6 months Curly Girl Method (why i'm quitting... sort of.)

[@ybell1294]

If you don't mind me being a nosy nancy (: ' D), there are plenty of curly-haired people who never get shiny ringlets on "naked" (or near-naked) hair. 26 years with curly hair, there isn't anything that's going to "fix" my frizz. Absolutely nothing. It's either two hours to straighten, two hours to style curly, or two hours to throw everything into twists - because if I don't do anything, it'll frizz, tangle and break off. That's just how my genes have chosen to interact. It's the nature of the beast. That said, frizz = damage is an unrealistic standard I had to overcome. Damaged hair is frizzy, true, but frizzy hair isn't always damaged. Damaged hair doesn't respond to creams and gels and deep conditioners. Damaged hair spoils any style faster than it should, straight or curly. Damaged hair just doesn't grow, snapping off at the ends as fast as the roots grow out. I've helped relatives with curly, over-processed hair before and oh boy. That's a struggle. Frizzy hair CAN respond, and it CAN grow, so long as it's healthy. I don't like wearing my hair frizzy, so I choose to put the work in to make sure it dries in defined curls - cream, gel, the whole thing. But I'll never stop anyone from putting in the work to straighten it. (Can't relate, because me and my straightener are mortal enemies lol.) I just wrote this wall of text because I heard that "it looked bleach-damaged" part of the video and I just had to say something. You are doing great, your hair is doing great, and style it however you want to. Heat, no heat, whatever. If the frizz never goes away, work around it or work with it. Do what makes YOU happy. But you haven't failed if whatever you're doing hasn't eliminated your frizz. Frizz is natural too! Seriously, your hair is lovely no matter what you do with it.

[@IsabellaDemarko]

thank you this was a lovely comment to read and very valuable advice

[@MaryKurosawa]

sorry i know your comment was meant for Isabella but you said something that caught my attention, my hair is a bit damaged at the tips and it does NOT grow i think i had the same lenght for about 3 years now. What should i do for it to grow? do i really have to chop all the damaged parts?

[@queenvanishka5868]

@@MaryKurosawa if you've tried EVERYTHING and it still is that way, chopping off all the damaged parts won't help it *grow* but it might help your hair look nicer.

[@kandacehead9544]

@@queenvanishka5868 I agree. She should keep her hair at just below the shoulders.

[@ybell1294]

@@MaryKurosawa #notanexpert of course, but chopping off the ends is usually enough if your hair is mostly healthy. The trim will need to happen eventually, but you can use products to help shore up the ends, if you don't want to lose the length immediately. My 'experience' came from helping a relative with extensively color-treated hair - very porous, impossible to keep detangled, never seemed to stay saturated with water, and every time she trimmed off the worst of the ends, the new ends would rapidly deteriorate to the same knotted state. Olaplex 3 helped things a little bit; a repairing protein treatment helped significantly more (Botanika The Mender in this case, though Aphogee's 2-step is much more popular on KZbin). But unless your hair is super-fried, I'd suggest looking into protein vs moisture balance for curly hair before going full protein treatment. Protein can definitely be a too-much-of-a-good-thing kind of deal.

[@rubycahill4929]

"If I can't enjoy my hair, then what's the point?" THISSSS. I've been 'transitioning' for like a year now, and yes my hair is so much healthier, but I'm putting in so many hours of effort for a result that I don't even really like, that still looks messy and frizzy and 100% of the time ends up in a bun until the next wash day. I'm sick of feeling self conscious and not put-together every time I leave the house, purely because of my hair. If heat styling your hair makes YOU feel better about YOURSELF then DO IT GIRL!!! I've already decided I'm going to straighten my hair this weekend 😂❤️

[@IsabellaDemarko]

totally! i've literally ben feeling this for so long i'm glad people feel the same way

[@ABC-gt4rd]

Same 🙏

[@melissax_x2539]

My hair is superrrr frizzy all the time and it's super annoying. To tame the frizz, what I do is after I was my hair, I air dry (or you can blow dry) my hair, and when it's 95% dry, I brush it, then I grab some elastics and with one of them, I tie my hair into a low pony, then with the another elastic, I tie my hair again, a little lower than where the other elastic is (about 6cm)and depending on how long your hair is, keep repeating this until your last elastic is 6-7 cm away for the end of your hair. You can put the elastics as far away as you want from each other, depending on how far away from each other you Want the nice waves to be, but personally I find the 6-7 cm to be enough. Then you want to let your hair fully dry through the night or through the day. After you take the elastics out, your hair will be frizz free, and you will have beautiful waves in your hair. Try not to brush too much or the waves will disappear. If you think it looks too flat tilt your head down and slightly move your fingers through Your roots to give some volume up top. And that's how your hair will be frizz free for the next 1-3 days will beautiful natural looking waves ( ͡ ͜ʖ ͡ )

[@caitlynnp9507]

This!!!!

[@PumpkinMozie]

“The healthiest state of my hair looks damaged” YES ugh I feel this so much. I am the same. I am so careful with my hair. Literally NEVER use heat, sulfates, silicones or dye, always try to eat healthy...and yet my hair constantly looks fried and frizzy and disgusting. It’s so sad.

[@jessierasberry3082]

Me too! It sucks but at the same time it’s nice to know I’m not alone!❤️ On the bright side, we can use heat and not worry about the consequences as much bc it will look the same, ha!😂

[@elifkloss2554]

Same, i don’t think eating healthy does any help too, it’s pure genetics

[@pining4thefjords]

Absolute same here. I’ve had stylists assume that my hair was heat damaged and be pretty rude about it. Not the case! That’s just my hair type! I’ve been trying the cgm and not really seeing results either so this is so validating.

[@Kriscarroll19]

I felt the same way for years. Like it seemed hopeless, but then I tried olaplex and it literally saved it. Also hard water treatments helped me a ton. Obviously everyone’s hair is different, but as someone who has incredibly stubborn hair and can’t find products that do anything, this completely changed the state of my hair

[@jessierasberry3082]

@@Kriscarroll19 I was actually thinking about trying olaplex! Do you think the water or the olaplex made the biggest difference?

[@KindlyChristina]

isabel! the upside down hair actually looked AMAZING ON YOU! so much volume and the curls are random but they’re meant to be and they looked soooo healthy !

[@Allyson.Cameron]

Agreed! She showed the result and I thought it looked amazing and the she started saying "oh no" and "it looked really bad" 😢.

[@laislobato1908]

I thought the same!

[@marinaSassygUrl88]

Yes!! I also thought exactly the same thing. Maybe this was what her routine needed after all, I hope she sees this comment.

[@LizIsaCheeseDoodle]

@@Allyson.Cameron yeah I actually have a hard time watching her hair videos sometimes because I feel like this is commonly her reaction. I feel bad but I feel like her hair looks good so many more times than she gives it credit :(

[@victoriaalliaud7538]

loved them!

[@itsmarp]

??? your hair is looking so good at at 4:00 it looks really healthy and I love the 'randomness' of the curls it looks like real natural curly/wavy hair

[@marinaSassygUrl88]

I kill for those curls tbh!! ( my hair is like this but not always )

[@LittleButterfly234]

Unfortunately, you yourself have a much more critical view of your hair than others. I started the curly girl method 2 weeks ago and every colleague of mine gave me compliments about my hair while I felt like I was wearing a bird's nest on my head x)

[@DebRoo11]

@@LittleButterfly234 same. I had a 'dgaf' day and walked into work with random air dried straight/wave/curly bits craziness and I've never had so many compliments lol Maybe the trick is just not giving a crap lol

[@MariaKatsoupaki]

Maybe that’s the healthier decision for yourself! Just relax and don’t think about them ..

[@IsabellaDemarko]

totally

[@gingerels]

I honestly can't even imagine how bloody frustrating it must have been month after month maticulously caring for your hair & not seeing the results you wanted - so honestly you GO GAL you straighten & blow dry those locks to your hearts content!! As someone with naturally frizzy / wavy / a mess / hair type, using heat to style my hair gives me relief from trying to make it naturally look ok ish. Some days I wake up & it looks ok, others it looks horrendous, like I've been bleaching it for years... & on those days, using heat to style it actually gives me confidence that no, my hair can look fab! & enables me to achieve styles naturally I just couldn't. I don't do it all the time, but I definitely think using heat on occassion is so worth it :) lots o love, congrats on the move! x

[@user-ci3qu6fy5q]

yeah, i quit the method about 6 months in as well. my hair was the healthiest it ever was and it looked like SHITE all the time. like what's the point in that case? it looked like shit and i felt ugly.

[@rashirai8419]

Actually I have been seeing your hair journey and I can feel your pain cause I have been through it. So before saying something I would tell you I m not some kinda hair specialist but yeah I have been through it so I know. Right now my hair is long and and very healthy, shiny and actually something like your goal. My hair type is wavy so I have my own hair product and all but some tips I would like to give you is that wasting your money on so many brushes, customised hair products what you should do is firstly find the best shampoo and all for your hair type and the most important don’t use any kind heat on your hairs like I really don’t remember when i used some kind of blow dry and something ( I know you want straight hair but follow your natural flow of hair)and continue your trimming process but not each day because you have to let it grow.I understand your frustation but don’t loose hope and ya don’t focus on hair length but on healthy hair. By this method I wish your hair have some improvements

[@helenabarrioshernandez3547]

6 months is nothing in the curl world, believe me, try a year, I did 7 months of the curly girl.method without the results I wanted, I waited until a year and out of the sudden it started getting ringlety

[@user-ci3qu6fy5q]

@@helenabarrioshernandez3547 i don't wanna look like shit and feel bad about myself for a YEAR of my life

[@IsabellaDemarko]

@@user-ci3qu6fy5q haha AMEN.

