Its Not Your Fit, Its Your Body

[@Mistrye]

lets all get ripped and wear nothing

[@averagemale9401]

Lifting is modern medicine

[@Mistrye]

@@averagemale9401 nothing feels better than getting under a 2x body weight squat 😎

[@Sweet4chokoreeto]

Turtle necks looks so good when you have broad shoulders and chest. ❤

[@riceball_4478]

Smash

[@Mistrye]

@@Sweet4chokoreeto I agree, I tend to only really wear those or tighter tops with more loose pants

[@BeneathFullMoon]

I've never seen a man talk so openly about standards of beauty and feeling comfortable in one's own body, despite their perniciousness. A lot more people need to see this.

[@nirgunawish]

you contribute by being so weird about it also >fashion elitist >black on black

[@dydx_]

While it's nice that you think like this, this is pretty much the norm if your surround yourself with decent people...

[@BeneathFullMoon]

@@nirgunawish Man, I have no idea what you're talking about, but you do you I guess.

[@BeneathFullMoon]

@@dydx_ most people don't know shiz about fashion though. I'm also not from a 1st world country so this isn't common at all in my culture. but it's nice to know there are a lot of decent people out there who also care about this topic.

[@nirgunawish]

@@BeneathFullMoon you contribute [to men feeling like they shouldn't open up] by being weird about it

[@kellinquinn]

Never underestimate the power of a good tailor and or seamstress.

[@TheBiggestMoronYouKnow]

they'd rather complain that skinny people are employed 😌

[@ecogreenarchive]

I considered becoming a seamstress and tailor to make my own clothes

[@LR-jo7ci]

@@ecogreenarchive I’m a seamstress apprentice and will graduate in 2 months :) I love the craft, it became my passion. It’s hard for me to ever think of anything else or watch a movie without eyeing the costumes all the time Lmfao. The payment for seamstresses is horrible but you have many possibilities to educate yourself further through courses and acquiring other degrees that build upon this job. I highly recommend. It can be a bit boring in the beginning as they won’t allow you to be that creative (you are asked to concentrate on the logistics, on how a garment works and how to sew them, not design) but as you learn more you realise you are able to drift away from commercial patterns or use them to make new silhouettes

[@mechadonia]

@FuckOuttaHere wait what it’s actually him 😂😂😂

[@jennyparkoo]

@@TheBiggestMoronYouKnow username checks out

[@KayMusicToyko]

I’m 5’10 and 130, Japanese. I’ve been working in fashion all my life and there was something interesting an old French lady once told me. The idea of the runway was to show clothing pieces for prince and princess back in the 1800s. They would have models who were built like the 15 years old ish kids to best tailor the clothes for balls. The fashion industry itself was simply just not ready/made for modern 1st world countries and their lifestyles. I don’t have any opinions on this but I thought it was very interesting.

[@treasureharvey8346]

wow this blew my mind

[@BatsAndBadgers]

i heard it was cuz the majority are men who happen to be lgbtq and so may not actually like a womans form but instead naturally like the aesthetic of adrongynous flat bodies for women ...ya know without womens curves. and from that people go more and more extreme just for the sake of pushing their own ideas and controlling their employees (models) what that french lady told you is bs...15 year old girls are not flat adrongynous mannequins

[@tatianacooper8406]

yes and actually the darker side of that is the "elite" have a fetish for child-like features so the standard became that body type. so bizzare how its still like that now

[@filipinoblackpill6194]

thats my weight but im 5'7. whats your age. supposedly i should gain more weight due to im 37 already.

[@MELLMAO]

That's not really true. It is designed that way bcs it's much easier to design without taking curves and muscles of body into mind. They can pump out as much as they want to without having to keep in mind that models have different weight distribution. If everyone is extremely skinny, the clothes always look the same

[@ГолубьСизый-ю2ъ]

That's exactly the reason why i got into sewing. Nothing really fits me off the rack so i'm going to make all my clothes for myself

[@Ocerry1]

I wish I had the time to just learn basic pattern cutting and do stuff like that ! I feel like all of us have this moment with a lot of "off the rack" clothes where you try them on and notice that it would just need a TINY change in its cut to make it fit the way its supposed to on your own body.

[@wikkidize]

just go to a tailor 😭😭😭😭😭

[@Ocerry1]

@@wikkidize Having entire garments tailored is expensive as fuck and having control ever every minute aspect is still something else.

[@atuvera9021]

Same

[@hoangvo6307]

go to fucking gym

[@amylomo9793]

another interesting thing about the fashion industry for women is how a lot of clothes actually don’t take boobs into account. a lot of the high-fashion trends are completely inaccessible to me because they offer no support or bra coverage in that area. you’d think that the designer would leave more room but i actually struggle to find clothes that aren’t uncomfortably tight around my chest region. it’s like every aspect of fashion is made to make us feel like there is something wrong with us

[@carolineswn4]

so so true. nobody makes clothes for big boobs LOL

[@chrisisapracticalmess563]

I feel your pain! I have to buy bigger tops then have them taken in at the sides and waist area. It’s expensive too. Then even with fitted clothes, you feel like you’re showcasing your chest but in reality you just have it and that’s life.

[@TiiAye]

As someone who enjoys massive breasts this is totally unfair. These beautiful amazing people offer the worlds greatest accommodation and we cant even fit them into clothes properly. I will be donating however I can please someone drop a link

[@FleurDeCersier]

Yeah, I hate this. Considering the western beauty standard outside of fashion tends to include a bigger chest, I think this one is down to laziness of the designers. It's easier to accommodate or even support a flatter chest because there is barely anything to accomodate. Luckily for me, I have a narrow ribcage so I struggle a bit less to find fitting non-stretch tops because my narrow ribcage balances out my bigger chest in terms of bust measurement. The down side is that I struggle even more finding a bra that fits because bras in my size barely even exist, let alone cute ones that don't cost a fortune 🥲

[@chrisisapracticalmess563]

@@FleurDeCersier I spend a fortune on bras! Most are boring. I have a few spicy ones but they were very expensive. 😩😩😩

[@kennethgates5790]

5’2 here with child bearing hips in spite of being thinner than average. The one thing the fitness diet couture never tells you is that you can’t change your bone structure.

[@TheBiggestMoronYouKnow]

ok?

[@kennethgates5790]

@@TheBiggestMoronYouKnow just doing the best I can here and absolutely no hate or jealousy for anyone 👍👍👍👍.

[@jihadityrone2197]

@@TheBiggestMoronYouKnowdon’t you dare be rude to them you bastard

[@jihadityrone2197]

@@kennethgates5790You’re absolutely valid king

[@kennethgates5790]

@@jihadityrone2197 thanks my friend 👍👍👍.

[@ascott2168]

Don’t forget folks, there’s fashion and then there’s style !

[@mackavelli968]

exactly

[@tybo6376]

Cringe

[@itshazam]

​@@tybo6376 what makes it cringe?

