Identity Shifting: How to Get Ahead of 99% of People (in 2025)

[@clarkkegley]

Woohoo - new vid! Let's chat about how to reinvent yourself. I LOVE this topic. I'll share with you 3-steps that I used to do something similar at some low points in my life. If you're feeling it, would appreciate you dropping a "like" and sub if you're not already! If you're ready to create your own 2.0 version and really deep dive into identity shifting, check out this video that goes deeper into identity shifting and how to use it to change your life: www.clarkkegley.com/free-case-study?sl=yt-identity-shift

[@Whydoidothis7]

The issue I find I have if it's a issue I just like being content I dont mind Sunday I know it means the week starts over again on Monday but I don't dislike my work even though its a middle ground job. I work 6 days a week 50 hours a week but I'm good with that I enjoy going home reading books and playing video games but I also realize even though i'm content with this situation it's not exactly ok. I'm single at 30 no kids and the idea of something as trivial as going to the grocery store is somehow a big task for me. I don't feel like I have any regrets so I don't seem to push myself like If I died tomorrow granted i'm 30 so that'd suck I'd be relatively happy but yea i'm just stuck in a loop I guess but whenever I think about the loop i'm just like nothing is wrong with this loop days fly by but then I go back to like hmm 30 and single i'm running out of time but I can't get myself to really realize their is a issue I sort of know it because im writing this ramble at the moment but then I just go hmm I enjoy my life as it is no need to worry etc. Not exactly sure why I wrote this I just sort of felt the need to I do enjoy your videos though.

[@HiHi-ek1dd]

Thank you.

[@WildStyleStayWild]

Everyone always thinks your bragging unfortunately. It’s like when I share my law of attraction manifestations just simple things like a coffee ☕️ or parking spots and green lights will still get a proper bum get jealous and think I am bragging about it and somehow think I am better than them. Instead of actually learning something helpful. They are fked in the bed. ❤

[@travis3624]

How this stuff does work ! I agree I need to get back to working on this

[@DisplayDaVerdade]

I'm a car, and this is open to discussion.

[@xOgawa]

Have a good day (whoever is reading)

[@raymonds67jas]

same to u

[@coolfrog9767]

It's night

[@Ohh_Soo_Christy]

Same to you!!❤

[@lukeErwin]

You too

[@martinivey6504]

I will eat a pasta

[@dafnneperez9577]

“True professionals show up everyday regardless how they feel”. Powerful statement right there that build some Big character!

[@rl3656]

Tell that to my fcking manager😂😂😂

[@jeanshelbybooks4154]

I have known for years that I don’t like the ‘living for the weekend’ mentality of working 5 days a week. So, I found my passion for writing and I dove into that. I get into a writers life mode just about every day, working toward this goal of getting more books out there for people to enjoy. 😊

[@freddyjafar1490]

How to avoid this in a 3rd world country? Impossible to survive without living for the weekend!

[@inspiredby-sx7wy]

How cool! I also have that writers dream! How do you plan it in with your day job? 😊 I d'like to hear more!

[@garyjohnson3751]

Just finished 30 days monk mode= no KZbin no social media no tv 📺 Netflix and never had such big gains

[@sy_0071]

Starting my career from scratch at the age of 28 in 2023. Had a breakup after 6 years into a relationship lost job got into depression but still choose to start all over again.

[@nutech1810]

Try doing that at 45

[@MissBenjamin6010]

I literally had this thought 10 minutes ago about how 20 years has passed like this and I'm still where I was 20 years ago, and I'm still in shock that I was literally asleep and just focused on surviving and this was the moment that I've decided that I must start living my life, start savoring every moment and appreciate life much much more, only good thing that happened 3 years ago, was me awakening.

[@judysewell2291]

If you change nothing, nothing changes. Right!!

[@mehditate]

This is the first year that I can afford enjoying things in life. I remember the past 8 years, I was so broke I couldn't even afford a meal. I had to realize that at that point that no one was going to walk me through things in life and I had to do this on my own and figure out everything alone. I now live in the nordic woods of Sweden and post about self improvement after surviving a great ordeal in life, from the Boston bombing attack to being homeless, depressed struggling with an anxiety disorder and other mental disorders before I studied my pain and got certified in therapy. I used it to heal and run my own business and also move out of Miami where I worked in a corner store overnight in one of the most dangerous hoods in Miami. I am so grateful I got out, because I knew the other route, and it was not going to end well. Now I have a KZbin channel that I am using to help others improve in life and I hope I get to help at least one person reading this 🙏🏽💜

[@Kwavy203]

Definitely going to check your content out you have an interesting story I’d like to learn from.

