it's not the *homemaking* that's the problem... it's the *MEN* !! 😒👀

[@maddy-zzz]

It's refreshing to hear a Christian woman discuss this topic. Unfortunately so many have over-corrected in trying to distance themselves from feminism that they aren't willing to discuss concerns like this.

[@Rosegold1793]

I can’t even IMAGINE my husband saying I’m not his type or nagging my appearance. He literally is obsessed with everything I got going on and has since he met me. I love him sm

[@Joyfulminimalist]

I relate. I could be unshowered, postpartum and wearing hand me down clothing and my husband will still find me beautiful. I’d like to eventually get back in shape but in no way has he been critical with what I look like these days. I had his kids! He thinks I’m awesome!

[@vnt1996]

“When someone shows you how they feel about you, believe them.” ABSOLUTE FaCTS!

[@julialee143]

@@vnt1996 100%. It's hard because abusive people will often tell you the sweetest things you wanna hear in words, but you have to look at how they were actually treating you.. it can be very confusing.

[@lillycarter8037]

I know right! AHHHH so good

[@sweethoneyfae]

YES!! Hit the nail right on the head. This really isn’t a battle about career vs stay home, this a a war about the lack of support for women 💯

[@user-zm4fv3de5c]

Yesss agreed!!

[@donaldjohnson-e8f]

Am not sure that was the intended message, but y'all hear what you want to hear.

[@julialee143]

Abusive people WILL abuse. Whatever the country, culture, day of the week..The end. Whether you stay at home or work or work part time they will abuse. I've seen it first hand. Im so glad you are talking about this.

[@zahrahp535]

That's like saying people get cancer whether they smoke or not. People get food poisoning whether they cook their chicken or not. Risk factors matter in every aspect of our lives.

[@carolinpurayidom4570]

True but if you make your own income and don't sacrifice your finicial independence it is much easier to get out. Trust me I have seen what happens when a woman doesn't have that.

[@user-xm6wd9ne5s]

As someone who has started from absolutely nothing, you can start over and make your own money even if you’re not financially independent. Y’all are acting like women who don’t work can’t go out and get a job if they need to after losing a spouse or the spouse leaving. I know so many women who literally just went out and got a job after a divorce and thought it was challenging at first, had no issue getting financially stable. And what if your house burned down and the economy collapsed and you had medical emergencies and lost everything?? You can’t control those things… in fact you can’t control life no matter how much “prepping” or secret stashes of cash you have. Take it from some who has actually experienced real loss and also real gain. YOU CANT CONTROL LIFE. The more you try the more you will fail. Trust is so important in marriage, and if you can’t share money with your husband, then honestly you shouldn’t be sharing your body, kids, and a home with him. It’s better to be single than not completely merged.

[@adenise__122]

my friend if you work you can leave, if you dont you are stuck

[@julialee143]

@@adenise__122 you can make that conclusion but I've seen it in lots of situations. My mom worked for my parents business but did not take a paycheck and my dad was extremely abusive in all areas. When she finally left he used the kids against her and alienated her from us. She left with no money and started from zero and now she is a millionaire. She looked very "modern" from the outside as she was working but she hid a lot of the abuse.. I didn't reconnect back with her for over a decade until I realized the lies he was telling us all. What I'm trying to say is now that I'm out and I've researched his mental illness a ton I've just seen similar characteristics of his abuse across cultures, both genders, and in all different socio economic situations. Almost identical stories and it's about the person within not necessarily the situation. My dad has always been with women who work and has always abused them because he wanted their money 😂 and now I am a stay at home mom with a wonderful, caring, respectful husband who has show me what it is to actually be a man and care for your family. I see your point just sharing my experiences ..

[@paigec5017]

In the best way possible you are giving Elle Woods in this video 😂❤

[@MrsMidwest]

Ahahaha I totally see it. Definitely feel like I could serve lawyer someday 😂😂😂

[@kibbykibby]

Well, she wasn't his type...

[@courtneyrivas527]

There are so many men that make “jokes” about women, that put their partner down as a way of “teasing” or “showing affection”, and that intentionally fail to show up emotionally for their girlfriends/wives etc. but it always gets brushed aside as “that’s just how men are!”…no! That is not how any human being should be towards their partner.