[@tannerpeterson6167]

As a pretty large dude who works maintenance, I’d like to give my two cents on fashion. For me, ive found that work-wear is unironically the best stuff to look for in regard to both fit and functionality. Duluth long line tees, carhartt cargos, and hiking boots. A lot of the work wear brands, make clothes for men with average or large bodies. Its still hard to find stuff for when im of work tho. I havent bought a pair of jeans in like 3 years because every pair of jeans is made for men who have no ass or thighs, and thick af so I cant fit in em smh.

[@danieldickson5872]

I love how youre in a trade heavy industry and still tune in to fashion content. I have union friends that hate ironic work wearing. They scoff at people who wear Duluth/carhartt/danner etc. who haven’t “worked on anything..” it’s honestly hilarious they sounds like dork weinies lol. But check out some custom denim dude. It’s obviously pricier($150+) but it’s sooo worth it. Especially in the crotch and upper thigh region. You got to cater to that chariot my boy! Plus they last forever.

[@josephormsby1736]

buy a couple waist sizes up and there will be more space around the thighs etc

[@colonizingfear]

With a decent to large build, I recommend you streetwear fashion if you are into it. You can try either cargo or relaxed-fit denim with drop shoulder hoodies/t-shirts which should do the trick. Always size up and get your pants tailored since pants sizes may not always favor larger individuals.

[@Cullenkid24]

Buy the jeans with a little bit of spandex in them it really Helps I’ve found with comfort

[@kennethgates5790]

At 5’2 with a big bodybuilder build buying basically anything is impossible.

[@ariadnameza6594]

Omg I’ve always had this problem, as a women I read this comments and relate; the tight armpits, the tight uncomfortable shoulders in a size S and when I size up the waist leaves a weird awkward gap or the piece loses its shape and looks like a potato sack. It’s a tricky thing to have a masculine frame and try feminine clothing, it always made me feel like a freak or less of a woman. I thought men were lucky that their clothes fit and design were made for their broad shoulders and wide Ribcages since that’s quite literally the average male frame, but not even guys escape the thin frame ideal of the industry.

[@KD-ou2np]

No clothing brand ever considers that my medium to large frame also has F-cups attached to it as well. So tired of boob stretch

[@mocha8683]

frfr. I do not have a small waist and big hips and everything I ever put on looks manly and airpod-like. I envied men for not having to go through these things but they too; deal with standards. Not as harsh standards but still… women still have it worse tho

[@simonjoy2991]

@@KD-ou2np sammeeeee! It’s like they forget that larger boobs exist in every size 😒😒

[@KD-ou2np]

@simonjoy2991 Wild to think that peasants who made their own clothes probably had better fitting and tailored garments than I ever have had in my life living in a developed nation in the 21st century I'm so happy to see the homemade clothing thing has had a resurgance.

[@KD-ou2np]

@thefauxvenus well I just meant that, because we all buy clothes already made now, which used to be something only the wealthiest people could do, its sort of sad that we never stopped to realize what we were trading away for the convenience of not having to make your own clothes.

[@nassim1361996]

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” - Carl R. Rogers

[@kristopherkm]

As a skinny guy that has always been envious of muscular and lean guys for being able to fill up their clothes, this video really widened my point of view. I'm 183cm and 62 kg so I'm borderline underweight. Most clothes should "fit me" but I have a birth defect called pectus excavatum that gives me a sunken chest and pot belly. I always felt that most clothes that are slim or fitting never work for me. But then baggy or wide fits can sometimes drown me out. Maybe like you said, loving this body will be the first step.

[@branislavcunta7763]

I'm also 183cm and weight 61-63kg with pectus excavatum. What a coincidence. I was quite unlucky since I grew up in a rural area where "filling up your clothes" was always a standard. I was always told that "you should be glad that you can anything you want" and "you look weak, you should eat more". The messaging I got from it was "you are lucky, yet you do nothing with that luck which makes you massive loser". Combine that with the defect and you have perfect recipe for insecurity. The clothes situation improved for me only relatively recently when slim fit was in. But still, I fared much better in a big city when it comes to self-confidence. I guess I need to move out lol.

[@Cateater123]

I'm jealous of men with big manly thighs , it's so smexy and like Greek gods

[@Muhluri]

Same height but 58kg and no defects. Many of my high school clothes still fit me 😂 Are people judgemental when they see your chest area?

[@Narasthenics]

Envy? I was 5'10 55kg now 73kg lean, you do realize becoming lean and muscular is entirely in your control and envying those who put in the work is pathetic, your brain needs rewiring like mine once did.

[@silhill3914]

For “making this video pretty quickly” this is insane probably better than 95% of the other fashion content on KZbin. Keep on with the great work your channel is definitely one of the best fashion channels on KZbin and way underrated

[@fashionelitist]

Appreciate you saying that

[@cms3000]

​@@fashionelitist did you consume steroids?

[@butter_nut1817]

"high fashion" uses skinny, tall, slightly strange attractive to create a feeling of exclusivity and "statement". The fact that it doesn't represent reality is part of the appeal.

[@Ocerry1]

The way fashion is centered around skinny people is insane. I was a bit overweight a like 2 years back (1,78m and around 93Kg) and therefore wore a lot of oversized stuff. I felt fairly good in that stuff and had fun with it but the moment I lost about 20Kg and got a lot skinnier the options I had just EXPLODED and I saw that (aside from me now needing belts for nearly all old pants) my old clothes just suddenly worked a lot better because even the XL oversized tees I have were basically cut for very tall skinny people.

[@byeebitch]

Uhh... Because models are skinny and fit, duh? That's why it looks like 'fashion' is only for them. However you seem to forget that there's actually plus size models now. 🗿

[@ireallylikedorohedoro]

@@byeebitch there are plus size models but very, very few of them. not to mention the industry also lacks diversity in height lol

[@egg_2705]

​@@byeebitchyeah we've started seeing plus size models, and some more petite ones too, because there's a market there that they're trying to reel in. Before the 80s if you couldn't find clothes off the rack getting it made to measure wasn't much more expensive, so that gap would be filled out. That changed rapidly post fast-fashion, and people that aren't just skinny and tall, needed clothes too-there's now a large market of people who had now instead turned to cheap poor quality clothing, itching for something better. Let's not delude ourselves to thinking that diverse bodies are represented equally in fashion because there's a handful of curvy models walking the runway-ofc it's better than it used to be, not acknowledging that is just plain damaging.

[@tongpoo8985]

For real? I feel like its the opposite. I have broad shoulders and thin waist and feels like every shirt i buy tents around the midsection and has ridiculously large sleeves for how small the torso is. Like its tight around the shoulder and chest but wide around the waist and arms.

