Is Dating Today Nearly Impossible?

[@GEN]

Aight where my day 1’s at?? What y’all think of the vid - W or L And for more frequent uploads, check out my second channel - GEN+: youtube.com/@moreGEN

[@usrnameerror4046]

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[@CGrantMusic1]

Dub

[@akshatale8388]

hey gen great video as always. i love how you listen to so many people. however, i think it would be nice if you were to add people who have divorced, lost somebody they loved and/or talked about love from a completely non romantic relationship. I also think it would be nice if people who practice celibacy were to give their views.

[@MaximilianSchüldt]

Big W, only a short time til you blow up!

[@cristiancarpio1814]

Always Dubs W

[@jornoa-]

bro purposely fumbled the bag with those two first girls he was picking up for content, W creator

[@GEN]

you really one of the only few who caught that 😂

[@Cub__]

@@GEN ain't no way bruh 😂 that's next level commitment

[@peanutwars]

ok that makes so much sense I was like bruh no way XD

[@Zucchini-official]

@@GEN I caught that too. Bro this was an excellent video. I've watched a few of your pieces now. Well done, keep going man.

[@johnd6980]

Imagine he caught his first moment with his future wife on camera

[@moshe4696]

Just wanted to let you know that the amount of work you put into your videos is insane. Really really well put together videos. This channel deserves a million subs.

[@GEN]

we will get there - thanks for watching and supporting

[@nunooliveira2424]

AGREEED

[@deanazarnush884]

hes managed to combine investigative journalism with a whole bunch of topics like dating, not many channels out there like this

[@neanda]

i agree, he's got a very cool personality and wants to know what people think, and that helps us understand each other more. i'm new to this channel and he's a cool interviewer, non judgemental helps people relax and talk more truthfully 👍

[@coltond.5951]

I think the biggest factor honestly is the lack of wholesome activities that people are involved in today. Everything is online or through a dating app. Going to a social gathering, excluding just clubbing... Church activity, volunteer effort, intermural sports, etc. Not as much of that stuff goes on today. You're only gonna meet women if you have opportunities to be around them and talk to them.

[@GEN]

This is a great point

[@IIIISai]

W

[@HaleyMary]

I agree. As someone who doesn't drink, there aren't many places I can meet guys outside of church or at the open mic night I attend. And, even at church and the open mic night once a month, I've never been approached by a guy, so I guess I just have to live my life and love will find me when I least expect it.

[@danielcroft5559]

​@@HaleyMary I mean if you have the believe that the guy is the one who has to approach you 100% of the times then you are missing opportunities, I will be honest with you in this topic,most guys will never approach cause they consider it a waste of time due to the amount of chances for guys of being cheated, heartbroken, used, same goes for you, if you fall in love with the Chad then you are fu#$@ as well, so yeah, be patient, especially if you are looking for a long termn relationship, good man and woman do exist, they are just super rare to find nowdays.

[@sidneyboo9704]

Totally agree. If you talk to someone at the store, you get glared at. However, if you approach everyone with a open heart, opportunities does arise. Its amazing what a smile and being genuine can get you.

[@jedh116]

“You think your cringing imagine editing this” had me dying 😂

[@who_is_dis]

I still can't believe that wasn't staged... like I get being nervous but not even being able to get the words out is mad. Then again i've been there before, beating around the bush etc.

[@jepar]

That ending was unexpected. This storytelling is a high-tier already, you're bound to hit greatness with this quality of your content. Superb video! Good luck finding your love out there.

[@CommandoMaster]

The thing is this generation doesn't value real life man to woman genuine connection anymore. Everything is superficial, online, and shallow. Getting a girl's number is kinda meaningless if she's not super interested in u. U can have a pleasant convo with a girl, think it went well, get her number, text her, and she ghosts u like u didn't even exist. It's very frustrating trying to date, and finding "Love" in this day and age is basically impossible.

[@avatar94100]

that ending sucked

[@DrBeauHightower]

Bro faked those awkward pickups. Zero chance he is that nervous when he literally walks up to people and asks them questions about the craziest controversial questions😂 but Respect the buildup for the story

[@GodOfThunder00X]

yea that was so fake and cringy holy shit hahaha

[@KalebSDay]

It is a different environment. Much easier to chat with people when they see you're doing it in an interview setting. The ice is already broken. On the other hand, just walking up to someone and trying to flirt it off with them without the support of them knowing its for a vid would make him more out there on his own.

[@neanda]

it's a very different setting. if you're going up to people to interview them with a microphone, then it's much easier because you know they're reaction is not whether they like you, going up to chat them up has the possibility of rejecting you as a person. it's a very different mindset

[@neanda]

@@KalebSDay 💯

[@GodOfThunder00X]

@@neanda come on man, no one on earth talks to girls like that. Especially not a social and rather good looking dude like him

[@SkellyHertz]

I think the phrase "love happens when you least expect it" is not talking about finding love being a surprise, but about managing your expectations and putting yourself out there with confidence without worrying about either being or finding the perfect person.

