If He Is Not Attractive Don't Give Him A Chance Woman Shares - Must Watch

[@GabrielleSeunagal]

Agreed. Physical attraction is a prerequisite for a romantic relationship.

[@CoachLove]

When you give the unattractive man a chance, his ego gets stroked to where he tends to think less of you and that he can get the one who really caught his eye. It ain't worth it to look back and wonder why you gave a guy the time of day...

[@rdkirk3834]

And that happens to average women who get attention from above average men who just want sex.

[@zero1188]

Agreed, if you not attracted to someone, you cannot treat them the way they need to be treated

[@T-Laydie]

Unless they're rich! Then it can be done 🤭

[@MedusaChristo-y1o]

For me, I need that sexual attraction. It’s not good to settle, for yourself & for the other person.

[@MsM-y3d]

​@@T-Laydiereally wow I knew it. Rich or broke I can't 🫤

[@talltalllady]

​@@T-Laydiedo you mean it can't be done?

[@Zucchinis7]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@renataklein4776]

This guy was always flirting with me and I wasn't attracted to him, my mom told me I was being shallow and I gave him a chance and he disrespected the 🤬 out of me. There is nothing worse than being dogged out by a man I'm not even into. Don't let anyone bully you or talk you into it.

[@slimebeast5499]

Listen people will tell you go with an ugly guy but will they do it lol

[@slimebeast5499]

It hurts worse when you weren’t into them

[@Diana734]

If I am going to have a baby I am making sure I am going to have good looking kids.

[@relanaallen5513]

And they usually end up ugly and not nice.

[@hubabaloop]

Facts 🥺 learned this with my last ex

[@AyAReI00]

Yes, their niceness is a very calculate manipulative parade of deception they roleplay until they think they FINALLY have You ... I learn it as well

[@faith1780]

THIS!!!!! I’ve learned this the hard way lol 😂

[@kennyav25]

White girl with pink scarf is trippin!!! When you're not attracted to him, you will get easily irritated by him

[@bellableu4023]

Pink scarf falls under exactly what the topic is...🫣

[@FKA_TUCSON]

she’s missing the point entirely - “I would rather be with someone because he’s nice” men aren’t nice. they just aren’t. but I’m sure she’ll learn.

[@HaleyJo1992]

It also isn't becoming men. It's raising our standards to match men. Women still overall aren't mean to men they aren't attracted to, so that doesn't make us as bad as men, just saying if you're entitled to desire a beautiful partner, then we can also want that. Doesn't mean we'll get it, just it's ok to want that.

[@shygirlcomplex]

Agree if I don't find a guy attractive I don't even chat with him or give him false hope 👍🏾...I don't care what men do or not I never base my actions off what men do 😂

[@paracoco1761]

The thing with unattractive men is that they are delusional too. Every platonic interaction you have with them, they will interpret it as sexual interest. I recently cut off a guy who was helping me in my job search. I really need the job, but I'm sure that accepting his help would be interpreted as me being attracted to him and leading him on, and I don't want to end up in that situation again.

[@NiobeNeo]

This is very true. Even if you are polite by greeting them. They will see it as a chance. Making a simple greeting akward....

[@shaypope4732]

​@@NiobeNeo😂😂 ur right I said good evening to this cable guy day before yesterday and he started shooting for the stars and the sky lol

[@Naturefan354]

Why would you base your actions off of what men do? And why would men base their actions on what women do either? We're different 😂

[@shygirlcomplex]

@@Naturefan354 because in the video a few of the ladies would stress the fact "men wouldn't date anyone they didn't find attractive "..So I'm simply saying I don't base my opinions of men when it comes to the importance of attraction 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@janaynmelis5250]

Yes, dont waste your time or his time. If youre not attracted and dont see yourself with him, kindly let him know and move on. ❤

[@denisha8596]

Finding someone attractive doesn't mean that they're literally a model - I think this is why some people think this is rooted in being shallow. A whole constellation of things about a person have to come together to float your boat, and the OP is just encouraging women to not settle for zero float.

[@VixxKong2]

7:45 Because I want that same freedom. Us women had to be the ones giving chances and sacrificing, and this and that just to get disrespected in the end by ungrateful men. So I want to be free from all these expectations of sacrifice we put on women. I'm putting myself first.

[@CPT_Pepper]

Some folks don't know they're unattractive and shooting out of their league😂😂

[@AyAReI00]

In My language there are a few phrases that men Say with proud about their AUDACITY to hit on women way out of their leagues. Baby that don't cry don't eat. Fruit put to cut is better to cut them ... That somehow translate to when the opportunity is not given You Made it yourself ... And the baby one is clear, they shot their shoots, they are not afraid of rejection. Soooo the AUDACITY for ugly men in My country comes from this old idea that men think is better to be rejected by the hot lady instead of never knew if the hot lady might be weird and like mid ugly dudes.

