Feminine Traits That Make a Woman IRRESISTIBLE (Make Attraction Effortless)

[@JakeWoodard]

Which of these feminine traits resonates with you the most? Let me know in the comments below! Are you naturally playful and lighthearted, or are you working on embracing more vulnerability and receptivity? Your journey is unique, and I’d love to hear which traits you’re leaning into or cultivating more deeply. Drop your thoughts and experiences! 👇 And don’t forget to like this video and subscribe for more insights on feminine energy and creating powerful connections!

[@LaurenInsta]

Being masculine is exhausting when you're female. I want to be soft and be lead by a strong confident man that makes me feel safe.

[@thankyoujesus2836]

I don’t just want to feel safe. I want to be safe

[@LoveLeigh313]

Safe, wanted and valued

[@LaurenLambChop]

So very true!

[@hoodedhippie]

I’m going through a divorce… I tried to be feminine and nurturing… the more time that passed, the more I realized I was forced into masculinity by his inability to take initiative-especially in the ways I expressed I needed it. I realized the more he expressed what he needed, that he was literally looking for a mother - someone to coddle him and soothe his anxieties, don’t upset him, don’t bother him when he’s tired. I didn’t get married for that. I now have to uncondition myself from being trained into thinking that in order to receive love, I have to be a caretaker.

[@Ergtt7491]

Ooooo..... that is only the bare girl! Wait until you also realized how much you neglected yourself-- your innerchild.... like the whole marriage you took care of his innerchild-- like DAMN!!! Yep! When you face this-- be easy on yourself, too! It will get BETTER!

[@fembot521]

There’s no such thing as a masculine man. There are only children. Even this guy talking is a child trust me.

[@baileyb8619]

You just nailed it. These videos never seem to address the dysfunctions these entitled and angry men bring to the relationship.

[@Ruby.EarthAngel86]

Omg I literally thought this was my comment. I’m going through the same process right now. After 20 years I finally realized that I wasn’t in a loving relationship. I am just a caretaker to his emotions that he cannot control. I am a grown woman that knows how communicate, I’m so done with this childishness.

[@JM.365]

Left my husband 2 years ago. I didn’t even know what it meant to be in feminine energy. I’ve never been so happy…to be free to love and enjoy life without worrying about a man’s feelings and judgement.

[@toledogold]

I saw a counsellor last year, good sessions. He said 90% of his business was counselling women, telling them their need or desire to be taken care of by a man was perfectly normal and natural. He sees so many women fretting and trying to dissolve themselves of natural instincts regarding partnerships and family foundations. Part of his skill was finding the way to communicate this in a way that the woman would listen to him and help herself to heal, evolve & or change herself, within the context of this reality. That’s why I was there. He confirmed there are a lot of weak men out there. That fact was the first eye-opening hurdle of denial I had to get over/accept in order for me to change/ progress./ heal. Even though they earn money and know how to repeat a day of business, they are weak and can’t/won’t communicate. And I was involved with one. Light to their journeys. And that quote… if you think strong men are dangerous, wait til you see what weak men can do.

[@chrisharris2367]

A man is not a plan As a adult that is fully able You should have ability to work What if something happened to that man

[@paupau2044]

1. Softness 2. Receptivity 3. Playfullness 4. Emotional Presence 5. Sensuality 6. Vulnerability 7. Intuition 8. Nurturing 9. Confidence in your femininity Thank you

[@julieponce3345]

Thank you for doing this.

[@annamaria9899]

I think its great that there are men who are talking about these things. It helps me to realize that what I always wanted and how I wanted to be feeling is normal.

[@Peachy_Pea_007]

Quite telling that the only post you've liked is the ONE complimenting you. Hilarious

[@LoveLeigh313]

Hard to find any real masculine men these days

[@TiffanyKuo-ps5fc]

Amen!

[@dumitriudaniela]

while all this is perfectly accurate, that a feminine woman is irresistible, no one teaches the negative side effects of this. I am 60 and being feminine still attracts men to me, of different ages, even very young ones. Sometimes its a nightmare. The problem with being so feminine is that no matter how many boundaries you have and how clearly you say no to men who pursue you, some of them cannot take in the rejection and they will pursue you even more, sometimes in aggressive ways, like stalkers. I learned to show less of my femininity, feelings and sensuality in certain surroundings because i dont feel safe enough to be myself. Maybe addressing this topic for men too, would be as important as it is for women. Men need to learn to respect the rejection of a woman. Just because we are more receptive and alluring, it doesnt mean that we invite everyone in.

