He Said WHAT?! BEST and WORST Wedding Advice

[@claudiaestela3135]

One tip we were told was to NOT take out a loan... under any circumstance. It may sound like a pretty obvious thing. But the last thing you need is to start off our marriage in debt.

[@alyssarh]

So true! You do not want to go into debt over your wedding, that's not the right foot to start off on! Budget for what you can actually afford and start your life together off right ❤

[@f.-j.j.5738]

Got engaged Sunday and can't believe I actually now have a real reason to watch your videos 🤭

[@iamwasd3530]

Congratulations!!!

[@nukacat4642]

omg congrats!!!!

[@DemureSpectabilis]

Congrats!

[@kayseacamp]

Not necessarily advise I got but more an assumption I made was that a lot of venues would be wheelchair accessible/friendly. My mother is permanently in a wheelchair and sadly a lot of venues where I was looking were not wheelchair accessible/friendly. I know this is a niche issue but for brides who have to plan around mobility issues please give yourself more time for venue hunting. I found venues that while the reception and ceremony space was accessible the bathrooms weren’t. Or vice versa. This is especially an issue in older cities with historical buildings that have not been fully converted.

[@NicoleShizzle]

Insightful! Thanks for sharing. Something many families need to think of. I’m hopeful we’ll create communities with these community members in mind 🤍

[@annahatton924]

Absolutely! I wish more places were accessible. My venue is fine but having a hard time finding a good photo spot that's wheelchair accessible (my mom is also in a wheelchair).

[@vilwarin5635]

I have rejected some venues because they had too many stairs or the spaces were too far from each other. Not only because of our guests with movility issues, but also for the comfort of all the people wearing heels and of course, me, the bride wearing a huge big wedding dress and heels. I imagined myself falling from every staircase and that was a big deal (even when the wedding planner said it wasn´t an issue)

[@wendysteele4508]

Yes! I have a venue that I love the pictures, but need to visit to make sure it's wheelchair accessible. It's a chapel that I think was built before ADA requirements, so I'm not sure. I can see how this can be an issue that might be remedied with a couple ramps, but not on the morning of the wedding.

[@GilliMarieMoody]

As a chaplain/officiant, I’ve been trying for a venue that is more accessible. My idea to rent a stair lift + attendant has yet to go over well(!). I may try for an additional venue to rent, as an alternative. Cheers.

[@jtoland2333]

The worst advice I got was to watch the wedding shows like Say Yes to the Dress and Four Weddings for ideas. All I got was an insecurity complex!

[@SophieSimmonsMusic]

I never really watched Say Yes To the Dress before, but got really into it after I bought my own dress. All it did was make me doubt what I chose, especially as I didn’t really try on different styles when I was looking for mine!

[@e-male4859]

It's kind of the opposite for me - it makes me grateful that my style is not dependent on current/expensive trends and even more grateful that I have friends & family who support my decisions rather than cause drama 😂

[@DearAliya]

I honestly think the 2 worst things I've heard when it comes to planning weddings would be: 1. Inviting people you dislike, find uncomfortable being around, or don't even talk to 2. People spending way beyond their means, some even taking out loans to cover expenses

[@katshorey987]

I’m 19 and I’m not getting married anytime soon but here I am.

[@gabbyfringette7250]

Same.

[@jessiesteele9702]

I was on here when hubs and I were dating. Started keeping up with videos after dating for 6 months. Engaged at 18 months. Married over a year now 😁

[@gabbyfringette7250]

@@jessiesteele9702 I'm so early I'm watching this before I'm even dating anyone! also congrats!

[@abbyk8mc]

girl same

[@_.ish.lee._]

Honestly same to the orginal poster and same for the user named Gabby in the comments. In fact I just dumped my bf cause he was abusive af, but here I am still dreaming about my dream wedding XD

[@Myannadream]

I always wanted a two year engagement so I could take my time with planning everything I didn’t know people thought it had to be within a year lol. I had a friend once who had a 7 year engagement and hadn’t made a single step towards planning anything then all of a sudden out of nowhere she posts an Instagram pic revealing she is pregnant and married to a DIFFERENT guy. Was quite the shock lol.

[@TJAG4evr]

My Fiancee and I are getting married in 2022. Planning a wedding 2 years out lets us pay off a venue over 2 years! That's the best part.

[@sarahmichelle4421]

We’ve been planning since 2019 and our weddings next year. Two years was defiantly soo helpful, you have the ability to take a break if you need to and navigate anything that does wrong. Congratulations by the way!

[@TJAG4evr]

@@sarahmichelle4421 awwww! Wishing you guys all the best too! I hope you have a beautiful day!!!

