🔴 Here's another video you'll like: Unhealthy INFJ: 7 Signs You're an Unhealthy INFJ kzbin.info/www/bejne/d6ikhadrlNOLhK8 ⭐
@ShadySaanz5 жыл бұрын
Shoutout to raising awareness
@justinfalzon68545 жыл бұрын
Around 7:10, you're talking about how you're really just trying to give yourself advice (lol), you say, "to all the other INFJ's -(and while having your head down and motioning to the camera)- IN there, try some new stuff." Instead of what would more commonly be said out, 'out there'. Implicitly recognizing we're all the same person manifesting at different locations. LoL. Love it. I thought I was an ENFJ for the longest. I just realized recently I'm an 'I'. ayyye. No pun intended.
@Estelle-Maureen5 жыл бұрын
OMG so me in the future and all that goes with it.
@Estelle-Maureen5 жыл бұрын
Termage lol
@Estelle-Maureen5 жыл бұрын
Me first time meeting someone... Leaves knowing everything about them...Me the next time I see them... Won't even make eye contact
@MyGreenPathway4 жыл бұрын
Even when I’m being manipulated, I know when I’m being manipulated 🙂
@vminisfuckingreal9984 жыл бұрын
why is this a mood. like you know whats going on, but then you're too scared to confront them about it. and then you think if you should or shouldn't. and then its too late.
@dominiqueshaneawitin73074 жыл бұрын
This is what happened to me with my friend hahahha like I'm not stupid I'm enjoying tho
@eastonridge54754 жыл бұрын
Yeah, IT HURTS SO GOOD... ha
@juanaaguilera21304 жыл бұрын
I started feeling this way at work. Other staff made it seem like I was being used to do this one staff's job but I saw it as part of my job description to perform each task I'm given. I thought about putting a complaint as other staff did but I didn't. Maybe I wasn't being used. Maybe she really needed the help.
@bekalacock4 жыл бұрын
Haha true
@1989kd5 жыл бұрын
I vote you President of the INFJ club.
@eph2vv89only1way5 жыл бұрын
Iseult _writer I second the nomination
@doggie10424 жыл бұрын
Third
@amronchristensen6964 жыл бұрын
Iseult _writer 4th
@fantasyhaven39004 жыл бұрын
I would vote for him
@kaede_jing4 жыл бұрын
Hi Mr president~!
@jnyerere5 жыл бұрын
"Try not to think about 10 years from now." Haha joke's on you. I have a 30 year plan.
@muizzdicky68234 жыл бұрын
Me too broooo
@Lottiya4 жыл бұрын
I laughed so hard hah But... that’s very true
@delacruize20234 жыл бұрын
I have a reincarnation plan A & B a afterlife plan just incase! And a plan if ALL of the above scenarios fail 🤞 here's hoping 💯 "Its very difficult to do sudden! wardrobe change!! stressful when it's blindsided 🤦♂️😬🤪 I find comfort In having a Plan A,B,C,D,E,F,G etc 🙏🤸♂️🥇
@badasstoad94194 жыл бұрын
CzarJuliusIII And noooooothing’s gonna go wrong! * Ni-dom anxiety builds up *
@taeslovelytummy48784 жыл бұрын
Make it 60
@maryelijah4 жыл бұрын
Do infj's loss interest easily, because I do and it's driving me crazy.
@designdiyu3 жыл бұрын
Oh gosh YES
@Pandaintheshelter3 жыл бұрын
This is my whole life
@ihaveseverefrootsnackism3 жыл бұрын
YES. Holy crap. I have an example... I've been doing langauge learning as a hobby for... almost 2 years now (since Nov. 2019), which is hilarious in itself because I already know I'm going to hesitate to actually use it with people in conversation. Not only that, but I've tried about 20 langauges AND CONSTANTLY switch which one is the "main" focus because I kept losing interest. And not only that, but feeling the need for some reason to remember the history of what I was interested in for some reason. Literally, in under 2 years, my interest died THIS many times-- my main focus went from Russian to Spanish to Romanian to Swedish to Spanish again (stayed here for a few months) and Japanese to Korean to Spanish again to Vietnamese and back to Spanish then Russian again then German then Spanish AGAIN to Korean to... you guessed it, Spanish, Russian, and Spanish again (for a few months), to Japanese again (stayed here for a few months), then suddenly it was Spanish, German, Korean, and Mandarin all at once (this is now May 2021, and Japanese died for some reason), then German and Mandarin died out, then suddenly I got interested in Japanese again, which suddenly took over everything else, making my interest in Korean die, and Spanish barely hanging on, then after a couple of months, Spanish made a comeback for no longer than a week before I got frustrated and got into the current situation for the past couple of weeks where I practically juggle Spanish, Japanese... and Swedish made a comeback again. That wasn't even all of the languages. There's a bunch that weren't listed because they lasted not even half a week before I lost interest. My interest in certain types of music/KZbin videos is somehow even more complicated than that. Am I the most indecisive person born into Earth?!?! the more i type the more i realize why im single, my interest in people is this bad too, and SEVERE overthinking
@Khergman2 жыл бұрын
I think like most other stuff it’s a yes and no. If you plan everything on that person the stubbornness comes out but if you struggle to find a plan for that person, you can very easily drop them (maybe even harmfully)
@agnes33052 жыл бұрын
Yeah
@Leinad974 жыл бұрын
One thing I always found odd before I found out I was an INFJ, was the part about getting others to open up to us so easily. I always thought it was strange how people always tell me mid way through their life story "I dont know why I'm telling you this" and proceeds to continue lolol
@skilyndeitrick78484 жыл бұрын
Leinad97 this is the most relatable comment, we had a new girl at work and within 5 minutes she was telling me about her addiction and life story and it’s like i don’t mind at all but i’ve always wondered why people tend to seek me out to open up to
@thirtythreeflavors4 жыл бұрын
This.
@elenaflores17744 жыл бұрын
I had a woman at work tell me about how her grandpa's leg was slowly getting removed with surgeries from this one time he ran over his foot with a lawn mower, but he was too stubborn to remove the whole thing and just get a prosthetic. She also used the line, "I don't know why I'm telling you this." Oh, that was paired with her story of her growing up, and of her life as a mother. This was on the first late night we had together.
@nemplayer17764 жыл бұрын
Same, I have some trust issues so I don't really like opening up to people intentionally (it still happens unintentionally in an intimate setting), but even considering that people can open up to me really easily.
@hotwingsfromdc11134 жыл бұрын
Ha! It’s seriously a burden sometimes. I went on vacation to Chicago once, and I walked into a gift shop for 10 minutes. By the time I left I had heard about the cashier having menstrual cramps that were as bad as her mother used to get, and the shy kid folding shirts in the back told me he didn’t feel like his coworkers respected him.
@bellaa16645 жыл бұрын
INFJ in a nutshell: well yes but actually no
@luluparadise86305 жыл бұрын
tru dat hunny
@lillowh61265 жыл бұрын
Bella good guess but actualy no
@simpatiko865 жыл бұрын
No wonder ENTP and INFJ is a thing. ENTPs also likes contradicting ideas and try to make sense of it.
@aljoschacyphers41175 жыл бұрын
I like your videos and I was just wondering what your back round is. I'm an INFJ, I think, and every time I try to Google you, I just get rederected to your KZbin feed. I just want to know why you put so much thought and effort into the Myers-Briggs personality test.
@RATDATSUN5 жыл бұрын
Kiwi Infj: Yeah nah yeah
@elenasilvestri62894 жыл бұрын
Did any INFJ here ever happened to completely lose interest in a person after they made a comment you didn't like to the point you were disappointed because you didn't see that coming, like you didn't thought they were that kind of person that you don't like. (ex.: somebody that makes a racist comment) ?
@user-xt3bf8uz9n4 жыл бұрын
Yes, it has happened to me. It's really sad but there are things that can finish a friendship in seconds and we can't do anything about it, it just happens.
@FantasticMsFish4 жыл бұрын
That happens to me too often
@caspianh.19264 жыл бұрын
Many times. And it's amazing how instantly my feelings can change.
@nikharagrawal58084 жыл бұрын
Yes! It's like if I couldn't expect that from (and perhaps, that I disapprove of it), immediately I feel like I must have messed up my WHOLE knowledge of that person, like oh my god, how did this happen!? And they suddenly feel like strangers, too!
@stephmleal4 жыл бұрын
Oh how this ruined so many possibilities of relationships
@linacomet4 жыл бұрын
"I need to be selfish from time to time". That's so true. It's difficult to just give all the time and feeling not getting enough from others.
