If you're single but want a girlfriend, this video was literally made for you…

I really hope you got some value out of this one.
#selfimprovement #selfdevelopment #dating

[@AbeOtt24]

Keep building your garden and stay patient, the right one will come with time

[@borsostamas-janos1299]

@404errorcodeVthen you have a beautiful garden

[@KxemonPlayz]

if we build the garden and then she comes "the right one" how will we keep her & have the game lol. Game & confidence so important

[@Manuel_-kd4gt]

But the important thing that many guys forget is: a big part of building this garden is to get experience with girls

[@TheWay413]

Remember in Chess, the King can only move one square tile per turn. And the Queen can move as many square tiles per turn. As a King, you got to make each day/turn count.

[@AbeOtt24]

@@Manuel_-kd4gt Very true, I appreciate you saying that man

[@andrewjustice5198]

"If you want to be with a queen, you must work on becoming a king".

[@AbeOtt24]

Facts

[@Mr.McWatson]

Expressed in the trashiest way possible, yes 😂

[@christiansnaturestudio6599]

I want to be a God

[@andrewjustice5198]

@@christiansnaturestudio6599 Hell yes! That would be awesome.

[@polishstick0609]

I am just an pesky peasant. I'll anchieve nothing beacuse I am basically nothing

[@lemuelbernard]

This is so true, man! Don’t chase 10s; become a 10, and you will attract 10s.

[@AbeOtt24]

Exactly. Also welcome to the community man, I’m glad you’re here

[@Ciskuss]

If you are not a 10 in looks, you can do all you want but it doesn't work

[@lemuelbernard]

@@Ciskuss To some, this is true. But external looks eventually fade. However, character and self-improvement typically improve over time. If someone is just interested in you for your looks, they are not worth it.

[@Manuel_-kd4gt]

​@@lemuelbernardmost of the time i would agree that you should prioritize personality but still looks are so important for example the first impression and it can tell you many things about a person because if they look really good and fresh probably they take care of themselves goes to the gym etc. So saying that looks are not important is trash advice its more like 50% looks and 50% personality

[@Shleder]

@@Manuel_-kd4gt clueless its all looks personality just needs to not be too awful

[@SocialCreditFarmer]

I don’t even have a friend…but I’ll keep building my garden.

[@AbeOtt24]

You’re on the right path man, keep up the good work and welcome to the community. Always feel free to let me know if you need anything, I’ll be here

[@senaxiogg8531]

Mate same, lets both strive for greatness 💪

[@victorwurtz9388]

Z

[@ReinFrozen]

I don't have friend too, but even if you 10000 miles away, I can be your friend

[@jokerpilled2535]

Then you’re not in the right place, go where people are friendly. The soil you’re building your garden on is rotten.

[@TacticalSocks]

Like I learned not so long ago: What you look for in a person, first you gotta have it yourself.

[@AbeOtt24]

I really like that man i appreciate you saying it, I think others will find value out of this too

[@TheSniperMAJOR]

So I have to get overweight in order to have boobs to get a girl with D-cups? XD

[@Josh-sz8ip]

Already have that.

[@TacticalSocks]

@@TheSniperMAJOR Yes :)

[@deagor4578]

So I should go transgender?

[@edwind_]

Instructions unclear, built a flourishing vegetable garden from the ground up, but I am still very much single.

[@RaineWilder]

Keep working on it. You have found a purpose in life

[@jokerpilled2535]

@@RaineWildernah, find a purpose that actually gets what you want.

[@BreadGood_21]

At least you got salad 🤷

[@donsicariofx]

Your eggplant probably isn't fully grown yet.

[@BreadGood_21]

@@donsicariofx 🤨📸

[@balkh2769]

steps that helped me get my life in order: started cold approaching (you’ll gain confidence with girls) joined a martial arts gym (learn to fight and build confidence) read celestial soulmate by lentlish (a perfect book that builds the mindset for cold approaching and relationships) improved my style (better clothes) started nofap and focused on affiliate marketing (more money, more energy) all these small changes added up, and now my life is 10x better.

[@LukasSchneider-v5o]

I also practice martial arts and never had a problem with confidence, but right now I'm reading the book you recommended, and I can tell you it's really good!

[@painloverr-music]

step 1: be attractive step 2: don't be unattractive

[@NobodyYippi]

THAT'S WHAT I'M SAYING

[@erickchavelas9892]

You can still get girls if your not that good looking, I know a guy that's in really good shape that looks just okay but his charisma is pretty good and he gets some women. Just having an attractive body will make a big difference. Other than that the height requirements girls have is actually delusional and f-ed up. I worked store jobs so I would talk to regulars first before trying to talk to randoms and for the most part the regulars were nice because they were already in an environment they liked coming to. Others are going to be better at talking but you just have to raise it to a good enough level to start getting results.

[@andyvettel4375]

I must say if this were true all average and ugly guys would be single,they aren't

[@valentina-blossom]

Lol exactly, he's attractive

[@Blinkers2007GameDev]

Yeah that’s easy. Used to be below average but I glowed up in one year and now I’m 3-4 months away from becoming like a 7 or 8. Or even 9. Looksmaxing. Looks are 90 percent habits I’m telling you. To get to 8/10 or lower you need good habits. The rest is probably more influenced by genetic potential

[@oscarreyes1056]

"but what if when that girl comes into your life, you weren't ready" THIS! Man this alone is what drives me to get better at this. Beautiful women that would make great mothers are so rare that when one comes into your life you better be ready. Enjoyed the video and the insight from your self improvement journey!

