The Silent Treatment | The narcissist's passive-aggressive power game

[@Andromeda_M31]

Next time you get the silent treatment, use that time to make it permanent.

[@mariepresho3653]

Lol

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

😊 Yup

[@Dani-jo9yr]

Bravooo✅💪💐

[@Renea559]

No more

[@simpletruths5322]

Exactly what I did! No more drama!

[@teresaolofson8187]

7.Dont Hold ONTO someone who doesnt value you.

[@hafiseanwar1366]

Also, don't hold onto someone who doesn't deserve you!

[@destinymanning1573]

but with a child grown after tramatic seperation who always seemed autistic kr Asburgers..? Mom , me..Just keeps crying, after trying, there seems to be no one who can understand, altho I Do because they are my child tat seemed to be taken away from me hurting my heart even more.. its sleep is like..woes is me. Only God helps, its tuff to hang on sometimes but i do know holding on to them is a no no because they dont really care for touching either..tactile defencive children, are,so rarely beutuful, too much never works...Listing and watching Only assusts me but i feel bad that it never seems to be ALWAYS, BECAUSE THEY ARE MY BABY NO MATTER THE AGE Of the child, you know what i mean? hummm.. letting go has results that i feel are birderline neglect if i dont or cant intervene... More myst be learned, where is the causes, where is the proffessiknals when you REALLY NEED ONE, TO Figure out the Correct responses? just a mom... not dm below

[@jamesmcginn8874]

the only value i had for her was how much money she could steal from me--WITCH .

[@jaylandman4359]

@@destinymanning1573 agree. Very difficult when it’s your child, who you love, enjoy & then they grow up & this behavior becomes more & more obvious and one day they get triggered by something you said/did & they give you the silent treatment for days, weeks & months. Where is the info on how they became a narcissist? What can be done to improve their behavior? All I find is ignore them, leave them, cut them out of your life. In some cases that can work. But when it’s your child, it doesn’t make sense.

[@fifilafleur5555]

@@jaylandman4359, it’s also horrific when it’s a narc parent that has emotionally, verbally, physically and sexually abused you. My parents are horrible people at times. They have caused tremendous damage to my life, mental & physical health. I have had metastatic cancer and they are BOTH treating me horrifically. My dad goes months without calling me… and my mother has repeatedly abandoned me. Once as a baby and twice since I was diagnosed. I could be gone in the blink of an eye and neither of them give a damn. Works both ways.

[@Chellethehumanist]

I'm happy when someone gives me the silent treatment or ghost me because they have removed themselves from my life indefinitely. I thank them for leaving.

[@naughtyempress1038]

EXACTAMUNDO!!! Easy peasy. Keep walking GHOSTS. We hear what you're not saying and refuse to care. Trix are for kids. Leave the grownups alone. See how that works? Thanks for actually making our lives better by leaving. No brainer. Run Forrests!!! Cuz The Jig Is up and we're hauling ass the other direction!

[@TheLove2surf]

This is exactly right! Thank god I finally understand this. I really liked what Meredith said- the person who creates the distance is the one who needs to be responsible for closing the distance!

[@Chellethehumanist]

@@TheLove2surf yes, I love that she said that.

[@andreasleonlandgren3092]

Great thing. Let go of the guilt they are trying to plant.

[@belescli]

I need to learn this attitude. I am not that strong yet.

[@elisekritzinger2340]

Living with a narcissist is hell on earth.

[@ikwikwi]

Narcissism...defined as...? Cos Trump was called narcissistic and I will vote for him

[@powerpraiseonpointletswors6892]

Yes it is.

[@elisekritzinger2340]

I agree with you. They never stop ubsing you and don't care how bad they hurt you. I feel sorry for the children of a narcissist mum.

[@ikwikwi]

@Jeanne Parker should you cheat during separation? No. You still married. Not divorced. That ain't narcissism. That's human common sense.

[@universaltruth2025]

Jeanne Parker and the little looks of contempt they often have.

[@MuslimahWarrior]

"The silent treatment is a passive aggressive power game" a common tactic used by emotional vampires.

[@elainewalker2142]

Emotional vampires... perfect term

[@teal1010]

Exactly! Therefore the rules of "engagement" (if any) will be formulated to fit them perfectly!

[@user-se5gg5cy4y]

but this same woman is tslking about doing just such thing. and then you wonder where this weird behavior comes from?

[@ikwikwi]

Usually a response to gossip

[@fifilafleur5555]

Yes. My dad and my mother both do this to me. My mother doesn’t come back though. She has abandoned me all my life. Horrible horrible parents…

[@bridgetgullison8848]

I love getting the silent treatment because I know that I am not the problem. Emotional manipulation has no power over Goddess power!!!

[@fasiahmedkhan9837]

This is the dumbest shit i ever read in my life because they give the silent treatment because you have done something wrong

[@ChangedandChosen]

I agree Bridget! When I know there is nothing I've done I allow them to keep up the silent treatment. I totally ignore them completely and they try to get my attention.

[@kimpossible2725]

That part! Goddess energy all day, that petty ish never works on us.

[@abbypointrg]

Life is short.... There are only 24 hours in a day & no one knows how many days we have on this earth. Every minute that we spend trying to appease a narcissist is wasted time......time that would be much more productive cultivating healthy relationships with mature, positive people! (Lesson learned the hard way)

[@agnese2215]

Rebecca GARRETT wonderfull post thank you💚you are right my dear life is too short to waste time 🌸

[@sandygrays4066]

Well said.... Everything you said was on point..

[@sandygrays4066]

You are a very very mature young lady. ... Keep up the good work..... Keep your head up..... Do not settle for a silent treatment from no one.... Even family.... Take care stay strong....S

[@ashwinmenon76]

I'm in the middle of silent treatment from my wife right now. But this time I'm doing what you suggested - using the silence as the start of my new life without her crap 🙂

[@ruby-qv5bd]

Yes, go man go. Wishing you the best.

[@catherinerhea6336]

I gave it right back... Now past the 4-yr mark. When they approached me, my answer was & remains *THE TIME FOR TALK IS OVER.*

[@Bonnie55317-w]

I love it... good answer.

[@ThePropheticClock]

Good one!

[@Sara-qe3fw]

Excellent..Too little to late!

[@Andromeda_M31]

Good job!

[@MJ-my9sg]

Going on 3 years for me. I've often thought how I would handle contact. Great answer! I'm going to memorize this statement. 👏👏❤️

[@rhodoralambert1239]

I dated a man who’s in early 50s and give a silent treatment at the first stage of dating then I told him that isn’t going to work if he does that ways all the time...the second time he did it again and I saw him online on Facebook and didn’t respond to my message after almost two days...then I discarded him right away...this kind of man is a waste of time...

