The #1 Thing Women Crave in Men that is Constantly Underestimated by Men

[@Wacko20111]

My dad use to say, a man doesn't have to announce his presence, because a real man's presence is felt.

[@dominicbrogsdale3348]

Man.... There a woman on here named dneika marie and she said the same thing women know when there in the presence of REAL MEN!!!!

[@Eans_urban_jungle]

Yup. I finnaly figured this out. Now, I walk through the store or down the street, and all I have to do is make eye contact and women will smile and say hi, or blush and look down. Feels amazing and it self reenforces. This only came about after I began valuing my own opinion of myself to the exclusion of anyone else. This way of thinking is trained out of us from birth, and typically only sociopath types will retain thier own sense of self validation through the years of social conditioning. Hence, the "women love assholes" phenomenon. I slowly regained this sense of self assuredness by approaching and initiating interactions with hundreds of women and getting rejected ALOT. It made me stop giving any shots what any woman thinks about me; it deadend that nerve, like the skin on my knuckles from hitting the bag.

[@MrsBuddevil]

That's deep.

[@erojerisiz1571]

In a similar vein: The great man does not feel the need to put down other men. Instead, he helps them develop, because he is confident that nothing can threaten his position.

[@Wacko20111]

@@erojerisiz1571 Honestly I truly believe that's more of a problem between women. When an insecure male, is in the presence of a man who is self-assured and confident. The confident man will pretty much ignore the other, because he doesn't matter in the larger context. Unless the insecure man violates the confident man's space, emotional or physical. Even then there will be a warning and the confident man will either verbalize the warning in an assertive way. In addition, he will leave rather than escalate the conflict. There's a saying which states, "the louder mouth the scareder the man". This behavior can be seen in social settings whenever a man is loud and boisterous/attention seeking. As to your statement about putting down other men, men communicate very differently than women. What may appear to be a put down may just be a correction in their behavior or work ethic. Speaking from experience, I have three sons and each has a very independent personality. In raising these boys modeling behavior and correcting them is needed continuously and into adulthood. When my oldest challenged me as a teen, I corrected him and let him know he's not a man until he's taking care of the people he loves without selfishness. Putting others before self.

[@GeneralLocooo]

Fellas, dominance doesn’t mean be an asshole. As she said, be courageous and strong. A true leader. One that does not accept bullshit from anyone and stands up for what HE believes is right.

[@GeneralLocooo]

@@mynonleatherlife Thank you!

[@plazmakeksjefull]

Although someone can have most of those virtues and still be a bad person. Like "bad guys" some women are often attracted to. They are often strong and courageous.

[@adriansingh6060]

u got it inaccurate imo, is knowing WHEN to be an assole, Time and place. Also the line between assole and being a leader is often blurred.............

[@pseunition6038]

@@adriansingh6060 sup man, how are you doing?

[@adriansingh6060]

@@pseunition6038 fine bro

[@antiherojourney6344]

Refreshing to see a women vocalise this. Most women portray dominance as toxic not desirable

[@perad1895]

@@mynonleatherlife humans are weirdos aren't they

[@petroglyph79]

When women have to rely on men to protect them for survival then that makes the man dominant. Especially if she feels she wants to be dominanted

[@MadaraUchiha-ly8wr]

A lot of guys and girls can't just be friends, and those whom are friendzoned as brothers and sisters. Taking this straight off case there's a great deal of conception that girls always disrespect a BETA for an ALPHA. Adding more to the dating difficulties feminist and their dominate stand against men are killing the attraction. Even those women who live to leave false accusations against certain men.

[@formallyknownasjojoemc3174]

They've been conditioned by the media.

[@vaughnamir.6457]

it's reverse psychology. Women do this frequently to separate men who think for themselves, from men who are thought for. It's subconscious, but still.

[@amac0612]

you're probably the most honest girl I've seen on internet

[@amorosogombe9650]

Roger that. I don't think I've ever seen any woman being this honest online.

[@user-wm2tw]

Ok . Now Foff.

[@ruskinjetter5799]

Amen, you rule with your honesty.

[@pickledtesticles2870]

Hey abdullah arent you supposed to be segragated from women you hypocrite

[@kaano3770]

More like the most honest woman ever

[@adikickass84]

I love this chick's intros. She always starts off all formal like "Hello, it is I, Victoria" and then proceeds to spit some real down and dirty facts about sexuality. Good shit hahaha

[@mynonleatherlife]

Lol

[@hectormunoz7009]

Brutal

[@MasalaMan]

God, sometimes I feel like I was dominant by default and then sort of learned to be 'nice' through society and I guess general media and now I am finally undoing all that through your videos. Thanks!

[@MasalaMan]

@@mynonleatherlife @MyNonLeatherLife It's hard to say...because it was such a slow, gradual thing, you know? But it probably started somewhere near approaching my mid twenties(later twenties now) maybe it was just easier to be timid as I got older. Late teens and early twenties was probably when I was doing it right. I remember I used to love taking the lead and the girl would pretty much be like 'OK.' Haha.

[@amorosogombe9650]

Right. Our normal natural self was shamed out of us. I always felt in my heart that if this is wrong why does it feel so natural and all these other things we are being told we should be like feel so unnatural. How could all these billions of years of evolution have got it all so wrong? When all along it was toxic wokeness that's been the real problem destroying all that is natural, enjoyable and beautiful between men and women. When I was younger and went out to clubs and never had all these insecurities about being seen as a 'pervert' I had this thing about spanking girls I was dancing with. You know what I realised looking back? There wasn't a single time I can remember, looking back, that I went out, danced with a girl, spanked her and didn't get laid that very night. Not once. They couldn't get thier knickers off fast enough. Conversely every time I reigned myself in and tried to be all safe and risk free for them, yup, you guessed it. I went home alone. We need to stop shaming natural masculinity. Men and women exist for each other. We're symbiotes not enemies. We need each other just as we are and just as mother nature intended. Stop shaming it. It's doing massive harm to both sexes and to society.

[@TheNightmareTroll]

you can be nice and dominant happy and smiling and dominant asf

[@Hombre_Astuto]

@@amorosogombe9650 I think in America as a black male it’s even worse. If you show any perceived aggression outside of sports the cops comin. I’ve had a couple close calls at work. As soon as it’s sensed people( normally white females). start saying calm down and all that and I’m like huh. Me and this Italian guy I used to work with Always talked about this.

[@unknowninfinium4353]

@davy boy Is he legit? I saw a video on how AMS was exposed. With so many people lying left and right it's hard to believe who is right.

[@marcgardner9865]

Why am I just learning all of this in my 40’s? Society has taught men to be submissive and nice which is the opposite of what women want. I’ve lost so much time and I’m pissed.

[@mateaukalua4426]

At 40 something you can be a dominant DILF. Some women have fantasies about that kind of shyt. Anyways do you man.

[@jaybrick8973]

If you aren't getting women just do the opposite of what you're doing 😂

[@mateaukalua4426]

@@jaybrick8973 It's not that simple and as men a lot of times we aren't even aware of what we're doing.

[@Karll541]

Same feelings

[@masterandkerranginparticul4324]

​@@sp123wrong, the ones who have to knowledge to pass it on refuse to do so, ie. society = women

[@bendonkin9449]

Be Aragorn. Strong, brave, protective, nurturing, a leader. Be Aragorn.

But he dies in the story bro

[@bendonkin9449]

@ Aragorn dies? Are you talking about Boromir?

[@Soulmaster187]

@ literally all people die

[@motherfuckingagorithimcomm6136]

@ also has a happy wife with kids Dead But a dub in life

[@steviepigford2356]

TELL IT 👍😁 !!!!!

[@rickybobby5950]

I see an HR department visit in my future! 😂

[@DavidGarcia-kw4sf]

The most miserable and unhappy woman I ever met was also unwilling to ever give up even the slightest bit of control. Tells you something.

