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[@DML_JerseyGirl]

I am in the process of a divorce now, because my husband is slightly better than an animal. He has "needs" several times a day. He curses me all day, is rude to me, is horrible to me, and yet wants me to give in multiple times a day. Despite the fact that I have been at work all day and dealing with our children all night. I am praying this divorce comes soon and he leaves.

[@ahmedshahid5272]

I hope you re doing better now

[@tentimesful]

I raped my girl one time because she said no, well she went to her mothers house and came back with great news that she was pregnant and after check up they said it was a son, well I was happy because I had daughter before my son, and my clans legacy will be passed through to my son atleast I hope he doesnt go kafir cause that would drop him out of my clan... either way I heard in hadith that if a husband requests his wife to come to bed and she refuses angels will curse on her.. so you shouldnt say no and allow your husband as you will have fun and he also doing it and it will unload alot of stress for both of you, maybe make him even chicken wings for him to go another round,well my wife does that and it is better than viagra lol... well here is my son and my name till faqi umar the son of sultan muhammed shamsudin of yemen under caliphate, faqi umar defeated the ethiopian king that was harassing the people and muslims there and became a sultan there... 'abdallah: 'abdallah Mursal Xuseen Mursal Cali Axmed Cabdi Cumar Cabdi Shiikhow Amiin Maad muxamed (baa Xasan Cismaan Faqi Cumar Aalu Sheekh.

[@tentimesful]

I raped my girl one time because she said no, well she went to her mothers house and came back with great news that she was pregnant and after check up they said it was a son, well I was happy because I had daughter before my son, and my clans legacy will be passed through to my son atleast I hope he doesnt go kafir cause that would drop him out of my clan... either way I heard in hadith that if a husband requests his wife to come to bed and she refuses angels will curse on her.. so you shouldnt say no and allow your husband as you will have fun and he also doing it and it will unload alot of stress for both of you, maybe make him even chicken wings for him to go another round,well my wife does that and it is better than viagra lol... well here is my son and my name till faqi umar the son of sultan muhammed shamsudin of yemen under caliphate, faqi umar defeated the ethiopian king that was harassing the people and muslims there and became a sultan there... 'abdallah: 'abdallah Mursal Xuseen Mursal Cali Axmed Cabdi Cumar Cabdi Shiikhow Amiin Maad muxamed (baa Xasan Cismaan Faqi Cumar Aalu Sheekh.

[@Mochi-re8cv]

inshallah

[@blndmiziry]

ربي يرزقكِ بالرجل الصالح الذي يخاف ربه و يعوضكِ.

[@tehreemraza123]

No wife would happily agree to intimacy at night if the husband has been rude/abusive the whole day. Having intercourse with a man who only hurts your feelings and doesn't treat you any better than an appliance is torture itself. I hope none of my sisters (and brothers) have to be stuck in a torturous marriage of such kind.

[@FIFANATICS]

Understand that it's obligatory, not optional, for wife to do that

[@Squidrue]

@@FIFANATICS imp, having tension between them and bad energy in general is a valid reason for her not to do it.

[@truebeliever1516]

@@Squidrue not really.

[@bithiahamariah9139]

The more I read on the comments section the more I worry for the wives and would be wives represented here. You are so right in your comments. Imagine the hell some of these women put up with, because of the fear of being cursed by angels, or beaten because the husband FEARS she might disobey him. Just because they really don't feel like being USED that night. Imagine the trumped up imaginary superiority the men must feel because of these verses and hadiths. One person just told me this hadith and it made me feel like I was looking into partner abuse. *The husband is your heaven or hell (Authentic hadith)* OUCH! The you have this one: FIFANATICS 11 days ago Understand that it's obligatory, not optional, for wife to do that. Why do women in Islam marry at all? Then there is this guy: Wish Princess Charming Was Real 11 days ago @FIFANATICS You should be kind to your wife and respect her as well. You can present things in a polite way. Thank heavens, there might be some Muslim males worth marrying out there for these girls.

[@bithiahamariah9139]

Narrated 'Abdullah bin Zam'a: The Prophet said, "None of you should flog his wife as he flogs a slave and then have sexual intercourse with her in the last part of the day." Sahih Bukhari 7:62:132 Well that says it all doesn't it.

[@saimonnaherchowdhury6903]

This is not a very huge problem because Muhammad (SAW) said, "The best of you are those who are best to your wives." He also said " True Muslims are those from whose hands and tongues others are safe."

[@b265]

yes it is. just because the prophet saw said it doesnt mean people are following it. get a reality check

[@saimonnaherchowdhury6903]

@@b265In reality Both should try to understand each other and make a good family instead of demanding toooooo much. If they followed their duties they would not have this and that.

[@randomaiuser]

What you said is really beautiful but scroll down and read some of our sisters comments. Its kinda concerening.

[@ibrahimorton93200998]

@@saimonnaherchowdhury6903 bruh sisters want tall, handsome, successful men who only takes one wife and quack quacks for them. But if a man just asks his basic rights it’s too much 😔I think marriage is no longer option for me with women's role becoming negotiable depending on her mood and whim. While mens roles stay the same.

[@saimonnaherchowdhury6903]

@@ibrahimorton93200998 Allah knows best. Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala said: اَلْخَبِيْثٰتُ لِلْخَبِيْثِيْنَ وَا لْخَبِيْثُوْنَ لِلْخَبِيْثٰتِ ۚ وَا لطَّيِّبٰتُ لِلطَّيِّبِيْنَ وَا لطَّيِّبُوْنَ لِلطَّيِّبٰتِ ۚ اُولٰٓئِكَ مُبَرَّءُوْنَ مِمَّا يَقُوْلُوْنَ ۗ لَهُمْ مَّغْفِرَةٌ وَّرِزْقٌ كَرِيْمٌ "Wicked women are for wicked men, and wicked men are for wicked women. And virtuous women are for virtuous men, and virtuous men are for virtuous women. The virtuous are innocent of what the wicked say. They will have forgiveness and an honourable provision." (QS. An-Noor 24: Verse 26) So I think if we trust Allah we don't have to worry that much. * Via Qur'an English quran-en.com

[@Learning_9000]

Yeah forcing is never allowed. It's a sin. However, sometimes men need to lower their ego and communicate properly. It won't make them look desperate. Rather it will help the relationship.

[@shafeeqahsmith6999]

Sounds fair.

[@designcalligraphy7395]

The 'however' doesn't make any sense in your comment since both parts are bashing men lol.

[@Learning_9000]

@@designcalligraphy7395 Lol you are right about the however part. However, I didnt mean to bash any one. Least of all men. In fact, women have the right to refuse and men have the right to marry more than once if they wish to. But forcing wife for this is a strong NO NO.

[@Learning_9000]

I was talking about the fact that men may feel angry at the refusal. But their ego doesn't let them communicate their feelings properly. Because they feel they will appear desperate. So they keep getting angry inside and the wife sometimes even doesn't have a clue what is happening.

[@thelaymenmuslim4603]

@@Learning_9000 saying forcing wife to bedding is no no. Is the same as saying forcing husband to provide is no no 🤣

[@sour462]

TREAT YOUR WIFE SO LOVINGLY THAT SHE WOULD NEVER EVEN WANT TO SAY NO TO YOU FOR INTERCOURSE...MAKE HER ENJOY THOSE MOMENTS AS WELL

[@desperatdarling8144]

I don't think it's the right thing to say, because you can treat your wife/husband like a queen/king and there's gonna be a time when they are gonna say no to that, not because they don't have a good time doing it with you but just because they don't want to and it's a normal thing that you should respect and still treat them the same.

[@sour462]

@@desperatdarling8144 i totally agree...but some people in this comment section are so one sided...they just want the wife to obey the rules and not DARE to say no to husband. So i was making a point that if you want ur wife to never say no to you then do some efforts yourself as well..cuz a healthy relationship requires efforts from both sides.

[@desperatdarling8144]

@@sour462 Yes of course, I understand what you tried to say

[@prizzgamer6991]

@@desperatdarling8144 The Hadith is pretty clear, a woman who refuses her husband to do intercourse(without a reason, like being sick or menses) is sinful (that is if the husband is angry, which happens most of the time), the angels CURSE her till morning and Allah is displeased with her. Nowadays most of these "muslim" women, who like to behave little bit like rebels to their husbands (cause of the influence of the west,satan and their own nafs) even go as far as taking half of the mans wealth in case of divorce (that money to her is like fire and whatever she eats from that fortune is fire to her belly). Look, if you are a muslim, fear Allah, YOU and everyone of us will be questioned. If you are not a muslim or a "nice" muslim a modern muslim...then trust me you are better without Islam, Allah doesn't even need the worship of the Angels and the Prophets combined, and Allah surely doesn't need our half-assed worship (the muslim nowadays).

[@ibrahimhossain8489]

@@desperatdarling8144 I dunno much but I do know if we are to talk of equality and as a man I have to do certain things without my liking for ''Her'' liking, then it should be the same for her....

[@Souchi-ito]

1.Many of the men don't even do proper foreplay. And if they finish first they don't help their wives to orgasm either. Stop being selfish during intercourse. 2. I've read about many women wanting intimacy but the husbands deny it, or have early ejaculation problems but refuse to get help from doctors due to ego. They forget women want to be satisfied too. Why be so selfish? You're only seeking your pleasure while neglecting your wives. Be co-operative, understanding while being together. And those guys whining about multiple marriage and wives. Like dude you can't even satisfy one wife to have intercourse with you. What makes you think you're going to be able to satisfy multiple women? Not to mention, if you're not allowed to have multiple wives unless you can treat them equally. You can't even treat one right, how are you supposed to treat multiple wives equally? Just have sabr and ask for Allah's guidance. Be kind to your wives. Stop treating your wife like an object.

[@angelikaimtiyaz7280]

well said brother well said

[@DownShifted]

Islamic culture doesn't recognise women's satisfaction

[@MayTheRighteousWin]

@@DownShifted and how do u know

[@DownShifted]

@@Coolrubs source of your statement ??

[@zainabk2866]

THANK YOU!!!! we srsly need a more open discussion about that womens sexual rights are barely ever fulfilled

[@shafeeqahsmith6999]

A Muslim brother made the following comments on what a wife is: "A wife is not just meant for desires. She is a companion, a homemaker, a mother. She has other duties too apart from fulfilling her husband's request. The request shouldn't be frequent, shouldn't cause harm or inconvenience. It shouldn't interfere with other obligations like praying. So even though men have right, they should exercise such right with caution and fairness. They should be considerate as well. I think this will help in a relation because a wife who feels valued will never disappoint. Happy wife is a happy life." There is no doubt in my mind that all honorable, respectable, right-thinking married Muslim men would agree with these comments. (If Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him) were to read them, I believe he would agree, too.) Sadly, a Muslim brother disagreed with this, accusing the brother who made the comments of encouraging women to refuse their husbands for sexual intimacy! What the hell! And these idiots all insist that the Prophet is their role model on how to treat women, wives in particular! They lie! I am convinced these foolish Muslim men are secretly jealous of the Prophet because they know Muslim women defend him, and they don't like it. So they, very subtly, manipulate and twist hadiths, (especially the "angels cursing the wife" hadith), and Qur'anic ayats (especially 4:34, the "beating" verse) to promote male supremacy and misogyny, which the Prophet never, ever did. These idiot Muslim men push legalized prostitution, not marriage/sexual intimacy: Men put out the money; wives put out the sex! And they abuse the exemplary character of the Prophet while doing so! Gross! Excuse the man. Blame the woman. It never fails. May Allah help this Ummah!

