Is My Husband Cheating With My Best Friend?

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[@haleytruslow7200]

On top of cheating, he is also insulting her intelligence with these idiotic lies.

[@BT-mc2yd]

He and the friend both are! Yep

[@psychattack3381]

To be fair, she’s not acting super intelligent. He keeps cheating because she keeps allowing it.

[@LindaM1976]

💯

[@euphrates74]

The insult would be the straw for me😢

[@erinhackman9526]

Behavior is a language

[@jasminebaby3375]

1. Middle of the night 🚩🚩 2. Cork Screw 🚩🚩 3. Deleted text messages 🚩🚩

[@soni05131]

4. He's cheated before🚩

[@karinaTsm]

The list goes on

[@vazlet]

He's a man 🚩 🚩🚩🚩🚩

[@vazlet]

😂😂😂 sorry, I couldn’t resist!

[@alittlepieceofearth]

Yeah. . . . the list just goes on and on. . . .

[@chrism2042]

Caught my ex wife with another dude, I felt like the world dropped on my shoulders and I couldn't get out. After a few months, I realized she did me a favor by doing it 6 years into the marriage instead of 26 years into the marriage. Then, her misery set in with her new relationship, arguing and fighting all of the time. After 6-8 months, she was begging me to get back together, but with a smile I said, you got what you thought you wanted so now you get to live with your decisions.

[@bravomom22]

Mic drop! Good for you!

[@aortega701]

What was the reason she said she cheated. Damn sorry man.

[@chrism2042]

@@aortega701 - I am good, sucked going through it at the time but glad she did it years ago. To this day, she will still deny it even though I literally caught her. But the reason was, she "thought" he had money. Even though I worked all of the time, every time I mentioned starting my own contracting business, she would want to argue, "you will do nothing but fail". Well, she moved in with the dude she still denied cheating with, within a few months his house was in foreclosure and he was losing everything. Within a couple years I had 2 businesses with 45 employees and doing my thing. Sometime some things can turn out bittersweet!

[@girloffaith16]

Good for you!!!! I’m sorry this happened

[@danielleelias685]

Great answer. You reap what you sow, now she can have him and keep him, LOL.

[@jamdoll8660]

Not only are they cheating, but they think she's stupid. They're both disrespectful.

[@benedettadeluca7910]

She keeps saying "I know... I know.." but she is not getting it. It didn't hit her quite yet. She is a people pleaser, she needs serious therapy jes.... So sad😢

[@hybridtimestwo]

1. Plan carefully and methodically 2. Acquire and compile evidence( P.I. if necessary) 3. Start stashing money 4. Make a long term plan 5. Unless you are in danger, pretend like everything is normal. 6. You are empowering yourself to blindside him. 7. Plan very carefully for you and kids future. 8. Compile copies of all finances. For the last 5 years. 9. Start stashing money. 10. Start stashing money. Be kind to yourself, stay busy, spend time with support system.

[@Movnhorses]

Best advice!! And don’t sleep with him. No telling what you might get.

[@josh.kaptur]

stashing money will not play well in divorce proceedings. Thorough documentation yes so you get your fair share, but not proactively stealing it. If he can prove that, it will not play favorably.

[@LaughingblueSu]

I agree. Quietly get your life in order. Pack away treasures ready to move

[@hybridtimestwo]

@@josh.kaptur adultry Doesnt play well. Its tit for tat. Hes f**king the neighbor.

[@dking1362]

@@josh.kaptur Better plan is to work with a lawyer to make sure HE cannot remove/hide chunks of money until/during the divorce proceedings.

[@Girlgonewise]

That is not your best friend sis. They are definitely sleeping together.

[@alluringbliss4165]

Terrible

[@isay207]

Get a good lawyer girl!!!

[@nicklowe_]

Relax , it was just a really tough bottle of wine to open, took a few hours

[@fernleafmedia]

​@@nicklowe_the bottle was probably full of hot air.

[@Girlgonewise]

@@nicklowe_ 😂😂 he was screwing something alright.

[@junglejim1538]

It takes a blatant amount of nerve to leave your bed at midnight and go to a neighbor's apartment for 2 hours, while your wife is at home waiting for you to return. Sister, it doesn't take 2 hours to open a bottle of wine. May God go with you through this difficult time.

[@iloveplumpgrannies174]

It takes 2 hours or more of cork screwing the neighbor.

[@olliemadkn]

The sad part is the audacity. Like, that's how little he thinks of her, that she's an idiot who won't even realise what's happening under her nose. The arrogance to just get up and leave, in the quietest time of night, and think you're so smart no one will know.

[@MS-cg1mj]

Truth!

[@ronhall5395]

Not to mention he has a past history of cheating. He also lets her look at his phone but only after he erased the texts. She looks and though she can't see the actual texting, but she can see that there are hundreds of text back and forth.

[@dlghtfl1]

This dear woman needs to find her self-respect. She is worth far better treatment than what she's receiving. And whether she realizes it or not the way the dad treats the mom effects the entire family. For the sake of her children, she *must* put an end to this betrayal.

[@berniegordon6338]

I can’t imagine my wife asking to see my phone and telling her “no”

[@TonyCox1351]

Especially after you’d already been caught cheating before lol

[@alycewich4472]

EXACTLY!

[@huntergreene7306]

Its the reality for SO many women

[@berniegordon6338]

@@huntergreene7306 and men. That’s really not a gender specific thing.