[@ARsuffix]

Man! Solid video! I'm resonating with pretty much every one of these tips for 2023. Take-aways: ★ If you're not happy with the last 90 days, change the current trajectory - before drifting too far out on an unwanted direction. ★ Allow yourself to feel badly about someting and be present with it. Embrace the suck. Understand that pain is there to indicate to us where our needs are! ★ Rather then Ready 》Aim 》Fire as it's usualy done, try instead to Ready 》FIRE 》Aim - you can always better see how to aim after having "fired". Also, avoid being stuck in a Ready 》《 Aim phase! (This makes me feel particularly called-out lol) ★ Really dial-in the 2.0 version of you as if it was a character in a badass realistic video game. Get super-clear and specific on the "character" you wish to become and feel yourself becoming excited about it. Tap into that excitement!

[@sistermata1]

thank you

[@josoufsidiqi5444]

😊

[@helenacouto8359]

Well done, Antônio! I appreciate it.

[@Snowfox23]

You are a hero 🎉

[@xfaroutzx3637]

Motivation comes and goes. What you need to succeed in life is Discipline.

[@anonymerdude4501]

You only need discipline to build routines

[@bill_jennings]

I truly believe most people don't completely understand themselves and exactly where they want their life to go. And because they don't know that, they can't active the steps to move toward it. They aimlessly roam through life, one distraction to another, dissatisfaction after dissatisfaction.

[@valeries1236]

Quality over quantity is what comes to my mind when I think about your uploaded videos! Seriously, I respect you and your desires to stimulate the cyber community to not just survive, but to thrive! Most of us are truly stuck in their own mind chatter. You deliver to us what we need to hear in a graceful way. Thank you sir for being genuine.💛💛

[@clarkkegley]

Appreciate it, Val! Stoked to have you in our community 🙌

[@Gabe94dotcom]

True 👍

[@spiderroach4301]

Clark I owe u so much when I started watching this channel 8 months ago I was depressed working a job I hated going no where I now have a side job where I get paid over $250 an hour doing what I love I'm on the right track not done growing yet but I'm on track I owe u so much thx man

[@boglarkatekenos4827]

I don't know why, I have such a good feeling about this guy

[@ThoughtsEqualLife]

You’re the best self improvement coach I have ever heard on KZbin. 👍🏼

[@bestboy897]

this is one of the most straight up zero bs self--help vids ever and I really dig it.

[@kensiernest8536]

I had lost hope in the last few weeks but now am ready to start all over again!

[@Gabe94dotcom]

Good 👍

[@LimitlessAmbitionOfficial]

Crazy how you don’t even have to type anything in your phone or speak it out loud the timing of this video is absolutely crazy today was a day of reflecting and got myself in a mood thinking about why I’m not gaining as much traction and feeling in a rut I thank you for this you opened up a new perspective it’s just hard when nobody around you is interested in these kind of things they seem asleep thank you for somehow finding me the absolute perfect moment in my life to present this video

[@LimitlessAmbitionOfficial]

Btw I definitely subscribed I feel like this video came right to me for a reason even your wording is weirdly accurate to my situation and question I’ve been asking I am currently living in my moms house still and trying to workout a plan having troubles taking ACTION!

[@galileo542]

I needed this. The empowerment coming from being excited is incredible. Thank you for a reminder to not give up!

[@lydiasterling7349]

i love the metaphors you use to illustrate your point, and you have a knack for breaking down the concepts into memorable phrases. when you asked if i would spend the next 5 years like the past 90 days i really had to check myself

[@EdwardLaRue]

That pain awareness is crucial for me. Thank you. Great breakdown. I appreciate you and your videos. Envisioning and designing a dream character is something I've been doing recently. Perfect video for this time in my life.

