Imaginary Conversations

Richard describes one of the key ways in which we avoid being present to ourselves and others. With the essential insight shared in this short video, you can change how your relate to everyone in your life.

[@user-ik6mv8kc7i]

I can sit in my room and do this for hours, i thought i was the only one. I thought i was crazy, so i decided to research this. Thank you so so much.

[@aradikas8811]

Maybe, mild maladaptive daydreaming?

[@dampmop]

@@aradikas8811 idrk

[@qifangchao2733]

I just get stuck in the conversation so many times a day

[@bones1978]

Me too , I thought I'm on this on my own but I'm glad 5o see that I'm not the only one.

[@IamINERT]

Same I keep on doing it uncontrollably when im alone And its scared the hell out of me

[@daviddoherty4429]

I did not realize that other people had imagery conversation. I thought it was just me. Nice to know thanks

[@Jonathan-0001]

Dude I have them all the time. Like a little voice telling me everything i do wrong. I make up ppl in my mind.

[@___blaggard999___8]

Same, and I smoke weed so that increases them when I'm nice and toasted.

[@heyyou3525]

I have them

[@elimelechs.l3246]

You are not alone. I feel like I am lock inside my self.

[@danieldan6123]

@@Jonathan-0001 same

[@Mr_Invisiblee]

I searched this as a joke, i have imaginary conversations all the time. Talking to myself creating scenarios and different situations. I am in my bed talking to me and when i am pacing i find myself doing hand gestures and in front of the mirror I am always talking. After watching this video I realize I am stuck inside a matrix that I created myself!! I am prisoner in my own jail.

[@velcro3105]

This is so me 😂 , I am like this from childhood , I have created so many scenarios

[@datg2715]

How do we stop it

[@Sigoofficial.]

Same cause we're lonely try to have a friend

[@alrighty_aphrodite_1770]

Same....honestly this is scary as shit ngl...haha

[@lonelybeats9401]

@@datg2715 yes

[@singwithme7008]

This all started when I was young And every minutes I try to stop. I just become emotional and overthinking. But immediately when I start talking to myself I just become happy

[@Aplomb1972]

That's almost how I feel. Once I'm out of my head , everything seems more lively and I'm overcome with tranquillity.

[@Aplomb1972]

That happiness is temporary. Do not attach your happiness with things like this. Attach it to your own capabilities...and your inner strengths

[@singwithme7008]

@@Aplomb1972 I'm still working on that but it is hard ey

[@Aplomb1972]

@@singwithme7008 you'll come through. Work hard , be stronger than your inner desires! And dont ever live out your fantasies. Because what makes you truly happy is things that benefit you. Not things that give you seconds of happiness, and leaves you feeling emotional 😉

[@Aplomb1972]

@@singwithme7008 same for me too

[@whenyousmileismiletoo5419]

Mine is stemmed from loneliness and isolation. I have no friends in real life so I imagine talking to people who I've come across or made up humans. Whenever I'm reading or watching something mostly I imagine talking to them about it. Even though I'm not with anyone I feel drained. I get so into it like I cry laugh get mad but with no one around, only in my imagination. 5-6 hours are passed from my day just like that. I'm so tired and alone

[@tuyuu2191]

I do the same. I get so emotionally attached to this made up character I have created in my imagination that I cannot stop talking to myself. Every single night, my thoughts just wander off and I always end up in a conversation. I don't get enough sleep from it.

[@vidraagustina2832]

me either sometimes i think im crazy:(

[@crismaemlee2117]

Huhuhu me too. I'm getting scared sometimes bcoz I can't help it

[@Aplomb1972]

There are many wars and battles happening right at this very moment. They all have their unique solutions to it. But , the toughest battle that you'll ever fight in life is that with your destructive internal desires that have its consequences. In other words, the toughest battle you'll ever fight is with yourself. I believe that you can let go of this habit and open your eyes and explore and enjoy the wonders of a real world. 🥰 Dont spend hours on this . If you think its absolutely necessary, write down a specific time that you'll let your inner voice dominate you, and set an alarm so that you can wake up from it. Remember, dont ever let it take you over. It's never too late🥰🥰🥰

[@AnjaliVerma-iw4iy]

@@Aplomb1972 will you please help me out with this..

[@michaelle87]

I have this habit and it’s really destructive. It all started when I was little when my older brothers didn’t want to play with me. I felt rejected and went on to create my imaginary world and I never left. I can’t keep going anymore. This ruin my relationship. I’m going to keep trying mindfulness everyday. Thank you.

[@dylanburns3290]

How are you doing now??

[@catloverfr9]

true

[@michaelle87]

Dylan Burns I’m doing much better. Having awareness helps. When I start doing it. I remind myself to stop and it works but I still struggle. You can also check out maladaptive daydreaming it goes in more detail.

[@94tali53]

@@michaelle87 is there any medication or therapy for it?

[@michaelle87]

coffee, makeup, & cats unfortunately there aren’t any yet. People are still studying it. Like I said awareness is the only thing I have. Understand your triggers help too. Example having the urge to stay alone so you can talk to yourself daydream. When you observe yourself and is aware of it, maybe you can try to stay around family or friends. It takes practice. So I did try to talk to my therapist about it but he didn’t seem to really get it. I ended up doing my own research and finding what works for me. You can try. Hope this make sense if you have any questions let me know.

[@bladycivilian]

I talk with my past, try to fix failed interviews, lost arguments, convers again with people that are no more around me, try to convince my younger self that it was not your fault...