[@eduardog9243]

Yup, but never forget it's whoever man she was with whose at fault for letting it get to that point

[@joshuastinson4642]

Tells YOU something, apparently

[@yellowmr1]

What's that ?

[@theeclectic2919]

The modern woman has adopted all the traits of a man. And that's a HUGE turn off.

[@mmestari]

@@theeclectic2919 "The modern woman has adopted all the traits of a man. And that's a HUGE turn off." Not all the traits of man, only the worst traits of a man.

[@Earlvis]

Men have this fear that if he pins a woman up against the wall that he may go to jail for assault. It’s in the back of all of our minds.

[@DJDAVINCI]

Exactly

[@mynonleatherlife]

well u have to work up to this little by little don't just spring it on someone

[@jeminigemi]

To quote Louis CK: "You think i'm just gonna rape you on the off chance that hopefully you're into that shit?" Yes means yes, and no means no, except for the time it means yes. Clear as crystal. Guys aren't assertive as girls would like them to be because if they misinterpret the signals even just once, it's game over for them. I mean we can read signals sometimes but we're not freaking mind readers. Women want men to be perfect (strong, charming, popular, powerful, funny, wealthy, intuitive at reading her signals, assertive in just the right way without being an asshole, tall, etc), but they cant even communicate what they are actually looking for. Us guys will have to continue to work on striving for ultimate perfection, but can you girls at least meet us halfway and maybe start using your words? The already high expectations are already tough enough, expecting us read minds too is just straight up fantasy. No wonder why relationships are failing in the 21st century. The expectations are getting a little bit ludicrous.

[@davidisrael5627]

@@mynonleatherlife hahahah well spoken :)

[@magnificencetv7424]

@@jeminigemi ur words are gold my friend

[@kaskynightblade8490]

Thank you. I'm done being a beta. Ive tried being nice, and understanding. I'm done. I will go to my older self, that one in high school who didn't give a f about what ppl think about him. I need that guy back.

[@joelhenry4643]

How are you going to get that guy back? What have you started doing? thanks

[@CryPHage]

This comment spoke to my soul.

[@mrfranks4730]

@@joelhenry4643 don't being needy and doing your own things maybe?

[@giorgikhutiashvili4774]

@@joelhenry4643 this is a slow thought process. In my case it started with the fact that I was constantly feeling that i am not naturally a nice guy. I am not the one who is soft and easy. I was feeling from inside that back then when I was a kid, i was more natural and now I am some sort of scarcity bitch. First thing what you would notice about your current self is that you fear damn lot of things, right ? the Beginning and the end is to face all those artificial fears you created for those years, that is how you going back to your old self. Not an easy task But.. that is the price we sheep must pay for saying no to our true selves

[@von6413]

@@joelhenry4643 basically stop caring and just vibe. Don’t be like “oh I wonder what they think of me” etc etc. Soon as you stop caring TOO much about stuff like that, you’re on the right path.

[@FASTECAUTO]

Basically a guy that got his shit together....a guy who knows what he wants and goes for it... Simply an independent guy...I'm Telling you,until she's really really into you she doesn't need to know how important she is to you.

[@RR-et6zp]

lead, say facts, have strong frame, stuff like that

[@CaptainAhab-im3kd]

She soesn't ever need to know how important she is to you. You need to keep her off balance concerning this.

[@teddaniels1270]

After three marriages and 80+ years of fascination with women, it's still refreshing and terrific to get this wisdom. Huge thanks MNLL

[@Shadow77999]

Damn

[@mynonleatherlife]

oh wow so cool to hear that, thank you Ted

[@mateaukalua4426]

Fascination with Bullshyt.

[@mateaukalua4426]

@@donjoe1542 😂 Got to love old school LMFAO.

[@doctordef324]

Damn, 😮 , 80 year olds and on the internet commenting... !🥴

[@You-xt7xm]

You have incredible insight and you take the time to explain your point of view. Although I'm a 61 old man and happily married there was a time when I dated many many women. So I happen to know women pretty well. What women really want are men who are not easily influenced; men who have drive, direction and confidence in themselves; men who, as Fredrich Nietzche would describe, are those that do not have a herd mentality by not simply following the crowd. Rather they carve out their own destiny in life. These men make their own luck, never blame others for their failures, but rather admit fault and learn from It. Women look for signs in men that correlate with these traits. This is why many women tend to seek out "bad boys". There are close similarities between the "Alpha" male (as described about) and bad boys who seem to elude confidence and ability to conquer life. However, bad boys normally have confidence until they meet their first real life challenge. Then they fold like a deck of cards and blame everyone around them for their failures but themselves. It is important women can discern the difference between the two characters. Also, although your advise is accurate for men, it is of vital importance that men really believe in themselves and not simply put on an act. Women will see through that eventually. Just as they will see their mistakes in dating "bad boys" with little internal true attributes or true confidence. You must work on yourselves internally. Once you've accomplished this internal work the outward manifestations of confidence will come pouring out. In other words don't fake it, truly live it with confidence. Never ever feel sorry for yourself or think the world is against you. Stay positive. Be true to who you really are. If you need to change then change yourself. I promise you at that point women will find you.

[@mynonleatherlife]

Agree with all of that, so well said. Thanks for gifting the comment section with ur wisdom, I hope guys read it and learn from it

[@mynonleatherlife]

I liked the point about the bad boys crumbling at the first challenge too, makes sense

[@mynonleatherlife]

How did you find my channel?

[@Bubbles-od2tv]

You should start a channel :)

[@PRINCEPOPMUSIC]

Thank you ♥️ for this

[@DiaboloZ]

dominance. it’s just taking lead. it’s just strength. it’s just power. it’s just a guy who can show he is not afraid of you and they can take on difficult situations as they occur.

[@RR-et6zp]

yeah but also in daily situations, she expects you to fix stuff

[@rbaraka1]

Your video is on point. My wife was drawn to my assertiveness and willingness to take the lead. I believe when I was single it was a major factor when I was dating.

[@CaptainAhab-im3kd]

It is, but note it is much more effective to just be dominant and assertive but absolutely never bring it up with the woman as a conversation topic unless she brings it up to admit to you how submissive she is and that your dominance causes her to react strongly and with emotion. She is attacted to you and that's it, she cannot resist you and she is virtually owned by you but it is all implied, and not overtly discussed. Orgasm is submission!

[@peachluck1050]

For a woman, acceptable male dominance = confidence, assertiveness, and, most importantly, a man’s ability to impose appropriate boundaries in the relationship. Thank you for this great video.

[@rohw0016]

So basically modern day misogyny.

[@theskyizblue2day431]

So for a female we will have acceptable submissiveness = no 304 pics, no clubs, no girls night out, no solo gym/therapy/massage sessions

[@ceooflonelinessinc.267]

How can I be dominant if I am disabled as a man?

[@peachluck1050]

@@ceooflonelinessinc.267 - Okay, ceo, try being the CEO of self-confidence, assertiveness, and creating appropriate boundaries. Your main disability may be the lack of these characteristics-they take patience and self-discipline. What cha got, bro?

[@haskellbear]

@@ceooflonelinessinc.267 , it may be more difficult, but it basically means be completely secure in yourself. That means to like yourself like you would like a superhero who has both qualities and flaws. Be non-needy. Don't seek (too much) validation. Make an offer. If it's not answered, don't push it. Cultivate multiple sources of joy: A skill that you're good at and that maybe also brings money. A skill that you enjoy doing and that you keep polishing. Creative pursuits. This can be writing, playing an instrument or making electronic music, painting, photography. This will make it a lot easier to be non-needy. Learn to say "no". Basically, at the extreme you only do the things you want to do, not because you expect something in return. And, if you don't want to do something someone asks, you tell them.

