If You Fall In Love Fast - Watch This... | Russell Brand

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[@lajellybeans]

A lot of people who had abusive and neglectful parents tend to fall in love quickly because they’re not used to be treated with kindness. So any itty bitty scraps of affection and kindness that someone gives them can mean the whole world to a childhood abuse survivor.

[@peyote.]

Knowing this hurts me

[@Lilyium]

I grew up with two strict Asian parents who would show more aggression than affection so I can definitely relate to this comment. I guess this is one of my greatest weaknesses...

[@mihakost]

So that explaines it

[@kaydykes9916]

Exactly… I’m sick of being grateful for scraps. I know I deserve more, but struggle to find someone who will invest.

[@cambodiavlogs6832]

God that is so true

[@madisonzeise9802]

“Falling in love isn’t about holding on, it’s about letting go” damn Russel

[@youtubedick-tators1991]

"Freedom comes when you learn to let go" - The Power of Goodbye, Madonna 😂

[@Psychoma99]

It's extremely painful but it's very true.

[@Jessicadeborahloves]

So pleased I read this today! ♥️

[@reddblurr]

“Life hardened me” Same Russell, same..

[@justynak7644]

what does it mean?

[@cleverg1555]

This man it's so espiritually connected with him self and has lived so many experiences that it becomes overwhelming to hear

[@colinpierce3357]

Last week I had my heart broken by the person who I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with. I needed his perspective. I too don't think I can handle the buzz as I recklessly throw myself at others for approval of my own to perpetuate the limited ideals of what I think I need. I'm meditating and allowing love to be a serving and selfless need for others. Thank you for allowing me to grow Russell.

[@Adam-qs5ir]

I just fell in love fast after 10 years of nothing and not being interested in anyone. I'm 47 and have been through my share of relationships. This one seems to be the real thing, but I know the euphoria doesn't last. It turns into something deeper. I think there's something to be said for people fulfilling needs for each other when in love and being open from the beginning, open and vulnerable so that you grow in the love.

[@DF-fp4cg]

"Give my life over to a buzz".... Damnnnn. Such self awareness. Wow. That resonated with me.

[@teew1895]

My mom was very loving and always say I love you. My dad was a stern man that didn't. He finally told me he loved when he became terminally ill. So that explains it...

[@kiyahjhay]

Hurting right now for a person who played me because he knew I liked him too much. Still can’t stop thinking about him completely but at least not as much.

[@Locreai]

People dont understand love or relationships but still get into them. The dont work on trust or value building, working as a team. They just feel feelings and get in bed, then the fundamentals are never built and once the butterflies wear off so does the relationship.

[@emkayem7646]

"Older and wiser" is a real thing when it comes to this foolishness. All the things I'd do differently knowing what I know now. I wish someone older had counseled me instead of surrounding myself with people my age who were stumbling as much as i was.

[@marthadawson8954]

Good point. But I know, speaking for myself, I was not terribly receptive, nor inquiring in such matters.

[@galaapple5855]

Hope I can choose who to love....it is a natural feeling

[@helenhublar577]

Wish I had heard this when I was younger. Now I'm in my second marriage and we help each other grow and my husband allows me to heal and become better.

[@justynak7644]

In another video he states we are meant to love everyone - "be one with everyone" and in as much as I agree, it is not easy, to feel that everyone is family, - most single people living alone are lonely.

[@Ihavenoideawhyduh]

I never thought of my spiritual and romantic impulsive running hand in hand. Wow. How comforting to think I’m not embarrassing to God, the need isn’t needing to be tamed to keep comfort and shy away from scrutiny but to embrace it and just give it all to God instead.

[@mustlearnmore4884]

I'm 43 and I still fall victim to such things. But it's EXCITING. It's thrilling, exhilarating. But... it very rarely works out. That being said, when it does work out (even if not forever), it is a hell of a ride. But for longevity, we need a LOT more depth of friendship to accompany it. And I'm still to get that In the meantime, I'll just concentrate on myself. Thanks for the honesty, Russell. Loving this videos 🙏🏼💪🏽💪🏽

[@angelabraun4618]

Hey

[@mcleodpro7]

This gets an instant re-watch. Russell what a thought provoking, deep and therapeutic offering ...awesome 🙏🏽

[@hurricaneplayer066]

Relationships that are born out of service and selflessness…thanks Russel Brand for your words and a quick laugh at the end.

[@willwilhoit1119]

Love it seems is sometimes expressed through waiting for someone who is still learning what love means to them or for someone who knows little of the love one has for them because they don’t understand it. Love isn’t always accepted and allowed by the intended recipient. One who’s loved may never know what one who loves them suffers for them in their absence.

[@sarahboehlke744]

This is so old but might be one of the best things I've ever watched. I am so pathetic in love. It goes from virtual insignificance to utter adoration in minutes. It's not like I fall in love with everyone I meet, it's always just one person, but when I do, I throw myself and my life and my goals overboard to go after them. And then something happens and I wake up washed up on the shore, aching under the weight of my broken impulsivity. I am religious, and it's funny that you mention it because my faith means the world to me UNTIL I fall in love, at which point I feel relatively indifferent to it because my newfound love has swallowed up my entire capacity for devotion. I need to anchor myself in God because living this way is killing me from the inside out. It hurts so much, and it's all my fault.

[@cgvagf]

Well said my friend. Love IS connected to divinity in a selfless and servant like manner. When 2 people know this and flow in that mentality, and it comes from the heart & soul, true love springs forth.

[@TheStonesQT93]

Mate I just want someone to hug everyday 😂

[@janejohnstone5795]

Wow,...he sounds ..soo..wise...and deep thinking...

