INFJ: 10 Reasons Why You're Still Single

[@FrankJames]

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[@rachelsterner1399]

Frank, as a fellow INFJ, you are very good at this. Your videos are very clear and concise in explaining INFJ. You are intelligent, entertaining and attractive. :) Thanks for speaking up.

[@cptheranger]

Frank James I wish I could go 1 on 1 with you

[@megan.e.amato.]

@@rachelsterner1399 I totally agree!! I always think about how I can never verbalize my thoughts as coherently as he can.

[@TinyJustice]

More infj videos please! So insightful, some of these things I didn't even realise I did until I read this...

[@autumnsmith6672]

Yo!! So my myers-briggs changes by the day... what I mean is I frequently get either INFJ or INTJ. Idk if I'm just weird or what but my thinking/feeling are usually so close that I could go either way. Is this a common thing?? Also, do you have any thoughts on this? P.s. you are a Gorgeous man Haha:) great videos and info!!

[@bernzZz]

Anyone here having deep thoughts about how badly you want to be in a relationship but also don't want to?

[@aSerendipityCalledBTS]

Meee hahah Hi ARMY 💜

[@bernzZz]

@@aSerendipityCalledBTS hi there INFJ ARMY! 😂💜

[@Jonathan-mm5zx]

😂Thats me

[@bernzZz]

@@aSerendipityCalledBTS yess I do have a Twitter acc @mochiesanpjm you can follow me there?

[@aSerendipityCalledBTS]

@@bernzZz I just did it 😊

[@DesireRee]

Who else here lies in bed at night and can’t sleep because they are having deep philosophical conversations with hypothetical run ins with people you’ll probably never meet in your head?

[@mirthedejonge]

Yup

[@hmayat.3389]

I'm already seeing myself being surrounded by nieces, nephews and my cats in the future -_-

[@shiphyunlee1298]

Here i am

[@ariel8535]

Omg me too except real People but I create like different versions of a conversation about a particular situation.

[@kingkroool]

wtf haha

[@rayquaza396]

Me an INFJ: Im so lonely. I have very few friends and I'm still single Also me an INFJ: AAHHH!!! SOLITUDE IS BLISS!!!!!!!!!

[@rn2511]

Klaus Klaus Klaus lol the struggle. When I tell people I don’t have friends they look at me like im either crazy or lying.

[@rayquaza396]

@@rn2511 Hey i feel the same!!!!! Also the saddest thing is when your true friends can't afford to hang out and talk with you anymore coz they're busy with their relationship. Also people call me I'm weird and mysterious and not just that, they can't afford to listen to me once i try to talk about life, religion, conspiracies, aliens and other "weird" topics. People think that it's boring in their perspective. Uugghhhh...... I'm just glad that im an INFJ 😀

[@mayeemanalo2203]

Oh my god, these are the thoughts that run through my mind at night 😂

[@ughitstravis9243]

I know. Wtf is life really

[@MaskOfMemi]

Klaus Klaus Klaus yaaaaaas

[@sonalimartinii]

1) You're too attached to your dream person 2) Dating is a pain in the butt 3) You think too much and overplan in order to feel safe 4) Too aware of other people's needs 5) You're looking for someone to give you an identity 6) Become a shell of themselves when in a relationship (go cold) 7) Look too far in the future and get in too deep, too fast 8) We can read people very well and that can scare us 9) You are weird and that's okay 💕

[@NindeOronar]

Thank you for this

[@mochigirl2470]

Facts I feel like I’ll stay single 😅🥹

[@sittinginbushes]

7) yeah, there was this time when I met person for 5 minutes and then planned everything to the day of our wedding I am intj tho

[@shankar3651]

Oh, that's what was wrong with me all this time. Not like I wasn't constantly aware of feeling like a social outcast for all my life. Perhaps some good advice would be to tell me how the FUCK I can cope with it?

[@selcan135]

both blessing and curse... but again I am thankful for the way I am born.

[@memcm7213]

The main problem with relationships is that there’s another person in it

[@mskitty4029]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@gokdumanzeynep]

Hahahahahha thats true

[@tigerex777]

Yeah getting that intimate relationship satisfaction without the actual pain and work that goes into it would be a little too good.

[@wakandaforever4994]

🤣🤣🤣 im cackling

[@sourireoptimiste1219]

Exactly😂😂😵😵😵

[@rosegervacio]

"You look too far into the future and decide it's not gonna work out." - Wow, that's scarily accurate.

[@angelface14angel]

Rose Gervacio me af lols

[@Snowbird-oz6nj]

Yeah...that’s me

[@jerrica4315]

Are u a Capricorn?

[@rosegervacio]

@@jerrica4315 No, I'm a Scorpio. :)

[@genovevadelarosa3487]

Lol... Yeah.. I always tell my sister who loves and cries easily over her lovelife, never to jump into a relationship with both feet... Coz relationships to me are not full proof... Because it can not be planned ahead... Hahahaha...

[@christinekobzeff]

It’s so interesting seeing other INFJs. I feel like we’re our own species.

[@petrovafireice]

Yes, so true.

[@TehAntares]

More like unicorns unfit for life outside their magical glade.

[@jessylee4685]

so true😑I had a weird dream about all the infjs getting together and move to another universe to form a nation, where only peace and knowledge exist lol

[@AboodAbu12345]

It's like finding family!!

[@alejandrocadena4434]

Damn, well played bro. I found out agile ago I am a INFJ-A I was stoked because it was a picture of a wizard lol. But for real this hit home for real. Even you sir I feel a kin too, like we speak the same. You are doing great bro and you don’t repeat yourself.

[@axcvilla]

I'm an INFJ and I am single. Reason being, relating to people takes too much work. Plus, I always feel resentful over the fact that while I always try to make people happy (even at a cost to myself), it always feels like, "NOBODY KNOWS ME" - even the people who are supposed to.

[@Keesha_Hardy]

I can definitely relate to the feeling of “nobody knows me”, but ALWAYS remember that it’s not your job to make others. Your happiness, your responsibility. Those other people are responsible for their own happiness.

[@SaiKumar-qs9ly]

​@@Keesha_Hardy damn.... I recently found out about these personality types. And when the result shows me im an INFJ im confused... What is infj. Then I've searched KZbin and here i am with tears in my eyes while he explaining how infj personality working and i have everything he said. Im always ask myself "is there any problem for me?" "Why im hard to love"... Now i got the answer. Hey keesha if u wanna be friends just ask me... Its good to have some infj's around 😊

[@hindiaahmed144]

A❤❤❤ fr

[@JoyceChow]

This 🥲

[@troyw.5101]

Perfectly said, and understood….☹️

[@heynananads]

INFJ is like a curse but a blessing at the same time

[@spatsbina5327]

It's a curse mostly for me :'(

[@heynananads]

@@spatsbina5327 actually I do feel like that too

[@allthingsalley6339]

This is a perfect description of this personality, I’ve always said I use my powers for good..lol

[@lukayaroslav9914]

For me, it's mostly blessing

[@kgyaneshwar1]

Blessings are meaningless though.

[@KaffiRawr]

Me, INFJ, on Tinder: "no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, maybe but still no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no..."

[@pcarebear1]

I actually read the bios on Tinder and CoffeeMeetsBagel, most are "no" and a couple of "tentative on personality"

[@oringsol3129]

That's sadly me, I actually said nope I dont like anyone 😭😅

[@ThePriestess1949]

Exactly!😳

[@jakeranney7262]

True then when I finally get a match I spend 3 days trying to compose a message 😂

[@EllieVieira95]

Hahaha that's me. Mostly are "no", and when I have some match and the person don't send messages, I get sad, but when they come talk to me I'm like "ohhh no..." I thought I had some kind of problem hahaha

[@emilycaballero6052]

I’ve never felt so simultaneously attacked and understood

[@sohinidutta97]

Emily Caballero OMG I was gonna comment this before I came across yours 😂😂

[@user-tr6sy5lm8l]

its like being whip by the hand of the wind....it doesn't hurt but it wakes u up.....lol

[@mariek.474]

That's my whole experience with this channel ! 😭

[@alleenashiwdas1320]

Emily Caballero lol right!

[@TA-lx1fi]

This is exactly how his videos make me feel!

