Would You Ever Date a Trans Person?

[@Jammidodger]

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[@arcadiaberger9204]

"Oh, you've had four C-sections? So you've never actually delivered a child vaginally? And yet you still claim to be a mother? You still claim to be a woman? "Why are you looking angry? Why are you crying? I'm simply observing upon plain, obvious facts of biology. "Or maybe there's more to being a woman, more to being a mother, than biology? Maybe you should show your fellow humans a tiny bit of respect? "Maybe if you showed human beings respect, you might get respect in return...?"

[@cacao_0000]

I'm listening to it on Spotify as an audiobook, absolutely phenomenal!

[@learabee]

Can’t wait to get a hard copy of your book… thank you for being YOU. Thanks for putting your true self out there. We are so glad you did. ❤❤❤❤

[@carmenattallah6244]

Have you reacted to the Katie Couric documentary? I know it’s old but I think it’s wonderful. Should be required to watch in every school.

[@joshuacoleman8000]

​@@carmenattallah6244 Title?

[@rexevans5477]

I'm aromantic I'd never date a person

[@MDaggatt]

ahhh, yes. only aromas for you.

[@grookeymon]

lol

[@millymaker7836]

Would you date the letter A

[@grookeymon]

im demiromantic and asexual. and trans, and bisexual

[@Milk-ck1wv]

Everyone is food.

[@ThatWolfArrow]

"Think of the children" is almost always a self callout of "I don’t understand/trust this minorty and I don’t want kids around them to develop trust for this minority because of my own fear and lack of understanding."

[@comfysage]

that's such a wonderful way to put it. thnx I'm quoting this

[@twitchy_bird]

Best way to word it I've found so far!

[@Denidrakes69]

It's all scapegoating. They couldn't care less about anyone else's children. It's the old blame-a-minority-to-gain-control trick.

[@Zero_Moon_]

exactly! that’s a great way to phrase it. /gen

[@Lissa2355]

"Think of the children" but it's fine for them to be exposed to a game with war and violence like CoD. Okie dokie

[@oblivion3139]

the fact everyone in that meeting immediately went “EUUUHH WH EWWW UHHHH EUUUGHHH.???” in shock of such an inappropriate question has me rolling laughing i hope that senator’s heart dropped and he feels eternally embarrassed for that

[@kalieris]

Pretty sure he doesn’t. He doesn’t see most of the people in that room as human, so doesn’t see their response as anything but validation that he successfully “triggered the woke.”

[@violeth2255]

He's a politician. None of them have any shame and thus experience no embarrassment.

[@pichu9546]

while i recognize how disturbingly inappropriate the comment was its the little things that count

[@jiminysnicket86]

​@violeth2255 bet he'd turn beet red if they asked if he was circumcised and dimensions though

[@ScarletTiger109]

@user-vw1yz3cb3l no one is doing what you are claiming.

[@pavelZhd]

A good analogy for misgendering in my opinion is stepping on another person's foot. Like this is not a nice thing to do, but if you do it by accident - you just say sorry, and try to not do it again. And everything is fine. But if when someone points out that you are standing on their foot and instead of moving you shift more weight into it - that just makes you a mean jerk.

[@Shadowdemoninsideyourwalls]

I’m yoinking this TYSM

[@1stCommentCop]

You have descriptive powers worthy of Apollo my friend.

[@Faus4us_Official]

Indeed.

[@Hereforfun2024]

Nah it makes me a person that isn’t going to be bullied by helicopter farts with lies. What you are born as is what you are. At least until you turn 18 then you can have whatever delusions you want and I still don’t have to play along

[@Shadowdemoninsideyourwalls]

@@Hereforfun2024 🚨🚨🚨 TERF ALERT 🚨🚨🚨 DONT ENGAGE

[@WhyIsTheClosetDoorOpening]

As a trans person who is currently dating another trans person, yes, I would definitely date a trans person.

[@unicornglitzer]

I love ur username haha😂

[@WhyIsTheClosetDoorOpening]

@@unicornglitzer Haha thank you!

[@bliss5297]

Same!!! T4T relationships are great because of the shared experience.

[@WhyIsTheClosetDoorOpening]

@@bliss5297 I completely agree

[@thelittlestpika]

I'm also in a T4T relationship and I love it so much! He's a sweetheart and we can bond deeper because dysphoria isn't something that cis people understand.

[@lullustration5775]

I recently had a trans girl over (she's very early in her transition and still looks very masculine) and I have a cat who doesn't like strangers at first but she took really well to this girl. I told her the cat warms up more quickly to women (which is true) and her face lit up. I'm so proud of my cat.

[@yb0oot]

aahhhhh i’m smiling so hard right now, thanks for sharing

[@Solace6428]

My mother has a cat that LOVES men. I was visiting her with my ftm friend a while back, and the cat was all over him. He too enjoyed being told that the cat only does that to men.

[@yb0oot]

@@Solace6428 AND IT KEEPS GETTING BETTER

[@AlessiaJW]

What a lovely way to say this it made me smile and joyful and also cats are just the best.

[@kittysunlover]

Gender affirming cats ftw!

[@Milk-ck1wv]

Remember people if you would never ask a straight cis person about their genitals or question their sexuality then DON'T ASK SOMEONE THAT IS TRANS THAT. Edit: It's odd that people are cherry picking this comment. If you are pursing a romantic relationship then obviously that is a completely different scenario but if you just met somebody or your talking to them and they tell you their trans and your first thought is to ask them about their genitals like the polition in this video did? Then yes that is a problem and you should not do that.

[@kellibrenneke2253]

Just don't ask ANYONE that!!!

[@AustinTheWeenieTickler]

Aye just don’t ask anyone that in general if you don’t want to be a fuckin weirdo

[@FrozEnbyWolf150]

It's a microaggression. It's a way of saying, "I already consider you a second class citizen, so if I want to invade your privacy, you'd better tell me." It's analogous to how POC are often approached with, "Lemme touch your hair."

[@zanderfus2723]

NOT ACIDIC

[@hayleyxyz]

If someone asked me that, I'd turn it around and ask why they're fantasising about my genitals. Old conservative dudes won't change their mind, but you can humiliate them.

[@antico1986]

I'm trans, and I'm completely immune to misgendering or deadnaming. I was able to archive that by realising my gender identity is intrinsic, doesnt require people validating it, no matter what they might think, it's not gonna change who I am. I see a lot of people who suffer from gender dysphoria mistake this with social intolerance and open themselves up to mental distress as a result. Proper therapy is what's needed here. Developing skills to draw one's own value from within not from the outside. Low self-esteem issues are very common amongst young trans people.

[@CMelon-xe1qc]

@bigchongusHH Coooooool. The nice thing about that is that they just told you they don’t care! 😎😎

[@Invalidcas]

If your children are old enough to call someone gay as an insult, they're old enough to actually learn about gay people. these people have no problem if their kid finds out about gay as an insult, but they throw a fit when they find anything positive or informative.

[@elsiest.irvyne9515]

That's it. You may make LGBT people leave your kids alone, but homo/transphobes will never even bother to do the same.

[@I-like-cows]

They shouldn't Learn about it at all till they're no longer kids inclusivity be damned I don't want inclusivity I want my kids to be free from outside influence in this case the pride flags everywhere in schools

[@summerlovinxx]

@@I-like-cows your child(ren) will never be free from outside influence because you are also an influence on them. but you're okay with that, no? so maybe it's not about outside influence, but rather what you do and do not agree with. if you want your child to make the best choices for their life, you have to show them every option on the table. hiding anything away is unfair not only to them but whatever it is you think they shouldn't see. you can tell us all you want that "I don't care if other people are gay" or "it's not my choice to make", deciding for your child that they shouldn't be gay solely because you're personally not comfortable with any form of non-hetero sexuality is choosing to not show them every option.

[@I-like-cows]

@summerlovinxx that's my choice to make its my child not anyone else's I have the right to not show them what I don't want to if I don't agree with something I will not show it to my child its my right to do so no? So who are you to tell me how to raise my child? Who are you to say my child isn't free? Are you implying they can only be free by being exposed to all ideas? Then who are you to decide what they should and shouldn't see? Only I their parent decide that until they're old enough to decide for themselves, who are you to not only expose them to something without my consent but also encourage them to indulge in it without me knowing? Keep to yourself and I will keep to myself

[@Invalidcas]

@@I-like-cows do you have any issue with your children seeing a man and a woman on a date at a restaurant, or holding hands, or kissing, or showing romantic affection, or dating in a book at school? if not, why do you have a problem when its two men or two women? Teaching your children to hate is horrible. I'm not saying you can't do it fuck knows i cant stop you, but you should have some moral qualms about what you're saying??? the left is not trying to teach kids how to gay, not trying to teach them about gay sex any younger than straight sex. it's simply "these people exist, they are normal, they are people, they are human." to avoid hate. there is a ridiculous amount of hate and violence out of pure ignorance and fear/hatred of the unknown. Teaching your children "these people are shameful, dont go near them, we dont like them" spreads into their classrooms, imagine a child with gay parents- what if your child hears about that. how would you want them to respond??? trying to keep children away from it leads to confusion, fear and hate.

[@JhericFury]

I had someone on Facebook say they didn't think gender affirming care for children was a good idea, because they are a cis woman and dressed "masculine" as a kid (standard), she then said that what people should do is just let kids figure themselves out, let them dress however they want, go by new names if they want and see if they still feel trans after a few years of that. Like, dude, that is trans affirming care for kids (or a large part of it, at least), that's literally what we're asking for

[@maysee2515]

Yeah, sounds like that lady didn't know the difference between affirmation and surgery, and jumped straight to the conclusion of kids being operated on

[@JhericFury]

@@maysee2515 unfortunately, and fortunately, we'd have a lot more allies if people knew the actual truth and not the propaganda. Hopefully it should mean we can counter act it, but propaganda is hard

[@waffles3629]

Yep, like do these people hear themselves? They will literally argue against gender affirming care while describing gender affirming care. It's just pathetic.

[@littlemoon4386]

That isn’t trans affirming care??? It’s letting ur child dress how they want

[@JhericFury]

@@littlemoon4386 (edit: your reply just talks about clothing, my original comment mentioned several more things, my reply here has assumed you meant all the things I mentioned) for young children, that's a large part of trans affirming care, alongside therapy. The only pills kids might get access to, and it's quite rare, is puberty blockers and weirdly those only get prescribed once kids are about to go through puberty not kids who are under 10, and surgery is practically non existent for any kids, certainly not until they're like 16 at the earliest and even then it's vanishingly rare. Unlike the anti trans propaganda would have you believe, no one is performing surgery or giving hormones to 6 year olds. And while we're at it, it's certainly not fast tracked, I've known people who've gone through the system, you're looking at about 5 years before you even see an NHS prescribed hormone.

