if you are not selfish, you won't be successful.

[@tohhnee1619]

this reminded me of the quote “everybody wants to save the world but nobody wants to help mom do the dishes” it would be great if we could all help everyone in the world but it’s very unrealistic. instead like simone said we should focus on our family, communities and expand further in future. love this vid as always!!!

[@simonesimmons]

THATS FACTS....

[@vickyjangjeon]

@@simonesimmons i overshared with my friend and now i want to cut her out cuz shes toxic but shell start a problem ik she will help please i want to glow up but i cant without undoing that

[@jana_rmy]

@@vickyjangjeonDont just cut her out, slowly drift away

[@onettanya7377]

i read it like "Simon says"... 😸

[@onettanya7377]

@@jessicaselenecenteno ahahhaha

[@libazainabkoduvayurayil2709]

mother posted

[@pilly3815]

daughters and sons assemble

[@kashishsingh9494]

Right broo❤

[@jayshoney3045]

I've always been the "always giving" and "always available" type of friend thank you so much for this video I really am determined to change and look after myself more

[@Aas_07]

💜✨

[@TilikaVispute]

I’ve recently started remembering the Abraham Hicks quote, “I can’t get sick enough to save the sick”.

[@TilikaVispute]

And honestly it has been feeling better. Because it re-inforces to me that I should keep my vibe high yo raise the vibe and help others. Rather than overthinking and overgiving. ❤

[@amiihs6499]

Tired of being the therapist friend😭 sooo relatable

[@Aya-cj1ul]

I can totally relate. Being an empath literally destroyed me until i learned to put myself first although I catch myself carrying other people's burden sometimes but i'm more conscious of it now

[@ecimeru]

I wish to be like Simone someday.

[@tolanisimpson5360]

Same!!!

[@venusariane]

sameeee

[@ecstasy3692]

'damn that sucks' is helping a lot rn ty queen

[@waai.waii_]

She always carries slayyy energy with herself and I love her sm😭💗

[@GuidetteExpert]

Omg so true I always take on friends that are drowning, help or want to gain something but dont really help me in return. I will stop that because the base of the relationship is due to they wanted something from me.

[@zaytona9988]

Feeling guilt is something i dealt with as a medical student when i started visiting the hospital and dealing with patients. However, over time i learned to dissociate and turn that feeling into im glad im healthy and pray for them that it becomes less painful. But i’m still empathetic and i dont wanna lose that cuz i do see some of my mentors literally having no sense of empathy for the patients their dealing with.

[@simonesimmons]

YES 100%

[@monilasa28]

This is so true. I had this friend of mine which I got crush on and the friendship turned into situationship, okay but whenever I talk to him I immediately start to feel so low, as if I've worked for like 18 hours, at start I was not paying attention to it but I now I really have to.. I can't let him steal my precious energy. I will put myself first, save my energy and fill in my cup first. Thanks so much Simone. I am so lucky to found you, you just don't know how grateful I am. I love you so freaking much!!!!

[@sunshine-ii9cz]

Yess girl I'm rooting for you🎀 I've been there before you will get over it

[@jinhub2175]

Istg this happens to me when i visit my cousins, i suddenly start feeling very low and start hating myself and feeling ugly, worthless and what not, all the bad vibes get to me and idk why.

[@siaschandelier]

Being empathetic and kind is always important, but you must think for yourself first. I love your videos, Simone! Love from Italy

[@_lilyofthevalley_]

Really needed this video recently! I've been a bit more selfish recently but it makes me feel so guilty for no reason? It's gotten to the point where I start feeling guilty if I even talk about myself to someone

[@OMGkawaiiAngel_x]

This video spoke to me because I have let go of wanting to "save" my brother like my mom would always ask me to, I would also always say "I will be able to help people unless it involves sacrificing myself" and I have lived by that. I got called selfish but I am taking it as a compliment at this point. Thank you for this wonderful video.