[@officialtbhoops]

My thing with dating is I just cannot stand small talk. The meaningful relationships I've had were ones that began with almost instant deep conversations.

[@jamielawrence4749]

Agreed. As I'm getting older I see the pitfalls of stumbling in, as I have gotten my heart, and sanity, whooped from doing that. And yet I miss that effortless, instant-dive into a relationship because at least then you go for it and don't have to deal with the "nice chit chat" boring stuff that takes forever and is so confusing, all the games and "etiquette" of dating... Or maybe I'm just impatient hah. ;)

[@jaymierae9890]

Small talk is so tedious. 😩

[@jud2152]

Yeah, small talk is boring af haha

[@just-sayin67]

Same!

[@GraceRay-b9m]

If they are interested in small talks, then we are not compatible. You know this is the right person when you two just glide into deep conversations without even deliberately steering the conversation that way. You two just glide into it, apparently effortlessly. Because you two are both interested in the same thing.

[@hershani1812]

(10 reasons why you're still single as an INFJ) 1. You're too attached to your dream person. 2. Dating is Painful. 3. You think too much. 4. You're too aware of other people's needs. 5. You're looking for someone to give you an identity. 6. You're too shell with yourself. 7. You get in too deep, too fast. (You get too attached to someone too soon) 8. You can read people and see their flaws quickly. *9. I didn't get this one* 10. You are weird.

[@pb0907.]

Thanks.. Was scrolling for this only🤣🤛🏻

[@Artnotforthesakeofart]

I relate to 1, 2, 3, 4, 7 & 8. Rest I didn't really relate to. Maybe a bit of 6 as well.

[@sarenecha]

In my opinion, 9 is “seeing that they are good enough, but can’t except it, and try so hard to find a reasons to not be okay with that person.” Correct me if I misunderstood

[@kassandraharz9345]

10 hahaha

[@TheEmilarOMG]

Define weird and why you're weird?

[@sarawardian4232]

I think I need to go to a meeting for INFJs. Any other INFJs feel like they need a support group? Lol

[@Bakerygo]

No, better be alone.

[@sarawardian4232]

@@Bakerygo I tend to feel the same way although I wonder if that's healthy. All things in moderation right? Hopefully there is a good balance to be found with socializing. It's not good to hibernate like a bear all the time, although I do think its necessary to retreat sometimes.

[@chaves2628]

Exactly my thoughts now! Even tho we prefer our time alone, we still have this need for real human connection, we can't escape that. Tho I value my alone time the most, I've actually found the beauty and importance of sharing time with people you connect with and appreciate, it is healing

[@geraltnroach]

Only online gathering as anonymous 😁

[@sarawardian4232]

@@chaves2628 you sound like me :)

[@What-go8ng]

How people see an INFJ: wow you're one of the most outgoing personable people ive met How it feels to be an INFJ: im a literal psychopath

[@rukiddinmep7794]

lol sometimes i really do feel like one

[@kaiacrisp]

I def question it...

[@danielp255]

thanks mate, made me laugh, cause it's true.

[@AlyssaRena]

finally some words to describe it lmfao

[@VaniaAjah]

I know sometimes i really look like a Psychopath - even my bf who also an INFJ said that 😂 But you know what, he looks like that too.. Even our jokes sometimes are about killing people 🤣😅

[@faafafineartist]

I think being an INFJ improves as you get older. This is where the boundaries and letting go get better. Less controlling, more spontaneity, etc.

[@sapokee2830]

I think all personality types get better. Hell, I'm an ENFP and the older I get, the more confident I get regarding my own wackiness. We all have some life lessons to learn before we're ready to tackle real problems.

[@dl5329]

Meditation also helps 😁

[@SamanthaJackson]

For me it's the opposite. I liked my INFJness before and it brought me a great life and support system in friends. Now as I'm getting older my INFJ traits are intensifying and I'm heading in a darker place, I feel like I'm losing friends (staple of my life up til now) and yeah of course I won't find a relationship anymore 😶‍🌫️

[@whycliffawacnedi3873]

Exactly. Letting go becomes easier, you want to focus only on the things you can control

[@PreppyPrincess777]

My boundaries are strengthened lol

[@jula-maytaylor7893]

When after realizing you're overthinking you overthink overthinking.... Edit: Thanks for the likes I didn't even think people would find this

[@margaritakholopova4826]

ahhahahhahh LOL true

[@NvSiN813]

Wait... this is a red flag?

[@user-ms3pk5do9z]

😂 damnn

[@Fantastikitty]

Why think when you can overthink? -INFJ Me

[@raregoddess444]

Then you think overthinking is fine lol and then be alright until its brought back up

[@chadsperandeo7626]

INFJ's hate to be told who they are by people who make a lot of assumptions.

[@kanizfatema7331]

damn true

[@tessanesdoly6267]

yes !!!

[@blackpillfitness9136]

Yeah one time this guy I work with told me “everything that’s wrong with me” and I at first thought he was right, like he knows something about me that I don’t. Turns out he just makes huge assumptions and is also kind of a douchebag.

[@aramis5301]

Ooooh hell yeah we do. This is probably THE one thing I hate the most.

[@Baazigar_007]

@@blackpillfitness9136 The biggest problem of being INFJ is too handle pressure in Public people suspect you are gay becoz of your anxious and weird behaviour

[@sarawardian4232]

Any other INFJs feel like a villain in every relationship because you accidentally made someone think they love you and they aren't "the one" so you shake them off? :/

[@rln32195_]

Sara Wardian I can relate to this :/

[@rulonblack]

Every time

[@iwillnotbesilent]

Yes, Sara, I have faced abuse and been ghosted by partners

[@sarawardian4232]

@@iwillnotbesilent I'm so sorry that you had to go through that :'(

[@heyimhlin9493]

Always the time

[@sheriburke8276]

I’m an old lady INFJ. I’ve spent my life not understanding why people don’t think like I do. As a young person, I thought everyone thought like I did, only to be repeatedly misunderstood. I’ve had two marriages that didn’t work out, the last one I was in for 25 years. The comment about being a shell hit home. I always feel like I need to “shake off” like a wet dog, after spending too much time with people. Dating is excruciating and I doubt I ever do it again. If I met someone organically, maybe I’d consider seeing that person, but to just get on a site, no. The vibes from the people I’ve met are awful. But I’m happy with where I am in life, it’s definitely my own now.

[@MomandBuggs]

Were they sensors? I’ve noticed in that intuitives understand each other better. Especially introverted intuitives. Like my mom’s an ISFJ and doesn’t care about theories or insights about different personalities so our conversations only go so far. An intuitives are deep and sensors like to keep it surface which I think can feel stifling to the intuitive

[@dill-one5009]

I’ve accepted the possibility that I’ll be single my whole life.

[@EunPeach]

Dill-One me too

[@jessicajames1406]

Me three

[@storma2567]

Me 4

[@asphynx366]

Let’s get married !

[@iwillnotbesilent]

Dill-One me too...it's a lonely road

[@nateskii]

"You can read people very well and that scares you." damn straight

[@truthtruth3717]

Very scary. Takes me about 2 min or less and I'm like this person is a great soul or not a great soul. I feel. I was dating a girl and one day I saw something couldn't explain and I left her asap. Like the next day. But what I saw in her eyes?

[@reillesan]

i thought i was just being judgemental...

[@nateskii]

@@reillesan right? I did too.

[@lisamarie904]

I wonder if I could read another INFJ just as easily as I can read others... Or does it stay interesting for way longer...

[@nateskii]

@@lisamarie904 I have the same thoughts, too. But I have a brother and I'm pretty sure he's an INFJ, too. It's quite exhausting reading another INFJ sometimes because of how you see so much of yourself (esp the way you tend to keep things to yourself) in their actions.

[@SadeMetsavirta]

I'm gonna be 25 this year and I've never dated anyone or done anything sexual/romantic apart from kissing. I'm not asexual, just can't seem to meet anyone who I can trust.

[@michellenguyen1261]

literally same. not even kissing. starting to think i have a fear of intimacy.

[@SadeMetsavirta]

@@michellenguyen1261 I mean I just kissed people when I was drunk and they kissed me and I just went along with it :p was always gross

[@FrankJames]

trust can be difficult, i agree

[@youtubing9762]

Often when we have a hard time trusting others it's because we don't trust ourselves, so we are unable to trust others by proxy.

