Intro to Being Aspec (asexual & aromantic) Part 3

[@ag3402]

I totally relate to this as a 30-something aroace. I wonder how much pain and confusion I could have avoided if I'd had access to this language as a teenager. I was so relieved and happy when I finally discovered my identity a couple years ago, but I'm still working through the emotional baggage from so many years of feeling like I was broken. It's so helpful to hear stories from other people who didn't realize they were aro/ace until well into adulthood. Thanks for sharing!

[@samiko6091]

Thank you took a long time through my teens and thinking "celebate" and wrong and broken to eventually realise ace and "hell yeah and it leaves more brain space for other stuff!" For me that's running a community group. Still hurts when I'm alienated, when everyone is laughing at innuendos etc and there's me working. Avoiding it. But this last year finding your channel and ace dad I kind of feel less alone. Thank you! You are literally helping people around the world and in a marvel ish type way think of all those connections! It's like a massive network of "your people" 😊

[@laylascarlett2010]

Thank you for sharing your experience

[@Orech-the-Nut]

Thank you. True. And…I am also “too late” with everything…but yes, it is a journey…

[@peermadsen9377]

Thank you for your videos. Thanks for sharing your journey. It really helps me explaining it, both to myself and my friends.

[@fluentlyaspec]

Thank you for saying that. I appreciate it ❤️

[@smwood91]

I am 32 and have experienced so much regret regarding my choices about relationships. I think I was chasing the "love story" I so desperately wanted to have.(I read a lot of books) My experiences with love and dating haven't been positive unfortunately...I've been ghosted and denied a lot since high school (2008 - 2010 especially) by my peers and I always thought there was something wrong with me because I wasn't ready for an intimate relationship with anyone. These boys destroyed my confidence because I wanted to wait until marriage or possibly until I was in a committed relationship. I even had one friend tell me I was "no fun" because I wouldn't participate. Still to this day I'm not 100% sure if I'm Asexual or making a choice to be abstinent. I am confused and still exploring. But I find myself connecting to your experiences. I feel like I've tried for way to long to fit society's mold and it just isn't me. I still feel like I have so much to learn about myself regarding Asexuality.

[@tallonhunter3663]

I had a lot of trauma and neurology based excuses to not examine why i never sought out a partner... as i woke up to the five alarm dumpster fire that was my family, cut and started healing i ran out of excuses and bumped into the term asexual and it was like the movie epiphany scene. Shots of all the times i found ways to not be in a situation i would have to examine the desire to not be in the situation. Followed immediately by a "huh. neat." as i undersell it externally.