If you're single but want a girlfriend, this video was literally made for you…

I really hope you got some value out of this one.
#selfimprovement #selfdevelopment #dating

[@AbeOtt]

Keep building your garden and stay patient, the right one will come with time

[@404errorcodeV]

And if they don't, then what?

[@borsostamas-janos1299]

@@404errorcodeVthen you have a beautiful garden

[@KxemonPlayz]

if we build the garden and then she comes "the right one" how will we keep her & have the game lol. Game & confidence so important

[@Manuel_-kd4gt]

But the important thing that many guys forget is: a big part of building this garden is to get experience with girls

[@TheWay413]

Remember in Chess, the King can only move one square tile per turn. And the Queen can move as many square tiles per turn. As a King, you got to make each day/turn count.

[@andrewjustice5198]

"If you want to be with a queen, you must work on becoming a king".

[@AbeOtt]

Facts

[@Mr.McWatson]

Expressed in the trashiest way possible, yes 😂

[@christiansnaturestudio6599]

I want to be a God

[@andrewjustice5198]

@@christiansnaturestudio6599 Hell yes! That would be awesome.

[@polishstick0609]

I am just an pesky peasant. I'll anchieve nothing beacuse I am basically nothing

[@lemuelbernard]

This is so true, man! Don’t chase 10s; become a 10, and you will attract 10s.

[@AbeOtt]

Exactly. Also welcome to the community man, I’m glad you’re here

[@Ciskuss]

If you are not a 10 in looks, you can do all you want but it doesn't work

[@lemuelbernard]

@@Ciskuss To some, this is true. But external looks eventually fade. However, character and self-improvement typically improve over time. If someone is just interested in you for your looks, they are not worth it.

[@Manuel_-kd4gt]

​@@lemuelbernardmost of the time i would agree that you should prioritize personality but still looks are so important for example the first impression and it can tell you many things about a person because if they look really good and fresh probably they take care of themselves goes to the gym etc. So saying that looks are not important is trash advice its more like 50% looks and 50% personality

[@Shleder]

@@Manuel_-kd4gt clueless its all looks personality just needs to not be too awful

[@SocialCreditFarmer]

I don’t even have a friend…but I’ll keep building my garden.

[@AbeOtt]

You’re on the right path man, keep up the good work and welcome to the community. Always feel free to let me know if you need anything, I’ll be here

[@RS-rz4ll]

🤝

[@senaxiogg8531]

Mate same, lets both strive for greatness 💪

[@TacticalSocks]

Like I learned not so long ago: What you look for in a person, first you gotta have it yourself.

[@AbeOtt]

I really like that man i appreciate you saying it, I think others will find value out of this too

[@TheSniperMAJOR]

So I have to get overweight in order to have boobs to get a girl with D-cups? XD

[@Josh-sz8ip]

Already have that.

[@TacticalSocks]

@@TheSniperMAJOR Yes :)

[@meta20074]

God is your purpose. Seek Him first and He will put the right woman in your life at the right time.

[@Sushislayersex]

In italy we say that god is a dog btw

[@jacobbos2208]

@meta20074 True

[@autxmnn404]

god dont exist, stop saying a bullshit and do anything with yourself

[@AlbertEinstein1o1]

Whatever you do never play with someone's feelings❤️

[@NotYolo_549]

true my girlfriend broke up with me today and she fucked with mine y’all have to be careful abt who you date and make sure they love you for who you are

[@arthurmorgan2906]

and never simp

[@iamYazeedd]

@@arthurmorgan2906whats something u do makes u a simp

[@TheUltimateMarioFan]

And always feel when someone's playing

[@user-xt1tv8fx4b]

"I started to build my character" *lifting weights

[@rtxOrca]

to be fair he was in fact building his character, his character being his body lol

[@IdealMC]

yeah character includes stuff like discipline and hard work. it's not just personality

[@goncalogomes1025]

Try doing it for a month every day

[@user-xt1tv8fx4b]

@@goncalogomes1025 In war I've seen very slim people more disciplined than ripped people in civilian life. Building character has nothing to do with looks.

[@its_xen0n772]

@@user-xt1tv8fx4b cope

[@xxChacaronXX]

"Build it and they will come"

[@bombergame8636]

For certain people only*

[@mafp22w]

So after you built your garden, what benefit was the girl? If a girl isn’t there for you during the building, what value is she at the finish line?