[@scorpzcorpz4017]

Keep doing that! Don't give yourself up for anyone else . Make an keep friends through groups with other singles who are on the same wavelength..

[@jg5755]

As an INFJ I was convinced that I would know when I met my soul mate and was not interested in dating just anyone. I did not care that that wasn't 'normal'. When I met my future husband it was like "BOOM - this is someone I can trust absolutely". Thankfully he felt the same way (he's an ISTJ). First relationship for both of us and we are still very happily together 23 years later. So trust your instincts about people. Intuition is our super power. And don't settle - it's worth the wait.

[@yehshuhua2405]

holy shit you just untie some knot for me girl, I always feel like I wont be able to date someone just because I dont even want to, you know, try it out, to know someone a lil bit better. But after reading this, things just make sense, I never realized that it is not my fault because I dont want to get to know someone, but just because I ALREADY KNOW that they are not the one, so now imma just chilling, waiting til I meet my soulmate. Waiting for the boom boom clicky click clack hahaaa

[@indigomosquitospeedos]

any good suggestions for where to meet considerate potential souls like you ?

[@mariai.3251]

Reason N1: "You're too attached to your dream person." ... I HAVE NEVER BEEN MORE PERSONALLY ATTACKED AND UNDERSTOOD AT THE SAME TIME IN MY ENTIRE LIFE.

[@aetherdemigod]

SAME😭😭

[@NightsMay]

It's probably why I'm 28 and still single, I just love tons of freckles so much, but rarely will I ever find a girl with the massive amount of freckles that I have endless affections for. (just editing this comment down, sometimes I say more then whats needed, lmao)

[@andreasermakov1181]

I'll give you a hint. This person does not exists. haha

[@michaellamont2605]

I only get my nightmare person

[@NightsMay]

I did find my ideal dream girl in person, so much freckles, my affections were simply too intense. I gave her a few poems by my favorite poet which was also her favorite poet, I also wrote her a few deep letters. She wrote back, turns out she's an INFJ too, but she's already in a relationship. I'm puzzled at life now, I mean what are the chances of finding someone like that.

[@basicbase749]

No.1 reason is : it scares me about losing my private space, solitude and independence, and also it’s the potential exhaustion of having to talk/participate too much, and being surrounded by another person all the time😕

[@luen9417]

same

[@shavanetyjones4388]

Literally don’t understand how I will marry or have children. I admire my space :/ and I used to think I was just selfish

[@Halo-li8hg]

But you still dont want to be alone...? Me too

[@ella17734]

Yep

[@Sleepingincursive]

THIS!!!!

[@annaandrea8320]

INFJs aspire to find their true soulmates...so it is no wonder that they get disappointed. I, personally, prefer solitude rather than being with someone just to avoid being alone.

[@nswij123]

Really true..

[@tigerex777]

I love the company of a woman in an intimate relationship too much for me to just stay alone; even though everything Frank described on this video. I love touching them too.

[@mariai.3251]

yessssss

[@michaellamont2605]

What if you don't have a soul??

[@annaandrea8320]

That is such a ridiculous thing to say, מיכאל Lamont! All beings have one, even the evil ones! I think you might confuse the lack of empathy with the notion of the soul...

[@dylaancaarpio]

Hello INFJs!! I'm an ESTP and I absolutely love your species haha! Such emotionally complex people. I wish I can just open your head and explore it. I have a friend who's INFJ and he is too fun to hang out with and drag around. Keep being you, you INFJs. edit: im actually an ESFP, but point still stands

[@isabelamibei4341]

Haha I wish I could talk to you because it seems you understand us

[@mkara9250]

BLESSINGS TO U!

[@Wolven6]

Appreciated bud. ^_^

[@shankar3651]

I always had a feeling that me and ESTP would get along nicely together. Ive met some people who would fit that category and I would describe them as basically INFJ but full of explosive energy. You have the courage to blast through the walls, and I simply follow the destruction and put the pieces back together so they make sense again. Its a thing of beauty watching you work, keep doing you

[@heskisinin]

Are you sure you're ESTP?

[@alaynaleighh8688]

“You’re to attached to your dream person” come on man, I feel violated

[@riquipuig601]

Knock knock

[@limitless_legacy9690]

We’re all effed up in the head. We’re a living controversy

[@KingLifeTale]

Lol

[@ahasai7163]

😄

[@romie2246]

youtube knows me too well

[@SlateBlueC4t]

INFJ + trauma because of the narcissist person encounter = forever single by choice

[@bethm7518]

TRUTH right there. Badly burnt.

[@kylesalazar4846]

God this hits home

[@tsuobachi]

Yeah, have to admit I got hit by that one as well. I've never experienced a relationship better than being alone. If only it was an a la carte menu.

[@bhargavikaveti1328]

So damn true!!!!

[@jojojojo7.31]

Exactly

[@lovi7810]

Who else here met peoples in their dream and decide to daydream it more because they are attracted to their characters more than the actual person you met in real life

[@Aoybonit]

LOL....I dont mean 2 laugh...but this is sooooo me

[@VeeBORG7]

Jesus! That's me!

[@kelly-annewynd5498]

The people in your dreams are people you’ve seen. Your brain can’t make up faces, so it uses ones it’s seen.

[@kiarapapa3764]

I have fallen deeper in love with literary characters than actual real people. 😐

[@odalis1893]

3-4 days ago I had a dream with this random dude. For the past nights, I have been trying to reconnect with him lol.

[@stefane2153]

As an INFJ, it's kinda complicating being in a relationship cuz we don't wanna show our vulnerable side, and we avoid feeling emotions most of the times cuz they can bring us memories we just sweep to the back of our heads and try never remember them again. Quite weird though how we seek a perfect match with someone else, we wanna find someone that goes accordingly with the script that we made to this person. We daydream a lot and we plan everything in our own lives, that's why relationships can be a huge impact on us, we cannot control what they're thinking or how they're gonna act around us. We expect to much from someone, cuz we expect too from ourselves and we frame this expectations in someone else.

[@Sargaxon]

1. You're too attached to your dream person 2. Dating is a pain in the butt (too much new sensory information) 3. You think too much and try to over plan dates (projecting into the future) 4. You're too aware of other people's needs (so you keep getting into one sided relationships) 5. You're looking for someone to give you an identity 6. Becoming a shell of yourself in a relationship 7. You get in too deep too fast 8. We can read people very well and that scares you (so no one is good enough.. give people a chance, maybe there's more about them) 9. Digging for red flags 10. You are weird and it's okay

[@rootsOfMadness15]

I...i can't read

[@tammyrea695]

I don't really want to share my weird inner world with anyone else. I wish to be accepted. I make really bad decisions in relationships. No one can live up to my image of what a partner should be. I cannot live up to my own standards. Yap this pretty much is the story of my life. I cannot vision myself with anyone. I love everyone and no one at the same time. My heart might go all in and my head-gut says the total opposite. Creating this constant inner battle. This is not how I want to be.

[@wakandaforever4994]

Ruthier Rivera 😂😂😂

[@tenshi-chan3131]

I can totally relate to almost everything. But tbh, I am glad he left me. I'm happy to be single

[@ngaihtebecky4991]

I see myself here, please don't call me out again 😂😂😂

[@MitchiiNeonz]

I am afraid of being alone forever yet i am also afraid to commit like bruh...i think being single is beautiful yet being with someone is beautiful too..again it's a MESS

[@cupoftea2060]

Too

[@nello5383]

Lmao, same here

[@zachary5845]

I feel you

[@BenjiPOTF]

Its weird I been like this too, when it comes down to declare, i straight up confess the feelings in their entirety and scared lots of potential relationships. I think deep down we all want the relationships, for me I been more afraid of the loss and grief after giving all I have only to fail. Not only that but the Identity issue.

[@geraldineg8781]

Same thoughts 😪

[@elizabethr.2491]

"You're too attached to your dream person." I FEEL CALLED OUT FRANK GEE THANKS :"))))

[@FrankJames]

any time 😈

[@Abigrooster69]

@@_________________._._._._ lmaoooooo

[@NatRiveraP]

Idealism and perfectionism ruin the magic of meeting real people! That's a fact!

