It's Okay To Be NOT Okay... | Luke Cutforth and Evan Edinger

[@ekeetley123]

I'm that girl you were talking to on Skype. Thank you so much for making this, Luke! I've been looking forward to it for a long time :') massive love and hugs x

[@luke]

EMMA!!! Hello again 😄 thank you so much for saying those lovely things. I hope this was in some way coherent haha

[@ekeetley123]

It was! You and Evan have done a great thing. In 11 mins you've changed people's lives for the better and that is so, so amazing. 💕

[@BreakingScreamz]

Thank you, all 3 of you :)

[@tryingtobeeloquent]

A minute in and Evan's already mentioned dodie lmao

[@tryingtobeeloquent]

Really good video and really good point tho

[@luke]

LOL

[@lfroggyl8936]

ukuleles-eyeliner that's what i thought too ahhaha

[@skytyler6256]

ukuleles-eyeliner ooooo ooooh

[@jadenvasquez-smith1257]

One time I was watching a video of Evan and Dodie and my dad was watching it and went out of no where "I feel bad for that guy. He probably really likes her but he got stuck in the friend zone"

[@leahmaslin277]

My dads a lorry driver and he's only allowed to drive for a certain amount of time before he has to take a break so he doesn't crash. That is like life. You have to take a break sometimes.

[@JSandwich13]

Luke, you have no idea how much I needed to hear this today...thanks so much. I've had a difficult year and I feel like nobody understands but having you say this helps me to feel like I'm not alone and gives me strength to battle through stuff. I too feel like I don't want to say bad stuff all the time. thank you for being so open.

[@katiegoodall5347]

I'm so proud of how far you've come.. ❤️❤️

[@JSandwich13]

Katie Goodall thank you very much ❤❤

[@amybower86]

Calvin McLaughlin congratulations on how far you've come ❤️

[@JSandwich13]

Amy Bower aw thank you very much Amy! I really appreciate it.

[@humcreates]

You being here is more than enough, and here you will never be alone, so proud of you❤

[@pigguswiggus]

WE LOVE YOU EVAN. DONT BE SAD.

[@ronniepews4260]

It IS okay not to be okay. We're all human, we all have emotions and I'm so glad I watched this, it's made my crappy mood feel kind of justified. Thank you

[@katiegoodall5347]

Ronnie Pews ❤️❤️❤️

[@reagan_reads_]

Literally, my Church has tshirts that we wear and they say "it's okay to not be okay... just don't stay that way." Much love. 💕

[@breemckay3255]

Being a single mother with depression is such a hard thing sometimes because I feel that I need to always be perfect all the time and productive

[@mariogilbert6610]

Me: *Sees video title* Me: *Begins signing MCR*

[@SphealTV]

Mr Mario yes

[@yasmeenelgayli2808]

Mr Mario I relate

[@dogaoral3227]

i somehow thought bmth first and i normally make everything into a mcr song

[@skyrim_dragon]

Skyrim NUTT

[@jamiethegaymie]

"Begins signing MCR" YOU KNOW HOW TO SIGN THAT'S SO AWESOME (I'm a sarcastic dick I'm sorry I love MCR lmao)

[@Mrym-q1q]

seriously luke! timing! i am not okay today and thank you for reminding me that thats okay

[@katiegoodall5347]

Maryam Fatima ❤️❤️❤️

[@honorsorrell3292]

YOU TWO ARE LITERALLY SO ADORABLE AND I LOVE YOU AND IM ALSO ALMOST NEVER OKAY SO I APPRECIATE THIS VIDEO A LOT THANK YOU

[@WordsFlowMagnetic]

I think the "turning around an insecurity" thing is really interesting. For example, I used to HATE how emotional I was. But now, I embrace that I feel everything 100 per cent and that I don't half ass my emotions. I still have assholes who make little comments about how I should dial back my emotions or how expressive I am. But they're just assholes

[@vimbaigidi4423]

I'd like to thank you both so much. I really needed this, after all the Chester Bennington stuff I couldn't cope with anything and you've really helped me so thank you!

