It’s Been 5 Years . . . And He’s Still Married to Her!

[@AngelaEvans_]

The fact that some mistresses believe they found their happily ever after in someone else’s husband is pathetic. It never ends well

[@user-ci6kx5bv6q]

What’s worse is the wife who stays with the husband after betraying her this way. Now that’s pathetic.

[@lillybethford1915]

⁠​⁠@@user-ci6kx5bv6q, it’s important to not deflect and blame the innocent party..i.e, the wife. This is called sidechick/sidedude logic, because, calling the victim “pathetic” shows a lack of empathy and delusion. Until you’ve‘walked a mile in her/his shoe,’ you have not a clue.😳

[@Alonepistachio]

@@user-ci6kx5bv6qtell me you’ve slept with a taken man without saying it directly 😂

[@LPnerd]

unless it's the King of England apparently.

[@thetruthtrumpsallliesfromt4399]

@@user-ci6kx5bv6q Actually it’s not. At least not on the wife’s side. I commend her for honoring her share of the marriage by not leaving til death do them apart.

[@k.l.massie8702]

She won't end it. I can hear it in her voice.

[@jennyj0007]

He's probably good in bed. Only reason not to give it up.

[@T.Alexis926]

Nope she's not. 😒Definitely could hear it.

[@mightymouse1005]

She will in 10 or 20 years.

[@Harklingo]

Literally just commented this. I totally agree. I just smh like, "yeah, ok. ::side eye - pursed lips::" every time she says, "yeah, I agree."

[@glynis1007]

I agree.

[@jayanouni]

My Mother once told me : " Never trust a man who tells you his wife doesn't understand him "

[@LLMC968]

Why? A wife sometimes can’t understand their husbands😢

[@Kayjames44]

@@LLMC968Then talk to a counselor, or consider a divorce. What can the other person give, that’ll help solve the problem. In a matter of no time, you’ll be having an issue with them also🤷🏽‍♀️

[@missmlb3842]

great advice ❤

[@FireSilver25]

Or that she henpecks him, is mean, trapped him, etc.

[@user-vq1rl5ms9z]

​@@LLMC968go away, you added nothing

[@wynonaangst8364]

If he cheats WITH you, he'll cheat ON you.

[@user-uw8ib3sw7d]

It sounds so cliche, but oh soooo true!

[@jacquia.2606]

...and she'd deserve it

[@DKilgallen]

He will never leave his wife for you. No need to.

[@missyfrank880]

Yep she’s already giving him everything he needs from her. He has no need to change titles for her.

[@lindorini]

True!

[@bronwyn117]

And why would she want him to?

[@peterlee584]

Exactly.

[@peterlee584]

​@@bronwyn117I don't think she really wants to. She's just desperate to justify her actions and make herself out to be the innocent party.

[@BlackStump172]

She is annoying me as she keeps saying , correct and yes . She also stated that she did not ruin the marriage and that the wife had infidelities . She does not know that , only that he said it .

[@ellegates]

And what has a lot of the true crime proved? That the cheater is the liar and lies about their side of the situation, even to get another to the do their bidding, as far as murder no less... So yes, she is RIDICULOUSLY foolish. It is so hard to even listen to her unwillingness to see truth...

[@alluringbliss4165]

Sounds like she has no shame about it and probably feels entitled to take him.

[@elizabethramos1325]

Exactly!! all she knows is what he tells her. It makes me mad because of all of the excuse she is making for the DESCIONS! she has made to hurt another person. Both of them are terrible people, how can you lay down with a person who is in a committed relationship. It makes me SICK!

[@mircat28]

And the cheating husbands are always going to badmouth the wife to make himself look good! You can’t be that naive!

[@LunaMorkovich]

She's too delusional to leave. I don't know why she even called into the show. I doubt she will take his advice.

[@annt7384]

“He wants another year to figure out his marriage.” I’m sure he does 😂😂😂😂😂

[@user-vf3fz7qv6v]

Right? If it’s over 6years ago why does he need MORE time. Make it make sense

[@bennettEH141fa09]

I laughed at that too! He might as well of said, just hang on for a year until I get my wife to calm down and trust me again, and then I’ll give you a call…. WTH

[@klickingkayasmr7585]

14:12 “I would’ve never done this, looking back.” Only saying this because it didn’t work out the way you thought. If he left his wife, there would be no regrets…

[@annt7384]

@@klickingkayasmr7585 Sorry, I don’t see the connection. He told his affair partner he wanted a year to figure out his marriage, which is a ridiculous and laughable statement in any context.

[@KG-bliss]

​@klickingkayasmr7585 YES!!! You meant to break his marriage and now you are the loser then you wouldn't have done it.... to phone in and play victim to something you caused??? Come on!

[@missybrown9539]

My dad has been married to his second wife for 21 years now…left my mom and us 4 kids for her. Worked out for him and her but destroyed everyone else.

[@shereengiovanni5009]

Sorry 😢

[@ZachA-si3qz]

Good for him.

[@kjl6039]

My uncle left his wife and my four cousins for the woman he was having an affair with. They have been together for more than 30 years. I would not say it “worked out” though. They may still be married, but I know that they do not trust each other. They try to hide their insecurities from the family, but we hear things from others. He gave up an honest, caring, strong, beautiful wife for a relationship where he can dominate his new wife. His first wife knew who she was. His new wife is a fish that he can dominate. He is a huge misogynist. My aunt married a much better man who appreciates her and loves her for her.

[@camellia8625]

I am sad your family broke up as a result of such a situation. It isn’t fair.

[@yolandadeleon7991]

Well I want to think that even if he wanted to leave her he kinda has to look back and think he has to make it worth it for all the pain he created in you all. I’m sorry this happened but I’m glad your mom found better. ❤

[@thequirkychristian]

I once got hounded by a bunch of people in a singles Facebook group because I said I refused to date someone who is even separated. Get divorced and then we’ll talk. They said that I could potentially be missing out on a great person. Well, they’re not that great if they can’t end one thing before starting another.

