Going soft did NOT work -

[@stephaniea1398]

As a therapist, I can't tell you how important rules, boundaries, having age appropriate consequences and CONSITANCY is at the younger ages. Parent's don't understand why their teenager isn't listening to them or respecting their rules but you can't expect a 15 year old to all of suddent start listening to rules when they never had to before. Parents are scared of their kids not liking them or thinking they are mean. If your little tells you you are are mean, you are doing something RIGHT! It's not your job to have your kid like you. It's about setting reasonable, age appropriate expectations, consequences when those aren't meant and then most importantly, is being on the same page as your partner so both of you are holding he rules and being consistent with consequences.

[@joyxeyaaj]

I'm told that I'm mean 😅 so thank you for this.

[@tahak2866]

Thank you for this, I try my hardest to have rules sometimes fails because he's autistic but still his also smart in his own way. It gets too much sometimes 😊 I know I'm not mean I want the best for him to be independent and ready for this world when his older

[@AimieJacobo]

I needed this. Thank you!

[@Justjaycee88]

Can you please share some age appropriate consequences for 2 year olds please!!! Xx

[@LailanieNicole]

I was going to say this! Especially as a former educator, they learn first at home and it helps so much when they’re in school and with other children and adults. Naturally kids will push boundaries to see where are you being inconsistent? It’s important to be consistent and holding what you stand on because when you aren’t you are telling them that it’s okay to be inconsistent and that they don’t need to be consistent themselves.

[@Sua.Zoo_]

I love how Benji always teaching the girls to be respectful towards Judy.. sometimes kids are not scare of the mom for some reasons lol maybe cause we are too soft hearted… but teaching the kids to respect the mom and them seeing Benji respect their mother is top teir… You two are such great parents ❤

[@nattiewashere]

No matter how many kids you have, you will still learn new techniques and make mistakes because every child is different. You are a great Mom Judy, and the kids are lucky to have you both as parents! I hope you guys have an amazing time on your cruise!

[@bliahang3131]

I like how Benji is teaching the girls how to be calm. Really have them sit down to relax themselves until they are ready to talk help them understand the situation. What is ok and what is not ok. ❤ prefect parenting. I love that.

[@wwnnn16]

Judy, the self-awareness is absolutely amazing. It’s one of the MANY Reasons I love your channel♥️

[@mysonruns]

What a beautiful teaching moment between Benji & Bella. He was firm but, kind.

[@TheTaisha_24]

Bella’s rock paper scissors made me screammmm laughing 😂😂😂😂 then she was over it cause the way she does it is right ONLY. 😂😂😂😂

[@8v8n]

Leah is getting soooo good at riding her bike! Love that Beni encourages her to be fearless and confident!

[@sameerahkhan5042]

15:57 Leahs bike riding skills are phenomenal for her age shows what dedication and consistency can do for a child ,Benji and Judy you guys are such role models for parents wuth children ❤

[@Noonecares3203]

I have always admired Benji for his amazing parenting skills. He is firm when he needs to be while being loving at the same time. He is not trying to be their best friend, but his leadership , guidance and loving care is what makes him a top notch father.

[@july7]

The way benji was parenting bella got me in my feels. My dad was always the stricter parent and enforcer of the rules, its actually made me respect my dad so much more bc looking back as an adult it takes alot of strength to be that parent to put their foot down bc its so much easier to give in and give your child whatever they want in that moment but in the long run you risk having an ungrateful kid who wont listen. I love my dad. Benji is such a great dad!!

[@sharonrobertson4367]

Oh my, I was crying during the emotional point of the video, you go Judy and Beni, You are a wonderful team! Congratulations Leah, you are a professional bike rider 🎉🎉

[@veroniquefaison]

Happy Thursday, Travis family. With all the uncertainty in the world, I always look forward to your videos. It brings a smile to my face and eases my mind and heart. Happy cruising! 🛳

[@_cestlavee]

How good is Leah on her bike now! Go, Leah, go!