[@wanglee21]

If you look at the statement itself, it says "be yourself and don't give a fuck about the other person."

[@panlis6243]

Ye, I always thought it means that you should be open minded because romantic relationship (or any relationship for that matter) is not the kind of stuff you can just predict and pre-plan. Taking it as "Love will just happen on its own" is really getting the exact opposite message than you should out of it

[@Auditormadness9]

Thus it's a toxic statement.

[@30ajgo]

@@wanglee21 Hopefully this is not a general statement or we are screwed.

[@Gnexz.]

@@wanglee21man that’s uh a bit narcissistic

[@WhySoAwkward]

Crazy that people can't seem to tell you were purposely acting nervous in those first two approaches for the overall narrative arc of the video lol. Love the production quality here; scripting/camera presence/editing was all top notch! Excited to see your channel grow.

[@user-zo6br5ce2y]

No one that goes and interviews people like that is that awkward 😂

[@johnd6980]

Online dating is so insanely bad at least as an average guy unless you are purely trying to hook up. I never found a girl online that didn't confess that they would date 2 or 3 guys at a time even if they were with the same guy up to like 3 months. After I gave up online I just randomly found a good woman organically and now we are married.

[@icy5982]

Awesome story. For me, I'm not really desperate right now but I don't think I'll ever try online dating. I just hear horrible stories of ghosting, cheating and flings. It's all superficial and can reassures worthlessness. We want to change that mindset by acknowledging our strengths

[@CommandoMaster]

The thing is this generation doesn't value real life man to woman genuine connection anymore. Everything is superficial, online, and shallow. Getting a girl's number is kinda meaningless if she's not super interested in u. U can have a pleasant convo with a girl, think it went well, get her number, text her, and she ghosts u like u didn't even exist. It's very frustrating trying to date, and finding "Love" in this day and age is basically impossible.

[@madmaxiemartialartsnerd485]

Modern dating has essentially become a game of pure luck to be honest, speaking from a happily taken man. Doesn't matter where you go, in person, online, parties, Hell you could meet your perfect match but if she aint emotionally available, it does not matter at all. Ive come to learn time and place is far more important.

[@nerychristian]

Despite what you may have learned while growing up... Most women aren't interested in commitment or romance. While they are young, they are only interested in having "fun" with their girlfriends, or going to clubs and hooking up with random guys, or posting half naked pictures on social media. Women are extremely self centered, and will only start thinking about marriage when they know their biological clock it ticking. But by then, most women have slept with countless random guys and probably have kids. The few good women are mostly already taken.

[@exoticindiaa]

@@CommandoMaster Only women with low self worth would ghost you. You dodged a bullet

[@matb.2634]

Hey man, i'm just putting this comment out there so that i'm able to look at it in the future and appreciate how far you've come: Your content is top notch and your channel will probably blow up sooner than you expect it to do ! The video quality, the effort that you put into it, the storyline, EVERYTHING is well thought out; So whatever you're doing, keep going man ! :D

[@GEN]

thanks for watching! real recognize real

[@AS-ie6id]

faxxxx

[@shemkspeaks]

Take-home: "The most successful people aren't the smartest, the most talented or the best looking; they are the most consistently bold". The message - keep trying, keep putting yourself out there. Practical. Great piece.

[@GEN]

Very well said - luck favors the bold

[@AaronMetallion]

I've lived half my life in India, and half in Canada, so I have some insight. Approaching a girl like "I saw you, and thought you were beautiful" / or sex first & friendship is an afterthought, is a classic western approach, that doesn't factor in compatibility (Do your values and goals align at all?). The west does things backwards. In India the approach is very different, we keep close friendships. When you're best friends (without expectations), people are very open about what they really want. We stay best friends to access partner potential, and date with the intention of engagement, and engagement as a final trial run to make sure there's no Incompatibilities that will lead to divorce after marriage. That's part of why divorce rates are 1.3% in India, and 50% in the US. I've had such a hard time dating in the west, and consider going back to my home country, because on average it's harder to find people traditional / with comparable values to my own.

[@xxanilavo]

Very Underrated Comment.

[@jameshatton4211]

Very very intelligent comment this one! I'm Australian and I have Indian friends and I often speak with them about cultural differences? But it's not what you think? I'm the one saying to my Indian mates "that kind of thing wouldn't happen in India because......." I also love Indian food so my friends tell me I should go to Indian and marry an Indian girl haha 😆 My friend Vengkat Sai says to group of my Indian friends "Ah but James you must learn about dowry payment to her family when you marry? And you must convince her family that you are the right guy for her to be with because her family probably had an arranged marriage for her since she was a little girl? Sometimes these relationships are forged over a long time with both families in close contact with each other? It's not just a decision overnight? So you will need to show value to overturn something like that?" When I seemed disappointed as if the task seemed impossible due to traditions or something? Vengkat says in perfectly mock Aussie voice "Oh shit no bro! The girls father will call him and just tell him 'I'll promise my other daughter to your son' and they will just be ok with that?"

