ISFJ Fears

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[@InternetLiJo]

“Makes her boss explain everything to her” 😂😂😂😂 made my day.

[@noturbo]

isn't that what bosses are for what they get paid for?

[@abdallababikir9154]

this is true with ISTP's too lmaooooo

[@orangeziggy348]

@@noturbo no it is what servants are for.

[@FrankJames]

Dave, I love these videos. Thanks!

[@yellow_daffodil5689]

@@EpicWorldview Stay cool and attractive :)

[@infernal..]

Yeeyee

[@jamilabrownie]

I dunno why but I died at ‘the dogs are onto her bs’. 😆I’m still laughing.

[@kindauncool]

Me too

[@anthonygayflor6168]

ESFP and ENTP as kids? Youre asking for blood

[@misselle6360]

Anthony Gayflor as an ENTP I approve of this comment

[@absinthesesotericadventure7631]

My too are and I am ISTP. It's a hot mess

[@texivani]

Yeah, I'm most likely ENTP and I have this problem with my most likely ISFJ mother. Shes extremely high strung, and seems completely unable to cope with life without putting absolutely everything down on paper. Anything else she doesnt understand is either ignored or dismissed completely, or she makes a massive leap into spirituality or supernatural. She thinks the cat is 100% definitely chasing ghosts, and is completely oblivious to the fact that she has no toys, no companions, and a small house, so shes probably just bolting around the house trying to entertain herself. She calls me smart all the damn time, but then completely dismisses any observations I have that dont line up with her world view. Any time I try to help change her habits or explain ways she could probably ease some stress in her life, she freaks out and panics, quickly trying to end the conversation and move on. She thinks that me being upset can be cured or placated by giving me a treat or something, which just makes me even more upset. I love her and want to help, but damn is it ever hard to make a connection.

[@brucewayne2184]

Uh no, they're compatible

[@PuzzleQodec]

@@texivani I hope things will get better for you and your mom.

[@andyroobrick-a-brack9355]

Healthy ISFJ: A hardworking, organized caregiver who work with their ISTJ brethren to maintain the stability of society :) Unhealthy ISFJ: Karen

[@Drecon84]

After having lived with an ISFJ for a while I would word it a bit differently. ISFJs are afraid of the unknown. Ne is possibilities, which is scary for the ISFJ. You could call it chaos (and it's not wrong to do so), but that makes it a lot harder to differentiate between INJ and ISJ in my opinion.

[@natclo9229]

Drecon84 its good you are able to specifically tailor changes to the person Considering this is a model and not the person you are communicating with. its good to see you are adapting to inderviduals

[@andyroobrick-a-brack9355]

Thing is, INxPs can be very similarly afraid of certain possibilities, at least when stuck I'm a tertiary Si loop. It is t just possibilities, it's a broadened, plethoric view of the external world, while Si focuses on the concrete workings of one's inner being. It really depends on the functions you prefer within your specific type, I guess.

[@Drecon84]

@@andyroobrick-a-brack9355 All Ne-users seem to have it to an extent. I have an ENTP student who is constantly overthinking everything that could go wrong for example.

[@andyroobrick-a-brack9355]

@@Drecon84 It makes even more sense for secondary Be users, since they don't use it completely naturally at first. I like to think of how Luigi from Super Mario handles situations similar to an INxP in his spinoff series, Luigi's Mansion. He is scared of the dark, scared of ghosts, and fears a lot of the unknown. Yet he still charges in and faves the possibilities while becoming a better man. The possibilities are what make the INxP grow, while the ISxJ seem to grow more within their specific routines.

[@atomnous]

You have to follow their methods if you want to see consistent result according to their method, throwing off all of our previous anecdotal experience with what we label people's types as.

[@lalakuma9]

For a minute I was starting to think that my mom is an ISFP, not an ISFJ. But then you reminded me that she's a perfectionist who nags and micromanages people, and doesn't let anyone help her.

[@joshualevan]

INTP with an ISFJ mom. I hid EVERYTHING from her. I had no choice.

[@ThunderCreeper4]

Damn right

[@Shadow77999]

lol

[@TaxingIsThieving]

I had an ISFJ neighbour, that was bad enough

[@RebekahParkhurst]

The Ne title wave picture for some reason cracks me up. I hear hundreds of little squeaky laughs in my head when I see that.

[@RebekahParkhurst]

Eunhye *facepalm* I can’t believe I did that. Lol.