[@sandrasimplytoday7772]

💯

[@Foxie770]

A separated person is still married. You are 100% correct never to date a married person. They have plenty of stuff they need to work out and if needs to be done without being new people into it.

[@dianagabriela3287]

could be missing out on a cheater .. oh no

[@mightymouse1005]

Good for you for standing on your morals. You deserve someone who is 100 percent available

[@rosewiththorns4664]

That's called self-respect, good for you.

[@sarab5507]

How bizarre how she can see him lying to every other person in his life and still assume that he’s being honest with her.

[@annstewart8506]

Exactly!

[@tiawarren5403]

Yep

[@dianaverano7878]

Haha. Exactly

[@Are.Baires]

Lust makes people stupid

[@annstewart8506]

@@Are.Baires 💯 facts!

[@ABab-jf2jb]

She said, "we fall in love with the wrong people all the time, right?" She tried to give herself an excuse for bad behavior. Sad woman!

[@KG-bliss]

And I love that he said " no, we dont" 😂😂

[@Musiyca]

To be fair, we do fall for wrong people. That one is true. We just don't follow up on that - that's the difference. Decent, moral person in a committed relationship doesn't follow the newly caught feeling, they stay committed to what they have.

[@zackarykelsay3349]

She’s not going to call back because she’s not going to cut it off. He will end it before she will

[@torritorrytorre]

Your soulmate is not that lady’s husband. Wrong situation.. right person… How disrespectful

[@lindagunn6257]

How sisgusting and anger inducing this lady is

[@lorrainem8234]

"Wrong situation, right person" has got to be the silliest "adage" I've ever heard 😂 Wrong is wrong

[@lornadenisevalverde3580]

Love yourself more mama.. She is a follower not a leader or else she won't be making this call. Wake up.

[@latazialane3383]

Right. The nerve of this moron…

[@angelicarodriguez5357]

The person I married turned out to be someone else's soul mate. We married and a few months later he met her and fell in love with her. He chose her. It happens.

[@MimosaRose]

“I know, I know, I get it.” No , no you don’t. If you did, you would’ve stopped it the minute you knew he was married.

[@tiawarren5403]

Yep

[@matinaki1644]

What about him? Is he innocent and nice cause he is married??

[@Olivetree80]

She cognitively does, but she's not convicted

[@msprettypinkpanther6142]

@@matinaki1644both are equally guilty… but you already knew that and you’re just trying to shift some of the blame that was rightfully placed on her. She’s the one who called in; therefore she is the one rightfully addressed.

[@matinaki1644]

@@msprettypinkpanther6142 it depends. In this case she doesn't sound like "Oh I did something really stupid because I was in a really bad place and he showed interest towards me". She is more like that his wife is in the way, so yeah, she is trash. But he is equally or even more trash if he does not repent either (for the act itself, not the possible repercussions and drama).

[@sabias3932]

She’s never met his children but he has met her daughter! This woman’s lack of self worth extends to her poor daughter. I hope her daughter never sees this guy out and about with his family, for her sake. My goodness.

[@sdran23]

Oh, wow, that’s true.

[@SuzieQ7779]

My ex had a mistress and they evidently are living happily ever after now. I’m so happy he has someone to take care of him bc he’s had many joint replacement surgeries. I’m even happier it isn’t me.

[@LOADING...o.o.o]

She should wait another 6 years to know he is not divorcing her.

[@musicbrazilian7065]

Hahahahahaha!

[@Dragonfruit260]

🙊 oops!🙊

[@randyadams1312]

Then wait another 8

[@ReliRel769]

😂

[@karenadams2512]

😂😂😂😂

[@jfitzsimmons4825]

You're not dating. You're committing fornication, he's committing adultery...for the past six years. And if he is dishonest with his wife, he's dishonest with you.

[@samaralaliaabzu2837]

She's not the only mistress...

[@samuelpayne5460]

The thing about John is that is is more than happy to call out the guy for being a lying piece of, but he will love bomb the girl by proclaiming multiple times how smart she is. Either John is a master manipulator or he doesn’t understand female nature… at all!

[@sheilalopez7498]

Thankyou for being right and truthful, it's refreshing!! ❤

[@brenda121143]

Don't you realize that his wife is not the only one he is cheating on. Even if he should divorce his wife and marry you all you've gained is a cheater. But they never leave the wife

[@shereengiovanni5009]

Preach

[@msprettypinkpanther6142]

We do not “fall in love with the wrong people all the time”… we fall in LUST with the wrong people all the time!

[@user-hr1ql2fu3f]

This woman is trying to sell herself as responsible and accountable, when she clearly is not.

[@ritapacheco8059]

You feel like you're letting HIM down by leaving? My god, ladies, the bar is in the dirt.

[@Mari-py9ne]

More like underground at this point lmao

[@basma1993]

The bar is below the pits of hell at this point

[@hottstepher]

@@basma1993Exactly; _sub_ hell 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@thevestalvirginspeaks3847]

More like the devil'd booty hole!

[@claypu8243]

​@@basma1993fr burning the living hell outta us

[@sarahe85]

I have zero heart for women like this (and men like this). As a wife who's been cheated on, both man and woman involved in an affair have no idea what destruction they have caused to the family. The trust is forever destroyed, the family future envisioned is destroyed, the childrens' right to have their mom and dad under the same roof is destroyed, financial stability destroyed, and this doesn't even include the emotional damage to the wife/spouse and kids, which can last a lifetime. I don't care if the marriage is on the rocks, once the infidelity lined is crossed, nothing is the same.

[@Batmans_Pet_Goldfish]

Not to mention the pain caused to both parties' extended families when they inevitably find out.

[@deniseganey6890]

Why settle For Another Woman's dysfunctional Husband .

[@mck2021]

100%, I'm with you. She's awful. He's awful. The poor children.

