Telling a stranger to smile more is sexist & selfish

Yeah, i used to not be able to do many pushups either. A fit and healthy person is said to supposed to be able to do 50. But i only used to be able to do a max of 5 before i’d get motion sickness and had to stop. Kept trying to break past that limit every year and was only able to finally do more than that in the last 2-3 years. I can now reach 60 pushups. I think the thing that finally let me do it and keep doing it was all the work on my diet i’d been doing. I found going by my food and chemical sensitivity test via Bionetics helped in other ways, but was not enough for the exercise help alone, so i combine that together with Dr. Peter D’Adamo’s plans for not eating the avoids for my blood group and GenoType. Usually if you were to go see a certain certified naturopath specialising in Peter’s work, such as a genmedcenter doctor, they would combine all you need to follow, including any existing 3rd party lab or food sensitivity testing results under one dietary plan of their own called SWAMI. And you can lookup your SWAMI report online. But you can get the food lists for what to eat by for free for your blood group and GenoType from the dadamo .com website. Peter’s work is what helped me to also get through my back and joint pain. Really helped a lot. Like how a lot of us know there are 16 personality types and 4 blood groups, a lot of us don’t know we also have two secretor status types and have 6 genetic bases called genetic archetypes, referred to in Peter’s literature as a GenoType. They control what your body does like how much weight you are prone to putting on or how prone you are to inflammatory pain among other things. I cannot answer all questions here about them but i do recommend checking out Peter’s website and books for more info.

Can relate with the insomnia Macarena. I tried a float tank a few times and the sensory deprivation was like a turbo charger for my head noise. The silence was deafening

I find most the struggles associated with adhd seem to be from trying to constrain someone eith a hyperfocus superpower, to societal norms. If the hyperfocus is harnessed and really used until exhaustion, sleep comes much easier.

8:12 I think it always happens at 1am because that's when we shut off all the distractions & have time to think. Most people don't have much (if any) downtime during the day, so the brain starts working overtime when you finally try to shut it down. I think a big part of that is always pulling out our phones when we're not doing something else, too, so our brains never get a break to freely think. If I manage to get out for a walk on a given day, with no phone or distraction - just me & my brain - I find I typically have an easier time sleeping that night. I have no science to back any of this up but I think there's probably something valid here 😅

I found music helps me stop thinking and sleep. I’m using the Falcon and the Snowman soundtrack lately, to fall asleep. When I am spending too much time deciding on something I set a time to decide by. There are some advantages as it can be analogous to having a quantum chip computer in your mind and I came up with some compelling insights into entanglement and other theoretical physics concepts not to mention it helps with creativity.

I have missed your videos, Hope you are doing well

The ai art depiction really suits your look ❤ hi fellow infp from another infp. 😊

Very interesting

INFP forever lost in a daydream

what if these feelings and thoughts catalyze the release of certain hormones and neuro chemicals needed for the body to heal during sleep.

For me it's a climbing into a bed/cave. I have a very primitive bed time fantasy ❤

Apocalypse scenarios are definitely running through my head on a daily basis 😅

Ironic! Woke just now from a dream i was being taken advantage of by a shady and insincere group of people. But they never got that far. Haven’t dreamt in a little while. I am becoming more weary of being taken advantage of IRL. And mostly just recently learning to drop people that don't really show enough they care about me.

When i dream, and i remember them, the’re usually filled with chaos where I am trying to accomplish something but I just fail at it, even my guide who shows up tries to help me but then she just gives up. But for i actually fall asleep, i envision myself cursed on a deserted island with a quest to prevent war.

Lately I keep visualizing a dystopian world where I’m trying to live my best life despite being in an Orwellian world. My dreams are a vivid continuation of this.

He is literally me

INFP here. I have only had 1 or 2 friends that seemed to understand me. It was really surprising, because no one ever seems to really understand me. Haha My wife (ESTJ) doesn’t truly understand me and we have been married for 13 years. Only another INFP can really understand is my guess. I think I mostly confuse my wife. It would be great for her to watch these videos, but as an ESTJ, yeah she is not as interested in this as I am. Haha

You describe INFPs so well. I agree with everything you said. Always refreshing to understand yourself better. On an INFP here. Haha. Thank you

I’ve noticed that a lot of us INFP men have long hair/ like growing our hair out. Up until maybe a few weeks ago I also had long hair too haha

INFP here. I agree with everything you said.

My ex has it and his mood changed from being fun loving to irritable. He had mentioned about his past addiction issues that final day together. I think he was possibly thinking about the booze again. I've seen this pattern before when they talk about drinking & their mood swings. As much as I liked him I think our parting was for the best. That being said, love is supposed to conquer all. I miss him very much. 😔

I'm always amazed at how well INFP videos seem to know me. Fierce adherence to authenticity and values. For example, I'm a 40 yr old virgin. Butttt... I still have hope that it can happen. I just gotta find the right place and community, where I can actually envision a future I'm satisfied with. (Currently, that place might be the big island of Hawaii. INFPs! Come to Hawaii, we'll build a new world there!)

Love this!