[@petekachew7406]

Ego believes "human love" is found in other's rather than within ourselves. The illusion of "human love" causes us to be delusional, possessive, submissive which is dangerous. Nothing in this life is ours and we all have to go away someday. Why spend our lives in unnecessary pain and letting it dwell inside us, when we can spend time understanding ourselves which is observing pain but inevitably letting it go. We must learn to love ourselves as gentle flowers and nourish ourselves with kindness. Realize that true beauty is the light we let shine within when we love ourselves. Don't be so judgmental towards yourself. Don't be critical of yourself. Most important Forgive yourself. We all had to crawl before we could walk.

[@monkeybusiness1999]

A wise observer wrote that the initial euphoria of falling in love has to eventually dial-down a bit for your own good & survival. Otherwise you both would never get out of bed to eat & care for the children you create. Or simply live life. The purpose of the rush brings couples together to ensure mutual survival & to create wonderful little beings. The purpose of the rush fading, or grounding effect, is to ensure that you both survive; esp for your children's sake. All else is lovingly choosing to be with each other because you like, respect & accept each other as realistically & safely imperfect. (So agree, maintaining 24/7 perfection for a spouse would be exhausting & humanly impossible. After the initial euphoria softens a bit, if you can't let your hair down & relax with your potential future mate without feeling self-conscious, you should probably reconsider moving forward if you can't resolve the change. It's why old fashioned long engagements, preferably 2 years, matters. To give the idealizing euphoria buzz time to tone down some, so you both can see if you have the chops to live together more realistically grounded & long term. It's a time investment but better 2 years tested & realized than a dozen or more. Esp if kids are involved.)

[@witmentality5910]

Wow this was genius! Exactly what I needed to hear. One of the most intelligent things I’ve ever heard

[@jakedeutscher]

It’s crazy how I can go from happily single, to madly in love with someone in only a short time. I think “happily single” is code word for ‘safe from heartache’

[@weareanimation8964]

Jesus.. what's wrong with being nice to someone over and over. It gives your loved one a warm feeling and hopefully you get the same back.

[@patriciacano2566]

Oh My Gosh I went through that, I never share this but I lied to myself so much time to know I was in love and obcess with my friend well best friend I was 13 yrs Old and then was with 21 , have to BECAREFUL of those repeating cycle Honestly It's a learning experience , and I repeat it that often too 😖😔 but I guess it come and end for everything hopefully Honestly... I do regret feeling like that I never fell so much pain after love

[@moderndaysurvivor91]

Russell you are like the voice in my head i’ve had for maaaaaaaany years! All good man.

[@SashaRicky]

I've only recently fallen in love for the first time in my life last year when I was 29. He tried for a while and I kept running away, but when I let my walls down, I fell hard and fast. I even said I love you out loud to him for the first time by accident when he was tickling me. Lol.

[@lynnfarley7851]

I fall in Lust easily and quickly. But, I have come to learn a lot about myself. I have learned that I really don't know HOW TO LOVE. As a Native American, raised by my Grandparents on the Reservation, we never spoke of love. There was no affection. It was assumed that we knew we were loved. Showing affection was a sign of weakness to us.

[@dirakshsangma3327]

I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whatever you want to manifest within two-day ♥️♥️♥️

[@dirakshsangma3327]

He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯💯

[@dirakshsangma3327]

Text him on WhatsApp

[@dirakshsangma3327]

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[@perc3557]

I think its just lust. Love takes time to build. I want to build that love with someone but alot of people are too complicated. Sadly.

[@AshyView24]

I've loved only one woman my whole life and then was hurt and cast out. Now I'm left alone with kids and trust issues...

[@wakeup9558]

we dont fall in love WE RISE

[@abnihilator]

So beautifully explained, I'm impressed Mr Green.. Clearly you loved and have been loved.. How to support people who don't understand that because never had that?

[@dailydoseofrandom1187]

Damn

[@abnihilator]

@@dailydoseofrandom1187 how to boost the believe that it's possible and how to motivate ppl to pursue their dreams ?

[@ufo_]

Love U Rus, & Thank You because I really needed to hear this

[@imcracked4045]

Bruh i never got that way but after i broke up with my girl a few months ago im like rushing to get back into a relationship. Gotta tell myself that turning one night stands into girlfriends aint the move chief

[@abhishekchauhan6092]

The starting freaked me out!

[@overlayklips3382]

Love is - someone that is with you, no matter what. It goes way beyond rule 34.

[@TheOutlierToday]

I needed this.

[@darionjams]

Thank you so much

[@stacey7604]

I needed this,, I do fall in love, love and be loved seems to be my mind set but you have just made me open my eyes,,, wow,, I got myself in a fwb situation that's all he wanted I wanted more., and I do love him but I will hand it to the divine let's see where life goes,, much love Russel xx

[@boseprecious8425]

I know of a man who could help you restore back your relationship either your ex or soulmate

[@boseprecious8425]

He was the one who helped me in restoring back my ex partner three days ago without delay

[@boseprecious8425]

Whtsaap him"**

[@boseprecious8425]

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[@boseprecious8425]

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[@TheGilbalfas]

Geezer, that’s was friggin profound. Thanku ❤🎉🙏🏽

[@mae_it_be]

This is a remarkable share, so honest, courageous, kind, and mature. Thank you for sharing.

[@Seanyz]

Love you Russ! If your ever in Houston your staying with me man

[@nellier5704]

Russell. well explained!

[@amos660]

I'm in love with my hand.

[@dunglifemovement]

i really enjoyed hearing this from the homie in Forgetting Sarah Marshall

[@taylanfrnze5942]

Wow saw an white orb in intro must be good

[@ancientlightcurative9425]

Wonderful Insights

[@dairinnally5912]

Not now

[@Lizxsiren]

Thank you I really needed to hear this

[@dirakshsangma3327]

Dr Frank can make your beloved come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restore back my broken relationship of 3 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Frank always keep up with his words I strongly Advise you to seek help from him

[@dirakshsangma3327]

Text him Wh@tsApp

[@dirakshsangma3327]

[phone]🙏

[@dirakshsangma3327]

He can make your relationship healthy and fill with love and happiness

[@metalmama84]

This dude could be my Jesus and i wouldn't even be disappointed.....

