Q&A answering your questions

[@vanessssam]

The fact that brogan filmed anything in that q&a is wild to me he must really love you

[@Kandi_Baby]

He’s such a good guy

[@yasminmcclinton9645]

This is all true but I feel like comments like this can be good and bad and also make Judea feel like she isn’t valid in her decision in wanting to not get back with Brogan… many things can be true at once. Brogan can love her very much and be a great guy and Judea is still allowed to decide this is still not a suitable relationship for her right now.

[@Itsjudeaaa]

Thank you for saying this x

[@jackmovick9116]

@@yasminmcclinton9645you can love someone and not want to be with them or for it to not feel right, as you suggested so maybe that’s what the first commenter meant…..

[@susansuarez343]

@@jackmovick9116Yes. Just because you love someone doesn’t mean that you are with them. I found this out myself so I know it’s true. 0:01

[@littlemermaid2]

You broke my heart when brogan said yes but you said no 😢😢😢

[@stewiecountry]

Wow, Judea! Your raw honesty and transparency are just astounding! I have no doubt that you are really helping other people by sharing your introspection and openness on such complex and personal topics. Every time I see you, I just want to give you a big hug!

[@tess9652]

Very well said 😊

[@Itsjudeaaa]

That is so kind x thank you

[@kmw97]

I absolutely 💯 agree and always have!! This is why I fiercely protect and defend her when people are nasty. Almost to the point I feel bad for bringing "drama" to her space but I can't stand the people who are so nasty when she REALLY doesn't have to share any of this with us!

[@Jaz_min_11]

⁠​⁠@@kmw97 I 100% agree too, and 100% agree with your comment also ☺️ Good on you for sticking up for her! I know it bothers the heck out of me too when I see people leaving nasty comments! I’ve felt compelled to come to her defence as well. Keep being awesome 😊

[@J-ok550]

Honesty and transparency? She is a disgusting narcissist who throws little hints or clues at us, continues to bring up the split between her and her husband, then has the mother f*ing nerve to tell a viewer that what happened between them is none of their business and she will never tell us. So then b>txh, how about shutting the f up about it? You f ing narcissist

[@sallylees467]

I like that Brogan still finds the "one reason" to try make it work. People like this are the best

[@sophiej882-k9h]

Can tell Brogan still loves you. Hope your co parenting relationship gets better as time goes on

[@lindageorge6174]

You and Brogan make gorgeous babies, but that's a no brainer, you are both very good looking people! I hope you and Brogan can work it out to be together as a forever family! That's awesome that you and Brogan can calmly co-parent with respect! 💞

[@brennapetersen8522]

You're basically my big sister at this point. Thank you again for being so transparent. You are such a good mother to your children and the fact that you are so self-aware and always trying to get through life the best way you can is amazing. Your videos have most certainly changed my life❤

[@Itsjudeaaa]

🥹🫶🏽

[@selbee9025]

I never wanted 2 people to get back together than I want that for you and Brogan… I really pray you can find each other again because the love between you is so obvious

[@susansuarez343]

People (family/friends/co-workers or anyone) don’t need to treat you like you’re in a permanent state of mourning but they do need to acknowledge that your grief is forever a part of everything you do & be okay giving a bit of space for that. This was from a Mother who had lost her baby girl & I felt that it was a great way to let everyone know how her grief is in her day to day life. I think that it fits with you Judea so I wanted to share this with you because in my opinion it’s exactly how your grief is about Noah-Lee & she is a part of everything you do & I have always admired your love for her & in all the ways you make time for her. The way you express your love & loss about Noah-Lee is profoundly honourable to me & I hope if you read this that you will agree. Sending you a big hug 🫂♥️🇨🇦 0:01

[@melaniegates39]

I know you aren't thinking of dating, but have you considered dating (like actual dates) Brogan? He seems like he is open to being with you. Maybe dating would remind you of why you fell in love with him in the first place. The rare moments he is in your vlog, I feel like there is so much love still there and this limbo phase can't last much longer. You're soon going to have to either work on being together or be okay with him moving on. P.S. Of course, we only see snippets and have no idea what the rest of the time is like, so I may be way off base with everything I think I see between you. I'm just hoping for peace and happiness for you, or at least peace and not unhappiness.

[@Jeo-x3]

Agreed. I think they can heal and fall in love each other again 🤍

[@denisejeffery3602]

​@Jennifer-ho5wk we can all think what we like BUT we don't know why they separated in the 1st place ,it's a very personal topic that has nothing to do with us ,the reason is their's to know ,I think its beautiful that they can Co parent so well together. They have placed the children first and foremost. ❤

[@alexrydercarter]

You don’t think she has thought of this? Her ideal life is a family with a mum and a dad, so there is definitely a bunch of stuff that we don’t know.

[@sarahj30]

Yes! Speaking from experience, my husband and I dated again after separating. My entire first pregnancy was spent falling back in love with my children’s daddy and I wouldn’t change that. It took effort but it turned into the most beautiful chapter of our lives.

