INFJ | Defining the #1 INFJ personality trait in the rarest personality.

[@REV1517]

I agree 100% I have come to love my loneliness because it is exhausting trying to dumb myself down for small talk. I also can not stand people who make the same mistakes over and over but want sympathy.

[@marty_glenn]

Yep. Sounds about right. But try not to be... ;) TYWC - Marty

[@nathanbrown3442]

As an INFJ…it is a pointless conversation and exhausting process that makes life frustrating. This is a great video to help express the internal struggle.

[@AlbinoCrow]

As an INFJ, I keep on backwarding the video because I keep on losing my focus thinking other things. 😅

[@marty_glenn]

Hi Soil. Focus! lol - Marty

[@eliseross9163]

One word to describe this.... BEAUTIFUL

[@smallworld5769]

Have done this all my life,still zoning out 😭

[@Ashish8363]

ugh... so true

[@audreyvendramini5388]

That movie "Arrival" made so much sense. She knew it was going to happen. Etc. I mean, trough our lonesome painful and apparently one sided personal choices there is so much love involved.

[@rcr-zt4of]

As an INFJ I have realized I have never set boundaries. I’ve had to rebuild my friend circle and it has been tough but in a lot of ways I feel much better about myself and knowing where I need to be.

[@vermillionbunny7922]

This is part of the reason why I love my ENTP husband, he discusses the different options with me, listens to my solutions, and actually tries them out. It’s really good having someone like that, finally feeling that you’re not being ignored, and that you’re valued.

[@marty_glenn]

Yes. He has a solid self esteem and respects and cares for you with those actions but better said: " He understands woman. I would bet he has a relationship with his Mom that is real and honest." TYWC - Marty

[@jennifercox-arnett5602]

O....M....G.... Finally....! The more of your videos I watch, the better I feel; the more courage to express myself, and the less remorse I feel for NOT saying, "I'm sorry" for speaking my views..... Thank you!

[@marty_glenn]

That is great and fantastic. What more could I ask for? Oh ya, no hate comments. Thank you for letting me know and that is really a great thing. TYWC - Marty

[@jennifercox-arnett5602]

@@marty_glenn thank you. I really appreciate your replies, and the time you take, to reply... awesome 😁👍

[@DarkKittyfx]

This was really great insight. This happens to me all the time and it’s even worse when it’s family. I tell someone what is obvious to me the right answer and they just do they’re own thing or go backwards and I end up being right. For example this friend I have had a terrible ex and I tried telling them not to get back with them because it wouldn’t workout, but I knew they would get back with them and they did. I ended up being right. Its really difficult when you’re right 99.9% of the time. Then no one ever listens and it’s frustrating. Thanks for this video it really opened my eyes.

[@marty_glenn]

You are welcome. TYWC - Marty

[@amberdawnlawrence5515]

I laughed so hard at "Yes, that's bugging the shit out of me!" because I was just thinking the same exact thing! Great video as usual, and thank you. I am binge watching all of your videos and I'm learning so much!

[@marty_glenn]

Hi Amber. Glad you liked. Like I said if you want my take on anything just send it over rover and I will do it. Who knows I might just be right? lol Thank you for the nice compliment and watching me. TYWC - Marty

[@amberdawnlawrence5515]

@@marty_glenn I'm still going through your vids so I would hate for you to rehash something that you already covered. But I enjoy them immensely and your take on them. Realest talk that I've heard since I found out that I am an INFJ-T. Most of them are fluff pieces (even the Dark Side ones), so this is refreshing. I don't enjoy being an INFJ. Very few perks other than finding out why I'm weird and others are just as fucked as me.

[@marty_glenn]

Hi Amber. Haha. "Very few perks other than finding out why I'm weird and others are just as fucked as me." - Funny TYWC - Marty

[@Leatherneck1057]

This is a very intuitive teaching. I recently had one of my bosses ask for my ideas on some changes that my department needs to run more efficiently. I thought about the dynamics, weaknesses, needs of the department and drafted what I thought was a simple, common sense idea. I was reluctant because I knew beforehand I was wasting my time and that my idea would not be accepted. Recently, I picked up on something said that let me know my idea was not an option (no shock there). I am taking steps to exit a senselessly chaotic working environment, not because my idea wasn’t accepted but I can see what they are leaning toward (basically status quo) is not a viable solution and I just hate being engulfed in chaos and overwhelmed by sensory overload and not being able to complete tasks. I want to be associated with efficiency, organization and competence, which promotes harmony and morale.

[@marty_glenn]

Change is scary. Being shown how easy change is toward a positive and more efficient way of doing things is insulting. Now you have to deal with your boss seeing nd feeling all of this and now deal with their emotions. See how quickly this escalates. i know you do. Great comment. TYWC - Marty

[@Paul-eb2cl]

@@marty_glenn Reading those words I realised I all ready knew that, but your words just let me know I already knew that. Awesome!!!

[@דיןהיכל]

I really enjoyed this video. I don’t think a non-intuitive would be able to follow you. Well done.

[@marty_glenn]

Thanks. Many cannot. Glad you did. Thank you for the comment.

[@candyvannatta1745]

I love how inarticulate this explanation sounds and how well I understand it 😆

[@marty_glenn]

That is funny. Not sure how I do that. Story of my life. TYWC - Marty

[@mohitm1911]

Well articulated

[@ItsMeNanaD71]

Then they listen to the solution, yet still don't act on it, the issue never gets fixed or only temporarily fixed, they come back with the exact same problem. Why do I want to help again when you didn't act on it before? I have one friend now due to that dragging me down & sucking my energy, she's also an INFJ. One thing I'll never say is "I told you so" because I don't like it said to me. I'm huge on leading by example.

