"It's Not Worth It Anymore..." Women Are Telling Other Ladies Not To have Kids or Get Pregnant

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[@kh9242]

They just want wine glasses and to live their best life

[@justswitched8841]

I have more respect for someone who says they dont want kids vs someone who have them recklessly creating broken homes etc.

[@TianaThompson-c9p]

I agree 👍

[@DJVeeRiche]

Same

[@goddessofpeacelove5341]

💯

[@RIPToriyamaDBZ]

Having kids just to have kids isnt worth it, but starting a family is definitely worth everything!!!

[@usmanvcx]

Tukay was the realest on this topic. Society have a bigger say on how your kids are raised than you no matter how strict or rich you are 💯

[@kingDrAgOnZoRdS]

That only matters for bad/weak parents

[@nenajay3174]

Children are a blessing but not everyone is meant to be a mother or a father. Also, it helps.when you are in a healthy, loving marriage. Mother and father make the ideal situation to bring up children.

[@lisac12]

I have a 28 year old and a 4 year old and I'm now 47 years old. I absolutely I'm enjoying this journey all over again. 1st child was in my 20's and co parenting. The 2nd child was at 44 but in a 15 year marriage. Definitely being married makes a huge difference. We are trying for another. You do sacrifice pieces of yourself for your children that I would gladly do all over again. The greatest gift I can leave in this world are my children.

[@theimportantthingsthatreal9842]

You really are suppose to be married before you have children, not single.

[@keptbygrace6221]

🎯

[@JoeSolo313]

Says who we was having kids before the Bible was written

[@durrelllevy196]

No matter how hard it is as a father being a father is one of the greatest accomplishments of my life I have no regrets in having my baby. So some people just got to speak for themselves blessings to you. Now having a baby by the wrong person can have an extreme and detrimental impact specifically for the child.

[@GentlemensDialogue]

Some people should have kids and some people shouldn't but unfortunately, a lot of people who shouldn't have kids do and vise versa

[@akilahbrooklyn8236]

There is nothing wrong if women opt out of wanting or having children. However, it's TERRIBLY disingenuous to persuade other women to opt out of having children.

[@corneliuselbourne1044]

Exactly

[@Hersheydimples]

No. We're just looking out for our childless friends. I'm married with 1 and its still hard 💯

[@akilahbrooklyn8236]

@@Hersheydimples It shouldn't be if you're in a partnership.

[@jesseephotography6880]

38 no kids hearing this makes me appreciate all that free time and money

[@KyRoTV91]

🎯💯

[@justthinking4421]

If u don't want kids, we don't want u to have em bc u would prob b terrible at it since u didn't wanna do it in the first place.👍🏾 Thank you for ur honesty!!!

[@DancesTonight]

@@justthinking4421nah! Just because someone doesn’t want kids that doesn’t mean that they would be terrible at raising them! Some people don’t want kids and then they have a child and raised to the occasion!

[@DancesTonight]

@@justthinking4421 cause real talk! There are a lot of people who want kids who do not raise them right! Let’s be honest

[@justthinking4421]

@@DancesTonightThere's exceptions to the rule, but a lot of ppl end up resenting them & even blaming them for their life choices. Kids can tell when ur an uninterested parent!🤨 So, do us all a favor & don't have em if u don't want em.

[@GenesisEnforcer-wy1yk]

Some women's burden, is other women's joy. She doesn't speak for all women are feeling about having kids these days.

[@thegraceofalady3629]

I don't think it's about it being a burden I think it's about a whole life being created more often than not without thinking about the consequences for the child. It's different if you've been married for a while or in a relationship and you wait to have kids and the man just switched up on you and dips or you have to leave because he's doing foul shit. Women and men are out here creating lives out of emotions, low self esteem, some man said have My kid then leaves etc. One night stands and so on. The cycle continues. The whole "I didn't know my dad" cuz of the very situation the adults put themselves in. Operating in the flesh. I think it's that more women are being misled by some men only to realize that the man deliberately trapped them and left. It's wrong. Some women believed a lie, ignored red flags, and operated in emotions. I tell women to be careful, some men are good at making you believe a lie to take you off the market and leave you holding the bag. He is out screwing another single mother while you are stuck.

[@fade2black941]

Multiple baby daddies and multiple baby mammas is even more toxic

[@yrrek1983]

21:34 Yet again, Anton is talking to the 99% and using the 1% as an example. Most people don't have "family businesses" or "legacy" they have jobs and bills.

