INTJ - 5 Tips for Growth

[@AsuraPsych]

Hey everyone, thanks for watching! Hope you gleaned some insight from this. If you are an INTJ, what advice would you give to other INTJs? If you could give you from 5 years ago one piece of advice, what would it be?

[@t5396]

Face you fears and worries. Make it a goal to get out of your comfort zone and to try new things. Make a point to get a little bit better every day, and work on what you are weakest at, especially. Try not to act like such a freak all the time. My greatest personal tragedy is my inability to Fe: I cannot read people's feelings or the temperature of the room, and I am totally clueless when it comes to acting like a "normal" human being when emotion is necessary. Lol. How am I supposed to "be more approachable"?

[@joannavolkova8129]

Thanks for the video, I believe it is useful! My advice to younger self would be: 1. Dream big and dare to fail 2. No planning is planning to fail 3. Small talks arent evil - it can be a beginning of something bigger you can even imagine 4. Be fully you. Even if you are the most mellow peach in the world there will be people who dont like peach. 5. Be more confident, speak up, you have unique perspective, it is needed!

[@Sharkuterie327]

@@SehaChan "I think it's especially difficult for us to get over an idea not coming to fruition, but it's important to move on so you can work on something new instead of just get stuck on that one thing." This, 100%

[@far-away-so-close4540]

Make the jump. Take the opportunity, even if (especially if) it wasn't expected. I did, and it wasn't an easy decision to make, but it turned out to be enormously beneficial, and more than worth the challenges.

[@maironaulendil972]

I was 14 yo 5 years ago so that's according to this... 1. Don't repress emotions or you'll never learn to control them (Ni Fi loop ensues!) 2. Be aware of Fi to realize what is important to you so you don't end up sacrificing things that matter to you in pursuit of a higher goal (I lost so many things that way my goal[s] became meaningless without them) 3. Don't make plans so long term that you can trick yourself that you're working towards them when you're not and still stuck in dream phase 4. Curb your perfectionism => perfection can never exist and the will to attain it can cause paralysis, existential dread and overall isn't worth it 5. Be aware that immature Fi is 'narcissistic' in that it only thinks of itself, confront this issue

[@upvotecomment2110]

1. Challenge yourself rather than other people 2. Be Approachable 3. Seek advice 4. go out and experience new things 5. take care of your body

[@AllGlassEmpty]

Your hair is my favorite character development

[@joannavolkova8129]

Agree! So unusual!

[@no_special_person]

Yes

[@sebastianparamera2424]

As an INTJ, I must say that I enjoy neither competing nor cooperating with others.

[@BunniLovePickle]

Yeah, but it's not about enjoying it. The question is, do you do it?

[@SunscreenAndVitamins]

same

[@wstrat3623]

Same

[@t5396]

I'm an INTJ I favor cooperation to competition, but I prefer to be on a team when I do compete.

[@LordHaragnok]

I'm an INTJ and I've tried to see if competition motivates me, but it's usually just the sense of inadequacy that comes with someone being better than me at something than the act of competition itself that motivates me. As far as cooperation, I try to avoid it unless I know that the people I'm working with are competent enough to do the work properly. Most plans I have involving a group only don't work as a result of incompetence or idiotic conduct on the part of a group member.

[@kacperkwasny3848]

Anyone else forgets to eat if working?

[@dexdalador]

Just came here to type the exact same thing. All I notice is when I get up from the computer, I almost faint

[@saratanartist]

YES

[@GygyMy]

Samef or me. Whenever I 'really' start working on something, I am like fully absorbed by it and forget everything else....drinking water (unless a bottle is visible and reachable...hum and even if it's tthere, I'd have to "extract" myself for a minute, forcing me to think I should have a break and then I'd allow mysellf to take those extra seconds to reach out to the bottle and drink it's crazy)), eating, getting up , walk, have a break..... I only récentabout 8 months) improved a bit (with the forcing myself to have at least 2 breaks) because I finally understood that I mUST as well take care of my body correctly... Taking few breaks here and there happens more naturally now even if not yet 'automatic' and frequent enough for me to believe I reached a sane rythm...

