If You Have Toxic Parents, Watch This

[@Psych2go]

Curious to know where everyone is from. Comment below. Let's connect with each other.

[@scamsafe6295]

India

[@K1ngTrxshPvP]

From Taiwan

[@leoli2325]

British Columbia Canada

[@blazeshroom3868]

Here from the Philippines 🤍

[@thedarkechoes1236]

America

[@baroness3904]

Every child deserves a loving parent, But not every parent deserves a child.

[@chiaraippoliti]

Which is part of the reason mainstream society needs to stop pressuring people to have children and accept if some don't want or need to have them.

[@unrossettoinmenoeunlibroin6905]

@@chiaraippoliti I have a toxic and manipulative mother. It's at least 7 years now that I know that I don't feel like having a child because I fear I might not be a good parent, despite I'm a very sweet person and good with children. I don't want to have a responsibility that I feel I could not be able to handle properly.

[@FlameSlayer1901]

Yeah we've all heard that like dozens of times

[@zadock6370]

@@unrossettoinmenoeunlibroin6905 I respect that more than anything

[@imnotfrieda8417]

@@FlameSlayer1901 srsly

[@escherichanja8522]

Growing up with toxic parents is like growing up with people who underestimate you and treat you, as if you are stupid and lack knowledge.

[@shiva8115]

Yeah... I agree 🙂💔

[@internetbites]

Mine loved pointing out that they have more life experience than I did as a way to invalidate my perspective or knowledge. They're experts at gaslighting.

[@katherinenicholson9752]

That is how I felt at home with my parent too. Thanks for sharing.

[@vaishnavisingh9659]

@@katherinenicholson9752 same 😔

[@MoonLaden]

As if you aren’t human.

[@l-81norin53]

I'm sorry for every child who searched this

[@Littlejohnny-marston]

@@Brickleyandmoreme to ):

[@Elite_anti_furry]

Same :(​@@Littlejohnny-marston

[@anam_mirza7]

​@@BrickleyandmoreSame:(

[@Swiftieverse1313]

​@@Brickleyandmore same

[@louqxa]

this made me sob

[@lincty]

the worst thing about having toxic parents is living with toxic parents..... sending warm wishes to those who are currently healing on their own. you are so strong and capable of everything ❤

[@shakurwonders5216]

Thanx, I'm still living with the toxic mom. I'm suffocating but working on getting a job. Soon I turn 18 in aug

[@andrewwwp]

@@shakurwonders5216 good luck!

[@youngjacuzzi3676]

Mine are kicking me out with no car or nun, great parents.

[@weirdbutnormal2295]

@@shakurwonders5216 my dad is abusive and lying !

[@cruiseryt5874]

Bro I hate them all they give me is homework they don’t buy me games or anything there greedy I have to use my old phone

[@Ditto463]

I have toxic parents. I stopped seeing them a few years ago and only then did life start to feel safe and positive. My relationship with my children is wonderful. I somehow found it within me to stop history repeating itself. This is the single greatest achievement in my life!

[@shezzaeditz]

No body is perfect but we have take steps...like a kid grows our parenthood also grows,improves and more than sure your childs will be the luckiest...

[@chanakya6735]

Today my mom told me that I was just born to make her feel ashamed 😢 , my heart broke into pieces at that moment 🥺

[@Ditto463]

@@chanakya6735 I Hope you find the strength to create and declare your boundaries. It took me until I was in my fifties. My heart goes out to you. Please take good care of YOU x

[@SuperWisernow]

Good for you! 👍🏾

[@Heythere2810]

@@chanakya6735 I’m sorry for what your mother said to you. No child deserves to hear unloving words. You beautiful and special and God has amazing plans for your life.

[@mokgadi713]

I actually cried while watching this video and I needed to hear what was being said...one of the hardest things about having toxic parents, is living with them.

[@subheschhamondal8462]

I can completely relate 💔

[@Kikki_sweet]

True. Living with them 💔

[@Kikki_sweet]

Especially when you are an HSP

[@TheGlory16]

Literally, it's hell

[@jeonjunggukseomma_2.097]

I was already crying before watching this lol, Um So imagine your parents have said to your face or hinted to u directly or indirectly to U, that your pets animals are better than U a HUMAN with feelings & thoughts, to them and then said "IF U GET SICK, WE ARE LEAVING YOU AT THE HOSPITAL!?~" And then reminded of it again all at the SAME TIME lol, Yeah IK I CAN, Bcus that's what happened to me just now RN lol!?~😒😔😄😅💀☠

[@cailinrugema6900]

i think the hardest thing about toxic parents, is realising they never change, when i heard the video say that i started crying.

[@rexbatmanhero5435]

Same

[@iiheartamber652]

Hearing that all the abuse wasn't my fault made me start crying lmao 💀

[@itsnottoolatetostart]

Man sometimes i feel like I'm such a bad child and that's the reason parents would sometimes do that to me :(

[@apple5091]

@@itsnottoolatetostart you are absolutely not ;-;

[@Psych2go]

You are very strong! Keep at it

[@sumitbag8420]

Same here I was crying too while watching this.

[@aysehdusnegeu2919]

Same :(

[@Agent.K.]

One thing that hurts me a lot is when everyone around (family and strangers) respects me and then one of my parents talks ill about me tries to ruin my image. It’s just sad. This ruined my confidence in teenage years even when everyone else was cheering for me I let the negative remarks weigh me down. You can’t have it all perfect in life I guess…

[@Agent.K.]

@Lyrical Voltaic “Give a man a mask, and he’ll tell you the truth”

[@ipshitachoudhuri98]

you are strong just believe in yourself

[@Child_Of_God_Our_Lord]

Same here

[@anam_mirza7]

Sameeee

[@ADKatDominance]

Same

[@-pastaman-2284]

Some brief points for people that cannot watch the video: 1. Accept that they won't change - You are not the problem 2. You are the master of your own happiness 3. Acknowledge that you are not at fault for your childhood pain - It is or was *not* your fault. 4. You are not irreparably broken - It's possible to heal up, but it's going to take up effort. 5. Forgiving them is not required for healing to begin - Though, you need to acknowledge that it happened. Have a good day!

[@Simon0501]

Thank you You, too

[@Kamix98PL]

Thank you

[@ik6z]

But i feel like i am the problem

[@simranjeetkaur2017]

This is what i needed because i have a toxic mother,literally clicked the video faster than anything else♥️

[@Browneyedgirl-m9b]

Same! I hate Mother's Day. It feels so fake and gross to me to participate in it....but I do it anyway. I look at it like a means to keep her pacified, however temporary that is. Positive vibes to you! We can get thru it! 💪 💜

[@simranjeetkaur2017]

@@Browneyedgirl-m9b i feel good cause we both have the same problem and can understand each other so well!! I hope u get thru it too bcoz i know how hard it can be❤️

[@nixtherabbit]

Heh definetly dont have toxic mom (Flashbacks of her calling me useless for small things)

[@lauriespieler3663]

@@Browneyedgirl-m9b same here, stay strong y'all. We got this 🤍

[@hslhrd707]

Me too. 💯

[@edyann]

Oh, I had horrible parents. Some people are just not born to be a mother or father.

