'Is There Any Other Way To Explain Why You Would Be Such A Jerk?' Dr. Phil Asks Guest

[@dw322]

Dr phil shouldn’t tell him he’s a burden 😕

[@Burlykim13]

But that’s not what he said. He said that’s what he is feeling.

[@jamessparks5966]

You don't listen very well.

[@Burlykim13]

@JN Productions ummmm so does every therapist, psychologist, addiction specialist, social worker, etc. I mean, except for the fact that they don’t help nearly as many, nor provide them with the best care money can buy at their own expense. So what’s your point?

[@ryokohonda4619]

@@Burlykim13 yeah and Dr Phil said it is a fact. Means he indirectly said he is a burden

[@he-mememan359]

@@ryokohonda4619 He is a burden, the care that she is required to give him and the way he mistreats her in return. If he could he would choose not to have to deal with what he's going through, she has a choice, not an obligation.

[@BoarAlys]

This is by far one of the worst episodes of Dr. Phil. You don't just call someone a burden, especially in that scenario, having to live that life and having no say in it.

[@Burlykim13]

NOT at all what he said. He said this is what you feel like? Did I get how you’re feeling? People seriously don’t listen at all

[@ryokohonda4619]

@@Burlykim13 because he said it was also a fact

[@dustinweaver5040]

@@ryokohonda4619 false. He said essentially “I feel like you feel like you’re a burden and you hate being that.” The guy literally says Dr. Phil is right and gets it. People do not listen.

[@he-mememan359]

Your feelings are irrelevant, just because he can't help it and has to live with it doesn't mean anyone else has to live with it and the way he behaves. If he could walk away from the issues he would, she can and hasn't, mistreating her is a horrendously selfish way to respond and no his feelings and condition don't justify it.

[@jillianetuk5189]

@@he-mememan359 well your not in his situation

[@samsanford8328]

People don’t understand what Dr Phil meant by saying “burden” he’s saying that from this guys perspective not his own as In how he feels. He’s not actually saying he’s a burden he’s just describing how he feels

[@acuerdo3]

Yes, and he was very clear about that. 😊

[@Burlykim13]

So irritating to see how many clueless people there really are.

[@ryokohonda4619]

Because he said it was a fact meaning he idiredtly called him a burden

[@sully9836]

Lol its crazy how many people can watch the same video and get a different meaning from it its crazy I was shocked how people was bashing Phil when he said nothing wrong

[@mrsm147]

The pain in his face

[@deenawomack4661]

Nice Dr. Phil, I am sure the guy already knows he a burden, I can't imagine what its like. Sounds like he needs some therapy to help with his feelings and how to express them. Instead, you just made him feel even worse. This is a very broken man, you can see it in his face. I get that it doesn't condone is actions, but I seriously think teaching him how to communicate, how to accept his disabilty and how to accept his fate. I am not a therapist, but surely there is a better word than burden.

[@jamessparks5966]

He didn't call him a burden, he said the man feels like he's a burden to the world. You should listen a little closer next time.

[@Burlykim13]

Have another listen and try that again

[@ryokohonda4619]

@@jamessparks5966 Dr Phil said he feels like a burden and said it is a fact. He inderictly said he is a burden.

[@jamessparks5966]

@@ryokohonda4619, the man does feel like he's a burden. People need to actually listen to what is said, instead of getting all emotional and bent out of shape over misunderstanding what was said. It is a fact the man feels like he's a burden. In all actuality he is a burden. She may not mind the burden being put on her, but it certainly is a burden to have to take care of a grown man at that level. Get out of your feelings and admit the truth.

[@ryokohonda4619]

@@jamessparks5966 he admits it but common, we're not suppose to rub it on his face

[@gregorypowell8909]

I really like him..hes a good dude...I understand where hes coming from..

[@judethaddeus9856]

How do you know if he’s a « good dude »?

[@judethaddeus9856]

Dr. Phil has the audacity to call anyone else a jerk???