[@rr12766]

Women don't just emotionally cheat for no reason, something wasn't being met and although she loves him she probably knows she could do it again. Also once that boundary has been crossed it can open doors for the other partner to also cheat, that just creates a really anxious relationship

[@bekahmorgan3986]

JUDEA ❤ I watch your videos when I need motivation as a single mother to a three year old and being currently pregnant with my second. You uploaded just when I needed another pick me up, and I made lunch while watching this. You are so appreciated in more ways than you realize!

[@margauxevans4298]

You will never stop raising your children but I pay your home isn't empty in 18 years Judea. Listening to you speakers makes me fear for your mental health in the future. We want u to love yourself. ❤️ and be happy in this life. Even if all you know of yourself right now is your an amazing mother. Just never stop believing that. ❤

[@Jaz_min_11]

Oh my gosh, Ever’s chattiness puts the biggest smile on my face 😁 I don’t think I’ve ever heard a baby as vocal as her at that age. Soooo cute!! 🥹🩷

[@Itsjudeaaa]

She is SO talkative I bet she’ll be chewing my ear off in no time 🤭

[@Jaz_min_11]

@@Itsjudeaaa How precious… such a happy baby 🥰

[@delphinium5555]

Awww, Brogan. Beautiful response.. He truly is a wonderful man.

[@WldFlwrNBrmstks]

I'm still holding out a lot of hope for you two. I hope one day your family can be complete again (hearing "divorce" really broke my heart :,( ) but if that does not come to pass, I hope you both stay as committed to raising your children together as you are now (I have no doubt that will happen) but I wish you both well. Your children have the best parents :)

[@Opinionakadatruth]

Gosh Ever is seriously a doll, she is literally one of the most beautiful babies I have ever seen

[@myboyzr2]

Judea, I’ve been here since the beginning. I only want the best for you and your family. I’m so happy that you and Brogan are parenting together. You both deserve happiness and peace. You are so worth it!

[@susant236]

Putting makeup on while holding a squirming baby! Now that is awesome multi-tasking! I would certainly have jabbed myself in the eye. Judea, I'm in awe about how willing you are to be vulnerable. I hope the positive and supportive feedback far outweighs the negative or difficult. So many people seem to feel a need to know very personal details or make all sorts of assumptions about you and Brogan and don't hesitate to express all that. It must be so hard for you. 😢 It is good that you are being very thoughtful and intentional about how best to raise the children with parents living apart. It will take sacrifice and hard work, but doing your best for them is HUGE and trying to find ways to be united for them will truly help your children be happy. As for time with Echo, his world is expanding with the arrival and presence of his baby sister, he is blessed to have her and love her. His bond with you is deep and as Ever grows, I think you will be better able to find the quality time with him that you miss. Ever's little voice sounds like Echo's voice! ❤️❤️❤️

[@Itsjudeaaa]

Thank you xxx

[@aheartfornature1246]

Hi Judea, thank you for being so raw and honest and unapologetic about your grief. You are a breath of fresh air. Relationships are messy, you cause harm and you are harmed. I will always love the father of my son but we are not together anymore. What we once were, we are no longer. For myself, after years now I can breathe a little easier and feel like myself again. The pain, grief and damage remains, it coexists with everything else. I don't know what the future holds, but I know when the breath leaves my lungs, my last thoughts belong to him and our son. Giving you a warm and tight hug🤍💙💜

[@Itsjudeaaa]

🥺🥺🥺 your last line 😫❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

[@aheartfornature1246]

@@Itsjudeaaa My son died 20 years ago. We separated 10 years ago. People say time heals all wounds but for me time is the wound. All that life that wasn't lived, all the experiences he couldn't make. Every day I long for my boy. My soul searches for him all the time...

[@CarolineJuneee]

I was so surprised Brogan featured in the video. That says alot about the love and respect he has for you. Whatever will be, will be but i hope you find your peace along the way. You deserve daily joy

[@ro143cky]

I’m rooting for you so hard mama ❤ this is a difficult season in your life peppered with sooo many blessings. Go easy on yourself and take it day by day. It will get better 🙏🏼

[@jazijuven]

You really need to forgive yourself. We have all mad mistakes that we are not proud of trust me but not forgiving yourself will keep you from your true happiness. Don’t let the darkness of the forest block you from the sunlight of the spirit. Your children can still have the family you have always dreamed of mama. With love all things are possible. The enemy wants to keep your family broken he wants you guys separated don’t let him win. Don’t give up on your guys relationship mama fight like hell for it. Forgiveness and Love mama. You guys deserve to give it a fighting chance. If he could look at you with love and forgiveness that tells you that you there is nothing you have done to change his heart. You are an amazing women give yourself grace. Don’t give up ! We aren’t perfect we never will be . I will pray for you guys and your family..

