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6 Ways Iron Man is Cooler Than Captain America
The rivalry between iron Man and Captain America has reached a fever pitch with Captain America: Civil War. And in the movies (Winter Soldier, Avengers, etc.) and comics both are incredibly effective leaders. What is undeniable though, is that people follow them for different reasons, because Iron Man is much cooler than Captain America. In fact, Captain America can be kind of a dweeb
In honor of Captain America: Civil War I wanted to look at the actors behind these 2 iconic characters. Because whether Iron Man has bled into Robert Downey Junior or vice versa, the fact is that they have both mastered the art of witty banter and cool demeanor.
Chris Evans and Captain America, still make great leaders but in a very different way. They're much more good-hearted and likable. So let's take a look at how some tiny little habits make Robert Downey Junior and Tony Stark come across as cool while Chris Evans and Captain America come off as something else entirely.
We'll explore the different ways that they use sarcasm, joke, and pay attention to other people. And in the end hopefully we can resolve this Civil War peacefully ;-)
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[@Dalen22_W]

How to be the coolest guy in the room Step one: Be the only one in the room Step two: Enjoy your results!

[@AntonisBarker13]

Genius

[@zolikoff]

That moment when you're the only one in the room and still not the coolest.

[@Raez_XL]

Lol!

[@peronkop]

What the fuck is a roomStep?

[@Michau940]

I tried it but my carpet is still much cooler than me

[@npc0076]

its interesting to notice that Chris Hemsworth is exactly in the middle of Evans and RDJ (a mix between ingenuity and humour)

[@alexht.9382]

He's like a baby of an angel and a pirate.

[@jjbam7441]

Holy Trinity...

[@zak14]

More towards evans's side tho

[@dilucbutiworkatmcdonalds9291]

@@zak14 he has the classic Australian humor. Just watch LazarBeam and his sister Tannar Eacott, they make a very similar type of jokes

[@MayankSharma-kt7zs]

He is very charming

[@CLSGL]

Chris: Thank you… I owe everything to you 🥺 RDJ: We all know I deserve this award.

[@TheHappyHummy]

EXACTLYYYY 😂😂

[@ohkay5735]

For a moment I didn't know which Chris you were talking about Ik

[@CLSGL]

@@ohkay5735 there’s just so many Chris’s

[@lukehart7225]

I’d be more like Chris Evans in the end!

[@sarahholland2600]

They're different generations & in different stages of fame though. EDJ is established & has longevity in the industry That gives you confidence, as does age & experience .

[@moonknight5588]

Robert isn't even acting when he plays Iron-Man, he's just himself

[@mikepaoletta9847]

And that’s what makes him so damn good for that role.

[@hjjjj7888]

Yesssssssssssssss

[@anamarte7547]

He and Johnny Depp follow the same principles when it comes to their personas.

[@rkane1998]

I think that is why he got the seal of approval from Stan the man lee

[@VickyDreamz]

I am like 3 months late but I wanted to write the exact same thing :D

[@wubz2879]

Step one: Be Iron Man

[@akhilnair1137]

You missed a couple of steps buddy .

[@andrewliu1493]

step two: be Iron man

[@justindono]

Spanish Infiltrator Messi He can rest now

[@joeltuohey4886]

Step 1: be iron man. Step 2: profit.

[@lukeblackwell7941]

nice profile pic

[@zacharylong939]

No one: Chris Evans: Thank you, thank you, thank you, tha- than- thank you! Thank you...

[@greghernandez54]

Thank you

[@Hanlb]

Captain Canada.

[@glitch-ify]

Actually* Everybody: *Excessive Applause* Chris Evans: Thank you, thank you, thank you, tha- than- thank you! Thank you...

[@bioworld6328]

He, accidently saw his bank account before getting on stage.

[@mr.soundguy968]

How to be the coolest guy in the room: 1. watch this video 2. make sure no other guy in the room has watched this video

[@michellerichards7392]

The way he says “I hhhhhaveit!” at 3:17 is so sassy and perfect lol. Love RDJ

[@625098evan]

I don't think being cool should be a goal

[@virus-rights7001]

@@625098evan being cold should ns

[@GryffindorScholar]

Judging by those millions of views, probably too late.

[@Sara-vq2js]

My thoughts exactly

[@nmpete3365]

Chris thanked himself right into his new role: Captain Canada

[@hunterkallio2517]

underrated comment

[@neooblisk0084]

He's been promoted to Canada. We'll miss him.

[@Juubox]

@@neooblisk0084 Canada isn’t a promotion USA is better but that’s another topic for another video

[@neooblisk0084]

@@Juubox im joking

[@M1k3lol]

@@Juubox r/wooosh

[@Lizotte100]

Perfectly balanced. As all things should be...

[@tooniant6588]

Jason Lizotte this comment does put a smile on my face

[@karldizon3780]

I deleted my other reply. It’s Gone, reduced to atoms

[@seifujin]

*insert picture* I understood that reference

[@K_610]

I cant tell if this makes me want cry or smile. help

[@daweidaweibljat1928]

nice one!