[@BonnieHill-ks8rz]

Agree. Why are women so mean to other women. Why do they hit on, flirt with and sleep with another women's husband. We need to be better to each other.

[@sheilalopez7498]

Totally agree! 😢

[@Galworld761]

How do people find the time for an affair. One mid week dinner out and my weekly schedule is shot!!!

[@hilaryjoseph9706]

Ikr😂

[@cfp11]

Amen!😂😂

[@JB-kx9bx]

It blows me away how some women can have such low self esteem yet think the guy that’s having an affair wouldn’t cheat on them.

[@Imrightyourewrong111]

The marriage wasn’t already over if he’s still with his wife 6 years later.

[@EadsB7002]

it might be on some level in his "warped mind" if you will..which is why he justifies the affair....as i'm sure he has told the mistress lots of excuses as to why he hasn't left...

[@diane4488]

Very good point! 👍🏻

[@breezeh1127]

She was just spiting all that out there trying to make herself feel like less of a homewrecker. Crazy how she was blaming them both for her bad choices.

[@Lotus1111]

Exactly😒

[@MicahMadru]

This woman is JUST as bad as the cheating husband. No accountability. No empathy for the absolute damage she particupated in. Shes not a good person. Relationships that start as infidelity have a 98% failiure rate for a reason. Two very broken people not willing to change dont make good longnterm partners.

[@DannyD-lr5yg]

The person who breaks a contract/commitment/agreement that they made is always the worst one in any situation, and any other conclusion is silly imo.

[@romancewriter6296]

Reminds me of my sister in law. She's been having an affair with a married man for the past 3 years. She even had a baby with him, which he didn't want but she still kept the baby. That beautiful boy is the only good thing that came out of this sordid mess. She calls him her "boyfriend" and I just can't stand it. He does not love her, and she's delusional that he does. I walk out of the room whenever she talks about him, or the "horrible" wife he has.

[@mimimonster]

But he was already “unhappy” and his marriage was “already over.”

[@KamieB-vc2ko]

@@romancewriter6296 my sister is the other woman too with a child. He’s “leaving” his wife and is trying to be a family with her now but who actually knows. I had the same thought, “you don’t know this guy.”

[@romancewriter6296]

@@mimimonster Yep. He needs "support", his wife doesn't "understand". She can't help that she's in love. Stuff like that. The worst is that her own mother suffered for all her marriage from a cheating husband, which she never left. I can't even look at her now. I know it's a tad petty, but it's the whole dishonesty of it that I can't stand. She's deliberately hurting this other woman who did nothing to her.

[@elizabethsmith4580]

Isn’t it strange how it’s never a man calling to say he has been having an affair with a married woman?

[@Lotus1111]

Great point

[@mrsh2167]

it must go on a lot but you don't hear of it

[@omoleyeesan-ojuri8807]

It does happen. I have had married men asked me out (I am married), meaning that it happens, but I don't know why men don't report themselves here or anywhere!

[@heyhey11793]

@@omoleyeesan-ojuri8807they don’t catch the feelings that the women side pieces do. The men are content with the current setup because it requires low commitment & just fun & games and they don’t feel the remorse until something terrible happens.

[@jasminegoodyear9296]

It’s sad a lot of mistresses don’t understand the man has no interest in leaving his wife. Love is the wrong word but the wife is the one he “loves”. The mistress is just his escapism from the pressures of his normal life. He doesn’t care about what’s best for her (or his wife really) but just how these women can serve him.

[@samiraschadt8480]

Dude, this chick is ridiculous. I will always remember my old coworker. Dated a married men for 15 years. He never left the family, she never got the kids she wanted and then she died alone of cancer. Girl run and clean up yourself and the mess you are creating, or karma will strike hard and bad!!

[@Renrens-LionessofJudah]

Ouch

[@ts8024]

Now that was just foolish on her part. I don't understand why any single person would waste their years dating someone who is married.

[@bethmiller7544]

Karma will be swift and strong when it hits. Karma never forgets and can't be outrun.

[@AK80855]

Same, old coworker were messing around with this married man for 12 years. When he finally left his wife, they moved in together. He ended up going back to his family and she ended up moving in with her sister. Such a mess.

[@adasanchez5042]

😮😮😮

[@katiez688]

Even if I had a crush on a married man, I would lose all attraction to him once it became apparent he was willing to cheat on and lie to his wife. Knowing a man is a scumbag like that would destroy my attraction to him.

[@CrystalM1917]

That's because you have a functioning moral compass and a healthy amount of self esteem.

[@janeddooee]

You’re so right, I’ve seen examples of this very thing in real life

[@shelostit8008]

I second this comment. The attraction disappears as soon as they break moral grounds. Yuck

[@brightpage1020]

In college there was a married man took me out. I didn’t know he was married at first. He didn’t act married - AT ALL! But on our date he forgot to remove his ring (that he wasn’t wearing when we met). I asked about it wondering if he was a widower or something. Nope. He was married. Ew!!! Gross!!!! 🤮 🤢 As an early grown up, I had my 1st high stakes job. Executive level… there was a guy from a company we partnered with I had to learn from and work closely with on our biggest project yet. After the 1st time we met for a long strategy meeting with the coordinator I asked a mutual friend if that guy had a single brother or anything. I mean this man could… wear a wool sweater like it was pashmina or chenille, ok? Warmest brown eyes I’d ever seen. Compassionate, caring, helpful, extremely generous - and not for me just for the people the project was helping. I mean. Dude was a big time international lawyer. Often met presidents - of countries. Coulda been arrogant, snobbish, or patronizing. Nope. Most humble person in any room. Quiet humor. Oh my gahwd did I fall hard. Never told him though. On the project implementation week, after some significant challenges to its production, he… didn’t have to admit his feelings for me. But he did. He told me he loved me. But I already knew. He could tell I was struggling. The first thought in my mind was “You tell her that too? What could that mean to you?” I wanted to slap him. But if I touched him, we’d be “off to the races” as Deloney says. He didn’t cheat. The temptation was so heavy. It hurt. It hurt not to embrace him. He felt it. That’s why he loved me. So, I said, “We can’t do this. This is against God”, even though I was staunchly Agnostic. It just came out like that: “This is against God” is all I could say, and I left the room and called one of my best friend’s and cried, wishing someone like that could be mine. And he was right there alone in his hotel room not 3 doors down and across the hall from mine. Few weeks later, was back in my country. We didn’t cheat on his wife or family. We’d kept respectful professional distance. Whooo boy was that nerve wracking… He called once to tell me he loved me again. I said, “I know.” If I had voiced the truth that the feelings were mutual, our futures would have changed. I couldn’t handle that right then. I was vulnerable enough as it was. Couple years later I met my now husband and started a family. Karma got me for even toying with those ideas back then when my hubby showed a special likeness for young, single, childless coworkers. And one of them was sending pics of her cleavage and navel to his phone, at least. Serves me right.