[@TheSkyIsFalling93]

@@berniegordon6338 - 100%

[@lexir7504]

omg my jaw dropped when she said the friend said the husband was home but she just needed help opening a bottle of wine at 12-2 am. like wow y'all couldn't have come up with anything better than that

[@uscitizen3252]

They clearly didn't need to if she's that naive. So sad. I hope she realizes she deserves better than this husband and "best friend."

[@user-rr4or1xh2g]

He was OPENING a bottle of wine alright...

[@alwaysyouramanda]

My jaw dropped just reading the title 😂

[@clarkbar]

they dont even care if the excuse sounds valid after a while, as long as they dont have to actually tell the truth

[@moaraa2575]

Well technically he more than likely did take “his” corkscrew to open her bottle. Is another way of saying it. She may not be lying.

[@amarie6223]

Sounds like she's been gaslighted for so long, she wants to believe he's not having an affair 😢.

[@Tastefulrefined]

I think she knows, she's just too afraid to admit it to herself.

[@vaska1999]

​@@Tastefulrefined How could you not know with ludicrous excuses such as the one they offered?!

[@heatherchandler1184]

I think it’s more self convincing because of the hardships single motherhood brings

[@Astro95Media]

100%. My ex's affair went on for close to a year, almost in plain view, before I put the divorce papers in front of her. I wanted to believe the lies and that my gut was wrong. She lied for the first six months of the court proceedings before she got cornered with the threat of proof. She came clean and vindicated every single suspicion I'd had for the previous 18 months. This poor woman on the call is dealing with the same thing. Hannah ... go to court and destroy this monster. The thought of it is terrifying, I know. At times, you'll feel like there's no point in continuing on or that it'll never end. But if you're going through hell, keep going. It doesn't last forever here.

[@TheKristinals]

She’s probably believing it for financial reasons. Sometimes the amount of work it’ll take to leave the situation makes you just wanna believe the lies.

[@shazondiabailey9013]

I don't understand when people say they are your friend and betray you in the worst ways. Disgusting

[@not-even-german4892]

No friends, no trust

[@steelearmstrong9616]

No one is your friend. Trust no one but pretent that you do

[@GameChanger597]

​@@steelearmstrong9616 People who say trust no one are afraid to get hurt. Trusting others you're close with is a normal part of life. The problem is, don't continue trusting them after they give you reasons not to, such as in this case.

[@notmybrother8727]

I have had abilities my whole life, and I can read people like a book.

[@steelearmstrong9616]

@@GameChanger597 Acceptance

[@jessicaparker374]

Her soon-to-be divorce attorney can subpoena those text messages.

[@natalieeubank4533]

It doesn’t even matter she said the same thing

[@dking1362]

Save your money, Hannah. You don't need them.

[@amysue1616]

It doesn’t matter anymore if someone cheats. The courts couldn’t care LESS who cheated on who. If you go in with that in mind it may help you with custody issues.

[@JB-wp2gn]

Girl RUN! I was married to a cheater. Life is so much more peaceful as a single mom who isn’t dealing with a selfish man child

[@tamra9867]

Same and I 100% agree with you!

[@pwstroud]

im tryin to tell a friend the same thing but she wants a baby and to be married so bad. She found out her boyfriend of a year had a one year old baby and had been sneaking to visit and stay with the childs mother

[@pcharm3711]

SERIOUSLY

[@WoolandFlax]

​@@em7937 wrong, being convinced is part of the human experience. And it sticks, that's what being convinced implies.

[@VitaLAwakening]

You picked him. You women only want the men that are desired by all women. While you passed up all the faithful dudes in your youth because they were "nice guys"

[@NS-jt9vv]

She is desperate to stay married. She KNOWS the truth.

[@catcoffee7958]

Sadly true,,, anything to stay married

[@diamondjack-cooper5322]

This is so unfortunate and saddening! AMEN!

[@carolmizelle1317]

Yes that's exactly right. sad.

[@deded1057]

I won't judge her choices. She has a history that is influencing her decisions. She's doing what she thinks is best for her and her children. She is the one who will live with her choices - not us. "I would....". "I wouldn't...." Is all speculation. You don't KNOW until your actually the one living it and even then your basing your decisions in a different history and perspective. I wish this woman peace of mind - whatever she chooses to do. It's a tuff spot to be in.

[@sarazink2237]

Oh man I have never heard Dr. John say, “Until you sit in reality, I can’t help you” ugg that was powerful 😓 I feel so bad for this lady.!!

[@stefaniej8597]

Begin a single mom is better than begin with the wrong man who has no dignity, moral or respect for you. Period.

[@Chrisatrucker]

Just because you don't value your husband, doesn't mean that other women won't. Handle your business, and you went hand problems ❤

[@Gumgumdropbuttns]

She's really looking for someone to tell her to ignore it or that she's overreacting..... it's heartbreaking

[@ellamarie9709]

When your husband won’t show you the text messages, there’s a problem. A big problem. Bless her!

[@not-even-german4892]

Why she has his number?

[@candicehuggins]

@@not-even-german4892My husband & I are friends with other couples from church. With one of them, we have a running 4-person texting thread so we can make plans for our next dinner & game night together, pass along any news quickly, share funny GIFs, or whatever. It’s not totally weird to have phone numbers of close friends of the family. That being said……. With ANY history of even an inkling of cheating, having other women’s phone numbers should have been a thing of the past. I feel so sorry for this girl. 😢

[@junbh2]

​@@not-even-german4892That part's not at all strange. All four of them are friends and next door neighbours and they do things with their kids together so they would have each other's numbers even just for emergencies as neighbours. It's the secrets and lying and deleting things that makes it all weird.