[@minnielee5892]

Oh my this is so me, I'd being doing something so normal and suddenly I'm talking to myself and having an argument with my imaginary husband I'm not even married but suddenly in this scenario I am and I'm just wording both of our "lines" it's so weird I never thought anyone else would be like this

[@bladycivilian]

@@minnielee5892 its complex and sometimes soothing as if you have someone to talk to and that you can say what you want.. but at the same time people around me consider me a nut case. Its not that im talking out loud.. its just that i smile when i talk to my past. And people find it very wierd.

[@abuabdullaah9476]

@Video Cassette these are Satanic insinuations. Seek refuge in Allaah from these. I talk to myself too. I talk to myself because of what happened to me in the past i.e. argue with ppl who have hurt me or have behaved treacherously with me in the past but now they've asked me for forgiveness from me yet I can't forgive them. You have to let these go or else these will destroy you mentally.

[@idk.5661]

Same, I think about that moment and that person and then I keep talking as if I'm still there and it's not over yet, and keep talking for long time and then I realize that it's all in my head and I wasted half an hour talking with my imagination of that person and this conversation will never happen IRL..such as waste of time

[@bhagyeshgurjar3435]

Met a girl we used to talk a lot but now we don't talk but i do imaginary conversation for hours 😫

[@TheUltimoLee]

you might have the most calming voice i've ever heard

[@joonapuonti990]

I almost fell to sleep 😂😂

[@hanaelabrim6267]

I knew someone would say it

[@TerrelleCheers1]

Guy put me to sleep in 3 mins

[@saadsyal8287]

So true man

[@namjoonshoe4697]

bro i felt like i'm talking to my dad so i just cried (well btw, dad doesn't want some deeptalks w me so)

[@sandracurtinhas7199]

Sometimes imaginary conversations can be psychological therapy.

[@ryanrodrigues6127]

Not at all. It is totally imaginary and can actually waste one's time which he could invest in a hobby or studying or in work.

[@daviddoherty4429]

I have imaginary conversations with people about me achieving amazing things like running a marathon I imagine how impressed they will be on my achievement. I have no chance of running a marathon or achieving anything worthwhile because I spend all my time thinking about telling people about it. And just loaf around getting fat. You, sir, have healthy imaginary conversations. However, they are dreadfully dull.

[@G_O_E_T_I_A]

I can completely relate. Sometimes I'll talk to myself about achieving things that I'm not even interested in at all. It's really difficult to quit, however, because, as you said, life feels so much less interesting afterwards.

[@ar15hamza65]

dont worry thats a good thing to do imagination is a great gift of the creator nd i think we should rather steer it twords something fruitfull like keeping it in facts range nd controll nd pour it on ur goals nd leading rightious life twords the maker

[@siya3574]

I can totally relate 😭😭😭 i have my exam on 28th sep and all the time m thinking about things i am never going to do and getting praised for that and giving interviews about how I did that and lots off people clapping and clapping and clapping😑m wasting my time in something that's never gonna happen and even wasting the opportunity that can actually do something for me😞

[@hedovahdagani7982]

i thought it was just me. is that normal?

[@shahdyemen6620]

This is meeee , I waste alot of time on this , I seeked therapy because of this

[@alyshanoble5719]

I have never related to a KZbin comment section more in my life....

[@roey7813]

I DO THIS EVERYDAY IT SCARES ME THAT I WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO LIVE AND HAVE THE LIFE I ALWAYS WANT

[@Home_of_comedy]

It's really addictive and honestly helps me escape the world and I don't know if I can ever stop😔

[@stuartbatchakoue9206]

For me it's like I'm talking to the other me that have more Logic réflection than me who IS so so emotional . For example when i was heartbreaked for the 3rd Time . Myself laughed at me saying that "WHAT DID YOU BELIEVE ? I WARNED YOU ABOUT THIS BUT YOU SILENTED ME ." Stuff like that . We even fought sometimes but hé was Always winning because his Logic reflected reality instead of m'y feelings who were only casual and imaginated . Just make good use of it .👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾

[@NoName-xp6dc]

​@@stuartbatchakoue9206 how did u get out of it I'm also in similar sittuation

[@hotties3v3n]

For me it was the other person. I'm scared cause he picks up on everything I'm thinking!! And I can't stand him. Please help me.

[@ihavenolife7032]

I also talk to myself and pretended I was a youtuber or an actress, that’s my dream job, but my dad said those are not real jobs and that he would be more proud if i was in the Air Force or became a doctor. That kinda shut me out from reality and made me talk to myself and imagine fans hugging me and supporting me because my dad can’t. I cant escape my imaginary world, and I don’t think I wanna

[@marazali2557]

The problem is, they are actually not real jobs. You can gain a lot of money with that jobs, but it is so unlikely. Yes, try to be a good actress or try to be a good KZbinr, but DO NOT Just try these things. Focus your school, and also do these things as a hobby. If you can do these things really good, than just go with it. But like i said it is so unlikely.