[@TrueFan4EverBACK]

You take the comments and questions about you and Brogan better than I could. I think as long as you both co-parent well that is enough. Everything else that is private to you both is such for a reason. And if you said no it’s for a reason. Wish the best for you both :)

[@margauxevans4298]

Hes totally still gonna be there when/ if your ready I just hope of it's written in the starts u don't wait too long and he's forced to move on. Whatever happens I juts want u to be happy. But Brogs response was the sweetest ❤

[@annaliselovett]

“You don’t wait long & he’s forced to move on” weird comment to make on someone’s situation you know nothing about.

[@sarahj30]

That was a totally common sense thing to say. No one will wait in limbo forever. People just want to pick others apart in the comment section.

[@barbaraurquhart3190]

You're doing a great job Judea. You and Brogan will figure it out. I hope all goes well with everything. ❤

[@krystalynnemarie1262]

you are soooo real, ugh i love you so much!

[@Itsjudeaaa]

🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽

[@glamby.reinaa4351]

This really hits differently. I’ve followed your page from the beginning, and after being off social media for a while, coming back to see this breaks my heart for you both. Congratulations on the new baby, and I’m glad to see dad is still part of the picture. Not every family is fortunate to have both parents. You two are handling it so well, and I really have to give you credit. As a mom myself, I know it’s the hardest job in the world-physically, emotionally, and mentally. Some of the comments I’ve read are so upsetting. However you choose to handle things, it’s between you both, whether or not you decide to share it with us. None of us is perfect. I’ve been with my partner for six years, and I’m not trying to justify anything, but motherhood changes everything-your relationship, the people around you, even how you feel overall. Many people disconnect without realizing it. I reached a point in my relationship where, even though he was physically present, he felt absent, if that makes sense. As mothers, we often need love and attention, and when we don’t get it, we might start seeking it elsewhere. It doesn’t excuse anyone’s actions, but if you’re not a mother, it’s hard to fully understand.

[@Itsjudeaaa]

I hear you 🫶🏽 Appreciate this comment x

[@jackmovick9116]

Thanks for being so honest. I’m also so sorry that you’re not happy. It’s a time in your life where having a new baby as mothers we should feel happy but it’s so complex isn’t it. Then throw in relationship dynamics and having a baby after loss. ❤

[@Itsjudeaaa]

🤍🤍🤍

[@mypathunfolding]

Two thoughts on your question about continuing therapy (from, full disclosure, a therapist): Make sure to tell your therapist directly if you want more or different outcomes from your sessions. If you’ve done that, you certainly don’t need to bring it up more than twice (we are human!), and feel free to pause therapy or try someone new who specializes in helping you achieve what you want. Second, sometimes we do need to change therapists to get different results. Having watched your videos from the beginning, I see that you are capable of doing your own thing, as you mention, and that may include times with outside help, and times without. Supporting you in making your own decisions and the boundaries you set with your viewers. ❤

[@Itsjudeaaa]

Appreciate this advice! X thank you

[@mypathunfolding]

@@ItsjudeaaaYou’re welcome!

[@debralanguet4951]

Judea ,I pray 🙏 to God that you and Brogan can work things out together and be a forever family 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️ You can really tell that he still loves you! Much love and prayers from Debra in Maine 🫶🍁🍂

[@tiegz9770]

You and Brogan have been through more than any parents ever should. It makes sense that the two of you have grown apart through it all. I wish you both the best

[@LauraH..]

Ever is giving me major baby fever ❤ the coos made my heart so happy! What a chatty little gurl

[@vbuzani79]

I love your Blouse ! It’s so cute and simple . Sending love you and your beautiful family 🤩🫶🏻

[@Itsjudeaaa]

Thanks! It’s just from Glassons x

[@moneeshasagapolutele2139]

Praying for the restoration of your marriage. It looks like there is still a lot of love there so I’m hopeful for you both! Sending love ♥️

[@AidaWelde]

I am so inspired by you as a mother. You are so patient and calm with your children. I try to channel your energy with my own daughter ❤

[@Itsjudeaaa]

This is always the biggest compliment ever 🥹😍

[@onefamilyunderthesun7796]

I recently saw Ever as a name on it's own on an online list so it's definitely there. It's funny because from the outside looking in it's so easy to wish you and Brogan would get back together. However as someone who's relationship has been all over the place for 17 years I completely understand how you could choose not to get back together. I hope you both find happiness and most of all that the children can grow up with a stable family watch is completely possible apart. Have you ever looked into nesting? It's when the kids have one home and the parents are actually the ones who go back and forth not the children. So say you got to the stage with Brogan where you did week on week off care. On his week with the kids he would live at the house with the kids and on your week with the kids you live there with them. On your weeks without the kids you have other accommodation weather it's staying with family or your own place. It sounded insane to me at first but as someone who's raised kids both in a family home with both parents together and in a home where the parents are not together, I truly believe if the adults can be adults and always out their children's needs above their own then this is the best scenario for the children in split homes. There would have to be strict rules about bringing others into the kids home too and it should always be respected as their home. Anyway it's just an idea for the future if you haven't thought of it .