[@katiegoodall5347]

Winter ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@vimbaigidi4423]

Katie Goodall ❤

[@charlottehardman3669]

Winter ❤️❤️❤️

[@vimbaigidi4423]

Lottie Lollie ❤

[@BlogManiac64]

i love this spike in talk about mental health on youtube recently it's so so good to feel less alone

[@DeyCallMeShan]

My mental health has been really bad over the last few months and I really needed to hear this. Thank u Luke and Evan for making me feel the slightest bit better

[@lukecutforthsmellslikemilk4935]

I really really needed this today. And most days to be honest

[@hannahr6424]

What Evan said was so true, I lied to my closest friend and pretended to be as happy as possible for a year straight because I didnt want to hurt her & then I decided to be honest with her because I couldnt deal with it alone anymore, then she ditched me & claimed I was too negative to be friends with 😞 currently going through a bad patch & feel incredibly alone.. but hoping that things will get better soon because you cant have rainbow without a little rain right?? That quote is so cringe but I've held onto that since my 14 year old self was told it by a counsellor

[@bruisedkneecap]

Hannah R i hope i dont offend when i say that friend wasn't worth it if they can't be there for you after your year of being 'happy' for them. feel better!

[@hannahr6424]

Salinger Weatherfield no you dont offend me in the slightest, im better off without them though its made me feel so rubbish because she was the one person who was there for me through everything & now i feel so alone, like i didnt pretend to be completely happy, just happier than what i actually am but obviously she caught on & when i told her the truth she literally abandoned me one day and claimed that i was too negative to be friends with! life goes on i guess just sucks when you fall out with someone who you thought you could rely on for everything & yet when you tell them the truth they just abandon you completely :(

[@rhi393]

Hannah R I have to agree. It's so important to surround yourself with loving and understanding people. It can definitely make or break you.

[@theytastesogood8299]

Hannah R I had the exact same experience : I opened up to a really good friend and she shut me down saying I had a negative impact on her own mental health and didn't speak to me for 4 months. I kinda got where she was coming from but it hurt me. I somehow found the strenght to build myself back up. And if I'm honest, her behaviour fueled me and motivated me to get better and one day say : "see I didn't need you, I'm better now thanks to ME" So maybe try and use it rather than dwell on it ? Cuz you're living for you and not for what your friend thinks. Hope this helps a bit xx

[@ashleighjayde9579]

Hannah R I know how it feels to just want to put up a happy front and not have to deal with all the negativity. If they ditched you because you're "too negative", they're not worth your time. I know you may give up hope sometimes (believe me I go through it every day) but there's always someone to talk to. A teacher, friend, co-worker, parent, or even just in the comments section of a video. Someone will be there to listen. I hope everything gets better for you ❤

[@dormouse7231]

So I'm a depressed teen, blah blah blah the whole classic thing, and I've only just told people about my issues and well they reacted way different to how I expected, it's pulled them closer to me not further. My boyfriend and I are currently having to be away from each other for about a month and a half due to summer shit and all that, he's the one who made me tell everyone everything, he's helped me so much, and it's only been 8 months with him but it's been the best 8 months despite all the negatives. This month and a half without him has been real tough, but by him being away, it's made me realise how much I love him. He calls me lemon cause of the phrase "when life gives you lemons, make lemonade." Yeah I dunno why I'm sharing this but why not

[@moonee12]

"It's okay to not be okay, it's not okay to not ask for someone to help." -Kevin Hines

[@lowqualitysleep]

"not a question but you're amazing," "thank you" that was so soft, evan, thank you and luke for these videos because they are so important.

[@nadiatrend503]

RIP Chester Bennington💔

[@imid3440]

It's so tragic, even the most successful people can be overwhelmed by mental illness too 💔

[@airplaneoverhead]

Oh my gosh, I loved when Luke said in a mimicking voice "my day's rubbish." It brought a much needed smile to my face. Thank you.

[@flippa00md]

"there are so many cats just, doing stuff" that actually made me really happy. like every second, there's a cat out there, just being a cat. just being so gosh darn cute, the way cats are. doing cat stuff. truly amazing.