[@RebekahParkhurst]

Eunhye No worries :D and also I love the dango 😍

[@shuzennn]

Sameee 😂

[@andyroobrick-a-brack9355]

The two words "N" and "E" pit together crack me up, now.

[@nicadquartz]

My isfj has got better over time, but we used to have plenty of conversations where I'd be like "did you not see the pattern happening in front of you?!" and they'd be like ".....maybe, but I thought it might still be okay if I just kept going" .....Two different worlds I tell you!

[@freshbakedclips4659]

0:55 my mother is an ISFJ, and I'm an ENTP, that's surprisingly accurate. As a college student, we figured out how to hide things from our mother, because at times (not all the time) she can be super controlling and super organizing to the point of throwing anything out from the house that doesn't make sense or things that are out of place. I can say she truly fits with the stereotype (except the nurse thingy), she organizes our pets, us her sons, and our small-businesses.

[@WinterSistaCh]

Yup, as an ISFJ I also throw anything that is useless and old from the house. I can be minimalist at times. Also, I organize the garbage and recycle bins. I'm still a young lady living with my parents but I kind of control the house and do cleaning at least once a week. (vacuum and mop) Other days I'll be busy with my own business projects. I'm a software engineer but I create my own softwares and APIs as I can't work in companies. Working in companies is just not for me as I can't understand what my colleagues/bosses explain their plans to me. I had misunderstandings during conversations with those people.

[@BethLucas]

Wait what, there's a different way to fix the problem OTHER than organising more?

[@SaphiraTheMongoose]

0:51 That escalated quickly.

[@kjdaniels3267]

Yep looking at the bigger picture is my biggest blind spot by far. We ISJs don't react well to chaotic situations.

[@akaboo69]

My boss is isfj and she wants everything done down to perfection.

[@jaydock1]

Charles Benson but is probably terrible at explaining it

[@rogue8533]

I feel your pain.

[@onlyallegra]

ESTJs do the same thing but they bully and browbeat people into a corner when unhealthy.

[@thesandrapagethings]

Ouch. So accurate. The big picture as to what’s going on behind all the details is definitely my weak spot.

[@amandagauthier-parker1399]

You just confirmed what I am *not*. And also why I am in awe of my ISFJ friends who don't even realize how organized they are, while I have to work my butt off to look organized so they don't lose faith in my crazy ideas. Lol.

[@m.o4936]

I get ISFJ but I'm not organized at all, I'm trying to be though. I'm the type to try and plan things to get my life together but end up doing nothing as planned. my closet has nothing folded in it. even my handwriting in unreadable. I care a lot about people inside but I'm not good at "caregiving" or doing acts of service, I actually hated that growing up because I was expected and pushed to do it as the only sister. my dad used to come into my room and say "don't you feel ashamed that your room looks like this while your brother's room looks neat even when he's a male". I'm not good at memorizing things, and I don't remember most of my childhood till high school. honestly I don't like the isfj type, but I do relate to some of the characteristics.

[@tiberiusgrey1529]

@moon dust in my opinion that person is an ESFP; meaning that the shadow/unconscious is ISFJ

[@Nobody-yx8og]

l do relate you. Some stereotypes seriously sucks :/ l was not happy with being an ISFJ but l am getting used to it step by step. l will use the advantages of being an ISFJ

[@bugfolk6323]

1:14 The car rebels? I didn't know cars had feelings.

[@SnoozeTheRecluse]

It's true. I was the car

[@michah321]

@@SnoozeTheRecluse lol

[@PagoAoE2]

I am an INFP and my mom is an ISFJ. We get into fights sometimes about how she thinks I am lazy and procrastinating and if she would just harass me 24/7 maybe I might move quicker and she could stop freaking out. A lot of the time she acts like ISFJs and ISTJs do where they say "The chaos in my life is your fault because you aren't living in the exact specific way that makes me feel like I have total control over all of every part of my surroundings." I have an INTJ brother and we upset my mother constantly because we were rebelling against her wishes. My ESTJ dad's bluntness did not help either lol. P.S. My mom and I get along fine and we have a great relationship, I just wanted to let some feels out. I wanna make a sitcom our of this. 😆😆😆

[@RaZziaN1]

Don't follow this guy logic, from perspective of child parent (especially mother) is often seen as isfj.

[@PagoAoE2]

@@RaZziaN1 My mother tested as ISFJ and we have done the steps to prove it. I agree that many moms are mistyped as ISFJ though (from the prospective of the kid(s)).