[@Chrissy856]

Fact!

[@fifilafleur5555]

💯💯💯

[@user-ee5om8wy7u]

When somebody starts playing silent games with no explanation, I just realize this is so immature that I don't even get offended by it. I simply make my own conclusions and ask myself : "do I really need to pay attention to somebody who does not even care to pay attention to me or to discuss any issues?" How crazy do I have to be to even pay attention to those who choose to ignore me when the world is full of so many other wonderful people who would choose to pay attention to me?! I leave those who silent- treat me alone and let them grow up on their own, wishing them all the best and all the love of the world without me!

[@brendastein404]

May The Tears We Cried In 2019 Water The Seeds We Are Planting For 2020~

[@margomazzeo1680]

Beautiful thought..💝🎈

[@shantanuchaudhary9712]

I think my our tears just fludded Australia

[@Jessica_BR]

Amen 🙏🙏😢

[@imonmyway317]

How lovely is that x

[@FionaclarkClark]

Excellent

[@plouf1969]

"If they take a distance then they're the one who needs to close it" - that's a very important yet so obvious rule to respect

[@violetenergy4392]

I gave them the "block" because I was just tired of the narcissistic behavior, I was done, ended and moved on. One can't hold a civil conversation with a narcissist.

[@hafiseanwar1366]

Trying to have a Civil anything with a Narcissist is a complete wate of time! You did great to block suck people who are Toxic poison and damaged beyond repair.. Block them, walk away , they are Not worthy of you in their pityful lives!!

[@TheHarveyTruthInc]

@Violet Energy; I also started to use the block on my phone, because I was always tempted to fix things with my sister and then she would do something after that and not take responsibility for it. It was a vicious cycle.

[@lizc2023]

100%

[@anitabowden9270]

Violet Energy same got hurt to marry times by that guy so.he got blocked and I'm not sorry for blocked he's a liar 💔😪

[@jadehalliday6636]

That was my gut reaction today 🙏🕉

[@allyma3]

You give me constant validation that im not crazy or dramatic. You are saving the little childhood i have left

[@UFO_computers]

Alyssa's Dome, tell me about it. The gaslighting is so insidious

[@GeordiLaForge1974]

I highly recommend that you visit a therapist as soon as you reach legal age and can afford it. I didn’t know any better until I was a grown adult, so I suffered a lot. You don’t have to suffer. And yes, you are NOT crazy! My mom used to tell me that I was crazy and that I needed a psychiatrist. Note: 3 years ago, visiting a psychiatrist was something for crazy people.

[@stephiedrown795]

Hope you can be happy. Someone said 'it's never too late to have a happy childhood.' I hope you have one whatever your age. 😊

[@the_turn_up_princess2528]

Sending love to you. Jesus is always with you.

[@tina.cooper1564]

Tut teei

[@fifilafleur5555]

... Or maybe just respond yourself with silence or “no contact”. Just be done. These individuals don’t deserve you in their life. I don’t want relationships that are games.

[@hafiseanwar1366]

Life is too short and precious for such games!

[@vampireslayer1989]

All of my life I was aware of passive aggressive behavior, but it was NOT until I got involved with two Cluster Bs (covert narcissist and a sociopath) that I fully understood how destructive and abusive passive aggressiveness is. A word to the wise from an old man who learned this lesson too late; walk away from any type of narcissistic abuse. Do not engage or attempt to repair these people; they will NEVER change.

[@tagasunken]

True. I gave my narc ex another chance thinking that if I change, he'd treat me better but no, he just retraumatized me again with his silent treatment. He'd punish me with silent treatment and triangulation whenever I disagree with him or refuse to do what he wants. I always end up traumatize whenever I let him into my life. Now, I'm on square one again healing my C-PTSD. Never ever go back to them. The abuse will just make you sick or worse, lead you to an early death. They really have no empathy.

[@tagasunken]

@@erock4319 They will lovebomb you, devalue you and then discard you over and over until you have no more self-respect left. I thought he has changed so I took him back. I fell for the lovebombing again. When he realized he's got me again, he devalued me, gave me the silent treatment and triangulated me with another and now when I had gone no contact he's hoovering me and stalking me. Narcissists don't see people as humans but objects to possess and shelf. Don't secondguess yourself. Just go "no contact" as much as possible.

[@meaculpa22]

@@tagasunken much love honey ❤ Yes they lead people to death... I get out after it gets physical and two car crashes because of his lazy ass depriving me from sleep

[@andadocea4598]

@@tagasunken You are so right! It happened to me more than once, I think maybe 6-7 times in 4 years. Looking back, it seems unbelievable. Yes, they make you sick and sometimes you want to die. I'm 7 months no contact and live a new life. Stay strong.

[@alchemyarts3490]

Raissa I hear you. As I’m going on week 6 of silence, after walking away from the pattens w/my now ex, I can see the bigger picture. It’s ugly. But I aim to learn and heal so I don’t end up with yet another narc. There’s more than one type. I think I’ve dated 4!!! Ow. Will I learn?!? Heck yes! NO MORE!

[@AShyLily]

Someone I saw as a good friend for over a decade, ghosted me summer of 2021. For a year and a half I contacted him by email a half dozen times to see how he was, but no reply. At first I was concerned he was ill or worse. Recently I found out he is fine. I saw him online. Since then I have come to understand that he no longer wants me as a friend. After watching your video you helped me realize that he was never a sincere friend and that the silent treatment is abusive. I'm glad we're no longer friends. I now know I dodged a bullet. Thanks for your help!🙂

[@mochigochu1932]

That feeling when your entire family is full of narcissists and you choose bad friends and relationships so you don't know who to turn to.

[@Chrissy856]

I feel your pain. Sounds a lot like my life. Stay strong. God bless you & healing.🙏🏼

[@marciafredericks7333]

I feel your pain.

[@fifilafleur5555]

I completely understand. Right there with you. Our families of origin (usually narcissistic families) set us up for this heartbreak in life. Sick people…

[@mydogchum5863]

My mother was a pro at this. I used to beg and plead with her not to be mad at me. I would cry, but I was little. She used it to control me. As an adult when she did it I would walk out of her house and sometimes we wouldn’t talk to each other for 6 months. Then she acted like nothing happened. She never once said sorry. Not in her whole life. For any reason. A therapist I saw long ago told me that I was an adult now. My mother couldn’t do anything to me without my permission. That changed my life. She can’t do it if you don’t let her. I lived by those words for many years. They helped me to deal with one of the worst narcissists I ever met.