[@stephengehly2319]

Another thing should be noted about sarcasm. Rdj is actually very careful about how he uses sarcasm. He never does it to put other people down. He actually uses egotistical humor in a subtly self deprecating way to make other people feel better. He makes himself the joke. Obviously it all takes balance.

[@nishatanjumnourin7711]

I totally agree. He makes himself the butt of the joke and thats why we all love him like this.

[@darhemandarial4768]

Thats why thanos come along..

[@spencerevans2923]

Seriously a thanos joke?

[@arrowb.8438]

it takes balance.... as all things do

[@OnkelGummi]

Perfectly balanced... as all things should be

[@Zer-Esy]

robert dawney is in a permanent you laugh you lose challenge

[@TheInnerSpark]

His comment is so underrated

[@itsokbabygirl]

@@TheInnerSparkFOR. REAL. If I could at least emphasize this comment, I’d feel quasi sufficiently satisfied.🌟👏🏻👍🏼

[@Necrocidal]

"I love you" Sincere: "I love you too" Sarcasm: "I love me too"

[@TheHappyHummy]

Facts

[@Seankwondo87]

"How he chuckles for seemingly no reason at all" that basically just described Jimmy Fallon in any situation

[@herecomeskuma3107]

i honestly could make one of those "10 hours of" Jimmy Fallon trying his hardest to get people to like him videos with a part 2 on the way

[@archangelmek1]

I think you misspelled "Anything w Jimmy Fallon"

[@thehilaryglow]

So accurate! LOL

[@bodhisattva2348]

But i love his chuckles.

[@michaelthorpe1869]

Fallon is D Bag and good for Robert

[@Julia-yr1dm]

Basically a guide to the two types of popular kids at school

[@stephen8758]

I think that’s just an insult to Captain America 😂

[@co0k1emonster23]

Phate that’s my school lol. If you don’t drink or do drugs and constantly party, you’re not cool.

[@levirain6011]

Julia354 i met many people who are arrogant and be cool . I rather have someone i can be joking around with all day and have good time . In real life cris evan is the one that gets the females.

[@elaovi]

Tobyy you’re probably in middle school then

[@RagingBullNuts]

Levi Rain They both would just attract different types of females.

[@BWater-yq3jx]

4:00 Chris is such a great guy, and busy too. Went straight to pick up his award after teaching high school history.

[@stacys8729]

I don't want to be the coolest person in the room though. When i bring people together I want to play them up, give them openings to share fun stories, etc. Sometimes a group just needs someone earnest, a bit of a background character, ready to be self depricating. I never really thought about it like this before - I LOVE this channel.

[@okayge_]

People saying he has adopted the tony stark persona are wrong. Hes always been like this.

[@ellee8658]

unkwn tony adopted rdj persona 😂

[@wilmarursua996]

That pikachu is so cute

[@queenexplosionmurder1329]

The majority of the first Iron Man movie was improv they had a half baked script and a few unknown actors so if anything Iron man is more Robert Downey Jr.

[@ProlificPops]

Tony Stark is literally just RDJ but slightly more exaggerated. The thing I love about RDJ's Tony Stark is that he's practically playing himself in all the Marvel movies he appears in and his performance always comes off as natural.

[@minecraftstation6422]

@@ProlificPops also a bit in Sherlock Holmes two movies

[@satrickptar6265]

It's not coincident that Robert Downey Jr. is Iron Man and Chris Evans is Captain America

[@annomar4086]

No dip sherlock

[@aptspire]

Thank Sarah Finn, she casted (cast?) 95% of the MCU

[@ea6139]

@@aptspire cast

[@impulse5674]

Most people who cast actors say “the moment we saw him/her we knew they were the best choice” but in this case with rdj, Chris Evans, and Chris Hemsworth, they would be right, I can’t imagine anyone else playing these three characters

[@kh7688]

@@aptspire So she's responsible for Brie Larson? She must be stopped.

[@Tim.Hammer]

I think an interesting point to note here is that being very famous adds an entirely new benefit to these styles of communication. These concepts are certainly applicable for anyone, but it's important to remember that you will not be viewed as a "prize" to be won over by the people around you automatically, and acting in these ways (especially like Robert) is very likely to make most people just think you're arrogant. Yes, it can be done, but it's insanely difficult for an average person to find that balance. Robert has the benefit of his fame doing a bit of that balancing for him, because people already want him to like them before even entering the conversation. So, if you want to be the distracted, envied, cool guy - tone it down, and be super careful.

[@kbadr]

This all comes down to playing with status (see Keith Johnstone's book "Impro"). Both men are confident, but one asserts high status at every opportunity, and one enjoys elevating other peoples' status (either by lowering his own, or raising the other person's) I think RJD enjoys being high status. He's been a movie star for a lot longer and is used to it. Chris Evans is more modest and humble. I think their individual personality traits had a lot to do with the Marvel roles they each got.

[@cristyf5431]

RDJ also fought his way through he'll and back. I think that on top of his natural ease and timing just gives him an air of natural confidence these days.

