Real Families: Breakthroughs in Student Behavior

Filmed over a period of one year, The Real Families Room accesses three schools (three of only five schools in the whole of the UK that agreed to participate in the film), and follows a handful of children as they go on their journey back to full participation in the classroom via the ‘nurture room’. This film provides an insight into the lives of troubled children within schools.
The Real Families Room covers a new approach to helping children with Additional Support Needs in the form of social, emotional and/or behavioural needs which are acting as barriers to the children's learning.
The Real Families Room is a place within the school where children can be given the freedom to express themselves. The aim is to effectively address the children's needs and prevent exclusion from the classroom and any distress caused by them not having the coping skills, through no fault of their own. Primarily, these rooms hope to ensure that as few children as possible are excluded from school due to bad behaviour. By taking a proactive approach, these rooms within schools ‘nurture’ children to give them the best possible chance of coping within a mainstream classroom setting alongside their peers.
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[@robertcomtois2074]

We need more teachers like this woman she's such a sweetheart

[@ingeborg-anne]

Man, I wish I could've gotten something like this when I was little. I was never taught the simple ability of praising myself for good work.

[@ServiteJack]

It’s ok now ya? We’re never taught what we really need when we need it Why. Idk either. But moments we are everything begins right? Peace

[@ingeborg-anne]

@@ServiteJack Hey, Jack! Yes, I'm far better at it now. Thank you :)

[@lewiswise7808]

I admire the teacher's patience when Jamie wouldn't get off the floor and she dealt with it in the most humourous way I've ever seen. She deserves a medal.

[@D-me-dream-smp]

This lady is a gem. She has such patience and compassion and hopefully she can change the direction of some of these children. This is a unique and interesting solution which reduces the disruption to the other classes while supporting these children’s educational needs. For the people being judgemental we are only seeing a glimpse into their lives and no doubt some of them are possibly dealing with different brain chemistry, may have had prenatal exposure to drugs or alcohol or have experienced unstable home life or trauma in their early lives. They may not have learnt the basics of boundaries, structure, emotional regulation and social skills in their early life.

[@amitramlall4235]

I agree. We need more teachers like this lady, because they actually care. I never went to school, but I think that there are very few teachers that care. They seem too quick to put labels on the kids, instead of trying to figure out what they kids are interested in. Hope that helps.

[@GeoAmigo2]

@@amitramlall4235There is a reason some teachers “Label Kids” They are overworked and underpaid and deal with a rise in bad behaviour and they don’t get paid to figure out what’s wrong

[@terrie-annhone582]

What a lovely teacher, God ,bless her. That little boy needs help. Bless him lord.

[@sophie-xg5cx]

When I was a child I had been permanently excluded from 3 schools before my autism diagnosis and when I got moved into a primary ages pupil referral unit they helped me a lot learn how to regulate my emotions and be able to take myself to a safe space to calm down and when I was able to move back into a mainstream primary just about end of year 4 I got put into a nurture room and was able to be fully reintegrated into the mainstream classroom just after Christmas in year 5. I am now in year 10 doing my mocks in a mainstream secondary school. I do have lessons in inclusion because I can't do certain lessons but I've not been excluded. I got suspended only 2 times during high school.

[@ashlieleavelle]

You are bragging because you were suspended only 2 times in High school? Please don't use autism as an excuse to be bad. I know your brain works differently. You don't HAVE to get in trouble at all. You can choose to behave. I applaud you for making progress.

[@ryan-anarchist-2535]

​@@ashlieleavelle it's exceptionally easy to get excluded for autistic behaviour. One of my primary schools was about to permanently exclude me because I had autistic meltdowns there all the time, if my mum hadn't removed me first I'd have been expelled

[@Misszebyrobloxvideos756]

same before people started thinking/knew i was autistic in year 7 i also kept getting in trouble detentions and got suspended one time but in around may/june/july people started thinking i was autistic but i have to wait 2 or 3 years for an official diagnoses

[@globalwarmhugs7741]

What a lovely bunch of little kids. All it takes, for the most part, is the proper support for them to learn how to interact more positively with one another and with other children. This teacher is a gem. I wish that there had been ones like her in my childhood.