[@joemac84]

Why are we obsessed with getting ahead of everyone else? How about becoming the best version of yourself you can be? Everyone is on their own journey and comparing yourself to others in any aspect is always losing because there’s always someone “better” and all “success” is fleeting

[@galileo542]

Well, I guess the"get ahead" title just works better than "be better". From the video I've got the idea that he's talking about self improvement rather than stepping on other people's heads. Also if we talk about getting ahead of others, it would be better to rephrase it as not falling into traps that are embodied in human natute (most people live life mindlessly, I can see it in myself a lot of times, even though I frequently have major changes in my life - changed country, job, got into relationship, actively looking for irrational behaviours)

[@Gabe94dotcom]

Also true 👍

[@karthik007]

From comparing with others only we can get the parameters of what we want to achieve and improve.

[@joemac84]

@@karthik007 And tell me then who ought we look to for how to improve? someone with more money?

[@rudra1286]

In a 3rd world country with 1 billion+ population, you have to get ahead of 99% of people to be successful

[@TashaDivine]

I've been listening to the shift content for years, IT WORKS! reprogramming your mind works. Don't give up.

[@welltivate]

Consistency > Motivation 🙌🏼

[@Lucymuturi]

This was very insightful, some of us are not motivated to do anything. It’s like your soul’s telling you that something big is coming and you need to rest. 🧘🏽‍♀️Maybe it’s because of the shift 💫

[@jdreamhunter]

I have this quote on my inspiration wall that says exactly your last point! "Amateurs sit and wait for inspiration. The rest of us just get up and go to work."

[@JosetteLaCrevette]

I wish I could have friends like you. you inspire me and I don't know anyone like you besides my sister. I really like all of your videos, I take note of the most important things and I refer to it when needed. I don't know if you read comments, but I wanted to say thanks for everything!

[@MX-CO]

I feel the same, where are you from?

[@JosetteLaCrevette]

Québec, Canada and you?

[@georgeflou2666]

It's so great to see some of my favourite youtubers quote and use examples from some of my favourite books (Atomic habits, think and grow rich). Makes me understand i'm on the right path

[@3rdand105]

I've decided to watch this very video every day, first thing, as soon as I get out of bed, before I have a chance to think my way back into my current state of existence. I'm also going to share it, because this can help anyone. I'll let you know how it works out for me, but I believe I already know what's about to happen...

[@alexscottcook]

Great info! In regards to the pain teacher, you wouldnt keep lifting through a torn pec ( the pain is telling you to stop!) you'd stop, gather yourself and change the approach. Train differently. love this!

[@boxkutta]

haven’t seen a notification for one of your uploads or seen you in my feed since like 2020!! the matrix is attacking you, you know too much 💀😭

[@bhargavi368]

Hello Mr. clark! I really really have no words to thank u.. As whatever u now shared with us in this 15 minutes vedio is priceless.. I do see your vedios a lot yet this was a Kickstarter booster for me for this year 2023 I was lost I was confused Like waiting for right time, procastinating, and this loop still made me feel verse where I waster a month and now even a week in feb and I landed here today 1) the pain teacher 2) design our 2.O 3) Bridge the gap This was the basement I have too infuse in my mind, and all your said cleared the insecurities I had and the questions I had in my mind Thank u soo soo much Mr. Clark for sharing all your positive energy and making us get up in our lives! Hats off.. For all the work u do!!

[@jayalexander8107]

Ive done exactly what hes saying in the video, face it no matter how much you hate it. Do it now before you realize how much time you wasted

[@omega3294]

Im only a few minutes in but in June I turned 30 and felt exactly this way where I needed to reinvent myself. My 20s were fun and I spent a lot of it partying and traveling(which I dont regret) but now im focusing on building a solid foundation where I can be in control of my life especially with growing my wealth and knowledge. Since then I have quit drinking, started reading a lot & started doing calisthenics/bodybuilding and I think that these 3 things are an awesome combo for progression. 🤙🏼

[@freddyjafar1490]

Is it harder to build muscle in your 30s?

[@omega3294]

@@freddyjafar1490 Not sure, just got here haha

[@stevekirkbride3211]

Ha ha l am building muscle and l am 58 born in 1964

[@freddyjafar1490]

@@stevekirkbride3211 hot damn

[@Gabe94dotcom]

True 👍

[@seasmom]

I live outside the matrix always have was born into starseeded parents my mom knew many things taught me well! I also invent myself several times over change my entire life and image. My dad left the matrix in 1996 and we lived at n Oregon in a logging camp for almost my entire childhood

[@jinarose5374]

That’s amazing. I have been constantly getting messages to go to Oregon over the past few years, no idea why, no idea what to do there, no idea what it is like. By the way, I’m Canadian and now in Hong Kong. Oregon? Lol…. Completely random imo. Though I have heard there are sustainable communities off grid and there’s an author who I like who lives there. If I did go for a visit, I wouldn’t really know what to do there, what to see, or really what’s my purpose, beyond universe/God’s message over the years.