[@Chrisatrucker]

He's an adult and he isn't required by law to show his phone.

[@Gumgumdropbuttns]

She can go to the provider and get the messages that way.....I wish people would remember that

[@onebeatsongs9326]

Sadest part is I can tell she won't leave she doesn't sound like she has an actually support system. Hope she gets the help she deserves.

[@veronicavillasenor5215]

She's not even crying. She's so numb to his bs.

[@whosaidthat9265]

A support system is not required to have a backbone. She’s a doormat and needs to come to the realization that she can be by herself and ok with her kids. Her kids are not babies and he has done this before.

[@onebeatsongs9326]

@@whosaidthat9265 obviously a support system is not necessary but it helps when you know you have someone to fall back on.

[@toscadonna]

I’d divorce him and surrender my parental rights.😂 Enjoy, MFer.

[@natashamwangi4890]

it sounds to me like she thinks believing he's cheating means all the years she has spent making it work are in vain. 10 whole years only to be betrayed by her friend and her husband. I feel sad for her

[@kfercat]

My phone is available to my spouse 24/7. Being honest and having nothing to hide is a wonderful feeling.

[@picardy7488]

Yes, nothing beats a clear conscience when putting your head on the pillow at night. Also, knowing you're exclusive with that one person is such a sense of security

[@lonerebeI]

Believe it or not everyone doesn't think like you

[@sassafrasstree7449]

Leave. Divorce. Please .

[@cwalker6911]

His approach with her was so honest/frank and still remained so gentle. Great job with this call truly

[@caseychesh]

+1

[@susi09]

Who needs enemies with “friends” like her? 🤮 Run, Hannah!

[@haploid2k]

Caller isn’t innocent. She married a hot man other women want because of her inherent superficiality and now acts surprised he has options. I guarantee if she sought her husband in the computer lab instead of the nightclub or the football field, this wouldn’t be an issue. Oh no, I parked my Ferrari in a high-crime neighborhood with the keys in it and it got stolen, I’m such a victim!

[@2okaycola]

Yep. I know the feeling well. Your friends should never be friends w your man

[@therealsandraweise]

Who needs a husband with a husband like him? 🤢🤮

[@037deejay]

So true Rule #1: Don't share personal info about your marriage with friends or family. I learned the hard way too.

[@isay207]

WHY do these guys get married and have children the hurt and destruction they leave behind if you want to be a player STAY SINGLE😢

[@orneryoverwatch7031]

Takes two to tango.

[@lisalister8002]

Amen!

[@yogi2543]

The guy likes having a girl that loves them, but they also can't help trying to get with other women. I knew a few dudes like this in college. I don't know if they stopped doing this after getting married

[@sarahalderman3126]

Because they are male.

[@crystalglopez91623]

Because marriage doesn’t fix their undesciplined penis

[@steelearmstrong9616]

Infidelity should be treated as a very serious crime

[@alycewich4472]

ABSOLUTELY!

[@AmandaJ86]

I agree, also should count in a divorce. Some states are "no fault" and it doesn't matter if your spouse cheated.. it's not right.

[@mery8772]

😂

[@memecakes4436]

I understand your frustrations but don’t give the government any idea pls

[@carriefawcett9990]

It is on Muslim countries. Under Sharia law. Is that what you want? Sharia law? Because most Westerners whinge and whine that they would never want sharia law. You can't have your cake and eat it too.

[@Rhi86877]

Get rid of them both. Ain't nothing best friend out here. My circle is small and I like it like that.

[@MW-dh1ez]

Get a lawyer. Blindside him. Get the house, child support and alimony. Find your real friends and family that you have to help you.

[@kateruterbories2692]

I agree 100% except, in this particular case, about getting the house. Then she has to live next to her.

[@michellec3349]

Seriously and in the case of infidelity she’ll get more than him.

[@alycewich4472]

@@kateruterbories2692 My thought is that she can sell the house and get another one in another part of town or move to another city or state.

[@dking1362]

@@michellec3349 Not in today's world (speaking from experience.). Everything is split 50/50.

[@lynette599]

U

[@trexxy9628]

If you have to post rules on the fridge about not going over to other women’s houses at night… gurl, run.

[@emmajones8590]

I wonder what the neighbour's husband thinks about all of this?

[@nenenena09]

He's probably in on it.​@@emmajones8590

[@benascg-ll7sq]

Change the fridge

[@benascg-ll7sq]

​@@emmajones8590maybe the guy has no fridge

[@SweetPea92]

​@@emmajones8590 I wish he would have asked her if she said anything to the husband bc I GUARANTEE she didn't & he has no clue about it, & was upstairs sleeping with their child. 🤦🏻‍♀️😔

[@DaSoto21500]

“That’s called a regular affair, not an emotional affair”, you could hear the heartbreak in her voice after that💔

[@krissy1687]

I feel so bad for her. I can relate to not wanting to see what's in front of you. She's not crazy, he's trying to make her think she is.

[@picardy7488]

Been there - it's so crazymaking when uncovering years of lies

[@mdbtptblw]

If he had nothing to hide, showing her his phone would be a nonissue. Also, it doesn't take 2 hours to open a bottle of wine. Hannah, you don't deserve to be treated this way. Also, as Dr. John said, she's not your best friend. She doesn't respect you or your marriage. I hope you get away from both of them.

[@SuzyQ1129]

Opening a bottle of wine takes 2 mins, not 2 hours.