[@shane1948]

@@RaZziaN1 Well SJs are the most common personality types, and you could also say that they are the ones who often marry and have kids. Some other types like Ne doms do not like commitment, and might never have children. So you could also say that SJ types tend to become parents.

[@chevyhighrider]

I know a few ISFJ’s who have the type of annoying characteristics I’m seeing in the comments and in the video. We’re not all like that though. I’m 100% an ISFJ but I’ve always been pretty good at stopping and evaluating things as I go.

[@sililtatchu]

Nice

[@gohjohan]

Me too, because I learn to ask why things happen and once I know why, I don't become afraid. I control myself, which I know. I don't control the unknown. That's the INFP's job.

[@purplewildflower]

I"m laughing so hard because, no lie, everyone takes advantage of me -- even my damn dogs! I don't know how to push back or draw boundaries and then I snap and everyone is scared and shocked to see that side of me.

[@coolz9349]

Why would that jerk lose the paperwork?!!!!? Just thinking that gives me a panic attack lol no lies.

[@Chatoyancify]

Haha. My Si dad makes sure to make copies before submitting anything for this reason.

[@sarahschroeder4739]

I didn't control enough😂🤣😂🤣

[@theultimateshadow7232]

This is exactly the same behavior of my mom as the Sara example you just gave. It's the same pattern over and over again and my enfp brother is the one that is making her go crazy. Every single time I tracked the same pattern where she got confused with his Ne. It's just too satisfying that I knew she was an ISFJ all the time. Just too reliefing.

[@lumpsmagoo1570]

All those aha moments are addictive. Because you get your answer in the midst of info overload

[@legendzfall]

I know an ISFJ, and constantly point out to her why the exact same annoying things keep happening to her, but she just has no time for it. She's basically herding cats all day every day, and has no idea why. -INTJ

[@ByzantinianProt]

As an INFP I can confirm that random Ne tidal waves are the worst. Can’t imagine how much it would suck if it was your inferior.

[@andyroobrick-a-brack9355]

I think the difference between an INxP and an ISxJ can be hard to tell, but given how both are convergent introverted function users, it makes sense. But despite the "bubble hiding" both of these types can do, INxPs are more split with their Si. They like their comfort zones and being reclusive, bit there is never that sense if fear of the unknown, unless they are in a loop. We generally WANT adventure and brainstorming. We want to see what's beyond the corner, we want to go after our fantasies and dreams, but we often retreat back into our inner world. ISFJs seem to far prefer their comfort zones, all while hating to deviate from it. Than there's obvious problems like organization, scheduling, ect, stuff which INxPs don't possess naturally. We more often let people decide for us if we're going somewhere, just to see what may happen, where as the ISxJ is incredibly controlling of such events. That's my rant. Bye.

[@pjackson7395]

I saw an Si list and had to jump through the nearest window. Nuh-uh.

[@LemonMeIon]

P Jackson I feel you bro. I’m an ENFP :D

[@lynns4122]

Yeah even as an isfj I can't stand any sort of list Edit: actually I can't stand any sort of to do list

[@xkali8119]

And I had the feeling of deja vu. I do list like this almost every day :P

[@rayalvarez7247]

ISFJ- and I've mastered numerical reasoning.. with practice, practice, practice.

[@hajimehinata8967]

The “car rebels” lmao.

[@HealthyPlanet]

My younger Isfj sister runs primarily and hypervigilently on biological death anxiety and doesn’t know it. She is basically aware of the primarily surface level of appearances, and is too scared to go deeper into why she thinks and behaves like she does. She is easily rattled by existential threats and doesn’t know it. I can remember her from the very first time she arrived home from just being born at a hospital, how scared she was. Growing up with her, I was blamed unfairly and often by her for scaring her. She still does this. 60 years later she is still the same. Lives and will die fearfully and rigidly in the same rut/home/work she has been in for decades. A message from a version of an Infj

[@analazovic441]

i think this is the most disturbing youtube comment i've ever read

[@HealthyPlanet]

Hi @@analazovic441 I am the author of the above comment. If or when you feel up to it, would you please elaborate or explain what you mean?

