4 months of CGM | my hair got bad (and addressing the hair obsession)

[@hi-jf8yy]

there should really be a "wavy girl method" for wavies who struggle with their hair because it's not straight nor curly it's just right in between

[@SimsInfoVideo]

I found a German website with a wavy girl method, it basically says the same as in the curly girl except that you shouldn't use conditioner too much and don't use gel (too heavy, rather use mouse or something) 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@relarras]

That’s me!

[@isabelhoch3713]

Totally.

[@isabelhoch3713]

Kpop Stuff that makes so much sense!! I try to use thicker gels on my wavy hair and it just doesn’t work, also I can’t deep condition cuz my hair is wavy

[@hazelfyr8982]

Check out Manes by Mel. She's curly, but has videos for wavies sometimes. Shes actually a pro so I recommend. And I'm a wavy. 😁

[@goldielocks9092]

I'm so upset at the amount of hate she gets just for caring for her hair. Her videos are amazing. I impatiently wait for each and every upload. They are so educational. The videos she makes require so much research and effort, and they're literally the best when compared to other vidson KZbin on the same topic. I loved how deep she went into the apple cider rinse and rice water rinse. Everyone cares for their hair. She's just putting it on KZbin so that many people can benefit from it. But some people just won't stop. Some don't even watch the whole videos before commenting shit on her videos.

[@Ash-ty4qp]

Yh right?! I agree and she helped me so much and doesn’t make me feel so alone and bad. She deserves so so much love, honestly such a sweet and caring person❤️

[@unicornbukucu7284]

Same!

[@goldielocks9092]

@@linaz. no it's not a mental obsession. If her channel is directed towards one topic, then of course you're gonna see most of the videos from that topic only. She has other amazing videos as well where you get to see her personality, and get an idea for what her life is besides all the hair stuff. People literally comment stuff, she tries it for us and herself, and then y'all start calling it an obsession. Have you seen Ayesha Malik's channel, or Curly Penny (Penny tovar) or any other channels dedicated to hair? Will you call them obsessed too? People bully her for no other reason except for the fact that they think they know everything or they know better! Smh!

[@goldielocks9092]

@@linaz. " and herself". Have a good day.

[@idrk1507]

Lina Z. H Did you even watch the video. She said she is ‘obsessed’ but that’s because she has to keep going for KZbin. KZbin is most of her income and her hair produces that money. She has to keep making videos. If it weren’t for KZbin she wouldn’t be putting that much effort. She’s only doing it because this is her job. Did you even watch the start of the video And bruh *why do you care* whether she’s doing these videos for money and views? Being a KZbinr *is* an actual job anyway? But even if it’s not why do you care whether she’s getting money or not lmaoo.

[@Littlechonch]

You don’t owe us anything girl, if at any point you’re sacrificing your health for the sake of content then it’s not worth it and you should focus more on helping yourself feel better ❤️

[@Hello0x0]

She has no job/source of income except YT. She is getting money but it's going to ruin her mental health. Imo she needs to redefine herself like what curly penny did. She doesn't even have curly hair and her advice is repeative dince she just mimic what other natural channels put out years ago.

[@Littlechonch]

Monar 0_0 I kinda agree but I have the same type of wavy hair and hair problems as her and she’s the only one who is doing the research to see what will work for this type of hair, as I can’t seem to find any other sources where hair is talked about in more depth than simply using surface free shampoo and not using heat tools so I do wanna see where she’ll find success. But if it’s impacting her badly enough then it’s not worth it and I’d be fine with her prioritising herself instead

[@Ash-ty4qp]

Nah it’s her choice at the end of the day and I think her helping ppl and making them feel not so alone and odd one out in the curly girl method, like me, makes her feel good. Obviously the journey is gonna be rough with annoying and unmanageable asf hair haha. But she’s doing great I think

[@Littlechonch]

Poor Azula I think so as well and yeah I mean if she’s doing alright then it’s fine but it’s also okay if she’s gotta take things at her own pace from time to time

[@mallissajackson6233]

Skin is stunning. Porcelain doll with emerald eyes.

[@hayley8907]

There's someone out there with perfect hair stressing because they don't have her skin and not even noticing their perfect hair lol

[@gabbyrojas3465]

Drop that skincare routine girl!!!!

[@zfox4743]

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[@cookinlikeachefima5starmic747]

Not emerald green eyes, more olive.

[@kaela-maerome280]

Lol this just sounds very Ed Gein of you.

[@nataliesovakova3348]

I was also obsessed with my hair. Then I stopped caring and suddenly my hair looks good.

[@pseudomoons]

If you’re actually using function of beauty, stop. The ingredients are garbage and every non-sponsored video I’ve seen about function of beauty said it dried their hair out.

[@mini627765]

THIS!!

[@Lucy-vx2ls]

Yes! I cannot get behind Function of Beauty, so I hope she's not using it anymore.

[@izcrem]

I saw this video titled "A non-sponsored Function of beauty review" and the girl talked about how she had to ASKED THEM about the ingredients list (First things first, the package doesn't contain the ingredients list on it? That's really weird) and the products had silicones that aren't soluble on water, you're completely right!! It's garbage!! Edit: just wanted to add the thing about the silicones.

[@_sadgirl_8730]

thank god I saw this comment, I was going to purchase it 😂

[@karolinaallen6550]

I use function of beauty and its completely fine... I think it depends on your hair type and whether you've chosen the correct options for you

[@rochellemartin412]

Hi Isabella - I know I speak for a lot of viewers when I say that even though your hair journey "blew up" your channel, what keeps us coming back every month is YOU! Your personality, honesty, editing style, effort and highly watchable content. So please feel free to branch out into making other content if you feel like it, especially if the intense focus on hair is affecting your mental health. We will still be here :)

[@IsabellaDemarko]

Thank you that is really nice to hear! X

[@fhcxfnvf7440]

Amin

[@dianas7429]

Yes! We'd watch anything you make. I'd love to watch more videos about your skincare regimen (you have an amazing skin), about your acting career, room decor (I love the way you arrange colours and forniture), a what you eat in a day, exercise, or any other interest you might have 😊

[@vanshikasood3786]

THE VOLUME IN THIS BUS

[@nibabi]

This is true. I watched your nail videos and your other videos. You’re funny, cute, have good content and great editing.

[@kintoki2849]

Why does nobody talk about how cute she is bareface

[@samanthanicholakis]

Because it's not relevant when she's like "hey guys kinda want to jump out the window because I've been fighting my hair for 7 years". But yes she's very cute.

[@jbei9981]

I just came here to comment how cute her freckles are!

[@mansie.]

Most of them are up for criticism than notice something worth giving compliment or credit for. Critics love to poke ANYTHING, by that I mean they just want something negative to talk about. Sucks to be in this world.

[@kintoki2849]

@@samanthanicholakis well that's Tru but she's hella cute

[@kintoki2849]

@@mansie. it really does suck. Ppl nvr see the gud side and keeps hating about the "bad side" of ppl

[@glaresaleh]

I want Brad Mondo to react to this journey soo BAAADDDD😩

[@gurleen1189]

Omg yessssss😩😍❗❗

[@lunar7237]

same

[@reagan_ruth7117]

Yess!

[@samiaerghouni8273]

SAMEEE

[@abbyfaith981]

Omg yasssss!

