Interracial Relationships in Post-Apartheid South Africa

Under apartheid, interracial marriage was illegal in South Africa. It's now legal, with South Africa calling itself the Rainbow Nation. But mixed-race couples say that they still face unique difficulties.
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In South Africa, interracial marriage was illegal under the brutal regime of apartheid. Now that mixed race marriage is legal - with South Africa touting itself as a champion of diversity - has the legacy of apartheid been overcome? Pam and Sebastian are an interracial South African couple, and say that they face unique challenges - particularly due to entrenched beliefs about racial hierarchies, a hangover of apartheid. 'Being in an Indian family, my family expected me to waltz in a girlfriend that was Indian', explains Sebastian. 'My mum was not accepting of African women'. 'If you date a white person, it's like an achievement. Unfortunately, black people are always seen as inferior', says Pam. 'The racism has a new cousin called classism. The apartheid system never really went away, it just flipped. It's about colour and class now', says Ndaba, who is in a mixed race relationship.
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[@Brave-Is_Mine1]

“You may think I’ve got dirty blood but as long as my husband cherishes me those words didn’t affect me the way it could have” This is a Real love!!!

[@n.m6249]

I'm loving this straight talk, I prefer this kind of talk than the pretending and fake smiles. Things will progression quickly if we don't sugar coat them

[@Skylightatdusk]

Honest discussion is the only way to progress. Don't waste time w people who speak fakely and with toxic positivity. No progress will ever be achieved with them!

[@n.m6249]

@@Skylightatdusk exactly, I'm a black person and I won't be angry if someone from white or Indian community says they were taught by parents to hate black people, at least they are being honest and we can work forward from there

[@mademade8092]

@@n.m6249 A lot them say they don't but still have that confederate flag beliefs. I'm not only talking about Africa.

[@n.m6249]

@@mademade8092 I fully believe you, many claim not to be racist but their actions speak otherwise. Wait till their child dates a black person. In Europe countries are going right wing due to deep core racism

[@AntiFurryNatio]

@@n.m6249 As Indians from North we stereotype south Indians in our movies as dumb, unmanly etc and that made us have prejudice agaist blacks too. You will find Indians Being cool with whites and whites being cool with Indians but Rarely see bond within Indians and Black's. Racism in North India is wild, I remember children and teaching mocking dark kids and illtreating them. Just bring honest, Also Crimes committed by blacks made this prejudice even extreme.

[@williammckinney567]

I feel sorry for the original black South Africans country being invaded by foreign people that have no respect for the local people of that country.

[@souleymanendoye997]

If foreigners do not respect South African they have to be quiked out !

[@user-dc9oq2pr6v]

When foreigners misbehave in Europe, they say that they should be deported and they make a big fuss. When european/indian foreigners come to Africa and ACTUALLY kill and misbehave, nobody says anything. This is the double standard.

[@colinwilliams553]

That is very SELFISH of you to say.

[@gideonbooysen4190]

Pam and Sid,wish them nothin bit longevity filled with love and happiness ❤️

[@Tripleexel]

To each his own. Live and let live. Trying to please other people at the expense of your own happiness is a fools errand

[@nellygumede5597]

Sabastian might have been an Indian at home but he was black outside home, he hanged around blacks, played with us in high school, he even speaks fluent Zulu, you couldn't tell he came from a family that discriminates when it comes to race

[@DonDorico1102]

Oh wow that’s so sweet to hear

[@sebastianreddy8067]

Hi Nelly, how are you. Thank you for sharing that. I always try and stay true to myself

[@rickyreward226]

Wow true. He is not like the Average Indian. Average Indians are so arrogant and feel they are better than the black counterparts. I went to a computer shop where you were allowed to check out specifications because it was a big shop with a show room. Wow the Indians and whites were doing what ever they wanted. But this shop owner told me Africans no touch. We just see how it looks with our eyes and buy or not but we don't touch like the other races. Wow. I was from pharmacy school I Russia where I went through 6 years of racisim. With the people telling me Go home. This is not your land and stop breathing our air. And here I was home. And an Indian was treating me in Africa like the Russians in Russia. I hated Indians from that day. Then 10 years later I was to go to the US. And guess what I got an Indian working at the embassy. And less than a minute he told me to just come back pick my Visa and passport. While the white employees would look to find faults and add more requirements. He treated me better. Now I had to change my mind about Indians all being brainless. So it's mostly situational I guess.

[@maxk5831]

@@rickyreward226 wow

[@jacksonkimenyi3977]

@@sebastianreddy8067 I'm proud of you Man. May the Lord God bless your family

[@ERSReed2024]

"A man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife." This couple is amazing and perfectly suited. Pam is articulate, confident, and unassuming ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤

[@cezz1105]

Deuteronomy 7:3 In-Context 3 Do not intermarry with them. Do not give your daughters to their sons or take their daughters for your sons

[@ERSReed2024]

@cezz "Do not intermarry" meaning a different belief (on the inside), not a different skin colour (on the outside)

[@devannayar6456]

what about the woman ?

[@flobekoe]

His wife , yes. The Bible didn’t say, white wife, blacks and whites have nothing in common, we should marry our own kind.kerosene and water don’t mix

[@flobekoe]

@@ERSReed2024different skin color, black and whites have nothing in common, we should marry our own kind, kerosene and water don’t mix.even the Bible agrees

[@Therongunner]

South Africa's little Apartheid cousin Namibia is still deeply racially segregated. Mixed race marriage over here is still extremely rare compared to SA.

[@sandrineroesch8706]

What a brutal expression,but it made me laugh 😆 White Namibians are mostly of German descent. I met a few,and their German was perfect,like they were tourists, just flying in from any German city. I found this very unusual. And somehow creepy with their typical boere kakhi shorts,shirts and boots.., Like tanned tourists that have been on a safari - for 200 years 😂

[@serogolemogole2685]

​@@sandrineroesch8706I bet none of them can speak any of the local 'native' languages, and yet some probably concider themselves to be proudly Namibian, supposedly

[@vierakanjoka4194]

😂😂Namibia ittle Sister of South Africa

[@john-darrenesterhuizen9008]

@@sandrineroesch8706I live in Namibia and most white people are boere meaning Dutch descent and the Germans are the minority white group.

[@atilla4372]

​@@serogolemogole2685 you are spot on.

[@arslanbhatti99]

I married to girl from South Africa in US. Her father and brother never talk to me for single time . They rejected me because of my brown skin. Always sent threats to my wife to kill me. They forced her to divorced me. They cut with her all the relationships. I did masters in sociology raised in Pakistan as a Christian. Never thought people can go that extreme level of hate on the basis of your color. My wife mental health get very very bad so I try my everything day night to make things work. No one showed up to help her from her family. One day as mom get sick and she left the US for her to see her. Then they forced her to divorce me . Such a shame. I feel sorry for my wife and her family. How they still lives in the slavery of box thinking. I hope God will forgive them change their worldview.

