Immature VS Actualized INFP

[@ErikThor]

What are your experiences as a young INFP vs when you got older?

[@LoveLorienTV]

Before even watching (I'm letting all the adds play to support you with the revenue!) I can tell: it's getting more peaceful as you get older. When acceptance for you and the world starts to come, life becomes less painful and more and more enjoyable.

[@autumnartist4132]

I have definitely have come to accept myself more and be more confident than i was before. I have maintained my creativity and I hope to become an animator which I'll go to school for next year. I also have a solid support group that I feel that I can rely on which really helps. The only thing that has gotten worse is noticing all the bad things happening in the world around me and feeling like I can only do so much to help. It can be suffocating at times but I have hope that it can get better. Also, one thing that I didn't feel matched up for me in the video is the idea of spirituality. I am an atheist and I don't plan on returning to religion anytime soon as I have always been skeptical about it as long as I can remember. Other than that, I thought that the video was pretty spot on and very insightful.

[@ErikThor]

@mugglebornHPsans I am also an atheist so I am not making a statement here about whether INFPs are religious or not, but I do believe everyone has a natural spiritual inclination and that spirituality is a part of our lives no matter if we believe in a god or not, so we still have a tendency towards magical beliefs, we imagine there is a fate, we wonder if there is karma, we wonder about heaven or hell, divine intervention, especially when we are young-- but i am not making a statement on whether god actually exists or not or whether infps are more inclined to believe in god or belong to a religion.

[@hanins4592]

When I was young I always questioned myself and my existence. I was isolated and focused on myself and then when I grew up I learned so much about myself and people.

[@nathanwood4762]

I think developmental perspective on psychology may lend benefits to type based systems of understanding behavior, especially in cases where it is applied to individuals. As you say, each of us lives in differing and changing circumstances that can be only partly addressed by applying characteristics of our types. 'War with god' sounds like the closest match to my present phase in life. It's been going on for a long time so I am pessimistic about my prospects for development. The main difference between childhood and adulthood for me is jobs. The world of jobs seems to expect me to follow self-defeating practices. I do not mean to rebel, but I unwittingly reinterpret concepts in unorthodox ways that offend people, especially those who think they hold authority. The harder I try to do what I think I should, the worse I get. On the bright side, I have become more kind, and more willing to accept that it is up to me to find what satisfaction I can.

[@kevintheconner]

I often feel like a child at heart and an old soul all wrapped into one.

[@Userykp]

That's because when we were kids we show so much wisdom that the other kids don't understand n when we grow old we tend to take things lightly with laid back attitude which looks like childish to adults who feel we don't have any responsibility feeling ...

[@karenc8028]

Me too!!

[@sherwinh1661]

i think everyone feel this way somehow

[@unomikoshari2632]

As a kid I felt like a naive adult stuck in a kids body As a (sort of) adult (19) I feel like a wise child stuck in a grown body

[@rclark1132]

I always say, “I feel like and 88 y/o woman and a 12 y/o boy at the same time.” I was initially talking about my body appearance, but now that I’m researching personality things, I’d say this statement applies here as well🤣🤣🤣

[@WiensAndrea]

As a child I loved all living things, playing outside, rescuing animals. In elementary school I was at a few different schools so didn't usually have many friends, daydreamed and read a lot of fantasy books. Was bullied at school so I mostly kept to myself or befriend another kid who was getting picked on. As a teen I think I was pretty self absorbed, rebellious (probably also connected to trauma from age 3 to 4 or 5). And yet still having trouble standing up for myself. Becoming an adult I did (and still do) struggle with self esteem. I also struggled to understand my own feelings quite often. I couldn't describe what I was feeling exactly no matter how I tried. It felt as though I was feeling everything all at once. Sometimes I've felt like I was filled with this rage because people take advantage of you so many times that you just can't handle anymore. I've chosen unhealthy relationships with people (people I seem to think I can help) who disrespect me and my beliefs. Last April i left an unhealthy relationship and promised myself to look deeper and work on changing this constant. I took better care of me, tried to see what I was missing. Now I'm 43 and recently discovered I'm an INFP. Gamechanger. I've grown more lately than any other time in my life. I realize I'm not just weird. I'm really starting to love me and be easier on me. I feel now I am still searching for my purpose which is to find a job in which I can really help people and still volunteer, I am making deeper connections to new friends and old, my family too. I've been really trying to open up more and be honest and it's really changing my world for the better. Thank you for being an important part of that Erik (and a shout out to Lexie too). I took your test and it peeled yet another layer away breaking my personality down even more. The results were INFP the Dreamer.