[@liamcurran5612]

I didn't have luck with girls most of high school, I was shy. Then I tried out for the musical and got the lead role. It was Jekyll and Hyde. Not only was I singing most of the songs but I was also playing both a gentle man and an evil monster. Looking back on it I didn't know why I all of the sudden got so much female attention after that and a girlfriend but your videos are starting to make me understand why.

[@mynonleatherlife]

omg that's so cool...wow so u think they were responding to your method acting or just the fact they saw u in that light in the play all of a sudden?

[@liamcurran5612]

@@mynonleatherlife Lol I think seeing me like that was part of it.. no one knew I could sing or anything like that. What I was also getting at is I think the girls were attracted to the dark and domineering performance I was doing in the play.

[@liamcurran5612]

@Carbon Campaign Well I was in my element and felt a lot more confident. Since then I got lost but I'm starting to remember what that was like.

[@BigBuddhaTV]

@@liamcurran5612 acting is also a way of getting in touch with his own demons and emotions also while being vulnerable for the audience to judge. This is a thing not a lot of people are willing to do. You got my respect (Filmmaker/Actor). (you should also check out the Hammer Film Dr Jekyll and Sister Hyde)

[@TheSpecialJ11]

Women seem to want a Dr Jekyll in the streets and a Mr Hyde in the sheets.

[@sdrfgt]

Men need protecting from toxic emotionally abusive Women, and they're in abundance

[@Jay_Bless]

Found you today and almost watched everything. These days, society has given us a very thin line between expression of our natural masculinity and sexual assault... it's so tricky. Your voice comes in so handy.

[@Jay_Bless]

@@mynonleatherlife Ofcourse. Please address that thin line. At what point does it become assault? We have a natural desire to express masculinity in a society of ladies that publicly say it's unjust yet secretly have a natural craving for it. How do we tread that line, from a lady's perspective?

[@max-mtg]

@@Jay_Bless huge facts great point Bro men have always been this way then society punished us for showing any sign of it.

[@mreverybody1150]

@@Jay_Bless The thin line is defined by the artist drawing it. At work a comment from one guy is a compliment....but that same comment from another guy = HR office...

[@Huey111]

@@Jay_Bless I’ll still be masculine I don’t care about what the other people say

[@Jay_Bless]

@@Huey111 One day when you are presidential candidate, 3 ladies will claim you 'assaulted them 35yrs ago' and it won't be easy to pull off....

[@Cameron-jk2uy]

This is the most refreshing channel on intersexual dynamics I've ever come across. It's both brutally honest and yet also very life-affirming. Now I'm rummaging through all your previous videos and they're all gems. If you ever write a book (which you should), you have a written promise that I'll buy it.

[@mynonleatherlife]

😂 wow cameronsito I'm really touched thank you

[@miked2513]

uh, thought you were married?! @@mynonleatherlife ..."a touch too much"

[@laylabug39]

A light bulb just switched, I never realised it was dominance I was REALLY attracted to. I can feel my feminine energy vibrating through my body watching this haha. I’ve been binge watching your videos, please do more! ☺️

[@alex47_in_downtown18]

Ngl I got hard reading your comment...I'm sorry but your feminine energy radiated from the screen...lol

[@ZenPepperClub]

Does it make you feel a little bit wet😂😂😂

[@doovy3]

You're so right~and most women will say the opposite; they'll say they want the nice guy who WON'T dominate them. A guy has to assert himself, or he'll be forever in the friend zone. Sexual attraction isn't about friendship, it's about excitement~and without conflict there's no excitement. I like the end of "An Officer and a Gentleman", where he walks into her work, and just carries her out the door.

[@mynonleatherlife]

there is truth to that too though because it is something I think they want to play with in the bedroom and perhaps romantically but outside the bedroom I certainly want someone who won't dominate me but has alpha traits so that he has the skills to be able to succeed and protect and gain status when need be

[@RR-et6zp]

yeah but they cant tell you what they look for otherwise you arent authentic

[@hurstdevin]

There is only one thing wrong with her advise and videos: DANG I WISH I WOULD HAVE HEARD THESE YEARS AGO! I have spent so much time as a "Closet Dom" trying to conform to PC speech and sensitivity. I spent way to long curtailing that part of me! That doesn't mean I go Caveman in public. But to embrace that portion of my personality and run with it! Not just in the bedroom but in my practice and business affairs!! The encouragement IS SO PROFOUND!

[@shockerjason]

I appreciate the straightforwardness of your messages. So many content creators today seem like they’re more focused on the editing and the production quality than the actual content itself ... but when I listen to you, I really feel connected to what you’re saying because it just feels more authentic than everything else out there.

[@mynonleatherlife]

your comment is so thoughtful...thank u so much. It inspires me too cause I'm thinking now that I have more subscribers I should prob stop being like that crazy guy in the meme with string all around the pushboard--I hear it is charlie from always sunny in philadelphia.LOL but if I try too hard at anything in life it often blows up in my face so your comment is extremely encouraging to me, thank u

[@shockerjason]

Hahahaha the Charlie comment omg. That just solidified everything I already felt about you. You’re a real one indeed lol. Seriously though, best of luck with the channel. I stumbled upon your content just this past week, and judging from the other comments which seem to be recent, it seems you’re gaining traction. I’m not saying don’t try new things and do your best to hone your craft. If that’s what you need to do to grow and be sustainable then I understand that. But don’t dive so deep into that that you lose your authenticity and quality of your message. Because that’s really your bread and butter.

[@XTheSpartanX7]

Say it louder Jason!!!! Very much agreed.

[@TaxEvasi0n]

The man is player 1, the woman is player 2. You don't play the womans game, she plays in yours. Don't be a door matt. Let her pick where to eat sometimes, but 90% of the time you must be making the decisions.

[@1anre]

Even if she’s the one bringing him the bacon? Slotted it there for some context

[@KjvYaBoii]

@@1anre yessir, its many career women who want to feel dominated because they are the ones calling the shots at work. They don’t want to have to call the shots at home too

[@bromance3496]

Can you please add some more context. I really understand why men should make most of the decisions? I'm so confused how choosing where to eat plays into this sorta stuff.

[@doulayebangoura8318]

@@bromance3496 Based off of my experiences dealing with women, they don’t know what they want have the time. Even if I ask a simple yes or no answer they’ll think too deeply on it.

[@bromance3496]

@@doulayebangoura8318 oh ok

[@nikolasissofokleous4091]

When you talked about this truth in women, I felt my inner masculine power waking up... :)

[@mynonleatherlife]

wow so what were u feeling when that happened, that's so cool

[@SHIVAMYadav-pw5uz]

Exactly..... I do feel same..

[@arsenal4444]

​@@mynonleatherlife I'd describe it as a flame of conviction and intent that men carry in their heart/chest, and you can tell when a man lets that flame fill their voice and eyes in the way they speak and look/focus, and their arms and legs in the way they move. You can also tell when it's missing or been beaten out of them as their eyes will lack a shine and a focus on something, but will give off a blank stare. I imagine this fiery flame 'look' could seem sexual or passionate from a woman's perspective, from another man's it's more a sense of someone dead set on a goal, who responds quickly to changing circumstances, with whom you'd be an instant friend or enemy, decided the moment your paths cross in any way, and depending on whether you were out to help them in a mutual goal or get in the way.

[@antonthemanton3065]

I tried taking the lead in approaching a woman for a relationship recently.... now i'm waiting for my day in court for sexual harassment....

[@BIG_DRU]

🤣🤣🤣 well keep that same confidence in jail....

[@scorpionmk1595]

@@BIG_DRU Amen

[@truffle6082]

Not all women are the same but never approach . With sexual dominace approach with masucline dominace

[@southernlight6]

@@truffle6082 Exactly right!

