The skill of self confidence | Dr. Ivan Joseph | TEDxRyersonU

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As the Athletic Director and head coach of the Varsity Soccer team at Ryerson University, Dr. Joseph is often asked what skills he is searching for as a recruiter: is it speed? Strength? Agility? In Dr. Joseph's TEDx Talk, he explores self confidence and how it is not just the most important skill in athletics, but in our lives.
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[@kushbhalerao744]

Easiest and fastest way to gain confidence is to do exactly what you are afraid of.

[@xphasic3414]

so true

[@TheChampOf69]

There is nothing easy about that, but it's the most effective

[@slevig415]

Nope, it is easy. If you stop being afraid of failing, then life becomes easy.

[@lordydaddy]

Nope!there is no easy way.easy and fast ways are red flags.Every Human is a bag of fear but which FEAR?and there are many types of fear(phobias,dread etc).the dude(coach)presenting is right,if you repeat something continously,you are likely to develop "self" confidence.All greats were obsessed with repetition, from da vinci to micheal Jordan.some repeated things out of pure love and others out of need for appreciation by others.

[@amir123786]

kush bhalerao I'm scared of jumping off the top of the world

[@ChristieTE]

Ted should be a school , I swear they will create a whole new sort of generation.

[@konvix1673]

Christie 384 likes and somehow I’m the first comment :)

[@ChristieTE]

Elite- iMerkdU oh wow I didn’t even know I had so much like , never received any notifications. And yes you are right hah.

[@ChristieTE]

Paulina Szypula yes exactly!!😀

[@RomeoDeLaSecreta]

This is already a school called the "The Society of the Spectacle" by Guy Debord. As he is saying you need to gather skills before everything around those motivational speeches. "Traditional" school are teaching everything necessary while education were being done by parents, now 30yo kids are learning the basic like perseverance on KZbin/TedX...SMH

[@JuicyLeek]

Christie you’re up to 730 likes now :) and yes, TED should be a school but it’s never gonna happen at the rate we’re paying our teachers!

[@Ana-rb7ws]

“No one will believe in you unless you do.” - This has been true in every big and crucial moments of life.

[@Sophie-ux5xp]

Thank you for sharing!

[@mediacenterman8583]

Nah. Plenty of people believe in me, but I don't believe in myself.

[@mexicoeyewear2015]

@@mediacenterman8583 Then its good that those close to you believe in you in those moments that you didn't

[@mark_ricci198]

@@mediacenterman8583 That just proves that all that matters is you believing in yourself. Take that and run with it. Don't overanalyze.

[@syedfahim1091]

Right.

[@user-cc2jh4dn1k]

Anyone here in 2024

[@kevwamburu]

Hey

[@cheese6204]

@@kevwamburuI’m here

[@sumeshnair7848]

Yes

[@tetteyocloo]

Yes!

[@samsonjames8123]

Yes

[@ily7052]

You and i gonna achieve our dreams

[@Gen-on2gv]

thanks man

[@glorp7833]

yup

[@sofia8070]

im gonna pass in my dream school and be a surgeon. my love ones will live a happy long life!

[@savchil]

@@sofia8070 my goal as well. best of luck!

[@Meatballron12]

Omg I used to use that image as my profile pic too

[@bloxZ]

The fact that this video got so much views reminds us that self confidence is a big issue

[@shehryar6928]

point

[@RyRobio]

Right

[@Samyak_Patil]

Correct

[@roshnik5137]

Yes, naive me taught I was the only one

[@RyRobio]

@Ace Vxko Ah that makes sense. Do you ever have those days where you'll feel confident then the very next day it feels like it disappeared?

[@saravalinemati2303]

I learned more in 13 minutes than I have over all those years back in high school . The counselor humiliated me in front of the whole class saying that I was not smart enough to go to college. It stayed with me for many years. By the way, I have 1 bachelor and 2 master degrees today.

[@alive.1777]

So proud of you Sara!

[@kellyhuynh3165]

WOW two master degrees!!! That’s really cool!!!

[@JeromePrometheus]

You go, Sara!

[@Sid-pg8nh]

Wow!! So good to hear that. Keep growing.

[@AlexandraMurray99]

Amazing!

[@pressurepointss]

self confidence : - practice - repetition - after failure, still practice and repetition, and presistance - get out there, do what you wanna do, and don't except no - stop the negative self talk. do it, self affirmation to ourselves : I am the captain of my ship, and the master of my faith - praise the good, catch them when they're good : good job! you did good! - believe in ur self

[@kristuti1]

Failure in other words is a new beginning just with more knowledge.

[@lolollolol5654]

architects are cool, I also noted

[@hardiksharma8379]

it's i'm the captain of my ship and master of my fate ! ** btw thanks for the summary much appreciated

[@krixttysimon2705]

This ❗️

[@sarahbaileymarketing]

Thanks for listing this out, Good job!!! One correction, the actual quote is "I am the captain of my ship, and the master of my FATE". It's a quote from Invictus, by William Ernest Henley. It's important, because the author of the quote is saying that he is in control of his destiny in life. His faith came from God; but the author was saying "Master of my FATE" fate, destiny, outcomes, etc

[@scorpion6491]

man ... why they don't teach us this kind of things in schools

[@eliTUNE]

yesss they totally should

[@user-jf9zg9ly3r]

+eli.TUNE you are right

[@SaHaRaSquad]

+scorpion6491 ...or at least teach it to the teachers.

[@327MRoque]

+scorpion6491 What do you mean? They do teach us that repetition is key. What do you think studying is??

[@327MRoque]

+scorpion6491 And on his second part about persistence and motivation. You and the people you surround yourself with is key. The importance is self-motivation. That has nothing to do with school.

[@ShadhaOmer]

"There's enough people telling us we can't do it. Why do we want to tell that to ourselves?". Just WOW.

[@robertreeves7675]

He Thinking Daquan Brooks Eric Davis

[@betcyj4850]

That hit hard.

[@dandellionsy6537]

agree, when he said that! Gosh, it is just on point!