[@BeUr_Best]

I agree and I think it’s because you most likely have values, morals, and standards. However, she has been with him for 6 years and started her conversation out with “unfortunately”! She knows it’s not right and she chose to continue with it despite knowing she was engaging with a man that’s causing damage to the wife.

[@NaeK188]

The second situation hit hard as I saw myself in Madison if I didn’t leave a 18 month relationship. He was avoidant, but that’s not the issue! The issue was he didn’t want to grow or do anything or meet any needs etc… it destroyed me and I’m still recovering… thank God I didn’t get married to him. God truly protected me with that!

[@millmill67]

The second caller sounds so pure. I just want to hug her.

[@romystumpy1197]

😂😂😂

[@Haleh1]

I used to date a married man. As soon as he got his divorce he started to question his sexuality and have sex with just about any person he could. I thought when he got divorced we would be together. It was a huge wake up call. I had constructed an image of who I wanted him to be in my mind, but I wasn't paying attention to who was standing right in front of me.

[@EadsB7002]

similar situation i've experienced too...married men, newly divorced men..both a waste of your time!

[@MsLivinghealthy]

Respect yourself! Rediculous! Your so much better. You are enough! Walk away and never look back. Your being used. Walk away! End it! Your so much better. Never look back. Life is too short! Live your best life! Embrace being on your own! Respect yourself!

[@EadsB7002]

@@MsLivinghealthy agree. Waste of your valuable time. They just want to have their cake and eat it too anyways. Aka take advantage of any willing party. It’s a sad existence & you just have to leave people like that where they are at!

[@MinkesMom]

No one can replace the Lost Years, Lost Possibilities in this woman's life., stllen by this lying Rat B@$tard.

[@breezeh1127]

Thank you for the honesty

[@blantz14]

My ex married his mistress after I kicked him out for the last time. I KNOW he is still cheating but now on her. And I laugh thinking about it. She deserves him.

[@K_M.G]

🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣

[@JudyHart1]

It’s hard not to laugh at that situation.

[@user-yd6th5ch5k]

My late father married his mistress, after we kids demanded that our mom divorce him. My father did cheat on mistress/wife #2, with men! Gay accounts and everything. 😂

[@mackenziekita9920]

💯

[@victoriousjoy9338]

​@@user-yd6th5ch5kSo so creepy!!

[@dq6169]

The only thing worse than a cheating husband is the woman who knowingly participates in the betrayal. Do you ever think of his wife and family?

[@Alex-Mex]

When are women going to understand that when you start a relationship as the other woman, you’ll ALWAYS be the other woman. Even if he does leave his wife for you, sooner or later he will do the same to you. Like this is common sense. Smh

[@JoeySmith101]

“Unfortunately involved in an affair for 6 years” like it was an accident. Bad person.

[@MisterNightfish]

People who narrate their lives as if they had no active role in it are the worst. Zero accountability. Zero hope for improvement.

[@lilithowl]

Very childish assessment

[@BeUr_Best]

“Unfortunately” she knows it’s wrong and has engaged in it for 6 years. She’s going to get her karma and it’s going to eat her alive!!

[@tiawarren5403]

Yep

[@nytashaandersen]

My ex cheated on my with my best friend after three and a half years, while I was pregnant with his son. Then less than a year in she cheated with her ex, three years in she cheated on him with his best friend. Karma comes back swinging.

[@marjolainejane1506]

Since I have been “that wife” here are my thoughts. How is it that women do this to other women & their children? Selfish, no integrity! Married 25 years I thought he was having a breakdown, or depressed, abusing alcohol, I was putting up with constant criticism. At year 30 I discovered it was oldest thing in the book with a married coworker for over 5 years. Despite his denial I sued for divorce on grounds of adultery naming her so he had no choice. Somehow I found that courage at 50 after I saw how that was affecting my daughters. Long story short they ended up together he then died leaving everything to her, she remarried within the year! I am now 75, happily single & waking up every morning feeling 19.

[@moirabaker458]

I was 38 years in when my husband took a brainstorm and thought he was madly in love with a woman who looked at him when we were on holiday and we were only in her company for 3 hours in the whole fortnight. Our marriage was over at that point. There was no physical contact between them but he felt sure she felt the same.... she didn't. I think it was a mid life crisis. The most strange experience ever as he became someone I didn't even recognise.

[@Jkaye13]

That's a beautiful story of getting rid of the 'garbage' in your life.. and moving on! Sadly, my sister has been in this relationship with a drinking, verbally, mentally and psychologically abusive husband (constant criticism and repeated affairs) for 22+ years.. and stays! 😓 ..and you are right! The toll it has taken on her daughters.. neither are married, and l know for sure one is single by choice and never planning to marry because of her father..

[@PaperParade]

Sounds like she had somebody on the side, too. Guess they deserved each other. Glad you got out!