[@lucasrodrigues9766]

I hope this was a joke

[@LawrenceDuffy477]

Yes confidence is the first, abundance is the 2nd. Abundance isn't just "lots a fish in the sea" thing. It's a de attachment. Betas worry about "If I say this she might think that...." With an abundance mindset you are not locked into the "She might be the one" thing and get all nervous. I just walk up to a girl and get her to laugh, or whatever. Not a care in the world what she might say or think.

[@The_Questionaut]

We all die anyway, who cares right?

[@ugfan29]

Cold hard motherfuckin facts

[@farhan3519]

This is crazy. I always pictured my married self as the "nice and romantic all the time" guy. But you have opened my eyes to a totally different perspective, which seems to have existed since time immemorial. Come to think of it, the society i live in has actually conditioned me into disowning my raw and natural self.

[@Phoenix-pm2qr]

Same here!

[@kevinsolove458]

Feel ya...

[@raymondbakken8577]

I belief you are correct... And, I belief it is hard for us men to find the right sexual balance in these «me too» days. In adition, as a guy, being the (only) one craveing for sex in a relationship, kind of makes you feel fussy, so after some rejections you stop. But then the women gets frustrated in the relationship, because she feels unwanted...

[@Xscape128]

I get the whole men have to be dominant thing. But it's like telling an introvert to "just be confident" It's not a switch some of us can just turn on and off. Then you encourage women to judge a mans dominance within the first few minutes of meeting them. So if he displays the slighest lack of dominance or assertiveness he's discarded? Some of us operate at a different pace, get butterflies the first few dates. Some of us have tramatic pasts, or low self worth because of poor upbringing, but we want to push past our fears and date around. This is just a classic example of women expecting everything to be shiny and perfect within the minute they meet a guy and it comes across as selfish and not realistic

[@Brianboru-k8y]

Get over it. Take charge of your own life.

[@CommandoMaster]

Problem is when u first meet a girl, u don't know where her boundaries stand, and if u push too far, then she will reject u and u lose ur chance (u could also get reported/arrested).

[@Ekam-Sat]

That's why you can love a woman but don't forget the teachings of Jesus.

[@michaelfasher]

The most classic example of this is the "What restaurant do you want to eat at?" conundrum. This question is the bane of every man's life. Every man has asked this question of a woman and been met with "I dunno you choose." This drives men crazy but the solution is just not to ask and make a command decision and present it as a fait acompli.

[@Eczentrik]

I always wondered why cant women ever be this honest about these things... in all the years alive on this earth... thank you sis...

[@joseph6243]

Even as a guy I can relate to what you're saying quite a bit about this being primal programming. I think many women want to claim vanilla because they're afraid of their own inclination towards submission. It took me a long time to realize that I was very persistent about being a vanilla guy because I was afraid of my own inclination towards and capacity for sexual dominance. Similar to you, I don't necessarily want to be dominant, it's just how I'm wired, and I grew up being uncomfortable with it. I think it's primarily a product of sexual repression and political correctness - neither gender can be real or even self-aware about what they really want without digging deep within and questioning your programming. And it's very confusing because we live in a sexually repressive culture that's simultaneously a hyper-sexual culture as well.

[@mynonleatherlife]

Very well said

[@mynonleatherlife]

Personally “submission” sounds a bit extreme as if this is something women need to accept outside the bedroom which they do not and in my opinion should not, but accepting submissive fantasies in their sex life is difficult for many women who have them I agree

[@sinoviistine-sonsofthetruth]

But it is true 100%. The legacy puritanism in America and the medias post 1960 progressively using more and more sex for pure profits because "sex sells"

[@nexpert2651]

The hyper sexualisation roots from the repression. By forbidding it, your creating a culture in wich it bursts out more extreme then it would have, if it wasnt mystified and locked away. I hope that kind of explained it.

[@timestampingarmy]

​@dacrosberit's a slight of hand trick

[@megatron6382]

Let me explain which types of dominance women want in men.. Imagine,you run at 20kmph and a woman at 17kmph..since you are ahead so you stop putting effort in yourself for better performance but she keeps doing it and reach 20kmph..now you have been challenged,either you force yourself to come out of your comfort zone (tough) or pull her legs.. women love being dominated by us men but by our strength not by their weakness.. Here are examples 1-your was at 20,she was at 17,now you are at 20 and she is at 20..you pull her leg.. 2-you was 20,she was at 17..you are at 20,she is at 20..you compare yourself to her and put some effort to reach at 23 and then stop putting effort again.. 3-you were at 20,she was at 17..but you believe in constant improvement in yourself so you never went in comfort zone,you keep putting effort and the moment she reached at 20,you are at 28..difference is 8 now but here is a secret,this difference is not between you and her but between you of today and you of yesterday..you compare yourself to who you were yesterday,not someone today..

[@mynonleatherlife]

this is genius. great stuff. I totally agree...may be slightly unrelated, but I see some male dating gurus telling women to embrace their feminine, be weak and submissive and men expecting them to behave the "right" way...similar to your analogy of a man pulling their leg instead of men leveling up and improving themselves and their running speed. This is really good--guys learn from this. Meet the challenge and challenge yourself to gain strength, don't expect women to be weaker.

[@megatron6382]

@@mynonleatherlife ,i gave three different senario as examples and explain about three way of dominance..in first two senario(most people fall in this category), everyone will loose their mental peach because the core of this dominance is fear of loosing..in third senario, that's dominance came from the strength from within..full and deeper level of satisfaction..

[@apa-ms]

@@mynonleatherlife So, what we have to expect from a woman ? Because I feel like men have to be dominant, to be fearless, to be agressive, tall, strong, powerful, protective, successful, ... But what woman have to be ? What woman do ? If at least we can’t expect them to be feminine what the point ?

[@catholicdad]

What the fuck are you talking about?

[@RyuThe3rd]

@@catholicdad lool

[@human1505]

You are empowering men. Im so glad I found this channel .

[@nateo200]

I used to not see myself as being very dominant because most of the time I have a quiet type of dominance. I used to think of it as a physical thing, I go to the gym and I'm a pretty big guy so I assumed it was that but my close female friends said it had more to do with the fact that I had "quiet confidence" and this usually came out best when I stopped over thinking it.

[@lijh]

You're at best tall. Your photo is of a lean guy....cool story Bro.

[@joz411no8]

It’s not about being a jerk to a woman, but we’re animals. Never forget that.

[@barunjena6171]

Animals with conscience. Don't forget THAT.

[@eduardog9243]

We're not animals, we were created in the image and likeness of God. In fact all of this is literally in the first book of the bible Adam didn't protect the garden (his home/wife) from danger (satan) He went again God's commands and instead obeyed his woman (giving up on righteousness and being the leader) and going against his core beliefs The father's if the Church in fact tell us even though Eve did sin, Adam bore most of the responsibility as he was supposed to be in charge

[@elijahrector2168]

I ain’t no damn animal

[@joshKirito]

@@eduardog9243 see you are showing that guys need to be dominant and it's the way it was meant to be. If we are responsible for the girl too then yes we are going to be dominant

[@joshKirito]

@@eduardog9243 also in 4th grade science class I learned that humans are "the smartest animals" so that will always stick with me

[@veganm8918]

Wow have not seen you in forever...as always your perspective is interesting and noteworthy! How are you?

[@mynonleatherlife]

Hello vegan M, I have emerged from the crypt after 9 months lol. Preparing for my vegan thanksgiving tomorrow :) Thank u for longtime listening and commenting, it is much appreciated

[@beryosa]

There are a lot of guys who like me but not many, almost nobody stands up for me against other guys. I mean, I never felt like I need someone. I can handle any guy myself. But there was this one guy who stood up and said actually the truth and wasn't afraid to stand up for me and PROTECT me even though I didn't even need it. It felt so good just to know that there is somebody who you don't have to be strong with, you can just be a "little girl" and he will protect you. I don't want to be that in life but it feels good to have this ONE MAN in your life you can be that "little girl" protected and safe.