[@miatinyarmy8201]

@Frank. Gonzalez2034 me too. I find it hard to move on after separating ways with that very special person. He's the guy who understands a lot of me.

[@prachirahate1631]

Agreed!

[@officialtbhoops]

You're 100% right on the whole chameleon thing. Sometimes, I'm the leader and most social person in a group, cracking jokes and leading the conversation. Other times, I'm the most quiet and throw my 2 cents in here and there. I often struggle with knowing which one I truly am, I definitely flip flop.

[@isaaad1204]

As an infj, I get attached to people very early and at the same time I always want distance to be alone. I also often get sick easily and I am very demanding. Being attached to the person of my dreams is a problem too, but the biggest problem with being an infj is wanting to have a relationship, and at the same time not wanting to. Oh hell, this is a curse

[@rakshitarudrawar2586]

Thts exactly how I feel

[@noneya9035]

God yes 😩

[@rovli816]

i can relate

[@Mateo-ko9kx]

Very yes!

[@malkiashelly6086]

It’s def a gift and a curse 😭

[@7soccercat7]

"Unintentionally manipulate relationships so they like you faster" to "you've played the game, now are you actually compatible?" hits deep

[@nicolemmens]

This is so true and I can't avoid doing it, it's just automatic

[@thecutestcyborg2834]

This hit me so hard. I feel like I’m always trying to learn about that person first, so I can impress them with how similar we are. Then when we end up having nothing in common, because I wasn’t my real self upfront. 😭

[@whobian123]

It's like staring at a mirror

[@yoitwasntme]

I felt cut to the core at that moment. This channel is going to make me not sleep for days.

[@tessanesdoly6267]

Becca MacKay YES YES YES YES YES

[@ValeryJaime]

I, an INFJ, am afraid of repeating the test and getting a different answer, and apparently that is a VERY INFJ behavior. Edit: 3 months later I retook the test (I know you should wait 6 months but it was killing me) and still got INFJ, I was so nervous.

[@ilonggongkiwi7109]

I tried mine again, I was scared and also excited but I got the same result. 😂 Still INFJ

[@mymayjunejuly9487]

@@ilonggongkiwi7109 that also happened to me. i was scared to took a test again but then it comes out the same

[@annasuzette7901]

I was thinking of redoing it myself to see if I actually was infj, of course I thought the same thing.. :) I've done it three times already but you can never be too sure.....

[@a5anointed705]

Me too! 😂

[@a5anointed705]

I did Myers Briggs twice, the Cloverleaf assessment, and Truity and got all INFJ. Truity gives three options but INFJ was first.. I was sweating bullets while taking them lol. Let me ask you guys something, when you go to the store, do you have to scan an area several times to make for sure something is or isn’t there? I’ve been aware of my lack of attention to detail since childhood because of my ISFJ mother. She would send me to an aisle to find something and I could never find it. Then she would look and spot it immediately and get so frustrated with me. To this day I have to triple check an aisle before deciding something isn’t there.

[@amandamedina2533]

I was recently identified as an INFJ personality. Dating is a struggle. Without making any effort I can already sense a person's true intentions and I know when they're lying. This 6th sense natural gift we have works as a radar with no off button. Even when I ignore my gut about someone I end up getting hurt. We have a gift that is also our curse. It's exausting in every sense, but despite the fact I've never dated I learned to love myself more each day. Plus I don't need share my freaking space with anyone. 😂

[@FridoGrahnify]

Hahaha yes!

[@Astrella999]

I get it, when I'm talking to other party I can mostly guess what they r intending to do when we are in a conversation. I feel bored and scared sometimes and then i just don't wanna be there and wanna go home and have a my "me time". But what really hurts is when you are with your family and u get that same intuitive feeling that they are gonna disregard you and speak some hurtful things, still you sit there smiling because you can't avoid them at those gatherings. For me family hurts more than any outsiders coz we can't just cut our family off like we do it with others.

[@Haise-san]

Just chill, there is a lot of good people with good intentions out there, we just have to put in the effort to find it

[@truedreams1]

1. Too attached to ideals. 2. Overstimulated by dating. 3. Think/plan too much. 4. Too aware of others needs and not yourself. 5. Looking for your identity in others. 6. Becoming a shell of yourself. 7. Too deep too fast. 8. Read people too much. 9. Afraid of missing info. 10. Accept your weirdness.

[@runninginsept]

'You can read people very well, and that scares you.' It also scares them. A lot of ghosting that happens when I inch warmer to some truth. Sigh.

[@brooklynitec6888]

Yes. I feel the same exact way.

[@annasthoughtsandmusicalpar2239]

That's sad... I feel (as an ENFP) that I relate to this in a way. I think I just overwhelm them with too much attention and stuff too soon.

[@theuniverseisabundantwigs]

Yes, so true!!

[@thuy__]

I was dumped because of this, he was a friend before I started to date him... I could see through the bs and drug abuse... it was hard to be ghosted after caring for so long....

[@annasthoughtsandmusicalpar2239]

@@thuy__ I'm sorry 😞

[@Luckcat16]

All E types: "Hey, we just met and I like you. I want to come see you tonight." My INFJ self: *a mix of sheer panic and snide disdain because I don't even know if you are worth me leaving my house yet*

[@couleurful]

LRCLaw 😂

[@liqu4214]

yeah...leaving my house for personal reasons is a big deal. can't waste that on just anyone!

[@carolynfay6787]

FUCK OUCH

[@tgibbs8288]

😂😂😂😂 so true

[@thedarkhairedone7672]

Sooooooooo true!!!

[@yystories]

Before I knew I'm an INFJ, I thought I'm just weird or a psychopath. Sometimes, I don't know what I want. I really want to express my feelings and ideas, but am too tired to explain it, because I know they won't get even if I tried.

[@bonnie_gail]

get a blood test to get your Vitamin D level checked - I thought I was depressed and my excellent crone doctor said, hey let's check your Vitamin D level and it was at 15 and needed to be up in 700 range - took Vitamin D supplement for 3 months and brought it up to the 600 range and I felt so much better and not depressed

[@TheBlahblah1010]

*still single because my dream person hasn’t been found or is fictional. *clicks on video FJ: “Reason number one why you’re still single: you’re too attached to your dream person.” Me: Damn. He’s good at this.

[@riquipuig601]

You are not alone pretty

[@rand0mn0sity14]

Me at every character I love in the books I read.

[@riquipuig601]

@@rand0mn0sity14 When you in love s such a wonderful thing, makes you smile n sing, n the joy you share no kid in candy land or fun World can compare

[@madeleinearcher999]

Literally all my crushes have been fictional 😓

[@ymarie4801]

I was in shock! So accurate

[@sush07]

My standards are high. Yet when they are met, I sabotage the relationship.

[@mdlucas1981]

Truth

[@FallenMonk55]

Omg! I always thought there was wrong with me. I realize that this is who I am

[@hazelnut7255]

Damn

[@aimanharith5817]

😢

[@AsmaaSabiri]

True story 😂

[@allisonslocum6948]

Reading these comments are like I'm reading the inside of my head and I feel less alone.

[@konkyolife]

Is it not scary that we all have cats in our lap right now?

[@anujpratapsinghparihar7126]

Me too...

[@christinemccoy4471]

@@konkyolife Yeah I got a cat, in my lap!!

[@Chandela-]

Me too ☺️☺️☺️😍

[@delphinefayolle7420]

Same

[@jennifercastillo6637]

Frank, I think you made an amazing job trying to describe us INFJ's, but deep down, we do all these things because we are always at the edge of: "I want to be liked, I want to meet new people, but at the same time I am perfectly fine alone.. should I really go through all this?". And we always have that option, our comfort zone. We know people is flawed, just as we are, and we will always have our comfort zone to go back to. Do you agree? :)

[@Mark---W]

I think you kinda nailed it.