[@mercy661]

😢

[@user-ng8em1vf8p]

i pray over your marriage , God will protect and bless you.

[@AgabaScod-yq3ff]

Is that still happening in the world

[@namelesswreck6383]

So sorry to hear that, you deserve to be with someone who values You for the person that you are and not by the color of your skin.

[@Ranjen1]

Pray and leave it in the hands of the Lord

[@johnnieolivier1010]

In appreciation to my parents, a Xhosa woman and a Coloured man, who've been together for over 40 years until my father passed in 2009, we were brought up to respect and embrace people of different races, cultures and backgrounds. Interracial relationships mostly teach tolerance

[@mkululimbali2206]

It must be sad and burdensome to be a child of a mixed relationship though. I feel that one could lose a sense of true identity because it's easy to say I'm black than to say eish... I'm black but my mother is something or vice versa.

[@KraftingKrissie]

@@mkululimbali2206 Only if your identity is solely based on yout race or colour of your skin...it's a beautiful thing to be a product of a mixed relationship and also to have kids by someone of a different race. Our opinions of race need to evolve and grow. Love is beautiful ❤

[@Sionnach1601]

Yawn 😴

[@Flower-ck2bs]

@@mkululimbali2206 To”loose” identity? So many mixed people have a strong identity and so many not mixed lack an identity. Only prejudice can cause judgements with no ground….

[@eyeswideopen7777]

Well good to know

[@therealgodessisis]

Nelson Mandela was not fighting for interracial marriages. It was not his vision. He wanted political and economic freedom for Africans.

[@mfundo1pumla]

he ddnt do it alone, all SAns fought for liberation. unfortunately some of them were actually fighting for interracial relationships😀

[@icetrip2417]

True

[@sphelelendlovu8874]

True 👍

[@onailyn4436]

Kkkkkkkkk do you mean he wanted to preserve the white people for any purpose ? For development of the country ??? That would mean he believed ONLY white people can develope south africa. That would mean a inferiority complex 😂😂😂 I dont believe he believed this

[@vaeterua]

He only got political freedom ​@@mfundo1pumla

[@phillipsidhojapap1461]

The mother whose son was murdered has a golden heart. She was able to seek a journey of healing away from hate. Unfortunately, this hate, the racism, continues to foster discord, injustice, and widening inequality in SA. Justice needs to be served

[@bernita88chaser80]

facts so true an people aren't trusting enough to change

[@mkululimbali2206]

I like the fact that she squarely took it to where it all lied, racism. Nothing less, nothing more. Yes of course poverty in fact and in mind played a role in the looting to Kickstart the whole thing.

[@pmambongwe8640]

That's the spirit of black people always. The only race that embodies it so well in this country

[@TheIsaacbangi]

People who live under pressure in their relationships & remain together are among the few who have experienced the rare gem called Love! You can never know whether there is love before what you take to be love (admiration) is put to a test!

[@liveinwisdom3610]

Interracial relationships are rare.. the most common Interracial relationships, are usually middle to upper-class black men, with coloured or Indian women. Or lower to middle-class black women, with middle-class White men. But interracial relationships in South Africa are statistically insignificant. We are still very much segregated.

[@khumba-hlakhumba-hladevelo342]

Extremely so and you continually defending your selves

[@MsMandsa]

I don't agree. Because we have grown up in a more integrated society as have our children, interracial relationships are more common than before and based on education and class as opposed to race. Unless my reality in my circles are different but it's the norm.

[@liveinwisdom3610]

@@MsMandsa You are over exaggerating Amanda. The norm, really? Where are you from, and what's your socio-economic status if you don't mind? I am from Cape Town, and come from a middle-class background. Regardless of socio-economic status Its not the norm at all, and Cape Town is probably the most liberal place in South Africa. Personally I only date black and coloured women. I will admit though, in all my romantic encounters with white women they were always foreign, mainly from Germany or Austria. Never local, so I am just curious what your background is, and so called social circle. Also ironically majority of my white friends, are also foreign. I find that foreign whites, are far more liberal/non-racist than local whites.

[@MsMandsa]

@@liveinwisdom3610 johannesburg and also middle class. I guess we can only talk of our lived experiences. But I hope it gets better with each generation. I am not sure how liberal Cape Town is, I have never lived there. 🤔 I am in the legal profession so I am not sure if that is also why I have been in diverse circles. Maybe it's an exception and not the norm, which is sad.

[@IloveTide1997]

Thats for the best

[@duwaynem.467]

You haven't even scratched the surface regarding race in South Africa dear... Its a whole MESS!

[@platophilosopher1293]

Tell us - how so?

[@duwaynem.467]

@@platophilosopher1293 Go outside & observe.. come back and tell us what you saw..

[@mattontop2262]

Bullshit. Things are not that bad at all.

[@duwaynem.467]

​@@mattontop2262 POV: The "its not that bad" crew are often privileged & will never see the full context of the situation...

[@mattontop2262]

@@duwaynem.467 please explain. I’m not white btw.

[@BhagyaBlossom]

I felt so sad for Enhle's mum. I wish I could give her a hug. Despite losing her son she doesn't blame anyone other than racism. She seemed such a kind sweet soul.

[@zandatwala3469]

She's a hero ❤️

[@abichugobana9509]

Bhagya, you are so pretty. Are you single?

[@samotivationbysami]

I’m Palestinian-Bulgarian from a mixed Muslim-Christian family. "Where are you from?" is always a difficult question for me to answer. I’ve never felt fully accepted in either the Bulgarian or Arab community and sometimes I've encountered racism and stereotypes about my background. Being mixed has its challenges, but in recent years I've come to appreciate the beauty of it. I realized that being mixed is one of the main reasons why I get along so well with different people, regardless of how different they are to me, where they come from, how they think and which religion they follow. Being mixed is a true blessing that makes a more well-rounded and tolerant human being.

[@zakiyamcabdulahi516]

one trick follow your father blood also respect your mother blood and honor today if your father was a king you will become his successor In arab world or muslim world You will follow your father and you get his inheritance.

[@DumaM-ir7rk]

@ zakiyamcabdulahi516 yes Africans follow the fathers blood line. But if you look through the history of all humans we all used to follow the fathers bloodline. Recently things have changed you find people who claim to be bit of Italian bit of African bit of German if you follow my example here. I don’t have problem with people doing that honestly but my question is why DNA test allow only boys to trace all their maternal and paternal bloodlines but women can’t trace her blood line from both side of maternal and paternal. Along the way the women DNA will limit her from tracing all her paternal side. Hence if you read the bible the heir was always male. By putting my one cent here it doesn’t mean the little girl she is not important but I am just sharing my one cent understanding. Unless maybe DNA advances and the same can be done with our daughters. Hence women would change her surname not the men that’s because of the DNA inheritance before anything

[@voguehaven5154]

@@zakiyamcabdulahi516 follow your mothers blood line. Her DNA will be present 3 generations down the line, however the fathers DNA disappear after 1 generation.

