“It Ends With Us” Is Emotional P*rn for Women | Ep 1054

[@je_suis_calme_13]

Allie Beth, I was a secular pro-abortion terf who started watching your show because you are gracious enough to invite left-wing women who are fighting against trans ideology onto your show for important conversations. I started watching episodes about other issues and found that I either agreed with you on other topics or that you shared information I just didn’t know about. You turned me pro-life. You got me reading the Bible. You are a daily watch for me. It is because you are TRULY kind (not fake lying niceness) and ferociously truthful, a skilled interviewer and clear speaker. You changed my heart and mind and brought me back to God. Thank you. ❤

[@Caringheart5]

I love your comment! So encouraging ☺️

[@DogDocLou]

Maybe it’s my new mommy hormones but your testimony brought tears to my eyes!

[@lewisedwards4058]

Praise God! I pray you continue to grow in your relationship with Christ! That’s a beautiful testimony.

[@avantarakisaki]

Your comment gave me chills. Praise God!

[@seaglass.jen86]

@@je_suis_calme_13 how cool is that?! Praise God!

[@gma904]

I grew up desensitized to this exposure, but since I’ve grown closer to God, I can’t tolerate watching anything sexual or demonic . Not even slightly. It really bothers me. And I’m so happy to have reverted back to this pure place. 😌🥰

[@aprillsloof8542]

That is amazing. I’ve mostly been around people that are the opposite. Sheltered and godly then reach for sexual and demonic things.

[@peaceandlove544]

Beautiful

[@alex43223]

So glad to hear it! Set your mind on pure things.

[@jjgems5909]

I was exposed to a lot of explicit movies growing up. And it always made me so uncomfortable. Later developed a porn addiction. I never play these types of movies for myself and definitely not around my kids. It always upset me that my parents never checked the ratings before renting or buying movies.

[@Pho3nyxblade318]

Aww!! So sweet!! Keep on!! 💖 it really is incredible what the Lord does to our hearts when we get closer with him!! 💕

[@Magdalene952]

I think of Fifty Shades of Grey. A friend of mine gave me the book years ago (before I was married) stating "Oh you HAVE to read this." I couldn't finish the first book and gave it back to her. She asked me what I thought and I told her it was a horrible book and didn't finish it. She asked me why and I told her "I am not a prude, but as someone who was SA, I don't think we should (as you said) glorify SA, abuse, or these kinds of relationships. They are toxic and harmful to women. I am not a feminist, but I believe in preserving a good, loving society. Not one that preys on people." She had no response to it, but stopped recommending the book after I said that to her. I am in a loving, safe marriage now and I thank God every day for bringing my husband to me. He's a good man. P*rn or glorifying anything similar to it degrades our society and we are in the position we are in right now, because of these mindsets.

[@ari3lz3pp]

Are you a hammer? You hit the nail on the head! 😂 I grew up with LGBT around me and overly exposed to sexual things. My mom pretended to be a prude but it was more like she was amused by enabling my temptations....even as a very small child she would label me as "kinky" in a "fun" way which of course I didn't understand. Then when I wanted to talk about sex and what I learned at school and in movies etc she didn't want to talk. She was ultra feminist and happy I was on the pill even though she wanted grandbabies real badly. She taught me that all guys are bad and come with drama....and I learned the same was seemingly true about females. But I always was romantic at heart so I saw it as a challenge to deal with the drama of the broken people I met. (As I was also broken without realizing the trauma and abuse I endured as a child...) I coped by being LGBT and labeling abuse as "love". My partners abused me because they felt so intensely about me. They made.me feel I belonged which was really just them treating me like property (but would many times say things to gaslitme about how we need to be in open relationships etc so they aren't controlling). Or they would cheat then get super paranoid with ME. I saw it as love to stay and put up with them. Signs of NPD abuse which many of us have today...parents legit are expected to be NPD it seems by many societal standards. 😢 So it goes round and round until we manage to break free. I started to recognize it l mostly when I had my first child...but I wasn't truly free until I accepted salvation. ❤️ My body might never heal from the LGBT lifestyle and SA but my soul has healed a lot and I heal a little more each day in my walk with Jesus.

[@briannahogue887]

0l 😊 love o. Q

[@leslielutz6028]

I totally understand and was also SA and cannot read or watch anything without being triggered! Nor do I want to watch someone else have anything like sex - part Holy Spirit too! We have to protect our minds! That will stay there forever 😢. I have enough trouble with that. Lust is the same as adultery per the Bible for women and men both! God bless you ❤❤😊

[@kylethomas4680]

One of your relata-bros here. I liked your comment about "just because it's a book, it's ok and not corrupting." You're talking to Christians! If any group of people should understand the impact a book can have on a person, it should be us!

[@ladieuhang91]

As the Word goes, “whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, THINK about these things.” ‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4‬:‭8‬

[@jxsminx1306]

I’ve never heard this verse before. How beautifully Paul writes… thank you for sharing it 🙏🏼🤍

[@lynnpiazza346]

Amen. One of my favorite verses.

[@seaglass.jen86]

Amen

[@avantarakisaki]

I refer to this verse constantly because the evil in this world really gets to me.

[@gma904]

I started reading a fiction novel the other day because it had world renowned praise. It started off really good, and at page 400 plus it took a very weird turn sexually and I got up and threw the book in the trash. Because that’s where it belonged. I don’t entertain this anymore.

[@z.s.r.h]

What book was it? So I can stay away

[@KingdomWoman333]

Lol amen!! Sorry it tickled me but it’s so true. It just turns me off!! It’s disgusting. God bless you!