[@MannyWC]

I feel you! I grew up with that same yuck, and she was physically abusive when she couldn’t control me/manipulate me anymore. I still feel it when I am around her. I have now chosen to go NO contact. Of course my family think I should ‘get over it’. I would if it weren’t the same treatment when I am around her. Godspeed.

[@mydogchum5863]

I know what you mean. I had no contact with my mother for years to try to preserve my sanity. I had to finally let it go before she died so I could say goodbye to her. I’m sure that if she were here today I would still be no contact. She was so toxic. I still struggle with the thought of forgiving her. I know I can never forget what she did to me and my sister. I probably won’t ever forgive her either and she died 11 years ago.

[@MR-tr2fz]

@@mydogchum5863 you don't have to forgive her if you don't feel like it. Some things are unforgivable. My personal philosophy on this (currently) is that they can't help being malevolent, because it's just who they are. And I don't intend to forgive the atrocities done against me.

[@sage7193]

Completely understand!

[@aarongaffney725]

So sorry you had to experience this! It’s horrible with parents

[@marywilsonvocalist2181]

He thinks any discussion is conflict...good video.

[@lottesrensen8004]

I wish so much i had known all this earlier. A whole lifetime believing in everybody being good and being hurt an confused. I was so naive. Now im learning...observing.

[@andreaturnquist4855]

Me too! Hang in there!

[@lisafanucchi5939]

My mom has ignored me for 4 months because I set a boundary. She has been abusive since I was a little girl. I finally blocked her. I forgive her, but I won’t put myself in a position to be abused anymore. Sad. But true. Thanks for this ❤️

[@pamelac.5600]

Good for you! You're a very brave girl!! HUGS!

[@peacefaith560]

my mom is crazy n toxic ... i went straight NC didnt even call her for mothers day...she so depressing, selfish and arrogant, she called me a liar and that did it cause I knew that day I told the truth!!

[@scribbleartie]

"The person who creates the distance, has to close the distance" yeah I like that. I was always the one who tried to close it (sometimes before it even happened - people pleasing) so yeah, good lesson.

[@notatheory4488]

Scribble Artie this is so good. Rule to live by

[@emilyansell7976]

My partner of 6 years would regularly give me the silent treatment. Then, after me setting a boundary one night, he walked out. I expected he'd come back after a few days when he'd calmed down. He didn't. He still hasn't come back. And that was 2 years ago. He didn't even talk to me for 4+ months after he'd left. And I should mention at this point that we have a 3 year old daughter (about to turn 5 now), and my son from a previous relationship who called him papa. Like another person commented, I am working through this every day. Thank you Meredith for your empowering videos, I always get so much out of them. The line - "the person who created the distance needs to close the distance" really resonated with me, as my ex questioned why I didn't run after him when he left and thought that showed that I didn't really care about him. I did care about him, I just care about myself more. Why would I run after somebody who didn't value me enough to come back and talk? Thanks for the validation Meredith, and the skills to keep walking in my integrity. Big hug back to you!

[@erakkovaatainen148]

It is well possible. Mine said "fucking leave me, I hope you understand" three months ago, and I was already preparing to end the shit, posting him "Good bye letter" to his Gmail. He raged so hard after he received that. So far no messages from him and that's awesome! Borderline people are no good. He is probably dating someone else, because I used to download new saldo to his bus card almost twice a month, and as depressed one he is not going to work or school. When before it could be once a month. He had 50% off of every local ticket, because he was on pension for disabled. Somehow it was draining all the time. Also it is possible that they did suicide. Either way, outside our control. All that matters for us, is that we are clean from narcissists, and you should fine your own way to happiness. Time to find new miracles! Stay clean from a narcissist! You deserve so much better!

[@lizc2023]

I needed this so much right now. Thank you. Started dating someone who love bombed me then devalued me and used the silent treatment on me. I called them out on it and they apologised giving me some bs excuses. I gave him the benefit of the doubt but suspected he had another girl and was a narc. Lo and behold he did it again straight away. Dumped and blocked his ass. I almost reached out to him today but this video stopped me. I don’t give third chances anymore, he’s lucky he even got a second one. 💁🏻‍♀️

[@andreasleonlandgren3092]

The time for talk is over. Not apologising for something i did not do. # not peoplepleasing

[@pamelac.5600]

LOVE, LOVE, LOVE THIS!!! So empowering! 👊👊👊

[@andreasleonlandgren3092]

Pamela C. Thx Pamela🥰

[@darlalong1957]

Listening to her accuse me of things,she actually did ! I was like, oh wow, you are off the rails !!🤯

[@kitsinoel]

I cried, and he looked at me like I was nothing...

[@pamelac.5600]

Been there......I was on the phone with my narc mom crying, asking her, how she could do what she had/was doing to her child she claimed to love. In a real evil voice she says: I think there is seriously something wrong with you.

[@lindseyventura7625]

I know that feeling all too well. Most ppl feel bad to make someone cry, mine looked at me disgusted and it would get him angrier.

[@lizleary101]

You are nothing to him

[@zafar2073]

I cried 3 hours for my narc wife when having a silent treatment , and when I told her about it she just laughed at it like there was not a big deal for her

[@carmenflores8241]

@@pamelac.5600 This happened to me too, when parent's abuse you in anyway they deflect the blame back onto their child they are seemingly incapable of taking responsibility but in the end I realized and felt sad for the lost year's but I learnt not to blame myself which is what my selfish mother wanted!!

[@joansargent3735]

This happened to me 35 yrs ago. When the marriage was over and he was driving me to the psych ward the day the divorce was final (I was suicidal , aware I had no identity beyond “Mrs ...” )I had been groomed and erased. I’m so grateful we have this lifesaving information at our fingertips today. Because we didn’t then. Thank you Meredith.

[@sage7193]

Right on point! These abusers can never admit they are wrong and have no respect for other peoples boundaries. They believe they are superior to everybody around them. It's almost like they are big babies who haven't learned to grow up. Being younger sometimes I feel I'm more mature and intelligent to these adult babies. Very frustrating. I realized age is just a number. 👶👶👶

[@InnerIntegration]

Age is definitely just a number. Especially in our infantilized post-modern society.

[@meganshaw6565]

My ex would ignore me and our young children for weeks and months. We lived in the same home. It was awful. I can even explain the feeling.