[@prettyangelic]

Going to India brb

[@asellandrofacchio7263]

Cringe.

[@jameshatton4211]

@@asellandrofacchio7263 you're cringe

[@scottm4975]

There was about a year of my life that I was just ridiculously confident and just perfectly ok with the way things were. Stopped trying to meet people or date was about to travel for a few months before starting a job in a new city, and that’s when I met my now wife of 7 years. I really do believe you have to be comfortable being alone before finding lasting love. My secret if there is any, is that I meditated twice a day. Seriously changed my whole life

[@skilldeadly8888]

Agreed. I never had more women interested as when I decided to only focus on myself and refused to get in a relationship. It's a confidence in yourself that attracts people. You aren't desperate. You are having conversations with no expectations. You don't feel the need to push anything. Women find that attractive because they are used to men trying to push it. Men, focus on yourself and your career. Don't put expectations on yourself. Talk to women without believing you have to ask them out.

[@eggy6745]

Honestly, I think sexual promiscuity also adds to the fact people can't easily find love. Look at what the ancient stoics used to preach then take into consideration that those teachings are what psychiatrists use to help people suffering with depression. And those same stoics use to point out how men being sexually promiscuous was extremely harmful for them

[@austinjrb]

How long were your meditation sessions? I meditate for 20 mins every day and have been doing so for about 5 years. Definitely improved the quality of my life so I'm curious about your approach to it

[@projectkod]

lol the savage old couple. "she's horny" " we're thirsty"

[@hope1785]

Love is not Something you buy or swipe its something you work on to make it work its something that pushes you to be the best version of yourself

[@CommandoMaster]

The thing is this generation doesn't value real life man to woman genuine connection anymore. Everything is superficial, online, and shallow. Getting a girl's number is kinda meaningless if she's not super interested in u. U can have a pleasant convo with a girl, think it went well, get her number, text her, and she ghosts u like u didn't even exist. It's very frustrating trying to date, and finding "Love" in this day and age is basically impossible.

[@LuisAngel-qr5ro]

Is not that we don't appreciate is that for the most part our parents weren't there for us. This made avoidant attachment issues

[@feartheghus]

@@LuisAngel-qr5ro way to blame others and give yourself a victim label so you don't have to do anything yourself.

[@LuisAngel-qr5ro]

@@feartheghus Ok boomer

[@yuyinho]

​@@LuisAngel-qr5ro bro is still using that same comeback from 2019 💀💀

[@LuisAngel-qr5ro]

@@yuyinho stuck with me, the amount of boomer way of thinking in this day and age is staggering

[@definedgameing734]

Man this is one of the most down to earth channels I've ever watched. Challenging the hard questions. If there's a way to mend the polarization right now its through dialog and understanding. Keep up the good shit bro.

[@josephsiessmayer6458]

Learning how the spotlight effect works has single handedly fixed my entire social life. NO ONE CARES ABOUT THAT SEMI-EMBARRASSING THING YOU DID IN CLASS LAST WEEK!!! Go up to people and talk to them. If it gets awkward or is unpleasant, it doesn't matter. They aren't gonna remember it in a week anyway. Getting over your fear of embarrasing yourself in front of peers or the fear of rejection are some of the most important life skills someone can learn in this generation.

[@peterlewis2178]

Honestly, I think the key is to make friends. Falling in love with a friend is just about the most natural way to fall in love there is.

[@stanislav4607]

Bro it's exponentially harder to make friends as you grow older and also have you heard about friendzone?

[@peterlewis2178]

@@stanislav4607 The friend zone isn't real. I mean, for a few people it is, and especially in times like High School it may be, but in general, it's not. But yeah, I don't deny that it's hard to make friends. Human connection in general is much harder today than it was in the past.

[@SamuAguiaHP]

@@peterlewis2178the real problem is that for both dating and making friends, its getting harder and harder to meet new people. Everything is online

[@pussydestroyer69285]

​@@peterlewis2178I'm glad that you as a man said this. "The friend zone isn't real". Like yes thank you...thinking of someone as a friend is literally the default. She doesn't have to sleep with u just because you like her. If u like her you should make that clear and then if she's obviously not into u or just using you (which that is a case that I would call friendzoning) then just like leave and find someone else

[@meli77628]

@@stanislav4607the friendzone concept is so stupid, a lot of people were friends before they were partners

[@moehashim8442]

Man with every video I watch, I appreciate your authenticity and integrity more and more

[@jasonbfhfj8132]

Yes. With the ability to see hundreds of potential partners in a day, why settle for “good enough”? Why not shoot for “perfect”? No one is willing to give people a chance because they always think they can do better.

[@Feber2001]

"The grass appears greener on the other side because it is fake."

[@jaideepshekhar4621]

@@Feber2001 Extremely underrated comment!