[@breaking_reflections7461]

That’s what we are doing as well! May 2022!

[@micaellyalves3367]

Planning/Engaged since Aug 2019 and getting married in May 2021, time flew by and considering how 2020 went, I was so happy we decided to wait

[@moniqueandrade1448]

Exactly me also!! Paying a little a time and doing so many ideas and collecting items from resale pages give me time to make good decisions

[@StevieSkaggs]

Despite all the craziness of attempting to plan a wedding during COVID, my favorite part has been that very few people have been giving me unsolicited advice (compared to my friends who got married before the pandemic). If they try I just shrug and go "Who knows, with COVID and all!" and it usually shuts it down. 😂

[@iluvzurara2]

LOLLLL SAMEEEE! I literally just haven’t cared about getting around to start planning and while ppl keep asking when’s the wedding I’m just like ...pandemic ? 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

[@raquelb5815]

Yes tho this pandemic sucks its a perfect excuse to give ppl when they nit pick. Oh why arent you this or doing it like that.

[@michaelarichmond438]

Yessssss! I also feel like it lets you somewhat off the hook... Like, no one will feel slighted because you didn't invite them because they know you can only have a super small amount of people.

[@tilarfifield2407]

My brother came up to me during cocktail hour and said “yo your train like, took the whole aisle runner back down the aisle with you after you guys left” 🤦🏼‍♀️😂 Thanks brother I didn’t know that but now I’m embarrassed.

[@jenniferkosmen6723]

My worst advice (from a co-worker): (1) You need to throw a really expensive rehearsal dinner to thank all your guests for being a part of your day. A back-yard BBQ just won’t do. You need to have a full open bar at a restaurant and nice food. (2) You need to give your guests nice favors. I went to a wedding once and they gave me Hershey’s kisses in a little bag. So cheap. In the moment, her comments caught me off guard. She basically told me I was being cheap with my ideas and needed to “grow up” and spend more money. Needless to say, I’m not taking her advice or inviting her to my wedding!

[@iamwasd3530]

Do whatever suits you best! You do you and whatever makes you happy!

[@TVyVan]

Good for you! You’re already paying for the wedding, which is super expensive, and she’s not even (1) a super close friend/family (2) paying for your wedding. It’s better to have loved ones who are happy to be at your event to celebrate YOU than to invite someone so judgmental. 👏

[@romuloromero2268]

Nothing wrong with Hershey’s kisses in a little bag, really sweet and they won't end up in the trash

[@lexiarredondo]

Hershey kisses taste so good and like other commenters have said, won’t end up in the trash

[@joycelou2944]

@@iamwasd3530 coo

[@omgitsnickix3]

LOL the advice about taking breaks in wedding planning is so relatable. I recently got engaged and I already found I will spend two weeks thinking about nothing else followed by a week of just pretending it's not happening 😅

[@Myannadream]

Lol SAME I go hard for a little while and I’m like gotta get this done, gotta buy this, gotta book this, gotta find this etc and then I’m like no I don’t and then I’ll do nothing for like a month until I realize oh yeah I’m getting married in less than a year better start getting on it lol

[@cristinab2263]

Dude, I go through those stages in the same DAY. Scroll through the internet for 6 hours, panic, chill, repeat.

[@brodee.morgan]

BEST ADVICE- Don’t let others influence what YOU want to do or wear or have at your wedding. It’s your big day and I promise you’ll regret not doing what you wanted. WORST ADVICE- spending money on super unnecessary things or inviting people you don’t want at your wedding. If you don’t need if and you’re fine without it don’t feel pressured to have it at your wedding, and your guests actually greatly affect the amount you spend.

[@cmclees42]

I found out later that my uncle said about my wedding, "thats not a traditional Southern Baptist Wedding...." Uhm excuse me, not your wedding, and it was focused around God but yes not traditional because we aren't traditional. It was PERFECT! :)

[@tahneemeasday6242]

Love that! "CORRECT :D now moving on..."

[@MissJenLA]

I feel this. My stepmom was set on me getting married in a church because “that’s how it should be.” We are getting married outside of a church but are still having a Christ centered wedding 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@autismmamabear5770]

I really wanted a white aisle over the grass during the ceremony, my dad is handy so he made a wood plank aisle, wrapped it in white fabric and lined the edges in thick pink ribbon. I loved it!! Love your videos! My bestie is getting married and I love your advice!

[@laurenh5299]

That’s such a good idea! I’m going to have to remember that!

[@NatalieGrace99]

JAMIE! After your last video, I saw the company I wanted to get my dress from was having a sample sale, AND I GOT MY DRESS FOR $50. FIFTY STINKING DOLLARS. You are literally a lifesaver. THANK YOU!!!!