[@clumsydaydreamer9381]

Thank you soo much for this whole information . Your right husband wife reaction is really pure they are each others soulmate . They should understand each other love,respect and care for each other . But sadly our society is like men provide money for everything wife provide s##, baby , chores etc which is a disgusting thought . Marriage is not something like that . This bond was made in heaven but nowadays generation is ruining this concept and non Muslims are spreading fake things about Islam 😢😢

[@misscreative6865]

so what we can say in reply to "angels cursing the wife" hadith plz tell me

[@omaimaisaa1979]

@@misscreative68651. Allah ordered the prophet to not give fatwa about women, everything regarding women is already written in the Quran. There’s a clear verse stating this. 2. IF that was true then the same goes for men! If a man refuses the angles will curse him. BUT, it’s a right to be earned. You have to be a good partner that has human decency in order to expect anything physical.

[@aatif7518]

@@omaimaisaa1979 so you disagree with the hadith? Hadith is another form of revelation from Allah (Surah Najm, Surah Haqqah, etc) So hadith is basically Allah's law

[@omaimaisaa1979]

@@aatif7518 this is the belief that messed up with our ummah. There are many falsified “hadiths” that were falsely attributed to the prophet that he never said and they don’t agree with the Quran. I can’t fathom how many people believe so many hadiths that are against God’s words and law of (there is no force in religion)

[@salouali6899]

It's never halal to force women.

[@bullseye9723]

no its allowed! pls learn islam

[@salouali6899]

@@bullseye9723 what is allowed exactly? A wife needs to obey her husband, true... as long as the husband is worthy of his wife.

[@Arafathaque1436]

Marriage should be based on love , not law. So if there is love, he will not insist on it.

[@sanamushtaque3021]

@@bullseye9723 give the reference please..

[@Bytefy]

@@salouali6899 if she is his wife, what else will make him worthy, thors hammer. 🤣

[@timagambiankitchen4871]

When a woman denied her husband an inter course then there is a reason, as a man if you put your wife on a stressful moments during the day she cry all day because of what you did to her, the insults or whatever, n now at night you want to request an intercourse from her, how do you expect her to accept it if she’s not in the mood, she’s not in the mood because of what you did to her during the day That stress will not allow her heart to accept you. Apologies, try to solve the issue before requesting intercourse. Some men can’t even say SORRY. Women are going through a lot in their marriages try to create a smile on your wife face than tears. Let’s try our best to take good care of our husband n our homes, marriage is a form of worshiping Allah just do your best as a wife Allah is seeing you n your heart too be a good wife n do it for the sake of Allah.

[@zaklaghlam1]

That should never ever happen. May allah forgive us sis.

[@smaqsmar]

in this case i agree woman can deny, but the rule says that there is no excuse then she haS TO LISTEN WHICH MEANS NO TENSION BETWEEN THE HUSBAND AND WIFE

[@Omar-02]

@@smaqsmar yea I understand what you mean. But unfortunately there are men who misinterpret it and use it as manipulation.

[@raymondtendau2749]

My dear,you are not entirely right.I may not be entirely correct as well.However,here is my point.Hypothetically ,let's say you are my spouse in this context ,expecting a sorry and the sorry never came,and as a result your way of getting what you want is withholding love or intimacy,then you are depriving me of what I deserve just as I cannot deprive you of shelter in the name of misunderstanding,argument or Etc.One consequence of your deprivation I can assure you 100percent is Blue Balls.You may have heard it,but experientialy You have no clue.Just as a man may read about Menstruation in a biology class but in experience can have no clue because its not for Male to experience.Same applies here.Please,even in the absence of your sorry My dear...deprivation is not the way to go.My 8 year marriage with 2 kids is on the verge of breaking because of this.I ve had enough blue balls.I can't go much further with this.Pls learn from my situation and not loose your marriage.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@sweetsoul3169]

@@Omar-02 there are plenty of them in the comment section I just cant imagine the embarassment they will face in front of Allah when He will question them.

[@gooddugfa]

Good, constructive and matured discussions here. One thing I find missing is that conjugal rights belong to both. The term ‘fulfilling the desires’ is projected in such a way that it appears to fulfill only ‘husband’s desires’ as if the wife has none. The fact is, both spouses’ desires are fulfilled in the act when done mutually and lovingly, both get satisfied. Also, even the husband may refuse due to valid reason (e.g. being too tired or not in the right mind). But this aspect is rarely talked about due to the stigma of being called not a man enough. The act of intimacy without love, affection and passion for each other, merely remains just an act, a physiological/mechanical one. The relationship of a married couple is based on love, trust, understanding and respect for each other’s feelings. When these things are present, the question of who is being fair or unfair to the other would not arise at all. None should take for granted the other. I recall here one saying that when two people fight/argue, they raise their voice, shout at each other even if they are in close proximity because their hearts are far away. But when two people’s hearts are very close, even a look into each other’s eyes reveal what the other is saying.

[@other7128]

"the husband may refuse due to valid reason (e.g. being too tired or not in the right mind). But this aspect is rarely talked about" -- EXACTLY WHAT I'M SAYING 💯 But I'm yet to find any answers about this

[@seriesx7770]

What a beautiful religion. But we are deprived of seeing it because we are indulged in ignorance. May Allah(s.w.t) light our minds and open our chest to Islam and hidayat

[@jhsemoxitha3821]

You can't see it cuz most Muslims don't follow the rules and as outsiders you only see what they do not what's written in the rules

[@fragileomniscience7647]

Little platitudes to conceal his bullshit. "If a woman does not answer her husbands call to bed, and he gets angry with her, the angels curse her from dawn till next dusk". Bad attempt, dawahgandist.

[@takiyaazrin7562]

We captured some of the women as prisoners, and the long separation from our wives was pressing us hard and we wanted to release sperms outside of the women (coitus interruptus). We asked Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) whether it was permissible. He said, "It is better for you to release sperms inside." Sahih al-Bukhari 2542

[@seriesx7770]

@@takiyaazrin7562 you must feel really good about yourself spreading misinformation. Its clearly writtem in the hadith that they should not do so.

[@seriesx7770]

@@takiyaazrin7562 "it is better to release your sperms." Hahaha. Don not be decieved. Research before you post anything. Do not become an uneducated enemy of Islam. You will just strengthen our faiths nothing else. Educate yourself and then misguide us. IN SHAH ALLAH when you educate yourself you wont feel the need to fight us.

[@tehreemraza123]

Our society is so uncomfortable with the concept of marital rape because we have internalized this very belief that if a husband forces himself on his wife, it must be allowed. And one time forced intercourse isn't an isolated event, it will spoil the relationship. At least for me it would, I wouldn't be able to forgive my husband for it ever and probably never love him either. I remember trying to discuss it with my mother and she just laughed at it and said ''Well then a wife shouldn't say no'' which is true. However, there are circumstances when maybe the wife is feeling not well, shouldn't the husband care a little about her wellbeing? Also, I wish men would be taught about 'foreplay' as well. If only they would entice their wife into intimacy then nobody would have to toss and turn.

[@shafeeqahsmith6999]

@@acidmana7920 Any man, Muslim or non-Muslim, who believes he has to use physical, brute force on his wife if she refuses sexual intimacy, endorses legalized prostitution and rape, not sexual intimacy. For a man to resort to either or both horrific behaviors in order to get some sexual play from his wife means that something is not going right in the marriage.

[@izzyaddis]

I agree, no man with real love for his wife should want to make his wife have sex with him when she doesnt want to.

[@bhaskarawasthi25]

And that's when women starts using their husband s needs as weapon ​@@izzyaddis

[@Ayaan722]

The wife will cursed by angels all night if she say no to intercourse without any valid health related reason

[@priomquraishi1164]

Wife has the right to demand physical intimacy from her husband at any moment too, if he is not providing proper intimacy and only satisfying his own needs, that is ground for divorce

[@mariamir1353]

Jazakallahh.. This is something we need to throw some more light on.

[@ahmedraza7749]

After reading all those comments peoples are just clashing with each other in the matter of intimacy so I think I can remain single forever.

[@truebeliever1516]

No benefit of remaining single . You might think its ok now but when you are gonna reach your 50s 60s thats when your gonna regret it.

[@Normalguy21]

@@truebeliever1516 that's the only reason I have in my mind for marriage. We need to survive in this world 😔😔

[@ahmedraza7749]

@@truebeliever1516 but now a days women is out of control I don't think it's worth to put yourself in trouble to just get a benefit of marriage in your 60s because no one knows we can ever reach that age or not.

[@truebeliever1516]

@@ahmedraza7749 Yes, they are out of control for normal men. If you can increase your value and become dominant they won,t be out of control from you.

[@ahmedraza7749]

@@truebeliever1516 well my nature is very dominant and I am a little bit angrier type of guy but the problem is I don't think women would love a guy like me so that's the reason I am afraid of Marriage because if she denied me to have Intercourse with her I don't think I can control myself in that situation.

[@anannyaovi699]

I think The solution of this is to have better and mature communication with your spouse. Husband and wife both have to be merciful to each other. May Allah grants us all a righteous and understanding spouse. Ameen

[@MissDomy23]

Forcing someone into intimacy is abuse/rape. Also when you are married. Marriage doesn’t allow you to do with the other persons body what you want because you want it. That is just horrible.

[@imanahmed185]

No it is not

[@imanahmed185]

They are married and It is his right

[@andries1704]

@@imanahmed185 I think you should take a secound, and a third and maybe a fourth look to grasp the thruth of this lecture.

[@rani_3133]

@@imanahmed185 forced intercourse even in marriage is considered Zina on the man. There's a hadith about it go read.

[@imanahmed185]

@@rani_3133 Could please tell me the hadith name and number.

[@ayaansiciid765]

I am a woman too but the comments “when a woman denies there is a reason” make me angry, my sisters there are bad women, narcissistic women, problematic women who deny just to make a man angry for no reason so let us not make women like angels. Yes this problem is mostly caused by men but not all the time

[@respectthegoat1519]

It’s true sex tends more important for men compared to women, you are really mature for pointing out that both gender can be selfish. I have always hated these gender wars, you get nothing but just more hate from the opposite gender.