[@Galworld761]

SHE has no commitment to you. What she did is wrong. Your assessment of her is correct. However, SHE owed you nothing. He took an oath before god, government and friends to love you. She made you no promises. She may not have been the only one. Moral of my tirade? Set high standards when picking a partner. Be vigilante for red flags. Pay attention to little white lies. This goes for the men too! They get cheated on also.

[@TandC9876]

How gross. Leaving everything to her rather than his daughters.

[@indigo500robber]

Wives should be able to sue and press charges against these hose. Just nasty & trifling. Bring back shame to our society

[@nunyabiznes3901]

They can in some states. I believe North Carolina is one. I think legally it’s called “alienation of affection.”

[@heathermarie4092]

🎉❤

[@aldumas1058]

Damn 6 years is a long time to live a second life

[@rn2787]

Never, ever believe anything a married man says to you about his wife to sleep with you. You have no clue how low a cheater will go. The limbo bar is literally in hell when it comes to cheaters. He is never leaving. He doesn't care about his marriage, any marriage, or anything to do with marriage. He doesn't care about his own kids or the woman he has claimed to love. He is lying to you about everything and he knows that he can have whatever he wants from you. Stop accepting scraps. You are worth more than this.

[@fatvegan4621]

Wow so true.

[@mightymouse1005]

His wife gave many years of her life for this loser....

[@Applauseify]

Exactly. He is million miles away from truth and integrity.. and as an adult you are making a choice

[@GameChanger597]

​@@Applauseifyexactly! They also forgot to mention he doesn't care about you either. The person he's cheating with is nothing more than a minor distraction for him.

[@dianaverano7878]

Lying became a lifestyle to that guy. 6 years. So who knows how much lies that guy said. We all knows it became a lifestyle

[@MommasPeachCobbler]

I love, “you’re assuming you’re the only one on the side.”👍 Yet she still deflects responsibility and facts.

[@annstewart8506]

Exactly my thought too.

[@bethmiller7544]

Bingo!

[@GameChanger597]

And yet he claims she's very intelligent without knowing literally anything about her

[@thetruthtrumpsallliesfromt4399]

Only a mistress can think she’s the only one. Why? They’re too dumb to realize there were at least always two or more.

[@MommasPeachCobbler]

@@GameChanger597yes. He’s trying to build her up so she has courage to leave boyfriend.

[@asaantoine9485]

the first woman feels no responsibility for what she's been doing as if she's a victim

[@renraff2569]

What a terrible woman. Just the fact that the first time she “reaches out for help” resolving her decision to cheat for 6 years is in this public format, tells me she’s not going to do anything except what she’s been doing.

[@rockpaperscissors.]

I've never heard anyone say "absolutely" so much and yet have no clue as much as this woman. She seems like she has zero clue or remorse about what she's done.

[@jauntydamemusic]

Absolutely. 😅

[@amarie6223]

Married men always tell the mistress how 'bad" the wife but won't leave!? I think he's just using you as his vocation/fun time.

[@maryanncarine2075]

Sure....it's obviously working for the married couple ,even if the marriage is toxic

[@amarie6223]

@@maryanncarine2075 toxic marriage is another situation. For that case leave if you can.

[@mightymouse1005]

Married men ALWAYS sleep in a separate room and haven't had sex with the wife in years. The wife is always a horrible and toxic person. They have to stay for the children, the wife is mentally unstable and needs him to keep her stable......the list goes on and on

[@dianaverano7878]

They need those lies, to fool the mistress. To make her stay.

[@triciacooper9317]

Yep and they always tell the mistress that he isn’t having sex with his wife.

[@RG-hf4et]

Call #1: Guarantee she doesn't break it off

[@macynguyen8864]

My friend was in the same exact situation.., after 5 or 6 years… she realized he was manipulating her and he won’t divorce his wife… she left. She’s married with 2 kids now and is very happy.

[@user-cy4vw1qj9m]

I wonder how she would feel if another woman had an affair with her husband?

[@MH_Prof]

Amazing how she tried to get JD to give her a pass (“We fall in love with the wrong people all the time, right?”) and he refused. She’s just wrong.

[@JudePi-jx7yo]

You know that how? Human condition is very complicated.

[@CrystalM1917]

Exactly. The right person won't be married to someone else. Ever. For multiple reasons but the main reason is bc ppl that have traits like this (cheaters) don't go away when they get with you. It's a character issue.

[@JudePi-jx7yo]

@@CrystalM1917 IT's certainly a redflag but most people are with someone who has some kind of serious flaw. 6 years is way too long agreed.

[@CrystalM1917]

@@JudePi-jx7yo cheating is not a flaw. It is an active choice that destroys the whole foundation of a relationship and defeats the purpose of entering into one.

[@Jkaye13]

Nailed it! 👍🏻🎯🎯 She clearly wanted him to give her a pass in her delusion! The hoops she is jumping to make herself feel that this relationship is ok shows how desperate she is to 'justify' what she's doing.. she KNOWS it's wrong deep down, but she don't want to let go, and most likely won't end it..

[@faraha2826]

I’ve know women like the first caller. She feels she has high value because the man is ready to risk it all to see her, when the reality is the man values her so little that he won’t risk changing his life to be with her. It’s crazy how a desperate, low self-esteem woman can be easily tricked.

[@mightymouse1005]

Cheaters don't pick you because you're valuable and superior. They pick you because your easy and don't value yourself

[@tiawarren5403]

Yep

[@Jkaye13]

Nailed it! 👍🏻🎯🎯

[@SippenSomeTea]

Well said

[@dr.jenniferma3914]

He will go back and forth in his mind about her for years. Periods of limerence and then periods of disgust. I've had clients do this with mistresses.

