INFJ, YOUR POWER OF WALKING AWAY IS EXTREMELY ATTRACTIVE

[@R.S-1986]

We dont chase, we attract in a natural and loving manner. If you find yourself chasing, you know you're with the wrong person.

[@MaryDunford]

Agreed. I've had misunderstandings where both people wanted to sort it out. That's a very different experience than trying to work with someone who isn't interested in mutual understanding.

[@joshuachase9742]

Well said. There's someone in my life who appears to be playing that game with me right now, and although it hurts me to do so, I've started the process of letting them go.

[@marcwatkins3996]

​@@joshuachase9742same, such a painful lesson.

[@riyajacob2909]

@Wenzes, I reached a big milestone -Left a 18yr old marriage with a Narc last week.Congratulations 🎉 to me ! Appreciate your support and motivation 💪🙏❤

[@LEONLOVESMUSIC]

Congrats 🎉🎉😮😮❤

[@sonikmystique]

Nobody likes a narc

[@aspaceodyssey_2001]

congrats!!!!

[@greenb.7144]

Congratulations. 🎉and prepare for the new ride 💪

[@braxtonmills1235]

Yay:):):):):):):):)

[@Jasonwritescode]

I'm not difficult to love. People may project that onto an INFJ, but that does not make it so. I would say that goes for all of you just the same.

[@Candyliz2003]

Because I have been so willing to allow others to "have their way" - in spite of causing pain to me - the result is that *I AM NOT VALUED.* When I let others do as they wish and I don't have boundaries that protect me, I am saying *I am not worthy.* Remind yourself over and over: if you can't or won't put a value on yourself, then, how can anyone else see that you have value?

[@di_decaire]

Some people use boundaries as a challenge to break them deliberately - to break you. I gave one simple one that was smashed over and over. I finally got out.

[@LindaChapman-u2c]

I didn't really realize until retirement how much of a superpower being able to walk away from toxic people, employers & situations actually was. I see so many people trapped in situations that are draining or destroying them & I feel blessed to not be there. TY for helping me learn & understand myself & my strengths better.🥰🙏❤️‍🔥

[@debr4613]

I had a psychopathic mother and I'm INFJ I learned at a very young age to walk away from situations. It drove her nuts but I felt so grown up. I also never swore at her even when she would it gave me so much strength and self confidence ❤ I love your channel 😍

[@vivianMarvin-z6k]

Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of him. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for him, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.

[@Ameryarina]

It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.

[@vivianMarvin-z6k]

Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?

[@Ameryarina]

His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@Ameryarina]

he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.

[@vivianMarvin-z6k]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤

[@LindaAldersley]

I just walked out of my job today because of toxic management, so crazy that you posted this now. Divine timing. Thank you . ps. if anyones advertising any jobs in North London, let me know.

[@msmanager2775]

Well done to you . I did exactly that last year. Left a high position because of sans reason and not being seen how much I was doing for the company. Dropped the job like a hot potato big door slam! Now old boss is asking me back. I thought oops 🙊 that’s awkward 😂

[@kristyboxx]

"I can’t be investing so much of my mental space on people who are not able to give me something that makes me feel good. I can always tell myself that it is possible to simply love the other person from afar. Boundaries is allowing a space where you can love thyself and the other person simultaneously." Thank you Wenzes, I needed to hear these words as they helped me feel more grounded and aware of the possibility to actually love people from afar. For some reason I kinda thought you have to be close to other people in order to love them and show love, this video is kinda an "AHA" moment for me.

[@Virvepaulina]

God, this woman knows me 🥶

[@SiddityPrincess]

Yes. Self-preservation is so critical in our own growth. Absolutely agree.

[@braxtonmills1235]

PROTECT YOURSELVES INFJS. A boundary is a place where I can love myself and love you at the same time wow. I will learn this. This is deep. Basically we have to have boundaries even if they hurt some people temporarily. It protects Us and helps them learn if they are capable of learning. If they are not able to change then we don't need them in our life. If they want to change they can come back however most people do not change only some can.

[@kiileetsoku2397]

Right ??