[@albusdumbledore3782]

I had this happen to me twice in a three-month relationship. Both times I said nothing and just left the relationship after the second time. I figured I don’t need his psychological BS and I’m not equipped to handle it. Life’s too short for mind games and abuse.

[@TheCarolgibbons]

AMEN!

[@miagallo7605]

Wow! I am validated my this! I just left my husband after 33 years. The silent treatment practically destroyed me. This video was me.

[@goodgracious6364]

My sister would give me the silent-T for months, even a year, at a time. She would NEVER directly tell me what the problem was--but she would ALWAYS spread negative comments about me behind my back. Last year, I allowed her to live with me. Within a few months, she gave me the silent-T, and without a word, she moved out! Finally, I realized that she had been using the silent-T on me for years, as a way of controlling situations and punishing me at her will. I haven't spoken to her since--but now and I am at peace.

[@AKing-ky5zg]

I received the silent treatment in my last relationship. The first time I stated clearly to my partner how it was not an acceptable behavior. The second time it happened, he tried to flip it around and say that I could have contacted any time. Still, I stated clearly that I disagreed and if it happened again the relationship would be over. Well, it happened again, and went on for about six or seven days. This man showed up at my door at an untimely hour claiming that he was only trying to bring us closer by allowing things to calm down. Um.... no. We are no longer together. Just saying, who in the world wants to spend the rest of these beautiful days here on Earth being avoided, ignored, and unappreciated. It makes me so sad that there are so many people, good people, that deal with the same thing. There’s too little time for so many chances. Thank you for your videos!

[@La_abbess]

💗

[@SincerestSawa]

Well said, avoided ignored and unappreciated pretty much sums it up

[@ab6129]

I really admire your strength. Good on you!

[@gigimoon]

You are so right! Good for you for not allowing it to progress. I needed this tonight .

[@pamelabombelenga282]

This silent treatment from my husband off an on for the past 25 years in my marriage Am so glad I had listened to this video it been very helpful to me now I can see the light Thanks😅

[@wendellignatin1228]

the silent treatment is a good thing. I've been no contact with my narc mom for twenty years. It is a good thing. You preserve your sanity.

[@thehotcoffeehouse6081]

Wendell u r my hero. Im 13 yrs nc with my 93 yo abusive covert narc egg donor aka mother. My nitemare with her wd make ur toes curl....ive told my story many times in these comment sections on utube...im late 50s, tho, and not much time left to experience my " real, true" life/ self, aka not defined by her fantasized abusive desires for me...ive experienced attempted soul murder. Narcs never change, they are out to destroy you, whether romantic partner or parent, sadly..... My mother faithfully used the silent treatment to manipulate and control me all the time when i was younger...so, so painful back then, when i was younger and desperately trying to understand WHY she was treating me that way......she is truly evil to the core, sad to say. bottom line, no contact. It will save your life, imo.

[@wendellignatin1228]

i was no contact for twenty years.

[@thehotcoffeehouse6081]

@@wendellignatin1228 im aiming for that 20 yr mark as well. Mine rooked me in to breaking nc for faux " estate planning needs" ... horrible mistake Not only am i pretty much disinherited anyway, ( so why help her give her stuff to others??)but the abusive behavior of hers picked right up where i had cut it off 12 yrs prior...literally, as if 12 yrs of silence and zero contact had not occurred between. us. She did not appear to have noticed that fact at all. ( much less self reflected on it, as in, why had i shunned her for 12 yrs??? )... To me, that is simply psychotic. My husband just shakes his head and says, your mother is a psycho. She and her insane husband ripped us off of a house and $$$$ abt 14 yrs,ago, after the shock wore off and i crawled back to my feet, i imposed no contact, which i shdve done decades earlier anyway; ..a nd so, yeah. No contact. Its,a lifesaver and THE only way to " deal" with narcs.

[@wendellignatin1228]

i can relate to that.Narcissists are clever like that.They are great at manipulation.

[@DePeaceHunter]

Maybe your mom thinks you give her a silent treatment as well? Happens all the time, 2 people don't talk to each other and think the other person should be the one to start first

[@bluenetmarketing]

Your three words, "that's not normal", were the three most helpful words from this video. Thanks so much for your help. It is invaluable! Absence makes the heart grow fonder, and waiting out their silence is the best way to discover if they even have a heart. Silence speaks volumes both directions, don't you know.

[@raaj1287]

Sorry for anyone going thru this.

[@ladyvirgo013]

I had no idea what was happening when my soon ex husband did this. After he blindsided & brutally discarded me after 12 years, i started researching & the realization was mind bending. Covert Narcissist, such cowards, so evil 😈

[@Namari12]

Oh yes. The silent treatment is especially fun when it's coupled with them banging around the house, slamming doors, and making a ton of noise in the house to continually remind you that THEY'RE THERE but THEY AREN'T SPEAKING TO YOU. So fun. Such a good time. So worth it. /s

[@Ni2M]

Ex bf gave me the silent treatment for months starting 2 days after I got home from the hospital from the horrible infection I got from his dog biting me. Why? I told him he needed to get the dog a trainer. He hoovered me when he saw I was moving, and said he had cancer. I only wish I'd known then what I know now. Setting boundaries set him off. This is so helpful.

[@andadocea4598]

I wish I knew all this years ago, Meredith! I got the silent treatment on and off for 4 years in a row. It hurt like hell, I used to think that it was my fault, to write, to cry, to beg. It was awful. Each time he decided to come back, probably after an affair, I said NOTHING. I was to afraid not to „upset” him. My closest friends who knew all about this desperately tried to talk me out of this, but it was no use. Then I found this channel, I started to read all about this, it was extremely painful and it took my a while, but I am 7 months no contact now, I could say my life has begun again and I hope I never see him. He tried to reach me several times using different accounts and he will probably never stop, but I ignored him. I don't care anymore, it was enough. Thank you, Meredith! I hope everyone who is still struggling finds the strength to get out of this before getting ill, like I did. It can be done!

[@andadocea4598]

@@erock4319 Thank you! 4 years was a long (and hard) time.

[@andadocea4598]

@@erock4319 Indeed. And leaves many marks. I was much younger and looked much older. It was like I wasn't even present in my own life.

[@balanceskateboarding8807]

@@erock4319 😩

[@stefaniechong9640]

@anda docea You are lucky in the sense that you found out this before you committed to this relationship. I wasn't as lucky as you because I found out this only after my first kid was born. To make matters worse, I stumbled upon my mother-in-law, who is staying with us has this bad behavior too! I was hysterical.