[@bugiereacts]

Tukay is being pragmatic and realistic as a father.. Keri was using feelings!.

[@username97112]

This is like debating what topping you want on your pizza. It’s a personal choice! Do what YOU want.

[@tycager9752]

If kids are not worth it none of you would be here are we seriously

[@cameroonbreezygoat903]

@@AlbertC-u3lAgain would you have been here today if your parents thought the same way?

[@user-cv7no8bj9v]

Things have gotten worse since the 70s and 80s 😂

[@technofilejr3401]

Bingo!

[@ReapZer027]

Kids being born has nothing to do with them being worth it. Im willing to bet more than half the kids born wasn’t even planned.

[@Kingtaron]

Tbh Id rather not be here. Hell on earth and money doesn’t solve problems

[@michiganpyroaddicts4482]

After sharing baby daddies then yall claim yall don’t want kids can’t make this up 😂 you ruined kids lives

[@district120music5]

1:22 idk why people say this about having children as if they wasn’t a child themselves!!!

[@MT75775]

I'm a SAHM to a 2 year old and one on the way. I encourage the right women to have kids, it's a beautiful thing having a family. I couldn't imagine not having my family.

[@befitrain]

God bless you.

[@user-cv7no8bj9v]

Women get section 8 and food stamps. Men get child support payments.

[@Richard-Reloaded]

Thank you for raising productive members of society.

[@befitrain]

@@Richard-Reloaded EXACTLY. It’s sad that we have to thank the females that actually know these morals, but this is where we’re at as a society. God bless us all..

[@bamboosho0t]

God bless you, but I hope your kids will be raised around responsible men (uncles, grandfathers, etc) in their lives. Raising kids, as I'm sure you know (I hope you know), isn't about roof over their head, clothes on their back, and food in their bellies; that's the floor, not the ceiling. Kids need consistent feminine and masculine balance of direction. Especially boys.

[@340KC]

Trying to convince other people not to have kids is nasty work

[@derickansah_]

Facts, this is such a dangerous conversation. Life is about relationships and people. What do we do if we aren’t creating and raising life,

[@The_Washingtons_2022]

Children are worth it. I’m pregnant with my second right now 🤗 my first just turned 1 a couple weeks ago

[@DeionSardines]

You’re only saying that because you’re pregnant. Congrats

[@nikk5002]

@@DeionSardines exactly lol. And the other is only 1. You can’t tell me if it’s worth it yet if you’re at the very beginning of the parenting journey

[@user-cv7no8bj9v]

Women get section 8 and food stamps but a man only gets child support and no custody in divorce.

[@LockBunn]

​@DeionSardines She literally said her "2nd" child.

[@justthinking4421]

🤔Parenting is not for everyone bc it requires SELFLESSNESS!!! Congrats on the little ones & keep going if u can bc it's a true blessing.

[@LearnLifeDummy]

Tukay is 1000% right! 💪🏾 It’s crazy how the truth and addressing reality is “Crazy” nowadays. smh

[@PorterH]

How are some of us as adults talking or commenting on kids when we were kids. Knock it off 🤔

[@stayingdisciplined1456]

I dont want them either. Im cool

[@cwilson3145]

I have 3 kids and I’m a single mother. I am not a fan of this journey, I would prefer and recommend having children with a family. I absolutely would not do this again as far as having kids

[@TheFeds-je8kh]

Being a 304 sucks huh?

[@mohamedabdulle7936]

Why didn't you get married before you have kids?

[@cwilson3145]

@@TheFeds-je8khthat’s a stretch! I was with the father of my kids for 16 years! 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@cwilson3145]

@@mohamedabdulle7936I definitely agree with getting married first would have been more beneficial. How I was with my kids father for 16 years. They are all by the same man. My regret is the order with how things were done.

[@Dipset415]

@@TheFeds-je8khdamn bra😭

[@Can678]

We as a people are living too well! Ask this question to someone that knows how to hunt and kill what they eat. The value of life are beyond different to the point where we have forgotten our purpose here.

[@LastoftheMohicans116]

Having premarital segs and the results ending in having kids isn’t worth it. Creating a career, financial stability and finding that particular person for you is a lot better plan. It also prepares you for the possibility of having kids and the proper infrastructure to raise a family.