[@braxtonmills1235]

@@kiileetsoku2397 ;);:)

[@methodmuse]

One of the hardest lessons for me to learn is that I don't have to go overboard with the slam or try to justify it others. I sometimes do a slow-slam to give people a chance. I pull back into lower contact and see what they do. Often, they will self correct and respect the boundary. Most people treat you how you show them to, and we don't have to yell, they can feel us. INFJ-A, love your videos, thanks! 😁💖

[@di_decaire]

Tried the slower door slam and it lets him down slowly in my mind. But he got so riled and upped the aggression. The slam has no lock yet but will eventually. It was so hard because my love was so much more authentic than his. He fake broke up with me repeatedly as a threat when I treated him like pure gold. I was so angry but all the energy he took made me weak. I am regaining it all back.

[@rambultruesdell3412]

fellow Empaths: just say, "No" to the people who hurt people.

[@MaryDunford]

I needed this today. I'm relieved to hear I'm not the only one who loses their cool when too much toxic bs is chucked at them. I don't like myself when it happens, tho. My biggest fear is ending up a cruel, callous, abusive person. Too much exposure to such people, with too little exposure to genuine people, really saps the decency from me. I can't be at peace without living my ideals. I *need* peace, and it's worth protecting. Thank you.

[@LyraMeldy]

I recognized the reality of situation and left BEFORE anything bad happened at all and walked away aka doorslamed, and saved my heart,and its how I operate. Dear INFJs never ever ever undermine or ignore your intuition its such a great gift,we always know.

[@LabelsAreMeaningless]

I used to open fully to people I cared about and ended up losing myself in the process. Shattered over and over again. I do not do that any longer. I may have let myself be broken too many times but it showed me that relationships are not for me. I chose me.

[@WonderStarz]

This personality of mine drives my mother nuts, she's a bit narcissist, she loves make people less and being in control especially with us, my brother and I, every time she wants to engage on verbal abuse I just walk away 😂, (nope, sorry mom that won't work on me), I literally dissappear until she contacts me and apologizes, I've noticed that with the years she's been less manipulative than before, and tries to not argue as much, that's good, I think, maybe it's the age, but because it's my mother I can't really walk away completely from her, if she's trying to be less toxic, then I'll try to help her too.

[@stevenmartin4009]

For some reason(s), your last 2 videos really hit home for me. Thank you!

[@BrujaElemental666]

Hello Wenzes I wanted to thank you for your videos my life has change so much after I’ve learned that I’m an INFJ I’m 25. To be honest when I’ve first heard about infs for me it was like describing an neurodivergent person, i dint know how much I was going to learn and understand with this videos about me. I pray🙏🏽to the universe🌌for this information📖 so I can understand me, and watching you is like you can see me naked 🤣

[@RonniBateman]

Wow. So timely. Thank you, thank you, thank you. 👏🏼

[@jaystarr8626]

This is very true! I’ve learned to start setting boundaries and not let people affect how I view and love myself. Learning about my attachment style is what helped me realize that I didn’t have boundaries. I tend to attract narcissists and learning what it means to be INFJ with my attachment style helped me to start setting boundaries with people in my life. As of right now I am totally happy and feel like I’m succeeding in life. I feel I’m moving forward towards the things I want. Thank you for all your insights and information!

[@sigmainfjbulgaria4478]

Respect and care for your self first.

[@brendamarie7241]

Made the decision to treat undesirable people like a transaction. This has made me so much more centered and not emotional. I act as though I am completing a project. . Do what needs to be done, no more, no less and move on to the next thing.

[@joshuamercado4925]

one sided relationship, have to move on and learn what I have to to avoid that in the future

[@jolynn8732]

Good talk. ✌️💛 Sending Positive Vibes 🌞

[@Natalie-lf7hb]

For me it has been very very difficult to NOT to help those who i KNOW i can. But some just don't want to. Or are not able to. Or for whatever reason. I don't need to know anymore why. Because it does not matter or change anything.