[@Itsjudeaaa]

I love this idea!!

[@wakeup4595]

"Sometimes" I hope that there is hope to try one day.

[@lauriecraddock9677]

I’m from the United States, and I love your accent, you sound so elegant when you speak. So true, about pulling energy out from somewhere, you just have to keep going. I have five children so I can really relate to this.

[@candilease938]

Hi judea ….i just want to say you’re an inspiration! You’re an absolutely amazing beautiful mama and I hope you know that! Your strength shines thru the screen no matter how broken you may have felt and still feel. I pray for your happiness and fulfillment I pray that life brings you all that you could possibly need to feel whole. You truly deserve so so much! I don’t know what went on between yourself and your ex husband but regardless of that pleas remind yourself that …that’s the past! You cannot redo it, but you can let time heal your wounds and move forward as best you can. I think you’re doing amazing! And I hope you can see the progress and also know how much u inspire so many! God bless!

[@Itsjudeaaa]

🥺🥹

[@shanlon3213]

I hope you find the happiness you are missing. Have you tried a gradiitude journal? Did you loose your happiness after noahs passing? Do you think echo and ever can feel your unhappiness? You deserve to be happy, may you find that peace within.

[@andmar5]

After I lost my daughter I have had a hard time going back to church. I was raised Catholic and I prayed the rosary and prayed everyday for my daughter. The day she passed it hasn't been that way for me anymore. It's been 4 years and people are always on my case about going back to church and praying. I wish they understood my point of view. So I get you in many ways. Also, I hope you find your happiness one day. Regardless of everything, you deserve it and I wish the health and happiness of your children.

[@yovanaunocc7050]

You are an amazing mother, makes me sad that you are not happy😢 you deserve the best in life.

[@bacchusbuster94]

I love your vlogs! But I hope you can find happiness! I think you’re such a beautiful person and you deserve to forgive yourself. I also love how honest and soft spoken you are!

[@tess9652]

You have such a beautiful voice, i could listen to you all day. God bless you an your family. 😊❤

[@DanielleDeniseYT]

I agree!

[@Itsjudeaaa]

So funny I’ve always disliked my voice 🤭

[@tess9652]

@@Itsjudeaaa Don't because it's beautiful...

[@kylaleemclean]

Proud of you for being so open and honest ✨ your doing great babe xx

[@Itsjudeaaa]

🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽

[@aSoldiersGirlieGirl]

I’ve followed from the beginning. I’m aware of every video you’ve ever posted❤ I also know you struggle with wanting to be open and also wanting to be private. And that’s human. You may be wanting badly to let it all out because it helps so much. And since you’re not feeling that therapy is working for you for various reasons, even just letting it out could help much more….but reality is, the internet could be forever and people can be affected by what is posted in lots of ways for a long time. This doesn’t just affect you. Your story is also layered in trauma and tragedy. Your wounds have never been healed, and some may never be. Just because one can make it through a day and have their life move from the moment a tragedy occurs doesn’t mean they are “better”. Not finding a way to fully cope or understand or heal obviously causes people to live their lives in different ways. Each decision they make affects the next and spouses and children in the mix makes it further complicated because they also have needs and wants and it is no longer just you that you have to worry about or live for or function for….id imagine that there are very deep wounds and I’d imagine that you take on a large amount of guilt for a lot of reasons surrounding several pivotal, life changing occurrences you’ve experienced. I think you may not feel worthy of having a life. This doesn’t not mean you didn’t want your children or want to have your life with them. This is deeper than that kind of stuff. But those feelings have caused the domino effect that has brought you to your current life stage. And this is not placing it all on you. Each action by each person has a reaction then action and so on. I guess what I’m trying to say without you feeling like I’m analyzing you, because I’m not outside of coming from a place of care, is that this is not just as simple as “I made a mistake and I’m sorry and he’s sorry and let’s get back to the way it was”. I get it. And we only know a fraction of what you both have shared and even that is not our business besides the surface of what you have shared. With what I see and what you’ve both shared, I do hope that you’d be able to create a relationship again beyond what you have at this moment-whatever that may be for the both of you and the babies. ❤

[@Mishelle294]

You two are meant to be. It's just matter of time...time to heal, to forgive, to let pride go.. i cant wait to see you two together again...❤ Oh, and you're beautiful ❤️

[@suekay677]

7:28 I don't really we need to know the reason/s either... but dayum.. I love how civil the two of you are together 👌🏽 niiiiiiccee

[@lifewithlacy7190]

Judea that was a wonderful q&a. Ever is growing so fast. The pictures of you and her were absolutely stunning. But then again you always look so stunning in your photoshoots. You should have definitely been a model. Ever is going to be beautiful just like you. You are rocking this mom life. Sending you all of my love from Texas.