[@annoif8]

Wow. This just explains my life experience since I was in elementary school and now a working professional. I definitely have experienced that "nightmare". I often wondered why, especially since I'm the quiet type. Friendly and enjoys a good conversation, but Not a loud personality at all. So I used to think, what's with all this unwanted attention, stalking, etc, especially when I was focused on being a good student at school, or doing my job at work. you're on to something here, when I was younger I wasn't aware that I have to turn it on and off in certain situations. the workplace was not somewhere where I thought I would have to hide certain aspects of myself, since I'm already a quiet person, and mostly focused on the job (what else is there to hide/downplay). Over the years I have been experimenting with changing subtle demeanors, being a bit curt and colder in my responses, energy shifts here and there, and I've gotten less intrusive attentions. Your comment provides more explanation to this whole thing that has baffled me, so thanks for sharing!

[@larakillian4108]

As a very feminine woman myself, I can say from experience that all of these tips do work very effectively to both attract masculine men, but to also keep them happy, which can be a big challenge for women these days!

[@waiyinsun]

I loved the mother part; Johnny put your jacket on😂Just got divorced from a 20 years relationship with a feminine man. He could not respect my strong intuition, taken my kindness for weakness. I did not walk away, I ran keep spreading your wisdom

[@Shami-s6e]

First time hearing someone explain that there is a difference between nurturing and mothering. Very eye opening. Please can you do a whole video on this topic in more detail please. Explaning how to nurture with examples and how not to mother with examples. We were brought up thinking nurturing is doing all the domestic house work eg cooking, cleaning, ironing basically looking after someone the way you would look after your children. Thank you so much

[@Wethruyk]

Ladies we need too learn to not take men too seriously. The quality of men that we have to deal with, is honestly not worth it. We are being played on every aspect of life.

[@let-truthrule]

🎯

[@livbar]

ugh.. I've done so many things the wrong way... I gave too much of my time and energy to someone that didn't deserve it... it took me a long time to see how one sided the relationship was and how I basically get nothing from him. Thank you so much for this video... I really needed to hear this.

[@alianaweston2286]

You live and you learn.

[@let-truthrule]

We need to forgive ourselves for so much when it comes to the decisions we made to be with these men …

[@MelD88880]

A feminine lady's intuition and playfulness really resonated with me. 💕 Thank you for this video. I loved listening to it. ✨

[@jeanien9104]

Definitely resonates, love that you named some of these traits like softness, receptivity, playfulness, etc. Great to hear from a male perspective & from a married perspective as well.

[@jamiesouza]

You should also say, a secure good man. The lack of choice has driven women to know they have to take care of themselves even though we want to be supported and safe!

[@kellyocallan8940]

Hit the nail on the head with me. Critical mother, passive father. My brother and I were in awful relationships. I deep dived and learned I was too masculine like my mother, and my brother was with a masculine woman. We did the work on repairing our polarities, fearing we were destined to turn into our dysfunctional, miserable parents in our retirement years. We both have very different partners and are living our happiest lives. This material is sooo important to learn, understand, and apply.

[@hr6ch]

All very helpful for us women to learn to step into our true divine feminine nature. What I would suggest overall is to illustrate specific examples of how a woman is being masculine and how a man can be in their feminine. I think a lot of people are not aware or cannot conceptualize that they're out of balance and they believe they're "just being themselves" or they justify their behavior because it's a knee-jerk reaction. Maybe you and your wife can do more skits where you and her portray these habits people do. For example, a woman mothering her man or taking the lead on things. Or a man being super emotional, being lazy, not providing nor protecting. Just a suggestion for your content! I think both men and women would begin to actually be aware that they're out of balance. Thanks for your content! 🙌🎉

[@AntheaPeter]

That was so good, Jake. Thanks for sharing!

[@jasminealexia]

This was really good!

