Incompetent Cervix | Update | more kids? | 1 Year Later

[@laurenmaurer3416]

Thank you for the update!:) with my first baby I had an emergency cerclage placed at 20 weeks, was on bedrest like you, and delivered at 32 weeks. She was in the NICU for 27 days but is a healthy and active 3 year old now. For the longest time any time someone would ask if we were having more kids I would say "no" because of what we went through with out daughter. Its very scary. I felt like you, knowing how hard it was and what could possibly happen with another pregnancy is terrifying. A few months after my daughter turned 2 we decided to try again. We knew our family wasn't complete. I am 35 weeks now and have a preventative cerclage. It has been 100% opposite of my first pregnancy and although hard at times, its been night and day from my first pregnancy. Take your time in deciding on if you will have another baby and soak up your sweet boy:)

[@joactive]

Lauren thank you so much for sharing! Are we friends on Facebook? I would like to chat with you if that is ok? Have you had to be on bed rest?

[@asifshah6985]

Did they put u on bedrest in 2nd pregnancy???

[@ΧριστιναΚουτσαριγγα]

You are a very strong woman. I also had an emergency cerclage at 22w because of an infection that shortened my cervix to 0.3 too. I'm 25 weeks now, on progesterone vaginal gel and on magnesium. I'm on bedrest but luckily doctor let me go to the evening nursing school i go 2 weeks post cerclage (I'm 16 and i haven't finished yet) and i say luckily because if i don't finish till 19 and go to university I'm gonna lose my insurance and so will my baby girl. You've helped me so much get through these 3 weeks and feel positive after listening to your story. We are blessed. We are truly blessed that we found out soon enough to save our babies. Ive been through very traumatic things in the past so i have no idea what i would do if i lost her. I saw you are pregnant again, congratulations! I'm also planning on more children when i finish my education. We shouldn't let IC stop us from having a beautiful family. ❤

[@tappingwithliz]

Omg Joelle i totally get it. I just posted in the incompetent cervix Facebook group about this very thing! My husband and I want a third (our incompetent cervix success story brought us twins!).. but I’ve struggled with the idea of trying when I know I have this. Someone responded to say “I couldn’t imagine sitting at dinner wondering who was missing from the table”. I love this. If you dream of a bigger family don’t let IC steal that dream. There are preventative measures that can be put in place that are so much better than the emergent style cerclage we both had. I’ll be thinking of you guys. Lots of love ❤️

[@halefamilyvlogs8173]

I’ve had ic since may of last year when I lost my daughter at 22 weeks you give me hope a ray of light that if I ever do get pregnant again there’s actually a glimmer of hope we can beat ic next time! I never knew I had it until it was to late with my baby girl. Thank you for making you videos about this ❤️

[@mrscool072007]

Emergency cerclage is about half the success of a preventative cerclage. Success is measured by delivering after the 37th week of pregnancy.

[@stefaniaaghadi1524]

I know this is scary Joelle but you are a strong woman! Trust in God. Don’t let fear stop you 🙏🏼🤗

[@joactive]

Bellina 💖 thank you for your sweet positive comments they mean a lot to me

[@renaescott7600]

I imagined having 6 kids until IC. My hubby wants 4 kids and at this point I'm telling him he's lucky if he gets 2 .. we truly are strong to go through this and I hope I beat IC like you did ❤️ .. currently 23 weeks with a preventative cerclage placed at 13 weeks

[@karennavarro5220]

Joelle thank you so much for this video. It’s definitely hard going through a loss I lost twin girls at 22 weeks in 2014 and welcomed a full-term baby boy 2015. And I’m pregnant currently pregnant again. Having a toddler and IC is hard at times I tell myself why I would put himself in this position again? But like you said I always wanted to have two babies. I’m just praying to make it to full term.