[@marty_glenn]

Also true. I think what you are describing is one of the most complexing things for the INFJ to deal with. Let’s see if your frustration and my idea about this point being so popular among the INFJ’s is right?

[@asukas8156]

Word for word I feel the exact freaking same!

[@GenerxXx]

You nailed this so hard. The way you explain it is perfect. Ni dominant function is intuitively so fast, that people don't take me seriously when I talk. This happens to me EVERY day at work, just because in the mind of every one else, every one is just talking for talking in a meeting, and think I do the same. In the long run however, when people or collegues know you, they value more and more what you say, just because things often turn out the way you said it. And then you end up helping everyone... That makes the transition to the last part of your video. You attract the wrong people. That happened to me too. Borderline girlfriend that took me to the abyss with her. I took me a HUGE effort to get it, and to get out. Done it. Been there. Never doing it again ever. The good thing is, just like you, I have a natural filter to detect people that now are in my scope of knowledge/intuition. Bless you Marty. I really appreciate what you're doing.

[@marty_glenn]

Thank you. You cannot make this up. Right?!? TYWC - Marty

[@ronmccallum8169]

Welcome to my world! Almost word for word what goes on in my head. I became a Chiropractor because I thought I could truly help people but I quickly learned that my patients did not want to help themselves. I soon became so overwhelmed that I went into a severe depression which has been an ongoing battle for the last 25 years. Dr Ron

[@marty_glenn]

Well Dr. Ron. I think it might be time to understand that the depression you are feeling is not clinical depression but a part of the INFJ and you might be surprised how normal that depressed state of mind is and how tricky it is to navigate but is doable. Now if you think it is also clinical then you have a problem my friend since the INFJ will only make clinical deeper and more real. That is tough. I hope this helps in any way. TYWC - Marty

[@rachellel]

Aw. I feel ya. Happens to me, too.

[@RaximusPrime]

Hey Marty, I just discovered your channel today. Love your delivery. This lecture really hit home for me, I was married to a an INFJ who was only 21 at the time. Arranged because of our military bloodline. I didn’t know what Jungian Depth Psychology was back then. I would say I know enough now to scare the crap out of most. My ex wife now picked up all her mother’s narcissistic traits from her mother, it’s a country where narcs have a power advantage over the general population. Turns out, about 6 years after the separation I finally understand the main point, or what I believe to be the reasons why she just destroyed anything great from coming to into reality by her by narc tendencies and inability to exert any physical force and control over daily tasks. And she’s also got ADHD, plus I overlooked all her red flags. I forget where I was going with this message, I’m really resonating with your delivery and key points

[@wwtv361]

Working on a team or making decisions by committee are roads to madness.

[@marty_glenn]

Hi wwtv. yes. I will not do it. I see and I am out. Seconds! TYWC - Marty

[@Jarroddking]

Yes, I just learned this lesson. It's so funny because I was just thinking about this today. I can only stuff down my INFJ-ness for so long in a group.

[@patronus4460]

I really love your videos. Gives me that precious feeling of being understood. Also, your way of explaining things and following your thought process is refreshing. It’s very evident that you know what you’re talking about. Thank you.

[@marty_glenn]

Hi Ruth. Thank you and know that comments like this help me get through some of them and the comments and are always so helpful and great to read and feel. TYWC - Marty

[@RaximusPrime]

Hey Marty, I just discovered your channel today. Love your delivery

[@mrfez892]

Brilliant Marty, thank you. Where do I apply for an INFJ refund/ exchange? This life ....

[@duderanch18237]

Man I'm so glad I found your channel. It's crazy how relatable this is.

[@marty_glenn]

Thanks for the compliment. TYWC - Marty

[@danielaelzaki4518]

Oh my god! I'm just on the 5th minute and I want to yell EXACTLYY!!! I can't believe someone is just describing my own mind.

[@marty_glenn]

Hi Daniela. That is great. Glad you found it worth your time. TYWC - Marty

[@Paul-eb2cl]

I know how you feel. After a lifetime spent thinking I was alone on this planet finding this channel is like coming home.

[@angelacarleton9575]

I have never was smug to say, "I've told you so or dismissed the person by saying I knew that?" It sounds so wrong to come across this way to those you care about. The part we make is to show empathy and kindness when there is conflict within that person. However, the fact that what I have learned is people assume they can get something from you by playing a victim of their own situation when actually they won't stop and figure out how to find ways to meet those financial situations by getting a loan, or a second job. How do I know because I don't give advice without claiming things I know to help others as it has helped me. The sad truth people want things the easy way or regurgitated and placed in their mouth like small birds waiting for their mother to finished regurgitated already.

[@marty_glenn]

Angela... I have read each and every comment you have placed within my comment section. I appreciate that but I would do this if I were you... Study the cognitive functions of young and become an expert in the difference between 'Behavioral MBTI' and 'Cognitive Function MBTI'. I do believe that will help you and also, please keep in mind that I answer every comment and many of your comments are just not related to the deep meaning of my channel but just you giving a soft opinion of the deepness of the MBTI / Jung cognitive functions or behavioral meanings of personality types. I am going to send this comment to all your other comments so when they come through in a few minutes please know why. If you are confused or wondering: "Empathy and Sympathy are not within the INFJ MBTI cognitive functions and I am not sure you truly understand why that is and believe it." TYWC - Marty

[@truthteller1973]

Glad you are explaining this hard to believe but seem like these characteristics are mine. Thank you 😊

[@robobie8263]

At 4:50ish - How do you learn not to tell them? I watch myself trying to stop myself but I still do it. It does not even feel like a choice? The feeling of not trying to help someone overwhelms the negative feedback I have experienced from the world when I have previously been in this situation . I am aware I am not acting in my own best interest but go all-in anyways. Well I guess that for me to figure out. This just occurred recently in the work environment (again) and I have stewing on it for a bit. As a result I am back in research mode and came across your channel. Listening to someone further on the journey has made me smile and lit my fire to improve. Thank you Mr. Glenn. BOL to all us.