[@obtryce7070]

Nothing wrong with not wanting to have kids in today’s society. People thinks kids are not expensive to have.

[@jankam2418]

I am pregnant with number two and I regret not keeping it at one. Have what you can afford or don’t do it at all. We should not shame women to not have kids.

[@Kingtaron]

How did u not learn at 1 smh

[@DecaturDude46]

Imagine if our parents thought we weren't worth it.

[@khayil]

I’d be Ohkay with that! I actually wasn’t raised by my biological parents!

[@JoeSolo313]

While we telling people not to have kids every other ethnicity is have 3 ro 7 kids wtf is wrong with ppl

[@POVAlaska]

Never met a woman who said that. It might not be easy all the time but neither is life. Tf is this nonsense?

[@vashonpowell8627]

Tukay is absolutely correct.

[@DeionSardines]

Just doing the math on how much kids cost is wild. Just the thought of it all. 🤔🤦🏾‍♂️

[@ScientistBaffled]

Stop being broke

[@TheFeds-je8kh]

They aren’t expensive as women make it out to be.

[@steviemak10]

@@ScientistBaffledor better yet, stop advocating generational poverty!

[@RIPToriyamaDBZ]

Poor people having been raising children since time immemorial

[@Ready2rollLlc]

It’s literally not, with Montessori school, quality food(non gmo), sports, grow up investment account, fun it cost 15k/yr minus child tax credits(5k) it’s about $208/wk.

[@derickansah_]

Ain’t no way this where we at, don’t have kids?! What!! When did we become this selfish? Who care what society is like. Society has always been crazy. All of us been through sht yet here we are. lol this is wild

[@kevingeorges1160]

Society is over populated as is and most people are average at best. One can argue that a lot if not most people are not fit to be parents.

[@purearea5142]

I had 5 kids that were with my 1st husband the are all grown and I have 1 child with my now husband. I will absolutely say that having kids is not worth it. Women that are saying it is is because they would feel guilt to say it’s not when they have already birthed a child. You are literally giving up your life for those humans if you are doing it the right way. Additionally I will say when people talk about “love” they say it’s unconditional and amazing. NO- all love is in fact conditional. Including your own child’s-Just name the right price. I would suggest to buy a dog. I have recently bought my 1st one and that is truly unconditional love.

[@MrJebusboi]

Tukay is right in two ways, having a pet is very similar and breeds traits and skills needed for raising children and that you will always raise your children ( more than likely how you were raised) and it will always be behind the curve, cuz you are experiencing the world as an adult at the same time as the child. As a childless man, i can understand that having children is always prepping for something that you can never prepare for , and that is the net negative of children. But you still raising them to the best of your ability and within reason, and you help yourself develop as a person, society as a whole, and lowkey get a second chance at molding a respectable citizen

[@terencew7716]

Ladies be careful who you have kids with and don't have kids if you are not going to guide discipline or nurture these kids!!

[@TheMardantisEffect]

2K is wild!!! "Everybody can't be a nurse. Somebody has to slide down the pole!"😂😂😂

[@dixbowman3452]

I've been saying the same thing as tukay. Kids and pets are the SAME THING. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂.

[@TanayaDavis]

Anton, how can the money matter MORE than the spiritual as a Christian?

[@dewaynenash6133]

Basically you should consider everything involved and total costs before deciding to start family. Most do it the other way and wing it after

[@dewaynenash6133]

A lot of so called Christians don't follow the word aren't teaching they kids the right things and kids are suffering from parents being broke always working and not being able to truly support the children all the way around. Just surviving not thriving

[@meandepiphany]

It's easy to talk down on parenthood when you already have children. One thing that's never satisfied is a barren womb. So, hearing a lot of this is hurtful. That and imagine walking in a room, hearing your parents say you weren't worth it.

[@MWW-p3b]

Life is unpredictable; but it's a cycle just as death is...Not everyone are cut out to have children them, or want them...Everything is invested, just as everything is connected.

[@markkane2979]

Children are good if you plan for it that's why they say plan Parenthood you suppose to plan your pregnancy with a quality provider husband

[@Stevey_Montage_Official]

I Love My Seeds. Wish I Had More Around The Same Age. You Gonna Expect Somebody Else Seed To Takecare Of Ya Old Ash No Matter How Much Money You Have. Why Not It Be Ya Own Seeds. My Grandmother Had 13 Seeds. My Aunts Tookcare Of Her In Her Old Age All The Way Up Until She Died.