[@360undead]

I haven't since I started exercising and dieting religiously

[@mjr7910]

64 year old INTJ lady here. Something I learned over the years was to communicate with the other person's personality type in mind. I have little trouble explaining my thoughts. What was hard was to learn to keep my audience in mind. Ex: I work with two ISFJ ladies... polite, traditional, family-oriented, mild-mannered. I try to tone down the direct, no-nonsense comments and say things more gently. I know I have come off as overbearing to them so I try to keep in mind who I am talking to. This won't come as a surprise but I find it harder to work with women than men. With most men I can be myself.

[@AsuraPsych]

Great point! Having a general idea of someone else's type can allow you to try and "speak their language", put things into terms that are easier for them to process.

[@sofia8574]

What is your opinion on jumpers?

[@sofia8574]

AsuraPsych I do this also

[@michellelea8511]

Second the working with women experience. Hell. Unless they have many masculine qualities.

[@shaurya.ahasueruswaghe12]

INTJ granny if you have grand kids how do you communicate with them are you close and understanding of their generation or do feel or experience a void generation gap or you are a cool granny who is always up to date or tries and succeds to be up to date

[@tuckersmoak6632]

Took me to nearly 30yrs old to start truly taking care of my body and in less than a year I am in the best shape ive ever been in. Truly fantastic advice for INTJs out there.

[@thissunchild]

Good for you. I'm in my 50's and still struggling with it😣

[@audreyemery2554]

My god, thank you so much for this video ! Specially for the last tip, I didn't realize that I was neglecting my body and most of my physical senses before you said it (well, you didn't say that exactly but in my case I interpreted it this way). I knew that I don't like walking, don't like sports, don't really care about my appearance without clothes, that I'm really easily annoyed by sounds, that I have struggle with hygiene, with sex and a lot more but I just realized now how much I'm feeling disconnect with my body. I think unconsciously I recognize myself only as a mind, as a non-physical being. That my body doesn't count. Thank you soo much for helping understanding me more ✨

[@AsuraPsych]

Glad it was helpful, thanks for letting me know and thanks for watching!

[@LittleMew133]

I wonder why as a sensing-repressed type (INFJ), I haven't really experience problems with diet, exercise, etc. I actually like roller coaster, race cars, sky diving, etc. What I have noticed is that I have no directional skills, and cannot handle very crowded or loud places but everything else has been easier than expected.

[@gustavramirez2891]

INTJ here - great tips! Been trying out a new weight loss routine for 2 weeks, and I can already feel a reduction in my neuroticism, and an increase in my self-motication :)

[@KikkiK89]

Thank you for that ❤️ May all beautiful INTJs be blessed with healthy bodies and maintain healthy routines, not be too scared to experience new things! ( I can totally relate to having a panel myself and ended up not going too because the other friend couldn't and all of that scared me too much) and living life to the fullest ❤️

[@micahroberts8383]

Yup. Great tips, from a 37yo therapist INTJ! The last piece, about bodily awareness is very, very real for me. It was so challenging that it took until I was in my 30s to realize that I am trans. I am so much more comfortable, emotionally available, self aware, receptive to feedback, etc... now that I am more present in my body. Obv, being trans delayed this even further for me, but I think the lack of awareness delayed me questioning why I was so uncomfortable existing in my body, as it felt so much easier to just ignore and avoid. Once I got curious, and started really trying to be present, it was clear there was a lot going on there. My current growth process is trying to do new things more often! Oof, that one is hard!

[@zacharydavis4398]

🙏🏾REAL LIFE💯💯💯💯Thank you for providing constructive insight rather than the other reductively degrading/derogatory/disparaging/denigrating/etc clickbait garbage that seems to be excessively on the web when it comes to INTJ’s smh Thanks for spending the time to create and share this content perspective ❤️🙏🏾

[@yanitabutarbutar7332]

Connecting with ISTJ especially in working environment, helps a lot in grounding myself.