[@nateo200]

@@analazovic441 LOL

[@LeandroCosta-sz9cl]

hey! I'm also an infj and I have an isfj mother. I wanted to say my mother's case is different from your case. my mother is fine. But I've been studying her mbti to understand her, because it seems like she just repeats things, routine, home, work on a daily basis and I would like to understand how her mind works. Why doesn't she do new things? This is very strange, is she ok? (hahahah type of question from a NI-Fe). However, I'm still progressing with things... Well, basically we infj and isfj use each other's demon function. for me, isfj repetition lacks passion, great personal interests and is boring as hell from a superficial point of view. After I discovered that SI doms have a rich internal world and subjective memories and sensory impressions, I found it interesting and started to see them in other ways. my NI gift found meaning. However, I understand why your comment scared some people: I still feel like my mom doesn't try new things. I'm respectful and I don't interfere in her life if she's fine. but sometimes I feel that she wants to try it, but is afraid of change... the inferior NE. I'm so sad. because my young ISFJ friends use their inferior NE very well to have new experiences, taking risks even if it may not work out. Anyway, my mother seems to be afraid of some changes... and I don't want her to live a repressed life. I think she got like that over time. I don't wish this on anyone. I think it's cute that they follow their routines and such, but I worry about whether she's okay, but I also don't want to be intrusive, but it's certain that a very repressed NE will create internal chaos. I saw a video of CS Joseph telling an ISFJ that when they are afraid of new experiences going wrong, for them to stay strong to hold on and change even when it goes wrong, because then they will stop hiding from new experiences, and always have an ace up your sleeve in case they make a mistake. anyway, my mother is perfect in organization, good smell in the house and everything. incredible. But never forget ISFJ, Ne has to be used. I understand it sucks, like when I have to use my SE inferior... but nowadays I'm healthy. Hugs INFJ person.

[@Debby-MelancholyMe]

Good going with attempting to feel better towards an ISFJ by feeling some compassion towards this type, @@LeandroCosta-sz9cl. For me personally, it is like trying to live with a wild & scared animal inside my home, auto, or in my company. No thanks. I never know next what will set em off. They seem to better exist in some sort of strict hierarchy and rigid routine where they think they will be safer from death.

[@carlax5270]

Yeah, we do love lists 😂

[@arty1593]

I'm glad you're starting to utilize jungian/campbellian ideas in your videos. Great vid.

[@nikitimmermans]

Great video! Please make more ISFJ content 🤞🙏🙏

[@WinterSistaCh]

As an ISFJ and IT Engineer girl, I feel like I'm a burden to the company >.< So I left the job and make my own business instead.

[@carlrose8619]

I have an ISFJ Mom and an ENTP sister. You hit the nail on the head here.

[@misselle6360]

My sister would agree with you, I'm ENTP

[@shane1948]

I was volunteering at a farm and my host was an ISFJ. Her farm looked straight out of magazine, and it looked like it was ready for a photoshoot anytime. Everything looked perfect. But of course order comes with a price. It takes war to achieve peace. And war was what it felt like during my 2 weeks there. Toilet seat cover must always be closed when not in use. Must play a board game everyday at 7:30 pm. Must drink tea every night at 8 pm. Lunch at 1 pm, no earlier. "Do you not understand that eating at 12 will affect your sleep schedule?" Only one slice of bread and a piece of fruit allowed for breakfast. "Don't you know a heavy breakfast is bad for you?" I was supposed to stay for a month, but 2 weeks were more than enough for me. Here's the Ne chaos for her. I told her I had to leave because of a toothache, and left the town earlier than planned. I heard that she now chains visitors' feet to an iron ball and have them sign a contract of blood. Oh yes and she was a nurse.

[@dew3968]

I have a friend called Sara who's ISFJ, helppp

[@TrippingOverParadise]

Love all your videos!

[@billbutton7669]

Thanks for the vid! I had my Mom watch this. She gazed intensely for five minutes, then said she didn't understand. She wanted to know if I understood, I didn't feel like explaining to her my interpretation of some of her weak points. I will have her watch it again later.

[@SekRanger]

Sara is a nurse LOL

[@gohjohan]

If she was a dentist, I would believe.

[@yellow_daffodil5689]

I really do love this vid. Good work DSP.

