Is This Behavior Toxic Femininity Against Other Women?

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Lex Morningstar

Lex Morningstar

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@ScarletCampbell-wy7cs
@ScarletCampbell-wy7cs 8 ай бұрын
Hello everyone! It’s me, scarlet aka her daughter and no I’m not lying lol but I thought I wanted to share my story so basically on my first day at my new school I had this friend and the teacher wanted her to show me around. So then she said to me at recess: “sorry my best friend is back from holiday so I will play with you tomorrow” I was fine with it and waited until the next day. Anyways the next day she said the same thing again “I will play with you tomorrow” So eventually we just stopped chatting. Then I became friends with her bestie that got back from holiday. Her name was Jade. Me and Jade are close friends but there’s one problem.. everyone gives her all the attention. We have this friend called may and may always wants to be with her. I have been going through this a lot of times and I have told Jade and may but nothing works, unfortunately. Anyways thanks for listening! Also, mum you better reply lol
@J.CubbinMusic
@J.CubbinMusic 8 ай бұрын
It's OK Derek I'll reply x
@NeoNine10
@NeoNine10 8 ай бұрын
I was going to say.. 😅 Almost thought this was a message from a spam bot aha, but then realized who it must be. Earned a sub anyway 😁
@ScarletCampbell-wy7cs
@ScarletCampbell-wy7cs 8 ай бұрын
@@NeoNine10 Ty lol
@ScarletCampbell-wy7cs
@ScarletCampbell-wy7cs 8 ай бұрын
@@J.CubbinMusic TY
@ruthyanosko5635
@ruthyanosko5635 8 ай бұрын
Thanks for opening up this topic. I experience a lot of bullying on a daily basis from women. The thing that I try to do is have my own interests and life. It seems that it's quite evil and I do better when I don't engage xo as to not make things worse. After all why should I engage with someone who means to harm me?
@jemstar3388
@jemstar3388 8 ай бұрын
Was bullied severely by others girls in school, at the time I was unaware of my autism and they could pick up i was different before I did, they used the r word and they would mock all my interests and mock my drawings, they knew what emotionally hurt me and to this day i struggle with connecting with other women.
@Lexmorningstarnz
@Lexmorningstarnz 3 ай бұрын
I’m so sorry they bullied you. Especially because you may present differently due to your autism. You’re seen here ❤
@izkabelka9231
@izkabelka9231 8 ай бұрын
Thank you for this video ❤ I’ve never seen this topic discussed before and it’s definitely a thing. I’d experience it especially as a kid. It felt like when I’m not one of the mean girls and don’t play their game, I’m an outsider. I was also bullied by girls when I was at the elementary school. I’ve mostly grown my confidence in my early twenties, I’ve lived in different countries and this has helped me to come out of the toxic environment. Luckily, since then I haven’t experienced it much. Maybe I just know who to avoid. Or I only let a few chosen people close :)
@NeoNine10
@NeoNine10 8 ай бұрын
Just talking about bullying in general. I just hate that we assume too much and judge too quickly. If a guy is speaking at length to a girl they know, it comes across like they’re wanting something more, then that doesn't mean another guy should assume they’re trying to date them. So they put them down for this faulty expectation. When it comes to how women do it, it's typically been the quick generalization of “oh well he’s a guy, therefore X will automatically become Y.” Both these experiences and expectations mean that just because you’ve seen these negative behaviours before, that doesn't mean that someone doing something that comes across similar to the bad thing is actually doing that thing. In the world of logical fallacies, there can be a few related terms to describe these problems. Strawman being one of the more sly common ones of these. That when a topic is changed to suit the attacker making them look superior by making the accused look guilty by making the original topic out to look like something it isn’t by virtue of using similarities. Sorry for the mouthful there lol, probably could have explained it better, but yeah.
@vj.joseph
@vj.joseph 7 ай бұрын
This is one of the main reasons behind many wars.
@Lexmorningstarnz
@Lexmorningstarnz 3 ай бұрын
I don’t doubt it haha
@skazzwag8
@skazzwag8 8 ай бұрын
The explanation of "they're just trying to keep up with men" tells so much. It means that no matter what wretched aspect of femininity is displayed, women still aren't responsible. You know things won't get better when someone refuses to take accountability.
@Lexmorningstarnz
@Lexmorningstarnz 3 ай бұрын
Exactly! We’re always equal in quality but we’re never the same!
@KxNOxUTA
@KxNOxUTA 8 ай бұрын
It's just yet another form of "effects of sexism". This applies in what are common reasons for bullying, what is used to attack others, as well as why it's not widely talked about. Aggression is normal human behaviour. And people are currently still often very poorly taught how to regulate. We get taught to suppress emotions instead of processing them. We're not taught "taking them out and putting them on the table in healthy ways". We often lack the most basic structures to do that. I agree that we are fully accountable and at the same time, sexism still plays a role in this. Which is not saying "men are responsible" lol. Many of the problems appear due to sexism being a thing and sexism affects both, men and women. Aka, if we didn't live in a patriarchy, then we'd not live in a society where many spaces are basically built to be harmful for human's psychology 😅 and it would be very common to know how to emotionally and mentally self-regulate. We'd also have way more resources invested into helping people, when they struggle with each other. This would also not be centered around "punishment" but actually helping both sides with their respective struggle. We'd have actually put physical and psychological crimes onto same levels in terms of taking them seriously and seeing equal follow through in their handling and prevention. Again though, you are right, no matter the situation, ppl stay accountable. In my opinion, that also includes us and how we, the surroundings, are responsible for the formation of bullies and their landing in positions of power, no matter their gender and which tactics they use. Women are people. Ofcourse there are female bullies and aggression. Only once we acknowledge that women are ppl, do we look at women as having a full spectrum of emotions. Including the negative ones and including the struggles with regulation. It's good to talk about it.
@EUidentity
@EUidentity 8 ай бұрын
Sexism goes both ways. Jokes like men are always wrong or need training shows a sense of superiority. When said often and collectively, even as a joke, it becomes an attitude and belief. It's like this with racism, if enough false claims are made, they'll become facts among the broader populous. I don't see women as particularly different other than biology and sexual attraction.. I've a female boss and am biologically attracted but I don't judge her any different to a man otherwise. I have had tyrannical bosses who are women but never did her being a woman cross my mind as a reason to be surprised by her bullying. Women can be very nasty and I've seen it all my life. I know many gentle men and sweet women but equally the opposite from both genders.
@noturbo
@noturbo 8 ай бұрын
i just try and stay away from humans lol and yep passive aggressive stuff until i left so over it
@Lexmorningstarnz
@Lexmorningstarnz 8 ай бұрын
I'm exactly he same haha
@KxNOxUTA
@KxNOxUTA 8 ай бұрын
Somewhat same BUT the problem is, that avoidance has terrible costs. We're being irresponsible, too. We actually need to stay away the amount that we require to be healthy and recover. And we need to "get back in there" and actually work on that problem with other humans. Apparently ppl often behave in these ways cause they haven't learnt how to operate life in a different manner. And when women's aggressions go undetected and fly "under the radar", they get worse, like any other behaviour that "works for ppl". It's not fair, but it's actually our societal job to take time and sort out behaviours with peers that we want to see less of. Which can include to take risks and stand up and confront issues even if it's someone in power. Even just gathering amongst ppl who jave experienced that form of bullying and reflecting our own behaviour and how our trauma responses are unfortunately calling in more of the same. Growing our confidence and ability to set boundaries effectively. Offering groups and occasions dedicated to "let's talk about what struggles we had this month with each other and what we could have done better".
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