Worst is the emotional and physiological weight that is left behind by these imaginary arguments. Im always left feeling angry, violent, or some other form of energy drainage. It used to help me when I was a younger man, would put me in a happy place to imagine good things and potential happy moments. Somewhere along the way life has made me a pessimist, and the thoughts that influence these conversations or events in my head are rooted in negativity. Your advice seems helpful, especially as I am a filmmaker and writer who hasn't practiced my craft in almost a decade. Putting this problem into use and it becoming a tool seems very reasonable. The part about replacing yourself in the argument with someone you admire is great as well, but. makes me think, which of my heroes hasn't let me down enough that i could trust my intuitions, though imaginary, with? Great video.
@mooworldwide15 сағат бұрын
Well spoken and great advice. Hope you are still creating somewhere out there!
@adrianstamps1576 Жыл бұрын
My biggest problem is that if something happens or if someone approaches me in a certain manner I wouldn't know how to respond to it. Then later regret not saying anything... Catastrophizing and Maladaptive Daydreaming has taken over 80% of my life now.. oh! I had two arguments while trying to focus on this video. 🤦🏾♂️
@Strikzz128 ай бұрын
I think you have ocd my nigga
@sweet233157 ай бұрын
wow same here, honestly i have arguments about things im deeply insecure about, and facing things that sound very ugly and scary to me, trying to find the perfect response and answer. i have been diagnosed with OCD, i think it is mostly that. stay strong :)
@flowerbloom57826 ай бұрын
Same here. I realize it’s just me trying to learn to respond but it’s useless in real convo cause I don’t actually know how I’m gonna react or how the person is going to speak or even if that situation will happen. I think it’s also addictive cause you feel accomplished in doing nothing.
@Biniyam3832Ай бұрын
But amazingly those imaginary conversations helped me a lot to stay my mind active. It's like when I stop those arguments I know myself that I will forgot some core things someone did me.
@stellaferraz16682 жыл бұрын
Thank you SO MUCH for this. Mine is awful, daily, constant…. I’ve began to think I’m losing my mind and that nobody else experiences this. Very grateful for this video!
@denik96142 жыл бұрын
No you are not alone. I also replay interactions in my head. Like if I talk to a clerk at a gas station I might get in the car and totally react the way I smiled, waved and spoke to the clerk to analyze if I presented my self correctly.. 🤦🏽♀️
@luismiguel69able Жыл бұрын
same
@tiffanyjohnson33957 ай бұрын
@stellaferraz1668, I can relate. I have to catch myself. I am learning to catch the thought before it gets out of control. These thoughts never come true. It is an energy thief.
@triggerwarning301020 күн бұрын
Me to
@naraendrareddy2732 жыл бұрын
This is a huge problem for me. I just had 5 arguments during my teens that were unnecessary and those which hurt me. And I've been feeling scared to face them again and don't really know how to deal with those aggressive people even if we are soft and kind. And this is what's happening these days, imaginary arguments. And they are very exhausting.
@coko3124 Жыл бұрын
I am going to use Jesus as my roleplay responder every time!
@shadowthesun5 ай бұрын
I was always super shy everywhere I went. Still am. I used to imagine beating the absolute sh*t out of people constantly. I would literally walk around listening to music as a background and imagine fighting and being all cool and dangerous and everyone being all shocked and in awe. I believe this was an abrasion to telling people how I really feel and setting healthy boundaries in the real world because I was practically mute.
@davidotero3027 Жыл бұрын
I just got an idea : from now on instead of fabricating a whole script in my head I’m going to go straight to a big fuck you im out of here every time the argument starts 😅😅😅😅
@MzoliSteve2 жыл бұрын
This was really helpful. In my case such mental arguments occurred when I was preparing for a presentation. I always feared that someone in the audience would discredit my views and that's when the imaginary fight started. And, need I say I won all those fights 😄.
@andersonenvy3 жыл бұрын
Thanks! Great advice. These days, it’s easy to get wrapped up in repetitive imaginary arguments about world events.
@123leemur8 ай бұрын
This was very helpful. I've ben struggling with this.
@eran385111 ай бұрын
Thank You for this advice. Roleplaying as a person I'd like to be is a great idea.
@SushiFiras4 ай бұрын
Thank you. This sounds very helpful I will try it. ❤
@patricksexton702 Жыл бұрын
Insightful advice, much appreciated
@danab172Ай бұрын
All I do is imagine conversations or scenarios. And, I can't stop. It is so distracting that I can't do the things I need to do like job training and school. I've tried yoga and meditation. I've tried to focus.
@hari886129 күн бұрын
I have been suffering from same problem from many years....
@youmakemespeak3t2 күн бұрын
@@username-r3p you have to manifest. Meaning actually applying what you are doing into your life...or realizing and going through the pain cycle of truth...where you accept none of it may not happen and none of it is actually helping you so no need to hold onto it. You have to accept where you are now and get rid of the illusions those day dreams are causing. It's hard but it will get better when you accept what is around you and realize how your dreams can becom reality if you apply them ..maybe you want to be apart of a debate club...either or ..try to refrain or take your thoughts off of that. I'm still improving too
@youmakemespeak3t2 күн бұрын
@@username-r3pmost of the time I perform in the essence of what I daydream about so it causes personality problems for myself in real life
@luismiguel69able Жыл бұрын
wow this is cooll advice! Anyone try this - didnit work? if so how long did it take?
@anonymous._.aliover3 ай бұрын
Did it work for you?
@invadorop9 ай бұрын
Is it a teenage problem??
@cateatingsushi4108 Жыл бұрын
Theese are a live saving, for 3 years i did'nt realize ive been doing this and really dentroying my mental,
@fegamc1432 жыл бұрын
Can this relate to OCD? I had OCD for 3 years and now the final thing i wanna cure is my self talk
@sweet233157 ай бұрын
samee, big gut feeling that it is my OCD acting up, i try to accept it, make fun of my delusions and snap out of it as much as i can.
@lesleyannthompson3053 Жыл бұрын
Thank you I've been struggling with it. I decided to stop doing it because it is was not helping me do8ng this
@MohammadSalehfarhat2 ай бұрын
6 arguments in the first 30 seconds 🙁🙁🙁my brain is suck , i can't stop . Help