[@andrejacavnik-executivecoach]

nails it down, right? I love this topic. I'm intrigued by the difference between confidence and self esteem too, just recorded a video about that if you want to check it out :)

[@nostalgicuniverse9747]

Powerful words

[@purplepanda4267]

To anyone reading this, you are an amazing person The fact that you’re here watching this video means that you are already taking the first steps in building your confidence Keep going, you are amazing. You deserve the world. Believe in yourself. Everything improves with confidence and I believe that you can increase your confidence. Good luck

[@sabriyaboulware1522]

Amen Thanks🙏🏾💯🎯

[@OkayNokey]

Hey, I'm a bit at a low point of sorts, that has actually been really nice, thanks :)

[@purplepanda4267]

@@sabriyaboulware1522 I’m so glad to hear that I could help, even if it was only something small. I wish you luck and hope everything turns out in the way that is best for you :)

[@sabriyaboulware1522]

@@purplepanda4267 Thanks appreciate you!❤️😭I hope so too.

[@lecroix3]

Thanks

[@yourcalmplace]

My comment will probably get lost but whoever reads this.. You got this! Whatever you are going through will get better hang in there ✨❤️

[@lemohangskelehlungwani5001]

needed this

[@g4tlan]

Be confident that it will reach the people.

[@1saamor897]

lol, its at the top

[@kamiennykamien9578]

Your comment didn't lost! 💃💃🐗🐗

[@smurfedratio249]

I hope it's true

[@varunkirti7470]

Confidence is the mindset of knowing that "no matter what happens, I am gonna be alright!"

[@THAT.RANDOM.GUY_]

but I don't know that, that's the problem.

[@levanlursmanashvili1025]

Before watching this, I had that mind set. Now after seeing this vid my self-confidence is kicking top notch

[@bigman-em7cc]

That Random Guyーさん Yes you do, oh yes you do.

[@omni1562]

Charisma on command!

[@willdiegodipaula588]

You re not a drop in the ocean...you are an ocean in a drop....

[@thewand3r3r45]

Amazing how im learning more about life from Ted talks than public education

[@Trevco]

Not surprised lol ;)

[@tendaindongwe8159]

Amen to that

[@pb8827]

Public education should prepare to continue to learn from life, including Ted Talks! It is not the end of your learning...

[@stephaniecrosby5294]

Ikr, Ted Talks are great!

[@Nourhanabusharkh]

Brett Thielen هههه

[@thamad311]

Life breaks you down so you could rebuild better. Most times it amaze me greatly the way I moved from an average lifestyle to earning over $63k per month, utter shock is the word. I have understood a lot in the past few years to doubt that opportunities are bound in the financial markets, The only thing is to know where to focus.

[@dulcedeleche3406]

The decision to invest is an acknowledgment that it comes with certain risks. Not all investments will do well and some may lose money. However, without risk, there would be no opportunity to potentially earn the higher returns that can help you grow your wealth.

[@ericchk102]

@@dulcedeleche3406 I agree with you and I believe that the secret to financial stability is having the right investment ideas to enable you earn more money, I don’t know who agrees with me but either way I recommend either real estate or crypto and stocks.

[@abigail_campbell]

I keep wondering how people earn money in financial markets, i tried trading bitcoin on my own made a huge loss and now I'm scared of investing more.

[@ericchk102]

@@abigail_campbell That won't bother you if you trade with a professional like Mr Tony Alin berker my coach, you may have come across him on interviews relating to bitcoin. He trades, manage trading account and offer mentorship program for clients who wish to become professional investors.

[@abigail_campbell]

@@ericchk102 You allow people to trade for you ? that's interesting, I would love to learn, how safe is it ?

[@_pudu661]

My takeaways: 1. Believe in you first 2. Practice the skill of being confident 3. Accept and embrace being different

[@sha6151]

“Get away from people who brings you down” But.. uh how am i suppose to get rid of my whole family

[@Naoseisoseiquefoiassim]

Try to tell them that they are making you feel bad...if it doesn't work build a new family,blood and family have nothing in common

[@leondh2855]

travel by yourself for a year

[@hesoyam7516]

Leave them if you are financially afloat

[@OgoMaduewesi]

You can be with them and not be with them at same time. If you can, Live separate from them and stay away from them for a while. When I was starting to talk about Vitiligo, the skin condition that changed my life, my father would not have it, will call me, shout and ask me to stop everything I'm doing about Vitiligo publicly. I stopped taking his calls for 6months and even that of my mother (I don't live with them, we live 6houra apart). After 6months when I eventually take his call, I had gone far in what I had decided to do, he called and pleaded to see him, I got his blessings. I was going to stay off for as long as it takes because my self-peace supercedes another thing for me. No, I can never allow my fellow human being to get me messed up mentally while they continue to enjoy peace. I hope this helps.

[@leticiaespino7251]

Start getting good quality friends that remind you how great you are😄

[@KaraCamilleDelonas]

Dude is probably one kickass father

[@TheBishop111]

Kara Camille Delonas you're kickass pretty

[@WalkinChristum]

Amazing talk, I remember watching this video while I was in high-school, didn't understood much back then, but now that I look back at it I implemented a lot of things that were talked in this video without even knowing.

[@milachyc88]

Honestly, my advice is this: be yourself and you will never run out of confidence! don't try just be, because when you are being yourself you the best version and most unique!

[@arcanaobscura3519]

Can't really agree on this. I mean sure: being yourself and living according to your own truth is the best thing you can do on the long run, since well, it doesn't help you much to live like society wants you to if you hate yourself for doing so espiaclly giving the fact you're stuck with yourself until you die (eh, that turned dark really quick...). But you won't feel confident all the time. There will be people who will try to take you down and that might trigger your insecurities or fears and whatnot. Sometimes it is hard to get away from these people and the experience you'll have with them might even scar you. Am I saying you should change to avoid that? No, I'm not. It will be hard, that's what I'm saying.

[@milachyc88]

@@arcanaobscura3519 because you have to learn how to stay true to yourself and live accordingly to you truth.. I can tell you get very easily influenced you already said “what society wants”, why do you care about society? No one triggers my fears or insecurities, I always speak what I think and feel. And if it trigger you, that means you fear the society’s opinion about you and you are not sure of yourself. So learn to live without society’s acceptance of your own truth.