[@AbeOtt24]

It drives me too man and I hope you got some value from the video. Also welcome to the community and I’ll be looking forward to seeing you around more

[@jasonmascarenhas5177]

If only I heeded this advice 6 months back, well as a man I need to own up, build myself and become better. Lost an amazing woman but life goes on

[@calmwaves111]

@@jasonmascarenhas5177 Keep it up brother, plenty of fish in the sea.

[@ShreshthoSaha]

Whatever you do never play with someone's feelings❤️

[@NotYolo_549]

true my girlfriend broke up with me today and she fucked with mine y’all have to be careful abt who you date and make sure they love you for who you are

[@arthurmorgan2906]

and never simp

[@iamYazeedd]

@@arthurmorgan2906whats something u do makes u a simp

[@TheUltimateMarioFan]

And always feel when someone's playing

[@jokerpilled2535]

Why? There’s no consequences for hurting someone’s feelings.

[@Primorkusha]

If more people knew about the book Social Secrets Mastery, they'd realize how easy it can be to attract the girl they want.

[@piedepew]

Bot

[@AbeOtt24]

@@Primorkusha I’ve never heard of that book but I’ll look into it man

[@searain1573]

I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Men and women think very differently from each other. It seems like it's impossible for men and women to emotionally connect with each other. Women do emotionally connect with other women, better than men do. Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone.

[@deanr1758]

​@@searain1573a man can also solve more problems for a girl its as simple as being a guy she can rely on you dont have to have the same qualities but if you want to be good with girls than try watching people picking up girls at bars you can watch on youtube but best is to have friend whos good with girls

[@FlamesAndWaves]

@@searain1573wdym how can they bond romantically? That’s a main part of advancing relationships.

[@thebestone11-r9y]

There is a book called Casanova Optimization of Attraction, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal.

[@css1998]

"Do not spend your strength on women, your vigor on those who ruin kings."~Proverbs 31:3 ✝️

[@obmij7898]

I spend my time improving on myself instead of waiting around for a relationship. Best thing to do right now.

[@AbeOtt24]

Exactly. The time is going to pass anyway so why not capture every moment as it passes

[@mrbawls8736]

you "improving" yourself is essentially based on the standards of women and is for the purpose of attracting women , so essentially you are not really focusing on yourself , you are not listening to yourself. what you want to do in life, think about it. what would the child me, unaffected by hormones, really want? what did you want to do growing up before puberty? that's the real you. don't let the hormones blind you

[@soundcrave9490]

​@@mrbawls8736 it's better to give up than to try

[@quixote5986]

how exactly are you improving yourself sir

[@senaxiogg8531]

I got isolated because I had to fight with stomach issues for years, no friends left right now, no girlfriend to support. Trying to build my garden now, did the first step by completing my education. Now its time to build my social skills and become a better person by every single day. Great Video man 👍

[@AbeOtt24]

I’m glad to hear you’re putting in the work, keep it up man and welcome to the community

[@jackliengme5713]

My biggest fear with women as that they'll think I'm a creep - I find it easy to talk, start conversations, text, and flirt, but I cannot get over the fear that any random girl I see will view me as a threat. Maybe that's on my end, though.

[@MrAlexs888]

Hey youre doing good, starting convos is the hardest i think for most of us. As long as youre not doing weird shit its all good

[@jackliengme5713]

@@MrAlexs888 That's true... thanks man

[@tappajaav]

Threat? Why?

[@jackliengme5713]

@@tappajaav Like a bad intentioned person. I just have trouble telling what to say and when it's appropriate.

[@leaode_cafe]

I understand you. It's hard to read them, you never know how to be with them, I always try to be respectful but some girls just expect you to act like a caveman, and you can be the caveman with the wrong girl

[@leonardokeller5254]

the way you speak of the first girl that entered your life and immediatle „became“ your entire life, just hits different because I was in the exact same situation just a year ago. thanks for this great video!

[@AbeOtt24]

Of course man, I hope you got some value out of it. Keep up the good work and hardships life throws at you, just remember that if you use them positively you’ll only benefit from them

[@bashar-v8u]

just be handsome like this man. it is over for sub5s

[@Lichenroc]

Blackpill spotted.

[@ModernDatingMastery]

*It’s refreshing to hear a straightforward approach to dating that doesn't involve games or gimmicks. Thanks for making this video!*

[@AbeOtt24]

Of course and i'm glad to hear you got value

[@khmerkhang3659]

vexoner - forbidden women books (thank me later)

[@saladninja69]

Remember how we all said the same old reason for breaking up "You deserve someone better"...So, it is now your turn to become "someone better". Keep up the good work brothers and sisters. Do not be sorry, be better.

[@AbeOtt24]

I appreciate you saying that man, this will definitely benefit anyone who reads it. Welcome to the community and i'll be looking forward to seeing you around more G

[@namelessfiend6493]

Cope.

[@divinitas]

"Insecurities when it comes to the way that I look" says bro with the face of an angel and the physique of a model. You look good man, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

[@Dragonmoon1598]

Very true. The importance of cultivating your garden, establishing your self-confidence and worth based on your own actions. Is that when it comes to the idea of dating and a relationship, you approach it with the idea of, "I want it, but I don't need it." And, the difference between wanting compared to needing will provide you a vastly different outcome around how you approach someone. How you will act and treat them during the relationship. And, if things don't work out, how you will react to that loss and recover.

