If You'd Let Them Walk Away, You'd ACTUALLY Have Them

[@foxylady6901]

This year, I gave up on dating and I am embracing being single and childfree. Strangely enough, completely turning away from males has attracted more of them to me and I dont even want to date them anymore 😂

[@soulspirationgoddess]

Isn’t it crazy how that works out??

[@foxylady6901]

@soulspirationn it's freaking me out, but it gives me a chuckle 😂

[@lou15176]

I love your name 🦊 I’ve always been called Foxy 🦊 lady 😁

[@lou15176]

So many people report this ☝️ stop the looking and the wanting and just start being, and in turn you will start attracting 😊 x

[@archanabhardwaj6348]

Same here❤❤ not Intrrested priorities chnaged ❤ father alex is right on point

[@Draguta_ta]

I never chase… I let people play themselves out of my life. Whether it’s relationships/friendship/family, because if you feel like you have to do the most with someone to have them in your life that just means they aren’t really meant to be there. Choose people who choose you. ✌🏼

[@freeslavemind]

My ex wife did exactly this. Auto filtered herself out by cheating on me again. Destroyed our family. Just let her go. Now she wants to talk to me and I no longer care.

[@Draguta_ta]

@@freeslavemind yeah as soon as you had to let her go and she had to sit with herself and reflect on her actions, that’s when she realized. Of course they always come back, because you never validate them. So you did the best possible decision.

[@Soouber]

😂 satan's minions...so true Father Alex!

[@___goldieee___]

This is how I’ve been feeling

[@Draguta_ta]

@@___goldieee___ you’re on the right track babe 🙏🏼

[@evelyngonzales3102]

Being comfortable alone gives you power.

[@babydii3487]

A never ending peace

[@funnygirlever]

One day you will meet someone who want the same. You have to let go of what isn't good for your life and make room for better. Best wishes!

[@patriciamora5073]

I did walk away . Best thing I could have done met someone 100x better . He came back 2 yrs later . I said no thanks .

[@MsLipsandLashes]

I dont chase, I attract. What’s meant for me will simply find me. ❤

[@Investments_and_motivation]

You can still attract with intention but it’d when it comes from a place of need

[@sonnita1209]

Amen!!!❤❤❤

[@doeshe]

You’re so freaking good at this. I literally listen everyday 😮 every man I have dated has always come back with intentions of being in my life forever. And I really don’t want a single one back. My emotional health is so good now, for a year and a half I have done nothing but go to the gym 7 days a week, meditate daily, read books everyday, attend school and focus only on myself and now I have many many men after me. When you understand how energy and the universe functions ; Life changes. Gracias gracias gracias 🎊❤🇲🇽

[@coolkidstatus2554]

Yes girl🎉

[@tabythadiamond827]

I can't wait till I feel this way. I'm in pain now but it is temporary. It also helps knowing I'm not alone. I just started learning and have been implementing strategy. Trauma makes it challenging to control my emotions. But hearing how you feel now makes me know it is all worth it .

[@sagittariusbb]

I aspire to be like you omg

[@Queengemi5]

Do you mind sharing which meditations helped you

[@anthiabaker2695]

Love this !

[@vturner]

If you do RIGHT by people and always move with good intentions ex friends / lovers or wtv will always try to come back, lurk or eventually apologize.

[@Reyna_Aleese]

I totally believe that.

[@indigenouscuisines1446]

Let them walk away. You have to have you. Have yourself. That's essential

[@sabrinaparmar2059]

As a therapist, I am so incredibly impressed with this video. Beginning to end you have given incredible advice.

[@dami5072]

Thank you. This is an massive paradox that gave me the courage to stop dwelling on past relationships and to live my life in faith of enjoying the journey ❤❤❤.