[@lisadaluz1498]

Excellent insight and understanding of what INFJ can go through. I have done this over giving my whole life. I’m just now waking up big time! Standing up for myself in a fourth marriage. I’m done waiting for him to sacrifice for me. I’ve waited for 10 years. Peace is my birthright! Time to take care of myself for the first time . I’m 63. Thank you so much for your wisdom Wensez.

[@JacobEarnest-h9i]

Thank you for your insight Wenzes!

[@joshuachase9742]

This video is perfectly timed. Someone to whom I've been close has damaged my trust. I gave it some time to make sure I wasn't overthinking it while paying closer attention to their actions, and have concluded that it is on them and not me. I've already started the process of backing away, but am still struggling with the feeling that I'm letting them down. However, my boundaries have clearly been violated, and this helps me to stay strong in acting accordingly.

[@kate-oliveira]

This was the best video I watched on the topic :) Thank you, please continue..

[@raeperonneau4941]

“I cannot be around drama. I cannot.” I have never felt so seen. 😂 The older I get the less patience I have for it. My mantra has become, “Do not bring me agida.”

[@ShawanaAlicee]

read the forbidden book Magnetic Aura on Borlest, and you'll see the secrets they're keeping from us.

[@cazmatazzify]

SCAM

[@danielleb2466]

You are so good- thank you for your info! Been learning so much and also finding so much validation - THANK YOU!

[@Stumpybear7640]

Hi Wenzes, is this autobiographical? It properly struck a chord of having lived through this experience for me. AND it spoke deep in my heart. Much love ❤❤❤

[@pentaq]

very important lecture and lovely pastel color theme. thank you.

[@daveboise_2222]

Thank you. Came at just the right time.

[@kiileetsoku2397]

I loved this. So much truth in it. Thank you

[@lindateuling7862]

I left two groups - simply walking away - because of discriminatory and bad treatment. The first time I simply stopped coming and made no explanations to anybody as to why I disappeared. The second time I allowed a little bit of time to see if I understood them right and to give them the benefit of the doubt. I finally realized that it wasn't going to change and I left it, too. I actually told the second group that I was leaving, but didn't tell them why. Whether or not it might have been better if I had told them "why" is now a moot question. The important part is that there was a limit to how much of it I could put up with and still act maturely. My INFJ " door slams" were more like "disappearing acts," but the important thing is, I made the choice to do my own thinking and direct my own life instead of relying on them. I've stayed away from groups like that ever since. The people in my life whose opinions I respect agreed with me wholeheartedly. But the important thing is that with or without other people's opinions, I know I did the right thing. And by the way - I love your definition of what a boundary is! It's one of the best I've heard.

[@wannabesage5870]

Wezes it's a cool video. ❤. I feel we don't show ourselves, because we feel misunderstood and judged and hence insecure. What are your thoughts on this.

[@antilloob]

Thank you, this touched my heart the most, of all your videos i watched so far the last month.

[@md5329]

I think it is very important to walk away from a situation at the very first serious red flad. That's how we can grow self respect for ourselves immediately. No benefits of doubts that never works out. We should never wait for the other person to disrespect us the second time because it will be much hard to feel respect for ourself after that and honestly it can't be reversed with the same person. If we fail there will always come another lesson with a different person and we will have a chance to do the right thing for ourselves. But we will never have a second chance to do it over with the same person in regards to our self respect. Its a matter of use it now or lose it forever.in my opinion. What I'm saying is no negotiation no begging no closing one eye, just leave without explanation and never look back. That's how self respect is built. Because there are unlimited opportunities to build healthy relationships with so many other people and we don't need to feel desperate to make.it work with this one particular person.

[@angelarrkhu4606]

No feelings it means just wait.

[@themountainsandthesea4121]

Thank you!💗

[@kikitaube-hansen]

Thank you. Such a great vid again. It makes situations clear again.

[@luciana1930]

Thank you

[@angelarrkhu4606]

4 times i felt the wind in my body going inside my room but did not lift me yet to the sky. But im ready anytime.

[@AmorosoGombe]

Thank you so much for making so much sense of so much.

[@alisonjones3057]

This is so difficult because the people closest to me are destroying my peace 😢 I can't cut them out .