I meditate. Does that count with the whole ADHD, Insomnia, thing

Very well said. Insomnia is no fun 😢

Real talk insomnia sucks!

if you love coffee . And dislike the decaffeinated type too. I recommend the ground roasted chicory and dandelion mix. Percolate it in a coffee percolator. Its as good as a espresso flavoured coffee

I didn’t know I actually watched this video before a year ago… lol. But I’m back again and it felt completely new. I have amassed quite a bit of self knowledge. And slowly, but surely, I’ve been making steps to go out into the world and expose my true self, when I want to. It’s still a struggle. Even though I know what I _must_ do, even though I know what is healthy for me, I still struggle. Those closest to me know about my interests. Heck, I’m actively trying to get into a creative writing school. Yet I still struggle with sharing the inner world, despite those closest to me sharing sincere, nonjudgmental interest. I guess it’s hard to unlearn what I’ve been subconsciously learning for all my life, until now. It’s always validating to hear about the famous INFPs. Especially Tolkien, since fantasy (and sci-fi) is my preferred genre. I just love the symbolisms and roundabout ways in which fantasy can reflect the real world. When I was younger, I liked it for the rule cool. Wow, dragons and magic! It’s sad that people dismiss the power inherent to these genres just because the ‘rule of cool type things’ donn’t exist on planet Earth. But that is a strength. How much more easily can you address a taboo or sensitive topic indirectly, rather than directly? If you coat such a topic in a nice coat of fantasy paint, people may actually be more willing to listen. I also feel this sort of calling to give my country (the Netherlands) some more adult fantasy/sci-fi (adult in the way of themes and depth, just to clarify). I initially wrote primarily in English because I think it sounds cooler, but recently, I’ve started writing in Dutch. I mean, I’ll always have that edge with my native language, right? I think I know who, what, where I want to be. Despite quite a few other interests, writing has consistently been the top dog for years. Ever since I played in fantasy worlds with my older brother, or a friend with whom I’m still close. I know what kinds of steps to take. Unmasking; showing more of myself and kind of starting to own an ‘I don’t give a damn’ attitude, in a gentle way. And I want to connect more with likeminded people. I’ve already made a great step there, honestly, by frequently attending a biweekly AuDHD group. It’s good fun to just do some little activities. I notice that social interactions don’t need to be draining, difficult and full of subtext. I don’t need to monitor my body language or eye contact 24/7, which is refreshing. I still do want to surround myself with more fellow creatives, more though. My ENFP (AuDHD) friend really seems to own his artistry, personality and passions and it’s great to see him in his element. I’m quite jealous and inspired at the same time, because I see my ideal artistic future being similarly structured in my case.

INFP, Tolkien and Dragonball fan, ADHD, insomniac Yup, you are literally me. Good to see you back Lex!

I just started dating my boyfriend who has adhd and trying to learn stuff about him cause he is not quite ready to talk about everything and i just want to be as patient as i can and wait for him. I love him so much and want to be around him all the time.

Great video xx keep fronting up the challange to insomnia

11:04 glad your story has a happy ending

Nice to see you again Lex :) Answer: YES. I’d get this. It’s why i switched to eating organic food and gone on a custom diet plan specifically to my biology. I’m quite chemically sensitive to the farmer’s chemicals, the pesticides they use and such. And the slightest wrong food for me can send me off a cliff with more symptoms like body aches and pains, skin rashes, IBS, and concentration problems. I went back to eating conventional food and i became so high and hyper i couldn't get to sleep nearly all night. And my back and spine would intermittently feel like it’s about to explode in pain. Sometimes it does. I’d wake up and think about the slightest stressful thing that my mind thinks may have happened the day before and i’d get palpitations for hours. Yes it triggered my OCD (frequent wondering if door locked checking) and exuberated restless legs as well. Tho i find like with you, long walks and exercise helps with clearing the energy buildup. I highly recommend looking up food and chemical sensitivies as a possible cause of anyone’s symptoms. You might find a company called Bionetics to be helpful. If your test comes back yellow or red under Chemicals and hydrocarbons, chances are you may have a chemical sensitivity. My test came back yellow for this. While i still get much anxiety, eating this way has brought me much relief and calm versus where i was before.

Totally makes sense

I've always had serious sleep issues, its actually what lead to my being diagnosed at 4 years old as i would get 4 hours shut eye at best. Although stressing, over thinking,lack of routine and all things said here can make things worst even with without them i still cant switch off.. I started taking melatonin pills which after a few weeks stopped doing anything for me,now even at the highest dose do absolutely nothing. I've at this point accepted my fate, and sleep when my body allows it.. Sleep comes before almost every other priority in my life, minus my Son or appointments i cannot reschedule. Needless to say society at large looks dont on me for prioritising my needs over what they wish ove me and deem acceptable, neurotypicals are so weird like that.. they dont like waking up to an early alarm so everyone else has to suffer it too because theyre miserable, and if you dont you're branded lazy amongst other bs judgements.. Lacking emapthy much? Makes me want to stay in my bed even more, who wants to deal with ppl like that! 😑