[@karolinah12]

When you are done with a bad relationship, it is usually cos u start investing in your self worth. When u value yourself, so do others. Beware of those who come back, if you allow them in too soon & too eager, you teach them that you are too available. Scarcity creates desire ,human psychology. Im unafraid of anything. Whatever comes to me, it is only welcome if it is the right way. Make space for those who treat you well. And you treat them right too

[@mathisbailey794]

Anytime a man behaves nonchalant towards me I block them...I don't find them alluring, more like cocky.

[@jeffinjoseph8916]

As a dude the same thing happened to me, this was the first time I knew that I was attracted to someone and I knew that they also liked me, they were the one to initiate conversation. Now I don't have any experience with this so I have no moves or experience really, I just knew that I liked them and I wanted to talk to them. So I would message them just wanting to talk, send them things that I thought were funny, but they were just bad at messaging or it seems they weren't interested. They were always online but they would take hours or sometimes days to reply, and this honestly hurt a lot. But whenever we meet in person we flirt or at least try to and that is just so confusing, where did I go wrong. I wanted to tell them that they need to get better at messaging but also feel like I don't her well enough to tell her that. Sorry for the rant, just wanted to vent 😊

[@trinigirl7846]

Brilliant video. However most times if they come back it's because of ego that u finally moved on and no longer chasing them not because they love u

[@foxylady6901]

Exactly! It's never genuine and as soon as you get comfortable, he's going to start losing interest in you again. So you'll have to start the whole process again. It's a never-ending cycle, and it's exhausting.

[@emelysc6018]

This ego game is so addicting. It is hard to get out of this cycle

[@avibcci1297]

That's sad ig

[@mercedesharrison5550]

Right and as soon as you show interest again then they do it again. It’s best to not entertain the type of guys that needs to play this game altogether bc you will have to stay cold and not be yourself just to be treated with respect. I’m naturally warm and giving. I don’t want to be with someone that I have to overthink what comes naturally just to not get played. I have my boundaries but being like this is more than having boundaries, it’s having my guard up constantly.

[@lala5061]

​@@mercedesharrison5550exactly and it's no way to live...that's not living 😒

[@Adina_Cohen]

It worked for me. He wanted space I walked off. He came back like a magnet. And now he won’t go away. :) thank u for your advice.

[@jenbodhi1133]

Same thing happened with me

[@HanaAitichou]

How can you do that when you are married shall I go to my family house for some days ?

[@queenie547]

If he likes me, he will not let me go..

[@AFLive]

My Theory - - - - They Walk away , GO Thru Sh1t and Realize How Amazing You were . . .Periodt

[@autumnrose6370]

What most forget to challenge is "ATTRACTION & DESIRE is a force.. much stronger than love. Beverbe afraid to loose the guy. Step away and build your esteem.. to a level that require high vibrations.. You must to enjoy your own company.. Space is the Super Attraction an Attractive life is the key..

[@jazminerobles9203]

This was one of my favorite videos you’ve ever made. This is the way you heal from EVERYTHING. Not needing anything or anybody to be happy is the true meaning of happiness. And loving every step of the journey is beautiful. This is what you call having spiritual health. You’re in tune with time and life & you are content no matter what happens, not trying to control the outcome but understanding that this is life and let it be beautiful.

[@lunarseas6144]

Well spoken.

[@Mermaid03_03]

Every time I’ve walked away peacefully, they always have come back. The dismissive avoidant I didn’t think would. My ex-husband who left…after the divorce was final even he came back. It’s not easy but it’s worthwhile work to calm the nervous system.

[@Seraphina93]

Always do!

[@Shannystrr]

I just block, delete- block, delete lol. Life has been sooo much more peaceful 😌. It’s that simple!