[@rawrdinosaur2008]

I feel exactly the same way as you. Except, I want to be a tiktok influencer, I've been dancing since I was 1 year old. I'm always dancing around my room or pretending I'm in a tiktok video. I'm always pretending I'm filming a KZbin video, talking to some of my favourite celebrities, or on a talk show. It's fun but when you realise your doing it you feel alot of shame and embarrassment. Both of my parents are abusive and they mock me for it as well as insult me and call me "strange" words like that. The good thing is that you can quite easily become a youtuber but with alot of hard work, publicity and determination. My uncle felt similar too. He wanted to be a singer since he was young and he felt really alone, he would imagine himself being on stage all the time. He was stuck in his imagination and now its turned into a reality for him. Hes called yungblud now

[@Usaguy2009]

I have one question to you all to you also talk to yourself like just not only in your head but also quietly speaking?

[@mansityagi9752]

@@Usaguy2009 yes I do

[@vianeyalopez]

We create a world of comfort out of loneliness and fear. It's a coping mechanism. Your mind makes it to keep you going.

[@AncientLionness]

This is so bro

[@vianeyalopez]

@@AncientLionness I'm sorry you're going to have to dumb that down for me....... 😶

[@ryanhammonds919]

@@vianeyalopezthey just forgot to put “true” before “bro”.

[@edition_8923]

It's not just imaginary conversations for me, it's also non stop mind chatter about anything and everything; every second of my day. Truly exhausting. If I can pin point a cause, I will say childhood trauma. The non stop chatter started as a way of alienating myself/protect myself from my environment.

[@jeanannbb]

Same!

[@user-vw4dk4cc2d]

Sameeee

[@_mei_l4350]

Same and if somone needs to be or have a friend of this type am here😂

[@ramnathravane1890]

Do you have problem sleeping at night because of that?

[@jacealbine]

“Let’s have people be real and not just imaginary constructs.” I love that.

[@nidhitomar2589]

I just want to cry badly after watching this. I always thought i was the only one. And never discussed it with anybody else 😪😪😪😪

[@tuyuu2191]

I am 12 and noticed that I 'rehearse' scenarios in my head, making it up as I go. Sometimes I do this when I am upset and pretend my imaginary friend is comforting me. I am not sure if it's healthy for me, since I get so emotionally attached to something that doesn't exist. I keep trying to convince myself that it doesn't exist, but it crushes me that I am so lonley.

[@Aplomb1972]

There are many wars and battles happening right at this very moment. They all have their unique solutions to it. But , the toughest battle that you'll ever fight in life is that with your destructive internal desires that have its consequences. In other words, the toughest battle you'll ever fight is with yourself. I believe that you can let go of this habit and open your eyes and explore and enjoy the wonders of a real world. 🥰 Your going to grow up and be successful and happy. Do not give in to these thoughts. Starve them and destroy them with the sword of reality.🥰 have a nice day! I'm probably late , let me know when you recive the message 😁😁

[@Aplomb1972]

@Dom you're very young. Suppress the urge to do it. Distract yourself as much as you can. Maybe run, jump up and down ?

[@goldensun542]

Same age time it started

[@suicidalmelodies6122]

I just turned 13 and do the same thing

[@Aplomb1972]

@@suicidalmelodies6122 Do change that pattern , you can do it.

[@ericplatt6884]

Nice to finally hear someone talk about this. I call it "rehearsing". There's the narrating part two. It is a sort of way to keep oneself entertained, which is a way to avoid feelings (such as of loneliness), hide from ourselves, and our Self. Peace.

[@KatinkaLucas]

I am just realising this. Finally. It feels incredibly liberating to be able to detach myself from this and see it from a perspective that is not of shame and guilt. Wow. And I totally agree. For me I realised that it served as a HUGE distraction from feeling myself truly.

[@bobsmith1561]

That makes sense and I'm guilty as charged.

[@charleschambers005]

Man I got this problem

[@nabinshrestha83]

I am seriously e;affected by this problem!!

[@angster4267]

Nabin Shrestha same

[@mysteriouswriter1993]

To be honest I needed this since I was 11 and 9. and 8.

[@stqrphire]

Same.

[@anushkakhandekar9475]

Hey what's your age now? Someone close to me is suffering from me

[@DaDonBaba]

I’m 20 and I needed this around 6yrs old

[@Bazza.official]

Me too

[@cyclops9202]

@@DaDonBaba same

[@ambal92]

I just noticed this thing a while ago. I used to think its normal and that it's a kind of the thing everyone does. And when I started to investigate I was absolutely shocked how these dialogs with others in my mind were affecting my life in a bad way. It's still hard sometimes not to do it, but I'm trying to notice when I'm starting the conversation. Sometimes it's just triggers automatically. Nice video, I really don't see much on this topic.

[@helios2283]

same man I feel like I'm depressed now

[@Pimp-Master]

The homeless are masters at conversing with others in a fantasy way, saying the right thing at the right time, and always winning, haha!

[@AmyJackson-_-85]

A lot of this is just habit formed I did this as a kid and broke it once. But I received harassment at my last job and I started again to escape. It’s bad enough people are giving up on me. People know. Like people from my new job. I want to be social and break this habit once again. But some people wont give me a break. I worried they try hurt me. That doesn’t help my anxiety.

[@stuartbatchakoue9206]

For me it's like I'm talking to the other me that have more Logic réflection than me who IS so so emotional . For example when i was heartbreaked for the 3rd Time . Myself laughed at me saying that "WHAT DID YOU BELIEVE ? I WARNED YOU ABOUT THIS BUT YOU SILENTED ME ." Stuff like that . We even fought sometimes but hé was Always winning because his Logic reflected reality instead of m'y feelings who were only casual and imaginated .

[@dianaluize]

What is the research saying why it is ununhealthy?