[@jenniferclark9367]

If all teaches could be like this teacher...wow

[@emilyraquelrodriguezsalina2149]

hi everyone ,if anyone else wants to uncover dealing with toddler tantrums try Loctavan Teaching Toddler Strategy ( search on google ) ? Ive heard some great things about it and my neighbor got amazing results with it.

[@Crafting_Through_Life]

That teacher getting Jordan into soccer and being there cheering her on really hit my heart. We need more teachers like her in this world.

[@karenfitzpatrick6256]

I'm in the US where children are pressured to be in competition with everyone. With only one winner and the rest loses. Very self-centeredness that does not serve emotional growth. I'm so impressed with this UK school program that focuses on the individual child's emotional challenges. Where they are taught to overcome their fear, anger and insecurities. Where the ability to fit in and work with others is the top priority for success and supported by the teachers, parents and their peers. Well done! These kids have great training in self control and a healthy self confidence that will serve them well throughout life. Where as our children grow up always striving to "be first" without the coping skills to see the importance of their contribution toward the whole. Leading them to think "cheating" is fine as their integrity is compromised. You see it in the differences in our Societies. We've been concentrating on the wrong attributes to build strong and compassionate adults. And you are known for your reserved manner and respectful ability in relating to others. We could learn a lot from your educational example about teaching moral character and fair play to our children!

[@london_liv5539]

You’ve made so many really interesting comparisons here I feel true compassion for the American children affected by such a competitive introduction to education and life. It’s awful isn’t it? I’m from a different country than Scotland & US and our system is more like the Scotland model thankfully. All I can suggest is to lobby politicians for change to the US system. Someone has to start somewhere I guess…? This film has really inspired me in regulating my own behaviour as well as the children in my life 🙏🏽

[@coolkitty2075]

Thats horrible ❤

[@olivialaylaxox]

i love that teacher, so calming,so nice and understanding. what a star!

[@janesmith4h]

This teacher Blessed my soul. She calmed me down, and I'm an adult! AMAZING

[@chelsearobson2871]

This video really touched my heart, My little boy is like many of these children & hes due to start school in September, I'm his biggest mascot & want what's best for him as seeing how these adult have such an impact on these lovely little children really made me smile knowing teachers do have a heart & see past the childrens struggles & help them. I have faith when my boy starts school in September he will be looked after.

[@itspeekaboo]

It's amazing what can be achieved, with resources and the dedication of some people.

[@marioyt39595]

The teachers in this are so calm, we need more teachers in this type of personality

[@leighfletcher4101]

I know these children have problems, but as a teacher who has been attacked, threatened (my family too) and sworn at, it gets really old.

[@zoedark7101]

You shouldn't have to put up with abuse.

[@celiabonadies5667]

One of the boys near the beginning seemed to have a seizure. I hope is getting help with that.

[@dominewimbury2039]

That's what I thought. Hope that's not a seizure he's having and they don't realise

[@sweetsting1448]

He was dissociating, blanking out. Very common for people on the autism spectrum.

[@shaylavale8540]

@@sweetsting1448 It also looked like an absence seizure... He really needs testing. I too thought the same thing Celia Bonadies. I lived with simple, partial seizures most of my life. Only close family and friends could tell for the most part when I had a seizure. Many of my teachers thought I was daydreaming when I was in school.

[@shaylavale8540]

@Am better then everyone and Everything am a GOD I am so sorry that happened to you. I hope most people are educated enough not to do that anymore. Though I am sure many still think that way...

[@london_liv5539]

I agree with you - it did look very much like a seizure, however, his teacher was able to get a reaction from him and he was still shallow breathing throughout and able to maintain a good open airway with his posturing. His teacher would have been right there if he’d become unstable but thankfully he recovered quickly, no fuss was made & he didn’t have any adverse effects. Im sure they were well aware of what was going on & what to do if things changed. In my opinion - an extremely well managed episode and a full recovery - you can’t ask for better than that. 🙏🏽

[@amenjen]

Jason had a seizure. Poor baby.