[@RebeccaOsterbergFamilyandMusic]

If I weren’t married and old, I’d date an awesome human, If they were trans and wonderful. I love how her friend called out the senator and flattened him. I appreciate you and your kindness as well as strictly dealing with transphobia and sexuality in general. As an advocate for others that identify as LGBTQIA, including family and friends, I hope to continue learning. Your videos have helped me check myself and be a better n supporter. Thank you!

[@Gentlyofroka]

Thank you for being awesome

[@ErisApplebottom]

Thank you! You seem like nice people 😊

[@spooniejusticewarrior]

There's something cute about the way you said "others with LGBTQIA" like queerness is an accessory.

[@RebeccaOsterbergFamilyandMusic]

@@spooniejusticewarrior I think I should’ve said others of… Hope I didn’t offend. Namaste

[@spooniejusticewarrior]

@@RebeccaOsterbergFamilyandMusic not at all! Made me giggle

[@alexdavidson7498]

2:05 actually, it’s pretty normal for the first thought an Arkansas senator has about a woman to be about her genitals regardless of gender assigned at birth.

[@l_Tea]

That's funny but dark but true.

[@saltwatertastesgood]

NAWWW

[@funnibaugetteman]

The violation💀

[@nerdy_thingy]

Some random girl told me last week that she wouldn't date me because I'm a trans boy and that'd make her gay and she doesn't wanna be a "gross homosexual". Of course she added that she wasn't transphobic and all and that it was just not "her typa thing to do" after saying such stuff 💀 These kinda people don't even think about that maybe trans people wouldn't even wanna date them

[@Sillymonroll]

Says homo/transphobic things "I swear im not homo/transphobic!"

[@nerdy_thingy]

@@Sillymonroll True

[@realMacMadame]

I hope you told her you wouldn't date her on a bet.

[@nerdy_thingy]

@@realMacMadame Yes I did :D

[@MaridoDoFelps]

My best friend asked "if I like you, does it mean I'm no longer gay, but bisexual?" I'm FtM... It felt horrible.

[@notjustamwac]

I'm a ciswoman and I just DO NOT get the gatekeeping. I've had kids. My sister hasn't. Does that make me a woman and my sister not? No! So why is it any different for transwomen? Oh yeah... IT'S NOT! It makes me so mad.

[@meaj4556]

Yes! And: If you call trans women women, then I, a (cis) woman is insulted. How? How does this in anyway pertain to you? Do you have Main Character Syndrome?

[@ChocolateShaddixX]

Exactly! Everyone can decide for themselves. I don't want children either, and that doesn't make me any less of a woman. Her mindset is so f*cking toxic for trans people and people who are infertile (or maybe even trying to get kids) or people that adopt kids. It's wonderful for her, that she has this experience to birth and raise kids, so I don't get why she has to play a "But what about MEEE?!"--card when another person is just talking about their experience?

[@simoneholenstein6977]

it‘s also just plain insulting far ANY woman of any age… I‘m cis and every attempt to exclude trans women from womanhood I have come across so far minimizes the female experience, excludes various cis women as well and reduces the live and worth of women to our reproductive capabilities and/or our experience of oppression/our pain… thx, I hate it. also, just let people BE please 🙄

[@loztandfound2708]

From a childless person with 2 lovely nephews by their sister - THANK YOU!! ❤❤

[@Freakyminosprime]

Transwomen can have kids. We have food babies then we flush it were all dead beats

[@crowdedcar]

Gwen is a highly respected Pharmacist in central Arkansas. Her pharmacy is a hub for trans and gnc people, and even regularly hosts name/gender marker/birth certificate change events. She’s an icon. And how she was treated on the floor of the AR senate was infuriating.

[@Keebles8]

Her pharmacy has been ensuring to have plan B available after Roe v. Wade was overturned. That was my family’s main pharmacy growing up, and I’m so glad to know that it’s in good hands now with Gwen and her team!

[@WynneL]

I was stunned by his utter lack of decorum. You don't ask people about their genitals. Infuriating indeed.

[@Ramblinrabbit24]

I used to work at a pharmacy and I didn’t know a more boring job could exist. So for someone to be a pharmacist and actually enjoy it and excel in it deserves respect by itself. In all seriousness though. I’m a supporter of trans rights and any person rights so much respect for that as well.

[@snake1844]

sounds like a good pharmacy to never visit, luckily i don't live in arkansas

[@lenorarowe8533]

The way she was treated was absolutely disgusting, she’s a saint of a woman. Even some of the other bigots on the floor knew he went to far and I feel so bad she had to deal with that.

[@XxDiPpInDoTsXx]

To that woman saying that she is being diminished because of trans women because babies: There are cis women who don't think that you're a real mother because you had c-sections. Just live your life, girl, and let other people live theirs.

[@animeotaku307]

Hell, cis women are pretty nasty to other cis women who are infertile.

[@malter95]

That could be a real insecurity that she's projecting about. Doesn't make any of what she's saying okay, but it's possible that's where it's coming from.

[@Michele18164]

I'm a cis woman who is deliberately childless. Do I "diminish" womanhood, too? If other people's existence threatens her, she isn't much of a person to begin with.

[@thetruepatriot7733]

Nobody thinks that sweetheart....

[@JazniaDraw]

​@@thetruepatriot7733i had a woman say to my face i was a bestard because my mother had me via c-section, and that she wasn't a real mom because "she took the easy way" So yeah, from personal experience, there's really people out there in the world who think that sadly

[@astrobella4620]

To offset the transphobia, here is a heartwarming story from Comic-Con this year: I went as Kiki from Kiki’s Delivery Service. There was a little (trans) girl who was also dressed like Kiki, and she seemed a little self-conscious about her costume. Her dad got so excited when he saw me and said “See! There’s another person dressed like Kiki!” I said hi and complimented her outfit and she seemed to relax a little, and anyway it just warmed my heart to see such a supportive father!

[@kittehgo]

Oh now I want to see that cos play, I love that anime 😊

[@crazysasha1374]

What a great movie!

[@Robin_hood.100]

Omg as a trans kid thank you so much for supporting us

[@amandajay666]

Absolutely adorable!!

[@snausagesmcgee3963]

​@@Robin_hood.100"thank you so much for making up a story in ChatGPT" ftfy

[@CelesteMinerva]

That first video is my whole issue with Transphobia. It's amazing how these people have no issue trying to "show up" a trans person by talking about their genitals. Then in the same breathe want to say that trans people are trying to hurt children. One person was existing and the other is trying to figure out someone's junk. So WHO'S THE PERVERT?!?!. I say it's the nasty person who is sitting around thinking about stranger's junk. I really think the way to stop the majority of these AHs is to call them out every time. Call them what they are, perverts. I think someone like that state senator would think twice if someone tells them that their actions are completely perverted.

[@waffles3629]

Yep. I once got called a pedophile by someone because I refused to show her my genitals...I was 14, she was an adult. It was disgusting.

[@brianapereira2694]

@@waffles3629 I'm so sorry that happened. *hugs*

[@LuluTheCorgi]

Nobody is more pre occupied with children's genitals than conservatives The pedophile accusations are the P in Gaslight, Obstruct, Project

[@blueturtle3623]

I wouldn't not date someone solely for being trans. I wouldn't date someone solely for being trans either though.

[@idkkkk7588]

Agreed as someone dating a trans girl. I love my girlfriend but not because she is trans but because I just love her as a person.

[@cicalinarrot]

Well, you know, just like it usually happens with... people. The solution to most of transphobia is "treat trans people like people" but apparently that's too much to ask in some cases.

[@twitchy_bird]

​@@cicalinarrot100% this.

[@DylanKanna]

Exacly if someone rather date me for my genitals instead of my Personality then thats a huge red flag and they shouldn't date anyone no matter cis or trans.

[@ljeans531]

I probably wouldn't date a trans person, because of my sexuality. I hope that doesn't mean I'm transphobic tho.

[@aridw]

My father and I disagree on many things, but he said something one time about free speech that I just thought was such a good, succinct way of putting it: “I am not infringing on your freedom of speech by telling you to shut up. I am merely exercising my own.”

[@Dutch3DMaster]

Honestly, I get it, but it's not correct. People like to abuse the freedom of speech argument a lot but forget that while you can say a lot, you can't say anything and upon facing repercussions for it claim "it's freedom of speech!" Freedom of speech can't exist without consequences, but yet whenever someone who is transphobic or homophobic experiences backlash, they are quick to say their right to freedom of speech is taken away. No: you just experienced you can't just say everything you want and get away with it without any effects, just like I can't.

[@gaines8807]

I have dated a trans person and…it was…a normal relationship. Because trans people are normal people 🤷

[@mfknbumblebee]

🤯

[@RainbyFIN]

I'm not, I'm a huge weirdo. Unrelated to gender, though ✌️

[@millynocito7958]

​@@RainbyFINI would never date a huge weirdo but that's only because opposites attract

[@Wizard_Pepsi]

We humans are an odd bunch for sure.

[@Bunny_Bill]

WHAT????? BLASPHEMY😧😧😧😧😧😧😧😧😧😧😧😧😧😧😧😧😧😧

[@Emma-Maze]

That creepy woman explaining that the trans lady is "too weak to be a woman" and saying that "real women stand up for themselves" is accidentally really affirming my gender over here. Clearly I'm too weak and baby to be cis. 😂

[@UmongusSussehFrusseh]

Yeah she gave big terf energy

[@animeotaku307]

“Trans women are too weak to be women because they don’t stand up for themselves.” *gestures to Marsha P. Johnson, a trans woman who led the charge for LGBTQIA+ rights for herself and others, as well as other trans women who were on the front line*

[@pamelap.7141]

I'm a cis woman and she made me so uncomfortable, like go away with your shitty opinions and your uncanny valley face somewhere else lady. Idk what kind of misogyny is she on, but it's wild af.

[@jessica_7744]

Bro fr im cis and i usually would just be like “thank you 🙂” bc i couldnt tell them im a girl when they misgender me but i still say thank you bc its a compliment but i dont like confrontation and my biggest fear is going to court ugh, but her saying that shes too weak to be a female was so confusing like huuuh, that makes no sense bc im cis and “too weak” so she probably think i dont exist LOL! Edit: srry i talk a LOT, but talking a lot is good so if you talk a lot and youre reading this just know that you are just as cool as everyone else incase youre kinda insecure abt it like me

[@N95j]

seriously!! her face smiling while saying that stuff just makes me feel so uncomfortable

[@kevwiltshire6365]

I have been on a date with a trans guy - it started me thinking more deeply about what signifies a man to me (as a cis gay man), and my attitudes, hence being here. I found myself wondering whether it would matter if we dated and it turned out he had not had lower surgery, and how relevant the various physical ‘typical’ aspects of ‘manhood’ are to my core attraction toward other men; and indeed what constitutes a man to my primitive brain. The answer I came to is ‘I’m not sure yet’, but if handled with a bit of thought, kindness and sensitivity, I reckon these things can be navigated in a way that respects all our differences, core needs and experiences.

[@sndragonfan7257]

Wow! I appreciate your commitment to being open minded and explore differences in people, and your statement that you want to handle it with kindness! ❤

[@sammygirl6910]

Your openness and rationality are truly refreshing.