[@KhadijaNgunga]

this has been such a huge struggle of mine, I waste hours making up conversations that wouldn't even occur in real life , and when I finally snap back to reality , I fee so disappointed in myself. Thank you so much for this video, it is insightful and helpful

[@kanyeloveskanye129]

Im 16 and my whole life i felt rejected. Throughout my childhood i played alone and had imaginary conversations with toys (like regular kids do) but the thing is i never grew out of it. Instead i grew it into something that became unhealthier as the years went by. Battling with my anxiety disorder and multiple depressive episodes, talking to myself was calming in a sense. I'd find myself talking about myself (goals/problems/wishes/etc) for hours. Because of this, i closed myself off completely to the world. I have so many imaginary conversations with existing people and imagining what it would be like if they were around me, because it made me feel somewhat less lonely. Whereas if the imaginary situation were to be real I wouldn't have been able to say a single word, do a single thing or even make eye contact for longer than 5 seconds. My parents have heard me talking to myself as if someone was there a countless amount of times and they just thought of it as funny and not as a sign that their 16 yr old daughter has cut herself off from the world completely and is silently crying for help

[@krysspace]

❤️

[@dtm7743]

I loved the way you described your situation, you fine, and normal ,we are in a world full of suffers , people who don't appreciate our talk , our conversations and so we saw that we better cut ourselves off the world and talk to ourselves to not to feel so lonely. I wish that my words could have helped even a bit and that you feel now if you're still reading my comment that you are damn okay but be yourself and shut off ppl who give you no care and attention off

[@francessealexis160]

I do this often too, started at a young age too, because I have a difficult time making friends and expressing my feelings.

[@jovhs176]

Im also 16 bro Dont worry

[@faintspi1640]

I can understand, se thing happened. My mom used to get shocked (fun way) because at the age of 3 I was dancing at the open field alone, as if their were group of kids.

[@nabinshrestha83]

I searched if talking in mind continuously is normal and this video popped up. This literally made me cry within a minute as I related all those things grandpa told.

[@syrinereguez9524]

same for me

[@edigg1956]

As I was watching this, I had to rewind it half way because I started having an imaginary conversation. Such fun.

[@sukanya3411]

A hug to everyone here for sharing their raw story🧡💛💚💙 Keep your feet on the ground and I'll meet you there 🪨🪵🌱

[@quinnbeck162]

I have realized we make up these scenarios and story’s in our minds because we are either bored and alone or just want attention that we never got from our loved ones, we are not crazy we just have huge imaginations and that’s okay❤️ we will love/care for real people and try our best, I love you, try get help whether that’s days/months/years/generations from now I hope you will get the love and attention you want, you’re worth it and not alone, ❤️

[@quinnbeck162]

I have had story’s of when I was in a castle or tv show and working with my crushes I’ve had through out my life and always adding someone to the “imaginary” circle, we’re gonna be okay it’s all about not having attention when we were growing up and craving it when we were young so we make up these ‘story’s’ to help us psychologically. We’re gonna be okay.❤️

[@guineapigtv5122]

Do you ever feel like someone is always with you, someone in you mind, watching everything you do? And you have conversations with them and it's a whole other person created in your mind. And so, since you're caught up imagining things and conversations in your head, you miss out on being in the moment and with other people? This happens to me a lot. I am so deep in my head I miss lots of small and even important details around me, or things people are saying to me. So then I look in and say to myself: "Wait, it's just me. Only me, in my body. Only one person in MY body." And I feel very alone, like my mind is truly alone by itself in the huge expanse of my body. It feels like I'll never ever truly connect with someone else. Anyways that's it I just wanted to see if anyone does that too, or if it's just me.

[@renjunslefttoehair]

It happens to me to dw

[@maryamfatimafarooqui586]

Truly me

[@oldsoul29]

for a while

[@stuartbatchakoue9206]

For me it's like I'm talking to the other me that have more Logic réflection than me who IS so so emotional . For example when i was heartbreaked for the 3rd Time . Myself laughed at me saying that "WHAT DID YOU BELIEVE ? I WARNED YOU ABOUT THIS BUT YOU SILENTED ME ." Stuff like that . We even fought sometimes but hé was Always winning because his Logic reflected reality instead of m'y feelings who were only casual and imaginated .

[@juwayriam611]

U spoke my mind

[@poojagupta4704]

I have literally paused this video many times in the middle to speak to an imaginery therapist explaining to him i feel like this.At the same time imagining my father is sitting near us& understanding my problem where as he ignores in real life

[@abdulahadqureshi2263]

Since from childhood I've had this and it becomes my actually comfort zone for long time; and seek to attain the illusionary constructed world. You took out me from the social and self destruction. Thankyou !

[@elimelechs.l3246]

Omg me too,

[@silentknight2329]

@@elimelechs.l3246 same, i have the same case aswell..

[@sohailkamboh1001]

Omg relateable

[@bladycivilian]

Dude.. spot on

[@jovhs176]

Yes bro im also frm india

[@kwixotic]

Yes, most of the time these imagined and "rehearsed" internal mental activities result in an awkwardness when I then address whomever I intended to speak with. And of course it's because there's a requirement that in actually speaking, I can't deviate from the imagined or rehearsed preparation. This is only self defeating.

[@vegansrirachamac]

Yes that’s my problem too. I can’t seem to work up the courage to say to someone what I’ve imagined saying to them.