[@alietheredge]

Andrea W wow, I really connected with what you shared, thank you

[@WiensAndrea]

@@alietheredge Thank you for saying that. It's nice to know someone out there understood my feelings and has felt the same. It's truly meaningful to know we have a kindred spirit in each other. :)

[@alietheredge]

I never understood why everyone in my family could be so cold and mean and not seem to feel, till I realized I was feeling everything and they weren’t. Cried over every dead animal on the road, saw the pain in others the adults missed, cared so deep it rended at times. Grew up wondering what was wrong with everyone. Not to mention we are descendants of an actual barbarian, so I felt like I didn’t fit in to my own family. It was crazy times. Now my compassion for them takes over even when they are nasty, I’m asking what is hurting them. They don’t realize their anger is pain in motion. Thank you for responding, I’m so glad I found this channel, Eric is always reading my mail.

[@WiensAndrea]

@@alietheredge I hear you and can understand that. I was lucky to have a compassionate Mom, but my family didn't talk about "feelings" and such. When I would become emotional over other's pain, or like you said, every dead animal I was treated more like "oh, let's talk slowly and carefully as not to upset her more" when all I wanted was validation that what I was feeling was normal. I come from a small and small minded town and always felt like such an alien. Once I contemplated that maybe I was alien. When my budgie passed away in 2015, I totally bawled like a baby. Every day for at least 6 months I would quietly slip away and cry about it. I still miss him and sometimes get emotional. I have learned to value the fact that I do feel things more intensely. I'm an intense person. I really like what you said, that when people are nasty, ask them what is hurting them. I think that is the BEST way to handle the situation and I'm going to try it. Anger IS pain in motion and often the tip of the iceberg when all the underlying feelings are really what the anger is made up of. I think back to when I was young, confused and had some rage in me. I used to think I was so angry because there was something wrong with me, but thinking back, I think I was angry because I wondered how can I care so much in a world that seems to be sometimes filled with apathy? Angry at the world for not seeming to care. :-)

[@ray.deathray]

@@WiensAndrea Relate to almost everything you said, except instead of feeling rage, I buried my emotions, especially over the last few years. I'm good at being independent and don't need much support, but that leads people to believe they don't need to support me at all. Then I get stuck in a cycle of being more resistant to reaching out because I don't want to be ignored, and getting neglected more because I'm not reaching out. Didn't realize how much of myself I was repressing until it all burst out in the form of depression and anxiety in the last few months. It's been a wake up call to take better care of myself. Got very lucky when I took a chance opening up to someone who didn't just forget about me after a few days. It has made such a difference because I had forgotten what being supported by someone else was like. I'm trying to learn healthier ways of thinking - that I deserved better, that I don't need to blame myself so harshly, that it's worth letting some people in sometimes. Don't let that light die out. You deserve to have good things in your life. Don't let them get taken away.

[@nzyyybb]

When I was a kid, I always felt like I don't belong to a certain group of kids. I've read all our Encyclopedias at home that other kids don't read at all. I've been amused by the depths of life. My mom told me when I got older that I always ask questions when I was a kid, I always get curious about things. Whenever I was bored, I always try to invent silly things while other kids are busy playing with their barbie dolls and toy cars. I was attracted to Astronomy so much that I read all these books related to it, even every corners of Encarta Kids lol. I'm also drawn to Music so much, that I even tried to write some lyrics back in the day. In High school, I was bullied but I didn't fight back at all. I just let things go and I just forgave those people even though they didn't apologize not once, because as far as I know, they don't know what they truly are doing. And now, I've been stuck in College, haven't graduated yet, I'm on a break, trying to think things through. I took up Architecture, I should've already graduated last year. I've been stuck in my 3rd year, too many failed grades, repeated subjects. Don't get me wrong, I love Architecture, Art is what I also live for. I was so passionate about it in my first 2 and a half years but things got worse, I got depression, been cheated on, financial problems, etc. So I was stuck, didn't know what to do. I tried to ask myself, why do things like that happen to me? Why am I still not able to move on with life? My batch mates, they have stable jobs, own family, travelling the world. I even took breaks to try to gain back my passion but it didn't work at all. Been asking myself for the long time. Is this really the right path? Or was I just scared of letting go and be honest with myself because I was scared of the judgemental society that I live in? Or was I just scared of disappointing my parents and not living the dream and life they wanted me to have? I reflected a lot these past months. And here I am, letting go of my old degree and gonna take up BA in Music and I've never felt so alive and inspired. Because deep inside I really want to be a Musician, a singer, a performer. I wanna inspire people through my music, through my thoughts and words. I wanna help people. I want to be heard. So that's what I'm going to do. Thank you so much for this. It summarized what we we really are.