[@mynonleatherlife]

❤️💯🙌

[@danteshollowedgrounds]

This makes a lot of sense.

[@wingnutmcspazatron3957]

Ever since I've taken back control of myself and realized "I'm a gorilla in a primal world" and have unleashed my cravings to be domineering and strong, my sex life has EXPLODED. My fucking GOD women love it, like they fricken NEED it to be satisfied. This is all 100% true and everyone in my life (including myself) is happier because of it.

[@trailerkeller6760]

STOP APPING AROUND !!!!

[@kitschgod]

Ur trolling

[@Jukelikesgames]

Lol

[@uncledodad]

Your probably still a virgin.

[@georgebaber681]

Curb your language concerning God.

[@marklarochelle3175]

I hope that you gain at least 100 million followers and subscribers. You are talking the MOST sense that I've heard in years. Thank you for your continued efforts, and well crafted content. I WILL recommend you to all of my friends. Well done. You nailed it down, yet again.

[@mynonleatherlife]

Wow thanks so much Mark, I really appreciate that. It means a lot as I get a bunch of negative comments as well that makes it hard to focus but comments like yours really inspire me to keep going

[@marklarochelle3175]

@@mynonleatherlife Your measured and methodical thoughtfulness is shining through via your desire to be earnest. Men and women... ALL of us need more of this. Thank you again. I am paying attention to your words.

[@DarinDmarkovic1]

Before I watch this video I just gotta say, I only watched one video of yours and your honesty is so appreciated, it all makes sense and thanks for the book recommendation "Mode one" I read it in a couple days.

[@mynonleatherlife]

Awesome! I’m very glad to hear that ur liking the vids and thank you for telling me and for your support. Did u like mode one?

[@TheEmosesnepho]

Basically, Dont chase the women. Be a man of strong character, donot compromise your character for anyone. Character is the only thing you take withe you to the grave. Be yourself if they dont like it, move on. Donot give a shit about what others think about you. Donot fear death and you will fear nothing. This is the definition of a real man.

[@j3ffn4v4rr0]

I've been watching lot of Russian popular movies here on KZbin....lots of them have English subtitles. It is SO typical in Russian romance stories for the man to be really really dominant. I mean, he takes what he wants....big time. Nothing will sway his path. He will take the woman from her husband, without a second thought. There's always a flip side, but it really goes to show how Russian culture still elevates traditional male/female dynamics. A fun one I watched last night was "Love Between Two Poles", where a woman falls for the ruthless (and super-masculine) gangster her (very boring and weak) police inspector husband is trying to put behind bars.

[@mynonleatherlife]

haha wow so interesting. Reminds me of this one I watched recently 356 DNI but it was originally polish but had a very similar vibe. I didn't know it was a super popular theme to begin with. I could totally see that though. I love how strong russian women are and it makes sense that they want someone even stronger. I love how they never make themselves weaker...

[@j3ffn4v4rr0]

@@mynonleatherlife yup, that's the other side, the women are very strong but also extremely feminine...they defer to the strong men....but the weak men, they make their lives hell LOL They also (and I realize this is the movies not real life, but I'm sure it reflects the culture) the women wear high heels, different hairstyles every day, beautiful dresses for no particular reason, etc......the women are portrayed as constantly changing facets of beauty.....personally, I love it.

[@MrRashef]

it's not Russian, it's Polish, but anyway male/female dynamics in slavic countries are becoming less traditional everyday.

[@MrRashef]

@@j3ffn4v4rr0about that part of making weak men lives hell, I think it's actuall good side of women nature, because those men who realised they are being weak ,and are willing to change into the strong males as they were programmed by biology, the mindset is everything

[@j3ffn4v4rr0]

@@MrRashef Not sure what you mean, what is not Russian but Polish? Yes, I agree that the trend towards "balanced" male/female dynamics is affecting traditional countries, as well. Yet, there is still a stark cultural difference which can be seen in movies.

[@user-ro9qc2ye7o]

All of your videos really hit the nail on the head I fear I'll be stuck watching you videos for several hours straight if I dont stop myself lmao

[@JoeJ-8282]

VERY well said!... You are one of the most honest, direct, AND aware of herself and her true desires, and not afraid to tell it like it really is, girls on ALL of KZbin, which is awesome!... More guys need to understand this stuff about the way women actually REALLY think and TRULY and very strongly desire from a guy as a sexual lover and partner!... Basically, Dominance is RAW, very direct, bold, assertive, even animalistic, a strong leader, but NOT dangerous OR in ANY way abusive OR manipulative, because those last traits are essentially narcissistic, which is NOT attractive to anyone!

[@danielfreeman649]

I feel like you're in touch with your intuition in a deep way, that is fantastic. Thanks for sharing 👍

[@hadyanalfaridzi12]

@@mynonleatherlife A Woman who honest about her feeling and intuition with her self and even confess it, is an amazing Respectfull woman😁. Salute!!

[@frahohen]

Dominance is very simple to explain in terms of a relationship in my eyes. It's basically taking control and making decisions for her. Most girls these days are not able to give thier control and ownership to guys, because of feminism. Sometimes it's also fear, but you have to give up control in certain aspects to fully express love in a relationship.

[@mynonleatherlife]

Why do u think u have to give up control to fully experience love

[@frahohen]

@@mynonleatherlife In my opinion trust consist of two factors and that is loyalty and control. The third factor in a relationship is surrendering. I personally realized that I am not able to bond with a girl and have sex if I cannot trust her, because both should give instead to receive. There is also a good short explanation by Abraham Twerski on youtube. It's called "True love explained | Abraham Twerski". If you love someone you are loyal and you are also giving up control of parts of the life you are used to. Most girls are not able to do this these days and want a relationship, but they want everything as it is or they are used to and therefore just expect to receive. If I truly love someone, like I did in the past, I like to give without any expectation and your significant other does the same. This is also a form of respect to each other. If both reach the stage of trust, emotions can flow and both have no problem to surrender to each other and this is when both are ready to create new life. I think that our society got sick over the years with feminism and this MGTOW movements on both sides of the gender.

[@randychief4284]

@@frahohen wow you hit out the park very well said feminism is the stumbling block women programmed by society to have it all the fairy tale all loving prince charming great listener , attentive etc and selfempowerment female energy we are just as good if not better than men,in equal measure which both qualities can't run side by side

[@OrmazdYahu]

*I fux with you heavy, Victoria...keep dropping the science for these Fellas.* 💯💪🏿

[@mynonleatherlife]

haha thanks a lot, you made me laugh...I'm like bill nye the science guy out here. :)

[@barackobama3719]

Women don’t care about us men, but this angel does.

[@thegermanball9336]

😂 lmao

[@thegermanball9336]

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[@SlimFitReviewHub]

Her: I’m hungry Him: Where do you want to eat Her: Forget it, I have a video to make 😂😂😂

[@mynonleatherlife]

lolol

[@jfo3000]

Her "I'm hungry, where do you want to eat?" Him "Let's go to ABC." Her "I'm not in the mood for ABC." Him "Let's go to XYZ." Her "I'm not in the mood for XYZ." Him "Let's go to 123." Her "I'm not in the mood for 123." And on and on...

[@lespearson3801]

@@jfo3000 Her: I'm hungry Him: Me too, I want a Burger. I'm going to Whataburger. Her: Not in the mood for that. Him: What do you want me to get you on the way back from Whataburger.

[@unitynofear7758]

@@jfo3000 Her "I'm hungry!" Him "Sorry, best I can do is dick"

[@MaestroZ]

Her: I'm hungry Him: Where do you want to eat? Her: Forget it,I have a video to make Him: Oh ok. You are hungry and Im tired, could you please make a sandwich before you make your video? Thanks darling.