[@Checkedbox]

I share a similar feeling ^. I've always been skinny and clothes just seem to hang off me. I can't find anything that fits me without dwarfing my arms, sagging around my waist, or buckling around my knees. That isn't to say there isn't stuff made for my measurements, that's true, but that doesn't mean that fashion trends overall adopt skinnyness. I've never felt like my body represents anything close to what fashion idealises. I feel like the skinny guys in high fashion aren't there because of beauty standards, but because they represent something far from normal, so that they (and by extension the clothes) don't just look "ordinary" on the catwalk. Relative to prevalence in the general population, athletic, more bulky, skinny-fat, or plus-sized shapes are all pretty standard, even if our perceptions of these body shapes aren't as equally balanced. Perhaps my perception of these models is shaped by my ideals of being athletic, but it's hard to imagine anyone wanting to be BMI

[@johne6805]

This was a great video and I love how you brought attention to the fact that it's okay to change your body, but shouldn't be forced. Also mentioning that there's no one-of-a-kind clothing or styles. You always find something new and better

[@omerahmed310]

I was in Harajuku last fall and I actually found a blazer that fit me at one of the second-hand stores. It was way in the corner and was unironically dusty since literally nobody had probably touched it since it got put there, but yeah even in that hallowed ground of fashion in Japan second-hand can come in clutch

[@RizztrainingOrder]

It’s quite ironic when one ironically states an ironic belief unironically intended to not take irony into account….unironically

[@Ixe2077]

​@@RizztrainingOrderStraight yapping

[@Your_moms_waifu]

I’m a short, overweight woman with a very defined hourglass shape. Clothes are not made to look good on me, so I’m learning to sew so that clothing can actually fit. I’m healthy, strong, and comfortable with my curves, but am tired of looking frumpy since my waistline isn’t visible in clothes

[@umapuma]

EXACTLY, I am a super tall (6ft), super curvy woman with a tiny tiny waist and extra large hips and a meaty ass. +really large shoulders. for 30 years I haven't found one piece of clothes that really fits or compliments me. It is even hard to find a bra that is tight enough with a large enough cup. honestly, we look the best naked lol, I stopped caring about fashion bc it makes me look like shit.. but then I found AYM studio, and I just ordered my second dress from them, all of their stuff is made to compliment curvy women and is often adjustable to the waist (this is no commercial, just my experience)

[@rodrigomachado5291]

Come buy clothes in Brazil. Most women here have this body shape.

[@ehyzen]

idk how youre overweight and healthy at the same time but okay

[@Your_moms_waifu]

@@ehyzen I mean, that wasn’t the point of comment like at all, but I can climb a couple flights of stairs while talking without being out of breath, my blood pressure is on the low side of normal, my resting heart rate is good, my blood sugar and cholesterol levels are normal, I get my period regularly, I work out 4 times a week, etc. All the signs of a normal, healthy individual. I can run circles around my partner, who has a BMI of 21, and have a much better blood pressure and cholesterol level than him

[@cristiqnl]

@@umapuma crazy. wyd tho you up

[@haessfau5282]

I‘m a 5'10" and 185lbs “gymbro” so it’s very hard to find clothes that fit. My waist is relatively thin but shoulders and quads are a problem most of the time. I wear heritage fashion and Japanese Americana. Big recommendation to all my gymbros. Works well with a traditionally masculine wide frame. Don’t hide your muscles and don’t show them off too much, find a balance.

[@killmesoicanrespawn3775]

Lmao 185 is tiny to be calling yourself a "gymbro". You're trying way too hard

[@haessfau5282]

@@killmesoicanrespawn3775 185 lean at 5'10'' really isn’t that small for natural standards

[@StevenCoxAI]

@@killmesoicanrespawn3775 It's really not. Would love to see what you look like.

[@killmesoicanrespawn3775]

@@haessfau5282 you're literally within the average weight for a 5'10" male and you're talking like you're hulking out of your shirt lmao. Like I said, you're trying too hard, your insecurities are showing.

[@user-bt1gb2wp2v]

@@killmesoicanrespawn3775 u tweakin nigga😂

[@gregap8282]

One solution that I will share with everyone here: get yourself a tailor. I follow fashion houses that I like, I copy some stuff and details, I design usually shirts using those references and then I ask my tailor to make them using my measurements. What I would like to do in the future is learn pattern making and sewing, just to see if I can make my own clothes.

[@MrS7015]

Trying on a CCP leather jacket and realizing it will never fit me because of my wide shoulders and short height really pushed me to learn how to make clothes and, ultimately years later, created my own brand. Your point really is important : clothes are only fabric around a body. And designing means choosing what types of body you will be able to dress with your pattern making.

[@Butcher899]

Don't be shy, drop ur brand's @

[@JB-qz3cd]

i think you missed the point of ccp

[@MrS7015]

@@JB-qz3cd Oh so that wouldn't explain the existence of his trucker jacket and other non extra slim fitting garments, would it ? The "conversation" between body and clothes isn't only about fit (construction and materials are a part of it too) and isn't found in all his garments either.

[@MrS7015]

@@Butcher899 I've only started for a couple of years, still much to do but if you are curious "lois dionisio atelier"

[@wikkidize]

@@MrS7015 damn bro who even buys that

[@flacko2274]

i was always very insecure about my body, since im very skinny. But because i got more into fashion, i learned not to be insecure about my body type anymore.

[@dezolatestation]

yea men we're had some advantage haha

[@cardboardbox9119]

Me too lol

[@melonenjoyer]

I still get insecure sometimes, because many people say that being skinny is well liked in the industry, yet I'm skinny but i don't look my age and don't get taken seriously by ppl my age and even get shamed sometimes :/

[@elav8tr]

I can relate

[@JosukeUrameshi]

@@melonenjoyerI relate to this so hard!! I’ve always been so skinny and I think that makes it appear as if I’m much younger on top of already looking boyish even tho I’m a literal grown man. I get really insecure about it bc I want to look like a MAN

[@TEETHHHHH]

I'm currently eating bugs rn, so hyped to watch this!

[@fashionelitist]

protein covered crickets?

[@wickedlavender]

for me, the problem is more w/ height than weight. i’m 103 lbs (mostly fat), but i’m only 5’2. most clothes just aren’t ever made to fit short people, which to me is ridiculous because there’s huge potential for a petite sizing market. and as a woman, pants that actually fit are especially hard to find. we shouldn’t have to deal with frumpy, long clothes or get everything tailored. but clothes just fit better on tall people, i guess…

[@paolo8665]

You're not even that short for a woman, most places around have good clothes for your height and weight, but yeah I agree on the pants length they can be annoying, as a 5'4 man I tailor the shit out of everything I buy it is what it is

[@silmiha5239]

I don't know if this is feasible or not with your circumstances, but maybe clothes made for asian region (japan/china specifically) might fit better? I'm 5'1-5'2 and, lengthwise, japanese stuff just fits really well on me. Trousers are rarely too long etc. But the style etc would of course be different and might not be what you're into

[@hecatonchyr]

Uniqlo

[@helpmefindabettername4843]

thank you for talking about how the body positive movement put all the weight (no pun intended) on the individual. Liberal movements usually fail to question structural aspects of a problem. It's the same with mental health, where people seem to gloss over the way gender, sexuality, race and class plays into your mental state.

[@2323-o8g]

Heavily agree

[@lordtette]

Maybe expand where you're reading; lots of people are aware of intersectionality and instead the pushback is "we don't like identity politics"

[@helpmefindabettername4843]

@@lordtette I was criticizing liberalism and the weight it puts on the individual to do well, but I know there are people analysing social structures and intersectionality! I just wish they were more at the forefront of our discussions.