[@devonhayes2209]

*RDJ* never uses sarcasm to bring people down but only to bring himself up. Big difference!

[@S1ow.V1bz]

😂 yes sir

[@yutisima]

nice detail

[@laszlobandi6456]

need to be both, he has a long way to evolve

[@splash8429]

@@laszlobandi6456 why tf would he evolve to learn how to bring people down

[@OnlyAFlame]

agree

[@burningscarlet]

Personally, I'd go for the RDJ persona when you first meet people, and then I'd transition into something more like Cap as I start to get to know them better. It makes them feel like they're genuinely winning you over as you interact with them over time, and that is a powerful feeling to have.

[@cookie_x3]

I think I have that problem xD like when I meet people, I usually act very confident, very sarcastic and fun, then as I get to know someone I turn into a puppy... And it's not fun anymore but annoying xD

[@Jkev24]

@@ArcticZombie nah it's the RDJ persona because RDJ isn't even really acting, he's just being himself as he reads lines lol.

[@nekoscum4929]

BabySnake You should learn to change mask.Flip it constantly to keep things interesting.Don’t flip too often though since it may become too unpredictable and make the other person always feel on edge not knowing how you’re gonna act.

[@cookie_x3]

@@nekoscum4929 yeah, slowly but surely become Tony Stark. Like a boss. 😎

[@jackthorton10]

In the beginning, coolest guy in the room, in the middle, stern as a wood painting

[@glovere2]

I could watch Robert Downey Jr. videos all day long and never be that cool. It’s a gift and he’s a brilliant guy who has been in show business his whole life. He’s a master of timing and quick wit. I do appreciate the dynamic breakdown of his social skills, however, to the extent a mere mortal can learn from it. I will have to be satisfied with being the coolest one in the accounting department. You work with what you got.

[@zastavabruva]

Be like Robert towards women and Chris towards men.. - Mahatma Ghandi.

[@aryandass610]

No Einstein

[@lynic-0091]

Lol what? It should be the other way around. - Random name.

[@lynic-0091]

Men can handle Robert's sarcasm a lot better than women, and women are generally more socially aware, so most of them will appreciate Chris' qualities better. Calling a man a simp just because he handles interactions differently just shows how childish you still are at the moment. My boy. :)

[@lynic-0091]

@@zastavabruva Lol oh now you were joking all of a sudden? Or just too ashamed to admit you're talking nonsense? My boy :)

[@Jason_LDims]

"Don't lie" ~Mahatma Gandhi.

[@decatessara5029]

How to be cool: Step 1: assume room temperature

[@TheRealJojo27]

It's 14 degrees.

[@maramara-ow9zf]

duhh receh bgt humorkuu :((

[@rdebeer4071]

Is it hot in here?

[@lemlgramen]

@Oskar Policha by T posing

[@manictiger]

@@Crabnuts Nah, you can survive severe hypothermia.

[@Kilkiju]

1. Invite your friends to the kitchen 2. Open the freezer 3. Go into the freezer 4. Close the freezer

[@savannaheastler971]

Damn that's cold

[@maegjohncareeon639]

I don't freeeeze

[@tylerjaynes822]

I genuinely cant stress enough how unfunny this is

[@darienmorgan8859]

The cold never bothered me anyway...

[@bradleybrad398]

Tyler Jaynes you just gotta let it go man

[@CameronGibsonIRL]

IMHO, being the coolest guy in the room is all about security and confidence in yourself. Just own what you have and who you are. That's why everyone likes these two, they're unapologetically them and they stand up for what they believe in.... which is cool!

[@skyhigh2118]

That's being cool in the eyes of a 16 year old. Being really cool is being calm in any situation.

[@z018246]

All of this is being cool in the eyes of a 16 year old?

[@midnightfox5684]

@@z018246 yes i am a 16 year old

[@oliaustfjor697]

To be fair to RDJ, i wouldn't invite Jimmy Fallon to my birthday party either.

[@asmrking7295]

Sarcasm, right?

[@mohamedumar3082]

+NewLifeInKorea while reading your comment my expression matched your profile pic....

[@duncansiror5033]

Are we talking about about Kimmel or Fallon?

[@oliaustfjor697]

Dick Johnson No idea, why do you ask?

[@oliaustfjor697]

Dick Johnson Thank god, i was so confused

[@JFTSwiertz]

RDJ is a cat, Evens is a golden retriever.

[@leenaleewitch3731]

What a great analogy!

[@plastic_cleopatra]

cat person and dog person literally in real life

[@emilkura6824]

more like a lion and a chihuahua

[@KeaJei]

@@plastic_cleopatra oh right!

[@DarthScrewtape27]

This is a fantastic analogy!

[@ray5357]

You're funnier when you don't laugh at your own jokes. Just be nonchalant about it, it really makes a difference.

[@crystalturner8274]

Except Jimmy Fallon. He's most hilarious when he cracks himself up! 😂

[@keshavjha.21]

Basically when you meet for the first time be like Cap and when you are familiar enough you can be RDJ.