[@MaireTreasa]

My mom used to say, "You're in love with being in love". I think she was right.

[@matt24081]

Brain cells are strong in this one

[@hm2011100]

Perhaps she recognised either herself or her ex or current partner/s in you, since we often repeat our parents’ relationship patterns, esp when young & before understanding & transcending those patterns.

[@kuromimi2007]

matthew sullybob unnecessary negativity is strong in this one

[@jahun]

I know I do do that

[@HardFreckles]

matthew sullybob Cringe, stop trying so hard to be funny.

[@gabrielaflorez4093]

When there's a lack of self love, we seek others to fill that void

[@RootzRockBand]

Even with adequate self love, in some cosmic broader picture the others are part of your larger self, and another person may be able to get your heart and electro-chemical flow going a bit more than when we are alone, especially when the other is giving energy and lust because they want you, and are hungry to make you happy and enjoy your energy.

[@fabiesque]

you might be very right...

[@shark_nado2566]

Not in all cases, your generalizing.

[@carrybear2362]

i really dont believe or agree, people are inherently social attention seeking creatures, some people get that at their jobs, or their hobbies and for those who have been trully in love, the highest doses of those are from being in "love" even if it isnt real or its just for a moment, people dont just try to love for lack of self love. lack of self love usually doesnt allow for you to "pass on love" lack of self love is an entirely different idea and i really dont think you get ut

[@lunaticonthegrass4258]

Resonate alott 🙏♥️much love

[@raindrops21_9]

I've been falling in love too quickly all my life. I don't meet guys that I 'consider' often, but when I do meet a candidate, I'm all in before you can take a damn breath and they're up on a pedestal and I'm worshipping away like a mad thing 🤦‍♀️ I needed this message today!

[@jeremyowens4115]

I'm the same way. My girl becomes my only priority, my purpose. From love letters on the bathroom mirror in the morning, daily texted poems, daily flowers when I return from work. But most people don't do the same. I believe I started to expect it and became upset. So I walked. Oh well, NEXT...

[@raindrops21_9]

@@jeremyowens4115 the people we love should be the priority but they can't be our purpose. We're more attractive when we have other interests. It's so hard to find the right balance. I think I thin too much 😂

[@jeremyowens4115]

@@raindrops21_9 True story. I learned that if you treat someone like a celebrity, eventually you'll become just a fan in their eyes.

[@raindrops21_9]

@@jeremyowens4115 so true! I don't want someone who wants to be worshipped. I want someone who wants to be my *partner* in life.

[@notsocrates9529]

People who fall quickly tend to choose mates who will hurt them or who is not the best for them. There is a subconscious stream of thought telling the person that they are unlovable and that this is it. If this person leaves them, they will be alone forever. It's funny to me how PET brain scans of people in love compared to cocaine addicts were nearly identical. Look it up if you're interest or like sources.

[@cherrywallis]

“Giving your heart out like a Ferraro Rocher” 😂

[@southernbelle223]

Cherry Wallis this is so me. It has a definitely an addiction.

[@pointysidedown]

Spoiler alert

[@chessoptics]

😂😇😂

[@chessoptics]

Read Erich Fromm’s book the art of loving ...

[@Chrishumnoi]

Oh Russell haha

[@TruthTalk1221]

The best relationship you can have is with YOU first. funny enough, it will improve all other relationships in your life.

[@sorcha259]

I like this a lot!

[@beccab6340]

I know this to be true. I do struggle to love my self totally however.

[@return2innocence221]

Soo true 🕯️💟🕯️💟🕯️💟🕯️💟

[@renux1231]

Key

[@DB-sy6xc]

What does this mean and how do you do it? I hear people say it but nothing else and I never know any details about it.

[@chadboy1515]

“When a man learns to love. He must bear the the risk of hatred” - Madara Uchiha

[@sophiahutchinsonova4250]

best show ever

[@Moymoy-25]

nice

[@chadboy1515]

Their is a thin line between love and hate. Often those who you have loved that then betray you, turns your love into hatred. If you never loved in the first place you would feel indifferent to their betrayal. If you watch naruto, Madara uchiha is betrayed by his best friend after they both had a dream of creating a utopia together (the leaf village) but his friend betrays him and isolates him from the village because of differentiating dreams. Causing a deep hatred for Madara uchiha which started as love.

[@nubustong5811]

😂

[@matvader7]

katon gouka mekkyaku!!

[@iamb2348]

Russel has a way of talking to the camera that makes you feel like he is sitting in front of you and staring into your soul. Amazing stuff man.

[@monkeybusiness1999]

You're right. Maybe because there's no veil of BS fuzzing up the lens. People who can bluntly but tactfully speak their minds to connect & teach are comforting. Even if what they say might be difficult to hear sometimes. Honesty is so hidden nowadays & desperately needed & people are starving for direction & intelligent human discussion to remind them that they're not going crazy.

[@notsocrates9529]

I think he is the closest thing we have in our generation that could be a successor to Alan Watts. FWIW, Watts drank himself to death, make of that what you will.

[@PatOnTheBack321]

Never noticed that, but so true.

[@Bread_n_Butter.]

Well… one would think that would be the effect you give when you direct your attention into the camera the entire time you’re being recorded… 🤔

[@iamb2348]

@@Bread_n_Butter. Not at all man. It takes a certain skill to be able to talk like him and connect with people.

[@McCumbo]

“The price of love is pain” - Just hearing that causes tightness in my chest

[@Jdabomb93]

Love is worth every heartache. 💔

[@jirenyeo9716]

and that sore in your loins, don't hear you complaining about that.