[@VixxKong2]

Maybe they know but they're waiting for who will give them a chance

[@shaypope4732]

They know they just have alot of hope you don't know

[@angelgreen9945]

@@shaypope4732That’s funny! lol 😂

[@shaypope4732]

@@angelgreen9945 lol

[@Simply_Sandra]

One of the biggest mistakes I never made , wheeew I've learned my lesson. Never give the ugly. Guy a chance. Periodtt

[@autumnof1992]

I'm a lesbian and I live by this principle it has saved me from dealing with a ton of drama.

[@_ojosdegato]

The uglier the meaner honestly. I’m consider beautiful and very ugly guy I dated (and unfortunately married) were the meanest! The pretty ones weren’t great but they definitely weren’t mean. My husband is the worst of all, so sad. They are sooooo insecure even if you do everything possible to make them feel like they are the only men that exist in the world. It’s pathetic

[@genevieveaniko6492]

Can you imagine, having the audacity to be ugly and a mean person at the same time. Folks really need to learn to choose a struggle.

[@MsM-y3d]

​@@genevieveaniko6492choose a struggle hilarious 😂😅😂😅

[@FKA_TUCSON]

exactly they have a bone to pick and they take it out on the person they should be grateful for

[@HaleyJo1992]

I think people might be happier if they accept we're all animals, and just like every other species, we like what we like, and no one is entitled to procreate. You seen the way other animals preen to attract a mate? We're no different, we just attach emotion to it to guilt people - mainly women - into sleeping with people they otherwise would not have.

[@bellableu4023]

Facts! I learned this the hard way. Thinking I was being shallow by not giving the "nice guy" a chance He was the worst, a liar, full of problems. Lots of character flaws and unattractive. It only took me one time! Never again!

[@ChrissyBeTalking]

I agree. I’ve been saying it for years!!! Also, we forget that a man we think is regular is making another woman’s leg shake. That’s who he needs to be with. All of this low esteem stems from people being with people they are not attracted to. I know men who I wouldn’t look at twice, who make my friends swoon!! Your man needs to make you swoon. And even if he’s rich, don’t do it if you are not attracted to him. It’s 2024, women can make money. There are plenty of fine rich men. Money will not make you want him to touch you.

[@iamconfusion1791]

The very first thing others see is a person's looks. Nobody looks at a stranger and says "Well, they look like they got a great personality and a wonderful soul." So it's very important to find a potential partner you're attracted to. That's not to say that a person you're not attracted to can be an acquaintance or even a friend and you start to develop feelings because you experience what an amazing person they are. But to say it's shallow to base attraction on looks is incorrect - what else are you supposed to base it on when you have nothing or little to go on? I'm a demisexual, so I don't even find people attractive until and unless I get to know them, but I can grasp this concept.

[@slimebeast5499]

I’m so glad yall made this video I tell folks I have to think he cute some women think cuz a guy ugly he will do them right wrong look when a guy you didn’t like do you wrong it hurts worse lol. Also I befriend 2 guys just because they nice but we’re not cute they lied on about being In a relationship with me etc and both assaulted me while I took a nap no never in hell I don’t care what he buys run lol

[@ka-ta-ya9565]

I was with a man for four years who I was not physically attracted to. Please do not do it. He was my best friend and I honestly thought the sexual attraction could grow over time but nope. It was a long distance relationship and that’s the only reason it lasted so many years. I could ignore the red flags for a long long time until we started seriously preparing for marriage and I came to my senses. We had other problems too regarding his finances but the sexual attraction is one of the pillars of a successful relationship in my opinion. Proceed with caution ladies.

[@genevieveaniko6492]

What's the logic of faking attraction to a person that you don't like for real.. Its clearly desperation, loneliness and delusion. Just leave them alone... So that the both of you can find your actual person. 🤷‍♀️

[@shaypope4732]

I blame beauty and the beast and Disney bruh

[@faith1780]

Of course beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but imagine having a kid by a man who you think is ugly….ive seen it with my own eyes. Woman calls her ex bd ugly, kid grows up and looks just like ex, now is insecure because by default momma thinks that the kid is ugly. Kids hear us lol My rule of thumb is: if I’m not attracted early on, I know it’s gonna get worse if I were to stay with him long term lol

[@Dfgjgjod]

There are women who don’t have to find the man attractive, the personality can make up for it. I will say though if the personality is anything short of perfect for your own liking, then you should let that man go. You can’t be unattractive AND have a bad personality.