[@marty_glenn]

Hi Rob. Looking into this a little more okay. Stand by... - M

[@ambilaevus7607]

Yep. Totally true. Even bread crumbs toward the solution won't help...

[@LysippeLee]

I offer advice and let them decide. If they take it great, if not, it's no skin off my back. Some change their minds later when you aren't around. Or in the case of my husband, after years of rejecting my advice (ENTJ) he has seen me be right enough that he actually has gotten to where he always asks my opinion on things. He analyzes it, of course, and he doesn't always take my advice. But he now always asks. And that says a lot.

[@marty_glenn]

Trust is a big deal and another point is he is a man so being a leader is understanding strengths and weakness. Sounds like he figured it out. Good guy. ;) TYWC -Marty

[@sofiealvestad120]

you are a great teacher. thank you so much for what you do. i come from a narc family.grandmother, mother, father, brothers and sisters all narc. this really will help me. again thank you. i will also show this to my two infj friends. they need this too. i am watching everything you do because i know i will never be disappointed

[@marty_glenn]

Well I hope that is the case because I cross lines. So glad for that. TYWC - Marty

[@EmeraldEdge72]

A boundary for me is watching the chaos unfold it kind of sucks, but that's basically my boundary when I know I will not be heard, listened to or accepted.

[@marty_glenn]

I think that is a good boundary. Keep it. TYWC - Marty

[@gayatrimatapurkar933]

Marty u r gifted .... And don't u forget it for a moment..... Love....

[@heathalee]

And they get soo much enjoyment out of watching your frustration and decline sapping your soul, with a smirk on their face. Don't worry tomorrow it will be like nothing ever happened - you must have made it all up in your own mind.

[@marty_glenn]

HaHa No Comment ;) TYWC - Marty

[@radiantly_fatime]

The truth is, our mind just can't help it really. Can't count the number of times I've had to solve issues in my head then keep the solution to myself because they won't listen. But I'll admit, the solution you provided is most appropriate!

[@marty_glenn]

Whatever keeps your smile. Stick with that action. TYWC - Marty

[@jenniferrevilla5298]

Great explanation. I've always said I wear a sign on my head that says use me and people do. I have to learn boundaries, not easy but necessary. Good advice.

[@marty_glenn]

Very good advice. Please do. TYWC - Marty

[@Morphjin47]

It's really weird and fascinating watching this as a young INFJ-male (26 years old), seeing my thought process lectured and drawn out in a video like this. Growing up to this point i resented a lot of people who reject my help or I had a falling out with after I helped them thinking ive been used, since then i tried to work on my communication skills (especially my listening skills, even though we naturally make great listeners, I think we tend to get too stubborn and focused on the "solution" and dont "Actively listen" to the other person, and this results in conflict, falling out, fights, arguments, abuse etc) and I have recently already started trying to use phrases you mentioned like "I care about you and here's my solution" (I try very hard to not say "take it or leave it" or something like that, because it sounds defensive for me, but it also makes the other person defensive too). So far its come with mixed results :/ and I've even been called a sociopath by someone who i wanted to help then they ghosted me for 2 weeks in the middle of conflict (they were an ISFP). The hardest thing for us INFJ's is dealing with conflict and the other person "needs space ", and we don't have the power to resolve the issue anymore. I felt completely used and called a sociopath by the end of it. The next path of my self-reflection and maturing is working out how to set my boundaries, communicate properly whilst also connecting with people to build long-term friendships. How do we as INFJs get close to people without scaring them off?

[@marty_glenn]

I could have written this comment. You are way ahead of me at your age. All that you see me do and I think, as a result of thinking about your comment, it is the way that it is because of this: Every single video that I do is from me and my experience. My pain, if you will. What I draw and talk about is from real life and years of thinking and reflecting and healing. Maybe that is why it is the way it is. I’m not sure. All I know is I am being me and fully transparent. Your compliment and comment makes it really easy to continue to do. Also, the videos as self expression help me a lot, as you can imagine. I think your doing good and if I compare you to me; you are doing excellent. Thank You for Watching and the Comment (TYWC) - Marty

[@Morphjin47]

I really appreciate your comment Marty. A lot of your videos hit me on a deep psychological level thats hard to explain...I just wish i could share them with my friends and loved ones but I feel like nobody will watch it/care about me enough to watch it idk...i assume you can relate to this as an INFJ lol. I just wanted to know exactly what is your background/professional skillset because i cant find anything on your about page aside from you mentioning you do videos on the economy and business and you have a website linking to a skinscare business which i imagine is your own? would love to know how you got to the stage where you wanted to do videos on INFJs to help fellow INFJs. I am about to do a degree in a Bachelor of Speech and Hearing sciences to hopefully end up doing a Master of Speech Pathology because i feel like being a Speech Pathology is a great way for me to be a "councillor" without getting too attached if i were to become a therapist as we INFJs tend to do. Whats your thoughts on that? Prior to this decision I tried recruitment for 2 years and worked at a bank and both were horrible experiences for me because even though i was great at connecting with people, I hated the micromanagement and dealing with KPIs.

[@marty_glenn]

Hey Chris. Thank you for that. Yes. I can relate and even with my own Mom. In fact, many times I have looked my Mom in the face and I have said: " How can I expect anybody to understand me and who and what I am, if my Mom cannot? " It was a very sad thing for me to say and experience and realize. TYWC - Marty P.S. Would a video on what I have done for my life help? I could do that and then everybody would know.???