[@braxtonmills1235]

Do you want to get out.

[@elliottsmith7530]

might have to redefine what it means to be "close" to you if your currently definition/version ruins your peace🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@joanndeck4315]

I had to “leave” my 28 yo son…..he got upset he wasn’t in his grandfathers will (my father) and stopped visiting him in hospice….didn’t even acknowledge his death. My dad was an EXCELLENT grandparent….better than my sons father (who completely abandoned our children when my son was 13)…anyway I just can’t get over THIS…..he has done many horrible things before but this disgusted me to my soul…..😢😢….however I STILL felt that instant “relief” once I decided….

[@jonathanlee8709]

Thank you. I myself walk away frromom toxic relationships, as i treat others fine but there are people like to pick on others. Unfortunately, and as Wenzes said before, if I remember right, they need their own medicine. I did dig deep about what is what. What bordering me now, perhaps its that some of those are my relatives, and my wife keeps on annoying me as she demand me to simply gathering with them. Btw, I refuse and I see no point my wife stands on. If go on reasoning, I can, but not again again and again. Maybe my wife simply wants harmony. But I am not the one to start the fire and I did tolerant but this makes them to think they could do so to me. Forget it. I am based on human rights and the core value of people should respect others, and justice.

[@fabiolucianodasilvaluciano9984]

Perfect.

[@kevinm5792]

A quote to steel man what you said about setting boundaries, and how it opens up the aperture to see clearly what is true:. Marcus Aurelius : 121 AD to 180 AD 2.1] When you wake up in the morning, tell yourself: The people I deal with today will be meddling, ungrateful, arrogant, dishonest, jealous and surly. They are like this because they cannot tell good from evil. But I have seen the beauty of good, and the ugliness of evil, and have recognized that the wrongdoer has a nature related to my own - not of the same blood or birth, but the same mind, and possessing a share of the divine. And so none of them can hurt me. No one can implicate me in ugliness. Nor can I feel angry at my relative, or hate him. We were born to work together like feet, hands and eyes, like the two rows of teeth, upper and lower. To obstruct each other is unnatural. To feel anger at someone, to turn your back on him: these are obstructions.

[@1ReikiFloW]

amen @15:20 , peace a nd the space to focus on building. Drama is so cliche`, so sad. I use eft techniques as the drama antidote, they usually flow away...

[@naamanpratt]

💫

[@PaigeRaskin]

What about when two INFJs come together

[@mariemedeiros5672]

What is a door slam? I walk away and dont go back

[@natureglimses]

Oh if only a coach starts a channel for the lonely to converse as much as they want without blaming them for "being needy"

[@AskAuntChina]

🔥🔥

[@ellarataj6590]

💚

[@SD-rm5ty]

It's sad when people decades older than you act like children. It's repulsive.

[@Noname-n1n4d]

???

[@ChelleMEis]

THIS 👆👆👆

[@ghanajaa]

✨👸✨

[@Jasonwritescode]

I like the majority of your content Wenzes, but not all of us have plans to be submissive to an ISTJ. I can see when you are being that.

[@peterkoinzell7983]

What a load of Huey

[@slmadison1213]

why?

[@Diane_McDon]

Whose Huey?

[@FirehorseG]

So why are you here? 😂

[@peterkoinzell7983]

@@FirehorseG I'm subscribed to keep a track on this menace is why I'm here. No joke. I believe Wenzel is possessed by some unknown archetype that makes her think that INFJism is really all that important but at this second I'm feeling kinda meek like god wants me to and I dont know how I feel about casting so much judgment y'know what I'm sayin dog?

[@elliottsmith7530]

@@peterkoinzell7983 to vainly and casually attach god to you personal vendetta is nasty work lol....dare i say it......narcissitic. If someone is giving info that helps a community of ppl without harming another, then whats the issue?

[@bamgold4677]

Awesome I just had this situation with a friend. I realize I got to keep it professional but caring respect boundaries and let them thrive :):):). I hope to be a stable person in their lives with what I can give because they are a stable person in my lives and many others.

[@khadraLuula]

Love it , Thank you so much Wenzes