[@thunderofthor3015]

@@milachyc88 I like what you said thank you I will try to follow it Now that I think about I even saw like some actors or actresses being so confident but not arrogant they do have this sort of like mentality

[@milachyc88]

@@thunderofthor3015 you're absolutely right! confident but not arrogant, arrogance it's never attractive, bc no one is better than anyone. you just you and hold something no one does: your voice, walk, talents, gifts, etc.

[@thunderofthor3015]

@@milachyc88 yes ma'am

[@amreenshaju8038]

This is the Ted Talk that changed my life. I remember listening to this Ted talk in school in 8th grade, now I'm 20 years old and i carry every single value that he talks about to this day.

[@Raima_Is_Lovely]

I just finished 8th grade. I’m in your shoes while watching this video 🙂

[@ican384]

amreen shaju I’m 20 and watching for the first time

[@jasminepark89yearsago20]

What helped you for your confidence journey? 😊

[@glitch9238]

Wooh I am actually in eight grade right now

[@erinw8509]

Wow, I'm in 9th now and just watching this to help with my social anxiety.

[@JonnyKahann]

I watched this last year and it motivated me to run a marathon. Now I've done 2 marathons in total and a bunch of other races. Got 3 marathons planned for next year. Believing in yourself is very important!!

[@MarieBai]

+Jonny Kanthan How do you feel? Is there any other part of your life where you have applied the same process?

[@JonnyKahann]

+Marie Bai Fells really good. It becomes the new norm. A marathon is like a threshold for me, most things are below it! I expanded my current business, I take a lot more risks in life, fear a lot less and also pass around the positive vibes. :D

[@aaronwoodin7661]

+Marie Bai I'm not diminishing marathons in any way, but a great athletic event to try is a "stair climb" - I see a LOT of marathoners and obstacle course racers participating in them.

[@viergeliesilvera9112]

hey

[@autumnr.6175]

👏👏

[@Coachfitz_]

“Self-confidence is a skill”… I 💯% agree

[@tamirajohnelle4700]

Most definitely!

[@susannnico]

The greater the automated income you can build, the freer you will become. Taking the first step is the hardest, but 5 houses later living off automated income since July 6, 2016. You’ve got to start taking steps to achieve your goal.

[@lailaalfaddil7389]

What kind of investment would you advise? And what is the best way to follow it?

[@susannnico]

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[@shawnhollahan590]

What a great man…. Sending him a digital hug...

[@Icybearg]

Shawn Hollahan​ deserved...add one from me too!

[@MsGrailSeeker]

A big Hug. Such an life changing speech.

[@PinkyBooLandBR]

Shawn Hollahan yes he is. One of the best on this subject. This method I found online helped me to achieve my goals, www.selfconfidenceachievement.blogspot.com

[@prabu2020]

***** What do u mean by adding this link to this video.... ?

[@lifelensbybilal]

+Shawn Hollahan you mean in "Bitcoins" :D

[@golamhisham2902]

This guy is full of positivity and very lively.

[@Trevco]

110%

[@Jblah]

Like a coach suppose to be

[@robertreeves7675]

Not Real Personality Lifestyle Type Don't Care B Mom's 46

[@robertreeves7675]

I Don't Understand Yada

[@BlockyOwnz]

Probably depressed too.

[@Paulo-lr1lf]

10 years later I'm still going back to this video which really changed my life and made me who I am today. At that time, me as a Brazillian still did not understand english, but I watched it many times, translating every word and it inspired me. 2 Years later, I became fluent in english and went to US to study Manufacturing Engineering there and then I came back to my home country. Today I'm a polyglot, I have a good job and the life I wished to have 10 years ago, which I was able to construct with the self confidence, motivation and a lot of effort videos and books like this tought me. I know Dr. Ivan will never read my comment, but I just want to say: THANK YOU !!! Regards from Brazil!! It's awesome how a video posted can change lives many many miles away and for years!

[@nathanael_rzf]

Dude, that's awesome Congrats👊❤️

[@Paulo-lr1lf]

@@nathanael_rzf Thank you!

[@cr7connection]

@Paulo congrats man you also inspired me with that comment

[@Tocozym]

What books you read ?

[@Paulo-lr1lf]

@@Tocozym Start by Rich Dad Poor Dad

[@FeliciaStepanpodcast]

_I used to treat other people the best I could, and I still am; the only difference is I started to treat myself the same. I treat myself the same way I treat the people I love, and I feel more confident and more happy since then. This video is a real treasure! Thank you so much!_

[@muazothman7416]

he was my athletic director at my university. I remember talking to him and sort of asking(begging) him if i can drive his model S he was so nice to throw the keys to me and in his voice said " run before i change my mind". Nicest guy you'll meet.

[@nur6040]

how kind...

[@syedrehanfida]

I'm really really glad that you have such a positive person in your life. Or at least had.

[@muazothman7416]

Moha Sumareh look it up, he used to work at ryerson university and now works at Dalhousie university

[@tjaaark]

How was it?! I already thought he was a great person after hearing his talk and your story just multiplied that.

[@muazothman7416]

@@tjaaark he’s amazing man! Imma reach out to him to be my mentor :)

[@cottagely]

Important points I picked up in this - persistent practice makes perfect - stop negative self-talk - reinforcing positive behaviour through positive feedback - live strong and don't let other people drag you down

[@pranamjshetty9658]

@Ivan Joseph Leadership is that you?

[@annadoris6907]

@@pranamjshetty9658oh, sorry for hearing this, I am the same age with you, if you like, you can tell me about the problems you meet.

[@pranamjshetty9658]

@@annadoris6907 How can I?

[@damoon2824]

Thank you. It’s been a great help to my poor memory.

[@shyaaammeneen63]

@@pranamjshetty9658 For success in life and good health reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be still and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly they will reduce and relax the mind. Deep inhalation-exhalation is not needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Be as still as possible as it reduces negative thoughts. Make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

[@tamirajohnelle4700]

The average person can’t take too many No’s. They don’t realize that the No’s are preparing them for the Yes. Most people don’t make it to the Yes because they give up so easily. There’s always going to be a Yes somewhere. When you keep going consistently you get to those Yes’s faster. Once you keep going after that you find yourself getting more Yes’s than No’s because you have now developed a skill and you are confident about what you’re doing. You literally came into alignment with success by not giving up!