@isidoragonzalez232 жыл бұрын
But its too hard to be selfish
@etcwhatever Жыл бұрын
@@isidoragonzalez23i learned the hard way being selfish is essential. No more giving up myself
@CarinRutherfordCreel4 жыл бұрын
😂 The funniest thing about an INFJ is that we don’t just question everything and ourselves, but we also question why we question everything and ourselves.. it’s a continuous evil cycle of questioning which never ends and thus, keeps us more in our heads questioning... why do we do this, and why does matter why we do this.. and so on..
@yankybraver94034 жыл бұрын
So true
@afiy99594 жыл бұрын
totally accurate
@ddabrowski883 жыл бұрын
Exactly. Sometimes I wish there was an off switch.
@mysticalcreature27183 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@neperson76473 жыл бұрын
when you can't tell yourself to shut up because another perspective persona pops up and tells you to shut up.........
@lindaleijten75775 жыл бұрын
These INFJ videos have comment sections where I want to thumbs up most comments 😂 Yaayy INFJ club reunite 💯
@AmeatSauce5 жыл бұрын
Linda Leijten ikr!! 😭😭😭 nicest most understanding comment section I’ve ever seen on KZbin
@thirtythreeflavors4 жыл бұрын
I love that you said reunite and not just unite. That is that infj intuition speaking.
@user-xy8cq5oi9f4 жыл бұрын
So true, was thinking the same thing.
@markoselendic36904 жыл бұрын
Exactly!!! ^_^
@hailey39244 жыл бұрын
Ikr I finally feel understood
@codyluckett83955 жыл бұрын
It tickles me how many of these comments end with: "I hope that makes sense"
@CreatureFeatureRlz4 жыл бұрын
Literally how I end most of my explanations in real life 😂
@essencemack58094 жыл бұрын
That's so us lol
@itsBAY354 жыл бұрын
I totally do that LOL
@simovtransportmedia11374 жыл бұрын
Just an INFJ style. :D
@elenasilvestri62894 жыл бұрын
After we finish talking there is almost always (I think. ...I mean, in my case maybe(?)) this moment when you stare in complete silence the other person, pondering if the percentage of what you just said that they understood is about 15% or 20% this time. And you can literally see either a blank face like you broke them or the gearwheels of their brain moving.
@frostinsight33933 жыл бұрын
since this guy's INFJ, I know that he cares about authenticity in his discussions. DOES THAT MAKE SENSE?
@Shooketh__3 жыл бұрын
I get you. Watching his videos feels like having a deep convo with someone who finally understands you. It's amazing.
@caitlin91993 жыл бұрын
that's a very INFJ thing for you to say hahahahahah
@weareallinthis36682 жыл бұрын
WE HEAR YOU 🤣🤣😭😭😭😭😂😂😂
@consetta205 жыл бұрын
What’s a total INFJ thing to say? “You know what I’m saying”?
@Keepmeinstitches4 жыл бұрын
Connie Collims & it’s not a conversation filler lol we actually really are checking if the person(s) understands what the heck we are talking about hahaha
@sunset97294 жыл бұрын
Ya. Or " Are you hip to my lingo" 😂
@mr.j30514 жыл бұрын
This is so true
@oneequalstozero13414 жыл бұрын
Oh come on why is this so true
@MissCaptainStrange4 жыл бұрын
"you know what I mean" - totally me, all the time
@AmeatSauce5 жыл бұрын
I love how all the infjs in the comments are just so nice and peaceful and understanding 😭😭 it’s so rare to see in comment sections
@deepdiver68855 жыл бұрын
😁
@thewizkidd895 жыл бұрын
Well we are rare lol
@Mark-et6lq4 жыл бұрын
^-^
@obliviouschannel19944 жыл бұрын
Some people lack understand for others, we don't to a curtain extent but if we do we try to make a understanding but this is something that drains us and is hard to share with others that have different views and just see things for what they are without question how they are. Maybe we are always on a quest for knowledge? Fuck knows xD anyway have a good day people
@rumaduma55464 жыл бұрын
Well yeah, we try to understand and be neutral about things so we avoid being mean and rude.
@DoubleeDee5 жыл бұрын
It's Your Girl FJ 😂
@pollymat9915 жыл бұрын
i know right??? xD
@aveuch5 жыл бұрын
Best make up tutorials on the tube 💅🏻💄👛
@IAmNumber495 жыл бұрын
Good to know I'm not the only one who notice that 😂😂😂
@easytoslip5 жыл бұрын
I so loved that, it bothers me endlessly that the default is always male!!
@janetmcbee5 жыл бұрын
Lol
@jinalparikh54024 жыл бұрын
The way Frank sometimes say “Yes and no” for a point, just proves how much of an INfJ he really is!!😂 Same Dude. Same.
@lomien11503 жыл бұрын
In my first language we have yesno as a term. It's almost always said with a small sigh or exhale - whiether it's implied positively or negatively doesn't matter. It's always understood as a subject being complex, and I love it.
@Clementine31073 жыл бұрын
@@lomien1150 what is your first language?
@lomien11503 жыл бұрын
@@Clementine3107 Afrikaans. It's a Dutch derivative spoken in South Africa.
@Clementine31073 жыл бұрын
@@lomien1150 thanks for answering
@lomien11503 жыл бұрын
@@Clementine3107 you're welcome
@kunalbilaney11884 жыл бұрын
Anyone of you ever feel like you can see your decisions and emotions from an objective, 3rd person perspective? And then judge yourself based on it. In other words, I'm talking about an insane level of self-awareness. Anyone? :p
@dionmcgee56104 жыл бұрын
One of the side effects is an inability to take part in most normal human activities without feeling ridiculous or guilty or immobilized by self awareness. Watching myself watching myself etc... What would an alien from a different planet or dimension think of the activity? Why are we doing this? When did the activity first get started? So many questions to think about. I can't just do something! I have to understand everything about it and decide if it's actually something worth doing or is it hurting someone or something? Is it beautiful or destructive. Another side effect is referring to other people and myself as human beings and disassociating my consciousness from my physical reality. How about you?
@bread54144 жыл бұрын
I try to do that as a way of counselling myself, but sometimes I do it to judge myself :\
@alexandriariley43824 жыл бұрын
Big time
@uzziahplays11594 жыл бұрын
Yep
@alis80954 жыл бұрын
Yeees!
@lyana12905 жыл бұрын
I think INFJs can be in everybody's wavelength because they're good at adjusting it as their ego is low, BUT many people cannot be in the same wavelength with INFJs.
@cinderling54725 жыл бұрын
lyana _ Good point. I agree with this
@soulfuljana5 жыл бұрын
I absolutely agree!!!!
@Smjourney12235 жыл бұрын
Yes, exactly!!
@juzt4fun3475 жыл бұрын
Agree
@turduckenwrath61105 жыл бұрын
lyana _ this exactly
@abhishekkale57565 жыл бұрын
"All humans are difficult to deal with, in general." The gist of all INFJ observation.
@jhuellianacalixto39134 жыл бұрын
WAHAHA
@denatyeatsnuggets72744 жыл бұрын
Yes... I have told myself this too many times
@zenkyra79644 жыл бұрын
Exactly!
@mantecada56604 жыл бұрын
Meh, it's interesting to try to figure out what's on their mind
@tenedores39044 жыл бұрын
For me its kind of "I hate people but I love them too" does that make sense?
@nishobit.12934 жыл бұрын
You INFJ's are awesome. It is a pleasure to go through the comment section. So much self awareness and mental clarity. A lot of love and respect from an ENTP 🙏
@matthewyang78933 жыл бұрын
Unrelateable but relateable but sometimes I wish I wasn't relating to this INFJ club sometimes :p
@kenzer0112 жыл бұрын
Actually it's not that easy. If an infj doesn't know he's infj he's gonna feel reeeeeally wrong about a LOT of stuff, so you reach mental clarity after a lot of self studying (just explaining a little). But whenever he gets there, it's the way you said, and it's a cool/weird experience to live
@rslhruaizela19552 жыл бұрын
Can we have our privacy lol
@brightlord39632 жыл бұрын
@@rslhruaizela1955 No
@kevinjackson91002 жыл бұрын
@@rslhruaizela1955 honestly lol this is where infjs meet up, we’re constantly learning and it’s the one time we close to focus on learning about ourselves
@kulorfulkush12465 жыл бұрын
Its funny because infj's can understand themselves so much that we dont need this video for help but stress relief XD
@jamielaw47494 жыл бұрын
Lol I play these at 1.75 speed because "I know" but it's stress relief because I can hear someone else narrate my thoughts instead of doing it myself. And I learn smtg too 😂
@Lavender08104 жыл бұрын
Ikr. We are normal 😂
@boboiboy91894 жыл бұрын
Lol we cant understand ourselves tbh
@thousandyardgavri27854 жыл бұрын
Its people who don't understand us. Im here to feel comfort.