[@mrinshal5973]

And that's the reason Majority of marriages in the west are sex less , because Women are not aroused quickly as Men and so they tend to deny Husband's rights and Husband's remains miserable and sexually frustrated

[@Safetyman64]

"Mostly caused by Men". Feminist Detected Opinion Rejected!

[@Assasin4640]

Women tend to also treat having intimacy as a chore that they have to do. Which is completely wrong. You're rewarding yourself and your husband. Make him happy, and you'll be happy too.

[@elentiyafae]

@@Assasin4640tbh if intimacy feels like a chore then something is wrong. if your husband makes you happy it wouldn’t feel like a chore to have sex. not saying it’s always the man’s fault, it might be that the woman is discontent bc of something she is doing too but if sex feels like a chore they need to communicate and figure out why.

[@shafeeqahsmith6999]

Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him) always viewed his wives as his partners, not slaves, objects, doormats. He was always totally involved in household matters. When he approached his wives for sexual intimacy, he was always respectful and caring, never harsh. He set the example for men on how to treat their wives. If men are not doing this, it is not the fault of wives. If your wives are not answering your calls to the bed, check yourselves. If you come home drunk, high on drugs, or you come home raising hell, destroying things, getting in your wives' faces, cursing them out, calling them out of their names, talking down to them....And after all that, wives are still expected to come to the bed when their husbands call them? Seriously? So men can behave any way they damn well please, careless and wreckless, while expecting wives to maintain their composure at all times, no backtalk? Men manipulate hadiths and Qur'anic ayats to promote male superiority/supremacy and misogyny. Women know this, and they hate it. If Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him) were to read all the comments, what do you men think he would think or say? Take your fragile, misogynist male egos out of the picture and think for once. I think he would be ashamed and hurt. And that would not be good. Why do Muslim men think women love, respect, honor, and defend Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him)? Women know the answer to that question. Do men know? Really know? I love my Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him)!

[@shafeeqahsmith6999]

@Wish Princess Charming Was Real Dumb, stupid comment. You entirely missed the point. Not surprised.

[@DaggerSecurity]

Similarly, there are women who attack their husband as soon as he enters the house, they are mostly disagreeable and argumentative (not just during PMS), they belittle him and raise their voices at him, disrespect him and dress shabbily without any beautification and take him for granted, in spite of him being patient with them and not raising his voice at them and him dressing well and him having good hygiene and helping around the house, etc. This woman creates an environment wherein he loses any desire to be intimate with her (ie: she kills the mood), then these women also need to fear Allah because this killing of the mood is also a type of rejection of the husband without explicitly saying no to him for intimacy.

[@shafeeqahsmith6999]

@@DaggerSecurity If that's the case, why don't the husband divorce her and get another wife? I'm not hearing anything about Allah hates divorce. He also hates unsuccessful marriages.

[@DaggerSecurity]

@@shafeeqahsmith6999 yes, the option for divorce is always on the table. That is often the result, indeed. Those involved may conduct a cost-benefit analysis and consider their relevant details and personal situation given their particular circumstances such as children, living conditions, age, etc. Getting a 2nd wife is also an option. Additionally, The Prophet (saw) was the best of husbands and still, his wives did things that caused Allah to reprimand them at least two times in the Quran wherein Allah threatened the Prophet's wives to be replaced with women who would be better than them and treat him better. (surah Ahzab and surah Tahrim). So the point is that even the best of men will have wives who treat him less than ideal. So it behooves the Muslim woman to always be vigilant, cognizant and on guard from falling into that mistake through willful or unintentional neglect/ungratefulness.

[@konjan583]

If man want to get respect then respect wife and kids too, need to appreciate what she is doing for you and family. Wife also doing house work , full time job and moreover cooking for all and keep clean and all. If any day she enjoyed with her family and she was tired at night so, she she could not finish house work. Then he start complaining at morning. Telling off with really bad words to his wife and kids. What you guys expecting from her . Still She need to say sorry to that man. I don’t think so .

[@ldrago6031]

no means no. forcing your wife or husband into intimacy is a sin. It's a sign of abuse. at the same time, you shouldn't also weaponize intimacy in the long term. Also unless either person is ill it's very unlikely they wouldn't want to be intimate. if these problems occur ask yourself this: am I making intimacy enjoyable for my spouse? am I doing foreplay correctly. have I done something wrong to make them angry more? intimacy won't solve any extra argument you have with each other. Solve them first then move on to intimacy. there is also a matter of a person being asexual but thats a different topic lastly, intimacy is a RIGHT of BOTH spouses. both have needs. solve the issue first, go to marriage counseling in a happy and safe environment, and ask an imam. now if all matters fail then you have the right to leave one another with good intentions.

[@ldrago6031]

@King Sultan wrong the only sin is if both people weaponising intimacy. It’s not a sin to say no that your culture talking . And before you talking about the hadith Mohammed hijab has said it refers to both genders so stop being a clown.

[@ldrago6031]

@King Sultan and assim al hakeem is a liar a racist and a marital rpe defender 😂 you call him a sheikh is the funniest sht ever wahabis make me laugh

[@pokemon4lyfe490]

@King Sultan man this btch really quoted the racist assim al hakeem 😂 take this ratio bozo.

[@mohammedkhan1335]

@King Sultan man really dismissed Mohammed hijab and quoted assim al hakeem the biggest munafiq freak on this platform . Very ironic

[@adinakhan8658]

W

[@tahsinprairy5415]

wow wow Subhan Allah.. Alhamdulillah... Your this explanation has given me my answers cause in our society.. Bangladesh, Our local scholars always state the half things.... and by that they are making islam looks like bad infront of others even if they Don't intend to...

[@sarabelkasmi8352]

Salam a3leikum, thanks for this video, it made me cry so much, I was born in a western country, from muslim parents, an i've been educated in a crossfire of religion-cultures, I've saw the reality of my mom, the things she has to handle because of her faith, and not talking about out of home, inside home, IVE been so critic with Islam for so long, I've refused and rejected it because my fathers behaviours and my moms sumision, this concrec issue, the sexual rights in marriage, has been a point of discussion since a decade with her, and she quote the Hadith of angels coursing on wifes, it has always broke my heart. She told me without a context. Now that im not anymore a teenager full of rage, as i was at the moment, I have embrace my faith again with the late motive of not inflinge damage on anyone, been clear on my position in all aspects of my life, so no one can tell me after i didnt advice him/her. As well as i confessed this to mom, who accepted always my tattoos, my parties, and my ungratefull ways (never with her, because she thought me compression), my point has been since i have this new point of view: the issues with allah are mine and his, and the day i had to pay for them, i'll do It accepting my whole blame, but the issues with other people i have to try to clean them in life. I always wanted the option of deciding on my own accepting the consecuences, as long as It doesnt hurt anybody in a moral or physical way, and the rest i'll keep It for me and the creator. But we, as women, dont use to have the option to decide to pay the consecuences with Allah, because men used to act as the punisher they think they have the right to be, for their bennefit. My mom probably didnt know she had the option, she thought her husband had the right to do with her whatever he wanted, even when she was the one providing food and roof to the family (because he'd been so lazy for the last 7 years of his life, and may allah will forgive him in grave, and forgive me too because i couldnt even assist to his funeral because the calm and peace i was feeling was so evident i didnt wanted to disrespect my grandmother at her face, allahiarhamha too, astaghfirllah...) Manipulation of men interpretations on islamic faith is the biggest enemy of our ummah and how many people judges our faith and culture as a savage and marcyless ones. Hope all brothers and sisters find a fear partner for this duniya journey to give example about how love must be in a family. The sons of this victims still pay consecuences in life, through traumas, prejudgment and fire rage in our chest. May allah guide us all.

[@narcissistlovepolygamy6221]

Polygamy marriages are corruption... """And you will never be able to be equal between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From Quran surah Nisa"""... Muslim ummah keep telling others don't follow your desires, women are desires!. But desires can be very powerful. They can hold sway over the mind and lead a person away from reality. When a person follows desires and submits to them, without giving consideration to the guidance received from God, he goes astray. Following of desires is directly linked to misguidance. To understand the effect of desire it is important to analyze what desire does to human intelligence. It puts a curtain over the eyes of the mind. It makes a person so attached to its target that reality is overlooked. The conditions to understand reality include an objectivity to it. It means acceptance of reality whether palatable or bitter, whether it is for personal gain or against it. These conditions are not in line with the dictates of desire. In another verse Almighty Allah puts forth this truth in even stronger terms. He calls desire the god of some human beings. He says: Have you seen him who has taken his desire to be his god? (Q 25:43). Such a god has been condemned in the strongest terms in Hadith. The Prophet (s) has said: There is no god under the sky that has been worshipped other than Allah that is worse than the desire. (Taken from Tafsīr Namūne). No other deity is as despicable as the human being’s own desire. Imam al-Sādiq (a) says: Be apprehensive of your desires in the same way as you are apprehensive of your enemies. For there is no greater enemy for human beings than their own desires and what their tongues reap (Al-Kulaynī, al-Kāfī, 2: 336.) Following of desires is often not recognized for the lowly quality it is. It can be masqueraded as freedom, having fun, being with the masses, etc. It clads a veil over the person as well as others who are exposed to him. Only those who have insight and reflect on reality are able to see through it. This verse reminds us of the danger! Polygamy marriages come under desires!

[@anikaislam9466]

It's sad how some muslim men try to normalize martial rape by manipulating ayats and Hadith.They also say it's femininism that wives don't want to be forced upon by their husbands like wth bro???? One of my guy friend believes that there's no such thing as martial rape (jokes on him) I was so disappointed in him. Once a husband forces himself upon his wife, trust me,things will never ,ever be the same for her.she will never be able to love ,respect and support her husband like before. The value of her husband and marriage for her will go down by A LOT. It's absolutely disgusting how some muslim men try to normalize it.

[@mohammadyousuf6871]

This is what happens when you learn Islam from a European scholar that changes Hazrat Ayesha age you do not really have the knowledge of hadees you only have the knowledge of how to please European come to another country or to south east asia I learn through Islam loser

[@naveedinamullah6850]

Nikkah means contract of sexual intercourse. No marital rape in islam

[@nimomemre6550]

The word martial "rape" is ridiculous and outrageous ! Yes, respect and acceptance is foremost while approaching your woman. If a man not follow it, he's forcing himself on her, loosing respect infront of his woman and Allah but it's not a sin ..... Let alone a "rape" ! It's a pure Western and feminist term .... In Islam after marriage there's no such thing as "zina" or "rape" in a couple.