[@tamirajohnelle4700]

“Praise the positive behavior that we want to reinforce.” I say this all the freakin time. This is the TRUTH!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@macprincess2]

Please explain?!

[@dianerose7631]

Getting rid of facebook boosted my confidence. I stopped thinking about all those people from high school

[@chadcooper3183]

who cares about peeps from then its over!!

[@felinayjonny]

I deleted my FB a few months back. It made a WORLD of difference in my sanity.

[@koenRAW]

It's one of the the easiest yet best things you can do. If you don't want to delete your whole accoant just mute everyone and post your own stuff

[@stefanaguinaldosoerensen2355]

facebook is a well oiled machine that makes you feel terrible and sell you stuff.

[@yazeedmohi]

I never use Facebook or and social media, life is much more natural this way, good for you Laura :)

[@iloveabs-cbn327]

From now on, i will believe in myself no matter what or how people will think of me.

[@xphasic3414]

that is my goal too man

[@alfwinnn4224]

i wil try this too.

[@unknownlabyrinth]

Same I need to try

[@amarnafie2834]

it's the main point

[@limorkatan8779]

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[@jennyvoswiftie]

“No one will believe you unless you do.” This sentence wraps up the whole speech, one of the most inspiring and amazing talk I’ve ever watched.❤

[@user-ww7sn5lc8p]

0:19

[@user-ww7sn5lc8p]

❤20

[@JenMol321]

"When you lose sight of yourself... we're done for" - That was powerful!

[@nesrinemakhfi2687]

He's amazing, his body language, his voice, his charisma...I loved him !

[@nand3kudasai]

I totally agree (y)

[@Razor_Bunny_]

I agree.

[@ivanselaya6609]

nice talk, thank you Ivan.....

[@ghitamelkaoui912]

i agree

[@Abdul-Ghany]

Completely agree

[@bygemzen7267]

Reference: 1. Repetition 2. Persistence 3.Self Affirmation 4. Interpret information in their own way

[@jessicarolleston9338]

is that on this spech and can u time stamp it?

[@its553a.m9]

I dint understand how 4 wirks

[@its553a.m9]

Works

[@happystrength984]

by SilentAssasin808 exactly! this is amazing advise thank you so much for the reference I think this will really help all of us out thank you

[@viktorlindqvist5308]

Its5:53 A.M 4. means this; Let's say you ask a woman out for a date. She says that she would rather date a psychopath. Instead of interpreting this as a complete rejection you will think, oh but she didn't say no neccessarily! I still have a chance.

[@alexsuen3506]

"Confident people interpret the feedbacks the way they choose to". This sentence touches me a lot because we can't always get enough positive feedbacks or encouragement in our life and study. In this case, we have to learn to keep ourselves feeling good, otherwise we may decide to quit. This is definitely a significant capacity for me to pick up.

[@zghani2410]

The biggest takeaway for me was, "Get away from the people who will tear you down!" - This is so true! I used to share my plans with folks that I thought were my best friends and almost always, they advised me to do the opposite. I only started seeing progress in things I wanted to accomplish after ceasing to share any of my plans with them until they were done!

[@EnglishwithLucas]

Important Clippings: - Self-confidence is the ability or belief to believe in yourself to accomplish any task - He sees it as a skill because he believes it can be trained. 1. The easiest way to build self-confidence, repetition, Maybe it shouldn't be repetition, but maybe it should be persistence. - Get out there, do what you want to do, and do not accept no. 2. The other one is self-talk; We know for a fact that thoughts influence actions. We need to get our own self affirmations. - Get away from people who will tear you down, there is enough of that. All the things that make him who he is, he puts down on a list besides his mirror. - Your own brag sheets. Your own letter about the things you are proud of. - Stop the negative self-talk. 3. You can teach self-confidence in others. Because we are educators, we are critical by nature in what we do. - Catch them while they're good. Praise the positive behavior we want to reinforce. 4. Self-confident people interpret feedback the way they choose too. No one will believe in you, unless you do. We are supposed to be different.

[@maheshiabeyrathna5079]

This is great ❤🙏

[@dekideki337]

Thanks!

[@stopwastingseed.hijabmodes2754]

Jaïr Potjer yes

[@robertreeves7675]

Don't Be Loyal Game Kevin Hood

[@tanja8116]

Jaïr Potjer thank you 😊

[@The3nlightened0ne]

Video summary: 1. Fake it till you make it. 2. Practice makes perfect. 3. Remove yourself from people who suck the life out of you. 4. Believe in yourself if you want others to believe in you.

[@The3nlightened0ne]

All those points I made are beyond our control. Points 1 & 2 are limited on mental attitude and willpower. Point 3 is limited based on your ability to use your environment to your advantage by the available opportunities to meet new people. Point 4 is thus far the "most" limited because there is no practical way of going about this.

[@remedyfarm]

To improve #4 use #1 and #2 😊

[@VitaminPr0]

Wow dude, that actually helped....

[@BushidoBoyd]

***** And if you think that way then you'll never change. Don't be surprised when things stay the same when you put yourself in a logical box like that.

[@scottab140]

Why do you care what other people think or believe about you?