[@rikketakera]

I do a routine that’s “curly girl inspired” rather than full CGM for my 2C-3A type hair. It seems to work better for me, I enjoy my hair more, plus it’s A LOT less stressful. I mostly wash with sulfate free and silicone free products and use a good mask twice a week. Then a silicone free leave-in plus a gel in my hair. I scrunch and see how it turns out, and then I might correct a few pieces with a curling wand 🤷🏻‍♀️ on non-wash days, I will sometimes lightly brush through it with a wide toothed comb and (gasp!) add a standard silicone hair oil to smooth it down and keep it shiny! And I’ll continue to use a curling wand on any pieces I don’t like until I wash it again. I also colour my hair. And you know what? I’m totally fine.

[@mariasunflower334]

You should try pin curls instead of using a curling wand it is amazing and doesn't require any heat. I'm not doing cgm anymore either my favorite shampoo contains sulfates and my gel contains silicone 🤭 i'm enjoying my hair very much since i made a few adjustments 🥰 cgm is exhausting 😅

[@rikketakera]

@@mariasunflower334 Nah, I’m perfectly happy using a bit of heat! I like the quickness of it. Thank you though.

[@lilydevi1975]

Is your hair in your dp your natural hair? bc thats not 2c/3a

[@incitatus6187]

I assume your KZbin profile picture is you. Your hair looks beautiful in it! Keep doing you!

[@pirhan]

How do you deal with build up? I had M A J O R silicon buildup because I was using a silicon based oil and organic sulfate free shampoo. It took years and lots of $$$ to figure out what was wrong and now I'm worried about build up again. (Plus I have a dry scalp so clarifying shampoo irritates it.)

[@baukjeweening6005]

Heee youre hair looked actually really good when you crunched it up side down. Really nice curls, shinny and lots of volume!

[@bhsklempn5951]

Thats what i was thinking Lol

[@larissaguerrero5236]

Hey love, Britain has a severe hard water issue, I recommend getting a shower filter AS SOON AS POSSIBLE and I also recommend buying anti hard water hair products, this saved my hair from death and I’m 90% sure you are dealing with the same thing I was because my hair used too look like that.

[@Ignozi]

Needs more upvotes. This is the key.

[@HarunaMaurer]

my hair is getting worse and i also think it's because of the hardness in the water here where i live. What filter do you recomend?

[@db6013]

I was about to say the exact same thing. I have the same hair as you, the same problem. No matter what I do it's frizzy and feels dry and a bit coarse. I can coat it in whatever you want, 20min later it will be frizzy again. But I remember very clearly being in north italy one holiday, and my parents asking if I'd done something different to my hair because it was SO sleek and soft and shiny (very floppy too). It's the water. I don't know how much of a difference a shower filter will make - apparently it can? I might give it a try myself! But it's not you doing anything wrong with your hair. which, btw, looks lovely and even with the 'messy' curl pattern it looks beautiful.

[@lennsaturday5566]

Same here, I used to use the shower in my upstairs bathroom and my hair was always dry feeling and coarse but somewhat still manageable but the minute I moved into my basement and started showering down there (filter on the shower) my hair finally went back to normal, hard water is seriously the issue

[@naialus]

Yes, and L'Oreal now has a Metal Detox line that can help

[@bhanemmi]

Honestly shes the reason i have nice hair; the way she explains every little detail is mesmerising💕

[@IsabellaDemarko]

bless

[@bhanemmi]

@@IsabellaDemarko seriously isabeella u teach better hair science than my teachers could probably ever even teach real science!!!

[@Shiiiveeers]

"my hair at its healthiest state looks heat damaged" exactly!! that's why products like hair conditioner are considered "styling products" - they don't really change your hair, the results wash off every time with shampoo and you have to do it again. that's just how hair is

[@milekmalik8368]

My conditioner definetely also moisturizes my hair. Without it it dries out too fast. :/

[@alexisaguirre5526]

she probablly have her hair fried, not by heat but for all the products water and all of that, it can happend, the hair hold water in the inside and then it's start to heat up on it's own and destroy the outher cortex, it's worst with oils.

[@yanabanana5086]

@@alexisaguirre5526 why would the hair heat up? That doesn't make sense 🤔

[@alexisaguirre5526]

@@yanabanana5086 heat up is a way of saying it. It can actually receive heat from the environment or from the body (therefore heat up), but, it also comes from water and moisturizers in the hair and excess occlusives, those occlusives don't allow the hair to absorb moisture from the environment when it is necessary then those moisturizers begin to eat the water out of the hair fibers, drying it out, creating frictional heat by opening and messing up the hair shaft, creating things like tangles, matting and excessive frizz, wich only solution it cutting it all out.It happened to me when I was obsessed with hair care, I used to mask every wash day (which was one a week (my scalp was in a very bad place, if your crown hurts you need to wash your hair), then castor oil (because silly I thought that the hair was alive and that it was going to grow by putting oil on the length, the oils do nothing at the most they soften the edges of the cells), then I would apply conditioner and an oil for ends, it really takes a lot of time And my hair doesn't have it, I have to cut it all and start over (best decision)

[@orangefox5121]

@@alexisaguirre5526 sorry, this is total BS from a normal physiology, anatomy and pathology point of view. And yes, I know what I am talking about, as that is my profession.

[@allegrarestelliprandoni3553]

I'm so confused because I think that your curls look beautiful. Genuinely, those 3:59 curls are what I always loved and regarded as "princess curls". I find your determination inspiring, so please, realize that there is beauty in what you are - exactly as you are. It might not be exactly what you had in mind, but I can assure you that it's beautiful.

[@PopShoww]

Right? I thought they were so pretty!

[@verina_crochet_garden]

Same, even her frizzy hair I like :)

[@mikaylarasnick]

yeah i agree. no one’s hair is perfect!! most girls with wavy/curly hair have some frizz and their curl pattern isn’t exactly ringlet curls throughout. i think her hair looked so pretty there & im confused what she’s expecting

[@sundancer7562]

Yes! Lots of type 2 curls greatly benefit with upside down styling!

[@anaraquelnovoajouney]

I have a naturally straight hair.But I lived in a country where humidity is a daily thing. So I've always struggled with frizziness. So,many factors can vary the texture of your hair :).

[@melissax_x2539]

My hair is superrrr frizzy all the time and it's super annoying. To tame the frizz, what I do is after I was my hair, I air dry (or you can blow dry) my hair, and when it's 95% dry, I brush it, then I grab some elastics and with one of them, I tie my hair into a low pony, then with the another elastic, I tie my hair again, a little lower than where the other elastic is (about 6cm)and depending on how long your hair is, keep repeating this until your last elastic is 6-7 cm away for the end of your hair. You can put the elastics as far away as you want from each other, depending on how far away from each other you Want the nice waves to be, but personally I find the 6-7 cm to be enough. Then you want to let your hair fully dry through the night or through the day. After you take the elastics out, your hair will be frizz free, and you will have beautiful waves in your hair. Try not to brush too much or the waves will disappear. If you think it looks too flat tilt your head down and slightly move your fingers through Your roots to give some volume up top. And that's how your hair will be frizz free for the next 1-3 days will beautiful natural looking waves ( ͡ ͜ʖ ͡ )

[@almendraspinelli4111]

YESSSS OMGGGGG I LIVE IN MIAMI AND ITS HUMID EVERYDAY the days it reaches low 70s, that's when my hair is actually nice and NOT FRIZZY.

[@laviniabrunetti3947]

Hi! As someone who struggled with eating disorders for ages, I feel like there is something I can tell you that I wish I was told in my darkest days. First of all, the more you stress about something, the more you focus on making it better, or fixing it or whatever, the less control you'll have over it. And trust me I know how frustrating this can get. I know, I see your struggle and I see how bad this make (or made) you feel. But I've learnt that if you let go just a little bit, if you stress a bit less over it, IT WILL GET BETTER, both because your hair will find its own way (idk if this makes sense but I hope you get what I'm trying to say) and because your overall stress level will drop and this, trust me, really REALLY makes the difference. Second of all, I want you to know that, even though you don't like your hair, and maybe all that you can think about when you look at your reflection in the mirror is how bad your hair looks and you feel like you want to hide, or maybe you think that other people will notice it, trust me, other people won't notice it. You're such a beautiful girl and yeah your hair might be a bit messy from time to time but you're not your hair. People will look at you and what they will see is a beautiful girl. Nothing more and nothing less than that. Trust me. Everyone has insecurities, but they don't define us at all. Hope that what I just said can help you in some way. Lots of love and I wish you'll be soon able to see how gorgeous you are❤

[@nawaalarslan]

U really inspire me seriously ... ❤ur the only one who understands and really talks honestly about firzzy dry hair..

