if he doesn't value you, do this to get him to change

[@fareenashofficial]

FREE GUIDE: How to Stop Sabotaging Relationships with Men: Link: fareenash.myflodesk.com/stopsabotage

[@justsomeideas9594]

Yeah my favorite😍😍I use to be the woman who wouldn’t walk away, even my ex husband said I would never and was shocked when I finally walked away from him even after disrespecting me countless times. I learned my worth and walk away whenever needed without hesitation.

[@fareenashofficial]

And doesn’t that feel so much better!

[@justsomeideas9594]

@@fareenashofficialyes it really does. Especially when it’s a man who is used to a woman staying around for his disrespect. I’m noticing whenever I walk away without complaining or making a big deal about it. It makes me unforgettable and it makes him want me even more because I’m not around. The man corrects the behavior without me saying a word😊

[@fareenashofficial]

@justsomeideas9594 yesssss! 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@bad.chickie66]

@@justsomeideas9594you walking away every time now is immature so it goes both ways

[@Didi-fr5ic]

I want to ad one more comment, doing the inner work also makes you open to other woman, some of them see you as a threat but you are not bothered by it. I met a woman we went on a hike and she is actually unhappily married and while she is talking I noticed that this woman got married within 6 months and was desperate for marriage, she also made the first move because he was moving slow, I'm just thinking that an never really wanted her, I told her the honest truth about not being in an abusive relationship verbally and she must not be afraid to walk away but this person got really triggered and told me I can not say such things. What I noticed was she does not have enough self love to leave a marriage and she was desperate for a man so this man will just do whatever after the hike we get to the parking lot and he showed up unexpected and I just got that inner feeling of this man is not a safe man. I don't care if I'm.married or in a relationship I always said I will leave because I created a beautiful life single, I want marriage but I don't need it.

[@LaTrav08]

I created space after feeling neglected, taken for granted. Well...he's letting me become an astronaut, the galaxy is all mine!

[@Didi-fr5ic]

Yes girl, flow In your galaxy 🌌

[@BeYouTFully]

@latrav08 this visual made me cackle 😂😂 👩‍🚀 👩‍🚀

[@emilytaylor1001]

❤❤❤

[@fareenashofficial]

Haha!!!!

[@Butterflygyal97]

I had to walk away & it’s been two weeks since we last spoke with one other. I totally agree that people won’t change until they want to change. No matter the space I give him, he doesn’t want to change, he won’t. I just tell myself that I have to move on ( each day I feel less and less excited and attached to him). Additionally, it’s PERTINENT that the other individual wants to be with you , and he told me multiple times that he doesn’t want to be with me other than just sleeping with me. So, another reason I had to walk away. He doesn’t have a high drive or attraction for me other than sexual. It sucks that he doesn’t see my greatness, but someone else will.

[@emilytaylor1001]

I am sorry you are experiencing pain right now. But you are strong woman: you managed going no contact for 2 weeks. Well done! 🥳🥳🥳 I am in the same position only went 2 days no contact. Its so painful. I am journaling, have put a day countdown on my phone for 21 days, lots of Widgets as a reminders. I heard if you succeed going no contact for 21 days, most probably he will leave me alone. 😔 i Hope all will go well with you 🌱☀️

[@Butterflygyal97]

@@emilytaylor1001 awww thank you! You got this girl! You’re going to feel so much better about yourself when you keep no contact because you’re showing yourself that you respect yourself. I won’t lie, it’s hard, but if you keep yourself busy with hobbies & just journal, talk to others, etc. You’ll get through.

[@mindset_olympics2]

You are the main character in your life not him!!!! Great job walking away sex without committment is ruining women in society ❤

[@Butterflygyal97]

@@mindset_olympics2 thank you so much for your comment ☺️ it’s sometimes hard to see yourself as the main character when women have been conditioned to over give w/o reciprocation. I’m glad I’m getting wiser.

[@fareenashofficial]

Someone else will!

[@jessicahitchens6926]

I agree real change takes years 🤣 And just because people spend big money doesn't mean they'll change. Money can be replenished time can not..

[@fareenashofficial]

Bingo!

[@chineyee5572]

I agree ..it’s weird because doing the inner work makes you less interested..just trying to find that balance between being communicative vs avoiding

[@fareenashofficial]

Yesssss

[@singwings]

22:43 yes! It sounds like: Speak to a friend, get coaching, calm down and then …only then… comfortably and securely tell him what you like and don’t like with a serious security and clarity that isn’t dependent to be happy, you are okay with getting what you need yourself but he will get more distance from you. If he wants to be close, he’ll figure it out to get more of you and your affection.