[@denellwest]

So is the price of lust.

[@gerardford9706]

I'll cause you tightness somewhere else baby

[@micrhymer4062]

I’m tattooing that

[@t.c.4321]

This is the Russell Brand appreciation comment. Like if you appreciate Russell.

[@TheLivirus]

I feel so conflicted, because I love Russel, but I hate your comment.

[@johnanderson7663]

You're a "comment cheater"

[@meghan42]

@@TheLivirus That's funny. I laughed.

[@dannydvp303]

🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️

[@Sporacle]

We're watching the Russel Brand appreciation video though we can just give that the like, rather than your comment which has to do with you, not the guy who made the video?

[@lou9219]

Timing of this.. potentially saved me from a whole world of hurt

[@petrichord.3319]

right?!

[@jakartafinance9389]

Awwww

[@simontschanz6823]

same

[@heidirachaelpieterse5109]

Wow me too actually. 😂😂 Or maybe it hasn't saved me we'll see. The force is strong. 🙈🤣 I think he suffered from limerance. I do too. It's really strong. It's addictive.

[@bobbobroski4253]

I did not watch this video, but this Russell brand (albeit a good man) is a snake in sheep's clothing. The definition of love is the willingness to lay down one's life for another. That is love. Nothing less than that can or will suffice.

[@moseslovesk]

"The price of love is pain." That is going to stick with me for a while.

[@emilioa7241]

Going through this now... "moved too quickly"

[@MelissaMisinco]

1000%

[@brukernavn3409]

Could be the title of a DSBM album.

[@J-Obaltyboy]

@@davidmorris6278 what is that?

[@aksharayadav6916]

Hi, it's true, I recently got attracted to an actor in our region, it seems to be an unattainable crush. It was a sexual attraction, I feel very disappointed for not able to explore my sexuality with the person i desired. Any wisdom?......

[@_LilacRoses]

I fell in love too quickly in my early twenties. Took almost 7 years of pain, into which a child was born, and finally having my heart broken before I now realised it was co dependence. It was obsession. But also, perhaps more profoundly, a deep need to be loved unconditionally, and without boundaries. And I'm not sure thats real Love. That's fear.

[@ashishrana6898]

"That's fear." That is beyond profound. I relate to what you have said so much. What do you think real love is?

[@Stewsdrums]

Well defined. You are much more beautiful now

[@dylankopff7139]

I fell in love with a black girl When we met we both felt we had known each other in other lives we were just picking up where we had left off...

[@kiwibird8441]

@@dylankopff7139 point of your comment in relation to the rest?

[@rajarshidas1270]

so what do you do once you recognise it? im in my mid twenties and i only find myself getting anxious over it, having recognized this behavior, but not much really changes. i'll try to love and take care of myself each day but this feeling still keeps breaking me down. it is fear and a deep need to be loved unconditionally in deed. and no matter how hard i try to look past it, it catches up with me. especially when i'm in a web of relationships built from this need..

[@dobbsmill3676]

A friend of mine was going through a break up and we were having a beer. I was deliberately making an effort to listen. He said that it was painful but he wasn't sad. The emotional torment made him feel alive (I'm paraphrasing). It took me by surprise and in that moment I realised that I had been approaching relationships in a way that was far to reserved. A psychological safety limit to avoid too much pain if it failed. Once I learnt that about myself I approached future relationships wholeheartedly and without fear of potential failure. I am 100 times better for it.

[@jordanious7711]

Cool story. I kind of get the "emotional safety net" thing. I fall in love really quickly only to get heartbroken, get depressed and lose all direction in my life. It might have only been a few months but I tend to forget everything in my life outside of my relationship. Over time I got burned and emotionally I became more an more blunted and pessimistic about love to the point that I cut my emotions off entirely when approaching relationships. I'm a pretty introspective person so I became entirely focused on myself and improving myself as a person and over time I found I actually have very little interest in relationships.. What I actually wanted was fulfillment in my own life. The more I get to know myself the less quickly I've fallen in love. I feel like Russell is similar in the way he talks about "religion" filling that gap for him.

[@moderndaycynic695]

Having a balance between the safety net and heightened emotional reverie is key. I am conservative with other parts of my life except for love in the past. Living like that is dangerous and damaging because what that person is seeking is not love. It could be acceptance, validation, self-worth and other values that people cannot give you anyway because these qualities are instinct qualities. Also, people prey on those who are too open-hearted, kind or emotional.

[@renux1231]

That's an interesting perspective. Most of the time people are more careful with opening themselves up. But I do believe that It's a good thing to be able to do that, although a risky thing. But I guess that's the price of it all ya know. I've heard lots of youtube people talking bout how you shouldn't fall in love, you should love. It's clearly a defensive mechanism but adding a little bit of that at the beginning atleast, seems almost like a must for me. Maybe looking for balance is key.

[@renux1231]

I'll have your perspective in mind though

[@LaFlaneuse0]

@@jordanious7711 Well based off what you've just written I can tell you do a lot of introspection. Your view of the situation seems profoundly accurate, and I feel similarly.

[@Belle19700]

I quickly realized that as quickly I fall in love, I FALL OUT OF LOVE just as easily. That was the scary part for me. There I would be in a relationship that I didn't want to be in. How unfair to do that to other people. Nowadays, I do not take that step forward, because I always find something in that person, that I do not like.

[@euphoricmelancholy9803]

I think your mistaken or at least have never found unconditional love.

[@silverishme8675]

I’ve felt the same way

[@jschuler53]

Belle19700 But do you find something you don't like so you can fall out of love more easily? That's what I do. When it isn't moving fast enough or doesn't seem like it's what I really want I sometimes intentionally alienate the person to get out of the entire situation. But at an old age I know what Russel means about real love or true love. I might even call it divine--not the first word I'd choose but I get what he's saying. True love has to be about the other person. You are both loving each other and looking out for each other. (Hmmm sounds like what marriage is supposed to be about.)