@eastonridge54754 жыл бұрын
Confirmations of what I already know...feels good. It's a guilty pleasure!
@ninaemonic5 жыл бұрын
I just learned how to be "selfish" and it helps me A LOT
@mariatahir40974 жыл бұрын
It's actually best thing to be Happy in this net world...i.e.being selfish
@jiadollano47804 жыл бұрын
How? :(
@ginnybaudelaire81774 жыл бұрын
But how?doesn't it make you have less relationships?I mean I thought about it and realized if I want a relationship with both give and takes at the same amount...I mean is that even possible?can there be someone who cares about you just as much as you care about them?or do they care more AFTER you become more selfish? Sorry for my bad english and sorry for talking alot...I just suddenly felt like I should write these...
@ninaemonic4 жыл бұрын
@@ginnybaudelaire8177 yes, in relationship we need to give and take. There is no way a one side relationship. But sometimes as an introverted person with "too much" care for others makes me feel bad and I feel like everyone trying to hurt me. I try to be more selfish and think about what will affect me before I try to help or be kind to other people. If the person is truly care for u I bet he/she will try their best not to hurt you 😊
@saraspence38294 жыл бұрын
I had a friend teach me a few years ago that “”No” is a complete sentence.” I really liked that and it has helped me a lot in setting boundaries
@magsayojane97084 жыл бұрын
I just realized; no wonder he's an infj-- he's an INtroverted Frank James K 🤦 I'll see myself out
@sunset97294 жыл бұрын
Ha You said it I was just thinking it 😆
@mxwitcher4 жыл бұрын
Or INtuitive Frank James lmao
@mandi.3034 жыл бұрын
😂💗
@04.adhila164 жыл бұрын
Oh Fuck that was clever 🔥
@FiddleKat4 жыл бұрын
Holding my sarcastic comment in.
@fitfiz4 жыл бұрын
In my opinions, most of INFJ ws a genius, and Intelligent. They don't care small little things, they think further.
@kl30695 жыл бұрын
Living in the future is definitely a really bad habit, but everything is so much nicer there...
@drennanspitzer63875 жыл бұрын
K L except for when it isn’t and we panic!
@kl30695 жыл бұрын
@@drennanspitzer6387 Yes, that's the actual, probable future. I prefer the fantasy one, where I'm a bestselling, millionaire author with a yacht and a mansion :D
@beccapeterson84345 жыл бұрын
So so guilty of this. Can't stop, won't stop.
@heyheysarah77825 жыл бұрын
K L omg! I do this too and love it lol 😄
@ishsheruni5 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@Nicole-is-global5 жыл бұрын
People constantly tell me their deepest secrets or share things they've never shared before AS SOON AS they meet me. I'm waiting for the day I hear, "And now I have to kill you because I told you."
@iamwho33734 жыл бұрын
Deep.
@norayuninordin70844 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@Avikashyu4 жыл бұрын
This is exactly I'm waiting for God damn
@vminisfuckingreal9984 жыл бұрын
its kinda weird, like they tell you upfront right after they meet you with the lines of "I've never told anybody this lol" and you wonder if you're special or they're trying to make you feel special but no, they've told 15 other people this just like how they met you.
@Nicole-is-global4 жыл бұрын
@@vminisfuckingreal998 sometimes that's the case but often times I get to know these people long term and nobody knows their secret. Some examples are: a previous marriage, having a blackbelt, closet homosexuality, a child at home (everyone at work thinks she has no kids), being extremely wealthy, etc. Maybe they sense that I feel it's silly to judge one's character on these things and that I'd gain nothing from sharing their information.
@foxx.on.saturn51435 жыл бұрын
This is why I'm so good at calling plot twist in movies 🙃
@nemoforvermore80854 жыл бұрын
Omg, yes. Sometimes it is kind of annoying to know what is going to happen, but other times it's quite funny. I'll often sit there and say something and then it turns out to be the next line :D
@luckygirl11114 жыл бұрын
Yeahhhh it feels like I've already seen it, and my family are annoyed because I always tell them what will happen next before it happens.
@ne26044 жыл бұрын
IT HAPPENS ALL THE TIME. JUST A WHILE AGO WHEN I WAS WATCHING CRIMINAL MINDS
@HeliNoir4 жыл бұрын
So true. My friends complain to me I spoil the movie cuz it turns out I’m correct almost all the time though we’ve never seen the movie
@genasi93703 жыл бұрын
Ah fuck, when I was 12, I would always think about my life 20 years in the future. Then people would ask how I'm so mature for my age.
@robertbrewer41645 жыл бұрын
I feel like I'm always fighting against my long-term forecasting. Also, "I think INFJs generally don't like dating. They don't like this search." We really don't.
@FrankJames5 жыл бұрын
sad but true
@wingwaves9405 жыл бұрын
Do you ever find it useful though? I think I can learn much on a date. Such as whether I want a 2nd or not. I'm not trying to sound like a snob or anything like it. That's why I totally believe in the Importance of the "Kind" of date we spend our time with.,Does that make sense?
@wingwaves9405 жыл бұрын
@@FrankJames Sometimes yes, sometimes Nope! What's your idea of a cool kind of date? Yes, I agree the Search can sometimes suck but oooooooh the planting and growing can sure be delicious!!!!
@robertbrewer41645 жыл бұрын
@@wingwaves940 Dating can be useful, for sure. Kind of like getting out and talking to people can be useful (and good for me). But both wear me out big time, even when I'm having a good time. And for me, I've never really been one who sees dating as an end in itself, but a means to getting to what I really want: a long-term, deep, and committed relationship. Thankfully, that's where I'm at now, but I remember dating (and don't miss it at all).
@erinkutscher15115 жыл бұрын
YES. I've delayed pursuing a Master's in Mental Health Counseling due to the economic / time commitment anxiety. I KNOW this is the career I should pursue, but the worry literally keeps me up every night. I try to be rational, "people do this program all of the time," but I seem to perpetually scare myself away from it.
@jackya35964 жыл бұрын
I’m an infj and I agree with a lot of these things, I feel weird having this intuition when I know certain situations are bad and certain people are bad. I only have 2 friends and I’ve known this people for years. I also don’t like loud environments and loud people give me anxiety. I am very aware of my ego and when I catch myself judging people for no reason and sit my self down and ask who am I to judge them. I love listening to people and giving them advice. I also feel like one of the reasons why I’m in this world is to help and change people’s lives. I don’t feel like I fit in anywhere and I don’t like to show who I am to people I don’t know. I also would like to stop holding myself back from doing fun things and being myself completely because I label myself as an “introvert” and introverts are supposed to be shy and quiet and pretend they’re invisible, but I would love to be careless sometimes and live life to the fullest. I could go on and on but I also don’t want to waste anyone’s time...
@voices4dayz4694 жыл бұрын
Then go on! I was reading and you stopped! Give me additional *deets* yyyyeeesssssss
@iamwho33734 жыл бұрын
Same time well spent too.
@nemoforvermore80854 жыл бұрын
So relatable! And you're not wasting someones time. We are free individuals who can decide whether we want to read more or not and there sure are many who would be willing to read what else you have to say.
@jackya35964 жыл бұрын
@@voices4dayz469 thank you! ♥️ People like you really inspire me to keep writing and give me hope to become a book writer one day.
@jackya35964 жыл бұрын
@@nemoforvermore8085 thank you! This means the world to me as I would love to become a book writer, I just don't have the confidence to do so but people like you give me hope that someone would actually like to read what I have to say and this little bit of reassurance is what keeps my dream alive♥️
@cookiekyung46355 жыл бұрын
"Try not to think about 10 years from now" - wow, thats already giving me anxiety
@cypher15064 жыл бұрын
This why every INFJ needs an ENFP in there life💜✨
@Carolina-bw2dp Жыл бұрын
Yes yes we do. ENFPs are the MVP to our INFJ. We love you and need you.
@mistymoonrose5 жыл бұрын
Does anyone get where you feel like you KNOW whether you'll click with someone or feel comfortable/safe with them within minutes of meeting them? I've done this my whole life. If I don't feel comfortable, I automatically hide many aspects of myself behind a wall as I feel they won't get me.