[@henkkahenrik4183]

As a trans guy, i think it's totally fine not being attracted to someone because their surgeries, or really any reason whatsoever. We can't choose who we're attracted to and why. For some people even something like a certain haircolour or voice can be a turnoff. It's completely logical that a person's genitals can be something important for attraction. It's fine if you don't wanna date someone because they're trans, it's only a problem if you start disrespecting them in normal day to day life, like misgendering them or treating them different from other friends. Attraction is important for dating and isn't something we can change, but it isn't important for platonic or professional relationships. And not being attracted to someone doesn't make that person any less of a man. He's just a man that isn't attractive to you. We aren't attracted to every person in our lives after all, regardless of gender. It's basically the same as being turned off because someone's junk size or height. Is it superficial? Maybe. But most physical attraction is. And thats fine. You might not date someone with a small dick or certain stature, but it doesn't stop you from being friends with them and respecting them. Summed up: it's fine not being attracted to someone for whatever reason you have. It's better to stay as friends than to be in a relationship without attraction.

[@BeegroovyWithTheAutz]

For me im attracted to women. The essence of women and liking trans women was never a question. I like gorl alway.

[@PigeonLord]

I'm very happy to hear about your openness! I am a GNC woman who is dating a trans man. It's perfectly fine if you aren't sure if you'd be in a relationship with a trans man or not. I would only suggest communicating that with any trans guy you happen to date, explaining you're open to the possibility but are still learning about it and you just aren't certain yet if it honors your own identity or not. Some trans people are totally open and willing to answer any questions one might have about transitioning, especially if you establish you're an ally and want to learn more. Of course no one is obligated to do so, and on the flipside of that it is many trans people are tired of having to answer everyone's questions or being the one to educate people. my boyfriend came out to me after we had already been dating for a while, but I'm pan so it didn't really impact my attraction or feelings towards him. Before he came out I knew little to nothing about trans people besides one trans girl I went to high school with. Over the years, I've tried to educate myself on trans issues and transitioning in general to try and be as supportive as i can be, but also going to him with questions because every trans person is different, not everyone experiences transitioning the same way. TLDR; Communication is everything.

[@LaylaSpellwind]

Piers morgan, I can't identify as a horse or a penguin, just as much as you can't identify as someone who has a brain.

[@thetotallyrealsusie]

I’m stealing this

[@LaylaSpellwind]

@@thetotallyrealsusie

[@elliotoliverr]

this is the funniest shit i’ve seen all day

[@fenixmeaney6170]

Look, if someone's a furry, I'm not gonna question it. But I don't know why we're even listening to someone who self identifies as a journalist.

[@crashley47]

He's also the same guy that said we can grow concrete

[@rosesandmilk]

“Would you date a trans person?” I don’t know, are they my type? Do we get along? Do we share the same humor? Are they kind? Do they like dogs? I don’t care about who you were before, i care about who you are now as long as you are happy with yourself.

[@katanah3195]

Yeah, my answer to that is "is she cute? Is she nice? Does she like cats, cuddles, and a good book? Does she like me?"

[@Liggliluff]

It's like asking "would you date a person with blue eyes?" like, that's not a disqualifying factor if that's what the question is, but that's not a specific trait I'm seeking out either.

[@chuckie12inch]

no i wont. im not gay

[@Liggliluff]

@@chuckie12inch That reply doesn't make sense. "Would you date a tall person?" "No, I'm not gay". "Would you date a bisexual?" "No, I'm not gay".

[@chuckie12inch]

@@Liggliluff So a man dating a biological man isnt gay?

[@Raider_chaox]

As someone who’s dating a trans girl (2 months today actually 😁), I have never seen her as less of a human or disrespect her for not being able to fully transition yet. Stuff like this makes me so mad about people who just refuse to listen to people just because they are “trans”. People are people, I love my gf, everybody else can shut up. Edit: Y’all are so sweet thanks for the congrats on our anniversary ❤️

[@Starhawke_Gaming]

Happy two month anniversary to both of you ❤🏳️‍⚧️❤️

[@Raider_chaox]

@@Starhawke_Gaming Thank you so much 🙏🙏

[@unicornglitzer]

Congrats on 2 months🥳❤

[@5Rice5Cake5]

Happy anniversary ❤

[@PineMountainMusician]

Congrats on the 2 month anniversary! I wish you two many more years together (:

[@alexcrime3161]

Hi Jamie You said "I think it would be great if people could learn and grow" Actually, that's what happened to me. I'm from Russia. I live in a conservative society where being gay is viewed as repulsive. When I was growing up, everyone around me was homophobic, transphobic and even denied the need of feminism. Being bisexual, I felt horrible growing up because I had this inner conflict of those views imposed on me and my true feelings. I wanted to understand it, I wanted to learn more. I started speaking to other people about their experiences, I started watching videos (in English of course as it's basically illegal in Russia to speak about LGBTQ+). I became a feminist (though I always felt that women should be treated better, now I share my views with other people who still don't think that feminism is good and I hope to change their minds too). I watched some of your videos where you spoke about your experience or made comments about transphobia and homophobia as well. I thank you for that. You've changed a lot of people. And I'm really happy that you had an impact on my growth too ❤

[@11MissingPhoenix]

Im glad you grew as a person ❤

[@mjamin9124]

thank you 💕💜💙

[@pancake8180]

Hello from Russia! I'm glad you found your way out of that atmosphere too (even though not fully, new laws are so yucky)

[@yangeldorf]

same here!

[@nathryl03]

Regular reminder that you're all awesome, beautiful and valid little spuds, just the way you are ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 Love you all ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

[@allysontousignant591]

In all honesty I wouldn’t mind dating a trans male, I’m asexual, anyone masculine/male presenting is fine with me:)

[@Slayyyaphine]

So do you mean a trans woman whos sex is male which can't be changed or a trans guy?

[@prageruwu69]

​@@Slayyyaphinei think they mean a trans guy because they said masculine/male presenting, not biologically male

[@Midorikonokami]

Oh hey same, you worded it well!

[@flannelsone1159]

​@@prageruwu69Trans men are men.

[@prageruwu69]

​@@flannelsone1159yes

[@kristalpower292]

If a room full of people gasp collectively gasp in horror you know you shouldn't be asking the question.

[@sweetday0-0]

Rude! How could he not be offended when you try to offend him? Break up with him immediately! 😂😂

[@Morgan_le_they]

Jamie: “A state Senator! This is a very professional setting!” Me, and American who’s been watching our politics for years: 😳😳😳

[@timnewman1172]

Arkansas, self-explanatory.

[@_StarlightRose_]

Shhh, don't ruin his immersion

[@Bildgesmythe]

Yep, now they are resorting to elbows to the kidneys! Professional wrestling, maybe.

[@mfknbumblebee]

I wish I could have as much faith in congress as he does haha

[@xmorgan1123x]

where's bernie when you need him 🤌

[@Guro-Blue-kun]

Maybe it's because I'm old, non-binary, had gender dysphoria for the longest time, am pansexual, or have a many loved ones that are trans...but the question 'Would you date/sleep with a trans person!?' always irks me the wrong way. I never got it. My answer; Yes, and I have in the past. It's like for the person asking, being 'trans' is being less of a human... I do understand that people have preferences that they cannot change, BUT there's a respectful way to share it...and there's transphobia. Nearly 2 decades ago I had a lesbian friend who was hit on by a trans woman. They clicked and it was going smoothly, but she straight-forwardly cut it off and said she could only be friends when she learned she was pre-op trans. At first I was really put off by it, but she explained to me that she simply 'couldn't do with penises'. She also told me 'I may sincerely fall in love with her, but I would never be able to love 100% of her, and she deserve to be loved wholly' and I understood. Of course it's okay to not be attracted to certain genders and biology...but don't be awful about it.

[@caseycronan9217]

The better question is “Would a Trans person date me?” Like, do I foster a safe and loving environment for self expression??

[@SilverGallowglass]

❤ that is a lovely well worded answer and I love it

[@crazysasha1374]

oh shit that's deep

[@16tangerines]

What a good question. Thank you for adding that to this discussion

[@marsh799]

now THATS the question.

[@AlessiaJW]

Interesting perspective thanks.

[@mustang1888]

I am a biologic woman. I cannot get pregnant due to PCOS, Endometriosis and uterus fibroids. I identify as Non-Binary as my "gender" when asked. I do not mind female adjectives but I do not feel as if I belong in the binary of woman. If you don't like that I have "Female" DNA yet am not a woman, I don't care and don't need you in my life. But if you are going to talk to me, about me, in my presence, I just ask for respect.

[@SarastistheSerpent]

“Female/male DNA” is a misnomer anyway, as there is technically no such thing. A person may have XX or XY chromosomes as part of their genotype, but that doesn’t actually mean that a person is female or male, respectively. About 1 in 20000 cis women have XY chromosomes. Males with XX chromosomes also exist (though they are rarer than XY females). It’s called de la chappelle syndrome, or XX male syndrome. XX and XY chromosomes are only _associated_ with femaleness and maleness, because usually females have XX chromosomes and usually males have XY chromosomes, but the chromosomes themselves don’t actually have anything to do with whether a person is female or male. Y chromosomes normally carry an SRY gene which will cause a fetus to masculinize, but sometimes it will lack an SRY gene or the gene won’t express, and sometimes an X chromosome can carry an SRY gene.

[@MidnightEkaki]

Advice, 'biological woman' is a transphobic term and also implies gender is biological when its not. AFAB nonbinary is better or female nonbinary

[@5Rice5Cake5]

I have pcos too ❤

[@Denidrakes69]

My son was assumed female at birth. He had what appeared to be female genitalia. From the time he could talk, he told us he was a boy. Oddly, his birth certificate has him as "male," which pushed me to have him further tested. It turns out he is intersex - he has xy chromosomes. Literally every single thing that is used to say "this is male/female" can be challenged... *All women are born with a uterus - nope. *All women have ovaries - nope *All women have xx chromosomes - nope *Only men have xy chromosomes - nuh uh *Only men grow facial hair - nup. And then when they say, "oh but those people are in the minority," - well, guess what? There's more of them than there are trans people, and no one is screaming that they can't receive necessary medication, and that they're going to cause the downfall of civilisation.... Point being, no, your chromosomes and external physical presentation don't necessarily define your gender...Take care x

[@k70freeman]

that makes you a TRANS woman. People are mad at the BS. Trans man/ woman = man/woman. But bio man/woman = Cis man/woman. Also the BS lies they tell to kids. It is not reverse-bale and it dose have permanent life long affects. The moment they do try to De-trans they will hate you.