[@LyslScentedLife]

Lol, they do that for thier YT channel. It's literally for entertainment. Duh 😂

[@Miss.Denise94]

I'm 30 and single. It's not what I had planned, but that's is how it went. God's in control.

[@BriL2021]

I got married a month before my 30th birthday and remember the ache to be married. Live life and do things you love while being open to opportunity. Don’t panic-pick a partner just to avoid singleness. God’s timing is perfect - I speak from experience 😊

[@virtuousdesi]

Been there! Trust God's timing AND yourself to pick the right partner. Learn how to date as a christian in the modern world, old fashioned courtship worked for me, I just needed to find the partner who also was aligned with that vision.

[@Miss.Denise94]

@@virtuousdesi thank you, dear

[@Miss.Denise94]

@@BriL2021 thank you, darling

[@MrPeterISABELLA]

So are 60% population

[@rebekahe9692]

Totally agree! If you’re married to a man with a weak or malicious character, you’ll be in trouble whether you work or not. My husband has the strongest character of anyone I’ve ever met - I felt completely safe becoming a homemaker and still do. He has also blossomed in his role as sole provider as I’ve put my full trust in him!

[@LifebyL17]

Speaking from experience since I’m 38…I just stayed single and had fun, travelled, moved across the country, worked at my career and didn’t look for a partner until God led me to someone when I was 35. It might take awhile, but the best advice is just to stay single and don’t rush the process! We make plans for our lives and God laughs. God does not work on our time table!

[@paccawacca4069]

Man women are insufferable. Nobody asked for your experience.

[@desixox]

youre pretty!

[@LifebyL17]

@@desixox awww thanks made my day 🥰

[@CyberSecurityFashionDesigner]

God laughs 😅😅 needed this

[@JennyOSunshine]

Your voice is so important. A voice like yours could have saved me a lot of he!! When I was young. I’m sure many will be helped having this perspective brought up to them.

[@danielleb724]

It’s so refreshing to get this perspective. It’s all so extreme online on both sides. I would consider myself a Christian conservative and I was so sick of seeing how everything is women’s fault for modern day failures. And women emotions are bad. I had to get off a lot of social media because it’s just poison for the mind. I’m focusing on my family and myself now and so grateful for that. This message needs to be screamed from the rooftops.

[@jordanalmond3458]

Happy homemaker here! I’ve been married for 10.5 years (no kids yet, but still praying) When we first got married, we both worked full time, had very little direction, and drifted away from the Lord. It got very dark as we both drank too much and spent more time at work than with each other. We both had a wake up call, got sober, got plugged into the church, and serving our community. It wasn’t until then that I started working less but really thrived at home and a little later, became a full time homemaker. Life didn’t get rosy when I became a homemaker, life became fulfilling when I pursued the Lord. And when my husband started pursing the Lord? It was like everything came into full color. We make way less now but our lives are rich and God has honored us in ways that humble me greatly. To those of you who are married and it seems dark, pursue God, pray for your husband, and He may just turn it all around completely!

[@noela7689]

This is beautiful. Thanks for sharing your story. Love how the Lord is working in you and your husband :)

[@candyluna2929]

The bible line that woke me up from an abusive relationship, bc i thought i was the problem, was the one you mentioned. "Men, love your wives as christ loved the church that he gave his life for her." I need to save this for my girls who are 2 and 3. You worded it perfectly.

[@person-ie1fe]

I am almost 23, male here, have been watching on and off for years. God bless you and keep up the good work.

[@gblikestosew]

FACTS!!!! If a man loves you, if a PERSON loves you, he'll encourage your own personhood, respect you, and love you. And if you want to be a homemaker, he won't take advantage of the vulnerable role that can put a person in. If he DOES take advantage and belittle you down to an object, girl, run.

[@marinamarinamarinaa]

I am floored by you in the best way 🥺 you’re the one of the few who puts things into perspective in this way that honors women so well. This is true feminism and what girls supporting girls looks like.