[@eletraf]

Absolutely agree

[@annapuczyowska8772]

I agree

[@mhd.ramziarbain3094]

ou yeah 💯 should get pinn

[@zicc616]

Chris = Nice Guy, Leader. Robert = Badass, Boss.

[@Dashyrre]

Chris: Thank you, I love you! RDJ: Thank me and love me.

[@gudusahu3642]

😂

[@addyben3686]

One is a cat the other a puppy

[@COOK1EMONSTA96]

These videos are so interesting & honestly very helpful for understanding others. Never saw conversations in this perspective. Makes sense why y'all got almost 5 million subs ;)

[@user-re7qu6gb7o]

Its more sad when KZbin recommends this to you

[@hoodiek6802]

Damn facts🥶😪

[@MrDasfried]

Why is it sad? You can just learn a Thing or two instead of beeing sad 🤗

[@pammeckley3888]

Lmao 🤣 Your humor is great, love it! 👍🏼

[@alannikander1987]

Robert is the entertainer, the fun guy at the party... at least he’s the guy you want to show up at your party.. not necessarily the “clown” exactly.. he’s too cool for that. But Chris, he’s the guy I’d want to have as a friend... the guy I’d hang with.. he looks like the kind of guy that would make me feel better about myself having him around. Hey Chris... anytime your in Portland.. stop by..

[@Yasir-sm1ol]

Just watch chris video

[@daddydaddy9757]

basically the guy that gets friendzoned

[@Jkev24]

@@daddydaddy9757 Nah, he's still confident. His personality isn't the one that will seduce you, but he'll make you feel special. He's nice without feeling like he's elevated you outside of his league, which is the issue most nice guys have with girls. Your compliments need to come off genuine, but also as if you are bringing them up to your level and not that you are pushing them higher up from below. Seem humble and positive, rather than star struck and trying to win their favor. Source: Nice guy who used to get friend zoned, but figured out how to avoid it after many years of trial and error.

[@levirain6011]

Jkev24 i met many people who are arrogant and be cool . I rather have someone i can be joking around with all day and have good time . In real life cris evan is the one that gets the females.

[@sofiamayz]

Your ellipses bother me

[@Laser0rick]

Chris is a a genuinely nice guy, while Robert is a genuine badass.

[@mirsadajdari]

You explained the video in one sentence... *_I am proud._*

[@tristanlanier5641]

I think this video is incredibly useful in the business world. I run a financial firm from home. I feel the RDJ approach is best taken for people your are training or helping in your business and the Chris Evans approach is best for talking to your clients. I find this pretty interesting for a random KZbin video lol

[@artemissrijan473]

The Jimmy Fallon eyebrow analysis and all at 6:50 was just insane. I felt that awkward chuckle too. 😂😂

[@masterchief5437]

This is what you do when some one compliments you: Say Thank you sincerely and then say You Chose Wisely. Then you'll be Captain Iron Man Best of Both Worlds

[@rioa500]

Genius

[@masterchief5437]

@@rioa500 Thank you Rio! Thank you sincerely! You chose wisely! *See what happened

[@auzzpanda3497]

Hey that's a great idea. Like '' thanks, you have good taste''

[@rioa500]

@@auzzpanda3497 yeah or "Thanks, I knew I could trust you to make the right decision"

[@miserablemochi5094]

Good thinking but i have one question, why are so many fellow Halo fans commenting on this??

[@kcwidman]

I like this video, not because of the topic, but because of how analytical and accurate the video was. I don't think many people could describe someones personality as well as this man did, and he doesn't even know the guy.

[@Justin5s]

Kai Widman iiuuu

[@ShaunaCheungBoSaanWOGO]

I agree this is very accurate, but there are some places where I feel like it's more generalized than it should be. For example, he said that RDJ's method of looking away from you when talking makes you want to work harder to keep his attention or walk away feeling like "I hope he likes me"... it would be quite the opposite for me. If someone wasn't directly looking at me and make me feel like they're not interested in talking to me I will just excuse myself and not waste my time in the company of someone who refuses to show me the same respect and attention I give them. They can reach out when they're ready to give me their full attention. I default to Chris Evan's and Emilia Clarke's style.

[@cbeautifulworld11]

I prefer to be around people like Chris who are guileless and consider the feelings of others during interactions rather than people who adopt methods to appear cool - methods which often involve manipulation and narcissism to cause people to continuously feel unbalanced in their presence. I like Robert Downey, love his movies. If I were by some serendipitous fate given a choice, I'd definitely rather hang out with Chris Evans.

[@Nat-ul6ef]

They are both hilarious and makes things really funny and good jokes but just I different ways. I really love RDJs sarcastic type of humour(:

[@RealCoachLee]

Be unafraid to be yourself, be honest, and to lead. Being witty and funny takes it over the top!

[@Blox117]

thanks, now everyone loves me so much they run screaming. i never knew just how popular i am

[@aquaticarrow55]

Good for you :D

[@johnl6973]

Aye! Get lost in the recommended to brother?

