Married at 14: Zambia’s Child Brides | Woman with Gloria Steinem

We follow a 14-year-old Zambian girl through a pre-wedding ritual before she marries a 48-year-old man, and we learn how child marriage threatens the entire region.
This episode of Woman with Gloria Steinem first aired on VICE TV in 2016.
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[@nicchan2166]

That is not a husband, that is a predator.

[@NikkiP_40]

AMEN 🙏🏾 and he's comfortable with knowing her age! Disgusting

[@safiyyahahmad8863]

He also look very sick I hope he's not HIV positive

[@carlosfc007]

Exactly, let's call it by its name he is a pedophile. He actually took the initiative to go talk to that 14 yo child's grandmother and "buy" himself a new wife as if she was a comodity. The girl's family is equally guilty, of course.

[@taylorman40x9]

Are male deer predators too because they chase females??? 😂 Stop calling men predators. He is a selfish and inconsiderate man not a predator.

[@lamekajones6228]

Exactly 💯

[@sashleymo4]

Her face, how incredibly sad. She knows her life is over. She has been given a life sentence of misery to a predator for a cow. She looked so broken.

[@lishal375]

Sad...

[@thatissoquebecishh2134]

But if this does not stop she will be just as happy as those women arround her. I'm absolutely convinced they were just as sad as her when they got married

[@rosalieswaby6091]

How could the government allow this kind of evil , these men that engaged in this criminal behavior are rapist and how could any parent do such evil for money or assets I ame literally sick to my stomach I cannot say what the consequences should be for these animals

[@stoneyhighhigh3677]

The gov is wicked and foul​@@rosalieswaby6091

[@manny2493]

@@rosalieswaby6091 they don't live in a liberal society.. these people are not rich. that's how things are done there

[@MeaganSal96]

The thought of a 14 year old girl “moving her body” and “helping out” the 48 year old man having sex with her makes me nauseous

[@DavidZ4-gg3dm]

It seems that, despite being illegal, these types of marriages are commonplace there.

[@starflower9015]

It's truly disgusting

[@maddscientist5857]

Now u know he is every bit of 60

[@ulrikekrekeler287]

It's hard to bear this life when the entire culture around you endorses it. How could she leave and where could she go?? The big luxury of the Western World is choices for women, and independence and a society that backs it up. So grateful, forever grateful.

[@user-ll4gc7nd7d]

true

[@azulsalvaje3518]

Stop calling 14 yr old women they're children!

[@Scar-jg4bn]

It's Africa, this is normal for them and in some countries the age of consent is younger.

[@HumanB312]

⁠@@Scar-jg4bnthey clearly don't consent it's forced

[@turpasauna]

​@@Scar-jg4bn Consent does not make minors into adults. This girl would be in 6th or 7th grade.

[@Scar-jg4bn]

@@turpasauna they're not minors in Africa bud. Your western imperialism is showing.

[@Scar-jg4bn]

@@HumanB312 the women seem pretty happy to me. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@Ch4se6]

You can just tell this poor child is completely traumatized . Her eyes just screaming for help but knowing that she’s still going to be married off.

[@meahdahlgren5875]

Right

[@laurenloggins826]

I paused it at 5:29 to say just that. Her eyes 🥺 god bless her soul

[@marcwells03]

@@laurenloggins826your genocidal god allowed this trauma to happen. Shame on you and your god

[@WakandaleezaRazz]

BLATT ESSELENCE ✊🏿🏀

[@stephaniepantalonie]

Agreed she seems completely frozen in fear

[@mazvitaselemani]

Everyone should stop calling her a "young lady" that's a child.

[@briasworld8]

Right.

[@Ecroartu]

agreed. the word "lady" have a meaning, even tho in modern days it usually used as "female". you're not born as a lady, you need to work to become one.

[@user-ch3ck7ir7c]

A person who is able to have a child is not a child anymore. She is not full grown, but an 18 year old is also not full grown. The only problem with this marriage is that she is not asked for her consent.

[@tidey4]

That’s more a new tradition where 14 year old are seen as kids.

[@shanchan8247]

​@@user-ch3ck7ir7cSo because I was 'able to have a child' at 11 years old, I wasn't a child then? You're sick!

[@BeUr_Best]

Telling a 14 year old teenager she needs to help her 40+ year old husband out in the bedroom is outrageous and disgusting!

[@pianoreigns]

The males are sick babies

[@ingGS]

Absolutely. It truly gives you some perspective of how good we have it over here. I would never allow my daughter to marry at 14, let alone a 40+ yo man.

[@mishaa7263]

that man saying "I don't know how to do chores" 💀💀 well wtf do you do then sir?

[@lilakz1126]

Probably scratch his balls all day

[@amehka5416]

Screw babies.

[@turpasauna]

They do nothing, just lay around and socialize. The women do absolutely everything in African cultures. Many men do not even work, so women have to do that also.

[@shaunnie7677]

The only thing he knows how to do is be a PREDATOR! Smh

[@ivonnecardenas100]

It's disgusting to think that the poor girl is going to have sex with that old man. It bothers me to see those women teaching her what to do and even being happy about it. Disgusting just disgusting.

[@jenniferlloyd9574]

I completely agree. Shame on them all (except the girls).

[@sheritacotten5293]

beyone disgusting culture or not

[@sarahgarnett7613]

Those same old men treat them like they are not human beings its alleged that they abuse them terrible this break these young girls n it's breaks our hearts these are innocent children who didn't even get to live like young girls this is terrible

[@ronrampageyHook]

I agree, I'm pissed that they are black tbh.

[@sherribatko8981]

Marrying a baby off to an old dying putrid fossil How disgustingly sick! God it's good to be born in America

[@gingerspicelattemix8764]

Look at her eyes…..so distant and filled with sadness.

[@tylerjmast]

Stop projecting! Sheesh. I bet you do the same thing with cows and puppies don't you

[@bsings7928]

@@tylerjmastratio

[@bentobin9606]

u r a spedbrain@@tylerjmast

[@annie_xo]

@@tylerjmastrecognizing emotions in another human beings expressions isn’t projection, it’s basic human social skills. Not the same thing at all at anthropomorphizing animals. I’m sorry you lack the capacity to tell the difference but this is something most humans can do.