[@foodiediaries8785]

Wait....what is this magic you speak of??

[@NatalieGrace99]

@@foodiediaries8785 JJs House - look for their sample sales!

[@DemureSpectabilis]

Sample sales are when bridal salons offer the dresses people try on at a deep discount, usually to make room for new inventory. Some salons do it around the same time each year, so people can prep for it. It’s a good way to get a great deal on a nice gown.

[@Brynne221]

My MIL told me and my fiancé that “Weddings aren’t just about the bride and groom.” 🙄 Both of his parents believe that. They hate everything I’ve picked so far. They hated the hotel (so much so that they’re making my fiancé change it; I picked it but refused to change it so he has to), they hated that we’re getting married on Sunday (the wedding is in PA, his family lives in OH; it was an extra $3000 to get married on Saturday and his family would have to take a day off work whether we got married on Saturday or Sunday anyway), they also hated that the wedding is in PA where I grew up and not closer to them. I know my family. They would not have come if it was out of state. My fiancé’s family ALWAYS travels to every wedding. Hell, they all live in OH and traveled to NY when his older cousin got married, so in my opinion they can suck it up and go to PA. most of these concerns they have told my fiancé and not me. Probably a good thing to. I would surely be glad to explain to them how ridiculous they are. 😊😈

[@mikafreak1]

Just got engaged today!!! Now I’m starting to take some serious notes on your videos!! 💕💍

[@jamiekirkland842]

Can you do a video on bridal party and “grand” entrance options for introverts? I’ve been stressing about it and don’t know how to go about it

[@kfb2819]

Just got engaged last month, and we will have a longer engagement as we’ve set the date for summer 2022! I am glad we’re waiting because we are paying for all of it ourselves, so it will give us more time to save up some money! I’m also super indecisive and have anxiety, so not being rushed on anything will help greatly!! Luckily, because we are so early in our planning we haven’t had much for unsolicited advice, but I will say I was super relieved when both my very opinionated dad and also very opinionated soon-to-be father-in-law both told us that our wedding needs to be whatever we want it to be. My father in law also told us to delegate absolutely as much as we possibly can!! So I appreciate that advice big time!!

[@jenandole]

YAY! What a great and fun topic. I gotta give it to you, spot on with your remarks on those advices. As wedding photographers/videographers ourselves we 100% agree... although weddings are a little different over here in Germany. Having a wedding planner help you is sadly still not common and seen as over the top or rich people things. Would love to have someone like you help our couples get the best experience ever out of their wedding day.

[@tabithalymburner3909]

I had a two year engagement my mom at first thought I was crazy even thought she did not wants to pay for everything. when the wedding came around she said she couldn't believe the time flew so fast.

[@cantelopes]

I know most people want to actually get married at their wedding but because of COVID, my fiance and I are thinking about getting married at a courthouse (aka zoom wedding) in the next coming months and then our "wedding" will really just be like an anniversary party or a vow renewal. I know it doesn't sound romantic but 1) We're able to save up for it more by putting the party off and 2) I can go on his insurance if I lose my job or vice versa. It's just a party to celebrate our marriage so to us, it really doesn't matter when we actually get married :)

[@Vasalyn]

You should do it. There's no rules you have to follow. My husband and I are doing the same thing. We got legally married in June 2019 with a judge and my parents witnesses. It was a short ceremony and wasn't a big thing. We planned to have a destination wedding in Hawaii for June 2021. We booked our wedding venue, wedding coordinator, photographer, and videographer back in February 2020. But now have to postpone our wedding to June 2022 because both my husband and I got laid off from our jobs. We plan on saving again once we can. Our wedding in 2022 will be special since we will officially be exchanging our own vows at the ceremony and having our wedding on our 3 year wedding anniversary. This also gives us enough time to plan and pay for everything.

[@Rueru94]

My husband and I did the same thing! We got engaged in September 2021, did our legal marriage with our Pastor last year in July 2022 and we’re having our wedding celebration in May this year. It honestly took a lot of pressure off of us because we’re already married just celebrating with family and friends. Plus we had plenttyyyy of time to plan and save for that day!

[@Joyfullychelle]

Yeeeees! Give me the deets 🥸✊🏽💙 #NotMarriedCrewButLoveWeddingContent 😌

[@Jenae_Heffington]

The one regret I heard over and over again, since childhood, was having a large wedding over a small and intimate wedding. So, I'm having a wedding of 50 people and I am so glad because I don't think we could afford it otherwise.