[@0DlREoAMvERe0]

@@jschuler53 how do you get out of this loop? Because I do try to find something bad about the other because I try to get out of the fast love process. I know I fall in love fast and I hate it

[@littlehami7278]

Yes I’ve learnt to not give my whole life up just to be with that person and aim for that perfect disney like movie ending and to just chill out focus on my work, meet new people no strings attached, really analyse a person and make a decision not let chemicals force me into a temporary decision

[@Aixza]

“Love is sacrifice” is what my beloved father used to say, God rest his soul. When we truly love and commit to that person and that person commits to you, you eventually will pay the ultimate price of pain. One day you or that person will no longer exist on this plane and that will cause the most profound pain. But it is worth every to tear to have enjoyed every smile that person gifted you.

[@jschuler53]

Alixza I agree with all you say. It involves sacrifices. But you get lots of good stuff in return. The best life can give you.

[@michellemcgarr1709]

😭tragic but so true

[@James_Trewin]

Why are all of these videos being suggested to me when i’m aching from a break-up 😂 How have I found myself being comforted by Russel Brand 😂😂

[@sorcha259]

he is kindofa like a god dont worry we all feel the same lol

[@Shaz-re8qe]

Haha, same here! I always thought he was a twat but I'm actually liking listening to him! He talks alot of sense!

[@brickbilly7019]

@@Shaz-re8qe The guy speak straight up trews these days Shaz. From what I've seen of Russel over the past 10 or 12 years is that he looks more within his own consciousness these days.. Very insightful guy indeed

[@veganbombshell]

Lol sams

[@austindragovich3077]

“...you may need to consider the number of times you’ve felt the very same things for different people...” That bit really hit it home for me...damn...we are very lucky to have a man such as Russell on this planet. Thank you, kind and good sir ✌🏼

[@analogische]

Yes! This sentence made me change from "maybe this could be my behaviour" to "yeh ok, I'm listening"

[@advantagecampaigns6715]

@@analogische exactly what I was thinking! hah

[@aam3361]

I was making notes while listening and when that came up I was like 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ nearly made a list

[@PriyankaGupta-ew1li]

@@aam3361 LMAO😂😆😁 I feel your Honesty mate😂😊.. I do! 🤗🤗

[@kskgautam]

oh my my. I have doing the same thing too. Need to sort myself out

[@jonnyh1917]

I needed this video today, as I say goodbye to my ex... She is moving overseas indefinitely to pursue her life's dream, and I am just getting established in my work and finally earning a decent living here in the States. I really resonated with your statement that "true love is often painful" and more about letting go than holding on. We will always love each other, but we're not at a point where we can continue on as lovers.

[@softbuns]

I can relate, for me it was important to let my ex know she should focus on her education and i would never be the person to deny her that, much respect to you bro

[@jonnyh1917]

​@@softbuns thanks man, you too. It sounds like the same scenario. It's tough knowing what to do, especially when long distance enters the picture

[@mimi9dayo864]

You are really brave, I really wish you happiness. You have touched my heart with your story, its inspiring to me how respectful you act, lots of luck in life

[@MrEvilyogurt]

Same thing happened to me , got together at uni and once we finished the distance was too much for her and she wanted to travel around with her friends , so we parted ways . Sucks but sometimes that’s just life

[@daniii8920]

i really like the last line. very sold point.

[@samb202]

Russell really shines when imparting wisdom like this outside of politics. He’s a smart dude who’s had a ton of experiences and immense self reflection (probably through years of therapy). You really don’t hear this good of advice from anyone besides Jordan Peterson nowadays.

[@annastuart7791]

I am unbelievably lost at the moment, regretting everything I have done in my 53 years and feeling entirely useless. But tonight I have been blessed in finding Russell Brand on KZbin. I’ve spent the past hour listening to him, he’s like an old friend helping me get my head straight. I am so thankful for this x

[@hairbsb7908]

Yep im 49 and although having raised two amazing children I wonder what I have done with my life.

[@sallybutton6237]

Anna, same at 58 & time is running out rapidly..bless you.

[@gavbailey4363]

I fell in love quickly. Within 6 months we were engaged & within a year bought our first place. After 2 years came marriage & after 3, 6 & 9 years came children. My wife & I have now been together 17 years & our relationship has been tested along the way. We're more in love now than we've ever been. Like parenting, I think relationships are a constant learning curve & you need to keep on adapting. Great vid Russ, sending love & hugs. xx

[@jordanious7711]

it sounds like both you and your wife fell in love quickly though & were in the same head space.. (which is rare).. Usually 1 person is more invested in a relationship than the other... which makes it hard for ppl who fall in love quickly bc the relationship will develop at a faster pace than the other person is comfortable with .. It sounds like your relationship developed naturally for both of you and you were both in a similar frame of mind. You both wanted to work hard to make the relationship work. 90% of the time this isn't the case. Imagine having fallen in love with ur wife and having the relationship naturally develop as it did but then after that 6 months when you were about to get engaged she gets scared, runs away and sleeps with your best friend because she wasn't comfortable with how quickly your relationship developed (even though it felt completely natural progression to both of you at the time) It hurts to reign in your emotions and pretend like you don't care as much as you do for the sake of the other. This is the sort of pain Russell is talking about. You might not even realize your dependence until the thread snaps.

[@diruholic]

@David Erlstoke That's a horrible suspicion to have about someone you don't know. Not everyone is out there to get/betray us. Those trust issues you seem to have will make it very hard on any of your potential partners. I found out recently my husband of only 6 months cheated on me before marriage but it doesn't make me assume every man will be like that. I hope you can heal from your trauma and allow yourself to be open to new people.