[@andadocea4598]

@@stefaniechong9640 I am so sorry. Must be hell. I know for a fact that they can trick you and lie to you like no other and you believe because you want to believe, because your feelings (especially with a kid involved) were true. It's hard to fully understand and even harder to live like this. I have a new life now, I guess I still make mistakes, but that dreadful pain is finally over. I wish you and your kid all the best in the world! Be strong and try to make your own rules.

[@eloisaesteves854]

I had learned something more about silent treatment. That’s what I’m doing right now for almost a month. As if I’m guilty of doing it. But not anymore. Thank you for sharing.❤

[@DianneRobbinsSocial]

Yes! His silent treatment did me a favor... a HUGE favor... and even did my dog a favor! He lost most of his fur because of what we were going through towards the end of the relationship. It’s been nine months since I went no contact. I’ve got myself a great job that pays very well, and my dog’s fur has mostly grown back. I feel so much better about myself to where I feel normal again. 😊😊😊 That silent treatment was the ticket to my escape. I’m actually so very thankful for it. It was part of the final discard , and I ran like hell. (I spent the months prior planning my escape.) There was a ton of uncertainty and fear, but I made it. Meredith, your content helped so much, and my work on myself continues. Thank you so very much for everything! ♥️

[@koriribarsosio4174]

❤❤

[@koriribarsosio4174]

You broke my heart when you talked about your dog losing fur. 💔💔 God that hurt to read. May God heal and restore you and your precious dog Dianne. God bless you

[@DianneRobbinsSocial]

koriri barsosio ♥️♥️♥️

[@alchemyarts3490]

Yes! Our animals know! My cat got sick because of my stress too. Even the vet said something. Like she’s an Empath. Maybe she is. She said I needed to remove toxic stress so my kitty will not get sick. The animals care for us and translate our suffering. It’s a hard truth for so many. But if pups and cats need us, and we need them, we must try to be healthy for each other. They count on us... and give unconditional love. What a gift!!! Hugs to you and the doggie. 😻

[@DianneRobbinsSocial]

Alchemy Arts ♥️ Yes, we need each other. I so agree with that. And thank God for their unconditional love. It truly is a gift. Hugs back to you and your kitty. Remain well. ♥️

[@magykjames9534]

I've been getting the silent treatment from my wife for years. I didn't realize it was a form of abuse until just recently, when I started reading "It Wasn't Your Fault". It hurts even worse when you "need" the other person's approval to feel okay about yourself... so toxic, so unhealthy. I have no idea if she's a narcissist, I think she's just emotionally immature. She also likes to throw temper tantrums, and often combines that with the silent treatment.

[@naughtyempress1038]

Remember, The silent treatment is a two way street. And YOU are driving your own bus. Don't look back.

[@hafiseanwar1366]

Ynless your driving your bus over their head of course!! lol

[@margomazzeo1680]

@@hafiseanwar1366 😂😂😂

[@hafiseanwar1366]

@@margomazzeo1680 Glad you liked it!

[@marinelalarsen3768]

Thank you :) It's so true that if we experienced silent treatement in childhood, it will be very hard to manage it when it happens again, in our adult life. If someone is doing it, he/she is giving clear message : "I am immature, rude and I have a lot of inner anger so you have to say good bye to me as soon as possible"

[@artgirl7480]

The narc I’m married to seldom gives me the silent treatment...because it did not bother me. In fact, I was grateful & appreciated the silence because otherwise he would be complaining & criticizing.

[@nontokozombatha9182]

I hope it's not to a dysfunctional extent. Best wishes

[@FaithfulandTrue777]

🎯 spot on - told him exactly why it triggers as my dad ignored stonewalled me for years - yet he still neglects then ghosted as I called out him not texting for 15 hours. 1/12/24 - not viable if he does come back - child wants to man up

[@1qbee403]

Thank you, I needed this ! That’s so true , passive-aggressive is a form of punishment 😞 Me breathing was the trigger, I couldn’t do anything right by him.

[@anotherchangedlife]

I went no contact with my whole family in 2017, then made the mistake of giving them a second chance. Four years made no difference. At first all seemed good, then the chaos came back into my life. Finally the silent treatment, and although old me would have done most of those things, present me gave it a couple of weeks to make sure I wasn’t overreacting, then as they cut me off, I blocked them, this time permanently. The most cruel thing these people do is give you hope. So if you go no contact, take my advice and make it permanent.

[@melodietaulman4774]

The silent treatment was punishment towards me for finding out about the 3rd party by the ex-gf... instead of talking about what happened, or trying to save the relationship. This has happened more than once. I feel very abandoned. Left with no closure.

[@noremac0123456789]

I wish I had seen this way sooner and am going to listen to it on repeat, seriously!

[@uminememe4050]

This was the first symptom of my narc marriage... i had heard about the silent treatment in high school, but never experienced it...definitely never thought it would happen in my marriage well into my 30s, its such a strange experience, confusing and hurtful to say the least....

[@canadianlady777]

He sulked big time and ignored me for hours that grew to be days and now weeks and months...

[@CS-iv8tk]

Refusing to self reflect on their part is a big issue. Up to them to have respect for others and act like a adult. Drop the ego!

[@sage7193]

Very true! They can never look at themselves in the mirror. 🛡

[@CarolDudeck-bl7kz]

Love it agreed I’m so not tolerating it

[@CarolDudeck-bl7kz]

Agreed I’m done with the Ego and Errogance

[@renep7008]

My girl used to always call herself “a terrible person,” which left me scratching my head, but looking back, I now get it. So I think they know who they are and what they do. It’s just they do not care to change.

[@CS-iv8tk]

Rene P , true, and projecting it all onto you as the reason. 🙅‍♀️

[@abbeywhittington3389]

Currently receiving silent treatment because I said I didn’t want to call because I didn’t have a charger and my phone was gonna die. Going on 1 week strong. Thank you for this video. It’s opened my eyes

[@missyswatloski4461]

I had a situation happen between me and my husband last night. Now that I am learning how to step back and look at things differently I was able to know exactly what would transpire. The silent treatment almost immediately started. He left this morning like I wasn’t even there. I use to text or call him - chase after him - when he would do this. This time nope. What he doesn’t realize is I am grateful for the silence and it gives me a chance to imagine my life without him. The emotion that came up. Relief and peace.

[@wcariffe888]

Don't reach out to them! Brilliant. I am getting the silent treatment now from my spouse and trying to figure out what to say before I go to bed in the other room. Thank you.

[@rainbows9060]

Rejection is G-d's protection!

[@polopunk7003]

rainbows that’s a good one! 👏

[@dianacook5116]

What? What does that mean?