[@Backcash436]

Great video, thank you for taking the time to make it! It helped me out a lot. Peace

[@amberdraper88]

I was confident going in to my last relationship. My daughter asked to use my then boyfriend’s iPad and 3 years in I found out he had a pornography addiction. This incident created a lot of insecurity for me. He said all men watched it and dismissed my feelings. I was and still am feminine. In my opinion some men are masculine but wounded and don’t know how to appreciate a feminine woman and unintentionally self sabotage their relationship.

[@elliefeelslight5918]

Thank you. I love my husband. Im grateful for him, and for men like you who understand relationships.

[@SteffieKant]

Really really resonates! I'm doing a good job to embody these traits. I'm gonna keep going, thanks for this video. It's encouraging!

[@navilgonzalez4013]

I think good men, responsible men need to give advice to immature men instead of woman. I don’t think woman are the problem. We never were. There are a lot of men without fathers and or aggressive fathers towards their mother that need healing. There for they learn from these men.

[@Sistanne]

Wow, thank you so much, that was Very helpful. Since almost all of these traits you mentioned made me feel so ... understood and at ease, being able to drop sighing-ly into my body while listening to you, I guess the only the one that still challenges me is number 8. nurturing (not becoming a mother to him, which I know I have in me and exhausted me and as you said; truly made me resentful then) is something that showed me, that it is so crucial to work on yourself because, as you said; you can't calculate that in your head how much you should(n't) give (maybe "especially" not as a woman ^^ or speaking for me, that is exactly the type of control and energy I don't want anymore since living that for years now Because of these bitter mothers and absent fathers burnt me out ), but , as a female; learn to drop into your body (intuition), your authentic self and you will Feel, what feels right (to give and nurture) and what will exhaust you ( being that you give energy where it isn't respected/reciprocated by the man and or taken advantage of). Thanks again for teaching this 🙏

[@11katerinasofie33]

This was a delight to listen to!! Thank you ♡

[@Msminimumdose]

Post divorce from a very feminine man who was in fairness a good provider but didn’t allow the space for me to be soft, gentle and receptive- I had to be the family problem solver being brought up but a very masculine single mum who actively encouraged me to be very masculine from a young age, making me fend for myself and disregarding any feelings I had. Now I’m fully conscious and was asked on a date by a man, who was in principle a good catch - but no, I was completely unattracted to him because I kept moaning about his bad back, legs etc. looking with puppy dog eyes for me to kiss him better yuck. He was shocked when I declined his offer to mother him lol😂

[@danilaroche1156]

I wouldn't have divorced him for that.

[@Msminimumdose]

@@danilaroche1156I didn’t divorce him, he asked me for a divorce because I ended up having an emotional breakdown (panic attacks, constant crying for no reason etc) as I started to release my repressed feminine feelings and I therefore could no longer look after his feelings as was ‘the deal’. So he needed to get another partner that could minister to his emotional needs- which he did, by hooking up with women online during lockdown and while I was still living with him. That’s why, when I was then asked on a date by another similar guy that thought I was there for the picking, to look after his unprocessed unmet feelings I was once bitten twice shy! I man should honour not take advantage of women’s natural softness and feelings!

[@CSAle-w6t]

In this video you just described the whole process of change I am currently going through again, including the reasons that triggered the need for changing back to my natural femi one self. Chapeau to you!

[@emilybaez461]

You are doing Gods Work ! You said everything I struggle with

[@julieponce3345]

Wonderful content. Subscribed thank you

[@darielleneanne]

Loving the playfulness and that it brings on alll the goodies

[@autumn4838]

You are right when you said femininity has been respressed by society. I am trying to embody it now by taking care of myself. I wish I will succeed

[@TheMercilina]

Thank you so much. I found the last tip reassuring because I was now I wasn't wrong by not being overly nurturing to someone I just met who hasn't started providing yet. I wasn't withdrawing affection I'm just neutral and waiting for him to take up the reins and draw me in

[@gemmacelento]

Damn your delivery is so concise, and honors the true nature of masculinity and femininity. No games. Thank you

[@mariagambin4604]

Thanks Jake!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@danielaadrianazgirdea4447]

Love this guy, wonderful video, so true

[@JakeWoodard]

I appreciate you!