[@messymish]

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[@BothSidesNow52]

There is always an assumption that you reach your fourth stage before you are forty and that's the last stage. But you are constantly going through new stages until you die. If you consider/or assume that each stage begins in the first year of the decade, say, stage two when you are twenty, stage three when you are thirty, stage four when you are forty, and so on ... then by the time you are seventy you are different to when you were forty. I am a mature INFP but I am certainly more evolved than when I was forty (a long time ago) which was when I became 'actualised' in the way you are discussing now. You Tubers are generally a lot younger than me, so I understand where you are coming from, but I disagree that there is a 'stage' that represents 'actualisation' -- you are NEVER actualised, you are constantly evolving, there is never a point that you reach and then no further movement. When you are seventy, Eric, you will be way different to what you are now .. and still evolving.

[@tonyswietochowski2282]

I am in the “make peace with God” stage. 🙏

[@FlawlesZMa]

I´m happy to hear this..I am a follower of The Lord Jesus Christ our savior. I´m also an infp. Jesus died for your sins and loves you..but we must put our trust in him and repent from our sins..we were created to have a relationship with God and made in His image. I pray you seek Him, He is the way, the truth and the life..

[@juice_lime5114]

I was already an actualised one, but was mistyped INFJ. I did not know how it felt to be one. I wasn't bragging about being one, being already too experienced in the failures of arrogance. The only subconscious drive I had was to find somewhere to break free. Then someone finally judged me for it, a fact not made with my own bias through the personality tests. I was finally free from it. Never wanted to be the rarest, because its the loneliest. I wasn't rejecting the judgement, I welcomed it with open arms. Then I reconfigured all my understanding (abit of a Te grip overnight) to finally fit my entire life within this difference by just one letter. Not the immature one to start with, but this identity tag held me back for 5 months, destabilising my psyche. Finally felt released from the silly four letters. I was challenging the system all the time. But definitely got a huge verification with the values contained within personality typology. The valued goal of this field is actually not to fit rationality into human nature, but to promote self-actualisation, under the philosopy of existentialism. An actualised INFP is actually insane in the potential, if it doesn't involve cold, hard, logic (Ti). Fi is a value system, like a rock waiting to be carved into a sculpture. That's why immature INFPs are really stubborn to change, like the rock being blocky and defiant. Many would think that INFPs don't change their values, but their value system is actually highly flexible to change. Their values are shaped by their past experiences (Si) solved through their Ne, always trying to find a way out, and make the values practical in life (Te). Matured ones that have went through alot, solved their past problems to find their true self again, become a treasure trove of values of experiences willingly open to share.

[@jom.458]

Most of this is very true...and resonated with me...except the choosing to be different. I feel like I just was different. My interests and my view of friendships and understanding of the world usually didnt fit into mainstream society for the most part. I dont believe I deliberately chose to not like something because it was popular. However, when it comes to parties and groups I do deliberately choose to stay away from that. I always worked alone in school if I could. Sat by myself at lunch. Loved it. Got invited to a lunch table full of popular girls my first day of sophomore year in high school. They were so boring and mean, gossiping about others and talking about looks. I stood up and told them I dont want to be friends with people like you. And left. Sat alone at lunch till graduated and got out of there. I dont regret it a bit 🍵

[@munkami]

Extremely perceptive video. I feel I've lived a thousand lives, sometimes. The last few years have definitely been the conscious awareness of being a 'contrarian' and naturally going against the grain. Just never fully recognised this, despite being told that 'Im my own man' for many years. Taking my own path seems like the only option now, and I'm starting to come into the flow state of 'is this me'. You captured and articulated that excellently. You must be a sage!

[@MsDoryLinda]

I can totally relate to this!!

[@invisibleninjaflyingpirate6586]

You expressed this growth cycle perfectly, as if you had witnessed my experience with me, thank you.