[@eveheart2876]

Block

[@kathyaroche]

Amen 🙏

[@fredaowusu-agyapong]

This is me

[@babydii3487]

💯💯💯🙏🏽

[@mayanatjz4409]

Blocking is being too emotional father Alex once said…. Means they ll be still having a hold on u… If u can be strong to rather ignore them… that’ll hit harder n u ll feel like a queen the day u look bck 💁🏾‍♀️

[@Bianca2802]

They indeed always come back. Especially when you start think to yourself "thank god I broke up with this guy" I had two men coming back after more than one year and giving me a marriage proposal 😮. The first one i didnt accept. This was many years ago.. The second proposal is happening to me now and I still cant decide what to do. Your videos are smart ,thank you ❤

[@ceyciemateo9411]

Wow came back with a marriage proposal?

[@peppermintPATTY63]

😂😂😂🙄🙄🙄🙄 If you have to THINK ABOUT IT, then you don't need to do it!...

[@Bianca2802]

@@peppermintPATTY63 im still thinking 🤣🤣🤣 keepin my options open for now

[@vixtoztozi1778]

Don't go back

[@jeanettemena1286]

You have to detach to manifest your specific person. You can’t get your SP while obsessed bc that creates resistance. A way to detach is thru meditation. Recommend reading The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer, ‘where ever you go there you are’ and the Power of Now

[@dezia1403]

I'm trying to learn more about decreasing resistance. I think I created a lot of resistance with my boyfriend

[@khanyimabaso7008]

I can see how this would be attractive….a calm, no needy person exudes confidence!

[@glamgodess9643]

People will come back to your life when Narcissistic women whom they thought were better than you disappoint them. That’s why I block them for good! It’s true Alex, after the Universe teaches them lessons, some of them notice the difference between you and those women but their behaviour doesn’t change.

[@Queengemi5]

Damnnn fa real, I swear I was just saying this

[@tabythadiamond827]

Man , I took a long break from your channel because of my own neediness and the truth is hard to hear. But, that was a mistake. Thank you for changing my life! You can't imagine the pain I was inflicting on myself putting someone else before me. Everyone else. I started meditating and realized I need this daily. Your new content is amazing!!! I can't afford the courses, but I am so grateful to you ❤

[@Weeflowerofscotland]

Currently I’m living my life as a busy single mum , going to the gym 5 times a week, working on my spiritual health and wellbeing and the health and wellbeing of my children. I used to need validation to feel confident in myself , when I looked for that validation I wouldn’t get it , however when I get back to working on myself , all these men are suddenly popping up in my life. I’m just not interested right now. My main focus is me and my family , while trying to remain compassionate and empathic to humanity and animal welfare. The paradox is true 😅. Many thanks for your video , I have subscribed!

[@Dorafran86]

Be prepared he may be gone for good! If someone needs to leave you, then they aren't for you in the first place. Don't "let go" only I hopes they could be back one day. Even if, you are showing you are OK with this sort of crap!

[@i..am..]

I let a man walk away. He came back and is starting to work on himself to get back into my life. He might work out if he gets over his issues.

[@enigasampson543]

You’ve come so far. I remember subscribing to you with your blurry videos lol. I haven’t watched you in a while but to come back and see the growth, is very inspiring to say the least

[@KBB-nf1dr]

It’s like the magnetic charge of a magnet, they attract and repel each other at the same time, if you chase after it, it’s going to move away, it’s only when you turn around to move away that you can draw it back to you

[@rebeccanitta]

this is true once I stop trying to tidy up, I tidy up 😊

[@ElexusLovesHerLife]

I needed this… I used to be a bit cold and detached but after I had an “Emotional Breakdown”, around 17 years old I started to become more needy for love (to give and receive). It grew to an uncomfortable amount and I honestly didn’t realize it until this video. You are so right! I’m going to practice this, thank you ❤.

[@wanguiteresia2508]

Thank you so much for the video Iv always straggled with letting and accepting but am at a point in my life where I’m learning to let go and not forcing anyone to see my worth..you can never be enough to the wrong person

[@princessmandy1757]

As T.D Jakes said, " If God wants me to have something, he'll give it to me ...if it takes too much sweat, I dont need it ...let 'em go!"