[@AceOfBased228]

I just turned 37, and am happily engaged! I despaired for a while, believing that I would never have a husband or family but God is good and everything happens on his time, not mine! I am so glad I didn’t settle for the first man who came along as soon as I hit 30. Of course I had to work to support myself, but now I am even more prepared for this next stage of life because I was able to buy a house for my future family to grow into and be debt free aside from my (thankfully small!) mortgage.

[@nicoobrowner]

Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉🎉🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

[@PleasantRevolt]

Congrats that’s wonderful!

[@chrystianaw8256]

Congratulations 🥳

[@nicoobrowner]

Congratulations and well done! Wow, blessings to you and your husband ❤❤❤

[@kirrraaax3]

Career woman speaking up to say I LOVE being here and watching your videos! You have created such a beautiful life for yourself and I can feel the joy that radiates off of you in your vlogs. I have always appreciated how you make it clear that neither lifestyle is superior to the other. We all have different preferences, and we all need to support each other. Thank you for adding a really practical and nuanced voice to help balance out the extremism of the internet!! ❤️

[@nicoobrowner]

Thats why I LOVE Caitlin ❤️ . She is genuine, real and honest. 🫶🏾

[@izzykaii]

20% cancer divorce rate is soo sad !!

[@audball217]

I’m a fellow Michigan/midwest resident and homemaker/mom. Also a long time subscriber but I also I identify as a feminist. Your recent commentary videos have really resonated with me. I’m on year 5 of marriage, and it breaks my heart to be online and see so many videos of men hating women. I remember when I was younger and not dating my now husband, when I would be in company of men that hated me I wanted so bad to gain their love. It was my own insecurity that I had to address. I appreciate your wisdom and I just want to say that these topics are a perfect example of having more in common or agree on things than “society” say we don’t.

[@jb21989]

Democrat lawyer mom over here, and I absolutely love your content. I really respect what you do!

[@emilybright8933]

I’m loving this new advocacy role you’re taking on. I think it’s so important that women understand that my must be valued by their partner. I’m actually a teacher from the uk. I’m 42, volutarily single, financially independent and child free by choice, but I love your content as I approach life in a very similar way to you. I like to think of my self as my own husband providing to make my homemaking time possible. 😂

[@songbird377]

The degrading jokes or shoving the girl and passing it off as goofing around is an often overlooked red flag that absolutely needs to be brought up more. If there's a way that your man is teasing you that has a a mean undertone, listen to your intuition ladies and run! 👏🏼

[@chrystianaw8256]

Fr

[@annamallard2730]

Your analogy about women turning red flags green is spot on! I’ve done this way too many times, out of insecurity and wanting to desire and feel desired. It hasn’t served me in the long term. You are so wise and I will do my best to heed your advice 🤍 I think every young woman should listen to your videos as part of their education!! Sending you lots of love Caitlin 💓🦆

[@bellefaith1627]

Agree with the points!! Thank you for sharing, Caitlyn! What’s worth noting is that a husband‘s character matters… sometimes it’s not necessarily he hates his wife, it could just be he does not have characteristics of a good gentleman in general.

[@sydneyelisabeth9596]

Just started your video but it just reminds me of the talk about SA. In some circles it is always the expectation for the woman to make the adjustment or have to accommodate to avoid bad things from happening to her (I know it’s not that black and white of a discussion but still). And here we are yet again, not becoming a homemaker because you are put at a risk of abuse/etc. WHY do these people not address the real problem in both scenarios, the man?!?! It honestly feels like more victim blaming and not holding the predators accountable. And continuing to make its the woman’s responsibility entirely to avoid this situation just perpetuates the attitude of bad men and that controlling mentality to continue through generations. While being a SAHM or homemaker can make you more vulnerable, it shouldn’t make you have to entirely forego that lifestyle because of abusive men. There are good men out there and they need to be acknowledged and set example for the rest.

[@Xx.bygracethrufaith]

i agree, sooo much of feminism (not all) is putting accountability on the woman (don't be a homemaker! get xx degree!) instead of a bad man (dont manipulate your wife, do provide for her, etc).

[@Joythealchemist]

Yes !