[@anikaislam9466]

@@nimomemre6550 he's forcing her,meaning he doesn’t have her consent but he's doing it anyway cz he wants it. Learn about the definition of rape first. Rape isn’t about gender or the relationship between you and the person who's raping you. It's about CONSENT. But if u are a man and talking like this,then I understand. We don’t expect anything better from y'll anyway

[@anikaislam9466]

@@naveedinamullah6850 so marriage is all about having intercourse? Talked like a "real" man didn’t you🤡

[@xyzabc6898]

Quran 41.46-- Whoever does RIGHTEOUS - it is for his [own] SOUL; and whoever does EVIL [does so] AGAINST it. And your Lord is not ever UNJUST to [His] servants

[@shahishah3421]

BarakaAllahu feek ya Shiekh!

[@frontier7320]

Wife is not a slave to husband. Same as husband is not a slave to wife.

[@crashban4t.f.s.b783]

Exactly. The best man is the one who is best to his wife.

[@Afzal736]

Mashallah Beautifully explained

[@mirshabnam1828]

Thankyou for this beautiful video

[@yusufkhursheed1284]

Everybody talks about rights of whether men or women but neither of them ready to take their Responsibility!

[@afiemon]

True!

[@SeaShellsSeaShells89]

Yeah. Are you?? Are you willing to be a proper husband just to deserve a good wife? Do first, talk later.

[@afiemon]

@@SeaShellsSeaShells89 Are you his wife?

[@yusufkhursheed1284]

@@SeaShellsSeaShells89 yes "GOOD MENS ARE FOR GOOD WOMENS AND GOOD WOMENS ARE FOR GOOD MENS" Qur'an 24:26

[@yusufkhursheed1284]

@@afiemon lol XD

[@jazzstyles1246]

It is just like a normal couple but you can't neglect his needs and you can't force her either.

[@yassinhamzaoui544]

It will be really good of the man doesn't ask for intimacy after an argument That will fix everything If u love your wife you wouldn't ask her her such thing after a fight

[@shafeeqahsmith6999]

Good point, dear sister!

[@blackgold4668]

This. It's extremely manipulative and disgusting to ask for intimacy even though you know s/he still angry with you.

[@shafeeqahsmith6999]

Excerpts taken from the article "Honor Code of Death" by Donna Abu-Nasr, Associated Press, Atlanta Journal-Constitution, Section C, Sunday, July 2, 2000: " 'Men worry about their honor and dignity as if women had none' ", said Azza Suleiman, an activist at the Center for Egyptian Women's Legal Assistance. "They stripped us of our honor and appointed themselves its protector". "Women have been shot, burned, strangled, stoned, poisoned, beheaded or stabbed for being friendly to a brother-in-law sitting next to a man on a bus, falling in love with the wrong person, talking to a man on the phone or even for being raped". "In Yemen (recently), a man shot his daughter dead on her wedding night after her husband said she was not a virgin. At the mother's insistence, the daughter was examined by a doctor--and was found to have been a virgin, said people familiar with the case. It turned out the husband was impotent and knew his problem would have been exposed because he had to display a bloodied rag as proof of his bride's virginity. He lied to protect his honor." There are Muslim men who abuse and manipulate hadiths, (such as the "angels cursing the wife" hadith), and Qur'anic ayats (such as the "beating verse", 4:34) to promote and justify male supremacy and misogyny. Their objective is to always protect and defend men's honor and dignity at all times and at all costs--even if that means destroying or denigrating women's honor and dignity. Tragic! Excuse the man. Blame the woman. It never fails.

[@iqqyhassan2339]

With this comment section, permanent singledom sounds more appealing.

[@tawsikabdullah]

Same here bruhh

[@godgrace3568]

Which one of you are watching this video who aren't married yet

[@s-d-s5367]

🤚😭😂

[@Maxwell_V]

the entire comment section bruhh

[@studentmedicosi8222]

@@Maxwell_V 🤣🤣🤣

[@unariver5810]

Love your wife, treat her well and with kindness and gentliness, and she will feel loved, thus, develop the desire for intimacy. Simple as this 🌷

[@Fatima-yg7qy]

Assalamu Alaikum, Jazakallah so much brother, this has cleared up the misunderstanding I had about these hadiths and if rape in marriage was allowed in Islam. Please continue to do videos like these, they really do increase my imaan.

[@dailydeen5742]

A man's duty is to provide, a woman's duty is to fulfill. If he denies provision, whom would she seek? If she denies intimacy, whom would he seek? We got no one else, except each other. If it is always about the mood, the men feel lazy/tired/angry, yet they still go to work, because their obligation is to provide. But if they fall sick, or meet with an accident, they wouldn't go. Similarly, the only reason for the women to deny intimacy is sickness, mensuration or an accident. The Prophet had 11 wives, if one wife denies, he would have another to ask, if she denies, he got another, and so on. But most women oppose polygamy, and a man only has his one wife.

[@hopebby4389]

@@dailydeen5742 no, the job of a woman isn’t to satisfy men, it’s to care for the house, and she should be doing it if not sick or have a reason, same thing with men providing, but if a woman wasn’t in the mood, he never and will never have the right to touch her

[@dailydeen5742]

@@hopebby4389 Why touch when we can divorce? 😂

[@Murad-qr9jw]

@Wish Princess Charming Was Real did you really ignore his first comment?

[@Murad-qr9jw]

@@dailydeen5742 bro, you made a perfectly BALANCED comment yet they still can't comprehend it. Man these women only think about themselves.

[@xyzabc6898]

Holy Quran 31.17---“O my dear son! Establish Prayer, Encourage what is GOOD and Forbid what is EVIL, and Endure Patiently whatever Befalls You. Surely this is a resolve to aspire to.

[@mahweenibadkhot1313]

Love and understanding is must

[@gangstababiesswag4829]

It’s clear in surah Nisa, 3 steps . No woman or man would end up fighting if love exists.

[@xyzabc6898]

Holy Quran 17.7-- "If you do GOOD, you do GOOD for YOURSELVES; and if you do EVIL, [you do it] to YOURSELVES."

[@amieee1189]

Alhamdulilah for Islam❤️

[@fathimazohra4265]

It's human decency to know when a wife says no it means no. It's common sense. Only a criminal sexual predator will not fear Allah. A female is gift from Allah not a sex toy or sex machine or sex doll. (Only a rapist, child predator, terrorist will hate my comment).

[@guts8770]

"A female is a gift from god " so a male Is a trash bag or what ? A woman should never deny sex to her husband if there's no big reason to we're different Males have strong sexual desire need to be met by their wifes personally if my wife refuse to have sex with me let's say for 3 times in a row I won't force her to but it's over . Time to find another one

[@razamughal9095]

Its NOT decent of a woman to say no every chance she gets 🙄🙄

[@weewee3164]

@@lilygoldstein1811 I kinda agree with you sometimes women or men are not in the mood to have sexual intercourse with their spouses. but if they’re asexual or not attracted to their spouses then why did they marry in the first place?

[@weewee3164]

@@lilygoldstein1811 oh then i’m very sorry because this isn’t a halal marriage this is wrong in islam you CANNOT be forcing a marriage on someone is your family religious?

[@weewee3164]

@@lilygoldstein1811 I am so sorry sister inshallah allah will bless you and watch over you and make this problem go away can’t she just divorce her husband and how old is she

[@ibrahimrenewarner4333]

Brother, I miss that you first have to please your wife. For me, very important. But alhamdulillah, you guys do fantastic work.

[@Alexanderibn]

Society expects men to sacrifice their time and energy to provide for their families, but when it comes to their needs, everything is considered haram. What is this term "marital rape"? If a wife is sick, she can refuse; during her period, she can refuse. But if there's no excuse, why would she refuse? Does she not care about her husband? He controls himself his whole life, works really hard to afford a marriage, and she's the only woman in his life, yet she refuses to have sex with him. This could lead to zina and possibly a second marriage if he can afford it. That's the reason angels might curse her!

[@stati5tik]

simp imams are the worst thing that happened to the ummah. The simp imam basically tells you: A man must provide for her queen no matter what, no matter how sick he is - HE MUST PROVIDE NON STOP.. but a women is free to refuse any kind of intimacy. new day new slay girl go girl. The world has to be given to you because you are a women. Man too much simps in the ummah. May Allah put him and his sons in the same situation many brothers are facing with their wives. Allahumma ameen.

[@Pain-95]

Refusing to sex just because of mood is same as a man saying I will provide for 25 days a month cuz I am not in the mood to provide for the rest 5 days you go starve and ware nothing or even don’t live under a roof cuz I am not in the mood. You will be homeless every time I am not in mood to provide.😂

[@avagray9705]

​@@Pain-95only if Muslim men knew how to give orgasm and not just receive them, maybe women won't be so aversed to sex. No women would deny orgasm but alas Muslim men don't know how to satisfy just use their women to satisfy their urges

[@emmy3561]

I’m not going to even watch this, I’ll make it easy for anyone thinking about watching this. It’s not acceptable to force your wife to have intercourse. That being said, as a wife you have a responsibility to your husband and should you deny him that right for reasons (other than not feeling well) such as spite, then you will be responsible for paying the price of that decision and Allah does not look kindly onto this. Husbands - you have rights and responsibilities and it’s your responsibility to be the best to your wives. Don’t abuse your rights and remind your wife of her responsibilities. Its really Simple

[@osamanasser4657]

The video is saying exactly what you just said

[@aboodylotus8087]

Mash'allah sister, what a wonderful summary. I still can't believe you haven't watched this video. If you are married, May Allah S.W.T make your marriage Mubarak, and bless your marriage, and may Allah S.W.T protect your marriage from Evil eyes and envy people. And I wish the same to all Married Muslim households. Wallah your husband is a lucky person and should hold firm unto you because you've understood the basic principle of marriage pretty well. If you are not married, I pray to Allah S.W.T. to gift you a respectable, god-fairing Muslim man, who will treat you as the queen you are. And I wish the same to all single Muslims and Muslimahs myself included.

[@shafiqnorddin7806]

I never think of my rights which I have over her, I only think of her rights she have over me.. if she denied me of whatever I ask of her, I don't get mad at all, though I felt a bit dispirited, I've never denies her request if it is within my power to provide her of what she need, I'm happy to oblige. my marriage philosophy is simple, we are bound with contract, do what you must to uphold your side of bargain, do your best and if the other party fail to uphold theirs no harm are to befell upon you.. it simply reflect your leadership quality as you can handle mistreatment and yet still I can treat you with compassion.

[@shihina97]

Mashallah 😍 Your mentality is on point, brother. May ﷲ bless you with a loving pious spouse inshallah.

[@ayeshasamrin299]

I have had a forced arranged marriage a year ago wihh my cousin, from my mom and relatives. I wasn't ready to get married, but they insisted that I get married coz my age is increasing and I will have problems with conceiving later. They did even give me the choice to choose a spouse of my own. They forced to marry my cousin itself. Ppls words were so hurtful and traumatic to me. They manipulated me into getting married to him. And now even afteer marriage I don't really feel like getting intimate with him much. He is understanding, but I am not even able to turn it down when he asks for it. Also ppl were advising me to just let him if he wants, bcoz that's the way we can keep them in control, or else they will seek somewhere else. I have been thru this and many I used to get so depressed after tht. It isn't even a pleasant experience for me either, bcoz I was forced into this, and don't have feelings for him like tht either. It really hurts, affects our mental healht too.