[@steviecoates8207]

This really resonates, its hard to inbody it all with a not masculine men 😞

[@anitacollingwood4224]

I feel so depressed listening to this! I have suppressed my femininity (even down to not wearing dresses) because my personality, softness, nurturing nature, vulnerabilities and sensuality have been unwanted and even disdained by my husband. How do you heal from that? I’ve never felt so unattractive and unwanted in my life!

[@JeJe-e3r]

Same😢

[@anamaria-db7pq]

reading this makes me sad, I'm sorry you have experienced this... maybe having some feminine female friends could help, having a feminine, creative hobby like dancing, making art, music,... to feel your feminine intuition again...

[@TheArcturusProject]

If you start being more feminine I can’t imagine him not liking it… maybe start with nurturing him, make him a nice meal and wear a cute cooking dress!

[@let-truthrule]

forgive yourself for all the decisions that lead you to these men - look in the mirror and say I love you 10x every morning - take walks in the bush/ forest and talk to yourself like you are your bestest friend… it will get better and you will blossom again💓🫂

[@sulusu4812]

I love being soft & in my feminine energy, it is so deep & eternal,

[@ariannetrujillo2558]

Thank you Jake!

[@TrishaJacobs]

I love what you said about how when a femine woman doesnt feel love in her life she feels like a dry dying flower. That was a prettt good way do describe it lol. And very poetic. Thanks for that acknowledgement that i didnt even know i needed 💙.

[@elannalayel]

Aye yo this man spitting fire 🔥 thank you for your wisdom

[@clarepattinson2852]

Really resonates. I’m working on all of them, and coming more in to my feminine, for sure. Any tips on becoming more playful though, or even examples of what this might look like? Thank you!

[@angelface14angel]

Teasing!

[@JakeWoodard]

@@clarepattinson2852 Becoming more playful and embracing your feminine energy is a beautiful journey of stepping into the moment, letting go of rigidity, and connecting with joy. Start small by smiling more, letting your smile linger during interactions to invite warmth and connection. Lean into humor-share a funny story, tease lightly, or laugh at yourself when something doesn’t go as planned. Playfulness thrives in spontaneity, so try something new, like dancing in the kitchen, skipping instead of walking, or singing while you work. Allow yourself to be curious and present. Notice the little joys around you-a beautiful flower, the sound of laughter, or a moment of stillness. You can also explore activities that spark creativity, like painting, journaling, or even trying a new hobby. Playfulness is less about “doing” and more about how you “feel” while doing-lean into fun, embrace imperfection, and let your feminine energy shine. You got this!

[@MeretSteiner]

This is absolutely magical.Thank you so much.❤

[@jenniferklopman2557]

Telling someone to drive safe is just a Midwestern way of saying "i care". Funny weather over here lol

[@TrinityElle]

Hi Jake, I found your channel from a short and I at first got the impression you were maybe here teaching men but although you have an amazing teaching style and great content, it seems to be primarily focused towards a female audience. I’ve been trying to find somebody out there teaching healthy masculine to men, for my partner who desires this. So far all of the good content I find is geared towards women. Do you have a good resource for men to learn from men about healthy masculinity? Thank you 👐🏼

[@inspired11]

How does one recognise a masculine man during the dating phase ? there are a lot of mixed signals- they will pay and act like providers and suddenly withdraw/ give attention to other women ?

[@masagorenjec7296]

Uffff same here, curious

[@CM30-e1q]

Look at the fruit of his life. Like the result of his decisions not just little acts but the whole picture. In his character, how he reacts to stress, problems, anger, what does he say about other women in his life (mom, friends, sisters, coworkers) how he manage money? Where does he spend it? Ps I'm a woman surrounded by masculine great men hope this helps ❤

[@ChandChandramukhi]

@@CM30-e1q Where do you live? In my country most men are mummy's boys.

[@estefaniajp7877]

It's so hard for me to put all this terms into context. I understand the theory but I dont understand how it looks practically, in real life.

[@leslieransome671]

Great tips. Thanks Jake.