[@erayvalois339]

I dont want to be with a woman if i have to be something im not lmao. I'm self assured but I dont feel the need to dominate anyone. I prefer intellectual relationships tbh and i dont really want to act like a dominant guy when I dont see the point in it. I would rather be with a woman who is just as self assured in herself as i am in myself.

[@dominicbrogsdale3348]

Same nobody has time for the BS to much BS ill tell her she gone and when ik DONE IM DONE DONT COME BACK!!!

[@russellklever9785]

I'm. Wwith you buddy

[@mugojr4766]

It takes work, don't give up

[@mateaukalua4426]

I am surprised no fake alpha dissed you in this thread. I agree being something you're not is exhausting. Trust me I have tried and it NEVER ends well.

[@mfawls9624]

​@@mateaukalua4426 I'm on the other end of that. Dated 3 years. About two years into marriage my wife suddenly becomes comfortable being who she really is, not the girl I dated. Also having kids changed a lot of the dominance equation.

[@sirchristopherstephenwyndh9364]

Men walk a fine line with our actions and emotions with women, because we are one phone call away from losing our rights and being locked away, because of Karen. How women feel about us means very little compared to our actual freedom.

[@vladimirchernikov4249]

Your videos have been very educational for me. At work, or in my personal life, no one seems to want to tell me what I am doing wrong or what I'm not bringing out of myself--of how women perceive us. Much thanks!

[@mynonleatherlife]

awesome Vladimir...so do you think ur doing anything wrong and do u think u can adjust?

[@elvnprince]

Thank you for sharing this, especially for highlighting that women desire to be led sexually more often then they admit. I am a guy that women generally feel safe around because of how empathic and emotionally intelligent I am. So my main fear would be that she suddenly feels unsafe because I expressed interest in her sexually. I'm also interested in developing intimate friendships over a monogamous relationship, so I want to clearly communicate as well, which feels cumbersome a lot of the time. I hope to figure out how to articulate all that in fun and lighthearted ways that invitate without pressure.

[@XTheSpartanX7]

The absolute truth. It starts with fitness which most guys neglect. Having a solid chest, shoulder, slim waist combo will have 99% of women feeling intimidated/insecure around you. After that they are like putty.

[@brichardson1080]

hit or miss on this 'i think'. some girls like the dad bod and some girls like a fit bod.

[@XTheSpartanX7]

@@brichardson1080 all women like a fit body, some do settle* for the dad bod tho

[@brichardson1080]

@@XTheSpartanX7 disagree

[@MrSaphen]

Disagree especially with the small waist thing. Boi

[@tamarasophia6145]

As a woman, I would agree many of us become putty when dealing with a "fit" guy...

[@philosophyjunkies6693]

RIP to the rocking chair, was never seen again after this video.

[@mynonleatherlife]

lmao. It's in the room still.

[@caucasianafrican1435]

I appreciate your willingness to be honest with yourself and with others. That's *true* open-mindedness.

[@onlyamir4ge]

An ex told me I looked like others could easily take advantage of me being skinny and that I needed to be more assertive. So yeah everything you're saying is true I just learned it the hard way.

[@thatbme35]

Every time I over think or doubt my actions I find myself browsing your channel. I'm never too far off, nore you❤

[@johnfarley4201]

Bless you for commenting and posting. Very interesting

[@intricatic]

I was brought up in private schools with class sizes of like 4. I was awkward as hell the first time I had sex, and the girl I was with was super-assertive and basically dragged me into a threesome with another girl while we were skipping class. I'm personally a switch - I can be super aggressive/assertive, but I absolutely appreciate the same quality in the women I'm with. It's a much rarer quality than the submissive/subservient type, which in excess can be a major turnoff.

[@lijh]

"I'll take stuff that never happened for $1,000 Alex!"- Cool story Bro.

[@un_chien_andalou]

It surprises me that so many women think that being a strong, tough guy is easy. It's not easy at all. We have our fears, weaknesses and anxieties. If someone hasn't been lucky, he needs to practice these things in himself. It's hard work.

[@masterandkerranginparticul4324]

yeah true man, but men are not really seen as human beings, neither by women nor by men, so complaining about the lies and misinformation that have been handed out to you and me and most of us, and the struggle that we go through are of little to no concern to the society ("women") all. in all, as a man you are either lucky finding out what works, and adapt, or give up, as some of these dominant traits cannot just be reinstalled like as if you can have a software update after all these years of confusion. it's not that simple as you rightfully said.

[@carlos002nz]

You make me think about it, Victoria. Thanks so much. In presence I was always blocked with the idea of a girl / a woman feeling that she liked to me before saying " Hello,..." On the Internet I'm natural. I do not feel that pression. I haven't been dominant TILL NOW.

[@Mrmorlam1]

I just love your honesty. I'd go out with someone for that if I'm attracted. I value it the most as a dominant guy. If a girl lies to herself and I see it, I'm instantly.turned off.

[@Brindlebrother]

Absolutely true. Important video. It's unfortunate that the "dominance" angle is overly sexualized in our (at least American) culture and also kind of lost in the whole discussion of equality and how no one sex is superior and all that. But dominance does not mean unequal and dominance does not mean 'mean' or abusive.

[@wirefly1000]

If you are waiting for the guy to take the lead then stop saying "no" when he does.

[@mynonleatherlife]

Lols for info on why women do that see some of my other videos including the what do women want one and 3 core female fantasies

[@kelzreallife8293]

@@mynonleatherlife links would be helpful

[@MadaraUchiha-ly8wr]

Yeah need links. There's only so much back tracking that can be done.

[@iilee408]

If she says no there's another woman who'll say yes.

[@deseusnow]

@@mynonleatherlife in reality you must record her saying that she agrees at some point. And then you must record her testimonial for the entire experience. But feminist just want to destroy men. So even if you have prof that you did not abuse her, she will make an anonymous accusation and will not give any details of the false attack, because "she gets retraumatized". And then feminist will try to extort money from you or else they all will lie against you. Feminist are criminals, so there are not correct answers or behaviors with them.

[@douglasg7169]

Here is something that you need to be aware of. I have had a nightmare of an experience being overly dominant with a woman. The worse part about it was that I never put my hands on her. She got upset with me (for what reason I don't know she wouldn't tell me) and it escalated to the point where police ended up involved and she tried to claim that I raped her! I was shocked that she took things to the extreme like this. I was glad I had two eyewitnesses to back up my side of the story and prove her completely wrong. You know the saying once bitten, twice shy well that is a line I live by so this is my reason for not being very dominant with woman anymore since she this incident. So you have to understand why some men are just very cautious and don't want to catch a case on a rape charge especially a false one. Not all men are afraid, some are just cautious about getting in trouble.

[@K4113B4113]

Wouldn’t that psychotic woman in your nightmare be just as likely to accuse a nice guy trying to get with her? If she is that type of person wouldn’t she find a reason to be upset no matter what you do? Or are you suggesting that those psychotic women only accuse dominant men? Food for thought. Also, swapping the word dominant for leading might help remove some negative connotations and assumptions.

[@The_Black_Scythe]

@@K4113B4113 that is really good insight crazy woman will always try to find reason it doesnt matter if you are dominant or not

[@nonamebleach]

Facts. The laws and these crazy h000es will have you behind bars doing 40 years just for a fantasy and playing into your natural drive to be a dominant man.

[@user_f1]

Ok but how do you get “overly dominant with a woman” without putting your hands in her? Like what did you do?

[@douglasg7169]

I used a poor choice of words disregard the overly dominant I ment I was verbally letting her know that I wasn't down with her games and bullshit and she got upset with me because I was not a simp.

[@liamross7]

This channel is about to blow up like crazy!