[@kiki11974]

Yeah the excuse was pitiful at best. Should have come up with a better lie

[@bigfishysmallpond]

Where's her husband at, wake him up to open the wine.

[@ianreddick6066]

Cork screw = 2 minutes The “other” screw = 2 hours

[@lot2196]

I take two minutes. 😳

[@Dapryor]

It was real deep in there…

[@meganbailey6511]

Cheaters want an easy way out to destroy their family, then cry when they’re alone.

[@emmajones8590]

He might have thought he'd get away with it. It might also all have been going on a lot longer than she knew.

[@meganbailey6511]

@@emmajones8590 at the heart of it all, they want to destroy the family.

[@ianreddick6066]

Opening a bottle of wine ❌ Opening best friends legs ✅

[@ember13dp]

Cork screw ❌ Actual screw ✅

[@user-st6nt4ou6f]

Well said

[@tonyharris3306]

😂😂😂😂

[@amysue1616]

He said grenades were not going to help, guys 😂

[@037deejay]

To them both of those phases mean the same.

[@jh26pt2]

Not only are the husband and neighbor liars, they’re bad liars. “I needed him to uncork a bottle of wine”? Really?

[@jh26pt2]

Maybe “uncork a bottle of wine” can become a new euphemism for fooling around. Kind of like “hiking the Appalachian Trail” was back in the day.

[@alluringbliss4165]

For 2 hours

[@AN-dz7cq]

It's taken me dang near 2 hours once to open a bottle of wine, but I didn't have the corkscrew. So gotta call BS on this male.

[@purpprinncess]

Idk it feels like they admitted a lot with that statement 😂

[@ivankrushensky]

"I bet that cork went in and out of that bottle a few times"

[@Pink_Princessx69]

My heart absolutely breaks for you my girl. You are worth so much more.

[@standground7956]

Why, she already admitted that he cheated on her before. Him not cheating would be the surprise.

[@Lil-Whiskies]

She sounds like she doesn't have any self worth.

[@ljohnson4619]

Ma'am, love yourself. It's time to prioritize yourself. Leave him.

[@zeal4god402]

It's over, keep it moving lady Red flags: -Sneaking next door past midnight to your former best friend to open a wine bottle -Deleting text messages -Zero respect and lack of boundaries from him

[@BT-mc2yd]

Why is her husband texting her best friend literally at all? My best friends text me to ask my husband something and my husband would text me to ask them. Never in all of our years has he ever had one of my friend’s numbers and texted them. Nor would he even think it’s okay to go to their houses. He would think it’s weird. A faithful man would be like “what? Why? No”. Faithful men don’t put themselves in situations where anything can be twisted, ever. Neither would a faithful woman. I’m not texting his best friends either. This guy is sleeping with her best friend

[@azzieadare]

My best friends' husbands all have my number and I have all of theirs. I've had friends' husbands text me to ask me for gift advice, invite me to surprise parties, ask if I knew where one of them was when they weren't answering their phone, ask for my advice due to the work I do, all kinds of reasons and none of us have ever done anything even slightly inappropriate. There's absolutely nothing wrong with the closest person to you in your life having friendships with the other people who are close to you.

[@JustBree716]

​​@@azzieadareI agree with you. God forbid the spouse goes missing. I'm not married but I do have grown kids and I didn't have any of their friends numbers until it dawned on me. My adult daughter leaves for days on end. And I have a teenage son. I also have my brother in laws number. I only text him on Father's day. Lol. We don't live in the same state though. But even if we did I mean if he can't do something for me during business hours or the weekend then it ain't gone get done. But he wouldn't be trying to be secretive like ol boy. I remember an ex of mines who had a gang of female friends because he worked at a bank etc. etc. and he held a conversation for like 15 minutes with a female friend in front of me. They were cackling and everything. But the minute he has to leave the room or whisper, I know what's up. And I'll chuck the deuces. ✌️

[@jessd3601]

@@azzieadareyes but it is important to note those husbands are only reaching out to you in regards to their spouse, which is a mutual person in your life.

[@BT-mc2yd]

@@azzieadare I am not saying there is. I am saying it can VERY easily be abused. I’ve been with my husband since high school. We are now mid 30s and we have all of the same friends. I trust him implicitly as does he me, but he has even told me, I literally mentioned this to him just now after reading your comment and he said verbatim “I find it odd and weird that a man is late night texting his wife’s best friend and to boot she is going over there because she called him at midnight. I have nothing to talk to our women friends about at midnight. Absolutely nothing. That guy isn’t right and she knows it”. I wouldn’t have an issue if he texted my best friends, nor would he if I texted his, the point is we just don’t. We don’t even think to have a rolling conversation with each other’s friends. It has nothing to do with what you said, it’s that it isn’t even a thought to want to. Him wanting to is a waving red flag on a big red truck.

[@jbr2991]

Just last week I texted the husband of a girlfriend to ask if he knew an electrician (he’s lived here forever and knows everyone). I added his wife’s number onto the text and made it a group chat. That way everything is transparent.

[@cathyl7944]

She doesn’t sound “done.” She’s going to stick around and he’s going to do it again.

[@theurbanfarmlife7311]

Yep

[@mexican4721]

She needs to cheat back

[@cailanmurray4430]

@@mexican4721she to weak for that she put up with cheating way to long n been gaslighting by him.