[@IsabellaDemarko]

thank you x

[@nawaalarslan]

😍

[@mariasunflower334]

Am i the only naughty curly girl here who has switched to sulfates and silicones and got better results than with the cgm? 😅🤭

[@jennyrose9454]

Nope i love my naughty chemicals

[@mindajane]

I've never tried curly girl but my hair looks great with sulfates and silicones! When I started using more silicones it made all the difference for me.

[@catherinemarkham235]

No I've recently switched back too!!!

[@eveelima1]

Well, silicones are supposed to make your hair look better and sulfates are the only thing that will wash silicones so they're a neccessary pair. But yeah, making your hair look good is basically silicones' job, so it's no surprise that you like it better :)

[@jennyrose9454]

@@eveelima1 I feel like once in a while I need sulfate too like 1-2 washes per month

[@FoundMyself36]

I thought your upside down styling was amazing! I think it’s so hard having wavy hair because I know I have parts of my hair that are completely straight and others that dry wavy/curly with no product. You should do what eases you. Acceptance of who we are is a game changer!

[@yasminsilene9724]

i was thinking the same!

[@ekaterinab6064]

I know right. That was my favourite hair look of hers.

[@annabeesley8726]

Yes!! By far the nicest results I’ve seen on her!

[@juliamacedo2451]

Your hair looks like normal wavy hair even before you started cgm, textured hair is naturally frizzy. Just do what you want with it, imo is a lot better than chasing an unrealistic wavy hair aesthetic

[@lw9849]

my hair is a little curlier than yours and it doesn’t respond well to cg method, curly products, scrunching, anything. the only thing my hair responds well to is using sulphates and silicones. it makes my curls smooth and bouncy and shiny. i’ve finally accepted it.

[@kiaraetsuko]

The internet and CGM made us all think that sulphates and silicones are these evil ingrediences but at the end of the day everyone's curls like something else and if sulphates and silicones work for you then that's amazing! It's really all about finding products that works for you

[@IKKclauKR]

Same!!! My scalp HATES sulfate free with it's life!!! I used sulfate free shampoo for more than a year because I bleached it completely and everyone told me that it was the best for my hair; I had dandruff every day (mind you, the only products I was using was shampoo and conditioner, so it couldn't be build up), and my scalp itched sooo much, so I was sure that the bleach ruined my scalp...well, a year later I had to use a sulfate shampoo and suddenly my scalp wasn't itching and the dandruff started to go away...when I saw that the CGM was "sulfate free", I decided I wasn't going to do it, because I can't believe in something that preach for a one true way, that I know it ruined my scalp

[@ioanalazar9733]

have you taken into consideration your hair thickness, porosity and density, this is how you choose your products.

[@SparklesNJazz]

@@IKKclauKR SAAAAME. i had gotten rid of dandruff for years and it came back after i started no poo. my scalp was itchy and my hair felt grimy and all my curls went limp. it was so depressing. now i’m back to using sulfates and it’s so much better

[@cherrynicole4511]

That upside down method @ 4:00 looked gorgeous to me😍 so much volume! I'm into it!

[@humanity_bear]

I came to the same realization: Even after shaving all of my hair off to start over and start fresh again, it still grew back the exact same texture as it always had been. :/ I'm also kind of disappointed, just like you are:( I now look the exact same as I did in 2015, I've got shoulder length layered hair with bangs and *they just look the same, they feel the same, the ARE the same* So I guess there really is no point in hair envy and we just have to be happy with what we've got:) Lot's of love to you from Germany ❤️

[@emmavalentin1909]

THANK YOU for commenting this. I've been considering shaving my head! def not gonna go down that route x

[@humanity_bear]

@@emmavalentin1909 Hey:) Yes, if I could give you one good tip ... better not do it:/ This might sound really dramatic, but the last four years of me growing my pixie out were literally the saddest years so far:/ If you are someone who really likes having hair to play with or to style or if you are just emotionally attached to it as I was, you'll regret shaving it off! I bet you'll find another way to fight that urge and just enjoy the hair you have now! 😉❤️ Good luck! 🍀

[@emmavalentin1909]

@@humanity_bear oh boy. The emotional attachment I have to my hair, its unhealthy haha! Do you have wavy/curly hair? is you bob/shoulderlength hair manageable/styleable?

[@mansie.]

@@humanity_bear why did it take 4 years to grow your pixie out? That's a very slow growth. Was that an exaggeration or fr.. fr?

[@humanity_bear]

@@emmavalentin1909 I've got a couple of hair videos on my channel, if you want to have a closer look at it, hehe;) But I'd say it is wavy, but a really weird sort of wavy where only certain parts of my hair wave up in weird shapes, mostly the top part of my hair while the bottom layers stay fairly straight, but that could just be due to its lenght. Speaking of lenght: I have to say that shoulder lenght hair is pretty hard to manage since it's not long enough to stay properly in a hairstyle and always falls apart when you try to put it up while also being a bit too long to look neat and stylish like a french bob would. I'm absolutely gonna grow my hair past my shoulders so that I can put it in nice updo's or in braids when I go to sleep at night without having to worry about it ;) As you can tell, I have a lot of opinions on hair and it is also very important to me, haha, I feel you ;D

[@annamacm4063]

“It’s just an illusion... my hair just looks like this because of all the stuff I do to it”. I know what you mean, I’ve had similar thoughts, but actually, when you think about it, almost everyone’s hair falls into that category... few people have hair that looks great even when they don’t use some sort of product and style it. My hair, when left to air dry with no product on it at all, is a frizzy, shapeless, mess. But if I get layers cut into it, add gel and style it, it’s curly and bouncy. I have said this before, but I suspect your hair would be much wavier/curlier if you 100% treated it like curly hair.. but you’ve only gone half way on that journey unless you get a curly cut. Of course the choice is yours, but frizz doesn’t = fail or damaged hair.... it = genes...

[@emilysmartins]

There's no point in spending hours supposedly taking care of dead cells if at the end of the day you don't like the result. I tried to use my hair naturally, but I didn't get used to the frizz (I used to have straight/thick hair). I've been using the flat iron again, kept taking care as I usually do, and I must say, my hair looks healthier than ever. I take thin strands and pass the flat iron only once and meticulously to avoid frizz. I went over 1 year without using flat iron on my hair and blow drying in the warm / cold air and my hair continued to tangle easily and grow with frizz ... life is too short, use your hair as you WANT and LIKE. I used the flat iron for 10 years or more and I never had any heat damage. my hair just changed its texture...

[@melissax_x2539]

My hair is superrrr frizzy all the time and it's super annoying. To tame the frizz, what I do is after I was my hair, I air dry (or you can blow dry) my hair, and when it's 95% dry, I brush it, then I grab some elastics and with one of them, I tie my hair into a low pony, then with the another elastic, I tie my hair again, a little lower than where the other elastic is (about 6cm)and depending on how long your hair is, keep repeating this until your last elastic is 6-7 cm away for the end of your hair. You can put the elastics as far away as you want from each other, depending on how far away from each other you Want the nice waves to be, but personally I find the 6-7 cm to be enough. Then you want to let your hair fully dry through the night or through the day. After you take the elastics out, your hair will be frizz free, and you will have beautiful waves in your hair. Try not to brush too much or the waves will disappear. If you think it looks too flat tilt your head down and slightly move your fingers through Your roots to give some volume up top. And that's how your hair will be frizz free for the next 1-3 days will beautiful natural looking waves ( ͡ ͜ʖ ͡ )

[@juuliavalo7991]

@@melissax_x2539 thanks :)

[@melissax_x2539]

@@juuliavalo7991 no problem :)

[@emilysmartins]

@@melissax_x2539 That's nice! I'll try ;)

[@melissax_x2539]

@@emilysmartins :)

[@elineeide9690]

Silicones is actually one of the greatest emollients we have to condition our hair. Its not nessecary to never use products with silicones in them

[@v.6433]

But it is horrible for the environment, so I don't do it

[@swub9373]

Yes agreed!! There is a lot of fluff about it, but it’s actually a fantastic ingredient for anti frizz and protection:)

[@camillenia3886]

GOD loves you all. GOD bless you all. Have a blessed day everyone.

[@Seboone]

Sillicones just got caught in the crossfire I'm affraid. When using products with sillicones, you'll need a regular (and waaayyy too harsh and overstripping) kind of shampoo in order to properly cleanse your hair. And those regular shampoos are the actual villain in the GCM

[@giveitup0996]

No,I had horrible hair, it will break so easily and it was so frizzi but since I am silicone and sulfate free( I don't use gel I don't scrunch I dry it with natural air) it is so nice and shiny. .