[@sylvianyotieno3507]

@@tylerjmastchild molester detected.

[@kakeya5753]

This is illigal in Zambia, I'm actually handing this video to the police and the organization that handle these situation. As a zambian this is disturbing. In tbis day and age this shouldn't happen

[@T-Gunnn]

Keep us updated pls

[@JeannyK77]

I hope you get that child out of that disturbing arrangement 😢

[@mlee8459]

God bless you !! I hope they help her !!

[@Zmom1998]

Please keep us updated. I hope the man and her family are arrested and she can go be happy

[@vakkerdame8557]

She looks defeated. A 48 year old man. This is a tragedy.

[@brittanyv6594]

No one is considering the wellbeing of these young girls. Truly tragic and cruel.

[@juicyj3819]

The selfish Palestinian losers are stealing the news away from this.

[@WooWoo-co4jf]

It's legal in some US States too, though I would say it's defiantly not morally right.

[@nber1954]

Thinking that a 14y old girl wants (by free will) to marry a 48y man is incredibly sade. @1:24 its illigal! Poor girl is an object at service to a man; her emotions, needs and rights are not considered.

[@anap9278]

@@WooWoo-co4jfdoesn’t mean it is normalize

[@Sniperboy5551]

@WooWoo-co4jf 14 is not legal in any state. 16 is the lowest with parental consent and only in certain states. Stop spreading BS.

[@yeslia2010Godis]

This is one of the saddest things I've ever seen...She's not a married woman,, she's a traumatized, violated child.😭. God help these children... Justice for these abused girls!!!!

[@joeking433]

Meh.

[@cklaus3326]

Very very sad indeed..

[@joeking433]

@@cklaus3326 Could be worse. Could be poor in America.

[@sheiliawilliams345]

God is the only one to HELP!!!

[@jenniferlloyd9574]

​@@joeking433 At least the poor are free to seek a better life while not being forced to lied under an old man whom they hate.

[@dinoxchan1492]

Im 13 and my dad is about 46 THAT MAN IS OLDER THAN MY DAD !?!

[@anastasiaevans834]

poor little girl this shows how privileged we are😢

[@MeaganSal96]

Seriously… we have the right to marry if and when we want, leave abusive partners, and pursue an education in any subject any time we want. These things should be universal as the bare minimum and it’s horrifying to think that many girls and women have and will continue to end up like Dialess with nothing whatsoever resembling rights

[@abigailbp9294]

To the 48yo "man": why don't you learn how to do your own chores? Answer: he just wants a young virgin to have sex with and control. That's why he said no to school. Utterly disgusting. Dialess is obviously dying inside while everyone celebrates. Horrible. My heart breaks for her and my soul cries for all those young girls.

[@nber1954]

This guy uses poverty has an excuse of course he could have marry a 'woman' over 14. He went directly to the younger he could get!!

[@ingiyan8741]

Disgusting, abusive, and I just have a hard time believing these uncles don’t understand it’s wrong, rather the uncles and the community who are in agreement, see it as a convenience for personal gain for all parties involved. Which is WICKED because as adults who have lived a full enough life, the sadness in her eyes is being PURPOSELY IGNORED . Tough reality.

[@Sniperboy5551]

Who cares? It’s their culture. We should stop trying to police the world and focus on our own issues first.

[@carlosfc007]

@@ingiyan8741 you are right, it is absolutely unbelievable how the whole community takes part in this crime! How can they turn a blind eye to a child suffering from such trauma?

[@Darkstalker1012]

@@ingiyan8741They know EXACTLY what they’re doing. They’re not stupid , they’re PR3D4T0R$, doing pr3d4t0rÿ things, knowing they can get away with it where they live at! My heart aches for these girls, because omg…🤦🏾‍♀️

[@janijan2444]

They teach the women how to treat a man. My question is do they teach the man to respect women? She doesn't look happy. 😢

[@sserwaddarose2811]

No women doesn't need to be happy 😢😢

[@kelsiboone2350]

She's not even a woman, she's just a girl still.

[@Army_Brat1980]

They don't give a f.. that's why American women should NEVER go over there!

[@user-gp5uw8jh2w]

Exactly

[@leichin5778]

She looks traumatized honestly.

[@JBlingBling03]

This is sadder than sad. I feel so very sorry for this little girl. What a horrible life that these girls must endure.

[@siyanasithole7362]

I sit here thinking my life is hard yet when i watch this i see how blessed i am, no one should ever go through this , my heart breaks for her ,left feeling so helplesss .I hope this brings the much needed awareness , our little sisters need us to save them

[@kayk2899]

This has more to do with ignorance than tradition. The school girls in the class room stated they would rather stay in school than marry. If a small child knows this, why can’t the adults figure it out.

[@NancyHa2]

You'll be surprised how most adults here think, especially the one's in villages. it really makes my blood boil

[@AdelineCowgirl]

It's not even ignorance. It's selfishness combined with desperation.

[@DETSRC313]

Monetary insecurities for generations & corruption while trying to uphold historical traditions makes the outcome of what we're seeing here.

[@cubonefan3]

@@DETSRC313it’s funny that the more they uphold these traditions, the more poverty their culture will experience.

[@mistymountainhopper]

They know that education could lead to free thought and they don't want their submissive wives to start thinking for themselves or anything...

[@dr.ludwig8189]

thousand-yard stare at 14 years old and she's not even a soldier.

[@oaklandmade007]

And that stare was before marriage to this monster....😢

[@palesaletlhogonolo4323]

Oh but she is. We fight wars everyday. War against misorgny and sexism.

[@AmberColeman-gq1wn]

Every woman on this planet is a soldier.. to survive men. Even the western women that you all preach hate towards for our “ freedoms”. This young girl is more of a soldier than the little boys and grown men who go “ fight each other” for absolutely nothing. She is a true warrior.