[@vixenn_6]

omg U LOOK SO PRETTY! not that u dont usually, ur always stunning! but in this vid, idk, ur lipstick colour and ur dark hair just goes along so well 😭💗 lysmm

[@simonesimmons]

thank u ily!!

[@samco63]

Same with friends and family, I have a lot of emotional vampires in my life, people with relationship problems, hate their jobs etc. i had to switch off my guilt after a while. Because they didn’t want to be saved, and no one was realising just how much I was pouring into everyone else, how much everyone was taking - but no one was filling my cup and I was too exhausted and depressed to pour into my own cup too. They look down on me for being “savage” and ending relationships and friendships and even changing jobs - but it’s because I need to, to make my life better. They would rather wallow, and complain about their relationships and life and jobs - and just never change. I also had to stop complaining myself, and cut my own shit, so that I could chase my own dreams and create a good life. I’ve ended up attracting much better people too, who wanted better for their life and who were more focussed on positive things.

[@xinexine7455]

I used to be someone who love herself, confident about herself, someone who doesn't feel guilty about smth easily and someone who is an unbothered girl knowing people dont even know smth about me those people who judge me are just insecure about themselves, A girl who knows her worth, but rn I back to the insecure situation and hard situation again but I know I will heal and I can do this, we all can so goodluck to me and to y'all

[@LevRiv]

This is so true. I’m realizing this as a teenager but it’s very sad when people will be so used to having help from people who have severe empathy. I remember I would be stressed out because people would call me at 1 o clock in the morning venting about something or telling me they want to end it all. It got to a point where I got so panicked I would have breakdowns. Eventually I end up blocking people that turn friendship into “free therapy” and nothing else.

[@janedilynmancha3910]

this is very helpful. I'm almost 1month in without social media. And I'm learning so much about myself. So glad with this decision that I made.

[@xXxNeonPrincessxXx]

Damn this came to my feed at such a right time. I have been working through my goals and it becomes debilitating because people usually dump their problems towards me because that used to make me feel self fulfilled because I was able to save someone by helping them with their problems. Now I'm kinda slowly realizing, no one helped me be better, I helped myself and it becomes frustrating when someone comes to me but wants my empathy not solutions because as someone who now prioritized making a solution first irregardless of how I felt. It felt almost suffocating when they would just ask and drain my empathy and not listen to actual solutions. Some people don't actually want solutions they just want you to stay in a miserable state with them as company and it's true that if I wanna get ahead in life, I'd really have to put me first and be selfish.

[@carmencatalina9086]

I am done doing that. I have my own life and problems and can’t save everyone and everyone doesn’t want to be saved they addicted to pain and misery. I won’t be they company. I’m gone be more selfish and help select people.

[@lovingheize]

After hearing what you mentioned in the video I was reminded of a person in my life who has a lot of medical obstacles (mainly insomnia among other things.) As a result they oftentimes are SUUUPPEEERRR negative which is understandable given their circumstances, but at the same time they’re not trying to look at the positive side of things whatsoever. For example, if I have a good night’s rest and I mention that I’m proud of myself and I feel good, instead of being happy for me this person will act like even getting sleep at all is good enough and how they wished they could even have an hour or two of rest, which always leaves me feeling guilty. Another example is that I always take the time to write this person long, original motivational messages that I carefully thought about so as to help them feel more positive about things. Whenever I do this, they respond like everything I said is pointless because it’s not going to cure them. I always feel guilty after these conversations, wishing I could do more to help them. But like you said, some people don’t want to be helped and you can push the life raft over and they’d rather push it away and leave themselves to drown because it garners more attention and climbing up on the life raft takes effort that they’re not willing to put forth for themselves. Everyone is dealing with their own issues and overcoming their own struggles, it’s not up to us to shift their negative mindsets to positive ones especially when they ignore the genuine advice we have offered. It really is a sigh of relief to be able to tell myself that I’ve already done what I could and that these are not my problems.

[@andrewthepancake]

I love when mother feeds us

[@JS-ld2qd]

Genuinely, I'm so grateful that you learned all these lessons in your teens.