[@nadaartisan8447]

I agree with you, but for the first part about SA, I do think the woman should do all she can to avoid/prevent it. Yes, she is not the issue but when talking about complete strangers, you cannot control or "fix" that, there will always be bad people even if the general public is good (which is unfortunately not the case). For the second part, yes, yes, and yes. Don't even let someone into your life who may be a threat to you when you're vulnerable rather than support and protection from external threats. I strongly disagree with feminism for so many reasons, and you just added another one I had yet to think of. I also previously saw someone talk about how feminism itself makes men superior because it wants women to take the same role as a man rather than be her feminine self, and that is just so real. Women need justice, yes, but we don't need the literal "equality" with men.

[@bleechrcreechrr]

​@nadaartisan8447 I think the person was more talking about the dialogue around SA after it happened. Yes do everything you can to prevent it. But sometimes women do that and it still happens. From the perspective of an athlete, I had to run by myself pretty often to workout. I had a phone with me, never headphones on, stayed aware of my surroundings, and I was ok. But if something would have happened people would have said, well why were you by yourself? What were you wearing? Why were you wearing shorts while running IN THE SUMMER? Etc... that part is not productive or helpful and I would say is victim blaming because they're not reasonable conditions. I've seen it happen to women who were out running and got SA'd or even unalived.

[@sydneyelisabeth9596]

@@bleechrcreechrr that is what I meant, thank you! We should always do our best to protect ourselves but even then, bad men are out there and the circumstances of what could happen should not be at fault of the victim

[@NadiaPink]

I’m loving the chats 😊 I’m Ethiopian. In my culture I was taught to be a homemaker. But we didn’t have words for it.

[@nicoobrowner]

Aftican too. Love watching Caitlins videos. ❤

[@bananapancakes311]

I’m a sahm and homemaker to a toddler and another on the way! My husband is my high school sweetheart❤ we’ve been together for 11 years. Just wanted to share that there are lots of amazing men out there who treat women so well and stand the test of time too. I’m Blessed to not only have an amazing husband, who is supportive and treats me like a queen, but my Dad is an amazing father too who is also supportive and has set a great example of what a good man is. Good men exist!

[@agoodlittlewitch]

I’m so grateful for my husband who supports me being a stay at home mom, and who supports me wanting to have a career one day! There are men out there who will support you no matter what!

[@lynn.s.e]

This is so good. Also, your make up and brows and whole face looks so darn pretty you’re glowing!

[@MrsMidwest]

Thank you!!!!! I’m doing thinner brows. Do you think it suits better? I’m definitely liking it. Also I think the cardio I’ve been doing is helping the beauty routine overall!!

[@eve_63]

I like this brow shape too! Brightens the face ☺️

[@lynn.s.e]

@@MrsMidwest I’ve honestly always loved the look of thin eyebrows. I think they look very vintage and dollish!!

[@Marivi247]

@@MrsMidwestTotally agree your thin eyebrows look glamorous on you! I also recently made mine thinner, as they are quite blonde I feel thin brows look more defined, if you have dark brows they will also look more defined when thick. Also, even though thick brows are trending they don’t suit everyone. It depends in your features, and for you thin brows really make you glow! It’s good to not always follow a trend but do what suits you

[@Perifore]

We should acknowledge the real point. Women sometimes are not born with the discernment to recognize a good man from a bad man, and some men are wolves in sheep's clothing early in relationships. It is true that becoming a homemaker to a deciever is riskier than being an employed wife to a deceptive man. An employed woman has more options to remove herself from a bad situation, but both can suffer unimaginable harm before they escape. Let's create systems that protect all women from abusive relationships, both homemakers and employed wives. ❤

[@DK-eu2op]

@@Perifore so true!!!

[@nicoleroden9647]

I LOVE your energy and passion towards this topic Caitlin!!! I 💯 agree with you!

[@Abby-Brock]

I love your logic!!!!! Date and marry KIND men! Not cocky, douchey men. If more women went for the kind men, more men would be kind 🤗

[@carolinpurayidom4570]

True but always have your financial independence as it makes it much easier to get out if you do in the end of the day you can always guarantee they are the good guy or they are going to stay that way. If you wanna be a homemaker there are option for this like a stay at home job that is part time and flexible. Running your at home small business, writing blog etc....

[@user-zm4fv3de5c]

Wholeheartedly agree.