[@Nellabella94]

I was feeling bummed about my wedding plans because it’s “not traditional” but this helps me feel better

[@raelynna.hinerman7257]

I am 4 months out from our wedding day, and I understand the panic that happens. My sister offered to help, and it made me feel better. You can have a long engagement. Ours is nearly 2.5 years in length. Best advice: You do NOT have to go into debt for your wedding! Do you, and if someone in your circle is toxic FEEL FREE TO LEAVE THEM OUT. The last thing you need is bad energy on an already crazy, emotional day.

[@SjofnBM1989]

Oh totally. Even if they're family. I have several cousins that I can't stand and guess what. They weren't invited. I haven't spoken to them in years. We didn't miss them they didn't give a fuck that they weren't invited it was great.

[@raelynna.hinerman7257]

My mother and brother are not included in our day, but everyone else we love will be there and we'll have a great day.

[@caitlynphillips9954]

Oh! I did this! My entire family isnt invited and I feel a whole lot better. They tried to stick their noses into everything and they weren't paying a single cent to help plan anything, just my fiance and I. It feels a lot better to not have to deal with their opinions.

[@Travelbyailsa]

I don’t understand saying a 2 year engagement is “less common” I’ve never known anyone to be engaged for less than a year and 3/4 before getting married because sometimes venues are booked at least that far in advance so you kinda have no choice 🤷🏽‍♀️ and you don’t always have the time straight away to dive in/it can also depend on the time of year you get engaged vs the time of year you want to get married

[@GnizakJ]

I'm getting married on December 3rd 2020 and we got engaged july 12th 2020. I'd say a year and a half is the most common timeline I've heard of though

[@kristin4241]

Same here, especially now with Covid, we had to postpone ours, so now its going to be almost 2.3 years engagement time...In the end its about your marrying the love of your life and to be honest I am less stressed since we pushed it another year. Like this I have a chance to do some long term crafts :)

[@mariettaherrera8778]

I got engaged in July of 2019 and getting married in October of 2022 because we wanted to be able to save money and not go into further debt. (I’m in college for nursing)

[@kenelib1295]

I personally think the engagement should occur when they both are ready to do all the preparations that are needed for a wedding, so within a year the wedding can happen. I would hate to be engaged for more than 1 year and a half, that's the most I can take. But I know some people might not think that way. Also, most people I know also get engaged by 1 - 1,5 years most, so I guess depends :)

[@alyssapfluger4236]

My partner and I have been together for ten years. We got engaged December 2019 and the wedding isn't until October 2022 - nearly a 3 year engagement, and it was totally intentional. We wanted to get secure in our careers and save up for a wedding without changing our lifestyle! And honestly that time was so good for us, we've had so much space to figure out the hard compromises (I wanted like 300 people, he wanted 10 - we're doing 75) without feeling pressed for time.

[@beccag2758]

I have iffy social awareness skills, but dang I could not even IMAGINE texting the bride/groom the day of😂😂 Also, another point on not using an aisle runner (or using a rug that you can put in your house later) it’s better for the environment💙

[@jeanettekakareka]

Sorry can we talk about how this is the MOST natural and convincing ad I've ever seen for Hello Fresh??? Jamie, I would buy anything off you :-D

[@snemehta3274]

I'm not planning a wedding (i just love them so i watch all your videos lol) but my partner lives in another country and all the visa stuff is frustrating and I often get "Why don't you guys just do a green card wedding" - because we don't want to!! I want a proper full fledged wedding that I get to spend a whole year or more planning (rather than the 3 months a fiancé visa allows) and I want to do it when we are financially prepared and have actually gotten to physically be together for in the same country for an extended period of time

[@lifewithtrenel]

Rugs down the aisle outside? 🤔 that’s interesting. Never seen it

[@moniqueandrade1448]

I wish I could show you a picture somehow on here. It’s a beautiful idea!

[@kristin4241]

Check out some bohemian ceremonies on Pinterest...there they have a lot of rugs and especially layered rugs ;)

[@irene-monique89]

Saw this video way late, but during on of my wedding planning segments yesterday, I came across something on Pinterest that is so brilliant and I wouldn’t have thought to do so, but it says that some time before your big day (after final dress alterations) kick the groom out of the house and put in your ENTIRE wedding attire and practice walking in your wedding dress, shoes and all so when the day comes it doesn’t feel foreign etc 💯😁👍🏽

[@alexandramadsen2724]

Love all of this! Almost at 2 years of engagement and no date set yet! I think our families have finally gotten the hit that we aren't in a rush

[@abigailgarner1791]

Best advice - ditch whatever makes you feel uncomfortable! I love it! I am a person that gets super embarrassed super quickly and if I'm already uncomfortable it makes it 10 times worse! Worst advice - you best get dieting as soon as possible coz you don't want to look fat in your photos 🙄 I play sports 4 times a week & I like food. If I didn't eat I'd be tired, grumpy and depressed... What would you rather deal with 🤷‍♀️ Love, love, love your channel! I've used so much of your tips and advice to plan my wedding for March 2022 here is South Africa. We have officially been engaged for 2 years this past weekend and honestly I hate that I love that Covid postponed it twice because it gave us so much more time to budget and save and plan properly without it being a mad rush!