[@kaden694]

Nobody wants to hang out with me anymore... thanks a lit

[@learnpianofastonline]

Being witty and funny is largely a gift. I suppose it can be learned to some degree.

[@tgifridaysy]

this channel makes me question who i am as a person.

[@riell.4021]

Same

[@Some_One_One]

7:41 "The truth is that sarcastic jokes with no release that are at someone's expenses, do not make people feel good -- even if your close. It makes them wonder if you like them no matter how long you've been friends. That feeling just sits."

[@tophue7051]

How to be the coolest guy in the room: Stand directly beside/under a fan or air-conditioner

[@DilanGilluly]

So Robert is a boss, and Chris is a leader...

[@jp3813]

+EseChava 22 I think the video claims it the other way around.

[@veerdhawal24]

@@jp3813 yup lol

[@jackiec498]

Dilan Gilluly Idk if I am familiar with either enough to agree with you, but I will say that the difference is that a leader leads by example, fighting along side those who look to him. He(she) is generally not as much appointed as recognized and chosen. Whereas a boss usually is more likely to tell you what to do not do it themselves, and they will always be placed in that position or self-appointed, delegating tasks to those under his/her charge.

[@Cassiel75]

ones for show, ones to know ;)

[@jugjivan]

The video started off with calling them both leaders. Just in different ways. It also talked about how each person sees these guys differently as a leader figure. I guess you see Cap as a leader while other (me included) see Iron Man as a leader.

[@zeniashanze1882]

It is possible to be the coolest guy in the room Unless Rdj is in the same room

[@mirsadajdari]

No.

[@MayankSharma-kt7zs]

Underated comment

[@enma6602]

You Can But When It Comes To Keanu Reeves Well......You Will Be Te Lamest Guy In The Room

[@mannysr67]

Well researched and super interesting. I imagine it’s pretty hard, especially the older you are, to change your personality enough to affect real change in your interactions with people imho. These mechanisms and skills come together to help you manage your life at a young age. For example I am a younger of two brothers. Some of my mannerisms developed to diffuse tension with my brother, whereas he was often trying to influence me, good or bad. Now I have children and see those behaviors, and others, based off their life experiences.

[@djnoji8638]

I haven’t paid attention to the other videos, but the most impressive part is that (to date) there are no “dislikes”. Wow! Thanks for the content!

[@matthewprue1010]

RDJ: **oozes cool** Chris Evans: *ThAnK yOu*

[@DIY-ii3ky]

Matthew Prue LMAO

[@Jusonomous]

what i got from this was the chris evans would be the worlds best wingman

[@exprime8872]

Haha, nah he'd try but he'd unintentionally steal the girl

[@thecowboy9698]

+Waltimus Prime, That's what happens when you're a rich movie star.

[@abhish69]

+The Cowboy nah that can also happen when you are as handsome as that and so down to earth.

[@mwboyer1]

I love these videos. Alot of it is common sense to me. But these are very well put together.

[@antwan1357]

I followed Robert Downey Jr since he used to have the Robert Downey Jr show. He really has not changed that much only the direction of his life has changed as he took on more positive directions.

[@jasmynesartstudio]

I think I rather be the RDJ in my professional life and Chris Evans in my personal life.

[@alexsummers1843]

jst 1060 this!!

[@vinodkumaraug]

They are cool and all. But I'd rather try not to imitate somebody and come up with my own persona

[@kungfuman82]

@@vinodkumaraug You go, girl.

[@shamoshaher]

Hi ooo

[@mrm6607]

@@van-hieuvo8208 this. What makes RDJ cool and not just arrogant & cocky is that we know he's earned it, paid his dues, and most of us know it intuit that he's actually a good person underneath. Without all that backdrop to his persona, his mannerisms would just come off as a jerk.

[@BrunoNovaes_]

The Robert Downey way is actualy harder to pull off

[@rabid6761]

I know right

[@lucalinadreemur9448]

That's why it's so enamoring to people i think, it's kind of rare

[@pa1nted]

you just have to slow down when he's about to bust

[@fanimeproductionst.v.3735]

@@pa1nted lmao

[@defiantdomingo8278]

Not really. Comes natural to me

[@gu7740]

Amazing examples as always. Easily understandable.

[@antarahmoody575]

7:12 Jimmy Fallon ALWAYS chuckles for NO REASON at all.🙄

[@mariacillan9668]

RDJ is the kind of persona Brie Larson tries to be but ultimately fails

[@meixizou86]

that kinda hurts. But let's see her on the future marvel films.

[@thehorsesnamewasfriday8695]

lmAO

[@jacksonpowers3947]

I don’t think I’ve ever heard anything so right holy poop

[@pa1nted]

if you watch early chris evans interviews from the 1st cpt america he clearly was still finding his own shoes to be comfortable in, brie larson is still very young also. try to remember where downey was at her age... Honestly yeah she not that engaging on or off screen to me thus far, but the on screen part has more to do with a weak script/story imo. i used to think robert pattinson was a no-talent lamer as well

[@brennenhrebeniuk9661]

That's cuz Myers Briggs ENTP is cooler than ENFP

[@themita10]

The fact that Chris can laugh it off n doesn't take it personally tells a lot about his character and that he is a confident human being and almost nothing can get him down.