[@Psych2go]

Sorry about this..

[@ShaneiceTurner-b6j]

same here

[@Ritikaaa_57]

True

[@rainbow4516]

Omg, tell me about it, both my parents are awful and incompetent when it comes to parenting, and neither of them are nice people, they’re both Karens for Christ sake!

[@derekmaullo2865]

​@@rainbow4516Same

[@SLa-pb1gg]

That last one! Also, don’t let them use religion to guilt you into forgiveness

[@gnarthdarkanen7464]

They don't really want forgiven, though. That's what they try to call it... BUT it isn't that. Especially the religious types want their DRAMA... and then the FORGETFUL little robot to "go back to the way things were"... That's brain damage. My aunt let me know when my father was in the hospital... My mother had thrown him out of the house (verbal abuse turned on my little brother when I joined the Navy)... and he was dying of cancer. I could've sent forms through Personal Screw-over Division and the Red Cross would've brought me home... but I refused. My aunt ("devout Catholic") accused me of withholding forgiveness... To whit, I responded, "The son of a bitch is still breathin', ain't he? That's about as forgiving as it's going to get. Don't you Christians ever count your blessings? OR is that more sacrilegious lip-service to give the kiddies shit to do?" ...and I hung up the phone. Forgiveness... such as it is, is simply letting go. It's refusing to let THEIR CRAP continue to drag you down and pollute your mind. That's ALL it is... Everything else is forgetting and stupid rituals to satisfy some idiotic societal norm's... Now, I'm not one to tell you how your culture sucks if you're the one OWED an apology and you still end up somehow groveling and crying... BUT I'm not going to pretend to be a fan, either... You probably guessed by now, my father wasn't the only (nor technically the worst) such influence in my life, and that I joined the Navy to ship out before I killed the bastard and really DID end up in prison like most people were betting I'd go... It did me good... SO between Uncle Sam and me, it was a "fair trade". In any case... I hope this somewhat wry and even abrasive way of looking at the world helps you out. It just seems like the kind of thing you might need to read "my words and my way" for a minute... There's nothing to guilt you about if you HAVE actually forgiven your personal "rotten abusive piece of work"... Just because you forgive, doesn't mean you forgot... Oldest wisdom in the English language is "Once bitten, twice shy." after all. You can't exactly guilt or blame the shark or a rabid dog for what's in its nature... so forgive... fine. Doesn't mean I'm in any hurry to offer the other friggin' hand. I'm NOT stupid... Trust... if it's even available... MUST be earned. It's expensive, takes a LONG time to cultivate.. and an instant to destroy. ;o)

[@nullbeyondo]

My "religious" father cheated on my mother 5 times and he would pray on her to die loudly whenever he fails at anything not even related to her. My mother isn't ugly or anything, she's the prettiest woman in the world. My father just sees her as lesser than him cause her own parents died and that asshole of a husband thinks she only has him left and always justified treating her like shit. "Religious" people aren't angels. If I wasn't smart enough to realize the world is diverse, I'd have said they're all demons just due to the trauma that my father caused us.

[@Lazarus_The_NPC]

my dad:

[@yeminheinephein8551]

My mom said it's part of our culture to forgive your parents for anything, even murder, because if they didn't give birth to up me I wouldn't have existed. But I didn't ask to be born, it was their choice to have a child and I shouldn't have to be expected to repay them because of this. All my friends, family and teachers still believe that I am the one that owes an apology and I am just being ungrateful. As soon as I am financially stable enough, I will move out and finally leave my religion.

[@mohamedazizzaouga3661]

@@yeminheinephein8551it’s almost like we have the same life ! Literally all you said is what i live and intend to do

[@아키라-d9e]

This video came out at the right time, I've been struggling with a toxic racist mother who is overly dependent and controlling who wouldn't let me work or even go out with friends at the age of 23, and is already planning to reach out to my uncle for help this Monday, I've also contacted my father (they are separated) for help and he's helping me with getting me my own car to kickstart my independent journey into getting my own job and money, I'll be staying with my uncle or dad until I could find myself a job and collect enough money to get my own rent house.

[@devikaputti8723]

Can feel your pain bruh!

[@hosnemir3201]

Stop overreacting god damn… this new generation is so soft. All of you are depressed and edgy taking medications like wtf

[@nikam2298]

I wish you the best; as that’s what you deserve!

[@아키라-d9e]

@@nikam2298 Thank you ❤

[@andrewwwp]

i truly hope your journey goes well, good luck and stay safe :))

[@CammyTheSportsEntertainer]

Alot of parents have alot to answer for. Always thinking they "know best" for their kid is very dangerous sometimes. For example, they've killed a child's dream because they thought it was best they didn't do such an activity or they said to the kid they didn't have what it takes. Parents who insult their kids are the worst. Kids test your patience but you never insult them because it damages their self-esteem. Sometimes parents need to step back and allow their kid to follow a dream, and support them. Over-bearing parents can cause kids to lack self-confidence and the ability to develop relationships which is integral to a child's growth and development. I relate to this video. Thank you again Psych2Go your content again helps so much.

[@lebogangselematsela1329]

My mother is always talking about her sad life backstory .I feel sad for her sometimes but she is doing this everytime she's drunk.And my dad JUST SOLD OUR HOUSE TO HIS MOTHER(mamas boy

[@Belle-md9rf]

Yeah! Once, I participated in a speech competition and I prepared everything myself. My parents said that I'll lose the competition if I don't listen to them as it was my first time but I knew that it was best to put my own hardwork in it instead of jus listening to all their criticism and so called advises blindly. Guess what? I got 2nd place in the competition becoz I didn't hear those toxic comments from my parents.

[@bread3669]

my parents are like that, and I can't do anything about it.

[@Psych2go]

Parents need to be educated as well!

[@pritibhattindia]

Damn right.

[@davidliu2243]

The hurtful thing is that half of the time they're still caring and providing, and you know that they want the best for you. It's painful to think that it's the same persons that threw things at you out of pure rage...something that they have never done to anyone else except to you. Makes me think, am I just a terrible child?