[@liannemarie2504]

👏👏👏👏👏

[@teetotee]

I have a bookshelf full of stuff like this, books I read as a girl about sex, false gods and all that. I'm gonna have to clear off my shelf at some point😂

[@AliyahNadeau]

@@teetoteetrash those books and replace them with books that are actually worth your time!

[@terridailey7665]

Sadly Satan will use anything to take our eyes off of the enjoyment of Christ.

[@mswright6538]

That part

[@terridailey7665]

We as Christians should not be watching anything that would be considered porn in any way.

[@anne.ominous]

food porn

[@Yesica1993]

It is sad that this even needs to be said1

[@csouthland]

Define porn.

[@Yesica1993]

@@csouthland My experience has been that oftentimes, those who play the, "define porn", word game are the ones who love to consume it.

[@Cheesyenchilady]

@@csouthlandhow about… content which is intended to and/or does sexually arouse the reader/viewer.

[@erikjohnson2594]

I’m a 56 year old Relatabro who consumes a lot of Christian, apologetics, and political content. I really appreciate the smart women who are coming into this space. Allie, Alisa Childers, and Melissa Dougherty bring a different and valuable perspective to the conversation. Allie is one of my favorite people overall to watch interview authors. Plus, she takes the Bible and theology very seriously, so she often is the first to let me know about new trends I should be concerned about! This is why Allie, who is not in my demographic, is one of my favorite content creators!

[@TessaRaye-e3m]

Thank you for this Allie! I needed to watch this. As a Christian, I’m ashamed to admit Colleen Hoover has been my favorite author and It Ends With Us is my favorite book by her. I basically just turned a blind eye to all the smut and vulgarity & was consumed with the story. Now I see how toxic it was for my marriage because whether I realized it or not, Colleen’s books made me want more from my marriage when there was absolutely nothing wrong within my marriage. Thank you so much for opening my eyes.

[@bairuta08]

To me personally knowing that Blake Lively is married and then her having intimate scenes with another man in a movie is disturbing.

[@mchandmusic]

Certainly more disturbing than words on a page.

[@lafayetteplace3031]

It's called acting.....

[@amberdelivered06]

Lol Just about every movie has sex scenes. Its over done. Its a desperate attempt to fit in because people praise sex so much. How about a strong movie stand on its on two feet with strong writing. ​@lafayetteplace3031

[@AnarSchism.]

I'm 65 yr old male and used to be very liberal . Phyllis was popular when I was young, and I totally believed the stories about her. I now really regret it.

[@sarah9nine]

i totally agree with how unnecessarily explicit her book/movie was. i read the book before i came to christ and don’t recommend it because it is pornographic. BUT i will say that as someone who has endured an abusive relationship, my family never understood why i stayed with him as long as i did and after my mom/sister/friends who didn’t understand read this book, they literally came to me and said “i totally understand why it was so hard for you to leave and i’m so sorry i didn’t recognize that before” and it was a very validating experience. i just really wish her only motive was to empower women to leave abuse instead of adding sooooo much unnecessary porn.

[@sarahring9307]

came here to say this same thing! I haven't had a physically abusive relationship but I know people who have been who had that same mindset. The book was more explicit than the movie but both unnecessarily so.

[@ari3lz3pp]

Hmm I'm not sure what you're saying...but I wonder if the same thing I have experienced. A lot of media enabled my choices to remain in abusive relationships. The love bombing is something frequently shown as a huge positive in movies and music etc. Unfortunately this has been/become a normal for society. I still love the man I was with (he went trans) but it was such an unhealthy situation and it was easy to paint the bad times in a golden light when so much media perpetrates this. And YET another thing not taught in public schools or by doctors...even many therapists (in my experience); good healthy relationship habits and expectations. But part of that is the boundary of not being intimate with people we don't really know. Most people refuse to see that truth so can't give good advice even if they want to. I'm grateful that with Jesus I have come to know His unworldly peace and love and to have healthy boundaries that I didn't learn (as a whole) anywhere else. 💙 Cinema Therapy is a fun channel too! 📽️ A (Christian?) therapist and his cinematographer friend (both dads) watch and critique movies and they have a lot of good stuff about how unhealthy most romance movies are.

[@ari3lz3pp]

Now I'm intrigued but the thing is many movies and shows and music I was exposed to very young taught me that it was okay to be in abusive relationships (even when they showed it with a finger wag) because the characters loved one another and it was so intoxicatingly romantic that it seemed worth it to me..I felt I had to prove I could be stronger and make it work when I got into those situations...that romance HAS to come with drama. My feminist family helped push me because their ideology of all men are screwed up just enhanced my thinking that I had to put up with crap if I wanted romance/"love". I was also LGBT from as early as I started to have "those feelings" (until I accepted Christ about 7 years ago and started to really heal). I KNEW from experience that females are crazy and chaotic LOL But also from my family and media I got that vibe from males too...and even friendships so there we go on the wheel of misery loves company. I was freed from these addictions and obsessions by Jesus. Everyday I am grateful and although I have moments where I slip up His grace is enough 🙏 It's not a one shot idea it's every day being and staying committed to the King of kings. 👑

[@francescaverdi2555]

I love that the cashier and other customers expressed their support for you - The Holy Spirit is brilliant 🙏💙and generous.

[@Durpydurp4488]

Also - what if the author isn’t glorifying abuse? The straight up truth is that the passion I felt in my abusive relationships was much more intense than the passion I feel in my current, very happy and abuse-free marriage. What I learned is that the passion is a BAD THING! And I tell women that all the time. My husband is my absolute soulmate and I can’t imagine loving anyone else. But I don’t have the frantic ups and downs with him that I had with the others. I used to think what I have now seemed boring. But I know now that it is actually just PEACE. Big difference.

