For years I was a nice guy and a flirt and called girls good looking and beautiful in a playful way. It did lead to having fun in clubs and in social settings. But when I tried to close I got friend zoned like crazy. Ignoring is a bad word, it is more like do not chase and give compliments once you get her number and want to date her. Dont text all the time. Dont ask her out multiple times if you do not get a yes the first time. All it does it create friend vibes. Girls like talking to you and like the ego boost they feel, but it does not lead to attraction. Women have to feel you are a catch and not easy. Even if you take care of yourself and look good, if they think you like them too much before you get into a relationship it does not lead to one. It leads to a text buddy and occasional lunch. A lot of dating coaching all say this, because it is true. You need to develop attraction, not trying to backdoor a relationship with friend vibes.
@JerradRoss4 ай бұрын
I can definitely relate to that. Completely agree though. Looks only go so far and she shouldn't feel like she completely won you over on just the first date.
@timreeves89374 ай бұрын
@@JerradRoss It took a long time to understand this and what is attractive to women. I always strove to look good and even when I tried asking out women who I saw looking and smiling at me, I could not understand why I would get friend zoned and always got the "very busy" or the occasional lunch with no real movement. I was way too nice and available. Maybe women in a perfect world should love that, but they dont. They like the attention, but it is not attractive.
@hypersomnia83974 ай бұрын
Obviously, you cant ignore a woman completely. What you can do is make sure that for every unit of resource (time, attention, money, whatever it may be), you get back 2 units of resource (whatever you value). All relationships are transactional and whoever plays this game best, wins. The others lose. There can't be winners without losers. That's why anything goes in love and war. And love is a constant tug of war. It is what it is. Dark triad ftw!
@JerradRoss4 ай бұрын
Thats a solid, logical way of looking at things.. also applies to a lot outside of dating too
@erp0104 ай бұрын
I don't even understand what this means. Does this mean after you meet her at an event and get her number, you don't text her? Does this mean after the first date, you don't reach out to her ever until she reaches out to you? Does this mean when you see her on the street that you don't say hi? This ignore concept is too broad.
@JerradRoss4 ай бұрын
that's fair I probably should have added context about the concept. Essentially, it relates to how you engage with a woman you're currently seeing (usually in the early stages). The question is whether you should entirely be yourself and interact with her as much as you want... or dial it back to play "hard to get". So this is how often you talk, how soon you respond, how eager you are to move things forward, etc.
@amortomi68304 ай бұрын
Big mistake, you ignore her she goes to the person who won't ignore her. Like a normal human being.