[@Cryptic_Chai]

Bleh. Dumb creatures.

[@bogdi131313]

Great video! I am in INTJ, 27 years old and you are right: Fe is something that I have only recently started to take "out of the dungeon" so to speak, while in my 20-30 years range as you said.

[@headisintheclouds]

I recently found out I’m an intj after years of studying cognitive functions. I’m really glad I found this video because it was very insightful and objective. Thank you!

[@xav5502]

I kind of forgot I had a body I had to take care of, and I’ve been so off the grid with everything. I had a major check up yesterday and the lab report said I had vitamin D deficiency and much more. This year has been a huge set-back. Thankfully, your tips might come in handy. Thank you so much for this video.

[@lisaia7877]

Ahhh called out on the learn to be approachable. I’ve learned to do that in environments I’ve developed comfort of being in but if it’s a new environment or new crowd, I’m unapproachable according to others and very intimidating for awhile. Sometimes I never end up connecting w the place or people and I end up staying unapproachable the entire time even if I’m in that environment for long term.

[@muslinaakhter6511]

You are so right! I always forget to eat.Thanks for that "fi" tip.I am still working on that.God.that is hard.still,it is helping me developing relationships,and thats worth it.

[@ary5897]

Good video . I loved first and fourth and last tip . There are many times I escaped from new situations despite I was ready for that and I escaped just because of my desire for perfection . In the other hand many times in my life , I fail to achieve my personal goals just because I wanted to defeat people around me in competition. And I won but that wasn’t my true desire.

[@kq1777]

Very true. I liked 2 the most ..be approachable. Accept people for who they are , not your idealised version

[@tehufn]

I like when you start to talk fast 💖

[@jhemp]

A few tips of my own, when talking with people get good at finding their passions. Deep meaningful conversation and insight can be had with almost anyone as long as they are passionate. Even the least skilled individuals I've met are a wealth of knowledge about their own unique slice of life. Second, don't discount knowledge so readily as useless. A random fact can be the bridge that builds a friendship, can be the analogy that makes the pattern click, or even the door that opens to to new opportunities. Lastly, do your best to remain optimistic. I have a tendency to overfocus on weak links in the chain and without my commitment to be more optimistic i know that my perception of the world would be quite doom and gloom. While i still don't think humanity as a whole is headed in the right direction, i believe its possible we can survive our own folly as long as we share our knowledge with one another.

[@Sharkuterie327]

Thank you Chris! Love the tips... and the roots. I'm talking about your hair... growth. :P Tending to the physical body is a big one. I fall into the mindset that the body is an obstacle, or habits and routines that support the body are a waste of energy (Soylent takes that philosophy to an extreme, if anyone remembers that company). Ironically, the more attention I give to developing beneficial habits, the more energy and time (probably even a longer life) I have. Another mindset shift was giving symbolic meaning to activities, such as meals and hygiene, so that I could feel more connected to/grounded by those activities. With lots of practice, it is getting easier to meter those hyper-focused mental states that lead to neglect.

[@njabulothabethe5022]

Nice hair bro👍🏾👍🏾

[@AsuraPsych]

👍thanks, and thanks for watching

[@DoNColey456]

Do any other INTJs feel weird in public as if you want to ignore everyone and be your natural self (happy,flamboyant, upset, focused?) but you feel like you are showing off for people at the same time by causing any attention to yourself? 😆 So you keep the pokerface until your alone later

[@gabrielarcane1762]

Your knowledge of the human psyche is really comprehensive therefore actually helpful! Much Appreciation AsurA !

[@obscurellepriscillatopin7506]

I think what's helped me with the competitive attitude is to ask myself what I hope to communicate with my achievement. How badly do I need other people to know that I can win? Or am I just doing this to gain a better grasp of the pace of things? Is this for my own skill development? Do I just really need a pick-me-up right now? 🤓

[@thepanthar]

I'm an INTP and I think these things can be beneficial to me as well :)

[@JJ-rp2df]

Great tips. Competing and cooperating happily and easily isn't natural and intj work performance and relationship anxiety doesn't help.