[@takiyaazrin7562]

We captured excellent women for ransom. We decided to have sex with them but by observing 'azl (Withdrawing the male sexual organ before emission of semen to avoid-conception). We asked Allah's Messenger (ﷺ), and he said: It does not matter if you do not do it, for every soul that is to be born up to the Day of Resurrection will be born. Sahih Muslim 1438a

[@ayeshasamrin299]

@@takiyaazrin7562 I didn't get you

[@sabcoachde]

@@ayeshasamrin299 dear sister ,if your husband is a good person (he seem to be one because he don't force u to do deed) then u must let him do what he want ,try to talk to him ,know more about his like and dislikes ,it will help u forget that u were force into this marriage ,now u are in this relationship ,try to normalize it ,one of my czn was forced to marry her brother in law after her sister's death ,she did not allow him to touch her for years ,it took her 4 years to let things become normal and have a child ,her husband passed just after she give birth to her first child,now she is single for more then 12 years and regret for wasting most beautiful years of her life with her husband,I advice u to not waste your time over delusional thoughts of force marriage try to make your husband happy with you ❤

[@user-kc6ni3fk6w]

@@sabcoachde she doesn't love him, do you not understand that part?

[@amaanullah13]

​@@sabcoachde yes you explained it to get right❤

[@xyzabc6898]

Holy Quran 2.280---And if someone is in HARDSHIP, then [let there be] postponement until [a time of] EASE. But if you give [from your right as] CHARITY, then it is Better for you, if you only knew.

[@PARKCIRCUSFOOTBALLCLUB]

Law and love ❤ ... Wow what an important point

[@xyzabc6898]

Holy Quran 4.6---And Test the ORPHANS [in their abilities] until they reach Marriageable age. Then if you perceive in them sound judgement, release their property to them. And do not consume it excessively and quickly, [anticipating] that they will grow up. And whoever, [when acting as guardian], is self-sufficient should refrain [from taking a fee]; and whoever is poor - let him take according to what is acceptable. Then when you release their property to them, bring witnesses upon them. And sufficient is Allah as Accountant.

[@Merakireads]

As a girl, I'd say life is not always about intiacy and physical relationships. It's about understanding each other, their patterns and emotions too. Men simply cannot force women to fo whatever they want. Honestly, guys in the comment section are making marriage sound like it's scary all because of their ego!!

[@user-db8un2lm4y]

@Wish Princess Charming Was Real to take care of the kids to help each other. Did you ever heared the word "romantic" Sex is inside a couple but it is not the only thing inside it. You're totally wrong if you think it's the only thing that makes a marriage important and worth it

[@user-db8un2lm4y]

@Wish Princess Charming Was Real What ???😂

[@user-db8un2lm4y]

@Wish Princess Charming Was Real you look like someone who never had a girlfriend 😂or be with someone that you fell in love with.

[@user-db8un2lm4y]

@Wish Princess Charming Was Real who said I was Muslim? Having a girlfriend doesn't forcefully mean having sex that the thing you didn't understand, having a girlfriend mean going together to understand each other and to see if the other match us

[@user-db8un2lm4y]

@Wish Princess Charming Was Real That mean that your comprehension of what a relationship is is very limited and think that the major party of it is sex every night and everytime

[@user-si3et2ig9x]

If either spouse doesn't want to be intimate for long periods of time, there is a big issue here and they need to discuss it

[@themousekiller8959]

Easy solution talak talak talak and then marriag a new girl

[@user-si3et2ig9x]

@@themousekiller8959 fixing the existing issue is probably less pain in the head and less cost

[@narcissistlovepolygamy6221]

Polygamy marriages are corruption... """And you will never be able to be equal between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From Quran surah Nisa"""... Muslim ummah keep telling others don't follow your desires, women are desires!. But desires can be very powerful. They can hold sway over the mind and lead a person away from reality. When a person follows desires and submits to them, without giving consideration to the guidance received from God, he goes astray. Following of desires is directly linked to misguidance. To understand the effect of desire it is important to analyze what desire does to human intelligence. It puts a curtain over the eyes of the mind. It makes a person so attached to its target that reality is overlooked. The conditions to understand reality include an objectivity to it. It means acceptance of reality whether palatable or bitter, whether it is for personal gain or against it. These conditions are not in line with the dictates of desire. In another verse Almighty Allah puts forth this truth in even stronger terms. He calls desire the god of some human beings. He says: Have you seen him who has taken his desire to be his god? (Q 25:43). Such a god has been condemned in the strongest terms in Hadith. The Prophet (s) has said: There is no god under the sky that has been worshipped other than Allah that is worse than the desire. (Taken from Tafsīr Namūne). No other deity is as despicable as the human being’s own desire. Imam al-Sādiq (a) says: Be apprehensive of your desires in the same way as you are apprehensive of your enemies. For there is no greater enemy for human beings than their own desires and what their tongues reap (Al-Kulaynī, al-Kāfī, 2: 336.) Following of desires is often not recognized for the lowly quality it is. It can be masqueraded as freedom, having fun, being with the masses, etc. It clads a veil over the person as well as others who are exposed to him. Only those who have insight and reflect on reality are able to see through it. This verse reminds us of the danger! Polygamy marriages come under desires!

[@SetuwoKecik]

@@themousekiller8959 wow yet another false flag (except it's a sarcasm).

[@user-si3et2ig9x]

@@narcissistlovepolygamy6221 there is no way you can't see how dumb and contradictory you sound 😂 "tbis verse shows the danger of polygamy" yet allah has also permissed polygamy "marry what you desired of women, two three or four", you can't interpret quran to discredit quran, that's illogical

[@biya_ji]

Men is not a criminal or animal I can say it by my experience of men's I have around me or I have interacted with there is some exceptions in every thing in the world 🌎 Allah made women for men and men for women both are amazing creations of Allah Subhanahu wa Taala may Allah bless us all and bring all of us on straightpath in the light of Islam.

[@_itsnor_1603]

Without even watching the video it is a big NO! you can't force your wife to do anything ☺️

[@DownShifted]

And vise versa ?

[@FIFANATICS]

@@DownShifted cmon bro. She can't force you to do anything

[@bakedpotatoes5545]

@@FIFANATICS she can force him to do his obligations in marriage

[@jamir0078]

Same goes for men right then you can't force you're husband to provide and protect??

[@momofchampions7293]

Subhanallah the fact that some so called muslim men need to be reminded or tought about this is very sad and proves their ignorance and ego..no offence to any men but many muslim men use their cultures or traditions they were raised in their country as if this is islam..islam and culture are two different things and many make mistakes of mixing these two..subhanallah i know many women very unhappy in their marriages and it makes you wonder whats going on in their homes..plz be kind to your wives and be good examples to your sons...

[@shafeeqahsmith6999]

Well said! Alhamdulillah!

[@ilsegenora1822]

It just makes me angry because of the fact women feel pain Not men. It's never them feeling the pain during intimacy yet there's still some of them in the comments saying it's okay to force your wife. Which inflicts physical pain and traumatizes which is haram. So evil. Yet this is what Allah has prescribed for us how merciful..😒

[@sweetsoul3169]

And they say "yOu cANt cHanGe IslAm yOu FeMiNist" while shoving their most disgusting and selfish desires from their culture unto other throats. I know these men dont have taqwa nor do they love Allah. Theyre just a bunch of control freaks.

[@sweetsoul3169]

@@ilsegenora1822 the best man is the one who is best to his wife according to our prophet. So if you see that a lot of men mistreat and disrespect women, just know that Allah s.w.t is sending you signs to stay away from them.

[@sweetsoul3169]

@@ilsegenora1822 and let Allah do justice. You know when Allah wants to curse someone, He lets them do whatever they want in this dunya because He knows what is waiting for them on judgment day.

[@asgerhashim3913]

That is a very good video Yasir Qadhi.

[@guilegain]

لَآ إِكْرَاهَ فِى ٱلدِّينِ ۖ Let there be no compulsion in deen (surat Al-Baqarah 256)

[@guilegain]

@Healing Misogynist Don't! The goal isn't about controlling someone . It's to aid each other in getting to Jennah. Islam offers options for those with big intimacy appetite. Anytime your peace, happiness and Taqwa of Allah is threatened, seek mediation. If your condition doesn't improve. لا قوة و لا حولا إلا بالله

[@guilegain]

@Healing Misogynist Not according to the video, the Quran, the Sunnah or law of most lands, today.

[@guilegain]

@Healing Misogynist Have to recognize that your in a relationship, that expects that of you. Otherwise, your husband will seek to fulfill his desires elsewhere. It doesn't warrant taking by force. It highlights that it is transgression of duties. Similar, to the man that abandons his responsibilities, as mentioned regarding safety etc. earlier in the video. How can safety be a responsibility of mine, and then I justify raping you I.e. making you feel unsafe?

[@spyro5036]

To sum it up yes women can say no to intimacy . However they shouldn’t weaponise intimacy neither can the guy. You’ll see a lot of Muslim men who follow isis in the comments saying raping your wife is allowed . It’s not they’re all gonna burn on judgment day for spreading wrong information and encouraging others to sin

[@muslimboyilyas775]

Women can say no to intimacy and its not a Sin,right?

[@ilsegenora1822]

@@muslimboyilyas775 that's Right.

[@muslimboyilyas775]

@@ilsegenora1822 r u muslim?

[@dailydeen5742]

@@hasibabdullah3463 exactly, constant denial= second wife.

[@spyro5036]

@@dailydeen5742 what makes you think a women would let you get another wife 😂 she will have it written in her contract beforehand so all you can do Is divorce which she’ll benefit as she’s keep her mehr

[@shafeeqahsmith6999]

Comments from another Muslim man speaks volumes: "A wife is not just meant for desires. She is a companion, a homemaker, a mother. She has other duties too apart from fulfilling her husband's request. The request shouldn't be frequent, shouldn't cause harm or inconvenience. It shouldn't interfere with other obligations like praying. So even though men have right, they should exercise such rights with caution and fairness. They should be considerate as well. I think this will help in a relation because a wife who feels valued will never disappoint. Happy wife is a happy life." No doubt, Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him) would agree with these comments if he read them. Now, I know that there are those Muslim men who would deliberately twist these words to make it look like I am lying on the Prophet. No problem. I'm used to it. Another Muslim man objected to those comments, and told the brother not to justify wives refusing. What the hell!

[@Maxwell_V]

but wives refusing without valid excuse is haram! Go read Hadith and Quran god dammit!!!