[@4nn13h7]

I would not only date a trans person, but as a cis female, I happen to find the trans men I know almost irresistible, and the trans women glorious and inspiring-regardless, I am horrified that any person is treated with less than respect for any reason other than acts of cruelty against another person. Asking about someone’s private areas in a public forum is much more abusive than informing kids about the existence of LGBTQ+. Creating a false dichotomy of “chaos” vs. sex-as-assigned is is abusive and pedantic. But, most of all, homing in on what you see as the shortcomings of others and using it as reinforcement of your privilege, or pretending to use it in the interest of children or cis women, particularly when it serves your own social cred, is just cheap and childish.

[@unforgiving266]

So, you're a lesbiam 🙄

[@besserwizard]

What some people don‘t seem to understand is: It‘s perfectly fine if you are not attracted to a trans person because they are trans, attraction is subjective. As long as you are not trying to force that onto other people, that‘s fine. It becomes weird once you‘re trying to justify that feeling by misgendering them.

[@anneo8393]

It will be great when trans people can transition to a point where we have all the "expected" biological functions of our gender because the transphobes will become really obvious and we won't have to have these stupid conversations anymore. I don't care if people don't want to date trans people, but I hate how easily that view can be used to hide transphobia

[@DarrenReddix-mf4ee]

Define misgendering, because if you can tell someone was born a woman for an example & said excuse me mam, but they turn out to be a trans female aka man, is it really misgendering? Then what if they cuss you out? You have the right not to pretend to be blind.

[@besserwizard]

First of all one small correction: You are talking about a trans man. Someone who was assigned female gender at birth but identifies as male. Second, if you call them a gender that they don't identify as, that is misgendering. If it is an honest mistake (because for example they are pre-transition) then it's not great because gender disphoria is a thing, but it's also not a big deal. The moment one does that intentionally one becomes the asshole.

[@DarrenReddix-mf4ee]

@@besserwizard Guess what? If you're born as a female, you'll die as a female, nothing can & ever will change that, no matter what you identify yourself as. If God wanted a female to be a male, he would've made them a male, but in reality he made them a female, nothing can & nothing will ever change that. If you're born as a female, I'm going to call you a female, I refuse to pretend like you're something you're not. If a trans male aka biologically a female put hands on a man, that trans better not start crying, "I'm a female", since they want to identify as a male

[@sol_and_luna]

​@@DarrenReddix-mf4eeUsually the conversation with me (and most trans people I'm aware of) is: "Excuse me, sir?" "Oh, um, I'm a woman." "Oh! My mistake." "It's alright, I understand. Is there something you needed?" And then the conversation moves on. It's not some social faux pas to misgender by mistake, it's only a problem when you keep going. Most people are abundantly aware if they don't pass yet.

[@therealopaartist]

My friend liked turning the tables on people who asked questions like that. “Do you have a penis?” “Why? You interested?” And watch them backpedal so hard it’s hilarious.

[@darkshadowrule2952]

Gotta go the extra length, start asking super invasive questions about it too like if it's cut or uncut, the length, the length to girth ratio, make it extra weird.

[@therealopaartist]

@@darkshadowrule2952 what makes it hilarious is that she’s so quiet most of the time but holy hell is she sarcastic and blunt. Will not hesitate to throw an insult right back and twist it to make YOU look like the weirdo. For example… Someone asked her what she did in the bathroom (asking whether it not she sat to pee) And she, loud as can be in a CLASSROOM FULL OF PEOPLE, said And I quote “why the fuck do you wanna know what I do in the bathroom so bad? Are you into that weird shit? Cuz I ain’t!” I’ve never seen a teenage boy go red so fast.

[@annokya5154]

I remember one of the streamers I watch getting asked a question like that in her chat a while ago, and at the time she had only recently become an adult so she was like ‘why are you talking about my penis, I’m barely 18, don’t be a creep’

[@Freakyminosprime]

Dont let them backpedal either just keep pushing the fact that they're interested

[@therealopaartist]

@@Freakyminosprime whats makes it hilarious is when others joined in and ragged on him too.

[@StarRose108]

Someone tried to call my friend transphobic because he said he wouldn't date a trans woman, without realizing my friend is a gay man. Lmao

[@waffles3629]

Ugh, I got called transphobic by someone who pointed at my best friend (knowing he's trans) and asked me I'd date him. I replied "No he's..." and got cut off with a very accusatory "a WOMAN?!?!? You're transphobic!!!!". Like no, because he's like a brother to me. I'm also trans, and my partner is trans, but because I don't want to date my best friend apparently I'm transphobic.

[@something_strange3086]

@bigchongus_ yeah ok "big chongus" i dont think anyone cares about your opinion

[@cherenkov_blue]

My go-to response for "Do you have a penis?" is always going to be "Do you have a brain?" If you think that asking me insulting questions is OK, you can't be mad if I respond in kind.

[@blankcanvasstudios3463]

Ok, I'm using this lmao

[@FrozEnbyWolf150]

For that politician, they're the same thing.

[@SuperJJParker]

Is there ever a situation when you think it is okay to ask?

[@puppyqueen5688]

sometimes I like to just respond with "Why? do you want to see it"

[@chuuislovechuuislife]

That’s a good one

[@The1stPurpleCat]

2:44 - Lady just said, “Having a d_ck doesn’t make you a man, and I mean that in more ways than one.” Btw, for y’all who don’t get it: • sex ≠ gender ; so you can have one but not be man (gender) • “be a man” means that they have dignity in their gender as a ‘manly man’; but she’s saying his stupid inappropriate question made him ‘less of a man’

[@paulgoogol2652]

This is what I hate about modern sexualism. People want to be a man/girl/whatever so bad. Fitting into old stereotypes instead of being themselves. If you think somebody is not feminine/masculine/cis enough, good for you. Rush on and date somebody else. But of course those poeple are pointed out "you. I don't like you." Attacked verbally and physically. So I have problems with both as both types just strive for living inside a box of stereotyping.

[@Dutch3DMaster]

@@paulgoogol2652 Ok, while I would desperately would want to agree with you, can I ask 2 simple things? 1. Who was being massively inappropriate and insanely creepy with as an adult human being obsessed over the genitals of another adult human being they had no intention of being intimate with? 2. Who made those stereotypes and who feels it's their day job to point out to us that we do not fit into them, never will, or when we do a little bit to well think they need to keep reminding us of what "we actually are, and who we are "louring in to being deceived"? This is not modern sexuality, this has existed for decades, but you are only now thinking it's a problem because of how more prominent trans-voices have become.

[@paulgoogol2652]

@@Dutch3DMaster 1.... "had no intention of being intimate with". I admire your naivity, young people. Yes it is just this obsession with sex that troubles me. So maybe this has to be issued as people are inherent creeps of doom.

[@paulgoogol2652]

@@Dutch3DMaster You are probably right. Humanity is just absurdly sex driven and there is no point in denying it.

[@henryt9281]

The overwhelming majority of society agree with you, that sex is not equal gender, and respect that. So why is the trans community pushing so hard to get into sex-segregated spaces, like sports teams and bathrooms and sororities, and then acting like you don't understand why there is such a backlash?

[@TheMeggize]

I would Definitely date a Trans person!! ❤🏳️‍⚧️

[@Vahlee-A]

🥲🏳️‍⚧️

[@FinnTheGoofballAndBFDINerd]

same here!

[@zanderfus2723]

My bf is trans so me too

[@tangerinelmao]

i want someone to date me :((

[@zanderfus2723]

@@damiangash6209 wdym? Straight pepole can date trans pepole

[@bananamanchester4156]

That teacher arguing with the transphobe at 10:44 was emotional, but she was RIGHT. Her argument was based in the truth. It annoys me when people try to push a false rivalry between emotion and logic, one doesn't cancel the other out.

[@snoop4472]

Conservatives can't seem to grasp the idea of addressing misogyny in the context of their heteronormative worldview while acknowledging that female anatomy is not exclusive to cisgender women.

[@SilverGallowglass]

Also, that bit about whether she argues with her kids like this... You aren't a child. If a child is saying those things, it is probably out of ignorance or by hearing adults around them say things. You are a grown adult in a government office which implies that you are educated, most likely highly educated and are prepared to discuss topics in an adult manner and deal with the consequences of saying bigoted things.

[@bananamanchester4156]

@@SilverGallowglass Absolutely! Such a manipulative tactic on his part. Besides, teachers will correct and punish students all the time for using bullying or offensive language. Its part of their job to make sure no harm comes to other students.

[@Barnaclebeard]

People who insist it's never about feelings are typically terrified of their own feelings.

[@hypatiakovalevskayasklodow9195]

That's such a good point! @@SilverGallowglass

[@nobody.of.importance]

I'm a 34 year old trans woman and I've dated some six people, men, women, trans and cis. No bad breakups, no fighting, we just found we weren't compatible as partners and moved on. Still friends with all but one of them, not sure what happened to him tbh :c. And this was long after coming out. My fellow trans folks, be a beautiful person and you will attract beautiful people. There's always someone out there for you. 💜

[@ericfreshcorn3590]

i would date you

[@timepasstubee]

you always have to find out whether the person you have a crush on is transphobic or not, that's kind of a struggle 😭

[@krimsonklaww611]

3:40 reminds me of a Vine that goes "I'm not racist, but Mexicans are kinda icky" "THAT IS EXTREMELY RACIST"

[@Ashh_cat]

I remember as a child I "identified" as a horse and as a dog at times. I acted fully as an animal, went on all fours, and like barked at people, I was that weird child. But I've never been a problem, I wasn't treated differently either, sometimes my parents went along because it was fun. But I have never been confused about my identity, I know who I am, though still figuring out what label fits, i never once hurt anyone by saying I was some type of animal. I don't see the problem with children learning about genders when they already say they're animals and play around like that. It's such a stupid argument, cause it just doesn't hold. Children today are saying they're animals for fun, like they did for so long, that doesn't affect their gender and has nothing to do with their identity.

[@UmongusSussehFrusseh]

We all pretended to be dragons & aliens during recess as kids. But when I was a kid (not even that long ago) not many of us have heard the idea of "transgender", or identifying as things. So, we didn't say we "identify as" a dragon. We just said "I'll be the dragon".

[@Ashh_cat]

@@UmongusSussehFrusseh yeah, i didn’t specifically say “i identify as a horse” But as a child that’s just a Word you’ll use cause you’ve heard it and it’s probably pretty new and exciting for a child, so if it was me and i knew that Word existed as a child, i Would probably have been using it

[@UmongusSussehFrusseh]

@@Ashh_cat yeah

[@turquoiseragdoll]

Honestly, I agree. The funny thing is, when I was a child and played with my friends (we were all girls), either I or my friend would sometimes take a male character role. For example, if we played family, sometimes one of us would be the father or a brother. When we played as animals, we would sometimes be a 'he'. And no one ever had an issue with that.

[@Ashh_cat]

@@turquoiseragdoll Exactly the same here! I'm now non-binary, but the rest of my friends (who were usually the "he" more than me) are all cis and women at this point, so letting children "identify" as animals or genders doesn't have anything to do with what their gender is, so his point doesn't really stand in any way

[@_ksm0922]

I told my boyfriend that if he were trans, I’d never date him. Then he had the NERVE to remind me that we are both trans men.