[@AbeOtt24]

I really appreciate you saying all of that man, its all really valuable. Also welcome to the community and i'll be looking forward to getting more valuable comments from you and grow more together

[@ampirevfx]

this is the greatest video i've ever seen. i definitely have some attachment issues going on which ruined my last relationship because that rs was my only purpose. Rebuilding my life rn because of that and i felt so heard while watching this. Much love out to you

[@AbeOtt24]

I'm really glad to hear you got some value out of the video man. As long as you learn from what happens in life, you will only grow and get stronger. Keep up all of the good work you're doing and welcome to the community

[@divineprovidence803]

You're doing it right. Approaching and interacting with women will build confidence and help with social anxiety. Using dating apps or social media is an option but I've found many of the women are only looking for attention and aren't interested in dating.

[@xxChacaronXX]

"Build it and they will come"

[@bombergame8636]

For certain people only*

[@TheWittyCommentGuy]

They still won't come. They will still expect you to go to them. 😆

[@jokerpilled2535]

Gold diggers will come

[@xxChacaronXX]

@@jokerpilled2535 Just make sure the girl you pick has her own money and is somewhat emotionally stable. The worse Gold Diggers are usually obvious.

[@jokerpilled2535]

@@xxChacaronXX I don’t care about a girl with money, I’m looking for a traditional girl.

[@PaLaDinDen]

A guy with a perfect hairline, jawline, face features and body, probably an okay job (working under 40h a week) is teaching 4chan users to just go for it, while saying he also had experienced "brief moments of anxiety" while trying to do it. Pure comedy, keep it going, man

[@dobridjordje]

He also got rejected plenty of times, trust me, its a learning curve, not a cheat code unless you're going for the shallowest of women that exist.

[@dobridjordje]

Maybe try to listen to his advice instead of being a miserable blackpilled piece of crap that nobody will love or respect.

[@spirinotox3728]

I agree with you, that's not work with ugly and poors guys

[@Matt12323]

he has all this now, but like he said, before he did nothing to his life, after getting more confident he starting taking care of himself. Thats why his appeareance is way better now, so all you need to do is take care of yourself first

[@Mcgee833]

“Teaching 4chan users to just go for it” that made me crack up.😂

[@janitoalevic]

I also learned this the hard way, still building the garden, not only for a future girl, but mostly for me!

[@positivevibez6328]

Thank you for this!! For so long I was chasing after women trying and trying but it was getting me nowhere in the right direction so I started focusing on myself, distanced myself focused on my goals and now I’m in a much better spot. Still no girl but I’m happy with where I’m at and who I’ve become.

[@xajicz]

To be honest; In the past I was obsessed with getting a girlfriend. Till like one year ago, nowadays I just want social contact with both women and men to improve my social skills and confidence. Thank you for the video, it reminded me again that I'm lowkey on the right path!

[@julianbartsch9956]

I'm autistic and generally struggle with socializing. It's hard for me to find real life friends or even a realationship, because I live in a place where there aren't the right people for me and because of society nowdays. I was looking for a girlfriend when I was 12 until I've stopped looking for with 14. With 17, people often asked me if I already have a GF, why I'd never had one or even why I'm still a virgin. And all these questions triggered me and made me try again to find someone in 2016 (cuz I'd thought it's the right age for that). But all my few attempts failed. I couldn't handle with getting denied and took it too much to my chest. I've spent the whole summer with feeilng upset for never having a realationship. But luckily I'd found a long distance realationship in 2017-2018 and I still appreciate to had someone at least. But since I'm single again, I wish I could find someone again. I quickly felt how much I miss it to have someone who gives me love and affection.

[@JacobRodriguez-pb8rr]

Ay bro thanks for making this, I really needed something like this. I know this girl at my middle school who is my 10/10, but I think I’m just a friend to her. I’m starting to build my garden rn, so I might have a chance with her, it’s slow but it’s progress.

[@AbeOtt24]

Just keep in mind that it’s best to do it for yourself and if she wants to join you, that’s up to her. Keep up the good work man

[@wilkosgaming9224]

I like the metaphor for this, a bit like "you can give a man a fish and he'll eat for a day, but teaching a man how to fix and he'll eat for a lifetime" kinda thing

[@BrodySharkey-p9s]

You sir have just influenced me when I just began building my life up. I used to just lay in bed and watch instagram, but when I just started to go to the gym and socializing with some new and old friends, this video was gods message that I was moving in the right direction. God bless you Abe.

[@VelosoCraft]

"Fear can be conquered, anxiety must be endured."

[@AlexPlata-mk7hu]

Finally a honest KZbinr I never had a girlfriend and I’m worried I might never I got rejected I’m in highschool I’m skinny I’m 15 in 10 grade my life sucks A$$ I’m always crying im so depressed and I hide it. I always do fake smiles I’m a huge gamer like you. When ever I see a couple in my school it’s always a reminder of something I don’t have. I always pretend to be happy I try to be funny I get so many reality check getting called I’m annoying I suck I feel like this world is better off without me first time I can relate to this guy this is my first time I ever opened up I always feel my neck tightened from always pang of sadness I’m never happy.. I’m talking to my crush and its obvious she dosent like me back she takes hours to reply I’m the only one who’s talking at that point I feel like dying a lot sometimes… I have horrible grades and and skip classes always leaveing campus my older brother who’s. 1 year in a half is opposite of me in every way HES buff he has a girlfriend good grade don’t get me wrong im happy for him it’s a reminder what I don’t have. I always cry myself to sleep always wanting to die. I’ll sub and like.