[@SylisDaGoldenPeach]

Honestly I’ve already decided that I’m just gonna adopt children from Japan because there orphanage is packed and I want to make a difference in a child’s life , I’m tired of waiting on Mr right to marry me and have a family with , most likely that will never happen so I rather just go on with my life , I feel like my calling in life is to adopt because I have the patience and compassion to do so , why waste time making videos over and over again about men all day ???? There’s a better life outside of all of that .

[@JettSettingBengal]

Do it!

[@hippie1252]

Absolutely do it. Bless you 🙏🏽

[@shaypope4732]

Ur right tho the last time I went to buy wat they needed it was alot of ppb kids it was so sad how they go to take advantage of there women then dipped then the women give up the kids cause they can't afford it

[@blouburkette]

As an agender person: Your comfort does not trump human rights. If they say they/them. You use they/them. Or you can leave. Shitty what that dude did, should have handled like an adult.

[@artbygilik]

I have trouble finding most people I meet attractive, I’ve been in long relationships and even married with guys I wasn’t that attracted to, and they didn’t go well anyway. A few years ago I met a guy I became friends with and was very attracted to. The attraction clouded my judgement and i ignored a ton of red flags. He was narcissistic and manipulated and triangulated me for 4. It was agony. Ghosted one day with no explanation after we returned from a vacation together and now I’m so glad he’s gone. After that I pretty much given up on relationships or care anymore. I now have another guy friend that checks a lot of boxes personality-wise, treats me with respects, listens, makes time, spends money on me.. but I’m not attracted to him. I’m just to that point that I have more peace staying on my own until someone will come along that fits all that or I’m fine staying celibate and by myself. The risk to reward is just not worth it otherwise.

[@slimebeast5499]

No one saying a cute guy will be perfect their saying pick what you like cuz both can do you wrong. Also never ignored red flags no matter how cute

[@artbygilik]

@@slimebeast5499 I know that. I was manipulated and had unresolved trauma. Losing that person helped me realize what I needed to work on and educate myself on what not to ignore anymore.

[@Nothinggirl]

It’s really upsetting to be judged for your appearance. Especially in regards to things you can’t change or control

[@catwalkster]

" and here you are on a date with quasimodo " 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@ELIZABETHTORRES-em3kx]

I’m doing good 👍 yeah I’m very shaolw 😂😂😂

[@MaxSTSFXN]

11:45 Damn.. I legit feel sorry for her. 😂

[@SR-mv2mf]

I kind of disagree with this view simply because we maybe physically attracted to people who are wrong for us if we have had to endure trauma(emotional physical abuse or neglect) in childhood or in the past. It’s best to wait to see if your attraction to the person increases within 3-5 dates. If not, then move on.

[@chronicfatiguehermithiker3022]

If you are attracted to them, when the mask comes off and the monster comes out, you will stay and stay and stay. You need to have control in the relationship so that you can leave as soon as things go bad. Just because you’re attracted to him doesn’t mean he will take care of you, narcs don’t, they don’t take care of you on purpose, so shivering after him will just be frustration for you.

[@VixxKong2]

You still need to love yourself more, so you don't take any abuse from anyone

[@FKA_TUCSON]

been there before - one and done, learned my lesson. a picture lasts longer and is less of a headache in the long run.

[@sainttheresetaylor2054]

would u date a woman u weren't attracted to?

[@ThemnewKrispys]

I totally agree. I would go further and say only men who make 🐈 throb have to pay taxes or fight in wars. Men who have no future should not be asked to contribute to society. Let everyone enjoy thier lives.

[@sw-ns1yi]

You can say don't give him a chance unless he's good in bed or unless he's rich, just depends on what are care about

[@Aristochronic]

This is a tough one for two reasons: 1. Most women don’t experience attraction the same way men do. We are more attracted to personality than men are. 2. Most men aren’t that attractive until you work on them. The black wife effect is a real thing except it’s not just black women and it’s not just wives. A lot of men glow up once they have a woman to teach them about moisturizer, barbers and proper styling. I’m not saying that you should settle or treat your partner like a pet project, just that you should keep in mind that literally anyone can be a solid 8 with the right effort.

[@AyAReI00]

False ... I don't waste time to find out their personality unless i find them attractive ... Maybe cuz i'm neurodivegent and i don't understand normal girls, but i despise being touch by men i don't like 😅 SO k can not phantom sleeping with a dude i don't like just cuz i like his personality 😅, like i havw friends cuz i like their personalities but that doesnt mean i want so sleep with them

[@zero1188]

If you have to work on a man you are settling. The BIack effects sounds like an insecure woman who couldnt get the man she wanted so she went somewhere else to change them into the race she really wants.

[@paracoco1761]

​@@AyAReI00 I feel the same way as you. And I think I may be neurodivergent too though I'm not sure. Dating and relationships are not the same as talking and hanging out with friends. At some point the guy will want physical intimacy and my body physically rejects people that I'm not attracted to.