[@mika_is_beast7714]

6:20 The most important advice ever. I wish i would have watched your video earlier.

[@vyshakhputhiyedath8745]

Interesting. I resonate with your struggles and I am glad that I watched this video at the right time. As an INTJ one tip I would like to add on to the second tip of 'Being approachable' is 'Sometimes it is okay to be wrong'. That makes you being perceived as less stubborn and closed minded and more approachable to the outside world. Happens more with INTJs with less developed feeling function I guess

[@dirtywhitellama]

I don't find myself particularly competitive with others at all, strangely. I guess that's a good thing? Might have something to do with how I was raised. Going and experiencing new things in a new environment is a lot easier if I have an extrovert to shadow while doing it.... Oh, hey, I'm in your credits now :D

[@BeyondPersonality]

Thanks for these tips. They are extremely useful

[@laylataveras3182]

Bro I swear if humans didn’t talk to me for a couple of months this would be easier. In my personal opinion humans just slow the process.

[@runawaybeats981]

Hey i really like this video it's very useful and thank u for uploading it. Your channel over all is great and you're very articulate. Their are some things that this video made me want to bring up. What are your thoughts on INTJ paranoia? INFJ's struggle with this too. I think that would have been a great topic to talk about. Second thing, in your second tip you said that INTJ's are hard to approach because they don't develop their feeling function until there 20's/30's. Now I think that information is incorrect because the tertiary function is actually the second function to develop and the auxiliary is the last. INTJ's in there yuth are actually very emotional and sensitive and being rationale (devloping TE) is something INTJ' have to learn. The auxiliary function for all types is the function that each of the types need to learn to be mature Would love to hear your thoughts on this

[@udokahn3262]

Taking care of once own body is not really an issue anymore if your Ni decided that you do not want to die, like ever, so to get as close as possible to that I now always look out for a good diet and always doing sport (the only health related thing I still struggle with is getting enough sleep)

[@whysmile9412]

good for you that you're doing good with your health but let me just point out that you said that " Ni decided that you do not want to die". Can you explain more about this? because i could easily argue that it is just you (the person) coming up with lazy excuses

[@fredrikdippel3664]

Control yourself and your process but you cant control the outcome. You will be better but maybe not the best. But if you keep on improving you might become the best. If you stop there is no chance in that.

[@dudeweedlmao8519]

Hi great channel. Not sure if this is something other INTJ's struggle with or I am just mistyped but I have been finding myself falling more and more into Fi-Se fueled binges where basically all I do is waste time with pointless feel good sensory stuff while I am thinking about how I would do the task I am supposed to be doing if I and the world was perfect and it is kind of eating me alive. Could you maybe talk about it if it's a general theme for the type or ignore otherwise I guess. Again, great channel anyway.

[@Sharkuterie327]

That sounds like procrastination. This is an excellent resource that might help: www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/Resources/Looking-After-Yourself/Procrastination

[@vicb5118]

I think at age 26 I eventually reached all my functions to harmonies with each other. I struggled with Te a lot but my university courses helps a lot like wirting essays. (I am studying Media studies and Data Science)

[@shirayryu8071]

I clicked on the samurai and I see you hehe 👋

[@Irawry0u]

All of these were on point especially the last one which is most crucial in my opinion. Thanks so much

[@ellarose9983]

It is so, so hard to take care of my body. Even the most basic aspects- I am 20 and I still don’t notice when I’m hungry or thirsty until it starts messing with my focus

[@njabulothabethe5022]

I totally relate with this video really motivating

[@AsuraPsych]

Glad you liked it, thanks for watching!

[@nouralovesqoran]

You are SO right. INTJ here. ✌️

[@ChromaticTempest]

It's pretty hard for I-types coming up, in general. Our world somehow seems to be more geared for the easy E's. Social stuffs will always be the thing to develop.