[@StarGir1_]

Simone is literally a life saver

[@bouchrabenyoucef8085]

I was so giving person and helpful but when i felt that need to some people next to me i found only my self that's why I'm doing my best now to create the highest version of me guys the amount of love you have give it to yourself first ❤

[@eraofkpop_yt]

I am literally so giving and always helping others and don't even think about me, really needed this video

[@kimadiggs237]

That’s it! Throw them a life raft and never make the mistake of drowning with anybody! This video is life saving for us that have lived our entire life jumping into the water to save people when we can’t even swim.

[@rosespasta5208]

This video really opened my eyes as I always struggled a lot with my people-pleasing tendencies. Thanks Simone

[@wanderlust1787]

Thank you Simone for posting video on this topic. I had enough of being the one who always help and get nothing in return, it sucks man, good thing I just got rid of people who were like that, guys be careful when you help out people, in my experience I got guilt tripped into doing things for them, thankfully I have distanced myself from such people. Now I'm in a better place. Better give priority for yourself first. Have a good day fellas.

[@cosmicllovee]

Whatever you say , I really apply it in my life and now I'm living my best life 💗go Queen Simone! Here's your crown 👑

[@ekanuegas6969]

I definitely agree with this, I'm practicing mind my own business more and not engage myself into negative situation especially, when i couldn't control it.

[@liefiscute]

im highly sensitive so this will be very hard for me but i will put in a lot of energy to get this done

[@onlypjm]

honestly needed this simone

[@bilgea.3]

this channel better than your other channel .This is because, as you know everyone around the world are watching you and the fact that you add the subtitles in your videos are very beneficial for them in terms of intelligibility.

[@rayhatabassum4474]

She is so sweet and considerate I like her 🫶🌷✨

[@Lumineth111]

Everyone drop everything and watch this cuz kur queen posted ✨

[@manishashah9]

simone pls make a video on enjoying and vibing life alone and how being alone is not scary., also on self love. this video will be a bang.

[@aestaetic4788]

my friend told me about u..she said ur a life saver and u changed her life...i didn't believed her and when i visited ur channel..i got to know it...

[@patrickrad1735]

This was a true story at my aunt brother in law party a man was drowning but he actually wasn’t

[@kpopobsessed2973]

A week ago i was like I don’t understand her at all but woahhhhh i’m a fan now

[@lovingheize]

Your video topics always have such perfect timing in my life, I'll find myself addressing habits I have that I want to get rid of/things I do that I want to improve upon and bam! You post a video about it haha ❤

[@jk2000jk]

Ikk I was struggling with a similar situation so I went to the bathroom and i see the notification🤩

[@ciaosea_]

That's literally me two years ago!! Now i'm working on it just like Simone said in this vid. Hope I could actually navigate these feelings soon. Luv ya❤

[@liefiscute]

you’ve been nothing but an inspiration and help! and you have really good reasoning, you’re very down to earth. advice from someone like you is very helpful! obviously is impossible to agree with everything someone says, and its always important to think for yourself but i truly share your views and opinions and i strongly agree with most things you say!!❤ (sorry if this sounds weird, my english isn’t very good yet)

[@simrantuli26]

I have literally been thinking about this for a few days now, i need to be a little selfish to be able to function properly. I've always put other's needs above mine And, my mom recently had an accident and it's been four months since she has severe pain in her leg and it's been hard for her and for me as well since i have to pick up some of the work load and also caring for someone for this long is hard and takes a mental toll on you Anyway, I really needed this right now, thankyou so much (I've been saying that for a few videos now but i really mean it)

[@only.for.tae.]