[@marvin2678]

how does gender or race play into mental stsate ? im getting racist vibes of you

[@marvin2678]

@@lordtette whats your point ?

[@skeliskull]

Its very true that you just gotta accept what looks good for you. Stop trying to chase certain looks that you wish you could pull off but just won’t because of your body type. That’s going to be the source of your insecurity. Be open to styles that DO look good for you and just gotta be honest with yourself. Having an open mind can really help you overcome a lot of insecurity by simply being able to give up on things that don’t work for things that do

[@bman9642]

Damn i needed this

[@staciefreshener4032]

This is also good however it's not bad to want to wear clothes that may not be fitting to you now but later find something similar and bigger or make custom or loose weight for it but loosing weight is only mostly viable to some extent , certain clothes can't fit to some people no matter the weight , so that's right , it's important to know that not all clothes all people and sometimes make the right decision. But don't forget that skinny people may not also fit in some clothes due to looking odd which is a upside . At the end I would choose to wear what I want by working my way around but there is so much weight you can loose until your shoulders or thighs become an issue. As a boy , I do however fit into most basic clothes

[@Astarrrrr]

I agree but if there’s a certain style u want but ur body type makes it unachievable then the next step is to put ur own flair on it. If the standard way it’s meant to be worn doesn’t work use ur own creativity to create ur own style. That’s what fashion is.

[@inkarlcerating]

Re: fashion clothes are engineered for slimmer fit / slimmer people … so in short fashion despite its battlecry of self expression, love your own, etc etc… it still all boils down to: A) catering to a select few and B) fitting to their mould. oh the irony 😢 But Amazing video again👌❤️

[@johannesschmitz6370]

it's all made by people. And so, people can change this.

[@AllTheArtsy]

High fashion is all about exclusivity- it is extremely expensive, extremely size selective, etc. There are other clothing brands with inclusive sizing, and their clothes look good. Why? How? Because they put in the money! To research how to make clothes for bigger, smaller, shorter people, etc. They put in the money to create new patterns, to create new cuts. Making clothes is not impossible- high fashion houses just refuse to do this, even if they will very likely expand their customer base if they had more inclusive sizing. It is so dumb.

[@BrittPearceWatches]

You know, my husband has gone through the exact same things. I remember there was a time where his thighs and bum got soo big lol, and his waist was so small (just from working out! And being really healthy) he genuinely could not find clothes that fit him. It was either comedically large on the waist OR so tight around his thighs and bum. He's the same as you, he has decided to slim down, but I was ok whatever he wanted to do!

[@fortheproject8189]

I love your content man I just want you to know how much of a good influence you’ve been on me so far. Keep up the great work king

[@mariekevanderlee7049]

feel like i'm the only girl watching this lol but interesting!!! i have been thinking about this too, and its been very confronting to realize i am not the ideal body type of the fashion industry. Was almost afraid I was the only one struggling, but its nice to know i am not alone

[@hooraym5500]

The only girl

[@Artrikz]

the model is 6’2 and is wearing size XS

[@fashionelitist]

6'2 140lbs 28 inch waist

[@Micha-mx8ii]

as a short (5'6) and skinny man I really feel this video. It's very hard to find clothes that fit, almost every piece of clothing is either too big or too long (or both), because manufacturers simply do not think or plan for people like me - they do for people of average height and regular build, and most brands do not even have XS sizes for their clothes, and even the S sizes are big. with almost every piece I buy right now, I have to consider if it fits at least decently in few places, so if its worth taking to a tailor. finding these very few pieces that fit okay at most and then taking them to a tailor to get them shortened or other mods done gets very tiring, time-consuming and expensive

[@NerdyDumbProductions]

Are these American sizes? Because Asian sizes are definitely smaller, if you can, you could try having a look there.

[@Micha-mx8ii]

@@NerdyDumbProductions I live in Europe, in Poland to be exact, so not sure which sizes are that

[@xMistaDawg]

@@Micha-mx8ii Yeah, I have the same experience. I recently found a nice hoodie and I bought 2 of those lol

[@hecatonchyr]

I shop at Uniqlo, they have up to XXS sizes, lifesaving really

[@ImGrech]

Loved this video man, I recently got into the gym and after a devious bulk none of my clothing fit me. I noticed clothing just sat weird on me; i've started to accept that I need to find a new style and welcome different cuts. shits hard, I kinda feel worse now.

[@hamster166]

nah bro being on bulk mode is great. none of my pants fit anymore after I got bigger quads, but I think for me personally I'm hyped! I'll just wear baggier clothes.

[@Ocerry1]

love the term "a devious bulk"

[@NarutoUzomaki65]

@@hamster166 I like Uncle Sam stuff, white tank tops and farmer leggins when bulking

[@Muhluri]

"devious bulk" is hilarious 😂

[@bassyey]

As long as you're tall, it's not a problem. Width is not a problem. Shorter people have more problems. Clothes are made for people above 5'9".

[@hel2727]

can we talk about his gorgeous luscious hair tho 😭

[@bempartington4299]

The main reason as you mentioned at 5:30 skinny models are prefferred is to save material cost in development for an experimental clothing that has an unknown promise for success. By making skinny clothing less material is expensed, and time spent stitching: cheaper, reduces cost but does not celebrate diversity as you’ve well explained.

[@TheBiggestMoronYouKnow]

man lets get racial diversity first, white people distracting from the actual issues 🤪

[@веснушки-в9л]

Yeah pretty much

[@pagethreemodel]

The most important component is that clothes look better on skinny people. No one is going to buy from a brand that features only 'plus size' models.

[@pixi3d3ath47]

@@pagethreemodel think the same also goes for girls and our cup sizes. We know not to buy clothing that looks better on someone with a different size than us. Clothing made for small chests looks awful on those of us with larger ones and incredibly unflattering, and mostly because it’s more revealing.

[@mammajamma4397]

​@@pagethreemodel NO. CLOTHES DO NOT LOOK BETTER ON SOMEONE JUST BECAUSE THEY'RE SKINNY.

[@TaRtaR_Sauc3]

Man, this video touched me so much. I've been thinking about these issues all my life, and I'm trying to love my body before I go to any route, like you said. I lost weight a couple of times in my life, but it was always for something, never for myself, you know. Nowadays, I've come to terms with the fact that, first of all, be healthy, accept your structure, and go from there. It's nice to see people who are understanding of these types of issues.

[@rafaelorona1395]

Body builder’s body or skinny like a male model? How about neither? Being now on my 30’s the one thing I have learned the most during my twenties is to love myself first and to not follow trends. Your body ideals should be healthy and not something that cause dysmorphia. Dress up for your body and how feel confident and comfortable. Is always ok and allowed to try new things and if you try it on, don’t like how it looks on you, is fine… there is many more options. You don’t need to look like everyone else.

[@novoime710]

realest comment

[@sarahrinker9]

^^

[@mikeoxmaul9870]

Lol no I want to look like a bodybuilder

[@rafaelorona1395]

@@mikeoxmaul9870 then lift, eat and sleep like one.