[@INFPHD]

Great video Erik! I have definitely seen these phases in myself which also gives me that ability to really understand what the younger INFPs are going through and look at them in a different way than how society may be looking at them. My mom always refers to me when I was very young that I would always just sit back and watch everyone / everything around me essentially taking it all in. I wasn’t a very social kid and just kept to myself but was always quietly observant. There was a lot of confusion in my teenage years of “what am I supposed to be doing? Hmm I’ll just follow those people and see where it leads...” A lot of where I went with the majority however I still always felt like I was missing something... I was in the military for my 20’s. This was a combination of the younger experiences which I still had lingering confusion, but most (all) of that time was mainly numbed with partying / alcohol to get me through. That time gave me a ton of worldly experience which really helped open my eyes to things. I just look at the more things / experiences you can take in from this world will help you triangulate what works for you and what doesn’t to eventually get to that place quicker of self acceptance! If you hide out in a dark basement fearful of the scary world because it feels “safe” then it’s going to ultimately keep you away from true happiness that much longer. I’m now 38 and for the start of this decade for me is really when I started to let go of what “others were doing”. I do understand, like you said, that it is important to work with the majority around you and not ALWAYS stay on my self created island “NOPE...I’m gonna do my own thing people” lol. When you do learn to work with others you can still find more and more meaning within your own life. We can also still be ourselves in those groups with more of that under the radar soft spoken approach tactics we prefer to use that can actually be very beneficial. So yeah, the older I get I just find “now” I’m wanting to reach out more to others as I’ve put in MANY years of selfish work into knowing who Sean is. I feel that when you get to a point in your life (some sooner than others) where that fog begins to lift that it’s important to then share any insights etc you may have learned from your journey with potential helpful benefits for others going through the same phases you already have. It’s about helping one another out because life is not so easy to navigate on your own.. Sean

[@ErikThor]

Its not selfish work, its self work, but I know what you mean :)

[@MrKillswitch88]

Don't fall into the apathy trap where one just accepts then just do nothing as the older generations done this and it resulted is making life worse for society especially on the economic and political side of things. People need to buck the system to where change is possible and allow for balance as well quality of life otherwise we all collectively rot in bad circumstances imposed by toxic society.

[@GPbabe09]

when i was a child i felt like an adult mind in a small body. i was very observant of others, especially adults, i watched and listened to them often without them realizing. it was like being invisible, i was sometimes comfortable with this invisibility, yet other times it frustrated me. i think everyone eventually would like to be seen and heard at some time. it bothered me that no one external of me regarded my internal world and only viewed me by my appearance as a young person with little life experience. my perceptions seemed to span further than any real life experiences i had had at that point in my life, however my intuitions have been a strong guiding force within me ever since, and have helped me along my way into adulthood. i at first trusted myself and certain convictions and until i was met with contrary viewpoints i had begun a pattern of self doubting that i eventually outgrew and eventually learned to trust myself and my intuitions again. my perceptions usually seem to be spot and rather than expressing these things outwardly to share and relate and seek reciprocity, i've learned to hold them close because not everyone understands my perspective and it is tiring to try to prove to others who i am and what i think and what i feel. now i just experience my internal and external world without colliding the two as much, and it isn't as bothersome as it once was. it had become bothersome when the two hadn't been able to merge gracefully because of incompatible company or environments or just extremely different perspectives. acceptance of self is key to healing from lack of understanding, and accepting that others won't always see you and appreciate you. so you have to begin to appreciate yourself, and know that others out there will see you even if you don't realize it. at the very least i see me and that can be enough.

[@kowens8504]

Still waiting to feel like a real grown up, despite living a thousand lifetimes.

[@thomaschainey3230]

Great video thanks. As a INFP-A at 56 I have been through all of those stages and continue to work on having a good impact on the world in general by sharing more of the things I myself have done and actively do to be part of the solution and trying to no longer be part of the problems when possible and to strive to the higher standard I set for myself and to give a encouraging example to others to do what they can. I can not change people but I can change myself and that can an does help other's to choose to do the same if I share myself with my thoughts and actions in a loving and not judgmental way.

[@CognitivePersonality]

Great talk man, you have a calming style of speech. 8:50 can't be emphasised enough! Often the willing acceptance of positive restraints begets the loss of negative ones, and the world upons up thereafter.

[@midnightblue2893]

Thanks again for understanding and helping me realize that I need to relinquish my urge for social avoidance after once again being judged and misunderstood in a social situation. I realize I need to keep working on embracing who I am and not let someone else's opinion or judgment(or misjudgment) be an obstacle to my growth and fulfilling my purpose. Great video! It helped changed the direction of my day!