[@shakitashontajones]

I agree❤

[@pipipupu5104]

​@@zakiyamcabdulahi516no a interfaith kid should never be a Muslim it's wrong

[@kennethhurst6296]

They have the audacity to insult blacks who belong to that land! It never ceases to amaze me the things that some people do and say in this world. 😮😮

[@stevenzwane3238]

Beautiful documentary...... As a South African I can fully relate to this...... Please continue bringing us educational documentaries

[@kylelee9733]

Disgusting people mixing their own heritage out of existence

[@alexcope8142]

that country has the highest rape stats in the world

[@gijuvarghese6545]

Hey Mangete..howzit?

[@thembi9645]

@@alexcope8142 plz come be part of it Nd enjoy yourself ✌🏽🤷🏽‍♀️

[@tokelolove7234]

😂😂😂

[@corinnevickey4634]

Oh Wow ! Thank You to all of you folks at Journeyman Pictures for introducing these amazing couples. What courage and grace. They give us hope. Thank You for shining your light !!! Namaste from very northern New York, USA.

[@rakeshkoul92]

Pam and Sid are beautiful and great couple , loved their healthy outlook and journey together and Pam is so so beautiful. Thank You for showing this side of African life. It is difficult to break barriers and people like Sid and Pam are at frontline in this tough journey to break barriers and we as a human race should help them succeed in this journey.

[@travis975]

Spittle!

[@evah787]

What BEAUTIFUL children!

[@jessicaF61985]

I understand people's wishes for unity but There's no such thing as the "human race", there are many different races on this lovely planet and that is a beautiful thing, why are our differences a bad thing ? Why do we try to side step away from our beautiful differences ? Human life is an incredible experiment, people just can't see the beauty in that, they can't accept reality. As for mixing races it's nobody business who sleeps with who like nobody's.

[@slicusdadon]

@@jessicaF61985 Except there is ONE race. The human race. Scientifically humans are a race. Phenotypic differences aren't a race. Humans have just adapted to their respective environments. Surely you know this?

[@renaldohendricks1670]

@@evah787 agree, so cute.

[@godshandiwork7778]

The way I love this couple.... Pam and Sebastian ❤️❤️❤️🤞💯🔥.

[@sonwabilepapu2232]

I really enjoyed this documentary, it’s refreshing to hear a honest voice and a view that must be shared.

[@katieb2098]

What the mom said about indians in the workplace isn't wrong tbh

[@PHlophe]

Bang on the money , fr fr

[@mo-g827]

🤞

[@meenanaicker8999]

You must confront the person.. Don't leave it to fester..communication is vital..people don't know what you are thinking if you don't speak up.

[@kitejohnson515]

I keep hearing that about them

[@alphacompany4837]

This is the definition of racism, its like saying all blacks are thugs.

[@Mo-yd8xc]

Funny, but true story. I'm 1973 we traveled from New York to what was then known as Rhodesia. I was 8 yrs old. We weren't allowed toil leave the Johannesburg airport. 12 yrs ago my mom said to me "You don't remember you kept switching the lights off in the whites only men's room? The black people who worked their were mortified." That's my memory of apart hate.

[@MsMandsa]

The travesty of apartheid seems to still be ingrained in the fabric of us as South Africans. It is tragic. The best I can do is teach my kids better and to do better. In my own social circles relationships are based on common interests, education as well as class and religion to a certain extent not race. There is a new generation.

[@susanofhullhumberside4753]

Antiwhite farm murders prove the antihwite hatred

[@georgewilliam1736]

The travesty of the ANC/SA COMMUNIST PARTY/EFF leftist policies is worse you wanted a RESET enjoy the decline.

[@lanosduki3426]

yes..we see how good the rejection of ingroup preferences is working out for all european populations

[@roncoots3800]

Am I correct in thinking your social network is based on what school/church you attend and whether you perceive someone to be rich enough.

[@alexcope8142]

do you expect everybody to be mixed race browns in SA in 200 years time like northern brazil??

[@Capie]

I am a white male and was in a relationship with a mixed race black woman. We got many stares and the most derogative remarks were from black people towards her.

[@Mo-yd8xc]

What's a "mixed race black" person? A colored?

[@yannick245]

It you were from the rural parts of the country, the remarks by Whites wouldn't be any nicer. Urban people tend to be more tolerant.

[@zaddysenemy2291]

It's because white people wrecked havoc on black SA for centuries.

[@Mo-yd8xc]

@@zaddysenemy2291 WREACKED

[@liveinwisdom3610]

Mixed-race black women. What is that? Is she black or mixed-race? Can't be both. This is not America, where people are confused/in denial.

[@chesterdonnelly1212]

Excellent documentary. Seb is such a nice guy, and Pam knows how lucky she is. This is heartwarming.

[@TheCyberklutz]

Interesting. Makes me think back to the days when my wife and I would have been arrested if we decided to start a family.

[@kmuniqco]

God bless you and your family

[@YouTuber11111]

I’m not sure I understand our common racial classifications what is a “Black South African” and and “Indian South African”. In my opinion “Black” people are African period. We should get rid of the term “Black” makes absolutely no sense at all. Feel free to respectfully engage. Lovely documentary nonetheless, loved the couples! 💕

[@izreeljames7953]

I was just literally laughing at the fact that it was uncommon to see an African President with a darker pigmentation on a continent where majority of the people who live on it has a darker color pigmentation lol.....I just don't think folks think about their belief long enough to even ask themselves is this belief mine because it's self/world embracing or is this a belief I inherited?

[@sarai5467]

Not all black people are Africans . Africa is a continent and many difference between us , a Ethiopian is not south African (two separate countries and cultures and language) just like a moroccan could be amazgh , arab or European

[@lungamadoda6992]

Who named the continent Africa?

[@YouTuber11111]

@@sarai5467 then such a person will be referred to as Ethiopian. Maybe most of you didn’t get my point. Which is this ; why is everyone else referred to according to their nationality except South Africans? You need to understand very well that the classification of Black and White came with Apartheid and it is extremely inaccurate because the colour BLACK and what is classified as a black person are two totally different things. It’s unfortunate we had to accept that classification to the extent that Steve Biko fathered Black Consciousness. My question is why is everyone else referred to by their descent/ where they come from as opposed to Black People? There are Indians, Ethiopians, Asians, specifically Chinese, Japanese people etc. SO again, what is a Black?

[@izreeljames7953]

@@lungamadoda6992 A Roman General

[@soniabechus5122]

Sebastian and Pam are really a lovely couple and family. Mixed raced families are stared at all over the world. Don’t kid yourself.

[@bigdata9605]

I second this!

[@lanosduki3426]

the dream of Kalergi and Marcuse will be a dream of only one population ...and Sonia ,you do not belong to that population

[@salfordguy399]

@@lanosduki3426 Rubbish 🗑️! That is a hoax beloved of the far right.