[@jennc.9099]

She feels she's letting him down when he's been letting her down for the past 6 years, AND he's letting his wife down too. AND he clearly isn't bothered by it because he's trailing them along, tailored for a perfect life: *2 different kinds of lovers *2 different kinds of homes *2 different supporters. He's doubled up on everything, and he's content, even though he knows his 2 partners are not, and are suffering lies of I will leave her. (i.e., will leave my wife, and I will leave my girlfriend. ) So, in short: why should you care about his emotions when he clearly doesn't care about yours or his wife's.

[@Aright231]

Well I don’t think he’s content unless his soul is compromised in some way. Living a double life is highly stressful, once you’re aware of it. The guy is probably compromised, either by drugs or some mental illness. There’s some rush keeping the ruse moving.

[@Forgetyouuuuu]

“According to WebMD, 5-7% of affairs lead to marriage, and 75% of those marriages end in divorce, resulting in 1-2% of affairs ending in a successful marriage. This means that less than 2% of affairs lead to long-lasting marriages.” 😳😳😳😳

[@NGC_290]

And actually it would be lower! Of those 1-2%, what percentage of those are actually happy and trusting?

[@rebeccaofpollywogflatts8976]

If he cheats with you he will cheat on you.

[@tamra9867]

God will never send you someone else’s husband to you for you to love.

[@NineNineOne]

Hahahahahahaha coming across stupid right now

[@SippenSomeTea]

Amen

[@rayashleigh494]

Amen.

[@lisagilbert8497]

Actually to my ex husbands now ex wife I think that he did and I’m grateful

[@Keeks492]

BINGO!!!

[@maciw456]

This woman knows everything “yep, absolutely” to everything. Why call if you know everything?

[@francineb7340]

How to get out of a relationship, especially with someone already in one: Say goodbye, close the door, block the number, stay busy, connect with old friends, start a hobby. Move on. Let them go

[@mightymouse1005]

No man is getting 6 years of MY life without a wedding ring and full commitment

[@cathy3546]

You're a good woman!

[@shirleyscott8879]

I don’t understand how an older woman could get herself in such a situation. It’s not like she’s a young naive girl. And then to carry it on for years.

[@ellegates]

I feel like she does it to feel like his hero...she believes the lies about his marriage...it serves her ego I'd say.

[@mskimy1125]

It's precisely because she is older that she is doing this. She admits it herself when she says "im not young...dating is awful". She feels this is her only shot at love.

[@brettneygibbs9047]

Delusion comes in all ages.

[@broforcefreedom4936]

An older person is the same as a young person if they didn’t heal even if they know better

[@NunyaBitness-xq9ed]

Women of all ages are exactly the same.

[@camillethompson6686]

I love the idea that people call in and know that Dr. John will not mix words!! I so respect you Dr. John!!!!!

[@glynis1007]

I have limited sympathy for the non-married cheating partner. A coworker of mine started an affair with my husband (23 years of marriage). She knows me, clearly knows we’re married, that he has a home and a family and 2 dogs and a complete life with me within a marriage. She obviously did not care, not one iota of what she was complicit in. The financial, emotional destruction, the personal trauma the family betrayal- it sends out so many ripple effects that negatively impacts a whole bunch of innocent people, like the children too. How evil can you get? The cheaters little sex afternoons often result in real life & death situations and certainly always a path of total destruction. Of course my husband is horrifically responsible too. But something about breaking that girl code is so top level evil to me. Why would a woman do this to another woman? I’m not talking about the poor girl who has no idea her guy is married, and that happens a lot. I’m talking about this woman on the call. She knows there’s a third person involved and just goes ahead with it anyway. And she believes this guy that oh, my wife’s cheating too. BALONY! She has no clue what the situation is and John is right, she doesn’t even know if she is the only mistress! Jesus, there are just evil people out there.

[@rose4490]

You're a nicer person than me, because I have zero sympathy for homewreckers! If I saw the woman my ex cheated on me with in any number of life-threatening situations I wouldn't lift a finger to help her. She's less than insect to me. God bless you, and I wish you all the best!

[@nicoledejonge2808]

She never made you any promises. But your husband did.

[@StephanieBartley-MacDona-bw1go]

@@nicoledejonge2808I’m so tired of hearing this. I didn’t promise not to kill my neighbor either, but if I do it , it’s still wrong. Some things are just wrong

[@nicoledejonge2808]

@@StephanieBartley-MacDona-bw1go For me it's not about who is wrong, but who is accountable. To me that would be my husband.

[@UsandEveryoneWeKnow]

​@@nicoledejonge2808people are accountable for their actions. All people.

[@LLynneM]

*Question for A Side Piece.* If a married man left his wife to marry u, would u feel safe + secure… now that _you’re_ *The Wife?* For me, *_You lose ‘em like you got ‘em._* would haunt.

[@kayabe856]

She may not want to be married. All side chicks aren’t looking to replace the wife.

[@elizabethramos1325]

My EX Husband had an affair and his lover had all the same excuses this woman has and it makes me so mad that she thinks this is somehow his wife's fault! like really?? He told her that our relationship was over also and I had no clue that it was over? Until I found out about the affair then it was over! It was such a hurtful, painful and traumatic experience for my children and I. To all those who think like this woman YOU are WRONG! Affairs have a splatter affect it affects not only the people involved but also the children & the rest of the family. Anybody who decides to have an affair are very selfish people there no excuses for this type of behavior. my children and I are still healing from this.

[@tiawarren5403]

Agreed

[@shadiafadulzarur3931]

I’m sorry that happened to you

[@glynis1007]

I’m so sorry Elizabeth, you went through hell and didn’t deserve it. I’m going through it now and it’s unbearablely painful and yes affects SO MANY PEOPLE!! My god adultery should go back to being illegal. It’s so destructive and damaging and very very often results in very bad outcomes-even death. What an incredibly crushing price to pay for two losers getting their disgusting rocks off for a few afternoons a week.

[@Trish-lamour]

They fool themselves believing all the crap the husbands tells them. Men are full of crap.