@cinderling54725 жыл бұрын
Mary Davis All the time! :)
@mistymoonrose5 жыл бұрын
@@cinderling5472 Cool! :D
@gins87815 жыл бұрын
Yep. I usually know instinctively whether someone is “safe”. For many years I ignored my instincts; thinking I was so damaged that I wasn’t being rational about others. That has resulted in some traumatic relationships. Being reserved is not a bad thing. I could take a page out of your book. I tend to over-share when I’m uncomfortable. That can be annoying to others and it definitely results in more anxiety for me. Finding balance can be difficult!
@carterawesomeguy25815 жыл бұрын
Yes!!!
@FallOutGirlxxxxx5 жыл бұрын
Yes yes yes, all of the time. When I interview clients for the first time, I just "know" whether it's going to work out or not.
@Itjusthappened04 жыл бұрын
I am so empathic that I am confused what my real personality since I change depends on whom I'm with
@katieb20984 жыл бұрын
Yeah it sucks
@nancyyarbrough14453 жыл бұрын
I believe we are all chameleons when it's necessary. But it is also exhausting, so re charge, learn from your mistakes and keep putting one foot in front of the other. You are the smartest person in the room, whether you went to college, got a Phd. or not, Your intuition will always be your compass and a good one it is.
@susancorbett42603 жыл бұрын
Snap ..so pissed off with it at the moment..its like being everyone
@anninuraeni61533 жыл бұрын
We are a chameleons...
@jacklynjustiniano42513 жыл бұрын
We are diverse
@FattsMcGee4 жыл бұрын
I love the INFJ comment sections 😂
@ishowedyouthat25753 жыл бұрын
Yes pretty good.
@matthewyang78933 жыл бұрын
Yes. Finally a relateable experience...
@howyduinyall76535 ай бұрын
R u 1?
@lenovotab28672 жыл бұрын
1. On a different wavelength. 2. Highly perspective of others. 3. absorb other people emotions. 4. Amazing long range forecasting abilities. 5. Both emotional and rational. 6. Creators of deep emotional intimacy. 7.True introvert. 8. Sensitive to conflict. 9. End up in one-sided relationship. 10. Looking for their soulmate.
@SarahNash842 жыл бұрын
This is me totally
@Batfemme6392 жыл бұрын
"Amazing long range forecasting abilities." Like omg, Lenovo (if that really is your name). I am like freaking Nostradamus or Cassandra and I don't want to be. I cannot even tell you the stuff I have predicted with great specificity because you would not believe me. I don't believe me, but other people know and they are totally freaked out. Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgh! Yeah, nobody believes me ahead of time but afterwards they're amazed. What a curse.
@kimberlypagett80312 жыл бұрын
Imagine adding me as a Gemini too lol man it's challenging
@semplar2007 Жыл бұрын
THANK YOU
@clairem3707 Жыл бұрын
I thought long range forecasting was more ne
@retrogradepink5 жыл бұрын
you gotta be your own soul mate! the other person is just a bonus. :-)
@wingwaves9405 жыл бұрын
@retrogradepink YES! Truth is we are All Souls and here we are on a tiny blue dot hurtling through space. All Here, All Mates. I like to think if I don't have what I want, want what I have! Then everything else is chocolate icing on chocolate cake :-) Nummmmmlol!
@retrogradepink5 жыл бұрын
@@wingwaves940 :-)
@Beecus5 жыл бұрын
I love that!!
@plume16395 жыл бұрын
Love that!
@cmiku53045 жыл бұрын
Sorry, but as an INFJ, that doesn't work for me. I'm old enough now that I completely love myself and have learned to ask my mate when I need some love and cuddles and support. But I cannot be, and would not want to be, happy living alone. We all need support, and trust me, the happiest moments in life are happiest when they are shared. That said, there's no such thing as one soulmate or a perfect soulmate. There are thousands of great matches out there for you. Love yourself first, find what you need to feel confident and stable, then realize you WILL find someone who's worth it.
@iuliabotezatu24395 жыл бұрын
It would be interesting for me to meet another INFJ face to face and have a conversation just to see what that feels like.
@purplesass_52194 жыл бұрын
Omg yes!
@beatricealoi70424 жыл бұрын
Well someone that can actually understand you , can understand why you seem to know a person simple by look at that person and ecc.. Trust me I happened to meet one of my two best friend that is a INFJ like me and it's like sharing a telepath friendship XD , bye ^-^
@iuliab29644 жыл бұрын
True! I would like to meet one as a friend but just like you are saying being two INFJs in a relationship might be a bit overwhelming. I can barely handle myself when I’m in “philosophical” mode 🤪
@nightreed10654 жыл бұрын
Me too. I'm looking for one, i'm the only INFJ-INFP among my peers.
@minhngoc45424 жыл бұрын
Me too, i am searching for one. Anyone?
@africacordova17564 жыл бұрын
Anyone else becomes EXTREMELY irritated when people change their minds last minute? Like even if it's something stupid
@pheart23814 жыл бұрын
Or people who consistently arrive late! Grrrrr!
@hannahblair66724 жыл бұрын
YES. I was just talking about this with my mom the other day. I always say "probably" when asked if I can do something because I don't ever break plans willingly. I sometimes say yes when I'm positive I won't back out. So, when others say that they can do something but eventually say that they can't or that something is true that they didn't actually look into, it bothers my brain!
@godofwarmcruwu40483 жыл бұрын
Yep, it’s definitely an INFJ thing. We like controlling everything and creating a plan in mind so when we have to change our plans last minute it is really irritating.
@ivonnecaradenacho37263 жыл бұрын
YES ! It fucken makes me so angry. My bf is that kind of "I change my mind in the last minute" not punctual guy. Takes me so much nerve and patience to deal with it lol, but I love him too much. He knows I get angry and is also patient with my so 50 50 lol I still hate that shit though lol
@nancyyarbrough14453 жыл бұрын
@@ivonnecaradenacho3726 That's how true love works. Good for you, compromise and communication.
@SoniaJbrt2 жыл бұрын
I met my husband (also INFJ) through Facebook. We found each other on a group, sent friend requests, chatted on Messenger for hours the first time. And that first chat we both knew we are meant for each other. Few weeks later, totally in love before we met face to face. First time we met face to face first thing we almost ran into each other's arms and just embrace and knew we will be married. We planned our wedding and future before he actually proposed. So it is possible to find your soul mate. Still very happily married.
@essarose.artmusic2 жыл бұрын
❤️✨
@snekasekar8841 Жыл бұрын
Which type u r?
@rocketta.chique5761 Жыл бұрын
Stop, this gives me hope, it’s dangerous to hope at this point 😭
@dominicclassable Жыл бұрын
@@rocketta.chique5761 exactly
@alivc2458 Жыл бұрын
I had a similar situation where my boyfriend and I immediately knew right away, searched for my soulmate my entire life, randomly ran into each other on a video game and have been inseparable since. Planned our wedding in the first month of our relationship/meeting and would have done the most irrational thing ever if money wasn't an issue. Still happily together a year later and still planning to marry. He's an ENTP who also happens to literally be our typology soulmate type. It's legitimate. Find yourself an ENTP friends!
@z1pp0m4n5 жыл бұрын
I've learned to remind myself to live in the "now". I also remind myself, to just ... be.
@shaheedawilliam4985 жыл бұрын
Yes!
@jencgold5 жыл бұрын
J Milam I’m trying
@stellabella28274 жыл бұрын
You have to! He Talks about this---it's sooooo true.
@Lalala-of5dp4 жыл бұрын
Yes, i am learning to be more present and it's a hard work and exhausting for me. But i keep working on it.
@mckenzietaylor55395 жыл бұрын
The second point relates to why I’m ~always~ so interested in reading what others think of books/movies/series I enjoy. Half the fun for me is digging through post after post of opinions and interpretations 😄
@aluckyshot5 жыл бұрын
Unless there is a ridiculous amount of comments I read nearly every single one and the replies, on a search for every view and hidden nugget of truth.
@aderollerolls5 жыл бұрын
Bro this is truee
@Abby-vi3el5 жыл бұрын
aluckyshot Whoa, me too!! I spend more time reading comments sections than the material/videos themselves. Used to have a Word doc collecting the funniest or most insightful ones I came across 😆
@MCSilver4 жыл бұрын
McKenzie Taylor , ikr! I get a vid with comments disabled and im so disappointed.