[@frenklinbejtja7510]

I really need some help with this. It all started after something that happened to me two years ago . It’s not something big but it seemed so at that time. Creating this imaginary world and scenarios in my head helped me somehow , but now I know that it has to stop because it’s not gonna take me anywhere and I don’t think it’s healthy. I’m relieved to know that I’m not the only having this. It has caused me panic attacks. So yeah, I would really need some help . ❤️

[@alyssabrown6877]

Makayla Stampley yo same

[@shotaaizawa1320]

I staight up make new people to talk to

[@anifand]

Frenklin Bejtja I do it to

[@louisestokken4660]

Frenklin Bejtja That’s just the way I feel, I keep imagining conversations with celebrities. Now at the time I think it’s unhealthy❤️

[@joanofkent9251]

i try to get over it by .. dancing .. imean its my hobby ,,, i llike dancing .. so i keep studying new styles nd new steps ,,,choreograph dance .. i keep engnanged

[@jjthepizzaman6921]

Sometimes I imagine myself talking with friends and I always end up arguing with them. so I then feel angry at them and then I would talk to them in real life and they would be totally chill. So in my head I have a constant voice saying this person doesn't like you, this person thinks this and I always just end up thinking what's wrong with myself to think up these conversations.

[@jovhs176]

Same

[@Legacyflo_]

How often. Every second?

[@jonesofosu-baah1160]

Same

[@oldsoul29]

yes lawd

[@rakeshnayakone]

7 years later still your video is like dimoned 💎 in KZbin

[@yungcartiglobal3213]

I spent my whole life living in my head and i knew it wasn't "normal" but i saw no problem, i wish people could do research about this cause it's honestly so destructive and it's ruining our lives

[@trin7955]

Thank you so much for this. I've simulated conversations in my head for as long as I can remember, and I've finally realized how detrimental this habit is to my presence in reality and connections to real people that I've constructed a fantasy personality around in my head. Be present, that's the best advice.

[@lolabrown1918]

I always imagine the person I love i s there with me . So what I do is I talk out like am actually having a conversation with him , telling him everything I feel . I hv this conversation sometimes for 1 hour 3 times a day . That’s cause I don’t know how to express my feelings in real life . So it’s better I imagine it in my mind cause he don’t love me and I cant hv a real conversation with him face to face !

[@winterwoods7219]

💯💯💯

[@SHUBHAMKUMAR-mk4rk]

U can write your feelings and emotions on paper.....You can do daily journal writing , writing your feelings and whatever going inside your head will release it ..

[@francessealexis160]

I do these things too.

[@applesubliminals4549]

8 years ago and still so beautiful ❤

[@zerafmaxx1010]

I started this when I was 10 years old after two years of being bullied, and mentally shutting down or tapping out at times with not being able to be my full self all day at school. After school, I would just sit quickly and talk to myself about certain things I didn't like or upset me. It went from that to me creating imaginary conversation. It has gotten worse as I have gotten older but I never knew how to categorize it. It's weird to see so many people going through the same thing!

[@sana6926]

I am always in an imaginary world of my creation and I do not feel like I am present in the real world. I do want to leave this imaginary world, but it is not easy can u plz give me some advice and thanks for bringing in this topic. I thought I am the only person who always has imaginary conversations

[@l.o.r.d5052]

Sana me too. Perhaps you should express your emotions to someone you trust. I think hiding emotions is the main reason causing inner conversation

[@DS-rd9qn]

Meditation, pure and simple :)

[@louisestokken4660]

Same, in my imagination I’m famous have many friends and are living in a mansion in Los Angeles.. it’s never gonna happend, I just don’t feel happy in my world❤️

[@loveandlight339]

@sana am shocked that I've been living in my imaginary world for years too

[@Aplomb1972]

You are not alone. Not at all. I can understand you. I believe that you can bring a halt to things by occupying yourself in some activity. It can be school work /work in general. You can even try writing down, what is it that you have conversations about the most. If it's something that you'd like to achieve, then work according to a routine in order to achieve it. If it seems like somthing you can never have or achieve, such as a relationship that is possible of working, you can redirect your mind else where , keeping in mind that , it is you ,who s incharge of your life. Avoid associating your self growth or success to any external thing or being. It is your efforts that can take you where you want in life. Remmebr @Sana that it is never too late to make change. But that does not give you an excuse to prolonge the period of time you are in this imaginary world , or to continue with it . So do what you must to escape. Remmeber , there can be several inner voices in your head. You may find it difficult to know , which is your real voice. But guess what? Neither of these voices are yours. These voices have nothing to do with you. The only voice you have is the one you use to speak others with. Any voice besides that is not yours. It is merely a voice echoing in your head , that has not an ounce of reality in them. There are many wars and battles happening right at this very moment. They all have their unique solutions to it. But , the toughest battle that you'll ever fight in life is that with your destructive internal desires that have its consequences. In other words, the toughest battle you'll ever fight is with yourself. I believe that you can let go of this habit and open your eyes and explore and enjoy the wonders of a real world. 🥰 I'm probably late , but , let me know when you recive my message.😁

[@selinepx6322]

I'm here because i thought that i was crazy 🙂 i can't stop this ,i actually love my imaginary world and my imaginary version of me it makes me happy and when i realize that it's not real and my reality is different i feel depressed and sad

[@chrisa2612]

Yep

[@NotJustJoe]

The imaginary conversations differentiate from thinking in that he views them as a waste of time. I do agree. If you simply say 'I did not realize other people had imaginary conversations', then you are clearly not understanding the difference he points out when he gives the example of internally thinking about what he will say when speaking to his son.