[@drakenpage777]

No cap.

[@BrainError]

I feel bad for the guy though. I know his behaviour isn't healthy, but I get it. Being chronically ill myself I always have felt like a burden to everyone in my life. It's hard not to feel that way and I've spent years being angry (mostly at myself). It's so tough to overcome. I hope they're both happier now.

[@chickenlurkinyungchihuahua]

I feel sorry for him. I hope he’s doing fine 😢

[@Honeymoon1988]

He’s so handsome and also I couldn’t even understand how he feels every day but she’s a good woman to him and he deserves that.

[@Awesomewoman-j6f]

Dr Phil was way too harsh here, he publicly humiliated the guy and that woman needs to find somebody else, she knew what she signed up for.

[@Shottas4Twenty]

She signed up to be abused? That’s ridiculous.

[@sonias9722]

it's appalling of her to say that he is at three. First of all - no one asked her. Secondly, she doesn't know what it's like.

[@allisonvakarian1714]

0:15 he says he is a 3, she says 0, wdym

[@SolitaryGoose66]

Aw he’s so handsome I wish him peace with his life

[@alaskaismyhome39]

Don’t like the way Dr. Phil handled this. You can have empathy and sympathy. The guy is going through something that most people - including Dr. Phil DON’T understand, because they only have clinical knowledge, not first hand experience. It would be impossible for Dr. Phil to truly know what it’s like without living it. This guy isn’t a jerk, he’s suffering. All creatures lash out when they’re in pain or they’re distressed, I would have thought a psychologist would have handled the issues with more tact and gentleness. Save the “tough love” act for entitled Californian teenagers, give real, kind therapy to people like this who NEED and deserve it.

[@Shottas4Twenty]

You can still hurt those you love when you’re hurting yourself. No one is discounting this mans pain. It still does not give him a right to cause pain to those around him who are trying to help him.

[@aryoseno11]

Calling someone a jerk when you put fake doctor title in your show.. now thats a real jerk

[@DR-om9ce]

Why is he paralyzed

[@Atx.lee.23]

“Why he would be such a jerk????” Cause he was paralyzed, he is going through the motion, he needs reassurance that ppl aren’t giving him. He doesn’t want pity he wants to be independent and he wants that support w out ppl like his girlfriend telling him what’s wrong with him. He already knows!! Wtf is this

[@levidecalmer]

Agreee with you 1000%

[@m0thb0n3z]

This show is doing no good for anyone

[@nlewis-oe3jj]

I really don’t like his approach with this guy if anybody came off like a jerk during this was Dr.Phil. That guys face hurt my heart

[@rainyang224]

I hope he is doing good now. He seems like a good guy going through a hard time.

[@TSKseattle]

"squirmy and Grubs", Hannah and Shane, were asked to be on this episode until they found out that Phil was just going to make the case that the disability makes him useless, and hold them up as shining examples. Dr Phil is the jerk - he has a negative agenda and he wants to put people down

[@magyarbluey8406]

Squirmy and grubs are fake scumbags

[@dustinweaver5040]

@@magyarbluey8406 bingo.

[@dustinweaver5040]

They also said not to watch clips of this episode because they didn’t want to give Dr. Phil “views” but in reality it’s because they spun Dr. Phil’s words, left things out, and spewed their own narrative in order to appear as some moral highlight and make Dr. Phil look bad. Those two were totally taking advantage of this couples real struggle in order to make themselves look and feel better. Their clip was truly disgusting to watch and I hadn’t even seen these clips yet. It was just obvious how wrong they were.

[@harriffanconshertini8804]

@@dustinweaver5040 Geez, some people go miles to defend Dr Phil...

[@GroudFrank]

Yo! It amazes me that so many people in the comments section could be so THICK. Dr. Phil wasn't calling him a burden. He was explaining to the guy how he feels about himself i.e. saying he feels like a burden to everyone around him, not that he IS actually a burden. Jesus Christ!