[@anaguerrerosholisticwellbe2788]

@u001 you are doomed

[@fantasywrldorder9590]

Who'd you captain in FPL?

[@gavbailey4363]

@@fantasywrldorder9590 😂 GW5 it's on Son vs West Ham & KDB VC. 👌

[@jasminkaushal257]

Summary : Falling in love too quickly, innocently in adolescence( just wanting to love and be loved) , older: meeting someone new, hooking up and wanting more. People who fall in love quickly should Not make Love their Priority in Life. With the prospect comes a lot of pain. Almost instantaneous pain at every encounter of falling. If it's real it won't feel transient, otherwise it's just fulfilling self need of approval. To feel love and to love, direct it at something which can handle all your love always forever, direct your love at universe /spirit /God and feel it always returned.

[@paulsmithbc]

I need to keep that in mind. Thanks Jasmin, I find myself getting lost in the energy of it all... It feels like it's a matter of creating some space between my awareness and my thoughts.

[@LaFlaneuse0]

@@paulsmithbc Well put, Paul. You described just what I feel I should do. Many times I have to keep reminding myself how little it all means, so I don't cripple myself and require the other person as a crutch.

[@matthewg2462]

I really need to hear that thank you

[@mysticalvibe4241]

Russell is very deep. I guess due to the part he plays as a player no pun intended in movies. I thought that was really who he was. In interviews he always talks about how much he loves women and flirts. Nice to know he's a romantic. There aren't a lot of them 😍

[@Seriouspup]

Beautiful thank you

[@Stevie-steel]

It is exactly like addiction! To me it feels the same. I agree that type of codependancy and obsession cannot endure. Despite how it feels in the moment. True love. Is a lot softer a lot slower and a lot more enduring.

[@sorcha259]

yes the chemicals released are similar to drugs..

[@daynabee5521]

The euphoria of the connection and then the letting go is like physical pain. It’s an addiction.

[@chelseapoet3664]

It's not just like addiction - it is addiction

[@JohnExploresEverything]

I have a hard time with this as well, “life hardened me,” I felt that. But now I’ve gotten good at reading when people are good for me and I’ve learned to love myself first.

[@notsocrates9529]

Some of us are meant to be alone, I am okay with this and have learned to live with it.

[@chillierdavro]

Of all the lies i've heard "I Love You" was my favourite.

[@Stewsdrums]

It's the most prolific

[@ZenJuddhism]

Oof

[@MaddieLRB]

Now all you need is Bob Dylan and an acoustic guitar

[@TheMellizification]

Damn 😩

[@NoobZxReviewZ]

You may have just titled my autobiography

[@Shoshuten]

"The price of love is pain." That's it man, that's been my experience so far. Falling in love is so beautiful and scary. Being vulnerable to someone. Opening yourself up to judgement and rejection. It's like I can almost sense the heartbreak looming in the distance, waiting for it's time to return to me. I am trying to learn how to love unconditionally. My trauma and insecurities have left me broken. It's so hard to trust people and to love without anxiety and paranoid thoughts. Whenever something happens that could even be slightly interpreted as betrayal, my mind immediately jumps to the worst possible outcomes. It's unhealthy, and not fair to my partner. Love is so complicated and recently I have been unable to stop thinking about it. I want to be loved. I want to meet my soul mate. I want to give love.

[@markacadey3313]

Your mind jumping to the worst possible conclusion could be a protective thing to prepare you for something. It could be a survival mechanism your brain has developed that is preparing you for possible pain. My (unsolicited) advice is don’t be so hard on yourself :) because this life/ love thing is a journey of discovery and compassion

[@lacychristcoaching4241]

So much self awareness! Props.

[@rohaan.]

Stop yearning for anything from anyone. Love and follow your purpose of life; everything will fall into place. Much love from India.

[@amerokeewiya1320]

@@rohaan. um does it tho????

[@tylerreynolds8832]

1. Learn to accept yourself and all of your perceived flaws. 2. Love yourself, and make choices that demonstrate this self-love. 3. Have high standards and do not be so quick to compromise these standards. You deserve the best. 4. Try new things. You never know where you could meet someone who meets your standards. At the very least, you’ll have experienced many things that life has to offer. I think if you follow those 4 tips, which might take some time to master (especially number 1), you’ll find yourself ready and able to accept and give the love you deserve.

[@jaxx-inspiregrowcreate2862]

I fall in love with food much too quickly. It's just so sexy

[@kiwibird8441]

That's just lust my dude

[@RainbowSky3693]

I love food, I live for food, my waking moments are spent thinking about food and what I want to eat next😂😩 hard to stay any kind of figure when I’m like this.

[@TaterKakez]

And delicious. And V. Nutritious ( 🤣)

[@jaxx-inspiregrowcreate2862]

@@kiwibird8441 haha!

[@jaxx-inspiregrowcreate2862]

@@RainbowSky3693 it's a tough life

[@Recoveryplus]

3 STEPS to finding a SOUL MATE: 1. Know your core values and find someone who shares them. These can't be superficial i.e. money, looks, fame - or it won't last 2. Be honest with yourself and your partner. Address issues early, rather than ignoring them because you're afraid to have an argument. And if you know things aren't working, don't lie to yourself and say that they are. That will only result in more suffering later on. 3. Work on yourself! Then more healthy and whole you are the better your chances are of attracting a good human being. Like attracts like. If you keep getting into bad relationships there's things in you that you have to fix. Blessings 🌺🙏 Edit: here is a video I made on this topic: kzbin.info/www/bejne/hJC9enydbt2JjJI

[@pazzodi3]

The funny thing, humans think they are the smartest creature on this planet.. the thing we forget we are the last creature created and therefore the dumbest.. Therefore what you think is clever and intelligent is actually complete stupidity. That's the point we fail to see .. stop trying to make life so complex and ridiculous.. You're only going to damage everything around you by demanding so much to make yourself happy or the illusion of happiness

[@danamckee5341]

I agree!!!