Can you do a video about goal setting? Thank you

LEX WE LOVE YOU! Thanks for sharing your personal thoughts, challenges, and success with everyone. I'm watching this video on 2 hours of sleep right now and only a few hours of sleep from the night before. I have had much better sleep in the past, just right now I want to be up. I also find it challenging with my girlfriend of 3 months... I love her to death, and it's not her fault, but ever since I have been with her my sleep has gotten much worse, so It's something I'm working on right now. Some things I have had good luck with is to fall asleep like you said Lex to a rich video packed with info...One channel I like for this is "Cool Worlds" here on KZbin. It helps to dim the screen as low as you can deal with and on some screens the night light setting can help, but on some screen it looks bad. I also had great luck with ASMR such as brushing sounds and not everyone will be able to do this one, but I play the card game Yu-GI-Oh, so I found it helpful to just lay in bed with a small yellow hue light and just read my playing cards... If you do this, be mindful of your cards and not fall asleep on them, iv had some close calls lol

Hi dear, is it possible to do videos about body image too, love you xo ❤️

Hmm, an interesting video, I've noticed my insomnia started with my current job getting up 4.30 am initially and never stopped since. Now 14 odd years latter I suddenly got motivation to declutter and clean up since I made decision to soon quit the job and focus on me and perhaps work for myself. What happens after that well, we'll see 😊 I have to change as I've lost interest in nearly everything in life.

Great job. The ADHD chatter really gets loudest at night.

This is misinformation. Ryan Gosling does not have ADHD. He was evaluated for it as a child, but was never diagnosed.

I just look at it as human or bear. And I would logically much rather be stuck in the woods with a human because my chances of a brutal death are much slimmer.

My wife has a solid case. It is a killing our marriage. It’s been 15 years. I resent how much slack I have to pick up. She works and does some laundry. I do the rest. It’s killing me.

I'm an ENFJ. When I get hurt by someone, I want to communicate to resolve it. Not everyone else does. When that happens, I dwell in my own thoughts and fixate on scenarios until I think I've figured it out. I end up hurting the people around me to the point where they don't want to be around me. I don't mean to, but I do. Then I take it personally and I isolate. It's not a healthy place for me, but I'm stubborn, so I won't give in first. It's a nasty cycle. The longer I stay isolated, the more nasty I get.

His death sets the path of the fellowship onto saving the world.

I'm surprised to hear that people don't give Frodo his flowers. He is literally having a battle with the world's most evil being every moment of every day while traveling to his home ground to destroy it's essences. Dude is on a deep handicap and yes he didn't toss the ring in the fire he was the reason the ring was destroyed.

Being a man with ADHD is a humiliation ritual.

Marilyn monroe is classic infp. 😊❤ her diaries are quite similar to mine even with her need to find the correct word and doing cross outs. She had a library of books and intelligent and suffered anxieties. She had some pretty poems too, but then what infp doesn't. I have a few myself.

As an infp with an entp be true to yourself but also be open to dif views, and put yourself in uncomfortable situations and challenge your fears bit by bit. I love my partner but he doesn't fully understand either but i am learning perhaps i don't fully understand him either. I get days still where i don't want to interact at all with anyone, moody, but another thing is try to set aside your emotions, i know kettle calling black, im working on it too, but getting the job done and learning to overcome your weaknesses make for a more functional relationship. Ive been told some harsh truths as infp, lazy, selfish, deluded, give up too easily, angry mf, and though it can sting once you except these defaults of an infp you can work on it. Ignorance is one for me. If something didnt go with what i believed i didnt want to hear about it, but growth only comes from listening rather then projecting opinions. And read more non fiction or subjects that will improve your current hangups like im very messy and disorganised with kids and dogs and house to run. While i was honoured to have such a role it takes a lot of personal responsibility something i still struggle with but learn about yourself and the areas and maybe get tips from those who excel in that area. Doing chunks of work in between relaxation helps productivity but changing gears from one to the other can be difficult as i can get in loops or ruts. Understanding yourself, all facets, particularly the ones you don't want to admit to yourself, will make you understand others better and that while you may consider them this and that they have hang ups just like you only different which we make consider insensitive or arrogant or even narcissistic but in the end strength will come from all the tough times but you got to be able to withstand the storm and not hide while it brews. Gain them scars, gain those hardships and be stronger for it then write write write and read read read but make sure you experiment and interact with people. I used to look down all the time, now while i still suffer anxiety, i can go out and not necessarily have that deep compulsion to not look people in the eyes or smile or speak up. Our voices are only as timid and unheard as we make it. You want your opinion to matter stop dribbling crap and read up so when your voicing yourself to be that teacher and wise person it comes from truth not just an idealised idea in your head plus personal experiences are a must. Don't be couch potato for too long. I was for 20 odd years before a mental breakdown as reality hit forced me out of my comfort zone. Sensitivity is who we are, we cry, we yell and get angry, we laugh, we cry and laugh, we are human and we all as a collective group of different personalities and characters have something to learn and gain from each others points of views. 🎉❤😊🙏 fear is only what you don't see, so pinpoint it and expose it it will have no power over you then...