[@princessosquala]

This was so good ! I love that you added alot of context in the beginning and explaining that a man has to have a high drive an order for you go apply all of these tips and suggestions ! That was really good ✨.

[@fareenashofficial]

I love that you loved it and explained what you loved so I can do more of that! Lol

[@shireen400]

Yes! Love this! We have to know our own value before we can expect others to see it xox

[@fareenashofficial]

Yes! Exactly!

[@evolutionbe7150]

Wow Fareen, I was literally going to write this question in a comment the other day, but I stopped myself because I had a feeling to wait, then you made this perfect video, omg lol. 😅 What I've been hesitant with lately is not knowing how to express my heart and feelings vulnerably, while still staying strong and centered within myself. It's crazy how much I've learned about my own value from your videos and inner work course ❤ I also can't recommend your books enough haha, the one about the masculine, it really made me realize just how much guys are all about consequences likw you said. That was so helpful when i knew nothing about guys lol.

[@fareenashofficial]

Yes they are!!

[@bellabriggs1393]

Men know exactly what they do wrong ! I rather remove myself but first tell them why , not just remove myself without telling why !

[@kitataki2296]

Why telling them if they know exactly what they do wrong … ? I think there’s more honour in just walking away … (since they know exactly what they did)

[@zuzanakyselova1561]

@@kitataki2296 I agree! they know, no need to remind them...

[@coletteharubella2434]

I need to watch this every day for a week.

[@fareenashofficial]

🙏

[@JennaHasm]

​​@@fareenashofficial It's official. You do not know what you're doing, how you got there/him or why you managed to do it. In life you absolutely have to be able to influence people. If you can't teach me how to get, say, a violent drunk man to go to sleep, what are you here for?

[@Didi-fr5ic]

You have to lose a man in order to keep him, he should know that if he doesnt step up you have more love for yourself than him..I have so much knowledge now and how men operate which I never knew before, when i do find the right person I know its going to be a healthy one, great video beautifull fareen love you ❤ is there a way i can purchase your books in a different currency? You as a woman must have the strength to walk away ❤

[@olybirdmusic]

I can feel the strength in your comment.. very aligned energy! thanks for your words

[@fareenashofficial]

Yes!!

[@christinawagner2474]

So here for all this new content!! I appreciate you so much Fareen! ❤

[@fareenashofficial]

Yay! I’m so glad you’re loving it! 😍

[@sarahsawrie]

Speechless! VERY hard to change. Helps me see things differently in lots of my relationships. Love you Thank you xo

[@fareenashofficial]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@Dhibdic]

I literally needed this TODAY. I’ve been doing way better than I thought I was.

[@Dhibdic]

I know exactly what I’m going to do now. Thank you so much Fareen!

[@fareenashofficial]

Loveeee when that happens!

[@Soysaucinn]

Ugh I love how authentic & genuine you are! Such a pure heart & light to this world! 💞 love how you said it’s inside out not outside in and woman are the leaders emotionally.. Men will learn from us! Such a great video!! Thank you so much for your time & wisdom❤❤

[@fareenashofficial]

Thank you so much!!

[@julianacamargo2022]

Thank you so much Fareen for helping us ❤

[@fareenashofficial]

My pleasure 😊

[@MargaretBuj_InterviewCoach]

I looove your longer videos! Reminds me of the group! xx

[@fareenashofficial]

I miss our group too!!

[@MargaretBuj_InterviewCoach]

@@fareenashofficial Will you reopen it after you get married?:-)

[@cinderling5472]

Darling Fareen! 😍😍🙏 I'm so happy to see and hear you again! Please never stop repeating yourself, and it always makes me happy when you say the video is getting long 💕 Thank You so much for another wonderful video! I love this - take space to work through the emotions privately, and then when calm, have a chat full of hope and positivity I do think.. In some situations it's hard to show up as wonderful😞 because they are draining you But in those cases i think, simply walking away is best yes? Have a wonderful day! 🙏💖 Big kisses back!

[@fareenashofficial]

You’re the best!

[@tianaconliffe9337]

Thank you so much for this 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@fareenashofficial]

You’re very welcome ☺️

[@adeljacobs4169]

Damn this was something truly special 🎉thank you for such an amazing video. It is really helpful especially the taking space to not be reactive. Appreciate your insight

[@fareenashofficial]

Thank you for your beautiful comment

[@Braveh3artGirl]

I learnt this the hard way, but i am so happy to have this knowledge ❤

[@fareenashofficial]

Experience is always the best teacher!