[@Recoveryplus]

@@pazzodi3 as long as our actions are guided by our soul qualities and not ego, we are ok.

[@visitthebravenewnormaldotc5436]

Been following this formula with dedication, I am now going on my 6th year of cellabacy as a result. I can't seem to meet anyone who shares my values and desire to serve humanity and whom is also interested in me and available to date... It feels hopeless

[@visitthebravenewnormaldotc5436]

@@Recoveryplus yeah but what is ok

[@RiverWoods111]

This is very interesting. I did this when I was young and paid a huge price for doing it. Now, I meet a gentleman that sparks my curiosity and I might get a little bit of excitement at first as in, "ooohhh, where will this go" but then I step back and observe the person very carefully. I also have no issues with just walking away at anytime with no emotional ties. It's just like "Nope, this doesn't work for me." To tell you the truth I am very happy living my life on my own, so any man that wants to step onto this path I am traveling has to be okay with me just as I am. He also needs to be okay with himself just as he is. Today, my definition of a relationship is two people whose paths meet and merge for a time. That time, can be for a day, a week, a month, a year, a decade or maybe they walk all the way to the end of the path on Earth for one of the two people.

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Sallyjane woods, you are so beautiful 🌹 🌹🌷 🌷🌷🌺🌹 🌹 and too intelligent lol 😁

[@Lilyium]

Maybe that's why some call it the red string of fate. 🎀 Some people are just tied to the same destiny so they'll always walk the same path no matter where it goes. A bit like star crossed lovers. But I guess that can also be said for friends, family, etc. The people who are willing to keep walking with you are the ones who deserve that love. I guess after reading your comment I became a bit of a romantic. ❤️

[@vaporware666]

Damn that's a great way to put it. It's a bit sad but at the same time empowering to realize.

[@adamtash2891]

seems you now have an avoidant attachment pattern. on the other side of things, its very difficult to date someone like that. it may be what you are comfortable with but I cant quite get there as far as this way you look at connection is truly the healthiest. if everyone looked at it like you, hardly any families would form much less stay together....this modern era has created the cult of the individual....putting me me me on a pedestal isnt exactly the worst way to live but I dont think it is truly the most evolved either. at our cores we are social beings and always will be...capitalism has created the opportunity for people to persuade themselves of the illusion that they live in bubbles of their own design and control but we are much more dependent on each other and society than many want to acknowledge. no one is really alone...or "steering their own path" in my honest opinion....just pretending to themselves that they are.

[@MercLife100]

“Real love is not about control..not about holding on. It’s about letting go” -R.Brand 😌

[@sp-gw7zl]

I think you can fall in love with a false memory of someone. Sounds crazy huh ? Or maybe it's just that people change. Love yourself instead.

[@forfoxsake__]

Or even just the version of Someone you want to see and later you build on that one memory

[@No-dl6im]

@@forfoxsake__ 100%

[@dkdoodle]

The phantom lover or ghostly lover.

[@nurtured-channel2953]

👏👏👏👏👏

[@sarahf.s.2961]

People are often as much in love with their pasts as they are with their exes in their past because of the familiarity.

[@thesolarscribe]

I've been engaged soooo many times and now in my 10th year of being a singleton, I needed to fall in love with myself first..🙏

[@patriciahealey2927]

Fuck it ..dont change..madness is not badness

[@moderndaycynic695]

Ask yourself what void you are trying to fulfill. Sometimes we use relationships with others to fulfill needs only we can meet, such as success, our purpose in life etc. If this is the situation, it won't matter if you are single or have a partner.

[@patriciahealey2927]

@@moderndaycynic695 what void is in front of you??

[@moderndaycynic695]

@@patriciahealey2927 I am doing the work to heal past hurts and fulfill my purpose in life. The journey is difficult, but it is worth it.

[@thesolarscribe]

@@patriciahealey2927 made me laugh...😆

[@LeoPalone]

"Am willing to change, am I willing to sacrifice, am I willing to put someone's needs over mine". That's the metric.

[@JamieMcgee518]

I told my longtime girlfriend my problems and she said " I have problems of my own "... I knew it wasn't love.

[@AthenaTheWolf]

I’ve noticed when I have opened up to any girlfriend I felt had the potential for longevity they tend to give up once I show vulnerability. Been single for a few yrs now and the dating scene is awful.

[@Andre-hm5vo]

@@AthenaTheWolf Dating is awful and always has been due to humans having value dissorders in which is derived from the global economic system. We value each other based of a false premise of meaning and importance hence love and relationships being problematic. How to change that? Fucking change are way of conduction.

[@lafidala.1726]

@@AthenaTheWolf All I want is my bf to fully and completely open up to me.

[@0zzySpartan117]

Lafida LA. This gives me some hope.

[@lafidala.1726]

@@0zzySpartan117 You will need to look for alternative and possibly spiritual women like me then. All i can say is, they're difficult to find. But they are out there

[@helloall1289]

When your heart gets broken you fall in love a lot slower

[@drizzyy111]

i dont read stuff like this so often. a short sentence but a huge meaning behind it. perfectly said mate!

[@GenuineSimo]

"The price of love is pain" 😴😳🤯

[@sophiejobin865]

Pain is necessary. Suffering is optional

[@Andre-hm5vo]

In a economic paradigm that incentives competition as a driver of progress, of course love was gonna be or become distorted.

[@theboringusername]

Andre P Jesus that’s a good line. A tad oversimplified, as all lines must be, but short and sharp. Appreciated.