@Tehmina575 жыл бұрын
You are the ULTIMATE LEGENDARY INFJ COACH!!! Every clip is spot on and so true. Your delivery with the touch of humour (which is hilarious), emphasises the reality check we all need in order to become self aware. God bless you. Thank you❤
@stellabella28274 жыл бұрын
I AGREE WITH THIS SO MUCH. MANY BLESSINGS TO HIM FOR SHARING ALL THIS GREAT KNOWLEDGE! (Sorry, I'm not yelling Lol)
@zoejohann23533 жыл бұрын
I'll straight out say this to you INFJs: I think you are awesome! You heal up people left and right, and whatever your past relationships were (plz forgive my grammar), you and the people's life you'd touch are an invaluable life experiences bad or good. Be grateful for it that it refines all us to be the best version you could strive. Every heartfelt connection you feel is a soulmate (fated), until you find 'The One' unexpectedly creep up on you. Don't give up on life and living! Thank you for living ❤️
@carosamchwa30815 жыл бұрын
“They absorb other people’s emotions.” So this is why I start crying when my friends or family are crying...
@mysteryguy7934 жыл бұрын
I am INFP and I used to cry when my sister cried when I was a toddler
@stellabella28274 жыл бұрын
CaroSam Chwa, I just subscribed to you. 😊 Hope that's ok. I Love your profile photo, it's Precious!
@stellabella28274 жыл бұрын
CaroSam Chwa, I can also relate to your empath tendency. That's me too. A friend a few years ago told me what an Empath is. We're all at different levels of sensitivity, but More sensitive than Most people. ( I'm pretty sure we're blessed with a nice intuition about others too--we can read a lot about them just by their body language, tone of voice, behavior, etc.) I feel lucky to be more intuitive, but not always being an empath. Oh well, we feel more, we notice more, and are more compassionate. I'd rather be all of these than not. Hope you are doing great btw. I just found this channel--and I Love it. Sooo informative. He is so intelligent. Refreshing to find.
@vminisfuckingreal9984 жыл бұрын
i hate it because it makes me look vulnerable. but again, i want to understand other people because there are times where they see everybody not understanding what they feel
@razone43174 жыл бұрын
To be fair, this applies to a lot of people (especially women).
@miladydewinter85515 жыл бұрын
I think you should create an INFJ Tinder. Ps like the popcorn thing.
@FrankJames5 жыл бұрын
lol good idea
@hanro505 жыл бұрын
...Not a bad idea -INTP
@killtheniceguyinside36825 жыл бұрын
How about 'Tender' LOL
@KathyMoreira15 жыл бұрын
Absolutely yes! Lol
@riskitforthetriscuitt25485 жыл бұрын
TENDER 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I’m dead
@mayannelee25134 жыл бұрын
Extroverted feeling is so exhausting.
@hailey39244 жыл бұрын
IKR
@mantecada56604 жыл бұрын
I cannot talk to people without wondering what's in their head and I hate it
@doitdiaries37973 жыл бұрын
Exhausting because we're introvert 😔 the stress.
@tunaie-shah72933 жыл бұрын
I agree
@daan_vr55273 жыл бұрын
THAT is soooo true
@jaymagdaong39213 жыл бұрын
As an INFJ progresses both academically, esoterically, and psychologically makes us pretty much independent and capable of anything given the right time and effort. So we end up cleaning up our own mess.
@magaroniandchaos4 жыл бұрын
FJ: "I feel whatever you're feeling right now. What are you feeling right now?" Me, an INFJ: "uhh...?"
@Enzo-pr1mj3 жыл бұрын
Exactly hahahaha
@babylondrifter56123 жыл бұрын
right that could cause a feedback loop of nothingness we are gona need a third person here
@miisoma3 жыл бұрын
Same
@deborah29815 жыл бұрын
I don't know if this is necessarily an INFJ thing or 'secret', but I recently noticed that if there is someone I am interested in, I will start to behave differently depending on what I think will draw that person's attention to me. This way, I try to get this person to come up to me instead. I wouldn't say my behaviour is necessarily 'fake' though; I am just channeling a part of me that may sometimes not be in the foreground. For example, if a person is very logical-minded, I will draw on my more logical side as well to get them to focus on me in a group. Once I've got them one on one, I will show them more of my other sides too, which will then hopefully come as a pleasant surprise and leaves them intrigued. I don't know if you would consider this manipulation, but it's the only strategy that often works in which I don't have to boldly go up to someone that I am interested in. Anyone else here who does this?
@nashiPAGE5 жыл бұрын
I don't think that's manipulation because like you said you are drawing on one facet of you and not only that, ultimately. Sounds like a natural way of going about things.
@pollymat9915 жыл бұрын
@@nashiPAGE sounds more "tactful" to me. Manipulation seems like using or trying to alter people as you would objects. Tactful is more like "what's the best way?"
@AudaciousErin82Baby5 жыл бұрын
Yup! I do it too-unconsciously actually. I'm imagining it's a part of our "chameleon-like" superpowers🤗
@pollymat9915 жыл бұрын
@@AudaciousErin82Baby I also noticed this! It's a cool part of our personality :D
@pollymat9915 жыл бұрын
Great observation :D
@karene65384 жыл бұрын
INFJ end up with narcissist around them and that sucks
@sabinam76344 жыл бұрын
Karen Etienne ugh my first relationship was with one unfortunately. Still recovering and really need to put myself first. No one else will.
@melisamerc35454 жыл бұрын
Last year (before I knew I was a INFJ) I had a crush on this guy that was slightly narcissistic, luckily I noticed before anything happened but dude was that weird. And now seeing everyone comment things like this just makes me wonder wtf was going on in my mind. (Hopefully it makes sense)
@infectedcontactlensyes.51724 жыл бұрын
I was raised by one... Yay
@adrialee81494 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately I also fell victem to a narcissist that messed my head up pretty bad. But I had to let all of that go and move on. Now im stronger and even quicker to spot the red flags they drop.
@YSFmemories4 жыл бұрын
Can you guys explain this in more detail? I'm pretty certain I am super INFJ now, but this is one point I can't relate at all. Why are you attracted to narcissists? What is it about them that you find attractive? I'm not just taking notes so I can become a narcissist to attract INFJ girls I promise ^_^
@mads727913 жыл бұрын
I feel like a lot of people don’t understand how sensitive we can be, like it’s something that I physically take on.. You really nailed it with the explanations
@mariamp73044 жыл бұрын
My sister is an INFJ and after watching your video I feel so sad. I’ve always felt the need to protect her from the world bc she is unique. Now after watching this if anyone hurts her I might eat their souls and I’m an ENTP btw..
@tanukaur52103 жыл бұрын
She must be so happy to have you..im proud of you ..💜✨✨
@God_37123 жыл бұрын
She's so lucky :)
@switch__22543 жыл бұрын
how sweet of you. both of you are sure precious to this world. 🖤
@amruthavalli12603 жыл бұрын
Awee💜 hope my sis too understands me better 😔
@virgo41263 жыл бұрын
as an INFJ, I am near to cry bc of your kindness, hope and wish u live long and happy.
@schrodingerscat17635 жыл бұрын
#3 has caused me to quit jobs. I love to do office work, but I can't survive the gossip, or a debbie downer office mate.
@Shaz18014 жыл бұрын
Me too. Now i am experiencing it
@Agaettis4 жыл бұрын
Same! I've always said I need an office job, in a corner office far away from others
@sunset97294 жыл бұрын
Maybe in the future don't quit job. Use your talent to have fun with these squeaker s and sqweelers It's hilarious when the story gets back and it is so twisted out of shape you have to go to the bathroom before you pee your pants from laughing.
@deltasaves4 жыл бұрын
@@sunset9729 unfortunately, sometimes those twisted stories can cause us to lose our jobs or are acts of what I consider terrorism to make one quit.
@RainbowRaindrops20114 жыл бұрын
Oh my gosh, this makes so much sense! I can't stand spending 40 hours a week with people, or an atmosphere, I hate or that bring me down, and that's probably why I move on from jobs quickly. I value my contentment and happiness more than anything else in a job.
@charliegreen79884 жыл бұрын
When I found out I was an INFJ everything made so much sense with how I never felt I could relate to other people and always felt like an outcast. I still always feel like I don’t quite belong here. Why does everyone else have a place when I don’t? It’s something I’ve never quite figured out. One of the biggest things my therapist honed in on for me was to stop thinking about the future. I still can’t bring myself to do a lot of stuff cause I don’t see it going anywhere so I don’t try. I want to be and feel special, but I don’t, and I always wonder what that’s like. It really does feel like I’m on another plane of existence.