[@tinav.5895]

the first time I started the cgm I got obsessed over my hair too, I would eat, wash, spend my free time and even fall asleep watching videos about hair, I used to look at myself and feel so horrible. The whole journey really took a ton on my mental health. I hope you get better, just wanted to let you know that you are not alone

[@ilovecats322]

I feel similar, thank you for sharing :)

[@zitronenstern]

I think when you decide to wear your hair natural you just have to accept and even romantize frizzy days. On those days where the hair doesn't form perfect ringlets or waves you could put it up or half up and in my opinion that can look really pretty. When you google vintage portraits, you will find the beauty of frizzy hair, it actually looks very romantic.

[@perulandiaw.5437]

Well that’s for you, it bothers her and that’s fine. No hate

[@Moonbutnosun]

You know, I agree with OP. An example of this I do in my life, (not a curly girl.... Maybe a wavy girl but I'm just now exploring this concept) I like to wash every 5 days. On day 4 it is sometimes hard to not wash. What saves me is my go-to oily hair style--- two side Dutch braids. Using different styles to cope with different hair days is a must!

[@jennyrose9454]

I like that. I agree those old Victorian/ Edwardian ladies had some cool looking hair and its not straight smooth or perfect.

[@ikindoflikemangoes4951]

Finally someone said it, I know she doesn’t want frizzy hair and that’s perfectly fine but I never see people talk about how pretty frizzy hair can look.

[@cj5803]

@@perulandiaw.5437 I understand that it bothers her but for some people no matter what you do you will always have frizzy hair although it's too early in her journey to tell, aiming for this perfection of frizz free hair is mentally exhausting and it's better to just accept it

[@paulinefulterer]

I am not a huge commentor and you probably won't see this, but I just had to thank you for sharing and being vulnerable. It help so much knowing that someone else is struggling with similar issues! So thank you!

[@Leticiaclameidaaaa]

I MADE IT TO THE END!! I wanted to tell you that please don’t feel obligated to continue with the curly girl method in sake of the series. If you feel like it isn’t for you and it’s affecting you mentally, put your mental health first. I will definitely watch your videos regardless of the series and I’m certain so many of your subscribers feel the same! Take care of yourself ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@IsabellaDemarko]

thank you xx

[@hayley8907]

To be perfectly honest, I have no interest in trying to do anything with my hair or in weather or not the CGM world. I watch your videos because I like your personality and really your a very talented media artist. Love how you edit your videos.

[@helenaghoche835]

Why obsessng over skin care is normal but hair isn't like wtf?

[@juliaarnold1078]

Because hair can be grown out and repaired. Once damage is done to skin, its done.

[@kitbracadabra]

@@juliaarnold1078 this doesn't make it any less important!

[@juliaarnold1078]

Kitbracadabra your skin in an organ. Hair is dead. Your skin is more important.

[@rosebloom3711]

@@juliaarnold1078 not on regards to mental health and it's not a competition

[@thakchukihulifese2491]

@@juliaarnold1078 if hair isn't important then why people grow it out just go bald

[@tellezguerrero]

1. get a denman brush 2 .your hair has too much protein try to balance protein and moisture on your hair 3. wavy and curly hair have to be styled everyday 4. it takes a looooong time till u find the producs for your hair good luck ❤️

[@everlasting7thheaven]

The key to hair is BALANCE between humektants (glikons, gliceryn, aloe, hialuronic acid, honey etc), emolients (fatty alcohols, oils, butters, silicones) and proteins. Balance. Oils don't hydrate if put on dry hair. They hydrate put on moist har with water and/or humectants :)

[@melima_]

Denman sometimes does not work on wavy hair

[@shakeaboot]

Just wanted to say that curly hair doesn't always need to be styled every day. It does in the beginning when you're hair is freaking out, but as an 8 year curly I don't style every day.

[@Zoe-nf4qr]

@@shakeaboot same I style once to twice a week, everyday is too much manipulation and tires my hair out. Plus breakage. If I have a bad hair day I have very curly hair so I can toss it in a puff or just wear it as a fro. For someone with looser hair you can do a quick braid out of messy bun

[@patriciadenise7303]

Denmark brush for wavy hair is a NO, I have seen a lot of wavies and myself try it and it does almost nothing for us and just end up getting us more stressed about the curls.

[@claudiamirandola1305]

Oils don't moisturise hair, they seal moisture in

[@goldielocks9092]

Excuuuuse me😂😂 Oils DO moisturize hair. Some even hydrate them. An example is olive oil, or coconut oil.

[@claudiamirandola1305]

@@goldielocks9092 but isn't moisture provided by water and substances containing water?

[@goldielocks9092]

@@claudiamirandola1305 Ok so I googled about oils, and my bad. I wasn't educated enough on it, I admit it. They have a moisturizing effect because they penetrate the shaft and lock the moisture in.

[@roufaida8263]

It depends there are moisturizing ones that do penetrate the hair. And there are sealing ones, some do a little bit of both

[@beatinggg]

Hello! Just want to jump on the discussion. The fact that some oils penetrate the shaft does not mean they hidrate. Oils nourish. Hydration (retaining water), nourishment (oils) and reconstruction (protein) are the 3 pilars of hair care. So, while they are super important, it also super important to understand what for. Search for CAPILLARY SCHEDULE on google or youtube and you will find super interesting stuff 😄 greetings from CHILE ♥️ and if you are latina or spanish speaker you are more than welcome to follow me on my brand new blog @nitanhippielais on instagram and blogspot 🥰

[@maggiemoyer]

Watch Taylor Laois’s video on why she dosent do the curly girl method I think it will really help you (Trust me, it helped me and I think it can help you)

[@messymess7822]

Manes by mell and jamyjo's videos on that also helps a lot

[@maggiemoyer]

Guys can you please like the comment so that Isabella can see it?

[@mindajane]

Yeah Manes by Mell is my go to!

[@hazelfyr8982]

I second Manes by Mel!

[@frida5680]

This video also helped me because I was obsessing over people saying which brand is good, which brand is bad and bla bla bla... it really helped me because I’ve been using shea moisture line with proteins and my hair has literally never been better, and I found opinions that shea moisture dries hair and that proteins are bad also so I was confused why it works for me and not for others 🤷‍♀️ So yeah, do what works for you, good thing Tailor said it and more people are realising it 👏

[@mynameisfunky]

I dont go by the CGM, insted we have a swedish type of CGM, called "balsammetoden" (the balmmethod). In that we talk about conditioner with proteins and/or moisture. Maybe it exist in CGM aswell? My hair needs moisture and not proteins, so in the beginning when i used conditioner with proteins my hair got really dry, frizzy, and kind of what you describe. Tangled and did not look good. So when i figured this out and now only use conditioner with lots of moisture my hair gets really curly, glossy, minimal tangle and so on.

[@-Annn-]

Is it trial and error or could you know beforehand what your hair needs are?

[@flowwerfairy]

how do you check if the conditioner has proteins or not? x

[@hannahthecat8420]

Angela Theres this thing called “hair strand test” search it up on yt you will find out if you need protein or hydration

[@RutujaDicholkar]

@@-Annn- there is a video on this topic by Manes by Mell

[@mynameisfunky]

Angela like ”Hanna The cat” says, you can do a test but Yeah i think anyway you should try different kind of conditioner at the beginning! I know people who have stopped with the “balmmethod” cuz it “didn’t” work, but they didn’t know this about proteins and moisture so..!

[@laurenhofer02]

These struggles remind me of acne struggles. People obsess over their skin, others think it's preposterous. People cry and try everything they can until they find what works, usually years later

[@jessieaugustine3203]

I have wavy hair, probably like 2a hair. Gels are too heavy, mousse can be okay but I haven't found one that's not drying on my hair. I gave OGX Defining Cream a try and was pleasantly surprised. Wavy hair is in a league of its own. It really takes time.