[@andrewmiffitt7973]

He does say that, around the 13 minute mark

[@tastedivinefury2198]

In other words „your body is not giving“

[@alienmapping3536]

Lol

[@ellekim2617]

I am really glad as a “mid-size” US size L-2X depending on the brand that I found sewing and historical fashion. The historical sewing community on KZbin has helped me improve my relationship with my body so much. When I sew my own clothes I get to just go by my own measurements and I don’t have to worry about wether or not the person who designed it had my unique proportions in mind. I am in eating disorder recovery and I highly recommend looking into sewing if my story sounds similar to yours. And if you’re looking for content I think Abby Cox is a great place to start for femme fashion especially.

[@Bl4k3.]

i modeled for an art class for about a year and enjoyed it sm, and considered going on to pursue an actual career in modeling. i quickly realized that the requirements for most agencies were all 5’11”+ and under size 4. despite some of these agencies calling themselves inclusive lol

[@tigerex777]

I have been saying this for I don't know how long.. but working out and creating a slim athletic body will become YOUR fashion statement; and then you slap something on top of it. It's your body, not your clothes. Slim athletic bodies can go topless and still look fashionable. While a dad bod(currently me) has to work so hard to look like a decent human being; so many colors, patterns and styles I have to play around with, while the hot athletic slim body can just slap on anything and look good. So yes, your body comes first then it's whatever you slap on top of it.

[@bunnywavyxx9524]

Exactly. I realized this within myself while shopping for clothes. It's not just the clothes. It's the clothes on the body.

[@liam6312]

My man has the cleanest transitions

[@Ryan-vr2gb]

clothes don't make people look good. people make clothes look good

[@garyburke6156]

this is why my biggest involvement in fashion is sneakers and hats, even though i'm still pushing the higher limits on those, nobody's telling me its a matter of willpower to have size 9 feet

[@TheLily97232]

Mine is accessories as a fat woman.

[@governmnt]

Dude wants to give me body dysmorphia

[@MsElectricsurge]

I have one thing that irks me: the body positivity movement was conceptualized as a systemic and intersectional critique. It only has been co-opted and „individualized“ later.

[@IDLE33]

I only recently starting to actually care about my style and what garments I wear. Didn't even reflect that my body type is of "standard", since I've always hated being skinny especially growing up. Wearing anything during the skinny jeans era just made me feel ever worse. It's great that you make content like this to open up eyes and give insight

[@2323-o8g]

Honestly i like the message but this video still kinda hurt, calling skinny people mannequins and unhealthy and then complaining about having broad shoulders, like i know its not about me in this situation but still

[@staciefreshener4032]

@@2323-o8g I do envy skinny people because there is only so much weight you can loose until the shoulders and thighs and other body parts become and issue

[@sovka8394]

13:25 lol that’s simply not true. It absoluely makes sense that you start to love your body only after you like what you see in the mirror. I lost weight, got my muscles more defined and I love my body now. Can’t say the same about time when I was more fat.

[@gabriela8818]

yeah, thats why for example more curvy girls with bigger breasts are always gonna seem less fashionable than skinny girls with A/B cups, kinda sad tho

[@razym819]

I'm a visual artist, I know a lot about contrast, colors, sizes, balance, layers on and on, but I'm 5'5 so most of the cloth doesn't work at all. I don't even use pants anymore because it makes my legs even smaller, no oversized clothes as well, so with time I just started to use cloth that enhances my body and muscles and some sneakers that i like and mostly mess with the colors

[@littlesnake7318]

Wear clothes for the body I have, not the body I want. I have wide shoulders and solid calves no matter how thin I am. I will never be "skinny", but I can get muscular and lean at best or woman with a Dad-bod at worst. So I work with that. I watch mens fashion channels cause I like the availability of simpler looks and it just fits me better. As a petite but solidly built woman I get mens XS clothes cause it fits so much better and easier to find.

[@nathanschoedl6973]

The skinny bias in fashion has been detrimental to my health. I have been into high fashion since I was like 8 so skinny has been engrained as the ideal body type. Now i’m 21 and am a recovering anorexic, currently at 110lb as a 5’10 guy. There is a lot of shame I feel for being so skinny and wanting to be skinnier, this isn’t what society expects of a man, I should want to be big and strong but ive fallen obsessed to seeing my bones. It is a mental illness, there is so much dissonance in my perception of my body, I know I am unhealthily thin and most all ppl would find how thin I am unattractive. Even I look in the mirror sometimes and am disgusted at my emaciated body but its so hard to stop because loosing weight is something ive become a master a controlling, a constant in my life when other thing feel out of my control. Mens clothes usually dont fit me so i have to wear women’s clothes and even Brandy Melville jeans didn’t fit me at one point. This being said, please be careful if you are tying to lean into the ideal skinny body type, I took it too far and now its extremely hard to come back from.

[@dyshaun08]

I understand you completely. I have body dysmorphia as well. I’ve been a size 28. I’ve been a size 48, I am currently at about a size 40 waist. And the only reason I ever got thin in the first place was to fit high in fashion. I love fashion, but I’m not going to kill myself in the gym anymore. Plus I’m older now and it’s different than when I was in my 20s. Now I just take pleasure in having archive pieces that I can admire.

[@varun009]

I'm so happy being tall and skinny.

[@peritdincer5880]

damn bro lost the gains for the passion, half respect half sad

[@fashionelitist]

When I was 240 clothes only made me look 4x bigger, it was a nightmare

[@peritdincer5880]

@@fashionelitist i imagine a fridge sized man head to toe in black, scary stuff

[@polares01]

"having the confidence in yourself to feel good on how you look day to day before starting loosing weight", this is so true, i lost 23kg last year and that was after going to a therapist, you gotta love yourself to take care of yourself

[@pigeondance]

i feel like the "it's your body" also manifests in fashion in a way that form-fitting, short, cropped and cut-out stuff in considered the most stylish. especially in feminine outfits, people generally prefer the ones that show your legs/shoulders/waist. notice, if you look for cool outfit ideas on the Internet, you really rarely stumble on more covered up, "modest" looks. personally i'm always cold & uncomfortable, and i prefer to stay covered up at all times, but that makes me look worse and less stylish than most people around. idk what to do about that yet 🤷‍♀️

[@musicman12395]

I had to come to terms with this reality when I was younger. I was so obsessed in highschool with the skinny edgy e-boy/emo look that was popularized by the initial rise of modern social media in the early 2010's, what would now be known as TikTok boys. I legitimately starved myself to drop weight and despite going on a liquid only diet for several months the lightest I could ever go was 175lbs, and I was hospitalized shortly thereafter. My body is designed to be bigger, heavier, stronger, I've grown used to that as I've aged and wear things that complement it now but I always feel a little sad whenever I see styles and aesthetics online that I know for a fact will never work for me.