[@georgewilliam1736]

Did you see Heidi Klum and Seal with their children of course people will stare at that spectacle talk about natural selection thats a prime example of it ENJOY the decline.

[@salfordguy399]

@@georgewilliam1736 What is your point? Without racism there can be no whyte people.

[@mohamedsidi5097]

I lived in South Africa for 5 years as a student and I know what this couple feels. At UNI you could still see segregation. Every race was cautious and would only speak to you or interact with you when they required something. There is still a psychological barrier in areas like Johannesburg and the rural areas. Added to that is the fostering of Pan African ethics in the society as whole which means a black guy dating out of his race is considered a traitor...............

[@tokkieandrews9988]

That's true ,during the apartheid era ,if you are white and you associate with a black person or a person of colour or visa versa you were locked up with a immorality case against you ,I saw that happen many times in South End in Port Elizabeth ,and today there is still that cautiousness amongst the races of South Africa and the saddest thing is that this government is worse then the previous government where it comes to apartheid ,no one trusts one another but I know just one thing South Africans are unique and without this government we will unite ,with God as the way will be the time South Africa will mend.

[@ncubentobeko7927]

@@tokkieandrews9988 I don't agree with you when you are saying apartheid government was better than the ruling government

[@tokkieandrews9988]

@@ncubentobeko7927 what I meant is infrastructure, the job situation, schooling ,everything was working ,and with this government nothing is working that's what I was referring to ,but the government itself I really do not agreed with their policies they like this government do not care or cared for poor people wether white,black,coloured,or Indian ,what believe is that the governments are chosen by the people wether wealthy or poor so they should be working for the people,but unfortunately all over the world ,governments are just for themselves not the people ,when I see how some people have to live it's heartbreaking knowing South Africa is a very wealthy country and this government does not make the people part of that wealth ,the wealth is shared with other countries ,like lending billions of dollars and giving the money to Cuba and you and I have to struggle to survive with high petrol,electricity, and food prices through that we are actually paying back that loan.

[@MrBooYa-yd5er]

He is a traitor.

[@Sionnach1601]

@@tokkieandrews9988 Well said. That exact situation is playing out everywhere as the real enemies are the intl bankers, who control OUR parasite snake govts. Resist all redundant policies.

[@ambo9569]

As a mixed race person I am glad that more interracial couples are starting families all over the world. It’s harder to hate an entire group when your family member is one of them too. Cultural cohesion is important ❤

[@JJ-hs1ep]

Wish everyone had that mentality

[@melissaheffner]

It's always interesting being out in town, as a coloured woman married to a white American. The stares come from everyone - white and black people. We've had a couple of rude encounters but we honestly just ignore it and go about our day.

[@izreeljames7953]

Honestly half stare out of disappointment: they lacked courage before when not asking someone out who belong to a different race out on a date, and now they see you in a relationship with someone who looks like them and think,"Dang, you're with him that means I could have dated you, man I missed out!"

[@INTUITIVENORSK2303]

You must be beautiful being of mixed ethnicity. I always remind people....Let's remember too, that there's only ONE race, the human race. Historical text says differently, but we ought know this isn't true. Just as 'white" is just a made up word, a word created by the Americas first European settlers, a word to denote skin shades, but there's truly no such thing as "white" skin. UNLESS, you are the shade of A4 paper! haha It's a ridiculous word to denote skin shades, bec all continents, even among similar ethnic groups, you will find many varying skin shades, from the palest, to the darkest, pertaining to the specific global region. It's so interesting to think, that white historians & colonizers, did a great job at convincing the world, that anyone who wasn't so called...white, couldn't possibly be of equal human value, or be as smart, hard working or as beautiful, etc;, etc;. It's a very sad world that we live in. Take care and all the best.

[@rarayena9639]

It’s sad that you use the word “coloured”….considered highly offensive in UK!

[@mikailm6934]

@@rarayena9639 its not sad, this word has a different history and etymology in South Africa

[@cHAWELO3]

@@rarayena9639 it's not, South Africa is not the U.K.

[@imankamara2766]

As long as my husband LOVES ME, THOSE WARDS DO NOT AFFECT ME. I LOVE those words she said. And I she is 100% right!

[@maburwanemokoena7117]

The thing that separates us the most is cultural differences than race. South Africans are deeply rooted in their culture, even among us Africans, it's often not as easy as ABC to marry another tribe because of cultural differences. Couples from different tribes do talk about their culture and religions, make adjustments here and there to cater for the relationship. I saw in the US, interracial relationships are a thing cause the cultural differences are not extreme. Ours is extreme, from diet, how we dress, just everything. Another thing in South Africa various races have their "own" place, which is dominated by one race. We rarely interact with each other unless at work, stadiums, I won't mention schools cause they're often dominated by a single race/tribe too. But personally I think interracial marriages will crack the hostility we have towards each other, the hate and the race. You'll end up loving the other race due to those cousin's, grandchildren you have with them. So in South Africa the obstacle is religion, culture and the economic background.

[@Capie]

You are spot on ... cultural differences a big adjustment in interracial relstionships for both!!

[@shadrackchabedi3447]

You’re talking rubbish. There’s not a single Black person who has struggled to marry outside of their tribe owing to cultural differences. Where do you take the BS you just wrote? In fact, inter tribal marriage is one of the reasons there’s little to no cases of tribal violence in South Africa. It’s a phenomenon unheard of. When the national party established SOWETO and divided the regions according to tribe, it was deliberately to encourage tribal tensions which did not succeed as Black people from differing tribes got along fairly well and intermarried. Don’t import your tribalism into other people’s lives without presenting any factual information. You embarrassed yourself in this comment section with the level of ignorance you put on display.

[@lanosduki3426]

how many laws are there in SA against european people that are only 7% of the population and how many of you did stand against them?

[@maburwanemokoena7117]

@@shadrackchabedi3447 Replying with insults just shows what's in that brain of yours. You could've left your opinion in the comments section.

[@dicksmall7976]

Racism has its roots in tribalism and this is something that most whites have never heard of. They just know that because they are constantly told that white people are intellectually superior with a greater ability to reason, they must be racists. I'm not sure how pertinent inter tribal relationships are because black me will have multiple partners during their so called marriages. Saying that people will end up loving the other race is laughable. I assume you are in your 20's writing that nonsense. It's the first thing that springs to the surface when things go wrong.

[@bvbocan1]

Just because someone prefers to date their own race doesn't make them racist. Racism has nothing to do with sexual attraction.

[@phillipjacobus5197]

And that is the truth,no one can force you be with a race u dont wana be,saying its racist is just a way of forcing people

[@phillipjacobus5197]

And the other thing is thta this media is brainwashing people to believe certain colour is better,all bullshit,in 100 years there will be no whites left,that wil never happen

[@eyeswideopen7777]

​@spiderman-jv8weyou don't know their reasons.