[@polopunk7003]

Diana Cook it means if a manipulator or narcissist rejects you, think of it as a blessing

[@MickiB_Is4916]

WOW thank you for that!! I get alot of rejection from other women but they will come up to my husband and talk to him all smiley and friendly while ignoring me. This in a place where anyone should be able to go and be accepted. But I love that "Rejection is G-d's protection! I will tell myself that when I encounter these kinds of people..Thanks

[@kriekerestorative]

Very true.

[@zackmeier4399]

Both my spouse, and a previous relationship engage(d) in the silent treatment. Would not answer the phone or texts, would walk out of a discussion and leave, or would leave the house for the night; it was painful and I responded with all the wrong things that Meredith advised not to do. It is a malevolent power game. Excellent video.

[@kittykatkat3046]

Yah, truth in this. After several times of being given the silent treatment, and always going back immediately after the person returned, I decided to do the same to them after they came back yet again. It was months, but felt like an eternity, when I finally gave in and responded. And...Guess what? I was not received with open arms like the prodigal son, instead when I questioned them about their great lack of emotion regarding my contacting them again, they said..”I knew you’d be back”. That was the slap in the gut that I needed to be able to recall when I finally found my self and left and never went back. When I left, it was before they could do it to me yet again and I did it over text. I said, “Do not contact me again.” Do I feel bad about leaving in this way, absolutely NOT. That person is a toxic individual that I do not need to associate with any longer, in any manner, because... I AM A GOD-DAMNED WARRIOR!!!!!

[@alchemyarts3490]

Kitty Kat Kat 😻🙏🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼👍🏼

[@Lauren-vd4qe]

why dont you choose to be a God BLESSED warrior instead....

[@kittykatkat3046]

Lauren, Why ask Why?

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Ironically, when survivors implement No Contact we get accused of using the Silent Treatment 🙄 We get accused of being abusive by maintaining No Contact.

[@InnerIntegration]

Exactly! Because that’s how abusers see it. They think if you aren’t talking to them then you’re giving them the silent treatment because that’s what they use it for. That don’t understand No Contact isn’t a punishment and it isn’t temporary. It’s a boundary and it’s over.

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

@@InnerIntegration Exactly so in their hypocritical world they are allowed to ignore us but we aren't allowed to ignore and reject them 🤔 So happy t to be able to watch video's as a support for what we went through and bring able to organize all these patterns. Manipulation and control come in many ways but also some basis terms helped me so much. I didn't even know about the abuse of silenttreatments and hoovering. It's very empowering. I never liked this word but now I feel this narc evaluation knowledge is very empowering. I feel we will all become the butterflies, leaving our cocoon after a period of good healing and learning about how it all works and how to protect ourselves with boundaries. We have the right to not accept criteria from others that are harming and stagnating our lives.

[@teachersusanute199]

Narcissistic Abuse Rehab I went no contact with my ex narc husband 2yrs ago. He tells my grown up sons that I am childish and don‘t act as a responsible adult. My oldest son understands no contact and doesn‘ talk to his father much.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Inner Integration yes, and narcissistic family members are the worst!

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

E Rock man, I’m sorry you’re dealing with that. They don’t care about anyone but themselves so they use their kids without blinking. It’s gross and wrong. Then the kids minds are filled with distortions they’re going to spend years untangling themselves from. Narcs are the ace of spades ♠️

[@schofield4836]

This happens to children of narc parents all the time leaving them bewildered, confused and too vulnerable to understand, realise and stop the abuse or have the resources to escape it. It’s a wonder they survive as adults.

[@Delfina-Zafira]

I feel I hardly survive....always attracted to narcs.....even after i found a nice guy who loves me, i m still caught up in the evil web of an ex-narc! He gives me the silent treatment for weeks! Torturing me, causing me bad anxiety. I will end it now, but the sad thing is, that I m not able to return the love, that the normal guy gives me. Feel ruined.

[@stefaniechong9640]

I cried non-stop while watching this video. I always thought I was the only one who faces this type of hard situation receiving silent treatment or cold shoulder at the receiving end. To my little one wonder, I wasn't the unique one. I have been bottling up my feelings, my emotions for more than 25 years! Oh dear finally I came across this video inadvertently, what can I say, this has shed some lights at the end of the tunnel. Obviously, I knew I was in an abused relationship. But I have no choice but to swallow my pride and move on for the sake of my three children, 23, 20 and 19. Today they have all grown up. I always believe what goes around comes around. My husband the abuser would eventually get a comeuppance for what he did. I'm really grateful to have found this video. Thank you.

[@memphisddeb]

My parents have been doing this to me all my life and now I've decided to make it permanent.

[@Hawelufamily]

After being married to a Narc for 27 years, I set a boundary and he filed for divorce. It's hard to think of my life without them. I work through it everyday.

[@jelenapetrovicova5782]

You will get trough it,don't worry-you'll be more than fine.

[@clarascorner6253]

That sounds painful, I'm sorry to hear that. I think you did the right thing, and that you're better off for it. Good on you for setting that boundary and taking care of yourself!

[@MsRasheed9]

It’s hard but you will come out strong.My prayer 🙏 for you!

[@andreasleonlandgren3092]

You are awesome. Its his loss

[@munichgirl2514]

Wow !! After 27 years ?! It’s when you set a boundary , what was it that he filed for divorce, I would like to know , cause I wish “he would finally file for divorce already...🤔 Because this life we living is no life anymore!!! We still live together with 2 of our kids ( 1 moved out for good) my son ( 21 now ) basically stays for his convenience ( don’t want to have responsibilities ) Our youngest (15) my daughter is so hung up on him ( husband covert Narc ) spoils her to much for her own good.... I’am now not working anymore ( since 5 years , he made me quit my job ) than after that he started financially abusing me ( @the time I wasn’t aware he is a cov.Narc ) I exhausted all my inheritance, so now I’m the free housewife & housekeeper/ chauffeur/ babysitter/ cook / caretaker....🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️ We really don’t talk about nothing anymore, he does what he wants to .When he is at home he watches TV political stuff mostly ( that nobody wants to watch anymore) ...😑 We don’t do anything as a family at all anymore, and he spends the money how he wants to ( barely buys groceries) we are all ( besides him , although he acts like it sometimes) are depressed and full of Anxiety, isolated from all family & friends we used to have .... So his “SILENT TREATMENT “ is pretty much permanently, & nobody even wants to bother anymore with him ...😔 So as I said, I WOULD LOVE TO KNOW, what made your husband actually file , cause I wish mine finally would....🤷‍♀️🙏🏻🤦‍♀️😔😢 Best wishes to you 🍀🍄 enjoy the rest of your life, as I would love to...!!!