[@lechatleblanc]

man, u nailed all the things i keep tryna tell my modern woman mother lol.... she was a stay at home mom for the 4 of us kids. but she still was that 70s just turned voting age new wave feminist era woman. she still has these feminist traits and without me my sister would have gotten a divorce like 10 years ago after 1 kid and none more. my nephews and niece would be psychopathic without me , just being raised by fembots aka my sister and my mom. and an emasculated man aka my bro in law... i keep telling my mom, u as a woman are Not THE DISCIPLINARIAN... UR NOT THE ONE THAT JUST CONSTANTLY ENFORCES ALL THE RULES AND ALL THE STRUCTURE... UR THE PRESENCE OF COMFORT, SOFTNESS, NOT RIGID STRUCTURE...

[@NicolineXD]

Watching on KZbin- didn't know you had a podcast, so I'll listen on Spotify from now on. I feel like your words resonate with me, but I have a hard time translating them to actions. I can do that with the things I'm already good at, but I don't know how to be playful and soft. What does that look like in daily life? Thanks for your content Jake!

[@laur2139]

I feel like you need to make this exact video and directly market it to men en masse. Tell them.

[@suzewe9465]

Being soft and sensual 🥰

[@gabrielamartiniuc6322]

Playfulness, sensuality and intuitive. ❤

[@anitarolando2531]

Loved the Video! Thank you

[@heatherpratt1551]

Thank you for this ❤

[@MAPSMAPS1234]

These are good tips but I don’t know that the first thing is true about men not wanting an independent woman. I dated a very masculine man who wasn’t concerned about having to “take care of me”. He would say “I’m going to teach you how to do it so you don’t HAVE to rely on anyone including me for it”. I naturally let him lead because he was very capable and a lot of things came easier to him than they did for me. But he didn’t ever make me feel like I was some thing to be controlled, corrected or weak or need of being protected. He didn’t treat me like less than or weaker. He’d jump in if I needed the help, always and without question. But that kind of treatment naturally made me softer and receptive but at the same time more capable and empowered. If you’re a truly masculine man, you’ll never have to ask a woman to be soft. She’ll naturally relax into it.

[@Gpeidav]

This is great thank you ❤❤

[@teenafrench7236]

Oh this makes sense

[@Josie-k2s]

Soooo helpful!!! Thank you so much!

[@lechatleblanc]

a very cute guy , physicaly my type perfectly, personality also rocked, seemed very masculine yet had this awesome side. we even laughed together. idk if it was just a cosmetic insecurity that gripped me or something deeper. but i rejected giving him my phone number or going on a date with him lol.... i would really like to get to know him now 😂😂😂. he was pretty ideal... i also noticed when anyone approaches me with 100 percent availability and wanting intimacy,( emotional or any kind) even as just friends, i reject them immediately..... i guess i feel like i cease to exist when that level of intimacy is requested... its like i go into survival mode and immediately have to pull back, pull out of the whole relationship just so i dont dissapear into oblivion ..super weird i know😂 i just freak out, its like they expect me to offer so much to the relationship and im like wtf is this ? i simply dont have THAT MUCH TO OFFER 😂😂..

[@stephanietherese]

I agree with some of this. But I also think you might be describing an Introverted Feeling woman in some parts of this, which you would be attracted to as an Extraverted Sensing, thinker.

[@helahreljac1523]

As an extraverted thinking sensor he has a bit of black and white way of preaching about femininity. I suppose that does have certain appeal to introverted feelers. Nothing wrong with his logic as long it's not applied to all human beings. On top of that, boring content, I'm sorry for ladies who need to be taught how to be feminine 😂

[@dalilahhernandez8712]

I like a lot of what you said, and when it comes to the playfulness aspect, I think righteousness isn't how you depicted it to be. Maybe a better word would be contempt, where someone thinks they're better than another person. However, being righteous is a good thing.

[@Summer-tk8yk]

I like it ❤

[@sulusu4812]

Receiving is strength. Its a core value or strength. Embrace it!

[@Cantthinkofwhatshouldgohere]

So helpful!

[@Evie170]

In Australia, women are raised to take the masculine role, from asking men to be their debutante ball partner onwards. It's humiliating and embarassing, so a lot of us just choose to stay single .. . :O

[@spleenog]

17:00 how is it fair? I still haven't figured that out.