[@angelily95]

Watching your hair journey is like watching a problematic teenage movie with a lot of ups and downs which ended with self acceptance and self love. I've started doing curly hair method cz i was influenced by yours video but I do agree with you that obsessively doing it will make you lose your self confidence cz it seems like our hair has its mind on its own. Sometimes our hair look really good but another time it looks really bad. I'm so proud of you for deciding to use heat on your hair again cz really, you've done all these but if you're not happy with the result then what's the point? We only live once, we should try or do things without being too paranoid of damaging ourselves. I also think one day when we got older we will regret for playing too safe with our life and not exploring more. Thank you so much for sharing your journey. It helps me to see this from different point of view and i really appreciate it. Lots of love 💖

[@daganegra4365]

Hahahha really funny XD

[@04Ammy04]

#EKP_bestband_Day6

[@IsabellaDemarko]

its so true! thank you for sharing xx

[@svogel6459]

Well... Welcome to the "I've tried the curly girl method for months and my hair still doesn't look good" club Honestly, especially back when I saw the video you show at 9:41 I thought you were gonna succeed with it and felt bad about myself because I never even got to that point. My hair always looked bad while I was trying the cgm and for a time I thought it was just because I sucked at doing my hair So selfishly I'm kind of relieved to see that you aren't getting the results you wanted either, makes me feel like we're all in this together 🙈 I'm gonna try some advice from ManesByMell next . She layers a lot of leave-in products (aiming to hydrate, moisturize and style the hair) so I wanna see if that helps me with my poofy hair (that many products are expensive though, so I gotta save up first lol)

[@G625-s1c]

if i may butt in-- i learned from camille jenae (who isn't on youtube but is on other platforms) that for a lot of people using JUST gel (and using a lot of it) can get better results than layering products on. i've tried mell's methods and i've tried camilles, and personally camille's works for me but only when i started using a quality gel that keeps my hair hydrated (i use uncle funky's daughter curly magic curl stimulator). good luck finding out which method works best for you!!

[@Sunnivah13]

Maybe layering works when you have thick hair, because all these products weigh them down, I know this for a fact, even on my thick hair.. But the gel-only method seems reasonable if you have finer hair. Maybe worth a try

[@JellyBeanInTheNight]

I just had a flashback of the early 90s gel hair that always looked wet because it had so much gel in it 😧

[@yanabanana5086]

@@JellyBeanInTheNight I don't think the point is to stay with that wet hair effect) I guess you just break the gel cast when the hair is dry

[@JellyBeanInTheNight]

@@yanabanana5086 I guess they’ve improved gel in the past 30 years 🤣

[@ItsjustMAVE]

the clip where she did her routine backwards it looked like her hair actually was becoming more curly ig

[@adilovesgreaver]

How could you ever say that Isabella? Your hair at it’s most healthiest natural state is unique, it is you, it is beautiful. It really stuck out to me how easily you said that about yourself. Your hair has changed so much over this process, you looking amazing. Maybe there was an expectation and disappointment when you didn’t get what you had in mind. But your hair looks gorgeous- it may be good for you to at least know that you don’t have to dislike who you are. All that said though, if you don’t like what you see- that is completely up to you. How you feel about yourself comes first. You look amazing in your natural state. Thank you for this journey, love from South Africa 🇿🇦 Okay bye now and good luck! Go for your glo! 💋💋

[@KayaJane]

My hair is exactly like yours in every aspect and the curly girl method did NOT work for me either. Even though I did benefit from staying away from some harsh chemicals, nothing more about the curly girl method has benefited me in any way. It was tiring, time consuming, expensive and in the end I didn't like how I looked with curlier hair so I quit. Yes, I'm still careful towards what I put on my hair but that's about all I'm taking from the curly girl method as it doesn't suit me, the weather I live in or my life style. (Edit): Just one more piece of information, I moved throughout the years from a very dry weather to a very humid weather which caused my hair to go from no frizz to 90% frizzy. I realised later on that no matter what I can't defy the weather with products or the curly girl method. Yes, products are going to make my hair look a bit better but there's absolutely no escaping the frizz which was one more reason to quit the curly girl method. I think that the best way to combat frizz is to have a keratin perm if one's hair is thin and fine, and to have a Japanese perm if one's hair is thick and coarse.

[@jadevt1939]

You're wasting your effort. I told her the same thing and she replied "been there, done that" to the Japanese perm suggestion. I think she confused a Brazilian with a Japanese perm, but I gave up

[@furbyfurbs]

Same type of hair here. I arrived to the same conclusion.

[@KayaJane]

@@jadevt1939 A Japanese perm is not something for everyone. It only suits a thick and coarse hair texture because the chemicals used would be too harsh for fine thin hair. A keratin treatment is way better and much gentler in the case of fine thin hair.

[@apatheticpanda182]

I have really thick miiddle eastern hair and whenever i find my hair frizzy i just wash it less and keep it in a braid and leave it alone for like a week then it looks good lmao

[@KayaJane]

@@apatheticpanda182 I know exactly what you're talking about, and yes, it works a bit. However, not everyone can wait a week for their hair to settle before they can come out of their houses LOL.

[@vasilikiphant]

Well after 2 years of cg method, the one thing I learned is that it isnt efficient and practical when you are all day out for work and everyone is expecting you to look perfect but your hair had their bad day . Also you cant wash every single day to have that gorgeous 1st day curls , it takes so much time and you get tired. I used to be like those people who hate silicons and sulfates but I really need to feel put-together really fast for the sake of my job and my sanity.

[@vasilikiphant]

@Cherry Blossom I wish I could where something similar too 😭

[@honeydew75]

doing curly girl made me wanna shave my head lol it was so much effort and just became annoying after a while, for me it didn't even give results just turned my scalp itchy and I got seb derm. you shouldn't force it if it doesn't suit your lifestyle, it's just hair after all

[@vasilikiphant]

@@honeydew75 Thats why I still use sulfates after all . My head was itchy too sometimes, but no from cowash , from no sulfate shampoos

[@charlottegarcia2015]

I know you're probably tired of getting recommendations so feel free to ignore this but I have wavy hair too and I recently stopped using Shea Moisture products and Cantu products - I've found that anything with shea butter in makes my hair dehydrated, frizzy, and tangle easily, and a hairdresser told me that this is very common for fine and wavy hair. I would recommend lightweight, hydrating aloe vera products such as Maui Moisture Hibiscus range and Giovanni for cheap brands!

[@emilyhath]

Yes! That’s how my hair and my daughter’s hair is.

[@aos757]

That’s so interesting! My hair (3b/c) only looks the way I like when the products i use are full of shea butter

[@G625-s1c]

i totally agree i have fine hair and thick oils/butters don't do anything special for it, it's all about hydration and adding water

[@bublehnoodlez4469]

I tried Maui moisture and it worked horribly for my hair, I have medium/thicker hair with 2a waves and some ringlets at the bottom of my hair and I’ve tried a lot of products to get my hair to be how I wanted it to be (including using Maui moisture) but it personally didn’t work for me at all. Now I use juice organics and a hair mask every wash and it works really nicely for me so my hair feels the healthiest it’s ever been

[@jennyrose9454]

Girl I can't use those products either. Shea butter is just bad on my hair.

[@cheyannepasanen7542]

I was curious if you've ever used clarifying shampoo? It's really important when you switch from having sulphates and silicone to none as well as to remove product from your scalp, even curly girl friendly products leave build up! Different for everyone depending on how much product you use but 2-4 weeks. It might also help to look up specifically wavy girl stuff, it is different and it made a huge difference for me ❤

[@mimi__core]

me, bald, watching this for absolutely no reason:

[@kitkatmariehelen]

one punch man?

[@amyrydell2715]

Even when I was young my hair always looked really bleach damaged. My moms a hairdresser do some teachers thought my mom had coloured it as 5 years old. It’s always been like that and you saying that your hair is like that when healthy feels really nice. I’M NOT ALONE!!!

[@IsabellaDemarko]

totally girl! xx

[@StripesAndHearts]

Ever since high school mine has been quite dry and frizzy too, even when it was healthy or freshly cut! My hairdresser just told me I have a coarse hair type and that’s why it can feel dry and frizzy even when it’s healthy! Honestly a revelation, using a shampoo for coarse hair (which you rarely see around!!) has helped so much and made it feel lighter and softer. Maybe try this too!!

[@cemre7759]

Hello Isabella, I am in exactly same situation with you. I didnt even touch a hair drier for years to prevent damage, let alone heat syling... I tried protein masks, moisture masks, supplements, protective styles but all I got was the frizzy hair :( Few weeks ago, I asked a friend of mine to straighten my hair and oh my god I have never been this happy with my hair for the last 10 years lol. I guess this method wont work for everyone.

[@josiepye]

Who else is super happy as soon as a new video of her pop up? 🥺🥺

[@allyguice6311]

your hair at 4 minutes looked so good. i WISH i could get my hair like that!

[@ELITEEMPLOYEE2024]

Personally it took me three almost four years to get my hair back to complete healthy I started with the curly girl method, dropped it and made my own curly hair routine. My hair went from dead dry waves to full blown ringlets. It was not overnight, I had setbacks. Had a lot of cutting/trimming to do. But I think it’s unrealistic to think your hair will improve in less than a year.

[@i0love0life]

What ist your current routine?

[@ELITEEMPLOYEE2024]

@@i0love0life I deep condition every Sunday. I wash my hair every 2-3 days or sometimes 3-4 days if I’m just wearing it up. I detangle with water and conditioner every night, and usually my hair is styled in a wash n go.

[@caitlynnp9507]

@@ELITEEMPLOYEE2024 When you detangle with water and conditioner, do you do that to keep knots and tangles at bay? Or are there other benefits to that? Just curious. I bet your hair loves the constant conditioning. Also, what conditioner do you use? I'm guessing it's probably a light conditioner since you're using it every night?