[@mrlee3294]

Good video brother, the last step is my favorite step. A dream is nothing if it’s left on the pillow, be inspired and take action IMMEDIATELY !

[@KoKo-gu3dh]

I am WFH VA living here in the Philippines enjoying the sea & the sun while working!

[@BeautifullyBlissfulButterfly]

I showed my 12 year old son this video. Thank you for expressing this concept so well that he gets it! 😉

[@UrbanCraftTv]

Your videos speak to the inner soul. Your gift to humanity is so intense.

[@alexgicheha5755]

I like the book, Think & Grow Rich (am reading it) and I've visualized what I need to achieve. And am gonna go for it.

[@TimRG]

I've been I need the motivation to do something. That mind frame has gotten me nowhere close to my dreams or goals. When I thought about areas where I have had success, it's been consistency. Time to be consistent in everything I do. Great video Clark, keep it up.

[@Gabe94dotcom]

True 👍

[@IMeanMachine101]

Screw that feeling keep pushing forward.

[@crystalfelicia9924]

10 yrs ago Clark was broke and living in his mom's basement, decided to do YT, got hotter as he aged, and does what he loves. Ty Clark, also nice fit, hair looks good. And as always, great mssg!💜💜

[@Mr.Gratitude]

Thank you so much, very helpful. Ready, fire aim is great, we used to call it learning by doing back in the days. What matters is to have specific goals, to be committed and to start. Much appreciated, great work, Clark, keep it up. 🎉

[@angelaharris6577]

Very inspiring video, I have drifted off target and just couldn't see a way back. Thanks for the nudge 😊

[@its.samanthasanchez]

1 minute 23 seconds in and I already love this message

[@Gabe94dotcom]

Nice!

[@amysworld_xx]

Loved your email clark … negative emotions are a call to action 🙏🏽

[@Gabe94dotcom]

True 👍

[@potapotapotapotapotapota]

I used to get the sunday blues (as I call them) but then I found a job I really liked - better than my addictions - and it went away.

[@calmyoursoul3839]

You are so right!!! Thank you for reminding me. Have a great night

[@mmlameyo]

Jeez man , you honestly excite me , you are one of many that has changed my habits in a matter of 3 months of educating me

[@PaiviProject]

Wow. We got this little ball rolling last fall when I had my amazing, crazy idea. It was a solution for our problem, and we went for it. It's now or never since we're bit ollder folks. Mountains ahead but so many little dreams coming through along the way. I'll be looking at big and holy tchit exciting things ahead in the next 5 years. I am in the process on Designing my 2.0 now. I didn't know I should do that before I met you :) Thanks 👍

[@beautygabriel6684]

Having an "Action plan" I have heard so many times and I make them mostly in my head...right now though, I'm sitting with my pen and paper writing it down. Thank you for being a sort of reminder/push.👊🏽

[@br8979]

This has really touched a nerve and validated things I thought about a lot but have not yet dared to put into action. Thank you for the inspiration and well done on your own journey so far ❤

[@TheMediumChannel]

This is great Clark, I can really identify with what you're saying to the point that in part of my work I consciously create excitement for my goals manifesting and it really does help me power through the day to day. Also something that really works for me that may augment these steps on the video is to learn to become so present in meditation as to lose self-identity (I'm not a name or a job..I am energy....Spirit etc.) and then work with the heart..cultivate magnified gratitude for nothing else but the present moment..gratitude...compassion..EXCITEMENT..for THE NOW..nothing else....THEN I flip it in my mind that in this now moment I've ALREADY achieved my goals..I'm living my dream right now and I feel super grateful..excited...this taps into the master frequency of the heart and if you do this daily..even 3X per day for about 10 minutes you change your energy and you begin attracting your goals..very powerful and I'm living proof it works.

[@bubbieble]

❤ I like this one! Thanks for sharing!!