[@pixsiedoll2341]

Even with mic. Volume is still low

[@Taytaypaige767]

You better be making one of these for men fr

[@Qhht.Illinois]

You came up on my feed for a reason. But discuss a masculine man who is a dismissive avoidant?!! It’s maddening!🤔😣😬 trust me I’ve tried! But as he ignores etc but comes back in and out with his love is toxic!!! Let’s not forget that!! We can be very feminine but the masculine in our life is wounded!! We might heal. But he has not!!! Sorry! Just saying! But honestly this video was on point! Glad I came across it😊subscribing

[@malloryholt9871]

How would you define a provider?

[@beautylife310]

They say" If you treat a man like a boy, he will treat you like a mother", so we need to stop mothering him! but sometime it can be confusing as a woman can be caring, what's wrong with saying, "drive safely or dress warm"....perhaps just don't over do it.

[@sheezbeez]

Please do the same but for masculine men ❤❤❤

[@rach4422]

❤ this

[@lechatleblanc]

my dad has always been the one to bring out the playfullness in the rest of us. my mom thinks its a horrible thing unfortunately...and really lacks it within herself... why do little boys seem more playful than little girls lol...was it always like this ? men have a physical playfulness... women supposed to have a verbal emotional mental playfulness ? and follow the mans lead with a playful easgerness to follow along ? or a playful receptivity to his lead

[@longingforjannah]

19:16 🤣🤣🤣

[@sulusu4812]

Its also not just healing from trauma or past men, it could be raising boys with mental illness/past trauma where you have to be tougher

[@kerrineawebb5464]

All of the above

[@sweeeeenie]

I agree that women don't want to be masculine, but when I'm vulnerable men are not stepping up. They're just standing still doing nothing. Where is the action, the masculine. I think men need to heal more than women.

[@ananyakumar1158]

YES, you are right, too conditioned. Feeling the essence of life deprived. Boring, Dull, ... But I embody femininity.

[@danilaroche1156]

Its spiritual warfare.

[@eishaacatubig9812]

❤❤❤

[@alexandranichole8712]

🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@lovelyme3030]

❤

[@zensvlognotapro]

👍

[@makaremandasiyah]

This man is just cashing in on the latest trend to scam men and women FFS 🙄

[@lindathornton3626]

Don't marry an alcoholic ladies. I didn't but he turned into 1....after awhile I had no idea who he was...I had no idea who I became. Now I'm healing because he's dead.

[@lexaneli]

I am waiting for the videos on telling the men the revese of this video. Too many give bare minimum, and lack of effort but expect everything you described in this video on basically how to get a man. Women become this because men are no longer men. Men give bare minimum and show lack of effort . They expect their partner to do everything and they are not even loving, supportive, thoughtful, or even to say, hunny you have done a lot, come let me do xyz for you or get some rest. Or even speak life into her. Reassure her that everything would be okay when both of you go through a rpugh patch. A lot of are still very emotional immature and she has to be the one to fix his childhood issues or past traumas instead of him rither going to God and heal from within and seek therapy. Many dont even have a good example of what true love is and dont want to address it or improve. Some men dont even know how to make his partnee feel emotionally safe. I'll wait for that moment when other men speak to other men on their lack. We know exactly what you are talking about and many of us are not like that because a lot of men took that away. To my beautiful flower of men, bloom wherever you go and know you are loved regardless if you are single or not, regardless of your past, you're radiate so much love and it's never too late to start over. ❤

[@talimavargas4719]

Please change your mic. Too low

[@nurseannesinspirationalwellnes]

🩷

[@CSAle-w6t]

Regarding my comment below: sorry, there was an automatic "correction", "femi one" is, of course, feminine.

[@lechatleblanc]

however womens intuition can be very innacurate a lot of the time i feel.... like if women led by their intuition, wed alll die in one day 😂😂... i guess if they are proven by masculine logic to be right then they were right....but i guess its hard to trust something like intuition

[@tracemagace8434]

I'm in a newer relationship with a masculine man who confessed he wants to be the 'girl' in the bedroom. It's been pretty hott and I'm intrigued 🙂

[@tamtamz8733]

Oh, it’s a, “how to be a Stepford Wife” video. BYE!

[@Singinbluebird]

Dang video too long. Can someone list the traits in comment area ?

[@june10924]

I feel I’m working on all these traits at the moment 🥲🥺