[@JohnnyBravo-sb8hq]

@@AmberColeman-gq1wn stop talking your sh!t cat lady, too bad it's a mans world and you should be grateful

[@AJK17.5]

​@@AmberColeman-gq1wn don't disrespect the soldiers in the military who are dying everyday in the thousands, its true these girls are warriors, but dying in a cold battlefield is very different to this

[@afoketalks2much_]

As an African myself, it's heartbreaking to me what this girl is going through. She's literally just a year younger than me, and I've never even kissed a guy, let alone thought of being married to one at this age. You can clearly see how much passion she has for her education, even going as far as teaching younger kids at her school. I personally think that's beautiful and ambitious. All for her mother to ruin her future by selling her to this old pervert, for a cow. But personally, I could see where the woman is coming from sort of. The situation in that part of Zambia is so bad, that she thinks marrying her child off before she died would be the best way for her child to survive and thrive. While women and girls are struggling in these parts of the world, we have people like Dylan Mulvaney coming out with pathetic music videos illustrating what he pictures the life of a woman as, in his pathetic small mind. I have to say, I do admire the people of this country, and other people, who are looking to totally abolish child marriage and give the female children here rights to their education. I really hope to be a part of this positive movement someday. This is what feminism is really supposed to be about.

[@GreenEnvy.]

Yes, but you have pubic hair. This girl is even too young for that.

[@Its.Chidera]

u bringing up dylan had nothing to do with this. That was completely unnecessary.

[@nikitamontanna952]

​@@Its.Chiderano she was right. That cosplaying man is an insult

[@marietgagliardi]

I can't believe you are only 15. You are going to go far

[@afoketalks2much_]

@@marietgagliardi omg thanks 🙏 appreciate that

[@Chantieslife]

They traded their daughter,her life and education for a cow?😭😭 I'm literally sick to my stomach thinking of what she's going through in that predator and his wife's hands

[@waterurplants3767]

I’m not trying to minimize how heartbreaking of a situation this is, but it’s not just trading their daughter for a cow. Cattle in many third world countries can be the means to escape death by starvation for many families. Even having just one cow can make a life or death difference. It’s a very sad situation all around.

[@kinawd]

naw not a cow but a crazy monkey

[@MA-mh1vs]

Her poor TERMINALLY ILL single mother wanted her daughter to have a husband to take care of her. It is easy to push school as some way out of poverty but unrealistic in a village like that, there isn't anything there and her poor family can't afford to send her somewhere to further her education. Having a husband provide for her was always her best option considering where she lives.

[@kpoppy9635]

​@MA-mh1vs yes but she is 14 and he is 48... I don't understand why they think it's OK to marry their underaged daughter off to a predator...or at least get a young one!

[@MA-mh1vs]

@@kpoppy9635 It may not be the families preference to do so but poverty is what drives them to do so. In this particular case the mother also wanted to ensure her daughter was provided for because she is dying from aids and a husband is the best way to ensure that. I have watched the coverage of parents in the middle east doing the same just to afford firewood and food to feed the kids they have left. The people seeing this video will likely never know what it is like to be that impoverished but that is the reality for some people.

[@helenkabwe9644]

as a Zambian, this has left me in tears. The girl deserves better. that man is a demon. he couldn't even answer when he was asked why go for such a young girl and not someone older😭

[@MakeSomeNoiseAgencyPlaylists]

this left me in tears my Zambian guy ! kzbin.info/www/bejne/moPMcqGom71mf9Efeature=shared

[@myparceltape1169]

Not everyone in Zambia has a straightforward education. Some children have to come out of school for a time to let a sibling learn. But many countries have a system of educating adults. Often in the evenings when the days work is done. Let's hope for the future and work where possible.

[@MA-mh1vs]

Yes he did, he said poverty drives people and he could provide for her. Basically she was cheaper than an older girl whose parents are not as poor as this girl's mother is.

[@rinibunny4576]

​@@MA-mh1vsah so basically younger is cheaper?

[@MA-mh1vs]

@@rinibunny4576 Yes.

[@AbisolaAladejobiejide-gs5jy]

They literally said "Tell me a cow is worth more than your own child without actually telling me"

[@melissarobinson7927]

They don’t have anything they’re government is useless they rob the people this is the richest continent on this earth, but the people have nothing nothing they live in Hutts with no electricity, the richest continent remember that now think how deep that rabbit hole goes

[@KatherineBober]

When I heard about Isaac's wife being sick, my mind immediately jumped to the conclusion that she's been infected, and he may be the reason why. I'm very sorry for the girl.

[@outofthisworld4437]

SAME THOUGHT.

[@grumpyoldlady_rants]

That poor girl looks traumatized. No 14 year old should be getting married - especially to a man in his 40s. What good is a law if it’s not enforced?

[@heidimisfeldt5685]

She is 14. He is 48, and age wise could be her grandfather. 😱

[@tarahill308]

She a kid who Dnt understand life yet n he was predator who will take advantage of her kids next in line

[@TrevJ91]

@@tarahill308 predator? I really cannot stand self-righteous, pompous westerners who don’t know a world outside your little western bubble. All you’re doing is virtue signaling to make yourself feel good without actually understanding what is going on here. Please get educated.

[@kertarneaud4475]

This country is not the USA if you have a problem with it go there and let them change them laws into the USA laws

[@huerosantos7563]

What Law ? Not in that country 😂

[@shamirahurst4921]

Her eyes lit up just a bit when she said “ I love school” this hurt my heart 😢❤

[@myalove5082]

😢😢😢😢😢

[@user-pc7yv7rk2m]

Imagin,an old man showing his nakedness to the child😢😮

[@celebday]

I'm grateful I was born in South Africa in Johannesburg as a girl .

[@timmytisbae]

i don’t see it but i know she probably does love it

[@sserwaddarose2811]

So gross 😢​@@user-pc7yv7rk2m

[@tracyjoseph2211]

I don't like watching these shows without given the opportunity to help change the situation in some way.

[@prossykanyesigye4975]

He can't do his chores by himself at 48 years old and expect a 14 year old innocent child to do them.

[@piku5637]

Children cannot consent to sexual or romantic relationships with grown adults. It causes trauma and several disabilities later on.

[@Klissaura]

Amen. Stop damaging our own blood. My heart breaks into pieces.