[@crazysasha1374]

UH!? How RUDE of hime!

[@ChiTheDemiguy]

I can't believe how hypocritical and rude he was.

[@jameskilgour387]

So rude

[@Theathegamer-gt8zu]

Such a rude accusation!!! I would NEVER suspect someone to be a trans man!!!! How dare they be so rude and “cisphobic”…

[@StuWright]

read mirriam grossmans book, "lost in trans nation" they lied to you

[@connergoessupersonic]

At the moment, i have no plans to date a trans person. However, if I ever fall in love with a girl and she turns out to be trans, I don’t see why I should just suddenly stop dating her if I love her And to all you guys, girls, and everyone in between who are part of the LGBTQ+ community, I hope you find that significant other and are very happy with them!

[@Lovuschka]

You'll have the advantage (if she transitioned later, at least) that she knows about the male body, so she knows how to REALLY make you happy.

[@leirumf5476]

Tw: a bad joke. As an ace, my significant other is Denmark 🥺 But fr, THIS is what us trans are after. I don't want you to be attracted to me, I don't care about it. Just treat me with the same respect you'd treat anyone else, and if you are attracted to me (tough luck, I'm aroace, sorry UnU) it better not be because of what's in my underwear!

[@montee3766]

If that happened to me and I was truly in love I'd question her identity and check if it's a phase cause if it's not then she can say bye bye.

[@connergoessupersonic]

@@montee3766 … Look, I _highly_ disagree with that mindset, but I’m not gonna rip into you until you change it. Just… try not to actively make trans people feel bad about their identity

[@montee3766]

@@connergoessupersonic well i believe in challenging beliefs instead of going with the flow. Also Im not gay so that's a valid point. But who knows maybe its because i grew up in poor eastern Europe and not united states.

[@IngridAstridOwings]

When they ask about my genitials i turn it around on them and ask "Are ypu circumsized? How long? Girth? Doesnit dangle left or right" apparently thats inappropriate...

[@ScarletTiger109]

@user-vw1yz3cb3lno one is “trying to fool” anyone.

[@jenh5898]

Lol it's laughable to me when someone equates being a woman with having periods and babies. A coworker got so mad at me last year because when she was outraged that I take meds to not have periods and she said periods make me a woman, I responded with something along the lines of "fine, according to you I'm not a woman, but I don't care to be one so move on" and that was so triggering for her because how do I dare not care about my womanhood 😂 for context, I'm cis, I just don't give a shit about my sex or gender and I always said that I'm fully happy being a woman but if I magically woke up one day as a guy, I'd be confused for about 5 minutes and then just get me some new clothes and move on. I notice that this approach is bizarre to most other cis people which is why I find some refuge here sometimes because (most) people in trans community have a healthier relationship with the concept of gender and it's refreshing, so hello to whoever made it to the end of this long comment 👋

[@mobilematthew]

Hello and that is my mind set as well if I was to get punted in the head by scp-113 while I was sleeping I would probably be confused the only thing I might be disappointed about is that if I'm magically get gender swapped my hair better become straight and long I hate my curly hair so much but other than that I would just continue going about my business as though nothing happened because I always wear a jacket so I am a blue blob and I will continue to be a blue blob

[@Darth_Insidious]

Same to be honest. As a cis guy if I swapped consciousness with an alternate reality version of me that was a girl I'd probably struggle at it for a bit but once I figured it out it wouldn't be a big deal.

[@jayzepickle6637]

As a cis woman I find this very relatable. In fact, I had struggled a lot as a teen with the fact that I hated having boobs and wished I had a beard. Those are things you may associate with a trans man, but despite those things I am still definitely a cis woman. I just dont connect my womanhood to things like boobs and having no facial hair. I am a woman because I just am.

[@hellochildren3780]

Honestly such a slay. I hate people who get annoyed at people taking/ doing things to stop periods or ever having babies biologically. I'm glad you're doing what you deem necessary for your comfort. ❤

[@leokonge4624]

Honestly I'd be incredibly annoyed about my body not working the way i expected for a few hours then move on with my life.

[@traumaeat3r]

Random but once my mom was saying how "it's super easy to tell if someone is trans like you can see it" and i showed her a picture of Jammie to prove her wrong and she actually agreed that she was wrong ^^

[@Slayyyaphine]

She was probably only referring to trans amab people because most transphobes forgot that trans men/enbies exists

[@zanderfus2723]

​@@Slayyyaphinelol true

[@prageruwu69]

​@@Slayyyaphinetheres a lot of passing trans women and non passing trans men though

[@SuperJJParker]

Some trans pass and some don't. That's just the luck of the draw. The first time I ever saw a jamie video I guessed he was trans. Most of the time it's the voice that gives it away.

[@gyrozeppeli4862]

@@SuperJJParker he just seems British

[@miraculous_lady_noir2179]

I'm a trans guy and my boyfriend is cis. He said I was the final straw that helped him realize he likes boys, and that made me really happy.

[@lonk2026]

thats so cute! also epic glimmer pfp

[@miraculous_lady_noir2179]

@@lonk2026 A SHE-RA FAN?? :O Also thx! ^U^

[@montee3766]

Or maybe he just likes tomboys? Sheesh

[@SarastistheSerpent]

@@montee3766tomboys are girls. Transgender men/boys are men/boys. Totally different genders. A straight man might be attracted to a girl who is a tomboy, but will never be attracted to a trans guy.

[@ScarletTiger109]

@@montee3766 no, op is a man

[@skysypierce4995]

I want to see a trans person asking if they would date. "Would you date me?" "Yes". "Would you date a trans woman?" "No". "Oh so I guess you wouldn't date me after all then." and walk away

[@UmongusSussehFrusseh]

I'd also want to see a cis person doing that.

[@julia2k8]

@@UmongusSussehFrusseh you mean a normal person

[@DrachenGothik666]

@@julia2k8Cis _IS_ "normal". It's just an adjective--it describes someone who confirms to the gender they were born with. Cis isn't a slur, or weird description, either. The term has been used in science for hundreds of years. It's from Latin & means "on this side". "Trans" is the opposite & means "on the other side". That's it. It's really that simple.

[@julia2k8]

@@DrachenGothik666 some people don't want to be called "cis", why don't you respect that?

[@30000beesinatrenchcoat]

@@julia2k8 Because there's no real reason to not want to be called cis other than transphobia, and I (like a **normal** person) don't respect those views.

[@trinitybernhardt9944]

I am cis and my health has kept me from romantic and sexual relationships. I have no idea if I can have children, or if I will ever even have the opportunity to try. I am no less a woman than someone with kids. I am no more a woman than Dylan. Not one of our experiences affects the other's. Frankly if experience determines our humanity, gender, or sexuality I would be in trouble.

[@dmf1301]

Snaps to the woman who stood up for her friend in the senate! The doctor stood up for herself very well, of course, but it's always good when other voices reinforce how awful people are for being awful!

[@Dino.Nuggetsart]

I’m a trans man who is dating another trans man, I’ve actually only dated trans ppl lol

[@krushn4]

my past relationships have all been t4t too and honestly? it’s so nice being with someone who just gets it

[@bliss5297]

Same here. I’m trans, and I’m also dating someone who is trans. And it’s great to be with someone else who just understands the same thing with you.

[@RachelLevitte]

For the first video you added, I was in shock! Man, I just got hired for a decently pay remote part time job and the first thing they did before we signed a contract was a meeting where they talk about what counts as sexual harassment and the first thing they said was: there are 3 layers and the first one is just talking about people's bodies in general. Like...wtf! the dude at the senate needs to be fired.

[@iliketigers7820]

⁠​⁠@@trevorchester4439sexual harrassment is often defined as "inappropriate behaviour of a sexual nature that often humiliated, offends, upsets or scares the victim of this behaviour" - her genitalia is not important this any context, even if the discussion was trans related - the environment was a clearly professional one and asking such questions is beyond unprofessional - being asked such a question clearly made her uncomfortable, humiliated and offended, as it would with any person trans or cis You are a sick pervert defending sexual harrassment. You need therapy

[@Cometsarecool]

"Would you date a trans woman?" "No" "Why not?" "Because I'm a gay man."

[@Timberwoodx]

Not funny

[@Cometsarecool]

@@Timberwoodx yes funny

[@MoMotaroDaisuke]

​@@Timberwoodx Very funny

[@jondw]

😄 yes funny, Good answer

[@rayneworden]

yes funny

[@outlawruby]

“They’ll punish people for expressing their opinion” Their opinion: blatant transphobia

[@Sivilath_NZ]

the punishment: being called an asshole

[@shawnamiller191]

When I hear that kind of thing I'm like "hate isn't an opinion it's just hate"

[@willowwhisps1339]

Even if it was opinion (which it's not, it's just hate), their freedom of speech is not being violated. They had the right to say whatever they wanted. However freedom of speech is not freedom from consequences. If I work for Apple, and I make a post that gets millions of views about why android is better than apple, then Apple decides not to renew my contract, has my freedok of speech been violated? No. I had the freedom to say whatever I wanted, and now I have the freedom to face the consequences of what I said.

[@shawnamiller191]

@@willowwhisps1339 good analogy, "you have the freedom to say that, but I also have the freedom to fire you, bye"

[@thatjillgirl]

It's funny how they never want it to apply in reverse. If your opinion is the opposite of theirs, they're not out here saying that you should just be allowed to say it, free of criticism or consequences. They're all too happy to shout others down.

[@Jane_8319]

13:15 I am a trans woman. I have never unironically said “slay” like that. Anyways, being a woman means I don’t want to kill myself for being a man.

[@Onelostcrow]

10:10 "i am entitled to identify as a two spirit penguin." no. because two spirit is very specifically for indigenous people. ( i am not sure if the word 2S specifically exists in non north American people too but other native let me know. i do know the concept does exist in other places too though.)

[@AddiRockART]

That first one, has been all across the country every day of every week at every hearing. Trans men, women, non binary people, and drag artists come into places to speak against the hate bills and get bombarded with stuff like that. They have even proposed that primary school age kids get INSPECTED if they look androgynous, or if a little girl is “too good” at sports… sigh. I wanted out of america and move to the UK but then the UK went off the rails too. What a bizarre situation all around. And the Nick Merc thing… freedom of speech is not freedom of consequence. You can say whatever but there are consequences. Call of duty had an appearance package you could buy to make your playable character look like Nick, and he went on various streams and stuff and said kids can’t be lgbt, etc. same talking points about protect the kids… 🙄 someone said “let people love who they love and be who they are” and he replied that those people should stay away from children, etc. it started the stereotypical spiral

[@wesleywyndam-pryce5305]

those cis bigots need delt with.

[@realMacMadame]

It seems like nowhere is safe anymore.