[@traceydumase]

Very true. Same can be applied to xenophobia. I've dated outside of my nationality (that is dated other Africans) but in the end opted to settle down with someone from home for no reason except that's just who I fell in love with🤷🏾‍♀️

[@geraldmasiu8505]

Wow! Honor to the highest altitude for this man. I am astonished at the fact that Sebastian told his mom that he would choose his wife over her even after his mother told him that she would choose him over the family

[@Amelia-vk4jt]

She probably knows that and knew that the only way to have her son in her life was by accepting that Pam was a part of his and later their children's

[@rockon8174]

He supposed to choose the mother of HIS children.

[@363sim]

While I respect Pam and Sid’s opinion, I myself am in an interracial marriage and their view is quite pessimistic. Who cares if people stare? You love each other. Keep your eyes forward and be the change you want to see. You will never be happy or feel “accepted” if you keep waiting for society’s approval. 🤗

[@bernita88chaser80]

u don't just turn a blind eye to fascist an prejudice takes alot of courage an the the Good lord I swear it will take Generations to fix

[@amandasuka1237]

I don't think they r waiting for people's approval. I'm sure they r leaving their best lives. They r just highlighting people's response of their union!

[@frannieswannie6046]

lekker doccie thanks. we are the rainbow nation. most of us have moved on. love, hugs and peace from the western cape 🇿🇦

[@vusidlamini6275]

This is a lie ....

[@leigh4326]

@@vusidlamini6275 the Western Cape is stuck in the 1950s

[@sontomtolo473]

You can't be serious?! If anything, the Western cape is the *worst*!🚮

[@andilemtimkulu1458]

White people with sarcasm and acting stupid, those fake smiles .

[@global_attraction]

Western cape is super racist

[@jemjem478]

I will be honest this might sound harsh but if these people parents didn’t like the fact they had children married to Africans why not go home ? Well and truly they are just not South African by blood but are only citizens same way I’m a British citizen but I’m not British.I just feel like if the parents had such an issue then marrying if u want you son to marry an Indian girl why not go back to your own country you no longer needed to stay .Originally some came to South Africa the same way some came in Kenya to help with some info structures ie building railways etc but after the work was done like in Kenya many Indians in South Africa decided to stay .If you make a decision to make a home in someone else is country then u racist attitudes should be subdued because u had every chance to go home .as well as some came for a better life decided to stay in South African ur in an African country so of course he will marry and African woman ur in Africa if his uncle wanted an Indian woman for him they no longer needed to stay in South Africa they could have gone home to India at anytime same with the whites they could have gone home to the European country they belong to but they chose to stay in South Africa so if you do then u can’t be racist if ur son marries someone who’s country ur an occupant in a l Africa if u was in Korea and you son married a Korean u chose to stay in someone else is country so you can’t be shocked or racist when you son chooses to love a native true blooded South African someone from that country love is love point blank if u wanted to control who he loved they should have gone back to India

[@dukewilliam3660]

I agree. but they cant go back to their place of origin because they wouldn't enjoy the same standard of living and race status they enjoy in Africa particularly South Africa. In India they would be lamenting with hunger and disease in polluted filthy overcrowded rat infested slums with open sewage and being treated as second class citizens due to their caste. However, in Africa they get be middle and upper class business owners and second in the racial hierarchy behind whites. Why would they leave?

[@chapatimoto]

Exactly,they go back

[@pourladentelle]

Yeah this my issue w/ South African colonizers! The F u in their country for? Making up your own rules and imposing it on the natives! And then stripping them of their own basic rights.

[@lightintheworld5690]

The nerve of these people! If you don’t like Africans, why don’t youmove back to India or Europe?! WTF

[@ncubentobeko7927]

I'm Zulu by tribe & from Durban, but I don't think I can have Indian or white girl friend not in a million years

[@alicegauteng2358]

Its up to you. Thats the beauty of democracy, you have a choice.

[@criptovida]

Monicas's energy is strong. It's nice to see people from the same country building families together regardless of their race. That's the way to go.

[@shellbells5504]

I always say - if you want to argue that racism isn't too bad in South Africa anymore then either date or adopt a person of colour... it's definitely eye opening and heart breaking to experience.

[@mel8517]

When Love comes thru the front door,Hate crawls out the back window and oozes around for awhile,then disappears into the dark all the way down the alleyway! When hatred come thru the front door,it very similar only more tragic.Only in the case of S.africas Cancerous Apartheid crap.Hateful Boere types scurried up towards the north part of Africa for pay dirt. or even Australias desert land down under,perhaps to stir the same formulas thru similar attacks from some innate spiritual-ill,& sub-cultural demonic hatred!

[@zulu_mafia]

Racism is Everywhere in SA. You don't to adopt to see it

[@mkululimbali2206]

Eish...heartbreaking stuff

[@lagosian123]

Shell Bells • What do you mean to adopt a person of colour? As if they are stranded stray dogs, right? Why not say adopt a white person? Undermining Africans as usual, your comment shows South Africans as low class with low self esteem waiting for white saviour. Disgusting mind set.

[@MrBooYa-yd5er]

White Genocide is also pretty heartbreaking. Miscegenation is selfish. It negatively affects everyone.

[@johnnyflores5954]

Colorisim, racism, and classism exist everywhere around the world. Not just South Africa, you should look at Latin America. In Latin America it’s more about colorism, classism, and self-Hate. Their was no hate and racism in Latin America, like that of the US during Jim Crow or Apartheid periods.

[@coz2j69]

Every country that white people colonized has Colorism and/or Racism

[@namelesswreck6383]

Not true, You don't find this type of behavior and Latin America.

[@zak7578]

@johnnyflores5954 In Europe it is even worse. There’s a lot of hypocrisy. Whites there act like they like Blacks but it doesn’t mean they really do. Visibly ethnic non whites do not get the best job opportunities, nor do they have the same socioeconomic statuses. The majority are poorer and live in working class or sub standard housing. Worse, heaven forbid if they fall foul of the law. They are treated a lot harsher. Yet these voices are the first to scream and shout off the rooftops about how great they have it. There is a mistaken belief ‘oh well it is not as bad as…’ and they kid themselves into believing they are trailblazers and things are improving. Things are going backwards not forwards. Perhaps it is time to be more honest and quit lying and pretending. Being unable to talk openly about this topic is quite sad really

[@thegogetterbymaletjemamath3166]

Heart breaking yet lovely. The power of intention.

[@fireworks9453]

The whites and indians migrated to Africa for a better life and they say 'why are you dating an African ?' . Thats messed up really.

[@lincolnmwangi2150]

Wow !! An amazing documentary. Very insightful. SA is no doubt a work-in-progress. The young generation inspires hope for a bright future.

[@mathapelo4781]

The new generation doesn’t care about race it’s all about class.