[@omaimaisaa1979]

@@Maxwell_Vfalsified falsified falsified, go ask God for forgiveness for having a r””””py mindset

[@xyzabc6898]

Holy Quran 2.265---And the example of those who SPEND their WEALTH Seeking means to the APPROVAL of Allah and assuring [reward for] themselves is like a garden on high ground which is hit by a downpour - so it yields its fruits in double. And [even] if it is not hit by a downpour, then a drizzle [is sufficient]. And Allah , of what you do, is Seeing.

[@rafi2713]

This comment section makes me anxious 😂

[@jazzmineloe6496]

Me too 😨

[@Spirit-Consciousness]

Absolutely love this

[@xyzabc6898]

Holy Quran 4.71---O you who have believed, take your precaution and [either] go forth in companies or go forth all together.

[@shafeeqahsmith6999]

I hope all the Muslim men commenting know that Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him) never had a narcissistic, superfragile male ego problem. He knew how to command the respect and trust of women, especially his wives. He was always secure in his manhood. I don't care what problems arose in his marriages. He handled them well. Above all, he always obeyed Allah. And his wives knew that. Now, if any of you men are married, I truly sympathize with your wives!

[@truebeliever1516]

As always comparing man to be like prophet pbuh which is good but not women to be like the wives of prophet pbuh .

[@stonynotdusty]

Poor six year Ashia with that pedo. Should never happen! May God's wrath fall upon all who justify pedos.

[@r.i2007]

How can you compare us to ths Best of man? Thats like comparing you to any of his wives.

[@shafeeqahsmith6999]

@@truebeliever1516 Really?

[@shafeeqahsmith6999]

@@r.i2007 Really?

[@lili13]

aside from religion I’m a doctor and forcing someone to have sex will make them Sick both emotionally and physically, and for the men in comments put yourself in a women shoes , you worked all day and are so tired and your husband asks for intimacy , y refuse , he forces himself on you , believe me you will hate intimacy and your husband for that and if the situation repeats many times the relationship won’t be healthy anymore and it will end with divorce so please try to be gentle with your wifes and please don’t use intimacy as a weapon against your husbands and refuse every Time 😇

[@Maxwell_V]

so why doesn't that woman leave and find a guy with Erectile dysfunction or become a lesbian all together. After that she won't have any issues with intimacy, kindness, relationship, cleaning the house or ending up in Jahannum all together.

[@rebacathek-popfan7950]

​@@Maxwell_V, why men need to marry anyways if they cannot be righteous husbands

[@jasonsamuel6601]

​@@Maxwell_Vlol

[@acidmana7920]

Reading all these comments, I'm more convinced than ever to never get married.

[@Holdyourhandwhiledancing]

Literally same. Simply pathetic. Like how could you speak of women as simply an object of pleasure? they're twisting the words of the sharia and Allah to their sick intentions. Simply pathetic I tell you. And they genuinely think they're being slick about it.

[@aikaameya3930]

For real. Would be easier to win the lottery than find a decent husband in this comment section. All my hope for love out the window 🤣

[@r.b7979]

@@aikaameya3930 im honestly so scared of men at this point.

[@shafeeqahsmith6999]

@@Holdyourhandwhiledancing They think we're dumb and stupid, like we can't peep game. If these men are not married, they don't deserve wives. They deserve prostitutes. If they are married, I sympathize with their wives. May Allah help this Ummah! Ameen!

[@EsHaQ2024]

Or just have GF and replace her with another GF whenever she decides to breakup..

[@faisalweeny]

Thank you for nice explanation

[@realtruth2870]

I have been victimized to this. I didn’t known who I could go to get help from because it was too much to tell. My marriage is basically done and we don’t even live together but, I suffer from what was done to me.

[@rani_3133]

I'll pray for you sister . Inshallah you'll be rewarded in the hereafter for your patience. And i pray Allah helps you get over it and see the better days.

[@WidaaduH]

I am so sorry for you. May Allah heal you from your trauma. Never let again anyone abuse you in the name of anything and especially not in the name of Allah who is the most Merciful.

[@sweetsoul3169]

@Wish Princess Charming Was Real whats youe point?

[@jhsemoxitha3821]

@Wish Princess Charming Was Real umm sir if a man 10x times bigger and stronger than you grabs you and shove his 🍆 inside you and you physically can't fight cuz he's stronger and he'll beat you up if you do you still wouldn't call it force? Sounds like a rapist who would say she enjoyed it 🤮

[@Souchi-ito]

I'm so sorry to hear that. May Allah SWT bless you and hope you'll recover from the trauma. (Ameen)

[@lightlight5706]

I wish someone told me this before. My female teacher was wrong. Every feelings I felt that day was a test. Alxamdulillah anyway.

[@aynain1810]

Wait really? What did she say?

[@jhsemoxitha3821]

Your teacher said what lol

[@Hassan-uh1so]

@@jhsemoxitha3821 judging by the title i think she probably said marital r.pe is halal

[@mamewedjisylla7991]

But when a women is pissed at her husband she really can't have intercourse with him. Forcing herself would feel digusting. So men have to treat their wife correctly before asking for intimacy

[@mercyrahma9501]

Exactly my Sister !

[@aatif7518]

While she's aware of the hadith that she is cursed by the angels if she refuses the bed? Women should know this

[@mamewedjisylla7991]

@@aatif7518 it's between her and the lord

[@aatif7518]

@@mamewedjisylla7991 of course My point is that it's a serious and grave matter for the wife to refuse the bed without valid reasons

[@786checkmate]

And if a man refuses to feed his wife, to go to work, to fail to protect her honour, is it justice for him to claim his wife doesn't please him enough and so he can abstain from his duties?

[@asaadmusaitef8393]

As a guy, first if you have a sexual drive, refrain yourself, your wife isn't a tool. Now if this hadith is authentic 100% Allahu a3lam. I see this as sketchy, because sex for woman isn't as stimulating for men and it can be painful. I believe the woman whether if she just doesn't want to because she doesn't want to go through the pain it's fine. I personally feel whilst having sex if the woman is doing purely out of requirement, instead of love and pleasure, that would make me uncomfortable and her. As a Muslim you shouldn't be a dog, whether if you are naturally tempted often, have self control and be able to control your lust and desires. I would rather see my wife asking or be GENUINELY willing for her sake and my sake, than her saying yes because she has to. That's just not according to Islamic teachings, and I believe that strays you further from your iman whether it is true or not, woman are not flashlights. Now I am no feminist, don't get me wrong I believe in traditional masculinity and femininity living according to eachother, but in no way would my wifes by law requirement by Allah, is just please your husband when he wants you to, so you can have a home and food. What's the difference between that and a prostitute, they do the same thing, they have sex whether they like it or not, so they can keep a roof over themselves. Prostitution I see it as one if the biggest sins, so in no way would I have my wife be pressured and having to be mentally forced to hsve sex, solely for my sake. Where is the Deen in that? Just because we have the title of wife and husband in Islam, doesn't mean we, or I should be asking for sex when she doesn't want to. Now I personally don't believe this hadith is true, I could be ignorant and fatwa shopping, Allah a3lam. But I just see this not in accordance to true Islamic teachings. This is like when children use "Mohammed said you have to give food when you look at it as a childish excuse to get free candy. When my wife doesn't want to have sex, it is mentally damaging and would make her have a subconscious hatred for Deen, and especially sunnah, thinking "why would Allah make me do this?" (If there is alot of typos, it's because I wrote alot and typed fast, I'm not going to check over it and fix it lol.)

[@shafeeqahsmith6999]

My brother, you make excellent points which I agree with. I believe you are one of the very few Muslim brothers in this comments section who don't abuse this hadith to the point where it makes our beloved Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him) look like a misogynistic womanizer addicted to sex. For these Muslim men to even think Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him) is their role model on how to treat women is both a joke and and an insult to his noble and exemplary character. Your wife is a blessed woman. I pray Allah grant you both all the happiness in the world!

[@namanahuja7416]

@Wish Princess Charming Was Real that means you will rape your wife?

[@shafeeqahsmith6999]

@Wish Princess Charming Was Real Your problem, brother.

[@shafeeqahsmith6999]

@Wish Princess Charming Was Real Did you have to insult Brother Asaad like that? He makes excellent points which makes a lot of sense. Too damned callous and insensitive toward his wife! Allah forbid!!

[@shafeeqahsmith6999]

@Wish Princess Charming Was Real Strong women scare weak men! I will continue to be very hard on weak Muslim men. No sympathy! No pity! No apology! Attack whatever or whomever you want. Peace.

[@muzammilahmadullah887]

Alhamdulillah, in my case my wife force me everytime, lol. And I beleive it's because of I'm strictly following the bedroom and intimacy etiquettes taught by the messenger of Allah. Masha Allah.

[@ceterisparibus8966]

"forces" you? Do not minimize sexual assault.

[@absolutelynobody3837]

Now where are all the angry comments about female rapists?

[@fatusisse5913]

This is so upsetting, absolutely not okay! Try to communicate with her about this behaviour

[@fatusisse5913]

@Wish Princess Charming Was Real You're so much more than your body. I hope one day who realize that...

[@whowrites1771]

That is not good!!!!! Get help!!!!!!!!!

[@personsn2586]

It's sad that people need to be educated on this topic.

[@jackiechan3509]

The Prophet of Islam did not need to force any woman, when many are guided by him......

[@shafeeqahsmith6999]

Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him) knew how to command the respect and trust of women. There are Muslim men out there who don't have a clue how to do that. Why do they think women love, respect, honor, and trust him, even unto this day? He feared Allah. Nuff said.