[@ELITEEMPLOYEE2024]

@@caitlynnp9507 yeah it’s mainly for keeping knots and tangles at bay. Not for any purpose of conditioning. But my hair is very soft. I use crème of nature conditioner or like a cheap conditioner for detangling. As long as it gets the job done

[@shouldacomewithawarninh4974]

Facts You can’t do your curly meth for 6 months and expect it to be perfect in one second

[@cheddarthedog6813]

We support you and your content and I will still be watching all of your wonderful vids even if your not doing the curly girl method 💕💖

[@IsabellaDemarko]

[@cheddarthedog6813]

Isabella Demarko omg I’m a bit starstruck 🤩

[@hirafatima404]

The way I clicked so fassstt! I'm way too invested in her hair journey! 😂❤️

[@karisparis91]

Same 😂

[@lauraelisaalvelaisloyo324]

From what I’ve seen you could be suffering from protein overload and you should be doing de hidrating masks once a week not once a month ❤️ I use the method as a guideline but not rules! If a product works for me I don’t care about the ingredients list 🙌🏻

[@brittanyfewster7607]

YES acceptance is so important, and acceptance includes being okay with doing what you want with your hair! I have chaotic wavy, curly, semi-straight, fluffy hair and it suits my "unpolished" aesthetic, but having the option to look sleek and put together is so so nice! I'm dealing with issues of unhealthy hair, products to fix the issues which just make new issues, and feeling like what even is the point of all this effort if my hair is still damaged? But it's the act of taking care of my hair that's important, not having perfect results. Appreciate all your videos, especially recently!

[@filyn]

I started curly girl method one months later than you and went from flat straight hair to nicely defined 2c waves. Those monthly updates were helpful, I felt emotionally safe here, like having a friend who will listen to you and accept you. Wish you all the best on your hair journey ✨✨💜

[@madisons4756]

Forgive me if you’ve tried this already but one thing that REALLY helps me is sleeping with my hair in a braid. That helps me so much in keeping a consistent wave pattern, rather than waking up with random straight chunks and wavy chunks 😂 I’ll lather it up with leave-in conditioner and a styling spray (similar to gel/hair spray) and more often than not I’ll end up with nice hair for the day :)

[@taylorbolser]

I know this is an older comment I just wanted to ask, do you wash your hair at night and braid it when it’s wet? Or do you braid it when it’s dry?

[@neptune8645]

@@taylorbolser I’ve been braiding my damaged hair before bed for about 8 months, not tight ... just a loose French braid. my hair was BADLY damaged....bleach, dye...but this one habit really helped me to bring it back like above all else tbh. No, not after the shower . only dry . very loose, soft hair tie...no plastic elastics. also gives me a pretty wave in the morning :)

[@JemimaDoesASMR]

@@taylorbolser I braid my hair when it’s damp if I want more crimpy or tight curls, if I do it when it’s dry it just helps to make it a little less frizzy but doesn’t make it more wavy

[@karo-kun2578]

"If you want to style your hair, style it!" Yes. Thank you. . Something I've never really understood, is why people obsess over not using ANYTHING even mildly damaging to your hair and wanting it look perfect all natural. I know little no no people who have AMAZING hair with zero styling/products in it, just washing, and all natural... Like, why are you so scared of heat styling if it makes your hair look the way you like it? Why are you afraid of coloring it?? Why is any styling that puts some strain, even curlers on damp hair, seen as really bad and damaging? Bleach I understand, if you DIY it wrong you can literally burn your hair off, but anything else in moderate amount that will cause some damage yes but will not literally make you bald-I dont understand why it is so feared. I genuienly dont undersand the obsession over getting naturally perfect hair. People in instagram pictures have literal styling professionals and beauty teams to give the illusion of perfection as their jobs... . Now that I've said that, I do need to mention I dont heat style my hair. Mostly because I dont have anything to style it with and I am lazy and ok with my hair doing its thing. I also have a dye box waiting for me at this very second, so if you dont mind I now go and get to that. Refreshing that blue-tinted crow black to red/purple for halloween!

[@shouldacomewithawarninh4974]

I have all natural hair I never hear damage it, no straightening or blow drying Just wash and air dry and it looks great

[@karo-kun2578]

@@shouldacomewithawarninh4974 Lucky you~ I still dont understand the obsession over 100% natural and still somehow perfect.

[@shouldacomewithawarninh4974]

@@karo-kun2578 I don’t obsess over my hair lol In just blessed 😊

[@MissWonder101]

Hey! Would love to see you try the Olaplex No.0 and No.3! They are “bond builders” and could potentially help you on your wavy hair / healthy hair journey. (:

[@G625-s1c]

as she explained, her hair has very little damage so idk if olaplex would change her hair too much

[@MissWonder101]

@@G625-s1c Neither does my hair have damage. Olaplex can help already healthy hair stay healthy and get healthier. (:

[@Sabrina-sx9fl]

@@MissWonder101 if your hair is very strong then using olaplex isn't the best idea. It just strenghtens your hair more which will make it dull and stiff especially if your hair needs moisture and is dry. Speaking from personal experience and also talking to a an extremely skilled hairstylist that has worked with olaplex since then beginning and knows how or why certain people react to olaplex in a bad way. :)

[@dominika1688]

Hey, maybe the structure of your hair has changed due to hormonal changes?

[@cuxynails]

I’m so happy for you to choose your happiness over the fear of being stigmatized (kinda). I actually just heat styled my hair for the first time in my life yesterday and i felt great the entire evening! Isn’t this whole thing to make you more happy with your hair? If your happiness includes heat styling and dyeing then so be it. Everyone who tells you, that you aren’t allowed to be happy because it’s “wrong” and “unhealthy” should just try to find their own happiness really. It’s not like the heat styling will have any impact on your physical health whatsoever. But it will FOR SURE have a positive effect on your mental health, so there is no reason to not do it if you want to. Glad to see you confident enough to do so

[@nicoleavery7238]

It does damage your hair though..which is an extension of your body

[@cuxynails]

@@nicoleavery7238 but it does not affect the rest of your body. who cares about healthy hair when you don’t enjoy it and it takes serious effects on your mental well-being. When the hair is damaged, you can just cut it. It’s about feeling good in your body and if heat styling makes you feel good you should do that. There is literally no consequences.

[@abbiezinn3352]

hey, maybe try what i’m doing! i started the curly girl method around when you did because my hair was very annoying and in some places straight, some places curly. so what i do is wash it 2-3 times a week and after every wash (at night) i put it in two braids and then sleep on them, and wear them for the day and the next morning i take them out. my hair has been looking AMAZING. please try it.

[@buddyholly4672]

I'm so jealous of girls who can do this? Do you have a lot of hair? My hair looks terrible and frizzy when i do it bc my braids are tiny and thin.

[@abbiezinn3352]

@@buddyholly4672 my hair is quite thick, and it’s already wavy so the braids are not meant for styling, it just evens out my curl pattern. im sorry it doesn’t work for you :(

[@mariavictoriaghioca]

Braids as in dutch braids, or just normal braids ?

[@abbiezinn3352]

@@mariavictoriaghioca personally i can’t dutch braid myself because my arms get sooo tired so i just do two normal, three strand braids. dutch braids might work better but it’s up to you to decide.

[@restartonce1852]

U should try cocoon curls, they're a game changer

[@patriciacooley362]

The curly girl method was quite frustrating when I first started and still is somewhat. I have 3c hair on the back and under neath my hair, 2b on the sides and 2a on the top layer. I am now in almost 4 months and I have learned a couple of things. My hair does not like gel. It will look good for one day and one day only. The rest of the days my hair is dry, crispy and super tangled. I have tried everything from oils to leave in on the days following day one hair. It just turns into a stringy mess and then I have to spend days just looking bad until the next wash day. I no longer use gel. Instead I use a tiny amount of leave in and then a curl cream when it is soaking wet in the shower. My hair does not get tangled very much anymore and it is so soft and shiny. The “curls” are looser but it looks like it has full body and not frizzy. My hair does not like pure oils. It will get super stringy even if I use only a single drop! For my wavy hair oils have to be combined in a the format of a conditioning alcohol like the ones in conditioners or leave ins. Briogeo makes a hair oil that has those in it and is silicone free. Perfect for scrunching out the tiny cast from the curl cream. But I only use two drops- one at a time. My hair does not like to be turned upside down in a silk scarf to sleep on. The tangled the next day are horrible! I wrap my hair right side up. I place the silk scarf under my hair lying on my shoulders. I take two adjacent corners and ty them on top of my head just behind my bang area. Then pull the other corners straight up nestling my hair close to my head. Twist the top about 2 to 3 times, cross the corners and tie underneath it all on the back of my neck. I then pull the “bangs” out and wrap around the outer part of the tie of the scarf. In the morning, I do not have to let my hair settle and have vey little tangles. I am able to finger comb my hair, gently mist with water, apply a drop of the briogeo hair oil, and go! With this routine, my hair looks nice for four days. My favorite leave in and cream is from the Andalou moisture line (orange bottles). All of the products that are specifically made for curly hair does not seem to work for my crazy wavy hair. By the way, I love that you have posted all of these videos for the CGM. They have been quite helpful for my own journey. You are an absolutely lovely person. I wish you all the best in finding your hair routine - curly girl method or not.