[@Tinyvalkyrie410]

While I agree, that is a pretty simple take on a very complex issue. If her mother dies and she is not married to a suitable man, it could also result trauma and disability, possibly even contracting HIV herself because she will not have any protection. These people seem to understand it is wrong or at least not ideal, but they see it as the lesser of two evils. The mother genuinely seems to want to protect her children. Not only does this give her one less mouth to feed, but it gives her means to feed her other children. This is compounded by the fact that she is likely a single mother, or will become one soon. Until you can provide another path out of poverty, treatment for HIV, access to maternal and general healthcare, and alteration of long, engrained, traditions, this will be an intractable problem. This is a multifaceted systemic issue, not about teaching people that marrying children is wrong. Age of consent isn’t a universal law handed down from on high, it’s one we as societies have decided for ourselves. Even in places where the law agrees with you, if culture and circumstance doesn’t agree, it will keep happening. This is an absolutely tragedy, but we shouldn’t be treating these people like they simply don’t know better. It’s a horrific decision they feel they are forced to make.

[@modouceesay3652]

there are region in this world where adult have sex with young girls but no one is talking about it

[@eyesb3911]

@@Tinyvalkyrie410stop trying to glorify/make excuses for this backward practice. It is 💯 wrong for a 48 yr old to marry a 14 yr old CHILD!!!! Did the child's mother not contract hiv/aids from her married 1st husband. God forbid the same could happen to this child. SO WHAT ARE YOU SAYING!!!. How about the government, those in power try to eradicate poverty, better education for girls/women living in poverty etc... instead of trying to justify this nonsense.

[@DavidZ4-gg3dm]

The marriage isn't legal, but as in many countries, it's tolerated.

[@defeatSpace]

I lost it after learning she was tutoring at 14, obviously an extremely bright person, yet her family needs money so they sell her and rip her future out from under her feet. I can't understand.

[@AncamariaRadu]

😢😢 😢

[@kgreen8527]

Of course you can understand! When you have been robbed of all your natural resources by another race of people on the richest continent on the planet people tend to do crazy things!

[@youknowyouloveme206]

It's disturbing to know that Americans did that as well the whole time, even after the turn of the 20th century.

[@eh-i1841]

They wanted a cow,for the status cattle bring.

[@susivarga7303]

She lives in a destitute village in the middle of nowhere. She won't be THAT bright.

[@tyanalynn1906]

I couldn’t be a journalist I would look at him with such disgust

[@katielove8874]

I would run away with her and I know I shouldn’t but her eyes crush my soul, there’s nothing just sadness

[@janice8618]

Sadness from age 14 til death. These nasty men should go to prison.

[@pizzarisa]

This shook me to my core. The ‘man’ is trying to explain his disgusting actions by acting like a savior to this child. Heartbreaking.

[@CroElectroStile]

In Africa you still have slavery - and i'ts rampant, so this is not the worst case scenario for black women in Africa.

[@imhotepheru436]

This will blow your mind then 54 years old Muhammad married 6 years old 🤔 And 90 years old Joseph Married 12 years old Mary 🤔

[@the1972bulldog]

Isn't that what a Predator does . Not a question by the way.

[@PHYTOPLANKTON1987]

​@@CroElectroStile what you mean black people enslave each other? Mind blown.

[@nntflow7058]

The beauty of conservatism

[@nomntumelitafa6509]

Underage marriage is child abuse, im proud of the women fighting this issue

[@OMERTA7337]

MY HEART IS COMPLETELY BROKE FOR THIS BEAUTIFUL CHILD💔 May God bless and protect her heart and soul 🙏🙏🙏

[@Tintas_corner]

As a Zambian, this is so shameful, and abhorrent. This problem needed to be fixed decades ago. While I understand the undoing of cultural practices is difficult, the ever-increasing rates of HIV should create more concern and action. More needs to be put in place to stop this practice.

[@HYPNOTOAD291]

"Because I don't know how to do chores" It's sad that she has to sacrifice her future for a man who can't even do chores.

[@GoldySteffes-ew2ew]

It's sickening id definitely run away from him and her worthless parents

[@fraulotte]

Patriarchic societies at the cost of women. Not only in africa, middle east all over Asia. Even when they live in Europe they continue such traditions although the money argument is not valid anymore.

[@soniabeyah7606]

😢😢😢😢

[@jamesd.powers8609]

Right! This 48 yearold "man" doesn't know how to do chores!?😑

[@keyloso324]

If a man can’t do simple chores HOW TF!!!!! is supposed to be a leader!!!!???? Uuuuughhh I’m so mad!!!! This is so stupid!!!it’s not about no damn chores it’s about his stupid ass ego and 🍆😒🙄😤😡

[@JacquelynNhi]

The way they all smile as she sits there clearly traumatized about what's about to happen to her. The life of the cow will be better than the life of this child and these women are celebrating it! Ugh!!! This is infuriating. Isn't this considered a humanitarian crisis?

[@nber1954]

' we found that the GIRLS looked up to somebody to fill in the space and buy them simple things. Then the GIRLS fall out of school and find themselves marrying older man'!!! @15:02 According to that woman, the problem starts from the young poor girls and the older ritcher men are just there. What I saw is a traumatized 14y old how wanted to stay in school and a 48y man looking for a young child to replace his sick wife.

[@carlosfc007]

I was absolutely shocked about how the whole community takes part in this crime and turn a blind eye to that child's suffering

[@miffycarter3876]

Right it’s 2024 how are these countries still allowing this Omg

[@thejorgieverse1501]

Yes it is.😢

[@MoroMoro1]

"The life of the cow will be better than the life of this child" my goodness 😭 heartbreaking

[@emilyjane9901]

It felt so disgusting to watch this little girl be recorded as she's walked into a child marriage and then recording her as she walks to her doom of being raped by this man. My heart breaks for Dialess. I pray for her and her baby, and I will think of her often. I so badly wish for her to escape safely one day.

[@user-rw2rv6gw6d]

Im a Zambian who's been left speechless at the view of this Video clip. My head is down and my eyes are shedding tears now.😭😭 Cry my Beloved Country for 'Girl Children'! 😔😔😔

[@pradeepa1939]

Trading your daughter to a 48-year old man for a cow? Truly heartbreaking

[@marvelousmarven7248]

So sad 😞

[@saffy_9967]

Men are the root of a lot of suffering in this world, including their own. They don’t like or want to acknowledge this, and would rather blame women.