[@islamtube2672]

DAILY DHIKR TO REMEMBER ALLAH (SWT) SubhanAllahi wa biHamdihi, Subhan-Allahi 'l-`adheem (Glory be to Allah, and Praise, Glory be to Allah, the Supreme) Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Two words are light on the tongue, weigh heavily in the balance, they are loved by the Most Merciful One." [Sahih al-Bukhari; #7:67, Sahih Muslim, #4:2071] 2. Whoever says SubhanAllahi wa biHamdihi (Glory be to Allah and Praise Him) a hundred times during the day, his sins are wiped away, even if they are like the foam of the sea [Sahih al-Bukhari; #7:168, Sahih Muslim; #4:2071] Abu Dharr reported that the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said, "Shall I tell you the words that Allah loves the most?" I said: "Yes, tell me, O Messenger of Allah." He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "The words dearest to Allah are: subhanAllah wa bihamdihi”. [ Muslim and at-Tirmidhi.] 3. La Hawla wa la Quwatta illa Billah (There is no Might or Power except with Allah) [the above is] a treasure from the treasures of Paradise.[Sahih al-Bukhari; al-Fath al-Bari #11:213, Sahih Muslim #4:2076] 4.SubhanAllah, walHamdulilah, wa La illaha ilAllahu, waAllahu Akbar (Glory be to Allah, All Praise is for Allah, There is No God but Allah, Allah is the Greatest) The above are mentioned as the four most beloved words to Allah. It does not matter with which one of them is begun.[Sahih Muslim; #3:1685] Abu Sa`id (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said, "Perform the enduring goods deeds (al-baaqiyaat al-SaliHaat) more frequently." They asked, "What are these enduring good deeds?" The Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) replied: Takbir [Allahu Akbar], Tahlil [la ilaha illallah], Tasbih [Subhan'Allah], alhamdulillah, and la hawla wa la quwwata illa billah. 8

[@9faris3]

That is indeed a very important topic

[@Anon-xz6hu]

The intimacy should be based on mutual understanding and love, it's not the case that if husband feels like it the wife will feel too or vice versa, they should both understand this, because if you say you can't do anything, let's say if both husband and wife don't agree to have intimate relationship at any time then that'll definitely weaken their marriage. So they should both discuss this and have a proper understanding of each other. It's bizarre that laws are being made on marital rape and things that are very personal and should be resolved on that level only. Also both should understand when to do what, for example if a man has come home tired from office then wife should understand this and let him have rest and same goes for husband, he should know what his wife is doing, women work a lot in homes too and now even in office, from handling kitchen to kids, husband should keep this in mind, we can't make laws forcing husband or wife to do something or not do something, that's very personal thing , they're already clear guidelines in islam, but the thing is there should be common sense in both, the ultimate goal is to save the marriage and lead a happy, stable life, not to ruin it

[@zainabkhadim3509]

I agree with everything you said except Marital rape there are rules but how can you make sure everyone will follow them unless there is a immediate punishment for it what if someone's belief is weak or not raised right do you think Islam can stop him no I am not saying that punishment can stop them they are just to ignorant to think about that but at least the victim will get justice

[@jamir0078]

If there is no intimacy there is no happiness stable life

[@mydad4216]

Let's not stretch the topic keep it simple.... ☝️ Straight to the point - In and only 2 situation a wife refuse to intimate...... *1- Physical problems ( i.e. related to body yeah u got it) *2- Emotional problems ( this one has high chances, always critical and covers many reasons like.. Stress, tiredness, forced marriages and last but not least she doesn't like u ) So if she has #1problem than husband has no right to intimate and even it can be considered haram in some cases. But if she has #2problem and husband is righteous enough to listen but she isn't telling her than its her fault because no man will try to have sex after knowing her wife's emotions rather he will try to calm and solve her problems only an animal will force her to get in the bed. Matter solved 👍🏻

[@ibrahimorton93200998]

So if have I have emotional problems I can stop paying the bills ?? So a woman is also an animal if she asks her husband for provision because he is stressed, tired or doesn’t like his wife) ?? I agree with the forced marriage part though.

[@mydad4216]

@@ibrahimorton93200998 So u r comparing intercourse with paying her bills i.e. needs or we can say money, so my answer is if u can pay for ur provisions,needs etc when u r stressed or tired then u r wrong my brother why not for her, because i m damn sure that when she is tired, stressed or emotionally unfit she will not have intercourse even if most handsome men of 2022 offers her, she will not even look at him but u my brother paying ur bills even when u r broke than why not for her... I have a question for you " Will u be happy if you r making out with a woman but she doesn't have any feelings...will u be able to enjoy that kind of intimacy? If yes than ur lust has taken over ur senses. Hope you got my point , GUDLK 👍🏻.

[@ibrahimorton93200998]

@@mydad4216 oh yeah Of course I’m comparing it. And I can even give more examples like if a someone breaks in to the house and tries to rape her or assault her I’m supposed protect her even if it costs me MY LIFE, but according to your logic I can say "honey you know work has been stressful lately so you handle it on your own this time, go out there and deal with intruder because you’re a strong woman😃" Why ?? because screw you (not you personally) I’m not providing and protecting a woman who fails to fulfill her duties without a valid reason and no being" stressed "or "having an argument with your friends" or "workplace problems" (I’m not gonna let even 1 of wives work anyway outside of the house) isnt a valid excuse. I fulfill my duties even zhen I’m stressed or not "in the mood" or feeling depressed and I expect the same from my wives. Of this kind behavior occurs in relationships of course I’ll try advice her to change first but she insists I’ll give her divorce and that’s gonna be it. Bruh basically you expect men to fulfill your needs while you fail fulfill his needs for no legitimate reason. 🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️the hypocrisy. And lastly YESSS it’s always better get connected, enthusiastic sex but Allah has given us men the ability fulfill our sexual desires and have a release with a woman’s body without having feelings for her or her having feelings for us.

[@sunnysparkle9950]

@@ibrahimorton93200998 One thing which almost every modern women does is that she earns by herself. She is self suffient enough to fullfill her requirements. So, your argument is flawed and invalid for the most. You share the same name as our beloved Prophet Ibrahim, however you lack basic behavioural and conversational etiquettes required of a muslim man. No women likes or wants to be near such aggressive and imposing men.

[@ibrahimorton93200998]

@@sunnysparkle9950 one MAJOR thing that you overlooked that even if a modern women is self sufficient(btw which she isn’t at all, they still rely on men general for everything but that’s an argument for another day), she still expects her man to pay the bills so your argument is invalid, secondly sorry to disappoint you but most women are biologically aroused( not "attracted" but aroused which even stronger then attraction) by agressive, assertive men. Like they can’t even control it. Second of all your S.I.GN language (shame, insult, guilt or the need to be right) has no use against me. I never compared myself to Ibrahim (as) nor did I choose to share his blessed name but it’s quite funny 🤣 to listen someone who calls himself sunny sparkles(is that even your real name??) try to shame others for their name. 😪what a clown world.

[@jackiechan3509]

All those who give a lie on islam must and will answer to God

[@other7128]

I have a few questions: 1. What if the woman asks and the husband refuses? Why doesn't any Islamic teacher address this COMMON issue? 2. Can refusal be allowed if it's due to mental harm? (severe trauma, suicidal thoughts, extreme stress, etc) Edit: My second question was SOMEWHAT answered later, because forced sex can cause psychological trauma. But, my question still remains. Can she refuse because sex causes her psychological trauma? Also, that's so weird to abandon her in her bed as "punishment" because that's giving her what she wants lol🤣 3. Another question. If a husband really loves and cares about his wife, why would he want her to suffer by doing something which causes her stress? If he wants her to do something for his desires, which is harmful to her, isn't this being inattentive to HER needs?

[@Mochi-re8cv]

same question here I have some kind of trauma and the thought of potential future intercourse gives me shivers

[@decade0240]

I base my answer on the authentic ahaadith and the Book of Allah. 1. The husband should accept the wife's advances, as intimacy is an integral part of marriage. But it is not her right over her husband to ask this of him, rather the husband has that right over her. A wife's right upon her husband is explained in her video, which is safety and provision and other forms of caretaking. Again, while the husband should do as his wife asks of him in this situation, the Law does not obligate him to do so. 2. No, if intercourse causes her psychological trauma, she should instead find a husband who does not seek intimacy. Because intimacy is an obligation upon a woman to give to her husband so long as the husband provides for her needs. 3. I'm not a psychologist, and this question looks disingenuous to me though I try not to assume your intentions.

[@wokestTurtle]

Well if sex causes trauma and stress, husband can solve this issue by divorcing 😂. No sex ever again 😂. Or woman should accept the second wife, which is impossible in this age.

[@fiomelandri7015]

1. For wife its a sin if she refuse the husband desire, but for husband it doesnt (he can accept/refuse) but remember one of the husband role is provide the wife,and provide is wide it can be financial,protection,biology,etc Thats mean when husband refuse there will be consequence ,like cheating,became mad/angry/sad etc. The good husband is the one who understand teaching in islam. The right its different but the way to get that right is same 2. No, its almost like point number 1 or brother/sister @decade0240. 3. Just divorce, ur case its too one sided on the wife The household will harmony if the husband and wife fullfil their role, ur case is a jerk husband no need take this and that ,just divorce it The wife not gonna feel forced if the husband fullfil what she need, and vice versa. If its too one sided than there is wrong in it(husband/wife) Husband right have their ayat, and the wife right have their ayat, but ppl too focus on opposite role ayat which mean not their own ayat , like husband use wife ayat to justify the "obey thing" meanwhile the husband forget their ayat about provide,lead, etc / vice versa. And thats why like ur case will happen. In alquran maybe Sound like "husband sided" but if u reall really understanding it,actually it for husband and wife , they have same right Thats why in islam there is 4 reason to marriage : 1.Understanding religion ( priority) 2.wealth 3.beauty 4.noble family/lineage Point 2-4 its have diadvatage like 2&3 its temporary (wordly) it not permanent weatlh can be bankrupt anytime,beauty will fade when the age come, noble family (royal family/prophet muhammad descendent/child of sultan etc) only a few percent in this word. But for religion its permanent either on this world/hereafter(akhirat(paradise)), u master when it come religion u have guarantee to have harmony/happy marriage. Marriage bcs Love only on hollywood/marvel/disney, love will come from allah and will be given to husband and wife close to allah or keep on straight path (siratal mustaqim) ,practice the obligation/law & avoid the prohibited (haram). Dont forget to shalat and practice zakat/infaq (charity),May us keep on the straight path ❤

[@Mochi-re8cv]

@@wokestTurtle ? 😀🔪 ur so rude……😤 sorryyyy my emotions took over but anyway you should also respect trauma ya know ? and let the person heal with love and compassion not forcing them right away …..

[@mak_1802]

this also covers the matter of martial rape...mashallah!!! our religion is perfect!

[@JohnnyJPatt]

How can any man force his wife to do something like this? She’s a human being. Not your chattel. Secondly why would you need to force her? If you love her and treat her right, I don’t see why you would have to do this

[@gdog8170]

La ilah ila Allah all kinds of arguments in the comments although the video is crystal clear

[@jariatasnim139]

Assalamualaikum, brother/sister who makes the channel I would like to tell you that next time in a video please use another animation of a woman. I have noticed that the girl in the video you have used is a bit sexualised, like the tight clothing and the heels.This is not how we as Muslim women wear things, it is not the hijab Allah has told us to do. Using images like that might influence/normalise the hijab which isn’t correct. Jazakkalah I loved the video❤️

[@Erec07]

If a woman denies intimacy for no legitmate reason then the man should really consider getting a 2nd wife.

[@4c_Hijabi]

No. If she is not holding her end of basic rights, then he should either work on fixing that marriage or divorce and get another wife. A second wife is NEVER a solution to a bad relationship with the first. You'll only mess up the first marriage even more and potentially the second through that.

[@faraz9614]

Erec absolutely right

[@Erec07]

@@4c_Hijabi Notice how you emphasize that the man should be the one fixing the marriage and not both or the woman. I do agree with you saying that he should leave her for a woman that is willing to fulfill the husband’s right: intimacy.