[@scotshuthats5268]

Great advise, thank you.

[@fredrikdippel3664]

Sooner or later the reality catches up and you find yourself forced to take care of your body. Better to try being proactive in that sense.

[@DoNColey456]

Great video thanks

[@ltal9570]

SPOT ON🎯

[@alighoraba5488]

So true and to the point

[@blink2665]

Am between step 3 and 4 But getting there

[@johnpossum556]

That's all your hair grew in 4 months? I just buzzed mine again last night and I did it about a month ago, too. I am very INTJ so naturally I did it my self.🤣

[@PowerRedBullTypology]

curl/kinky hair tends to look as if it grows slower, since it does not only grow in 1 direction like straight hair does

[@isaaclouis219]

Can you make subliminals to develop Cognitive functions and personality type???

[@MindfullyMindy]

HUMILITY! I suggest heaps of humility and to work on mildness. If you take the time to even practice in the mirror what a more approachable face looks and feels like, you will be more ready to implement it. People need to perceive you as open and approachable. Practice what that looks like. Also, before you speak, think out if what you have to say is mild enough for someone sensitive or said in a mild tone of voice. If you have a friend or family member you feel is honest enough, practice your approaches with them. Ask them for feed back. If you want information to be inputted in a certain way and carry a specific message or meaning, then you have to learn how to speak in a more mild manner in most cases. There will be times learning voice inflection will be especially useful to you. Take the time to learn that and practice it.

[@wegotonelove]

Leave the computer before you become it.. Great tips :)

[@brain0nfire]

If I were you i'd shave my hair, i felt so cringe at the hair saloon, now I just shave it and its always neat.

[@AndeAndrea]

Still love and recommend your content. Do you know what your animal stack order is in OP yet? I'd be curious to know.

[@AsuraPsych]

If I were to self type using their system it would be SBCP, but I dont entirely know haha.

[@CAM86965]

I love u man

[@BlackSailPass_GuitarCovers]

8:20 Sounds like you had already successfully 'grown as a person'.

[@LucasAppo]

(This comment isnt video related) Lately Ive been wondering about the connection of MBTI and Horoscope and would like to hear others' opinions as well. Im an INTJ (of course) and my sign is Aquarius. When I looked into the characteristics of both, ive found that they are reaaally similar to one and other. Traits in common - Intelectual, analytical, independent, confident, open-minded, hardworking, determined, decisive, aloof, original, discards emotions, uncompromising, hates rules/limitations...just to name a few. My hypothesis is that either, they are connected or synergistic. Lemme explain. If they are in fact connected, maybe Im born as an Aquarius and as I grow up these traits kinda shape me into an INTJ. OR they are synergistic which would mean that they are not connected and Im just a sum total of the traits of the Aquarius and the INTJ. If that was the case, it would make me some kind of super Aquarius/INTJ (not in an arrogant way) beacuse of the similarity of the traits. This makes more sense because not every INTJ is an Aquarius...I think lol. Please let me know what you guys think of the connection of MBTI and the Zodiac, id love to know what you think about it! Last but not least I want to shoutout the one and only Asura for the fabulous videos and for creating a community of awesome INTJs where we can all feel understood. Thank you.

[@blazewarrior8740]

Can thinking judgers have artistic type holland code.What is the relationship between Holland code and MBTI.

[@abradolflincler3227]

Is it ok to drink much in the morning and evening but nothing at mid-day?

[@dasein9980]

Why are INTJs fearful of trying new things? Wouldn't you say that many types have issues trying new things?

[@sofia8574]

No, only IJs

[@Rms317]

I haven’t developed my feelings, it’s like I’m trying to win a gold medal in the asshole olympics.

[@itz_sidd_fr]

😮

[@leggi_bois4eva]

Is that ghosts of tsushima

[@AsuraPsych]

Could be, just grabbed it of f Google haha

[@runawaybeats981]

Second