[@jamesdarrell9379]

Robert wasn't joking...he didn't want Fallon there. Completely understandable

[@cosmicriptid]

I'm always afraid I will come off as a jerk or accidentally insult someone, so I get overly nice. If I break out the passive aggressive, you've done something wrong.

[@z018246]

Sometimes people don't know what I'm saying when I'm overly nice.

[@Jpriest13]

I decided a while back to not worry about it. I have detractors, but overall I have way more people laughing and listening than the few that can't deal with my point of view. The reason is my point of view usually doesn't jibe with their perception of what THEY think I am, so my personality simply carries the day usually.

[@jackofallgods7764]

the cool guy is the guy you want at your party and the likeable guy is the guy you are thankful that they came

[@wmoidl]

jackofallgods the cool guy is the guy you want at your party, The likeable guy is the one women want in their bed 😬

[@mhm77887]

@@wmoidl depends though. Many women are into bad/cool guys cause it's "hotter" in some way, while others are into the sweet, humble guys (I'm into the 2nd, but I can respect other opinions)

[@VezWay007]

I want to be the likeable cool guy so people would be thankful that I came to their party.

[@mughwortslongshot4545]

Solid point my friend

[@Goblin_Hands]

@@wmoidl Most are into the bad/cool guys but then they grow out of it in their 30's/40's.

[@genrole]

The biggest mystery in my mind is how RDJ was able to pull off those sarcastic and "I'm the best guy in the room" jokes without people seeing him as arrogant or pretentious. In fact, everyone (I myself included) seems to appreciate him for that attitude.

[@Alfram]

Because he’s one of the biggest stars Hollywood has ever had and arguably the greatest in the last decade. I’m not a fan and I don’t think his acting is particularly all that great. But he’s an icon and he has the accolades, he can do whatever because he’s been through so much.

[@mehranshah4856]

Because he treats people good. He loves his fans. Movie crew/staff members have appreciated him multiple times for his polite behaviour. They also said he is never late for film shooting. Whenever new actor is hired for MCU, he calls them and make them feel comfortable and special. So it is easy to say that he is not arrogant type. And he's just being sarcastic

[@cobyvinkovic6594]

Because his expressions are great enough to show you he's joking. Why? Because he's a *professional actor.*

[@sliracha]

Its his in front of camera persona i think. And he just the regular genuine funny guy to the people around him. So that's why people didnt take his sarcasm seriously

[@mimesthaisilva8321]

I think it’s in the body language, but also there’s something about the way he says those things that make you know it’s sarcasm. Real arrogant people are not fun, and I’ve been around a lot of them.

[@PaulineFox]

So insightful, perfect contrast

[@exoticbutters4851]

its good to know that i have these habits but i also learned how to not be awkward and improve these habits. thank you!

[@abcdefghijkl__mnopqrstuvwxyz]

RDJ is Tony Stark and Tony Stark is RDJ. End of story.

[@Changetheling]

I knew I wasn't the only one thinking this.

[@nodont141]

U forgot iron man and Jarvis

[@emoeggboi1130]

Chris Evans is cap. And cap is Chris

[@jjbam7441]

Only that one of them dead

[@wagnerronald1581]

Bumper is correct in his assessment, as both RDJ and Tony Stark are ENTP's. Your statement is close, but not comple. The difference between Chris Evans and Cap are that CE is an ISFJ and Cap is an ISTJ. Chris cares way more about your feelings and what you think about him, and your comfort level, than does Cap. Cap's F and T scores aren't as far apart as Tony's F and T scores are. This is why so many say that Cap is so dull, while people largely say that Chris Evans is so cool, or is just the nicest guy. Cap is more duty focused, Chris is people focused, which is generally more likable when compared apples to apples.RDJ and Tony Stark do not suffer any such distinctions when compared apples to apples.

[@tylerourada9719]

A Chris Evins in the streets, and a Robert Downy Jr. in the sheets.

[@cookie_x3]

RDJ in both of those, except for maybe having Tony in the sheets cuz have u seen those muscles? XD tbh I'm pregnant from 6 minutes of this video

[@giorgiocartier9012]

Evans

[@user-gx9lc6kn5q]

A Cap in the streets, and a Stark in the sheets.

[@MdAsad-th1ci]

But cap can do it all day. Peggy should confirm this

[@jacobdavis5518]

LOL had fo share this as I was researching cool quotes “Arguing with a fool proves there are two.”- Doris M. Smith

[@AbdurahiimRoberts]

Very interesting channel. I appreciate the analysis

[@jaedelarosa6075]

Great content! Thank you! 🙏

[@allysonroa391]

Honestly, as a child I did not like RDJ. When I watched iron man I was not impressed because his character was so cocky that he would come off rude. As an adult now I can find humor in his actions.