[@davayoung4822]

I know most of your audience is younger women, but I’m 62 and I absolutely love your show and I very much value the content. I also value your opinion on most everything and share the things I see and learn to a lot of people my age both women and men. I have learned so much from your podcast. Please don’t ever back down, keep declaring the truth.

[@emgennagenna5297]

And I'm 72 and love Allie! So encouraging to know there are Godly young women out there!

[@elizabethann8228]

And I’m 66 years old and appreciate Allie too! Keep up the good work dear Allie! ❤😊

[@carolynnichols5211]

I also am in my 60’s {63} and listen with high regard to your content, Allie Beth. My 5 daughters joke that YOU are my favorite daughter😂🤣

[@tricia77grace]

I am 69 and like this show too! Very valuable in this day and age.

[@denisebeverage4814]

Wish we could know the percentage of 60-something aged followers of your podcast, Allie! I’m 61 and also love your genuine love for the Lord and professional delivery of all of your content. Keep up the good work God has prepared for you to do to bring Him glory and encourage all of us culture-makers to do the same❣️🙏🏼🕊️God bless you, Allie, and thank you!!❤

[@habearr3143]

Having been abused as a child, in relationships and even in marriage to a Pastor. God is so Great when it comes to healing and restoring innocence. That’s one of the things that I asked for after I met the Lord and He has been so faithful in His healing.

[@JulesMAu]

Amen. Me too ❤️🙏 May He bless you immeasurably.

[@splash883]

I think being compared to Phyllis schlafly is a compliment. She was a woman that spoke courageously on things that definitely weren’t popular.

[@crapemyrtlejournals]

55+ grandmother here, and I value your voice. Prayed for you, your fam and your ministry today!!

[@kimmeeb]

Thank you for touching on literary porn being unhealthy!! So often I see women online defending reading "spicy" books to the point where they won't read a book if it doesn't have sexually explicit scenes in it. If that's not an addiction I don't know what is

[@L.Fontein7]

If you want clean, sexless but totally romantic romance... that's intelligently written and has a bit of humor, please, please watch the mini- series from A&E (1995) of Pride and Prejudice, starring Colin Firth as Mr. Darcy and Jennifer Ehle as Elizabeth Bennet - imho it's the absolute best version thats been done to date. Warning - it might take a little bit to get used to the dialog as it was England in the early 1800's but in no time you'll catch on. But this whole mini-series is wonderfully filmed, and wonderfully written with wit and charm. Btw - Allie - congrats on the Atlanric article. I am so happy for and proud of you. (This last I can say cause I'm a 67 y.o. older lady and yes, I'm so very proud of you! Great job! )

[@lisaware9697]

Agreed! Still my favorite movie ❤️

[@flowerpower3618]

Yes love it. Also cranford. You’d love it as an older lady - like me 😊

[@ari3lz3pp]

Still has some mildly toxic or unrealistic dynamics ...can give into the unrequited love issue for people inclined to that. I was in and out of abusive relationships because of this. But the same goes for Jane Eyre which I love as a book and movies/TV series. The best is one that was made.in the early 2000s. About being okay with being set apart and being a strong woman that can also be gentle and refuse to take crap from romantic partners. 💜

[@mchandmusic]

Agree…but Austen writes longing like no one else and apparently people like @gaylenewill6465 think that crosses a moral line.

[@vicklee33]

Do you have a longer episode on this idea of emotional “porn” about how it breeds discontentment in our marriages?? I feel like this is such an important topic I’d like to know more about.

[@ari3lz3pp]

I have an example...I have a tendency to watch romance dramas and have had to grow out of idolizing these relationships for the wrong things. When they make us covet other relationships that is both against the Ten Utterances and it's unhealthy and unfair to our marriage, spouses etc. It can even roll over into other aspects of life. Personally for me it's also enabled my choices to stay in abusive relationships and even to be toxic myself. The high emotionally from having relationships like in the Notebook...or Twilight etc can mean being vulnerable to dangerous behavior but also addicted to the highs and lows of those kinds of relationships...and thinking it's ok because so many people idolize them. It's emotional p*rn. Both kinds have real consequences to our nervous systems the more we engage and get sucked in vs keeping your wits about you and either enjoying it while acknowledging how unrealistic and unhealthy those examples are...which might take all the fun away anyhow. Cinema Therapy is actually a great channel for this! Two funny dads that critique film, one is a Christian therapist and one is a cinematographer. They give real good information about how movies impact us without us even thinking much about it. Of course applicable to books and music as well... ❤️

[@ST4G]

Check out her episode on “Redeeming Love” the book that was somewhat recently made into a movie. If I remember correctly, that was part of the conversation.

[@vadimhampton]

I'm one of the bros and I appreciate you mentioning us!

[@sionnadehr3313]

Allie: Should Christians be reading Colleen Hoover books? KrimsonRogue and other book reviewers: No one should be reading Colleen Hoover books. I'm laughing a little because I've been on the anti Colleen Hoover train for a while and find it funny that people I watch commenting on religion/politics are noticing her

[@kerrymartin7557]

🤣🤣🤣

[@kaylan2083]

Haha it's not really surprising people are talking about her. She's a hugely popular author. She's almost the new E.L James.