[@davinasquirrel7672]

Cathy, you are judging someone mid-decision. She has been lied to and gaslit for so long, she just needed a second opinion (she cannot go to her now-former 'best friend' for that). As for the other comments on this thread "cheat back" - never lower yourself to scum level, rise above and show integrity. Such a dumb suggestion. As for "weak" - no, trusting (but trusting the wrong person in this case). Trust is a sign of good character, which is exploited by those with poor character.

[@flashthecorgi2053]

@@mexican4721That’s a TERRIBLE model to her 13 year old and 8 year old. 2 parent who cheat on each other, and have zero integrity. What a great suggestion… 🙄

[@CF-mi7xd]

She needs to talk to her "friend's husband and compare notes.

[@labambinax33]

Exactly this 💯

[@danastonerock]

Totally !

[@Jessica-J.ones.]

The husband next door wasn't putting babies to bed at midnight. He was in on the action.

[@danastonerock]

@@Jessica-J.ones. lol damn

[@jayramkhara6831]

Account of mine also got hacked and I followed the method as explained in this video but I'm unable to proceed after recording the selfie video. Thank you Dale Valskov . It brings me immense joy to witness his name appearing frequently in comments, a clear indication of the commendable work he’s been doing.

[@1740ryguy]

Wild “needed help with a cork screw for a bottle of wine.” 😂😂

[@mustangthings]

That’s a euphemism if I’ve ever heard one.

[@kyledodson2992]

Idk what you mean, my female friend needed help opening a jar of mayo just this morning at 1:30am

[@mustangthings]

@@kyledodson2992 Opening cans of sausage is always a challenge for her, too.

[@vaska1999]

​@@kyledodson2992😂

[@ivankrushensky]

Up soaking cork all night long.......

[@ithinkigottalent4047]

I'm single and I don't leave home at midnight 😮

[@user-ec3rm9wr1n]

😂😂

[@ms.herlan7860]

I know, right?!

[@alwaysglamorous8941]

Lol

[@lilithowl]

That's because you don't need to sneak around

[@lonerebeI]

Congrats?

[@user-eo9yh2vv5w]

Your work speaks volumes of the kind of man you are. efficient, organized and result oriented well done , Dale Valskov you're soo good at what you do

[@redcomic619]

It’s like he wasn’t even trying to hide it

[@amaragrace94]

Because she has shown him that no matter what he does, no matter how blatant, she can't pick herself up to follow through and leave. You have to love and respect yourself first.

[@alwaysglamorous8941]

@@amaragrace94💯

[@emmajones8590]

@@amaragrace94 Maybe it's his way of getting her to leave.

[@Dansyoung]

Once a cheater always a cheater. Never take back a cheater - male or female.

[@Dapryor]

That’s not always true. People can change and you’ve gotta be open to that.

[@Dansyoung]

@@Dapryor Sure they can, but I’ll never rely on it. Wish them the best of luck and move on. You will save yourself a lot of heartache, damage, stress and time wasted.

[@heatherchandler1184]

@@DapryorI came here to say that. I know a woman who married her side guy and they’ve got a great family. Things happen.

[@steelearmstrong9616]

@@Dapryor No, wrong. You sound like you have cheated

[@Dapryor]

@@steelearmstrong9616 on the contrary. I’ve been cheated on and the situation gave me some perspective. I’m not with her anymore but there were things I did that pushed her in that direction. There’s never an excuse for it but unless someone’s a sociopath, they’re cheating because some need isn’t being met. People make horrible mistakes everyday and it’s naive to assume they never change.

[@CiciC2410]

Hes already cheated ... and nows hes going after the most available person and lying about it.... disgusting. Im glad you had that camera. Take the kids and leave.... he isnt worth it. You deserve love and commitment and honesty. Hugs girlie!

[@onlyht]

woahhh the kids deserve a father... marriage is over but dont take the kids

[@HardNigga-tr4uy]

What do you mean take the kids ??!!! Lol. Women are crazy. Take the kids. lol. He’s their FATHER. He’s not abusing them. Most likely she’s not into having a sexual relationship with him anymore so he’s doing the super obvious thing to do. That’s what it usually is. Seen this a bazillion times. Boring.

[@alycewich4472]

@@onlyht Would you be willing to leave your children with the spouse who cheated TWICE on you? I wouldn't. If said spouse had lied to me about 2 affairs and was doing so with my BEST FRIEND. I wouldn't trust that person with anything I held dear. May I ask why you deem the kids needing a father and not the mother? If he's been gaslighting her over 2 affairs, what makes you think he wouldn't gaslight his kids, wait until they're asleep and go find another woman to sleep with? In my book, the mom is a much better parent than the dad. That doesn't mean he cannot have partial custody or maybe just visiting rights. But he's already proven that he's more interested in himself than any one else.

[@daisy9910]

@@onlyht a father which models how to be disrespectful is not someone I'd want around my children. It's called the consequences of your actions.

[@onlyht]

@@alycewich4472 this is why we need laws to protect fatherhood.. women think they can just take the kids because he cheated.. insane

[@sanaii9393]

My ex's affair partner came to our home and physically fought me! My ex never stopped seeing her after that...they never change. SAVE YOURSELF!

[@lilithowl]

Oh my word

[@KaranQwer-pn7uw]

Honestly, Dale Valskov I'm amazed by your consistent ability to deliver exceptional work every single time. Your willingness to lend a helping hand during my time of need is deeply appreciated. Thank you for your support and kindness.. I take pride in your capability to overcome any challenge and consistently achieve outstanding results regardless of the circumstances.