[@Itsjudeaaa]

Aw thank you xx I’m glad you enjoyed it Soooo special to have photos with my baby girl 🥰

[@annmarie2125]

In the nicest possible way, I hope by you saying you won’t get back with brogan that you won’t regret that decision if he decides to move on?

[@Green3g]

This :( . I think it'll be a shock and possible too late if judea changes her mind. But I'm not in their shoes and whatever decision it becomes, I only wish them peace in that choice. Peace is everything.

[@annaliselovett]

The thought of brogan being with someone else wouldn’t be a good enough reason to just “get back together” things are more complex then oh I better get back together incase there’s another woman. Doesn’t work like that

[@robynconnor489]

I have to say brogan saying sometimes and you saying no was a little sad 😢 whatever has happened I hope you can find a way to forgive and let him back in to rebuild the relationship and family again 😢

[@meganstummer5671]

I was surprised it was a No for Judea 😔 I was thinking it would be Maybe for both. It's crazy how it's not my business at all yet I'd love to see the family together

[@abbeyrose1771]

Why would she need to forgive lol she’s the one that cheated

[@brennapetersen8522]

​@@abbeyrose1771 she didn't cheat??

[@dhall75608]

@@brennapetersen8522 she did though, she talked about it a little in a video a little bit ago.

[@abbeyrose1771]

@@brennapetersen8522 yes she did she admitted it and then deleted the videos

[@Raumatijd]

What’s worked for me when getting to the plateau point in therapy was a time to have a chat with my therapist about possible endings, or making new goals etc. if there is an issue in the relationship with the therapist you can look deeper into that as it can be helpful to shift anything not working currently. If you’ve done some great work with them then maybe it’s just your bit for a while then check in after two weeks or a month. You could also look for someone else, it depends what u might be looking for. There are different modalities of therapy, different types of trained therapists, nothing wrong with switching to another . Just my feelings

[@Happyinmyautotrail]

Beautiful and honest. God I’m rooting for you both though. To see his lovely face appear on the vlog. The way he always looks at you and always has. Just a good man and I really hope you find each other again. Once there was you two only… you had great love…. It isn’t surprising that you encountered problems when your beautiful baby passed. So much hurt. Somewhere the love must be there

[@skylarberry3754]

I'm so curious about how when you asked if you would be getting back together you said a solid no and he said sometimes, ans that you can't agree on that. Why was your no so solid?

[@adventuresofSho]

She is the cheater. So it’s confusing she won’t take him back.

[@annaliselovett]

She’s sharing what she wants to share, your coming off nosey ❤

[@unknownnumberNA]

@@adventuresofSho The fact that he wants to go back with her is confusing

[@mirandadansby]

All we actually know is that she made a mistake that initiated the separation. We have no idea what had happened leading up to that time between them that may have created certain feelings or what has gone on since that could have been hurtful or damaging to the way they felt about each other. People are making a lot of assumptions after basically reading the synopsis on the back of a book when there's a whole novel worth of information we don't have. And rightfully so as it's none of our business. Obviously other things have happened that have altered how she feels and her feelings are valid and should be respected. All these comments about why they should or shouldn't want each other back are unkind since we don't know the whole story. All we should do is wish happiness for all 4 of them in whatever form is healthiest and right for their family.

[@adventuresofSho]

@@unknownnumberNA so there was a blind item about her on a forum. She was emotionally cheating and bad mouthing him to another man. It wasn’t physical cheating

[@wadamonsuchiang3964]

I just love your videos although I'm not a mother (yet). Honestly though I have never prayed for anyone to get back together like I have for you and Brogan however,God willing of course.❤ Lots of love and prayers for your family Judea .

[@Itsjudeaaa]

🥹🤍🤍🤍

[@deborahlamartiniere6349]

Hi from Louisiana, I am a Mother of 3 Girl, boy, girl all grown now with children of their own at 71 I still worry about them in cars, on planes on jobs but your time right is so sweet and hard at the same time, well tha's how it was for me. Wishing you well always. Deborah

[@lexismom9341]

Love you and your little family, Judea!

[@donatakolbenheyer8708]

I think Judea is connecting Brogan with the passing of her daughter. It def affected their relationship and lots of trauma caused her to look at their relationship not the same ….

[@emmahunt9279]

It blows my mind the amount of people in the comments who feel they are entitled to know why Judea needed forgiveness, or why Judea and Brogan haven’t got back together. Not to mention the assumptions and accusations, one commenter even brought up sex life! We see 5% of Judea’s life. She has been so open about a lot of her journey, but some things should stay private. Just because someone posts on social media doesn’t mean you get a free pass into every detail in their life. You have no idea how these people feel behind closed doors and to say why don’t you just get back together - it isn’t as easy as that!