[@ari3lz3pp]

I watch some YT people that are obsessed with her. Which I guess that word can be a red flag when they mean it... 😢 I don't trust the opinions of these people overall anyway but it's just fun content they make. Interesting this is coming up because of this movie...I'm also disappointed in Blake Lively but hey that's Hollywood. Lol She's just another part of that landscape. Emily Blunt is one of my favorites personally for actresses, a lot of her lesser known films especially are tasteful and very sweet funny romance films without a bunch of unhealthy mess. I think the classic books are underrated. Jane Eyre and Pride & Prejudice...there are some borderline issues in them for sure but what's a book without some drama? Oh and the BIBLE! Lol Only 66 books to choose from.

[@RachelNichols-writer]

I recommend the novel The Tenant of Wildfell Hall by Anne Bronte. A devout Christian woman struggles to do the right thing after marrying a dissolute rake. Things get worse when he starts teaching their son bad things. Helen sets out to reform Arthur Huntington by marriage, but it does not work out and he reveals himself to be worse than she had supposed. Not an easy read. Not feel-good escapism. I suggest only reading a few chapters a day. Not the kind of book you gulp down like a bag of chocolate bon bons. Books worth reading generally are not.

[@chrisgrace81]

Good book

[@donna-marie9100]

Our Bronte sisters are wonderful. Have a read of Charlotte's "Jane Eyre"

[@ari3lz3pp]

Dang. Sounds similar to my experiences. Lol 😆 Though I was also a wretch into my second marriage until we both turned it around thanks to Jesus! 🙏💞 I will look into it. I love Jane Eyre. Some risky topics for vulnerable minds as it has the unrequited love troupe but I find the character of Jane to be so wonderful and noble. Underrated. Let's not forget the 66 books of the BIBLE! 😅🤎

[@kimsims952]

It's one of my favorites!

[@lauvasquez7198]

I actually laughed when you said she said we only listen because you’re mean 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I don’t think you’re mean at all. But then again this is what people that only base life on emotions think. Facts are mean.

[@karenhastey8360]

I reacted the same 🤭

[@BeverlyShilling]

Truth is the new mean. So, maybe it's a backhanded compliment. Keep speaking truth Allie.

[@priscillaaitchison8213]

I am with you Ally!I feel so blesses and fed well with the biblical truth you stand for all the way from down under Australia 🇦🇺

[@lisaarb3246]

The book had a powerful message about spousal abuse. The story was well written, but I think the sex scenes were TMI. It didn't have to be so graphic. But I loved the main character and her courage to face reality.

[@smdpenguin]

I am thankful for your commentary on this. I am a busy working outside the home mom, and I don't have too much time to read for fun anymore. Though I am trying. But I won't be reading this book. I learned early on in my early 20's that books and magazines can just be porn and make you long for things you shouldn't or you have unrealistic expectations on your own life. I remember I wouldn't read too many romance books unless they were an actual Christian book with no sexual fantasies. Just beautiful love stories. But I remember when I first picked up a cosmo magazine to take on an airplane or something like that. I got hooked for a while and realized my thought life was going down hill and I had horrible thoughts going through my head I shouldn't even entertain. And some of Nicholas Sparks books have also had the same effect, despite me liking a lot of his work. I have learned I have to truly avoid those sexual scenes in a book entirely or not read it all because it can affect the brain. People always make porn about a male problem, but women are very much ingrained into porn when they read certain books or magazines. It can be very harmful to your mind and hurt your relationships if you are not careful.

[@amybarnett3053]

Allie, I’m 57 yrs old, and I still remember how against the Equal Rights Amendment my parents were in the 1970’s. I recall my dad telling me its hidden dangers. It did not pass at that time. Phylis must have worked very hard to get people to listen. Keep fighting the good fight!

[@SIOTL-IHI]

You are definitely a Phyllis Schafley type person. Wise beyond your years and so able to articulate your thoughts in a "Relatable" way. Thank you

[@claudiamelz1217]

I was obsessed with this type of books. I read around 40 in 2 years. One day I thought that I needed to get rid of them before my son could learn to read. I took a pair of scissors and destroyed them all. I got closer to God and got rid of this vice.

[@RCGWho]

When I was 15 I went to a youth camp, repented, and went home and tore up some book from the 80s like Scruples and never looked back. Should have done the same with rated R movies and secular trashy music.

[@MarahsonBopp]

Love hearing your Biblical perspective on current events and politics! So glad I found your channel 💜

[@JoshuaP222]

wow thank you for speaking out about this, it's almost impossible to meet women nowadays that actually have realistic and right expectations for a husband. all i end up hearing is them talk about how much their worth and what they deserve..

[@lauracragun]

For the most part, Whatever is popular right now is actually what I stay away from!

[@anniegivensaturday]

Had this conversation with a mom this morning. Her freshman daughter was given the book to read. I work at a Christian school where this book is circulating. I was horrified to read about its contents earlier this week after hearing about it. Fitting to hear this episode. So sad for this to be “ok” for high school girls to read. Weighing heavily. I am not a parent, but want the kids I work with to value Christ and His will for our lives. How do we pushback against all the toxicity in our culture? How do we get them to see the damage? 43:01

[@Loislaneski]

I never cared for twilight. In my high school days, the 50 shades of grey hype just begun .. me and all my friends were reading it. Can’t believe we did that now

[@RCGWho]

Christian girls were literally making fan videos on youtube.