[@christiansnaturestudio6599]

Maybe I'm not good enough

[@CrazyDogLadySky]

I think some physical attraction matters, but mostly if you could make a woman laugh, show her your confident, and dont try to jump in the sack RIGHT AWAY! That is the biggest turn off IMO. I have met guys that ask to go "mess around" within minutes of meeting. Hate it

[@Mannypacquia0]

Honestly from my experience most of the time like 99% of the time if a woman doesn't find a guy somewhat physically attractive she won't even give a conversation no matter what. Women care about looks as much as guys do it's bullshit if anyone else says otherwise.

[@cfc4659]

It's crazy to me that you are this underrated!! And only get 8.7k views on a video like this. You have high quality content and I'm excited to see what you'll do next!! Keep up the good work bro

[@kierinhernandez7524]

For me I am slightly unsure if I felt love for someone I liked. I have definitely had my share of crushes, but I was never too sure if I truly liked them or their looks. The closest I felt was a girl who I was friends with since middle school. She was funny, shared some of my interests, was similar to me (half asian and half white), and was shy. How I knew I liked her was when she hugged me for the first time at her birthday. It may have been a simple hug as a friend, but to me it made me feel warm and fuzzy inside tbh. The next year I moved away and we grew apart as our friendship split ways with groups. She dated one of my friends friends and I was left broken hearted. It still lurks in my mind what if she liked me? But now I think I have to move on. It's been so long. I wish we could have at least stayed friends but I will always cherish her friendship as I knew it.

[@dojocho1894]

There is a van halen song called when its love...and there is a line that asks : how do I know when its love?...the reply is.....when you feel the same together. I have been in love 2x married and divorced 2x There is nothing in the world better than to be in love.......So many things you say and do that you dont know where it comes from.....I remember one night in the middle of sleeping i woke up and i just tapped my wife on her shoulder in bed with the lights off and said to her...babe ..do you know I would swim the across the ocean just to be with you?....she half asleep replied....I know......that made me feel so amazing...........

[@aisamarnie]

Tell her you liked her if she’s not in a relationship now, who knows

[@jaideepshekhar4621]

Dude, you have to go for it. If you really feel you had something in common, you'll be only left with regret by leaving it.

[@Peepspaint]

this video resonated with me hard, i found love at 30, but everything before was lust and toxic, staying single over 5 years, being good with being alone with your self is a big win, then you'll find that other half that fits your picture. they are like your missing pieces, that's how you know its LOVE.

[@dojocho1894]

Ive been married 2x. No kids though. Sadly they ended one of 4 years the other 18 yrs. The 18yr was my dream girl and I experienced the most amazing time of my life....she went in another direction. Though it was heartbreaking..I never dreamed of how much fun I would have being in love and doing all we did. It took me 4 yrs to get over her...but I'm back now dating and ready for another shot at love...

[@TheMathias95]

I know what you're saying but the wording "like they are your missing piece" is a very bad mindset. People actually gets confused about this and deeply think they cannot be whole without someone else, which is a perfect incubator for a toxic relationship.

[@chrisgodfrey1880]

I seriously can't get over how amazing your videos are GEN! Since you popped up in my recommendations I've binged almost every video you've made and every single one is just phenomenal. Well articulated, edited, the way you conduct your interviews, the effort and hard work you put into them, etc. Please don't ever stop, you are one of the best content creators ever to be on the platform and I'm rooting for your success. I'm gonna get everyone I can to subscribe, you deserve all the support you can get On both your channels btw, the reaction one is great too

[@Ari-355]

I think people put too much expectation on finding “the one” or being in a relationship or in love to feel fulfilled. I think people need to learn to be ok alone first before they can start meeting and trying to date bc meeting someone should add something to ur life, not become ur whole life. I also think that meeting people is more difficult bc some of us have lost social skills w/ the invention on phones and apps and of u are introverted by nature than that complicated things more bc ur circle of friend tends to be smaller. Happy u found someone 😊

[@josephjones836]

" only women, children, and dogs loved unconditionally men are loved under the condition you provide something " chris rock. Knowing what I know, love is only a chemical reaction. If you are guy, it is to your disadvantage to be in love because you will do this that are completely stupid. It's okay, to be in a relationship and have love for someone, but I don't recommend being in love. Know that when it comes to romance females are always pragmatic while we as guys are idealistic. Understanding the love is not reason to be in a relationship is helpful in establishing families in the long-term. But, it does kill the Disney fairytale.

[@paulshin3644]

bro i just found your channel and i like how you’re asking the questions that we’re all to scared to ask. definitely got my subscription 👍🏼

[@claytonwong9798]

Owning up to your emotions like that shows pure boldness and being able to express what you are able to, but even though I am still lonely, I still got time for being young for now....to hopefully find someone who would be there for me regardless of what happens (commitment) and accepting of who I am to understand each other on a person-to-person level of trust (responsibility + accountability).

[@RobDeMann]

Love it gen, the editing and storytelling is top notch, keep it up!