[@obmij7898]

I spend my time improving on myself instead of waiting around for a relationship. Best thing to do right now.

[@AbeOtt]

Exactly. The time is going to pass anyway so why not capture every moment as it passes

[@jackliengme5713]

My biggest fear with women as that they'll think I'm a creep - I find it easy to talk, start conversations, text, and flirt, but I cannot get over the fear that any random girl I see will view me as a threat. Maybe that's on my end, though.

[@oscarreyes1056]

"but what if when that girl comes into your life, you weren't ready" THIS! Man this alone is what drives me to get better at this. Beautiful women that would make great mothers are so rare that when one comes into your life you better be ready. Enjoyed the video and the insight from your self improvement journey!

[@AbeOtt]

It drives me too man and I hope you got some value from the video. Also welcome to the community and I’ll be looking forward to seeing you around more

[@larianne_]

changing your environment and trying new things are also the things you need to do imo. Like, joining some courses, events etc. because no matter how beautiful a garden you make, if there’s no colorful butterflies they won’t be able to find you. And that’s what ive been going through for three years now! Damn you highschool!!

[@AbeOtt]

I appreciate you saying that, i think anyone who reads this will find value out of it. Also keep up all the good work and i believe you will make it far in life

[@Ryan-cb1ei]

I’ve discovered just how important location is when my twin moved for his job. I still live with my parents, good job, but I just want to save money, and my job is close to home so it makes no sense to move out. My friends also live home so I have no issue with it. But I live in the middle of the suburbs and meeting new people is tough, there’s not much to do or many spaces to meet younger people. My brother moved to small city where there’s soo many young professionals and he’s made so many new friends and can go to so many places to do so. Luckily I’ve been able to maximize how much I can do and I’ve got plenty of friends here but my god it made me realize just how important location is. Of course, moving isn’t easy though.

[@frahohen]

I am nearly 30 and I had to fight a lot of trauma and emotional abuse from the family. If I would ever get a girl, she needs to love me and stay when I am at my lowest. If she cannot do that all the quality and stuff is useless. Therefore she needs to love without the garden. Then it is true love, not this fake love.

[@ChrisRane]

True. This true love will strengthen the people to get through the struggles of life together. You need a teammate. You don't need to be a checklist for anyone. What if you struggle and you can't keep your partner's checklist of you as the perfect product running? Will you have a teammate?

[@frahohen]

@@ChrisRane Yeah, but the woman today want that checklist. This society with all that crap of modern dating made them that way. I am very old school and to me nearly every woman I see thinks this sick. They lost what it means to truly love someone and have no empathy and compassion. As soon as life gets difficult, they run and just want the good times. They love to believe the lie and go with the devil to hell instead of walking with truth, god and realize what the true path is, which everyone went before the stupid pill and protection for sex in the 1960s. If you read the bible, you know exactly why relationships do not last anymore. The woman refuse to become one flesh with her man and she also refuse to take the duties as a woman and respect her man. In the bible it even states that the woman should not leave her man if they are one flesh (for context marriage happens in the heart and not in church or on paper), but most women do, because the modern dating believe of vanity (sin) kicks in and they monkey branch to a "better" man, but become unhappy in the end, because they did lie to themselves who they truly love. They are only allowed to have a new man if the present has lived his life, it is stated. Therefore, the man does not choose. He is chosen and if a woman did choose him, but left him, she experiences all the pleasure (sin) in the world afterward but loses intimacy ultimately, and he is cursed and broken for life, never being able to commit this strong has he did with the woman that is actually his flesh. I am telling you this, because this is my testimony to you. Do not be chosen fast. She has to show you her character, when you are at your worst. If she stays, marry her.

[@Hubcool367]

I want us to build OUR garden, not my own where you're a mere guest (and since you haven't invested in it, you'd be okay leaving without a second thought if I ever go through periods where I can't take care of the garden as well as I used to/you find a better garden elsewhere).

[@SwjatoslawHD]

You are wrong! I have had traumas from my family as well. you need to heal and be happy with yourself. you can not expect to stay damaged and let the trauma drain you every day and expect another person to fulfill you, thats not how reality works. you will allways stay drained and alone because nobody wants to be with someone that is allways going downwards. Fucking fight and face your trauma. do shadow work, explore your psychie, meditate. be 100% happy alone with just yourself and you will be so magnetic people will come from all places because they want some of your peacefullnes aura. im 32, i lived with traume 32 years, healed a couple of weeks ago and healing was the best descicion in my life.