[@melissahong6790]

Why am I tearing up at Benji and Bella!!! So sweet

[@9ktlyn]

Judy I have been watching more consistently since you started documenting your pregnancy with JB, you are a mom I truly admire here on KZbin! As a child care/early childhood teacher, the way you and Benji discipline the girls in a way that’s consistent and stern, and teaching the girls to be calm in moments where they have “big” feelings is super important and helps them as they grow to control their emotions 🩷

[@dyuthiprasad]

Bella's rock paper scissors reminds me of Phoebe's version with the water balloon😂😂😂

[@Tanishaluvzmumbai]

Joey was like “🤌🏽🔥” 😂😂😂😂

[@MiSsHuntah]

@@Tanishaluvzmumbailol omg this made me laugh 😂

[@aprilasuncion8467]

STOP 😂😂😂😂

[@sarahz8]

Proud of you Judy! I know we want to give our littles the whole world, their joy is our joy. We just have to remember, we are the parents and boundaries, respect, discipline, and consistency are super important too. You got this!! We are here for you! 💕💕🙌

[@com_videos]

Judy and Benji you are both so blessed to be home together with your kids and in turn are such a blessing to them. You are giving them such an amazing childhood with such love and time spent with each parent. Then we as viewers are blessed by your example and relatability watching. Thank you for sharing your lives and the beautiful people you both are and family ❤

[@tikigyrl79]

low key...we know she's talking about Leah?...LOL

[@Jewelznme]

💯 I knew exactly whom she was talking about 😂

[@elisha3003]

hahahaha 😂

[@leabeliving]

Judy, I just admire yours & Benji’s team work approach to everything - pre kiddos and post kiddos. You’re both exceptional human beings so no doubt you are raising these girls to be the same❤❤❤

[@denisechow2706]

I’m so glad you showed Bella like this and the strategy. When you’re in the thick of it, it’s SO hard! I’m definitely using this with my girls. So heartwarming to see her calm and say “I’m calm”

[@JCLover681]

Benji and Judy are such an inspiration as parents and I truly learn a lot through watching your videos 🥰

[@d8bn]

Lol, Bella leaving in the middle of a conversation. Cracking me up.

[@random01759]

You guys are such great parents ❤ also very inspiring to see benji still putting that work in the gym! It’s so important to stay active and show that to your kids 🙂

[@hawnair6624]

CRYING watching Benji with Bella. Yes, he’s stricter than softie Judy, but he loves all of his girls BIG! He is BIG with his love towards his girls and Judy! What a man…Obachan & Grampy did a great job raising him!

[@jeangray3839]

You can definitely tell Leah runs things 😂

[@christinawahking1651]

14:16 I love how some plants just become part of the family. I have a “Lucy” too 😅 Nice to see you again, Lucy!

[@xilma4]

Getting to see yall from dating to this is so beautiful. Your team work shows with your girls and y’all are doing such a great job ❤

[@anitaquinn9565]

Good for you for standing your ground as a parent. In the long run, you are teaching them to respect you and all adults and good, solid life lessons. It doesn’t take away your love for them. It augments your love for them, frees your pinned-up emotions, and trust me, they will have far more respect for in the end.

[@beasleyben9191]

Judy you and Benji are wonderful and kind , thoughtful and engaging parents with your beautiful daughters. I think you two are the best! I hope you both enjoy the cruise! You deserve a good time!

[@sapphirehaircare]

Amen Benji! Amen, Gentle, butt Stern children have to learn how to respect their parents and then do what they are told.Our Parents taught us that we are all married now and we taught our children that now we have grandchildren and we are teaching them the same thing, none of our grandchildren.Or children ever say no to us or took a long time to do something when we ask.And they never talk back to us either.But we all have to respect one another. Great job, Benji 👏🏽 👍🏼

[@bettydavis7904]

Benji. and Judy absolutely making it through their parenting challenges . Great video.

[@tahak2866]

You both are doing amazing, the kids are well taken care of by both of you, and they are very well fed healthy and delicious home made foods. They have there family time play time travel you name it. Keep shining you both are such inspiration to all of us. Its just that every kid is super different and not all techniques works on all of them 😊❤

[@gabrielapadillaesperanza]

1:35 she left you on read haahahahahahahah😂

[@vickiemurph]

This was a very special video. Benji was very understanding with Bella. He helped her to calm down and stop misbehaving. I love you too. ❤️

[@BigAng01]

The rock paper scissors with Isabella reminded me of the movie Big Daddy. when he kept saying “ I Win” in the cards game.😂

[@lisagalloway9864]

It's good you realized how soft you have become....the littles are young enough to change this. I know we get tired after so many children but it doesn't help them when we aren't being the parent they need. They don't need a friend. I learned later on that asking children so many questions is like giving them authority and power. They are not ready for that when they are little. It's like they are your equal, so why do they need to do what you say? You are not mean, you are the parent, the leader, the protector, the guide they need. It's not about feelings for you or them. You are doing great and you are growing too.😊😊😊

[@PcfulSol]

As a teacher and psychology student here, I've observed that some individuals are very strict and stern, while others are extremely nurturing. To effectively manage and guide children, it's important to strike a balance between these two approaches. This balance is key to fostering both discipline and growth in young minds. This is great example ❤

[@zsofia_nagy]

8:05 I was like “wow that avocado bagel toast must be heavenly if Judy is THAT excited.” Then it turned out the excitement was for the Bahamas cruise😂

[@lifewithstaph]

It’s just tough love Judy. They need to learn no means no. I get students who’s always been told yes and when they hear me say no it’s all hell breaks loose.