[@user-ng6zw4iz6m]

let me tell you my relationship with the hungerian guy I'm black south African Yoh Yoh Yoh that guy was everything to me😭😭he passed away 2014 I missed him till today I'm still crying 😭😭😭😭

[@debwilson5236]

I wish I could hug the poor mother who lost her son to the violence her grandchild is beautiful you can see the heartache in her eyes god bless her and her family I wish you all health and prosperity stay strong stay safe ❤❤❤❤❤

[@realtalk9169]

Love this documentary. Full of tragic stories and hope.

[@qarah6473]

Really enjoyed the documentary. So sad to hear about the personal story of Sanele and July 2021. It was almost never personalized in the sense that information was provided from a statistical perspective. Beautiful couples as well (cute Reddy children 😍).

[@lahilypaps1]

I hope we cab be friends

[@lahilypaps1]

Am from Tanzania

[@benfidelis5648]

I have also loved interracial marriages... I love what I just watched!!!

[@marshastephenson2337]

Pam seems like a lovely person. The heart and mind are the most important body parts 💯 ❤❤

[@ridomuns]

Thank you for your informative video

[@spiritrenewalfellowshipint7315]

What a powerful documentary! Thank you Journeyman

[@babalwandamase9509]

Who cares dating from different races is a choice and there is nothing special

[@PHlophe]

uBabalwa, its not a choice, Mma . the heart choses . the big deal is the family.

[@yolandelyle]

It is the heart choice👍,totally agree! NO BIG DEAL ABOUT IT. IT IS PEOPLE THAT MAKE IT A BIG DEAL!!

[@luckyb5151]

Your very right brother

[@WinTW9]

I am Ethiopian and very PROUD ( I wouldn't change it for anything) and it must be truly annoying living in a society like South Africa where people still can't see pass the colour of someone's skin is more important. GOSH how disgusting.

[@Bahre8872]

Am not Ethiopian but I know people rom ethiopia Just mere boasting nothing to be proud in ethiopia

[@geraldlekhowane8736]

Double standards and so rich coming from a Tribalist nation like Ethiopian constant in wars in Ethicity stupid people who hate each other.. go fix your broken country

[@WinTW9]

@@Bahre8872 key word "Am not Ethiopian" say no more..

[@blazer7630]

@@WinTW9 I'm Eritrean

[@jusplay7309]

We Ethiopians are dealing with our own type of racism and tribalism. So we are not immune to this either

[@theonly6359]

I didn’t know that there was tension between Indians and Africans in Phoenix. I hope communities come together and solve this mess because it can infest to a larger scale and that’s not where South Africa 🇿🇦 should be heading.

[@sakabula2357]

How did you not know?Did you miss the riots?

[@jahmah519]

Hi, this beef between Africans & Indians, I've never heard of this & hope it's all been peacefully resolved, but can I ask are the Indians Indigenous to the area or do you mean expatriates from 🇮🇳?

[@theonly6359]

@@sakabula2357 I heard about the Zuma riots, also there is one riot or the other in kzn and I didn’t know that the Indians there and the Zulus don’t get on well.

[@theonly6359]

@@jahmah519 Indians are not indigenous to Africa. However, the ones in KZN have been there since the Apartheid era and were brought in by the British to work on sugarcane farms.

[@jahmah519]

@@theonly6359 Ime so sorry, please forgive me, I just looked at your comment & not the post, I thought Phoenix in the USA, ime so sorry & know Indians are not Indigenous to Africa, the mindset of some Indians is 1 of woeful greedy intent, some are extremely racist & collateral is their Messiah, but not all are like this & no one should stoop to this pitiful level, this World is here to share but some think its all fair game hook or crook.

[@Nelson_Mandela_]

Dirty blood in our land? This people need a new spear of the nation 😡 a 21 century spear

[@afrikanking0118]

She is not Black South African…. She is South African😡

[@hughrobinson915]

Thanks for sharing this it open up my eyes even more

[@suzettehayles2848]

Sid respect and love .May GOD continue to bless you and your wife.

[@tokkieandrews9988]

Racial discrimination started with the British when they came to South Africa ,they literally pulled up their noses over the mixed marriages between Khoi and Dutch sailors during the building of the trade station (castle) in Cape Town during the early years of the late 1600-1700's this is why the great trek to the interior of South Africa happened.

[@PHlophe]

Tookie , bad habits really die hard, frankly

[@jennifertebomosiane9596]

Started with Jan Van Reebek.

[@mnmeskc848]

Really? It didn't start with the VOC and its trafficking of enslaved Asians and Africans into the Cape Colony? The Groot Trek just happened to coincide the emancipation of slaves then? And the Boere Republieke who continued to raid Indigenous settlements for "inboekelinge", didn't officially agree to outlaw slavery until the 1880s? Just the British? As for "Khoi and Dutch sailors" marriages: the children of European men by Khoekhoe women were "Bastaards" for a reason.

[@roncoots3800]

LOL try telling that to the San and the Khoi, genocided by bantus' for nearly 800 yrs.

[@jennifertebomosiane9596]

@@roncoots3800 so your ancestors came to finish the job? All this of course, as you ignore the intermarriage of the Bantu and the Khoisan communities. Smh.

[@timothykangethe7700]

Great interview.👏 To see the truimphant spirit of rising above colour codes and unnecessary stereotypes...Springs of Hope in Msanzi 🎇

[@selassietetevie4966]

What I can say is that humans always form groups,and these become tribes,the repeated habits create culture. It's the ignorance of the habits of the other group that creates competition. Usually economic competition being the most powerful determinant,all other excuses of difference like religion or culture etc are promoted by those who benefit from being at the economic top. It's usually the people at the bottom hating each other, the higher you go the lesser the intolerance within the economic classes. So rich white and black and brown have less race or tribe anxiety. I come from Ghana, we where lucky that our founding father Kwame Nkrumah, recognised the need to mix us socially, so the civil service moved people around to different parts of the country, and the boarding schools did the same for students, so we got to meet people from different tribes and classes early in life and later in life. This created knowledge and tolerance of different behaviours, this has been a great blessing for Ghana. Countries that didn't have this are still grappling with the legacy of divide and rule that was amplified by colonial exploiters. I am confident that time will heal this challenge.

[@Flourish_today]

I have an African friend married to an Indian. They have been married for 33 years but todate, the Indian mother in law has never spoken to her. She won't even come close to her. 33 years!! My friend and her husband have 3 children. First son is 33, second is 29 third is 26. Indian Father in law sort of accepted but mother inlaw todate tells her son that she still has his traditional clothes for him to marry an Indian woman. It's crazy with these Indian people.

[@sphelelendlovu8874]

Indian mother she's right not crazy.

[@pmambongwe8640]

@@sphelelendlovu8874 Uyahlanya wena

[@eyeswideopen7777]

Old ppl stuck in a time cultural prison

[@llamamama2910]

Getting to know people personally inviting them into your home is very different from the experience as mere neighbors or coworkers

[@asiphejohnson6543]

Definitely it creates including. Imagine living alongside your neighbor, but y'all consider eachother as rivals. It makes no sense. Something has to give at some point.