[@Dan-iy1hc]

This. It's very confusing and makes you feel like you're the one who's broken. I'm so sorry you had to go/go through that but I feel like at least there's someone who understands

[@Psych2go]

No you're not! Family can do the most severe things to each other

[@GlodiKing]

Gaslighting ...it purposeful made to destroy you

[@man_5i]

can totally understand you :(( hope you'll be fine soon~:)

[@estherhadassah7087]

understand u fr

[@norjannahabto3201]

Needed this so bad. I have been sorrounded by red flags my whole life up until now. Wasted my teenage years listening to my manipulative parents. Havent had the time or day that I go home and they won't get mad. I'm already in my early 20's yet still treated as a grade schooler. Getting scolded and humiliated in public is something that I grew up with

[@helenmadamrose306]

You're not the only one. Hope we willl be able to find our happiness one day

[@starward0997]

Humiliated in public is the worst that could ever happened, its insane how parents are so easy dovey on doing such despicable shiets in public,

[@Thestudyhub_]

My grandmother is so abusive. She always humiliated everyone in the family. She told me I'm characterless. My aunt and uncle were so toxic , they always talks about me 24×7, that I'm looser. Infact my father...he always scolds me, I'm 26 and still he always talks to me rudely and when I reply back harshly or i get irritated. He just scolds me more . He abuses my mother also. Still my mother takes his side . She tells me he is possessive and he cares for me. But what care? From waking up to going to bed, from eating habits to daily routine. I hear everything that don't do this, don't do that. Do this way that way.. i know few things are genuine but there is a way to deliver everything. He can also speak politely and make me understand the changes he wants in me. Always raising voice and giving looks is compulsory? He scolds me and we don't speak for 10 days and that's absolutely normal. Then again he do same . From the age of 17-18 I'm getting panic attacks.. do you think it's my fault? I'm in very much mental trauma. Doctor has told me to relax and don't take stress. But this is not possible in my family.

[@Thestudyhub_]

Whenever I argue with my family. They always starts counting the favours they have done or are doing for me, from the house rent to college fees everything

[@mythology21]

​@@Thestudyhub_ u r situation same as me same thing happening with me daily always they pull my physical appearance to make me sad . they (both parents) say look at u r face who will marry u 😔 💔 the shock nd thunder heart pain in my chest 💔 😢 I m brokened totally then all the time they will say look at u r face ,abusing me by bad words , and shaming me in public i m just used to it 💔😭 .. i m 20y/o they treating me like a dumb like I don't know anything they want to know whatever things I do they want get into my life then why I am....one day I am tolded to them don't speak to me like this but its only lasts for 3 days then they back to their actual behavior 🤧 😔 acting infront of their relatives like they r loving me caring me but the house 4 walls know what is reality ...i wanna ran away from them for far away

[@amberpasta9379]

Prefect timing. Today I had a fight with my father. He has a habit of just blowing up at me over silly things. I can’t ask him to do anything cause it usually ends with him yelling at me and him saying “don’t tell me what to do!” About an hour later he came to me and tried to “apologize” but what he really did was just give me a life story on how his traumas have affected him and that it’s not his fault for how he reacted but that he’s sorry that he did. This is not an apology. I understand; I can empathize and sympathize that he has his traumas. But, if you’re truly sorry for your actions you wouldn’t not excuse yourself; you would try to do better and be better. I tried to explain to him that he’s in control of his actions and that it’s no one else’s fault for how he handles his emotions. He proceeded to try and gaslight me and tell me that it was my fault he yells at me. He explained that out of all of his kids I’m the only one that he yells at. So there for in his mind it’s something that I do that triggers him. In reality although my father may say he loves me I truly don’t believe it. He has done many things to spite me and hurt me. I know I’ll never have a loving father-daughter relationship with him and honestly I don’t want one. I’m happy and secure in who I am; I’m just tired of him trying to derail me in my efforts to find stability.

[@kshitijmlfm5225]

This is something I can relate to, tbh. So I'm not alone, though I've felt like that for a while...

[@priyasenthilkumar8508]

Hey amber, I'm not gonna say that forgive your parents or start to love them. It's just so shallow to say. I've been through your situation except that I am a boy. My father is a narcisstic egoistic person, but he tells me that he loves me. I have been through trauma for years ( iam now 17) , like from my childhood. I was overweight from my childhood, and my father would fat shame me literally everyday. LITERALLY 💔. when I was in my high school, for almost 2 years he would literally control the amount of food that I eat, also since I was hitting puberty at that age as a boy, i was hungry all the time, but he made me at little. If I eat little extra, he would yell at me and i would start to cry. Then , he will say that I saying for your good, but he caused me trauma. I've been suffering through depression for past 3 years and i have serious low self esteem issues, that i literally feel like this comment of mine would feel cringe and childish to others. I literally cried for over 1 year everytime when I ate extra, almost 2 times a day. Also iam an Indian. Only thing I wish is i could have a sister like you who could empathize other people's emotions. Amber, will you be my sister or friend🥺🥺💔

[@kshitijmlfm5225]

@@priyasenthilkumar8508 Don't worry bro, you'll be okay. Take it from another Indian, I promise things will work out for you, and me too. Happiness may be hard for us, but it'll be worth it, once we really find it, right?

[@amberpasta9379]

@@priyasenthilkumar8508 I understand your pain my father is diagnosed with NPD and BPD... I’m 23 and I’ve come to terms with his behavior and the fact that he will never change. I’m just at a point in my life now where I can say I don’t need you or want you in my life and ultimately when I do move out I don’t plan on contacting my father nor do I care to have a relationship with him.

[@Starliet]

It was as if I'm reading my own story. I can relate to everything you said. Like it's so accurate. I know and understand what you're feeling because I'm feeling that too. My father is EXACTLY like that and everything you said has happened to me several times. It hurts a lot but i hope everything will become fine. Let's try our best! 🤍😊

[@Luckyducky102]

I’m 36 and sick of being broken from my past. It’s never too late for us to heal and be happy. We deserve to be happy.

[@sunnyjoseph558]

I've lost all motivation, I feel numb and lost. It's so depressing to see yourself fall. My mom constantly keeps a check on me and misbehaves when I don't study. She wants me to study all the time. I'm tired of this. I feel like there's no one with whom I can share my pain. To everyone who is abused by toxic parents, I can feel you.

[@Vishplus]

What do u like to do , like any hobbies ? I think we're the same age , tbh. You can talk to ur parents about a hobby that you really like to do(convince them.) and do what u love to do and enjoy the most , I told my mom I like sports , I go to sports club where I play badminton, squash , swim. , Gym and when I come home I have 2 tutions , so I feel very refreshed and I study even better I got 80 , my parents were very happy and baught me stuffs and took me out to have dinner . My point is convince them to do let you do something you love the most Only you can do that , I know you can ♥️ all the best

[@sunnyjoseph558]

@@Vishplus I'm really interested in wild side of our planet and space. For instance :- forests, mountains, grasslands, oceans, deserts, stars, galaxies, universe, prehistoric creatures... In short, I love nature. I once told her that I'd like to be mountaineer but her behavior was way bad then I had expected. She abused me both physically and verbally. If she wanted to explain that there's no scope in such jobs, then she could have done it more peacefully. Not all parents are their child's best friends. Most are just abusive and want unquestioned obedience. But I'm glad that I'm slowly recovering from this.

[@Vishplus]

wow I love nature too well you can take your parents for hiking , to the hills or a short mountain , Everyone likes nature Me and my parents go hiking too , it's a near temple which has around 890 stairs .. You can go with your father if your mom denies

[@hamppuhannu]

I am 30 and still suffering from this. My father was a violent parent on top of that. I think it affected my mother over the years. I just wish they broke up, I think we, the children, suffered most from this.