[@knifeyonline]

I've done my hero's journey and am now perfect xD

[@gohjohan]

How long did your journey took? I'm still going on for 40 years

[@lagunalibre117]

Jo-han Goh my young man to adult took me 10 years. Faced my fears, faced the past, reinforced my weaknesses. Perfection took another meaning and now I am much calmer and composed, looking brightly, intensely, but calm into the future... i am crazy about getting a lifetime girlfriend yet feeling good with myself... balance? :D

[@viviangenesie5291]

Me INFJ LOLOLOL did not control enough LOLOLOL

[@sibestfunction4400]

I NEED THIS VIDEO BUT FOR BOTH THE STPs

[@ReeThealien]

I NEED THIS FOR INFPS PLS TEACH ME HOW TO TE PLS SORRY BYE

[@lynnmishi390]

I'm a ISFJ and my teenage son is a ESFJ.

[@GoogleUser-wy2vv]

Yes? ...intj

[@Lindz2817]

As an ISFJ considering switching from teaching into nursing I feel so seen at 0:26 😂

[@cosmicyoke]

what if there is a solution to the 4th function problems through using the 5th function? it may act as a sort of 'bridge' between the 1st and 4th since for example in ISFJ they have Si dom, Ne inferior, but Se as the 5th, which is extraverted perception but is sensory and not abstract oriented

[@aprilhelm518]

Personally, I think I have a pretty strong tendency to look for patterns and try to predict outcomes (like an Ni-dominant person, apparently), but my method of doing so with Si is very "need more facts/evidence/proof first!" and NO guesses. I'm virtually always in doubt of everything all the time. In fact, I would say I am always searching for possibilities as a means to keep doubting and never take uncertain steps -- in case (Ni) it goes badly. I do find myself going to (at least what seems to be) Se (which when I realized it didn't make sense to me based on expectation of how functions work, yet it's what I was doing) in order to combat my anxiety about being uncertain. I can't seem to utilize my Ne function to fix that, but I try and fail. Se does seem to be my answer, i.e. letting go of nebulous (and often terrible) 'what if's, which leaves me simply living in the moment... Probably still not doing exciting things, but much less fearing all the risks. I don't really understand what the thing about recognizing patterns is about though, since, frankly, if the ISFJ in the video did that, it would make her MORE terrible to everyone around her, right? (-_-') If she was my mom... no, please don't find the hole.

[@cosmicyoke]

@@aprilhelm518 lmao That seems to be what I was considering too 🤔 At least similar It’s been a long while for me though I sort of just do now and look at the bright side without being blind to the possible negative Maybe enneagram 7 stuff

[@aprilhelm518]

@@cosmicyoke I could be wrong in my understanding, but it just made a lot of sense to me when I read your comment. And for me, my negative possible thoughts are often just debilitating and not helpful, so I have to turn them off... but easier said than done sometimes. And I don't really see Ne helping that. For me anyway, the link between Si woman having Si problems and therefore needing to use weak weak Ne... is missing. How in the world and what in the world does it help?

[@cosmicyoke]

@@aprilhelm518 wait why weak Ne for Si problems 🤔

[@aprilhelm518]

@@cosmicyoke I like to think that the reason the talk about "demons" on this channel doesn't make enough sense to me is because the "demon" function in MBTI (apparently, anyway) is the 8th function. And no wonder since the shadow functions (5-8) are the ones that are not valued by the person who has them, whereas the 4th function (supposedly, and in my experience) is very valued. If anything, I've gone through life wishing I had more Ne, but I don't and that's reality, and it's fine. It's a weak muscle, but I doubt there are a lot of people who are struggling in life for not trying to overtax that weak muscle that they wish was a strong muscle. We have strengths; it makes sense to play to them. But aren't the shadow functions the ones we don't like to engage or be friendly with? -_-' I would say that definitely the 3rd and 4th function, although weak, are NOT demons at all to the user, but the shadow functions are probably much harder to appreciate.

[@anomallie]