[@charlottesometimes4]

Thank you for this video. Unfortunately I married the wrong man and was subject to abuse- both mental/psychological and also financial. Sadly my husband always hated me… I just didn’t realize it. The red flags were there at the beginning but I was only 20 when we were married! Keep your wits about you and wait if you need to ladies.

[@JustMeg29]

How did you eventually leave your abusive marriage?? I think my relationship is like this but I don't know if I should leave or stay.

[@valerievillemaire3164]

Your content is so, so uplifting Caitlyn. I wish I was told these things as a teenager! Still ended up with an amazing man who actually loves me though, and trust me ladies, having been in relationships with insecure men before... it's a world of difference, and it's worth saving ourselves for :)

[@alexiscormier7225]

you've done a glow up. let's talk about what you are doing/using to look so fantastic! keep it up girl!!

[@comandlikes]

Honestly you evolved, like I’m so proud of your growth your content gets better and better I’m also a mom and wife and I 100% back up what you said. I always said that my husband being who he is, is the reason I became a mother and a wife because I woudn’t have done it if I wasn’t 100% sure that this man won’t let me down

[@sabrinajames6753]

Thank you mrs midwest for your video . I started watching your videos in summer 2019 when i was in uni. In summer 2020 i lost my father, life forced me to provide for my self, during that season of grief in my life i was very lost and depressed. In 2022 i said no to a mariage proposal to a guy who didn’t support my choice of finishing my studies and having a career. The lord have placed in my heart the desire to created an NGO that fight against child labor i am very proud i did it. it is important to listen to your heart and to the voice of the lord above all, and i am happy i did it. The lord has a destiny and a purpose for all his children for some it is a beautiful mariage and family and for others it might be something else. Thank you for seing the value of women in the home and in different areas of life in society 💕💕💕

[@Abundantonabudget]

There’s so many good points in this video! It makes me SO HAPPY to hear these conversations finally happening and you speak so well.

[@estherhinds6314]

I love how you always bring both nuance and straightforwardness to every conversation, even ones others aren't always willing to have. I always feel inspired to work on myself and level up my life when I watch your videos! I'm 21 and single and I've been watching your videos since I was 18, and you've been helping me navigate these transitional years that are often so uncomfortable, especially for those of us who dream of being homemakers! Thank you, Caitlin!

[@oliviaodens8758]

Been following you for a while, and I think this is one of your best videos. Been following conservative/traditional wife/homemaking creators and have just felt that there was something missing. You summed up the nuances of women’s lives perfectly. Thank you!

[@thefarmgirlfelter489]

So true!!! Especially the part about how it’s the lack of support whether you are a homemaker or a career woman that is the problem. We all need support and to be loved and cherished no matter where we are in life.

[@HeatherLaurenCo]

I am LOVING this grown up WOMAN with sass spitting fire and truth! Watching you, Caitlin, grow up over the years has been a treat! ❤ Also, the more I listen to this, the more thankful I am for my loving husband. And lastly, Thank you for talking about career women. I work and would love to stay at home but that’s not the season I’m in. I struggle with being content where I’m at. Hearing more about the different lifestyle and how valued they are really helps. I feel like my social media has ended up being all about how you should stay home and how important it is and it makes me feel bad for working.

[@zeenkosis]

I’m a woman with a career and it was communicated as not an option. I enjoy your channel a lot. I don’t always agree with everything but I love your voice and you’ve helped my marriage so much. Careers don’t protect you nor do they protect you from choosing a man. However it does make it easier to leave an abusive situation. ❤

[@AudiLuvsMakeup7]

I couldn’t love this video more!! This seriously describes how amazing my husband is too. I’ve never ever had concerns about him being the breadwinner and me staying home.

[@Guruthosa]

Your videos are always so nuanced, I love it. Not a huge career woman, but I would argue that financial freedom is the only freedom. But you can have that as a homemaker if you set it up right.

[@liv2768]

I LOVE that you’re speaking on this! 👏

[@eileen2099]

It's weird when at first he says you're beautiful and his ideal dream girl then later on compares you to your friend and says how beautiful your friend is... I wish I cut it off wayyyy earlier. I'm honestly embarrassed I let it continue for so long. I'm glad it's done now.