No coz i saw your recommendation on Pinterest and came here. Thanks mom. You will really help me grow more confident ❤

[@MarioRamirez-gm4vn]

I really love your videos. It’s really helping get thru a bad breakup but learning more to put myself first and putting all my energy on myself and I’m loving it. Thank you ❤

[@urmama37388]

i don't think anyone will ever understand how much I love Simone 💕❤️

[@samco63]

So agree about the friends drowning. I did that too. And I ended up with a hanger-on for 6 years and she never has a positive thing to say. I’ve given her multiple life rafts and she won’t get it. It’s always negativity, and it’s sad because she has been through trauma - but so have I! Objectively a lot more than her, which I know it’s not a competition, but I’ve poured tens of thousands of dollars, committed my life to getting through my trauma. She just wants to wallow.

[@aphroditesapprentice777]

btw simone i tried implementing some of your techniques from your secrets about confidence video and i’ve been feeling more confident these days thank you so much for giving us your knowledge

[@circe_0019]

Simone this video litterally helped my day, thanks! I'm a very highly empathetic person and now I'm trying to set boundaries and if u want I would like to see a video talking about boundaries (especially 4 empaths) because I think that they really matters and can save u from uncomfortable situations. Being selfish is important and when we can feel guilt about it we have to remind ourselves that we have the power to decide how we can feel even if can not be always easy. Slay lady and kiss from Italy

[@shrishsharma-wv9yw]

YOU ARE SUCH A ANGEL! I literally feel like ur my elder sister whose always there for me! LOVE YOUU

[@NotebookMapofLemon]

True if u keep being sad about someone u will end up being the one others will become sad looking at u. If u really wanna help 1 person help YOURSELF. That 1 is u or at most ur family. Whether u know it or not everyone is playing victim role game, emotional games, making u feel that U should be helping them coz u blessed than them. So dont fall into others games and focus on urself. (This advice is coming from my own multiple experience 😓)

[@eclipzzw]

I just feel so freaking blessed rn I've so many classmates and some friends who always want to be spoon fed like they know I have all the homework/school work done so, they always ask me despite them being present at school like wth were u doing bro. My friend whom I once considered as a bestfriend, talks all day with her other friends and then when she has to get her work done she knows that those friend of hers didn't do it so, she asks from me and guess what me being me I give her the work like, I really think I sometimes have to start saying no to people cause it's getting on my nerves these days like 😶😑 Anyways thank u so much simone U are literally like my fairy God mother❤

[@priyankadhage700]

shes so right for the second advice especially.

[@Angell_Lee]

Literally one of the prettiest girl on earth, thank you so much for your tips. So accurate xo

[@ashra6700]

Babe please keep posting every week u truly helped me 🥺

[@onettanya7377]

I'd like to add my story of why am I here watching this video. I got issues with to be or not to be selfish. There it is: WORK. I've had 2 jobs during dis year: tutor & dance trainer. Both need so much energy, dedication, preparations and attention to each student so I couldn't carry on that way anymore, I started realising that it leads to burnouts and even hate to what I used to love doing once. So the decision came - to quit something. On one hand It was hard but logically at some point. From other side: parents & kids were RLY upset. They were trying to stop me, to change my mind. And I was like a Selfish person refusing them... It's what I'm going through now. I should understand if it is right for Me - it is GOOD. Even though it might appear bad for someone, but those are feeling and they are okay. I do not obey them all my Life. I have my own too, my own career changes, priorities. And yes I'm thinking of my wellbeing, benefit. If it's Bad, sorry. I have to admit - I am selfish...

[@khushi-b529]

I feel our brains are literally in sync you always post the content I need at the moment, I recently said no to giving some of my time to a close friend who i love but we spend a lot of time together already and I love her but we’re not always productive when we’re together and I need to spend time on my own goals and life yk, so I felt like I was being a bit selfish but I appreciate your perspective on this, to pour into my own cup before others. Ich liebe dich Simona💗💗

[@lavu866]

How does Simone exactly know what I need to hear, mother indeed!

[@green-green-grass]

Damn right! I have found it in the hardest ways that if you’re not selfish you’re not going far on your life. A mere dot on the face of earth.