[@theendgamers2489]

It just kept glitching on me when I tried this video tutorial so firstly I would say thank you for the video and secondly, thank you Dale Valskov meeting you was a blessing in disguise keep up with the good work I'm sure a lot of people will be needing your assistance iin the nearest future after seeing this

[@moaraa2575]

Leaving a marriage for any reason, even decades like me, is very hard. Let me tell you, though, the other side is tranquil. Even if I never date or marry again I have my peace and happiness.

[@alycewich4472]

💯 Cannot agree more.

[@moaraa2575]

@@alycewich4472 or some type of resemblance of it. It’s so much better, though.

[@matinaki1644]

Of course it is. Hell, sometimes even ending a friendship is hard, let alone a marriage. But some people are just bad (for you) sometimes.

[@216trixie]

My self esteem Would never allow me to stay with someone that cheated on me At all once.

[@Lulusnotreadyforthis]

You might feel differently if you're married with kids. I don't understand this woman's circumstances myself but I do know if I were to leave my husband it would implode my kids' lives. It's a terribly difficult decision she has to make.

[@Carla-hl3fm]

I’m sorry, Hannah. 😔 I wouldn’t want to believe it, either.

[@onebeatsongs9326]

If your partner male/female ever has an affair you leave immediately.

[@texasrodeogirl3814]

Absolutely!! Once a cheat, always a cheat. I could never live with someone I can’t trust.

[@jasonrodgers9063]

100%! Infidelity is an absolute permanent deal breaker.

[@lynnehansen1721]

I believe your move should be to kick him out. Do NOT leave your home. Immediately get legal advice.

[@ClaireGreen-wd2gm]

The thing is if their are kid involved not only do you lose the husband to the "friend" but have to share your kids too.

[@TLynch-pf3ek]

@@ClaireGreen-wd2gm Exactly. The most painful part.

[@carolemg]

I know that being alone with your children can be frightening. I've been there. I was a stay-at-home mum with 3 children, 2 of whom were disabled. But But you'll get through these difficult times because you worth it. I'm French (and my english can seem weird) and fortunately in my country we have a lot of help for single or isolated mothers. Don't stay alone and don't hesitate or be ashamed to ask those around you for help. All my thoughts are with you. It's not an easy road, but you'll come out of it much stronger. Love from France

[@sreedhervasanthi3903]

Congratulations, Dale Valskov I am relieved that you are out there fighting these thugs, We musttake every precaution to protect the elderly and the general public from these despicable con artists. Congratulations to You!! You deserve the Nobel Peace Prize for ensuring our security.

[@sharmainekuilan9808]

Are the neighbors swingers? 😳if her hubby was there and he is hiding his phone, then that’s a red flag!

[@natashaj9169]

😮 ooooooohhhhh good point

[@ivankrushensky]

Either that, or I can guarantee the neighbor's husband doesn't know the other one was over. She should bring it up right in front of them and see what happens.

[@Denbrr]

Plot twist.

[@ArmorofValor]

Not just a red flag, it is confirmation by omission. Somebody innocent would be EAGER to show their phone, clear their name and comfort their spouse's pain.

[@Cyd1057]

I though the same thing - maybe the couple next door doesn't think three's a crowd...

[@flashthecorgi2053]

That has to be one of the WORST lies I have ever heard for being gone for TWO hours in the middle of the night. Hannah, I’m really sorry. You are worth so much more than this. Wishing you and your babies peace as you move forward. Know you have an army behind you supporting you through this journey. ❤️

[@thomaspugh9969]

My ex wife told me the naked pictures she was sending and receiving from her affair partner was just how her and her friend joke around with each other lol.

[@PHADIGAMER047]

The efficiency of this Dale Valskov is next level. To juggle walk throughs of various angles on the topic delivered to-camera, differnet content per topic from various folks underneath the umbrella of the track list of the larger big band concert itself is engaging and refined. To make a dense taccess like this so digestible is really something. Awesome work jack!!

[@SindhavAjay-dx5nf]

As a person and professional you couldn't get any better than Dale Valskov is a very reliable person and an excellent professional in the IT field. He is the type of person you want to work that's passionate, hardworking and knowledgeable. You’re The Best 100%

[@michellec3349]

A spouse who cheated and was taken back should absolutely not be disappearing at midnight! It doesn’t even matter if something happened between them or not that’s inappropriate.

[@AtomicValery]

This happened to me and the best advice is walk away. No one who love you will emotionally harm you. That is not the love of your life.

[@PradeepSabar-hy2yi]

Dale Valskov . I really appreciate your efforts and dedication towards the work. May God bless you to keep showing your worth and skills like this in the future

[@wonderingsoul8021]

Not a friend, let alone best friend. Her husband needs to know too. She needs to build the courage to leave. Think of what's best for herself and children. Nobody deserves to be cheated on.

[@GooniesGirl]

I think he will end up walking out on her before she leaves.

[@yvonnesimpson4584]

Tell her husband for sure.

[@DavidPavlovich2]

I’m sure he knows wouldn’t surprise me if they were swingers

[@landonlowe4029]

@@DavidPavlovich2 😂😂

[@BT-mc2yd]

That’s the first thing I would do

[@lynnehansen1721]

My belief is that you need to guard and protect your heart. Take care of yourself and your children. Please get legal advice and do NOT get involved or even speak to your neighbor or anyone except professional and take legal action immediately.

[@moaraa2575]

@@lynnehansen1721so true. The neighbor is just as a bigger liar than her husband.