[@VixxKong2]

So you gotta give them a grooming session in order to make them look like your taste in men ? I don't feel like playing dress-up tbh. If your type is a Ken doll that you can give your black-wife-effect to then more power to you. But I'm not here to be a man's stylist or manager, unless he pays me for my time. I would preferably go for a guy that I already find good-looking.

[@Carpathianpixie]

If he refuses to take suggestions about his grooming and looks, there's nothing you can do. Trust me, I've tried. It was frustrating and embarrassing.

[@Aj-qb3pr]

😂, Be careful of who you listen to. Men, we can have children at age 100 if we lived that long. Women are on limited time to safely have children if they want them, and we rarely look better than when we were younger. I have family and friends who kept waiting for that one. Once they got passed age 40, you can see they are depressed. They came back down to the reality. Single women keep women Single. Misery loves company. Now young men found their worth thanks to Kevin Samuel's. They opted out of marriage and went Mgtow, or passport bro. They'll sleep with surrounding women.

[@peacefulblessed2114]

You guys will forever be single, your way of thinking is so elementary.

[@sainttheresetaylor2054]

how so?

[@rdkirk3834]

That's silly as hell. That's some stupid social media crap. Look at the fricking world around you. Most people are average. In the real world, you see mostly average men booed with mostly average women. Go out and touch grass.

[@VixxKong2]

It's about who's attractive TO YOU. Who's making your knees weak. It doesn't need to be a top model. We are simply aware that in the real world, people who settle for looks that they didn't want rarely end up happy.

[@rdkirk3834]

@@VixxKong2 In the real world, people get who they can get, they get who they can keep, and they are happy with that. You're looking for someone "who's making your knees weak," _which never lasts long,_ then you're going to want someone else.

[@VixxKong2]

@rdkirk3834 If that's your experience then I'm not about to argue with it. From my experience, it's the people that had to force themselves to look past what they found unattractive who ended up having the worst breakups.

[@rdkirk3834]

@@VixxKong2 That's only an indication of how shallow relationships have gotten.

[@VixxKong2]

@rdkirk3834 Oh nah, I'm not about to long for the past acting like it was better before. Too many of our mamas were mules, doing all the chores while also working full time. And too many of our grandmas were prisoners, forced to endure whatever because there was nowhere for them to go. No more "true love" fairytales for me. Their love was a business transaction.

[@yodigak8810]

If men going purely off visuals alla y’all on this channel lost.

[@VixxKong2]

Most of us women are perfectly fine staying single instead of settling. That's why there's no crisis of lonely women lol

[@numba1divaxxxx]

I dare you to show your face 😂

[@shaypope4732]

​@@numba1divaxxxxu can see what he looks like without him posting it remember google own youtube

[@DemureDarlings]

Yeah the women in this video thread are 🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🫠🫤

[@FKA_TUCSON]

but these are the women y’all pretend to be nice to to get them…cause you can’t get who you want. how dumb do you feel?

[@marissa._]

I disagree. I've seen this stitch before and I'm not sure if I'm misunderstanding something but I'm sorry, I just don't find this person favorable. She sometimes says certain things that don't sit right with me. She had made another stitch dealing with jobs and telling other people to "find other ways to cope" when people were lamenting about jobs, layoffs, ghost listings, employers not caring, etc. Talking about how some people just have it better than others. 🙄😒 Anyway, I digress. Back to this: Why does your "hoo-ha" have to be "throbbing"??? 😒 Da hell? 🤦 Just because a person isn't attractive to you, it doesn't give anyone the right to be rude. Everyone isn't going to be attracted to everyone and that's okay. Like, if I'm not an attractive girl to you, cool. 9x/10, the feeling will be mutual (*I'm asexual and aromatic*) but that doesn't give you the right to disrespect me, nor be rude to me just because you didn't find me attractive! Its no one's job to be attractive to one another!

[@denisha8596]

I didn't get that she wants anyone to go out there and be rude. I read it as her saying don't engage at all. You can say "no thank you" without being disrespectful.

[@marissa._]

@@denisha8596 True. I don't know. I've seen this stitch before and that's how it came off to me. 🤷 There's a possibility I could be misunderstanding. I just know there's people in general that will be rude and disrespectful to people they find "unattractive" and that doesn't sit right with me.

[@shanchan8247]

Truthfully I've seen many women be attracted/aroused by trash men! And attraction isn't always synonymous with beauty.

[@hippie1252]

​@@marissa._Those people are typically men, no?

[@VixxKong2]

Nobody here is telling others to be rude. On the contrary, they're telling you not to entertain a relationship with someone if you have to force yourself to like them, because it will be a disaster in the end.