[@riddhiverma7935]

Omg sameeee I have 2a hair and it gets greasy at the roots but it’s like a hay stack at the ends and no one talks about how to deal with wavy hairrrrr (But I have found this leave in Aragon oil and it’s super light in your hair so it makes it look shiny and not greasy) so Yh ✌🏼

[@jackieboo8146]

I have wavy hair as well, 2c, did you try flaxseed gel? It's very liquidy and is the one that works best for me

[@-Annn-]

That purple sweater complements your beautiful green eyes.

[@IsabellaDemarko]

thank you

[@immathechopsticksthatjinal5441]

Her honesty and relatable feeling attracts me to her more.

[@romykiffen3104]

Okay so, don't take this the wrong way but you know you don't have to wear your hair lose right. If you are having a bad hair day why don't you braid it or do another cool hairdo. You can still feel good about your hair without it being nice when you let it loose. I hope you already do this, but if you don't please consider it because it can help a lot!

[@vanshikasood3786]

THIS COMMENT

[@fabulousfab5277]

When I have a very bad hair day I just braid it. It looks nice and the next day I have some cool waves

[@user-hb3qv1eh5e]

Same! Great advice!!

[@mishakhan1822]

I think this could work for some people but sometimes your hair is so frizzy that no hairstyle looks good

[@marleyhill34]

@@mishakhan1822 styling product hides a multitude of sins. That and hair pieces, phony pony's and clip in's. I'm black and a bad hair day or not wanting to style my hair can be hidden by a silk or satin scarf.

[@vivi.veneera]

As a girl with wavy hair here are some tips: 1.Wash your hair with sulfate shampoo once a month to remove the build up. 2.Don't do co washing,it just does more bad than good to wavy hair. 3.Find out your hair porosity. My hair is low porosity so I wash it with warm water while hair with high porosity should be washed with cold water. 4.Put your leave-in while your hair is soaking wet (it will make it work better on wavy hair) 5.Avoid heavy oils like olive oil,coconut oil,castor oil etc. 6.Use not heavy oils like argan oil or jojoba oil. 7.Don't use too many,thick or heavy product. 8.This may be hard for some people but I air dry my hair upside down and when it is 80% dry I diffuse it with cold air.This method does wonders to my hair. 9.Deep condition your hair and do the bowl method. It will make your hair so soft. 10.Avoid drying alcohol 11.Don't do LOC(leave in,oil, cream) method.Instead,do LCO (leave in cream,oil) method I'm still a beginner in CGM so I'm not an expert,but I hope I helped you. It has been 2 months since I started doing CGM and my hair looks amazing and way better than before.😊

[@user-xv1cs9mm9d]

Youre amazing thank you for the tips

[@victoriajunk6318]

Thanks so much!! I have been looking everywhere for wavy hair advice like this :)))))

[@katii7141]

how many times should you use the deep conditioner

[@Fjongan]

8. Air drying your hair upside down? I’m confused. How? Like in a plop?

[@h0neymourn207]

Oils seal, they do not moisturize, so if you put oils on un-moisturized hair then oils will just seal in the dryness

[@Zoe-nf4qr]

Yah hot oil treatments usually just soften the hair as a pre routine kinda thing anyway

[@kermit238]

it depends on your hair type and porosity level. I have high porosity hair and i find it better to do the LOC method than finishing off with an oil

[@imawakemymindisalive13]

Dry hair is actually smoother and softer, moisturized hair is generally coarser (because of the cuticle) you are right that oils do not moisturize, but they make it feel softer because of oil and water thing that i am not going to go into full detail but yeah

[@miya8198]

Seeing your hair after the avocado oil, it looks like your hair had protein overload. It's sensitive to protein so look into whether it is in your products. Castor oil also causes breakage. Your hair looks like mine when I was using protein in my shampoo, stringy, breakage and dry. Also natural is not always better, since I started using sulphates (your scalp needs to be cleansed for it to grow) again it's the longest and thickest it's ever been. Please also look into your diet if you are plant based it's easy for women to become anemic. I ended up in hospital because of it. I now eat a Mediterranean diet where people live some of the most long and healthy lives and my hair is the best it's ever been.

[@Roomsya]

wow thank you for the advice!

[@dwoktheraynejonsohn4849]

Castor Oil helps grow hair, but also causes breakage? Does that mean it's only beneficial on your scalp?

[@Lauren-fy2mu]

Btw I’ve been vegan for four years and my hair is the longest it’s ever been. It’s currently at tailbone length. Also, being vegan doesn’t increase likelihood of being anemic.

[@amandatiffany6811]

Dwok The Rayne Jonsohn your hair grows regardless unless you have a health problem. castor oil is best on the ends of the hair. too much could cause breakage

[@miya8198]

@Anouk I never said "THE most" I said "some of the most" which is different. There are many studies that link it to longevity, including one that used 1.5 million people. My doctor recommended it to me and the NHS recommends it as a healthy diet.

[@greeenishblue]

I'm seriously around every time you post, IDK how..I'm not mad at it either!

[@paulatomic1848]

I'm at the end of month 4 now, and this month has also been the worst so far. My hair just won't cooperate, no matter what I do.. But hearing your struggles helps a bit, knowing I wasn't alone in this. I'm still going along with the journey though

[@paulatomic1848]

@Ammaarah Gardee huh, that could be the culprit. Although, I have been using and loving coconut in my hair at the beginning, so I just stuck with what worked initially. I love coconut so my entire haircare line is coconut themed, but I'll try cutting it out, thanks

[@amandawilson890]

I think month 4 is rough for pretty much all of us, and a lot of the time it turns out that it is actually just time for a haircut. That is especially bad this year since we CAN'T GET haircuts. But that's exactly how my hair starts to look when it's time for a trim.

[@sondrahaywood4781]

You’re hair is wayyy prettier than you think it is. You are so blessed

[@biancacolarusso3764]

Girl!! i literally went through the same thing! I even thought I was losing hair on the CGM. I ended up using silicones again at month 5 and my hair instantly got better. Watch Dr. Dray she is a dermatologist and she talks about why silicones actually aren't bad for your hair and how it's more of a marketing tool than anything else

[@IsabellaDemarko]

yes i wathcined it! i speak about silicones in my next update x

[@KN-eb3md]

@@IsabellaDemarko looking forward to this next update. I too turned back to silicone products (bed head after party), if it makes you happier don't be ashamed x

[@amandawilson890]

I've been using silicones once in a while, almost like a deep conditioner, and it helps sooooooo much. So once a month (ish) when i clarify my hair i use a silicone conditioner, then the rest of the time silicone free. But honestly to me it looks like your hair needs to be cut more than anything, my fine wavy hairs do exactly the same frizzy fluffy thing when my ends are getting split or when it gets too heavy for the waves to form properly. Since everywhere is closed for haircuts this year that would make sense for you to have a more .. extreme case i guess? Lol

[@marzipanmango]

Personally I use silicone hair products, but I also don't use any heat on my hair. I heard something about how straighteners and curlers "bake" silicone into your hair; do you know anything about that?

[@tabistubbs9925]

@@marzipanmango one of the main reasons silicones are in most products, is to protect against heat damage in your hair. No the heat will not bake the silicones into your hair.