[@jessicab5448]

I honestly think I want a relationship, but then I look around, and get exhausted by the fact theres someone I need to care for, so yeah too much work emotionally and mentally, back to visualizing in my head*sighs*

[@user-ms3pk5do9z]

Well, I'm in a relationship. And it sure hell exhausting. And sometimes you'll just want to wish that you never did enter it. I'll get emotionally wild and stuff. Sure is painful, and sometimes regret it. But in the end. There is always the joy, to have someone who can understand you, or trying their best to understand you as a person. There will be a lot of struggles, changes but in the end. You'll need that someone in your life! Maybe not now, but someday they will come

[@zakosist]

I'm actually INTP but can relate to this. I occasionally feel like I want it but the more I think into it the more I realize I probably wouldn't want it if I got it. One of the reasons is I think there would be way too much pressure to perform (or they either leave you or become resentful you aren't doing it right) and it seems there are so many ways to do it wrong. At the same time, I would need a reason to stay as well and I cant picture it would make me happy if I constantly had to worry about pleasing the other person. I also cant picture getting with someone I actually like in the first place.

[@jessicab5448]

@@zakosist very true, I also think my childhood is to blame too... not good examples for relantionships around me oh well, hopefully it gets better. Honestly praying the right person comes along one day..

[@jessicab5448]

@@user-ms3pk5do9z Thanks, hopefully!

[@geranrebold9884]

*Me seeing the headline* “This is probably full of crap.” First reason: “You’re stuck on looking for the perfect person” ouch.

[@christineherrmann205]

Glad I'm not the only one who clicked thinking "This is probably crap." LOL

[@linnear9872]

Also when he said "you're looking for somone to give you an identity"....my last relationship without releasing it at the time

[@shushu5941]

Painful thing about being an infj is that you know if someone is being genuine with you or not. And you just have to sit through whatever they are saying because you don't know if you will end up hurting the person by calling them out

[@jennam4448]

yup. i lie a lot because of it cause i don’t wanna hurt them

[@Hannah-dr1rl]

Yepp

[@christmes57]

Yup. My boss

[@vainastudio7756]

That’s until you master the sweet punch technique. It’s like you tell them you already know what they are about in a beautiful and compassionate way. After that, guide them through the best outcome possible that you already analysed after running 1000 simulations for second in your mind and they will have no choice than to follow through.

[@alf2087]

much more painful if the person doing that is just to get along with you.

[@babyblue.k]

I have this weird habit of texting people in a schedule. Like, oh I haven’t texted my best friends for a week now guess it’s time to text them again bcs I should text best friends every two weeks so they don’t think I forget them, or oh! It’s a new day now it’s time to text my parents so they don’t think I ignore them and I can show that I’m still care for them or things like that. The fact that I didn’t text them bcs I’d like to spontaneously but instead, more like a task that I have to follow is making me questioning myself a lot.

[@user-xy3mb3be7x]

see to me that makes sense but I am an INFJ-T so maybe that's why😂

[@jamielawrence4749]

OMG yes! I HATE the advent of texting and cell phones because it's given me so much more connection anxiety. Like... oh god another area where I can fail at making someone feel cared for, or question the proper way to do it so that I don't mess anything up? Great.

[@nikiszarvas4702]

lol. i do the same

[@GraceRay-b9m]

It makes sense to me. If I haven't texted someone for a while, I feel I need to text them just to say we are still on, I haven't forgotten you. Other times, I'm kind of like so involved in my own everyday life with practical things as well as my thoughts that I don't even think about them at all. But as an INFJ, I will certainly be there in times of crises or troubles of the people I care about. I will drop everything for them no matter what I am busy doing. INFJ care deeply about the people they love and are very loyal. It's not easy to earn our trust, but once the person earned it, it will be like forever unless we've got or felt betrayed. I mean, you all understand me right because I am talking with like-minded people.

[@maureenumekwe]

Thisssss... I text people on schedule just like you said. I thought I was weird

[@rumaduma5546]

Am I the only one who thinks that dating and having a relationship is a burden? I mean whenever I think of dating it felt like adding an extra baggage to my load.

[@rumaduma5546]

@Price Check On VagiClean yep that's what I got in mind lol. But if I find the right person then go ahead. But if I don't I will not try to force myself in a relationship or "find" a relationship just to say I am not alone.

[@Valzeu]

Just wanna say hello to fellow INFJ with love for Jimin 💜

[@rumaduma5546]

@@Valzeu uwu hello to you too💜

[@linnear9872]

Yeah, I remember thinking in my last relationship that it was kind of a burden to long for somone (we lived in different cities so saw eachother once a week), my train of thought circulated too much around that person which made it hard to focus on other tasks.

[@carpelinguae9097]

It is, especially when there are sooooo many other interesting, rewarding, enriching, productive and/or enjoyable things to do rather than be bogged down by someone's needy drama. I hate the person I become in relationships andy life is much better when I am single and not dating, not even casually. I love my dogs, family and friends.

[@dubbuzz8561]

Infj's are having good time staying at home Didn't expect so many people to like thank you.

[@Nanette_DeCardenas]

💯

[@kyried3497]

not really lmao

[@shubhikasirohi4281]

Yessss

[@Lynnie_14]

I loved Lock down.

[@dav__made]

@@Lynnie_14 same here lol

[@다나-r2j]

I'm an INFJ-A and my boyfriend is an INFJ-A. WE DID WONDER WHY WE WERE SINGLE BEFORE. BUT HERE WE ARE NOW. I'M GETTING MARRIED SOON~~~~

[@drowe2753]

Yaaaay! So happy for you😉

[@trappedinsideafigure8]

Congrats!

[@meliyuniarti2078]

So lucky. Happy for you ^^

[@stupid_flannel_gal9046]

다나 Aweeee!! Congrats!!

[@phoenixmoon8172]

Congratulations!!!

[@shasilver]

“That’s all dating is, is sorting through a bunch of new information, getting out there in the real world...” Me: *deep sigh* (immediately feels tired)

[@yoitwasntme]

I did the same exact thing 😂

[@GraceVersoniDaOneAndOnly]

😂😂😂😂 same

[@rand0mn0sity14]

Dude I did the same thing. Kinda did the internet laugh thing where you just blow more air through your nose than normal.

[@blackstrat8091]

This happened to me, i dating girl in my college like one year ago, we went dinner and watched movie together and then 1 month later i got flu, i did not send her any message for a day, since then i never talk to her or message her again, but i don't feel anything neither having something lost in my relationship

[@ThoughtProvokingVlogs]

I'm demisexual and in some online demisexual social groups. In the group one person describes dates as "sex interviews". I cannot unsee the truth in that anymore

[@samadsyed5396]

So I’m an INFJ and seeing all the comments and how they’re so accurate makes me happy. Knowing there are other people out there like me.

[@sarsgardhammarstedt9380]

💚💛

[@thundercloudentertainment900]

This comment section is like therapy or a support group LOL

[@bellabell3554]

Same here❤

[@riskapasha9065]

Same here

[@ascend3654]

lol. other people you will never attempt to connect or get along with

[@michaellacaballes937]

me: i should start dating my brain: well, if you start dating, youre gonna have to keep up with them and get attached and would have to deal with feelings you havent been into before are you sure you wanna do that youre gonna get hurt and lose control and are you actually gonna find something that's gonna be worth it ????? me: ok, why date? imma die anyways

[@madeleinearcher999]

Michaella Caballes ME

[@katiebaumann8330]

This is so me!!!

[@juliavalencaschoen2234]

Omg stop reading mee lol

[@saidah1809]

bruh relatable

[@baralike6258]

SO ME

[@dj_bae]

I think the main reason I'm single as an INFJ is because I value peace over anything else in my life. Too often I see people in relationships that are mostly good but you can see they're dealing with bullshit from their partner on a regular basis (not catastrophic or relationship ending bullshit, but you know what I mean). I'd rather be alone and not deal with any bullshit at all. My peace and my tranquility are number one. A secondary reason is that I need someone who intellectually stimulates me and that is difficult to find, it's like finding a diamond in the rough truly.

[@amandas.6500]

So, can someone start an INFJ dating website?

[@amandas.6500]

@@Morganfields INFJs do keep their guard up. Maybe a Myers Briggs dating website would work just as well, if you already know which other type your seeking.

[@clapwithonehand9304]

you should start it

[@jamesgraham1809]

Great idea 💖

[@tanyacarruthers453]

Should INFJs date other INFJs?