[@denellwest]

@@sophiejobin865 Not necessarily true, but more or less.🤷🏽‍♂️

[@nurtured-channel2953]

That's not true Most pain is often the consequence of our decisions.

[@ava198]

For me it came from a life long abandonment. I realize now love can never come from fear. The thought was if I was sweet enough, put up with enough, forgave them enough, loved them enough I would finally be good enough to not be abandoned. Wounds with gapping holes no matter the best of intentions does not equal love. If I surrender my power, make myself a sexual slave, a household slave did that garnish the love that my soul ached for no

[@jrmckim]

😳😳😳😳😳 That's exactly how it was for me...

[@to1620]

As someone who has dealt with the effects of borderline personality disorder, I completely identify with this comment. I appreciate seeing this vulnerability, as it makes me feel not so alone. Thank you.

[@MisterJPTipsandTricks]

I used to think something similar from the male side. I thought any relationship would work if I only paid for the house/food, put up with the intermittent nagging, stayed loyal, and tidy. Unfortunately it's not as simple as that.

[@riainprendergast]

I hesitate to say this in a "public comment", but I am in this kind of situation. I would like to share my story with you. I was always shy or timid. Always falling in love only to be nearly imediately heart broken. Was always hoping and longing to be in idealistic loving relationship, but spent years feeling starved for affection, like a scrawny cat that nobody ever rubs. Then I meet someone who likes the same music as me, connects with my soul, kisses me and then sleeps with my hot friend. So I close my eyes and breath, draw a picture, smile, sing a song and pretend as best I can not to be hurt. After going through this enough times I know its not all bad, I get to be treated like a nice gentle person. But what they dont realize is what its like to be physically disconected from everytime. I broke my neck when I was young and luckily I am not fully paralized, but I understand that the nervous system being stimulated and activated is good for the health of the whole human body. Why do people feel stronger, healthier and rejuvinated after making love? Because the physical energy activates processes in nerves and other cells. Humans are Apes like Chimpanzees and Bonobos... Our ancestors lived in tribes of and where highly social and affectionate. Modern humans living in cities are alone in a box, which is so unnatural but it all we've ever known. Getting back to your coment, My current relationship, One year, 24 hours a day, -we seperated 3 days ago, for the 50th time... I was/am with someone who's more experienced than me, they are a popular singer, very beautiful, but also very cruel to me. Your comment really resonates

[@Christinacw19]

riainprendergast love isn’t meant to be cruel and they shouldn’t sleep with your hot friend, they should just enrich and add to your life. Obviously there’s struggles but they should hopefully make you grow together not apart, sending strength and I hope you find love and also keep it within❤️ and also it took courage to share that with us and choose to let it out

[@danielc5205]

I fall in love too fast, and I get my heart broken a lot. I've broken a lot of bones in my life, but a broken heart hurts the most. Plus, a broken heart takes so damn long to heal.

[@rosem5041]

Broken bones?

[@Upstartflower]

I was this way as a teenager and after watching this, I now understand that I was just longing for kindness and affection, and using those euphoric feelings to get myself through my miserable existence. I outgrew this in my twenties because I found another feel good outlet: writing. And thankfully, this one doesn’t break my heart lol

[@natasha_anastasia111]

Anastasia & the Ringing Cedars book series ... there is such thing as true love, carnal love is not true love. 🌈🌺🙏🏽☀️💕🌟

[@onelittledropintheocean]

And then there is 'carnival love' with emotional rollercoasters and merry-go-rounds 😅

[@ReubenAStern]

I used to... when I was delusional and somewhat pathetic. Literally in need of sympathy. Until I gave myself the care and respect I needed I started trying to see people for who they are, instead of who I wanted them to be. Now I will listen to your pearls of wisdom Mr Brand.

[@mrs.christinerodriguez8761]

Ooof thanks Reuben. 😅

[@ReynaSingh]

Falling in love too fast is only a bad thing if it's with the wrong person

[@phoenixzappa7366]

It usually is 😄

[@johncervantes239]

thanks I needed a laugh.

[@maxam2083]

But it also means that its more likely to fall in love with the wrong person...

[@cjstats1514]

Not just with the wrong person. It also means you fall in love "for" the wrong reasons. And also mistake love with infatuation/limerence. Takes longer for real love.

[@beelzebuI]

Always is.

[@FrankiePinewater]

Here's a guy who's using his talent to go back and help others who are struggling the same way he did. This is what recovery is all about, and very inspiring.

[@reynagomez6936]

I'm learning to love me first!! I haven't never put me first I'm 55yrs old and I'm loving Everything !! Everyone!! ❤❤😉

[@rizwanamadhurja7644]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@mayflowermarket]

Loving myself comes naturally- it's being selfless that is difficult.

[@reynagomez6936]

@@mayflowermarket I know!!😉

[@lynby2108]

Even though I have no interest in so called celebrities, I really like Russell, he has depth.

[@Andre-hm5vo]

He's one of the most detached celebrities out there in relation to the seriousness of our current zeitgeist. (No pun intended)

[@lafidala.1726]

@lynby I second that

[@lynby2108]

Andre P . Being mindful, having empathy and an ethical connection ( being vegan) is key to the current situation. Therefore he isn’t detached, far from it.

[@Andre-hm5vo]

@@lynby2108 What I mean by detached is, not lost in or distracted by the circus of entertainment/fame/power etc.👍

[@lynby2108]

Andre P ah I see, agreed :)

[@VAFBCPortland]

During a very rough time, I had an experience where a voice said “no human being can love you as much as I do”. And it meant exactly this, expecting divine love from another human being is unfair to the individual you think you love. That said, I still really struggle with this. You can get whacked on the head by god and still not ‘get it’.

[@amerokeewiya1320]

How is it unfair when you’re willing to give it?

[@gnamedreagan9497]

I like that

[@TheBigDMan69]

@@amerokeewiya1320 but are you?