[@mfknbumblebee]

I empathize so hard! My dream is to gtf outta here and move to Finland or NZ. America is too far gone to change anytime soon

[@AddiRockART]

@@mfknbumblebee NZ just elected the far right party this year into power… it’s going the way of the UK it seems. I had friends who moved back to D.C. 🙄 I’m a USA / Mex citizen, but I had already put all my life savings into the UK then all this happened. What a waste lol

[@AddiRockART]

@@realMacMadame unfortunately it seems so. If the current government keeps control in Canada moving forward, that might be the best option for some people. It’s so stupid that this is all happening

[@alextheasparagus6675]

“Bend to the will of trans people” makes me feel like some kind of trans hypno toad

[@darkshadowrule2952]

Reject modernity, embrace Toad 🐸🌈🍥

[@WombatMan64]

All glory to the hypnotoad!!

[@ScarletTiger109]

🐸

[@montanalemaitre4451]

Love it

[@deancontiwriter13]

funniest thing to me is: JKR: *creates a world where one of the big messages is "no one should be forced to live in a closet", that's a metaphor for fight against systemic oppression, with many same-sex pairs with high romantic chemistry, a potion that allows you to change completely your appearance.* fans of that world: *are mostly queer* JKR: 😱😱😱 LIKE WHAT DID YOU EXPECT????

[@roswell5065]

Right? Like it was hailed as such a metaphor and how the world in the closet with the "normals" was dull and washed out but the world outside the closet with the "just being who they truly are" people is colorful and happy! So many metaphors! What happened here honestly.

[@Okay_Is_Wonderful]

It matters not what someone is born, but what they grow to be. It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities. The weapon we have is love. I don't deny there are other problematic elements in HP, but the overall themes are SO opposed to who she's become/revealed herself to be. _You have fundamentally missed the whole point of your own story._

[@animeotaku307]

Also that one time she had a very minor character refusing to wear pants and continuing to wear a dress because he felt more comfortable in it. Sure, it was a joke (he said “I like a healthy breeze around my privates”), but I still cheered him on. Wear what you want, Artie!

[@SarastistheSerpent]

@@Okay_Is_Wonderfulyep. It’s honestly hard to even reconcile that the same person who wrote HP is now who JKR is because the main theme of the books are _so_ contrasted with her current views. Side note, the part in Deathly Hallows when Umbridge is interrogating the Muggle born witch and asking her who she “stole her wand and magic from” because she can’t possibly have gotten her wand like everyone else because “she is not a witch” is literally _exactly_ how TERFs and conservatives refer to trans people, especially trans women. I really don’t know how JKR doesn’t recognize that

[@SarastistheSerpent]

@@animeotaku307oh yeah I remember that scene, in Goblet of Fire lol. And he was wearing it in front of a huge crowd of people of i recall lol, and still didn’t change even when the ministry official was insisting on it.

[@islimpycat]

Very much enjoying this uncensored video, it's so nice to be able to actually hear a video and not be earraped by random silences and spastic noises.

[@islimpycat]

It makes the video *so* much easier to understand the actual words, and the meaning is the same, proving my point that censorship is unequivocally cringe, and completely useless at best, and detrimental in reality.

[@lifeunfiltered4822]

I have and would again. Our videos are still up on my channel but the reason I haven't posted in over a year is we broke up. There was a lot of trauma and mental health issues she had and once she got triggered the relationship turned toxic. However, I truly thought I had found my forever person until her behavior turned toxic due to her own unresolved past trauma. I absolutely would date a trans person again. We were gonna post her journey through her transition on the channel and I actually have unedited footage still on my computer that will never get loaded because we are not together anymore and it isn't my story to tell. I still miss what we had before things went sour.

[@lifeunfiltered4822]

I will also recommend the book Girl Sex 101 for anyone dating a Trans woman, particularly pre bottom surgery. It is very useful information about how to navigate the sexual aspect and still make her feel feminine. Of course if she has too much trauma or issues nothing you do will help with that, but with patience, knowledge, and experience you can help your mtf partner experience sex without triggering dysphoria. Just educate yourself and always practice consent before touching or attempting something new. Eventually you work out together what works for the both of you and you can have a healthy sex life together. But whatever you do, don't fetishize trans people. There's so much of that, making it hard for them when it comes to dating and trying to find true love.

[@McBernes]

Sorry your relationship ended, I understand. My fiance let me a few months ago and your issues sound all to familiar. Apparently I was inadvertently triggering her, she had been through some horrible realtionships and I think some part of her was always expecting me to be the same. So if I ever acted frustrated or angry about anything she would shut herself off from me. We tried couples counseling, had hours of talks with each other about our relationship but it just didn't work. For a while I was blaming myself, feeling like I was the reason why the relationship failed but I realize I can't fix her trauma. I did everything I could to show I was trustworthy, I called her when I got home from work, called her nearly every night ( we had not moved in together) so she always knew where I was, gave her a key to my home and never asked for a key to hers, I helped her set up security cameras around her home because she was having problems with vandalism, when she was working on her masters degree I helped her work through the stress of that, but none of it was enough and that's not my fault. I miss her though, we had some great times together. Best of luck to you friend.

[@felttranceparrty3069]

You're lying about her being toxic, you have to be, trans people can never be toxic only cis people, just be honest and say you beat and raped her aight? @lifeunfiltered4822

[@prageruwu69]

19:28 such a breath of fresh air to see someone who understands how and why being misgendered is painful. so many people, even other trans people, seem to think you can just "suck it up" because they either don't remember what it's like to get misgendered, or just don't have any self-respect.

[@HexDrone9637]

Such It Up? Much like suck mi punch, not every one like to be mis gendered especialy if their aspect Is soo dear to them

[@martinacocca4225]

I remember in middle school wondering why ppl cared so much and if I (afab) was referred to as a boy I wouldn't care.... now I'm questioning if I'm nonbinary lol

[@zanderfus2723]

I fully agree

[@Shoulderpads-mcgee]

@@martinacocca4225it’s possible! A lot of people get very very offended if they get misgendered including cis people. I mean people get pissed if you call their dog the wrong pronouns, yknow? Some cis people are chill though or laugh it off so it’s not necessarily and indicator, but play around with the concept if you want. It’s ok to question your gender and it’s also ok if you change your mind one way or the other at any point 🖤💜💛🤍

[@mfknbumblebee]

Fr! I was misgendered a couple times (cishet male!!) and it was some of the most humiliating moments in my life

[@Haffina]

My transgender kid finds it difficult to say something when someone misgenders them, mostly due to anxiety, so if I am around I make sure that I correct the person.

[@nobody.of.importance]

That's very kind of you. Seems decent parents are rare these days.

[@kevinfinnerty3754]

How old is your kid

[@Haffina]

@@kevinfinnerty3754 almost 17

[@kevinfinnerty3754]

@@Haffina when did they come out?

[@Haffina]

@kevinfinnerty3754 Why is that relevant to you?

[@johnsuarez1404]

I'm not transphobic but trans people are pretty confusing to me and your explanations help me understand

[@sillylittlefellow454]

Bro if you don’t like trans people they probably don’t wanna date you.😭 Some people really think they’re the main character

[@mfknbumblebee]

Main character syndrome is a widespread epidemic

[@dragonslayer101]

​@@mfknbumblebeeusually by cis people.🙄

[@AniBuggy]

Ask a homophobic person if they have a spouse and kid, if yes then ask them why you are constantly being straight around the kid, why you are showing a kid something sexually existing (straight is sexual if lgbtq+ is) Edit:I am far too bi to say if I would date a trans person Edit 2: 9% of adults are lgbt Edit3: guy dates a trans woman, “that’s gay” why “that’s a dude” why? “Dick”. Guy dates a trans guy “that’s gay” why “that’s a dude” why? “He identifies as a man”. It’s a lose lose situation

[@snake1844]

because being straight is the normal way to go and anything else is an abnormality and most people want to teach their kids how to be normal instead of how to be an outcast lol

[@slotts.dawn_]

​@@snake1844 tell me, what makes being lgbtq+ different than being straight? You didn't choose to be straight, nor lgbtq+ people choose to be that way.

[@snake1844]

@@slotts.dawn_ don't think I've ever seen a more moronic question in my life lol

[@paigeseliger836]

The people who calmly bait others into getting upset and then use their feelings against them are monsters. I've known them in my real life, and they made me look like the abuser, and that's exactly what's happening to the trans community. People who believe the abuser ('phobes of all varieties) hear their calm tone, and don't have the ability to look past that to what is actually being said. It's so sad and dangerous and frustrating

[@I-like-cows]

People don't like their beliefs to be challenged especially if it's their entire personality and thus will resort to calling you a transphobic bigot and get really combative because they cannot possibly accept that they are wrong and have based themselves on something that's never going to happen and will never be true

[@anneo8393]

I agree so much and have been at a loss on how to deal with it ever since I was first exposed to this dynamic. It's SO common for people to fooled by it and I just do not get it. What causes people's brains to completely shut off to logic when they see that type of interaction? Maybe I struggle to understand because I don't get fooled by it? How do we even begin to break down that misconception? It is probably one of the strongest strategies in an abuser's toolbox, and it caused so much pain growing up, but I have not figured out how to wake people up from that form of manipulation.

[@anneo8393]

It makes me so unbelievably angry seeing interactions like that no matter what is being discussed. It's so unfair

[@HelloImakecovers]

Yep. My abusive mum loved to do that to me, then act like a victim.

[@cubonefan3]

Just as there are many flavors of cis people, there are many flavors of trans people. Many trans people are very attractive and often conform to typical gender aesthetics. This “would not date a trans person” thing happens because of fear and ignorance within our culture.

[@snake1844]

i'd rather not date a guy playing dress up and have to enter my home wondering if ill see a new decoration hanging but thats just me

[@UmongusSussehFrusseh]

I think often times, people say "I'm not attracted to trans women" but that's not entirely what they mean. They may still feel attracted to let's say a trans women that looks & presents feminine in every way. It kinda has the same energy as women who say "all men are trash" while dating a man and having a good relationship. Or when a transphobe says they hate pronouns. This is the silliest one of them all.

[@UmongusSussehFrusseh]

@@user-to2wn9ry7y What these other people meant was that you might still be attracted to trans women whose had surgery and hormones until they look nothing like a male and have a body externally identical to cis women. Cruz in that case the only differences she'll have are chromosomes and reproductive ability. Though I agree about the education thing. There's always gonna be people subconsciously seeing differences between trans and cis people of a gender. It's all good though. As long as you still respect them and their gender identities.

[@ScarletTiger109]

@@trevorchester4439 you’re more unstable than any trans person I’ve ever met

[@ScarletTiger109]

@@snake1844 trans women aren’t “guys playing dress up”, they are women

[@s.r.j.4458]

That woman in the transphobic stitch after Dylan didn't enumerate a single criteria of womanhood that wasn't related to biological maternity. Not even "motherhood" as like a more inclusive concept (which still wouldn't be conflated with womanhood), but specifically childbirth and breastfeeding. Which is insane to me that that's all she thinks defines a woman.

[@CelesteMinerva]

💯. It sounds like she needs to spend less time on tictok and more time with a therapist. She has gotten it into her head the thing that makes her a woman is the ability to have children which there are so many women who can't for various reasons. Then it just shows how much Trans Men and non binary people don't or can't exist in this very toxic mindset.