[@liete-sl2wg]

That awkward moment when your early and then good comments aren't out

[@saltynebula]

Junguwuu~

[@cocomuffin4666]

jungwoo 🥺💚

[@chicken3432]

Are you here for the video or the comments

[@liete-sl2wg]

@@chicken3432 I mean usually when you finish watching the video and you read the comments cause usually there are good ones 😂

[@liete-sl2wg]

@k o t e e s w a r i tyongf :D

[@yaela885]

the 'function of beauty' shampoo and conditioner made my hair super dry and frizzy even after two and a half months of using it. I personally had a really bad experience with it despite all the positive comments about it over the internet. it is just my personal experience but maybe you should stop using it too for a while and see if there's any improvement. once I stopped, not even two weeks later, my hair calmed back down and returned to its straighter and softer form(as it used to be). btw, I made it to the end, loveeee your videos and you helo me so much!!

[@lina-ws8cu]

Same! I don't see the spark in it.

[@sophiah.7825]

For me personally it worked wonders. I've been using it for a year now and I love it. But yeah every hair is different and for some it might not work as great. She could stop using it for a couple of weeks to see if her hair improves and if it doesn't or gets worse than thats not the problem and she could start using it again and if it does maybe she should look for a different conditioner and shampoo

[@IsabellaDemarko]

it was alright but nothing special for me, they asked me to do a couple more promotions for more money believe it or not, but I declined. I felt uncomfortable talking about something I wasn't really that impressed with.

[@mirellymiranda9591]

for me when I used it it made my hair the softest and shiniest its ever been! Goes to show how everyone is different!

[@theproblem7304]

Hi whoever is watching this I hope u have the best day of ur life

[@katharinesutton7556]

You too xxx

[@Laura-xb6sr]

Omg, same thanksss!!

[@DiamondVeena]

I'm having a bad day so thanks lol

[@MisantropicFruit]

How sweet. Likewise! Have a good one

[@laurenhall268]

I’m only 3 minutes in, but I already feel like I need to give you some love. It’s very common to obsess about a part of your body that causes you stress. I had severe acne for years and I spent NIGHT and DAY thinking and researching, etc. It’s so natural. We are inundated with messages about our beauty being the most important thing about us, and then shamed for caring about our beauty? I’m so sorry that people have been unkind to you and made you feel like you’re alone. You are not alone. I feel less alone watching your videos and I hope that you get flooded with other kind comments to drown out those who have no compassion. Love your content, love you

[@becdiane]

I really need to recommend you watch Manes by Mell on KZbin and maybe even slide into her DMS. I'm sure she'd be happy to help. She's like a hair scientist. Her videos about hydral fatigue, moisture, and protein overload and so many others have helped me so much in my hair journey. I could finally get products that I knew my hair needed. My hair was very similar to yours while I did the cgm, but once I stopped and just used the curly hair products that my hair enjoyed, my hair started to thrive!

[@REDSTU1]

@ Isabelle Manes by Mell is the best . I watch all her videos. She has taught me so much. I pick and choose the products I want to use but I always know Mell wont steer me wrong. A really good wavy hair person is swavy wavy courtney. im a wavy it took about 5 to 8 months for my hair to look good. my hair always looks different but its healty. Hang in there hon, dont give up. Also you should switch products in the winter and summer. Do your products have glycerin in them? I cant use any glycerin in my hair no matter what season it is.

[@gisellebrown2172]

why is nobody talking about how pretty she looks in this? like literally that is not fair...

[@maggiemoyer]

I know! She was going on about how her hair didn’t meet her standards but honestly it looks better then mine. I wish she would just give herself a break and see how beautiful she really is.

[@sofia-qw5to]

Why would someone talk about it? Not relevant

[@theezzie]

How is telling someone they’re pretty not relevant? She is very pretty ❤️ I also wish she give herself a break. I think her waves are fine. I really don’t know why she isn’t very happy with it. She still has really nice waves.

[@elizabethcorreia6171]

Her looks are heightened with lighting and makup and confidence

[@gisellebrown2172]

@@elizabethcorreia6171 i am aware of that. but she is naturally beautiful and her inner light shines through and is enhancing her on the outside.

[@uncle1288]

idk why but i listen to your voice everyday when im mad and its pretty calming and btw your so pretty

[@missgalaxie7779]

Hey! I think you should watch Manes by Mell: protein and moisture balance.

[@emyemyemyyyy]

Was just going to say this. Your hair was dryer after the overnight treatment because it was too much moisture, hygral fatigue! You don’t want to leave your hair wet like that for too long, either. It breaks and opens the hair up too much. Mell has been a lifesaver for me, she’s so well informed and always talks about different textures of hair (not just her own). She explains what our hair needs so incredibly well!

[@missgalaxie7779]

@@emyemyemyyyy YESSS! Sorry, I might come off as a bit intense but Manes by Mell is by far my favorite curly hair KZbinr and she has a very lovable personality. She gives you so many tips as well as the explanation to why we should be doing that. You need to understand why you are doing something and she does that perfectly. She is also a professional hair stylist, so you know she isn't blabbing nonsense. 10/10 recommend! I have seen a lot of comments saying she has improved their hair.

[@sillyelliie8663]

Yes I totally agree

[@lorenadiaz6200]

I understand how you feel ever since that I hair fell out because of cancer I have trying every hair mask, method, or product and hurts when people say “ it’s just hair” to me it is so much more than that.

[@rubilove5548]

girl I have never heard anyone talk about their hair like this. I FEEL EVERY WORD YOURE SAYING. holy fuck, lately I've just been saying I have hair dysmorphia or something. mental health and hair is real. I feel youuuuuuu

[@isidorasimic8672]

I can't wait for her to find the right routine for her hair because we have the same hair type

[@TheEisteefan1]

The thing with the oil actually makes sense, since oil is hydrophobic. Maybe try an amphiphilic (if thats the english term) substance🤔

[@metanoia.777]

Can you give examples please 😗

[@charlottegarcia2015]

I feel that pre poo treatments of oil don’t work well for some people because oil coats the hair and doesn’t allow the water - which actually provides the moisture to the hair, get in. I use a tiny amount of oil after styling to seal in the moisture

[@talkhardmrjailer]

It depends on the oil really and its content in oleic acid vs linoleic acid, some are absorbed by the shaft /skin and others coat it

[@FallingSkywardz]

@@talkhardmrjailer what kind of oils would be good then? I use jojoba or olive oil sometimes

[@callmeswivelhips8229]

I like to take some distilled or filtered water, and drop just enough raw honey in it to make it a bit more thick and viscous. Honey is hydrophilic, so it will pull the water into your hair. Just make sure it's covered and you have something around the hairline to catch the sweet drips falling off.

[@hazelfyr8982]

I'm here again plugging Manes by Mel, because oh dear I think you could really benefit. Especially her curly girl video.

[@emmacici93]

Made it to the end! Appreciate your honesty SO MUCH. My family thinks I’m completely insane when I obsess over my hair, it happens a few times a year. I check and recheck I stand in the mirror up to nearly an hour just examining all the angles and strands. My perspective of it then seems warped, almost like a form of dysmorphia? (Obvs I am not a doc but it’s an observation) I would almost say it goes to ocd levels of checking. I too thought I was balding at one point until I realised I was actually just looking too much. I have gone through phases of doing so many different masks, oils and treatments etc but actually I am happiest if I keep my routine minimal. Maybe that sends a signal from my brain to my hair that I am not obsessing and so my hair calms down (or my brain does and therefore I see my hair differently). You’re making progress and you’re not alone in how this effects you - don’t despair! You are quickly becoming my fav KZbinr just because of your honesty and determination, you don’t sugar coat and you have a sense of humour about things. Big ups xxx

[@blacklabgoldens8197]

WHEN YOU USE A SULFATE SHAMPOO YOU NEED TO DEEP CONDITION!!! please please please do that for your hair.