[@sarmi0021]

Can agree

[@Psych2go]

You are very strong! Keep at it

[@nehajacob456]

Ohh thts so true you spoke my heart out

[@syakhairi1225]

breaks my heart when you grow up and she told u the only reason she didn’t get a divorce was because of how lengthy of a process it is

[@subheschhamondal8462]

@@syakhairi1225 exactly the same thing I have faced.

[@montannaswearingen8867]

I'm 23. My toxic parent continues to be as toxic as ever. What's worse is that not only does this affect me, but they are a grandparent and regularly tells me I should be parenting differently. More like them. As their child, I know for a fact that I am doing the right thing by breaking cycles.

[@GamerGoals100]

I live in a toxic, abusive house. My life is a living hell. I can’t wait to be financially stable and move out

[@nullbeyondo]

@@GamerGoals100 Unlike me, if you're 100% sure your toxic parents gonna pay your college, I suggest learning your favourite or new skills and learn HOW to make money out of them as soon as possible. Don't wait till you graduate highschool or university; this is a mistake! Begin on a big project now. And by big, I mean it can be finished very quickly, not take a long time. Don't start anything can take more than 7 months to launch (startup) or 3 months to master (skill). Just do not wait for opportunities to happen; not everyone's that lucky. And judging by our luck with our parents, we're not of the lucky people. You've to make space for the opportunities, sometimes even create that space yourself.

[@GamerGoals100]

@@nullbeyondo You’re right. Thanks

[@derekmaullo2865]

​@@nullbeyondoA friend of my mom is a toxic person if not worse than my mom

[@lanaheroin623]

@@GamerGoals100same

[@jessicaruiz6810]

It’s so hard to not feel guilty when you have to leave your little siblings behind in the toxic household

[@Rissarchive]

I know 😥

[@Fernando-w4c1l]

All you can do is hope they see what you see once they get older

[@nancyfancy9825]

That's probably what my sister feels too. She has plans of getting me out and I don't blame her but I rant to her sometimes about parents and I think that makes her feel guilty too. I'm not doing this on purpose I swear I love her so much but I've no one to share it with

[@wwiltue]

Same...

[@Faith.M22]

I know 😢😢 that was heartbreaking

[@StrawbearXD]

I have an emotionally abusive father and my mom, my siblings, and I had to leave him bc it got bad. I’m so glad to be away from him, but at the same time it’s hard bc he wasn’t the same person I thought he was, especially when he made me feel like his abuse was normal. I’ve been trying to learn what healthy habits are, but im still having trust issues bc of it. He cut us off of money and didn’t care that we were deprived of our needs. If you know what this feels like, just know you are valid and your emotions are real. Don’t lie to yourself. You are important and you deserve love. Ty for bringing attention to this Psych2Go bc it’s a real issue and not many people understand.

[@shiva8115]

More power to you ❤🙌🏻

[@wunksing1224]

Wow, this inspired me. I had a similar dad, but not to that extreme. Hope you're doing better now🤗

[@serenity9756]

Thank you. I know too well what if feels like and the same goes to you. You and your family deserved so so much better. I'm proud that you're working on that, you've got this! And I wish you learn how to trust again. Take care!

[@BrenaCedraz]

Omg same situation here, but its only me and my mother 😞 I feel so lonely because my mother kind of discount all the violence that come from my father on me

[@Psych2go]

Sorry about this

[@nazhiraghassani7783]

Speaking from personal experience, toxic parents be like: 1. They always find something to criticize about you. 2. You'll never be good enough in their eyes. 3. "I'm saying/doing this because I love you!" 4. If they were hurting and couldn't be happy then you have to, too. 5. Comparing has become a habit. 6. They dislike what you like and constantly look down on your interests. 7. They're sometimes narcissistic and or a religion fanatic while trying to force their beliefs on you. 8. They don't acknowledge things that you have done. 9. They don't care about your feelings, but respond dramatically when they feel hurt. 10. They never own their mistakes or simply say "sorry". 11. Yet after everything they've done they wonder why you're growing so distant. Sorry, just had to get that out of my chest.

[@goldenhourss]

why does every point relate to me..

[@nazhiraghassani7783]

@@goldenhourss Hey, have I seen you on MAL before?

[@goldenhourss]

@@nazhiraghassani7783 what is mal? SORRY ADHJSNDJA

[@nazhiraghassani7783]

@@goldenhourss MyAnimeList. Sorry if I made a mistake >< Anyways, nice to meet you!

[@Einstein-lf4bo]

I feel this with my mommy too😢

[@Clyzoh]

For the majority of my life, I’ve always believed that I had a lot to owe to my parents, simply by doing what pleased them. Remembering that makes me second guess my worth and self esteem which is upsetting. But this video is what I’ve been looking for, so thank you Psych2Go 💙

[@zadock6370]

The way I see it, you owe your parents NOTHING. everything they do to raise you should be done with no expectation to get anything in return. They should do it because they want to to succeed, not because they want something from you.

[@Psych2go]

[@silentmozart]

the fact so many of us relate ): but we all got this. it's okay to go on without them. love yourself, choose you when they don't. always choose you. sending all love to everybody watching this

[@Psych2go]

[@kajolk1708]

Thank you for your good wishes. The world needs to hear this.

[@Charxoxo_lolipop]

I'm 17 and every single day my mom calls me stupid , useless , and I'm constantly reminded that its my fault my dad is not in my life and how nobody wants me or truly cares for me and i cant do anything right . There is never a day that goes by without me crying due to her hurtful words and I always get anxiety attacks when I have to come home from school Honestly I'm so tired and am just counting down the days when I can go to college and completely and not have to stay with her anymore.

[@ZACplaysssss]

Same here stay strong 💪

[@DocLantern85]

Moments when my Mom would criticize me and call stupid and treat my like a child keep repeating in my head everyday. It usually builds up on my last work day of the week. I'm usually in tears before I get to my car and then I just have a furious outburst. Spewing everything I've always wanted to say to her. Right now though, we seem to have a fair relationship. But the memories, the pain, the anger, they never go away.

[@Simon0501]

Sorry to hear that

[@medusagorgon8432]

I'm 46 and my mother STILL makes a point to pass judgement on things that make me happy and content. Which is why I tell her very little. If she can think of something negative to say, she's on it! Unfortunately, favoritism was a major issue growing up and still is to this day, but I make every effort to try and not let it affect me emotionally. It's not worth it.

[@QwueenCJTheSupreme]

What a synchronicity this is! Literally had to tell her my “Mother” to sit and reflect on if she deserves a present or outing on Sunday after she demanded.Feeling entitled to these things aren’t going to make me do it. 😩 Having a child DOESN’T make you a parent.