Could you talk more about INTJ vs INTP? I’m sure it’s pretty much similar as INFJ vs INFP with despite them being in the same temperament and same dichotomies, they don’t have any cognitive functions in common. For me, I may have a little trouble from time to time between these four types because they can be similar in some ways. I’m quite an organized person. Or so I think or hope I am. I’ve had people tell me I’m responsible, meticulous, and hell, even very stubborn I guess. I’ve thought about whether I’m an SJ type but I feel really skeptical about authority and tradition so I couldn’t possibly be that. When I was younger I was apparently a lot more animated and talkative but I’m quite very silent and reflective today. People tell me I’m a profound and an insightful person as well but, I guess you could say that to just about any type depending on whether their intuitive function is well-developed. And if there’s a situation, I always approach it with logical reasoning. I’ve been accused of being robotic before a lot of times but I have emotions like any other person and they run deep. In my experience, every peer whom I’ve had a closer affinity with was xNFP. Either because I attract them or I gravitate towards them. (It’s usually the former but I’m not going to brag.). I’m not sure if this is trying to account the fact that these types are more common than INxJ types that they seem like the closest thing for my type and/or that I have some functions in common with them. I haven’t ever been typed as an INFP and I know for sure I can’t possibly be one. While I know some INFPs can be quite logical if they wanted to be, they’re driven by their emotions or ‘values’ (Fi) as we should put it. Perhaps their ‘identity’ is tied to them being logical so they could be mistyped in that fashion. And honestly, they tend to be easily triggered types in my opinion and that’s where a lot of friction happens between us. Fi-doms definitely do seem to give off a ‘bratty rebellious child’ vibe because of what they “feel” and what they “like” and “want” (or maybe that’s just me.) It’s pretty difficult for me to write about INxJs though. Mostly INTJs. I don’t think I’ve ever met one in real life. Or maybe I have but I just don’t know it and I might have them mistaken for a different type. From all this, some of you might think I’m some sort of INTP in denial who rambled on about all this nonsense. Or maybe I’m an INFJ who’s in some “Ni-Ti” loop where they like to use their ‘Ti’ function and may appear like INTJs or something. I honestly don’t know. Feedback from anyone is welcome!

[@anyone359]

Idk. I would say Sleep first. Oi-Di is my guess. You seem to be an introverted decider (stubborn, introspective, selfaware, doesn't really like authority...) I think it's more likely you are a singleobserver because you don't seem to be very upset about problems with other people, right?

[@delinquenz46]

A bit late to the party, but to add some thoughts nonetheless: You can be skeptical against authority and tradition and still be an SJ type.

[@suganugu9205]

lmao i'm crying watching this knowing my dad won't ever listen to me

[@donaczella]

Great video!

[@sarahschroeder4739]

I'm ESFJ and I'm loving this so much. Reminds me of my ESTP mom.

[@mikiofpersia]

Being an ISFJ sucks at all because of being dominated by (mal)function of Introverted Sensing...

[@someonerandom713]

Every function got upsides and downsides to it and for people on the internet in the N dominated MBTI domain, it's easy to look down on Si. Don't let that get to you too much =) Having an ISFJ around can be really comfortable for other people. You are the ones keeping sight of things. So whenever other people lose it, you can be counted on to have the overview and know a framework to fall back on and to then continue on from. I think ISFJs should take pride in this and be confident about these strengths. I know few people more trustworthy and as such likeable than an ISFJ who knows where to go.

[@sirbradfordofhousejones]

Someone Random thank you! You are right about the N dominant MBTI community. I get the sense that it is because people with N saviors are more likely to be in it in order to figure out why they ( and others) are the way that they are... but I wish they understood that we can all seek those same things, even if we are isfjs. Haha

[@beverlysummerlin3739]

I’m an ISFJ and I don’t have a controlling bone in my body, so you’re wrong about that!

[@justanotherone9648]

my dad is an isfj. and this sounds just like him.

[@quorazekai3689]

Can you do INFP fears?

[@RebekahParkhurst]

Quora Zekai he covered that pretty well in “INFP: How do I get friends?” :) I’m an INFP myself and we basically have to get our head out of the clouds and reason objectively for once 😂😂

[@bluestrawberry9908]

Rebekah Parkhurst yeah, i know, but then did that video cover our fears(not having any friends)? I guess we do fear that to, though.

[@RebekahParkhurst]

My personal observation is that being sucked into Fi makes the INFP's biggest fear not belonging. We tend to think things like "No one understands me" and "No one appreciates me." Being idealists that are stuck in our own heads can make it hard for us to connect with the world around us (at least socially), and we tend to judge everything by our own value system, our idealism, and our sense of purpose, thus unwittingly isolating ourselves. So as he says here for the ISFJ needing to use his Ne to balance the Si, we need to learn to use our Te to balance our Fi. Fi sees the world through a highly personal and idealistic lens; Te will help us step outside ourselves and see things more objectively.

[@Baamthe25th]

Watch ISTP fears.

[@bluestrawberry9908]

Then how to we cultivate the skill to use our Te?