[@charlottehardman3669]

'Whenever I take a break, I feel like I'm wasting my life' THIS IS EXACTLY HOW I FEEL EVERYDAY! I'm so glad I'm not alone in this, despite how horrible it is, and I hope to change that attitude one day, but knowing I'm not alone in that overthinking attitude is enormously comforting ❤️ Thank you for being an amazing human Luke ❤️

[@colecerys123]

You absolutely hit the nail on the head why i love dodie so friggin much!

[@caryshopkins4325]

Lukas David McSwagfresh you actual precious bean thankyou for existing (and Evan toooo)

[@sylusylu]

I've been quite open recently with how I visit psychologist and it turned out that many people had as well. we are not that different from each other and everybody needs some support from time to time. you don't always have to be the one to support everyone else, let people support you as well - it is my learning from recent months. : )

[@lisaloderus1579]

I rarely post something in the commentsection, but i want to say thank you so much for posting this! I've never had any difficulties in my life until recently. I started having panickattacks last year, they were getting better and i finally admitted to myself that i wasn't happy with my education and decided to begin with something else (as nervewrecking as that is for me, i'm not good with change). Then just before college started my boyfriend broke up with me after two years, out of the blue, and i was and still am completely heart broken. He was also my best friend and i trusted him with everything. And now i feel so alone and i have nobody to be this close with. Panickattacks are back, new school, new city, new people and everybody else seems so busy and okay with themselves. This video makes me feel so much less alone and hopeful that is going to be okay. Thank you so much!

[@chloemadisonmusic]

While watching this video all I could think about was how much I wanted to give Evan a hug. Also, Luke's hair looked lovely. But, seriously, someone give that boy a hug.

[@SalmaMoPeace]

I am glad that you made this video now. After hearing what happened with Chester Bennington I couldn't (and still can't) deal with it, crying everyday, knowing that I lost someone who helped me on days where I didn't want to get out of bed, someone who helped me live for just one more day through their songs, knowing that I will never get to see him perform on a stage, never meet him to thank him in person, knowing that I will never listen to a new song of his... And some people are STILL hating on him, saying that he was famous a rich enough to pay a psychiatrist to help him (as if he didn't go to one already), people don't get how mental illness works, how depression could consume your life, and I bivalve that this is because talking about mental health used to be such a taboo, so what you guys are doing now is great, talk about depression, talk about mental issues, let us the new generation get the chance to speak up and help ourselves before it's too late. And this video is a good way of saying that you can be NOT okay and still try and fight, it's okay to be not okay for a while, as long as you try and get out of it. I wish everyone a great happy day. I really do!

[@SmartArtzzz]

That shirt is a great color on you Luke. Thank you for putting out content that is authentic and really comfort me personally 💕💕

[@amy-louisetilley447]

I am so close to being genuinely happy but I can't go that step further to be really happy as the news and world is always heartbreaking! 💔 I can't handle watching others hate and kill and harm others because of different views or a lack of understanding 😢

[@monicabelladonna4626]

IM NOT OOOKAY, IM NOT OKAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY*mcrmy triggerd*

[@jennysmith5200]

The amount of thoughtful nodding from Evan 🙄 love this video ❤️

[@sophiaridder2252]

Sometimes you don't realize how much you need a video like this until you see one. It always helps to know you're not the only one who has rough days.

[@IAmKaitHearMeRoar]

I'm 23, and I've been in and out of therapy since I was 14. Honestly, I'm a much better person because of it, and I have a lot of confidence in myself. Even if I don't feel like I need to talk to them, I still go every now and again because I find that when I start talking, I find I talk about things that didn't overly worry me because I was pushing it away, and it turns out they need addressing. I prefer to have some give me constructive suggestions; sometimes my friends don't know what to say or say things that don't really help. Things that I've felt have helped me is when I have a panic attack or anxiety is so overwhelming, there's nothing you can do except find something that distracts you. What I then do is assess why I went into such a panic attack. I did this only when I was in a good place and could almost step outside of myself and look in. If this isn't something that might help, and you don't want to talk to a close one/can't afford to see a therapist, just write down what you're feeling. All of it. I will do this when I'm in a depressive state and can't figure out how to get out of it. It helps to physically see what you're worrying about and it might just help you to look at how it can be solved. I hope this helps someone

[@humcreates]

I actually shut off from social media (apart from KZbin) today, because I felt like things became too overwhelming and I couldn't handle seeing the 'happiness and perfection' everyone else was living. This video has just had such perfect timing and is helping me to fully understand that I don't need to keep holding up a façade of happiness all the time. I thank you both immensely❤

[@ReveliaJ]

I didn't know that watching people talk about problems that I also have, would be so nice and helpful. Like, it literally warmed my heart.