[@tamara3782]

One of my students told me that when he discussed his anxieties with someone close to him, like his wife or a close friend, then he found that the moment he started opening up to them, the anxiety decreased-even before he received any advice or support. Togetherness definitely decreases anxiety. There is a saying in the wisdom of Kabbalah that “a sorrow shared is a sorrow halved,” i.e. when we share a sensation, we divide it up, and in turn it becomes more manageable. Since it is quite easy to see how sharing our experiences lessens our negative feelings, the question is why do we not use this ability more? Why is it so hard for us to share our fears and anxieties with others? We are indeed afraid of opening our hearts, letting everyone see that we have certain fears and anxieties. That is, in addition to whatever fears and anxieties we hold within, we usually have additional anxieties about sharing them with others, that it might cause others to perceive us as weak. Since society in general values stronger, smarter, wealthier and fitter individuals, opening up our anxieties to such a society makes us vulnerable to exploitation. We thus need to seek a social environment that would not exploit us for opening up, but would rather give us a sense of faith and confidence that it can help us cope with any negative feelings. A social setting that can guarantee faith and confidence in its members is one that actively draws itself to the upper good and benevolent force-the force of love, bestowal and connection. It is this very same force that awakens negative feelings in us, whether they be fears, anxieties or several other painful sensations, in order for us to draw closer to that force, and we do so by drawing closer to each other. If we wish to connect with the upper force and let its perfect quality of love, bestowal and connection fill our lives with a sensation of faith and confidence, then we need to emulate such a quality toward other people-giving them a sense of faith and confidence, and for them to do the same toward us. By wanting to positively connect with others, we then start awakening the positive force dwelling in nature into the connections we create, and we then feel a new sense of faith and confidence wash away any anxieties that we might be holding within.

[@pedramt7847]

I really do feel like I’m being weak when I have this anxiety, and makes feel weaker to think about talking about this to somebody else but what you said was very relatable and helpful. Thanks 🙏

[@jabum9524]

Thank you really much for sharing!

[@JJ-zr4zv]

self confidence - the belief that you can achieve something despite any adversity / obstacles 1 - repetition repetition repetition 2 - self talk - if i don't believe it, no one else will 3 - build self confidence in others - praise positive behaviour 4 - interpret feedback the way you want to

[@MrYass24]

I am gonna try to interpret his talk in a simple Q&A: Q: Do you like doing something in your life more than anything? A: Then go there and try to master that thing. Q: How? A: By practice, repetition and Persistence. Q: What if you fail? What if people judge you? A: SO FUCKING WHAT?? Just do your things... You are not born to make people happy, You are born to make YOURSELF happy... The End.

[@goody639]

Well said 👍

[@sebastianpatriksson7814]

+Ingi Sighvatsson so you want to make success by taking others success when you can take "free" success for the same amount of work?

[@miguelgarciadecastro5006]

thanks man

[@MrAshtordek]

+Sebastian Patriksson one will always take success from others, there is a finite amount of it in the world. Criminals just take it by "cheating" at society.

[@mrnobody778]

nice said

[@jawadalishah2075]

Summary: 1. Self confidence is a skill that can be learnt. 2. Persistence 3. Stop Negative self talk 4. Refrain from Negative 5. Focus on your good things

[@pravitopapacito]

And believe in yourself :)

[@mayurieparab6540]

👍

[@govindreghu1502]

jawad ali shah

[@martinschneider6800]

thx m8

[@shawol373]

and repetition

[@tianahill4528]

They say third times a charm, I have pass my step 1 finally🎉🎉 for all my repeat test takers don't give up and don't be discouraged.

[@benjaminfranklin4631]

You will pass Every one has their own season,just keep going pray and believe you will receive

[@nancydonna3895]

@Rosemary Hellen I'm sorry about your plight my friend but i was once in your shoes before i was recommended to Mrs Catherina Moore and that's how i passed My USMLE Steps exam

[@lorientheresa4844]

I used some Kaplan, and took some much time in my online classes still my step 1 result came back failed

[@southerngabito3311]

I only studied a lot when i went for the first time last year but the second time was so easy, all thanks to my aunt who introduced me to Mrs Catherina Moore am really grateful

[@marykings2894]

I have sat for USMLE Step 1 Exam for the 4th time now and still failed, i guess licence isn't meant for people like me😭😓😭😭

[@user-ln1vm8qe8q]

自信の定義0:50〜1:51 反復練習　1:51〜3:35 諦めない大切さ　3:35〜4:33 セルフトーク　4:33〜5:34 自己肯定　5:34〜7:17 自分相手の手紙　7:17〜8:47 自信を与える方法　8:47〜10:31 カンザス州のチーム　10:31〜11:19 独自の解釈　11:19〜12:42

[@notbrandy8533]

Gf : i think we should break up This guy : no

[@worthy2114]

Not Brandy Exactly

[@daynight6120]

The Smartmisfit 🙂

[@mahinhasan1903]

No, he would say “repetition repetition repetition"

[@tomasruiz4002]

JAJAJAJAJAJAJAJAJA

[@lastravaganza2385]

The guy: Ahhhh so you want to strengthen the relationship?

[@vivs005]

"I am the captain of my ship and the master of my fate." - This does it for me.

[@HarpaAI]

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 🤔 Self-confidence is a crucial skill for success in any field, surpassing specific talents or abilities. 01:28 🔁 Repetition is a key method to build self-confidence. Consistent practice and facing challenges repeatedly can increase confidence. 04:22 🗣️ Positive self-talk and affirmations are essential to counteract negative thoughts and build self-confidence. 06:18 🏆 Reminding oneself of past achievements and strengths can boost self-confidence during challenging times. 09:08 🙌 Building self-confidence in others involves praising positive behavior and achievements instead of focusing on mistakes. 12:04 🌟 Interpreting feedback in a positive and empowering way can strengthen self-confidence and belief in one's abilities. Summary by HARPA AI 🧬

[@deanfranklin3437]

This is probably the big speech on TED Talks for me. Self Confidence is a big issue for me. Hearing this makes me a little bit confident. Thank you!

[@tsundereshark5945]

Yet here I am watching motivational videos instead of studying.....

[@djamzz]

Literally same 😂

[@catalin3407]

Hahaha same here ! But after you watch this you do not feel so guilty as you would if you have watched others useless videos on youtube...

[@zachevanbros]

Fujiwara Bunta I have final math test tomorrow, and I'm also watching this😂

[@rupertmashele5851]

I need self confidence for chemistry 2morr

[@alma8508]

Fujiwara Bunta I have a math test tomorrow lmao

[@Criticalbench]

Get away from the people who will tear you down!

[@degenerategambler69]

Criticalbench but that people mostly will tell you the truth you cant run away from the truth

[@adieyjoe7277]

taken this step today and it sure does feel good.