[@jennaschool]

Your content has been fire recently! I laughed when you said "opp". Love the message and your perspective is so sharp and fresh. Cheering you on as an atheist, feminist career woman!

[@RiannaNicole]

22:06 this right here. Although I’m not Christian and not married, my partner of 10 years has loved my freckles, red hair, and figure. He supports me when I say I’d like to improve on x y or z, but he doesn’t say I should (like in the same fashion you brought up with past exes). He encourages me on my interests and compliments my homemaking abilities (like appreciating my cooking or little bit of decorating. He loves seeing me when I’m more feminine too)

[@megn5038]

I have been watching you since I was in highschool. I truly feel like the Lord used you to help me develop into the woman I am today. Last week, I moved to Japan to serve as a missionary, and listening to this whilst cleaning my kitchen amidst a crazy week of adjustment was so comforting! Much love

[@TrailsOfAbundance]

Jaw dropped to the FLOOOR with this video!! Get it girl!

[@metanisha441]

This is your best video in my opinion! On point. Totally agree! I hope every girl hears this in time

[@Eviepossible]

Loved how you talked about having a female obgyn! Really puts things in perspective!

[@Campanula.rapunculus]

41:26 " We're united based on our desire to live a lifestyle where we are supported, cherished and blossoming " ✨️ 🌸

[@wolfsmaid6815]

I´ve been open about being a traditional SAHM online a lot and one of the comments I often got from other women was something like "Your man is going to exploit and a*bu*s3 you and then leave you for a younger girl, just you wait." It honestly just shows how little other people vet their spouses if they think that this happens when we choose to become SAHMs or homemakers in general. I can 100% rely on my husband, he is a golden retriever in a human body: fiercely loyal, a great protector and loves to see me happy - and the fact that their husband exploited them and left them seems more like a failure to vet the man thouroughly before getting married in the first place, or a consequence of getting married for the wrong reasons. I know it sounds harsh, but we can´t just get married to the first man who says "I´m traditional" and expect it to go well without any further consideration.

[@kinndah2519]

I'd love to listen to a Mrs. Midwest podcast while doing laundry or cooking. I find it uncommon to locate podcasts that soothe me while are still enriching.

[@hannahmyers7926]

This whole video was a mic drop. You are THRIVING, feminine queen! And teaching us all how to thrive along with you 🤌💅

[@danielleb724]

I had to come back to write another comment today on your video. I just saw a video where a man shoved his brand new wives face in their wedding cake and she looked like she was about to cry, trying to hold it in. It made me so sad. What was even more sad was how many men in the comments were siding with the man saying it was a harmless prank, it’s fun, and woman who would get upset over that is boring and doesn’t deserve being married too. Humiliated in front of all their loved ones holding back tears. I was so sad for her. Ladies, please choose your husbands wisely. Don’t put up with disrespect.

[@spunkycat6144]

This is a whole book. People need this message.❤

[@amberp5207]

Hey Caitlyn, I got married at 19 & I have 5 children, ages 25,23,20,17 & 5. I’m 47 now. I had my first baby at 21 & my 5th at 41. I’ve been a homemaker the majority of my life. I really never had a support system & had to learn everything on my own. I will say that everything u said was spot on. Being a full time wife and mother has always been what I wanted to be. It’s not the popular route, but I’ve tried to always stay true to God’s Word. I’m very proud of you for speaking out & standing up for what you believe is right. Yes, I’ve seen those videos & they’re extremely discouraging. God bless you & your family.

[@chrystianaw8256]

I wish our sensitivity, which is a feminine gift, wasn't so mocked and devalued in this society.

[@veri.contrary]

everything abt this!! take note of all possible 🚩 in the dating phase and do not marry or be in a LTR with a man with whom you can’t have straightforward candid conversations about what your combined future will look like and entail. what are his views on finances? what does cleanliness mean/look like to both of you, and does he see the physical & unpaid financial value in domestic labor? what does having a Wife/Partner actually mean/look like to him, and how does he see his place in that partnership? there’s so much

[@TiaraClarese]

Its funny because my guy giving confidence love and compliments is what makes me want to please him and be even better. The mean stuff from exes only made me shut down mlre into myself and away from them.