[@Braveh3artGirl]

@@fareenashofficial❤

[@erinelizabeth5164]

You’re so inspiring 😍😍 so feminine so cutesy

[@fareenashofficial]

Awwwww thank you 😊

[@fareenashofficial]

I like cutesy! Hah

[@bellabriggs1393]

Most of the time if you just disappear the men would not even care and find other , I rather say bye and why I am leaving , and free myself 😊

[@mindset_olympics2]

So true

[@fareenashofficial]

Not the right guy :)

[@bellabriggs1393]

@@fareenashofficial the right guy would respect and treat you good to start with , never ghosts or takes you for granted !

[@sept2866]

I think of one brunette who is a relationship "coach" Dark long hair with such a weird vibe. Like a robot. It's all about girl power and dumping the guy, instead of , does a woman drive the man away by chance. Too one sided. So I hear you Fareen

[@TexasGirl1984]

So good Fareen!

[@fareenashofficial]

Thank you!

[@BabyFaceRach]

Loved this

[@fareenashofficial]

Thank you for letting me know 🤍

[@dancingcloud8557]

I noticed an integrity issue with a current suitor, i naturally wanted to pull back Is that a sign we are reclaiming our feminity

[@fareenashofficial]

Good job!!

[@fiddles78]

Such a great video and thank you for whopping my ass 🤣🤣🙏❤️❤️

[@fareenashofficial]

Haha! Anytime 😝

[@sapphire1817]

Hii yaya another video! ❤

[@fareenashofficial]

Yup!!🥰

[@jolenejoleeene8442]

I got some questions: 1. Can this feelings of attraction Flow? Like today they are high, other days low? Because i m thinking we, as women, cant always have the capacity to remain 100% healthy feminine 2. Can a man that broke up with u because he tought that you re too emotional reactive, come back? Can a man love the toxicity of a woman without realising it? Like ok, we strive to be healthy feminine and we work on that a lot but life is tough sometimes and our reactions can vary... So the third question 3. Why cant we be loved by our man in the moments of natural emotional reaction? Why do we need to work so much on our selves meanwhile men doing nothing, not even caring if we like them or not 😂 I find it hard to be healthy feminine all my life. Maybe i can be 60% healthy feminine but 40% life happens and shit gets hard and i just dont wanna play games to be loved, you know? I love your videos, i am not triggered, i am just disaapointed that us, women, have so much work to do just to be loved. This is how it looks like... I am full of emotions and i get it, i should work a lot on myself, but I would love to be loved just the way i am... Not having to teach myself and study so hard how to be better for a man... I m tired... Sorry for complaing, i wanted to tell you my feelings, maybe it s a perspective to look from too...

[@fareenashofficial]

You grow and do the inner work for you! Not for a man 🤍. You do it so you feel good about how you react and how you show up in life in general. It’s never about a man. The man is just a reflection. If you haven’t read my books or course, def do! And if you want to speak to me privately book a call k. You’re beautiful on the inside and I get it!

[@ziggypip2938]

I sooooo feel everything you said!! Great questions. Seems women are way busier trying to grow than men.

[@diannaantes5262]

❤Thank you

[@fareenashofficial]

Your very welcome

[@courtney7198]

can this vid also apply to cheaters? i've walked away from him last month and told him this is not worth my time anymore and that i deserve someone who values and respects me. now he still keeps on messaging me and saying sorry but i am not truly satisfied with words and no efforts/actions.

[@fareenashofficial]

I would block…

[@annisechetelat9026]

My man usually texts me 2 or 3 times in the day. He talked to me early this morning and now it's late in the night as nd I haven't heard from him. I want to ask him if something is wrong but maybe I just need to wait and see til tomorrow. I'm just feeling sad.

[@fareenashofficial]

I hope it’s resolved 🤍🤍

[@annisechetelat9026]

@@fareenashofficial It was resolved but he told me I'm his priority and of late, I dont feel that I am. He proposed but I don't have anything solid on my hand and he could send flowers even though he is long distance. Nothing but promises. Trying to decide what to say to him.

[@Minarhenaye]

What happens if he pulls away and stonewalls? Im not even sure if Im in a relationship anymore

[@fareenashofficial]

I would have to speak to you privately to really give you input

[@Minarhenaye]

@@fareenashofficial Hopefully I can soon. We are still in a relationship but it goes back and forth from being good and then no investment/valuing friends more.