[@omgitsazombielo]

Honestly that skinny bias is the reason i started making my own clothes. Ive got child bearing hips and a curvy frame even at my skinniest. The body measurements turned into patterns, the patterns turned into fabric cutouts and the cut outs turned into new clothes or more tailored favorites

[@armoronline]

Child bearing hips? Hmu bro

[@omgitsazombielo]

@@armoronline sure 😘

[@nah5491]

This is so important! Feeling good BEFORE you start moving towards ANY change in your body. And that no change will “Fix” everything. It makes it easier too(health)

[@Nisom630]

The cool thing about different body types is, if you can't pull off something because of your body, chances are that the person that could pull that off can't pull off what you're currently wearing. Despite the fasion industry's obvious bias, I believe our differences make us stronger. If you're having trouble finding fits that work for you, keep experimenting and don't give up!

[@dva5610]

Lol tell that to Kendall Jenner and that meme of her wearing dad shorts lol

[@Nisom630]

@@dva5610 lmao 🤣

[@AllTheArtsy]

There's fashion. And then there's style. Style wins every time.

[@kieren6900]

My 2c. Support independent fashion designers from your country who make larger sizes and things you like. That’s the coolest stuff

[@marcosfernandez7447]

Great topic, this needs to be addressed more. fashion KZbinrs are great and really expose great brands and outfits that fit THEM. Then some will go out and do the same thing that the industry does and promote their own brand that is made for THEM. Shop for your body type, which is something that I still struggle with

[@erinsymone1645]

I want to send this video to anyone who ever asks me, as a woman, why I am not into fashion and never have been. The reason: I am fat; there is literally no point lol. I learned everything in this video simply by growing up as a chubby girl in the early 2000s. If you are fat, there is simply no point to fashion. It’s only worth it if you are thin.

[@Ali-vx9zf]

I relate to this as a guy. What also bothers me though is the lack of opportunities that come along for people who aren't skinny beyond fashion. Bet you these models get paid good, travel around the world, wear whatever, sponsored by their companies, etc. While most of us with other body types have to work harder and get less opportunities in life in any field. I haven't seen many chubby CEOs, Actors, etc. Always have been kinda friendless, looked at as a slob or a creep which caused me to become a shy anti-social introverted freak or social outcast who can't fit in. So not only can we not dress well, we're perceived negatively now, everything is our fault, nobody likes us, nobody supports us, we're just left in the dust while everyone else keeps running or "walking the runway" forward ig. I don't wanna make it sound like I'm a victim but I'd love to be treated like a human being.

[@benatagan0]

Do you really believe you aren’t a CEO because you are overweight? I understand fashion being inaccessible to you, but the other half of your comment is wrong. Do you really have to work harder to get to where a skinny person is? Do you hear yourself? All models are lucky, they were lucky to be born with the bone structure and other features they have. I think you are blaming your problems on the wrong cause (being fat).

[@Ali-vx9zf]

@@benatagan0 Funny how a guy that doesn't know my life can make comments on it. Well if you must know to make a logical conclusion, most CEOs are over 6 foot for a reason (which I am not btw). Most positions in general which require attention, leadership and spotlight require a person to have a face and body for it. Its why actors are usually good looking, its why CEOs are usually tall, its why models are really skinny. The majority of successful people in professions tend to look good. There's a few places where looks may not matter, such as truck driving, mechanics, plumbing, etc. But yes, I genuinely believe due to my physical limitations, I am unable to reach CEO status. Take a look at most CEOs next time, you'll find a similar pattern that fits the description. I think you fail to understand that most ordinary looking people aren't in the spotlight for a reason.. its because they're ordinary.

[@Ali-vx9zf]

@@benatagan0 The main point being said is pretty much looks matter in the workplace and most parts of life. Its a halo effect thing, even if you are clean and hygienic and fashionable, you might still come across looking like a slob or a creep or a loser, etc. etc.

[@marvin2678]

losse weight and do your health afavour ?

[@Zockanumber1]

As an avid gym goer with a built upper body, 29 inch waist and thicc legs I may look very good with my clothes off but most of fashion is unfortunately just not made for my body type. The baggy pants and boxy top trend is a godsend for me but all stuff that fits closer to the body doesn't work at all

[@mcsc730]

You and me both. Once oversized, wide, baggy, was adjectives to describe clothing. I was happy camper

[@FuzzballSupreme]

You can also buy stylish handmade clothes that are made for your specific measurements. They cost a bit more, but they also last for decades if you take good care of them. In the long you won't have to buy as many clothes, and you'll look better in them than a smaller person who bought their stuff off the rack.

[@nidonidk9765]

So much of high fashion is about idolizing brands, its quite unhealthy. fashion should be about loving your body, not just brands.

[@Durmomo0]

Im a short and often times fat guy who is in a band. I tried and tried to look cool for years and could never pull it off. You are right its my body and even if I was pretty thin my proportions are just bad. Im long torso short limbs which is like the opposite of a cool musician look. Some of that is out of my control so I just focus on looking good and dressing decently well. I have always hated my body though and cannot imagine ever looking 'good' Even when I was a kid I felt very fat, even looking back to like points in school where I was objectively skinny...I always felt so fat. Wouldnt swim out of shame for my body. I doubt I will ever be at a point where I will feel good about myself physically but I can work to at least accept it.

[@DevlVergil]

Beware that the standards in the model/fashion industry regarding weight are far from the western societal beauty standards. Especially as a guy, being skinnier is seen as far less attractive than being on the fatter side. You don't even have to be underweight by BMI standards to be judged as too skinny by society. When it comes to the other side, being above the BMI threshold is still being seen as normal and good weight as a guy despite being overweight in actuality. That's definitely something to consider when deciding to adapt your body to the standards set by the fashion industry because it might negatively affect your perception by society and potential dating partners.

[@wllulu]

Dammm this is a hard choice, I'm skinny and I like fashion but I want a girlfriend too

[@sb91666]

never had problems with people calling me to skinny and i also don´t think it is less atractive, skinny and a bit athletic type is the best imo

[@sb91666]

don´t workout too crazy bro do some abs or sum, where i live muscular guys only get compliments by other dudes who workout, be proud you got that body

[@dark-lord-itachi-gojoofthe6166]

​@@wllulu If you are naturally skinny, even if you go to the gym, you'll stay skinny but with muscle and athletism ,which is very attractive for women most of them prefer a lean athletic body rather than the big muscle gym guy, trust me

[@NF-xy6br]

Is the point not that loving yourself means coming to terms that you do NOT need to aspire to any particular celebrated body type and just...be you? This video's message while well meaning sounds a bit self contradictory

[@kewoncrayton2309]

This was a great video, great analogies and the bit about the individualization of responsibility. It’s insane how people (on socials etc.) will attack anyone who criticizes a CEO or designer even when it’s deserved. And as someone 5’11” - I concur with all you said almost down to the exact sizing. Thank goodness I’m a 10.5 and nothing more, because otherwise I know it could get crazy looking for even basic shoes. As a 32, even, it’s insane to try and find certain pants (shoes) too or other pieces, especially Japanese because 70-80% of the pairs you’ll find will be 27-29. Can find everything in a small or a 7-9, even European designers. Ironically Rick’s frequently elastic waistbands are good pants…but everyone does NOT have $1,000-$600 for pants.