[@LonjeMarie7]

This is one of your absolutely Best Videos you are absolutely correct I have done the principle of letting go and releasing the outcome to God and every single time it always works out very well. Thank you for what you do.

[@babydii3487]

If you leave, don't come back to me. Keep whatever you've contracted

[@aloramorar1064]

Such a great video! We need more of this! Relax, enjoy life and let it come and if it don’t, be ok with it and go on with your life.

[@jannadepue6037]

You are hands down the best. I’ve listened to a ton of coaches and they are so vague and talk too much, you give real advice - like the action to take. ❤

[@Rare-Lashelle]

I’ve always watched your videos but this one hits different for me. I have a whole text thread of your videos I’ve shared to myself to stay on track during my journey. I play it in my car.. it’s kinda like having a car therapy session 😂 I truly appreciate your honesty and work you provide us ❤

[@Queengemi5]

Great idea!!! Yes I love his videos as well, and he himself has grown over the years so most def intrigued more ☺️

[@JJCapri]

I pray to Jesus and confess OD, and ask God to fill my heart w his love. I forgive like nobody’s business, and ask for help to forgive. Helps me be emotionally strong and at peace.

[@SmokyMountainStarlight]

I have learned so much from this channel. Whenever I find myself stuck in a situation or dilemma about a man I know to come see Alex. ❤ sometimes I already know but I need to hear it again for reassurance.

[@jazminerobles9203]

meeeeeee

[@jazminerobles9203]

toooo. ❤

[@Soouber]

gold

[@micawart]

Thank you, honestly. Not for getting someone back but for preaching love and compassion 🙏💖

[@jocelynford4209]

This video was amazing! I’m going to give it a re-listen. It’s great to see the growth in you and in your content over the years! Keep it going! I also liked the AI voiceover too! It added a nice touch to the video.

[@suzyj8708]

I love how you intertwine Robert Greene clips into your videos, it’s so informative and helps put everything into perspective, thank you!!

[@EmilyLola-r2q]

This was the best one you ever made. A work of art. Thanks for sharing.

[@itsannjay]

So glad I was brought to your videos, a true game changer for me. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

[@maryannsandig11]

MANY individuals often find their happiness through the presence of loved ones. It's IMPORTANT to keep in mind that the people we love contribute to our joy, yet ultimately, WE ARE accountable to our own happiness. Rather than blaming to others, it's worth recognizing that WE ARE responsible for our own well-being. While some might lay blame on others, it's more constructive to acknowledge that true contentment stems from within and isn't solely reliant on others.😮 That is why we shouldn't be VERY defensive

[@maghaswati]

Hi Father Alex, I don't write here often....but i binge consume your videos. . . you are totally exceeding all your previous set standards. The message that ends around 23:57 in your AI voice served as the cherry toppling in today's best ever vlog. I can't thank you enough. I purchased your nice girl course last year. It helped me a lot lot lot. You helped me a lot when I was confused about a man with your video on the topic of don't entertain half lovers in your life. That was another incredible video by you. Thank you for everything. Just hope this comment finds you. Much love from India.

[@JoyceShanael]

Alex I love your advice much appreciation, but I want to know when is your birthday!

[@katybrooke0724]

may you be loved.. may you be free.. may you be at peace. ❤

[@mildacha8050]

Thanks, a lot of honest truths here. :) Looking back, I'm glad that I walked out from my past relationships eventually, some men might even want me back, but I know better now... It's better to focus on work, healing and hobbies, and talk to supportive friends.

[@kemigishaloyce980]

There is power in letting go 🤌

[@northshorelight35]

This isn't good advice because as soon as you let your guard down again, the cycle will just repeat itself. Never take them back. Just go for the person who wants you at all times.