[@maypickles2396]

i'm just bouncing back from a bad mental health 2 weeks. thank you for posting this for others to see/hear and discuss about - this'll definitely help people! when i "bounce back" from a bad mental health time i realise evrything to work on next. 1) realise that i'm feeling awful 2) let other humans know so i don't them unintentionally 3) allow myself to acknowledge that i'm not feeling good 4) if i can, get out of bed (unless i really need it) 5) and for me personally, is to read and lose myself in another world. 6)drink tea and try to talk to fellow peeps. though i doubt i'll get past stage 2, i'll bare these all in mind. also thank you both for reminding me that it's ok to have a break and i shouldn't be guilty of it. now (even though we're in the midst of summer holidays) i want to email my headmaster and ask about mental health (since they're trying to work on awareness) and see if we can allow mental health day off, with the reasoning "when we get a cold, a part of our body is sick, the same is with mental health - our brains aren't being too good"... or words to that effect. thank you luke and evan, i hope to see more mental health awareness around us! x

[@ZSB410Z]

I have Shyness & Social Anxiety, which is a struggle to speak to certain people whether they're strangers, people in authority or even people you've known for years (about certain subjects). It even affects me where I can't do something without thinking people are watching me or judging me. It's horrible and it annoys me nearly everyday. I've been diagnosed for just over a year and I believe I've had it since very early childhood. I've never really spoken about this online and I just want to thank both you & Luke for both your videos raising awareness of this issue knowing that so many people that face this are really going to benefit from this a good assurance for me. I would never have thought that you two would suffer from it though, you always seem so confident in yourselves, well done for being so open about it though.

[@katiegoodall5347]

I have always told people that sometimes you have to just ride the sad out until you can make yourself feel better. I also love Dodie for that reason. And to anyone reading this.. I am so proud of where you are, and where you will end up❤️❤️

[@RichLeigh]

Really enjoyed this and can definitely relate to that horrendous feeling of wasting your life away when you're trying to take a break (or sometimes not even trying to take a break, but simply going around in a seemingly endless cycle of feeling bad about doing nothing, but therefore spending more time doing nothing in the process, feeling stressed and miserable about the fact that you've been doing nothing). It's definitely okay to not be okay.

[@ParadiceWolf]

"Their are a lot of parents out there that have depression" this sung to me being a single mother whom suffers from depression/anxiaty. The fact luke acknolaged that just made me so happy...

[@ewanmacdonald7201]

Thank you for making this video! It’s really lovely!

[@neef6309]

I'M NOT O-FUCKING-KAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY

[@aliceclarke2353]

Im also i killjoy i promise

[@neef6309]

yay

[@googoogaga7175]

Same

[@ashleighjayde9579]

Im a killjoy i promise right there with you

[@neef6309]

[@emeii]

I needed to hear this. I go back to school in about two weeks and I was absolutely petrified to go back because last year I was horrifically bullied to the point I nearly killed myself. The only thing stopping me was the only person who ever had time for me. My best friend and I am so damn thankful she went up to those butthead even when I told her not too, and told them to f*** off. I never really recovered from what happened that school year and all I know is that life is a precious thing and no matter what people say or do... it's always going to affect someone. Positively or negatively. I was going down a dark path again this past week and my friend (from earlier) wouldn't stop going on and on about you. So is searched you up and here I am. I decided instead of sitting in my room all day, crying and complaining, I would get off my ass and invite her out to the movies and to eat a f***ing McDonald's because hell I needed it. So thank you for giving me the courage to go out and have a good day. I thought it was impossible. ❤️❤️❤️

[@mak_maybe]

I greatly appreciate that Evan and Luke and so many other wonderful people can talk about these serious topics online. Without you I never would know that I need help, and that needing help doesn't mean that I'm weak. Thank you for making me feel better everyday.