[@IsabellaDemarko]

thank you for sharing Patricia :) xx

[@andreapendrea865]

what curl creme do you use? i have experienced the same problems using gel and 'pure' oils

[@patriciacooley362]

@@andreapendrea865 it’s not a “curl cream” per say but states that it is a “styling cream” it’s by Andalou, the moisture line. I guess that is what I meant by when I said I use a curl cream. 😄 for some reason I just cannot use products that are specifically for curly hair. It’s so weird! If I want my waves to be more ringlets I can use a gel (Giovanni) but I am cleansing conditioning the next day because my hair is sooooo dry with gels. Lol! Ugh! The struggle is real!

[@andreapendrea865]

@@patriciacooley362 I know...it seems like you can never win 🙈 but reading these comments is weirdly comforting

[@camillenia3886]

GOD loves you all. GOD bless you all. Have a blessed day everyone.

[@annabrabston2892]

Hey! so I hope i'm not overstepping, but I used to be obsessive over my hair because i had a cowlick. I obsessed over ways to get rid of/fix my cowlick. I ended up finding out I had OCD and my hair was a large part of it. I never ever thought i would simply "get past" my issues with my hair, but once i worked on myself and started medication for ocd and anxiety I stopped fixating on my hair. Have you ever talked to anyone about the stress you feel over your hair? hugs

[@sydneybodenstein928]

I have obsessive compulsive disorder and I obsessive over my hair too :(

[@itsl4135]

I hope this doesn’t sound dumb but how did the medication help you and did you experience any side effects

[@melissax_x2539]

My hair is superrrr frizzy all the time and it's super annoying. To tame the frizz, what I do is after I was my hair, I air dry (or you can blow dry) my hair, and when it's 95% dry, I brush it, then I grab some elastics and with one of them, I tie my hair into a low pony, then with the another elastic, I tie my hair again, a little lower than where the other elastic is (about 6cm)and depending on how long your hair is, keep repeating this until your last elastic is 6-7 cm away from the end of your hair. You can put the elastics as far away as you want from each other, depending on how far away from each other you Want the nice waves to be, but personally I find the 6-7 cm to be enough. Then you want to let your hair fully dry through the night or through the day. After you take the elastics out, your hair will be frizz free, and you will have beautiful waves in your hair. Try not to brush too much or the waves will disappear. If you think it looks too flat tilt your head down and slightly move your fingers through Your roots to give some volume up top. And that's how your hair will be frizz free for the next 1-3 days will beautiful natural looking waves ( ͡ ͜ʖ ͡ )

[@neko_san6896]

@@melissax_x2539 I do something like that 2 :3

[@caitlynnp9507]

I think I might be OCD about my hair. I've been obsessing over it for years and haven't ever been content with it. I'm working on that now though.

[@Uhohlisa]

You seem to want your hair to be perfect without any styling. That’s extremely rare. Most people have to work for nice hair. Just decide which look you like most and style from there.

[@rebeccar628]

Yeah, I thought that too. Mine is straight/wavy and a bit coarse and thick. I’ve had to heat style it since junior high, so I was like why aren’t you just blow drying it? It sucks. I feel like I could have become a rocket scientist with the time I’ve spent drying my hair lol

[@melissax_x2539]

My hair is superrrr frizzy all the time and it's super annoying. To tame the frizz, what I do is after I was my hair, I air dry (or you can blow dry) my hair, and when it's 95% dry, I brush it, then I grab some elastics and with one of them, I tie my hair into a low pony, then with the another elastic, I tie my hair again, a little lower than where the other elastic is (about 6cm)and depending on how long your hair is, keep repeating this until your last elastic is 6-7 cm away for the end of your hair. You can put the elastics as far away as you want from each other, depending on how far away from each other you Want the nice waves to be, but personally I find the 6-7 cm to be enough. Then you want to let your hair fully dry through the night or through the day. After you take the elastics out, your hair will be frizz free, and you will have beautiful waves in your hair. Try not to brush too much or the waves will disappear. If you think it looks too flat tilt your head down and slightly move your fingers through Your roots to give some volume up top. And that's how your hair will be frizz free for the next 1-3 days will beautiful natural looking waves ( ͡ ͜ʖ ͡ )

[@Ariplaygames]

Yeah I think thats the actual problem. Her hair is not bad, she just seems to think there is people that do nothing to their hair and look perfect and I dont think that exist really. Everyone does something, some more than others, but hair needs care nonetheless. Its just a matter of finding what kind does your particular hair needs.

[@lent_ils]

@@Ariplaygames I was blessed with a hair texture that can just be washed and conditioned and air dried and will look ok, but if I only do that I will still have the odd wave at the tip of my hair. So even the most blessed of us don’t have perfect smooth straight hair, but just “ok” hair if they do the bare minimum.

[@mysidian]

@@Ariplaygames Th thing is the second she does anything to her hair, the "your hair is frizzy cause heat damage!!" comes out.

[@XEveryoneLovesEmilyX]

We have to manage our expectations. My hair will always be frizzy if i don't use products, gels, deep conditioners etc. I feel like that's a fact that people with afro hair like me just see as part of life and other wavy/curly girls might have to make peace with. We need to embrace all different types of textures and hair densities.

[@draculena]

i feel like an outlier, but i love having frizzy hair. my hair is so fluffy and lively, and people have told me that it looks like i have a halo of hair! or like i have a cloud of hair. i’ve grown to embrace it, and i’ve had frizzy/fly-away hair my whole life. i don’t try to slick it down with gel or product anymore. i am so sorry that frizz has been giving you so much trouble :( 💗

[@janetumukoro7126]

Yeah, your profile pic is a whole LOOK, lol, whatever your doing is working

[@melissax_x2539]

Yesss embrace it! Some people crimple their hair and brush it out for it to look frizzy, so we have to be happy we have it naturally like that

[@blinkingwhiteguy2244]

i have wavy hair, and i don’t religiously follow every single rule of the CGM. it’s tedious and frustrating, so i get the products i like, i don’t care if it has sulfates or silicones, i use them. i don’t use heat often but i won’t just cut it out entirely. i think that you should do what your hair likes, not what a book says to do.

[@julianauratsuka7366]

I have wavy/curly hair and I straighten it once every 15 days to "reconstruct" it, and as you said there's nothing wrong about it. I don't properly follow the curly girl method since my shampoos have sulfates, however, this works for me (does it work for everyone? probably not, I do a low-poo routine instead of a no-poo) as well as doing a pre-shampoo treatment (quick explanation: you could use like a cheap hair mask combined with some kind natural oil if you want, you apply it on the length of your hair and leave it from 30min to like 2hours. Then when you wash your hair the damage of the shampoo will be reduced). Also doing a "hair chronogram" has helped me a lot, so every time I wash my hair I either moisturize it (adding water to your hair) or apply a nutrition mask (add oil to your hair, which is usually related to frizz and split-ends) or a reconstruction one (related to keratin and proteins to restore your hair mass, this can be done like once every 15 or 20 days) Idk if exists this kind of hair masks or at least videos about it in English, but there's a lot of content of it in Portuguese and many products here in brazil as well. Hope it helped and love from brazil

[@catarinabrito7819]

Which products do you buy, especially the masks?

[@julianauratsuka7366]

@@catarinabrito7819 Well, I don't use a specific brand or so, but I'd recommend (if you're Brazilian) the Inoar Blends hair mask for nutrition, OM from Yenzah to moisturize, and the "gloss de cauterização" from trivitt

[@TinyCloud90]

This is the enlightenment we all got trying the curly girl method, especially with wavy hair

[@dodymohamed369]

I have seen people doing the CGM and their hair was incredibly beautiful after two years so in my own opinion wait more and i have seen mostly all ur previous hair videos. Your hair is becoming more and more shinier even the color is brighter and more beautiful than before. So keep fighting and be patient hair isnt sth that could be repaired just in some months. You may need a year to feel a complete change.

[@thisismycreativeusername5418]

She's the reason why my hair looks nice. i can't imagine how frustrating this must have been

[@tezeth_1385]

Me guiltily watching this while straightening my hair: 👀 *don’t kill me it’s been almost a whole year and it’s my birthday*

[@RosannevanEden]

Happy birthday!! x

[@Dana-zw6yt]

Happy birthday ❤️❤️🎈🎊💐

[@Maca-fh4uk]

happy birthday, all love from italy💗

[@Maca-fh4uk]

@Graupel Spiller ODDIO NON CREDEVO SIA POSSIBILE TROVARNE SOTTO IL VIDEO DI UN INGLESE ahaha, ciaooo saluti dal veneto!!

[@aperson5261]

Happy birthday 🥳!!!!

[@anp3535]

Hey Isabella! Have you thought about other factors that might impact your hair health? Diet, alcohol consumption, tobacco, sleep quality, stress, etc.These correlate a lot with the quality of the hair strand!!!!!!! Just putting it out there cos it might help :)) Love you xxxx

[@stargazerbird]

Agree. Especially diet. You need protein and calorie balance to grow healthy hair.

[@emmagreen9498]

thank you for showing us the whole story. It gives me and probably so many other people realistic expectations when trying the cgm. We honestly have exactly the same texture hair, so it would make sense for my hair to end up this way. Thank you for embracing the odd nature of hair!!