[@brynn7064]

Allyson Roa omg same here!

[@brandenjohnson536]

RDJ was always my favorite

[@muffdiver240]

@Allyson & Brynn: His "Iron Man" films aren't that old. You must be some newly-minted 'adults'.

[@Me-vn3gz]

Ballistic Jacoby Samee

[@mininduwanigasekara7997]

Bruh he was my role model what you on about

[@lucmorris9183]

Woah a guide to be cool and about super heroes, ITS EVERY NERDS DREAM!!!!

[@thedeathskuller8665]

The cosmic comic turtle the seccond part is the main reason I clicked on it

[@chadyeary4038]

Satan

[@greatpower6063]

I only dream about junk food and heavy metal music. Aging male actors in superhero costumes are not part of my dreams.

[@user-mo3hl4ho5c]

You’re so insecure about yourself...

[@Chris-hd5lq]

You clicked on the same video we did buddy علي القحطاني

[@VedUncomplicates]

great video. thanks.

[@nrdkraft]

I would love for you to analyze Richard Dean Anderson’s character Jack O’niell from Stargate: SG-1. He’s also very sarcastic so I’d love your comparison (whether directly or indirectly) on how he’s similar to or different from Robert/Tony

[@Jamesucht]

How to be the coolest guy in the room: Be Robert Downey, Jr.

[@TheRedArrowExpress]

Step 2: Don't not be Rpbert Downey, Jr.

[@npc6817]

I am alaways the coolest guy in the room. god its so lonely in here...

[@queda5331]

*enters the room. Hah, you're no longer the coolest.

[@npc6817]

@@queda5331 uh, weird, I see no god in here *BESIDE MYSELF*

[@racconbuilders3665]

NPC 😎

[@shortclips2977]

Hahaha

[@frankcastle4715]

Damn bro. That must be frustrating.

[@briancarney5029]

Awesome honest take on Downey Jr and Evans!

[@adrianvorms9015]

It is actually good and helpful video, subscribed.

[@explosivecherry2150]

Keanu Reeves Doesn't self elevate with his jokes or anything like that and is the coolest guy out there

[@talknight2]

That's because he's breathtaking.

[@aubreeswart2206]

But admittedly he is a very different kind of cool than RDJ

[@pizzatime8917]

@@talknight2 NO YOUR BREATHTAKING

[@rainbowcake4771]

ExplosiveCherry Keanu is the type of guy who’s presence on its own is cool, he doesn’t need to joke or say anything to be perceived as cool. His positive reputation also helps.

[@johnfielbranzuela6979]

I love both of them. Keanu is a man with few words and RDJ is just being himself. Please do not compare them bro. They are both great.

[@CarlosSarceno]

Hot girl: "You have pretty eyes" Me: "Thanks, I workout." I'm living that Iron Man lifestyle.

[@fffffffffffffffff20]

+Carlos Sarceno Brilliant.

[@nurimbet]

+Carlos Sarceno "Thanks. I got it for my birthday" is a good answer

[@uncomplicatedpeace]

These are great videos. I appreciate the content and skill development. My issue is that, I believe, these clips in your videos are all of seasoned actors who know how to be on. We are taking it at face value that this is their personality at award show and late nite interviews. I personally believe they are in character when the lights are on. It would be more interesting to see regular people using these tricks and skills in real life, not watching people who are trained in creating the persona that they want you to see. Your testimonials are awesome. Maybe you could interview those people so we can see how they look using you advice. People who are not trained as actors or showman.

[@learnpianofastonline]

Very good training. I was part of Charisma University some months back. I will join up again next year.

[@CarlosRodriguez-dh7mm]

If I tried the Tony approach, I'd come off as a dick. He does it so perfectly, and that's something I could never emulate regularly. I think I'm more of a balance between the two. More Tony around large groups of people and more Cap around friends.

[@CarlosRodriguez-dh7mm]

I mean... Robert... and Chris...

[@romainhedouin]

Yeah totally agree with the "group vs friends" difference

[@izzythefizzy4]

Carlos Rodriguez I act more Cap around groups and more Tony around friends

[@legogore911]

I mean, though you are putting on an act to an extent to further how cool you look, you can't just go out one day and act like Tony Stark. You still the the props to back it up.

[@vijaz5559]

HA soon seems like never ever will

[@RR11333]

I find that wearing a fancy hat is one of the best ways to be the coolest guy in the room.

[@HiatusMobs]

lol

[@orionswift101]

Benjamin Hamilton lmfao

[@elnegocioerestu6159]

lol

[@laibazaman8775]

Reddit Gold User Tony: Been there, done that.

[@farazshadow2898]

very true and helpful info...

[@MagdalenaH]

awesome video!