[@mafp22w]

So after you built your garden, what benefit was the girl? If a girl isn’t there for you during the building, what value is she at the finish line?

[@namelessfiend6493]

A liability.

[@RaineWilder]

There is no finish line. Your “garden” stays with you as you keep working on yourself and your life purpose. A woman is someone to share your life experiences with, but not the goal. Your goal is to live a life worth living.

[@omaidshams3978]

Sorry to say this, but women don’t build they move in. Girls are meant to be a perk of being successful as they naturally gravitate towards you when you are doing well for yourself. After all they want the best man they can get.

[@hydarail6477]

that's also a good point

[@neroidius6915]

Have someone to share the garden with for life

[@zerohayabusa7315]

I don't want to sound mean, but I feel like most people who watch this video will feel motivated for a short time but then they still won't change anything about their lifes...

[@LADA_Vesta_CROSS6855]

@zerohayabusa7315 Well you're right i clicked on this video but i don't Really care about girls just wanted to see whats what

[@OffWhiteGhost]

I am on it rn this is just a motivation push just step by step but my biggest problem is that i pretty much have 0 Friends because all of them just take drugs and thats not my way so idk how to find new friends

[@shush-quiet]

​@@OffWhiteGhostyou could try engaging with communities that share your interests. It'll be easier to find something to talk about

[@Soakilla92]

I had this awakening with the same thought process as this man had spoke of about 2 months ago. I was very depressed about losing my mother. It carried with me for years heavily I stopped being me and being present i was very anti social. It ruined my relationship of 6 years with my gf but I now realize the pain I caused not really dealing with my emotions. I still live with her but her heart has now changed.So I’m improving myself with self love (working out,skincare routine, not downing myself, being present, and not taking time for granted. I appreciate whoever read this it means a lot.

[@frahohen]

I am nearly 30 and I had to fight a lot of trauma and emotional abuse from the family. If I would ever get a girl, she needs to love me and stay when I am at my lowest. If she cannot do that all the quality and stuff is useless. Therefore she needs to love without the garden. Then it is true love, not this fake love.

[@ChrisRane]

True. This true love will strengthen the people to get through the struggles of life together. You need a teammate. You don't need to be a checklist for anyone. What if you struggle and you can't keep your partner's checklist of you as the perfect product running? Will you have a teammate?

[@frahohen]

@@ChrisRane Yeah, but the woman today want that checklist. This society with all that crap of modern dating made them that way. I am very old school and to me nearly every woman I see thinks this sick. They lost what it means to truly love someone and have no empathy and compassion. As soon as life gets difficult, they run and just want the good times. They love to believe the lie and go with the devil to hell instead of walking with truth, god and realize what the true path is, which everyone went before the stupid pill and protection for sex in the 1960s. If you read the bible, you know exactly why relationships do not last anymore. The woman refuse to become one flesh with her man and she also refuse to take the duties as a woman and respect her man. In the bible it even states that the woman should not leave her man if they are one flesh (for context marriage happens in the heart and not in church or on paper), but most women do, because the modern dating believe of vanity (sin) kicks in and they monkey branch to a "better" man, but become unhappy in the end, because they did lie to themselves who they truly love. They are only allowed to have a new man if the present has lived his life, it is stated. Therefore, the man does not choose. He is chosen and if a woman did choose him, but left him, she experiences all the pleasure (sin) in the world afterward but loses intimacy ultimately, and he is cursed and broken for life, never being able to commit this strong has he did with the woman that is actually his flesh. I am telling you this, because this is my testimony to you. Do not be chosen fast. She has to show you her character, when you are at your worst. If she stays, marry her.

[@Hubcool367]

I want us to build OUR garden, not my own where you're a mere guest (and since you haven't invested in it, you'd be okay leaving without a second thought if I ever go through periods where I can't take care of the garden as well as I used to/you find a better garden elsewhere).

[@SwjatoslawHD]

You are wrong! I have had traumas from my family as well. you need to heal and be happy with yourself. you can not expect to stay damaged and let the trauma drain you every day and expect another person to fulfill you, thats not how reality works. you will allways stay drained and alone because nobody wants to be with someone that is allways going downwards. Fucking fight and face your trauma. do shadow work, explore your psychie, meditate. be 100% happy alone with just yourself and you will be so magnetic people will come from all places because they want some of your peacefullnes aura. im 32, i lived with traume 32 years, healed a couple of weeks ago and healing was the best descicion in my life.

[@frahohen]

@@SwjatoslawHD You are not healed at all. It is better to live a truth in pain than to live a lie in happiness. True happiness comes from intimacy and intimacy can only be achieved if you can be vulnerable with one another without judgement, otherwise it ends in hurt again. You can have 1000 of people around you and they will mean nothing to you, because only one girl could give you the love you need to be real. I learned this when I started to walk with god, and started reading the bible. Vanity (in context to self-help, healing and however this is called) is in fact a sin and to accept and acknowledge your pain one another is actually true strength, because at that point you can grow and face reality with your people and you are be able to let go of the wrong people. Your people might not come over night, but they like the real you and most important they will stay.