[@frahohen]

@@SwjatoslawHD You are not healed at all. It is better to live a truth in pain than to live a lie in happiness. True happiness comes from intimacy and intimacy can only be achieved if you can be vulnerable with one another without judgement, otherwise it ends in hurt again. You can have 1000 of people around you and they will mean nothing to you, because only one girl could give you the love you need to be real. I learned this when I started to walk with god, and started reading the bible. Vanity (in context to self-help, healing and however this is called) is in fact a sin and to accept and acknowledge your pain one another is actually true strength, because at that point you can grow and face reality with your people and you are be able to let go of the wrong people. Your people might not come over night, but they like the real you and most important they will stay.

[@Saintcityclub]

Wish me the best I’m leaving this comment so when someone likes it I can come back to it

[@AbeOtt]

The best is wished

[@wilkosgaming9224]

I like the metaphor for this, a bit like "you can give a man a fish and he'll eat for a day, but teaching a man how to fix and he'll eat for a lifetime" kinda thing

[@Korgvex]

All of this is tiring. I wish I was 10 when I didn’t give a f about any of this. Perhaps I don’t deserve anything.

[@VividVirid]

You never want to be told to wait but that’s often times what’s best for us

[@VelosoCraft]

"Fear can be conquered, anxiety must be endured."

[@Dragonmoon8526]

Very true. The importance of cultivating your garden, establishing your self-confidence and worth based on your own actions. Is that when it comes to the idea of dating and a relationship, you approach it with the idea of, "I want it, but I don't need it." And, the difference between wanting compared to needing will provide you a vastly different outcome around how you approach someone. How you will act and treat them during the relationship. And, if things don't work out, how you will react to that loss and recover.

[@AbeOtt]

I really appreciate you saying all of that man, its all really valuable. Also welcome to the community and i'll be looking forward to getting more valuable comments from you and grow more together

[@NathanielTay7]

I haven't commented on a video in a good while but goddamn you grew so much. Your demeaner, motivation, etc.. I myself have always found it hard to be great with women. You can be attractive, tall but honestly confidence is key. And naturally i sometimes get nervous. My job has luckily helped a ton & I had the same experience with a girl myself when I was 18. but overtime I overcame and forgot & now it feels like a memory. keep at it!

[@AbeOtt]

It’s great to see you again man and i appreciate that. Also you’re right, confidence is definitely a huge part when it comes to being good with women, i appreciate you saying that

[@senaxiogg8531]

I got isolated because I had to fight with stomach issues for years, no friends left right now, no girlfriend to support. Trying to build my garden now, did the first step by completing my education. Now its time to build my social skills and become a better person by every single day. Great Video man 👍

[@AbeOtt]

I’m glad to hear you’re putting in the work, keep it up man and welcome to the community

[@ampirevfx]

this is the greatest video i've ever seen. i definitely have some attachment issues going on which ruined my last relationship because that rs was my only purpose. Rebuilding my life rn because of that and i felt so heard while watching this. Much love out to you

[@AbeOtt]

I'm really glad to hear you got some value out of the video man. As long as you learn from what happens in life, you will only grow and get stronger. Keep up all of the good work you're doing and welcome to the community

[@positivevibez6328]

Thank you for this!! For so long I was chasing after women trying and trying but it was getting me nowhere in the right direction so I started focusing on myself, distanced myself focused on my goals and now I’m in a much better spot. Still no girl but I’m happy with where I’m at and who I’ve become.

[@bluecollarbuilds]

I’ve lost interest at this point

[@saladninja69]

Remember how we all said the same old reason for breaking up "You deserve someone better"...So, it is now your turn to become "someone better". Keep up the good work brothers and sisters. Do not be sorry, be better.

[@AbeOtt]

I appreciate you saying that man, this will definitely benefit anyone who reads it. Welcome to the community and i'll be looking forward to seeing you around more G

[@trockenfruchte468]

I clicked on the video despite believing this is another random type of "oh you gotta work out har, oh you gotta put on deodorant on your feet, oh you gotta shower twice a day" video, but it wasn't. Just someone who shared their own genuine experience in a calm, non-obtrusive and reflected way. Thank you so much :D

[@michaelwilliams298]

I really needed to hear this today thanks man! It feels like I am in a similar situation right now but by putting myself first as the priority i feel like I can start building my garden around that. I appreciate the advice and perspectives that you are giving to young men like myself.