[@taramorris4722]

It took me 3 years to feel like i’m finally benefiting from therapy . I’m seeing a trauma specialist and it’s been helpful ❤

[@Jade-ld3kd]

The both of you are amazing people who each have a beautiful aura,wishing you both all the best

[@austejamazeikaite2041]

I understand that everything is complicated and i also didn't saw video about ypur separation before it was deleted ,but from one side you sayibg that you can't forgive yourself that your family is separated and then to the question if you two ever comming back together is you that choose to say "no" and Brogan sayed "maybe someday" or smth like it. So from here it looks that is your decision to make if you will get back to be family in a way that you imagined. Horewer I am sensing that is smth that we don't know (or I because i didn't saw that video ) that holds you up from wanting to come back with him together ,something that you can't forgive him and not yourself .in your last video I was kinda worried about you ,you seem so broken/sad/tired,but at least you was self aware of it and searching ways how to make yourself feel better again.First time i heard about SIDS ,I was accually pregnant with my first child and accually accidentally came accros your videoand more or less I was following you since then.Even got a "SNOO" basinet for my second child with first i just couldn't afford it at that time and she came a bit earlier then planned.I wish you all the best ,maybe will sound strange would like to hug you,not that it would fix anything for you,but maybe for a split of second you would feel a bit better. And it seems that you are beeing so so very hard on yourself ,i understand that you see a lot reasons for that ,but in same time we see that you love your all children and care for all of them,somwhow I wish you could just see yourself from side a bit and then feel less "failing" in that-i mean when hou talk about stuff that you used to do for Noah and now not doing enough .

[@Namanzw]

I think it’s important for the kids 4 there parents t b together personaly. Things can be worked through when there’s love there

[@reneewhite5203]

Love the raspberries at the end of the vid 🥹💞💞💞

[@Lydt95]

I hope some day soon you will be truly happy, as much as you can be on this earth. You deserve happiness, despite anything that’s happened. We’re only here once, I hope you can forgive yourself, I’m sure your children would want that for their Momma xx

[@homemadehope]

First comment yay! You got this mama bear! ❤ xx

[@RoliePole.e]

Being in therapy for 5 years and going to school for child psych I know that if you aren’t benefiting from it it’s the therapist responsibility to send you off wether that’s to another counselor or on your own but you have to tell your therapist these things. It’s also your responsibility to not waste time energy money etc on therapy if you can spend that time energy and money on something that is ACTUALLY benefiting you. Talk to your therapist about her thoughts on how you feel and your thoughts as well as what’s next for you both. Its okay to break up with your therapist as well when the time calls

[@CorinaArreguin]

I really wish that you would be more open to getting back together with the father of your young babies. The father that you chose to give them. If you were in a completely toxic relationship and Brogan did something completely unforgivable, I understand, but for some reason Brogan doesn’t give me the impression of a bad person or a douche bag. I might be wrong but I would definitely balance his good and bad. I wouldn’t be surprised that the good would outweigh the bad. But you only know what life was with him.

[@beccac6812]

I think if you hit a wall in therapy I think the key is to figure our what your goal is in going , if it’s changed then you may need to talk to the therapist about that or even find another one that focuses on what you’re currently working on

[@laurasiegal3]

Forgiving what? 💔 what did you do to him? So sad to see such a beautiful family torn apart. I’m praying you will heal and be a family again one day! You can overcome these things together.. Too many families are torn apart these days… we have to fight harder for each other…..

[@nerddom-square]

I know you gave a definite "no" and I believe you. However, time can heal wounds and open hearts, and I still have hope that you two will reunite one day.

[@Serendipity86UK]

I'm so confused. You say 'no' to thinking about getting back together and he says 'sometimes'.... But you clearly love each other so much, you've found the separation difficult, and you want you children to grow up with mum and dad in the house together, as a family.... So how comes you don't want to try and work through your problems and get back together? Sorry, I really don't know how else to ask that, and I know really it's none of my business, but I guess watching your journey for so long, I am still somewhat invested in your personal life, if that makes sense. I hope for the best for you all, ya know? Also, I'm sorry to hear that you're not happy. Life can be really hard, and you've both been through so much. You're an amazing, kind, honest, beautiful soul and I hope you do get to a point where you're happy more times than you're not

[@littlemermaid2]

She does look confusing isn't she.

[@mr6892]

Im a trauma informed therapist, and have noticed that clients who have not responded well to traditional therapy treatment will respond better to somatic treatment, such as EMDR and brainspotting therapy.