[@danteeightsix]

The difference between lust and love is that lust only goes one way. You want them, but they don't want you back. Love is when you both want each other equally and nothing will become between you.

[@ronaldfoks]

Normally I don't respond to videos, but thanks for the effort you've put into this video. My last holiday with my friends was completely focused on approaching girls on the street during the day and at night in the club. It's so nice how many awesome people you could meet if you just let your ego go, choose what you want to do, and let your fear be there in the present. And yes, people don't really care, but there's is a big chance when you give that compliment, you just fucking made their day. How awesome is that! Btw. You've got a new sub, thanks!

[@ogerpinata-nu2th]

Love can't be forced and in order to achieve it, clarity is vital. Who am I, what am I looking for and with what am I comfortable? It also means that you have to learn your boundaries and limitations. Bending over backwards works fine for a short while but not in a relationship. You can only give your best and if that is not enough for her, that's it. It doesn't mean that you are a failure, you just made a wrong choice. Somebody who really appreciates you, will recognize and value your contribution for what they are instead of looking for an imaginary ideal. Even if you manage, she loves the ideal you try to imitate not you. Btw. Congratulations to you👍🏻

[@victorpessanha2500]

I just like everything about this video tbh. Editing, honesty, information and the way it was delivered.. probably one of the best ones i've seen so far! I had to change countries due to work and haven't approach since i got here (about a month ago) :/ though i'm slowly starting to muster up that courage again and, i think if watch this a couple of times more that sure will help hahah cheers bruh, take care

[@wayneisname4544]

I don't need someone else to love me. I'm already in love with myself. I believe that is the most important person to learn to love first. When you have that, a need for someone else turns into a want. Or maybe for some people like me, you no longer want a relationship at all because you enjoy being alone, and romantic relationships are exhausting.

[@CodyPewPew]

The fact this guy was able to manage his anxiety like that, bro, unit. This guy is a unit.

[@abhaychaudhary4145]

Bro, that was a good approach. Keep watching content, go out there keep approaching, you'll get better

[@rosem6254]

Is it weird that he says exactly what I’m thinking lol fear of looking stupid😢... Agree u first need to be 100% comfortable with yourself ,not like you’ve reached where you need to be and you don’t need to grow… but a day 2 day contentment where you know You are a better you today than you were yesterday

[@dhrutube]

Honestly, I would never go upto someone random to get their number. Ask someone out at work or college or school or at a place where you guys actually talk for a while, like a party. It just makes it a lot less awkward and increasing your chances obv

[@mihaitzan]

your channel is undiscovered gold

[@no-dc4mn]

Literally. This dude deserves more attention

[@thomassuarez5316]

Honestly think this style of content is pretty innovative, all the deep thoughts of a long video essay in somewhat bite-sized under 30 min installations. Real good balance

[@samanthacarolina4006]

When GEN posts , it’s a good day

[@GEN]

You damn right

[@abrahamames911]

Volunteer. Go there to enjoy yourself & fellow human beings. Every time I've done this, even a little bit, every woman in dating age range- even those typically "out of my league", are checking me out. Anything even resembling desperation is a huge turn off. But someone enjoying themselves, even if it seems like they have no right to do so, is someone that others want to be around. Trick is to display that you're an intriguing and enjoyable individual with more going on in your life than being single & looking.

[@joshuabenitez3260]

Watching this video gave me hope and gave me some confidence. That getting rejected isn't the end of the world.

[@OscarOffTheCuff]

This channel is fire. This is what I’ve always wanted to do with my own channel. Keep going man

[@Sonic_emperor]

Got the nail on he head. The spotlight effect also explains why I feel so much more anxious going to events where I know more people compared to events where I don’t know anyone at all. It’s easier to approach women where you feel like no eyes are on you

[@cathodion]

The level of determination to not only come up with the idea, execute and film it, but also go over it multiple times in editing is inspiring man! As a married man with kids im kinda looking at the dating world from the outside, but I image it must be hard for single young guys to even get in touch with a potential life partner.

[@Manyouz]

Hello Gen, ive been watching through your channel for 2 days now, just because i do really like your authentic content and the topics. I just wanna say that dating these days is just as hard as back in the days as well, because of the actual intentions people has. Back then when people were humble around 1950 they are more likely approaching each other to getting into a committed relationship for the future comparing to today we are more into simple spending time together and see what happens. And the truth is, that young adult these days dont like get into a committed relationship and think about the far future with the first person they got approached because they learned that they also have the potential to get maybe “something better” than that, then treating their partner as a temporary experiment. I might be wrong but, when ur trying to talk to girl thats on a vacation, u shouldn’t approaching them in a way that they might think ur looking for someone to get serious with, because they then feeling kinda pressure and dont want to even think about a long distance relationship, so they just play it out by giving wrong number or rejection. Sorry for my bad English but i hope u get what im saying

[@Rogerdfgh]

Dating is like fishing. First you gotta go where there is most potenital to find the fish that you want. Then you gotta make your bait as good as possible. Then you gotta have alot of skills to reel in the fish. You gotta be good at all of this, thats why its very hard. Its a skill that you gotta pratice alot to get good at dont think anything else.