[@HalleluYahfarm]

Hi I’m Kayla and finally planning my wedding! Late bloomer but LOVE wedding planning (always have and wanted to be one until kids came earlier than expected lol) you give amazing advice! I’ve been “taking notes” and you help every bride in every budget and your advice is gold! I love you and I’m learning even more from you and you have given the best advice I’ve heard to date ❤️ thank you for all you do love! Many blessings to you and your family!

[@emmadawson1158]

Throughly vet your vendors, Check reviews, etc. our vendors completely ruined our wedding.

[@miamatsson6981]

Such a different cultural thing that a 2 year engagement is long x) I mean.. if we start to go into the 10-year mark people might start to ask... but hey.. living in Sweden. Btw thanks for your channel, it's helped us so much in the planning process

[@amberleyselesky6700]

Could not have planned my Wedding without this AMAZING woman!!!

[@amandapatton9925]

My favorite advice was that my partner and I should each pick one thing that was most important to us about the wedding itself, and be willing to spend time and money on that thing. And everything else? Pick the cheaper or easier option. It really is making things a lot easier for us! It's easy to get sucked into a wedding world where everything has to be perfect, but when we're 80, we're really not going to remember what kind of napkins we had at our wedding, or what shoes the bridesmaids wore. Those aren't our personal priorities. But for the things that do matter to us most? Then I can fight my frugal side and prioritize it for a once-in-a-lifetime day.

[@hailielowe5583]

Best advice - how to go to the bathroom in a large dress. sit backwards on the toilet. Works Slick!! Worst Advice- If you invite one family person of a family, you have to invite them all. His mom didn't want to hurt feelings so she invited everyone and it made the cost so much more. His count was close to 100 and mine around 80. It made me very upset as the responses came back to see that all his parents family/friends were coming and none of mine were. It's the only thing that made me cry during the planning process. INVITE WHO YOU WANT, NOT WHO THE PARENTS THINK SHOULD BE THERE. EVEN IF THEY ARE PAYING!

[@adiemuller9486]

The "consider others" bit seems a bit harsh. Not that you should be oppressed by in-laws or whatever, but like be aware of accessibility options and making sure your family is reasonably comfortable if it's important to you that they be there

[@valerievalle5207]

Coming from experience in considering our family in the planning, we missed out on some really important people we wanted there and dealt with some not so preferred guests because our parents both wanted a day in who to veto or accept. They both threatened to not support us. Both did in the end, but at a cost of time, money, and sanity.

[@jencasey316]

I got married almost a year ago (next week is our first anniversary!) and both the best pieces of advice came from vendors: my seamstress told me to get a second inexpensive reception dress since I was wearing a family heirloom (my grandma's that is close to 100 years old) and I would have more fun if I wasnt worried about it the whole reception - she was totally right, there is chocolate on the reception dress and it doesnt bother me cause it was $200 total off rack and I could do the tiny bit of alteration myself. I would have died if I got that chocolate on the dress my great grandma hand-stitched and designed for her new DIL. And the technician who did all my hair growth scalp treatments (and saved my hair from my past abuse) suggested not saving cake for the first anniversary but ordering a new mini one and the same dinner for 2. So we are getting our new cake and the amazing butternut squash lasagna that everyone raves about (still) next Saturday for a nice romantic dinner.

[@alyssaskinner6152]

Hey Jamie! I've been a subscriber for a long time and am getting ready to start planning my wedding! We're looking at a short engagement (3-4 months) and I'd love to see a video with tips and advice for planning a wedding QUICKLY! (If you already have a video on it, I must be forgetting lol). Love you and your channel!

[@iluvzurara2]

I’ve been engaged for over a year and didn’t know there was a “rule” I just really haven’t cared to start planning yet plus you know there’s a global pandemic (which honestly has just given me an excuse 😅 I prob still wouldn’t have been planning either way loll)

[@michaelamrazova4760]

8:54 YES! I’m working full time and soon starting university (2 weekends/month). My fiance is working full time (+ sometimes more), we have tons of hobbies and not much time. We need those 2 years to plan a pay the wedding on our own😅 no shame in that

[@orionspero560]

Worst advice it's the bride and her mother's wedding. It should be what they want. Honorable mentions for worst advice: anything you can do to warm it up. , nuneutrals are your friend, pastels are your friend. Best advice: A string sucks tat with 2 singers doing melancholic tragedies throughout cocktail hours and dinner will set your pacing and theme as opposed to the default --clipped.