[@Morphjin47]

@@marty_glenn haha i can totally relate that with my own parents, I just had a big fight with my family today because i had absolutely no sleep last night and currently have deep chronic physical pains on my hands and feet, and my family dont ask/dont care and i just wish they would ask how im going or how im feeling but they dont out of some weird feeling of arrogance or ego (we're also Asian which means we're even less likely to find expressing our feelings as natural). Yeah a video would absolutely help! hell I know as an INFJ i know how uncomfortable and unnatural it is to talk about our past success (especially the successful part). I would love to help if you would like? maybe we can do a Q and A sort of thing so it feels like im a just a friend who's very curious to how you became who you are today? Let me know!

[@marty_glenn]

Hi Chris. Asian culture can be a winning thing and a very difficult thing. I will do a background video on me so everyone knows and that will help a lot as to many questions. As for Q and A, sure, keep it in the comments. As for my path now... It is on these videos and taking a singular approach because I want everything to be pure and not influenced by anything or anyone; not easy to do but so far I have been able to handle it. TYWC - Marty

[@zt870602]

This is like my 2nd comment on yt. So strange feeling when the thoughts in my head which I had a hard time all in my life to interpret or express to others now coming out from the mouth of an unknown face on the internet. Can relate to a lot of your videos. Thank you for doing them. Best of wishes.

[@marty_glenn]

You are welcome and thank you for the kind words. Appreciate them. TYWC - Marty

[@Thysta]

"Street smart" How well put thank you Marty.

[@marty_glenn]

Is there any other kind of 'SMART'? ;)) TYWC - Marty

[@HinaAjmal-]

Yes it makes complete sense that ENFP might be the number one compatibility type for INFJs but through experience I would say INFP is even better for INFJs because of the in-built respect and humility on top of having all the benefits of an INFJ-ENFP relationship. I'm sure you'll enjoy this video if you havnt watched already..Do watch CS josephs video below precisely from time 34:30 kzbin.info/www/bejne/qJe8aKCseZ6MntU And have a great day :)

[@annayudin290]

I had to tell my brother that he cant come to me about his situation anymore because he wanted to be the victim. Albeit, he had followed SOME of my advice but still wouldn't make the final step to get out of rhe situation. 2 years later, he is still in that situation and it's very sad to see him slowly rot away..

[@mdawg7038]

I have struggled with this my whole life. Last year at age 49 i figured out i was an infj. Now, how i deal with it is a live and let live attitude. Let them figure it out for themselves. I don’t interfere unless someone asks me for my advice/opinion. If its a close loved one i will drop some hints to them. Im focusing more in myself these days.....

[@marty_glenn]

Yep. Practice True Empathy. Here it is: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rWezfGRja7OgrrM TYWC - Marty

[@mohitm1911]

Inherent understanding .... When in the box...by themselves.

[@marty_glenn]

Have to believe yourself before anybody else will. Easily swayed is easily forgotten. TYWC - Marty

[@chriselliott8509]

A problem I have had personally is anger that stems from being depressed. My wife and I have been through a lot and I have always been there for her. The resentment that comes with that is heinous. The depression from giving a person your life force, as it were, leads to outbursts at times. Especially in tense situations. I didn't always know when to walk away. You have to know that. More so when the person you love has bi-polar, ptsd and panic attacks. Knowing you triggered that kind of hurt, for an infj, is the worst. Which leads to further depression. I was the hero once...

[@marty_glenn]

I spent 3 years with a person like this. Watch my earlier videos on BD, BiP, NPD, MNP, PDSD, cPTSD. I think they will really help you. I have over 100 videos on the shubjects. Look at my play lists. Need help? Ask me. TYWC - Marty

[@usmcrosiles]

It really is hard to stop. But we understand that there are some people that we get, NEED TO TALK TO JUST TALK. So because we do that we dont want to hurt their feelings. So we wait to let them finish saying what they're saying. Then we talk. If not then no. I'm probably just talking to talk too lol Love the video

[@marty_glenn]

That is right. ...and are you kidding. Most of the time I am talking to myself because instead of going out and doing it, I can stay home for free and do it and then just go to bed and not feel the pain had I gone. Sorta kidding. Sorta lol - M

[@charlietriana9448]

Hi Marty. I enjoy your videos. You are correct. I am same as you in the personality not same in other ways. Lol. Don’t worry I watched your video and it’s funny I think I would go through that worry about how our words are perceived as you do. I can see the brain spinning as you speak. Think about the IQ as a Star Trek tricorder. it picks up measurements from every part of a room or environment. We are human versions of that trying to process all that but our own emotions sometimes get involved. we can see past the minutiae right to the source of an issue. I may not have made sense but that’s how I read this and understand this video

[@marty_glenn]

Hi Carlos. I get it Carlos. I do. Interesting take on it Treky. ;) MajQa' TYWC - Marty

[@michellej.1111]

That was HOT!!! 🔥 🔥 🔥 Can I say that? 🤣🤣 I dont feel alone, or strange. Someone else who relates. And seeing others who agree too! I've watched a few videos so far... Ive been looking for you all my life! 😄 🤣 feeling some "killing me softly" vibes rn. 🤣🤣😆🤣 For real... Thank you for being so open and sharing!! Id love to hear your take on INFJ and codependency, as well as empaths... if you have any content on that, can you recommend please. Im also stalking your videos myself to look. TYIA!

[@marty_glenn]

Yes. You can say that. :) Let me look into your question. TYWC - Marty

[@ellengriffin1547]

Thank you for speaking this truth.