[@alexong2542]

I'm actually one of the very few who knew and understood what love is before getting into a relationship. The reason for that is because I have clarity most of the time, not because that I'm not horny, but I can somehow separate and ignore my "physical needs". I have Asperger's, so I'm on the autism spectrum. I don't crave for sex as much as most men do, and thus I don't allow lust to cloud my judgement as much as most men do. Love to me, is basically what I do to my family, like my mom and dad. I may have fights with them, but in the end, i'll always forgive them and will still love them no matter what. Love is Never a feeling, that feeling people calling "love" is just lust or affection. Love is a practice, love is commitment. Why does a couple offer their marriage vows at their wedding? Their vows are a symbol of their love, and if you truly loved your partner , you would work with your partner and uphold your vows till the end. Finding a partner is not just about finding someone you're compatible with, or you're attracted to, those are all key elements to start a relationship, but they're never your greatest priority when you wanna marry someone. in the end, it's all about finding that person who is willing to uphold their vows and share a life with you through ups and downs. I met my Nigerian Yoruba wife on Facebook, and i still love her just like I first met her. If there ever was a next life or if reincarnation exists, I do hope that we may meet again in the next life.

[@jaideepshekhar4621]

Needs to be heard a lot more!

[@LeoThomMusic]

Dope to see you making videos Gen. I agree with a lot of the comments I tend to see on your videos-- the production quality and your hosting presence is stellar. I still remember us filming some goofy shit in my backyard way back in the day lol. Hope you're well bro. I'll be following / rooting for you!

[@icy5982]

I understand that people are like, "stop being shy and have confidence by going up and talking." However, I think it's more complicated than that especially if you're social skills aren't that great. You will be more reluctant to go up and talk because you can't sustain the conversation. Heck even walking up to people of the same gender and talking is hard if your social skills are not the best. I think for people who just struggle with social interactions have it much much harder to approach girls and talk, It's a really uphill battle. Whereas if you are already funny and can socialise well the hard bit would just be bursting the bubble and going up and talking to a girl.

[@thenonexistinghero]

Or you could be a like me, have a good time talking, have the girl say we should meet some time... then the girl saying 'no' on every invite and contact being very 1-sided, but she will still mention every once in a while we should meet some time after I contact her. Then imagine that happening time and time again. It's not even at the point of dating or even at the point of being able to know whether there even is potential love or not. It doesn't even get to that point, time and time again. That combined with me having grown so distant from society and it that distance growing bigger by the day, at some point I just stopped giving a crap. Now I'm in my late 30's and the women close to my age carry tons of emotional relationship baggage and the age gap is just too big for the girls that don't have that yet.

[@therealslimshady6763]

One of my friends was this blonde German who wouldn't even talk mcu in front of us was the most popular with girls He would wear a normal jacket with normal jeans and wouldn't even you know he won't even do his hair We were sitting in the bar once and this Latina who was like the perfect girl I could imagine just came up to him and just randomly started talking to him and then they danced and the same girl asked him out 3 more times They were together for like a year or 10 months or smth before they broke up It's all about your looks and not being a weirdo You don't need to go up and talk if you are that attractive girls would come themselves

[@icy5982]

@@therealslimshady6763 I feel like a great majority of women will not walk up and talk to guys. You may be super good looking and 20 girls find you attractive but only 1 will go up and talk. Most girls expect guys to come up and talk

[@andrebaxter4023]

​@@icy5982, you're correct. It's on us guys to approach. That said, in response to your original comment, you build social skills by practicing. It can be anyone. As long as it's a stranger Try it out. That said, conversation skills are mainly about asking the person questions they'll enjoy answering. Also, they'll only engage with you if they feel like it. Conversations flow effortlessly and easily if the person wants to talk to you.

[@icy5982]

@@andrebaxter4023 ngl I been working on myself and have increased in confidence and social skills. There is still much to learn but things have gotten a lot better

[@ben.got.no.h0es]

I'll be here for the 20k, 50k,100k and 1mill subs. Your content is awesome. 🔥

[@darrylphilbin3730]

When women say that they want someone nice and sweet and with a good personality, they mean that AFTER the man is already attractive. They want attractive men with those qualities.

[@zehenglai1816]

True sadly...

[@meli77628]

why would they go for someone unattractive tho?

[@darrylphilbin3730]

@@meli77628 Sometimes they can be attracted to one person and unattracted to another even if both are attractive.

[@x-mess]

Woman here... Stop watching HOLLYWOOD.... love is commitment PERIOD. Sometimes love fluctuates.. sometimes it's romantic, friendship, duty, coparenting, sometimes it's being family, sometimes it's just being there. Men n women have different needs... women needs to be cherished and loved, men need respect (not love). My 2 cents from a successful 17 year marriage/18 year relationship.