[@TheHIchHiker]

Your description mirror my feelings. It's so taxing beeing social around people not really understanding themselves, and thus have no chance of understanding you. Still, one can only grow so much in solitude, I'm so grateful to Erik for reminding me where this feeling of not beeing understood comes from, and at the same time becoming aware of ones understanding of others, with the urge to act in a way that will take care of their "state of mind" that can bring with it. The exhaustion that this can bring when just running as a subconscious program (as it did my whole adolesence), not understanding why nobody is "understanding" or "respecting" you back in the same way you try and understand and respect them.

[@danilles.4247]

I’m INFP 4w5, 24 years old and just beginning my green phase or maybe late blue stage. Finally feel like I have a confident sense of my personal values and vision and starting to align my actions and effort on that vision. But mindfully counteracting that INFP procrastination and over analyzation paralyzation

[@AndreJoseph07]

This has to be the most inspiring and reassuring video of yours that I have seen so far. I had to sign in to write this comment, which I don't do, just to let you know that I so appreciate your uniqueness, genuineness/authenticity. I'm so grateful for how you are able to make an impact and give hope to INFPs like me because life continues to be difficult yet worth it; each step we take forward leads us to new sets of challenges, but also opportunities. You really make me feel less overwhelmed by the negative consequences that may happen that's tied to the choices I make in life and be more-I don't know-hopeful or optimistic I guess. Thank you for being yourself, Erik! P.S. This comment could have been so long. I can't help inserting sentences between sentences everytime I proofread, but yeah.

[@hivicar]

A good piece of the actualization process must be that the newly-discovered understanding, and kinder acceptance of who that younger guy was. Good to know that much of it has always been there, and was running in the background, guiding in a spiritually healthy direction.

[@GabrielHR55]

Dude stop describing my life! 🤯

[@rachelmartinez5604]

This really touched me, I can see how all these stages have painted different parts of my life as I've grown up as an INFP. at 30 years old I'd say I'm in the Green/Making Peace stage - I feel like these kinds of thoughts started occurring around 28 as I was trying to heal from a really bad breakup that occurred around 25 that really consumed me as a person for a couple years. It was at 29 when I realized these thoughts had been occurring and promised myself to keep actively practice this mindset. By my 30th birthday in March, I felt pretty secure in who I am and what I have to give to the world around me, accepting my flaws and traumas as part of the process of becoming me (who I am starting to grow to admire and love) as well as deeply caring for the feelings and struggles the people around me go through. Honestly, I think the green stage saved me from how dark my mid-twenties were. I think my healing started with me putting up a "We'll Miss You" sign for my roommate when he was moving away and him crying that made me remember I have love to give to others that can be meaningful. Now I: - Push myself to be brave in showing acts of love & kindness to people even if I feel self-conscious because I realized how much it can touch someone I love or a stranger. - Push myself to be brave & speak out when I see something wrong even if I am standing alone because I've learned that prompting discourse can change things as well as comfort people who may not tell you right away - Push myself to be vulnerable & share my hardships with people because I've learned how freeing it can be for others to hear that they are no alone in their pain - Push myself to ask people to express their emotions when they are feeling hurt or mad so I can understand the root of their pain These kinds of actions have brought me closer to a lot more people in my life - it is usually people being touched by my actions and feeling like they can express themselves more freely now (I make people cry a lot because of this) Right now I am trying to practice how to be more emotionally supportive when people are crying or mourning - its always been awkward for me because I feel like I don't know the right answers to make people feel better but I am learning that sometimes people just want their pain to be seen & validated. Aside from this, I've alsogreen? What does a matured INFP green stage look like?

[@ErikThor]

Thanks for sharing. Green INFPs accept themselves fully. You feel empathy and compassion for others, but have no problem standing up for yourself and what you believe. You are capable and successful in work, but you have no need for material wealth or status, and see work more as a tool to express yourself and build a harmonious life.

[@MsDoryLinda]

I have just found your channel, what perfect timing. How refreshing!! I can identify with starting that 3rd phase where I truly am holding myself accountable in a very different way. What I learn I hope I too can continue to effectively pass it on as you do. New Sub, great channel. ❤

[@girlscout1278]

i’m in the mastering myself stage. so glad the other stuff that goes along with infp adolescence is behind me now, it was tough! you explained it all so eloquently 💕

[@lenisue2254]

I‘m an infp teenager and u descriebed me so well

[@beigebrown4]

Felt too old for my age when young and young when older

[@fernandomelgar892]

Wow, you are an incredible human being.