[@pemanilnoob]

If she thinks everything that defines a woman is child birth, she definitely shouldn't see me as a girl as I'm never ever betting pregnant no matter what, as that thought terrifies me If she wants to misgender me, she's just a hypocrite 😈

[@lxmesoda]

​@@CelesteMinervaintersex people: 💀

[@CelesteMinerva]

@@lxmesoda This is also true. I apologize intersex people are constantly ignored and in so many cases made to fit into a box they don't fit in.

[@acutechicken5798]

Imagine being so misogynistic that you think your only value is being a baby oven for society... ...but nah it's totally the trans community who's misogynistic/s

[@fireclaw9602]

I (a cis guy who is probably bi/pansexual) honestly don't care if someone is cis or trans. If I think they look attractive and our personalities mesh well, then I will consider dating them!

[@felttranceparrty3069]

You're cis, it's a natural instinct for you people to say no

[@Dyejob01]

You are so right Jammi children are not thinking Sexually until adults put it in their face. But it's the CIS community who's always put sex in the face of children.

[@mfknbumblebee]

💯!! If I had a quarter ever time I saw a little boy wearing a “little player” or “chick magnet” t-shirt

[@lxmesoda]

​@@mfknbumblebeeif i had a nickel for every time a little boy and a little girl were seen playing together and everyone thinks "oh theyre dating" i would be rich

[@SarastistheSerpent]

Whenever i see cis capitalized as CIS, I can’t help but think of Star Wars lol.

[@waffles3629]

Yep. I had someone accuse me of "describing sex to children" because their kid pointed at someone near me and asked "What's her name?". Said person was actually a cis man, so I replied "Actually he's a boy and his name is Michael" (random name). The parent immediately started screeching about how I was teaching kids to have sex and telling them all about [insert graphic depiction of anal sex here], and then was SHOCKED when security kicked them out.

[@tally600]

actual conversation i ha on the internet (we were by no means friends, we interacted in the same discord server once or twice before that) him: "you can't change your gender, you know, right?" me: "i know, i tried being a woman and failed miserably" him: "so you were born a guy?" me: "are you really asking me about my genitals? isn't that a bit private?" him: "yes cause now I'm confused which gender you are" me: "i'm agender. i don't have a gender. that's all you need to know" him: "so you were born a dude????" so many chances he could've had to save it and he missed all of them...

[@j.apenrose7896]

I was chatting to a friend the other day and ran into an interesting problem. She (cis woman) thought that as a teen she experienced gender dysphoria, but grew out of it. (She brought this up because I came out as NB and she basically was like 'don't worry, it will pass') I asked her more about what her experience of gender dysphoria was. She apparently was bullied and told she looked like a guy. She'd get asked at school if she was a t-slur. She was always being told she wasn't enough of a woman. She never felt like she could do enough to be considered a woman. Obviously a really horrific experience of bullying, and she was later diagnosed with PCOS, which was one of the causes of her high testosterone levels. Needless to say, amid the sympathy for her, I was the tiniest bit amused. So I had to explain that gender dysphoria as an AFAB was often the opposite to that. It was the pressure of society trying to make you a woman, and you knowing that wasn't right. Whenever I had people mistake me for a guy, I actually liked it, because although that wasn't my gender, at least they didn't assume I was a woman. Unfortunately she's kinda like talking to a brick wall. Unless you're a figure of authority in her life, she doesn't really take in what you say. But I thought it was interesting nonetheless.

[@rainkidwell2467]

Extra funny, because as a trans woman, your friend's experience is very much in line with my internal experience, but to you, it functions in reverse.. This is all so obvious, EXCEPT to a cis person 😂

[@j.apenrose7896]

@@rainkidwell2467 It wasn't until later when I was verbalising it with my partner that I went "waaaait. This sounds way more like MTF dysphoria than anything else." Honestly, I think it's actually just an insanely hard thing for cis people to grasp at all. Hence we have all the Gender Critical thinking they would have 'been transed' for being tomboys. 🤦‍♀️ Babe, not how any of this works.

[@BiDisaster327]

I'm a cis woman that was incredibly shocked to read all of this, cause it reflects so much of my life growing up. What I just don't get is..... how did that awful experience of her make her _against_ trans people? At least in my case, it helped me understand a bit more. Nobody should suffer from being mistreated because other people negate your gender and misgender/make fun of you for it. If it was terrible for me in school, for the lifetime of a trans person it might be exponentially worse!! Society is already shitty with sexism, so why be a transphobe on top of that? I just don't get it. I hope one day she gradually starts understanding how bullshit that type of mentality is, I want to believe that even dense people can change their ways, but you'd know them more than a random person like me will lol. (Also congrats on coming out!)

[@j.apenrose7896]

@@BiDisaster327 Fairly simply is she simply thinks that gender dysphoria is the same as feeling self conscious. She's very much pro self-love and body positivity, and I think she thinks that gender dysphor will just go away if you start working on loving yourself? It's pretty depressing really. We're both Christians but have very different views: she's someone who thinks God will 'cure' you of being trans, while I think God loves trans people as they are, and that it breaks His heart to see them hurting themselves by trying to force themselves to stay as their AGAB. Praying for her and continuing to chat to her still about it all. Hopefully one day she'll have that breakthrough and realise how much she's minunderstanding. Also, to you, I'm so so sorry you had to go through that sort of bullying. It's truly awful how many hateful people there are out in the world. But also, thank you for not letting it turn you into a hateful person as well. 💜 It's always so encouraging to see cis allies around, of all experiences. God bless, and I hope you get to have some nice days of rest over the holidays! 😊

[@G3orge3e]

I’m a 14 year old trans boy. I’ve been struggling most of my life with my hair, my leg hair. The way I dress. I literally get called an it at school. It is a horrible life to be a trans-boy. But you are born the way you feel about your body. Your gender is not based on your genitalia. Most people can’t get that. If I had the choice I wouldn’t be trans if it was such a hard life for me. But I feel how I feel. I’m just glad that I’ve settled with my identity at this age. I’ve heard people in their 60s still struggling with their identity.

[@BlaireTheGlare]

Trans mtf or ftm?

[@G3orge3e]

@@BlaireTheGlare trans ftm

[@aria_aria_aria1234]

@@BlaireTheGlareftm I assume since he said he’s a trans boy

[@Avery_the_Sketchy_Dude]

​@@BlaireTheGlarehe literally said it 💀

[@GeneralLDS]

i didn’t figure out i was trans until i was 17 (ftm) I was literally asking around trying figure out how people can cope with being a girl, like come to terms with losing the genetic lottery, and that’s when I found out my way of thinking was wrong 🤭

[@Vahlee-A]

I'm a trans woman who hasn't been able to start transitioning yet. I'm not really good at dating so I've stopped. There is so much transphobia now that even other LGB+ people are hating me and calling me all these abhorrent names. I know countless young people who are trans and I'm young myself. I hate not knowing who is safe. 😢😢

[@LunarWind99]

I know exactly what you're going through and I also want to say just know that it gets better and to hang in there, there is a whole community out here who love and support you 💙🌈

[@ashjones-zc5dt]

Hey, I understand how you feel. I am trans myself (ftm) and have had things... Said to me that hurt, all We can do is find those who accept us, I accept you. Friends?

[@Ashtree29]

I'm in the same boat I'm sorry hun that you have to deal with all the hate

[@Vahlee-A]

I cried reading these replies. Thank you everybody. 😭😭

[@lifeunfiltered4822]

You just need the right partner. When I first dated a Trans woman she had only just started HRT and had not had any surgeries yet. There are some really good books that help you and your partner navigate being sexual with each other and treating the female penis more like a clip. Maybe that's TMI but it's things people need to know. Girl Sex 101 is one of them. Rhe important thing for you is to be mentally healthy. And you owe it to your potential partners as well. So do therapy and work through trauma or issues you might have so you don't ruin a perfect relationship like my ex did because of not having dealt with her extensive trauma.

[@El_Macho69]

“Well I identify as a horse” Wait till they find out about therians and nonhumans (not an LGBT identity but an identity none the less)

[@Idkmwillow]

That’s what I was thinking lol

[@Deas-Mhumhna]

Im a mid transition trans guy whose demisexual and a top. Dating for us is actually pretty difficult at times because people get these preconceived notifications about us. I actually got rejected by a gay couple who wanted a unicorn, i told them i was a top. Their response "but your trans right?" Implying that i shouldnt be a top because i have a V or that i should like V sex too. Other times people will try to date me when they have straight and women on their preferences. Its pretty disheartening at time when the reason why people want to date you is because of what you have or the absence of it😔. I just want someone to cuddle.....

[@McBernes]

I think nearly everyone just wants some one to cuddle, but there is too much in the way for some people to cuddle who they want. I hope you find someone to cuddle with!

[@meaj4556]

I hope you find your little spoon!

[@rroes7319]

Aroace trans demi boy. Trying to find people who don't want romance or sex is HARD. Like, I'm polyaffectionate, so I'm cool with my partners being with other people and fulfilling their needs elsewhere or with each other. But, being in a small town, you don't have many people open for that type of thing.

[@Milk-ck1wv]

8:30 People that claim they care about the children, do not actually care about the children. If anything parents and adults like that man and woman that thinks kids should be censored and blind to other peoples existence are actually the people that kids should be protected FROM. They are the danger and they are the ones that actually risk children lives and other people and children's lives. "Lets protect the kids that we can groom to not like a group of individuals" would match the motto way better of those type of people.

[@realMacMadame]

They don't care about parental rights either. Because they try to take away the rights of parents who don't agree with them.

[@barrylangille3523]

"Let's protect the kids that we can groom to not like a group of individuals". That's so true. Its a good way to put it.

[@toasterfish0]

an example of this is when a few public schools wanted to check childrens pants before letting them in the bathroom to make sure that they weren’t trans

[@MogamiKyoko13]

It's the negation of personhood that really makes that one tiktok of the lady stitching the trans person who was misgendered feel icky to me. She was condescending and rude and there was a distinct lack of empathy threaded through her whole speech that felt very chilling.

[@VelaiciaCreator]

It's a superiority thing. Likely was deemed lesser long enough that she feels the need to bask in the moment of her being more experienced, more reserved.... etc.

[@darkshadowrule2952]

@@VelaiciaCreator More filled with filler and less capable of physically emoting... seriously, that lady was giving serial killer vibes. And it's so silly to say a real woman is tough enough not to get hurt by misgendering or whatever when she clearly puts so much extra effort into her appearance. Like I don't know her whole life, but my vibe checking skills are usually pretty good and she just reaked of insecurity. Are the two things linked? IDK, but the fact she brings it up as a thing that happens so often makes me think maybe she should go talk to a counselor instead of projecting her own feelings of inadequacy onto young people on the internet.