[@chanz187]

Judea never feel like you have to Justify your self to anyone on here with there negative comments, I bet there back yards aren’t half as tidy.. some people like to make others feel shit when there own lives aren’t happy.. your a beautiful person a beautiful mum you and Brogan are amazing parents.. 🤍🤍🤍

[@kaithoward2327]

I’m really proud of you and hope the best for you daily. As for therapy I found better help in specific book or audiobooks tailored to my concerns, after therapy plateaued. I have been considering a new therapist to work on a few things though

[@Itsjudeaaa]

I’ve only read a couple books, my dr also recommended podcasts and female rage music 🤭

[@knyxnori798]

do you think you will ever re-upload any of your old videos? i loved going back and watching them even as background noise 😅❤

[@bekmartini1631]

You so so so deserve to be happy

[@KarronAngel]

This is one strong lady/mother in my eyes xxxxxxxxxxx

[@Keine_alte_Sabine]

I don't want to be too personal, but I hope so much that you can forgive yourself, whatever it was. You would want your children to forgive themselves if they make mistakes ❤️‍🩹☺️

[@adventuresofSho]

It was already a blind item. She was texting another guy. There you go.

[@samanthapolanco9039]

This. She’s so beautiful and worthy of everything and I wonder if this is why she won’t get back with him due to maybe not feeling worthy of his love idk but even if I’m way off I just want to hug her and tell her how worthy she is. We are all human we all make mistakes. I feel like she feels guilty for so much. Like she can’t enjoy life because her little one passing. Then you have her having to grieve a relationship and what life would look like. Kills me if the amount of pain she feels. Makes me sad cause the amount on her shoulders no one should have to bare. She puts so much on herself. Idk. Maybe I’m wrong but her pain kills me cause no one sees her that way. Makes me sad because she mentioned growing up Mormon so idk if that’s where that pressure she puts on herself comes from but regardless of what she thinks Jesus loves her dearly and she does not have to carry all that weight. I pray she gets to a point that she lets everything go and just looks to changing her future one day at a time without any weight and just peace. Her PAST does not define her. nor does Brogan‘s past defined him, and that both of them will either come together and grow for kiddos because I feel like she’s like grieving a life and she’s still got so much to life for. She just has to forgive herself and it just makes me sad for her and she mentioned a previous video that it doesn’t really matter what we tell her deep down she still feels this way, which is something that she has to work on herself, I just wanna hug her and tell her that is it is OK and truly she doesn’t have to carry the weight of the world

[@abbeyrose1771]

She talked about it before she probs got embarrassed and deleted it, she cheated on him

[@kelly9714]

@@samanthapolanco9039 👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼 Every single word you’ve wrote here is what I also believe. Whilst everyone is shocked she said ‘no’ I honestly believe it’s because she cannot forgive herself 😞 She doesn’t feel worthy anymore.. You couldn’t have said it better. I really hope she learns to overcome her current trauma and struggles 🙏🏼🙏🏼 Judea is a beautiful soul. And one thing is certain, she is so hard on herself and has no self worth anymore 💔 She is a wonderful mother, and I pray she finds peace in life 🙏🏼🩷🩷🩷🩷

[@CorinaArreguin]

@@abbeyrose1771what! No way

[@gracebarbosa5528]

I pray every day that you both get back together if it’s a healthy loving relationship.

[@sinelizwinkwali9845]

Guys I'm confused, what happened to Brogan that he needed to forgive Judea for?

[@J-ok550]

You are confused because this narcissist keeps playing little mind games with her audience. She'll throw little remarks about the situation and then tell viewers it's not their business. True narcissist. She pretends to be a private person but told the world that brogan is infertile.

[@minigirl6839]

​@J-ok550 If he's infertile, how did they create three children? I recall them saying they thought he was, but apparently, that's not the case ? I believe Noah-Lee and Ever were conceived naturally and maybe did IVF with Echo? Did I misunderstand the story?

[@minigirl6839]

It's my understanding that Judea was texting someone and Brogan found out about it. She said it wasn't a physical affair, but an emotional betrayal in her eyes. It seems Brogan is willing to forgive her, but she's not ready to forgive herself. That's my observation anyway.

[@J-ok550]

@minigirl6839 yes you missed the part where she said they had MALE FERTILITY ISSUES. watch it again.

[@J-ok550]

@minigirl6839 she's just a dramatic narcissist who knows ows she'll get more views if she's single

[@sallylees467]

Your house and fashion is AMAZING!

[@Itsjudeaaa]

Aw thank you!!

[@lunanuna1041]

if i’m not mistaken Judea did share in a video the reason of their separation or at least one of the reasons. However, the video has since been taken down.

[@sarahnorthagen8734]

Are they divorced now? What a beautiful family...i wish them the best in whichever way they move forward. They obviously will have a good relationship together or co-parenting and their kids are so lucky. As they get older they will want their parents to be happy however that looks-together or not.

[@LLinFaith]

Ever sounds just like Echo ❤❤ I do have a question about you and Brogan... i know you dont really want to share the reasons why you are separated. We all know what happened, and its so beautiful to see that he has forgiven you. But can you share at least a bit of it? It might be non of our business, its just a genuine question. He seems to still love you alot. So its, for me at least, kind of confusing.