[@TheSuperpinkstar1]

"Choosing to do things differently but being remarkably quiet about it" .. it's amazing how accurate that is ..

[@accountabilityisadmirable]

My infp tribe you are wonderful, you have a quiet strength inside that is legend!

[@angelicatrino2498]

I enjoyed reading and learning when I was a child and up to puberty. However, when I hit late adolescence and early adulthood i had a really hard time. My emotions were so intense and yet because I am an introverted feeler It made my life so difficult. I was lost. But now that I am mature who knows my personality type, I am more at peace and self assured.

[@siryoucantdothat9743]

I have came to understand many things one of the lessons i learned is there is no limit for self trashing and that there are bottomless rock bottoms you can reach when you’re empathic because cruelty can have no limits unless there is an action taken in opposition to it and empathy will be the the very thing that will keep me living in these morbid placed i learned that im too empathetic which made others exploit me and i was part of that exploitation, i have suffered psychologically for the need of wanting to understand the meaning behind other motives in the end of the day its only sadism and “ Schadenfreude” people want to inflict pain not only for the sake of it but to psychologically try to avenge some parts of themselves that are in pain these realization are turning me into psychopath slowly rotting me from the inside like a venom I’m trying to understand the human behavior as much as i can and i made a huge progress in this area there is a giant leap because i stopped hating myself and stopped abandoning myself to maintain the peace because people dont want the peace and i would not be loved no matter what i do to others its a very dark chapter in life where innocence dies million of times where the only thing that matter is maintaining the peace by making a carnage my morality stopped me for a long time but when i realize the meaning was that deplorable that humanity are worse than animals that some humans deserve to be burned alive it will never stop me again when i take my vengeance

[@mahafton1]

Your videos are such a breath of fresh air❤. I so wish they were around when I was growing up feeling so wildly misunderstood. It's been a tough run, but after traveling the world and bartending my way through social anxiety, I'm ready to take the next step to self mastery and start my own business in photography. I'm at the tail end of my cocoon phase and I'm ready to believe in magic again. 💫

[@joshuatimms1184]

It’s been a slow process, but I’m making my way there. Sometimes I look back and can’t believe how far I’ve come even though many others may not see it. I’m thankful to be an INFP

[@flutenanyidk1806]

The immaturity is important to address. The stereotypes surrounding typology are different depending on the maturity level. Personally, I'm actually a rather disorganized ENFJ. This is not typical for my type. However, I know that if I work on it one day it will just click. There are a few other things with my personality type that I didn't fit for a while that I've evolved to fit into overtime. Intuition is another good example. It's said with xNFxs that they just know things about people and the world. However, as an ENFJ, my extroverted feeling was what developed in my early childhood. It was not until later in my life that my intuition started to come into play, or at least not until later that I was aware of it. Moreover, as an extroverted type, I'm less in tune with my Ni than an INFJ would be. That means that it's more of a subconscious thing that I cannot adequately put into words approximately 50-80% of the time. I had to actually meet an INFJ to be aware of my Ni, MBTI in general, and some other things about myself that are now incredibly useful to me. INFJs are the best. Particularly when they are stable and healthy.

[@autumnartist4132]

This describes me well except for the spirituality part. I am veryyy atheist. I think of my coming to terms with my atheism as a natural progression of me as a very introspective INFP as I have always been skeptical of religion and only recently have allowed myself to really explore that part of myself.

[@Sundertalesz]

Spirituality does not necessarily refer to religion... more of a deep mindful connection with oneself and/or nature. People practice it through meditation and introspect. I believe that is what he is referring to more than religion.

[@brendabergstrom-graf6729]

This video helped me tremendously. Thank you. I wish I would have known about being an INFP and heard this video 40 years ago. Journey to actualization as an INFP is a very good focus topic and I hope you continue to cover in additional videos. If you know of other helpful videos of this topic would you mind adding some links? Thank you!

[@lillaperendy]

Watching you from Budapest right now!!! 😊😊😊 Love your videos. They help me so much to understand myself and hopefully become a healthier, balanced INFP.

[@zheliu9604]

The first few minutes were so related to my childhood experience. I recall when I was about 5, one day, I was stepping downstairs, and suddenly, there was a rather weird voice appeared in my head, why here, why me, who am I, why I am inside of this body, what is the relationship of my soul and my body, what I am going to do for life, etc?