[@rogue966]

Bro i feel you, i mean i achieved this mentality at my 26 yo… you know life is harsh, is it for everyone, but sometimes this life can hit you so hard that you have to fight back your demons… i have suffered anxiety as result for been good in my toxic job… i literally had a burnout… so like a phoenix i had to came back from my ashes… i started to take care of myself in every way, and started to live my own life… and in the end i achieved serenity and balance… nowadays life is still harsh fore everyone but now i know my value, and i have my own life… let’s see what will happen… i hope that everyone out there will stop to have bad habits and thoughts and start to live his own life… you deserve it ❤

[@luiz_second]

I can relate so much to this. Thanks for the video mate, I'm 20 single, never kissed (lmao) and I've never been in a relationship. However in the last years I developed a good shape, got in medical college, I'm studying a lot and I'm trying to be my best version. I still haven't been able to date the girls I wanted but I'm keep going forward. Great video!!

[@AbeOtt24]

Great job man I’m glad to hear you’re putting in the work. Keep it up and welcome to the community

[@basedchad534]

Ya no anime pfp gonna operate on me g.

[@homiesenatep]

Good work! Just the thing, is that when you enter a relationship, you will always have your own problems. Just like her, many women I interacted with still have their own problems. That’s just human nature, we always have imperfections or flaws. Many people enter relationships with broken hearts or problems, and depending how they treat it, they either stay together or break up. I wouldn’t worry about my insecurities when approaching a girl, because I know they have their own too, we aren’t perfect and that’s okay. Of course there’s the narcissists and psychopaths you have to stay away from, but you’ll know the difference between the two and the normal ones

[@jamalhendricks3978]

I'll summarize. "Ignore my video. Just be hot. It doesn't matter what you say, lmao. Just be hot. It's literally that easy and nothing else matters".

[@rapideplays6744]

I’ve been working on myself physically for about 3-4 years now, I was single that whole time apart from one girl who I had a truly miserable relationship with because I was so insecure and worried about it and made a million mistakes. But I learnt so much about myself and about how to handle my insecurities and emotions and a few months ago I met the most beautiful, loving and kind girl that I ever could have asked for. I was so glad that I was actually ready to accept this amazing girl into my life because I had cultivated that garden and worked on myself and learned from past mistakes to where I’m now securely in love with this perfect girl. Never ever give up on yourself or love, God will send you on the right path when you’re ready 🙏

[@MikleSokoloff]

Some of the best advice ever. But I still have no plan. How to improve my confidence, my communication skill and etc. I'm not bad and not perfect. But it feels like there are so many things to improve. Wish you luck!

[@nqoff]

You don't need a plan or garden. You already have ur own website(ur garden haha)) Improve to middle and senior

[@MetalSeasSiren]

I am not sure what brought me here, but am always happy to find a new channel. Maybe this video is advice for men only, but at least in my experience, social connections can happen from the most unlikely elements coming together. You resemble someone I cared about, so naturally I did a double take when this video popped up in my recommendations. This shows how someone's history can create a more favorable impression, but looking for that special inner beauty is still very important. I left a comment just to say that everyone here deserves to have good people in their lives, deserves to be cared about, and are all worthy of love. May everyone here have their wishes come true and may happiness pursue you on swiftest wings.

[@monster_gman.]

i will build a graveyard instead.

[@ItsLelingTime]

Sign me up

[@LifeEnjoyer463]

Time to choose.

[@TheMalignoGames]

In 2021 as senior at high school I had to change state because of my father's job, and due to covid-19, I could finish my hs online, so I didnt change for one here where I live. This deprived me of making new friends like a normal 17 teenager, at school. And as I have social anxiety, I couldnt just go and talk to people and make new friends out there. The past 3 years have been the most depressive, meaningless and lonely years of my life. Not just about girls, but friendships and bonds at all. This video really helped me, I will try to apply what you said and make new friends, maybe meet a cool girl, lets see. Thank you.

[@AbeOtt24]

I’m sorry to hear about that and I believe things will turn around for the better as long as you put in the work. Keep it up man and welcome to the community

[@alfaruq9540]

Now there’s no butterflies seeking for gardens, just for money. Keep the garden for yourself only.

[@simonster-9094]

Who hurt you?

[@mateshpl6552]

Money can't buy everything people need

[@MissiFull]

@@simonster-9094 I understand you, but you lack empathy.

[@xavierpatel5739]

@@mateshpl6552 nah it definitely can, all my problems would be solved if I had money

[@adriamaricopa8564]

Thanks, man! I had an experience last year working that a girl told that we knew each other. As I wasn't ready on that moment I missed a what seemed a really nice person. You're right, congrats, bro

[@AbeOtt24]

There's always something we can learn from those experiences. Keep up all of the good work man and welcome to the community

[@VividVirid]

You never want to be told to wait but that’s often times what’s best for us

[@MASTERSYNTHOR]

it was like you spoke to my soul, same thing happened to me i feel you. Thank you for helping all the bros out!