@nemoforvermore80854 жыл бұрын
I can relate to the feeling of belonging to a place less than other people around me so so much! I guess, you are not alone on this other plane of existence. And you definitely are special even if you don't feel that way
@brittbee35844 жыл бұрын
I feel the same way. Everytime I am anywhere I am day dreaming about being somewhere else. I am never content right where I am.
@zummyzoomloom4 жыл бұрын
I feel the samee. I just found out ab personality types today, i start researching what INFJ is, and all. And i found so many people that like myself, i'm not feeling like an weirdo with self diagnose. First i thought im a depressed teenager with multiple personalities :"))) Im so happy to meet you guys
@mememeome4 жыл бұрын
That’s true and relatable. I always thought reaching all my future goals would make me happy, but then another always pops up, and the goal I reached doesn’t bring the satisfaction I initially thought it would. Then I realized that I’m going to waste my life away never feeling satisfied with the place I’m at and always dreaming of the goal in sight. Happiness isn’t in goals or accomplishments or the future. At least for me, it’s about those experiences and true connections with people I actually care about. And doing things that bring me joy, just for myself.
@kati55594 жыл бұрын
I've felt like this all my life and moved to lots of different countries but never stayed longer than 2 years. Also I've often been told that I'm not normal and should try to change to fit in more. Needless to say that was useless. The feeling of belonging happens when you start finding people similar to yourself.
@drivethrupoet4 жыл бұрын
The thing with the especially sensitive is when others feelings can make you physically ill.
@RebeccaCaldwellSingerandartist5 жыл бұрын
I'm a INFJ and on the part of being intuitive,...I remember being 5 years old and scared that the other kids could read my thoughts and see what I was thinking telepathically,...I felt like an alien from another world. I was picked on badly in school for being so shy and didn't talk much. I was friends with all the misfits who i could relate to and i would stand up for them if they were ever bullied. Your videos have really helped me to better understand myself and I feel less alone in the world.
@AncestralGratitude854 жыл бұрын
When I was younger I wanted to have a computer system that could yield answers to my questions I had about other people. I also posed the Q to my mom asking her if she would want to have a download of information to get a skill rather than the work it requires...she asked me what I've been smoking.
@sinqobilem4 жыл бұрын
Holy shit I had the exact same experience. I thought the same thing
@stellabella28274 жыл бұрын
Rebecca, that is truly awesome.
@susanc.22074 жыл бұрын
INFJ here and no joke, Im pretty telepathic.
@michelled89624 жыл бұрын
Ditto It's like you're telling my story!!
@essencemack58094 жыл бұрын
"If your having trouble finding your Soulmate..its your fault".🥺😢😢😂😂 I laughed and rolled my eyes the whole video at the accuracy lol. We really do have tunnel vision lol we want to be certain that this is it and we just want it to be that over and done with lol we hate being in the dark bc we just know things intuitively and we love when we see things before they happen. Also you are all beautiful people and were all soulmates now.
@EternaLGlorY223 жыл бұрын
This is soooooo accurate
@daan_vr55273 жыл бұрын
I'm scared of the dark so this was just more accurate then it could be hahahah, and you are more amazing:D
@color47952 жыл бұрын
sameee
@amjPeace5 жыл бұрын
My best advice to a younger INFJ would be to learn to become your own soulmate. Learn to hold your own needs (and wants!) with as much care as you do others'. Jesus teaches us to love one another as we love ourselves. "AS", not "MORE!"
Honestly, I find INFJs really interesting and lovely. At least all the INFJs I've met are great, and I'm amazed by the way they view the world. I can relate to them to a certain point, but I always thought that they have very unique personality traits. I know that being an INFJ without knowing that you are an INFJ can be frustrating, and they might even feel misunderstood; I wish that more INFJs knew their value. My english is bad, sorry :]
@lilbitsleepy2574 Жыл бұрын
Your written English is better than many native English speakers; no need to apologise 👋🏻
@HotSeat174 жыл бұрын
I feel like a chameleon sometimes around people. I fold or mutate into their sphere. Sometimes I try to "imitate" what being "normal" is like. Lol The words coming out of my mouth are not the words in my head. "No one is more important than the person next to me." I LOVE when people talk about their feelings, so I don't have to talk about mine. 😊
@morenaazulalvezmolina79755 жыл бұрын
the part about dating: FINALLY SOMEONE UNDERSTANDS WHAT I GO THROUGH. my psychologist tells me why i don't date or put myself out there. you got it perfectly. and also, it's sooo scary. sometimes i wonder if I'll die alone and i get sad. then i go back to focus on my career and telling myself thats all i need. so sad lol
@SummeRain7834 жыл бұрын
pettyanon I do this all the time and then start wondering if something is wrong with me loool 😫😩
@w13rdguy4 жыл бұрын
I Hope that's going well for you. I don't want to sound too weird, so I'll just quote FJ: Trust yourself. 🐎
@AngelicaDXB4 жыл бұрын
I was thinking about getting a baby from a sperm donor, but then again... What if those genes turn out to be bad??? What am I gonna do with a kid from a person I never knew or truly connected to? It's easier to just go back to being a lawyer. I don't want to die alone though.
@enjohneering96734 жыл бұрын
This comment came and beat down the door where I live. I really like being close to people (like family and a couple friends) but I always put off anything new because I hate the gamble and prefer a career or personal exploration focus where I get very good results. I really need to stop predicting and just try some things out.
@rosieluvsdance975 жыл бұрын
"Hey girl, not cool, but would you like to be my soulmate?" Drag me out on the dance floor, won't ya
@aamu35 жыл бұрын
I'm totally in hahaha
@joanaborrellsanchez92252 жыл бұрын
INFJs, you are amazing. Your capacity to see the world deeply, with compassion and sensitivity, it's what makes you strong. You are resilient, brave and kind. You all are indispensable on this desorganized and cahotic world, you can offer a lot (sometimes you offer too much, don't forget about take care of yourselves and if you need space and you have to disappear from time to time, don't feel guilty). You're stars, you're love, you're like magic fairies that, although sometimes (unfortunately) they may go unnoticed, they are always there for others, always. Don't foreget to be selfish. You don't have to satisfy anyone's needs, only yours. You deserve to be loved without proof. Because you are love.
@skilyndeitrick78484 жыл бұрын
“try some new stuff” really hit me because i’m such a routine person the comfort zone is real with an INFJ but new stuff = constant stress and “what if this doesn’t work/end well”
@angelmoldez35124 жыл бұрын
yess i think this is the reason why i order the same food in the menu
@paigeybaby8155 жыл бұрын
This is like freaking INFJ therapy fam. Nice job. ❤️
@cobalius5 жыл бұрын
Omg sao pic
@adelpradoful5 жыл бұрын
Yes, thank you Frank James :)
@otakuthomas66195 жыл бұрын
@@cobalius Hell yeah
@jlb-xo4 жыл бұрын
Hi fam xo
@MrMadmurph4 жыл бұрын
This was very interesting and hard to believe there is only 4 people with these gifts. I relate and it gave me a place with self. This gave me a reason to be alone. Yes i will say. . love your self
@aminacodes5 жыл бұрын
i think that we can also be possessive and jealous when it comes to our loved ones: we don't get attached easily, but when we do, the attachment is steel strong. we keep our loved ones close to us and guard them jealously.
@jencgold5 жыл бұрын
ace fairy aimei yes!! We don’t get close. So when we select someone. They are special. We get clingy. We guard them. Get overbearing. We need to back off 🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂🥰🥰🥰🤓🐥🐙
@KatHood4 жыл бұрын
ace fairy aimei this has totally been my experience. Jealousy is a really hard one to pick apart and is about the only emotion I’ve struggled with my whole life. Getting there though. Understanding on a deep level who my loved ones are and what keeps them healthy and thriving is how I’ve been able to curb my own jealousy towards my chosen ones being with the non chosen ones. Thank you for pointing this out.
@HotSeat174 жыл бұрын
Absolutely!
@HotSeat174 жыл бұрын
@@KatHood I love how you said, our "chosen ones"
@chillingdudex4 жыл бұрын
I couldn't have said it better. Absolutely agree on this.
@nicoledkeith3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for speaking the words this INFJ needed to hear about soulmates! "INFJ's Hate Dating!" Haha
@kitl80814 жыл бұрын
The thing I hate most about being an INFJ is being so self-aware. Being so hyper aware of how you could be perceived or how you sound is so draining. It feels like everytime I interact with people I have to orchestrate how I present myself or even as I’m talking I’m aware of how (insert negative association) I’m being and feel so uncomfortable about it afterwards
I wish I had found out I was an INFJ when I was young, and had all these great videos , It would have been nice to know I wasn't alone.