[@DA-jh2ny]

this is the biggest one.once i was okay with the way i looked not until i encountered low self esteem pp,who wanted to make me feel bad for how i look. i no longer see my old bff and now i feel better about myself.

[@angeltv7120]

Unfurtenaly thats my mom.

[@KhanhTheLearner]

how do you run away from your Asian mom and dad who will do anything to convince you you're nothing to them and useless to the society, though??? They actually think that that's a good way to 'motivate' young people.

[@aleena.janjua]

" I am the CAPTAIN of my ship and the MASTER of my fate" what great words👏

[@Hussienaf]

“Pressure builds diamonds”

[@meiamojulio6319]

HUSSIAN JAAN 💯💯

[@jawaherfadhel194]

HUSSIAN JAAN love it 💕

[@Hussienaf]

VICC acc what is the joke ?

[@waleedmohammd9704]

صح لسانك

[@karann4335]

pressure can build diamonds or turn diamonds into dust

[@TonyVega123]

In order to be confident you need to be comfortable with yourself. You need to be able to like yourself. It can be very hard to like yourself when you haven't accomplished much and you're still struggling. That is why it's so important to get a good education and work your ass off.

[@TonyVega123]

***** You are right up to a point. The problem is that very few people who haven't accomplished anything are confident. When we are children we don't understand the importance of succeeding in life. Since most people value themselves and other people based on what they've done and accomplished then confidence follows. It all comes down to what you believe gives yourself value.

[@jacobmufasa]

+Tony Vega but im going bald how can you help me?

[@JOLLYROGE007]

+jacobmufasa Chicken manure is known for its hair growing ability. Just spread a thin layer of chicken manure on your bald head before bed and cover with a shower cap. Wash it off in the morning. Keep the procedure up until the hair starts to come back then be sure to keep it watered as often as possible. You will be heading to the barber shop in no time at all.

[@jacobmufasa]

Tony Vega Oh laawwwdd let me get some of those GooD Gawd.

[@HiddenWen]

+Tony Vega I'm having this issue right now. I don't think I'm a bad person. I'm capable of doing great things, and being a great person. But my past is constantly tagging along, and always finds a way to bring me down. It's very very hard to escape it, but I'll try nevertheless.

[@clairereynolds6166]

So glad to have come across this video! So moving and powerful. This has pushed me further to want to help people in this way. I never realised how powerful spontaneity is. Do you have any more videos? Well done Tony for making such a brave decision for yourself and not just the money!

[@lucastrash3068]

The only problem I see in me with self confidence is procrastination. I become so confident I will get it done or it will happen that I wait to the last minute for everything. I’m confident bc working under pressure works for me. It is a little high which feels good and feels better when I get my desired result. 😊

[@YuriDob]

"And when people look at us, believe in yourself!" Golden words right there.

[@luelaine8479]

do you believe in yourself all the time?

[@YuriDob]

I strive to do so, sometimes when you are wrong and still show confidence people do not realize your mistakes.

[@MsFirewood]

Yuri Dobryansky

[@MsFirewood]

Yuri Dobryansky

[@YuriDob]

*****​ I understand what your saying, but I allow myself to pursue life regardless of outcome. If its good (great) if it sucks (move on and learn) The rest is just there to be. :-)

[@crystalrampersad3578]

I am the captain of my ship and the master of my fate

[@princeswjproduction1535]

Fate*

[@ashleypierce2035]

“Invictus”

[@Jblah]

Well i am the admiral of the fleet your ship is in. So i decide your fate not you. Now get me some beer and go clean my toilet.

[@pfavien8419]

j blah I sense a lack of control in your own life .

[@psycho5815]

Ok boomer

[@Ryan-nd8wz]

如何訓練自信的技巧： 1. 堅持不斷的練習：踏出第一步，不論遇到多少挫折，都不要向「不」妥協 2.自我對話：面對負面的內心聲音，可以透過不斷的自我提醒（立標語、列清單等），給予自己更多的肯定 3.遠離那些不斷給你消極想法的人 4.讚美代替責罵 「除非你先相信自己，否則沒有人會相信你」

[@trinhho2496]

I'm grateful for seeing this video today. Practise makes perfect was my motto when I was at school but somehow it was lost. we should be diligent and persistent in everything we believe in. Building self-confidence is what I need right now and this sentence "No one will believe in you unless you do" light me up

[@PavelBarber]

These are the speeches that stick. A powerful message delivered by the common man in a funny and simple way. Self confidence is without a doubt the most important skill you can attain. Let's all start believing in ourselves - don't think of it as selfish when you're telling yourself you did great in those quiet moments. Because when you shine light on yourself, you shine light on others as well.

[@ToddSloanIAAN]

You got it and know that they want what you got.

[@ZosiaSamosiaOo]

Reminds me of what I've been once told and have been passing on to others ever since... Give as much thought to your successes as you do to your failures. Don't forget what you did right just because it went ok and now you only need to focus on improving what you did wrong or because you'd feel narcisstic self-praising yourself. Give as much time to the positive feedback you got and what went excellent as to what mistakes you made and didn't go quite as well this time.

[@ToddSloanIAAN]

Your self-talk has power to propel many with you. Simply believe as I do.

[@ahmadabuamra8766]

I'd be the most selfish person on planet earth, if talking success to yourself would be considered selfishness!!! I have no, zero regret on what I've made in my life. Damn!!! My self confidence at the moment is growing exponentially!!!!!!

[@eddietoth3045]

Flick out Fluency That's great to hear your self-confidence is improving greatly. Being selfish is the start of success then your self-confidence success will help inspire others to do the same!

[@krisg6480]

Small tip: When you’re on a high - write an email to yourself and schedule send it for 6 months down the line. Then? Forget about it. One day, you’ll get an awesome pick-up in your email when least expected that will transform your month. Wash, rinse, repeat.

[@nicolematthews2526]

Great tip! Going to try this! ❤️❤️

[@medeaendor3706]

Thank u for this

[@shyaaammeneen63]

@@medeaendor3706 Reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be still and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly they will reduce and relax the mind. Deep inhalation-exhalation is not needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Be as still as possible as it reduces negative thoughts. Make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

[@thunderofthor3015]

@Ivan Joseph Leadership Why don't you get views on youtube Dr Ivan ?