[@jamesgraham1809]

I think it would be interesting 💖

[@DioBrando-cf6yn]

I feel safe when i watch this video and read the comments

[@mercypk972]

Yeah so do I :)

[@jellyfamxoxo4667]

Same holy shit

[@ronahfayesinsuat2821]

dIO

[@Ninie02fanofall]

Me too pal, me too

[@thewolf8660]

"Everyone has a playing card, all we have to do is find a match." Yeah, but INFJ's are the Jokers; there are only 2 in a deck and the usually get separated from the rest and forgotten about...

[@crackerjack4u]

Yep, the Jokers are usually just set off to the side.

[@richsackett3423]

They aren't really jokers but they are a fantastic audience.

[@sarahl5213]

My life is a joke

[@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes]

Oh so true, in so many game cards we removed the Jokers to play without them. Separated... forgotten... Oh it remind me .. my life : get ignored and missunderstood by the most of people, seen as uninteresting. And on the only online game I play, I am on a guild named "Joker" (reference to Batman) Everything is linked now.

[@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes]

@@sarahl5213 One of the French girl KZbinr I follow said : Life is a game.

[@pranilnapit]

I'm sitting here for 15 mins listening to Frank describe who I am even better than what I know about myself. And reading through the comments make me realize that," hey, I'm not alone in this" and that we INFJs really are our own species. The things Frank said all makes so much sense to me now that I hear someone talking about it. Its all been there, I've known it to be there but I just didn't see it as it was not pointed out by someone. A couple of years ago I realized that I was searching for someone who would complete me(give me identity). And I just completely stopped trying to be in a relationship because I thought that it was just messed up to think that way. There are issues with overthinking, reading too much into it and trying to make things better before things even happened(?), going in too deep , trying to overcompensate others needs and wants and forgetting who I am, and then the complete opposite of trying to make things work- being a shell of me because its not working out. ugh its just a shit show. And now I'm like I want to be in a relationship but I don't want to be in a relationship at the same time? It feels like I'm running away from it because my past relationships were just me making a fool of myself but at the same time it also feels like I'm trying to understand myself better and give myself more time? Its hard to explain. Frank does a better job explaining the emotions that we go through better than me. And overly attached to the perfect person in our head just makes dating sooo difficult. No one is just good enough even though they are amazing and so warm. Its just me nitpicking things and turning it down before even giving it a go. It feels good to write about it, its been on my mind for so long and I just found a perfect video that describes what I feel. So i just expressed myself. Thank you so much for the video. It was really helpful and just seeing the community gives me motivation to do better and be better.

[@dudeidk7758]

I love reading INFJ's comments here, cause i could have written all of them. they're all so relatable omg

[@Ahs0kaa]

same and oh my word its my first time doing tests and finding out I'm an INFJ- Advocate and seeing all these videos and comments.... everything makes sense to me it's so overwhelming because I've always thought there was something wrong with me but now I understandd

[@dudeidk7758]

@@Ahs0kaa same, i've recently discovered those personality tests and i did them because maybe i could find more things about myself, since i'm always trying to know myself better. but i didn't expect the result to be SO accurate, i was even scared when i read it 😂

[@raininess]

Right? I was like "O.O I've found my people" XD

[@shubhikasirohi4281]

Ikr

[@sacha1386]

Agreed

[@SillyLittleDeadHead]

The problem is that every other personality type has a heart card or a club card or diamond or spade cards while we INFJs are going around with Joker cards lol it's so rare to find a genuine match

[@frappalina]

awww ;(

[@kourtneyanderson7992]

I thought this very same analogy

[@Menaceblue3]

Joker card? We live in a SOCIETY!

[@ItCantRainForever2]

I feel like the Joker why is that?

[@baizawai]

Sometimes I feel like I'm cheating on the person I'm dating with the person in my head.

[@kanikasingh4049]

Yesss

[@MayanCompatibilityRelationship]

Omg yes! But for me it's the opposite, Even though I was married, I felt like I was cheating on the person in my dreams.

[@mirsmith4531]

Ms JustG well stop getting married or stop believing ur part of the 2percent...never settling is innate behavior regarding relationship...hope u made an unrepeatable mistake n won’t repeat!

[@MayanCompatibilityRelationship]

@@mirsmith4531 marriage is never a mistake though society tries to make it so. Marrying the wrong person is a mistake and that is a thing I will never do again.

[@mirsmith4531]

Ms JustG ummmm ok well somehow things seem lil strange here so I will say congratulation!and enjoy ur success!

[@kimberlyphillips3293]

You just explained my whole life to me in a few minutes. I was a Trauma ICU nurse for 15 years. It was the absolute perfect career due to the caring, anticipating needs, and ‘ten steps ahead’ thinking. I’ve been single most of my life or in the exact relationships you just mentioned. I was beginning to believe I am an alien lol. You’re amazing! I love you! Keep up the incredible work. And keep being weird! 🙃

[@khawlajijo5104]

I can't stop thinking...it's an Infj's curse maybe

[@FrankJames]

i know, right

[@wingwaves940]

@@FrankJames Yeppers!

[@noemel.8312]

I thought the same way too. I dont like it and they dont get it. Hahahaha

[@sir.dylpickle2225]

Yeah I think so

[@sir.dylpickle2225]

Especially when I try to go to sleep

[@avsambart]

Reason 8 hit me hard. I am definitely the person who backs out as soon as I start seeing flaws in someone. Especially if it comes out sooner rather than later.

[@madeleinearcher999]

Alexandra Bowden same here 😓😓

[@LoveAndSnapple]

They could be doing something that I don’t like and they don’t even know that I don’t like it. But in the deep recesses of my mind I’m like, “strike one...”

[@cs.5052]

@@LoveAndSnapple omg same, I actually do give guys a chance even if I'm not attracted at first but then i start seeing flaws right away and I'm "alright, he's losing points"

[@vickidimi2972]

My thoughts exactly as I was watching this....once I see something, I can’t unsee it. Unfortunately that one little flaw changes the entire image of the person and I can’t ever look at them the same way, no matter how hard I try....

[@shortmoment365]

trueee. and my mom said I'm too picky. just imagine I'm gonna spend time with certain person make me goosebumps so I just back out

[@kyledavis3726]

11. Always in your room so you don't meet people 12. You over think/plan to ask someone out but get overwhelmed and never do it

[@nilak.s617]

Yes, esp the overwhelming part. Some people said to me that meeting people is exciting. I fail to see which part is exciting...

[@dannyrk8008]

Kyle Davis why do I feel exposed and attacked

[@thelegacyofgaming2928]

One day I decided to ask a random girl out on a whim and it actually worked. But because I didn't plan like I usually do, I had no idea what to do for the date, and because I got no previous information on the girl before the date, I was focusing on figuring as much out as possible while on the date, which led to me seeming a bit distant and her telling me she had fun but didn't want to go on another date. Lol

[@kyledavis3726]

@@dannyrk8008 truth hurts lol

[@kyledavis3726]

@@thelegacyofgaming2928 dang too bad. Don't be discouraged though, more experience will help. Good luck 👍

[@icarusstudio6960]

And this is why you INFJs need to find yourself an ENFP like me. We will talk for hours about the complexities of the universe and what makes us and you tick on a fundamental level, our goals and plans and wishes. Get yourself an ENFP 🤗

[@sofivivian7909]

As an xnfp with an infj boyfriend... Yeah, i agree. He is really happy with me ✨ (his words, not mine 😊)

[@shawnasatchell8897]

Where do we find you ? I need to get myself one

[@jim_0903]

i want one. female INFJ here :')

[@sofivivian7909]

@@shawnasatchell8897 we are everywhere actually, sometimes we look like infps (im an enfp actually, but i do look and behave infp-ish very much too) you could find us in college, in drama classes, any kind of hobby... We are literally everywhere! Just use your Ni radar to look for someone who 1) "has a mind of it's own", someone who follows their heart and is vert idealistic. Fi plays a big role in our life, you can literally see us using Fi ALL.THE.TIME...thats why we tell you everything about ourselves! 🤣2) a clumsy, disorganized yet organized person who seems to like order and/or cleaning but fails to keep a regular routine and is very VERY spontaneous. 3) that happy go lucky person that is really nice and friendly but also very independent 4) someone who actually uses intuition (like a lot, i learn everything through my intuition) 5) a clumsy mf (we are clumsy as f... 🤣 That Se demon is a nightmare 6) the creative person. We can be very creative, not only in the artistic field but with life. We might come up with new solutions, new approaches to theories, nee stuff, or a creative way of even.. organizing and cleaning! Or even cooking! I love to pour my creativity into cooking ✨ 7) look for the ambivert... Yes, dont let the stereotyoe fool you. We are ambiverts. We like people, we love connection and talking but.. for a while, is energizing, sure, but to a degree... So, yeah. Ambiverts. Hope this helps! ✨❤️ Good luck finding your weird little enfp aliens! 🍀🍀🍀✨✨✨

[@maria-teresaspeziale1718]

We retreat when we don't feel loved. Not enough.

