INFJ - SAY NO, FINALLY BE SEEN - Here's Why

[@1ReikiFloW]

we are not here to please others, contrary to popular belief .

[@braxtonmills1235]

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[@grumpyschnauzer]

I’ve been practicing saying No a lot lately. The other day, for going somewhere I didn’t want to or hanging out with someone that drains me or even seeing a depressing movie with someone on a day that I’m in a good mood. For example, I tell my sister and my mom it’s my turn for them to listen and get to know me better. My mom is an ESFJ too and she loves the gossip and taking other peoples emotions and problems on… then on top of that she loves watching tv shows that embody a heaviness and dark emotional tone. I just say No to watching movies and shows with her because they really bring me down. I’ve also gotten better at asking myself “What is this actually going to cost me?” If talking to my sister will cost me a morning of peace I put her off for the afternoon. If she brings up a 100th complaint or gripe about small things I don’t encourage her to continue the conversation because it’ll cost me the next half hour of my day. If I’m at an event and getting tired or restless I tell myself it is better to leave early before I get tired then spend the rest of the time feeling quiet and not as conversational or trying to hide to find peace and relief.

[@corporaterobotslave400]

Exactly what I was explaining to my best friend last night 'til 2 am on the phone. She's INTJ. The only way to gain respect with control freaks is to say NO, turn them down, and deny them. This is the way to become NOT a doormat. Let them freak out: they're just exposing how immature they are and how badly you need to remove these toxic users from your life.

[@R.S-1986]

Your peace is worth more than someone's opinion. 👌

[@lifeinitalianmountainvillage]

I hesitated to say "no" to people who i felt would create a temper tantrum afterwards, which seemed to be unbearable more than say yes to them. It was many years ago. My feelings didn't lie to me, i smile back into their surprised faces now.

[@Frida211]

I think you are treading a fine line here. It's not necessary to say yes to everything, but sometimes, considering other people's feelings is necessary, like leaving a party after one hour is outright rude and hurtful. This may work for you, but for many others, it won't. Be careful not to destroy your relationships.

[@spiritwanderer777]

Your videos are so informative and on point. They helped me become a completely different person. Big thank you ❤

[@Trizho]

Great video. Your hair looks amazing

[@adatybor]

You guessed it, I love the thumbnail 😉! Your hair looks fantastic today 😍. It looks really good on you, especially the wild strands! In combination with light jade and red it's even more awesome. Great speaking. One of my favorite videos because you shine so much ✨!!! Am I the only one who keeps thinking of Uramaki - Inside Out Rolls? Probably. Have a wonderful time and merci, Wenzes 🙂♥️💛🎃👻 (I have a lost "J" here. Can you pick it up?)

[@Wenzes]

Thank you so much!! 😊 I‘ll fix the J

[@sagebay2803]

Wow! This was exactly what I am going through! Thank you, thank you!

[@mlbullbooks]

I’m all for saying no, but the problem is when people don’t know how to grasp the concept of boundaries, accept rejection, and leave others alone because of their own fears and insecurities. If they don’t have boundaries, they won’t respect or understand why someone else has them either. Nonetheless, we don’t have to over explain ourselves once something has already been stated. INFJs, don’t let people stress you out unnecessarily. Just mind your business and go on with living your life in peace. 🦋

[@sagebay2803]

Txs. This helped me.

[@corporaterobotslave400]

It's YOUR job to remove yourself from the presence of toxic people who violate your boundaries in the first place.

[@starlightmusicdisk]

Beautiful hairstyle Wenzes !:)❤

[@Jamestmtm]

Infjs are the only ones to say yes now even that's going to stop it's a sad condition 😢

[@SupaMac1002]

All my 'yes' been coming with payment for about 10 yrs now so I dont feel bad about saying yes or no

[@queenwarrior281]

NO is my best favourite word now 😂😂😂 it's so fun and highly empowering ❤🎉

[@BestBFam]

Thank you for your videos.

[@MonikaD________l]

Wenzes, you look so beautiful, and the hairrrrr! ❤

[@vincentkretzschmar4988]

Is it essential? Choose essentialism. If you don't need to do it. Then don't

[@suguntoliido1461]

❤

[@Narayan11131]

Thank you 🙏🙏

[@mariaisabelmendiola9670]

How do you say no to the self that still healing ? ❤

[@mr.j8568]

I'm not an INFJ, I'm an ESTP and this is totally off topic but if I may ask what's your astrological sign? Scorpio/Libra Sun? I'm related to an INFJ and know them well and I've noticed a trend towards the usual suspects of Pisces and Cancer being prominent among them but also sometimes having Scorpio rising or Leo sun a/or Gemini placements. The Biggest Tell on whether someone is an INFJ or not for me is their eyes.

[@exhibitjean]

This reminds me of how if you want to help others, be sure to put your own oxygen mask first.

[@MBAinternetmktg]

Don't feel like talking to your relatives? Seems a bit harsh.

[@Wenzes]

Not if you don‘t have the capacity for it. I want to talk to my relatives through and because of love and not because of guilt. Otherwise there is always a sense or resentment. On the other hand when I don‘t get pressured and the relatives are happy and grateful that you speak, I actively seek out to talk to them.

[@MBAinternetmktg]

@@Wenzes you may feel differently someday. why should you expect that your relatives are grateful that you talk to them.

[@Wenzes]

I am grateful to talk to my relatives, so I think they should be too. It‘s a blessing to have people who love you in your life. I think it‘s super important to have this conversation because there are probably people reading this and thinking: yes, I should be a good niece, I have to talk to my aunt whenever she wants. But what if you are maxed out, because you are taking care of your 2 toddlers nonstop (like I have the last 3 years) or you are just exhausted. It takes energy to make space for people and I want to encourage everyone to first make sure that they have enough energy left for themselves to get and be at a good place and then reach out to the people you want to have in your life. Don‘t let guilt or social pressure force you to make space for people why guilt trip you, who drain you and so.

[@squekysane1483]

its a relationship. do you always feel like talking to your partner or friends? No, also relationships can be draining especially with family its worse if they have no regard of your well being and constantly want to bring chaos

[@iamnoteric]

even when i dont want to talk to them and do my own thing, they will hover nearby and i can feel like they are observing me and trying to mirror the things i do, like a codependent type of attachment. either that, or if i call them out, then they actively try to ignore me or block me out. i understand the magnetism we have but this invisible tether has me in knots!

[@agotakolman7418]

❤

[@ryanday5320]

So, basically morph into an INTJ 😌 My mom, along with three other close family members, are also ESFJs. I felt such a rush of empathy when you shared about your Mom.

[@braxtonmills1235]

I love ESFJ so much wonderful loving people.