[@Cenote]

Thank you so much for this video, you have no idea how much hearing this stuff means to me.

[@marmaladesunrise]

Thank you, Meredith. This is totally giving me the understanding of childish unhealthy behaviors people use to control another. So counterproductive and time wasting.

[@KM-du1dk]

Great video Meredith. Silent treatment is torture as I like to resolve things and move on. Its immature and petty. I'm way happier now without the sick games and people who played them. ❤️❤️❤️

[@TheCoconutstrut]

you are hitting it all on the head, it's incredible how precise you've been. thank you.

[@mensdailyadviceencouragement]

Excellent Video 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@christinelamb1167]

My mother is currently giving me the silent treatment/ghosting me, after I set a boundary with her. I am sure she is very angry with me, as my boundary was that I decided I will no longer celebrate any holidays with her. I won't give all the background, because in typical narc fashion, it is a very long, very convoluted story as to how I arrived at this decision. It would take so long to explain, and it's so stupid anyway! Her behavior has just been outrageous, and I am not willing to participate anymore. So I haven't heard from her in over a month, and it's actually been nice and relaxing to not have to talk to her. Needless to say, I think I am just about done with her, and I am so close to going No Contact. I don't need her BS in my life!

[@simpletruths5322]

Christine, best of luck, remember, self preservation is not selfish x

[@christinelamb1167]

@@simpletruths5322 Thanks for the well wishes, and also for the reminder! 👍😊

[@christinelamb1167]

@@user-tt4lp8tj3u Thank you so much for your reply! I do feel so much guilt over my wanting to go no contact with my mother, but she's really leaving me no other choice. And I do realize that I have nothing to feel guilty about, because I have done nothing wrong! It is she who should feel guilty, but she never will, I know that. I will look up Smackintosh on KZbin, thanks for the recommendation 💖 I wish you much love and healing on your journey 😊🙏🏻

[@andied2510]

I've been no contact from my narc mom for 12 years. It was the hardest thing I've ever done but I can tell you it was the best. I've healed so much not being abused by her anymore. So much less stress and more enjoyment in life now! I love her and always will but I can't be in contact with her because it was so unhealthy and harmful to me. Good luck Christine.

[@christinelamb1167]

@@andied2510 Thank you so much! This is so hard. After not speaking to her for several months now, she has contacted me and is acting as if nothing ever happened (classic narc style!). She is trying to lure me back into her web, and it is so hard to resist. You'd think I would be completely immune to her tactics by now,! I am to a large extent, but I do still feel the pull of my heartstrings. She;s so manipulative!

[@annawatson2487]

I’ve been dating him for more than 2 years and half, we’re having a LDR but we see each other one weekend in 2-4 weeks and we live together during my holidays from university. When he first gave me the silent treatment after 6 months of relationship I was in a total shock and delusion and I gave it up after two days. I felt so scared and abandoned because we were so far from each other. I did everything from your DON’Ts and he saw that I couldn’t imagine my life without him at that moment. Because I let it become a pattern, right now I’m at the point of receiving at least one silent treatment per month. It’s been awful and I fell so in love and broke. But this time something changed. I don’t feel neither that ardent need of contacting him nor that my life can’t go on. Now I can focus on myself and on my self love. I do miss him but I’m sure I do deserve better and that he doesn’t deserve all this entertainment. I literally LOVED your video. 💕❤️ Thank you!

[@homersmom]

My sister’s punishment of choice....sigh. I would never really know what I had done or not done. Super frustrating.

[@Bonnie55317-w]

Probably because they make the rules up as they go along. !

[@leahrivera2376]

My sister-in-law does this all the time and I do absolutely nothing she does it to me and my mom all the time for the last 10 years but I stopped feeding her Power and one day she came and asked me why I was acting distant because I wasn't going to kiss her ass anymore and she knew it and she didn't know what to do because she was losing control of the situation

[@homersmom]

I remember being so bewildered. Sometimes I would find out my “transgression” later, from our late mom (now I recognize it was triangulation), and in order to restore the peace, I would be coerced into apologizing. Very, very unhealthy. My sister discarded me several years ago, and it hurt, not gonna lie, but ultimately it was a gift.

[@christinelamb1167]

Mary Kate Begovich Yes, this was my ex-husband's punishment of choice, as well. I went for years and years not knowing why he would suddenly become sullen and silent, and hardly acknowledge my existence! I would rack my brain, trying to figure out "what I had done to make him angry". I finally realized that what I had to do to maintain my sanity and self-respect was to just ignore his behavior, and go on with my life. Then, after my divorce, I discovered there was such a thing as a narcissist, and narcissistic abuse. I immediately realized that my mother was one, but it took me a while to realize that my ex was one also.

[@Breeze06]

Have you ever asked her?

[@vivicagene2478]

I’m going through this now and never realized this is what he was doing all these years. it’s been horrible. I broke down after four weeks of the silent treatment and cried for attention. The worst and so embarrassing. I promised myself I wasn’t going to do that anymore. I’m human and I’m not going to beat myself up over it. Thank you for this very insightful video! I now understand this has been his form of punishment all these years for just me just being myself and trying To live a normal life. I now know he’s been trying to make me feel insecure and to doubt myself and my own capabilities.

[@c5scherers]

Awesome video, simply & perfectly explaining the Silent Treatment! This is the first video from hundreds that I've watched, explaining the Do's/Don't's of handling the Silent Treatment........Thank You!

[@pamelac.5600]

Meredith is the ONLY KZbin expert I will listen to. She is the BEST out there! And she lived it, she knows what she is talking about!

[@MR-mv6hd]

The narc asked me to spend a weekend with him after he discarded me, of course l said NO. He punished me for not jumping into his offer! He hasn’t talked to me since last week. I did text him once and he ignored it. So much anxiety!

[@lyndiebrown4968]

My own mom is doing this now... it is so sad... I finally stood up for myself as an adult, and this is the outcome ... so mind boggling...

[@oliverrojas7117]

one of the hardest things an adult can do is stand up to a parent, three years ago i made a similar decision.