[@selfishgirlsgofirst]

And buying a child and being a predator is even more sick. What kid of monster find joy in SA a child? Like, how can you look at yourself and go to sleep at night.

[@victoriayafae7762]

This is one of the reasons Africans are being looked down on.

[@EvaLorna]

You can't blame the mother for her lack of education and understanding of how the real world works

[@67ashleylove]

I'm Zambian but raised in the US. My mom always told me how my grandfather went against societal norms esp with raising his daughters. He made them go to school and such initiations were not a common place. It was harsh but he didn't let that influence him. And now his daughters are all educated and escaped all of this. No matter what, you can always break the cycle and create another one. I live for VICE news and their documentaries seeing my country this way is heartbreaking.

[@_Viking]

I live in lusaka, and my girlfriend was also one of the lucky ones who was able to finish school. She's now working on her bachelor degree. But it's not uncommon today that girls do finish school. But few continue into higher learning, like bachelor or masters degrees.

[@myparceltape1169]

​@@_Viking Congratulations. If you are right for each other I wish you both a good long productive life together.

[@dgb336]

Please tell me they lifted him up and looked after him x

[@maquishkilgore6757]

😮😢

[@tyrellanderson4722]

So,, you're an American. Sit down.

[@hollyholy641]

May I never hear another American woman say they are oppressed💯

[@lonto111]

Painful to watch....I have a 14 year old daughter who isnt even allowed to have a boyfriend yet....the future husband is her grandfather,,,this is evil

[@patriciaferrazas-seidu8202]

This child not only looks defeated, but she's definitely in some sort of shock😢💔

[@HilaryB.]

Yes she was! She looked completely traumatised.

[@KayIsGreatful]

Her innocent has been snatched from her just like that 😢😢😢

[@user-gz9sy8rh6f]

Drugged most likely !

[@huerosantos7563]

​@@user-gz9sy8rh6fForced not drugged, that was a stupid comment.

[@user-hg4gp9gh1g]

The look on her face during the interview was heartbreaking. The way she answered the questions. She’s dying inside and I don’t understand how the people in power anywhere can let this happen

[@nehaverma3671]

Exactly😢

[@2Ryled]

They are the ones who are PEEEE DOHS. That's why

[@MeandYou0822]

That 40 year old man needs to be arrested.. The Government needs to stop that marriage and remove that child from her mom!!!!😡😡😡😡😡 That clown...

[@Amore_Briaa]

Her eyes, my heart break for her. We should be protesting for this type of stuff. It’s inhumane!

[@jossieco]

My daughter is 14 years old. I can’t stop crying for this little girl. She looks so sad and gone at the same time. Already defeated in her future. How much ignorance and suffering for woman can be. How can we help fighting this horrific tradition. No teen would like to be a wife. It just break my heart.

[@Idk-hy9zk]

Mines is 13 I couldn’t imagine doing this to her for a cow

[@octbaby88]

The mother's reasoning makes no sense to me. She became HIV+ when her husband cheated on her. So she goes and arranged a marriage for her 14 year old daughter to a 48 year old man because she wants to keep her safe??????????????? 🙄🙄😒😒

[@ariamason9324]

She's uneducated and lacks critical thinking. 😢 the man already has another wife so she doesn't realize it's the same risk for hiv and the man says the wife is ill.

[@n_1370]

Misery loves company

[@Darkstalker1012]

Fr, WHERE’S THE COMMON SENSE IN THAT?!?

[@plantspit518]

Maybe she thinks she has no choice because she’s not sure if she will survive the HIV? I’m not sure

[@LaSantaPatrona]

I agree but she also did say she wants to ensure that her daughter is taken care of after she dies.

[@aisha_bentley]

I'm from Zambia and yes this is so prevalent in rural areas 😭 laws against it have become stricter over the years so it's done quietly.

[@Amatureb]

My heart goes out to all the young girls in situations like these. It's really horrible to see

[@AngelsHikari]

She's in a trance and she's broken. But in these situations if she is rejected by the husband he will unalive her and her family will not take her back if that happens. She's been bartered. This is so sad. 😢

[@neoxyte]

All for one cow. Is that the price of a human life? One f*kn cow

[@br0wnskiin22]

Damn the trance is real! She is literally reciting what they told her . She can’t even answer the question about “ what it would be like to have a kid “ bc they haven’t yet explained that! She is a fucking kid !!

[@oaklandmade007]

For a cow......😢

[@sharzy9]

He will not unalive her. He will however demand his Dowry back, which most likely the family won’t afford to pay back

[@jamiegreenberg8476]

youre allowed to say kill

[@echad6259]

Sick men All over the world

[@Armelleee]

They are...something is wrong with that gender.

[@thatoldcrow]

18:04 good ones too thankfully

[@witheringliberal2794]

Didn’t the MOM sell the girl in the video…for a COW??? Sick women aren’t that rare either, cupcake.

[@echad6259]

@@witheringliberal2794 I thought that went without saying...

[@witheringliberal2794]

@@echad6259 then why not say “Sick people are all over the world” instead of “sick men”? We need to stop fueling this social media driven fake gender war. Most men are great. Most women are great. Done.

[@ebe5179]

Having children in that poverty is criminal

[@Devaki_1]

14 year girl marrying 48 year old man? Bro that's the age of me and my mom. If you add 1 to 48 then congratulations, you got my dad's age.

[@vixenkim]

When the journalist asks the husband, will you allow her to go back to school, he says "no no no school" a life confined to a prison. That is so wrong.

[@1Skorpia]

Shes in hell. Pure hell. I'm horrified.

[@ariamason9324]

He's no fool he knows knowledge is power and he doesn't want a wife who has a mind of her own.

[@tuforu4]

Look at FEMALE GENITAL MUTILATION IN KENYA PLEASING THE MEN..

[@DavidZ4-gg3dm]

She's a teenage slave.