[@sarah52292]

Maria-Teresa Speziale yes!!

[@meganmartians8372]

YES!

[@karlahabbershaw1971]

"You know how people work, and you know what it takes to get someone else to like you." - I have always struggled with feeling like I trick everyone into liking me, so then I feel like no one truly likes me. Even when they say they do, and they believe it, I see past that and I know that it isn't real. which is why my circle is so small.

[@CrisOnTheInternet]

That's me!!!

[@skarqen]

but dont feel sad because your circle is so small. im glad my circle isnt too big because i wouldnt even have the energy for all those people. rlly works out for me at least. i need so much time for myself because even a few hours socializing draws so much energy out of me. its almost unbelievable. always kinda feel guilty needing so much time for myself so i wont break...

[@karlahabbershaw1971]

@@skarqen Agreed! I need so much alone time to recharge even though when I am around people I am usually pretty high energy, which makes people think I am super social

[@abe3765]

@@karlahabbershaw1971 omg you're me. Its weird tho that i seems to like it, being around all of my friends, talkative and all that but when i get home i feel so drained which makes me dont wanna talk with anybody and just wanna be alone in my room

[@karlahabbershaw1971]

@@abe3765 Yes! And its so hard to explain to people who just see me out. They think they know me so well and think im so extroverted... But really I am so not, I just mirror other people's energy so when I am out I appear high energy. But in reality it is very draining.

[@Jessica2810]

I choose to believe that it's because I'm just "too cool and attractive and everyone is intimidated" 😉

[@meganneedham5272]

Jessica2810 same girl💁🏻 we’re just too much to handle. Hahaha

[@missjayne7401]

You two don't seem to be introverts. I'm an ENFJ

[@dannyrk8008]

Jessica2810 L

[@robertstanley9633]

THIS!

[@manager-nim2623]

I don't mean to brag but *runs hand through hair* it's true for me *blows a kiss and winks*

[@CandidRose]

"Never again. Never forget." Hah! I can relate to this. To me it's like building more invisible walls around myself to prevent the same thing from happening ever again... "You don't want abundance. You just want one." - I felt that... Haha!

[@Orskey]

"You are weird, and that's ok" Gave me that smile and happiness

[@ellismartiskainen7729]

yeah me too

[@stevemoore9509]

Weird is better normal is boring.

[@aBeatlesfan1]

Single ain’t too bad though

[@FrankJames]

very true

[@michelemeixner7604]

Andrea G I hear ya sister!

[@helenaarnold17]

Yes I'm single and making a lot of money 😎 and dates are a waste of time

[@alicealexandrescu4549]

It’s not when you are your other half! When you fulfill your needs!!! The first relationship we have is our ego with our truth!

[@aBeatlesfan1]

Be happy single before trying to be happy in a relationship. Easier said than done for sure, but so worth it once figured out. I’m traveling the world! Thanks all for the likes and comments :)

[@michael.snavely]

Hi INFJs! I’m gonna be a typical ENFP here and say that I LOVE your personality type. What you have to say matters, and your calmness and rationality is very much appreciated. Thanks for being you! 😁

[@priscillawilliams2535]

Thanks for that great to hear

[@davidshillaker7578]

Thanks😊

[@alicia_nicole]

Thank you!! Now if I could meet someone like that in real life ...

[@sarahllamamama9]

❤️This made me feel better, thank you.

[@Oscar_too]

I, thank you! It feels weird to be complemented about my weirdness

[@Chocoholeify]

I felt the part about thinking someone is too good and missing something so you dig to find stuff and just end things. It's insane. Finding what I want to find just to feel comfort with a red flag.

[@aengeluxx793]

Now I understand why INFJ is the rarest personality type.

[@oathboundhero1782]

You'll get plenty of us if you talk about us enough.

[@aengeluxx793]

@@oathboundhero1782 there are a lot of INFJ I met in the cyberworld (mostly in the comment sections of FJ video) but other says it's rare to find in the outside world.

[@apekshyadhakal3067]

@@aengeluxx793 Yes, I've only found them on social medias.. But do INFJs like send message to a total stranger? I will never do it..

[@aengeluxx793]

@Being Anonymous I'm an INFJ and I love my co-INFJ. I have three bestfrnds and they are also INFJs, we get along well and our instincts synced so definitely well and I love them and they love me too. I totally feel you when u said its hard to open up, we tend to bottled it up inside but I'm getting used to it, so like i'm immune to it.

[@cametochangemyusername-can1295]

@@apekshyadhakal3067 You just did. 😉

[@MunchMaila]

I think for me, in reference to #5, it's not really about wanting someone to give me an identity. But more of "finally, someone who will see me for who I am without me having to explain myself all the time." But everything else?? I'm shook.

[@Desiree143]

Yep. Story of my life

[@tkiarenee9188]

Facts nobody gets me except me little sister so is a ENTP

[@Romi192]

EXACTLY !!!

[@Vunderblood]

Munch Maila YES FINALLY SOMEONE SAID IT!!! 😂

[@aycad8558]

Hell yeah!i am introverted enough to understand my inner self.sometimes i wish people can understand me with a look

[@AHerrise18]

I am an INFJ, my ideal man is not existing in the physical realm.. lol

[@Eurypsi]

my ideal woman doesn't exist in this reality either.

[@yuekosho6938]

My perfect woman also 😂

[@mercyarukwe3369]

@@yuekosho6938 😂

[@zoyakhan2964]

Hahaha I can relate

[@jennam4448]

right mans exists in my head and i’m books :/

[@Courtz_Cosplay]

I understand what he is saying but I had to giggle when he said to stop reading people and give them a chance. I have given people multiple chances and they always turn out to be the exact way I read them at first.

[@mwahahaha6269]

I'm INFJ, but i think i'm still single because it's hard for me to 100% trust someone, while I attach myself quickly to people. Being an INFJ is so fantastic, yea.

[@nilak.s617]

How do you attach yourself to someone and still not trust them?

[@mwahahaha6269]

@@nilak.s617 i dont trust them 100 % but im attached, like, theyre my friend so i like having time with them. I dont feel able to trust someone enough, and in a love relationship (for me) its essential to trust 100% the other people :/

[@thewayofthe6]

Nila Kurniasari I have the same problem but I kinda know who to attach myself too without actually knowing them. INFJS know who to open up too

[@thelegacyofgaming2928]

I'm INFJ, but I don't attach myself to anyone, lol

[@brooklynitec6888]

OMG! That is me 100%

[@goubib]

Me: I want to subtly stand out so people will approach me to get to know me Someone: hi Me: yikes I wish I were invisible

[@sabrinaaylor8231]

Gabi Jones MEEEEE

[@krystalpitts1674]

So much yes!!

[@RainbowSoul777]

Gabi Jones ughhhhh yesss😭😭

[@Syasyazy]

OMG HAHAHA THAT'S SO ME:")

[@NamezIVN]

KZbin stalking me? How did they know that I'm infj and suggest this

[@michellemichelle4164]

Because they're basically up everyone's asses....they know everything about us. Smh.

[@suparsh7864]

Seriously this shit pops up my mind too, that’s crazy, I got this suggestion for first time and this infj type relatable to my nature a lot how this algorithm works 😐 also infj heard for first time...

[@kidusmesfin8605]

I guess i wasn't the only one asking this question.

[@j9z924]

Yep, me too. Didn't no of IMFJ til it showed up on my feed. Totally me, Scarry.... AI is getting in my head.

[@Shereeda2202]

Omg same!!

[@lrwiersum]

I spent my entire adult life as someone’s woman. I had kids (awesome), did the houses, cooking, parties, travel etc. I’m 65 and I’m DONE !! I take care of ME now. I come and go as I please, with no one to answer to or clean up after. I’m soooo happy !! I have done serious inner work and have been, serenity and joy. My kids and grandkids are everything, I stay busy and just enjoy life.