[@melonwaternom]

TAILORING. I think off the rack clothing in set sizes is such a new thing considering the history of clothing, we forget that it’s just not logical that mass produced clothes will fit anyone well. And the wellness industry preys on the fact that we think that we should fit the clothes and not they us… Everyone just wants you to throw cash at symptoms instead of the ‘disease’. I have to say, that I’ve never felt better in my clothes after I started getting them tailored. It’s mostly pants, but it makes such a huge difference. If you know your sizing well enough than you can buy a bigger size where you know that the garment will fit a certain area (let’s say thighs) and then go get the rest tailored to your body. And it should be a totally normal thing to do and not something people consider elitist.

[@makkerfelix]

babe, new fashion elitist vid just dropped

[@Kakohoguya5768]

As a prominently pear shaped girl I stand by every word. I genuenly like myself on a bit thicker side, maybe m-ish (I’m of average height so it’s not that small of a difference) but I know for sure that most of y2k inspo pics are not made for me. And the difference between me and this ideal body type is not drastic, yet it’s still super stiff. Can’t win

[@ritchie130787]

I love this breakdown, as I am in the same position you were in. Very broad shoulders about the 240lbs mark, big chest and bit of a gut. I am getting married and thought I might treat myself to a high end suit and no suits in my budget were anywhere near my size, and just ended up going with a Uk tailoring company instead, which saved a bit of money. They measured me up made alterations etc. for a fraction of the price. I do see both sides of the argument about models being 'skinny'. The clothes are made to be the showpiece and spectacle on the runway, and if the models have any outstanding feature (huge arms, chest, thighs or backside) it will draw attention away from the clothing. I rarely see a runway model and think they have amazing looks, I actually find myself struggling to remember what they look like after the next model has walked and as much as they are celebrated I think their job is to be unremarkable. (I dunno)

[@RoboLenin]

Ok so I 100% agree, the industry is fucked and it is a bummer to try to find things to wear, but as someone who wears a 44-46 inch waist I can say there are brands you can wear that are definitely elevated depending on the aesthetic you want to achieve. Obviously there are some great workwear brands, Rosa Rugosa is personally my favorite in terms of cut. Byborre makes some great clothes that I fit into, bode makes xxl, Harago makes some amazing shirts in different sizing, 18 east makes some amazing clothes overall in in larger sizes, kid super is doing almost all of their collections in xxl, obviously most of these wouldn't be considered strictly "High Fashion" but they make fantastic clothes that let you look good as a big boi. I still want to lose weight obviously but I refuse to look like shit in the meantime.

[@MoshHewson]

I genuinely cried the first time I did a trial fitting for a 17th century doublet that I got made to my measurements, because it fit my back, and didn't have tension on the front of my armpits and pull weird while reaching forwards All my medium to large shirts have torn out armpits and have had to get into wearing 2xl and 3xl shirts just so I can feel comfy not accidentally showing damn near every trait of my body in clothes that should fit a 5"10 dude who rows 1.5 his BW This video is fucking dope and I just FEEL this man

[@HEADASSLOOKINGAHHH]

Years ago i was obsessed with the skinny aesthetic, mostly because during that time a lot of people were into the alternative/emo look which would praise the typical skinny boy look, with chicken legs and small size clothing. I was so obsessed and wanted that look so bad that i lost so much fucking weight, i actually looked unhealthy and, not surprisingly, unhappy. The internet really makes everything much worse because you see all these posts and people praising non realistic and unhealthy looks that really shouldn't be a standard or acceptable in the first place.

[@renardfox328]

I've actually found myself in a similar circumstance in regards to the muscle mass or fashion dichotomy. I've always had an athletic frame with broad shoulders and chest but I enjoyed endurance sports growing up (Cross Country, Tennis, Soccer etc.), and maintained around 10% body fat with lower muscle mass at all times. I never really had to think about clothing cuts/"fits"-- I would just buy a medium and it always "worked." I put on a bit of excess fat in my late 20s during the slim-fit fad and everything looked like shite on me. It hit my confidence pretty bad and woke me up to the concept of clothing "fits." I am almost down to 10% body fat again. However, this last year due to a knee injury I've had to lower my cardio and have increased weight training. Without really trying my delts, chest and biceps have gotten much bigger. I actually don't like it at all. Its impossible to find anything that fits anymore. I hate tight short sleeves, I don't like shirts that hug the chest and stomach. Everything is either too tight and too short, or its too baggy, ill-fitting and frumpy looking. I think I want to lose the muscle mass. I'm sick of having to "worry" much less think about "fit" all the time and how it never seems to work. And I don't even care very much about fashion.

[@ascott2168]

Wear what you feel is comfy ! Style is 1,001 times more important than fashion ! Just look at those folks that just throw on whatever designer outfit and it looks like pure trash on them ! Why? Zero style sense !

[@shamusson]

Having big muscles is a style in itself, and a pretty good one at that

[@Chicken-1923]

Give me your muscles man, that would work 🙏🙏🙏

[@renardfox328]

@@Chicken-1923 That's a great account you got there lol Just get on the sauce and get juiced to the 9's.

[@Chicken-1923]

@@renardfox328 fuck no, i basically watch derek for the tren horror stories and his supraphysiological vocabulary

[@fishcakei7123]

i would find it really interesting if you did a video about dressing while your body is changing. (as in when you are loosing/gaining weight) i have been working harder in the gym, feeling good about my body, but have given up on buying any clothes that fit me well because they are too big within afew weeks-mainly around the waist

[@repvv]

Something thats quite annoying too is the different size systems. I usually wear eu xl and 36’, but whenever i buy something from lets japan with 1/2/3/4/5 sizing i will never know if it will fit since even the same brand will have different sizes depending on the season and year. Its just really annoying to buy clothes when you’re an XL

[@Ocerry1]

About two years ago I was a lot larger than I am now and the final straw for me, that forced me to lose weight was the moment where I ordered a pair of wide cut Ami pants thinking a french "large" would fit me and I was completely unable to close the top button. Shit just destroyed me.

[@Zara-ub7hc]

thats why every clothing site should employ diff kinds of measurements for better user experience. since arbitrary sizes (s/m/l/xl) is not a good indicator especially online international shopping

[@-sueda-]

no, it’s your hair. gorgeous.

[@skepy889]

im 6,1 and 134 pounds and i was always insecure about my body and bullyed about it, but you made me realize im the toxic beauty standard, thank you 😅.

[@TheBiggestMoronYouKnow]

the beauty standard but you don't get treated well ever.... so that's....privilege?

[@grapeape4589]

@@TheBiggestMoronYouKnow The thing is that bullying honestly happens to everyone, I've lived my whole life fluctuating through the highs and lows of body weight and i have been bullied for my weight no matter what that number on the scale said. So its not a great indicator of privilege(that is by no means to say that the original commenter should have their experiences diminished by the fact that they have "skinny privilege")

[@petrichor2973]

Im so jealous wish I had that body

[@robertfcasas]

Sewing machines are an essential household tool. When I finally caved and bought a cheap one, and learned to do some minor alterations, I felt so liberated. I could buy anything in a size up, break it down, and make little tweaks to the fabric to make it fit my size and shape perfectly. Way easier than making new garments from scratch and way cheaper than a tailor. I've since started making my own patterns and bespoke clothes for myself as a craft, which has been so fun and enriching, and it all started there. I know other people here have discussed the process of making your own clothes for the first time, but if you can start by deconstructing or replicating what you already have, you will start to understand fabric behavior and sewing techniques so much more and have a leg up when you want to design your own. Find that one piece that does fit you perfectly and learn to make it yourself.