[@steff6682]

This is so confusing. You say you don’t want to get back together, brogan says he does? You say you don’t want a broken home and want to raise them together but you won’t get back together? Makes nonsense

[@Lindylindyh]

Almost seems like not everything in life is black and white huh.. this video wasn’t confusing at all and I don’t think it’s for us to ‘understand’.

[@Itsjudeaaa]

Snap sister x

[@mayraortega9595]

My bf and I recently got engaged after 13 years. We got together at 15 and I broke up with him at 22years old. We took 3 years apart and then decided to try again. The break up was never because I didn’t love him,but i definitely felt that needed some growing. In the midst of our breakup, we were able to be friends and he didn’t feel resentful. I knew at the time that I didn’t want anything with him and he was always hopeful of us even if I said no many times. However I knew deep inside that I really loved him, but now wasn’t the time. Whatever happens between you and brogan, I wish you two the best 💕

[@charlenefriesen8286]

I just love this video you and Ever have this bond that pulls you to the happiest place! I’ve see how your happiness in raising her is infectious! You light up and she coos and try’s to talk to you as you were talking to us. I’m sorry to hear about you not getting back together, that your first shout out was No and Brogens was sometimes, he was shocked I think when you right away said no! I’m glad your not bringing your troubles into any dating because I hope that you guys can work it out at least for the family you have been threw so much together. I would hate to see him date someone and you loose him the father of your children because I found out the hard way that every man has a new set of issues you would have to deal with trust me. 😊

[@corneelventer1137]

You are such an inspiration.

[@rachxxxx]

Awwww Judea ❤ little Eva has the most beautiful hair 😍 her cute little head bobbing about! just adorable 😍 sending you love and a giant hug 🫂 🤗 🤍 xxxxx

[@bridgwll]

A year after losing my baby to SIDS. I found a group in person to meet others. We socialised with them often. It was hard & healing to come away from that first time.

[@Itsjudeaaa]

I’m so sorry your baby is no longer here with you ❤️‍🩹🤍

[@KathrynPedrana]

Hey Judea i love your video and honestly. Are you able to let me know what brand that shirt is from? Its gorgeous on you! ❤

[@IsomeV]

Love your videos! Love you! 🙌🩷

[@EleanoraWeller]

I wish everyone would stop wishing you back together. We barely know you let alone Brogan

[@sadepennbrook]

There’s nothing permanent in life except death. And you already experienced that incarnate. Everything else is fixable.

[@Mamaslittleblog]

I want to preface, this comment saying that I’m not trying to attack or judge, I’m just trying to understand with that said, it feels a little contradictory that you’re saying at the beginning that you never see yourself getting back together but then later on you’re saying that you can’t forgive yourself for breaking up the family because you want your kids to have the family and then also saying that Brogan forgives you and he himself is saying that he sees you getting back together …. I guess I’m just trying to understand what the block is. So you are upset at yourself that you are apart but then also you don’t want to be together ?? I’m lost haha. I guess I feel like if you don’t want to be together then you should be able to be at peace with yourself but not being able to be at peace with it and forgive yourself seems like you want to be together🤷🏼‍♀️

[@s.wf.]

I have a question and I hope you don‘t mind asking this…do you think that your decision not to get back together with Brogan is because of your real feelings or maybe because of trying to kind of punish yourself? Please don’t get this wrong❤ love your videos…big hugs

[@DM-nv5ji]

Some of these comments are strange to me. You can’t just get back together with someone because you care about them and you wouldn’t love the thought of them moving on. Sometimes people are better off as friends and co-parents, it can be healthier in the long run for the children than being in a relationship you don’t feel is working or right for you. We don’t know everything that’s gone on and tbh I don’t think anyone apart from Judea and Brogan should know what’s happened. A lot of people criticise Judea based on the little we do know, but we don’t know what happened in the relationship prior to that to get her to that point. It’s okay to change and feel differently than you did in the past about life and relationships, and it’s okay to choose your happiness over the easy route. Easy doesn’t equal better.

[@moth._.]

Judea, I look up to you. It is immensely difficult to have another child after losing one, your body is in survival mode and your brain is preparing for the worst case scenario every day until they grow bigger. After my sister passed away when I was a teenager, i vowed to never have children because I watched it destroy my mom and I was afraid my future child would pass away before me. That would destroy me. It’s been about 8 years since she passed and I’ve been getting baby fever. My boyfriend and I are child free by choice, but some storms are worth weathering. 🤍 You are going through a tough period in your life. Hopefully the next decade and the rest of your life is kind to you. Nothing worth while is easy to fight for. You and brogan will have your time again, have hope for your family. 🤍

[@Itsjudeaaa]

I’m so sorry for your families loss 🥺 “some storms are worth weathering” they sure are and what a beautiful way to phrase it xx

[@aliceobyrne-y5x]

Where are your pjs from in the clips with brogan ? :)

[@Itsjudeaaa]

New at the lullaby club! X