[@dirano09]

Yes, I am sitting here trying to figure out what made her think being traumatized is "normal" and who belittled her trauma so much that she thinks it is a normal human experience. Having a trauma response to a traumatic experience is normal. Telling them to "do better" is only showing you never processed your own trauma. Have some empathy for your fellow humans, and for yourself too. We all deserve to feel safe.

[@peteroloughlin7082]

Would I date trans? I do not and will not ever judge a person on assigned gender, I would date on the merit of character every time over what a doctor decided 30 seconds after birth.

[@maxatrillionfatstacks]

I'm a cis guy who recently came out as pansexual so I'm cool with dating any gender identity but when I still identified as straight I matched with a trans woman on a dating app and had a whole internal conversation on whether it was somewhat gay if I dated someone who had a penis. I realized most of my concerns came from worrying about how other people would percive me because I was definitely attracted to the trans woman but it still brought up a lot of internalized homophobia. We didn't end up dating but fast forward a couple years and shortly after coming out I started dating a trans man and I had sorta the opposite internal conversation of "Is this fully gay since he hasn't had bottom surgery?" Then i had some doubt of my own sexuality and after being with a cis man and a trans woman I realized for me it still feels more gay to be with a trans man than a trans woman regardless of the genitalia situation. I definitely still have a lot to learn about sexuality and gender identity but it's been very eye opening experience to explore my sexuality. I still have a lot of prejudice to unpack and ideas to unlearn but I'm very happy that being trans is becoming more socially acceptable, we still have a long way to go as a culture but we have made a lot of progress and I truly believe I'll live to see the day where sexuality and gender identity aren't hot button issues and people can live their lives without fear of persecution.

[@elfieinblack4618]

Trans Girl: "I'm trans" Some dude: "do you have a penis?" Trans Girl: "Do YOU?" Some dude: "Of course!" Trans Girl: "could have fooled me."

[@vansen-qod]

Lol so true. Reminds me of the Vazquez quote from Aliens. Dude: Hey Vazquez have you ever been mistaken for a man. Her: No. Have you?

[@johnhipp8267]

Well then, spit it out, it doesn't belong to you.

[@MidnightEkaki]

The some dude is trans

[@ICanBeYourFries]

​@@johnhipp8267LMAOOOO

[@TerrestrialExtraTerrestrial]

I audibly went ''OOOOOOOOOOOHHHHHHHHHHH'' at this in the middle of the night

[@Rutanachan]

I'm non-binary. I was afab, and it took me 34 years to realize that I'm non-binary, because it wasn't something that I ever heard about. I knew as 4 year old that I didn't wanted to be a girl, and I never felt like I belonged, but I also never felt like a man, and the realization that there are other options came very late for me. Yet at the same time, I never struggled with misogyny and was often misgendered as a man online (which I personally only found funny, since it usually came from women being mad I didn't shared their opinion XD). So despite being afab, and living "as woman" for 34 years, I never really had the "female experiences" so many cis-woman speak about that trans woman apparently can't relate to. Outside of horrible periods (which I'm THANKFUL trans-women don't have to deal with, because I don't wish that agony for anyone), I don't have the "female issues". So if I didn't had them, maybe because I was always enby, even if I didn't knew it, why should trans-women, who ARE women, be excluded from female problems or experiences, simply because they were amab? These comments are so Terf-y and men-hating. *shudder*

[@Am-uj6qn]

"why should trans-women, who ARE women, be excluded from female problems or experiences, simply because they were amab?" Because they are not female.

[@I-like-cows]

THEY ARE NOT WOMEN THEY WEREN'T BORN WOMEN THEY CANNOT EXPERIENCE FEMALE PROBLEMS AND SHOULD NOT BE GROUPED WITH WOMEN You gotta understand female spaces are meant to be for females only having a trans female which is a male be in it is very misogynistic because it invalidates the struggles women go through in favour of a males struggle and its extremely invalidating and annoying

[@snake1844]

thats a lot of words just to say "i don't know what i am because i have untreated gender dysphoria"

[@AB-qt6uw]

Thanks for making this type of video Jamie! I love your more positive stuff as well, but I always enjoy you working through the negativity because, as a closeted trans person in a very Catholic / conservative environment, it’s nice to go through the negativity I’ll see in a day to do with your positive, hopeful and rational commentary. It always makes me very happy and hopeful 😊

[@Mallory-Malkovich]

I can't get over this woman who's like, "I've been misgendered a lot, and I'm fine, stop whining." Sweetie, you are not fine.

[@SadPandalorian]

She's so creepy in how she speaks and chooses her words. Almost as if she's ai. How she says, "one is not supposed to..." Like, as if she's avoiding using any pronouns at all. The way she moves and wants others to not "whine" or have human emotions or human reactions. That's it. She has turned me into a conspiracy nut. I'm convinced she's an alien robot and is on the mission to remove human feelings from earth and nothing will change my mind and it wouldn't surprise me if she started sparking and saying beep-boops in her future vids.

[@rabid_si]

@@SadPandalorian It's like a mash up of Elizabeth "Theranos Fraud" Holmes and a female Patrick Bateman.

[@Worlds-Collide]

What woman?

[@TheGoddess174]

@@SadPandalorian omg it isn't just me!

[@TheGoddess174]

@@Worlds-Collide the one at 20:00

[@rosieg6989]

One of my biggest crushes in high school was a trans guy a year above me. He was handsome, kind, and funny, and I wanted to ask him out so many times as we got along great and I really liked him, but he was and still more than half a decade later is in a committed relationship with someone else.

[@RavenXWritingdesk]

Oh my God.... I'm a 30yrold cis woman and haven't had kids or breastfed because I am incapable of carrying a child because of my disabilities..... Guess I'm not a woman. 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@67jade]

Come on, you know that is not what it means. Use some common sense. Humans are born with 2 arms and two legs and so on, however, a child born with one arm or one leg is STILL HUMAN. So even though you cant have children, you are still an adult human female. Women who are a certain age, going through menopause, cannot have children either, still women. Transwomen, however, NEVER had the capasity for producing eggs, something only the female of the species can do. The male of the species produce sperm. That is pure biological fact. Intresex people also produce only eggs or sperm.

[@Montesama314]

​@@67jadeIf you don't produce reproductive material, are you not a man or woman? If you're born without a penis, are you still a man? You can't just go with reproductive ability as a basis for man or womanhood.

[@adelinejohnson5834]

the comparison of arm and human thing is weird, we’re not talking abt whether or not someone is human we’re talking gender, something that from MULTIPLE health sites has been proven to be more so internal rather than external “that is a pure biological fact”(you). “Gender identity is how you feel and identify, and can be as a female, male, or both. Gender is typically assigned at birth, based on a baby having the outward appearance (genital organs) of either a male or a female as per a social construct of a binary system of two genders (male or female). If your gender identity matches the gender assigned to you at birth, this is called cisgender. For example, if you were born biologically as a male, and you identify as a man, you are a cisgender man. Transgender refers to identifying as a gender that is different from the biological gender assigned when you were born. For example, if were born biologically female and were assigned a female gender, but you feel a deep inner sense of being a man, you are a transgender man.(Medline plus) do u disagree with science?

[@sol_and_luna]

​@@67jadeThere's cis women that were born entirely infertile, as it happens, be it due to hormone or structural abnormalities, genetic disorders or what have you. Some can be treated, others cannot. Are the ones that were assigned female at birth, yet born never capable of conceiving, no longer women, then? You can drop the mental gymnastics, they don't make things any easier for anyone.

[@Echinacae]

⁠@@67jadeand women born without functional gametes then?

[@sleepy_dreamzmusic3242]

"Soon we'll have kids in schools identifying as horses!!" If Piers Morgan ever encountered a therian I think his head would explode

[@x-LINX-x]

but he wasn't wrong? Pandoras box hath been opened

[@AshtheDragon-l4e]

Yeah he'd have a fit if he ever sat down and listened to a therian or otherkin explain themselves

[@Fantasmaa9]

God I hate the "think of the children" stuff because oh my god as a little boy I ALWAYS liked girly things and 90% of my friends were girls and I FELT out of place and I even thought "gay" was just a straight up insult because that's the only context I learned it in. Wish there was education on LGBTQ+ things when I was growing up. Anyways ya I roleplayed as cats in school so- being a horse is perfectly fine lmao

[@Sellswordking]

“If a person can’t stand up for themselves meh meh meh meh” one of my best friends is six four, covered in tattoos, bald, been to prison and looks like it (he’s a teddy bear, it was for possession, legalize) and if he catcalled that woman I guarantee she’d immediately breakdown and start sobbing and then make a tiktok talking about how dangerous all men are. Like. She full well knows that certain situations are Dangerous and you can’t fucking speak up for yourself, she knows what it’s like to be intimidated and feel unsafe and sick inside because it’s something you can fix, it’s how you were born.

[@ethanwintersseveredhand]

Hey jamie, a skin in a video game is when you can change appearence or color of a character in game. Usually outside of character creation.

[@robynski275]

ok with the COD one, how is it appropriate for kids to play a game where they shoot people but not for kids to know people exist

[@Ian_Jules]

Emotional responses to misgendering are super valid. But I hope folks can eventually reach a point where they can greet insults with irreverent laughter. To me, that’s the dream. Intentional misgendering says a lot more about the perpetrator than the victim. It’s seeking to deny someone’s right to know and live their own identity. That’s dehumanizing.

[@toni2309]

I find that the hardest thing is when I am supposed to work with someone who misgenders me, like I am supposed to keep the conversation going. I feel like I can't build a honest conversation on a ground like that and don't know what to say then.

[@Ian_Jules]

I'm cis male and have always identified as such. I I do have strong memories, from early childhood, of strangers mistaking me for a girl in public spaces. It totally conflicted with *who I knew myself to be*. Why were grown-ups getting it wrong when it was utterly obvious to me? Was there something "wrong" in the way I presented? The older I got, the less it happened, but I was still excited when I started growing a beard around 14, because it pretty much guaranteed my "boy-ness" was evident.

[@Sh4mp_oooo]

I would definitely date a trans person ✨❤️ But I don’t think anyone would date me 💀😭

[@teeess1909]

You dropped this 👑

[@DUNKLE-RITTER_89]

Fr broski

[@piggygamer9745]

Hey hey i used to say the same. Somehow landed a great Girlfriend. I believe in you! If I can get someone, I’m absolutely sure there’s someone for you

[@BiDisaster327]

no but same 😭

[@felttranceparrty3069]

Good, you don't deserve us or life

[@GraupeLie]

Thank you for pointing out how ridiculous it is to compare gender identity to identifying as a different species!

[@K1ller.scene.k1d]

Their are people who identify as animals on a non physical level (im one of them), but it has nothing to do with the lgbtqia and its just straight-up transphobic to compare the 2.

[@GraupeLie]

@@K1ller.scene.k1d exactly. The one has nothing to do with the other.

[@jpgib4647]

It’s the same!

[@GraupeLie]

@@jpgib4647 tell me you haven't understood a single thing without telling me you haven't understood a single thing...