[@stavroulabairaktari1336]

I am currently too on month 5 of the curly girl method. And my last few wash days haven't been good. So I totally get you . I want you to know your hair will become better , you are beautiful, you are loved and that good things are on the way for you💕💕💕

[@samanthanicholakis]

Well 7 years and some months don't quiet have the same affect on a person mental health but I understand the sentiment you're trying to give by relating.

[@lillygoq2112]

u look so pretty here.. makeup lips, freckles everything. btw im that person like u too who is obsessed with hair. n my friggin hair is so fragile and sheds a lot and never grows. its annoying AF!

[@IsabellaDemarko]

thank you

[@Out4Love_Ronja]

I shaved my head because my hair was only a struggle. Now I'm slowly growing it out, and I'm learning to appreciate every stage of this long journey. Lots of love ❤️

[@elliehall6419]

Sometimes the curly girl method won’t work for people because everyones hair is different and you’ve just got to find what works for you 🥰

[@jennifermejia196]

I have 5 months and my hair is too bad. 😔😔😔

[@Zoe-nf4qr]

@@jennifermejia196 try a variation? I have very curly hair and it took me 6 months to a year to get it together but it was a fun process:)

[@stephcurry8725]

My hair was damaged for a very long time but I've been trying different curly hair methods and it's so much more healthy now! Just started, still have a long way to go! ❤😊

[@cetusluna21]

I have the same hair obsession, it's been a year that I discovered the CGM and I tryed a Shea Moisture Shampoo and from then I have dandruff problems and I am so exhausted, I tryed everything, nothing seems to work, and because of quarantine I can't go to a dermatologist. And my boyfriend told me that it was crazy the amount of hair videos that I watch everyday and I know, and I was ashamed of thid obsession. But now, watching your video I feel less alone, thank you for sharing, cause most of CGM videos only show you the beautiful results and tell you that it's gonna be better but I start to think that it's just not for me. I hope you are doing well

[@sreejagadeesan7411]

Hey! As a curly girl, I can imagine how frustrating it is not knowing what exactly is happening with your hair. I know you’re probably tired of hearing suggestions but when you mentioned that you did an oil treatment and still ended up with dry hair, I thought that you may want to look into the protein-moisture balance of your hair. You could also try Olaplex No. 3 for building chemical bonds in your hair, which it may need at this point because of all the sudden changes in your hair routine. Good luck! :)

[@IsabellaDemarko]

yes, i speak about olaplex in the next update and in the one before this.

[@syassamin]

I think because you're so focused on your hair, you're striving for something constantly that is unobtainable. Perfect hair just is not possible - none of us have hair that we love on a daily basis, but when you look at someone else's hair, you won't notice the flaws they see, and it's the same with you. What I mean is that when you focus on all the negatives (i.e. one bit of frizz, curls not sitting right) you stop looking at any of the positives. Your hair has got so much thicker, it's looking far shinier and more radiant. With the avocado mask, it does sound like protein overload. Because hair is effectively dead protein, it doesn't really like to be overloaded with other sources of protein, which makes it quite dry especially when left on for a prolonged period. It's similar to what people struggle with when they do rice water soaks. The avocado might work on some hair types, but it might just not be right for you. It's really sad to watch you struggle with this, because I've been there too. For months I have invested everything into my hair growing, focused on it all the time, and been almost disappointed when it's hardly grown. Letting go of that is the most positive thing I've done about it.

[@dhanazzz]

If you just want to take a break just take it we will still love u ❤️❤️

[@ML-bm5oy]

As someone with unusually wavy hair in a family of straights, I have struggled a lot to understand how to take care of it so it isn't damaged or frizzy. I realize that I may have been unfairly harsh to you in my previous comments, and I apologize.

[@enrageia9945]

Starting the Curly Girl method, protein almost destroyed my hair, I was under-educated and had protein in almost all of my products (and I needed none), and if there wasn't protein there was coconut oil and those things are horrible for my hair, which is very similar to yours. Of course I was not shampooing or clarifying at first spending 10 hours everyday obsessing over my hair..trying different methods, products......I am using the curly girl method as a basic guideline, but girl I can so relate. I appreciate the video. It seems that many people go through something similar.

[@CeltyX23]

ye, exactly, if your hair does not lack protein (from bleaching, for e.g.), you don t need to do protein masks more than once a month, MAX twice. I make my hair almost white with bleach so only ppl that do this need to to protein often, cuz we don t have it anymore, naturally

[@mariannek6735]

What happens if you have too much protein in your hair?

[@Amy19959]

I did the EXACT SAME THING. For over a YEAR before I figured it out. I feel you 😥

[@Amy19959]

@@mariannek6735 it can make the hair dry, stiff, and brittle. The elasticity is reduced so the hair is much more prone to breakage!

[@mariannek6735]

@@Amy19959 Oh wow. Thank you! I've never done anything to my hair, I don't even use heat on it. Should I think about protein too or is that only for people who bleach or dye?

[@katherinelisbethbautistaro9580]

I feel like I just wanna give her a hug and tell her everything is going to be okay☹️

[@melissavancoppenhagen3756]

Thing is tho, its not just about your hair. I'm still waiting on the nose video you said you were gonna make (specifically about whatever you were doing to it in one of your previous videos, you know what I'm referring to). I really hope you'll see how beautiful you are, regardless of what your hair (and nose???) looks like. Self love is a journey, and its not as easy as someone random saying "oh but you're pretty!" and then suddenly being okay with it. I just wish you'll get to that point sometime in the future x

[@IsabellaDemarko]

i'm not sure what video your reffering to

[@melissavancoppenhagen3756]

@@IsabellaDemarko A Day In My Life | Lockdown Edition - 2:40 time stamp

[@jana-ev7qc]

I think you should look into protien and moisture overload since avocado oil contains protien so may be overloading your hair with protien. Understanding the balance really helps.

[@PrideSierra]

Hi love!! I just wanted to let you know how much I appreciate your videos, and you have such a similar mindset to me. I’m very much into research and the science behind “why” something does what it does. I LIVE for your content and I absolutely love your journey. I too have lived my whole live as a “straight hair girl” and have been battling the change in texture in my hair for YEARS. I’m sure the amount of subconscious fighting to my hair texture is going to take time to reverse and it’s so comforting to see someone else in a similar situation and navigating this field. I feel as though growing up here in America as a low income Caucasian female that all I was taught about hair was just to shampoo, condition, and brush it out and that’s it. Over 20 years of my life I never even considered hair type, texture, or moisture!! I’m not sure what you’re studying at University, but I think you’d do wonderful in something like bio-chem and go into product development and research at a skincare/haircare lab. It’s what I wish I would’ve done 😊

[@seekeroftheend6914]

watching your videos was the reason why i started to take better care of my hair, its just never been on my mind that much i only shampoo, condition and comb. watching your vids made me pay closer attention to my hair and my hair type, my hair has always looked bad or passable even though i did the basic stuff and i wanted to look better but didnt know where to start. i researched more about it, and switched out my shampoo and conditioner to a volumizing kind, got a hair lotion and oil and spray, took care of my split ends, and became more gentle when brushing and now i feel a lot better about myself as a woman. Its smoother, its stronger, and longer because it doesnt fall out faster then the rate its growing. something small like my hair transformed how i look and the way i felt and it made me feel good about myself, so thank you. xoxox

[@kati5559]

I'm on the CGM and it's taken about 7 months until my hair calmed down and I found my perfect routine, don't give up! ♡

[@__lynnea]

Ive been on the CGM for 17 months and my hair has gotten kinda different as far as curl pattern, my hair was ringlets as if they were done with a curling iron , and it got around 3c/3b because i started to use silicone free alcohol free shampoo, conditioner and gel, and suddenly my methods dont work. Combine that w a bad haircut and its a mess. Also greek summer has made my hair drier and frizzier. So yeah, hair can change even through CGM

[@batul.3635]

Well sometimes curly/wavy hair gets tired of the same products over and over again. Ur hair likes to change up, try changing some of your products. If u have more questions pls ask:)

[@kimmieyc6476]

You can try using a shampoo that contains every once in a while, I use VO5 clarifying shampoo. I have 3c/4a and my hair tends to go frizzy due to my mixture of naturally wavy, straight and curly strands.