@Weimerica88412 жыл бұрын
Yes! This is the worst, I think about if I am walking normally or if my posture looks okay. In groups of people I never know what to do with my hands. Nobody has ever criticized me on any of this, but people have said I walk very upright lol
@The-Wonderful-Fafnir2 жыл бұрын
Wow! Same though.
@Speaktruthordontspeak2 жыл бұрын
@@AA123TD I do this often(feel the exact body function in distress)and even pick up on others illnesses. I feel their physical pain and mental strain.
@naomirayo38705 жыл бұрын
I think we're good at handling conflict in the sense that- we're good mediators. But it's almost as though when the conflict is directed at us, we struggle. I hope that made sense.
@jennymowery795 жыл бұрын
I feel the reason conflict can be so difficult for us maybe because we're feeling our emotions combined with the emotions from the other person? We can easily become overwhelmed and that can be very uncomfortable. I've had arguments where I was visibly shaking and I didn't think they were intense at all definitely not bad enough to make my body have a reaction like that! Being INFJ really is a blessing and a curse, but I wouldn't change it for the world! We are all beautiful souls who love the deepest and strongest. Maybe that's why there are so few of us. It's too bad that unfortunately we're often taken for granted and abused.
@JordanSedai5 жыл бұрын
@@jennymowery79 I'm kind of just talking to myself here, but this may be why I have a pretty short fuse (I think infj's often do). Because we're escalting our own emotions based on the emotions of someone else, who may or may not be instigating intentionally. And that can just cause escalation in a situation. When we're being targeted, we dont have time to apply the logic based thinking to ourselves like we nornally would (after the fact), and have to deal on an emotional basis. But if the other person is being hostile, it can be hard to mediate that without another side to work off of that you have an idealistic view of and that you may think deserves the tempered mediation. I thinking working on figuring out who you are can help you see yourself as more of a tangible entity to work off of (and actually create distance from in the moment) and kind of use to mediate in a tempered fashion with.
@lizzys.78065 жыл бұрын
@@jennymowery79 I totally feel that way! I struggle so much with conflict. I am feeling whatever I am feeling towards them - while also feeling whatever their feeling toward myself! It's a wreck. And yes, I will get incredibly shaky and agitated. I don't know what to do with all that energy and emotion. It doesn't have anywhere to go. :( But I appreciate how sensitive I am and how I can see other's perspectives so well!
@shaheedawilliam4985 жыл бұрын
Yes yes yes!
@rachelbass79145 жыл бұрын
I like your profile picture! My name is Rachel Naomi (ESTP). :)
@dayondastribling50805 жыл бұрын
Immediate emotional intimacy: We blab our innermost desires and wishes and dreams. This gives Narcissists & Users the exact details on what to do to play us. It's not a good thing to do.
@stellabella28274 жыл бұрын
So TRUE. Warning: BE CAREFUL of This...Educate yourselves on red flags of Narcissism. You will be SOOOOOOOOOOOOO GLAD YOU DID. *Know Their Traits* so you are AWARE of What to Look for. Because not knowing...well let's just say---you WILL Fall victim to them and they will Manipulate your mind like a damn alien! It's Ugly and you will take Forever to heal from it all. *Stay FAR AWAY from them!*
@hmac1634 жыл бұрын
Mood.
@LindyLooo994 жыл бұрын
UGH... so true.. I hate that about myself.. I was married 22 years to a narcissist... UGH.... I'm INFJ-T
@drdyna4 жыл бұрын
While true, I can usually spot a narcissist almost immediately, so the couple of instances I've had where I had to deal with one, it's not terribly difficult to flip the tables on them.
@Yun_er4 жыл бұрын
I have a friend who is kind of a narcissist but we are kind of close we laugh all the time but i think it must be some extreme narcissist you are talking about 💀 for now i have not met one.
@daybydaystonebystone3 жыл бұрын
About the online dating... I actually really enjoy looking at different profiles...for no other reason than learning more about different people. I dont really care much for using the app for what it's for, but I find it really interesting to, in a sense, discover more about other human beings😂 Can anyone else relate? Literally, I'm completely useless on a dating app, but I get a kick out of the stories people share 🤷🏻♀️😂
@Nightwalker25-m3u Жыл бұрын
That's.... what I do...... .......... ..........yeah................
@joellemartin4466 Жыл бұрын
Oh my gosh SAME!! Lol I have done the absolute same thing. And thought to myself “ what a weirdo “ 😂😂
@joellemartin4466 Жыл бұрын
Same 😂 I thought I was the only one.
@AliSalicia4 жыл бұрын
He said “it’s your girl” and I almost spit
@Tterror5104 жыл бұрын
Lmao I died
@minhngoc83873 жыл бұрын
Damn I spit a few times during his other video on INFJ
@gloriaw13793 жыл бұрын
Yep I was like did I just hear that?.
@sidratehreem65743 жыл бұрын
I was looking for this comment 😂
@akanshakapoor32483 жыл бұрын
@@Tterror510 I read that "and I almost die" 😂😂
@zachscheunemann5 жыл бұрын
Just an INTP passing through, getting more information. Don't mind me
@evelynda52355 жыл бұрын
shhh. don't give us intps away!
@katintp58545 жыл бұрын
Yeah I reckon 😜
@MegJuniper5 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@magsayojane97084 жыл бұрын
Hahah
@AncestralGratitude854 жыл бұрын
Howdy 👋
@TheRealRyebred4 жыл бұрын
Definitely look out for this Young INFJ’s. Also you CANNOT save the narcissist’s!! Run!!! 🏃
@daniellehaythorne79493 жыл бұрын
YESSSSS!! Well said!
@isidoragonzalez232 жыл бұрын
Im old enough to have developed a bigger understanding of life and now i do more INFJ things, but im young enough not to notice when people take advantage of me. And what does narcissist mean?
@saramayaempireproductions86903 жыл бұрын
I cried through this entire video because I never knew myself until now and I feel happier to be able to have more of a grasp on my life I’m a young INFJ having a hard time in life right now... it’s lonely.
@katrinamareen5 жыл бұрын
Not sure if its just me as an INFJ or other INFJ's but I tend to exaggerate the truth to make people happy and comfortable.
@idar37035 жыл бұрын
That's the Fe overriding the Ti. ENFJs have a bigger problem with this.
@savagestudio96665 жыл бұрын
@@idar3703 Holy yes
@evegreenification5 жыл бұрын
Yep. I spoil them, according to my son.
@russelalmanzor40565 жыл бұрын
What do you mean by this? I'm also INFJ and curious. I do like to tell the truth but I'm not sure if I'm exaggerating it in the first place haha
@katrinamareen5 жыл бұрын
@@russelalmanzor4056 for example... when someone is telling me how they feel about something, I will lie about my own experiences with a similar situation, so they feel like I understand them...
@janetabs53394 жыл бұрын
"INFJ's can absorb other people's emotion" Me an INFJ: *rolls eyes*
@awurama23804 жыл бұрын
😂 😂 😂
@toria97994 жыл бұрын
I do, but I can turn it off.
@TimVerry4 жыл бұрын
luckily we are also good at building walls/bubbles/distance around our true selves lol It's fine to observe and take in other people's emotions but don't forget that they aren't your emotions and do not have to weigh on you.
@user-bi5op4tb4q4 жыл бұрын
@@toria9799 samee heheh
@God_37123 жыл бұрын
I did the same thing! Haha
@underground78795 жыл бұрын
It's "your girl FJ" omg i never laughed so much on an intro in my life
@OuTcAsTzA5 жыл бұрын
Is he bi ?
@bestbirdbuds67465 жыл бұрын
Bi means that you date both men and women. I think you may be confusing it with gender fluidity. Not angry just clarifying😂
@bassovereign2005 жыл бұрын
@@OuTcAsTzA , he is just joking.
@OuTcAsTzA5 жыл бұрын
@@bestbirdbuds6746 shhhhh my bad guy is great he has so much knowledge of self
@_can_dy31802 жыл бұрын
As an INFJ Me outside: having normal student life, friendly and quite.. Me inside: have loads clouds of thoughts, crazy' n confused, questioning everything, overthinking before speaking, changes my personality acc to the person I'm with... But I surely have the most colourful and soulful inner life with loads of fun and love...being INFJ is hard but I love it 💜😌🌈
@cymaxo4 жыл бұрын
I feel like I've just been hacked
@bellefiori5745 жыл бұрын
When I found out I was an INFJ I asked the most INFJ thing ever. Why God, WHY?????