[@walkinbeauty7273]

Maybe he won't live long 😊

[@latoyaclaxton8379]

The moment when he said school is out of the question because she is getting married tore my heart apart. How disturbing it is that she's surrounded by elders who went through the same ordeal and still be so far from help. May The Lord be with you my precious sister.

[@adjustableWench]

obviously the lord isnt doing anything since its been going on for centuries

[@asialee8102]

What Lord Satan

[@latoyaclaxton8379]

​@@adjustableWenchvery true it's been happening for centuries and it's understandable to ask how the Lord can allow it. it's now gaining attention as such practices are coming to light where help can be attracted.

[@derrickandrews6407]

I bet you aren't married. That's why you are really mad

[@marilynmccormick3731]

@@adjustableWench Humans were given free-will by the Lord which is how the men are able to exert their free-will and control women. I hope the women will learn how to exert their "OWN" free will and be free from control.

[@nicolerussell2424]

Thanks for sharing.I am so sorry to hear this is happening. How can we help to stop this.

[@Cholulasmom]

She looks terrified it’s heart breaking

[@leaticiamwape5056]

I'm Leaticia from zambia. I'm in my first year at the copperbelt university. It's saddening to see that this is happening in the other part of my country. I will make sure I accomplish my dream of becoming and engineer and start working towards ending early marriage and child marriage in my country. We are the future leaders of tomorrow ❤

[@jamesbedukodjograham5508]

Rural Africa needs to be stopped before it is too late. The young women have no choice in the setting.😊

[@janellcrews6108]

If anyone should be a activist it's should be against these old men who want to marry children. That's gross and hopefully you can be a advocate for this. Good luck.

[@MsOrganicBlack]

I wish you all the best in your future, my young sister. Much love! ❤❤

[@lsalmon907]

I am going to say a special prayer for you to succeed in your education so you will have the fortitude to advocate for these girls. Stories like these give me sleepless nights...I am truly having difficulty processing the information...actually, I just cannot understand any of this, my heart pains me much. I am not anywhere near the continent and thank GOD we have human rights here. The world is truly an ugly place, yet so beautiful...OMGOODNESS!

[@thykingdomcomeglobalminist365]

Please become an advocate for the young children in your country

[@jillmorriss9281]

Marrying a 48 year old will eventually leave her alone with a bunch of kids to take care of some how.

[@janaekelis]

these stupid traditions never think of this. in trinidad, the age of marriage rose from 12 to 18 only a decade ago. the worst victim married an old man at 12, and he died. now she has 15 kids of varying ages to take care of, all depressed from being raised this way

[@MandaTad]

​@janaekelis they do think of it, but they do not care, because it is the woman who suffers not the man.

[@sharonrigs7999]

Probably sooner than later....he has almost reached the average life expectancy in Zambia. If he has AIDS, possibly the children will too.

[@CandaceOekawa]

@@janaekelisas in Trinidad and Tobago? A decade ago?

[@marissmikhail3359]

I wish they could have rescued her 😢

[@yafavfavs]

Her head was down sitting by that man . Sooo sad.

[@remmykubanda3393]

Got married at 19 years too due to poverty reasons.. I was older than her but I fell her pain too.. comment more if you want to know how it went

[@8ballhemeloid]

I want to know and I'm sorry you went through it.😢

[@remmykubanda3393]

Thanks and I appreciate it 😊. So where should I begin? You really want to hear my story?? Wil be glad to share

[@ruksyo7904]

⁠@@remmykubanda3393I’ll love to hear it to, especially if you managed to break free from it. 🤎

[@ruksyo7904]

@@remmykubanda3393I would love to know as well especially if you were able to escape it. 🙏🏾🤎

[@dailylife287]

Please continue 🙏🏽

[@happinessinheart5340]

How can a 48 yr old man marry a 14 yrs old child. This is wickedness.

[@cyberbutterflyy9914]

on god it's so upsetting I hate seeing this happen it's so sad.

[@loriparks8657]

Look up the laws for females at any age level that is allowable for marriage in America you will be surprised there are laws on the books there are still law of the land that goes so far way back

[@francishall9410]

It's a diferent culture. Not yours. Mind your business.

[@Msomale]

​@@francishall9410cultures that destroys)hurt girls and women should be left behind !?? We should not practice that

[@Sook995]

My aunt was 15 when she married her 26yr old husband, unfortunately he died last month at age 78 and they were married for 50 something years. And have a very large family kids grandkids great grandkids.

[@luhenmel]

As a Zambian I am disgusted and horrified. That poor girl is a child. This is completely illegal. She needs to be a child & in school.

[@user-jp2dt4xb5u]

Yeah it's actually against the law didn't they change it to 21 it's sad I recently watched a girl who was stopped by the chief... The two children really wanted to get married I wish they spoke about the sexual promiscuity in that part of the country many other girls drop out of school because they want to this putting those who don't in hard position...

[@DavidZ4-gg3dm]

Why don't the police & the general public stop it?

[@margaretmarh]

I am also shocked it means that the people in the villages still do it so much its very heartbreaking

[@belle3055]

@@DavidZ4-gg3dmthere’s no police in villages

[@DavidZ4-gg3dm]

@@belle3055 The village elders don't oppose it?

[@veronicahasler7980]

I am so disturbed by this. She is a child. This man is a predator and she is being sold like an object for a damn cow. I would rather die than give my daughter away like that. The helplessness I feel radiating from this girl is absolutely heart breaking. But also I am SO PROUD of those women traveling to protest child marriage and teach communities for the better. I love seeing it.

[@nanaskitchen2yours977]

A big No No to going to school after marriage because this man knows that will make her smart 💔

[@DumaM-ir7rk]

The problem you make this western education like it is a silver bullet. The same mentality has lead us we’re we are today, fools with PhD but accept government oppressive laws.

[@Jajaffu]

How? He is 48.The only thing is going to happened is many babies.

[@nashiabrown4808]

That part it so so sick

[@oliviam4134]

This makes me feel so sick. I can’t even describe the sadness and anger I feel for these children and women.