[@evilsadness3867]

I must be in the 'becoming my own master' stage, I'm attempting to gather more skills and grow so I can enter jobs and such. This video was fascinating and just first tell me where did you get my life story from 😆 No but seriously this was amazing, thanks.

[@justinrobinson9583]

11:00min... currently on this stage. I recently fell into living an extroverted life, but felt so empty, and made many selfish mistakes. Now knowing that I don't need to be 'out-going', and live quietly with my alignment closer to peace.

[@sunset.orange]

Spent about ages 8-27 in the magical beliefs stage, “if I don’t do what is right I will be punished.” Been in the war against God stage for about the last 4 years. Maybe getting close to the self mastery stage but there are still some remnants of not knowing which career is the right one to master, hearing “I told you so” anytime I try to become self disciplined, and so I am kind of letting my toddler “NO” self run wild after so many years of neglect.

[@glendaunrau]

As a child I came from a large family with lots of noise ,with only one parent it was too much for my mom to handle . Often to escape all of the conflict and noise I would become invisible so to speak. It was a way of coping.

[@susysnakegirl]

Amazing insight! I can see the stages my teenage INFP son has gone through and where he is now. Thank you!

[@amandasmith3504]

Well said. Especially the thoughts about fear of being controlled, that resonates well with just about any INFP.

[@natashaj9169]

This video is ON POINT great video on INFP thank you for making this!!!! 😀

[@angelambarga6747]

Great video! Really helpful. I think Im on the mastering myself stage rn...

[@luannekanayurak9454]

Super great video. Becoming my own master. But I’m stuck on not being able to do it alone.

[@heeiiii]

thank you for this video.. I feel like I need to watch it at least once a month from now on

[@jennmari7425]

I was 39 when this happened for me.. thanks for understanding

[@INFPHD]

What’s up Jenn!!? 🤗

[@jennmari7425]

@@INFPHD Heya Sean!!! Loved your latest vid.♥️ Hope you and your kiddo are well 🤗

[@INFPHD]

Yep yep we are doing good and hope you are as well! 😊

[@allthingsfashion86]

Thank you u needed this today...very well said and I innerstand

[@BarbaraMoretti]

Thank you so much Erik for all your work that makes people feel understood

[@hfortenberry]

You are so perceptive! And, yes, I totally agree with combining Developmental Psychology with Personality Psychology.

[@jessgowing3233]

Oh Erik, it would be lovely to spend time with you, I wouldn't normally say that and mean it with many people but like other people have said you're so calming and would be a joy to be around I'm sure 😊 in a nice friendly group of people who share the same views would be bliss.. I think.. hehe I'm a bit nervous but aaah. Thank you for cheering alot of us who need it :)

[@gayatrimatapurkar933]

R u a watcher on the hills.. Watching from a distance.. Seeing it all Enjoying it all That's how it seems

[@michellebradford8915]

I do have to say I have accepted my place in society and I am finally thriving.

[@jennmari7425]

I don't remember much of my youth...

[@ana_yuna_8431]

Loved this

[@AkaRuby]

I love this, you described my life.

[@lightloveandawake3114]

💗😊💕I’m an INFP. If you’re an INFP would you give a thumbs up to this comment, if you think you were ‘born’ an INFP? If you’re an INFP, that believes your personality was shaped by your ‘environment’ and ‘other external sources’, please put a thumbs down. I’m just curious as my family claim that one of our pictures of me as a baby had both my arms up pushing up against my brother and cousin, trying to get them to stop fighting. Please and thank you.💕😊💗

[@mmmm.5161]

Currently in Discovery phase🙌

[@alietheredge]

It’s interesting to me that you were deep in thoughts about this as you were in Hungary. My Dad is first generation Hungarian and came here when Russia invaded. I feel he is the reason I am INFP. Deeper discussion needed, but I’m sure you understand that without me having to explain the whys if you are Hungarian too.

[@sheofthemoon]

i needed this. thank you so much

[@Filer005]

Can you do one on INTPs?

[@michellebradford8915]

I would love too talk to you at some time. You seem to have such an exciting grasp of INFP’s. I had a VERY turbulent upbringing and I would like the opportunity to ask some questions.

[@user-nm6dr4uy3d]

I find that I slip into the 'War Against God' -stage every time I find myself doubting my skills and purpose. The world feels like an evil place whenever I lose sight of my purpose and 'special mission' in life.