[@user-js9yb6fv3d]

I’m sorry this happened to you. The cheating partner is 100% at fault. He is the person who made the commitment and no one can “make” him cheat but himself.

[@jtixtlan]

Her daughter will figure this out. She will be damaged by this. Every moment she has spent with this man is time she has knowingly stolen from his children. She is a disgrace to women. He is a disgrace.

[@theshellest]

Sounds like some strong denial.

[@larissaalcorn3406]

She's not going to leave. She was hoping she'd be the exception to all the other calls about infidelity. He shot that down and she just told him what he wanted hear to get done with the call.

[@agentfyre]

That's the feeling I got too. Once she realized her rationalizations would just get called out, she stopped voicing him and acted like she's going along with what John is saying, but none of it felt genuine to me. More likely, as soon as she got off the phone, she was probably calling the married dude to tell him how crazy this internet guy was and to make imaginary plans of how they can "salvage" their relationship together.

[@hotrodrounsavill3515]

You’re absolutely correct!

[@Jkaye13]

Yep! Exactly! So many people sensing that this lady is only lying to herself and will be running right back to her lover..

[@dianaverano7878]

Clearly she doesnt know establishing boundaries. And not yet emotionally ready to leave.

[@ItsY2Kitty]

Seems like she hopes to be the exception in all situations even this cheating one. She’s looking for a savior. Maybe look into a higher power then? Us humans can’t do shii 😂

[@brettneygibbs9047]

"I didnt break up their marriage." Um how do you know that?? You sure af didnt help it either. Shameful.

[@JonathanTodd-og7dd]

She wants to that's for sure.

[@lorrainem8234]

💯

[@chrissemenko628]

The universe was watching. And it's strict! She'd better watch her karmic a** now

[@nickmaniatis9626]

He said she’s cheated too and he’s a liar u can’t trust that

[@jessicatalbert6646]

I mean she's not wrong, because hes still married. She means no more to him than easy sex

[@rifasheriffdeen9513]

I was on the other side. Everything he told all his mistresses about me was a lie. They knew he was a father & a grandfather still they benefited financially so non of them cared about us. I have left, the children are betrayed as well. How can people do this to another person who they know nothing about.

[@dominiquegrenier1661]

She is not ending that relationship.

[@melinathornton]

She keeps saying she's knows. She does not in fact know.

[@sabrinaliu66]

she sold her self cheap.

[@javidallas4113]

So true !!! And let’s keep it 💯 she ain’t going to leave him cuz she really thinks she’s special 🤦🏽‍♂️

[@BlackStump172]

@@javidallas4113Her tone of disparagement to the wife was off . I don’t believe that she cares about the wife or the kids .

[@mightymouse1005]

​@@sabrinaliu66bargain bin GF

[@user-yy9mt6kl3h]

A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient..

[@oglaskubuot]

is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

[@user-yy9mt6kl3h]

Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is Suzanne Ann Walters..

[@oglaskubuot]

This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.

[@user-yy9mt6kl3h]

You definitely should. You wont regret it

[@KS-un3pi]

Your words of wisdom are very true. My husband and I went through terrible trials years 3 and 4. I am so thankful we are on this side of it. We have learned so much. We learned humility, looked harder at ourselves and learned to communicate much better. Through a move (after the trial) and eventually a job change (years after trial), we are doing well. It wasn't easy and we both hurt each other in our own ways. It has been very much worth the hard work with us in our 13 years of marriage.

[@MixhelBooberry]

Dear Lady: my mother waited 36 years for her boyfriend to leave his wife. He never did. The wife passed away. And then my mother moved in and passed away 2 years later. She wasted her life. She gave up her marriage her children her finances. And all she got was to be the official women for 2 years. That is the future u are facing. Enjoy.

[@Naejakire3]

Omg and she introduced him to HER CHILD?!

[@thesuncomes1292]

Unfortunatey, it´s a way to pretend that things are "progressing" between them (when actually they don´t). She failed in that trap, but honestly, the "smartest" here is the man. Let´s recall he´s having everything he wants at everyone´s expense (wife, lover and child).

[@soul1380]

Cheating is evil, period.

[@rose4490]

*Amen!* 😇

[@deamon506]

First woman is insufferable and sounds like she has zero remorse

[@margaritacordova7893]

It sounded like she thinks she's the victim

[@brightpage1020]

Absolutely in denial of the gravity of this situation.

[@PoetiqueMs]

It's disgusting. Terrible person.

[@camellia8625]

@@margaritacordova7893 she is being messed around by the man she loves. The married man is playing both women. It never ceases to amaze me how the OW is always vilified when it is the philandering MM who is the one who is most to blame.

[@BrattyTude]

Someone else’s husband is not your soulmate

[@kianabutler1591]

Him laughing is sending me 😂

[@HannahChappell-ej1ng]

That first caller has 0 respect for the sanctity of marriage.

[@annstewart8506]

Neither respect for herself!

[@Caseinpoint-f8z]

Yes so it’s a good thing she isn’t married. It’s very sad that this husband has 0 respect for the sanctity of marriage. He shouldn’t have gotten married either.

[@HannahChappell-ej1ng]

@@Caseinpoint-f8z very true!

[@EadsB7002]

the married guy doesn't either...they are both to blame.

[@user-js9yb6fv3d]

Respect for the sanctity of marriage should be left to those who are married.

[@threepeasoup8733]

If Michelle's married boyfriend leaves his wife, his dating opportunities expand. Right now, he's limited to women who are okay with being the "other woman" and casual hookups with strangers who don't know or care about his real life. He would never give up the possibilities of who else might be out there to commit to Michelle. He's been getting what he wants from Michelle for years without a commitment.

[@robertandkristinhall5006]

Yup! He wants to have his cake and eat it too. Why would he change his life back to one woman when he can have everything he wants. This lady is blind.

[@camellia8625]

Sadly very true

[@queenprotea1]

She won't leave him...and he won't get a divorce...why would he ever be loyal to his side piece when he failed to be that for his wife?