[@goodyoflife]

It happens alot in northern Nigeria trading thier daughters for money and food for men up to 40 yrs and above and yet still this girls get maltreated and beaten they don’t let them go to school only to bare children this happens in most of Africa mostly the northerners and Muslim

[@witlof5492]

The women are keeping the traditions alive. It's pure ignorance.

[@ayana188]

I’m sooo enraged 👿👿👿 I thank GOD I was born in the states where I can choose my own damn husband. This is child molestation, these men are predators… and honestly most men feel this way they just can’t act on it because of laws where they live

[@daryl399]

So sad but u are beautiful ❤

[@truth-uncensored2426]

Don't be sad I would offer 2 cows for you 😉

[@user-zn2sd3pe8u]

Thank you for sharing...prayers lifted up

[@yafavfavs]

She's already dead inside. They have trained her to be a robot, for man thats probably older than her farther. They sold her for a cow. 😢

[@hopeanozie5842]

The sadest thing is that this man agreed that marrying this child is bad but he's doing it anyway because of poverty of the girl's family. Shame on him. I hate that people can choose to do evil because they can get away with it.

[@sheririchardson7346]

When he said his wife is sick I wonder if they have HIV ?

[@brennathecatlover4360]

Like he said poverty will make people desperate

[@brennathecatlover4360]

@@sheririchardson7346could be anything since their village is poor

[@rustyhowe3907]

@@brennathecatlover4360 Yeah and the vultures like him are always circling.

[@jenniferjohnson1201]

This is horrible. That girl looks dead inside. And the husband wants a child slave, not a wife. He has no shame admitting this to a reporter!

[@akashaofthenile6077]

so very sad..and needs to be stopped,,you can clearly see this young girl doesn't want to be married, and being forced to..that alone is wrong! besides everything else.

[@yourmother6472]

The way they used the word “owned” so casually 😢

[@gabbyrollings6035]

This poor child is completely traumatised. The pain and hurt in her eyes will haunt me I really hope she gets help and support from charities and groups because this is heart wrenching 😢

[@nosa9475]

It killed me when the husband said she will never ever go back to school. She’s married now

[@stephaniewallace9929]

Absolutely broke my heart 😢my God😮😮 Jesus, be a fence to protect young women in this country🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@bellona6356]

​@@stephaniewallace9929Because your Jesus has protected these girls and children for the last thousand years? Hilarious.

[@cinnadidthat5055]

⁠@@stephaniewallace9929Do you see that large community of women who were child brides, none of them were protected, I'm not sure Jesus is listening.

[@61sunset]

​@@bellona6356 Please educate yourself before making silly comments.

[@sharonbenson8120]

😢😢😢😢😢😢😢Oh God!!

[@iBeFloe]

It’s absolutely disgusting how none of these adults understand how disgusting it is to teach a child how to have sex with an older man when she doesn’t want to. I’m sure all of them know the feeling of despair when they were in those little girl’s spot.

[@vivianthurnim9390]

Why this abuses stil happend in country where black People living?

[@vivianediwongui5538]

happens in America too. Matter of fact it isn't illegal with parental permission@@vivianthurnim9390

[@stephrodriguez5448]

I cried for her. I hope she finds something she can hold onto that will bring her joy.

[@bewbala]

Poor baby...she is so broken and full of fear and hopelessness. My heart breaks for this little girl...if only if it was possible to save her from him.

[@nariabeautiful8043]

This is so very sad. No matter how low in finance I am, I am not selling my child. And how disgusting for a 48 yr old man to want a child.

[@Army_Brat1980]

The parents don't think there's anything wrong with this. It's the norm.

[@MakeSomeNoiseAgencyPlaylists]

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[@JohnDoe-gf5gm]

@@Army_Brat1980 Wth are you saying? They know more than you. There's A LOT happening in this video.

[@kind2423]

@@JohnDoe-gf5gm that’s their culture unfortunately and it conditions your thinking. It’s all that she knows. I’m not saying it’s right but you have to look at it from that perspective too

[@gryaznygreeb]

@@JohnDoe-gf5gmDid you even watch the video before commenting? Her mother literally explained that she has HIV and in her mind, this marriage will give her daughter a home and means of living when she dies, and hopefully prevent her daughter from contracting AIDS by being committed to only one man. We know in reality that this girl may very well contract AIDs anyway if her husband cheats, and that this situation is far worse than if she were allowed to continue school and pursue higher education, but this is what the mother legitimately thinks. Many people in countries like Zambia have barely gone more than 10km from their own villages. The roads are so bad it's hours just to get to a hospital. The school is right next to their homes. They live off the land. They have no reason to leave and experience new things, nor the means to. They don't see other ways of living, all they know is what they, their grandmothers, mothers, sisters, and other women in the community went through, so it seems normal to them. You tell a kid about Santa Claus and they believe it 100%, until they get old enough to catch on that it's just the adults pretending and lying to make the holiday more fun, and to trick kids into acting good in hopes of getting what they want. What happens if every adult legitimately believes in Santa Claus and the whole community agrees he is real? Wel, most people would never question it or think otherwise. That's how culture works. Just replace "Santa Claus" with any religion, or even a philosophy like communism, and you'll see my point. When you're told something since birth, and everyone around you believes and practices it, you will too. There will always be a few exceptions, but the majority of people believe what their culture/society tells them to believe. Especially in other societies where the focus is often more on community than individuality, which is the norm in a lot of Africa and Asia, as opposed to our very individual rights focused western culture.

[@NellaaNutellaa]

Her light went out as soon as she found out she was to be married i pray she finds strength to be whatever kind of woman SHE wants to be . Bless that baby 💗

[@JohnDoe-gf5gm]

Please I'm a living testimony of God's unpredictable ways. Please join me in prayers for that baby girl.

[@planetdess7306]

them sweeping dirt out of a hut made of dirt with dirt floor is WILD 5:08

[@arithamfanelow2023]

It's so sad 😭. You can see the pain through her

[@adlihcrosby1389]

The fact that this is true and this is about a child’s life. The scene at the end is just sick . Seeing her not even smiling or anything, having her eyes down while everyone has their eyes on her . Even the predator staring at her . Disgusting and just sad .

[@sandymurray3997]

That is a sign of respect.....