[@jaclynb_98]

It’s always a rude awakening for those kiddos. 😂

[@waakaaboutgyal]

Sign Leah up for Tour du France immediately! 🤪 She is a cycling pro. This is such a proud moment for Benji and Judy. Great job!

[@FB-xm9rn]

Wow that coffee art was amazing 👍🏽👍🏽

[@bwee13]

Excited for your cruise! I’ve never been but my mom just got back from her first and had an amazing time. It will be a much needed getaway for you both ❤

[@janetroberts2262]

No one is winning rock, paper, scissors with Bella 😂😂❤

[@hunnyblush]

Her way or the highway

[@simplyfei1653]

Oh it's making me cry while watching Bella & Benjie

[@jeanchristie]

I feel you on the mum basics and the littles. ❤

[@sarahn.4775]

Your Disney cruise vlogs are my favorite! I have rewatched them.😄 I am so excited to see the new cruise vlogs coming up! Ha ha! I am dealing with health issues and this will be a highlight of my day.🤍

[@ANNETTEBANNON-w3x]

Love how yor kids are so active and just "play

[@LKKPTL]

6:28 lol same!! Closet full of clothes but the kiddos reach for the same outfit every week 😅

[@samanthaframpton7386]

You guys are great parents!! Enjoy the cruise 🎉

[@Shebeauty_]

You both are an amazing team 🫶🏽🙏🏼🙏🏼 have fun on the cruise ✨👏🏻

[@Stylegraceandfaith]

I love the personal accountability, Judy!! As a parent, we just want the best for our kids and sometimes, we can either be too stern or too soft. I tend to be extremely stern with my daughter at times and I deal with a lot of guilt as a result. We don’t always get it right, but LOVE is definitely at the root of it all. ❤

[@angelaphelps9986]

Judy's mini-mi is so adorable! She's feisty ❤

[@aileen7029]

You are the parent what you say goes. No child should have that much authority over you. No whining, crying, begging, or batting their cute adorable eyes at you shouldn't keep you from being firm. if you give in to your children because you feel horrible for saying no or you don't want to see them sad they will use that against you. they may be little & cute but their not stupid. sometimes they will play you against your spouse. I'm a Filipina & i grew up on a strict household. my parents belived in spanking being sent to our room with no dinner. we had no chores assigned because their was already that expectation that we should clean without being told or learn to cook. kids nowadays are lazy. they won't lift a finger to help unless you ask them.

[@shinybang1341]

Judy, he's a good father. U guys are lucky

[@JessJP522]

It always amazes me how talkative your toddlers are!

[@mzkb99]

Omg so excited you’re heading to another cruise. I LOVE cruises! It’s my favorite way to travel.

[@curlieQ671]

I'm excited for your cruise. I love cruises. So fun & relaxing. Hope we get to see atleast a little of it.

[@AnitaDeHealer]

I love Benji and think he's a very handsome man because how he presents himself as a great husband to his wife and father to his children. Hats off to you BENJI!💕🌻

[@beautybysamantha9754]

We love a self-aware Queen because of course you don’t show us your whole lives so we can only comment on what we see. And we know that Benji is the best husband and father to you and the girls but if WE can see, sometimes you put them before him in situations where it’s OK if you give him the attention first then he might feel it too. I love the Travis family and the integrity that you guys have withheld over all these years on KZbin and all the changes that it has went through but as much as we learn from you guys maybe you get some insight and learn from us as well. Love you guys.

[@jaclynb_98]

Best of luck changing those habits Judy. Stay strong and consistent bc the tantrums are going to be frequent and intense once the littlest realize that you will be enforcing the boundaries and rules too.

[@emiliamartinez6233]

Leah has some awesome bike skills!! ❤

[@judytramvu]

Lmaooooo Bella’s rock paper scissors tho 😂😂😂 she gottttt youuuuuuuu every time LOLOL 🥇

[@Susabel]

You will be so glad you laid the law down in the future. I also thought my kids were so much happier when they had boundaries. Even if they say you're mean, they don't mean it! They will always love their mommy.