[@marty_glenn]

I try. You field the haters and I will keep doing my best. ;)) TYWC - Marty

[@TimeWaveOfficial]

In my first relationship before 3 weeks she said i would be a narcist. Im not i hate these people. After 10 years im now alone and thats ok but i ll never trust woman anymore. She said i always wanna be alone at home and do my hobbies - i said i need my time i love family but if there are family ppl hating IM OUT. After she broke up i thought im a big fucking weirdo. Now i know my personality better - i will go to a therapist and will find self love.

[@marty_glenn]

Good for you. TYWC - Marty

[@asukas8156]

It took me a long time to figure out that majority of the people just don't want a solution neither do they want to work together to fix the problem all they want to do is get angry , wallow is self pity, feel slighted and just be heard and have their emotions be validated by someone (this is where I come in). And somehow I will have to learn to be okay to just listen and provide validation rather than just pushing out solutions and then getting ignored , and end up feeling used . The worst part is that even though I know all if this it's still hard for me to follow my own advice because I just can't stop this extremely strong need , desire to help out people even when I know they don't want it. Often times than not I always end up thinking "hey maybe this time it will be different" (it's not) and to now I can't stop trying even though I know it will end up only hurting me in the end . The thing I need to fix the most about me is feeling like other people and their emotions are much much more important than me and just mine can go hang out in the trash cause everything I feel is just wrong and I'm not supposed to be feeling it.

[@marty_glenn]

Many of the same words have been said in the comments on this channel. You have the right approach. TYWC - Marty

[@asukas8156]

@@marty_glenn I'm still a long way from following my own advice but I am definitely trying my best .

[@marty_glenn]

Very good. - M

[@a.marvellehoneyman4560]

Really helpful. Thank you

[@marty_glenn]

Hi Marvelle. My pleasure. TYWC - Marty

[@evideus]

This Issue

[@marty_glenn]

HI Andrei. Does that mean I pass? TYWC - Marty

[@funkymunky]

We have to protect our intuitive hearts with facts, reason, and logic.

[@marty_glenn]

Hi Funky. But not to the point that we treat it like this piece of crystal. Right? But yes with care. I just think some online take it too far. TYWC - Marty

[@funkymunky]

@@marty_glenn True, that! Balance is key. Thanks, Marty. New subbie here, still going through your content. Eye-opening stuff, perfectly delivered.

[@romideyy]

I absolutely get lost at times, disconnect from reality, get into my own head totally, don't deal with human around me, but at times i'm a social butterfly for few hours/ mins/ days....then boom! disappear, i'm done.

[@marty_glenn]

Yep. That is how it goes. I know it well. TYWC - Marty

[@AgeofMachines]

Learning a lot from your videos.

[@marty_glenn]

Hi AofM That is great. Glad to hear that... ;) TYWC - Marty

[@rosaliethon4495]

yes.. those who use me... i go thru that often.. i now.. have to limit my time with them... i felt bad.. but.. i can't babysit adults... i have boundaries.. protect myself.. and i understand my IQ.... oh I LOVE THIS MESSAGE...I SO NEEDED IT.. ..I WANT TO BE VALUED.. yes.. they have sucked me out of life...

[@marty_glenn]

Boundaries. Set them or someone else will set them for you. TYWC - Marty

[@KMR1776]

I have a different approach. I look it like this: I don't live in a world that is for me or build for me. I no longer have a dog in this fight/society. I navigate this life and hope I'm lucky enough to find people to share worlds with... And I harshly vet people. It's a highly exclusive club.

[@marty_glenn]

Simple. Okay and I get it. That will work. TYWC - Marty

[@balludagrate]

you just explained me.... i heavily struggled with developing boundary from a vicious narcissistic abuse....my intutions where heavily guiding me but i kept ignoring, reason-Alone/Depression..!!! after some couple of months without any closure, I just door slammed her completely.. feeling pity of myself why i helped her even though she abused me.....! now a strong boundary is intact....

[@marty_glenn]

Hi Hello. ;)) Good for you! TYWC - Marty Keep them boundaries solid. !!!

[@fendymashups]

Thanks Marty

[@marty_glenn]

You are welcome. TYWC - Marty

[@impfirebird25]

Master multi tasking minds in fractions of a second an if ur not a infj u possibly can't fathom it hints the we have telepathic powers haha no just very fast. hints ur high I.Q Good videos. People don't know how much it takes for u probably to do videos like this bc no telling how many times uv dun did them in ur head be4 even doing them for us : )

[@marty_glenn]

Actually life is hard and the videos give me an escape. Just me and me alone. It’s the comments and my ability to explain it since so much depends on so much. What I do next will explain a lot. TYWC - Marty

[@btchc01n15]

this reminds me so much of the vicious cycle with my mom. decided recently to cut from the root and stay by my boundaries, even though it hurts so bad.

[@marty_glenn]

Your boundaries will show you her true self and intentions and the pain will go to zero as that becomes clear and oh how you and your self esteem will grow. :)) TYWC - Marty

[@benwilliams5236]

@@marty_glenn Yes - it's quite amazing to see their mask literally drop and reveal the monster behind the smiles. It's liberating to see just how cowardly and pathetically weak they really are. It's so satisfying to know that they went to the grave knowing that their chains are broken and their controlling power destroyed. I'm looking forward to healing and fulfilling my life's purpose.

[@MammaKush88]

All of this is easier to accept when one or more of ur parents are a narcissist that loves to play victim

[@marty_glenn]

LOL I have nothing... Nice comment. TYWC - Marty

[@colegreenleaf9791]

The thing is I do know

[@jaysonmuzuruk6604]

Does this mean I am prone to being a malignant narcissist? How would I solve that? Simple love? Getting out of my head and out of defense mode in my mind?

[@marty_glenn]

hi Johnny. Be more clear if you can and I will try to address it. What you asked is a big question and needs to be refined a bit. Goooo. ;) TYWC - Marty

[@evideus]

Healthy boundaries for yourself and others, also unconditional love.