[@AbeOtt24]

Of course man I’m glad you got value and keep up the good work

[@janickpappas2916]

Really nice words, i think its exactly right like that. I already do most of that, i try to tell girls they are pretty every time i see one that i find pretty, i work out every day, dont drink, dont smoke, baught an appartment and safe as much money and days of vacation as possible for when that girl comes

[@jesusisking3814]

Jesus Christ wants a personal relationship with you through the Holy Spirit, not religion and blind faith. You see, we all have sinned and deserve punishment but God saved us from the eternal punishment of our sins by sending His Son Jesus Christ, fullness of God bodily, a perfect, sinless sacrifice to pay the penalty for our sins by shedding His blood on the cross. He died and rose from the dead so that we may have everlasting life. It is all finished and now for you to accept the free gift of grace you must believe from your heart in Jesus Christ, that He paid the price for your sins, that He is risen and alive. Don't trust in your own goodness but transfer your trust to Jesus and follow Him, get to know Him personally. By faith you will receive the Holy Spirit, become born again, know Jesus personally and He will transform your heart and clean you from the inside out. Believe in Him, read the Bible and pray for the Holy Spirit to fill you and change you, obey the Word. Much love and God bless you!

[@reddingblood1467]

Thx for this vid, im 20 years old and its hard to remind myself to have patience. Im doing everything right with diet, exercising, socializing, etc. Making progress, but im no where near excellent in these areas yet. And i just had my first kiss about two months ago but things didnt work out with that girl... but (ik what youre gonna say, "youll only 20 bro") i feel like im just running out of time to experience young love etc. Wont go into details lol. But your garden analogy you used is SUPER creative and i never heard anything like that before. Appreciate you bro. Im praying for gen Z gang, this uphill battle we are fighting is so real

[@AbeOtt24]

I’m glad to hear you’re putting in the work man and I believe the right one for you will come with time

[@improvemyself256]

Beautifully said, man. Really gave me the inspiration to just start somewhere, even if it's not perfect so that I can grow to become the person I want to be. Thank you.

[@AbeOtt24]

I'm glad to hear you got some value out of the video and i'm looking forward to seeing your growth bro, keep up all of the good work

[@megabebrik2]

I can relate to your story. I broke up with my first girlfriend a little more than a month ago. Though it was me, who initiated break up, i still was struck by it. It felt, like my life purpose just disappeared with her. Now i understand how much I incorporated her in my life, completely forgetting about myself and about my friends. Though i still struggle with everyday life, i decided to act a bit more active, than i did before. I started walking outside way more often, than i used to do. I started going to the pool every week. It helps me to cope with my feelings a bit. I hope i'll be able to recover from it someday and become a better man.

[@alf73]

An important thing is opening up your garden in the first place because butterflies can't go into a closed garden.

[@nucatm]

Great to see this, that someone understood this. A man needs to build first the boat, learn to sail, learn to sail in rough waters, become a captain of his own life and only then invite the passenger onboard. A lot of passengers will want to enter the ship and sail with a great captain automatically. I am really happy for you that you have understood this, since most men even in their 30s and 40s get it wrong. I had a similar journey. You will have an amazing and fulfilling life Sir! 😊

[@AbeOtt24]

I really appreciate that analogy man

[@Abrahamgamer8776]

"don't expect a butterfly to stay in a dead garden, you have to grow that garden to make it better for yourself and the butterfly."

[@AbeOtt24]

Very true, i appreciate the valuable comment man

[@k33rosene]

this is high level game... seeing it you realize it so young is super inspiring and gives me hope... thank you for sharing this Abe!

[@AbeOtt24]

Of course man, thank you for commenting

[@Modeltnick]

I wish more people today would take advantage of your life lessons! You are not only building up a meaningful life for yourself but you are gracious enough to share how you are doing it! Thanks for another great lesson! -N

[@AbeOtt24]

My pleasure man and it's great to see you again

[@johnmillerpere_grin6371]

You brought up an excellent point. When you make something or someone no. 1 in your life, it or they become your life. I guess this answers a question for my relationship with God, as well as a future romantic relationship.

[@wypsy2007]

I recently went through a breakup after dating for only 4 days. This video changed my life!

[@BreadGood_21]

4 days? Holy bro that’s rough Don’t worry you’ll find the right one for you

[@Lee-ew6pr]

you’ll be fine brother just focus on u for now. they’ll come to you

[@herbasVojta]

Many of the things you touched upon hit home man. You keep doing what you're doing, I dig it.

[@AbeOtt24]

I'm glad to hear you got some value G and i appreciate you

[@onni3150]

i dont ever want to fall in love again. i aint even planning to be here for long anymore

[@the.komoru]

A relationship isn’t the only goal to have for life. I get wanting a genuine connection and love with someone, but you have to love and focus on yourself first. It’s the only way to have a stable and healthy relationship when you get into one.

[@AbeOtt24]

I fully agree with what Komoru said, focus on building yourself and when the right women comes, you will be ready. And even if it takes time, the true prize will be the character you are building. Welcome to the community and keep up the good work you're doing man, I believe you will go far in life with enough work and patience

[@dominikwisniewski1818]

I hope you don't mean you intend to kill yourself. Will be praying for you 🙏

[@davidkovacs6428]

Loved the metaphor with the garden, it pretty much makes you imagine the message and understand it. I hope there are lot of kings out there succeeding thanks to this! 🙏

[@ALofiLife]

Women don’t really love you from what I’ve experienced. They are a reflection of your success which makes more sense - that only means though they love what you provide - not who you are.