[@Eleanor-us2qg]

Love Benji’s parenting❤❤

[@lynellpablo9606]

Team work makes the dream work 😊👌 especially with coffee haha

[@DollyFaceKitty]

BENJIIIIIII!!!!!!!!! That coffee tho! Cmon you can not tell me that was not beautiful omgggg wonderful job ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@MercyX0X0]

Who cut the onions during the Nest tantrum scene?! Reminds me so much of my 3 yr old!

[@KuvyogMel]

Aww we love daddy Benji ❤ he’s a great Father to all his girls.

[@jerzeegrl1693]

The older you get, the softer you get

[@Garrido-u2p]

Its good putting your foot down with your littles bc if you don’t now they take more advantage on you giving into there ways & can’t always have that always, I know bc been there …

[@Char.Chi.]

Judy, my siblings reminisce on how strict our parents were on us growing up. As soon as the grandkids arrived, all that strictness went out the window, but just with them, not with us. 😂 we love it though.

[@BelsGels]

Judy we have an Epson ECO tank printer, going on 5+ years now, and have not changed the ink and it's still going strong! Great Choice!!!

[@umb819]

Best to put kids with other kids not just siblings as early as possible , they learn to adapt well and get mature quickly , Benji great present-day dad , work-outs are inspiring, Judy spot on with kids dressing, animated expressions and baby-like voice in front of camera 🙌

[@Crystalnicole18]

As someone who has watched you since I was literally 12 lol I’ve always looked up to you and Benji and your family dynamic! I recently got married a year ago and my husband now watches you with me and we enjoy your marriage and how you raise your children! Truly admirable and also LOVE how you and Benji continue to prioritize yourselves ! ❤ From a long time viewer Thankyou! ❤😊

[@yuiop20011]

The camera quality looks so good!

[@victoriaharris8543]

You and Benji will be eating so much on the cruise yall should just take the stairs on the cruise that way you don’t have to deal with the elevator and you get steps and a work off the food yall will consume cuz it will be a lot . I can’t wait for those vlogs !!

[@itsJudysLife]

Stairs are definitely on the agenda for the cruise! Thanks for the reminder.

[@tbori180]

To me Leah looks like and reminds me so much of Mama. Bella looks a lot like JB. ❤❤

[@yasje91]

I like Bella’s version of rock paper scissors I’m going to use it from now on 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@IreneSagitarius]

You have precious children. I think Leah was being a conductor waving her hands. She likes to go fast on her bike. I see you both doing a great job at raising your girls. Every child is different.. I miss seeing the older girls. enjoy the Cruise. YOU are very Blessed.

[@queziawhalen762]

No more crazy outfits for Leah 😂😂😂 or the same clothes all the time Good job Judy 👏🏼

[@brendalaramie962]

Love to watch your family and glad your going to the Bahamas for a trip ..Good for you enjoy! Tell all the girl's Brenda says hello..

[@kdlgs]

Mama smiling in the background of your little rant made my heart happy hehe🥹❤️

[@mavelinnunez9221]

Loved Bella's rock, paper, scissors. Have an amazing time at ur cruise.😘😘

[@ieysalammok]

Be careful with the baking soda and vaccum. It loves eating at the vaccum motor.

[@nicolemarie3]

I don’t know why I wish Judy would pierce the little ears lol. Benji disciplining Bella was so great! She’s so cute 🩷

[@ErinBooms]

Bella's rock, paper, scissors segment was glorious

[@eurekapomar]

You’re going to have so much fun on the cruise! I went on my first one in November and it’s so fun!

[@JhaninaGarcia]

Benji, how do you train in your garage gym during winter?! It’s so cold!

[@elyvargas171]

😂 That sound like my daughter and I have definitely done that and you know what’s funny I’m always the easy parent and when I snap even my husband is like okay lets all be nice and listen to mommy 😂

[@chiarav9]

Wow, benji thats one the prettiest latte art you did, dangg!!

[@wonderfullysuper]

When judy was asking benji to wink I legit thought he was going to turn to the camera and make that crazy face he used to make in the super old vlogs 😂😂

[@gabrielapadillaesperanza]

Soo sweet 😢❤ 12:07

[@amycoker1833]

This is one of the best vlogs! ❤️ ❤️ Judy took back her power 💪💜 so proud of you 🤗 Growing looks beautiful on you 💜

[@TheMeagandixon]

We had that same printer at work. Now we have one that takes big a** ink bar things. I loved being able to just squeeze in that ink and cheaper too.

[@briaalphonso]

Love itttt 🛍️

[@RhondaRussell-u7l]

So excited for you , my husband and I love to cruise

[@christina_5498]

Okay, I’m gonna go now….. me all day, every day

[@Crystalnicole18]

I had a club on my 1999 and 2008 Honda for my first cars lol since they were easier to break into 😂