[@sweetyfri]

You should try clarifying w a sulfate shampoo

[@justjoannak]

@@kimmieyc6476 V05 is *SO* bad for your hair, would highly recommend switching if you can

[@kimmieyc6476]

@@justjoannak I like my shampoo, thank you very much. The conditioner and shampoo work for me, I can detangle my hair with either with no work or fuss.

[@laibashah4578]

Ur hair might have gotten used to the routine and acted similar to before cgm - frizzy but this time more curl. Try switching up ur products and see how that goes. Sometimes my hair gets used to the products I’m using and my hair doesn’t look so good anymore. I think it adapts to those and grows some resistance. Try switching to other products for a while but you can always come back. I always switch back and forth. Hope this helps! xx

[@aileenvillalta5322]

Laiba Shah omg yes! Your haircare product might not be catering to your hairs needs anymore

[@duck6100]

Hair is dead cells so it's actually impossible for it to get used to products

[@laibashah4578]

Duck well it wouldn’t hurt to try and I’m just saying from experience. She does like to experiment so why not give out a go

[@rose-wp3gu]

your videos are amazing. it's nice to know I'm not the only one obsessing or struggling with my hair sometimes. your videos have created a safe place for me. thank you!

[@jennysheets3763]

Of course we made it until the end!! Thank you as always for posting the real deal. I relate so hard! Seems like moisturizing treatments just make my hair even more dry and frizzy. And I don't have stress in my life, so i know it isn't a stress thing. Excited to keep troubleshooting alongside you! Sending you love, girlie!! ♡

[@deemiah8413]

Noone cares if ur 'first' or early just watch the video that she put a LOT of work in love u Isabella ❤💜❤💜💜❤

[@xandria_magic777]

Sooo true!

[@vanessaclark4756]

I would check out the capillary schedule! It’s a masking schedule for your hair to give it a balance of protein, nutrition, and hydration. It’s helped me so much with frizz and my curls and length! You can do this in conjunction with the methods and products you already have. I hope this is helpful! You are not alone. I’ve definitely felt this way too. ❤️

[@PuReHoTeNeRgY]

She already has

[@vanessaclark4756]

AdorableAndrea oops! I must have missed that 🧐

[@multitilde]

Hey Isabella, my hair used to be like yours, and maybe try this : for a month, so 4 weeks, do a hydrating mask (cream fresh, yogurt, aloe Vera) then the next week a nutrition mask (oil, honey) the next week the same hydrating mask etc... do hydrating then nutritive, then hydrating and again nutritive. my hair were dry, frizzy. I do this every 3 months and my hair really like this method, it took a year for my hair to improve with this technic ! Here is my advice : you say in your video that after avocado oil your hair are still dry, that’s because they are thirsty, not hungry, you should bring hydration in your hair. Without hydration, applying oil has no effect, because the inside of the hair is « empty », this is what I understood about my hair, and now they are stunning

[@multitilde]

Julia Jolina oh ok sorry, i didn’t remember that she mentioned that

[@PuReHoTeNeRgY]

Mathy Pik she did talk about the capillary schedule but somehow still doesn’t realize that coating your hair in oil can dry it out more

[@IsabellaDemarko]

@@PuReHoTeNeRgY somehow still doesn't realise? lmao. i know this shit. hydration methods weren't working so I tried an oil because I hadn't oiled it in months. i don't need to explain this with everything I do. fuck off with your assumptions that I'm just too stupid to realize basic hair care.

[@sofia-qw5to]

@@IsabellaDemarko what an arrogant, everybody is trying to help you because we can make mistakes trying to follow the method, like you did

[@sofia-qw5to]

@@IsabellaDemarko also can take a lot of time to your hair to "transition" even 1 year to recover from sls/silicones, if you follow the method you should know it, so its normal it looks bad at first

[@domenicalaraspata1133]

Bella, i’ve done everything for my hair. the same as you, and you know what? i stopped using expensive organic products, started using heat again, silicones, my hair is HEALTHIER AND I DONT CARE ANYMORE! we need to do what it takes to make us happy! ❤

[@HulaMommy]

I like following this channel because it’s like having someone to go on this wavy journey with. That said real life+curly girl had information that helped me get started on a wavy journey. She has a lot of older videos on what aspects of CGM are suitable for wavies and what is not. She covers washing/clarifying, squish to condish, gel cast, curl envy. I found her videos to be a helpful introduction to figuring out what my hair type is. I didn’t actually get started on a journey until I found Isabella’s channel though because even with wavies out there I wasn’t sure I was even a wavy since my hair isn’t at the same phase theirs is in. I use to cut my hair short as soon as I felt the ends getting crispy or once frizz went out of control. My hair use to grow out straight at the top and would poof out around my ear length. I would brush it trying to smooth it out. I use to gel it down to keep it straight. I didn’t use heat tools because I felt my hair was already too fragile to then add more damage to it. I noticed ringlets by my ears and nape of the neck whenever my hair was wet/damp. I’m still trying to figure it all out to form curl clumps, tame flyaways, find the right gel type and amount for my length, texture, & porosity, and refresh. My waves have ringlet days or moments but also still have stringy, frizzy days. I don’t have it completely figured out yet either 🤗

[@esmeraldaav]

If you want "long glossy hair" on frizzy hair days, you can have fun with a wig of good quality :) and you let your hair be for a couple of days and maybe it would cooperate more.

[@eatshit7568]

I'm obsessed with my hair too it's one of my hobbies finding new products and new methods on how to define my wavy curly hair. I suggest less is more. I wash my hair normally then condition my hair rinse it out but leave a little conditioner in for the moisture get out the shower with soaking wet hair (make sure to detangle it in the shower btw) the only product I use in my hair is mousse. Scrunch my hair with a t shirt put the mousse in scrunch that in let it air dry then scrunch out the crunchyness. My hair has 0 frizz volume and it's shiny when I do this method. I have a lot of breakage and it's very frizzy when I just let it air dry. I have the same length and hair type as you and this method I came up with myself works really well. Once a week (the day before I wash my hair) I get about a tablespoon of olive oil microwave it for 30 seconds flip my hair upside down and start massaging the olive oil into my scalp and leave this in for 1 day. Don't use it to the point your hair is too greasy. Just in case you want to try a method other than curly girl method.

[@umlikewhocares]

Hey can you please tell me what mousse you use? 🥺 I really want to start using it but it been years since I used mousse.

[@eatshit7568]

um like who cares Its called Aussie and I use the instant freeze one you can get it for 5 dollars at Walmart

[@eatshit7568]

um like who cares It a purple bottle

[@averydavis1943]

What happened to using flaxseed gel? That seemed to work really well for you before...