[@joshdominguez2765]

For some reason, I interpreted this as "when you're high". I think that works too

[@liumanseit-mametov5662]

What charisma! This man should make a Friday evening show giving motivational speeches every week!

[@sizakelethwala1604]

“Our thoughts influences our actions” 🙌

[@shyaaammeneen63]

Jessica, Reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be still and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly they will reduce and relax the mind. Deep inhalation-exhalation is not needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Be as still as possible as it reduces negative thoughts. Make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

[@Itstherealyoungleek]

it's been 3 month since i have watched this video and it truly changed me as a person

[@colleenanderson3347]

Thank God for this Motivation Speaker

[@abels6985]

happy for you

[@bar06]

Thereal youngleek It is definitely a great vid. I agree with you!

[@sawairajavaid4400]

Good to know man!

[@QuickTalks]

Summary of the talk: "Confidence is a SKILL you can build" 1. Build it by practicing! The more you have tried something over and over again the more confident you become. Practice, repeat and persevere. The more you fail and keep going, the more confident you'll be 2. Stop the negative self talk. You're shooting yourself in the foot, tell yourself "I am the greatest!". You'll be surprised at how much that helps you keep going. 3. Get away from the negative people. You're already struggling not to tell yourself "God I look fat, I'm no good at this" You don't need other people to make this even worse. 4. Build other people's confidence: Focus on what people do well. Don't try to correct their mistakes 5. Interpret feedback in a way that builds your confidence. Instead of "Wow that interview went shitty. I gave a terrible answer to 8/10 questions." say "Hey I did 2/10 questions pretty good! I'm gonna ace those on the next interview!"

[@ranveersingh-mj4mk]

QuickTalks

[@MisterL2_yt]

"Hey I did 2/10 pretty good" sounds like next level sarcasm lol

[@milangavrilovic2336]

QuickTalks h

[@zhiqiangniu6502]

QuickTalks is

[@DarkRosesX1]

Thankssss

[@PascalBachmann]

I couldn't agree more with Dr. Joseph's emphasis on self-confidence. It's a game-changer not just in sports but in every aspect of life.

[@arq500347]

I found this speech several years ago. It is simple and to the point! I’m glad it’s still around!

[@deadlypotatoes]

"No one will believe in you unless you do". Thank you! Great performance.

[@GhostDawg23]

deadlypotatoes the the

[@jamesof7seven]

I'm 90 years old and just hearing this. Yes, God does have a sense of humor.

[@safiyyah.k3259]

Winston Smith I love old people,but specifically those who are wise.❤️

[@pratikpathak1466]

Winston Smith you are waiting for your time eh ok😂

[@Hadda23]

@@pratikpathak1466 hmmm your time will come too. Whether or not you will be lucky enough to reach 90

[@shobvious]

Seems so do you. Love your comment.

[@Nourhanabusharkh]

Winston Smith رلاياثايتي

[@kokannob.3082]

6:40 GET AWAY FROM THE PEOPLE WHO WILL TEAR YOU DOWN!, these words I will keep them and engraved them and plant them deep into my mind, one of the best quotes I have heard in my life, This man is stating facts! it's a sad truth but most of the people around you will tear you down or only hold you back, (at least in my case)

[@MarcoSanderCoaching]

Believing that no matter what happens you’re going to be fine anyway is always a great mindset to have

[@ShamielSpeaks]

Self confidence is the key to doing anything in life!

[@candicemoore7535]

+ Action

[@HoneyBunRoad]

This reminds me of my high school biology teacher. She did not take “I dont know” as an answer in class but there is such a fine line between embarrassing your students and encouraging them to speak up in class even if they think they have the wrong answers. Maths class was a nightmare, the teacher was always calling out names and making people stand up and solve problems on the chalk board. But biology❤️❤️ oh man... she would even go as far as telling us exactly what to research on for the next day so we could be prepared. And she’d allow us to help other students answer if they didnt know. It was such a positive experience and it encouraged us to be curious and just ask about other things we didnt understand even if that wasnt in the curriculum. Miss that lady. 1 of the best teachers ever

[@allanpresto5163]

'Pretty sure you all learned more in your Math class. But you remembered to this day and beyond the kindness of your Biology teacher.

[@gallo8851]

TEDx will change your life. There are talks of every problem and how to fix it, with comments on the videos of peoples personal experience. Instead of scrolling through social media, swap it with watching TEDx talks. Your life will change.

[@viberantmaya]

How to get Your confidence back ? 1- Repetition is key… practice till it become your second nature 2- Positive self talk & to train yourself to believe that you can do whatever you want if you put your mind into it. 3- Catch people when they’re good, & praise the positive behavior to reinforce it.

[@oab1413]

I love the sentence that he said : " Repetition , Repetition , Repetition " Really, it is the key of any success ♡

[@TradingAryan]

Repetition to the point of exhaustion

[@stopwastingseed.hijabmodes2754]

أبو عوف الكندي Lots of Effort and giving your best

[@numbernine8571]

you can say that again.

[@anandr1385]

It’s should be practice, practice, practice. To repeat the same mistakes over and over is not progress.

[@ericmorales9146]

This is great. I am an introvert, and hate talking to people, especially public speaking, but I am at high position at work and am now having to force myself to get out of my bubble

[@user-fi5fd2ky6e]

Eric Morales is it working dude :)

[@FistOfMichallin]

Now you'll be an introvert that commands an audience -- double threat

[@ericmorales9146]

Yeah, it's working. I started 3 yrs ago as a military personnel administrator and got promoted multiple times. And I'm doing tasks and giving orders that I would have never seen myself doing. It's crazy lol

[@nikitamcmath9928]

Eric Morales IIT P

[@AlayziaWade]

You can do it Eric!! I'm exactly like you we can do it!

[@Wooyyyy]

If you believe in yourself, YOU ARE GREAT!!!

[@WisdomWorkshop]

Powerful perspective. Helps me contextualize mastery -- persistent, perfect practice makes perfect .... and the importance of self-talk so important. Thanks for this.

