel

[@ammuz5090]

im going through this situation which she have mentioned in this video and as long as enik ith pettu en ariyaa but enik ah relation (almost 8 years) ninn purath varan patunilla .. how do i contact her for a therapy ??? I'm abroad right now . if you could , please help me .

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Number in description

[@ammuz5090]

@iamwithdhanyavarma thank you chechi

[@susususu6731]

Mam sreeshanth chettane interview cheyyavo?

[@Rajeshr96]

❤

[@vivekvb281]

It happened to me😢

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Take care

[@Anu-re5ew]

ധന്യ പക്ഷേ ഇങ്ങനത്തെ സൈക്കോളജിസ്റ്റ് സഹായം തേടണം എങ്കിൽ നല്ല സാമ്പത്തിക ചുറ്റുപാട് ഉള്ളവർക്ക് മാത്രമേ കഴിയൂ. ജോലി രഹിതരായ സാധാരണ വീട്ടമ്മമാർക്ക് അത് ഒരിക്കലും പറ്റില്ല. ഒരു സെഷന് 1500 രൂപ ആണ് ഏറ്റവും കുറഞ്ഞത്. അവർക്ക് പലപ്പോഴും അത് സഹിച്ച് ജീവിക്കുക മാത്രേ നിവൃത്തി ഉണ്ടാവൂ

[@afiyashafi1402]

ശെരിയാണ്. പക്ഷെ ഒരു ക്ലയന്റിന്റെ കൂടെ നമ്മൾ ഒരു മണിക്കൂർ കൂടുതൽ ചിലവിടുന്നുണ്ട്. ഗവണ്മെന്റ് തലത്തിൽ കൂടുതൽ മെന്റൽ ഹെൽത് പോളിസികൾ, ഇൻഷുറൻസ് ഒക്കെ വന്നാൽ നമുക്ക് ഫീസ് കുറക്കാൻ സാധിക്കും. ഗവണ്മെന്റ് സംവിധാനങൾ ഉപയോഗപ്പെടുത്താവുന്നതു മാണ് എന്റെ ഹോസ്പിറ്റലിൽ വളരെ ചെറിയൊരു തുകയാണ് ചാർജ് ചെയ്യുന്നത്.

[@darsana86]

Mam,online sessions available aano?

[@gayathrig4311]

​@@afiyashafi1402mam how to get ur appointment? Could u plz reply😊🙏🏼

[@honeymolpg3193]

💯

[@Duafath]

Enikk njn love bombing manipulation okke koodeya kadann povunnen manasilaavunnund...but partnerod oru verupp polum varunnilla ayal enthokke cheythittum😢

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Awareness that you are being abused is the first step...stay brave...much love

[@literaryarchives8345]

You can dr girl.. I can stay away from him... Now he could understand that I don't want him even if I'm living with him...

[@Duafath]

@@literaryarchives8345 njn ippo call text okke nirthi....but aalillathe pattillan thonua...prarthich povua...aalk aalde family aan etavum valuth...njn parentsine polum avane snehiche pole snehichittilla....athukonda thonu verukkan kazhiyinilla

[@literaryarchives8345]

@@Duafath y should u dr.. isolated ayal nammal തളർന്ന് പോം.. അതാണ് അവർക്കും വേണ്ടത്. ഞാൻ പഴയ പൊലെ i mean before marriage pole activanippol.. I don't care what he and his family says.. we went to a psychologist who was an old man.. pulli enne paranj convince cheythu njn വിചാരിച്ചാൽ ചേഞ്ച് undakam.. ഞാന് തിരിച്ച് പോയില്ലേൽ he'll commit suicide..etc etc.. he never askd my side and never listend me.. he said u r feminist that's y you are pointing silly things.. 9 month pregnancy il bodhm povm vare thall kondathum chutumulla frnsnte okke മുമ്പിൽ insultedayathum normal ayt enik thonniyilla. Even now his family says മറന്ന് കള.. enikath patula.. lifeil adyaytanu enne oral physically emotionally verbally financially abuse ചെയുന്നത്. I was in a frozen state then.. onum ചെയ്തില്ല..now I'm giving him a chance.. ini immediately respond cheyum I'll file domestic violence with all evidences. Enikishtamullathoke cheyyunnu ipol do so dr

[@literaryarchives8345]

@@Duafath ente parents family casins ellardadthnnum enne isolate ചെയ്തിട്ടാണ് ഹെ started abuses.. I was really brocken. But I took myself up..

[@rajimolkr4985]

കുറെ അനുഭവിച്ചു

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Take care

[@jijirajesh6166]

😢

[@gamingwithempire4158]

ശരിക്കും ഇത് തന്നെയല്ലേ എല്ലാവരുടെയും life...

[@serenemary873]

21:38

[@SP-23110]

💯 happened in Amritha Suresh and Bala's marriage life 💯 happened in Dr Elizabeth's life. Good luck to Bala's 4th wife. I hope she recognises it early on before enduring all the mental pain

[@fareedabeevi9773]

My life

[@roshnighevarughese]

Ningal mental health related doctors ne interview cheyyunnundel adyam cheyyandanthu, Dr Chandana Karuthulli ye aanu, she is such a brilliant person related to narcissistic research and mental health research

[@asnas7192]

Npd

[@shani5622]

💯🫀

[@sreedevimr8261]

K

[@Upower-eh5fp]

ആണുങ്ങളെ ആഴത്തിൽ സ്നേഹിച്ചു നോക്കു..എല്ലാ കാര്യത്തിലും അവരോട് ഒത്താശ ചെയ്തു നിന്ന് നോക്ക്.. ജീവിതം കളർ ഫുൾ ആകും 👌

[@Krupatherese]

Enthinu othasa cheyanm.. marriage is an equal relationship/ partnership

[@lovelyseejo263]

Kashtam

[@jilcyabraham6286]

Kashtam🤮🤮

[@literaryarchives8345]

Feeling pity

[@serlinaserlina4027]

Kure cheithatha. Veruthe.

[@reshmiradhalaxmi]

excellent episode❤️💕

[@DeepthiKNair-x7g]

Nice content

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks pls share and support

[@jishmarjlakshmi5434]

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[@sam75723]

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[@RahulSimon27]

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[@maneeshamadhavan8351]

❤️

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Thanks you..do share

[@AdilaFathima27]

❤️❤️❤️

[@iamwithdhanyavarma]

Do share and support

[@sanuumurali702]

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