[@AbeOtt]

I'm glad you got some value out of the video. Keep up all of the good work man and welcome to the community, i'll be looking forward to seeing you around more

[@improvemyself256]

Beautifully said, man. Really gave me the inspiration to just start somewhere, even if it's not perfect so that I can grow to become the person I want to be. Thank you.

[@AbeOtt]

I'm glad to hear you got some value out of the video and i'm looking forward to seeing your growth bro, keep up all of the good work

[@homiesenatep]

Good work! Just the thing, is that when you enter a relationship, you will always have your own problems. Just like her, many women I interacted with still have their own problems. That’s just human nature, we always have imperfections or flaws. Many people enter relationships with broken hearts or problems, and depending how they treat it, they either stay together or break up. I wouldn’t worry about my insecurities when approaching a girl, because I know they have their own too, we aren’t perfect and that’s okay. Of course there’s the narcissists and psychopaths you have to stay away from, but you’ll know the difference between the two and the normal ones

[@rapideplays6744]

I’ve been working on myself physically for about 3-4 years now, I was single that whole time apart from one girl who I had a truly miserable relationship with because I was so insecure and worried about it and made a million mistakes. But I learnt so much about myself and about how to handle my insecurities and emotions and a few months ago I met the most beautiful, loving and kind girl that I ever could have asked for. I was so glad that I was actually ready to accept this amazing girl into my life because I had cultivated that garden and worked on myself and learned from past mistakes to where I’m now securely in love with this perfect girl. Never ever give up on yourself or love, God will send you on the right path when you’re ready 🙏

[@stevendang9925]

Great advice! Thank you Abe Ott.

[@AbeOtt]

You’re welcome man and welcome to the community

[@igorok3786]

Your video says the same thing as all the others. Work out, go outside, do things to impove your life. But your words touched me, a comment you made, I was able to see myself in this situation and so for that I think you made a great video.

[@999Jc999]

Damn right, my man. This video is very accurate and came to me at the right moment. I'm exactly in the point of making my garden and taking action and I feel identified with the background you explained. 10/10, thanks for your words and let's keep up the good work.

[@AbeOtt]

I'm glad to hear you got some value out of the video G and yes sir, we'll keep working hard and I have a feeling we'll both make it far in life with that work

[@MikleSokoloff]

Some of the best advice ever. But I still have no plan. How to improve my confidence, my communication skill and etc. I'm not bad and not perfect. But it feels like there are so many things to improve. Wish you luck!

[@rob_341]

Brilliant analogy man 👍

[@anonymerdude4501]

Letting Go is the only concept you need

[@silentpoet696]

Thank you for waking me up ill watch your videos everyday to help motivate me to grow my garden

[@AbeOtt]

I’m glad you got some value man and welcome to the community. I’ll be looking forward to seeing you around more G

[@Bob-kn7nc]

Even then: we can’t really be sure if the butterflies like you or your garden (chances are the latter) so it’s best just to do it for yourself so you have some nice strawberries to eat, and the butterflies who stick with you and encourage you to grow your garden are the true valuable ones (not just the ones who come just because you have a garden)

[@bertmert7749]

I never thought of building my garden but this makes a lot more sense

[@Toxic.gaming27661]

My problem is i dont always let them in since im scared the amount of times girl's have wanted to talk to me, but i push them away is demotivating

[@daniellobo8813]

thank you for this kind message.

[@AbeOtt]

You're welcome man, i hope you got some value out of it and welcome to the community

[@faceless.warrior-youtube]

I know you probably don't remember me, but I have been watching you since you had 100 subscribers. It is always nice to see a brother thrive. I know you will never give up. God be with you on your journey.

[@AbeOtt]

You're a real one and I will never forget that. You're a part of the originals here and I genuinely appreciate you man

[@abbasmahammed2514]

That’s a one single great video out there, just truth and no other bull shit

[@AbeOtt]

I appreciate you man and I hope you got some value out of it. Welcome to the community G

[@abbasmahammed2514]

@@AbeOtt waiting for more amazing content brother

[@ItalianoAustraliano]

Thanks mate I should watch your same video more often and I’m currently going to the gym every Wednesdays and Fridays and hopefully I’ll be lucky to have a girl who’s beautiful and caring but all it takes is motivation that’s what matters the most even though I have autism and still struggling a bit but eventually I’ll make it there

[@dydysnake1845]

Thats confirming things i understood recently, i like the way you're putting it as a ''garden'', thank you ☺

[@AbeOtt]

I'm glad to hear you got some value man and keep up the good work

[@j.s.p]

I like this video, cause I can totally relate with the context. Everyone has insecurities, even those girls that you cold approach, but the key word is "confidence". Confidence is like driving a car. You start driving for a week & you see progress. Then weeks become months & years and suddenly this becomes a second nature due to the experience that you've built throughout.