[@Souchi-ito]

Tell me you're single without telling me you're single.

[@Erec07]

@@Souchi-ito tell me ur wife withholds you from intimacy without telling me

[@majidskinnerkhan6960]

Forcing is classed as rape in the uk

[@piqueny8872]

Really sad how this information was hidden and misused during my moms and her female relatives times. This is why there are so many narcissistic moms who suffer from post natal depression, hate there children all because they were force to have so many children. Practically every year pregnant I hope and pray be Male of the new generation married have the care and consideration to use birth control and ask for intimacy not forced. A sis is literally huge due to meds’ all cuz the husbands want to raw it. Poor wife

[@takiyaazrin7562]

We captured excellent women for ransom. We decided to have sex with them but by observing 'azl (Withdrawing the male sexual organ before emission of semen to avoid-conception). We asked Allah's Messenger (ﷺ), and he said: It does not matter if you do not do it, for every soul that is to be born up to the Day of Resurrection will be born. Sahih Muslim 1438a

[@xyzabc6898]

Holy Quran 8.30--And [remember, O Muhammad], When Those who Disbelieved Plotted Against You to Restrain You or Kill You or Evict You [from Makkah]. But THEY PLAN, and ALLAH PLANS. And ALLAH IS THE BEST OF PLANNERS.

[@Assasin4640]

This video seems to be very biased towards women on not holding them accountable for their mistreatment to their husband and trying to make women believe that there is very minimum accountability to refusing to oblige with her wifely duties. And the way it's trying to hold the man accountable for every duty he is required to do for any shortening in it he will have made a grave mistake. I think this post should've taken an unbiased approach towards them both equally and fairly while explaining each to their duties and what's really wrong about it when one refuses to comply, not just the man. And also for women reading this... don't treat having intimacy with your husband as if it is some kind of a chore. Treat it like a reward for both of you.

[@muppet7095]

"Psychological torture, harm, irritation, nuisance.." Why don't you call it what it is - rape - instead of using euphemisms.

[@absolutelynobody3837]

No rape in marriage.

[@i.8885]

Because some men don't understand what's wrong about forcing your wife to have sex

[@jhsemoxitha3821]

Exactly

[@jhsemoxitha3821]

@@absolutelynobody3837 having sex with someone without their consent whether you are dating them married to them they are drunk they are sex workers still RAPE

[@jhsemoxitha3821]

@Wish Princess Charming Was RealRAPE.

[@GOKILZO]

the amount of ignorant muslims in comments is insane . Let me say one thing : If a man forces himself on his wife , it will be considered zina . rape and it is haram and then Allah will punish you on the day of judgement. If your wife does not want intimacy, just sit down with her and talk , sort out your problems nicely . Fear Allah always . Nobody will be able to save you from him. Just think about it, how would you even run from judgement of Allah. I pray that Allah guides our Ummah on the right path , Ameen.

[@GOKILZO]

@Wish Princess Charming Was Real when you force her , it is zina and rape

[@GOKILZO]

@Wish Princess Charming Was Real bruh, it is still rape , the punishment is a 100 whips and on the day of judgement, it will be even worse , u cannot force any person to do anything for you except for when teaching your kids about namaz

[@GOKILZO]

@Wish Princess Charming Was Real bro, i continously learn fiqh from quran and authentic hadiths , and i agree it was my mistake that i said whips , stoning but the problem is that u cannot force anyone

[@dailydeen5742]

Yes you are right, Marital Rape is forbidden according to Islam. But my brothers, guess what is not forbidden? P O L Y G A M Y Go get yourself another elegant wife, thereby you have multiple options for the night. If one wife denies, the other may accept by chance.

[@GOKILZO]

@Wish Princess Charming Was Real evidence for what , forcing a women , bruh, u need to give me evidence for saying u can foece a woman

[@Boubou2604]

intimacy is a right which both have husband and wife. The idea of marriage is to avoid zina thats why both are obligated to satisfy their needs. If the marriage is good and both happy there will be no reasons for deny. If there problems then husband/wife will deny and then they should communicate.

[@bithiahamariah9139]

And he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Fear Allaah with regard to women, for you have taken them as a trust from Allaah and intimacy with them has become permissible to you by the words of Allaah. Your right over them is that they should not allow anyone to sit on your furniture whom you dislike; if they do that then hit them but not in a harsh manner. And their right over you is that you should provide for them and clothe them on a reasonable basis.” Narrated by Muslim, 1218. What is meant by “they should not allow anyone to sit on your furniture whom you dislike” is that they should not allow anyone whom you dislike to enter your houses, whether the person disliked is a man or a woman, or any of the woman’s mahrams [close relatives to whom marriage is forbidden]. The prohibition includes all of them. From the words of al-Nawawi. Source Islamqa My questions is, what if you end up with those sort of husbands who dislike everyone! AND if the wife CANNOT leave the house without her husbands permission - he has locked her away from everyone. That is called abuse, but not in Islam?

[@bithiahamariah9139]

@Muhammad Moawaz I know what the clerics say, what I want to know is what ordinary Muslims think about what their clerics and books say. I don't understand the vast difference between what they say is Sharia... and what should be practiced instead to ensure a happy marriage. Listening to the conversations here - there are sticklers to the rigid letter of the law and those who don't even know the laws that govern them. I am sure they don't spell out marital rights of men to them when they convert to Islam and marry a Muslim man. Or even a Christian woman marries a Muslim man. He won't tell her she will now have to submit to all his advances or else there are consequences and not good ones. Unequal requests for sex or demands for sex lead to resentment and bitterness. Whoever created these laws had no understanding of harmony in marriage. We have a similar problem in Christianity where if you take Paul's letters to the letter you end up with similar problems to Muslim wives. After all Paul was a single man who had never been married. They would have been better getting Peter to write about sex and marriage. Some cult groups in America especially, carry it too far and the girls literally become more like sex slaves than beloved wives as God intended. worse is the women who perpetuate this warped doctrine of theirs. Like the women who hold their daughters down for FGM. But having that problem in Christianity does not mean its ok for women in Islam. Maybe I am fighting for women's rights - being married for 30+ years is lived experience, which is why I said writing your book as a man is like asking the wolf does he like Chicken while living in the hen house.

[@bithiahamariah9139]

@Wish Princess Charming Was Real Malachi 2:16: “I hate divorce, says YHVH God of Israel.” Why - because it hurts us, and he wants the best for us. [unless there is abuse]

[@Jass951]

God of isreal?? Are you a muslim?@@bithiahamariah9139

[@i.8885]

I don't understand how this is fair. How dows Going to work to provide to your wife and yourself compare with having sex? You can't be in the mood for sex if you just had an argument, if you are sad etc. Sex isn't a practical job, it's phycological. Mood for sex comes from your mind

[@designcalligraphy7395]

Well going to work can be based on mood as well. A man can wake up one day and not feeling work at all, But he has to because of his family.

[@i.8885]

@@designcalligraphy7395 you are obligated to go to work because they will fire you. A wife that isn't working, must cook and clean or else they won't have food to eat and of course take care of the kids! It's not her choice. Both have their jobs and they are equally important, so the wife doesn't owe sex to her husband because he works. Both should enjoy it and do it for fun not as an obligation

[@i.8885]

@Wish Princess Charming Was Real I don't reply to someone who comments under everyone that marital rape is good. Working for momey is as hard as cleaning, cooking, grocery shopping, taking care of your children. I remember when I was a kid my mother always had something to do.

[@designcalligraphy7395]

@@i.8885 Nobody said she owns the husband sex because he works, The comparison is about how mood should not prevent the husband from having his right just like mood doesn't prevent him from working to provide for the wife.

[@shafeeqahsmith6999]

If a husband's leadership in the household stinks, why should he still expect his wife to come to the bed when called? The marriage tie is in the hands of husbands, not wives. Husbands can very easily abuse their power over their wives, if they're not careful. So, if husbands "can't get some" from their wives, wives don't eat? Who is gonna cook the food--husbands?? If there are children in the home, they will notice something is wrong if Mama is not eating, and they and Daddy are. How will men explain that to them? If wives have earning power outside the home, will husbands intentionally go to their wives' places of employment, intending to get them fired, insisting they have the right to do that? Will husbands kick their wives out of the house if they "don't get some" from them and not give a damn what happens to them? Money does strange things to a lot of men out there! Too much power!

[@justscrolling7829]

Ladies, If you are ever AFRAID to disobey your husband then you shouldn't sleep with him.

[@tariqkhan185]

People clash here because they apply their OWN situation to the situations of others. We all have unique circumstances. Please don't abstract your situation on theirs. Only You know yourselves and your relationship. I read the stories here and I get so upset because I am applying my experience... That's why I say that. Believe it when people say they have suffered. Men. And women. I wish you all happiness and peace. It's a short life.

[@lieutenant8968]

Short answer: No, you cannot force your wife into intimacy.

[@zyanharris9615]

Also men has the right to say no .... Just don't come to him if doesn't want to talk , don't want you to touch , sit with him also ...it's also his freedom

[@faraz9614]

Absolutely right bro sir . Thanks god someone is also thinking from the men side 👍😃

[@shafeeqahsmith6999]

To all the Muslim men in this comments section who quote hadith ad nauseam, especially the "angels cursing the wife" hadith, and who read and criticize my comments (you know who you are!) about our beloved Prophet Muhammad and his wives, our Mothers of the Faithful (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him), I just want you all to know this: No honorable, respectable, right-thinking Muslim man (especially if he is married) would find fault with those comments. None. All of you have minds with which to think and reason. It's up to you all to figure out what I just said. Muslim women do not need to be educated about them. We are NOT dumb in the Deen! We already know that our beloved Prophet and his wives (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon them) would agree with my comments. Hands down. Oh, last time I checked, money, sex, and testosterone don't rule or dominate marriages. Only Allah the Most High does. And he always will. Just thought y'all should know that. Another thought: Y'all sure y'all don't follow ISIS?? Someone made a comment that there are Muslim men in the comments section who follow ISIS who says raping wives is allowed in Islam. And they still say Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him) is their role model on how to treat women, wives in particular. You mean, y'all hate him that bad that y'all have to lie on him?? Astaghfirullah! Yall must have serious manhood and/or testosterone issues to take your revenge out on Muslim women in this comments section. No wonder y'all hate women!

[@shoopinc]

Discipline/Responsibility > Rights

[@advancedcardiolresearchphy2086]

Everything is being thought in Shareha, even how to love, and be kind and merciful between husband and wife. A husband can ask his wife love, and the wife has to understand the urge and impact of his request on his health and to submit with love unless she has prohibition and legal/health excuse that forbidden that. And what ever God is asking you to do, it is for our sake for us to be happy and for our hearts to be purified and full in love, and for our love to shoot high, and to our lord shall we all love and asking our God his love and for us to love.