[@fareenashofficial]

@Minarhenaye hmmm this would be interesting to get into with you. Ok I’m here when you’re ready to go deeper 🤍

[@Minarhenaye]

@@fareenashofficialThank you!

[@ziggypip2938]

Been there done that. Research and see if he’s ASD…stonewalling is a form of emotional abuse…t not trying to be negative, but they may have a side chic…I say WALK AWAY…it will trigger any abandonment issues and lower your self-esteem.

[@martajanowsiak9886]

How can we fulfill our needs to be touched / loved physically on our own?

[@fareenashofficial]

Love yourself! Get a massage!

[@basicinfo2022]

Emotional support pet?

[@elleelle7741]

Audio is terrible

[@JesusLightsYourPath]

Why get him to change? Leave him and find someone else (unless you're already married.)

[@nvmcrider8475]

They problem with this video is that you are trying to change the man. If you want to het along with someone, just let them be themselves.

[@m21285]

Can this video also apply for us wanting a man to go from undisciplined, not many responsibilities, no stable job, to him actually having those things, or am I expecting way too much change here? Im happy with their emotional side but not fully satisfied with their masculine side... Thanks❤

[@fareenashofficial]

He sounds like he’s: in his unhealthy energies. The men I’m speaking about are very masculine, discipled etc in their lives….”what men want” will be helpful !

[@m21285]

@fareenashofficial Right. should I make a exception and wait to see if he improves if he is still young, still trying to figure out what to study, still in school etc? But I dont know because while that may explain the lack of job, it doesn't explain the lack of discipline ❤thank you

[@jessicahitchens6926]

Too young. If you want a relationship experience then great but be aware that it won't progress any further.

[@m21285]

@@jessicahitchens6926 I'm hesitant right now because he's not quite there yet with the issues I listed above. I haven't spoken to him about my concerns yet. Since we are so young, I wonder if im expecting too much out of him? I'm thinking of telling him I'm looking for certain things I find important in a man and I don't think we're compatible as for now.

[@thecurrentmoment]

You could probably list out all the things you want him to change, think about how long it really takes people to make real lasting change, and then decide if you are willing to put in the time and energy to support him to do that. And that is on top of everything else you have to do - work, family, etc My point is that to change a few things could be challenging but feasible, however if there are too many things then it may not be realistic. If you want someone to change 80% of themselves then you actually are trying to make them into a different person, and you don't accept them as they are. But to change the worst 10% of someone who is otherwise your perfect person could be a worthwhile goal.

[@Joanna.Swiderska333]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@fareenashofficial]

🤍🤍

[@EZ-mp9kn]

What is giving space mean , actionably in The real world? If you live together or if you don’t.

[@simi6152]

If you live together , then you need to move out yourself or he needs to move out. Easier said than done, right? Especially when you are invested financially and emotionally.

[@iaf4454]

Giving space is sth like: you dont give your energy away easily, dont talk to him (go and talk to your neighbours, family, etc) dont ask questions. Be emotionally detached... I guess that is the idea. If you dont live together is easier

[@iaf4454]

​​@@simi6152 but I think that is not the idea.... I guess the idea is that you dont give yourself away (emotionally and financially speaking) if the guy is not doing anything to gain it.

[@simi6152]

@iaf4454 I guess... maybe some women don't have enough self-esteem, so they think any man giving them attention is a good thing for them.

[@iaf4454]

@@simi6152 maybe they were taught to be like that. Childhood is important since you are a little girl you are taught by your mother, aunts, granmothers how to feel towards men . Generally, being a woman is harsh, and some think that in order to be loved and cherished you have to do more than them. How we are educated, how we are raised make us think that we do not "value" enough

[@ayyyejesterdazed]

I hope the title is a joke… imo if they were raised to be dogs, there’s no changing. Just leave and find one who was raised right🤷🏽‍♀️

[@laurenbrueberg8595]

I’m just going 😅😅😅😅😅

[@tiannad1378]

Changing is a choice. She talks about this is the video, that ultimately that guy has to want to change. Some people actually want to move forward in life and better themselves

[@iaf4454]

Exactly... men dont change and a woman is not there to change or educate a grown man.

[@sabinesm]

@@iaf4454Yess, they can changed

[@zsszikszai5180]

❤❤

[@fareenashofficial]

🙏