[@AbeOtt]

I appreciate you saying that man, i think anyone who reads this will benefit from it. Welcome to the community and I’ll be looking forward to seeing you around more

[@luiz_second]

I can relate so much to this. Thanks for the video mate, I'm 20 single, never kissed (lmao) and I've never been in a relationship. However in the last years I developed a good shape, got in medical college, I'm studying a lot and I'm trying to be my best version. I still haven't been able to date the girls I wanted but I'm keep going forward. Great video!!

[@AbeOtt]

Great job man I’m glad to hear you’re putting in the work. Keep it up and welcome to the community

[@soldiergamingsarchives576]

i am in a sort of a hanging situation, where i both want to upgrade myself and at the same time feeling hopeless that no one will ever come.

[@alfaruq9540]

Now there’s no butterflies seeking for gardens, just for money. Keep the garden for yourself only.

[@simonster-9094]

Who hurt you?

[@mateshpl6552]

Money can't buy everything people need

[@MissiFull]

@@simonster-9094 I understand you, but you lack empathy.

[@naamaniteproductions3235]

That sounds like something Geoff would do 😂. Great video, can’t wait to see you get 10k!

[@AbeOtt]

Haha we were both doing doing some of the things together, and it will be soon

[@janickpappas2916]

Really nice words, i think its exactly right like that. I already do most of that, i try to tell girls they are pretty every time i see one that i find pretty, i work out every day, dont drink, dont smoke, baught an appartment and safe as much money and days of vacation as possible for when that girl comes

[@xXGyakusatsuXx]

i confirm everything in this video. i like the garden analogy. helps to articulate myself to other people, when this is the topic of the discussion or it is about to happen. build ur own gardens bois. and it will happen naturally

[@AbeOtt]

Exactly, i appreciate the comment man and welcome to the community

[@megabebrik2]

I can relate to your story. I broke up with my first girlfriend a little more than a month ago. Though it was me, who initiated break up, i still was struck by it. It felt, like my life purpose just disappeared with her. Now i understand how much I incorporated her in my life, completely forgetting about myself and about my friends. Though i still struggle with everyday life, i decided to act a bit more active, than i did before. I started walking outside way more often, than i used to do. I started going to the pool every week. It helps me to cope with my feelings a bit. I hope i'll be able to recover from it someday and become a better man.

[@jern2216]

Guys, this shit works. I heard similiar advice years ago and slowly built up my life from ruins. Now am happy and thriving, women are interested in me, people in general help me out more

[@GABRIEL-ks2em]

Great video man, just continue to do this work, you'll be change a lot of lifes with this, thank you a lot.

[@AbeOtt]

I genuinely appreciate you bro and thats my goal. Keep up all of the good work and welcome to the community

[@robinvandenakker5289]

a great one to find in my recamondation. thanks for your words

[@janitoalevic]

I also learned this the hard way, still building the garden, not only for a future girl, but mostly for me!

[@mlqa1929]

Thank you, that's what I needed.

[@AbeOtt]

Im glad to hear you got some value out of this man and welcome to the community

[@Brofessorben1017]

This was great bro well done and thanks. ❤️‍🔥🙏

[@AbeOtt]

I hope you got some value out of it man and welcome to the community

[@Raptorintheskies]

Respect for being honest

[@merry4475]

Thanks Mate for summing it up

[@AbeOtt]

You're welcome man, I hope you got some value out of the video and welcome to the community

[@hdadyala9878]

Great video bro, I needed to hear this

[@AbeOtt]

I'm glad you got some value out of the video G and welcome to the community

[@Velociraith1]

Remmber that your garden doesn't have to be perfect or even finished yet. And there's more than one way to make a garden. Fill your garden with the things you care about and conitnue to work on it and Trust the process. And hey, every once in a while take a break from working and enjoy the gardnen you've built. Trust in the process! You've got this king 👊!