[@mynonleatherlife]

it kinda already has i'm amazed. before that 1 vid started being recommended so much by youtube i had under 1000 subs, now I am here in a couple of days

[@fandude7]

You are one wise lady. Great insight and advice. Thank you for your videos.

[@mynonleatherlife]

Thank you fandude7

[@peterhoatson]

Excellent and well put. Yes guys should be more dominant and take more of a leaderships role but that's been beaten out of them over the last few decades with feminism and boys growing up under single parent females. So critical that you prefaced all of this by leading with what women crave and if that's not enough for men to step up, then… This is ground breaking work you're doing, keep it up!

[@mynonleatherlife]

Thanks Peter

[@knightheaven8992]

Western modern society literally, from a cultural perspective is teaching boys to be weak, and girls to be strong and powerful, just a good look at media, and pop culture this is pretty clear, the female empowering theme has become dominant and took over the male role models archetype in entertainment.. a good look at the most recent Disney remake movies like Little mermaid or Snow white and such where the prince is the one who is actually saved by the princess, and where she actually is the leader... it is a subversion of this more natural archetypes and alters the perception of people of both genders... unfortunately this has negative effects on men and boys during their formative years. Its no wonder young men today are doing worse on most metrics, Academically, workforce, dating, sexually, suicide rates, isolation etc It isnt a good picture for the future thats for sure.

[@lucashadi7544]

For so long I was looking for this kind of content coming from an honest girl. So I have a question in case you stumble on this; why some women like most feminists hate men blindly? Knowing that a lot of them weren’t abused by men and were raised in a normal healthy family? Men will never say they hate women ever.

[@AlexCanby]

Because having someone to blame makes people feel good. It doesn't matter the context. Having enemies means you don't have to look at yourself as the source of your pain.

[@wilsonclaire3352]

They get virtue points for it. Its a cop out to dump all of society's problems onto something

[@jefflittle8913]

" why some women like most feminists hate men blindly?" I think that you need to differentiate between "hate blindly" and "hate generically". If you take something that is a real problem, but then over-generalize to a point where it is no longer true about the larger category, then it is just lazy thinking that gets in the way of solving real problems. And somewhere between 1% and 5% of men *are* a real problem for women, so it is not out of nothing.

[@jyjjy7]

Because women like the one in this video train men to "dominate" when some women don't actually want that and men constantly trying to be dominant socially and sexually is an awful and often dangerous situation they have to deal with when they shouldn't have to.

[@dk2614]

I believe that primal submission has to take place in the context of feeling safe with your partner. If that feeling of safety or even confidence in your man isn't there it could probably get scary really quickly. Just a guess but reading the signals right probably leads to the best success

[@mynonleatherlife]

very very true D K

[@lamrof]

@@mynonleatherlife I heard there is a service when a woman goes off with a guy, whether out in public or in private, she checks in with her phone every 30 minutes if not security guards will swarm the place her phone location guides them to. False alarm costs her huge amount.

[@alex47_in_downtown18]

Feminist nonsense has got everyone confused...lol

[@RR-et6zp]

the grass is green

[@TM-pz2ue]

@@lamrofSounds like BS. How are privately hired security going to be allowed to raid somebodies house without a warrant?

[@angel1seven1]

Your are sincere and true, In all that you say. Thank you for making us men understand , How women feel and think. And what they Crave.

[@Staarker99]

I’ve never asked a woman what she wants, she is too busy trying to keep up, I’m far too active got the whole time planned out. Just don’t be boring and she hasn’t got time to feel insecure. Take her out to all the dangerous fun we take for granted each day, she’ll feel the confidence she has never in her life experienced. Just tell her the schedule so she knows what to pack or wear, if she shows up, she wants to be part of your life, if she doesn’t, motor on at full power and don’t look back. A man waits for no tide, mood or feelings, the schedule is the most important thing, it prevents a wasted life. Tell her honestly what you want and expect, don’t leave her in doubt, women have this whole stew of thoughts and insecure inner dialogues that aren’t healthy for them, they need certainty, and no time to think. She needs your schedule more than you do, otherwise her life will be wasted and dithery, and she will never experience all the good things we take for granted.

[@DrAndrewHutchings]

Nice to see that a girl/woman can accept human biology and not be ashamed of it. It's sad how everyone wants to fight against biology, deny it, and lead a crusade against anyone who doesn't

[@allanpatterson7653]

True enough . Guys have been beaten down so bad that they have evolved into timid fellows.

[@VasiliyAgiy]

It's so simple though you're basically just saying that women want a Man. Its sad how far away our culture has moved from masculinity that it has almost become some sort of underground secret that women like masculine men. It's great that you're having this conversation👍

[@cognitiveresonance339]

The main reason a man would underestimate this trait is because we're taught from childhood that women are terrified of men who are assertive. And that being non-threatening is the way to make a woman feel safe. It wasn't until I was in my 30s that I realized this was all wrong.

[@mathedguy]

Your deep honesty is truly wonderful. May God bless you. I wish I had heard you when I was young.

[@markrice9773]

Incredible educational and powerful !! I am 70 years old with 46 1/2 years of marriage, having raised four children, three of which are women. I am gobsmacked by the simplicity and wisdom of her perspective as a woman in this presentation! What an epiphany!! It strikes me as oddly counterintuitive to all the women's lib propaganda we have been presented with the whole of my life in our culture. And yet, it also strikes me as an honest and necessary prod for a realignment of our societal assumptions. I think she is explaining the importance of a particular dance of male-female courtship, relationship, and balance in that relationship! Sometimes the simplest and seemingly obvious observations, the ones that lay dormant till some genius among us can articulate them, raises that zeitgeist, and makes a wonderful realignment!

[@Charline322]

point that you made around 4:25 to 4:40 is bang on. never heard it in words so that confirmed what i'd been feeling

[@theamericanwararcher4872]

And as soon as A man shows dominance he's labeled controlling, a-busive, a creep. Guys are walking away for a reason. We aren't afraid, we are catching on to the narcissistic hypergamy that is the modern woman. Women want a dominant man, but women also want to run the show. You can't have it both ways ladies.

[@klusonwan]

You weren't actually dominant. Probably Just an asshole with masculine qualities. Your comment seems the opposite of dominance qualities. More like dog licking his wounds and saying woe is me. It's weak af tbh.

[@danteshollowedgrounds]

IDK about that all depends honestly. The women & men can't be friends argument is more cursed to me than anything though.

[@bluefig797]

This is probably the best channel to learn the raw truth of female sexuality.

[@zackhitch8754]

Thank you first and I'm glad I came across your video. You just have said what I felt through all the last relationships I have had.. I'm glad now I'm 30 and I know it finally.. I felt it and suddenly crazy things happened in my life.. I couldn't explain it like the way you did in this vid.. But was just a feeling.. A feeling of being detached from the girl I love.. Being responsible and taking control and the lead of my actions.. It started actually with nofap six months ago... Suddenly and spontaneously met a girl who is all of a sudden became my girlfriend.. I thought always im an average guy.. Lol bcz I have been comparing myself to the others.. But I have never thought of being the best version of myself and simply, survive at the most of my potential.. Now this vid hit me.. So from the depth of my heart I thank you so much and I appreciate everything y r doing and I wish you the best.. And much respect for u,

[@mynonleatherlife]

Zack yes! I am very happy for you. and thank you

[@guywoznicki7847]

Thanks for this Victoria. I think I can do this! I started life as not only brainwashed by a feminist (mom) but literally having it beaten into me! Between 17 and 25 I began to form my own theories as to what women really wanted and came up with Money, Fame, and Power. These guys could have any woman they wanted and that’s what I wanted. Oh and I always ignored those guys preaching “confidence” as the answer. I saw it as helping but not guaranteeing anything. Obviously other guys preach, “Tell them what they want to hear,” or rather bullshit! Even most movies I saw don’t portray it properly: unwanted man proves his worth (never happens) or tough guy takes on a whole gang, saves town, and gets girl. I became so frustrated that I literally craved wealth just so a woman would want me for the money!! I’m going to put your advice into action as I’ve tried everything else. Pray for me. It’s been over a decade since I’ve made love to a woman!