[@obumjohnokafor6899]

My respect goes to any speaker who doesn't use slides yet manage to speak to the souls of his listeners and change their lives forever... Thanks Dr. Ivan, you earned my respect.

[@adventurecoalition3690]

“No one will believe in you unless you do” so powerful. Great Ted Talk a must for everyone. Self-confidence “magic, no” “reps, reps, reps” simple but so true. Thanks for this

[@XaliberDeathlock]

"Praise the positive behaviour that we wanted to reinforce. Catch them when they're good. Showed them the times they did it right." Thanks for the words.

[@naomirayo3870]

"Get away from the people who will tear you down" - I love that one.

[@eshan309]

12:51 "...hears to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in square holes..... we are supposed to be different folks....and when people look at us.... believe in yourself."

[@jaelimaja6105]

"We're supposed to be different". Thank you. Hearing these words was what I needed to regain my self-confidence.

[@bethshamblin]

What a great message and powerful presentation. Confidence, the kind that is grounded and truly rooted, can transform your mindset, outlook, and self care in ways that can change your life (and hopefully the lives of others, too).

[@doxfie.]

for really shy people: you actually need a psychotherapist who teaches you to "stop the negative self-talk". youtube gives you a (fallacious) good feeling for 15 minutes, but does not teach you how u shaped your brain by 20 years of destructive thinking, how you behave in situations because of that and how you can fix this in less time. it's alot more complex than on youtube obviously - fortunately you don't need to learn any theory for yourself. if you suffer, do not buy books, do not read blogs, do not do all the things, that consume time (procrastinate), make you feel better but don't help you with your actual problem - be bold and see a therapist, you will soon be as happy as could not have imagined.

[@kevkevin1555]

ohh really coz im in this situation ryt now.. T_T

[@kevkevin1555]

doublejay ok i get that.. thanks for sharing ur know.

[@kevkevin1555]

doublejay how?

[@samsoncooper1]

doublejay Oh cos we can all afford to do that...

[@hugotendam5349]

Samson Cooper If you live in holland, therapeutic help from a psychologist is payed for by your standard (mandatory) health insurance.

[@Deadman_Unknown]

When he said “believe in yourself” in the end. I felt that

[@uyennguyen3870]

A useful video! I used to be someone who wasn't confident when it came to public speaking or public speaking until I came across this video. Confidence gives me great strength and helps me stay true to my stance and dare to speak my mind. Confidence helps us become bold, enterprising. Thank you so much for the video that conveyed energy and enthusiasm so that everyone could understand the importance of trust life skills.

[@mariaparedesbermejo]

I cannot count the times I have watched this talk and how it helps me every time. Congratulations Dr Joseph!

[@bonnevie4822]

"Get away from people and things who will tear you down." The end..

[@pauluhlenbruck]

Running away from yourself wont solve any problems...

[@zachh9559]

So not true from my experience. Getting away from the people who created so many issues for me in my teen years just haunted me in the long run and made me feel so weak for running from the people that tried to tear me down. Almost wish I could go back in time and stand up for myself now that I have the courage to do that.

[@meghanvoelker4239]

Zach H don’t run away, simply think “that is their problem if they don’t like me, I like me!” then you walk away you don’t turn back because when you walk away you aren’t breaking your own heart anymore ❤️

[@R.S_Howell]

No. Stare those things in the face until they have no power over you any more. Sometimes, a sharp word with someone, even if they're your 'superior' will shift the dynamic... a lot of the times its inadequate individuals that will try and have some sort of reign... put them into their place astutely, concisely and politely. You won't get bother anymore.

[@Alusnovalotus]

Bonne Vie! But those very people are the hammers that beat you into the sword you need to be to cut through doubt.

[@elplateado0018]

"So you're saying there's a chance?" I love that. LOL

[@DX-d]

If the woman is not interested, it’s called harassment.

[@dunemae]

@@DX-d yes it is, but I think you missed the point he was trying to get across :/

[@ensuke-kotaro5614]

分かりやすい言葉で伝えて下さり、ありがとうございます。 自信を持つには繰り返し繰り返し練習する。思考が行動に影響する。 自分が信じなければ、信じてくれる人は誰もいない。というところが私には響きました。

[@instincthaun3073]

Dude right about 10 min mark really hits home for me. Praise the good actions to reduce the bad ones. Instead of “attacking the bad ones head on” perfect alternative, it also allows that person to choose as their own person.

[@rahultech77]

Confidence comes from competence. Competence comes from repetition. Repetition happens when you interpret failure in a positive way (positive affirmations to create good beliefs). Others can have confidence in you only when you are confident in yourself.

[@fettahbendaou4149]

Great.. waw

[@chinzanasweat]

it's good but how to keep repetition when there is lack of belief in oneself? I mean that's blocks people from repetition - they don't believe it will work for them.

[@b1zika]

Nah you're wrong. Confidence doesnt come from competence...You could be with 5 degrees in whatever area you'd like. That doesnt define you overall as a confident person. It just makes you good at some area or at least you think you are. Life is complex thing. There's no magic button as the guy said there's no universal solution to problems. You cant automatically assume you're confident because of your competence. In this case you thinking that you're confident would be becuase of your set of mind and understanding about how life works.Its your own thoughts and feelings. What im trying to say it that nothing works one and only one way. We're different people. You cant put one word and make the conclution of how it works and think that its universal and other people can apply this set of mind. And boom magic happens... Confidence is more than just that. Its mindset, its feelings and tons more stuff that come together

[@LessonsInLife]

If you can’t trust yourself to be honest with yourself about your dreams, hopes, and ambitions, you’re in trouble. As you become more familiar with yourself and can trust yourself, your path to success will become clearer. Love you Rahul Makhija

[@unknown-je5oh]

Summertime Snow try to have clearity, if you have clearity you dont need confidence. Do you need confidence to go to bed? To breath? To walk? Only those things that are new, we need confidence for. So for me clearity is the way.

[@BaebiDoll]

1) persist 2) reaffirm 3) praise positive feedback (focusing on the positive) 4) interpret feedback