[@ManyMonkeys1]

Not making her your life and waiting for the right one is definitely the best you can do for yourself. He's right, she'll come eventually it'll just take time. I was in the exact same position for ages until I started to work on myself and now I'm literally with the girl of my dreams. good luck to u all ur all kings

[@AbeOtt]

I'm glad to hear about the progress you've made man, keep up the good work and welcome to the community

[@Rye-1000]

environment change can be life changing at my hometown i was pretty much no one and never got a gf since i was in HS. Once i moved way i literally had rosters of girls by being just myself sometimes you might have to change your soil for your garden to flourish

[@AbeOtt]

I appreciate the valuable comment man and welcome to the community. I'll be looking forward to seeing you around more G

[@mateusztruchel5617]

Wow, it kinda inspired me to change the way i look at it and thanks to this i am going to do more things to "build my garden" thanks for this and maybe i will stay on this channel more to listen more of you. Thank you and i am going to watch rest of your videos

[@AbeOtt]

I'm glad to hear you got some value out of this one man and welcome to the community. I'll be looking forward to seeing you around more G

[@TheUnbotheredTexan]

This makes sense so MUCH!!

[@AbeOtt]

I’m glad to hear that man and welcome to the community

[@divyanshsharma673]

I wish I could came across on your video at 21Feb, 2024 but anyway you're really helpful for me even after 3 months now. Many people needed to hear what you saying here

[@AbeOtt]

I’m glad to hear you got some value out of the video man and welcome to the community

[@aidanjack3094]

I had someone and it was just terrible circumstances that ruined it sometimes they come while you’re building the garden they see the potential and they love it. If you ever take a girl while you’re doing this don’t forget your purpose still work on that garden don’t just concentrate on her now. Because when I ended up doing that she left me because I was worse with her than without her. Do remember tho it’s sometimes not your fault she never communicated and I only realized because she left. I think if she told me I would’ve fixed it. Life sucks a lot of the time but all the bad moments let you see the beauty of the good ones. Just enjoy life and if a girl joins it then that’s great but if one doesn’t continue to enjoy that life.

[@Modeltnick]

I wish more people today would take advantage of your life lessons! You are not only building up a meaningful life for yourself but you are gracious enough to share how you are doing it! Thanks for another great lesson! -N

[@AbeOtt]

My pleasure man and it's great to see you again

[@Apollo_Z9]

top tier advice bro.

[@AbeOtt]

I hope you got some value man and welcome to the community

[@rikvdm17]

Love this video! I'm currently working on myself in regards to speaking to women in daytime I find attractive and giving them a compliment and overall just giving them a good time

[@AbeOtt]

I'm glad to hear that man keep up the good work you''re putting in

[@pao-ulul7475]

I already lose to trust the process,you may say im impatient but after so many betrayals i don't care anymore but one thing for sure is to never give my trust to easy and i should only think of me even when it comes to selfish ways

[@ConstantinTopC]

Perfect video. Perfectly captures what one needs to do in order to get a good partner

[@AbeOtt]

I'm glad to hear you got some value out of it G and keep up all of the good work

[@daisho9062]

feel like this vid helped me a lot!

[@renegadeblazer7602]

I got to the gym, I style my fits, style my hair, grown talller. But women seem to run away of me cause of my race. Nowadays girls in the world have a 'type'

[@ueIl]

Same. It's hard being a half black guy because the only women that would wanna be attracted to you are all promiscuous

[@NoahClevinger]

Thank you for this video, brother. Very insightful knowledge and advice. I appreciate you!

[@AbeOtt]

I appreciate you too man and I’m glad to hear you got some value out of the video. Welcome to the community and keep up the good work

[@RandomSkitts]

That’s good man. Thanks for sharing.

[@AbeOtt]

I hope you got some value man and welcome to the community

[@alien_in_white_3]

Solid advice. A little over a year ago, after a rejection, i decided to put an end to the old, desperate, pedestal worshipping mindset i used to have, and instead put my full focus on my goals and purpose in life. In the past year i was a lot more peaceful internally, and i was resistant to ill attachment, and even my interactions with girls on a day to day basis saw a slight improvement because of that. This is to prove that what this guy said is 100% true. I currently have no plans on dating in the near future, and that's okay. If i spot a girl in my environment that seems to be worth a shot, I'll tackle this challenge and try to see if we're compatible. But for the time being I'm perfectly content with focusing on my own life, so that in the next decade i could have a future worth living in.