[@saflouise3055]

Hugs 🤗 you’re not alone 💕

[@peacefaith560]

yesss i went nc

[@shnsshr]

I watched the video til the very end and I cried so hard bcs I've been in a relationship for 9 months on and off bcs I've been constantly getting the silent treatment and you're right, they come & go in my life like it's nothing. And I searched this video bcs I had the urge to text them. I'm so glad I didn't. I keep telling myself if I was the one wrong and now I know I wasn't. Its them :') Thank you so so much. Will be watching your vids more. Healed me. Made me feel so calm. I'm so happy. I'm crying 😭😭😭

[@SandraLily2]

My most memorable silent treatment (there were many): 3 days silent treatment for making grilled cheese and soup for dinner 😄 I have survived the worst, most horrible 9 months of my life after leaving (my) narcissistic husband of 11 years. Meredith, your words "bury and mourn the hope" were a Godsend and absolutely set me straight!

[@mercedesvallar3384]

I can relate ❤

[@thelmawright1633]

Absolutely the best advice that I have ever heard!!

[@ThePropheticClock]

Sometimes the silent treatment from malignant narcs is a blessing. And not in disguise. They keep their fat traps closed for awhile. I don't mind when my boss does it at all...

[@mariepresho3653]

Lol

[@ivanichiva]

yes at least its silent :)

[@lanerdee]

I get the silent peacefulness from mine for a couple days then, for about a week or two, I get thrown under the bus with lies, undermining, micromanaging, and accusations of things that I haven’t even heard of! This cycle continues. It’s like I’m walking on glass. I’m damned if I do and damned if I don’t. On the bright side, by others, I’m told that I’m excellent at what I do. Not by the one that matters the most though. Ugh.

[@David-nu6kw]

My ex would give me the silent treatment over small silly things at times. It progressed over the years to her stonewalling me for a week before she discarded me. I asked if she wanted a hug, she said she is not ready. I told her it's not nice of her to ignore me all week and she said that she is not responsible for how I feel. She even told me her ex said she was a "Master manipulator" I of course at the time did not realize how serious of a problem this will becomes. Until of course she kicked me out after 9 years and claimed I'm abusive. It's just total madness.

[@amandalouisenicholson3126]

I love your content, but I also wanted to tell you that your shirt strikes the perfect balance of femininity and showing off your strength. You look both elegant and athletic :)

[@saflouise3055]

Amanda Louise Nicholson definitely 💕

[@amirrasheed4361]

Thank u sister u r 100% right my partner is a narsisest for past 10 years it's a long story I can't explain in the words I just say that enough is enough I broke my relation after 10 years at any cost I am not going back it is quite difficult for me but my god is with me and now she is giving me the silent treatment for last one month it's ok sister I know it's very painfull for me but I am not going back even I change my office route also it's a very long story sister kindly pray for me I shall be greatgull thanks sister take care of yourself God bless u

[@Halimahhappiness]

Even if you did something wrong it doesn't justify the silent treatment.

[@sssttt2211]

Good redunce... 😆 be happy that they went silent. Now enjoy your life doing what you love.

[@lauraburney1912]

Wonderful video Meredith. Had this the whole length of a long marriage ..... it broke my heart. 6 years out. 'Run, dont walk to the nearest Exit' 💫 and...don't look back. xxxx L.

[@maryri]

Thank you for this great video. Most narcissistic videos focus on only romantic relationships but there are those of us that deal with this from family such as ex,'s their mother father sister brother co dependant enabling even adult children

[@alicemwamikazi8325]

You are so lovely and smart.your voice calm, really, you are a blessing to us

[@Analysis_Paralysis]

Meredith is the best source on emotional abuse. She's stopped posting. :(

[@rocpeacelove3544]

THIS!!! OMG!!!! When I say this video right here has leaped right into my soul OMG You are a GOD SEND!!! 🙏🏾 Thank You

[@cymbolichuman433]

I have had the silent treatment at least ten times this last year alone. For not agreeing with them. Nice to know it's not my imagination. It's relieving now to enjoy what I want to enjoy during this very relaxing time. I like your content where you recognize the issue and have suggestions.

[@nannanz2097]

You are so right about not apologising, they are an energy sponge. This never ending pattern is exhausting.

[@Stillpril]

In the beginning I made all the mistakes mentioned above unfortunately I'm stuck in this relationship for the near future but I've actually learned to enjoy the silent treatment that's why he stopped doing it

[@allyma3]

Its gonna be ok. You will get through this. THEY CANT CONTROL YOU. YOU ARE YOUR OWN REALITY ❤❤❤❤

[@ennvee1970]

Please don’t Enjoy it ,(I know that you’re not) but keep strategizing,you don’t want them to know that you are on to them,your Exit is not for away!💪🏽❤️🌈💐🤔

[@Sara-qe3fw]

stillpril Yep. That’s me too. Until the next cycle. 🤫

[@nontokozombatha9182]

Trust me, that's part of the cycle. I'm talking from personal experience. The enjoyment won't last for long. Hope you get the courage to exit this kind of dysfunction. Best wishes

[@taniabliuc437]

My mom always gave me silent treatment, and than my ex narcissist partner and my sister. I also was doing this and I thought is a normal reaction when you are upset. Now I know this is manipulation. Thank you Meredith for your dedication of helping so many people, thank you for keeping me awakened when I almost slipped back.

[@SusieN2011]

Mine did this recently. I saw him after he hoovered me in person. We were having fun and laughing. I text him telling him it was nice seeing him....he ghosted me. Never responded. I didn't do anything, just emailed him three weeks prior telling him I was done w him. Ugh!

[@lysamarkey6969]

My mother gave me the silent treatment starting out when I was very young. It would go on for hours, and when I was in my teens, days! And when I was an adult, she went 3 months without communicating with me - AND I worked for her and lived in a house she was remodeling so she basically controlled EVERYTHING in my life. I'm now almost 60. I only learned 5 years ago that she was a narcissist and am now learning how to manage the relationship. I am SO grateful for videos like this and Dr. Ramini's videos.

[@mathatikusprime6165]

Damn my mom used to call my name every 5 minutes I started almost hating my own name lol. When she ingnored me I loved it, she would never understand why I didn’t give a shit. Cus the silence is the best

[@susiep.7372]

If you know, you go !! Nobody deserves such a craziness !! These are worthless individuals, let karma do the work !! Theire whole being, is their punishment !!

[@maryangorta7240]

I do not believe in Karma..evil people are more happy than the nice one..

[@susiep.7372]

@@maryangorta7240 That's the justice: they don't feel happiness, they don't feel love !! They are like robots, who repeat the same circle again and again. That is called insanity !! Like I said : their being is their punishment !! Don't believe that they are happy! They know how to "act" happy...

[@dawntreader815]

My MIL is doing this x1yr because after 18 yrs I asked to call before bursting into my home. They live close. Everybody loves her in the community. Her words and actions don't match up.