[@makeupdoll7413]

I honestly think your hair looked amazing with your natural straight texture, straight with some volume. Some of us just don't have pin straight hair some of us just have 1B-1C hair type. Relax and don't think about it too much. *Edit* I also think hair is a matter of genetics. Yes haircare does matter, yeah some things can improve our hair (food, some vitamins not all of them) but it is what it is. I have a blonde balayage and my hair is soft, I'm using Olaplex shampoo and conditioner and the Briogeo don't despair repair hair mask, along with an organic cone free hair oil. For now this routine works but I wished my hair was thicker and for that I should eat better and take blood tests. The things we do and use externally are important yes but not that important cause it's a combination of genetics and health condition.

[@alexandratirello2251]

I can totally understand this, I used to do all this crap to make my hair perfectly curly/wavy and now I’m just doing the minimum like washing it when it needs, leave in conditioner, brief air dry, and headband curl, up in a bun until dry, or gentle brushing till dry and I just go with the natural texture🤷‍♀️ never felt less stressed about my hair till I just let it go it’s own way and giving it the obvious stuff it needs to stay “healthy”. I also don’t color or heat style my hair anymore. My only goal atm is to grow it out a bit more

[@annarivera7117]

If I dont remember bad, your hair is high porosity, try a protein treatment like olaplex number 1 and 2, or aphogee (it has silicones but you can do a clarifying wash and that ok)

[@scarletayala5215]

I think the same, her hair seems to need proteins

[@Simon-xl1yz]

She has tried many protein treatments already, I believe she barely had any difference which went away next wash instantly

[@catfran7250]

Olaplex doesn’t have protein

[@apricotcotlet197]

@@catfran7250 Can confirm

[@G625-s1c]

most people only need extra protein in their hair if it's damaged, and overuse of protein can cause hair to be more brittle and dry and break off, so aphogee probably isn't the best idea since it's a super intensive treatment meant only to be used by salon professionals

[@mr.fiffles]

good job on moving in to a new place! I think you might like the channel swavy curly courtney, her channel is super helpful and really helped me with cgm and choosing the right products and really helped me understand protein. I've been watching your channel since your 6 year hair journey video and you've inspired me a lot. thank you for creating content! :D

[@IsabellaDemarko]

yes we already speak :)

[@camillerimoux]

I really love how you've gone threw everything before beginning to accept to do whatever you want!

[@marshmellowsnowman]

i really appreciate you making this video to show that it doesn't work for everyone!! sometimes your hair, no matter what you do, is just gonna be how it be. as someone with mad hair dysphoria as well, with very thin, light hair (basically same colour as yours) with S-wave texture, i struggle daily to feel good about my hair. this video was a nice reminder that it's okay to just have hair like this and it isn't simple always the individual's "fault" for doing too much to it. i don't need to feel guilty that my hair looks the way it does because of something i did. you were so right when you said we shouldn't judge people's hair when we see that it's "damaged"; maybe that is just how their hair is. i've been following your hair journey from the very beginning and it's been very relatable for me. it makes me sad to see you struggling so much with not feeling good about yourself based on how you feel your hair looks that day. from my third-party, outside perspective, i thought your hair looked good in EVERY single video. but i GOT it; i understood how you were feeling, as I had felt that way so many times before. i know how much my views towards my hair affect me in my daily life, and seeing you feel the same things about your hair, even though from my view there was nothing wrong with your hair at all, helped me to reflect on my own views of my hair. as i was thinking you needed to be less hard on yourself, i realized that i was not taking my own advice and needed to be less hard on my self.

[@gingersal8052]

It's so interesting to see your conclusions on the experiment! My hair texture is pretty similar to yours and yes it always looks damaged even though I take incredible care of it :/ I tried the CGM during lockdown so for about two months, then gave up on it, it was too time consuming and my hair was greasing super fast after it. Now for the last months, I've just been doing : no dry detangling, detangling with a large comb, lots of conditioner, light scrunching with a towel after shampoo, natural ingredients based mask once in a while (mainly rice water or oats cream) and overnight bun with a telephone cord scrunchie. They still look a bit damaged and dry but the wavy pattern is nicely showing, and having had straight yet frizzy hair all my life, I really like it this way.

[@linlinng8802]

what products are you using?

[@gingersal8052]

@@linlinng8802 it really depends on what I have, but basically sulfate and sicilicone free. At the moment I use a solid shampoo (Pachamamai) and a conditioner made in France. They are not explicitly targeted at curly/wavy hair but very mild so recommended by French "curly influencers". For deep treatment, I just use pure natural products, olive oil, diy oat cream, rice and thyme rinse, sometimes henna as well.

[@theprettypie354]

your hair already looks great honestly, it has volume and a beautiful color!

[@elise1739]

This is almost exactly what my hair journey has been like. I have thicker hair, but it has always been insanely frizzy and poofy, despite my scalp being a ball of grease. I tried the curly girl method for months, to pretty much no avail. My hair looked almost exactly like yours throughout my time doing the method. Recently I've switched up my products (again) to ones more tailored to my hair type (sulfate free and not), I've started using more heat and brushes, and have started brushing my hair daily. Personally, this has made a world of difference. My hair is much less frizzy (it is still there, just not as prevalent), my oils are better distributed throughout my hair, and it looks and feels much more soft and shiny rather than course and dry at the ends, and greasy towards the scalp. Essentially, the things that everyone told me were bad for my hair ended up being the exact things that made my hair better. I think that natural products are still good for certain things, but I feel like haircare is similar to skincare in the way that not everything that is natural is the best for you. Sometimes, you need chemicals in order to get the most effective washes and to get everything to look and feel the way you want it. There should never be any shame in that. Suffering over the way your hair looks just isn't worth it, and everyone should be able to do what makes them and their hair look and feel good, regardless of what others may think of you for it.

[@larabardot6836]

Dear Isabella, thank you so much for sharing your experience with us! I’ve been following you from the beginning of your journey since I have exactly the same type of hair as yours. Frizzy, puffy and fried looking even though I don’t do anything damaging to it. I’ve been dying it blonde for a couple of years 10y ago and I’ve always thought I destroyed the root of my hair and that was the reason my hair is this way. I’m honestly relived to learn that might not be the case at all! I came to the same conclusion about the CGM as you now. I was so excited when I started doing the CGM but I’ve soon realized that it’s too tiring, frustrating, expensive and time consuming and I felt such a RELIEF after I finally washed my hair with a “bad” shampoo, blow dried it and applied a silicon hair oil. My hair was soo silky, smooth, shiny and beautiful 😌 If it can’t look nice when I’m trying so hard to keep it healthy and it actually looks wayyy healthier when I apply products that are supposed to be bad for it then I might as well just do that 😄

[@StarslightAndDreams]

I can't believe that I had a very similar thought today!! I am currently experimenting sooo much with different products and techniques to make my waves more defined and even but honestly... I think this is as much as i'll get out of it. my hair's health is fine, i was expecting a lot more of those "miracle products" so now really I might as well just stick to my simpler routines and not worry about it too much!

[@froggiesponds]

Reading the comments is so validating...I have curly hair (kind of 3A) but ever since I was young I frequently heat styled. I'm a Latina that went to a school with many white students with pin-straight hair, and my natural hair always made me feel like I stood out in a bad way, like i looked messy. I started to sometimes leave it curly (only heat styling bangs) late in high school, but it wasnt until now in quarantine (im 23 now) that I heard and decided to try the curly method. I thought that after 7 months and who knows how many products bought that my hair would look incredible, but instead its way frizzier, drier and messier curls than I had back in high school when the heat styling was no doubt damaging it. I also have an oily scalp with psoriasis which doesnt help AT ALL..So lately, like you, i've decided that i really just want to enjoy my hair, that its kind of stupid for my self-esteem to be so affected by this obsession to try to make my natural hair perfect when considering my family's hair..it just wont ever be. So firstly I started using sulfate shampoos again sometimes (the no-sulfate ones helped the curls look nice but did not help my scalp at all), I stopped scrunching (just creates a bird nest on top) and I gave up on most of those less frizz tricks (upside down wash/style, microfiber towel, colder water, curl cream when its more wet than dry, etc etc etc). Doing this, my hair looks practically the same as it did 3 months ago when i was being strictest with the CGM, lmao. My next things to try will be getting a big cut (my hair grows incredibly fast so I might as well try), trying more scalp masks (its clearly more problematic than the rest of my hair and probably affects it) and incorporating some heat styling back into my routine! we each know our hair best so we should just do whatever we want to be happy with it!

[@calebdecamp2427]

I agree totally. But you can be Latina and white. Latina is an ethnicity

[@froggiesponds]

@@calebdecamp2427 I'm fully aware! In my case, like many other latinas, im a racial mix that usually leads to me (and other mixed latinas) as being perceived and treated as non-white. That definitely applied to my experience with my hair growing up, my hair was seen as being 'unruly' and 'messy' compared to 'white' hair. But yes i know that tho many latinas have experienced what I did, not all do, since many do have that 'white' hair and are white/are perceived as white

[@Cazzandra1]

dude I have the exact same hair!!! It used to be fine and then sometime around the age 23-24 it became frizzy and dry as fuck, for NO REASON?? I tried so many things to make it nice and frizz-free, but nothing worked so I gave up and heatstyle it instead (with good products and heat protector ofc) :D

[@IsabellaDemarko]

amen

[@aparna6254]

YAYY she's using heat~ It really helps tame all the frizz and if you use a good heat protecting spray/serum and good quality styling tools then the damage can be kept to a minimum and your hair is going to look and feel much better

[@f7665]

Thank you for this. I have the exact same hair type and no one understands how difficult it is to make it look nice. Like you, my healthiest state looks like a frizzy mess. I eat healthily, I don't dye my hair, I spent so much money on curly girl products but nothing changes it permanently. What you said resonated with me because I always dreamed of having shiny and voluminous hair and I've been searching, experimenting, and asking hair care professionals but no one has the answer! It so frustrating, because we do everything right but nothing deems results! Thank you for posting your vids. It's comforting to know other people go through it too.