[@ari3lz3pp]

For my gen it was more about Sex & the City. I didn't watch it much until I was an adult and was astonished teens were watching it. It's awful. I was bad off enough with shows like Buffy, even Notebook etc. These all portray poor self control in toxic relationships. Sadly this is most media. Society perpetuates it this way and scoffs at parents that give a damn enough to limit their children's exposure. Cinema Therapy has some great breakdowns about "romance" movies...two dads one is a Christian therapist and the other a cinematographer and they have some good insight and are fun to watch! 😊 📽️ 🍿

[@aprillsloof8542]

43:00 for Coleen Hoover content

[@Teal_Seal]

Thank you ❤

[@stacey1245]

Thank you! Allie does that all the time, very annoying

[@rain0450]

It’d be an honor to be compared to Mrs. Schlafly.

[@TheJEWalter]

One of my high school students had It Ends with Us on her desk, and I asked her about it. She was like, "Oh my gosh, it's so good! I don't know if you would like it, though." As her English teacher, I took that as a challenge. Well, she was right. I had to skip so many pages to the point where I quit and threw it away. I finished Verity because I was compelled by the story. I skipped a lot of pages in that one, too. I can't read another one of her books. I really don't want that stuff in my brain.

[@thesebone5]

I’m a Jewish conservative woman and I love your show! You’re also one of the most courageous. Gd bless you ❤️

[@catmations5631]

Amen Allie! So proud of you! God definitely sent those ladies to the coffee shop to encourage you and as a witness to the journalist that He is with you

[@erikabarnett9509]

Allie, I LOVE your podcast. I'm a black Christian evangelical. There are a few things I disagree with you on respectfully ❤ but your voice is important to me. When something big happens I always look forward to your response. Your always thoughtful with your responses and biblical. I love that. Keep it up.

[@Christwalker89]

Written or visual pornography can ruin both a man and woman's relationship in reality.

[@birdsongs2911]

Can you make a short clip of the addressing the movie “It Ends With Us” Is Emotional P*rn for Women to forward to my teen daughter, also a short clip about how toxic Twilight is?

[@allisonsarahbeth_]

While listening to the segment all about the importance of upholding biblical values, an ad interrupted Allie on KZbin and it was none other than an advertisement for Gaia, which is a digital content company focused on new age spirituality. Manifestation, law of attraction, crystals, energy, etc. Devil ain't hiding anymore folks, and his tactics haven't changed

[@Quilt-garden-bake]

So true. I’m sure it’s frustrating for Allie as well as other believers on this platform to have these things appear during their broadcast. I’m sure they’d prefer to have control over the ads rather than the platform control them. The opposition ads seem so intentional.

[@friedawells6860]

Those Gaia ads are bananas! People say that Christians are crazy for believing what we believe, and then you have a look at what the world is running after 😂 I feel very sad for any confused person paying money to access the "benefits" that Gaia provides.

[@annabelbateman1]

I started reading this book last week, like you just wanting a light read and got about 1/3 of the way through when I felt a strong conviction from the Holy Spirit to stop. I was surprised how much I really wanted to keep reading - for the days after that. Thanks for raising the issue.

[@RoseyPosey545]

Just because we have been mocked does not mean we as Christians should mock. I’ve seen some of the comments on the shorts… particularly the cruelty toward the Asian woman who was adopted. And yes, some of the comments were cruel. Turning the other cheek, I’m not talking about being a doormat, is a command for a reason.

[@ari3lz3pp]

Turn the other cheek isn't a command. It also does mean don't be a doormat, we have two cheeks for a reason. There are many passages even from Jesus in Matthew about using discernment to stay away from toxic people. To forgive but let go when need be. Not to take abuse. I agree being mean or insulting is NOT Christian and as people we all sin so we have to be mindful of that. It's an easy way to mess up. Especially today when telling the truth is considered "mean" and insulting when it's not. The line becomes blurred. As a side note "utterances" is the proper translation for ten "commandments" .....as God uttered them to the hearts of the people and did not command. We are given will to choose and if we listen to Him we choose wisely. ❤️ שלום

[@RoseyPosey545]

@@ari3lz3pp Yes, as I said: “I’m not talking about being a doormat.” I was referring more to the snarky expressions and occasional comments. I have seen the mockery pointed out by The Atlantic. The writer is correct. And I’m sure it’s a difficult position for Allie to be in, particularly when she’s attacked. I know I wouldn’t be good at it… my temper’s too quick. But I do not like to see anyone made fun of in a mean manner, particularly when it’s so obvious an individual is hurting. I think Allie has a huge opportunity to be a blessing, and not just to Christians… to be a good force in the world. I hope she leans toward kindness. Regarding the commandments, I have to think about that. I’ve never heard, for example, that the Ten Commandments are simply utterances. Would you consider “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and love your neighbor as yourself” a command?

[@viperstriker4728]

I don't know the context here so maybe it doesn't apply to what your talking about. But lets keep in mind that Jesus mocked the religious leaders and Paul could give a good verbal whipping. I think it comes down to what is the motivation for mocking them. Are we drawing pleasure from it? Or is it about discrediting evil ideas? The difference is subtle, but huge.

[@earthangel2590]

What an honor to be compared to Phyllis Schlafly!

[@MrsRight1122]

Those last 10 minutes were so well said. I appreciate your comments on the unrealistic expectations that’s nurtured in women from material like It Ends With Us and books and movies like it. It’s such a problem and should be addressed more!

[@mchandmusic]

A lot of people in this comment section seem to misunderstand what fiction means. Lots of commentary on “unrealistic expectations.” If you are looking to works of fiction to inform what you want in life, the problem is deeper than what you’re reading.

[@seals48100]

This....