[@Mcgee833]

That’s why they get played by players. Then say “all men are the same”. You need to fit a certain criteria for them to like you.

[@патрик_белка228]

Man, I m so happy that I ve found this video. It helps me a lot. Thank u so much.

[@Nixadvi]

Step 1:Be handsome like this guy

[@TheMinecreater]

Strong video, as someone who was in a similar situation but is now in a strong 4 year relationship I'd like to give my two cents on a few points. First, I wholeheartedly support the approach of working to get yourself to a point that you yourself find things in your character and behavior that you find attractive but doing that I see some people only ever thinking to the first couple of dates and hooking up (i.e. just focus on looking good and having money etc.) when working on your self worth and confidence (and overall happiness with oneself) has a far bigger impact on partners that look for a healthy and stable relationship. Second, one of the most healthy approaches to having a stable and equal relationship comes from you being ok with yourself. By not entirely relying on your partner it creates the opportunity to talk about issues in the relationship that otherwise would not be spoken about cause of the fear of "ruining" things. But communication and openly discussing priorities, feelings and intentions is the only way to keep the relationship leveled and healthy. (sorry for that long comment)

[@meta20074]

God is your purpose. Seek Him first and He will put the right woman in your life at the right time.

[@YapSoBad]

In italy we say that god is a dog btw

[@jacobbos2208]

@meta20074 True

[@autxmnn404]

god dont exist, stop saying a bullshit and do anything with yourself

[@LeftvsReich]

"Just worship this magical fairytale deity and the bishes will come to you". What a joke.

[@meta20074]

@@LeftvsReich So do you believe the world came from nothing? Do you believe that life came from non-life? The animate from the non-animate? It is far more reasonable to believe in God than to believe that nothing became something. In addition there is so much proof behind Jesus’s Resurrection. Do some research. God bless you, I hope you open your mind. It’ll lead you to true peace.

[@gimperiale]

Wow. I never thought of this analogy before; of growing a garden to attract the butterflies. But I’m going to add that to my journey of continuous self-improvement that I’m already on ;) Thanks bro!

[@AbeOtt24]

@@gimperiale of course man I’m glad I could help

[@naamaniteproductions3235]

That sounds like something Geoff would do 😂. Great video, can’t wait to see you get 10k!

[@AbeOtt24]

Haha we were both doing doing some of the things together, and it will be soon

[@BenCook-cd1pv]

Bro thx so much you changed my life forever

[@AbeOtt24]

Of course man I’m glad to hear that

[@Nussholzmobiliar]

If you treat a woman like a celebrity she will see you as a fan.

[@Larscarfanaticlief]

This video will probably help so much, I wanna thank you for that. ''Build a pyramid and it will take time, but if a storm approaches it will stay up''

[@AbeOtt24]

I really like that analogy man thank you for sharing that. Keep up the good work

[@Sarah-gp3xh]

I'm a lesbian but i also struggle to find the right one. I dont feel insecure, ive worked on myself for years, i work out and make sure i look good. I'm a bit nervous when talking with people i'm interested in and thats normal.

[@bludere]

Literally video about me , thanks for a good work keep it up ❤

[@AbeOtt24]

I hope you got value and I appreciate you

[@TikyeWilliams]

You forgot “don’t be ugly”

[@trerashad]

There is no such thing as “ugly” just untapped potential

[@rodolfochavez2676]

@@trerashad yeees believe me, uglyness exists and is a horrible thing to pass throught

[@aidanpenn7283]

@@trerashad nah, some people (like me) are just ugly and you can’t fix that no matter how hard you try. It’s something we have to accept.

[@JakeMaloof-cp1lr]

@@aidanpenn7283The Lord’s creation is beautiful

[@JakeMaloof-cp1lr]

@@aidanpenn7283and you are a part of it

[@elvino2000]

Hey, just wanted to say that I really like your take on this. What you described was pretty much my motto four years ago. Now I live together with my girlfriend of 2 years, am close to having my bachelors degree, have a job and a good social life. I too struggled with gaming addiction and had a period in my life where I did pretty much nothing of value for 3 years. Taking my life seriously and trying to better myself was the best thing for me and I don´t like to imagine where I would be now if I hadn´t turned my life around. KZbin often tries to push alphamale and pick-up artist content on my page and I was slowly losing faith that there is anything worth watching for young people struggling with the same issues I did in my teens. So your video as a whole and seeing that the comments weren´t mysoginistic bs was a breath of fresh air!

[@th3_d4rk_kn1ght]

ts actually doesn’t work for the regular Joe, before “building his garden” this guy was already pulling girls left and right (literally in one week he went on like 3 or 4 dates, that’s what’s in the video). bro, shit doesn’t work like that, 9 out of 10 guys don’t get 3 or 4 dates every 6 months or even a year, let alone in a week, i’ve never been on a date and i’m pushing in on 18. this is irrational, utterly delusional to even think that everyone can pull girls, “but to make them stay you need to actually build your personality”. regular guys build their garden TO HAVE A SLIM CHANCE of pulling a girl, and to make them stay it’s pretty much impossible, because they’ll always go for the better guy. people have prejudice against you, even social status and popularity dictate your chances, and I, as a 7/10 guy (8 in a good day, imo), don’t get a single chance from girls i actually like from my league, although i’ve seen 3/10 guys with awful personalities (drug addicts, rude to people and borderline criminals) get the prettiest women bcuz you know what? they’re popular. they have a status. yet their garden is non-existant. for them, butterflies seem to flying into deserts, concrete industrial walls, while i’m trying to flourish my already decent garden and don’t manage to get a single fly coming in. take care.