[@ottifantiwaalkes9289]

Talking to onself can be very good and actually very constructive. A rehearsal about a future meeting with others.

[@hopdrizzygettingbusy7589]

😂this is so reassuring i thought i was mad. I imagine my self in scenarios having nice conversations and practicing jokes, I like to speak what i think in order to judge it properly and practice how to express myself

[@user-mq9lx9im3x]

when im alone i just have imaginary conversations with myself all day its actually relaxing and calming

[@allinengineering8168]

I did this. But now I check once a day what I did in the whole day and think about trying to fix the things which I need to do it and make my life better. The imaginary world is bullshit. I am a real person anymore who makes plans just for one day I am trying to live in present. For me there is no past and future anymore. I have a happy life in my 20's. I am thankful to myself

[@owenolayo3840]

I feel like it relates dopamine which I’m able to no longer need from anyone . I’m always happy in my head .

[@owenolayo3840]

But I truly enjoy talking to people

[@zinagrillo1]

You have really spoken in a deep level to me. I live in an imaginary world that when I do speak to real people I am disconnected. I feel indifferent, I know what I want to say but there is a wall between me and them and they can feel that which only isolates me more. I have an amazing job which requires high intelligence and yet I’m a slave to an imaginary realm. I’m a good person with a loving family (who actually legit think I’m insane because of this) and yet I feel so trapped in a daily loop of meaningless jibber. I think the Buddhist call it “monkey mind” maybe? I am trying so hard to wake up and stop speaking to ghosts and be present with the living 😔

[@Amazigh220]

Sorry to hear that , I hope things work out for you take small steps to build confidence and eventually you will find a real friend

[@CornyTo]

I've been experiencing this for years now. And I can never say that it's an imaginary friend because I'm having a conversation with a person who I don't even know if a boy or a girl. Like it's literally just a creation of my head. For an introvert person like me, it's no surprise that I experience it so often. I don't even plan to do it, it just happens whenever I'm alone. Also, the imaginary conversation never happens in real life. It's always just about you and the person your mind has created.

[@gurleenKaur-bp9db]

same here.... I'm also experiencing the same thing. I'm relieved that I'm not the only who talks with an imaginary friend daily .

[@kathleenblair7278]

I have a crush on someone right now. Imaginary conversations keep me hooked into the nonexistant relationship.

[@chellyjelly7963]

Same.

[@brankosoucek123456]

Thank you. I've started focusing on this on a daily basis, trying to live the moment and avoiding getting lost in the "vortex of my own thoughts". At first it was tougher than I expected and I would find myself on the verge of crying multiple times per day, thinking that I'm too far gone. After a few days it got easier and now I'm more motivated than ever to make the most of every moment. For those struggling, hang in there. I know it's tough and it's ok to look for help. But keep trying and it will eventually get better :)

[@movysevn3603]

It is so hard to create and continue conversations with people because of this, for years of talking to myself in this way I know there is something wrong because I feel sad deep down whenever I do this and starting to overthink whenever I stop. It doesn't feel good, it creates barrier to people for me to socialize. Thank you for opening my eyes that this is just an imaginary conversations that there is a real world out there. I hope I can stop this.

[@khaoulaelboustani8409]

finally i found someone understand my problem !Alhamdulilah .thank you very much for your advice sir

[@mininusequeci]

I like how calming this old man speak.

[@mahamshahid1801]

Thank you sir..i was struggling really bad with waking up from them imaginary conversations.i am a medical student and cant gather my focus at all to study for about a year now....its just bad

[@myfocuseastwestphotography8460]

Thank you. I am grateful. This is a precious 'wake up' and a sublime way of explaining the basis for a true connection.

[@soniac2640]

Thankyou for saying we get ' narcissisticly encased' - so important to learn -

[@tims.2717]

I find myself doing this more frequently than I'd like. I've realized that when my mind is not made up of imaginary conversations, I have much more mental space and clarity.

[@RHR199X]

This was an incredibly necessary use of my time. I am incredibly grateful for this. Thank you.

[@Lynn_2006]

When I try to stop talking to myself I can't. I just can't. It's become somewhat of an addiction and a coping mechanism for me. I don't even know if people around me are concerned or no, whether they know that I talk to myself. Somewhere deep down in my mind, I have realised that the people I've imagined and conversed with, have made me keep my expectations on real life people too high.

[@quinnbeck162]

We all have big/huge imaginations, you’re not alone♥️

[@susanmendoza759]

Here’s my question-what if I can stop myself when I’m with people, but when I’m alone, I get so lonely that my own conscious has to bring me into my imaginary world so I don’t feel the loneliness in this present time when I am actually alone

[@harshshrivastav7216]

Same here my friend. I too talk to myself only when i am alone . I don't do it when i am with others

[@nareshkumarmajji8697]

Sound comes from silence , a painting can be painted only on a blank canvas and you are that silence and canvas when you are alone those painting and sounds are dissolving but you are still clinging to it you have to let go

[@edrinramos5352]

Are u afraid they notice and they know evrything n ur life?just like ur fb password..they try to afraid u that they know ur fb password?..did u experience that?

[@edrinramos5352]

U can change that way that they cant know about ur fb password...thers a way about that and answer..this is rely dagerous and rely hard 4 u if u dont know how u can keep it safe about them..i know and ive have a lot experience in this..