[@jacquelinemariesart]

"The human heart is desperately wicked"

[@adlihcrosby1389]

@@sandymurray3997 “forced” forcing someone to obey to you doesn’t mean they are doing it out of respect. Being able to see when someone willingly respects you is very noticeable and that’s one thing but when they are nervous and afraid of you is another thing.

[@christianandjesse7370]

​@@sandymurray3997 no it is not lol. Shes obviously miserable. Her own mom said this was a forced areangement.

[@Kendallslovejoy]

She asked him why can’t he marry some one older and he gave every reason for her to be married to him vs why he desires to marry a child. It’s sick. He’s sick. I don’t care about culture, that’s just wrong. If it was about chores and such then just choose another older woman. It was more than that. I hate this for her. Her grandma and mom ain’t no better. A cow for my child. 😢this burns me up inside.

[@ARISZN]

all of that 😣

[@StirYourselfUp]

He wants her to care for his wife who’s going to become ill, that there on its own means something 🚩in a country with a high rate of HIV infection. That little girl is still going to go through so much trauma with caring for that disgust& his wife, & will be forced to take care of her mom at home as well

[@user-hp1rf2nv1s]

I'm thankful .

[@gryaznygreeb]

Fact of the matter is that culture is simply a word that means the collective behaviors and practices of a group, and culture can in fact be harmful, both to individuals or the society in general. Foot binding or corsets for example, are cultural practices that can cause physical harm and deformity. Criticizing culture isn't inherently a bad thing. Women in the west still wouldn't receive education if our societies didn't question that culture.

[@yayatheunicorn]

His wife probably has HIV as well. @@StirYourselfUp

[@learnenglishwithjoice5713]

When the doctor said that her baby died...my tears suddenly out of nowhere. As m carrying now.. can't imagine 😢😫😩

[@lokazbyte2273]

The ending crushed me

[@margaretimukuka3326]

I am a Zambian and l am disgusted by this practice of child marriage. The parents of the child should be arrested!

[@lennysabi4173]

As a Zambian have you visited and studied the character s of the young girls in the village?don't always blame parents Secondly has the gvt provided the education services as in urban Zambia areas.there is alot of developmental support needed in rural areas

[@margaretimukuka3326]

@@lennysabi4173 l commented for this parent in particular not parents. And why l commented is because during the interview the girl said she would have loved to go to school.

[@judyatoro9387]

Oh no 14 girl still so young and innocent oh no 😢😢😢😢 😢from SA

[@TheLeslieMichelle]

I agree.

[@margaretimukuka3326]

@@judyatoro9387 lt is really sad 😢😢. Imagine her pelvis is not even developed meaning childbirth is by c-section.

[@rickkonesnii]

The fact that their own parents are marrying them off for money is sickening 😢

[@tarahill308]

Thts all they know n the cycle continues

[@TriciaPerry-ef7bi]

​@@tarahill308trafficking. It is illegal and should be all over the world God doesn't want this

[@jamiemcmahon9638]

This 14yr old girl was traded for 1 cow.

[@Zaran51]

It’s all about money. Religion is the EXCUSE. The mask they hide behind.

[@NatureEyeWitness]

One cow???? Even if there were to be thousands of them and gold as well its still not right, it will never be a right!

[@rylangrimes1239]

14 is not a “young woman”, it’s a CHILD. Imagine trading your little girl away to be abused for the rest of her life, all for the profit of a single cow. Heartbreaking, absolutely heartbreaking.

[@alexiscondit898]

That poor girl was dead inside, and completely miserable. Imagine being surrounded by no one who cares and then a strange foreigner covered in make up with a camera crew shows up and asks you how you feel...just soul killing...

[@miniskillet0587]

The hatred for women is all around the world. It's heartbreaking.

[@JDOTBlocka]

No, its traditions, its related to their undeveloped and poor brains. This wouldnt happen in modern day europe

[@justthinkingaboutallofit]

All but in western nations. There it is all about hating men...and hiw weird that is where the most feminists are that say nothing about african and arab nations their treatment of women...

[@kartierzanoti1404]

And I have Daughter that Just Turned 2 I’m not gone Play about her in the Future so Pray for me💯🙏🏾

[@chatgpt4135]

And when women demand better treatment, oeople say they are asking too much

[@JDOTBlocka]

@@chatgpt4135 you have the best treatment idk what u want

[@annzulu]

I am a Journalist from Zambia; this documentary must be old probably 7-8 years. Zambia has made tremendous progress in ending Child Marriages, particularly in Eastern Province where the Documentary was shot. The country now has a law in place, the Children´s Code Act, which speaks strongly to such issues and is effectively being implemented. Most rural communities are well sensitized and aware that child marriage is a crime, various interventions have also been put in place by stakeholders to keep girls in schools. It would nice if you could do a follow up documentary, otherwise good job on this one.

[@gemeracrys]

Indeed, the description states this is from 2016. It's encouraging to hear that things are improving

[@LaSantaPatrona]

Thank you , now I can finally sleep in peace tonight. Wish they wouldn’t upload crap like this and would instead make videos showing positivity and all the progress that has been made. We need to be looking forward, not backward.

[@nolicharmz]

Thanks for this update🙏

[@richardp9512011]

Mayb u could help with a updated documentary cause ur update helped my heart to stop beating so fast after seeing this.. Thank u and everyone that helps to fight against the selling of children..

[@kayleedavis9308]

Please give us an updated documentary. It's imperative that we see positive progress made period thank you so much for this documentary. It's an excellent job period my heart aches for children or put through this horrible tradition. Period I love you all beautiful people period

[@hersupreme3348]

This is just heartbreaking, so heartbreaking. We are not a commodity. My heart breaks for these young girls.

[@noncedotafeni]

this is painful its not fair at all selling your child for one cow to a 48 year old man

[@lym1077]

I’m disgusted. Why is his wife of 25 years so sick? Did he infect this child with HIV?

[@ElenaVV3]

My first thought

[@pearls.9277]

Almost definitely

[@teresamitchell908]

Exactly what I said. His eyes bulging out his head face sunken in… The next time I complain about America can someone jump through this phone and smack the sh## out of me.