[@joactive]

Karen Navarro sending prayers to you! Are u on bed rest or just restricted movement

[@jyotsnasaroha351]

Hi Joelle I have been into same situation ..short cervix n cerclage n bedrest n the worst colic baby but I just want to tell you if God have plan of another child everything will fall in place plz stay positive for future with proper measures there will be no loss only gain ... jyotsna

[@iryna3885]

Thank you so much for this video. I was on full 100% hospital bedrest for IC with no cerclage. Baby was born full term. The feelings you expressed are so similar to the way I feel. The recovery both emotionally and physically have been hard. But my child is the best thing that ever happened to me. I feel guilty often. Guilt for having had a healthy child when others have not been able to. And guilt for being too scared to give baby a sibling. It's a lot to process but it's amazing to know that there are other women out there who are going through the same thing

[@rainabondy3475]

Hey Joelle! I just wanted to let you know that I’m praying for you and your little family!! Thank you for always be so real. I always love watching your KZbin videos so I hope you continue to make more!! 😊

[@joactive]

Raina Bondy thanks Raina! I appreciate you so much! 💖

[@fallenangelsX3]

Hi Joelle, I have been diagnosed with IC and have lost 4 babies 3 late term pregnancies and one very very early. My last one I was 19 weeks when my cerclage failed . I was supposed to have a preventative one but the day of the surgery when they went in they found that I was already 2 cm dilated but since I wasn't having contractions they went ahead and did the emergent unfortunately it failed at 19 weeks . My son was born sep.28.2016 😔😔 you have given me hope and I really really just trust God and that he has something good for us planed.

[@joactive]

fallenangelsX3 sending you prayers 💖🙏🏻 I am so sorry for the heartbreak you've gone through and the loss of your sweet babies - your faith is strong

[@My3cozies]

Yes you are grateful for your son. And that’s wonderful! But, it’s ok to grieve bc your maybe letting a dream die. I don’t mean that to be a negative thing! But when we allow ourselves to grieve the loss of a dream we have, it helps us to have closure that’s not to say you will never have a child again, but you need to grieve. It’s part of the healing process. Thank you for sharing this!

[@allyb2217]

I'm so sorry u had to go through all that. But happy u have a beautiful baby boy.

[@athompson1218]

@Joelle Suess, girl you are amazing. your incompetent cervix is in NO WAY your fault. even if that situation played a part.. its. not. your. fault. But youre right, God has his plan for you and your family. Right now, take comfort in the fact that you have Bryce and after your experience you are able to help out so many other women who are in a similar position, but they have something you didnt have. they have your experience and your miracle to continue giving them hope.

[@joactive]

Alysa Thompson 💖 thanks Alysa this means a lot to me

[@jazzy679]

Joelle...thank you again...I remember commenting on another one of your videos..but this video is just keeping my hopes up..ive had my cerclage in since 12 weeks holding a 1cm cervix closed...just today my Dr says theres a chance my cervix can start to dilate again😔 im 22 weeks now and praying that it doesnt happen. Ive lost 2 babies at 20 and 16 weeks last year and this year so losing a 3rd baby would be hard..but watching video updates like yours just gives me hope..so thank you💕🙏

[@joactive]

Jasmine Rideaux-Hernandez you are in my prayers! I am praying so hard for you! Can you message me on FB or IG - I have a gift I'd like to send you

[@joactive]

sending you so many prayers! stay in touch girl! I want to know how you are doing!

[@jazzy679]

Joelle Suess Thank you so much❤ Hubby and I will keep your family in our prayers as well

[@jazzy679]

Joelle Suess I most definetly will😊

[@itsspitsok]

Hello It says greg as my name but it's his wife leah Thank you SO much for being so real in this video. I agree with you so so much. I don't have IC but I am 35. I've had two miscarriages two years ago then was diagnosed with a blood clotting condition and I had to take daily blood thinning injections. The pregnancy was so difficult. It was awful and very stressful. I was so afraid of losing him everyday was a stress. I then have a c section and almost bled out on the table because of the blood thinners. My baby was born two weeks early and was sent to the nicu after birth. After he was released he was beautiful and healthy but I had a terrible case of postpartum to the point I almost took my own life. I am now on medication for that my sweet healthy little boy is 19 months and so wonderful. But... I now get asked "when's the next one". I like you do not think I can go through it again. All of it. I'm just now feeling like myself. I'm 35. I want to get back into my work that I love (I'm a dental hygienist) but I feel like I'm ok with just having my little one I'd be ok with. But the overwhelming guilt of not giving him siblings keeps me up crying at night. But it was so hard to go through it all and now the older I get I continue to run the risk of other situations. It's so so overwhelming. I was an only child and I turned out just fine and we have a large extended family who love and support us but the guilt. The personal guilt is crazy making. But like you. I could go through the horrible situation again or worse lose my life on the table it got that bad... my whole point is you are not alone. I pray for all the moms and the guilt we all feel. We are just doing our best. Much love.