[@beamcore1410]

Hard agree…nearly 27 and never been on a date, never kissed a girl, never had a girl show any interest in me…some things just don’t happen

[@th3_d4rk_kn1ght]

@@beamcore1410 yeah see this further proofs my point, this guy is a delusional bum that lives either stuck in a bubble or under a rock.

[@burakbostanc4545]

Thank you a lot man! I was so much thinking about my dating life and after a point, it has become my first priority. But after that video, i realised ı'm doing wrong. I'm a person that can build a garden like you said but ı was waiting for a girl and thought that she will get this garden with herself. But ı understood that's meaningless. From now on, ı'm going to make a better life for me and my future wife. Thanks a lot for awekening.

[@AbeOtt24]

I'm really glad to hear you got value out of the video man. Keep up the good work and welcome to the community

[@janovmi2]

says a normal-looking guy, what are the hideous of us supposed to do? for us cold approaching or messaging is not an option

[@kanteristu]

Well said my friend! Thank you for this. I really needed it.

[@AbeOtt24]

Of course man i'm glad you could watch and welcome to the community

[@lolez-o1z]

Last week, i dated a 10/10 girl beautiful, smart and funny. But i am in the worst part of my life, i am insecure unhappy etc.. And i think she feels that, so i missed my shot on the best girl that i have ever get the chance to be with.

[@AbeOtt24]

I’m sorry to hear that man. Things like that will happen but what truly matters is your attitude towards it and what you do about it. Stay strong bro and keep your head up, I believe things will get better and that you will make it far in life

[@kirestoilkov]

Man, this happens to a lot of us, the confidence come from trying and failing, trying and failing again, trying and succeeding. Don't worry, you will meet lots of other girls.

[@AndresRamos-vs9us]

That sucks, we are supposed to be leaders, to be strong, to be high value, they only need to be pretty. It's very hard to be strong when you are autistic like me

[@damianpascual9245]

Where did u knew her ?

[@lolez-o1z]

@@damianpascual9245 at the university

[@vitali6133]

I used to be a simp, looked very weak and women didn't love me. Now I'm pretty self-confident, I started training and I look much better than before and you know what?.. Nothing's changed. I still don't have a girlfriend. I don't really believe that if you start improving yourself, women will start chasing you to be your girlfriends or the mothers of your children. They may notice you because you've become more attractive and self-improvement will help you overcome your social anxiety and the fear of approaching but it DOES NOT guarantee women will start loving after this.

[@Korgvex]

All of this is tiring. I wish I was 10 when I didn’t give a f about any of this. Perhaps I don’t deserve anything.

[@Brubarov]

If you feel like you're going through an inner desert, remember you have the power to transform it into a beautiful garden. Well said brother! Thank you

[@laxuscihak6479]

guy flipped hot genes has hallo effect going on for him and talks about this, damn thats crazy

[@biowbiow]

Thank you, you just reminded me that i fell of from the right way. gotta start improving yet again

[@AbeOtt24]

@@biowbiow keep up the grind man 💪

[@dudedude949]

Plot twist: I’m single and DONT want a girlfriend.

[@Jonasofzo]

Then wtf are you doing here? Get the fuck out😂😂

[@brandonrivera5902]

Same. I’m good being single and free

[@lucasmejia3033]

Than why do you guys watch the video and comment on the comment section.

[@simonlee7077]

@@lucasmejia3033 People like him are just trying to stir outrage and anger. Sad thing, but these people who have no life outside the internet

[@nachtadler568]

It's nice you have a bro that is going with you. Never give up guys

[@AbeOtt24]

I appreciate you and i'm glad he's on the journey with me

[@aidanpenn7283]

In today’s society, getting a gf is literally impossible. I’m 25 and still never kissed a girl and will never understand how it’s possible.

[@juanvillalba539]

Same

[@TheGreatSalsaMan]

Western dating is just toxic AF. Women have such ridiculously high standards for men that so many men are dealing with self confidence, body, and self esteem issues…you shouldn’t have to be a 10 to get with a 6…

[@mikinatsumi7772]

wtf is this mentality

[@Triangleman4428]

You can start by changing your powerpuff girls profile picture

[@riobell2539]

Start building your garden. Lifting weights were my first steps. It not only made me bigger, but opened my eyes to my ambitions and goals. It gave me discipline by staying consistent, which in turn spread to all other aspects of my life.

[@Sajmon_11]

all faith in my young brother

[@TwisterMa]

All good until your butterfly finds better garden. Modern girls just not worth it.

[@sidharthkshetrimayum8220]

i really wasn't ready broo.... damn.... learnt it the hard way....

[@bluecollarbuilds]

I’ve lost interest at this point

[@NemeczeK101]

gaymaxxing here we come

[@puresnowball965]

awesome stuff man! I currently like this one girl and will take this advice! being single kinda sucks while seeing a lot of people my age start their own life with a person they love

[@AbeOtt24]

You got this

[@DeeK1992]

if she left you just because you opened up to her, she just wasnt the right one...good riddance tbh. A girl who truly loves you wont leave you because of that