@drennanspitzer63875 жыл бұрын
I kinda like being an INFJ! it’s like a fun, quirky club.
@cerseilannister79855 жыл бұрын
I ask the same question, too. I feel like it's a curse. 😔
@mtb1hero5 жыл бұрын
When I found out I was an INFJ my response was ... of Course, it all makes sense now ...
@DavidStMichael5 жыл бұрын
lol I was like well yeah I kind of knew that, but WHY didn't I do something with it that could possibly benefit ME?
@janeofthejungle45 жыл бұрын
Finding out I’m an INFJ at least gave me a point from which I could then begin to orient myself correctly (for me) inside this crazy upside down world which I do NOT easily fit in. Might not be easy, but it IS so worth it. It’s nice to know I’m not just a collection of disorders or something else horrible, which WAS what I thought I was before I learned the MBTI thing. I see it as relief and a blessing💚 That said, when I learned about my INFJ title, I sat on the floor and bawled my eyes out in a flurry of so many good, bad and all the emotions in-between. Then I began RESEARCH🤗
@violetchadwell4 жыл бұрын
"Dial down this image of your soulmate" That hurt
@daniellehaythorne79493 жыл бұрын
FJ often says things that hurt. But they are very helpful, huh?
@isidoragonzalez232 жыл бұрын
The one sided relationship one is very true, my mom always tells me to be careful because my family manipulates me all the time and sometimes im too naive to notice.
@practicallyheidi85054 жыл бұрын
INFJ parents totally understand "we are not raising kids but adults". 😂
@Wanderlust33 жыл бұрын
I’m totally guilty of this 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@audemoon37205 жыл бұрын
Hi Frank , recently discovered that I’m an INFJ and I’ve been doing a marathon of your videos and it’s been so helpful ❤️
@arturoargandona56105 жыл бұрын
Audemoon, the same here really helpful videos!
@drennanspitzer63875 жыл бұрын
Don’t you suddenly feel less alone? ❤️
@audemoon37205 жыл бұрын
Drennan Spitzer not really but I understand myself better. ❤️
@DavidStMichael5 жыл бұрын
Same.
@mallorielouann5465 жыл бұрын
Me too :) It's crazy to hear his words because it feels as if he's reading my thoughts. Really neat experience.
@aristaprasandha8594 жыл бұрын
Absorbing other's emotions makes me drained so much energy, I always tired.
@soobinsaqtxt30213 жыл бұрын
Same that’s why I hate socialising and tend to ghost people
@BrightLad3 жыл бұрын
What you talked about regarding the “social games that we know how to play - but we still experience things such as anxiety “ that resonated with me very much. It’s hard to describe or put across to people because it’s almost like being manipulative or pulling some strings without them knowing but it’s in their best interest and to make then feel better! You described it well 👍🏼
@eleonorafresia63374 жыл бұрын
I never felt so understood in my life
@negin14215 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately these are for our family and our "friends"( that i don't think u have one if you're infj) ... and i think WE just keep watching these kinda videos ti know about ourself... this should be watched by my parents or anyone i know...but we are just alone with our world and nobody will come! So let's keep watching these type of videos guys and stay together we have ourselves only.. i guess ;)💔
@wingwaves9405 жыл бұрын
If we truly do, we have Much!! Gotta just love all the Muchness in a FJ video and all his very cool posters!!!
@negin14215 жыл бұрын
@@wingwaves940 it means you are happy with this concept !? Which means u love being an infj?!!
@wingwaves9405 жыл бұрын
@@negin1421 I'm honestly not sure if I am or not. I know that somewhere in this house is a complete test I had done years ago and I can't wait to find it! I'm thinking I probably am and that's ok too. Mostly though I HATE LABELS!! I've fought long and hard to prove I wouldn't be put into some comfort box of anyone else's thoughts! I literally had to Fight my way through grade school to,prove my right to exist!!! And in my career teaching children who came from some of the most horrible backgrounds in Philadelphia History, I refused to let them believe they had to spend their lives with whatever labels others slapped on them. I think you should be the Best lisa fa you Want to be!!! Anything you want to change and don't know how, there's plenty of us out here with our arms wide open for you to fall into and help all we can! Xoxoxo!
@negin14215 жыл бұрын
@@wingwaves940 OMG .. YOU made me cry with all these respect and lovely response... I'm really in a bad mood these days and i don't know what am i suppose to do.. I'm in the hardest time of my life and you gave me really hopefully massage .. thank you man 💜💜
@wingwaves9405 жыл бұрын
@@negin1421 Awwwww now you're gonna make me cry. You can always write to me at wingandwaves@gmail.com and vent away :)
@rumaduma55464 жыл бұрын
"Try not to think 10 years into the future" Sorry to say but everything's planned out 20 years into the future.
@Tterror5104 жыл бұрын
Everything is pretty much planned to my death lol
@Chinthyy4 жыл бұрын
@@Tterror510 same lol 😂
@YSFmemories4 жыл бұрын
I just don't understand; how do you decide what to do if you don't think about the future consequences? How can people live NOT thinking about the future? I literally cannot wrap my mind around this concept.
@rumaduma55464 жыл бұрын
@@YSFmemories same. Whenever I do something I need to have possible outcomes before I decide whether to pursue or not.
@christinemccoy44714 жыл бұрын
My 1, 5, 10 year plans, got me to early retirement, debt free. We are extremely focused when we plan and act upon the plan. Makes up for all the other crazy inside
@rootintootins3 жыл бұрын
I recently found out about the 16 personality types, and I quickly learned I was an INFJ and obviously as one I had fixation on finding out about it! I found this channel and it's really help me to understand why I stress out a little things, and how I can actually understand why I'm am like I am if that makes sense. Sorry to ramble on I'm terrible with my explanations.
@prkhrshrmaaaa5 жыл бұрын
Well.. you did forecast the youtube commercial.
@FrankJames5 жыл бұрын
tru
@beatrizcansado80805 жыл бұрын
ikr 😂😂😂
@nerdypasta4 жыл бұрын
The problem I run across often is trying to accommodate for everyone's personality types. I will adapt my personality to make people fell more comfortable around me. It ends up being extremely draining because my brain analyzes their reactions and doesn't let me just enjoy the moments I have with others.
@fatimazahraelfitah65955 жыл бұрын
After binge watching you videos norhing on youtube is entertaining anymore.. it feels so good to feel understood!! I started your videos not expecting much because i’ve been reading those articles and i thought your content would be pretty much the same thing but dude did you blow my mind with just how accurate EVEYTHING you say is!! Thank you so much for this amazing content ❤️❤️❤️
@arabazar13 жыл бұрын
Life of an INFJ: misunderstood and a lonewolf
@jaegrimm5 жыл бұрын
As an INFJ I hate it when the natural perceptiveness combines with my social anxiety. It makes an interesting combo. "He just sighed for the fifth time is he tired or stressed?" "Well, we have been sitting here for 30 minutes." "Oh my god, does he hate me?" "Does he hate me and I've just been missing that?"
@goldensunflower2295 жыл бұрын
jae.grimm that’s me in a relationship ;/
@albrunelle20105 жыл бұрын
YES! 100% in the one-sided relationship thing...if you don't watch out for this, it will make you bitter and resentful when you are in your 40s. I am truly envious of anyone who figures out their personality young.
@jenniferm60425 жыл бұрын
Yes! He certainly hit the bullseye on that! So many get stuck in the narcissistic slow death trap.
@emeraldeyes86885 жыл бұрын
Yep yep yep.
@shannonglaser25065 жыл бұрын
I'm bitter and resentful and I'm 16 XD
@etressa79915 жыл бұрын
Albrunelle, man, I wish I knew about this when I was young as well! It explained so much about the conflicts between my Mom & I.. Being a little mini-truther & she, a huge fibber .. What I thought was just correcting an error... Omg I must of humiliated the hell out of her! lol she couldn't just say "shhhh honey, tellin a fib here" that would be admitting to something... Rince and repeat.. I guess being born under the sign of Leo & have 6 planets in that sign, very much balanced out my introvert, in reflection.. I became aware of the test no more than a yr ago...it has opened up a whole new understanding... Im not crazy after all! Lol
@flamingsword7775 жыл бұрын
@@shannonglaser2506 im 40 and that cracked me TF up!! 😂😂😂👏👏👏
@rekalisztes33334 жыл бұрын
When he said that INFJs shouldn't think ahead so much / not predict everything about the future, I automatically started to think about what's gonna happen/where would it lead if I don't think ahead that much. 😂😂😂😂