[@ud29]

the way ur videos speak facts >>>

[@Saurabh24776]

I learned all these things in past 1 year now i am ok. By the way thanks for the video ❤frm india

[@mominatareen4484]

You are right I will follow you because I want to help others but am not financial stable so I can't help them at the end they are giving me torcher first I will put my self when I ll be fit I can take care for others

[@eieaenriquez7391]

Your vids really help me, thanks for the motivation simone!

[@nalainzahra7037]

Thank u semone.this 9:07 mint video has changed my life

[@TilikaVispute]

6:09 same exact thoughts have been running through my mind.. if I wanna do big things I can’t let the small things bother me …

[@TilikaVispute]

3:49 I still feel this way 🥹🥹🥹 gotta finish the video so I can stop over giving

[@abenagyampo]

When I started going to my local high school, I was a new kid bc I went to catholic school from k-8. There was this one girl who I befriended bc both she and I didn’t have many friends, and every time I told ppl that I was friends with this girl they would scoff and ask me why I’d ever give her the time of day. I thought ppl were just being mean to her, so I tried my best to be a good friend to her but I eventually realized that no one liked her bc she was a complete b-h and that I should just let her be by herself. I’m not saying don’t reach out to ppl who are in need of a friend, but I am saying that some ppl are lonely for a reason and they don’t deserve your time and energy.

[@Sams_Vlogs746]

omg this video is opening my eyes. Thank you so much for this !!!

[@suya3115]

i want to think for myself i sometimes feel like i have no vision no goals for myself? everything am i doing is based off people's expectations. or like at times , i completely self neglect? so being selfish and being a 'actual real autonomous person' is important

[@nobody-rr8gi]

Meditation is the only way you can listen to your inner thought easily .

[@whizrya]

queen.

[@cala-so9zo]

You make so much sense. I needed this. Thankyou

[@rray.0.0]

Please do a video about how to deal with anxiety and overthinking

[@RR.Bahng1377]

I love her so much literally changed my life with all her videos I hope you notice this comment but you are the best KZbinr ❤❤❤

[@rahmaaboaowf1717]

I am blessed ❤ That there’s content like that❤

[@rose_sit_on_me8008]

Sorry I'm new to this channel. But is she an Aussie? The accent, chefs kiss

[@jigyasamattoo3760]

THE QUEEN POSTED

[@iitjee2024___]

I don't have anything to say I just really needed this

[@queen_of_elegance7218]

Good advice! You are very mature for your age, wish I was like this at your age, I am 10 years older and still learning this :)

[@robyn_southafrica]

Thank you for this Simone. Really needed this 🙏👏👏❤

[@e.l.t.art.]

U need to release a book. I would most definitely read it all

[@mahnoorfatima928]

Simon i hope you're doing good

[@rajpalbhatia1715]

I needed to hear this so bad

[@Specialko]

It's like you heard what I need. Love you❤

[@ivyayy]

This really changed my perception, instead of trying to save the world, try to do small acts of help to ppl around u and especially HELP YOURSELF all the time! Love your video, thank you for this🩷

[@lyn3880]

thanks mother

[@norahmutemwakwenda7219]

All time favorite KZbinr 🤭❤️

[@strawbewycandy]

lowk hard to do since im a people pleaser qwq

[@futuretomtom]

this is such an amazing reminder tysm

[@dishapanwar9023]

Thankyouuuu so much Simone!!!!! This was much much needed!!

[@ReflectingonReflection]

Mom thanks for this

[@LANIkoo]

Compassion fatigue is very real.

[@Rhinonana-dh9sd]

Simone you are a gem of a queen you are changing my life so rapidly and I'm so grateful for you💖 I only hope that people know more about you. By subscribing lol. Coz you absolutely deserve it. You are that amazing⭐⭐🌟🌟🧡🧡🧡

[@HOTBITCHESONLY-qz3fl]

same experience Simon hoping I would be like u someday

[@miilovergirl]

Simone is like the big sister i never had :(

[@aryseeee2546]

8:36 not me having this kind of humor too lol

[@humss12d]

love you simone!! 🤞🏻💗

[@cala-so9zo]

Well said. Good advice.