[@ness3421]

We're on year 4 of our engagement! We just moved our wedding to next year due to the pandemic, so by the time we're married, we'll have been engaged for 5 years and planning for nearly 3!!

[@tiffystrangebirdbrown6844]

My guy and I became an item 2008. We are considering June 2025 for our wedding, but we don't want rush it... ;)

[@PrincessMadeira]

We got engaged in 2020, we started planning this year (once my divorce came through lol) and are planning to get the legalities out of the way as soon as we can (July) and then doing the big wedding in October 2024. If you can't wait to be married, I think honestly, just running to the courthouse as soon as you can and then having the party later is a nice option.

[@simoneanastasia8940]

OMG I needed this video, especially the taking breaks. I’ve been feeling shame for taking breaks and I’m glad to hear that’s the norm. Tbh bump planning a wedding in 2020, still know it’s gonna be lovely but just a big fat “ugh” all around.

[@breaking_reflections7461]

Anyone know where I can sell vases and candles? I’m in Az and have hundreds!

[@bridgettdent4416]

I'm in Tucson & need wedding decor!

[@kibethnehema2069]

I can attest to the length of engagement thing. My partner was adamant that we not be engaged for longer then 6 months (I think his intention was not to be one of those couples that gets engaged but never actually gets married) so due to finances, timing etc. we stayed in boyfriend/girlfriend status for about a year after declaring our intention to get married between us. Sometime before Christmas, we decided that February looks like it could work out. Do not plan a wedding in two months! I hate it, it sucks, its stressful. Don't make our mistake... if you are intending to get married and you are serious about it, just start planning... at least get some stuff picked out and look at timetables and such.

[@eliontheinternet3298]

we're planning to have our engagement last two years! I should graduate by then, and that way I can focus on our big day without stressing about exams or whatever. :)

[@rosec8101]

Make sure you eat. We ended up at a wing place. Ate some wings in my wedding dress. Still get asked were you the bride that came here. We got married over 3 years ago.

[@ownyoursxtaylormorganne8551]

First of all. I’m salty that you’re ad is perfect for me...

[@tatumgross9391]

My venue doesn't even allow aisle runners because too many people have tripped or slipped over them.

[@keeliemahoney7794]

Had a great conversation with a friend this weekend about hiring a planner for her destination wedding! She hadn't even thought of it, nor how to find a photog/videog/caterer etc!

[@jenniferclarkson1772]

The store I ordered my dress from tried to tell me I need to order bridesmaids dresses now, 11 months before my wedding. Nice try

[@alohilanizapata53]

I personally know a couple who had a 7yr engagement

[@YourDailyDoseofJillish]

Because of your videos I did make a wedding email! Saved me a lot of emails in my normal account.

[@misscofia]

Love your videos! I would LOVE to work with you when the special day comes ☺️

[@angelabowers2892]

Yes!!! We are having a 2 year engagement bc we are buying a house next year. I have gotten comments "That's backwards " My fiance responded "This is our playbook'. That is our moto for our wedding now!

[@Just_CoJo]

"This is our playbook." I love that saying, and will probably come up with something similar!

[@laurawilliamssepsiseducati5642]

What is your podcast?

[@caitlinfoster9508]

More! We need more worst and best! :)

[@romuloromero2268]

Clickbait title is a poor choice.

[@nonabgo]

Let's do it in 2020 instead of 2019... This was us. We baptized my brother's baby in 2019 and as godparents, we had a lot of expenses, so we decided to postpone our wedding to 2020 just because we didn't want the financial pressure. Here comes 2020, our wedding was supposed to be in June... lockdown happened, we postponed to October, then 3 days before our wedding the government banned all social events. After much crying and despair, with phones ringing day and night and everyone thinking they knew what was better for us, we decided to just go to church and get it done. 16 people allowed in church, then just a lunch with them, no party, no first dance, no traditions. At least I got to wear the dress. This will always be the greatest regret of my life, all I wanted since I was a little girl was to have a wedding. But alas the universe rarely gives us what we want.