[@emmarampf7354]

i feel great after watching this, thank you alex. I feel ready to let go of them

[@TanyaMarie-q9k]

This has to be one of his best videos it really hit me thank you so much 😊❤

[@divineenergy6305]

Stop forcing things and the outcomes. What will be will be

[@MT-vw6ff]

Father Alex looks very sharp in his navy suit😊Thank you for all your posts🙏🏼

[@jonesystef]

One the best videos I watched here on KZbin. Father Alex giving advice from a place of genuine care and love. I watched your videos everyday to remind myself to be grounded and love myself.

[@michaelnchin2824]

I can prove this whole thing false. Every time I chose to walk away, I NEVER look back. And when they return, and many will try, I keep going! Once I walk I'm gone, I'm literally gone! And don't come being a narcissist and stalking me either. I am not afraid to use a nuke button, should that ever occur! I want absolutely nothing to do with someone, once I walk. Too bad so sad sorry! So go for it, let them all walk! And if you walk from me, I totally understand. Same rule, do not come back to me if one decides to walk from me! Keep it simple, and none of this petty mind games bullshit and I should know better anyways. That's for the hard and weak. Softness is true strength. Choose people that choose you. The ones that are meant for you will be meant for you. Those are the ones that stay and the one's you'll stay for even if you haven't communicated in years.

[@JNun94]

Isn’t this just exactly what he said? How is it false?

[@BlueBlue23]

You didn't listen properly. Your comment only proves Alex right...

[@yc5141]

This was amazing 🙌🏼 just when I think your videos can’t get better , they do 🔥

[@lashawn4269]

I love that Beethoven music in the background thanks for your content it helps so much

[@ShawneeLawrence-pq7tb]

Let go of the outcome! So true

[@dezia1403]

Small "aha" from around 3:50 People can be so quick to judge other people for behaviors their brain is telling them to do as a response of their own actions. If Person A is desperate and Person B senses that desperation and their amygdala is activated and tells them to resist by fighting or fleeing, Person A may be quick to label Person B as unloving or avoidant or emotionally unavailable, when all Person B was doing was responding to a biological trigger, that's not their fault, they received a signal and acted accordingly. I think adopting a compassionate view of Person B's behavior as a result of Person A's desperation would help Person A reframe their view of Person B, because in manifesting using the Law of Assumption what we assume to be true is what is true, so if Person A labels Person B as avoidant then Person B will be avoidant, but if Person A views Person B as a human who responds in kind to signals from their brain, then they may be inclined to discover how they can help Person B receive loving and nurturing signals.

[@jannadepue6037]

As soon as I was completely done with men and turned off by them, I get so many chasing me down lol

[@peggybestgotos5933]

You better not shut down Dalexis!! I have to have my daily dose of your posts! 😂❤

[@haitiqueen0119]

I agree wholeheartedly- sad to say it's almost like a game out here with most folks. In order to be treated right and/or persued, one has to almost play hard to get, control their emotions, basically put on the facade they're unbothered. It's sad however putting on an act is the trend now a days.

[@xw6475]

This is really good. Thank you very much father Alex 🙏🙏 please keep these videos coming

[@omeshakarim7251]

You remind me of the weekend so much.

[@danilaroche1156]

The weekend is of the world and celebrity. Alex is sincere.

[@drkmoondrkmoon9244]

Amazing video, just makes me feel more stronger and confident!

[@magwambui8251]

Dalexisp 💕 I love the change of environment. The train 🚆 setting was unique. Your super creative. Mob love

[@saltandpepe68]

Thank you for making this video. I am going through something with a guy and this video makes the process so much sense. I got so much answers to my questions from this process. Thank you ❤

[@UyenTVuong]

your writing is beautiful ❤ thanks Alex for the video

[@best_picks8863]

That is so selfless... ❤❤❤ May you be loved . May you be at peace. May you be healthy.💕

[@micawart]

You reminded me of compassion 🙏

[@katybrooke0724]

much needed today.. thank you. excellent advice/ reminder 😊

[@Rose-xq9sd]

Helps being heartbroken and emotionally unavailable. I don't have the energy for romance. Men come and go.

