In Balance S1E12 ｜ Does Age Mean Anything? Being 30 and 40 - Sumayyah Nasaruddin, Founder of Olloum

[@mayeighteen2812]

I’m Singaporean, and the part where Sumayyah said daughters are commonly raised to prioritise higher education “just in case” (marriage doesn’t work out, etc)… how I wish sons are also commonly raised to prioritise higher education and domestic chores; to fulfil their husband duties properly (provide and protect) and also “just in case” marriage doesn’t work out they’d know how to cook and clean up after themselves. Allah made attaining Jannah simple for Muslim women, but society makes it hard when we have to overcompensate for the other gender sometimes. I hope this is a topic you can cover… how Allah made Islam easy on us women so we shouldn’t be so hard on ourselves and mix up our priorities. ❤

[@kashfia_7767]

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[@yasfm5235]

This is such an interesting thought, would be lovely if it was implemented into the next generation- as we raise children, if Allah s.w.t blesses us with them, to teach both boys and girls about their roles, and how to take care of themselves and others too. There shouldn't be a "that's their job" attitude stopping us from learning certain life skills, or pursuing certain goals

[@howareyou1999]

Still working on my first pull-up 😂 Thank you for this episode 🙏

[@yasfm5235]

This was such a heartwarming, funny and yet thought provoking episode, keep up the work Assia. We are listening being inspired, inshallah you are rewarded for the efforts because surely a lot of work does go into the episodes behind the scenes

[@Zazabix]

Beautiful listen and really inspirational x

[@blockpart2184]

30? We are the same age! 🎉

[@sihembouaoud8226]

I have a topic that I hope you can advise me about , can you share please how do you deal with men at school or work or elsewhere who tried to shake your hand even it’s obvious you are a Muslim and you are wearing your hijab , especially in foreign countries where a lot of people don’t even know that Muslim’s women don’t shake hands with men. I have two daughters and I want them to practice their religion correctly but in this topic I am struggling to find a solution without hurting people as they might think it’s disrespectful but it’s not it’s related to our deen so if you had any tips I would be grateful sister

[@mayeighteen2812]

I’ve found that politely saying “Sorry, I’m Muslim and don’t feel comfortable shaking hands with the opposite gender.” And if they say “Plenty of Muslim women I’ve met have no issues with it”, responding with “That’s their personal boundaries, and this is mine. I hope you can respect it.” usually does the trick, bc they will be shy to say they won’t respect it. 😊

[@yasfm5235]

That's a helpful phrase, I'll try to use it if need be

[@yasfm5235]

It is definitely hard, living in the west, where shaking hands is the norm. But we are rewarded for our struggle to hold on to our deen and values. Keep trying and inshallah your kids will learn from you how to be polite but still stand your ground and not shake hands with the opposite gender. May Allah make it easy for all of us