[@gabrielledorigam2277]

Don't give up! As Jamie said in one of her videos, you can still have the wedding you dreamed of after things settle down down! I've seen lots of people have a "renewal of vows" wedding, and nobody would blame you if you wanted to do one. If you can and want to, go for it! =)

[@nonabgo]

@@gabrielledorigam2277 Thanks for the encouragement! But it's not something that people in my country do. We "renew vows" (as in have another similar religious ceremony) at 25, 50, 75, 100.... years of marriage. Anything else would be seen as embarrassing and cash grab.

[@gabrielledorigam2277]

@@nonabgo I understand. I feel for you. I pray that the joy you feel with your spouse may be 1000 times greater!!

[@nonabgo]

@@gabrielledorigam2277 You are very sweet. Thank you!

[@f.-j.j.5738]

I feel for you but hope when a year passes, you'll remember your day without any regret. So much in my life seemed crucial in the moment, but then life happened and they lost of their accuity.

[@laurawilliamssepsiseducati5642]

We have a new wedding email

[@cindy846]

Hey Jamie, Love your videos. My partner and I would like to plan a ‘non-wedding’ love ceremony, just to celebrate our love, our commitment and our relationship. I know you’re a WEDDING planner, but is there a way you could do a mini-series on this topic? How to present the event to relatives, what type of dress to choose (white??? or what colour???), how to designate ourselves, how to put together some kind of ceremony so we can exchange love words and so forth. I feel like it’s a HUGE topic. I would be interested but I don’t know where to start.

[@savannahSage-_likethe_spice-]

169 days till my big day, literally re watching all your videos, just to pretend your right here with me. Like morning afternoon and evenings so I feel better. Lol love your videos!

[@ninaanddakotafox5840]

Best advice was you! You shouldn't hire vendors if you don't feel heard. This helped immensely after my first venue tour!

[@jamiecashman117]

Best Advice I got was "It's okay to elope"... 2020 has made it more acceptable to elope due to circumstances, but I've always wanted a small event like at the end of the movie Runaway Bride !

[@KayBauxxx]

Anyone got advice for a pushy family member ? My fiancé and I are doing a SMALL (15 people) ceremony and my grandma is really pushing me to invite my uncle whom I just do NOT get along with. I’m pretty sure she’s gonna threaten to not come to our wedding unless I cave-which I won’t but I just don’t know how else to handle it. I’ve already set my boundaries so...help lol

[@SjofnBM1989]

Tell her that if she doesn't want to come that's on her he's still not invited. If she's going to push the issue then she doesn't really care about you and she doesn't need to be there.

[@brodee.morgan]

It’s YOUR day. An extra guest still costs a lot of money that could be put towards something you actually want. Tell her she’s allowed to the wedding (and she’ll probably regret not going) but he is not.

[@ShadowSiren88]

Before pandemic chaos in January 2019 we reserved a date in 2022 to save up and we got so lucky! Huge discounts and missed the insanity of 2020. Been engaged since spring 2019, best advice is take your time. Spending 2 years to plan has been so comfortable!

[@dycubthesaxoflutist]

Let's say I gave away 'Save the Dates' to coworkers I don't interact with anymore like I'm giving away candy on Christmas. Do I still have to send them invitations?

[@kaylafischer9304]

April 2021 Bride here... aaaaaaaaand it looks like my state is headed for another shutdown.... really frustrating. But, I am so happy my Mother sat me down and forced me to come up with a plan B, just incase. Best advice ever, it helps to remind myself that our wedding will still happen and we will still have our loved ones with us!

[@kathrinopheiden7682]

I'm a 20 year old german student, single and living at home but guess who's channel i keep watching?😂

[@destinee.26]

I’ve got to say that I absolutely love your channel and I’m getting married in July and your videos have saved me so much! Thank you ❤️❤️❤️

[@sandraalexander4690]

I had a planner for last month before. It was great! I did not have a seating chart. She said that was fine. We just reserved tables for wedding part and immediate family. It worked great. The planner directed the guests.

[@Mhaga81]

I addressed early on what things i was not going to be upset about if they didn’t happen. Told my husband that if they were important to him that he could help make them happen, but that i couldnt do everything. Other advice is if you are someone who wants or needs to keep track of wedding expenses...do it as you go. Make a spreadsheet and just add as you go. I kept an itemized list, even had a section for who paid for what. If we were gifted anything etc. and it was way less stressful when i did it in the moment than the one or two times i was playing catch-up.

[@Mhaga81]

A problem we had with considering people’s needs is we had two separate people who needed the same thing (be sat right next to the bathroom). But they didn’t know each other so sitting at the same table wasnt an option. So we basically had to play a game of “who needs it more”...and then that person just didn’t come. Very frustrating.

[@Sara-vn2kz]

Jamie, I love everything you make. Stay beautiful, Beautiful!