[@IsabellaDemarko]

chexk the next update x

[@czrnll]

I also have terribly confused and frizzy hair so it's really comforting for me to see someone else in the exact same situation. Thank you so much for documenting your experience. ❤

[@abigailbrown8080]

I've always admired your bravery in addressing your challenges head on for the camera and not glossing over anything.

[@leticzia]

I don't know if this comment might help, but I think that in this video you are absolutely stunning. Don't take me wrong, you always are, but this video hits different ❤️

[@TheXxmayxx]

I actually on my CGM journey as well (2B 2C hair), on my 3rd month. I really like my hair so far, and I hope that it will get better for you as well ❤ I really like SwavyCurlyCourtney here on KZbin with similar hair to mine (and yours), she has so many helpful videos on cgm and I cannot recommend her enough!

[@marina66butcher]

Your hair in this video! Omg I love it! 😻

[@caterina0017]

However, I study pharmacy and chemistry, and I can guarantee you that it doesn't matter if your products ingredients are "natural", "paraben free", "silicon free" or stuff like that, it's just marketing. You should use products that just work for your hair, natural or not, there's no difference :) Greetings from Italy! 😘

[@Maca-fh4uk]

che bello un altra italiana AHHAHAHA

[@jennyrose9454]

Thank you

[@rhiannon3552]

I just want you to know you’re not alone in this. I started my curly journey about 7 years ago and I went through a similar thing to you during lockdown. My hair was matting, half of it wouldn’t form curls at all. It was dry, frizzy and just made me miserable to look at. I try to warn people going into CGM to start slow because it is so intense and really is a full lifestyle change. And I relate to just giving up because I got sick of the amount of money, time and energy I spent on my hair. I truly hope you find something that works for you and brings you happiness!

[@heyhey-sv8cg]

Whats CGM

[@napsugarbodi7926]

WHOEVER DISLIKED. i am disappointed in you. Also i made it to the end

[@aglow370]

Hey did you know, straight hair that transforming to curly may be just cause stress/ hormone on your body, either it will go away or just stay like that forever,.. Or atleast its gonna take very long until it turns back into straight hair So.. Dont stress too much cause your hair, find something to distract you from your hair

[@goldielocks9092]

She's had wavy hair for a couple of years now

[@aglow370]

@@goldielocks9092 yea I think its either she's stressed so much that her hair didnt turn back, or maybe the curly hair method also have affect on the hair to stay wavy/curly

[@goldielocks9092]

@@aglow370 I think it's more of a natural thing. Many people's hair texture changes as they age. I myself had quite dark black loose waves, but in my teenage years my hair got light brown and my hair transformed to 3b curls.

[@xnctxforlife2486]

HEY YOU! Yeah you! Let her do what she wants. Let others do what they want (unless it’s hurting others and yourself.) you do what you want. I watch all of her videos and she’s so kind and her personality is beautiful, and she goes so into detail and I think her passion for her hair is amazing. Let her do what she wants to be happy and if it’s her hair, then it’s her hair. So what. Btw, thank you for reading, and remember I love you. Don’t care if your a stranger. ;)

[@christinewatson1989]

People ARE "letting her do what she wants" but when you see someone struggling with something and you have a tip that could help them, you share it. That's what 95% of these comments are- people offering advice.

[@EllenDocker]

I understand what you mean about your hair and your mental health. I have had an obsession with dying my hair, finding hair products, hair masks, hair styling and taking hair progress photos/snapchats. I can’t explain it or articulate where or how I got the obsession but I have really similar hair texture to you and have been on the same journey recently. I just want you to know you are not on your own!! I really appreciate your videos and the amount of time and energy you put into research. Your videos are freakin awesome.

[@lyra6118]

you and your hair are beautiful and your feelings are always valid-- people can make it out that things like being emotional over your hair isnt a reason to be upset but that doent matter cus its the weight of what that means to you

[@stars.4960]

I feel so sad for her trying so hard to “fix” her hair and it went back to “bad” (how she perceives bad being frizzy and undefined) and she has tried so hard :( I know how upset I would be if I had waves + I’m obsessed with my hair too 😝 + thanks for the hair journey + it’s okay if your not reading this you’re aloud to take breaks +don’t give up you’re doing great

[@karenbryant668]

I’m a life suffering wavy girl too and I have had the same problem with coconut oil. Total dried my hair out! I wonder if the avocado oil is the same, I know that all oils are not created equal, 😄. I did find that olive oil did work better on my hair but in the end I stopped using oils over night and just used a shop brought hair mask, for a morning 30 min hair mask, which worked much better for my hair. 😊

[@nadiat7551]

I've made it to the end of your video. I would say stop with the cgm; Your hair type is too thin and fine to constantly take that much gel, amd as the avocado oil goes.. Oils are very tricky, just keep researching and dont get discouraged about your hair. It took me 14 years to figure out what worked for my hair. There is another youtuber that i like to watch for hair advice, her youtube channel is named "holistichabits" i highly recommend it. Please dont give up on your hair and whenever u need to vent about it, we're always here for u and ready to listen.

[@marleyhill34]

This is what I'm hearing also about her hair. These are just my assumptions. Her texture/curl pattern is wavy type 2. Her porosity seems normal but I don't know if her hair is natural or colour treated or suffering heat damage/heat training. Her density is thin and her strand thickness appears fine. Without comparing it up close to other hair there is no way of knowing. Curl creams for Type 2: no. Heavy oils or oiling overnight for type 2; no. The longer your hair gets between type 2 and 3 your hair will stretch out. That's why some stylists prefer shoulder-length hair on type 2 and 3. No one has the same uniform curls or waves all over their head. My 4c curls in the front turn into some weird 3a lacking definition in the back. I just work with it. I'm assuming she lives in England which seems to have very hard water: we have to descale everything every week. I don't see her chelating her hair. I do this once every 4-6 weeks. I use Paul Mitchell shampoo three and it is the only chelating and clarifying shampoo that I've come across that can get everything off my hair! It's like a completely different head of hair from one lather. It's expensive but it lasts between 1 and 2 years for me. She said that her hair is very dry. I would recommend for Type 2 hair, wash with a non-sulfate moisturising shampoo every week. If her scalp gets oily use a dry shampoo in the roots or a root rinse to remove the oil. If you have dry hair I would not recommend shampooing more than once a week. I Co-wash but co-washes can be too heavy for Type 2. I do not use tap water to daily refresh my dry hair. I use purified, distilled and mineral-free rose water and/or aloe Vera juice. No one needs daily limescale build up on their hair especially people with fine dry hair regardless of porosity or curl pattern/texture. She needs a daily leave-in but not one made with tap water or made a heavy conditioner or heavy mask. One that sprays a mist will not weight the hair down. I would recommend she deep conditions with a hot towel weekly with a protein-free or low protein hair mask. AS I am hydration Elation is a good one and because its thick she can use only a little only on her mid-lengths and ends. She definitely should not put anything on her roots. I think as a styler she should use a mousse and as little gel as possible. Also putting her hair up in a French braid or French roll and wrapping in a satin/silk scarf will protect the ends from drying out due to sun, heating, cold air and air conditioning. If her roots are too flat she can spray it with the light leave-in mist pin curl or roller curl it and then lightly diffuse it dry. Then leave the rollers/pins into cool down and then spray with a light hairspray and unroll to get volume. You have to know a lot about hair type, styling techniques and hair product ingredients to get it right and you can always learn something new. I saw a trichologist last year and they told me never to braid my hair again except in 2 or 3 French braids. Quite a shock being black and braiding being at the centre of our culture. She simply said although I have a lot of tightly coiled hair each strand is too fine and fragile to withstand the manipulation of braiding. Frizz occurs because your hair is reaching out for moisture. If you keep it constantly moisturises it won't frizz. Also, my trichologists say to throw away all the brushes. Lol! Ok, that's extreme but I pretty much brush my hair once every 4 to 6 weeks. I may use a light brush on the edges and outer perimeter once a week but I definitely do not brush my hair all the way through daily. I use a small bit of styling product if the leave-in conditioner/ diffuser trick does not work on too frizzy bits or bits sticking out at weird angles or odd partings. You rarely see my scalp even though I have fine strands. I have too much density. I no longer put oil on my scalp as I have developed a sensitivity to it.