[@mohitm1911]

The sensing IQ ...well differentiated. ...

[@marty_glenn]

Offering outside the box ideas. Always doing my best. TYWC - Marty

[@drusillialeavel7533]

My propositions of solution practically always worked . Because I never give the final solution. I put them on the way so it mean I give the stage 3 or 5 before (but something simple) and from their point of view they can come back to the current stage. And for some cases I propose one second solution, that I know they would not follow because it is to evident for them it won't work. But like those are the last stage of the solution they have no other way except to do the solution itself. And like they done the end of solution by themselves they rarely do the same mistake again. For the dishonest they will tell you they find it on their own. For the others they are nice with you (they are often to embarrassed to say thank-you) and you can see some kind of gratitude in their eyes . Worth to try.

[@marty_glenn]

Hi Drusi... wow. too much work but wow, that is effort. 'A' for effort! TYWC - Marty

[@drusillialeavel7533]

@@marty_glenn Tanks if we can hep other INFJ it may make a better world. After all nature made us fore that purpose.

[@marty_glenn]

Hi Drus... So it goes right? TYWC - Marty

[@drusillialeavel7533]

@@marty_glenn I don't know but it is wroth to try. Who knows', may one of us will find the way we don't go to slam ourselves against that wall; what is the end of our kind. After all nature may giving us the chance to stay on this planet in peace. If humanity die an other species will take the place (nature low). :-)

[@marty_glenn]

Hi Drus...Always worth a try for I feel this is fact: "If you do not try are you not giving up on yourself?" TYWC - Marty

[@Pinkdaimonddragon]

💯% , My phrases, “I been knew that” , “I already know “ , “I told you so” , “tell me something I don’t know “and this one “but you don’t listen “. Sometimes I fake a “I don’t know “ and sometimes I really don’t know and I don’t care. And yes, it’s very frustrating to give someone the solution to their problem but most people do not want . Their problem to be fixed. They just want to play the victim and have people kiss their @$$. You know what I tell those people? I tell them not to ask me for help or advice. If they’re not going to do anything to fix their own S&@?. Because I don’t appreciate anyone wasting my time and effort. 🤓

[@marty_glenn]

I just close my mouth and say nothing. Am I older then you? Maybe that is why but I applaud your effort. TYWC - Marty

[@Pinkdaimonddragon]

Marty Glenn 👍🏻

[@Pinkdaimonddragon]

Marty Glenn , Are you asking me, how old l am ?

[@Pinkdaimonddragon]

Marty Glenn 😳

[@Pinkdaimonddragon]

Marty Glenn , Maybe you don’t understand. I rarely burst out like (above) and only with people really know. And who have gotten under my skin. Thinking they could do whatever they want because they’re grown. And then they want me to help them fix their problems. But a lot of times they don’t want to take my advice. I listen well to people and I’m very patient , passive and I give people different solutions. On how to resolve their issues . But when I see that they keep getting them self’s in trouble. That’s when I give them a peace of my mind. Because if I just stay quiet, they just keep coming at me with their problems. So I have to put my foot down, so they can respect me and back of.🤓

[@cjharisson2805]

I just offer alcohol. And drink a lot myself to be an example.

[@marty_glenn]

True that. I feel your self remedy. Just wine? lol Thank You for Watching and the Comment (TYWC) - Marty

[@tessjones5987]

I think stories help. I deal with Anorexics. I say this my story.I tell them what I did. I never give direct advice. I tell them my story. I think that is why 12 step works. They hear other peoples story. Thank you for sharing this.

[@marty_glenn]

There is a dark side to the stories and while the 12 step is successful it does have a high relapse percentage. Reason being: It is your story and not mine. Funny how its success is also its failures. TYWC - Marty

[@dinov_20]

THANK YOU!

[@marty_glenn]

;) TYWC - Marty

[@13thgenerationamerican51]

I’ve learned to speak my truth, then move on. It’s important not to get too attached to results. They are out of your control anyway!

[@marty_glenn]

The perfect answer for when you are all alone on a deserted island. I am just kissing. Great comment I am just poking fun. ;) TYWC - Marty

[@bhmoye]

It took me over thirty years to figure that out.

[@marty_glenn]

You are doing good. Better then me. TYWC - Marty

[@nickranieri5095]

🇨🇦_M_INFJ_idk_74_Libra. Hi Marty. My apologies in advance for possibly mixing up videos and doing a poor job paraphrasing you. In another video I believe it was “the wizard”where you go through the stages of an INFJ’s life, got it made sense. I’ve been working through them. Started shutting some people out, setting boundaries and protecting myself a while ago. Started trying to take care of myself. I got it ,woke up fuck it !! The thing is if some of these people go down, they take me with them. No problem I’ll survive, Been there before I’m ready!? Ah maybe. So what to do? Watch them struggle and drown. Which I’ve done at times and doesn’t feel good but oh well. Go back to being used and abused? Maybe that’s my, our purpose here as an INFJ? Is it possible we are meant to be the shock absorber or punching bag? Or Fuck off and disappear and leave everything and everyone behind ? Just me and my mechanical/ electrical devices to tinker with. Be inside my head and go crazy. Any of the above scenarios does not feel good or right. I don’t feel right writing everything above. I come across as a inflated narcissist, who knows everything and does no wrong. Im a simple man, without special skills or knowledge just common sense and awareness. I believe I’m somewhat of a “quality person “. Maybe I just expect too much from others? Why? Or is the quality of others really that low? Lower than mine ? Oh shit!! Anyway don’t hold back (I know you won’t)I’m thick skinned and almost a knuckle dragger. Oh ya profanity is okay also I’m Canadian Ay!