[@paulzinaka5913]

Whenever someone has problems with what they see in the mirror, this is what happens. It's called self-hate; no amount of semantic gymnastics will change that reality.

[@yolandelyle]

Paul Zinaka, so true! One needs to have a good look in the mirror. Since leaving SA, I learnt that I needed to love "me". And when I started loving me, 😊.I started loving and excepting everything around me. I AM SO HAPPY THAT I STARTED THIS JOURNEY OF MOVING AND GROWING👍. NOT ONLY PHYSICAL,BUT SPIRITUAL.

[@tapsirusaccoh3286]

What an outstanding show”( thank for bringing people together

[@aviyahbatyah2680]

Ya know, I have never understood how dutch europeans came to Africa and displaced those who belong there?? I don't understand how that happened in the first place. It's very strange to me.

[@celticmulato2609]

Dougla is the term in Trinidad 🇹🇹 and Guyana 🇬🇾 for a person of Indian and Black mixture. In Jamaica 🇯🇲, the person is still Indian if the phenotype is predominantly Indian.

[@codew2467]

We fall them royal

[@celticmulato2609]

@@codew2467 Chiney Royal. A full Black person and Chinese person.

[@codew2467]

@@celticmulato2609 we also call the Indian black mix C**lie Royal. I am from Vere, Clarendon, the sugar belt and we have alot of interracial relationships with Black and Indian folks. More time we drop the C word and call them royal

[@khaltsharivist365]

@@codew2467 you call them Royal? Why?

[@codew2467]

@@khaltsharivist365 I grew up hearing folks called Indian/black mixed persons, Royal. I don't know the reason. As a previous commenter stated, Chinese/black mixed persons are referred to as Chiney Royal in Jamaica

[@Angolaisbeautiful]

As a mixed person who is Nigerian, South African and luso Angolan I love this documentary so much though I noticed that Johannesburg is getting more diverse and interracial

[@asiphejohnson6543]

That's good to see. I'm just tired of this racial feud here in SA I believe when people intermarriay it creates diversity and less tension. Just my view.

[@andilemzanywa4331]

You look South African am not taking anything away from other parts of yr makeup am just saying wat am seeing

[@Angolaisbeautiful]

@@andilemzanywa4331 my dad is 100% south african maybe that's why

[@cp0rings286]

@@Angolaisbeautiful how is ur name and surname Nigerian then if ur dad is South African?

[@Angolaisbeautiful]

@@cp0rings286 since when did cardoso become a nigerian name?

[@benmug201]

This is a whole beautiful story altogether I wish everyone could be forgiving and loving, am sure even though Enhle's Mum knew who had killed her son she is willing to forgive, this reminds me of one lady in Rwanda that decided to take a young man as a son who was in the group of men that killed her husband in the genocide but only chose to forgive and love him as a son. this is beautiful.....

[@exposingproxystalkingorgan4164]

This is a touching documentary. 🤧

[@alanochieng7802]

I lived in Cape Town South Africa in the 2003 and as a Kenyan, seeing interracial couples in Kenya was nothing new, But in S. Africa, this was still relatively unheard of. I remember one incident when I was walking near Green Market Square downtown with my female Australian friend when the door to a beauty shop flew open, and 3 or 4 Black South African girls stood there angrily looking at us. They kinda yelled something at us but we did not understand what they were saying. When I asked some lady walking by what the words meant, I was told the girls were upset to see a black man walking with a white woman!

[@fede-HaitiaNAmericAnrimeircs91]

😄

[@fede-HaitiaNAmericAnrimeircs91]

but fuck, instead of thinking white black yellow or red, if you want to fuck a white woman don't worry if you want a black woman don't worry if you want an asian don't worry live calmly without stress

[@mkululimbali2206]

Some racism especially the one you're talking about of black girls hating on black men being with a white person or another race is secondary and acquired racism from the American movies. In South Africa there's no shortage of black men and also chances are none of those girls would have wanted to date you had you not been with the white girl. So people really need to start to think before they act and not act on impulse as to what they "deem" to be expected of them by the society even when it makes no sense at all.

[@MrBooYa-yd5er]

Who wouldn’t be disgusted by such evil.

[@bloggtalk5085]

@@MrBooYa-yd5er you think race is as important today than in your bigot parents days?

[@stevenphelps5626]

Absolutely awesome and such a beautiful race of people. God bless everyone in Africa 🌍 🙏🏽 ❤️

[@michaelkoii9672]

I am from PNG in the Pacific. I really loved watching it. Love has no boundaries.

[@elsahoffmann8719]

There's something off with this video. It just seems so generalised. I hate it when people misrepresent South Africans. Most people in South Africa are good people, who just want to get through their daily lives without drama. I've seen mixed couples and I don't stare, but maybe others do. It's just very generalised. I've been between black men and they didn't try to feel me up. They were actually very well mannered, I was also between white men, who weren't. It's not your skin colour, it's the way you were raised and often the amount of alcohol or drug consumed that make people misbehave, as in every other country. Just saying. 🇿🇦

[@trayway3014]

Very much so, I hate this videos as well. We don't have problem with mixed race relationships they even embraced.

[@PHlophe]

Elisa, you are also an older woman with a now much calmer outlook on life in general because the competitiveness of dating , building family , veneer of respectability is behind you so it kind of makes sense that you'd perceive things differently. People can want to live their lives peacefully with no drama but do you believe IR hatred can't co-exist along with ? you are dreaming. I am in europe . i have a white dad and a black mom. my white side of the family wrote me off entirely when i was around 4-5 . Really not surprised in SA its all cuckoo for cocoa puffs

[@izreeljames7953]

@elsa Hoffmann you are spot on and I agree with you 100%: it's all about how you were raised. Unfortunately, a lot of people were not raised to value education, so they may not have furthered their education in psychology; therefore, are not aware of inherited beliefs due to his or her environment, such as the nature verses nurture debate. Furthermore, people are people, so there are those, who most consider to be good because they're not willing to inflict bad intent onto others for personal gain, coexisting in environments with those, who most consider to be bad people willing to inflict bad intent onto others for personal gain. The fact of the matter is all people are incentivized to behave in a certain manner because we are all selfish beings, which is natural. The "good person" generally treats others like she/he wants to be treated. The "bad person" generally treats others how she/he treats him or herself. Some knowingly, some unknowingly are grouped into these categories. The solution is to bring more of an awareness to diverse thinking. By first acknowledging that it is okay to be different! A stick has two sides, yet it is the same stick. One side is opposite of the other, yet it's okay to be on one side of the stick before learning of the opposite. A greater awakening and understanding is experienced by the individual when realizing that there exist an opposite side; thus, the individual feels more entitled to make a distinction between the two side after being exposed to more data. THE KEY IS TO NEVER STOP LEARNING. More data means more of an understanding of what a stick really is, the sticks functionality, the sticks purpose. This is the definition of growth. We all start out as a child growing up in a world of contrast. As children, the only way to really know what we want from what we don't want is by getting experience but experience comes with time. Unfortunately, humans don't have a lot of time to be present on this earth in our physical bodies with other people we love and enjoy the most; therefore, most will view time in an economical sense of lacking time; consequently, out of fear, we may have a tendency to adapt to the environment in which we are raised, on a micro-economical scale, slowly beginning to believe what those around us believed. More over, since parents have the tendency to believe that it is the parents job to teach children what to believe, parents will do their best to indoctrinate the mind of their child/children while in their presence, with respect to time. This cycle can loop for generations until we exit the loop by crossing state borders, then countries borders to meet new people, live in different places around the globe, explore, become open to cultural differences, collect new data, and evolve back into being human beings...