[@amenjen]

Kaitlyn Hassler 10:35 mark. The teacher waves her hand in front of his face.

[@london_liv5539]

I agree with you - it did look very much like a seizure, however, his teacher was able to get a reaction from him and he was still shallow breathing throughout and able to maintain a good open airway with his posturing. His teacher would have been right there if he’d become unstable but thankfully he recovered quickly, no fuss was made & he didn’t have any adverse effects. Im sure they were well aware of what was going on & what to do if things changed. In my opinion - an extremely well managed episode and a full recovery - you can’t ask for better than that. 🙏🏽

[@hello-un2rp]

@@london_liv5539 what part in the video

[@london_liv5539]

@@hello-un2rp around 10:21. Jason recovers less than a minute later.

[@dominewimbury2039]

I hope that wasn't a seizure poor Jason had! It did go on for a good while

[@kaylamccrone7440]

Or it could be that he’s not present in the moment it’s quite common in children like these

[@london_liv5539]

I agree with you - it did look very much like a seizure, however, his teacher was able to get a reaction from him and he was still shallow breathing throughout and able to maintain a good open airway with his posturing. His teacher would have been right there if he’d become unstable but thankfully he recovered quickly, no fuss was made & he didn’t have any adverse effects. Im sure they were well aware of what was going on & what to do if things changed. In my opinion - an extremely well managed episode and a full recovery - you can’t ask for better than that. 🙏🏽

[@ryan-anarchist-2535]

​@@london_liv5539 I used to have a friend who has absence seizures and they look almost identical to that. She would smile and even laugh slightly/quietly if you said something funny, but she would be staring into space and unable to move her head, just her face slightly

[@london_liv5539]

@@ryan-anarchist-2535 mmm they’re certainly different aren’t they? As long as the person is breathing though, it should pass quickly.

[@angelinagulizio5830]

I don’t think the teachers in our system have that kind of patience! I can understand some teachers are underpaid but if it your ambition to be a teacher the rewards can be great All I’ve seen recently is teachers staying home and not coming to a agreement on anything So much as teaching as a calling🤧

[@jamieoakwolf5949]

Me and Jordyn have so much in common: ADHD, No self esteem, Anger quick, keeping people at a distance. Nice to know I'm not the only one with this: Only 2 differences are I don't have the smaller class opportunity so I have nowhere to go and usually end up Isolated. Also I'm autistic

[@PinkGoldAbby]

Well this ain't about you hon 😀

[@london_liv5539]

@@PinkGoldAbby what a nasty thing to say. Shame on you.

[@london_liv5539]

Jamie Oakwolf my empathy and sympathy for you is strong. Try and find yourself a good adult therapy program for Autism and/or behavioural support if you can. You deserve care & compassion too, no matter what your age. 🙏🏽

[@stevenpryer5880]

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[@Wildlifesupernannyfan]

I had ADHD but got diagnosed at just 8. I only had 3 major temper tantrums through out my whole school coreea which was 15 years in duration which wasnt too bad. One over lunch and two over a class problems.

[@denise8791]

How did you manage the other times you didn't have tantrums? What made you not tantrum? It sounds like you perhaps had great support around you.🙂

[@Giveme100ksubs]

i got mostly at the age of 6 WERE I RANDOMLY SHOWED MY BOTTOM AT THE FRONT OF OTHER CLASSROOMS IN MY SCHOOL WTF IS WRONG WITH ME!??? i dont do that again and my ADHD is gone

[@ryan-anarchist-2535]

Adhd can't go away. It's literally physically impossible to "not have ADHD anymore". You either still have it, but the traits and symptoms have calmed down, or you never had it in the first place. ​@@Giveme100ksubs

[@Twdsuperfan2010]

Jamie's care taker sounds like she's Ms. higgins from Sofia the first lol .

[@Senacacrane]

I think what's helpful is that these teachers in this school system are trying to help these kids and help them overcome difficulty suggest shyness such as insecurities and other stuff. I mean here in America, we don't often help kids who have behavioral issues. We try which is what's important. Important but it's always about competition here in America. For me. I have autism and yes I used to be shy but I don't blame parents all the time. I think it's the school system. That's very important. Without the supports that these kids have had, they wouldn't be here. They wouldn't be talking to people opening up, you know. Yes it is scary but this is the type of school system we need for people. Specifically kids with disabilities. Whether that's autism ADHD or other stuff.