[@QwueenCJTheSupreme]

@@singingwindrider9881 noo not really. Making someone who abused you think about their actions towards you when they continuously feel entitled. Holding someone accountable is way healthier then festering hate and spewing out negativity. Sounds like you don’t know what ACCOUNTABILITY is yourself.

[@QwueenCJTheSupreme]

@@singingwindrider9881 sweetie you must not understand healing and forgiving someone when they didn’t offer and apology. Everyone sets boundaries different. You have no full synopsis or understanding of my life simply a sentence. So how can YOU tell ME about myself when we not know each other. Maybe speak positivity instead of trying to make YOUR “methods” and OPINIONS fit other peoples life and telling them their way of setting boundaries and dealing with an abusive parent is wrong? If I am DECIDING to be the adult and FORGIVE my parent for they way they treated me. How do u expect soMeone to grow without SELF reflection? Yourself included. Maybe focus that energy on your journey to self healing instead of telling other people they are wrong. May the sun melt the coldness of ur heart. Blessed be ❤️😘

[@shakurwonders5216]

@@QwueenCJTheSupreme I know right, it's hard to convince pple that your own parents are the problem. But I believe in you, keep reparenting, you're not alone. We got this 🖤👊🏽👑

[@Psych2go]

Yes!!!

[@realzawfishankhan]

Having a child doesn't make you a parent

[@randompersonontheinternet9336]

My mother has always invalidated my feelings, and only shown affection towards me when I do well in school. On purpose, I had ended up making an attempt to lower her expectations. I failed a class, and on purpose got Cs and Bs for 1 semester. Sure enough, she was extremely upset. I tried to fix my grades, seeing as there didn’t seem to be a change in her attitude. I shouldn’t be rewarded for meeting expectations, and anything lower, I should be punished. My dad on the other hand, never really cared about grades, but he was extremely conservative. As a member of the LGBTQ+ community, this has been scary. I’m always forced to wear dresses, skirts, “girl colors”, and have been forced to go to religious schools, when I said I didn’t want to. That was a big argument, he had ended up threatening me to “shut me up”. I still love my parents, I just don’t always feel like they love me.

[@itsnottoolatetostart]

Man I relate to this so much...It really hurts. I want to say that you should just be yourself and not change yourself to meet others expectations, but that would be impossible since I know how scary people can be... I'm an atheist and trans-male, none of my family members figured this out yet. But it's so tiring having to pretend I'm "normal" (by normal I meant the classic female stereotype)

[@Atiquezahin]

My mother didnt show affection even when i scored well in exams

[@chilathecreativefox9098]

​@@AtiquezahinSo what'd you do?

[@LaMara-vv2wq]

First off, are you ok? Second off, I know this post is old, but I hope you keep in mind that you are not required to forgive the ones who forced you on the world nor are you required to love them, either.

[@randompersonontheinternet9336]

@@LaMara-vv2wq I appreciate your words!! Things aren’t much better, probably worse, but I’m trying my best. I’ve just gone with the idea that I just have to do this a little while longer and then I’ll move out, go to a good college, and be myself. My parents are really confusing to me, so I’m unsure how I feel about them. Once I understand better, then I think I’ll be able to figure out if we can actually have a nice relationship or if I’ll be able to forgive them. Thank you for your thoughtfulness, I’ll be sure to keep your words in mind.

[@sakshamray9981]

My heart shatters whenever i see parents of my friends

[@avidhossanmansur9830]

My father was paranoid, had violent mood swings, and had an explosive temper. When he had a meltdown, it was like a three-year-old’s tantrum in a full-grown man: Red-faced, fists clenched, face straining, screaming incoherently. Understandably, when that’s directed at a small child, the small child reacts with terror. But when the next thing that happens is the giant raging man pushes his face into yours and bellows “STOP CRYING”, and chases you through the house telling you to stop crying, and pulls off his belt to hit you for crying . . . . . . you learn to go cold when you’re frightened, blank-faced and clinical, and to stop running, and not to defend yourself. Or better yet, you go sweet and encouraging. You smile really big, raise your voice an octave, lean in toward the person you’re afraid of, and change the subject, as absurd as it seems to do in the middle of a dangerous one-sided fight. It’s horrific, but it’s also useful. There’ve been times in my adult life where interaction has gone sour and I’ve gone cold, and times when it’s gone really sour and I’ve gone sweet. I feel some dissociation when that happens-like I’m directing myself from a distance, and all the senses I’m processing are dulled and remote. Having this instinctive reaction to an adult temper tantrum makes customer service easier to perform, I guarantee you, and nothing diffuses somebody’s enraged tirade like a super-chipper tone of voice and a ferociously can-do attitude. So yes, some of us who were abused learned to react as if it weren’t nothing because reacting normally, with a fright, flight, or fight response, resulted in escalated violence against us.

[@karencossar1827]

I had a mother like this. I couldn't have said it better. Blessings and healing to you and I 💚

[@pallavimenon4694]

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Mine was very verbally abusive. And I learnt early these 'tricks' help.

[@Psych2go]

You are very strong! Keep at it

[@avidhossanmansur9830]

@@Psych2go Thanks🤗🤗

[@gamepirate1108]

I feel like you guys always know what’s going on in my life because your videos always come when I need them.

[@ives3572]

"Unhappy is he to whom the memories of childhood bring only fear and sadness." - H.P Lovecraft

[@nathalievegas]

I realized I’m not alone. Many men and women have trauma from their childhood (or adulthood)from bad parents. But we keep going. Everyone has a different motivation but that’s the most important part. Our world didn’t end

[@missspectra]

My Mother raised me constantly telling me that family comes first, that when you grow up, you must care for those who have cared for you all your life. Yeah, in hindsight, that should've been a big red flag, but I didn't notice at the time as she slowly began to drive away my father who, while he wasn't perfect, she would CONSTANTLY bring up mistakes he made in his life as if he did then yesterday, but was YEARS ago after he already had time to learn his lesson. It was very helpful realizing what kind of person she was by watching you "Things Narcissists would never do" and "Signs of Gaslighting" videos, because I recognized that my mother exhibited ALL of those traits from BOTH videos, and I realized the situation I'm currently in. I am currently living in my own house, but my mother, having nowhere else to go, and not able to afford retirement, lives with me. She relies on me. Leans on me. Depends on me. I realized too late that I was conditioned since childhood into being her retirement investment, and now I'm stuck. I mean, what am I supposed to do? Cut her out? She has nowhere else to go.

[@youngjacuzzi3676]

Sounds like she just wanted a scapegoat when she got old n disabled lol.

[@youngjacuzzi3676]

Oh I just read the bottom, yea kick her out lmao, or put her ahhh in a retirement home n tell her to pay for it.