[@theedon501]

you too real for the mainstream I think man. Wish and hoping for all the success

[@shehanperiyapperuma7994]

Homie got so nervous, respect for going for it bro I’m the same

[@andrebaxter4023]

All good dude. The nervousness dissipates as you get experience.

[@rares1419]

Underrated

[@GEN]

matter of when not if

[@MusicPartyDance]

Bro got ballz. I feel you, i respect that bravery and i love the video. Stay authentic bruh, love will find you 👍

[@SneharthoDey]

This channel needs to land million subs. I hope that day comes soon Gen.

[@neanda]

"ain't no way i'm being a bystander in my own story" 9:05 those are the most powerful words for life in general i've heard for a very very long time. i'm putting that on my wall 👍😀💯

[@kyomnomyakubu6187]

Love only happens when you are 100% comfortable with beinh with yourself.i totally agree. Most of us see it as a need. First you have to be in love with who you are,( honestly). Cause some people with terrible character lie to themselves. Then you will find love. Just stop looking and focus and doing good, being nice, I know people say women don't like nice guys. I promise you you don't want those women. There are few reasonable people in this life, and I know if it's meant to happen and you play your part, Love will find you.

[@christiansnaturestudio6599]

It's ok to feel lonely and yet still like yourself

[@airtiger4577]

This is actually true. I confessed my feelings to a girl that's an introvert and she felt the same way about me. I'm also the kind of person that chooses to help others in need and she appreciates that. We're also about to go on our first date this weekend.

[@kyomnomyakubu6187]

@@airtiger4577 I am very happy for you, I hope things go as planned. But personally I rather be friends with people first, I guess you really know People more that way, cause people in relationships are trying to impress the other. I just hope you become friends first before going down that serious part. All the best.

[@airtiger4577]

@@kyomnomyakubu6187thx. I actually approached her at least 4 weeks ago and she asked me to become friends with her and then I told her I liked her yesterday and now here we are.

[@emate8422]

Don't be nice, be good person, you don't have to be nice all the time, sometimes you have to be not nice Good person can be bad but is choosing to be good, Nice person is nice becouse don't have other option

[@kalaveera]

For content you are not afraid to lose and neither do you compromise, my man I can say you'll have at least twice the subscribers you have right now in the coming months.👍👍keep up the good work.

[@FoodLies]

Killin it bro. You should help produce the next film in the series after Food Lies called Dating Lies

[@GEN]

lmao im up for it

[@Thereisalwaysmore]

Only 162K subs? Dude this content is rich and respectful. Huge props to you bruh! You got my sub

[@Wow-hr1gl]

how has this dude not blown up yet

[@GEN]

share with people you know and it will happen

[@ajanmanoharan3511]

as a new viewer, this was a fresh of breath air - cant lie something about it kept me enticed which alot of yt vids dont do nowadays

[@toongamer2810]

The format of this video was like nothing I've seen before, it was so calming and nice, the parts where you spoke to yourself were funny too. I'm in the same predicament though, no matter how much fronting I do, I can't lie about the fact that I've never truly found "love" yet either. Hell, the last girl I liked was taken by one of my close friends. It makes you feel discouraged and stupid, like you said in the video. But I can't give up, my dream (among many other things) is to have a loving wife and kids, I want to be needed by someone, and I want to provide for those people that I love. It'll happen someday I suppose. Either that or I'll die trying. 👍🏾

[@copium-compound22]

It's like sneako

[@bigelvisthechefrosenberg5494]

I like your message.. this is my 2nd episode of yours and I normally walk away from overly produced and edited with music in the background and things of that nature, but... You showing yourself unable to talk to a woman. Then able to, almost feels fake. but it still is the way so many men are. I think it was great that you put that in. Even if it's some sort of script.#Allegedly I am subbing

[@jubcho]

How do you not have millions of subs??? Your content reflects a KZbinr that has millions of subscribers.

[@sarou3457]

great video

[@Paggen]

My idea of love (that isn't lust or any other brain chemicals) is 1) Is this person going to be an amazing mother/father to my kids and 2) Has this person been on my team and will they be on my team moving forward (given that I reciprocate sufficiently). I'd love for anyone else to chime in since I've never been in love but I find these factors to be all encompassing for the most part.

[@benjaminfenton8962]

I think you are doing awesome things with your videos. Not only are they high quality and creative but you ask such awesome questions, you show great care and a level of research in what you discuss, and you do it all with a genuine, kindness and respectful approach for all people of all walks of life. You are building bridges and that is so desperately needed in today's world. I only recently got into your channel but am loving everything I see. Thank you for doing this.

[@mogjosh1382]

Just found out about you. Loving your videos Gen, keep up the great work

[@lSyzygy]

Got yourself a new sub Gen. Dayum, you're video editing, content and topics are keeping my attention-deficit ass glued to the screen for 14 minutes. That takes some skill.