[@milkisblueberries]

Thank you for this video. We all needed it I think

[@mistierr]

i've just started going to a new therapist (the first one didn't take me seriously and he made me uncomfortable), and it's so, so great to know that i'm not being dramatic. she's making sure that i get the help i need and i'm on my way to becoming happy and comfortable. remember that it's okay to ask for help. it's okay to need help. it's okay to want help. you aren't alone in your search.

[@sophmay]

this actually helps so much with how ive been feeling recently and people i look up to saying that its okay makes me so happy

[@hannahbobanabanana]

God I really needed this. Thanks you two ❤ Been a bit of a mess lately, and for good reason because a lot of bad things have happened in the past few months, but it's like my brain mostly thinks it's my fault and always finds the negative side. It's only lately that I've realised and accepted that my mental illness is probably something I'll always have and that I should realise that I've been through a hell of a lot and that it's a huge achievement that I've been able to get on with life and a degree and be as great and kind a human being as I can be since this all started like 5 years ago. Honestly, props to me. And props to anyone who's going through a tough time and staying strong despite all the bad days! You're stronger than you think!

[@venusplease6501]

that whole bit near the end about friendships: i go to uni with nearly all of my current best friends but none of them are in my same major so i chose to hang out with them which is such a good feeling, that mutual "we want to be friends with each other so we are". and you're right, that is an important network to have and i value them all so much

[@loonygoldfish]

The main things I've felt which have driven happiness are a connection to your body (health and looking after yourself), your mind (having a purpose whether that comes from career, family or multiple things; as well as having experiences you enjoy) and a connection to other people- people who bring out the best in you and who you have balanced relationships with

[@piercetheanna]

i love how so many people are speaking up about mental health issues and spreading the message that its okay not to be okay. thank you for making this video it really made me think aboout certain things and helped me understand this stuff a little better :) ♥

[@nyreegibson7895]

after everything I've been struggling with recently, a video like this is guaranteed to make me cry but in the right way, so thank you

[@katiegoodall5347]

Nyree Gibson ❤️❤️❤️❤️💭

[@Littlerue1]

Thank you for posting this Luke. Everyone has bad days and everyone does have good days. Even if everything doesnt seem to be going in the direction that you want it to, it will change and it will happen. If you tell a friend that you're having a bad time, they will stand by you. If they leave, they weren't a true friend. You will find things that you enjoy doing and you will be good at those things eventually. Don't give up on your dreams, its never impossible to reach them.

[@zoesimpson4872]

this is so helpful. It's so so hard to have to take yourself away from the things or people that prevent you from doing the best for yourself, but sometimes you have to. As soon as I started to consider the effects of my mental health and spoke to certain friends about it that was it. Suddenly they weren't as nice or considerate. But now I'm better so you gotta be smart and leave sometimes.

[@ACityofBooks]

This is so important. Especially with the recent passing of a much loved, and very inspirational musician. Mr Chester "Chezzy" Charles Bennington. A man that I looked up to, to be able to speak about my own problems and know there was a chance to keep pushing forward- keep fighting. It's okay, not to be okay. I'm not okay, right now. I'm sad, angry and wish that bad things to good people would just take a pause for a moment. But, that's life. We may feel alone, but we are not alone even when we cannot permit to see it. He would be so happy to see we were being accepting of others. Were a little bit kinder, and a little bit more human.

[@ashleighjayde9579]

I'm so glad you uploaded this video. It was the first thing I saw after coming home after crying and talking to my mum about how I'm just not happy anymore, especially at school. You help and inspire so many people, and you keep me holding on. Thank you so much for everything ❤❤❤

[@ItsGGbex]

I loved and watched both videos. And then I saved them to a playlist so I can watch them again when I'm having a bad day. I'm so appreciative of how open and honest you guys are about experiencing mental health issues because it DOES make it easier for people to recognize that something IS actually happening and that you aren't alone. I love you guys. ❤️

[@ciaraflanagan3626]

All of these comments 💗💗💗. People sharing their experiences and what they have been through. This is what is amazing about the internet and what I love about it. All of these people coming together to share and to help those in need. It just makes me so proud to be one teeny tiny part of an amazingly OUT OF THIS WORLD community that has been created. We love you Luke and Evan and stay strong everybody.