[@allthingsfashion86]

Becoming my own master , still becoming

[@wimsylogic65]

Someone I work with once described me as an old soul and a child at heart. I never heard it before. My coworkers were having a conversation which I was a part of then it turned into something guy had little understanding 4 in it got boring so I took out my travel bubbles and started blowing bubbles. OK worker A big hard working man over 6' tall notice me started laughing. I looked at him and said what. And then He told meThat was a child at heart with an old soul or something like that. I also feel very luckyThat I tend to not get embarrassed and can laugh at myself. I find myself very funny.

[@wimsylogic65]

I find this very funny and proud that I have An experience that is worthy of funniest home videos. kzbin.info/www/bejne/monTc3V-f6dondU&feature=share

[@wimsylogic65]

I have also been Clothes lined by a clothes line. 😆

[@cydneyhosey]

That's funny, my nickname has been blue for years and I am at the blue phase

[@cydneyhosey]

Also I've been doing family systems therapy and that's been helping me matured greatly

[@Userykp]

Infps most ly like blue ..

[@labyrinth1474]

It's like you know me

[@fernandomelgar892]

Im in the: A little jealous of your intelligence stage. Is that bad? Lol

[@anaisabelfreire8854]

Very good!

[@Jules-dn9jl]

Yes, spot on.

[@bronya8108]

Interested what you think about stage yellow

[@joshuamonsion4684]

i imagined my self to you 😅 when i watching this video 😂😂😆😆😆

[@nimpheuno]

can these things be different for a highly sensitive INFP who's an empath to?

[@Sundertalesz]

I think most infps are highly sensitives and empathic

[@nzyyybb]

My question also. But I guess I already know the answer to that. An INFP, An Empath and a Cancer here.

[@hope7845]

This video is actually for infp 4w3

[@KrishnaVerma-tp9cr]

Hey if anybody is still here i wanted to ask something.. i am 14 and found about this thing about a month ago and i had kind of started on the blue stage i found intrest in writing, i felt happy that i found something but then i took a break for 2 days and now i feel lost again like i dont know where to go now.. just wanted to ask if there is anything which can help me get back to what i was..( btw i gave myself a goal to find a outlet for my creativity and i did, metaphors they are so cool and fun to make but when i come up with them i dont have control over it they just come out of nowhere and i took the break after learning something new everyday and stopped after i kind achieved my goal)

[@despres380]

you're not gonna feel like writing every single day, that's normal and it doesn't mean that you broke your streak, don't let it discourage you. everyday is a new day to create and you can write whenever ideas come to you naturally. the longer you go without creating, the harder it is to convince yourself you still can. if you feel like creating but you have writer's block, maybe try collaging by cutting up magazines. that's my favourite outlet at the moment because i don't have to start with a blank page, rather i can just place already existing photos together in whatever way feels natural. there's no wrong way to create especially when you're so young, make sure you don't fall into perfectionist thinking because that stops you from learning and developing your style.

[@dianedoommarenawunah6289]

How do you describe us so vividly?! 😢

[@johnsims6702]

I literally don't know my own mother

[@STAR-LIGHT.1111]

I thought i was abnormal.

[@patientzero7179]

17 and near the end stages

[@BrewerArts]

How on earth do you do this so well?

[@FrigglyFluff]

Chris Brewer I’m not sure about him but experimenting with psychedelics when I was younger really gave me this perspective. It was like a light switch that flipped on somewhere in my brain and never shut back off.

[@kuunami]

@@FrigglyFluff Wow. This is exactly what my best friend told me maybe 5 or 6 years ago. He tried shrooms with a friend and said it changed him for the better and that change has been permanent.

[@jujy5474]

How to spot an enfj?

[@meganpitt]

300 likes and no dislikes 😯🙌

[@srulyp1]

Am I -NFP or N/STJ- ?

[@violet6507]

17:40

[@shruthijayavenukumar]

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[@buddylove3724]

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[@libbyhulkman]

My mom is an INFP and she never stops talking to people. She talks to anyone and if they show an interest she will open up with them about damn near anything. Including my business. It took years of me getting upset at her for her to stop overly sharing every aspect of my life. I'm a very private person. Sorry I don't know why I'm sharing this. My mom is a loving and innocent INFP. My therapist has hinted that I've raised her more than she's raised me.

[@Laynasmuse]

♥️

[@farhankhan1866]

I didnt think your analysis was entirely bad, aside from the part where you think that you have let go of god to reach actualization. Rather narrow minded tbh