[@katquiroga]

My venue closed for good! 2 months before my 2020 wedding haha so yeah it'll happen at a later date

[@lydias376]

Video starte at 2:45

[@valerievalle5207]

As a 2020 civic bride (now wife), the planning for 2020 hits too hard lol

[@lexielynn03]

You are so stinking cute and just beautiful! Like inside and especially out! Lol

[@MomoShow]

Hello to YOU, lovely human!! You’ve been helping me so much!

[@Mhaga81]

We made our first dance our grand entrance. Danced for a minute then had others join if they wanted.

[@moniqueandrade1448]

I’m here for the hefty chunk off! I will be tuning in....

[@alisalaska1786]

Yess. I really needed this. My county just made a ZERO person gathering mandate and I’m supposed to be getting married next week 😭😭😭

[@SjofnBM1989]

😬 that sucks. I'm really sorry.

[@shir35303]

Sending love! Our country also switches things up all the time

[@Bluebubblez7094]

Love this! Need more of this content!

[@aleeshapassey3392]

7 year engagement 🙋‍♀️

[@tashadennings]

GREAT! THANK YOU

[@saschamayer4050]

Ok

[@saschamayer4050]

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[@saschamayer4050]

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[@YourDailyDoseofJillish]

Having a long engagement while choosing abstinence can be very challenging. We're in it for the long haul though, I don't graduate until winter of '23 and my parents don't want us to marry until I'm done with school.

[@alyssapfluger4236]

That's a tough road, but good for you! The extra time is hard, but it'll just confirm that you're both ready for the commitment. You've got this!

[@Lady_V_C]

God loves you and created you, and sent his Son to die for you, to take the punishment for your sins. If you believe in Him, repent of your sins, and confess with your mouth, then you will be saved. The only wedding advice that really matters is to put God first, then your marriage will be blessed. God created the gift of marriage to show us how to be more like him and to love self-sacrificially.

[@alicjaz2771]

Tell that to people that stay in unhappy toxic or even abusive marriages. I guess going to church fixes that, lol

[@Lady_V_C]

@@alicjaz2771 Well it's interesting you mention church, I never mentioned church in my comment. You imply sarcastically that church fixes things, I am not claiming that whatsoever. I'm sorry if you have been misled to believe the lie that church is the answer, that is not the case, only faith in God will fix problems in your life. There is nothing we can do to earn salvation, it is freely given because of God's mercy and grace. If you want a relationship with the God who created you and cares for you so much he sent his son to die for you, the only hope we have for salvation, then you will accept his free gift and follow him before it's too late. It's also ironic you imply unhappy, toxic, abusive marriages. My marriage could be classified as such, and yet, only because I know the relationship I have with God, and that my ultimate marriage to him in eternity far outweighs anything I go through in this life, I have hope. In fact, I know everything I go through God uses for something greater, my whole life is proof of that. It's because I serve him that my relationships have improved, and my husband has even changed for the better. Those in situations similar to mine need the hope that comes from God alone even more than most. I want everyone to know the hope that I have, so they can have it too!

[@alicjaz2771]

@@Lady_V_C i could copy and paste my comment and change :going to church" to "believing in God". Suffering and staying in toxic relationships doesn't serve anybody - it actually teaches children toxic love and that they deserve to be treated badly. Believing in God doesn't automatically make anybody free from these humans flaws. They have to be worked on.

[@Lady_V_C]

@@alicjaz2771 I never claimed to remain in a toxic or abusive relationship, everyone's situation is different, and people will have to make decisions for themselves regarding their health, safety, and the environment in which they raise their children. Deciding between making a marriage work or raising children without their father doesn't offer anybody and cut and dry and easy solution, life doesn't work that way, and I speak from experience. Only the love of Christ can show those around us what true love is, which is a self-sacrificing love, one that we can't show in our own strength. This circles back to my original argument here, that earthly marriage is only a poor foreshadowing of a perfect, spiritual marriage found with God in eternity. And nowhere do I claim we don't have to put in work ourselves, but only God, through his sacrifice of Jesus Christ, can free us from slavery to sin. That is true freedom, and everyone needs that hope. The wonderful blessing God gives us despite what we've suffered, is his plan for our lives. No one's suffering or pain goes to waste when your faith is placed in Him. What a wonderful thing! I suppose you will have to experience God's working in your own life to truly know the hope and joy and peace He brings.

[@alicjaz2771]

@@Lady_V_C I don't know why I even got into discussion with someone that leaves off the topic comments about God on youtube... good luck, this all sounds wonderful but it's also vague and means nothing in practice