[@marty_glenn]

I could have written this comment. Want to hear something.... What if complete isolation is the goal and a KZbin channel to make it happen. What about that thought? You think that thought is right or healthy? Yet... I am running down that path as I type this... We will see what happens. Ay! TYWC - Marty

[@nickranieri5095]

I don’t think it’s healthy. None of this is really healthy. But Myself and I imagine you and others need to keep going. Maybe try and balance between the piles of shit lol? Lately the only time this stuff doesn’t burden my mind is when I’m doing my own thing. Away from work and society in general , at home physically working and tiring myself out. Is it possible to think too much? Maybe these are modern issues mainly. In the old days people were too busy trying to survive? Life was more in balance, physical stress meant less time to think. Less time for bullshit etc. I don’t know what the answer is, but I’m too stupid to quit I think? So I’ll keep flip flopping and ranting and maybe some good comes of it. Maybe Stoicism ? Is that even possible for INFJ. I need to stop rambling.

[@GypsiesandInk]

I soooo relate, have secluded myself for a couple of years now except for a few kind friends. I think we are to learn ourselves & about others and find a balance within that knowledge. For me, staying busy is helpful, and I definitely do not miss being used & abused. It is an adjustment to go from constantly being with people who do not have my best interest in mind, to a peaceful yet lonely place of existence. I am still learning as I go.

[@MBYorkBeauty]

My daughter is also INFJ, we are so much alike and she recently did the test twice and both times came out same..explains so much! Is this something that is learned or hereditary? Curious as to INFJ's in a family.

[@marty_glenn]

Answer: hereditary I believe in nature and nurture but first nature. TYWC - Marty

[@tanyasart5746]

Thank you.

[@marty_glenn]

You are welcome. - Marty

[@DanJoymonger]

Couldn't watch with the high pitched sound in the back ground.

[@marty_glenn]

Sorry. it is an old video with old sound. TYWC - Marty

[@digitalbobby42]

Marty - just tell us what planet INFJ are from because earth is clearly not our home world.

[@marty_glenn]

That would not be a planet but a black hole. That is not a bad thing at all. Do not believe all the bad things people say about them; truth is they do not have a clue what they are or what they do. Ya, they are dense. Light doesn't escape. I get it already?!?! LOL TYWC - Marty

[@deborah1533]

As an INFJ watching this video I'm having a hard time relating to what ur saying about the ego... i can relate to the IQ/ALONE/DEPRESSION but as far as the information that I have found come so naturally, in the past i had often thought of as common sense but have come to realize is really uncommon sense; regardless it is not something that in anyway create a sense of ego since I am aware of it being a natural part of me (such as my face or my eye colour) I therefor am not responsible and can not take credit for it... anything that I did not personally work for (I'm not talking about thoughtful decision making) I mean actual work, how could I possibly allow for ego to become involved? I'm going to watch some more video but this talk of INFJ in relation to narcissism I find uncomfortable and unrelatable...

[@marty_glenn]

That might because you view the word: Narcissism as a negative. It is not. Take a look at my play lists and see the reality on the subject. Narcissism is a good thing; it is not a bad thing. I think that is where you are not relating which would make perfect sense. - Marty

[@stringerchick3650]

This is exactly how my brain works like to a T. Already been down thos route sorry it doesnt work... people get offended no matter what... you go and say you've given it a lot of thought.. they wonder how? And if it isnt as long as they have been thinking about it they are offended you think you can solve there deep upset ( which is quite shallow) quicker than them.. or they listen and they dont like the outcome you failed to explain might happen as you have already seen the outcome and thought it was self exploratory Just saying

[@marty_glenn]

Key words here.... " thought it was self exploratory " TYWC - Marty

[@shewolf982]

....at mark 6:35........I paused the video to comment: Marty, I’ve been waiting for whatever comes next...HOW Now, I’ll continue watching Okay...video complete. My head is spinning with memories and I feel angry. But, you helped me situate where I’m at Thank you Marty

[@marty_glenn]

I will try my best to explain in video coming... TYWC - Marty

[@ms.tokyoo]

I feel like all these INFJ videos are scripted. Its like someone is reading my own life from a text book. I wish I wasn't an INFJ but this is the only thing in my life that has made sense to me and its giving me a feeling stability.

[@marty_glenn]

Ya, I cannot help with that: Scripted? Nope. Just turn on the camera and go. You cannot make this up. TYWC - Marty

[@ms.tokyoo]

@@marty_glenn im sorry Marty, It wasn't my intention to offend you when I said, "scripted". I ment that your videos ring so true to what I know and feel its like its ment for me. Your videos have given me such an understanding of myself it is lifesaving. I was in a really unhealthy state but your videos among others relating to INFJ, camelion effect, love and trust, have made me cry multiple times just from the realization and understanding I get from them. Thank you

[@Eagleoneradiogod]

I knew that, that's so me to a tee!

[@marty_glenn]

Funny how that works...right? - M

[@Eagleoneradiogod]

@@marty_glenn yep.

[@marycain5668]

I have a very high IQ? Wow I feel valued!!!🤣 Thanks for noticing!!!🎯🏆🎖🏅🥇🥈🥉🎱🔮

[@marty_glenn]

okay. ;)) TYWC - Marty

[@wesmckenna8287]

I have an 138 iq which is 1.5% of the population. I am an INFJ - A male which is less than .5% of the population. I am alone but I have so many things I love to learn about and practice so I am rarely lonely. On the contrary I feel completely drained after I spend time with other people.

[@marty_glenn]

What do you think my IQ is? :) - M

[@Senator_Senart]

Hey Marty if you want to know more about the 16 personality types go get the book Please Understand Me ll by David Kiersey...best book I've ever read by far!!!