[@themediocrehomestead]

I’m so glad you’re taking about these porn novels. It’s such a problem among young women

[@beepbopboop3221]

This is why I stopped filling out the federal card. Our local schools don't need to be beholden to the federal government. Schools need to be beholden to their local community. The local tax payers which fund the schools.

[@kaylanozawa4798]

I don't like the sexual scenes in the book but it doesn't necessarily glorify it. It makes it extremely realistic as women, especially the ones in these relationships, have good moments like these. An abuser can have the outward qualities like wealth and attractiveness and still be a bad person. This is what the main character, Lily, had to overcome. If Colleen really wanted to glorify abuse, she would have gone about it way differently. The whole moral of the story is lily struggling with identifying the abuse and then she tries to find a way to get out of that situation.

[@RCGWho]

My view is that in real life, we don't watch people have sex. If we do we call it p0rn. Reading and visualizing someone's private sex life is p9rn and sin.

[@JB-pd3ir]

True

[@TatianaMarie711]

“You are not going to fix your life by escaping it in your mind.” 🔥 Great episode, Allie!

[@flowerykid]

Love that you were consistent and mentioned Redeeming Love in the type of book to be cautious of along with the secular sexually explicit vein. I love Francine Rivers' writing style , and appreciate how deftly she ties in encouraging redemption arcs, but the she goes into enough of the sinful details (which i wasnt expecting because of who her yarget audience seemed to be) that it ended up being a stumbling block to me in certain seasons, and I now know to be mucb more careful who I recommend her books to and to give caveats. 😅 She's so close to being such an incredible, safe author to appreciate!! (Still appreciate her, btw. She is definitely talented)

[@Pseudoornitologist]

Thanks for pointing out that teenagers shouldn’t be reading twilight. Parents need to to know what they’re kids are consuming.

[@graysonbr]

I seriously would love to see young women to follow your channel much more than Taylor Swift! Great example you are Allie!

[@debgok]

It’s so interesting that you mention Twilight as having a hold on the mind and emotions. I read it as a relatively mature adult and concluded that it fed into every self-absorbed adolescent teen fantasy about having two guys fight over you. I would say the same thing about outlander. It’s about a woman who wants to have her cake and eat it too - two ideal men in two different worlds. not healthy for relating to a real man in the real world.

[@leslielutz6028]

Thank you Allibeth as usual you are so right on with it all! I’m most excited to learn about Phyllis Shlafley and feel like I need to hear more from her and get her name and accomplishments “ out there”!! I see many books she has authored - I pray there will be a movie or documentary about her! It sounds like she needs to be celebrated and followed more! Keep going - we love and appreciate you!

[@Yesica1993]

I have no clue who that writer is or about her books/movie. But I do know that females often stay with their abusive men, even when the guy is abusing their children. I've seen it in real life. And then they turn on YOU when you try to help them. They almost always choose the guy over you! It makes me so angry.

[@Xaforn]

As someone who experienced an abusive marriage the psychology is such a rabbit hole in and of itself. The very difficult part is if there isn’t physical abuse but more emotional and mental, it’s crazy how long it can take people to notice something isn’t right if they ever notice at all as sadly some never do. A friend of mine experienced the same and literally told me she never would’ve woken up and seen the truth if I hadn’t started checking in on her.

[@Yesica1993]

@@Xaforn I will never understand it. I will never understand why they choose these vile men even over their own children that they see being abused by them. If you want to stay in that, fine. But don't subject your poor helpless children to it. Like I said, it enrages me. What is so wonderful about these disgusting, abusive (whether physical or any other way) that they stay with them and sacrifice their children for them?! It's so evil. But they're treated like helpless victims? Nope. The children are the helpless victims! They're stuck there.

[@jesussavemetoday975]

@@Yesica1993 Your comment tragically misplaces your righteous anger at the women being abused, instead of the men who are abusive. It would really help you understand more if you read the book (or even read the reviews on Amazon) by Lundy Bancroft, like "Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry & Controlling Men." You obviously have no idea about the mental abuse, mind games, and many times literal threats that these men will kill the women and/or their children if they try to leave or even tell someone what's going on. Psychological/emotional abuse always precedes physical abuse. Maybe you could take some training & help at a women's shelter and learn their stories.

[@HeavenComeDown1]

I used to read her romance novels. Once I got saved and went through deliverance I discovered those sexualized books were an open door to the spirit of lust! I had to repent. I stay far away from the sexualized romance novels. It’s not glorifying God. Beware of what you are getting into and what you are setting your mind on!

[@keekeebooks5649]

Allie, I don't think there's anything wrong with Twilight. It has a wholesome message.The characters wait until their marriage, and it's very pro life. Plus, I don't think there's anything wrong with getting a little emotion over a story. Our emotions are not always a bad thing.

[@christinacutlass1694]

It’s been a long time since I read this book, actually the series of books, and I enjoyed them and was surprised by them. Normally, I don’t like popular things, but I did enjoy the conversational aspect of the books. I felt that there were a lot of Christian morality to the books and movies, and that Christianity was treated with respect, in that the main character desired to have a soul as did many of the other “good” vampires. in some respects, I was reminded of the Harry Potter series. I felt as though the witches and warlocks were good angels and fallen angels. There is a realm of the unseen, and it is very powerful. There is a a constant battle between good and evil in our human lives and in the supernatural realm. Certainly in Harry Potter,Snapes love for Harry’s mother, was an example of divine love. It was sacrificial in nature and ultimately he gave his life on behalf of her son. A lot of people get hung up about the fantasy aspect of both Harry Potter and the twilight books. I think that fantasy as in Lord of the rings, the lion, the witch and the wardrobe, Harry Potter, and twilight, can illumine the struggle between good and evil as long as it does not glorify evil. It also does not call evil good or good evil. Sadly, the Harry Potter series went off the rails with the introduction of the homosexual characters. Up to that point, they were basically fairytales I believe that violent, video games with demonic characters , do a lot more harm than these nonsexually explicit fantasy stories. My response to the fantasy movie Avatar, was quite negative in that it depicted a pagan society and glorified it. I guess these are nuances many do not acknowledge, but I’ve thought a lot about it over the years.

