INFP Corner: Developing Se

[@luisa146]

You know what's strange, I'm an INFP and dodgeball was always one of my favorite games! I hated other team sports though. I did swimming for years, then I tried hip hop dance and dropped it after one year cause I was hopeless at it lol. I tried a lot of individual sports but now I've been doing martial arts for years and I love it. I also love climbing but I just do it randomly, I have no formal training. Yoga too. I think with sports we INFPs need some time to become aware of our motor functions with Si mostly. When faced with something new I often suck at it for some time but by repeating the movement hundreds of times somehow it gradually becomes natural.

[@cilentroleaf564]

Thanks for this video! Dodgeball was such a dreaded thing for me in PE, and even jumping rope..where kids where turning a rope and I was supposed to jump it---these things freaked m out so much! I did love skiing and swimming for some reason. Exercise, meditation, and nutrition are so helpful in grounding oneself. Like you said the trick is to not overthink it!

[@mrz4252]

Hey there. I'm a fellow INFP, and I'm glad you made this video. I make it a note to exercise for at least 30 minutes at the gym at least once or twice a week. I actually had a workout today. Over time, such things can be more of an introverted sensing routine in which we have a strong (enough) awareness of our bodies to determine how we feel when we work out. I agree that sometimes, we just need to take action and follow through. Also, I believe one other thing that can help is for us to speak louder, ESPECIALLY when we have to deal with people who are naturally going to speak loud (most likely ESxx types). If we don't do that, our voices can be overrun, and we will end up feeling disrespected.

[@CasualCognition]

INFP: Yes, thank you! A similar thing I made a point of doing is to finish my sentence even if someone interrupts, even if someone is speaking over me, even if no one is listening. This has helped my feeling of self-worth and "Se presence" tremendously :)

[@martenw8341]

Soo relate to everything you said! So many embarassing memories from groupactivities in school of being clumsy, not understanding the instructions of the activity or just being really slow. Nice to know why haha! Keep up the good work!

[@vsb000]

What’s interesting is that I grew up playing sports and instruments! Then I changed a lot during high school and found myself reading and escaping more than normal. Now, I can’t even tap into my Se anymore!!!

[@fintanwatson8137]

I'm INFP and the only...sport I've ever liked is long-distance running and jogging (preferably in nature) It is a solitary activity that allows me to introspect and exercise at the same time without too much external pressure ;)

[@SirenoftheVoid]

I relate a lot to the lethargy part in particular. I have done that a few times, where i'd consistently exercise for a few days in a row then stop completely. I am quite bad at this, and i DO overthink a bit about schedules and how exercise relates to this. A lot of the times i'll feel like i'd rather stay with my friends online and not interrupt a hangout with them when i would think of going out for a walk. oh,i would like to add i have also been bad at sports. Anything that requires aiming or fast reactions will have me performing poorly. I would love to see a series on INFP development, you have my full support! :)

[@luisemilio00]

Nice video... well, regarding to sports, i had to put real effort to learn martial arts, basketball didn’t like it much, dancing was also like energy draining to me... but what really connected with me was tennis and soccer, i couldn’t get bored at it, also what i think is important to consider is when a sport fascinate us, we deliver all the heart inside and thats pretty noticiable among other players, eventhough we can be slow technical learners, when emotion is attached, we learn and we master succesfully and faster.

[@lifestoryguy]

As an INFP man, I took up long-distance running when I was 19. I don't know if it's necessarily improved my Se over the years, but I haven't broken any bones when running up hills and across fields full of boulders, and I usually get a spiritual experience from it, though I keep meaning to take up some sort of dance class like salsa or something as I think it might be good for my dating life if you know what I mean. Oh, and I have tripped a few times over the years when out running and bashed into street furniture too, so the clumsiness is always going to be there and is probably the flip side of the INFP childlike nature. We cannot have our sense of wonder without the clumsiness, it would seem.