[@marty_glenn]

I will but not know. I have to stay on the MBTI for now but I will. I promise. TYWC - Marty

[@dbdbprairie3804]

They react to solutions like Linda Blaire reacts to holy water.

[@marty_glenn]

That is funny and then they spider walk away from you. TYWC - Marty

[@chronoszeus9267]

But the problem is not they did not take your Idea, (But Because they said, it's non-sense [your ideas])Then, they waited, or maybe they've done all they can and failed on their ideas after they have exhausted all their ideas and resources, But afterwards, they will use your Ideas, and of course, it will work, and then, Someone will be recognized/awarded for it, instead of you because it was your ideas to begin with. That's the Real Issues that Bothers most of the INFJs'! The Injustice of recognitions to whom it was Due, even though Most INFJs' did it for the benefit of all! An INFJ's just wanted the right recognition for the things they did rightfully. I guess, this is the part where an INFJ's wanted to belong, the part of him/her. Not to get an attention, or praise but to belong instead. Make sense? LOL, LVL LOL! God Bless!

[@marty_glenn]

To the degree the INFJ's effort increases the level of success, is to the degree that the INFJ wants recognition in the most discreet way possible; invisible might be the correct right word. TYWC - Marty

[@mohitm1911]

Y does humanity struggle with facts when they are outstanding...y would being brilliant ... As is Marty ... Explain its not narcism....

[@marty_glenn]

It takes a lot for a person to lose people around them or a job to protect what they believe in. Self esteem is everything. TYWC - Marty

[@Thysta]

I now admit back then I unsubscribed you because of this video. I already gotten so much blame that when you mentioned the word "narcissism" I was like you know what GTFO. I totally agree with you now. Yes I have this arrogance and narcissism but I had it because I knew it was "righteous". But 1.) it hurts the other person's pride. Like come on you come from eating a burger and giving a life solution in a second. 2.) Dysfunctional as you said 3.) Unneccessary. Thank you!

[@marty_glenn]

Sometimes a different view is good. You kept watching which is a good sign of a solid self esteem. TYWC -Marty

[@philipoosthuizen]

I relate so much, just been through a dark alone time due to this exact issue. Thanks will make some changes...so obvious.

[@marty_glenn]

Great. Best to you. TYWC - Marty

[@triple9862]

I don't always take advices from others even if they are right ant I know that. Why? Because I think in a different way and I have to figure out and answer in my way. I guess people could not take an advice from an INFJ because of the same reason. They may not be narssicistic. And also the reason why you are trying to figure out other peoples problems is not a high INFJ IQ, but deep desire to save others. And this desire may not always be a good thing. This people savior mentality comes to an INFJ from a narssicistic parent or parents that blamed an INFJ child for their problems. So what you've said here is not a solution. Solution is to chillax and stop giving a damn. Become a god damn Buddah under a tree who sees the world falling apart, accepts it and stays chill.

[@triple9862]

What do you think about that, Marty?

[@marty_glenn]

At some point you have to stop with nurture and place responsibility on the soul and the foundation of the person. You CANNOT constantly keep looking to the child and say, "Who spilled your milk?". At some point in time you have to address things and then move on and accept. You cannot keep digging and digging. This is unique to everyone. For me: I went as far as my deepest thoughts that were or are connected to my deepest sadness and anger and I addressed it and fixed it and came to be one with it. From there I do not dwell on other things and take a positive attitude toward me and my life. You have to call it day at some point and you will never see me do a video on this subject because it is not up to me to talk about it. It is very individualistic. Did I answer you? TYWC - Marty

[@triple9862]

@@marty_glenn thank you very much Marty. Yup, you've answered my question. And I guess it may not be as individualistic as it may look. I mean that a lot of INFJ has to go through similar process as you did. And also I'd like to ask you a question. Do you still hate being an INFJ after you've cleansed your sould in this way you've just described?

[@KMR1776]

Okay one last video then I'm off to watch other things....

[@marty_glenn]

Like what? Maybe I should watch it too... ;) TYWC - Marty

[@northstar1318]

I can see that you are trying to confuse us.

[@marty_glenn]

Hmmmmmmm... You can see? What diagram did you see that lead you to that decision? I rarely try anything...there is only do or do not. In closing, when I make an attempt to confuse, there is a reason. What is my reason as you see it? TYWC - Marty p.s. I love Star Wars, by the way, and Yoda has the best grammar in all of Hollywood; Captain Kirk is a strong second place.

[@rebekah1216]

Frank James= healthy INFJ..... This guy ...? A little iffy on the ego. LOL..........I'm seeing a few red flags here sir.

[@marty_glenn]

Hi again... I’m confused. Because I heard, I don’t care either way, but talk around the water cooler says... Frank James is not an INFJ. Second, on my channel ( comment section ) there is no calling people out on their type and or this healthy or unhealthy bullshit. Do you realize that when you talk about ‘ healthy or unhealthy INFJ ‘ you are perpetuating this crazy differential or rarity complex with the INFJ type. I will address all these points in a video soon. With that said, if your going to act like this please don’t watch me. The reason is because all the videos are just me and all about my life and how I see life. To attack my view is one thing but how can you attack me on a personal level? That’s fuck’d. As I said, please unsubscribe if you have and please don’t watch me anymore. - Marty

[@artscience9981]

I have to say I didn’t know what to make of Marty’s communication style at first , but several of his videos have been absolutely right about my life experience as an INFJ. I think he is just trying to be absolutely genuine and avoid pretense of any kind in the way he communicates. That’s my INFJ intuitive interpretation of his style.

[@marty_glenn]

You are 100% correct. Well said and thank you for getting it. TYWC - Marty