[@mynonleatherlife]

feminism is not brainwashing you. Feminism is an important part of the picture. I'd never date a non feminist guy. However there are additional nuances when it comes to sexuality that non sex positive feminists leave out. They also aren't dating strategy experts. There is an easy way to end your dry spell so you are not desperate and hating women. It will make you seem less bitter when you date as well. that being said, I will pray that you don't come off as misogynist when you date and that you obey all the proper dating etiquette so as to come off as a good candidate.

[@guywoznicki7847]

@@mynonleatherlife no I’m not a misogynist and I still sympathize with the feminist movement, although I’d like to incorporate more chivalry into my repertoire. I really don’t like man-haters and entitled bitches (an ever-expanding group). When I refer to my indoctrination it was all about men and women being equal and neither party making decisions without the other’s input (level playing field). However when your parents treat you like dictators and you’re young and impressionable, you become a pushover SIMP. The worst part is that this is your “normal” and you learn to fiercely defend it! It crippled me for the next 35 years! Right now I need some new clothes as I haven’t bought any nice stuff in over a decade. Just remember: take the lead, believe in yourself, make her laugh, kiss her goodnight.

[@mynonleatherlife]

alright well i understand. there is a lot of nuance here which is hard to get out over a comment...but I am glad you are getting on the right path. My videos I think are a good balance of respecting women and real talk that can help give some good info

[@TJ6152]

@@guywoznicki7847 Google "WF lawyers divorce stats." The first link will give you an idea of what to look for and what to avoid. Left leaning women tend to be more sex positive and file for divorce more often. They're also more hypergamous meaning that they want the man to be better than them in most ways. Basically they only date up leading to lonely, disaffected men. They start to lose their ability to pair bond after they've tried their hand at men out of their league too many times. Feminism is a form of sexism much like the incel movement except feminists are still loved for some reason and incels are hated for not being loved. I know where you're coming from. I've put up with two abhorrently sexist, feminist sisters for the better part of my life. Your best bet is either looking in less liberal areas or waiting until you're older.

[@finn9000]

Thank you for the wake up call, I've struggled with this with my girlfriend. She's extremely independent and capable, she's a leader in anything she does and it's all been new to me, I put her on a pedalstool and always try to please her. Even if our interactions and conversations are amazing, I just haven't enjoyed this dynamic of following the leader. We do switch roles throughout our days together, when she get's sad or vulnerable and opens up to me, that's when I get the "okay it's my turn to be the leader" and during sex as well, so I know there is something there for me to do. But I must admit when I have tried being more dominant she never really responded well to it. Because I am 3 years younger and she's just more experienced in life (and we play the game of life on her home court haha). I just need to keep improving and it'll all go swell. These videos do tend to make me second guess If I'm doing things "right" and that she's secretly waiting for "more" from me. Even though with her busy busy life (mine aswell) maybe all she really needs from me is to be there for her and support her. Does anyone have advice for getting over the "fear of her anger", I have a very strong fear of disappointing people, and that's not what a relationship should be built on.

[@mynonleatherlife]

only try to be dominant consensually in the bedroom if she wants more.

[@lith1156]

I think the reason why there's a lot of men like this is due to not being raised correctly to be men (in all facets of life) and possible childhood abuses/traumas which go unaddressed and add to the problem...nowadays and these current times we live in, I'm of the belief that this generation is a lot weaker compared to those of the past for what could be many reasons...I also believe there's an actual agenda to emasculate men too, but that's a whole other conversation

[@GreelTheMindRaker]

Just found your channel and I really appreciate your insight and perspective. Your channel and presence is incredibly authentic and genuine compared to most of KZbin. Thank you for making good content that is actually helpful. I do have a question, what are your thoughts with men sharing their mental health struggles? When I talk about this with women and be open about my struggles with anxiety/depression and how I regularly see a therapist, it's always met with positivity and encouragement but part of me feels like it flips a biological switch in a womans head that says "weakness - ABORT". Is this something I should just keep to myself at first or just avoid entirely? I'm struggling with trying to be more open about mental health and destigmatizing it for men in general but its hard when women look for and desire a well-rounded and strong man, even though at some point we are all weak.

[@mynonleatherlife]

Thanks Oliver, well I think u have a great point and this is complicated. I don’t totally know the answer here, there’s definitely not nothing to what you’re saying but at the same time owning your problems can be confident and sexy too. Like u said everyone has weakness and at some point you have to share them and people who really love you will love you for your weaknesses too. I know everyone I love has had major weaknesses and I know that in the case of depression and anxiety both of which I’ve had our weaknesses are also our strengths like honest, sensitivity, self awareness, caring about others and other things like that. If I’m really being honest tho I don’t know how true this is for everyone or if this is just me but if u can demonstrate dominance in the bedroom then a girl won’t care too much about how many issues u have in the rest of your life. That’s honestly how I feel. Idk if I’m more unique in that tho. It also might depend on whether u want a relationship or a casual thing...like casual u might want to keep it under wraps for a bit while relationship be open about it from the beginning cuz the goals are different. What are your thoughts about any of that

[@GreelTheMindRaker]

@@mynonleatherlife I think you summed it up perfectly. I think I have a tendency to scare women away when its more of a casual thing, so that would make a lot of sense. I have always been a little insecure in the bedroom, but something to work on for sure. I sincerely appreciate your well-thought out and elaborate response.

[@liamross7]

You have so much amazing content it's insane, thank you

[@mynonleatherlife]

Thank u very much william, which of the content do u find the most helpful

[@liamross7]

@@mynonleatherlife It's knowing that I can be attractive to most women without the things that I thought I needed. It's the belief that I have of my own attractiveness that is most important. This is what your providing to men with your channel and it will makes all of the difference. I have studied pick up for years and never has anything hit me as hard as your perspective. I have the belief now that I can approach any women and have a real shot with them.

[@steevewhitehead1416]

Good chat, refreshing to here from the ladies.

[@rg3412]

So accurate, so insightful, thank you.

[@miskelproducts41]

Your content is great because it's simple but so profound...

[@mynonleatherlife]

thank you very much that is a huge compliment for me...I love simple yet profound things

[@miskelproducts41]

@@mynonleatherlife I subscribed to your channel cause, as a single man, it seems like these days women hate men and men wanna go live in the forest. Your content shows how we are connected at the deepest levels, which has not changed in thousands of years. Your commentary is honest and does not come from any contempt or hatred. Some of us are tired of fighting all the time. Thank you!

[@mynonleatherlife]

@@miskelproducts41 I really like what u wrote about how we actually are connected at the deepest level. Very profound and beautiful insight

[@whome6168]

Yo I stumbled upon your channel and I really enjoyed your content, you're on to something big and I wish you and your channel as much growth as you can handle.

[@mynonleatherlife]

Thanks a lot Who Me...I appreciate that a lot. I like how you said “as u can handle” cuz ur on to something there

[@UVtec]

Victoria: "Women most crave in men is ... DOMINANCE." Me: "I am so screwed."

[@mynonleatherlife]

Why is that

[@goneburnforher]

Why? ITS good News, You can do what You want, And Shell likes it

[@Shadow77999]

I feel u bro

[@Nykoooo1]

You're really spot on with your videos

[@KRAZEEIZATION]

Being dominant is fine, I’ve always got things done when the challenges arose. Problem is, people can use you if you’re not careful. Solve this, solve that etc. always be strong enough to say no to users, even the ones you love.