[@melodylin5058]

Thank you 🌹🌹🌹❤️❤️❤️

[@rainbowstarks]

"If i go for a walk now, should i make this into a routine" literally me every time 🤣

[@FindingYourSerenity]

Yes please make more like this! I really need to get on that exercise wagon as I've been seriously procrastinating! I do meditate daily and find this very beneficial:)

[@marshmallow3866]

I love dancing, sports, etc. But things like learning the proper techniques for stretching are hard. And then it's just weird things like I'll play soccer and I can steal the ball from someone, but I literally can't kick the ball. I'll try again and again and miss the ball with my foot. It was so weird to me until I've started to understand being an INFP and what that all kinda means.

[@Neomike]

INFP Genius understanding !!

[@TristanDmarco]

So, I have this issue where I am constantly dropping things. Does this have to do with my Si as an INFP?

[@caratnoona5997]

Lol on Fi-Si loop cause that's so me 😂 My friends often laugh at me for overthinking something so little even petty stuffs sometimes. It's like having a little war with self is as normal as breathing. As for the exercise, I'm struggling with it now more than ever. When I was 17 I resolved not to drink any coffee and exercise on a daily basis (cardio and resistance) with just one day rest per week. Surprisingly, I was able to do it consistently for more than two years. Now, however, is a different story. The last attempt to exercise was more than a year ago and it only went on consistently for 2 months. Then the routine was broken for a few days and haven't managed to bring myself to exercise again 😑 I don't know if it's just me or an INFP thing to start an endeavour and can be really good at it but once the momentum is broken, it's soooo hard to pick up where we left off. Even my boss remarked on it, that when I have goal I can deliver good results in no time but once it's over, I return to being so laid back which he doesn't like 😅

[@CasualCognition]

INFP: I relate to the struggle after losing momentum.

[@Wierdgirl5834]

I'm an INFP and I can relate a lot to this. I suck at dance! Whenever I did group fitness aerobics, my movements were always off and everyone else would be able to follow without difficulty. But I did love the feeling of it though.

[@Laura-et2xj]

Geez, I just had a conversation with someone about actually acting spontaneously and how it is beneficial for people who usually spend so much time thinking before acting. Thank you for speaking about this as well, because even though it is something that makes sense intellectually it is still quite fear inducing in the moment. Thank you for sharing your perspective and experiences. I do find if I let the spontaneity happen when it is there it is less likely to come out in an unproductive way later.

[@anandaalvarez4336]

Very useful

[@ReeThealien]

Thank you for making this informative video!

[@gomocolossal_1506]

Nice video. infp you should absolutely watch a video called “how to never run out of things to say” by Practical psychology. It teaches you a whole new perspective on how to be more confident in conversations. Yes, I scroll thru lots of instagram photos and think too much about my image most of the time but I think it is time for me to let go of some that action and start going out there and being the guy i was suppose to be basically being there for my friends. Thx you taught me a lot from this video on how the Se function works. I always dreamed of being one of the top athletes in the world!

[@CasualCognition]

INFP: Thanks! I learned to become more confident in conversations by being quiet. After I felt that I was still worthy as a person even if I contribute no "wow factor" to a conversation, I naturally felt more at ease :)

[@darkacadpresenceinblood]

I started running and guess what, it only makes me feel worse about having a horribly underdeveloped Se😂 I jog in a forest and I always try to pay attention to the beautiful nature around me but I just can't focus on that, my mind always goes back to jumping from thought to thought and next thing I know I ran the whole 3 kilometers without paying attention even once, bc I was so immersed in my inner world...

[@gabumonboys]

Is that? Is that a table corner youre sitting beside??

[@CasualCognition]

INFP: Yes.

[@dangernoodle9961]

I'm debating whether or not I'm an ENFP or INFP, and one thing that is definitely true is that I absolutely cannot handle sports. I can't make myself care about them, I never am able to know what's going on when it comes to ball sports, and I'm extremely uncoordinated. My family never played them and I was homeschooled, too, and I seem to have a problem where there are a thousand rules everyone else knows that I have no understanding of. Like, how am I supposed remember how to score this stuff? I can barely hit a ball, lol. I have very high energy, but I lack precision and shut down when it comes to sports because I was bullied so much in PE. Can an ENFP have these traits too, or would that be a sign that I'm really an INFP? In PE they'll play music and I dance to it like an idiot with zero shame and talk to people I know rather than actually engaging in the sport because conversation is a million times more interesting (I also space out and daydream especially in slow paced sports like baseball) I love sensory information coming my way in the form of music and lights, but when it comes to sports I get so bored it's unreal.