[@bananafantasy]

I really appreciate your videos as I have similar trouble with my own hair and as you put so much thought, research, care, and time into your content. I did want to mention that while I was completing my undergaduated degree, I took a costume design class, and we talked about hair and how it affects our judgement of others. I wish I could find the particular study, but it basically said that when we see others, we immediately judge them "top-down." So basically we judge people based on apperance starting with their hair, then face, then body/clothes. For me, this informarion supports why so many of us can get upset with our hair (and appearence). Not to mention, at many places of work we are all supposed to look clean and neat. It has been difficult for me to deal with this when I have to work on a bad hair day, but just want to let my hair breathe or do its thing. All in all, I just want what's best for you, and if that means taking a break from curly girl or modifying how you are documenting or caring for your own hair, then I am all for it.

[@Luna_Scarlet]

Honestly, I think that your hair looks amazing compared to how it started, even your bad hair days! Now your hair looked a lot healthier IMO and don't feel discouraged, keep trying!

[@sarahchr7347]

i don’t think you should keep going with the curly girl method. i understand you started a whole series about it, and you keep saying that you absolutely have to finish it, but i think i speak for most of us when i say we really don’t mind. if having bad hair affects you and your mental health so much, then why keep going on with it? it’s clearly not working, and i don’t think it’s going to get better. the curly girl method really works for much more defined and tight curls, not waves like yours. i myself have 3c type curls, and even my hair gets a bit frizzy with that method. i don’t think it will ever look good on your hair. i understand that the majority of your income comes from those hair videos, but i suggest you keep doing hair videos, just not the curly girl method anymore, it’ll just create more and more frustration on your part, because you seem to put so much effort into something that just won’t work. just an advice because i more than anyone would understand the frustration that come from hair not wanting to cooperate lol. good luck with your journey.

[@astrocat1016]

I agree ☝️ but the curly girl method is working

[@Hello0x0]

I 100% agree if you don't see a vast improvement in 3mo than move on, your wasting your time. I wish someone can research a wavy method or damage from kertin method

[@Hello0x0]

She says she heard people doing CGM that it takes 6mo-1year for your hair to behave. Does she mean if your transitioning, damage then

[@buket1537]

My hair is just like her (wavy and thin) and curly girl method is not for me personally. I think using this much product and not using shampoo with sulfate in it will weight your hair down and even can make it appear more frizzy. This is my opinion and experience tho

[@Misspellednumbers]

@@buket1537 YES! It took me less than a month to deviate away from the CGM because of that! My hair spans from 2b-3a (the front of my face is 3a \(`~`)/) My scalp itched like hell after 3 weeks of no sulfates. It felt weighed down, and worst of all, it didn't look fresh. My mood soured. I know the CGM isn't instant, but 6mo-1yr of all of this? Nope. Don't be afraid to use sulfates! And for anyone who reads this comment. MANES BY MELL. She's a lifesaver.

[@saraesa2439]

My hair was really long and thick then somehow my hair got really then and frizzy from the top of my head just like what happened to yours. I cut it cause it really got me in depression and started the cgm, it’s not really curling the way I want it to, I tried everything still not what I want it’s frizzy and doesn’t curl that well, I’m back to crying about hair😩😭

[@marketajaurysova]

get yourself professional hydrating shampoo and protein conditioner

[@ambermir7023]

Same girl same! I had long thick hair as well, and then the frizz came all of a sudden. Infact i didn't change any hair care that might have lead to it... Ahh, i just can't deal with it anymore. Its thin, brittle and frizzy!

[@cherriana707]

I actually found out that silicone helps with frizz but i wouldn't recommand it on wet hair(products like shampoo and conditioner). I use a product from aussie called dual personality on my ends and lenght. I apply it when my hair is blow dry and than keep it to air dry the rest of wet hairs. I don't like silicone on roots so I'm not touching them. Find the things that works for you. It's a great idea to take advice that work for you from curly gurl method and other methods. You don't have to follow just one religiously. The cgm really helped me finding solutions. But when it starts with the rules it's weird. So I am not saying that i follow cgm but i say that i'm really grateful for the advices i read there.

[@saraesa2439]

Markéta Jaurysová I did and I got Keratin cream and Serum but it’s still bad

[@saraesa2439]

Amber Mir ikr that’s weird like what could’ve happened to my hair when I didn’t change a thing in my care routine I don’t get it!!

[@ikramabdi5282]

Oils are emollients they trap the moisture, you need a humectant before like the flaxseed gel you used last time good luck I'm in the same journey and it is hard 😓

[@ciarahardy1327]

you seem so mature and informed in this video - thank you for continuously putting out great content and helping people with their hair journeys. it’s also imperative that ur mental health comes first so take no notice of all the people who say otherwise! love u

[@djndkskw]

To be honest the same happened to me with the curly girl method. I'm a wavy and the first months my waves would look more defined and less frizzy, but as I kept going with the same routine my hair started to have less defined waves and it got more frizzy. As you did, I stopped putting that much amount on products on my hair but it doesn't look any better. I'm tired of my hair, but your videos always make me feel better about it! However, I suggest you do more non hair related videos, as it's starting to affect your mental health. We love you for who you are and I'm sure other type of content will algo have an amazing quality. 💕

[@jehandab8670]

when I’m having a bad hair day and my hair is feeling super dry and is poofy I would dampen it a bit then add a bit of leave in conditioner then brush my hair and do two dutch braids. If you have medium to long hair it’s a great way to look representable and feel good about your hair. Also I suggest sleeping with the braids on aka keep the braids for a whole day. It tames down the fluff the next day. Ps my hair is kind off similar to yours .

[@darwin3853]

You're so pretty withought make up like HOW?!?!

[@IsabellaDemarko]

aha thank you but i certainly have many days were I feel I look like poo

[@darwin3853]

@@IsabellaDemarko dont we all 👀😂

[@christya2488]

I think the reason curly hair and wavy hair looks different, for what appears to be no reason, is because of the way that it grows out of our scalp. Think about it. Straight hair grows straight from the head all the time. It never changes direction. Curly hair comes out of the scalp in a spiral. It's constantly changing direction as it grows. I think that's why our hair can be great for one week, and look bad the next.

[@roza7566]

You're such an amazing communicator and a true youtuber who cares about what she puts out on her platform. Love your channel. Love your vibe !❤

[@TheUniverseLaughs]

Hey there, just wanted to say thank you for posting your hair journey: the good and the bad. I’ve been on mine for almost four months after I experienced a mental breakdown with my own hair. I’m currently working on changing how I think about my hair and finding routines that it likes. Anyways, it means a lot to see someone talk about the things I’ve been experiencing too. You’re not alone