[@karinax4745]

I feel like we been on this journey together. As soon I leave the house - British weather does its thing, and magically puffs out any hairstyle I have had! pure magic! Frizzz everywhere! Since I discovered you back in March! I started my hair journey. Did I start to question, maybe my hair is just not straight? and since then, I did discover my hair actually is wavy - and I love it! I did change my routine, no heat, no sulfated etc! - been such an improvement! I am trying to grow my hair, and been doing an upside-down method which does require to comb your hair - but I have a sea salt base beatch wave spray (INNERSENSE) - that I distillate heavily with water - few sprays and a good crunch - and waves are back! So a big thanks! :)your videos had been a blessing!

[@Lalawink_and_32_others]

I've been watching you since your hair journey started. And I never had anyone to relate so much. My hair just suddenly changed went frizzy, dry and different all over, started breaking off. So I've hoped that you going find the answer for me as you are trying everything there is. And I've also tried everything. And few months back I was so disgusted with my hair and died it slightly dark with demi permanent hair dye. I was scared because I thought my hair won't suit me, but not only my hair looks fine...the texture..it just improved and my hair is growing non stop. P.s. My hair was mostly virgin, with slight highlights done once by a professional hairdresser. NO EXTREME damage

[@fraufuchs9555]

I'm also wavy but I don't follow the CGM. But I style it with mousse or gel and I really like the results. Actually to be honest my hair looks much worse if I don't use sulfates.

[@lilystellmacher2263]

Honestly working with my hair upside down never worked well with me. The back of my head would be pin straight and the front would be super curly. It also kinda messes up my part and my hair falls in weird places when I do stuff upside down

[@Liteweaver301]

My hair is naturally fluffy/wavy and I'm sure if I used products for it I could get the ends to curl, but I'm with you, it's hard to deal with. 😑 But I believe in your journey! ❤️

[@lemonandoliveoil]

Girl, you’ve been so brave! I wouldn’t be able to be so micro-focused on my hair for SO LONG! Do whatever you want now. My hair has been better than ever when I quit the CG-method, and I’ve dyed it. My diffuser on medium heat is my best friend. Flipping heck to the haters! Go experiment with rollers or straightening or dye or whatever. I, for one, am looking forward to the next video where you’re free to do what you want! :-)

[@versokka]

I feel you. So. Much. I've had the exact same experience with curly girl. I still sometimes use flax seed gel but more as a mask than anything. As a kid I had proper hobbit-hair, then it suddenly turned straight, in middle school I had waves and ringlets and now it's a bit straighter again. My hair has been a hot mess my entire life, it's so dry and frizzy. I used to always have this halo of frizz around my head (combined with my Jesus-haircut that was a look). Two years ago I chopped it all off, and my new hair grew back so much better! For the first time in years I was happy with my hair! But then as it grew, the frizz started to return, and it was so damn frustrating. Lately the thing that has helped my hair the most has been switching to wooden combs and a boar bristle hair brush. Apparently they're supposed to better distribute your own natural oils in the hair and cause less static. I add a couple drops of hair oil every night to my ends and sleep with my hair tied up in a loose bun so I won't lie on it. Also at home I always make it a point to keep my hair as free as it can bee, and if I put it up I do braids to cause the least amount of damage possibe! Most of the time I let my hair get really oily before washing it, maybe once in a week and a half. Something good about the 'rona there, less need to look presentable, lol. Winter is coming, so we'll see how my hair reacts to it this year, yikes. One thing I would love to try is singeing my hair! I've heard really good things about it, though I haven't cathered up the courage to try it for myself yet.

[@dinacameron4670]

As a 13 year old girl, your videos are so inspirational. I have the same hair texture as you and I have really had a hard time not having hair that matches “Societies expectations”. I can be having a rough day and come and watch your video and I immediately feel better. Thank you so much for being a real and unfiltered role model for your girls. Side note, have you ever tried Curlformers? I have been wanting to try them for a while but, I don’t know how it would work on my hair type.

[@MizzRychcik]

Not hair related but I love your storytelling :) I could literally watch and enjoy any story you would be sharing with us

[@SwavyBlonde]

Aw, I'm so happy for you! You finally feel better and accept your hair and yourself. I'm not strict on CGM either and feel that only because of it I have hair I actually enjoy. Looking forward seeing your future hair videos!

[@abbeyh8769]

Thank you for being honest and posting this video, despite all those people who find the need to leave negative comments! I just began the cgm and I’ve been trying to see different opinions and results.

[@stephanietinoco5913]

Listen, this is just my experience i cannot guarantee it but I really encourage you to give it a shot. Its been almost a year since shampoo had touched my head. No I'm not stinky I swear! I just use conditioner. Let me explain why. About 2 years ago I noticed a patch of hair that was textured and frizzy no matter what. It was worth about a fourth of my hair so it was noticeable. I aggressively attacked it with heat and it worked until I went outside into the humid climate. Yada Yada I tried alot of things then this caught my eye. I always thought my hair was dry so maybe it would work. After a few months the change REALLY set in. Though you have to be diligent on scrubbing your scalp with your fingertips and using enough conditioner. Slowly but surely my hair started to regain the 2c waves i had as a child before all the dying and damaging things I did to it. I decided to nourish the curls and those textures pieces were the curliest! Even when I don't have time to form them my hair still looks healthy and shiny. For the exact products I used the aussie brand because they were accessible, cheap, and for curly hair. The oil, leave in conditioner, conditioner, deep conditioner for the ends, and gel are all from aussie Tip if your scalp flakes it might be too dry so try using deep conditioner on your scalp too! Thanks for reading!

[@madisonsabsoluterandomness5411]

Love the new house! (Well from what I can see) love all your videos so much💕your hair looks much better and amazing than two years ago, a lot less messy. Hope you will do a flat tour once you have finished the moving process

[@mishkakhurana6588]

I click so fast faster than James Charles can say hi sisters

[@juanitamelendez6801]

Why don’t you go to hairstylist

[@maggiemoyer]

𝚃𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚒𝚜 𝚜𝚞𝚌𝚑 𝚊𝚗 𝚘𝚟𝚎𝚛𝚞𝚜𝚎𝚍 𝚌𝚘𝚖𝚖𝚎𝚗𝚝

[@Maca-fh4uk]

SAME LOL

[@mishkakhurana6588]

@@maggiemoyer this is an overused comment too

[@nataliaimakulata5903]

But james do be racin doe

[@SSLLatia]

don't apologise. your CGM journey is so valuable. you did it for so long and documented it so well. especially that in your case it doesn't lead to perfect curls automatically is SO SO important. because there will be many others who fail and will blame themselves. but if they see your video, at least they have a life example of someone who did EVERYTHING right and still doesn't have their dream hair texture. it helps to get to that acceptance. so thanks so much for your tireless efforts!

[@bsantana7278]

I have been following your journey with a lot of hope, because my hair is very similar to yours. An advice to get rid of the frizz and save lots of time “styling”: at home Brazilian or keratin straightening treatments. It got rid of all my frizz (yes, now my hair is straight, instead of wavy) but it looks SO healthy! So smooth and shiny. Before trying the first time, I was about to cut my hair very short because it felt so damaged, then I tried this as a last resort and it brought my hair back to life. I would give it a try!

[@MissCuteAndLovely]

~ A C C E P T A N C E ~ is a good key word I experience it with my adult acne.. So many people are like 'why is your face like that' 'you have acne' gurl like I dont know lol

[@abigailblum2617]

Wave is just a type of curl so it's totally ok for all us wavy hair girls to call our hair curly because it is:)

[@ashleigh9690]

I CLICKED SO FAST?!?! I CANT WAIT TO WATCH THIS

[@d.8900]

I agree with you! Especially when you mentioned the toxic attitude of most people that others when they think they do not 'embrace' themselves. I mean, I think it's so unfair how people would ridicule someone for "changing" something about themselves and making it "unnatural". Do whatever that nakes you feel confident, beautiful, and happy! Thank you for your presence and your voice! You help widen my perspective that even the "littlest" of things such as hair actually mean so much for someone and it is NOT absurd at all! Your videos make me think beyond and feel more understanding of others. Much love from Philippines! ❤

[@abbeythomas07]

Girl your hair is beautiful whether it’s long or short have it however you feel yourself. I have followed your entire journey and it’s taught me a lot about my hair and how to look after it well even though it’s a different hair type. I love your videos your such an inspiring person and your hair is healthy in you hairs state. Style your hair however you want don’t let people judge you for doing what makes you feel like a queen 🤍

[@lesleylightbody7017]

My coarse hair hated the Shea moisture line .... my hair really doesn’t like coconut which a lot of CG products have, my hair is much softer using non coconut products ...... I don’t follow the C G method as I need to use shampoo to tame the frizz, you can healthy hair without using silicones etc .... hope you find what is best for you xxx