[@AbeOtt]

I appreciate you saying all of that man and I’m glad to hear you’re putting in the work. Keep it up and welcome to the community G

[@LeviThapamagar]

this is the video i was looking for. well done mate your video really inspired me❤

[@AbeOtt]

I'm glad to hear you got some value out of it man, keep up all of the good work and welcome to the community

[@InsaniousTV]

Nice video man, i meet girl that i love the most in my 16 now im 26 and still not meet someone like her but I'm work on myself and hope that when i feel good in my own skin it will come something like it or even better. Peace and love :)

[@AbeOtt]

I'm glad to hear you're putting in the work man, keep it up and welcome to the community

[@damienverwijmeren5489]

i can see that you really mean the things you say, keep it up

[@AbeOtt]

Will do man, welcome to the community

[@Adoniss99]

Bruh u preach the truth where was all these self improvement vids when I was 13. All I got was shit pua tactics that put u on the sexual harassment list

[@AbeOtt]

Well I’m glad the videos are getting better and I hope you got some value out of this one man. Welcome to the community

[@onni3150]

i dont ever want to fall in love again. i aint even planning to be here for long anymore

[@the.komoru]

A relationship isn’t the only goal to have for life. I get wanting a genuine connection and love with someone, but you have to love and focus on yourself first. It’s the only way to have a stable and healthy relationship when you get into one.

[@AbeOtt]

I fully agree with what Komoru said, focus on building yourself and when the right women comes, you will be ready. And even if it takes time, the true prize will be the character you are building. Welcome to the community and keep up the good work you're doing man, I believe you will go far in life with enough work and patience

[@dominikwisniewski1818]

I hope you don't mean you intend to kill yourself. Will be praying for you 🙏

[@GentlemensClubOriginal]

Fun Fact: Every single individual is starting at Level 1. --> it's about learning ability & logic + education + environment

[@AbeOtt]

Very true, i appreciate the comment man and keep up the good work

[@XiaoGege]

Nothing made me more frustrated than realizing that I dated an autistic person. It was such a rollercoaster of confusion.

[@marloncoupe9758]

experimenting doesn't mean "using". Everything you said is great, but please please please keep in mind that everyone has feelings too and you should be respecting all of them!! xx

[@GeorgiDimitrovX]

The anxiety, insecurities, and being generally uncomfortable in public, stem from unresolved emotional problems. The solution is to slowly accept yourself as you are emotionally. Not be afraid to feel anything that comes your way. Accept every feeling, acknowledge every thought. Combine this with progressive action where emotions are being triggered, and you will unburden yourself from the emotional baggage you've picked up along the way. In every person there is a source that is fully confident in the self and nothing can stop it. Let yourself lead.

[@user-ri4qs4iu6x]

Abe ! Love your groundedness and honesty!I've got some nice insights for you to grow!Fancy a chat sometime?

[@charlesbroderick5030]

We are in 2024 who dates?? I’d Rather be single

[@sargesrum6117]

keep the work out there brother

[@AbeOtt]

Will do, welcome to the community G

[@masterofus3098]

thanks so much , this is was very needed video

[@AbeOtt]

I'm glad to hear you got some value man and welcome to the community

[@stefandesu]

Loved this. I'm going to continue building out my garden so that I'm ready when the time comes. 💪

[@AbeOtt]

I'm glad to hear you got some value man, keep working hard and welcome to the community

[@TheUltimateMarioFan]

"If you build it, they will come." You can build your garden, but don't keep it locked or make the fence too high. The Garden of Eden cannot be appreciated without people being invited into it. Male dating is like a shoe store. In order to maximum sales, you need to perfect your product and maximize exposure, simultaneously. You need a great product, and you need customers. At that point, once you have an abundant and steady cash flow, you can actually choose who you permit to "buy" your product (AKA 'you'), so to speak.

[@DIMON13585]

"Butterfly - garden" example is smart.

[@johannesstoll5896]

I have a beautiful garden. A beautiful girl walked into it last summer. Her garden wasn mown down halfway ruthlessly a few months prior. Both our garden work became too hard.🤧😖

[@BenedictPang-th2ge]

I definitely see this is a message from God. This is the third time hearing the similar message. Thanks for this wonderful video!

[@AbeOtt]

Of course man I'm glad to hear you got some value out of it. Keep up the good work G

[@toontownlegomaster]

that was a good metaphor.