[@Genie519]

👏👏👏👏Totally agree! My husband sees so much value in me caring for our home, our kids and myself. He is a humble and loving partner. I saw that when we were dating, even in the small things. If a man takes advantage and belittles you, he is the problem and not worth your love and care. The Lord wants us to find our Beloved❤️. Don’t settle ladies!

[@jilld391]

Thank you for your thoughts. I'm feeling low today and you encouraged me to remember who I am. Be the girl that sometimes I forget is inside. You are lovely.

[@thegirlandpinkukulele]

Watching this as someone who recently got married also working at a corporate job. Really appreciate the way you are uniting us under one roof, feeling like I belong here because of your attitude. Grateful that I chose a husband who is helping me in house chores and always supporting me without him I would be miserable. Thanks for the great advice hope these will be preached out to young ladies out there who are looking for marriage.

[@sun_rose123]

I'm not a religious christian, but I've always shared your view. Thank you for posting this and sharing your perspective 🙏

[@kallie_w]

This is the best video you’ve ever made!! So important to have voices like yours speaking on this topic!

[@Deisye0]

I’m loving your new videos, I can tell you were reborn and it suits you. ❤

[@kirstynalmeida7761]

This needs to go viral

[@0Enidan0]

The arguments don't land because you don't think you've been cheated on. There are a lot of women who gave their entire lives to what they thought were good men. And they dump their wives for younger women...love is a gamble.

[@monicalong1371]

As is everything else in life.

[@sarahpineapple92]

I think it’s really wonderful that you found a man who is willing to provide for you and still care for you even without you having the safety net of your own career but unfortunately I think we are in a time of crisis where we are simply lacking high quality men. I’ve personally seen very few examples of a woman staying home and it going right- not because home making is bad, but there just aren’t any high quality men out there. A lot of us are out here learning the hard way over and over that these men arent up to par and will disappoint you every time if you put your well being in their hands. Thats not to say that’s ok and you can fix it by being a career woman, its just that being a home maker to weak men isn’t an option and for whatever reason, good men are an endangered species. I do appreciate how you explain that you should cut off insecure men as soon as possible. I wish someone had taught me how to look out for the signs of insecure men and to cut them off asap when I was younger.

[@drizzykicks2970]

Some people have a Loosing mentality. They dont want to do something because of fear they will loose and have to find a new person. It's the same as men who don't want to get married.it's a fear mentality. Live is hard. it's like a business. you want a 10m dollar business, the chances of success are low, But if you work hard you might get there, and still theres a chance of loosing. This is Life. Marriage is a risk. Life is a Risk. Not doing things out of fear is weak. I say that to men. if they want to get married, get married. and hope for the best. Same thing with homemaking and relationships. people are afraid of giving their best. in every of life. just take the loose, and have honor in who you are , being the best version of yourself.

[@andrearoballo1254]

You’re soooo smart! Really what a way to put it! I’ve been following you since 2018, I’m a career woman that loves being married and doing feminine and nurturing things (currently enjoying mat leave) it’s incredible that although your point sounds so obvious there’s so much nuance that people don’t see

[@SunFlower-sp1jn]

My God, this was so eye-opening and I'm not even done with the whole video, just had to pause and comment... I absolutely appreciate you pointing this out and it makes me so thankful and appreciative of my marriage! Yes, not everything is always perfect, we're human, but at least, at the end of the day, kindness and love is the key❤

[@oliwiazukowska4220]

You are spitting the truth and I’m absolutely here for it! Finally someone who covers such important, yet overlooked topic. Love to you all! ❤

[@Greenleaves-pf2xn]

God gave you these emotions to signal danger ! ⚠️ you are a pretty and intelligent woman. 🎉

[@AnabelFGA]

Good bless you for sharing your life with us. You’re an inspiration as I’m also a homemaker, mom of a 4y boy, married for 7 years. I have seen your evolution and how your faith maturity is showing in these last videos. Thank you for your honesty, realness and showing what being a true Christian wife/husband means. Lots of love and blessings

[@jamiestanley9234]

Girl this is a fantastic video! I am a stay at home mom and have been home for 12 years. I do have a good husband and I’m so glad I can stay home. I also love that women are following their careers and doing what they love. We all need each other and fighting about what’s the wrong or right way to live gets us nowhere! Loving these types of conversations 🫶🏼

[@spunkycat6144]

Even though I am sorta jealous of your life, you NAIL it on any topic at any time over the years. I love your brain.