[@katrinahull1879]

I feel very bad for this man, I don't even know him but I wish I could be there for him.

[@BrookieMonster90]

I can't believe he validated that he's a burden. How dare you, Dr. Phil?!?! I love this show and for the first time ever, I am appalled and disgusted by this! The prejudice in this episode, Id be shocked if he didn't go home and commit suicide. Your job is to heal people AND build a human being up. You just validated that he's a burden, because he's disables...WHAT?!?! This man cannot control the hand that is dealt to him. If a woman wants to be in a committed relationship with him then yes, she is going to be his support. Through sickness and in health. If she's got an issue with it, then she shouldn't be with him. How dare she break him down and make him feel worse?! He needs to see a therapist to get to the core of his mental health, before addressing his actions. You literally sat there and chastised him. You call yourself a psychologist. For shame!!! This man lives his life with zero say in what goes on. He needs a healthy support system. You made it a thousand times worse. He's a grown man. He is not a dog. He shouldn't be conditioned to submit to this woman and go with the flow. His feelings, thoughts and opinions matter. He should have a voice. No, his behavior isn't okay, but if he had the proper therapy and support system then this wouldn't be an issue in the first place!

[@donnastephan8828]

He can't help it. Poor guy

[@thefilipinojoe]

Incompatible people don't belong in relationships with each other. That should have been Dr. Phil's advice. This kind of couple definitely should break up at the first signs of incompatibility and find someone more compatible. It takes a very special, gifted, caring, and selfless person to be able to fill the shoes of a caregiver. That is what Dr. Phil should have said, but he obviously is blind to this reality, as so many are. Many people cannot be a good caregiver and should never try. As many who do try and are horrible at it actually put some people in danger. I've seen it all and it can be a nightmare. It's okay for people not to be able to be a good caregiver, to know that about themself, and never take on that role. Ever. What is not okay is for someone to not be good at it, or actually be horrible at it, and do it anyways. Unfortunately, that happens a lot, which is nothing short of abusing the person they are supposed to be caring for. To me, it seems this man is reacting to abusive caregiving. I've known lots of bad caregivers. Even some dangerously bad that put people's lives in mortal danger. This young lady should never be a caregiver. She doesn't have the personality or ability. I would have fired and replaced her, girlfriend or not. The other video with all of the thumbs down they turned off the comments on.. OMG. Dr. Phil referred to a caregiver role as a taskmaster. Caregiving is not like that, unless you're not meant to be a caregiver. Key word.. CARE.. as in love. Sure, it's a job, but out of love, not a chore. It's not easy being there for someone 24/7. It is harder than just picking up a shift here and there. It's not a job for everyone, especially anyone who refers to it as the taskmaster.

[@JadedGLORY2689]

My Great Aunt took care of my uncle, who was shot and left paralyzed from the neck down, for over 40+ years. I can respect that this woman has given this man so much effort because my uncle's wife at that time, surely didn't. Got to count your blessings.

[@cindyarnold7860]

Dr. Phil is giving language to what this man feels about who he is. (That he feels he is a burden) This is powerful. D. Phil is not saying he is a burden, but that he feels he is a burden. From there this couple can grow.

[@marthagarcia7612]

Woman your the able bodied person here with 100 percent freedoms and by your attitude you seem frustrated bothered maybe even tired of your husband's condition treating him like your tired of him and he is a burden Either you love him unconditionally and love him for better or worse treat him kindly and treat him like a real man a whole man so he can love you and he can smile again YOUR attitude is how he will respond Either he will excel or he will fail He needs you He needs you to be strong so he can be strong and find hope despite all the obstacles He seems pretty sad maybe cause he feels hopeless and that he is a burden to you maybe probably you make him feel like that When you love somebody you do whatever it takes to make them happy I truly believe there has to be more work and effort on your part I wish you both the best❤️

[@Butterfly22593]

She's doing everything she can to take care of him. No matter how much you love someone being in this situation will weigh on you. I was a care taker for my fiance for 3 years after he got sick and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. She needs support because her health and wellbeing are just as important as his

[@Classicalliberal85]

Phil really has no filter.