[@AbidingHopeMentalHealthCoach]

“Gross on a stick with a pony and a box of farts.” I can’t even!

[@nataleedenlinger635]

She is literally trying any possible way to play victim. This is insane

[@tiawarren5403]

Agreed

[@yessy1640]

I think she is a victim and she has been gaslighted for the past few years and it is sad to see how so many people just comment because they have not been it that kind of situation but they can find themselves in it eventually and not know it until it is too late… it is so easy to judge

[@santafilipina9020]

Friends, this is what mental gymnastics look like.

[@jasmynmadison5984]

Olympic level at that. It’s mind blowing 😵‍💫.

[@kathedeangelis1295]

I was in a situation where neither one of us was married, but I was truly in love with the guy and he still hadn’t gotten over his ex-girlfriend. As time went on, it was obvious he still cared about her very much and I wasn’t going to be playing second fiddle to anybody. The fact that I truly loved him, made it very easy for me to let him go and let him be with her and I was able to go on and never looked back. So they’re are women out there once they come to terms that it’s over, it’s not as difficult as you think it would be especially on her part if there’s no husband or children that she’s responsible for. I love your show, but everybody’s an individual and not everybody has a hard time when they have to leave somebody. Blessings to you and all your followers

[@rose4490]

You sound like you really have your act together! 😊

[@smithmusicstudies]

"He's never going to leave her." "You're right. You're right. I know you're right." Meg Ryan and Carrie Fischer from When Harry Met Sally

[@jauntydamemusic]

I kept remembering those lines, too!

[@victoriaquetel2822]

This poor woman. She’s lying to herself left and right.

[@Iris-zq5mq]

He’s a chameleon and unfortunately she doesn’t see it. Of course she feels like he’s her best friend. He’s created this romantic movie world before her eyes with just her and him in it. He basically groomed her. He knows what to say to her and he learned her insecurities. This guy will never leave his wife for her. I bet if she stopped giving him sex, he’d eventually disappear on his own. Probably start a fight to make it look like it was her fault. If she keeps this up, she will be left alone and old with nothing to show for.

[@chanell5457]

She's in laa laa land

[@jeanedarc]

She says she wants to save their friendship, what kind of friends put someone in a position like that.

[@Trysaratop]

Poor woman? She knows what she got herself into. Don’t feel sorry for her.

[@dianaverano7878]

She doesnt know how to establish boundaries and look at her own self worth.

[@eileenfuentes6975]

Cognitive dissonance is what I'm seeing.

[@KamieB-vc2ko]

It’s definitely giving cognitive dissonance 🧐

[@labreeskarogers1102]

If THEY ARE MARRIED LEAVE THEM ALONE!

[@gypsybelle7376]

And separated is still married. Leave them alone!

[@texuztweety]

Brave Caller! God Bless You. End it today, get therapy, join a Grief Group. You need to grieve the death of a relationship. Join a women's activity group, volunteer, get to church. Rebuild! You can do it❤❤❤❤

[@heatherheaney4060]

she isnt going to go anywhere. You can hear it in her voice.

[@stephanie3087]

It is infuriating that a woman would knowingly do this to another woman.

[@CrystalM1917]

I can unfortunately.

[@stephanie3087]

She’s only upset because he won’t divorce his wife. SICK

[@brightpage1020]

All. The. Time. Every. Day. It’s a power trip. “Wow! He digs me enough to risk his family and financial future over? I must really be something! [a piece of something is right] I must be so much better for him than clueless Wifey over there…” It becomes a competition. For a booby prize. No pun intended.

[@brettneygibbs9047]

This is why women don't trust other women. ESPECIALLY if you're married. Single women LOVE to hunt another woman's husband.

[@brettneygibbs9047]

​@@brightpage1020this. And yet here she is, the side chick 😂

[@toscadonna]

“Call me when you’re single and can show me your divorce decree.” This one sentence has saved me so many times, and I’ve yet to get a call from any of these cheating husbands. They’re not leaving their wives for you. Dream on. And how do you know you’re his only mistress? A friend of mine was seeing a married man who said his wife was “cold,” but he was seeing my friend and another woman who was an older doctor at the same time he was attending couples’ counseling supposedly trying to fix his marriage. You’re not even the only mistress.😂

[@feversandmirrors]

She is not going to end it.

[@Batmans_Pet_Goldfish]

Can we all admit that there's never a reason to cheat? And that looking for loyalty in someone disloyal is inherently stupid. Someone who will cheat or divorce FOR you, will do the same TO you.

[@iamdannisescott]

Amen

[@CrystalM1917]

Say it with me Michelle.....I'm delusional and I like it here....🤯

[@rose4490]

Michelle is not a belle.

[@tani6661]

“You are very smart” “Correct” ……. Girl stop it 😭😭

[@daniellenothmann7534]

The first caller just sickens me. No empathy or remorse for the damage she caused!

[@heatherchandler1184]

He caused. If not her, someone else

[@amyismail8604]

I love that he held this caller accountable for her actions. More of this in the world. It is refreshing to hear.

[@TipTheScales27]

I’m sorry but John’s initial reaction to her was so funny 😂

[@calliecrider2475]

Hey Dr. Delony I just wanted to tell you that my husband and I both have been reading building a non anxious life and it has helped us TREMENDOUSLY my only wish is that you would write a book on marriage as well!!

[@kcourtney6826]

Men are different than women. Most women will stick by a man no matter what, if a married man is absolutely miserable with his wife trust, he will leave at any given time. The fact he won’t leave his wife, says that although he may care about the other woman, she’s not worth him leaving what he has.

[@EadsB7002]

so much of the time these types of men just want to have their cake and eat it too...especially if they believe the spouse nor the mistress will go anywhere..

[@kayabe856]

This isn’t true. Women are usually the ones to leave and file for divorce.

[@Bamifun]

You might be surprised how many men stay.