[@MaysBeth]

Yes!!! 9 years and 4 children. I can honestly say that I've IDOLIZED my husband and my marriage. I felt obsessed and crazy! I had nothing to do but think about him and how to make him absolutely happy and wondered why I wasn't the center of his life. So, I got out, found other mom friends. Joined a Bible study and focused on getting healthy both mentally physically. I also started to learn how to play the violin as wel as DEEP clean my home.. And you know what? In the best possible way, my husband doesn't care. He's happy, im happy, the children are good, our home is lovely and clean and that's what matters.❤

[@Peaceonearth2024]

You look so beautiful here and sound advice as always!! ❤

[@jessicaturner6014]

Im so here for the sass. It’s earned. I can feel it. ❤

[@ER-ge9hr]

3:35 “What am I saying here, other than ‘wow that’s tragic’?” You’re making great arguments for why women and other vulnerable groups should maintain autonomy, including and especially financial! Thank you, Mrs. Midwest!

[@piao.6979]

Thank you so much for this beautiful video. I really needed to hear especially the last thoughts about focusing on being the best version of ourselves with achievements and hobbies rather than being obsessed with becoming a wife or homemaker one day ♡

[@shea5542]

Your kids are SO CUTE ong. Girl, you have such a beautiful, balanced, nuanced perspective on this and I love it. Thank you for this video! Can you do a video on modest clothing? I like your top and am looking for stylish yet modest clothes

[@brennaghmcarthur2138]

A bit off topic but would you consider doing an updated hair growth/care video?? 🙏🏻🎀👑

[@mimidarkbloomxo]

❤ I have been feeling so low about myself, not even related to relationships. Thank you for reminding me that, as you said, I am “made in the image of God, and there is inherent value there.” ❤

[@ChristianaMaru3]

I love this decentering men from a Christian perspective .

[@cecilyerker]

Center God and everything else falls into place, never worship a man.

[@elizabethandrus3848]

The relationship a man has with his parents and siblings is KEY. A loving family grow up loving men. Look for that.

[@DK-eu2op]

@@elizabethandrus3848 thank you

[@5674Kc]

Caitlin you made me cry with this video. So much sense it hurts. I think this community is beautiful and I have found so much encouragement in it. Yahweh bless you all.

[@allisonrios5913]

Thank you for this! Yes it’s better to be single than to settle for a man who doesn’t love you or love the Lord.

[@michellex3319]

Love to hear you talk about scriptures😊❤️

[@EmilyGS31]

Thank you for this-I wish I was aware of all of this before I got married. Ladies please make sure the man you marry is a genuinely grateful person- also notice his other relationships and take caution if they are all filled with conflict-it will save you a lot of pain to tell yourself you cannot love him into changing! Run when he routinely shows you blatant disrespect and controlling behavior!

[@azerlynno]

I tried to pick a good one but idk how I got so so lucky! Even if you “pick a good one” some men hide who they are until a women is trapped. My husband is so supportive and loving. I’ve been a homemaker and SAHM for 6 months but I think I want to go back to work and he supports me either way!

[@subliminalwitchvids]

I think encouraging women to use their discernment when picking a partner is so vital. I def identify as a feminist but I have ALWAYS wanted to be a homemaker. Maybe it’s because my mom was a girlboss and super career focused. So growing up I always wanted to cultivate home and pour my life into a family. Right now my husband and I have to both work bc cost of living. But he is working two jobs now so that I can be a home maker when we are ready for kids. He knows it’s important to me and even though he didn’t initially understand wanting to stay at home and not being career oriented, he knows its important to me and wants me to be able to live that life. So I guess what I am saying is, pick a partner that LOVES YOU!!!!!

[@nethminiekanayaka3863]

Loved how you articulated everything QUEEN 👸