[@farzana2686]

Dude we have so much in common it’s like this vid was made for me, great video thanks man. I love fashion and I used to strive for a skinny figure but made myself sick, so I started lifting for my health but I’d be lying if it wasn’t for aesthetics too. Before my second ED relapse, I didn’t lift and I became fat again and it kills me inside because I love fashion and the way clothes fit on me when I’m skinny. Now I’m just lifting and eating a lot of protein so I at least have a shot at being lean, and I think clothes would look better on me than before, skinny or fat, with the additional lean mass. I am still just trying to focus on my health first and foremost.

[@angeliek7488]

I’d love for you to make a how to dress with wide shoulders for both masculine feminine and neutral styles where u tell us what type of cuts/ fits would work better!

[@goober3666]

tee hee i cannot even dream about getting into fashion being 2m (6'7 foot i think) tall and having child bearing hips, i have one pair of pants that fit me, i have lost all hope

[@capitantilapia]

I'm the opposite of what you are. I'm 5' 7", 132 lbs, but I was a lot skinnier, like, 10 lbs (which is a lot when you don't have much to being with). All clothes fitted me poorly, I looked sick and weak. To make matters worse, I have broad shoulders, so I can't take the smallest size shirts. The result was that it look good on my shoulders, which is nice, but badly on everything else. That's why I started to lift, so my clothes would fit me better. And then I came up with the same conclusion as you did: If I don't change my body, I will never feel comfortable on clothes, unless I go bespoke, they just weren't made for me. So I took the muscle pill, now I at least fill my shirts and I'm happier.

[@adriantapia5407]

I'm always been skinny and the only clothing that fits me nicely is designer and sadly not cheap

[@lumen1715]

True i only wear Valentino 😔🫤

[@erinsymone1645]

I did do the weight loss thing before giving up on fashion but that backfired so badly and I’m now fatter than I was when I started. Long term calorie deficit did not work for me because of the massive backlash I faced from my body afterward - I was insatiable for months. It’s tough but it was a lesson. Now I just appreciate fashion on other people - my own clothes are boring at best hehe.

[@tessy28]

If you were doing harsh calorie deficit you may have been starving yourself which is detrimental for long term weight loss and maintenance.

[@oscatMeow]

Just a word of advice, maybe not needed if you already know, but you might've gone too hard on the calorie deficit. Sure it'll take much longer with a smaller deficit, but you'd feel not nearly as insatiable and it is much more sustainable long term. Say for example your maintenance calories was around 2800 (the amount to neither gain or lose weight); try eating 2600, ensuring enough fiber which can keep you satiated, or do a fast for the start of the day and eat later in the day. A deficit is a deficit in the end of the day, you are not eating enough to gain weight, so it doesnt matter how much that deficit is (unless you have goal weight by a certain time, like some athletes do). So no need to push yourself long term on say a massive deficit, like in this example going to 1900 or something crazy.

[@LuciiToo]

I appreciated that you approached this in such a well informed healthy way.

[@sl0th259]

Honestly as a lifter I disagree. My personal style is geared towards playing on my body’s strengths and weaknesses. I embrace my body, my size, and most of my fits are supposed to be “badass.” I know thats a corny ass word to use, but if i think something looks “badass” on me, I wear it. I love baggy cargos, combat boots, and more militaristic forms of fashion. A lot of it is influenced by og skinhead/punk fashion, the former being geared towards looking big and mean. Essentially, if you want to have a personal style and be big, you should embrace your size. I think this is definitely true for high fashion and darkwear however. I also do not do this to “scare” people or anything like that. These are just genuinely my tastes.

[@Luhbrudda]

I also have a broader frame. I've been running into the same issues surrounding clothes. Instead of critiquing myself, I choose to have a more balanced relationship with fashion. I think I'm very healthy and looking to accept my body as is and as it changes. Fashion is unfortunately toxic, and while I love it I don't want it to determine how I feel about my body. Dysmorphia is a real issue for men, so please seek help before decision on your well-being for some fabric. Also, I've started buying clothes oversized and getting them tailored down to fit how I want. I have some unique cuts from doing this. This is an especially affordable option if you're thrifting :)

[@ascott2168]

❤❤

[@sleepyboi6245]

Dear doppelgaenger, tysm for existing and being knowledgeable about this stuff. I love how I can coy all these things onto me 1 to 1 frfr

[@falsesenpai]

Loved this video just always really dope to hear you talk and spread positivity that isn't toxic in the fashion community

[@chrissybrownnz]

As a short curvy woman, there's so much fashion that i just cannot wear but I've found myself a uniform of style that suits my body and tend to shop a lot of local NZ fashion designers that do have inclusive sizing.

[@waphuls5561]

Thank you for this video. I’ve slowly realised this over the past few years but I thought it was just me and my weird body. Even as a 5’2 woman who wears a smaller size than average it’s really a gamble when buying any clothes, especially pants, because there’s no guarantee they will fit on the body well. Usually the sizes (even the smaller ones like XS) are made for absolute giants and I end up having to turn up my pants so they don’t drag on the floor and get dirty, but then it ruins the original shape of them. I don’t consider myself as having wide hips, they’re quite moderate, but I’m also not streamlined like a model, so the ass on pants (jeans especially) can be way too tight yet brands that cater to “curvy” bodies are far too big so it looks like I’m wearing a diaper. Sure, I can return stuff and get my money back but I can’t just buy 1 item, I have to make a whole day of it and specifically scour multiple brands to check if they’re affordable and carry exactly what I want. Like cmon I just want pants.

[@Enderknight1024]

I’ve found surprising success with YSL items as someone who wouldn’t be as traditionally ideal for it. (For reference 5’11-6ft not entirely sure which and 175-180) I know I’m not super crazy size wise but from what I’ve found getting your body fat percentage down seems to help. My shoulders and quads are still sometimes something that clashes tho. I’d say look around and you might find some pieces that work for you but yeah definitely certain designers are a lot harder to find good fitting clothes in.

[@noir9445]

You can’t expect ready to wear to fit everyone. That’s what tailoring and pattern grading is for. Also just because a standard size Medium is used to make one sample I doesn’t mean clothes will not be made in other sizes. You are correct traditional European designers fit smaller bodies. That is because it is hard for such a huge industry to adapt to the changes in sizes society has had in the last few decades. Now we’re bigger than we used to be. You are also right it is frustrating to shop in Japan especially for Americans. We are much larger. We all just have to find the right fit if that is really important. There is also hope, newer dress forms are more realistic now. I think you are referring to older standards in couture. Now there are dress forms that are more muscular and even curvier. It all depends on the brand It is exhausting, but you just have to find the right design and style for you. Like I said, ready to wear is not going to fit everyone perfectly. This is for mass production.