[@viperstriker4728]

@@christinacutlass1694 I agree with your criticism of Avatar and would like to extend that to Harry Potter, which is a depiction of the literal occult. It's subtle, and there are some good messages in it, but please hear me out. Many of the names of past wizards are historic occult members. In the movies the books that can be seen in the back ground are often real spell books and grimoires. A museum in London had a full exhibit titled "Harry Potter: A history of magic" about all the connections with real occult practices and how it inspired Rowling. Well the spells may just be latin words the symbolism is accurate to magic. The occult uses it as a tool for recruitment. An example is a site called Hogwarts is here. The site has real occult theology presented as nothing more then fantasy. You won't find these things with Narnia or Lord of the rings. I don't know about Twilight. I would recommend you look up a little bit about hermeticism before you dismiss the objections to Harry Potter.

[@ryanehlis426]

Men and women both can get attached to there abuser, it is called “trauma bonding”.

[@laurykristensen6239]

And emotional abuse is possibly the most difficult to escape.

[@debracopen3119]

Her being against the ERA is what I remember most. History has proven her right. Look what has happened because of the woman’s movement in the last 50 years.

[@MsXxMellixX]

I stepped away from American/English productions a long time ago. (I'm from Germany) I mostly watch korean dramas now because they are non sexual, environment and actors are esthetical to watch, it's funny and character developments are nice. For me it's good entertainment (except of the portrayal of alcohol consumption which I find problematic tbh)

[@EFrey-xz4pu]

Thank you for addressing Colleen Hoover and our thought lives as women. I struggle with escapism and am a new Christian and was convicted about my fiction habit.

[@jennybeck2625]

Wow! I love that in a sense the Lord was rooting you on in the coffee shop and showing your interviewer that others (both male and female) agree with your Biblical perspectives and are edified by your show! So cool 💗

[@marykjmj1]

We are called to cast down all vain IMAGINATIONS and bring EVERY THOUGHT INTO CAPTIVITY to the OBEDIENCE OF JESUS CHRIST!!

[@beautifulwonder398]

I listened to you when I started college and always maintained my convictions and conservative views even when receiving opposition from certain professors.

[@Eyesofmars2040]

We are blessed by God to be in a free country. If we don’t take advantage of the rights God has given us, we will and should lose them. Paul appealed on the basis that he was a Roman citizen and we should not shrink back as Americans from being bold and speaking the truth in love.

[@seaglass.jen86]

If we all spent less time being entertained and more time serving the least of these, the world would be better for it. I used to feel bad that I wasn’t a big reader, but now I’m grateful for it. Novels, tv, and movies are all filled with lies and filth. It’s all becoming less and less appealing to me these days.. I read my Bible and Bible related articles mostly. I keep up on current affairs thru Allie Beth mostly. 😂

[@maddy-zzz]

Nobody should read Colleen Hoover because her writing is truly terrible lol. Absolutely baffling she has the success that she does. Sloppy, half-baked storylines that often glorify domestic violence. Yuck.

[@cherylsHTX]

This. Exactly!

[@RachelNichols-writer]

Poorly written books are usually easy reads.

[@KikiG-vm7jz]

One of the problems with Colleen Hoover's books are they are heavily marketed to tweens and teens. 11 year olds are reading her books. She rode on E.L. James, the author of Fifty Shades, coattails early on as a new author. That says everything.

[@traceyburroughs1111]

Thank you for this video Allie. Keep up the good work. Tracey Burroughs watching you from South Africa 🇿🇦

[@LillyTilly]

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[@giftfromGod1990]

Thanks for your opinion on Coleen Hoover

[@katiee3842]

I read it and thought it was stupid. I literally finished it and thought, “It’s not even that good, why are people so obsessed with it?!”

[@wmhhealth2018]

I had 3 relationships with 3 different women after losing my beloved wife 7 years ago. All 3 turned toxic because I gave into my sexual urges. Lesson learned and I am leaving everything to God from here on 🙏

[@annmarie3573]

If you would not want your spouse to participate in such a scene with another woman, you probably should not be watching it.

[@DeniseMathison-k5k]

It breaks my heart that my 16 and 18 granddaughters went to this movie as a Christian woman. I had no idea about this author, specifically about the movie. When they told me they saw the movie and then I saw this podcast about it (and I follow and love Allie), I wanted to hear her warning. Thank you for opening my eyes to this author and movement. Lots of reasons to pray!!

[@jillanglemyer3168]

I loved Phyllis Schlafly. I used her “First Reader” to teach 5 of my children how to read.

[@kerrymartin7557]

I've always wondered if I'm the only Christian woman who did not love Redeeming Love! And I agree with you 100% on Colleen Hoover's works.

[@natalian3439nano]

Thank you for this review, I no longer want to watch this movie. Grateful Twister came out at the same time, as it is a great alternative.

[@mollyv7399]

So proud and happy for you, Allie. Thanks for fighting the good fight! Praying you helped open Elaine's eyes.