[@solikeguyz]

i wouldn't recommend doing that.. talk to her.. about what happened in the past and that she has a lot of problems in her that she needs to fix.. if she doesn't listen just ignore her or maybe find a home or building where old people live

[@Psych2go]

You are very strong! Keep at it

[@sunsnows]

Exactly I don’t get this..like I get that you should care for family if they are struggling in life but I have my own life and I don’t want my parents at 60 years old having to take care of them in my own home as if I owe it to them for taking care of me..like as if..taking care of me is your job as a parent so I don’t owe you anything..and plus you’d be a grown damn adult I don’t want them in my home especially if they are toxic. Like let me live my life and go get a job or something. It sounds really rude but it pisses me off.

[@tiff0804]

I had to learn that they won't change the hard way. I had to find my own happiness

[@ImpendingLoon]

This video meant a ton to me. I was just struggling with the very topic and it helped me face it

[@Psych2go]

Glad it could be of value! Let us know how we could make it better.

[@micahlee2191]

Sheesh, seems that a lot of us have toxic parents. Things that i went through made me not want to get kids in the future...

[@Psych2go]

You are very strong! Keep at it

[@gracebediako8357]

im the same way im the point i really desire to have children it doesn't excite me because of trauma

[@harley1628]

Many people says they wish to get back their old days, for some like us, we don’t even wanna remember we ever had our childhood…

[@TheOtakuDude]

This is why I subscribed to this channel. I have my mum who is SUPER angry at me and uses a belt to just WHIP me! I'm SUPER getting tired here in the Philippines because of HER (she's such a CHILD ABUSER!!!!!) and my huge, HUGE dream is going to Japan real soon since I'm ALSO getting SUPER tired of her as well! Thank you for this video. :)

[@baroness3904]

Sorry to hear about your pain. I wish I was there to rescue you! It’s not your fault remember that. No one deserves to be beaten and abused. Theirs no need to use physical pain. It’s never productive. I wish you well my friend 🥺❤️🤗

[@midnightmathans3310]

I can never say how truly grateful I am for this, Thank you

[@Psych2go]

Glad the videos could be of help!

[@midnightmathans3310]

@@Psych2go thank you guys

[@lahiruthomassooriyabandara9405]

It is not what you show others, it is what you do in private. That is who you really are

[@jackalbright4599]

This video was just one big childhood trauma flashback for me. I could barely hear what you were saying over the mental replays of a yelling father and physical abuse.

[@neofulcrum5013]

I just wish my mom could apologize and realize how she hurt me and my siblings emotionally and mentally.

[@zen7938]

Haha, I was that person. But after that, even my mother apologized, they are still the same. They will bully you one day if you still trust them. My plan is leaving them as soon as possible. In short term, you should curse them for what they did to you. They know they are bullying and they're afraid if I start to curse them. Finally, search for help from other trustable. They can help you to limit their behaviour and protect you.

[@GaryAus]

Toxic parent's mantra to their kids: "You should be GRATEFUL for ~"

[@-summertime-sadness-]

Srsly. My parents were like I should be grateful for their toxic behaviour, because according to my mom, they (my parents) could have been much worse with me.

[@GaryAus]

@@-summertime-sadness- I am so sorry to hear that, hugz to you.

[@LiveLaughLoveParkJinsung]

I literally had a fight with my mom, and when I saw this notification. I was like, “That was great timing.”

[@Rissarchive]

I’m 19 and I have toxic parents. I moved away from my mother 2 years ago but then my grandmother said she can’t have me there anymore because she “didn’t wanna deal with my mom” I was 17 at the time so the law around that is tough. My grandmother said I could stay with her when I’m 18 but I never went back because she wanted to control me as well. It was my dad’s side too that I wasn’t even close with because my mom kept me away from them. I’m still with my mother and she has an addiction problem but claims she’s clean she doesn’t respect my boundaries, she hits me, puts her anger on me, steals from me, lies to me. I could go on. But I’m moving on my own soon. My dad is also toxic he doesn’t take my emotions seriously. He stopped giving me money for clothes and stuff, he left me abandoned with a toxic mother and refused to help me with college when he works an on call job & in a huge home. While I struggle everyday Those who are young going through this: you are not the problem and try to go out as much as you can and set boundaries

[@kridha3168]

May God bless you and show you all the way out . Much healing 🩷

[@Rissarchive]

@@kridha3168 thank you so much I’m better now

[@leecasso6083]

~ Time Stamps ~ • Accept that they won't change 0:46 • You are the master of your own happiness 2:12 • Acknowledge you are not at fault for your childhood pains 2:44 • You're not irreparable broken 3:14 • Forgiving them is not required for healing to begin 4:19 Have a great and peaceful day ahead 🤍☺️ as said in the video " you are the master of your happiness"🥰

[@Simon0501]

Yes, we can decide our own happiness

[@Psych2go]

[@MCAWESOME19]

I have toxic parents, and during their separation, they tried to manipulate me into liking one or the other, and if I did something wrong on their part I would get beat. I know it can be fixed but up to this point, I reminisce about the past too much, sometimes I snap at small criticisms towards me, and feels like they have already ruined my life to the point I can’t be successful.

[@Simon0501]

Sorry to hear that, I think you can leave them

[@jonsotbh1565]

remembering consistent criticism hit home. i always suddenly immitate the thing my dad said in his voice and i feel like i'm losing my mind

[@Pavylova]

Dear lord I wish I could afford to move out I’m 21 years old and I still can’t afford to move out. I’m sick of being blamed for everything that goes wrong in the house. I’m also a middle child so that doesn’t help. The price of rent and living is so damn high! I live in Belfast Ireland.

[@-swiftie-5826]

Thank you this KZbin channel has really helped my mental health and helped me identify unhealthy relationships

[@kittylicious8947]

Hardest thing is when your the oldest, especially a girl. Your the first try to EVERYTHING, so everything is all your fault and you always have to do everything..😢😢

[@pinkdevil5561]

WHAT?! 10k VEIWS IN 1 SEC?! HOW?? Is it just me?💀

[@-peachyyy-]

nope 🥲

[@si_art1596]

Nope :')

[@Miri_TheDarkWolf]

POV: your not sure if you have toxic parents but a couple of your friends say you do after you constantly rant to them about your parents. You say that they arnt because they just want the best for you. you start thinking and overthinking about every memory and decision you ever made and just insist its your fault for hurting and stressing your parents out

[@Dan-iy1hc]

I feel like I can relate. I have clear examples that are super bad. But the thing is 98% of the time they aren't like that... I feel guilty for saying and thinking all of those bad things about them and like I'm going crazy

[@PerpurPeopletreatmelikeacrimin]

I learnt that making your mother happy isn’t what she deserves.

[@goldenhourss]

getting insulted because i go to my friends’s birthdays.. at 21 years old..

[@norakrissford4171]

I tried so hard to get an apology from my mum. I tried so hard to prove that she ruined me, my mental health, and my life. She's not a bad person so at one point I started blaming myself. I believed I was a bad person and it was all my fault. It wasn't. I was just a kid. And she is a good person, yes, but she hasn't been a good mother to me. She didn't hurt me on purpose but I was still neglected and psychologically abused. This is a reminder that if your parents are not loving, understanding, or "normal" maybe it is not your fault. You are worthy of love. We all are. And you don't have to wait for an apology to move on or finally love yourself. Because what if they never recognize what they did to you?! You deserve better. At least you should be kind to yourself.