[@whowillyoucallonthen4292]

@DaveSuperPowers Peace. Whaaa? "Rob from your saviors.." Um. Maybe. Or. No. Pretty sure it's the other way around. Meaning "borrowing from our inferior to boost our persona." because, as mentioned, most of us don't actually know (or are not aware) that we're using our "savior" function.. So, why/how are we borrowing from it? Which, is why we feel the "need" to feel the "void" with a persona in the first place. Few things fill the void as "well" as digging up that rare & recognizable resource of energy/gold/diamond/gem. So. Enter the (possibly caffeine/contra band/prescription drug fueled/triggered) demon Firebird (aka "Peacock"). Hence, why people get burned out & fall into the "grip" experience. Naomi Quenck's book Was that Really Me? goes into "the 'grip'" quite well. As does Personality Junkie's founder Dr. AJ Drenth & Michael Pierce. Yeah. So. I sense the Professor is simultaneously mixing & separating here. Perhaps that blessed inferior Se has caught our INTJ Teacher off guard again 😎

[@justina2320]

It seems very easy to tell the difference between Si and Se. yet I can't tell which one is my dominant (I would be either ISTJ or ESFP but I am not a crazy psycho organizer, neither a wildchild party). I think I am more Se-dom but I can relate to this video as well lol. Would anybody have any clues or tips on how to tell for real?

[@zeta8334]

Are you athletic?

[@jeremygramento1547]

I still don't understand a lot of this.

[@themiddleones11]

You know how you say people tend to type themselves upside down? I just figured out I'm an ISFJ not an INTP

[@KajsaBernhardina]

What exactly do you mean by chaos? It's a bit difficult to grasp this concept. I assume you mean new knowledge or sensory situations requiring their immediate attention?

[@mimomeep6091]

Can you do Istj fears?

[@mzi668]

Dad: istj Mom: isfj Me: Entj Sister: isfp It's a shit show🥲

[@justanotherone9648]

same here... 🥲

[@etherspin]

ISFJ paramedic FIL has ESFJ nurse wife

[@Shadow77999]

Ne Tidal waves must be the worse of them all lmao

[@maryam1952]

U r very funny 😭😭😭😭

[@dolphinrose21]

i am an INFP and this sounds like me

[@saph4381]

So if you wanted to fuck things up for your avarage ISxJ, all you have to do is burn their shopping list? Sweet!

[@yellow_daffodil5689]

They'd probably remember at least 85% of the items on the shopping list anyway. (And the remaining 15% would still drive them nuts.)

[@katherinehendrix3887]

My isfj sister’s name is Sarah 😂❤️

[@Comedyhorror]

do ISTJ please

[@tiberiusgrey1529]

my suggestion is to find a mature ENTP mentor to help you out

[@arcadianmorning]

I find the tone of this video extremely condescending. Even if there is truth to the content, the way it is delivered is really off-putting and makes it hard glean anything valuable. I don’t understand what his intent is - instead of being educational it’s like he’s snidely telling off an ISFJ in his own life that he has a personal problem with. Also, maybe the example is simplified down for educational reasons but come on. Could he have made us sound any more dumb?

[@alexasweatt8857]

Agree. Immature communication skills.

[@hedialaya3230]

Guys, he's giving all types a hard time including his own. Just get what you can out of the vid. BTW this is an imbalance not a stupidity.

[@user-kd2ez2mb3c]

Learn to accept the truth. The truth is not painted colorful my friend. Take it in the chin.

[@sapphireluna4818]

His teaching style is hard-hitting and I think this is just his sense of humor. He’s hard on every type! I see nothing out of the ordinary in this vid. He may be the hardest on his own type, the INTJ. Hope that helps!

[@yasminhusain213]

Wow subscribed from just listening to the first 5 seconds of this

[@kjdaniels3267]

Yeah my Ne sucks lol.

[@nateo200]

LOL Yeah controlling your ENTP and ESFP kids ain't gonna be happening lol

[@Leverquin]

MY GOD!

[@AngelusLabyrinth]

ISFJ here. I dont understand. Most of my family relationships are shit out of control and just taking them as they are.

[@sarahschroeder4739]

Stop doing start observing

[@bethmendoza1847]

Wow. This is me.

[@sleek1978]

LOL @ the first 1 min

[@Stancekk]

isfp fears?

[@Baamthe25th]

Watch ISTP fears for now

[@cosmicyoke]

i think he made one

[@Villaintown]

dave fan club five ever

[@yigitdogan27]

SARA-jevo anyone?

[@sarahschroeder4739]

Lose paperwork😂🤣😂🤣

[@HannahSachie]

Accurate!