[@volcanicz6739]

Im so jealous of his charisma, sarcasm and really cool personality

[@love2fight205]

Yoo dude Greninja is my favorite Pokemon

[@piingufps]

@@love2fight205 Same

[@appletechpro4u506]

What makes him charismatic

[@InJesusNameIPrayAmen]

Don’t be jealous, strive to work towards having charisma, being sarcastic and having a cool personality

[@vcolinc]

Try to be more like Grappler Guy

[@digitalutopia1]

You can tell however, when RDJ is actually joking, and when he's serious. In the former case, there's usually a bit of a wry smile and a glint in his eyes, in the latter he's just blunt, preceded by looking off to the side (i.e. towards the camera/audience) as if he's saying "What the hell is up with this guy?", and will respond to the insulted reaction with a half hearted quip designed only to placate the target. Compare his reaction to Fallon to Kimmel or any other talk show host. Also note the difference when he's honestly being thankful, or expressing apologies to someone, and his "Would've been great to have you there" response. Also note very similar reactions to that interviewer he walked out on. It's *very* clear that he doesn't care for Fallon at all. Which IMO is good taste - as Fallon tends to have the habit of getting way too blubbery and giggly

[@user-zu5mn8mp5j]

This video: You’re either cool or likeable Me, who’s neither: 👀 👃 👄

[@yeetusyeetusiwanttocommits9174]

Ifyy

[@jasonmoore4429]

its not what I give you that makes you my friend, its how I make you feel.

[@klatskyn]

So I was just watching a couple of interviews with RDJ and Tom Holland for Spiderman (especially on Kimmel), and I was remembering this video. But I thought how interesting it is how different RDJ was in these interviews ... he seemed to be using his charisma to almost continuously push focus onto Tom Holland (who is himself pretty charming and charismatic) and he was much more open about laughing at his jokes etc. I thought that might also be an interesting study as well, how he may use his draw of the audience to actually benefit the other guy in an interview when he wants to. He could easily have dominated but you can see how giving he is to Tom Holland, and I think that translates into Tom Holland's relaxed confidence as well? It's maybe similar to what you were saying Chris Evans does, but I just found the contrast really interesting in this case.

[@lokes6604]

Aww that's so true! Now I'm getting this Iron Man - Spider Man Father-Son relatinoship vibe lol.

[@dulguunmurunbarsbold210]

@@lokes6604 Well... it was fun while it lasted... *silently looks at Infinity War*

[@Ella795]

Interesting... So do you think RDJ is "nicer" towards Tom Holland because of Holland... Or more because RDJ just felt like he was too much on the 'cool guy' side and he needs to change a little? And what is about Holland that made the change?

[@adityamaanas9470]

@@dulguunmurunbarsbold210 *Silently looks at endgame*

[@CourtneyCoulson]

I'm autistic and this video was very informative. In my own experience I struggle to make eye contact, I used to look downwards which made me seem like I was less confident than I was. Then I watched Kiss Kiss Bang Bang and noticed Downey's lack of eye contact. But he did it in a cool way, his body language is very confident, as you say, his lack of eye contact makes your audience try harder to gain your attention. Pair that with a dry sense of humour and I suddenly became popular. At the same time I am a giver, I want people to feel comfortable and that I am listening and that I care. So there absolutely is a perfect balance you can strike.

[@smorgastarta4205]

Connor Coulson "I'm Autistic and this video was very informative" I couldn't help but laugh at that, seems like something I'll find a user using it as a joke.

[@michaelmcgovern9881]

Yea it’s just sometimes i flip between the two sides and it can be hard for people to know what kinda guy I am but I can’t choose between which type of person I wanna be

[@chiknosis]

Robert is like Jordan the self absorbed superstar that everyone gravitate towards even tho he makes it clear he’s all about himself, and Chris is like lebron the selflessness one that tries to get everyone else involved and makes his teammates look good doing so

[@RMASUPERFLY]

Lebron😂😂😂

[@malatiku6238]

How to be cool? Me: *Sits in a Refrigerator.*

[@mr.amazinggaming1153]

No.... How do you become the coolest person in the room? Start everyone else on fire!

[@jameswilliamson6245]

John Smith lamoooooooo

[@varuniyengar13]

shows great casting by Marvel

[@mr.mohagany8555]

Good point and I wouldn't be surprised if they touch on these kinds of ideas with their managers/PR guys before doing interviews, speeches, etc. With millions of dollars on the line, they're not going to just "wing it".

[@subashkhanal3500]

and there's Brie Larson

[@terran236]

@@subashkhanal3500 she's just blunt but weak men feel threatened by her. Maybe there's an ingrained idea that women can't be that way.

[@alexanderchristopher6237]

@@subashkhanal3500 I think she did a great job in her Captain Marvel movie. I really like her chemistry with Samuel L. Jackson in that film.

[@Raccon_Detective.]

@@subashkhanal3500 Still good because Captain Marvel is not a good person, for example what she was going to do too Miles if Captain America didn't come and stop it.

[@notspider-man1225]

The only person who can say: “I’m the best” and you can’t argue with him

[@loploppresents]

Chris Evans comes across as way more confident than RDJ. Evans is confident enough to make fun of himself and to lift others up. That's way more "cool" than the behavior RDJ exhibits.