[@nancyandaharon]

that whole sports, dance thing, yuck. I always stood in the back row, so no one could see me doing everything off time, mirroring the teacher- you know, the whole class moves right and I go left. My bro is a ESFP megajock-ran track, basketball, football, baseball, skiing, swimming. Me, I was getting my glasses broken by the balls in gym because I couldn't react fast enough! Our family skied and I couldn't do anything except fall down. My bro and dad couldn't understand why I couldn't follow their example or directions --bro worked at a resort on the ski patrol... After years of frustration and humiliation, my dad finally gave in, and paid for a couple of lessons! Why would someone need lessons?? I took skiing lessons in college, away from the family scene just to prove to myself i could do it. I also took riding lessons, same deal: coordinating and balance. I liked cleaning the tack and brushing the horse better. I finally found something I can do: tai chi. it's a good workout, it balances my mental/emotional energy and it's not a team sport (YEH!), no moving balls and I can do it anywhere. my biggest Se challenge is staying in the moment. I get lost a lot. I miss the turn off or walk past the place I was going to because I'm about two feet back in my own head, talking to myself or thinking about stuff. I have to give myself at least 15 to 30 min. extra time when I go places because I'll almost always space out on the way.

[@russellclement6633]

I know, in my younger days (before I tested as IxTP), I came across as a "nerd" to people whom were considered "jocks" & a "jock" by those very same people considered "nerds". I was physically particularly good at sprinting, jumping, & dodge ball (even won 2 intramural recreational dodge ball games out of 50+ people when I was in middle school)...but also excellent at appearing to be in a perpetually zoned out/daydreamy absent-minded state of concentrated thought. Good at large motor, but terrible/"unteachable" when it came to any sort of fine motor skills--including how to "properly" tie my own shoes and how to "properly" hold & write with a pen or pencil. Dancing & driving were also arduous ordeals of teaching/learning. I don't believe I'm Se PoLR in the sense of it being my "weakest"/least developed overall function (I've tested as being markedly worse at using Ni, Fi, & Fe, than at Se.), but it just might be the one I have the biggest conscious "blind spot" for/am the least consciously self-aware of if that makes sense. I suspect it's likely that quite a few people that test as a certain MBTI type (esp if they have an 'x' or 'slight preference' on at least one of the scales) won't necessarily "exactly fit" with the corresponding cognitive function strength patterns either. Oh, and great vid, btw. Appreciate how you shared some of the things you were (maybe still are) good & bad at growing up before going into the development of.

[@jeanette2475]

I'm INFP and the same way. Decent overall fitness but can't tie my shoes and god forbid I try to draw something lol

[@DOsorio369]

Hi there, I have a question. If my cognative function. stack up is Fe Ni (ENFJ) and Si Te (INFP) which one am I because i have seen myself have both sides when reading the descriptions I am confused on where i should work on more?

[@jay5010]

Sometimes I feel like I'm the only INFP that is also an athlete lmao. I was always super aware of flying balls and have good reflexes, yet, somehow, I still run into walls...

[@Ananymous386]

Saaaame.im a walking contradiction too. Im awkward when im walking but im really good at sprinting ,football,swimming and stuff. Also reflexes are good too but im still clumsy and hit objects drop them a lot qnd stuff. Tho my hand to eye coordination is good (drawing/piano)Its juts when im in a buzz of activity like when im sprinting,i feel like im breaking free and sont feel awkward and uncordinated

[@QuiietHeart]

Interesting thing about the hand-eye coordination. I was terrible at aggressive sports. My parents put me in golf and basketball during childhood, and I was only good at putting and shooting hoops! Makes so much sense now.

[@nancyandaharon]

I was the same way with those sports. I do have good eye hand coordination. One weird thing: I putt and bat left handed. I can't do either right handed .

[@akaboo69]

I suck at sports

[@ToddHa]

Calypso. Have you considered enfp as your type? I get a major ExxP vibe from you? This is not a tiny vibe. This is huge. I have enfps & infps in the real world. You don't match any of the infps I know irl.

[@CasualCognition]

INFP: Yes, I've considered it. Not anymore.