[@animelover-bt4ld]

So true! I also do that when I'm alone and not with people. It increased during the pandemic 🤷

[@katiesefton2197]

Honestly when you can free yourself from your imagery world, your mental health improves. Hand on my heart it’s slowly change my perspective on life and I am now more present, happier & less anxious

[@sarahparker5418]

Beautiful perspective of letting go of overthinking and just being. Being true to ourselves. Being true, open & present in every conversations.

[@berryfod7670]

I tell myself to wake up all the time I feel as if I’m not here anymore. After my ex leaving me after 2 years. having no one to talk to I find my self isolating myself just so I can’t be judged or just to talk to my inner self. Hopefully we can all figure this out together. Love you KZbin fam

[@majorynyambe1236]

I thought I was the only one, I love spending time alone I feel disturbed being around me.

[@donaldsutherland244]

I have for years called these, "Conversations I'll never have." -I hope it's not too late for me. Thank you!

[@bigdaddyfilmmaker]

Thank you for such a great video. I like how you talked about what to do when the imaginary is realized. So many just say to return to your breath. Your explanation about being present was excellent.

[@samjustsam9348]

I was talking to myself the entire day and I couldn't find a way to stop it, its fun but it's also so exhausting, this video helped me to come back into reality thank you

[@giacomo7882]

"Let's have people be real, and not imaginary constructs". That was beautiful. Thank you.

[@lilspellbook8066]

You put it all so perfectly. Especially the part about the narrator interrupting the conversation and that whenever I've had a few days of a calmer mind I really do have more fulfilling and honest conversations with real people. Thank you so much.

[@jamesfilms_]

When imaging conversations, you can think of it kind of like chess. You can plan out all your different moves and try to predict the other person’s but you’ll never be completely right. If you were you’d never lose a game or even a piece.

[@Harshwardhan43237]

I thought I was crazy for having hour long conversation with myself frequently . Thanks for making me feel better about myself

[@franciscalucacel8306]

Thank you so much for this video. It is exactly what I needed. This made me realise how much time I spend talking to myself, how much time I have spent talking to people who I wasn't talking to in real life, how much time I've spent on not living. Something just clicked while listening to this. Thank you so much!

[@coldenhaulfield5998]

It gives me comfort from when I was a kid until now that I'm an adult.

[@jessicavalencia9520]

I've seen my son talking his self most of the time.sometimes he so snub but sometimes he so sweet,very talkative then tomorrow very silent.

[@brittneyscales8154]

What is that have you found out?

[@deadchannel443]

Imaginary conversations and fake scenarios have plagued my life and detached me from reality. I’ve really want to be maintained social and not hyper self awareness, but I’ve been right now pointing out everytime I go into another world/no-consequences fantasy. God it’s so sad. Thank you so much for this. I act like the people in my own world and re-interpret what they say. Theatrical constructs, that’s a good way of putting it because you control and create a world where people respect you and or adhere to your desires and opinions. I’m 17 but the better way of looking it is, is if you keep engaged in fantasy, you will be a dreamer that doesn’t come out, and basically end up like Joker from Joker, or the old man from I’m Thinking of Ending Things. That film was all about an old man fantasising about having a girlfriend, as well as changing what she wanted and what she did. It’s a depressing film but it’s part of truth.

[@povyourgay69]

The thing that hurt the most is that when you're peacefully having an imaginary conversation that you're a celebrity and your sharing your mental health problems on an interview but then you start talking about having imaginary conversation, and thats the moment you realize

[@ganeshchidambar3299]

you are a genius. i wish more psychologists are like you. imagine the sheer number of people whose quality of life would have improved if they had access to you

[@boualleguemb8101]

sometimes I imagine imaginary conversations after watching an interview on youtube, for example, I imagine that the interviewer ask me and I answer him or I imagine that I'm married to someone from the real world, for example, a famous person or a person that I know in the reality but I don't have any feelings for them in the real-life and sometimes this person doesn't exist in the real world or I imagine that im studying abroad at a good university and I'm talking with my classmates at the university restaurant or I watch a film and I imagine that I talk with actors and I'm a personage from the film when I imagine those things if I'm alone i talk in a loud voice and i use the body language but if I'm in the street or in front of people i imagine only in my mind but i walk in the house and talk to my self without mouving my lips even mysister notice this that i walk a lot in the house for no reason this is crazy i know that I don't know why i do this i hate it

[@RevJamesCostello]

I have imaginary conversations - or even confrontations - all the time. Especially during my morning exercises. Sometimes it can be a debate. Sometimes it could be an encounter with a stranger. But they are seldom with a real person. More often than not, they are with an imaginary faceless person. I find it interesting that Richard urges the viewer to say to themselves during such a conversation, ‘Look, I am having an imaginary conversation,’ which he says will give ‘a simple presence of awareness.' Interesting because when I am having such thoughts, I simply smile, laugh to myself, even whisper under my breath, ‘Imagine that.’ As in, what a weird, funny scenario.

[@andrewfossesca1375]

Sometimes they are with people that I know but never talk to since I'm socially akward

[@rawrdinosaur2008]

i have debates with myself way too many times lol😂

[@sophiajones1165]

I was so amazed at the accuracy of this in relation to how I feel/what I do, that I immediately started talking to myself (or my 'friend') about how great it was to hear out loud and feel sympathised with - and then immediately set unrealistic fantasy expectations for how much mentally healthier I'll be now I'm aware. That's not realistic, it takes time and work and thousands of gentle nudges to myself to stop living up there, takes patience. Finally figuring out what's in my weird little brain right now, or trying, since I just turned 18. Good luck to any other dreamers feeling lost beyond lost.