[@wanderervii]

Keep up the good work, Allie! Love your podcast.❤ May God bless you and your family. As a general rule: don't read romance novels. It isn't healthy, and it accomplishes nothing. It's entertaining, but bad for you mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Like horror movies.

[@JenniferChristian-rl7xl]

Allie. I am a librarian and Colleen Hoovers books were flying off the shelves for so long. I finally got a copy just to see what all the hubbub was about. It only took a few pages in and I knew it wasn’t a book for me. Totally laced with f words, sex, etc. This is what our culture wants, I guess, but certainly NOT something a Christian should be reading.

[@RCGWho]

Is there adult fiction that isn't trashy?

[@gsmenendez]

Oh my goodness Allie! You are so mean lol I am so thankful for you and your channel! May God continue blessing you, your family and your channel! I am proud to be part of the relatable audience!

[@mchandmusic]

I thought the book was powerful. I think a distinction should be made between written scenes and explicit scenes depicted on screen, especially as a married woman with experience. I wouldn’t want or allow my teenage daughter to read it. That said, I don’t think a movie will do it justice.

[@Monica-ds8dc]

I have often said that explicit books are the women’s version of pornography. Men will watch pornography bc they are visual and it addictive to them. But with women there has to be an emotion and relation attached to it. That’s why so many women fall into this and also become addictive. It can absolutely lead you down a road that not only will hurt your relationship with the Lord but also with your perception of what a relationship should really be.

[@Chelsiiiiiiiiiiii]

I’m just new in Allie’s YT page and I’m so glad I found this. Her messages are practical, inspiring and biblical. I’m hoping that there”ll be more of this type of conservative topics to counteract those platforms that are unholy and ungodly. Thank you Allie 🙏🏻✝️

[@mamabear8373]

I wasn't an avid reader when I was younger, but so many romantic relationships on TV and movies are sooooo unrealistic and absolutely do set women up for disappointment and failure. If I didn't have Jesus and healthy marriages modeled, I would absolutely be in that category.

[@ashleyalphin]

You didn’t see it to my knowledge, but I sent a message on Instagram to you last week to please cover this book/movie, and I’m so glad you did! I reference your videos a lot when I talk to girls in my youth group and the high school girls I coach about these subjects, so they have someone else to listen to that will give them godly wisdom about these cultural issues. Thank you for your consistent messages of TRUTH!!! To God be the glory! ❤

[@jillianhajdasz9752]

My 15 year-old was horrified when she read through a couple of Hoovers books. Horrified. And she isn't even a big believer (yet😊).

[@victorialucia.p]

Allie, I would love if you shared your current fiction reads!

[@Chrissy-ot2hi]

I’m Australian and I really appreciate your show. Thankyou so much.

[@issycrawford]

Thank you so much for openly rebuking literary pornography. Every time I think about what that stuff did to my parents marriage or how difficult it was to get away from that smutt I just want to bury my face in my wonderful and loving husband's chest and thank God for His grace and that by His spirit I am free.

[@RCGWho]

Can you share more?

[@JamieJohnson-on2jz]

I got REALLY into A Court of Thorns and Roses toward the beginning of the summer, had to stop by book 3. The young adult and easy-to-read fantasy and drama books that feature sex scenes need to be stopped. And it's all audiobooks now too, so you can listen to them as you do laundry and in the car and all throughout their day. And so you power through book after book and feel like you're not missing out on life but 90% of the time your main focus is on the book and even when it's of you think about it. I honestly found myself not as invested in my husband while I was reading them and more invested in these fictitious love scenes, telling myself I was reading it for the plot. These books are porn.

[@JamieJohnson-on2jz]

It really was the love and passion and romance and dedication and the times that the main love interest sacrificed for her and the emotional buildup that is orchestrated through tragedies that got to me. That's what women are often caught by - not overt physically intense scenes. It's the emotional buildup that gets addictive. And you want to know why it's not good to yearn for that? These characters aren't in excruciating debt. These characters don't have children to cook for. These characters don't have a 9 to 5 where other people are counting on them to focus. These characters don't have to face the full consequences of the tragedies they go through that push them to connect with one another. If I was trapped underground in a mountain and then got out because I defeated a giant man eating worm, I would not go off and be okay to be a queen less than a year after that. I look at Donald Trump like wow he got shot and is up on stage again a week later, I can't imagine how much trauma this can cause - fictional women don't carry the burdens real women do. It's easy to get swept up in admiration for characters that don't exist and forget about your own life, spending hours and hours of your day immersed in a different world. Much easier than getting through a 2-hour movie and closing your eyes in the really hot and heavy scenes and immediately moving on with your life. I'm sure the male brain is different in that regard, but women are emotional for a reason. These books feed on that in the opposite direction.

[@ANGELANA]

Allie, thank you!!! Agree 100% on the movie!! Another thing I don’t understand that’s completely alien to my nature is how a married couple can participate in intimate scenes??? I can’t even watch it- such a cringe!!! Kissing another man/woman, saying romantic things not to their spouses?!!! Yikes!! People think our words mean nothing- just a bunch of letters blurted out of our mouthes?! Our words have meaning and when you say I love you to someone it ties you to that person… I don’t understand how actors do that

[@hannahthomas9081]

Great points Allie! I would love some of your personal recommendations on fiction authors/titles for Christian women to enjoy. Thank you for your hard work, I listen daily! 😘

[@RCGWho]

I'm not a big reader, but classics. Stick with the classics.

[@dalemoore8582]

I didn’t know about Colleen Hoover when I started reading It Ends With Us. I put it down after about a chapter. Congrats on the article!!! To be compared to Mrs Schaphly is a great honor!