[@dead91alive]

Thanks for the video Clark! I needed this to make a change. Yes, for the whole month of February I will work on my plan to reinvent myself and create new habits.

[@dunedigitaldesigns]

13:42 this is exactly what I’ve been doing - trying to learn more and more, so I would be finally good enough to actually do something. Thank you, this video made some things really clear. ☺️

[@DavidDosire]

That is goog

[@CristophervanderKooij]

Love this, it’s really in line with the deep life Cal Newport talks about. Though preparation and waiting for motivation are different things in my mind.

[@wiandewaal]

Yeah... you're talking about the power of envisioning. Being creative is using your will power to project your dteam reality into actual reality. Once you actually value your own energy, you know like you know the value of it's power to manifest experiences for yourself. It becomes fun to play with the power you project out and see what comes reflected back. Action is obviously important to give it momentum. - rockin that jacket btw! 😉💥🎉

[@heathercoon7105]

Ready fire aim - soooo spot on thank you for including that analogy! I took a huge huge step toward 2.0 thank you!

[@timnichols7760]

Great video!! You know, sometimes you hear things over and over and you get it, but you don't GET it!! I've heard this message from several different sources in the past. I've even watched this video before. I got it but I didn't GET it! As I'm listening, this time, I'm thinking back on Viktor Frankl and his book about surviving the Holocaust. About the people who survived having something to look forward to. It FINALLY really clicked!! Thanks Clark!! I always enjoy your videos and your story!!

[@RealziesCuts]

141 days No Alcohol 🏆🥇 You helped, thank God for Andrew Huberman! ✊❤️

[@Caffeinated_Acrobat]

Good job! Keep building that momentum!

[@Gabe94dotcom]

Good 👍

[@wed3k]

I went 25 days and I felt great and then went back to drinking, partying because I'm still hanging around the same party-goers but I want to get back to the disciplined lifestyle because this year is going to be huge

[@gentrisbb]

🎉🏅

[@nataliapappadia1029]

You’re amazing, your videos are always exactly what I need to hear. Thank you!

[@turybara]

Thank you! I needed this video. I am in the process of identifying my negative habits. And I go there, but then I realize what is happening. Sometimes I am like "nooo, am I like that?"! But fortunately corrections can be made 🙂

[@DavidDosire]

Yeah that is true..

[@AlyssaG23]

Thanks for explaining everything so clearly and providing motivating examples! Your content is very inspirational, much appreciated!

[@lisaruvalcaba1853]

Who are you!? You’re fabulous!! This is the first vid I’ve ever seen of you & it’s truth. Truth. TRUTH. Thank you♥️

[@RealTalk-mq2ug]

I cannot breathe through the grief. Today is day 54. 54 days without hearing from him. Nothing. Not a word. He betrayed and abandoned me and replaced me with another. Discarded me like last week's garbage. He was my "best friend". We spoke every day. My heart is in so much pain, it physically hurts. My soul is raped. I cannot breathe. I am drowning. Being buried alive. How could he do this to me? And why?

[@tokyogoon]

I enjoy your videos because you share big, metaphysical ideas while remaining down to earth.

[@mansm7968]

I just love listening to your content. Since pandemic, I’ve been rewatching some episodes again and again and that gave me a lot of to think. Thanks.

[@AikiraBeats]

I definitely had this experience where at the beginning of the year I didn’t like the headspace I was in. So, I started to do more research on how to improve my work and create a life that I want to live.

[@Gabe94dotcom]

True 👍

[@tamc936]

I'm listening..... I've been on a downward spiral for months

[@turtlec7140]

Ready. Fire. Aim. - this was my main takeaway, spot on! 2nd: There's some really great beaches in London 😅

[@AlexAlex-vn2dz]

Over planning resonates with me. Writing a list is one thing but writing a list of lists is another . I have to admit that planning is a form of procrastination for me. I never looked at it that way before. Ready, Fire! Love it 😍

[@jacobgauldenbrasiworld1821]

You talk some real shit bro ! I just came across your channel and I like how you get to the point explain the point and bring a solution. I practice these principles and when I get side tracked this will be the channel I go to to be redirected. I appreciate ya homie 💯

[@Jonathan-ze6oo]

THINK, FEEL & ACT your 2.0 version; Brilliant Clark!!! You rock! Cheers from France.