[@b00biejingles]

It's only worth it if you and your spouse plan for it. That being said while I only wanted two we ended up havin twin boys about a year after our daughter was born so its just a tad bit more challenging financially but nothin crazy to where its affecting the family. I don't think I would change anything though because I had my fun before and set up a foundation before even considering having kids.

[@Hersheydimples]

That's perfect. A girl and 2 boys ❤❤

[@smithwes2723]

Outliers is an excellent book. For this conversation gotta throw “The Psychology of Money” in there as well. I had my first and only son two years ago. All the late nights of waking up. The 2am feedings. The doctor’s appointments, etc etc. I wouldn’t change a single thing.

[@nikooka2934]

As a teacher, Anton is absolutely right! I can tell literally how much money (regarding afterschool curricular activities, for example) and time parents put into their children once I interact with them on the surface level

[@patterson.sisters]

'** i agree with Barksdale lol ahh ha haa, "Christmas was yesterday and he got nothing"" 🤣 also i agree with Micca!!!

[@Apechop]

Its sad if you plan for children it’s more better than just getting unexpected 😂😂😂😂

[@stayingdisciplined1456]

Planning for children is smart. Yes go ahead and have children when you cant afford them. Good logic

[@theimportantthingsthatreal9842]

You can't get child support with a pit bull.

[@user-cv7no8bj9v]

One day the animal lovers will change that. Ive heard divorced people fret over not having custody of pets.😂

[@BluntC0nversati0n]

😂 I mean he ain't lying

[@theimportantthingsthatreal9842]

The ones who say they don't know if its worth having a child. Will think its worth it in getting a child support check every month for the next 20 years. Especially if the guy has a good job.

[@KIDTOOREAL]

Tukay was preaching

[@KIDTOOREAL]

Objectively speaking

[@Owriada]

16% of Americans were responsible for the birth rate in America in 2024’. Anton you should go look at that most recent study. Immigrants procreated more than us last year here in our country.

[@DeionSardines]

Micca wow I wasn’t expecting that answer. U gain my respect.

[@caycash1986]

I see a lot of single women with no kids struggling and can’t make ends meet. My kids gave me the motivation to get money and calm me down. It’s not easy but I definitely don’t regret having them. I probably wouldn’t be this mature without them.

[@DycheyButlerr]

Where they at? Im omw

[@Ria19907]

So you don't see single moms struggling, just childless ones? 🤔

[@caycash1986]

@ did I say that? 😒 I said I see a lot of single women with no kids struggling and not being able to make ends meet. I’m basically saying, It goes both ways and depends on the hustle and determination of that woman.

[@michiganpyroaddicts4482]

They only want to have kids with pookie that’s have multiple baby mommas I see it all the time 😂

[@AC-lj6ke]

Why Mica look like she’s bothered with something…😔

[@keptbygrace6221]

The parents circumstances make a huge difference. Unplanned kids from one night stands and situationships often experience different things from those who were planned during a marriage- from parents attitudes and attention to financial resources. Context matters.

[@oj_did_it343]

Tukay was cooking the whole panel.

[@MrSmellGoodt]

YES & NO

[@linqupwithme]

Genesis 1:28 King James Version 28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply....

[@TheRedMonarch6540]

Its super simple. If you can not think about or care about anyone other then yourself. If you can't make sacrifices or be ok with not being able to do things do not have kids. The last thing we need is more unloved and abused kids. We got so many ppl who have kids and look at them like a chain or a parasite and they resent or even hate them. Just keep living your life for yourself i ain't mad at it do you not everyone needs a child.

[@terrelvivi1043]

Tukay is spittin!

[@laurentpeterson5276]

Thank you. I don't want children because of the issues they have addressed, and I don't think that I'll have the patience.

[@ScientistBaffled]

Imagine hearing your dad talk about you on the internet like this. Ladarius is going to be alone in that old folks home at the end of his journey

[@Dipset415]

😭naw Tukay funny

[@Talkswithtukay]

Imagine lying to your kids all they life and they expecting greatness when they have theirs and get less than 😂

[@malikhunt9367]

@@Dipset415nah he actually not

[@BigGyp]

Shout out micca n tukay they on point.