[@oleratomoile9480]

One of the most frustrating things about my toxic mom is the temper tantrums. She behaves like a toddler when she doesnt get her way or when you set boundaries.

[@Nickgamer7512]

True

[@Nickgamer7512]

My parents doesn’t even want to consider my certificate that I did for an Online Course because they think I cheat on the test when I literally tried my best

[@oleratomoile9480]

@@Nickgamer7512 Since they won't say it I will. I am proud of you😊. Do me a favour do not pay attention to them. Focus on you and what makes you happy. Their emotions are not your problem. Stay blessed🤲🙏

[@Nickgamer7512]

@@oleratomoile9480Thank you so much that really made my day😊❤

[@agustdrip1960]

To all people who have toxic parents.. please when you decide to have a kid.. please try break the cycle.. don't let yourself be your own parents.. think about your future children.. they deserves to be treated like what kid should be..

[@zoahphillips6986]

I grew up with a really amazing dad till I was a teenager, my mom was always toxic and would let us go hungry growing up. My dad eventually became so depressed that he would always shut himself in the basement in his room. My parents never were in love I guess so affection wasn’t shown in my childhood. My older sister became a mini version of my mom. My grandparents on both sides helped raise me, they showed me love, and taught me everything. I could talk to them about anything and no judgment. My mom was so abusive to me verbally and physically. I didn’t have a boyfriend till I was 18. And even then they went through my phone I paid for and they ran my social media I had no privacy. I learned to be sneaky and hide stuff. I only had one friend throughout highschool who I am still friends with to this day. She knew everything and helped to her best ability through it all. I think that’s why I never gave up and my grandparents as well. But my parents were always so strict to where I barely was allowed out and if I had sleepovers they would pick me up when it was early in the morning. As soon as I was 18 I left. I’ve had an on and off relationship with them but my mom just destroyed it when I was in a bad wreck this year they cared more about a car they didn’t pay for I did and took 3 hours to get to the hospital. My ex and I hadn’t talked in months I called him and his whole family was there when I got to the hospital because the emts told me to call someone who cared about me. I found my real family it’s not always blood. But everyone has seen what shitty parents I have had and they always asked me how I turned out so different from them. I always tell them I learned from my real parents which were my grandparents to never judge anyone and to always work for what I want

[@melynn_0355]

I can definitely relate to what was said. I've already begun doing a few of the things listed here. There weren't rly any issues at first except there were a few signs... It was only when I discovered who I truly was that their biases came full force :/. But I'm in the process of hopefully being able to cut them off.

[@multiverse-UFO]

Having toxic parents are never the kids' fault. Children deserve better. Know that you are a child of the universe, not some pathetic mortals. 🌌🌌

[@chrysanth69]

This couldn't come in a better time. I want to say thank you. You probably don't realise how many lives you save.

[@Diya706]

the worst part of having toxic parents is that u have to live with then and also need the resourcess which they provide u .. Also those parents who make their child feel inferior based on their grades and literally manipulate u to suicide are rly in tolerablee.. I am facing this shit rn and hope all of them who are dealing with this stuff heals real soon :)

[@anoukv1206]

It seems I can't be hearing these tips often enough. Healing from trauma through abuse as a child is a long, tough and lonely struggle. I realise now that I am fortunate to hear and onderstand what this video means to say and that I can assure myself that I'm on the right track towards healing. Even so, hard days are always a part of the struggle. It's good to remember what this video explains and how important it is to keep believing: we're going to be okay.

[@KateS4257]

I came to this video because my mom had just yelled at me for my phone making noises. She said I needed to turn it off. ( this is a very vague sentence, so I wasn’t sure what she meant”and it tried to explain that I didn’t know what she meant and she stormed away, leaving my door open. I got up and asked if she could close it because that’s how it was at the start” I definitely pushed my luck there” and she said, your right there, you just do it, and don’t ask me again. I close the door and run to my closet. Every person with “ toxic” mom(s) now’s they have a special relax space to calm down In. Resize that the things you say affect ❤

[@Leah33369]

thankyou for this, they always deflect and blame their own parents without taking responsibility for not healing themselves the cycle breaks with the ones willing to heal🦋🍀

[@shakurwonders5216]

Ikr, I'm being affected by their shit but ima break this cycle

[@Leah33369]

@@shakurwonders5216 someone has to break the cycle trauma embeds in the dna and is passed down we even have passed trauma from our ancestors but once its healed thats the cycle breaking you can do it believe in yourself🍀

[@earlgrey2130]

The point about giving up the hope that they will change is 100% true. I'm 40 now and just got into a huge fight with my dad, because even after 40 years of him abusing me and not being a dad i STILL feel that surely.. if i say the right things.. if i explain myself well enough.. surely he'll understand. After all.. who doesn't wanna love their child. Turns out.. your parents are what they've been, not what you need them to be.

[@BarneyHunter12sBiggestFan]

Its a hard pill to swallow

[@dhanusree7808]

I have worst toxic family, i hate them so much, especially my father is abusive, verbally also, i feel so deepressed around him, he is such a control freak, 😭😭😭😭😭, he hates me being happy, he never understands me, he always critical towards me, he removes his frustration on me daily, i feel so hurt 😭😭😭😭😭 he makes fun of me, embarrassing me infront of everyone, i wish i could be happy😓😓😓😓😓

[@nimnaliyanaarachchi8151]

You're going to be alright...stay strong!!!

[@staracer9414]

Currently working two jobs trying to move out after two dozen years of CONSTANT DEGRADATION. I CANNOT WAIT UNTIL I WALK OUT OF THIS HOUSE FOR THE LAST TIME AND NEVER HAVE TO COME BACK OUTSIDE OF MY OWN CHOICE TO DO SO

[@ninefourteen2920]

These relates so much with me. I'm crying watching this. Thank you so much for pointing me what i have to do

[@Vishplus]

Same bro

[@deanitasarah898]

My father always put me down by saying the other kid is better than me, eventhough I'm the only child. That's make me feel like I'm worthless, wasn't capable of doing anything. I feel tired of him

[@Jejking]

Sometimes I wish that my parents weren't unintentionally toxic in our relationship. Their behaviour is bad but not really malice it's because they don't know any other way, apparently. Of course I am not without fault, but the pattern was that my mother withdrew from public eye without friends after chronic disease struck, always on her own. My father has a victim complex where he has been used by others (family, bosses, things like that). Both refuse help, they hide and barricade themselves, trying to dig themselves out of their hole on their own, actually dropping stuff which could have helped them. It's bizarre. They also raised me like this: a wide back, and keep moving. I couldn't, feeling either slow or hunted all the time, not able to respond adequately to others. That resulted in my withdrawing and missing (avoiding) lots of opportunities, ending up with a computer addiction and unsuccesfully trying to make it on my own without the help of others. This went nowhere. Just in time I had a moment of desperation where I decided to join a student union and at the end of my studies, and from that moment on (it took years to undo the damage) I slowly learned to ask for help. And was confronted with my own (learned) behaviours. What a mess that was. People of back then don't want to know me or acknowledge my existence, since the last image they remember is someone who was terribly insecure but inadequate. A lot happened since then. Still I am not there, at times I notice that in my relationships that my communication is just bad. And at times I am trying to patch my parents up because it helps my mood as well, to not worry in the back of your head. The truth is I can't, but I have a lot of trouble letting that go.