[@leigh4326]

@@PHlophe thank you for this comment. It’s not easy at all, I’m in an IR and in SA it’s so fcken stressful. The white people are so racist towards me as the Black partner etc.

[@johan8724]

Here in europe its no problem at all, you see a lot of different nationalities and colours being couples.

[@yolandelyle]

There is no problem at all😊, when living in Europe or Scandanvia,as I have been living here abroad!! Once you travel out of your "so called birth country", your brain gets a major shift👍😊. That is what many people should get someday!!

[@lanosduki3426]

what we today see is the deconstruction of europe europeans are today more into outgroup preferences and following what is promoted , oikophobie one way or another europe will change

[@Nolies-yf8bs]

Extinction is real the world will lose its beautiful diversity

[@salfordguy399]

UK is different. London just pretends to be easy going.

[@ChromeMan04]

Europeans are breeding themselves out and they don’t even realize it

[@naturolady4978]

The riot story because of racism between Indian and black communities made me cry… we had the testimony of the mum who lost her 18 years old son but so many other victims because of skin color… it sounds so unreal in my own conception of humanity… we pray God to gather humanity on goodness and good sense

[@thembisomakatha7800]

Honestly, the Phoenix Massacre can never be forgotten.

[@judithmuna1068]

The world has no idea how bad the July unrest was to put it mildly. There still has been no justice for violence against black bodies and you are not even allowed to point it out because you're branded a trouble maker...

[@Sionnach1601]

Cultural differences. The skin coloyjust happens to accompanyit incidentally

[@busanikhanyi]

@@thembisomakatha7800 or forgiven

[@ngalahansel6066]

Wow Sanele's mother is an embodiment of what it means to be African . She harbors no hate towards African Indians even though they shot her son dead when he was not hurting anyone. I am forever a proud Black African. Others have a history of mistreating us but we don't have a history of ever mistreating anyone

[@sholaaiyetan2968]

Ngala Hansel, and that's why they come into Africa and still discriminate against us and tell us that "Africans are one leg in the bush and one leg in the home".

[@ngalahansel6066]

@@sholaaiyetan2968 I tell you o my sister. Na from Naija u from come right?

[@kimbozw1808]

except mistreating the black folks from zimbabwe etc who come to SA to seek a better life. a few have been murdered recently. maybe you didn't know?

[@sholaaiyetan2968]

@@ngalahansel6066, yes, I'm from Nigeria. But I'm your brother O, not your sister! lol!

[@ronny4927]

@@kimbozw1808 idiot, you missed the point of this comment

[@oulangkous718]

a documentary about love and relationships but you slip in an incident that was politically sparked. very sinister. stick to the subject of the video because the law has not yet run it's course as to what happened during the unrest. your interviewees have said themselves they lived peacefully for years and then something just shifted overnight. racism was the scapegoat for something else that was going on that time.

[@silentnight9655]

Imagine doing demonic things on someone else's continent to prove your superiority.

[@zfanyana]

TOTALLY LOVE THIS COUPLE MY WIFE IS ALSO INDIAN AND IM BLACK WOW LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING PEOPLE ARE ALWAYS ASKING ME BUT HOW AND WHY INDIAN? LOL GUESS WHAT I WILL ALWAYS LOVE AND CHERISH MY FAMILY

[@reginageorgetownuni]

It's so wrong for Indian SAcans to discriminate against Africans who are natives of the land!! How is it any different than Brits discriminating against us??

[@kngoepe4200]

The honesty here is awesome

[@afri-dancer9967]

We shouldn't forget that long before the end of Apartheid Interracial marriages have been talking place since South Africa's birth.There was a special classification for these people, "The Coloureds..." and long before Mandela my mother referred to this Group of people as as the Rainbow people of South Africa, the inside Term was sometimes used was "Smarties "

[@baruasafi5880]

Africans don't keep enmity deep in their hearts. We find it difficult to carry enmity through and through generations.

[@ChromeMan04]

Are you afghan?

[@baruasafi5880]

@@ChromeMan04 African. Why?

[@ChromeMan04]

@@baruasafi5880 ur last name that’s why

[@baruasafi5880]

@@ChromeMan04 In Swahili African language it means 'clean'.

[@ChromeMan04]

@@baruasafi5880 oh that’s interesting

[@lewiskpoto]

A beautiful documentary, I’m forever a follower.

[@francafattori8998]

Very beautiful couple ❤️ God bless them and their Family 🙏🤲🙏🌟🌟

[@leighxdalion6866]

The apartheid scar will never fully heal i guess

[@mrsmett5512]

Woww, Respect to Sebastian for loving his wife regardless of family mindset. I am not sure about the rate of South African interracial couples. Some of us we are married with Europeans outside South Africa. My family and his family accepted us with warm hands. I get emotional when my mother in-law in Sweden 🇸🇪 asks How is my mother doing in South Africa

[@Sionnach1601]

Not hard form him to lover her: she's got a pretty face, lovely big ass n big boobs, and if she loves him back the same well, the man's a king 👑

[@joelpayne1193]

It is wonderful story to show that love is important to couples 💑 of course there is some problem for hurt and lack of trust 💔 however love is healing and colour of your skin is no boundaries ❤

[@brianmkwanazi3601]

Sebastian you is the man my man…I always say “you never plan who you will fall in love with if it’s genuine love” it sees no colour and boundaries

[@abdiqafarkulow5849]

I lived in Port Elizabeth as kenyan fell in love with south African black girl but her male friends nearly killed me

[@dannyarcher6370]

Ah, yes. The world renowned pan-African spirit of my black African compatriots.

[@shabanmaulana8594]

I love south Africa, I hope to visit one day.

[@khosiwealth7307]

Well covered my dear..... a true reflection.

[@kv43baby13]

I pray for Sanele''s mother, I've watched multiple of documentaries about the July Unrests (which I took a part in) and the fact that she has the same surname as my mother like it could've been my mother talkin like that about me, I don't know if Im confused or betrayed but I can't put it in words how I feel about the situation and the aftermath it left behind since Im from Durban, but I guess it's life #RIPSanele