[@sumbodyzwatchin1]

Just here to say your writing is amazing!

[@queentovon]

I stumbled across your video and your content is needed and truly amazing, thank you.

[@eyehunee]

mann story of my life and you released this at the right time . I needed this crying tears of realization now

[@deequinn997]

I been watching you for years. You are aging like fine wine 🥵

[@YG-gl7qk]

Can you do a video on how to make a narcissist obsessed with you/what to do when they block or ignore you to get them back and keep yourself high value in their eyes?

[@danilaroche1156]

You don't want to be with a narcissist. That's like saying you want to marry a demon. These people are dangerous and they will try to destroy you by any means necessary. Your issue is rejection. Plus you have a soul tie with this person but you can dismantle it if you know the Lord Jesus.

[@Nerdsketch_tekenschool]

You helped me so much in live Alex

[@semiprecious007]

Alexis, your writings are phenomenal! I hope you intend to publish these! Gratitude and respect for your work and diligence! ✨❤️🙏🏻✨

[@MindfulAttraction2.0]

Ehhh idk lol maybe.

[@Soouber]

Must publish, they're right, I was about to say you're a natural...I would def buy them...I'm a reader...got tons of books...Gottman institute...all attachment theories from Phds, you name it.Your writing and analogies are amazing...strategies and how you explain the concepts are impressive and keeps a person enthralled. Keep it gold Father Alexis! You are actually the minority helping ALOT of ppl wake up with self-help. May the Almighty bless your efforts!👌🏽💰🪙

[@kaitlinmontgomery2750]

​@MindfulAttraction2.0 Why do men have such a hard time taking compliments? Yall are kings.

[@expiredfroyo]

Know I’m late to the party, this phenomena is called “The backwards law” ☺️ needed this reminder

[@user-yk9sk7pg6v]

Hey Alex, I love your work!

[@TrueLove-i4l]

Why am I falling in love with you… The more you say, the less I know, the less I fall, and yet, that’ a exactly why you’ll Never be interested, despite of how beautiful I’m told I am ❤

[@JJ_913]

I love this video so much I learned a lot! Thank you for all your efforts. Hoping you get more subscribers and views you really deserve it!

[@jazminerobles9203]

Agree !!

[@CocoCoke8]

I have no time nor the mental capacity to be playing mind games with anyone. Once I lose the desire, it’s gone and that’s that. I don’t want it in any capacity. I’m literally no longer interested.

[@bettydamalis]

love your facial reactions just like my brother your eyes are so pure clean empathetic alex your a beautiful person your eyes say everything!

[@taiyeadolf2000]

so glad to see how much your channel has grown!

[@starchildgoddess_3335]

Great video!! You look So DAPPER!! 😍😍

[@confidence7048]

Alex did it with this one 🥂🧠

[@michele1523]

Thays beautiful Alex ❤such wise & profound words 🙏 😍🦉😊

[@cantfindmykeys]

I detect the influence of Khalil Gibran in your writing. The Prophet is a beautiful book.

[@bootcat7084]

Wow - this video was everything ❤️❤️❤️

[@cherankimiorak1739]

Love how insightful this video is!

[@tinyking11]

I’m new to your channel and this is by far one of the best, most honest & informative videos I’ve ever seen. You are totally correct. Also it’s not natural for a woman to chase a man. We will be working against how nature between males and females were designed to be. I needed to see this video. You are also handsome by the way ❤️😏

[@minidocstv3339]

Stop making me laugh I was trying to focus lol @13:30. 😄 I needed this thank you this explains the anxiety

[@oneloveinfinity7]

Omg I just love you. Thank you Alex!

[@poetictriangle1037]

Remember that them walking away on their own and you pushing them away are 2 different things, you can't expect them to come back after you played too many games. 😂