[@markberry9401]

I really needed this, I’ve been really struggling a lot recently, along with a multitude of other things, feel like there is no hope for me,thanks

[@diamethystgg3385]

I get blamed for a lot because I live with a toxic parent.

[@alonablase766]

I grew up to the insult and sharp words of my father, it literally pierced my heart as a child seeing my father purposely ignore my efforts to make him happy and what broke my heart the most is him having no reaction and even laughs at me and spout that I deserve it when I vomit helplessly, I'll just cry(I didn't know back then that the reason was stress) I used to go to other people to get comfort... I'm so weak physically and mentally back then. Now that I'm 21 and graduating at college I understood why my father behaves like that, I found out that my father has harsh childhood and more toxic parents... I just felt that bearing hatred against him is irrelevant and understanding him is the best that I can do for him and for myself.

[@liongodpro552]

I haven’t talked to my parents in years and this video reminds me why I left in the first place and moved on without taking to them

[@Oooo-bi7bi]

Firstly I would like to thank you for your diagrams, soft voice and not having to watch a youtuber who appears to love themselves shouting and speaking quickly but I appreciate they are after views but on a serious subject like this you have found the perfect presentation. Secondly thanks for including subtitles, I'm British and often don't catch certain words with an American accent no matter how many times I rewind. Sending you big love and respect .

[@MomochaDrawing]

Thank you for this video. This really warms my heart 💖

[@iOqkky2323]

I'm 14,confused and scared even though I get scared even with their presence I , am not really sure about toxicity. Everyone in my family says that I often overreact but, in reality I do not even react anymore....I just share things with my other family members that my parents do to me. I can't list all of those things but here are some that I am sick of: 1.My mother just relieving all of her anger and stress by physically and verbally abusing me 2.My father not caring about anything related to me even if its really important 3.Both of them hating me for no reason but because I belong to their spouse's family I try my best to please both of them but end up hurting myself even more.....All they do for me is come to my school and proudly tell everyone that they are my parents(I am a badgeholder/prefect at my school and I get pretty good grades) I don't know what to do...I don't wanna live anymore...

[@chisaten]

Things have gone the opposite way for myself. My parents were very supportive and did so many things when I was younger. They still support me; I am disabled enough that I have to live with my parents and can't live on my own. My father has deteriorated, though. He is constantly in denial of his hearing problems and causing me pain by making loud or unexpected noises. Along with that is being obsessed with using Facebook and cruising the internet instead of caring about interacting. My mother does care for me, but she keeps telling me to give up on anything changing, which makes life seem empty.

[@j.hanlan4102]

I have a friend who has struggled with mental illness that has certainly been exacerbated or in large part been caused by her toxic family. I was thinking I might share this video with her, but I won't because of an assumptions it makes. Her mental health struggles have made it difficult for her to detach from her family. She IS still dependent on them for material support, which I'm sure is true of a lot of Millennials and Zoomers who don't have the economic opportunities of their parents' generation. I think it's unfair to assume that adults in this day and age are able to be independent from their parents and that their happiness is entirely their own, but I really appreciate this and other videos you have made to spread mental health awareness

[@sophiehacker582]

i just wish they loved me. i don’t know how to heal. i feel like there’s a hole in my heart forever.

[@Alejandro-yy5kn]

I feel exactly the same. I hope it gets better for us, know that you're not alone

[@sophiehacker582]

@@Alejandro-yy5kn thank you.

[@anirtisaweirdo]

Same but yk life goes on and we live through it. I promise you'd be fine

[@andycampbell8622]

The worst part was my absent father (working all the time) taking my mother’s side, as if beating children is normal

[@Samnoor09]

Both of my parents are psychopaths 😐 i can't bear with them 😑 I'm just gonna run away from my house once i reach 18 ✨

[@meowers7funny]

The first one already has really helped me. both my parents are abusive, my mom more severe. She has had problems with substance abuse for as long as I know, and its been hell living with her. I'm almost 13 so i can't do anything to help myself get out. I've had many thoughts, and even attempts, to take my own life. In hopes that my moms ways might change, and I could give my little sister (7 years old) a better life, so she wouldn't have to suffer as much abuse as I did thinking that if I killed myself, my mom would realize her mistakes, and try to do better with my sister. This video made me realise that is not the case.

[@AIphinx]

I don’t necessarily have toxic parents, but they have made toxic choices before. So I felt kinda bad for watching this 😅

[@minachan5902]

Things my mom did: Yelled at me for nothing Threatened to kick me out Emotionaly abused me Kicked me Slapped me face and arm Called me a bitch Told me I cant do anything right Called me a liar when she was wrong Gaslighted me Told me i wasn't the favorite to my face She told me she had it Worser Told me I'm perfectly fine "You need to hide your stomach" Pulled my hair

[@Nova-ry3mw]

Jeez we children of toxic parents must be a big community

[@minachan5902]

@@Nova-ry3mw fr

[@MissOne]

Nevertheless, Forgiveness IS required for healing of self.

[@pineapple7336]

wrong.

[@Ishmam.Ibn.Mohiuddin]

I needed to hear the “stop”. My parents have not changed even after I was hospitalised.

[@pointlessly_poetic]

My toxic mother is depressed rn and thinks she was a terrible mother and she failed the family… She is right of course but I’ll never tell her that 🧍‍♂️

[@auburneytuckerson2959]

I really needed this video. My relationship with my mother is strained, and it hurts that we end up arguing. 😭😖😢

[@AsterTiff]

That is what I'm also going through. Hopefully we get through this ＼(^-^)／

[@auburneytuckerson2959]

@@AsterTiff thanks 🤗

[@fizzahyder2965]

This really cheered me up rn. As a kid, it was mainly my mom who abused me, not my dad. I thought that I was just overreacting and calling it abuse, since I was born to desi parents so I thought this happened in every household, when I met my friends and figured out that theyre parents weren't like that I began to doubt my previous thoughts. Rn, i can't move out or anything and my mom makes me cry everyday, she doesn't hit me that much, but her words hurt much more than her slaps. But I have learned to cope with it a little bit.

[@hoax-z8q]

IM JUST DONE WITH THEM I HATE MY OWN FAMILY

[@dianaschramer5065]

Forgiveness is not necessary in order to heal, but it is necessary in order to move forward and be free of the past.