[@tommyteapot13]

Passed my first year in uni then dropped out and started an apprenticeship in retail and honestly about 1 month in its the best thing I have ever done. All through school and college I was expected to go to uni. I was told that's what I needed to do to be successful and that if I didn't go it would be a waste. I got there and it made me miserable, I realised that I didn't make the decision to go, it was made for me. 1 month into the apprenticeship I've had more support than I did through the whole year at uni, I've been more sociable, feel physically and mentally healthier and genuinely feel like I'm learning skills that help in life rather than just how to pass. Point of the story, sometimes doing what people think is best for you seems like a good idea, you start to feel like they know best and that, even though you don't want to do it, you should do it. At the end of the day, it's your life and only you really know what you need. There is more than one choice in life and you should take the path that you feel will help you succed. Success isn't what society tells you, or your friends or family tells you, it's what you decide you want from life, achieving the best you can and becoming the best person you can be. A degree won't make you happy if it isn't what you want.

[@jessicam3555]

feeling alone is great. think of it as solitude. comfortable with your own company. being able to do what ever you want and have no one's judgement.

[@janahinds8328]

I really needed this today. Thank you guys so much! I’ve been taken off of the medicine, that helped with my anxiety and depression issues, that I’ve been on for two years. It’s mostly been positive, but the bad days can feel really bad since I don’t have that as a crutch anymore. Today was really hard for me to get through and this video gave me that extra little boost.

[@deannaproctor1168]

im not okay. this really helped. thank you

[@katiegoodall5347]

Deanna Proctor ❤️❤️❤️

[@ellag6545]

I'm glad that you briefly touched upon the fact that you have to sort of "force yourself to hang out with your friends" as this exact thought has been going round my head for a while. Though I absolutely love my friends, I sometimes get in a mindset of "I'd rather be by myself". I'm not saying that alone time isn't good (quite the opposite) but personally too much of it is not great. It's also not fair on my friends, who haven't done anything wrong, that I don't make an effort in our friendships. I usually fall into isolating myself during the summer holidays (basically long periods of alone time ) and find it really hard to shake myself out of it. It's strange, though I know that I always have an amazing time when I finally get my act together and see my friends, my mind still tells me I will be happier by myself. Ahh, brains are weird things Xx

[@11barneta]

Thank you so much for uploading this today. I've had a lot of family drama recently and all I've done today is cry. This video made me feel so much better, I really needed this.

[@katiegoodall5347]

alicia barnett I hope you feel better soon:.

[@quentinbrown8239]

It was so comforting to watch this video and know that two people that I really look up to feel the same as I do and have the same fears. Thank you for this

[@agatamioduszewska4598]

just started crying when evan was talking about children

[@missymccustard6322]

This is really inspirational! You are such a genuinely nice guy who looks out for all of us, even though you may not know us personally. I'm certain that you have helped so many people to become more confident with themselves. I look up to you, Luke, as an inspiration xx

[@tanitavga]

I love this!! I'm going through a hard time right now and feeling a bit lonely because I'm not living in the same place as all my friends so this made me feel so much better!!!

[@RonnaaFoogle]

Just wanted to let you know that my brain is being a douche right now but I’ve come back to this video to help me sleep as I do regularly. Just listening to you guys talking about this is really comforting to me and quietens my brain.

[@joellebouwman5566]

To whoever this may help.. it is okay to be okay too. The way my fear of abandonment works (I have bpd) is that I think so low of myself, I feel like if I were to be okay, people would leave because there's no reason for them to stay. No one would ever stay for me or my personality, but they wouldn't leave as I make it clear that I need them. And so I go and make things bigger than they are, create problems, make people feel like I need their help so they won't leave. You can call this attention seeking, and it is in a way, but it is also a symptom of a mental illness and I'm so done with the shame. YES I'm attention 'seeking' because I have this big gaping hole within myself that I need to fill with something. That's bad enough as it is, can we please not add shame to it?