[@brandonfitzpatrick2045]

I needed this. It's really hard for me. I'm trying to become more productive with school and starting an online business. When I drift off an start to have these conversations with myself its a place of comfort and serenity. It has gotten worse over the past months when I moved away from close family and friends and suffered from anxiety and depression. Sometimes I would be spending time with my friends and I would have these imaginary talks and missing out on what's going on right in front of me. Self awareness and presence in the moment is the most important thing that we can have.

[@saadsyal8287]

The most amazing video I have ever watched I mean it just changed my interpretation of everything

[@nikitasingh7951]

Thank you very much Sir Actually I had this problem since my childhood and one day I had randomly decided to talk this way because I didn't had any friend at that time or may be never considered anyone as my friend because I actually talk very less or to be true I don't have any childhood memory where I might be saying anything and I remember very clearly one day when my grandmother was saying to my aunty that I don't talk. And I always tried to stop this when my family members noticed and tried to use it for my studies and actually it benefited me alot as I made my books my friend and I was able to speak in my class and with my friends and just one day realized that the problem was gone. I was very happy to present in the present. But the problem came back when I got in depression because of my grandfather's brain injury which caused him a lot of trouble and also because of the stress of highschool studies. I was always searching for someone who have the same problem so that I can share it with someone who can really understand and give me a way out. The thing with me is that I can differentiate the difference between between reality and this imaginary conversation but just wasn't able to because I was in a situation where I was explaining about my depression (which I don't have now) to a lot of people whom I would like to to tell in the future. There is one more question is that did you also had this problem? And was you able to stop you?

[@muhubo100]

My imagination story is normally about what I like or who I like at that present time. Right now, I have been in a relationship with Jon Richardson for weeks in my head. I have been making up stories in my head for as long as I can remember. I can't stop it. It's sort of escapism and it calms me. The downside is I don't feel the need to seek out others company.

[@aseeljanahi1782]

the amount of energy you have put in this lesson is huge I could feel it out of your emotions. thank you very much. what you said in this life lesson (I really cannot call it a video) is a life changing tp anybody who sees it. I am gonna be rich enough to deliver this thanks in person soon.

[@furleysbrain]

Shout out to the Default Mode Network - at rest (immediately after any focussed cognitive task and any other time) our brain goes onto default mode, which amazingly fires up the the parts of our brains associated with social analysis. At any given time during the day when you think you're in control of your mind - it's actually the other way around - and your brain is analysis relationships, conversations, self image, social currency, social status and more. This is partly why we simulate conversations so much in our heads. Our brain is deconstructing past interactions and preparing for future ones without us even knowing.

[@Reijnz]

i'm having conversations with fictional characters in my own little imaginary world .. it's pretty neat i've been envisioning my "ideal self" in a lot of scenarios, i could do it for hours and i don't know why

[@sab11441]

Are we mentally ill

[@Bassywassy20]

Very clearly said and very true. Personally I would even have these conversations out loud, lol. I think for myself, what he says about having these conversations to avoid being fully present, is true. But there's also the dissatisfaction of the fact that people are often only sociable on a superficial level, which sometimes leaves someone like me feeling that the conversation lacked what I really wanted to talk about. I suppose a lesson to be learned here is to learn to accept reality for what it is and not create a fictive imaginary one.

[@barin6757]

I've been doing this my whole life and It was only recently that I realized how it's really affecting my view of life. How I always walk into a conversation having so many expectations of what I will say, hear and see from the other side and when something happens that i hadn't anticipated, it devastates me.

[@AceCreation1]

Thank you sir , because of your 8 mins video i literally got clarity of Very big problem of myself from the childhood after watching this in a week i saw some improvements i my conversation Thanks a lot sir🙋‍♂️

[@kallysz2250]

Oh here feels like home You have really relaxing voice thank you for opening my eyes I needed to know that to have those imaginary conversations isn't healthy for me.

[@UtkarshBajpai1]

His precision towards this activity shows he too use to do this and regrets the time he burned on it.

[@enriconolastname3471]

This is gold, i do this most the day since the day i am born (or since the day i am conscious) am so afraid of stopping it because i dont know what else to keep my mind busy with. Thanks so much!

[@tairabhalla9314]

While studying 3/4 of the time is wasted in my imaginary conversation.....not a single person to talk with my heart out Now, I'm seriously addicted to it What'd I do guys??? Replies will be welcomed, plz 😢

[@SHUBHAMKUMAR-mk4rk]

It's happen because we don't share our feelings and emotions, moreover it's not even easy to speak out our feelings as we fear that people may judge us , hence we can do a journal writing , you can write your emotions , talks, fears, sense of lack, desires, in a dairy everyday ....It may help to release those emotions and feeling that is troubling you

[@Palladiumavoid]

Tonme it just happen to be scenarios of one action

[@PeakFilmClipz]

I feel like I’m losing my shit I’ve been isolated a lot lately

[@johnloydantoc813]

This clarifies my anxiety! Thank you for explaining and giving advice, Ossan. ❤️

[@Phyantis4293]

God Bless this man and thank you so much for helping me understand this better.