[@airlea.]

Amazing advice! I watched over a few times with a notebook and hilighters, brainstorming about everything I want! Now I'll see how it goes! Thanks for the video!

[@1969kbl]

I like you. You’re the king of this STUFF! Somehow the way you say things sound like my brain is speaking! Thank you.❤

[@SaltyMamaSoulTribe]

You walk the walk, my friend, and it is inspiring ✨️

[@mutle]

Thanks for the awesome motivation. After watching loads of your videos, I started my yt channel and started to pursue animation which I always wanted to do. Before, I was always 'preparing". I wanted everything to be perfect. Right now I am 'firing' first. Cheers!

[@TheMediumChannel]

Speaking of studies and working out they did studies with a group doing their daily weight training, or every other day or whatever but then they had a group just visualizing the workout to the point where in their minds they'd feel the burn, the sweat etc. and they found the group actually doing the workout increased they're muscle mass by like 18% (I don't remember the exact numbers) but the group that was just visualizing increased they're muscle mass about 11 or 12%...that is CRAZY..did you know you're mind is that POWERFUL?

[@Evtrex13]

the mind is the one that creates reality

[@RebuildJourney]

Just started my KZbin channel last month. I needed THIS, thanks!

[@MessingerDAD]

Let's go! Changing my life never felt so good!

[@donnamcmullan6791]

Just want to say thank you for all that you do......stumbled across your videos last year, and you have helped me in so many ways ....so this is just a little nod to say thank you 😊

[@Yearofthetiger24026]

Beaches in London... Nope... A lovely river - the river Thames, but no beaches.😊 Just found your videos and they are so well timed!

[@madelinevicioso7980]

How did I just discover this chanel !! Well it came at the right time so im grateful :)

[@Elfyja]

Let me procrastinate by watching another video instead of doing work. Jokes aside haha, this is great advice! (Also while listening as a podcast and doing work). Stop the negative self-talk or stories of the past that says ''but I tried that'' or ''It's just gonna be boring''. Instead Find new ways to inspire yourself and focus on what you actually need to do and is aligned with your higher self. Just starting is half the battle.

[@lissam8988]

Sometimes I listen and watch, other times I just listen do something else at the same time.

[@bortiz805]

Exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you!

[@brooklynaguirre]

This is exactly the video I needed to see! Thank you so much!!

[@mikea.4477]

This video was so helpful and timely!

[@Aarron656]

I like to follow my method more. I call it Work. Passion. Play. I work first thing in the morning get it out of the way, then start with stuff I'm passionate about and then finally I leave the night to 'play'

[@natashaburrows7743]

I’m so so so excited. I’ve literally just monetised on YT and I can’t believe it. It’s taken me 5 years. But I have finally done it and I’m so looking forward to the next 5 years. I’m still to yet to leave my horrible Job but I can finally see amazing things coming to fruition. I’m so so grateful to finally get to where I am. I am going to keep reading out my affirmation and I’m the same everything I wrote down 12 months ago has come true. It’s totally freaky. Yet amazing!! Keep inspiring people! Love this!! ❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@3rdand105]

This is for the older set (I'm 53). When Clark started explaining bridging the gap, I heard the voice of Dick Dastardly go off in my head: "Muttley! Do something!" For what it's worth...

[@susanshearer6106]

Older set here. Glad I'm not the only one!

[@fredclarkson4642]

THANKS Clark... God bless you with more wisdom 🙏🙌

[@juliochingaling5824]

Excellent video, well said. Makes perfect sense. Blessings to all.

[@nevrstriptools3418]

EXCELLENT VIDEO!! Clark, your work is VERY WELL put together!! THANK YOU and I know that one day I'll be able to associate some ofnl my new successes directly to things I've learned from u. Thanks again and keep making these helpful videos!!

[@rammul7801]

Ready..fire …aim!! One of the best pieces of advice I’ve heard in a long time.

[@JackDenning]

Love this Clark!

[@quintero166]

Always a good day when Mark Rober posts

[@thatguyjk]

Part of me is like, "Clark, get out of my head!". The other part of me is like "How the hell do you know what I am going through?!" Either way, thank you for this content!

[@crystalfelicia9924]

Sometimes u hv to do odd jobs to get to where u want to be, its a compromise, it does depend! But ya we get wym!