[@StevenSipes-y8u]

Children are worth it it's the parents who don't understand when you have a complete family you have to make that time for everyone you can't be selfish minded or lazy and yes kids can get on your nerves but they are worth it.

[@Ready2rollLlc]

My dad said his happiest times was watching my sports and it kept him in shape, he’s black over 70 no health problems.

[@jrc1219]

Children are a gift from GOD; you ever thought that some people shouldn't have children & be parents.... IF raised right; children are our legacy & they are the next Truth/ truth seekers!

[@ALLSUMSZACH]

malcolm gladwell?

[@kujoegoodie]

What's funny is MEN HAVE BEEN SAYING THAT THEIR NOT HAVING CHILDREN....yall ladies are behind 😂😂😂

[@lilmotown8109]

How does this apply to children and not marriage ?? 9:57

[@toryp3378]

Is it worth it...or is it a duty? Cause the convo sounds like its a duty to do it and do it well.

[@kylemack8864]

Motivation goes up when you have kids. Because you need more to do for them and yourself.

[@cjjackson7278]

😂😂😂😂 Keri funny as hell, ( You got that from what Tukay just said) , you didn’t have to blast that man like that 😂😂😂☠️☠️☠️☠️

[@donteanderson7487]

MORE AMERICANS ARE RIGHTLY CONCLUDING THE COSTS OF HAVING KIDS, THESE DAYS, INCREASINGLY OUT WEIGH THE BENEFITS ---

[@greglittles9176]

It’s all about who you have kids with. Are you having them with your life partner or someone that was a passerby

[@user-cv7no8bj9v]

A lot of people thought they were with their life partner but wind up in divorce and the man gets the worst end of it.

[@michiganpyroaddicts4482]

They are having kids with the same dudes that already have kids

[@You_Kno_Brando]

2K be having cryin 😂 😂

[@yrrek1983]

3:04 You're talking to women bro, most can't remove themselves and be objective.

[@auseremakire]

No! They're not worth it unless you're financially successful and emotionally stable.

[@DeionSardines]

Ty Tukay

[@devonkelly7734]

I believe kids should be prepared for certain situations even if they are not supposed to experience it or never experience it. Eventually you have to let you're kids pass or fail but why can't we prepare them for it just in case. The world is definitely not Disneyland.

[@shadeedmuhammad8107]

The people who say not to have children will not understand untill they are old and unuseful. Then they will look at live as a whole in a different light

[@ImaniBelle-tu5nu]

Each woman to her own

[@khayil]

In my opinion it’s a selfless act to have children b/c having children isn’t to the woman’s benefit 💯 I will say if you want to have children just make sure you have a support system 💯

[@Doordashdrivermama]

I love Malcolm Gladwell!

[@DecaturDude46]

I hope his kids dont see this

[@juandelrio3206]

If you are poor don't have kids. Kids are expensive and time consuming. Keep your peace of mind.

[@phillipchapman]

He said a pet pit bull 😂

[@dr_tal]

Kids are worth it regardless of what life you intend to live though not everyone should have kids. Raising kids is hard and can be a challenge but life is made up of challenges to overcome.

[@stepdaddyjohnson6418]

It ain't a show without 2k

[@timothymoore5076]

🗣️ Tukay keeping it real all the time‼️ …. it’s just cringe 😅

[@rruffin983]

I disagree with antwon saying you have to give them everything. The mendez brothers had everything and they murdered their parents. The baby boomers were more blessed in many many ways because of their family and children.

[@therenegade2660]

The woman in the video looks like Tevin Campbell

[@jermaineburgess3767]

This is 🧢 this is why i hate online its fake the total opposite is happening

[@LearnLifeDummy]

What are you saying is fake? The total opposite of what is happening? 🤔

[@alexanderclifton128]

I think is ok to have kids if you do it right. Get with a woman that’s never been married or been in a relationship then marry that woman first then have a child 2 years after you get married. That’s called marry before you carry. If you want to raise your child right. Raise them in on how to have a relationship with God & homeschool them if you don’t want them to be exposed to worldly things.

[@vjm6907]

Kids are your legacy.

[@pontiacGXPfan]

How you live your life is a legacy, not how many kids show up because of you

[@jaiazandapher]

Aton is correct. You don't have to be raised with street sense. You just need common sense, and don't be a sucker.