[@iryna3885]

I feel the same guilt. Thanks so much for sharing. It makes me feel like there are others out there like me

[@deeshaul]

Hi Joelle, we had our IC baby boys on the same day. I try to not think about it and almost trick myself into thinking that a 2nd pregnancy would not be the same. I have a plan with my OB to place a preventative cerclage around 12wks next time vs waiting for the emergency. I see so many positive stories with a preventative cerclage, so I just hold onto the hope of another miracle.

[@joactive]

we did!? that is crazy! I know what you mean by tricking yourself that it won't be the same next time. We can hold on to the hope together

[@faviolalopez9188]

Same! We all have different journeys ❤

[@lex2951]

After I lost my twins at 21 weeks to IC, my husband and I tried again as soon as the dr gave us the okay. I am terrified now but we want this baby so badly. going to get the preventative cerclage and hopefully makena shots. Anything is worth it to have a family!

[@farijaimran]

Hwz u??

[@kristigermain834]

You're such a strong woman! Thank you for sharing. As terrible as it is to have an incompetent cervix, I'm glad that I'm not alone. As scary as it is for us IC mamas, it can be done. We beat the odds. It has changed me so much. I have had 2 losses. And almost lost my only living son as well. It makes me sad to think that had we been born even 50 years ago, we would be childless. It used to make me feel very bad about myself. Like I wasn't women enough to be able to do the one thing that women should be able to do. And that it was my fault that I lost my two angel babies even though I was always so very careful while pregnant before I ever knew anything was wrong with me. I just had this intuition. For my next pregnancy I am going to have a TAC. (Transabdominal cerclage) It is much better than the TVC. I'm sure you know this by now but you have the cerclgae surgery 1 time. And if everything goes well, you only need the one. It will stay in, and is up higher but have to deliver via c-section for each baby you have.

[@RomanTheSamoyed]

I was just admitted for hospital bed rest 4 days ago. I am dilated at 2cm at 25 weeks. Thanks for your videos...it’s been hard being stuck in the hospital and it’s just the beginning for me. I would love to know the Facebook groups you mentioned in a couple of your videos.

[@joactive]

RomanTheSamoyed if you search Incompetent Cervix Awareness on Facebook it should pop up! How are you doing?

[@RomanTheSamoyed]

Joelle Suess I ended up delivering one week from being admitted to the hospital, on 5/22/18. So my baby girl, Sienna, was born at only 26 weeks but is doing well in the NICU. I never thought in my wildest dreams that I would be a NICU parent, especially since I had such a healthy pregnancy before finding out I was dilating early, but here we are. Doctors think it was due to an infection so baby and I were given antibiotics.

[@sandrapark4574]

Just got diagnosed with short cervix. 25weeks and 1.8cm cervix . Got started on vaginal progesterone. Scared to death that I’m going to have preterm birth :(

[@samkelisiwendlovu1011]

Hey, did the cerclage help? How was the experience?

[@giselljeff]

Thanks so much for your videos on your experience with incompetent cervix. It helped us get through ours. We didn't get a cerclage but was on strict bedrest from week 18. I would love to hear about your experience with infant reflux and how you managed it. Our baby was also born at 37 weeks and has reflux and we are just really struggling with it.

[@joactive]

we tried everything and the only thing that helped that was our last resort was medicine. it was a hard decision because I like to go the natural route with everything my advice would be ask for help and take mom breaks so you can refresh yourself. Do you stay home with your little one or do you work outside the home?

[@giselljeff]

Joelle Suess I am on mat leave for a year so that helps. I have been trying to avoid meds but I have to start seeing all the options for treatment. 😔

[@fmo1868]

Please look into a PRE-PREGNANCY transabdominal cerclage.

[@joactive]

thank you for your comment but I am already pregnanct again with a TVC and nearing full term.

[@fmo1868]

Joelle Suess that's great news! Really lovely 😃