[@shaniahpaster12]

I feel like as a women I'm just inlove with the idea love I truly believe that the love I've always wanted doesn't exist

[@kronicturbo8327]

That shit depressing

[@tankenjoyer9175]

Same thing i feel like It exist but soo rare that i couldnt find It anywhere.

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

wdym?

[@shaniahpaster12]

@@iiCounted-op5jx what I mean is I'm inlove with the idea of love not love it self like fiction love I believe men I want to fall in love with doesn't exist anymore men aren't romantically emotional

[@shaniahpaster12]

@@iiCounted-op5jx like it's rare to find Real love

[@elkanoni4510]

OLD SNEAKO VIBES You sir gained a sub, and congrats G. :)

[@sekoucoulibaly9999]

Bro gave no actual solutions

[@Jules-gt1ub]

Approach women

[@kingslushie1018]

My god this was one of my favorite videos from you, as someone I. In Your position I thought it be hopeless. But I am surprised and honestly shocked. I never thought you would be. One of the guys who never experienced love. You seem quite handsome, bold and have skill as I can see in the channel you’ve made and the work you put into it. But when I say you approach people and all the tension and fear and awkwardness, I cringed, not just at you but because I saw an extension of myself up there… it’s hard man. No matter what anyone tells you. This Monday/Wednesday I am gonna go and try to ask out at least ONE GIRL and see if I can go through with it . Will it be cringe worthy? Yes. Will it be awkward? Most definitely, will I get rejected? Oh I can already see the heart break already, but I am gonna DO IT! You have inspired me my friend, thank you! Needless to say you have a fan from now on. I am excited to see what the future brings.

[@kingslushie1018]

His this is me 8 days in the future I still haven’t asked out a girl and have been getting increasingly desperate downloading dating apps.

[@beckezizou]

@@kingslushie1018 Ask starbucks. Start with that. Dont try to run before learn walking ;)

[@riversart2030]

Asking a girl for her name is a bad introduction. If you want to know their name, tell them yours first. If they don't tell you theirs afterward, it probably means they aren't interested, which doesn't necessarily mean you should immediately move on but it is a good indicator of where you currently stand.

[@TheChrisRay]

Wow bro. This video blew my mind. And the amount of work put into this video is amazing. I’m just happy I get to be here when you blow up!! #deservesamilionsubs

[@Crazea]

6:21 I love that part, she's trying to figure out how to nicely so no, but he says forget it and walks away before she can. I think she was a bit confused at what just happened lol.

[@gram.]

I thought she seemed really nice about it all, she was considerate of him, seemed to be thinking of a polite way to say no (which is admirable, imo the best choice)

[@marktheprussian]

I feel like it will come to me naturally by just being myself. No need to force things.

[@steveh5307]

But you also gotta get out there. Love won't just show up at your door.

[@didipop7731]

Thoughtful as usual. You gotta get a marketing team or something get yourself viral okay 😃

[@GEN]

thanks for watching! it all starts with day 1's like yourself sharing the channel with people you know

[@guillermolledowolkowicz7085]

Knowing love doesn't imply having a couple. Love is your own blessing. It doesn't make anybody else do anything for you. Your love, your bussiness, their love, their bussiness.

[@chobispider2178]

If anything, the reason why "finding love" is so hard is because love isn't something that you find it's something that you give

[@tiphainer7143]

Hi Gen! These interviews are amazing, as is the editing. This is the kind of genuine, unbiased content I love watching and I appreciate the work you put into this channel. I don’t know what your audience demographic is but I think you are a great example for young men and women. I hope your channel grows huge!

[@earnieboy54]

Just found your channel today. Your content and approach is fire 🔥!!!

[@kriptexxx]

Mad respect for trying to pick up girls on the street, failing and still putting it in the video. I can relate. :D Also, shout out to the girls who had to endure this uncomfortable situation. :D

[@D._.3NO]

The curveball at the end tho, w vid Gen.🤝🏾

[@GEN]

and you a real one for making it to the end

[@Cub__]

@@GEN Nah you a real G man, keep up the great work! You stay consistent and I promise you big things are coming for you 🙏🏻

[@damiangradecki5544]

how much it gives what you look like, it's amazing

[@selohcin]

Love happens when you least expect it if you're a woman. If you're a man, you have to create your own opportunities unless you're exceptionally good-looking.

[@brokentempest4268]

This video is so refreshing. Hope you get your 1M subs soon my guy

[@Dylan_Lu]

Good shit as always Gen

[@tomaszbogucki1582]

Greetings from Poland :)

[@saintignatius714]

One thing you need to ask yourself when it comes to dating is this: how did your grandparents meet? I'll give you a hint, it wasn't on tinder. My grandparents met in the 50s when they were teenagers illegally drag racing. They met doing something they both enjoyed

[@digital.kontrol]

What an ending! Love to see it man! Great videos, couldn't hit subscribe fast enough.

[@raywearsclothes]

bro is making movies, blow this s up