[@KirstenLovesJesus]

Hypothesis: the INFJ imaginary perfect partner is simultaneously the “personal identity” they’ve been searching for another person to give them

[@amber5166]

hey no need to attack me like this

[@SillyLittleDeadHead]

Yes and no, I think as an INFJ that in a way yes to that theory because part of our personal identity is to have that romantic partner because we are so sensitive and need that kind of understanding but also no because that's not our sole personal identity trait. I guess our personal identity, going off your theory, would be to be truly genuinely understood and accepted.

[@johnjungkook2721]

I think that would be true for any MBTI group, though. Like, if you have an "imaginary perfect partner" who you're attached to, chances are your sense of self is all over the place. All types of people do this.

[@BlopsssSssss]

Wow, that really hurt....

[@cockat2]

@@johnjungkook2721 I wholeheartedly agree with your retort -- a homogenized sense of self begs for another, either directly (enter dependent or borderline personality d/o) or, indirectly (enter fantastic utopian partners) to somehow imprint their "goo" or otherwise congeal their sense of self. Healthy people (especially healthy INFJs!) don't do that and are most often, if not always,, frankly repulsed by dependents, borderlines or anyone mistakenly expecting, demanding or requiring such a host. I would further argue that a healthy INFJ would be the last person on earth to entertain (muchless require) a surrogate sense of self. We know ourselves better than most (Ni/Ti) and see into others (Ni,Fe) to such a degree that such nonsense would never be an option. The cognitive stack of the INFJ can lend itself to feeling isolated, misunderstood or otherwise alienated as we so intimately read others and often wall-off ourselves. Confusing this dynamic as having a lack of sense of self or as having some parasitic hunger for another to quench in order to self-identify begs an elementary, superficial understanding of INFJs at best or simply a moot analysis confounded by personal projection at worst.

[@millie5501]

1:07 "...The real world - you know that place where we all live" - wait, what??!

[@dannyrk8008]

Millie Carter L

[@vanezzavonbargen473]

Millie Carter,in the real world especially in the nexts future Immortal Generations is a wonderful lifes according to my Dad ,The Original Creator God of Heaven and Earth ,Far and Beyond.No religions No criminal bibles.but strongly standing for freedom etc.The Nexts Immortal Futiures Generatios its not here on earth,its in the Immortal World places and times.thats all and thanks.

[@NN-bk3rn]

Once you're a healthy INFJ and you're still single... It's because everyone FRIENDZONE you 😂 or you give a friendship vibe to everyone. Like you're a perfect friend they wanna keep forever.

[@Kasperstauns7000]

yeah I got friendzoned by my friend but better then cutting contact though🙂

[@nanyummyify]

I'm ded lol

[@angelasmith3037]

Or you just get ghosted all the time lol. I’d love to just be friends most of the time, but no one values that 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@laub3856]

It's the other way around for me, I just don't want a relationship and I tell that to my friends guys but they want more than friendship and doesn't matter how much I say it they still there trying and I feel so bad for them

[@shinyday1699]

@@laub3856 Bruh same

[@olessia1790]

each and everything here rings so true. as INFJ's we are so sensitive, being emotionally and mentally drained in the dating phase as well as in a relationship. we put our all into it and feel and think so deeply. we lose ourselves and fill the other person's cup when we're empty through wringing out whatever little we do have. and when things go wrong and end, our whole world falls apart and we're devastated.

[@ItsShayyy]

I’ve created the “perfect guy” in my fantasy world and can’t get over the fact that no guy can ever match that.

[@fareshG6]

Yeah, I even gets girl opened for me to to closed, hence I killed scene why I being called for some reason, " bella, even aftermath oncoming Heaven where Angels line up, I will have them refuse, yeah my personalities has, Complications complete me. Have a same mood day

[@kinanimeoo]

lemme guess is it Hyunjin? 😏

[@fareshG6]

@@kinanimeoo who's hyunjin. That was me exactly talking to a girl named bella are you MY?

[@kinanimeoo]

@@fareshG6 noooo I was commenting on @Its Shay...chill 😂 and yes i'm a MY (p/s: mcm mana kau tau? ☻)

[@dilluazakiyama9394]

I'm glad i'm not the only person

[@andreablengini3450]

I recently discovered about INFJ and i feel my brain just collapsed. I felt a weirdo all my life, able to adapt to everything but never really fit anywhere. The perfect match, the overthinking, the other person always beforr myself the inner world, so many things I thought were just going on in my life alone and now I understand why. I need to start over with a lot of things, but finally I know I am not broken or crazy. Thank you so much!

[@marslexicon]

Same

[@laurenbasile4603]

I remember when I discovered I was an INFJ. It truly is a life changing moment! Congrats and welcome to the club :)

[@lumberzach3242]

Its eye opening isnt it? We have such amazing strengths, but at the cost of shooting ourselves in the foot and slamming our own doors constantly

[@andreablengini3450]

Zach Thurow Agree! It’s so much work!. I tried so hard to make others happy, to help them become the best version of themselves that I los myself in the process. It took more that 10 years to release myself from everybody else’s expectations, work still needs to continue though...But I decided to stop opening doors that my intuition tells me will lead to a slam later.

[@robboss1839]

Same. I just found out about this and it explains a lifetime one people telling me I’m wired differently. People usually say that in a complimentary way after I call myself crazy because I don’t function like the rest of my friends

[@shristinagroy7786]

Did I stumbled upon some INFJ community !!?? Like THIS IS MY CLAN 😹😹😹

[@gummybears1320]

sxphire Heart i’d like to give a shoutout to the youtube algorithm for allowing me to find my people

[@ThatEflatGuy]

Whaddup fam?...Do people still say that in 2019? By the way, I’m weird.

[@SunsiasLove]

Welcome fam 🦊❤️☺️

[@channelyoutube4698]

I feel at home OMG 😅😅😅

[@sterlingking2338]

How did u tube know to show me this, it seems to have read my mind again , it is a fucked up life

[@deborahwolff5651]

Dating is too much work, is painful and exhausting. We are so different and other people don't understand us.

[@jimyam4820]

Reading through these comments is like a breath of fresh air to me, I thought I was alone.

[@中本D]

I thought the same thing too 😂😂

[@itriedtojimoutbutfail8498]

There's time where Im talking to myself in the toilet, and I ask myself "why am I talking to myself" then I answer it myself "idk maybe you're weird"

[@ingalesniewska2510]

Nan dalla dalla. I love myself 😅

[@rn2511]

I do this all the time. “Omg did you see that” “ I bloody did” smh answering myself and then I think oh shoot I’m crazy 😂 talking to myself.

[@multifandomstan412]

I do this all the time like I just talk to myself is that weird? I’m sure I’m not the only one right?

[@richamalik2266]

I do that alot I say stuff like shut up nd then reply you the one talking you shut up nd it's on repeat...

[@pratibhathakur1240]

I do that while looking at the mirror... It's more Comforting

[@cherry_1068]

"You're too attached to your dream person" -just hits perfectly, me watching too much Kdrama and liking Kpop Idols, gets my standards higher than my grades

[@halaelharrati1982]

OMG pls this is me

[@ninpoonam]

Do you know nct's Jeong Jaehyun??? that man has ruined men for me as a INFJ and a Scorpio who over romanticizes everything! He is my dream man and I know ill never get him life sucks 😂

[@notur_cass]

@@ninpoonam Oh myyyy, same here. That valentine boy is such a dream. I'm going to be alone for a long time :')

[@Tybee_]

HAHAHAHA YES. I read fanfics and well, the stories are charming and magical, so that I feel inside the story and imagine my whole life as a fanfic. So yes, it is difficult to see real life.

[@livinginncity7870]

Parneet Dhillon And Jaemin! I love him.🥺 I’ll never get him.

[@lardmaster4349]

INTJ here, but I found this video so illuminating and relatable. Your first 3 reasons INFJ is single apply to INTJ as well because both types have very strong intuition and inferior sensing. Concretely that means people like me really like to plan ahead, make everything perfect in advance, read other people, don’t live in the moment, etc. It gets really frustrating sometimes because that’s not how most people play the game.