[@lynncornelius3733]

So sad. He is lying and then gaslighting you. It’s just cruel. I’m so so sorry too

[@Nah-ah]

The only mistake she made was take him back! NEVER take a cheater back. Period! 🚩 🚩 🚩

[@StAr-sp4cm]

True

[@ZendelAtkinson]

The notion of a perfect marriage or relationship is a fallacy; every relationship is unique. What works for Adam may not necessarily work for Peter. Nevertheless, I've discovered that there's always a solution to every problem. Five years ago, my wife and I were on the verge of divorce due to challenges in our marriage, but we were able to mend our relationship. It was a tough time, but we survived.

[@SERIKAmrabat]

The significance of your words is not lost on me, and I genuinely hope my feelings resonate with yours. Despite our current physical distance, I cannot conceive of my life without her; my love for her is deep-rooted. I yearn for her return, and I'm committed to doing whatever it takes to make it happen. We've explored different paths, including therapy, in our journey toward reconciliation

[@ZendelAtkinson]

Learning to let someone you love go is always a tough journey, but in my case, I had the wisdom of a spiritual mentor who kept my marriage from crumbling. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters

[@SERIKAmrabat]

I appreciate this guidance. I'll quickly search for her online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that this approach will also bring me the results I desire; I miss her dearly

[@bettysmith4527]

He is a repeat cheater, I don't know that a marriage could get past that, there will never be trust again!

[@NRQ-zv5bp]

You constantly write this on these videos

[@tech4uro]

I get it, been married going on 25 years, my wife has all of my log ons and passwords, even to my phone. But boundaries are firm, I can't hang out with women I am not married to. I had a work friend that moved away and wanted to touch base hadn't seen her in a while. I got a text about catching up and we decided to meet in the middle about an hour and a half away, I asked my wife and she said absolutely not. That was that end of story, her reaction was reasonable, she wasn't comfortable and boundaries said if she isn't on board it ain't happening. Never going to disrespect the misses, but if my wife asks for my phone I could never imagine not giving it to her- I mean she stayed home and raised our 3 children so yes, she has access to all my social media and phone and vice versa. Your married their is no separation of property, my wife would never tolerate that and she is the nicest person in the world but on the other hand my daughters would never tolerate that behavior toward mom either. She deserves better.

[@haphapp7282]

Sounds like you have a high standard of mutual respect in your relationship, kudos

[@simplygina7703]

Sounds like you have a wonderful wife, and you’re a great husband. God bless your marriage!

[@reneeantwi-boasiako3974]

@tech4uro God bless you, sir. You are an example

[@lilithowl]

Your wife is too controlling

[@tech4uro]

@@lilithowl no, people cheat- no one respects marriage anymore- so as a married couple u are committed to respect each other, besides I like being married and happy- don’t see a lot of that in the environment we live in anymore

[@TLynch-pf3ek]

To the caller- I am so very sorry. I am going through something similar, and it is so hard and painful. I wish you the best. Please take care of YOU and your children ❤️

[@sandrasimplytoday7772]

Hanna babe, my heart goes out to you. Please don’t allow him to gaslight you and take you for granted. I would have to invite the “best friend” and her husband over for dinner and confront both her and my husband. You deserve better and so do your kids. I’m praying for you and the kids.

[@arthurshat7793]

That’s an actual affair.

[@fionasmom6254]

She needed help with a cork screw, minus the cork part.

[@user-qj9kn2lm5i]

It's amazing what you do Dale Valskov We need a lot of people with your skills and set who have good intentions and spread love

[@okayyeah9745]

Wake up lady! You deserve so much better.

[@TheGeekMonster]

This poor, poor woman. And her poor children. What a terrible, horrible, destructive mess that they do not deserve. Get the kids and get out. Grieve, heal, and rebuild.

[@Dmarie444]

Sadly he has been gaslighting her for so long that she has learned how to gaslight herself. I hope you get the peace and healing you deserve Hannah. You deserve so much more. Wishing you well.💜

[@charleswebb4996]

Maya Angelou once famously said: "When someone shows who they really are, believe them". Your choice in this matter seems clear to me, and I think to you as well.....the biggest obstacle for some of us, is the will. You are worth much more than that.....LEAN FORWARD!! Hoping for the best....

[@DawnKellyPhotography]

"... believe them the first time." Even better.

[@meesh1002]

The guy is not even trying to hide it. He wants you to leave girl

[@dominoplay3712]

Exactly. And sometimes women are so stubborn and staying even when literally that man child is showing you to f**off

[@cheryl_Anne_02]

You are strong enough to do this! I walked away from a narcissist with a yr old son. I knew me and my son deserved better! My thought process everyday was “what is the next best thing to do for us” . Take it one day at a time. The freedom is amazing ❤

[@memecakes4436]

God bless you, you lost a friend and a husband that’s tough to accept.

[@littlemissprickles]

You don't need to see the dirty details in this case, just take action.

[@PinkieJoJo]

Except sometimes it can help in divorce cases to have the dirty details.

[@DatBoyNarge]

I feel her pain. Been in a relationship for 7yrs and she outright tells me that she went home with someone because of "spite" and see if she was still desirable. It's world shattering and it's easier to say do this or do that. It's not that simple when your whole world gets flipped and bombed. You're not alone ❤

[@matinaki1644]

You know what you can handle. People offer advice based on their perceptions and experiences. You can judge better since you actually have spent time with the person. Some people can and maybe should be forgiven if they show true remorse, others don't.