[@pigguswiggus]

I worry. Everything, no matter how small it may seem, somehow my brain will make it feel so much more important and bigger. I have so many choices to make which will affect both me and my family. I don't want to make the wrong decision. To me it feels so huge, almost suffocating. I work in a place that some days are fine but others are awful and I feel inferior and stupid. I want to achieve and be successful in something with someone by my side. I don't want to be dependent but at the same time. I want something constant in my life that I like. That could be a person, job, thing. 😂 Someone send help 😂😂😂

[@bartmanplayminecraft]

Emily legitimately you just described the last few years of my life all I did was worry, now I feel a bit like happier - IDK - but the second I have to like confront someone I end up getting upset for no real reason... Then I get annoyed at myself so all I really do now is just avoid confrontation or even just talking seriously to people :/ Also I defo still just get ugh days

[@pigguswiggus]

liam quinn Yeah it's a struggle. Unfortunately, we have to get through these times to reach the good part of our lives. Life goes in waves and we need to get in a boat and sail through these problems without caring so much. We will reach the paradise island soon and hopefully it will be worth your pain and suffering in the end. I need to learn to care less without becoming careless. That is my goal and the main thing i am working on right now. 😊

[@bethdavies2425]

How the hell have you just summed up my exact feelings in a few sentences? Sorry

[@pigguswiggus]

Beth the unicorn aww hahahaa. It's good to see (but at the same time perhaps not good 😂) that wereally aren't alone in how we feel. Don't be ashamed for how you feel, it shows you care even if you don't want to admit it X 😊

[@amyautumn]

This video topic needs to be spoken about far more often. There are people of all ages and at different stages in their life that are completely affected by the perfection thats embellished on social media. Social media fuels this ugly ass illusion we all can become blinded by. I hate my life or i think my life is meaningless because i see people my age or younger than me achieving far more than i could ever imagine. It makes me feel like it's unattainable for me. It makes me feel like sitting in my room is pathetic thus making me pathetic. Its such a vicious circle. I have no friends because everytime im honest about my BPD they run away. People have become so unempathetic.

[@asmo__batty]

Both of your videos was much needed for a lot of people, like me... thank you both for just talking about it :3 after the Chester thing it really hit hard cuz his songs literally took me all through school and kept me going but when someone like that couldn't handle it anymore it made me feel I couldn't either but i'm trying to be positive and think I have to make it for myself and for the little friends I do have, family, and especially my boyfriend

[@mMarty9696]

Thank you so much! I really needed to hear this today. Every single day I struggle with my inner insecurities and feel shitty. I can relate so much! It was like having someone explaining me what I'm going through and how I cope with it. So accurate. Love both of you🤗

[@katiekamatie3292]

I used to be a really upbeat person but since I've stared high school ( I've been in high school for 3 years now) I've been really depressed and anxious and I've reduced talking to family. I've tried talking to my mum about it and her words were "shrug it off you'll be fine" **sigh**

[@mrgreatbritain]

Katie kamatie I’m so sorry about that, high school ruined my life too so I can half-relate. Just keep a positive mindset,count down the days and know it will all be over soon! There is light at the end of the dark dark tunnel and I can tell you now when you leave you will be that upbeat person again

[@kellisylvester6663]

Thank you both so much for posting this and bringing awareness to this topic. Everytime you guys upload, I can really see the genuineness the two of you have; no matter what the topic is. The amount of passion that's put into your videos is so apparent and it's truly refreshing. :)

[@teenagerfrommarss6668]

I've recently started allowing myself to take a break when I've been doing a lot of work because otherwise I'll make myself ill, whether physically or mentally, from overworking myself. For ages I felt bad about not being able to sit down for hours at a time but I've recently realised that that's because of the fact that I have depression and anxiety so I physically cannot focus for hours at a time because of my mental illnesses. I've also recently discovered that if I end up having a bad mental health day when I'm out with my friends or my boyfriend, looking around interesting shops helps to take me out of that mindset and put me in a better mood that allows me to enjoy the day more.

[@tx6845]

7:55 that neck tickle tho. But thank you for this vid it's refreshing to hear a male actually talk about this and reminding us it's OKAY x

[@kithlea]

I really needed to hear this, thanks so much for this you guys! I constantly feel like giving myself a break is me "wasting precious time I'll never get back." When it comes to big projects and creative work that seems daunting and demotivates you from working, I think we all need to step back and realize that the pyramids weren't built in a day. With that being said, I'm going to go play some video games and enjoy some tea. Thanks again guys!