[@Aurora-kq7bo]

I wish tax money went to this rather than army one plane cost ten years of education for all the kids in UK.... sad world

[@karenfitzpatrick6256]

I agree! I'm in the US and education is so under funded and a low priority, yet our military gets all they ask for.

[@jcjanes1]

I'm not familiar with the system in the UK. Canada has funding available to families for supports, and with diagnosis children can qualify for up to a full time aid in the schools

[@carolwong1456]

Inspirational!

[@sundrawsun3386]

Pls test Jamie for Authism. Hope he gets the help he needs soon. All the best for the family 💛

[@TempoViolence]

These documentaries are years old

[@marclabrie6027]

@@ashleigh2737 needs discipline

[@jcjanes1]

I would hope these children are getting diagnosis. I suspect Jaime has ASD and FASD. Very difficult at times to manage. Needs lots of love at home and school.

[@amyleedenn7148]

That child has a morbid death infatuations

[@london_liv5539]

Classic parental neglect & no supervision of what he’s exposed via technology sadly.

[@jamessearson]

The schools are on a council estate showing naglection not the lack of motivation?

[@coolkitty2075]

I used to play on my own at school. No one cared in 70s

[@ryan-anarchist-2535]

Does anyone know the name of theme park they visited?

[@ashley2680]

That lady sounds like she’s Scottish

[@Ashley-ko4sm]

She is, this school is in Glasgow Scotland

[@charmaineblackie98]

What school are they filming this in????

[@lisamillar1837]

Royston Primary School in either Edinburgh or Glasgow though from looking at the scenery I'm fairly certain its Glasgow.

[@charmaineblackie98]

@@lisamillar1837thanks. They are talking about my aunt but never said her name. I still cant believe it

[@TabathaJo]

@@charmaineblackie98 what part were they talking about your aunt?

[@ryan-anarchist-2535]

​@@TabathaJoI'd *guess* the bit about the teacher that went off sick

[@throughsusanseyes5773]

I don't have a teacher I have a Instructer

[@ositoosito4566]

2 mins in and I’m done, I have no patience for kids this way, after a while I’d just walk away and let them throw their fit, if no one is there to watch and give into the behavior, who’s he going to throw the fit for?

[@XxK47YxX]

But eveyone leaving when they have meltdowns wouldnt prepare them for the life of socialisation ahead or how to appropriately behave around people if the people are just removed from the situation.

[@olivialaylaxox]

and thats why you definitely should NOT be a teacher

[@emmahulse6184]

I pushed kids on the fool

[@2bbusybee]

They need supernanny

[@marclabrie6027]

No they don't

[@lockout5731]

I would expel Jamie big time

[@Jacoe413]

And your attitude is part of the problem that these kids have.

[@lessehead]

By law, every child has the right to an education. Appropriate placement must be found for every child. They cannot be expelled from public school.

[@marclabrie6027]

@@lessehead they also need guidance and discipline

[@nuviaerivez5876]

@@lessehead so do the other children and he us disrupting the entire class. What education, he does not even know how how to be a student. There is a real world out there and NO ONE is going to treat Jamie and give him chance after chance like he is given by that extremely patient teacher. That's not how the world works and what she is doing is not working at all.

[@lessehead]

@@nuviaerivez5876 As a 30 yr teacher, I agree with you! I’m just stating the facts. We’re not allowed to expel them. Unfortunately, most disciplinary schools have been closed bc of budget cuts, so no one knows what to do with these kids. I had many of them over the yrs who disrupted the class all yr long and were incapable of behaving. Not fair to anyone. Behaviors are a big reason why so many teachers are leaving the profession.

[@Caitlin-h2p]

12:31 bless

[@Santi.com.ar.]

What happen to the parents of this children, there is the "problem", they go back home and you dont know how are they are brought up,. So the solution is temporary