[@RelaxxationStation]

AND scratching his head😂 okay

[@pippadot679]

Shame on Dr Phil. Go back and renew your medical license. You are hurting these people. It’s completely insane that you called him a burden and spoke the way you did to him. No wonder Hannah and Shane refused to come on your show!

[@itl5196]

FACTS!!!!

[@dustinweaver5040]

He didn’t call him a burden. You don’t listen carefully enough.

[@thefrase7884]

Actually he doesn’t have a medical license

[@pippadot679]

@@thefrase7884 You know what? Thank you for reminding me of that. I totally knew that and let it slip from memory. I guess because that's all we hear is Dr Phil! Your right the guy is not a doctor.

[@felifp5332]

Who would like this video? Then Phil says HIS CLIENT is empathetic!

[@FlipMacz]

He is such a handsome guy! Hope that couple is doing okay 🌿

[@jamessparks5966]

I'd rather be dead than live like that poor man does.

[@mmedeuxchevaux]

you'd rather be dead than be disabled?

[@jamessparks5966]

@@mmedeuxchevaux, most definitely if I was disabled like that man.

[@mmedeuxchevaux]

@@jamessparks5966 that's a slap in the face to others with disabilities like his who very much appreciate being alive. you should expand your view on what makes a life meaningful.

[@jamessparks5966]

@@mmedeuxchevaux, no it's not. It's an opinion I have about my own life. I don't judge anyone else for the decision they make... so maybe you could do the same?

[@mmedeuxchevaux]

@@jamessparks5966 Just consider that a lot of people viewing this video ARE severely disabled. Consider how they would feel reading what you wrote.

[@fotgreckless]

dr phil needs to see a psychologist big time, born with no common sense

[@darkyuji1214]

woah he isn´t neutral he is only taking the girls side, its pisses me of how dr.phill talks to people, 1 is human? and the other 1 is not? thats not how it works people

[@almunumm9069]

I totally agree, and I Am glad someone finally has addressed that.

[@roychetry8679]

I'm rotting for this guy

[@zeldacoach2528]

Mate, you’re no burden. You’re disabled, and PWD aren’t a burden to anyone or to society.

[@LeeSweetrose]

this man is so handsome, he is lovely.

[@amaramurra3282]

Will never support nor watch Dr.Phil ever again. Absolutely DISGUSTING

[@biwheelz2885]

Has the full episode been posted I’m trying to look for it

[@shadrach6299]

He’s crying. They would all be better off if he was in a nursing home.

[@skilifavas4016]

People dumb not to understand Dr. Phil says he understands his ego and why his ego gets low even if it's taboo to talk about it. The fact that it's in TV is clear that it is voluntary since no1 forces them on the show.

[@addie-eileenpaige6460]

Dr Phil's advice is BS. In another clip, he says that being in love & being a caregiver should be mutually exclusive. A professor in college had a disabled husband, who unfortunately passed away. She took care of him. They may have had people come by to help because she worked, but when she was home, she took care of him. Love isn't always easy or convenient, it's work. I think they need help, not because of his disability, but the fact they're abusive to each other.

[@TastemyAtrocity]

I hate how all these comments are dissing Dr. P’s method here. If you see the communication that is actually happening, he connected with a man who desperately needed to be understood. And yes, I agree that the girlfriends comments were intrusive and superfluous. However, notice Dr. P’s body language in this segment. He is totally pointed at the man and not even turning his whole head toward the girl. Very professional. He was there to help this man pick himself up from the gutter. Well done 👏 I hope this guy is unapologetically living his best self nowadays 😎

[@coreymundo1]

dr Phil feels no empathy for this guy! how he talks to him is so demeaning and rude! he could careless about this guys feelings.. he's such an a**

[@judyivie4181]

God man your brutal

[@thomasmorrison8739]

Dr.Phil is the jerk.