[@crackheadloaf920]

i have been having a bad week. and a bad month. and a bad year. and everything just seems so pointless, and i feel so numb. and i kind of needed this video today. a lot. thank you

[@greenleafgirl9796]

I've had SO MANY bad days lately I really needed this vid! Going back to the dr for treatment for my disorder... I will win this fight 💪🏻

[@aimee8368]

i'm at a point of my life where i really needed this. thank-you

[@Jaidamichelle]

On the productivity note: I think it's important not to set your daily goals too high, especially when you're having a bad mental health day. Like there was a time in my life when even getting out of my bed and going to school was a really big struggle and so on days when I did manage to go I let myself be really proud bc I could recognize how hard it was for me. A lot of people would be like "you shouldn't be proud or feel productive for just going to school you're supposed to go to school and everyone else does blah blah blah" but for me it was something I really struggled with. So when you're having a tough mental health day don't focus on what you couldn't get done, focus on what you did even if it was as simple as say doing some laundry bc at the end of the day that's something you did and doing anything is proof to your mental illness/ general bad feelings that they can't keep you down. And that's something to be proud of

[@ms.razzledazzlepants3819]

i feel that same way about taking a break ,like whenever im binge watching a show i say to myself" hey stop that your waste your life"

[@jacmitchell8810]

Anyone need a hug?

[@emmelineannie5236]

yeah :(

[@anyachristie3478]

I do 😭

[@rratbagz4071]

Lets all have an Internet hug

[@stephanienelson3706]

yeah :(

[@mariekateinteriors589]

This is an amazing thing to do. No doubt you've helped a lot of people with this and you are 100% correct about the social media thing because that's how I feel everyday and I honestly hate it but it's a struggle for far too many people not just me alone and trying to cut out the things means I'd be isolating myself from the world and it's difficult and being unable to enjoy or like anything because of the things others say about it .... I spend too much over thinking what other people think about me when really I should just be myself but because of school and things it's like we're all clones and can't be different or ourselves and I couldn't be happier now I've left school but now until I reach college I feel like I'm wasting my time and do nothing but not having money or friends nearby nothing can change it.

[@Mia2001ification]

this video is so beautiful, I didnt know how much I needed this. thank you both for filming this 💗 I love you guys

[@AmyLuisaa]

This couldn't have come at a better time. Really needed this. You both are amazing :) x

[@evildr3ad827]

your timing? was perfect? i'm dealing with a lot of issues, with friends and family and just mentally as well, my anxiety is increasingly getting worse and depression is now joining in and i find it very hard to open up to my friends and actually tell them everything that is going on, this video and the both of you, along with other videos you've made in the past (one of your past videos, luke, actually helped me as i was dealing with self harm, and now i've been clean for almost a year) so thankyou both for the positive changes you make and speaking out and destigmatizing mental illnesses. xx

[@macymoore3287]

The thing about the cats made my horrible day so much better

[@MarkJohnson-zr8hs]

Hi guys, first time listener/watcher of your channel. I often have days like this and your video has really helped me and provided some fantastic tips to get through the darker days :) x

[@abbyn1305]

BLESS THIS VIDEO

[@mells3167]

Thank you so much for this series. It's going to help a lot of people and that makes me happy.

[@laurenburt799]

i think you are both beautiful humans and every time i watch one of your videos i am filled with joy i think that is something both of you and many other creators should be proud of. you make your audiences lives better even for the duration of the video and i think that is a beautiful thing. so thank you, luke and evan, for doing what you do. we love you guys

[@louloubieberful]

I love you both :) I relate to this video so much, I suffer from severe social anxiety and agoraphobia, KZbin has been my escape for years. Luke you always bring a smile to my face, thank you :)

[@lemonandpear]

Thank you for uploading this! I'm 2 minuets in and I'm on the verge of tears, I'm not a huge fan of your info/chilled videos this video is what i needed right now. Thank you Luke for all you do concerning mental health issues xoxo

[@katiegoodall5347]

that emma kid ❤️❤️❤️

[@lilyfree2634]

This video was so helpful ❤️ thank you, I'm so glad I support you both 💛💛