[@NRQ-zv5bp]

I'm so sorry. Run from her ASAP if you feel your self esteem dropping

[@elen8158]

I know exactly what that feeling is. Staying in denial, feeling uncomfortable to ask your "friend" about what's really going on, feeling embarrassed to ask to look at the messages. Don't be in denial. It will destroy you

[@shannonbeyers9765]

Best of luck Hannah. A majority of us in life have been in that exact spot of betrayal then not. You'll make it because of your children. It hurts much less leaving than the hurt of irreversible pain and damage to your self respect by staying.

[@lottielane2486]

I'm sure that a part of Hannah is relieved. Relieved she isn't going nuts. Relieved she ,,KNEW, in her heart. Relieved no ,ore guessing. Relieved no more gaslighting. She can at least begin to think of the future.

[@standground7956]

She admitted at 2:14 that he’s cheated on her before so that conversation would have no credibility. He didn’t suffer any consequences of cheating the first time so it’s meaningless. In fact, him being faithful and not cheating should be the surprise given his history. That’s why you always leave a cheater the first time. Never give someone the opportunity to let you know they prefer someone else twice.

[@countcoupblessings979]

The gas lit mind is really hard place to be... YOU'RE NOT CRAZY !! Be wel, l be strong , get free from the gaslighting, YOUR KIDS don't need that either . 🙏

[@alycewich4472]

💯

[@dking1362]

I lived this. Can't tell you how very, very much I wanted him to choose our marriage, how I wanted him to be honest, how I chose to overlook continued red flags and lies. The following years were brutal - not going to lie. Oh, sweet lady, I know your pain. May God be real and present, and may you learn what I did: When all I have left is God, He is enough.

[@sandyelliott3350]

My ex promised he'd never see his ex again, he never quit seeing her during our dating and marriage.

[@Astro95Media]

I went through this. My ex displayed all the same behavior and deceit. I was proven correct about all my suspicions. RUN, girl.

[@reneeantwi-boasiako3974]

I'm so sorry 🙏🏿 ❤

[@terriallen4107]

I’m so sorry, Hannah. I went thru it. Different stories, but the same thing, it was right in front of me, I just didn’t want to believe it. Plus my kids were young too, didn’t want them to grow up without both parents in the house. I finally filed for divorce. Single now, so much happier! You can do it too! It’s hell to go thru, but worth it in the end to have your dignity. Best of luck to you! 🙏🏻

[@alycewich4472]

👍💪

[@user-ei8wi1kr9n]

I feel bad she has to deal with that. Sneaky and disrespectful behavior from both parties.

[@maryannenizio5074]

Tell her she can HAVE HIM

[@user-ec3rm9wr1n]

He wasn't a man enough for me 💃💃💃 it's a song by the way

[@lynnehansen1721]

Don't even speak to her. Ever.

[@user-ec3rm9wr1n]

@@lynnehansen1721 don't even look to the window ever ,,😂😂😂

[@pand9765]

You handled this case/talk with her in such a good manner Dr Delony!

[@amyashlyn2999]

I had a horrible first marriage! Lots of emotional and physical abuse. A friend had a couple of people over one night so I went. Someone asked me something. The question had to do with my marriage. As I started to answer the question I heard myself, and what I was saying was totally insane. I started laughing. And I could feel this absolute belly busting feeling comin’ on. Ya know that feeling that your laugh is going to take you to that place where you’re laughing so hard (tears rolling down your face) it’s almost a high! I looked around at the people listening to me and they got this really strange look on their faces. I think they thought I was “loosing it”! So I shut down the laugh and carried on as normal as possible and left at a time that would not be awkward. Sometimes if we just listen to ourselves the truth becomes obvious! We divorced, I stayed single for 2 years. Then I met the man of my dreams. We dated 6 1/2 years and have now been married for 11! There is light at the end of the tunnel!

[@Lil-Whiskies]

Yes. She needs to watch this episode and listen to herself trying to ignore reality. It's hard to leave a marriage, but being married to this kind of person is harder, if you ask me.

[@DobroFan100]

I am so sorry you have to deal with this awful situation. I've been in a similar place. You are in my thoughts and prayers. You deserve better.

[@TheNewMailLady]

I don’t care what anybody else says. I feel genuinely horrible for this woman. I just can’t even imagine going through this with my husband before he passed away. It would have torn me apart.

[@reneeantwi-boasiako3974]

I'm so sorry 🙏🏿 ❤

[@TheNewMailLady]

@@reneeantwi-boasiako3974 thank you, I really appreciate that!

[@user-rr4or1xh2g]

We ALWAYS get suspicious of our single friends. It's the married friends we have to look out for. When my ex husband cheated it was with a married woman. His ex girlfriend actually but he "FORGOT" to mention this friend was his ex...😡

[@reneeantwi-boasiako3974]

I'm so sorry 🙏🏿 ❤

[@janetmorecraft2206]

Hannah, I’m so with you you deserve better. Your children deserve better. There is a future for you. Be strong. You have our love and support.

[@ConstantlyRepeatingMyself]

She needs to talk to her neighbor’s husband to discuss the situation.

[@tomnohmy1273]

Dr J is heading towards a million subscribers. Awesome. Going to have multiple million eventually.

[@alluringbliss4165]

She needs to be calculating for the next meetings that will occur and just collect evidence while keeping her cool.

[@haphapp7282]

Yep. She should write down a list of every red flag and concern so she can’t be gaslit when he denies, says she’s making irrational assumptions, or exaggerating his behavior.